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Speaker 1: Hey, John, you're under arrest. Oh no, don't do it.

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Speaker 1: I'm an og okay start time podcast host. I don't care.

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Speaker 1: All right, I'll be detained for the two more minutes

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Speaker 1: before we get into this episode. Yeah, we got some

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Speaker 3: Stick around. My jealous girlfriend accused me of being inappropriate

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Speaker 3: with my little sister.

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Speaker 1: I broke up with her. It's good. Yeah, weirdo.

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Speaker 3: It's so cringe when people don't understand, just like familial

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're a weirdo.

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Speaker 3: For context, I twenty five male, have been taking care

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Speaker 3: of my little sister fourteen females. She was ten when

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Speaker 3: our parents passed away from a car accident. We live

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Speaker 3: in New York.

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Speaker 2: I've had an.

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Speaker 3: Apartment for about five years now and she lives with me.

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Speaker 1: So, I'm always either at school or work, so I

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Speaker 3: Because she does just about every extracurricular you can do

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Speaker 1: I'm so proud of her.

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Speaker 3: She has always gotten it incredibly good grades and tries

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Speaker 3: kept me busy. Since February, I've been dating this girl,

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Speaker 3: twenty four female, let's call her M. She was incredibly

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Speaker 3: nice and took an interest in my photography, which no

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Speaker 1: When I was with.

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Speaker 3: Her, I genuinely forgot about everything else. The first time

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Speaker 3: we had a problem was on my sister's birthday. EM

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Speaker 3: She's the only family I have, and I kind of

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Speaker 3: My sister has never had many friends, so when I

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Speaker 3: told her about EM, she got really excited and said

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Speaker 3: We went to the restaurant planning to meet EM there.

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Speaker 3: She showed up thirty minutes late, but my sister just

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that meant.

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Speaker 3: Maybe she's right, guys just don't know anything. But seeing

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Speaker 3: My sister just laughed, nodded, and ended up eating a salad.

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Speaker 2: No leave her alone.

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Speaker 3: Not know though I'm troll, I'm more focused on the

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Speaker 3: don't order the burger, fatty boombattie, You don't understand that.

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Speaker 3: I'm on. I really wanted to speak up, but it

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Speaker 3: I told em that my sister and I were going

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Speaker 3: which is amazing I want to do that. EM got

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Speaker 1: I was still upset about what she had said to

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Speaker 2: Tell her that I'd be like, dude, what you said

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Speaker 1: Facts right there.

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Speaker 2: Tell her exactly that.

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Speaker 3: Small things like that kept happening as we hung out

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Speaker 3: But I have to go to work, I have to

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Speaker 3: EM constantly tells me that my relationship with my sister

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Speaker 2: Because he's like her literal dad.

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Speaker 1: Basically, who is this person?

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Speaker 2: You freaking suck? Use your brain.

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Speaker 1: A while ago, my sister mentioned a boy to me

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Speaker 1: When my sister went to her room to study, EM

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Speaker 1: if I didn't want my sister to date, I should

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Speaker 2: You freaking weirdo. I'm adam, you freak.

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Speaker 3: I'm nominating the oscars were just yesterday. I'm nominating Op's

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Speaker 2: That's insane. How are you jealous of a not only

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Speaker 2: I was disgusted and a bit angry. I made a

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Speaker 2: I told her to leave, yes, and then I went

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Speaker 3: Excellent, excellent, You kick her out? Yeah, that's what you

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Speaker 3: do in that moment. About a week ago, I came

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Speaker 1: Why is she here? Why is she at your apartment

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Speaker 1: when you're not there? Yelling at your sister? What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Sister?

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Speaker 1: What is going on?

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Speaker 2: Stir?

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Speaker 1: She pulled up to your crib to yell at your sister.

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Speaker 1: What is happening?

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Speaker 2: If we hadn't broken up before, why aren't you broken up?

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Speaker 4: Man?

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Speaker 1: She literally broke into your place to yell at your

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Speaker 3: I stepped in front of my sister and asked em

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Speaker 3: one of my old T shirts. Are you the dumbest

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Speaker 3: person on the planet. This is not his girlfriend, this

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Speaker 3: is his sister. You sick, twisted, weirdo. Get out, Get

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Speaker 2: She's wearing a T shirt.

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Speaker 1: Your ankles are showing. I'm taking up the town square.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, O my god.

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Speaker 3: So I looked at her, confused and told her she

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Speaker 3: EM pushed me, making my sister flinch. I still don't

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Speaker 2: What do you mean you don't know because EM's probably

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Speaker 1: I hate both of you in this story. You hating

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Speaker 3: Since then, I've been getting calls from EM's friends and

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Speaker 3: But honestly, I feel like I have been putting EM

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Speaker 3: I still feel bad, though, and I want to know

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Speaker 1: The A hole?

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Speaker 2: I think he is the a hole because.

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Speaker 1: I mean in that way, Yes, I say a hole for.

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Speaker 2: Keeping this woman around when she's being awful to his sister.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would say definitely the a hole in that context,

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Speaker 3: but not in the context of.

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Speaker 1: Being like, do I love my sister?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Am I an a hole for it?

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Speaker 3: I love my sister, not the A hole in that

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Speaker 3: c Yeah, come on, man, but you're an ahole for

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Speaker 3: not breaking up with this this this trash goblin of

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Speaker 1: And there's an update. Let's go. Please please break up,

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Speaker 1: please break.

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Speaker 2: Up, please please please break up with her.

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Speaker 3: I have read everyone's comments, so thank you guys for

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Speaker 3: helping to give you a little more info. EM and

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Speaker 3: I met in February, but we started dating in April.

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Speaker 3: My sister's birthday was in June, and a lot of

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Speaker 3: the stuff that's happened was a month ago. I officially

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Speaker 3: broke up with EM about two weeks ago, uzoh, which

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Speaker 3: is why I've been absolutely bombarded with messages from everyone

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Speaker 3: she knows. Thank you all for caring about my little sister.

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Speaker 3: I talked to her about everything, and she told me

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Speaker 3: thought I was happy. A couple of people asked why

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Speaker 3: they had been alone together in the first place. The

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Speaker 2: Oh wait wait so yeah, okay, so that's for that.

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Speaker 1: That's why that was.

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Speaker 2: You broke into your house.

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Speaker 3: She broke into your house. She didn't use the key properly.

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Speaker 3: She used your house key to break into your house

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Speaker 3: and out your sister.

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Speaker 1: To uh she literally maybe it.

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Speaker 2: Was your sister, Maybe it was life or unlive A like,

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Speaker 2: I have to harass your sister. You don't understand what the.

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Speaker 1: World is at staking you have to make your sister cry.

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Speaker 2: She was like, I don't trust you, sonand to your

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Speaker 1: Sister the timeline.

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Speaker 3: You don't understand what happens to the timeline if I

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Speaker 3: don't yell at your sister and make her cry.

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Speaker 1: Robot uprising.

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Speaker 3: I have apologized to my sister, and I've called off

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Speaker 3: work for a while to spend more time with her,

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Speaker 3: to clarify a few things. Yes, my sister doesn't have

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Speaker 3: many friends, despite me encouraging her. She mostly sticks with

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Speaker 3: so excited to meet em. Her birthday was in June,

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Speaker 3: working on that good. There's another update here. Uh blah

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Speaker 3: Also, since a bunch of people are mentioning it em

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Speaker 2: The problem my fiance is getting very upset at me

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Speaker 1: I'm gathering information right now, that's all some weeks.

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Speaker 2: My investments and properties do take a lot of hours.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to break up if this is just

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Speaker 2: So it's not like he's mister practical and I'm miss frivolous.

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Speaker 2: My general thoughts before we really get more information is

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Speaker 3: I feel like most of these, most of this issue

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but there's background. When I was in college nineteen,

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Speaker 2: Oh op, he was like, I thought we were upper

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Speaker 2: I guess I went back to college because I wanted

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Speaker 3: Dude, I'm sorry, but tell me you're wealthy in one sentence, yeah, supertimes,

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Speaker 1: Who's to say that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: I think I did a good job and my parents

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Speaker 2: Smallish I booked most stuff, but he had to say

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Speaker 2: and there is an update. Prince AX says she also

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Speaker 2: lets him live rent free. That did it say that?

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Speaker 3: And I missed that, But like, so you know what

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Speaker 3: I mean, Like she's not paying a house payment. She

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Speaker 2: Also like a partnership, it's yes, but it's also like

442
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Speaker 2: it's one thing her, you know, like it's her property

443
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Speaker 2: at the end of the day. So I think right now,

444
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Speaker 2: but there's really getting.

445
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Speaker 3: Into that territory. Sorry, I don't mean to cut you off. Yeah,

446
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Speaker 3: but in the territory of her property. Well then now

447
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Speaker 3: it's hers to take care of as well. Yeah, if

448
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Speaker 3: we're going into a landlord situation now where this is

449
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Speaker 3: short belongs to her, now you're responsible for upkeeping it.

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Speaker 2: More so, my point is that like she is contributing

451
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Speaker 2: something because she has given a house, well, right, yeah,

452
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Speaker 2: this is so. I think like his kind of problem

453
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Speaker 2: with it is that he just doesn't see her as

454
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Speaker 2: like doing something it's like pursuing. Maybe this is I'm

455
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Speaker 2: like guessing, but it seems like he just doesn't like

456
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Speaker 2: that she's not pursuing a career in the same way

457
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Speaker 2: that he is, and like doesn't see that like her

458
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Speaker 2: as doing something.

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Speaker 3: I would I would venture to, I would go on

460
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Speaker 3: a limb and say he finds it unfair that he

461
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Speaker 3: goes and works while she's at home doing Netflix and

462
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Speaker 3: playing video games.

463
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Speaker 1: And doing her chores, but not even all of them.

464
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Speaker 2: Is an update Things in the comments that may have

465
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Speaker 2: been relevant but weren't in my original post. Sorry. My

466
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Speaker 2: fiance as aspergers and is on the autistic spectrum. I

467
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Speaker 2: guess I forget this may be useful information because I

468
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Speaker 2: consider his to be very mild. I don't really know,

469
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Speaker 2: but besides a few obsessive tendencies with his laundry and organization,

470
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Speaker 2: I rarely notice it. He just seems introverted. This may

471
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Speaker 2: have something to do with the way he may not

472
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Speaker 2: be able to process and communicate how he feels as

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Speaker 2: easily as maybe expected. Not an excuse, but I suppose

474
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Speaker 2: it is relevant. Obviously, this is also making his new

475
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Speaker 2: management job harder, as he's dealing with people more and

476
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Speaker 2: code less. I do not manage stocks. I do have

477
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Speaker 2: some stocks, but that is not what I pay myself

478
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Speaker 2: out for. I manage rental properties. What I wrote in thread.

479
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Speaker 2: Right now, I have twelve single houses, ten college rental properties,

480
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Speaker 2: rent by room Jesus duplexes very very little, and one

481
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Speaker 2: really large Victorian nows that is broken into four apartments

482
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Speaker 2: that are rentals generating rental income.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, quick pause.

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Speaker 3: She's got a job's got she's a property manager. Yeah,

485
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Speaker 3: she does have a job. That's a job, but it

486
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Speaker 3: seems like it's a really Yeah, she's given it away

487
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Speaker 3: that it's an easy job.

488
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Speaker 2: We know it's incredibly easy. She's like, sometimes I'm stressed.

489
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Speaker 3: He's like the job occasion story of itself for the

490
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Speaker 3: most part, but it does stress out sometimes. Yeah, I

491
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Speaker 3: don't know what to do with all the money I

492
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Speaker 3: make off of my rental money.

493
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Speaker 2: I also have a few flip projects going this year

494
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Speaker 2: and have for the past few years. I managed the

495
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Speaker 2: construction process there too. Oh do you though, are you

496
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Speaker 2: a construction man?

497
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Speaker 3: I know, project managers, you don't sound like a project manager.

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Speaker 2: Before my fiance had this new job, he worked thirty

499
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Speaker 2: hours a week in the office max, though it was

500
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Speaker 2: a full time job because the company he was at

501
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Speaker 2: had one work from home day a week in which

502
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Speaker 2: he almost never had any work to do, but did

503
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Speaker 2: need to be near a computer. We used to play

504
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Speaker 2: games or do something else around the house together on

505
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Speaker 2: those days. He also really liked his job. I was

506
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Speaker 2: happy with his low stress, low work lifestyle, and it

507
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Speaker 2: suited mine obviously, and I thought he was happy too.

508
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Speaker 2: I didn't know he was particularly ambitious or interested in management.

509
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Speaker 2: He did not include me and his decision, as I

510
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:08,119
Speaker 2: have never micromanaged his career. Some posters suggested that we

511
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Speaker 2: made the decision together for him to take a promotion.

512
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Speaker 2: I respect his autonomy in that, and we did not

513
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Speaker 2: decide together.

514
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Speaker 1: Well.

515
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Speaker 2: I spoke with my fiance yesterday to attempt to make

516
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Speaker 2: some progress with this issue while he has a long

517
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Speaker 2: weekend and is a little more relaxed. I talked to

518
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Speaker 2: him about my priorities in life, happiness, free time, hobbies,

519
00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,720
Speaker 2: and said that I respected that he may have developed

520
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Speaker 2: other priorities with his career, but that I don't want

521
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Speaker 2: to feel my priorities are being stifled by it, and

522
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Speaker 2: that's how his requests have seen lately. I talked to

523
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Speaker 2: him about how much his lifestyle has changed and asked

524
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Speaker 2: if the new job was what he really wanted, because

525
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Speaker 2: he didn't seem to be reacting well to it. His

526
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Speaker 2: answer was basically, it's not about what you want. This

527
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Speaker 2: is what you do to be successful, which really doesn't

528
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Speaker 2: make a lot of sense to me. I tried to

529
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Speaker 2: point out and stress that we only get one life

530
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Speaker 2: and that being happy is more important than keeping score

531
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Speaker 2: with success. I said, if it made him happy, he

532
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Speaker 2: should do it, or if he thinks it will make

533
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Speaker 2: him happier in the future. I understand this sacrifice, but

534
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Speaker 2: otherwise why He said again that he wished he could

535
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Speaker 2: go back without being seen as a failure. So we

536
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 2: looked together on the internet a suggestion posters made about

537
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Speaker 2: how common it is for engineers and programmers to feel

538
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Speaker 2: miserable in management and go back. It came out that

539
00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 2: the big issue was how his parents viewed our life basically,

540
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Speaker 2: and that he felt they viewed him as a failure

541
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Speaker 2: for not being ambitious, and I guess have made comments

542
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Speaker 2: about me lazing around all day. I respect him finally

543
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Speaker 2: being honest with this and understand how hard it must be.

544
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Speaker 2: But I guess that's where some of the conflict is

545
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Speaker 2: also coming from. He is still not sure what he

546
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Speaker 2: wants to do about the job, but I said that

547
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Speaker 2: I supported him either way, but not to the detriment

548
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Speaker 2: of my priorities and values. I also expressed I'd be

549
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Speaker 2: happy to have him come work on the properties or

550
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Speaker 2: have him do pt programming work, and we could make

551
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Speaker 2: it work financially. He admitted traditional stay at home stuff

552
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Speaker 2: came from his idea that he thought it would be

553
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Speaker 2: a better defense of my time if I was doing

554
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Speaker 2: the cleaning myself and so forth. I expressed that I

555
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Speaker 2: had no desire to defend my time. I'm proud and

556
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Speaker 2: happy with my life. He says he understands, but it's

557
00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,359
Speaker 2: hard because a lot of people do, not meaning his family.

558
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Speaker 2: I think I told him that if he wanted a

559
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Speaker 2: particularly domestic or a particularly ambitious woman, then I wasn't it.

560
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Speaker 2: He expressed that he loved me and wanted to marry

561
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Speaker 2: me and was sorry. He's just very confused and stressed.

562
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Speaker 2: I do not really use social media much but he

563
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 2: mentioned his family has basically been dissing us him before

564
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Speaker 2: the new job. Me always on Facebook?

565
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Speaker 1: Who cares stuff about that? Who cares?

566
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 2: I have an old account, so I logged in and

567
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Speaker 2: scrolled through his mom's history and his brothers. They basically

568
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 2: said similar things to what some of the hostile people

569
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Speaker 2: in my last thread said, calling me useless, trustafarian, lazy,

570
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Speaker 2: et cetera, usually in veiled ways. They even wrote comments

571
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Speaker 2: on my fiance's page about it. That's embarrassing for that.

572
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Speaker 3: Ye yeah, yeah, exactly, it's more of a dead show.

573
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Speaker 2: That's like, that's I would be embarrassed to be them, yeah,

574
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Speaker 2: or to know them. But you know, it's not embarrassing

575
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Speaker 2: listening to full episodes of stories just like this. Let's

576
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 2: go to Apple podcast, Spotify or your favorite podcast app

577
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Speaker 2: and search a booka story time. But there is a

578
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Speaker 2: little bit left, yeah if I but just a cherry

579
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Speaker 2: on top of this.

580
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Speaker 1: This is just two people who are not built to

581
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Speaker 1: be dating each other.

582
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Speaker 2: I think they have different priorities exactly. At the end

583
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Speaker 2: of the day, it's just not gonna work out.

584
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Speaker 3: Doesn't sound like oh Pie's Boyfriend's going about it in

585
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Speaker 3: a very healthy way doesn't seem like you know, ope

586
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Speaker 3: is seeing at all where he could be coming from either.

587
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Speaker 3: And it's just like two wrongs are not making it

588
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Speaker 3: right here. They just need to split. It's not going

589
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Speaker 3: to work out.

590
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Speaker 2: I agree again, I agree, like I think he is

591
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Speaker 2: trying a controller when at the end of the day,

592
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Speaker 2: he just needs to say And this would have been

593
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Speaker 2: fine if you just said, like, hey, I think I

594
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Speaker 2: want someone in my life who matches my ambition level

595
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Speaker 2: and is like trying is working towards something. Uh, and

596
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Speaker 2: I just don't see that from you split off rather

597
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 2: than be like you need to do this, this and this,

598
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Speaker 2: and if you're not living like that, like you can't

599
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Speaker 2: control someone. Yeah, you have to find someone who is,

600
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Speaker 2: you know, either willing to compromise in some way or

601
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Speaker 2: is matching your level.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. And you can do that without making it a

603
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Speaker 3: diss You can be like you have no ambitious just

604
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Speaker 3: like well, I don't think I can be like I

605
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Speaker 3: want someone who already at the top of their mountaintop,

606
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Speaker 3: like you've made it.

607
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Speaker 1: I need someone to grow with. I need someone to grow.

608
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Speaker 2: That's fair, But he's just doing it the wrong way.

609
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Speaker 1: If anyone's the a wholeness. It's it's more the boyfriend

610
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Speaker 1: I agree with than any.

611
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Speaker 2: They are all very big on work. Dad is surgeon,

612
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Speaker 2: Mom is our nurse, brother is lawyer. This is all

613
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Speaker 2: the in laws and successful. I guess these are their values.

614
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 2: But I find this new development very unsettling, and I'm

615
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:32,240
Speaker 2: unsure what to do or if it will always poison

616
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Speaker 2: this relationship if we do go through with the marriage.

617
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Speaker 2: I had always thought they liked me. They are very

618
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Speaker 2: nice in person to me, but I guess that's fake.

619
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Speaker 2: I don't really know how to talk to my fiance

620
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Speaker 2: about this because I think family is really important and

621
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 2: would never want to come between anyone and their family.

622
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 2: I don't really know what to do that won't hurt

623
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Speaker 2: my fiance, and I wonder if it's really fair to

624
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 2: marry him, if it will always make his family life miserable.

625
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,400
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story. I think

626
00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 2: y'all just need to have a conversation.

627
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Speaker 4: My fiance's a fair with my stepmother got exposed, so

628
00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 4: I ran away with his brother's that's.

629
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Speaker 2: How you do it. That's the only option at the

630
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,439
Speaker 2: end of the day. And this is a direct submission.

631
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Speaker 4: Sigh. Okay, I'm new to all this, so please bear

632
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Speaker 4: with me. So those involved are me twenty eight female,

633
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Speaker 4: my fiance twenty nine, mail, my father fifty three, my

634
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Speaker 4: stepmom forty seven, and my fiance's brother thirty seven. Yes

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Speaker 4: this isn't a family affair. By the way. This comes

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Speaker 4: from Limp Dinner twenty one And if you will submit

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Speaker 2: Wooo.

640
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Speaker 4: My fiance and I have been together for four years

641
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 4: and engaged for a year. He met my whole family

642
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 4: and I met his except it's older brother. His brother

643
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 4: is a marine and has been away. My fiance loves

644
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 4: and looks up to his brother and has been said

645
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 4: that he can't get to leave for the wedding. But

646
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 4: I've been working behind the scenes with his sister and yes,

647
00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 4: his brother, to surprise him at our hustle dinner. I

648
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,679
Speaker 4: had been so anxious and excited for this surprise. It

649
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 4: turns out I'd be the one surprise. The night before

650
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 4: the rehearsal dinner, I spoke with his brother after his

651
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 4: sister picked him up from the airport. He told me

652
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:16,440
Speaker 4: he planned not only on being the surprise, but also

653
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Speaker 4: telling his brother that instead of re upping in three months,

654
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 4: he's retiring and moving home for good. I was so

655
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Speaker 4: happy for my fiance, as he always wishes he can

656
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Speaker 4: hang out more with his brother. The next day, d day,

657
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Speaker 4: everything seemed fine except one of my bridesmaids was her

658
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Speaker 4: husband was also a groomsman. He said that she went

659
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 4: to her sisters because there was some sort of family

660
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 4: emergency and would meet him at the dinner. The rehearsal

661
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:49,720
Speaker 4: went well. Right after for the dinner, the missing in

662
00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 4: action bridesmaid showed up and pulled one of the other bridesmaids.

663
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 4: I was too focused on my surprise for my fiance

664
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 4: to investigate. Literally five minutes before I was about to

665
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 4: bring out my fiance's brother, two bridesmens came out yelling

666
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 4: and screaming at their significant others, both groomsmen. That's what

667
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 4: all heck broke clues. I mean, all of the skeletons

668
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 4: were blasted out of the closet. Both groomsmen were sleeping

669
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 4: with the same woman, and who was the woman? Duh, duh, duh,

670
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 4: my step mom, Wait, that's not all. This is so

671
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 4: messy because as all this was unfolding. I looked at

672
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:36,280
Speaker 4: my fiance to exchange WTF looks, and he was sweating bullets,

673
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 4: something he does when he's nervous or scared. Then I

674
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 4: follow his line of sight. He was exchanging looks with

675
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 4: my step mom. Then he looked at me and ran

676
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 4: over to me, grabbed my hand, and started towards the exit. Oh.

677
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 4: My bridesmaid then called my fiance, saying he also had

678
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 4: been spicy sleeping with my mom. At first, I thought

679
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,160
Speaker 4: no way. When I looked back at my fiance, his

680
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 4: silence and the look on his face said everything. I

681
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 4: suddenly felt like I was having an out of body experience,

682
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:14,240
Speaker 4: like I was hovering over it, this mess of a scene.

683
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 4: While it unfolded, everyone was yelling and screaming at each other.

684
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 4: My stepmom was crying as she confirmed it was all true,

685
00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:26,200
Speaker 4: while denials and lame butt explanations were being thrown around.

686
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 4: It was surreal and suddenly I felt my legs give

687
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 4: out and was about to hit the ground when I

688
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 4: was caught and carried out by my fiance's brother, whom

689
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 4: we will call Zach.

690
00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 2: Well, you freaking rushed in there like your white night man. Mmm.

691
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 4: I could hear exclamations of what are you doing here

692
00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 4: and when did you get here? But honestly, it all

693
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 4: sounded muffled.

694
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 2: Miss oh right, because because no one knew except for

695
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 2: op that yeah, he was supposed to be coming back.

696
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 2: So he literally swooped down out of nowhere and he's like,

697
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: come on. I was like, what when did you get back?

698
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: Just like, no, you mask with Opie.

699
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:07,719
Speaker 2: Oh my, he's running.

700
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 4: Next thing I knew, Zach was pulling up to a cabin.

701
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 4: We sat in silence for what seemed like hours, and

702
00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 4: he spoke and said he bought this cabin to live

703
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 4: in when he came home for good in three months.

704
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 4: We got out and he helped me inside as I

705
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 4: was still visibly shaken. I don't remember a whole lot

706
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 4: from that first night, but the next morning I woke

707
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 4: up to found my phone had been blowing up all

708
00:31:28,480 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 4: night and morning Zack said he silenced my phone so

709
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,040
Speaker 4: I could rest. He made me refs me, He made

710
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 4: me breakfast and said whenever I was ready to talk,

711
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:41,080
Speaker 4: he'd listen and never pushed me to say anything or

712
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 4: respond to anyone.

713
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 1: He'd just let me be.

714
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 4: Honestly, he was just comforting to know he was around. Finally,

715
00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 4: around seven pm, I asked if he would sit with

716
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 4: me while I reached out to my bridesmaids. We were

717
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 4: all on speakerphone. Rides Maid one said that she discovered

718
00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 4: her husband had been having an affair from his little sister.

719
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 4: He told her that he had been bringing his fair

720
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 4: partner to their parents' house while his parents were out

721
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 4: of the country. The little sister took pics of them

722
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 4: in a video of them coming out of his old

723
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 4: bedroom kissing. Then last week stranger pulled up, not her brother.

724
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 4: The same woman got out, they had a key and

725
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 4: little siss took more pictures. Why does no one know

726
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 4: little sisters around?

727
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 3: She just like.

728
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 2: She's like behind a bush, She's going staping, like she

729
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:30,719
Speaker 2: has a podcast. She's like, hello, I'm in the backyard

730
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 2: of opie stepmom.

731
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 4: And it was the other groomsman Brad's made one then

732
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 4: started following my stepmom and she knew exactly who she was.

733
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 4: The little sister thought she was a cheap, spicy worker loo.

734
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,920
Speaker 4: That's when she saw my ex fiance with her at

735
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 4: a cheap motel. And yes, she had picked dude.

736
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 2: She's got picks of everything. Hire this girl. Yes, she

737
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 2: is killing it and so she has interests and hobbies.

738
00:32:59,400 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 2: So true.

739
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 4: She apologized for how she went about exposing everything, but

740
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 4: honestly she was distraught and not in her right mind.

741
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:11,280
Speaker 4: Both their significant others finally admitted to everything. I stopped

742
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 4: them there at this point, I didn't care how it started,

743
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 4: only that it happened. She sent me the pigs and

744
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 4: apologized profusely. I then called my father again on speaker,

745
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 4: as I just needed someone to hear this crazy, unbelievable story.

746
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 4: So I knew I wasn't losing my effing mind, isn't

747
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,120
Speaker 4: Oh And my poor father was a mess because I

748
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 4: was like, yeah, isn't this his life? Yeah? My stepmom

749
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 4: had been punted out, was staying with her sister. My

750
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 4: father said that she told him she had been black

751
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 4: melt into it that bridesmaid one's husband found some provocative

752
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 4: videos of her on a corn site from her younger

753
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:52,160
Speaker 4: years and threatened to expose her. I asked him if

754
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 4: he believed her and what he planned to do. My

755
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 4: father and I are.

756
00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 1: A lot of like.

757
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 4: As he said, he didn't care how it started. She

758
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 4: effing three guys for that past three months.

759
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, He's like, it doesn't really matter how it started,

760
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:08,560
Speaker 2: it's just the fact that it was happening at all.

761
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't need to know any more information.

762
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 4: We just need to put it into this. Yeah, put

763
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,320
Speaker 4: it into the misery. I told him I had pigs

764
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,280
Speaker 4: in a video, and she looked like she was enjoying herself.

765
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 4: After I hung up, I called the soon to be ex.

766
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 4: He had the nerve to be mad at me for

767
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 4: running off with his brother. He even accused me of

768
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 4: sleeping with him.

769
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 5: Ha ha ha.

770
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:33,239
Speaker 4: Oh heck no, I lost my crap. I reminded him

771
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 4: of my pass as a survivor and how it takes

772
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,919
Speaker 4: a lot from me to even be remotely comfortable enough

773
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 4: to be intimate with someone, and how he was only

774
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,800
Speaker 4: one of the two partners I've ever had the first before.

775
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:49,560
Speaker 4: I screamed at him how they knew about what happened

776
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 4: to me. I told him he was disgusting human for

777
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 4: telling them about what happened to me. I told him

778
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 4: about that in confidence, and he blabbed my nightmare to

779
00:34:58,120 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 4: his buddies over beers.

780
00:34:59,520 --> 00:34:59,759
Speaker 2: Oh.

781
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 4: I told him he made me sick. He kept crying

782
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:05,879
Speaker 4: and pleading with me to forgive him. I told him

783
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:09,280
Speaker 4: that under no circumstance would I ever take him back,

784
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:11,800
Speaker 4: and there was nothing he can do short of building

785
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 4: a time machine, which even then no because in some

786
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:20,760
Speaker 4: alternate universes it still happened. I told him my father

787
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 4: and cousins would be by in the next couple of

788
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 4: days to get my things. I said it would probably

789
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:28,440
Speaker 4: be best if he wasn't there, because my father would almost

790
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 4: likely beat his butt.

791
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: So that was.

792
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 4: Almost three months ago. I stated at the cabin with

793
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 4: Zach for the first week, and he honestly was my wrong.

794
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 4: He told me I could say at the cabin indefinitely

795
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 4: and made me a key. He had to report back

796
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 4: after the week, and now was sure if he was

797
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 4: going to retire after all. He checks up on me

798
00:35:47,680 --> 00:35:50,120
Speaker 4: and we talk and FaceTime all the time. He's still

799
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,439
Speaker 4: unsure of what he needs to do. He has one

800
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 4: more week to decide. He has spoken to his brother twice,

801
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:56,799
Speaker 4: but I told him I don't want to know what

802
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:58,719
Speaker 4: he said. By the way, we can tell you what

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00:35:58,880 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 4: was said, and you can come to your favorite podcast

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807
00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:15,320
Speaker 4: father is divorcing the step monster. Yay, you think the

808
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 4: drama was done, but no, no, the acts had a

809
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 4: mental breakdown and check himself into a mental health facility

810
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 4: for two weeks. When he got out, he proclaimed himself

811
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 4: a new man.

812
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 2: He can't do that after two weeks.

813
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 4: Now he's got his family, not Zach and friends campaigning

814
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 4: for him to get a second chance. They have been

815
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:37,399
Speaker 4: bombarding me with guilt trips and please to just talk

816
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:40,640
Speaker 4: with him. I've not spoken him since the first conversation.

817
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 4: My father and Tia handled all the cancelations for the wedding.

818
00:36:44,239 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 4: I gave my wedding dress to my cousin for her

819
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 4: wedding next year, and whatever else she could use that

820
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 4: I could not return. So good people have read it.

821
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 4: You gotta hear him out. I'll update if I know

822
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,759
Speaker 4: how if I decide to talk with him.

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Speaker 3: My friend asked me out and I agreed, but I

828
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 3: didn't know it was a date.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm an idiot. I'll try to keep this short.

830
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 3: Also, I was a bit on the silly juice when

831
00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 3: this happened. Noah and I have been best friends since

832
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 3: second grade. We lived together with one other friend near

833
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 3: the college we go to together. He came out to

834
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:26,520
Speaker 3: me when we were in high school and it didn't

835
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 3: change anything. When we got to college, I came out

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Speaker 3: it there. So last night, we were hanging out with

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00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 3: some friends and I had a bit to drink. When

843
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 3: we were walking home, I could tell he was nervous,

844
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 3: so I asked what was up. He asked if I

845
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 3: wanted to go out with him? He literally said, do

846
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 3: you want to go out with me? I don't know why,

847
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 3: but I thought he meant as friends. Okay, okay, Thinking back,

848
00:37:57,880 --> 00:37:59,240
Speaker 3: he made it really obvious.

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00:37:59,360 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 1: It was a day.

850
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 3: But I'm an idiot and I was still a bit

851
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:09,080
Speaker 3: off the silly juice. I said yes. He suggested Saturday night.

852
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,879
Speaker 3: I said yes. I left to go to the gym

853
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,399
Speaker 3: before he got up, so I didn't see him while

854
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:15,960
Speaker 3: I was at the gym. The friend we lived with

855
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 3: texting me that Noah was really happy this morning and

856
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 3: she didn't know we were going to go on a day.

857
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,400
Speaker 3: She congratulated me and said we make a cute couple.

858
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:27,719
Speaker 3: This happened literally six minutes ago. I'm panicking right now.

859
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:31,000
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. I love him, but

860
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 3: he's like my brother. I can't go out with him.

861
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 3: How can I tell him I'm not interested without embarrassing

862
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 3: him more than I have to. I don't want to

863
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:39,920
Speaker 3: mess up our relationship. We're supposed to have lunch together

864
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 3: in a few hours. What do I do a lunch

865
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 3: date on a Saturday? Is like, okay, so on the line.

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Speaker 2: This maybe bad advice. Go, I feel like you just

867
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 2: gotta go on it, and then afterwards you're like, hey,

868
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:57,720
Speaker 2: I'm not really feeling it. Is that bad advice?

869
00:38:57,960 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for the advice.

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00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 3: I only saw the first thirty something comments until just now,

872
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 3: and I'm blown away by how many people have commented

873
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 3: to give me advice. I tried to take a lot

874
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 3: of the advice I got, but some of it was

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00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:14,399
Speaker 3: contradictory like ours, so I couldn't do all of it.

876
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 3: Thanks again to everyone who gave advice, even if I

877
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 3: didn't see it until after we talked. I texted Noah

878
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 3: and asked if we could skip lunch and go home

879
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 3: instead so we could talk. I tried not to make

880
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 3: the conversation dramatic. I apologized to him from misunderstanding him

881
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 3: and told him I knew it must have taken a

882
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,360
Speaker 3: lot of courage for him to ask me out. I

883
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:34,720
Speaker 3: told him that he was my best friend, I loved

884
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 3: him and that would never change, but I had never

885
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 3: thought about a romantic relationship with him. I apologized for

886
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,879
Speaker 3: effing it up and getting his hopes up. He asked

887
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 3: a few questions, like did I really not know he

888
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 3: meant it as a date. He apologized for effing things

889
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:50,239
Speaker 3: up between us, but I told him that I wasn't

890
00:39:50,280 --> 00:39:52,839
Speaker 3: uncomfortable with him feeling that way about me. I told

891
00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 3: him that I understood if he wanted space to process it,

892
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 3: and I would give it to him if he wanted,

893
00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 3: but I also told him how important he is to

894
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 3: me and how much I love him. He said he

895
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 3: didn't think he wanted space. He just wanted to try

896
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 3: to move on with the secret out. We've always been

897
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,680
Speaker 3: totally open with each other, well except for him liking me,

898
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 3: I guess, and he said he was happy he wasn't

899
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:15,800
Speaker 3: keeping his feelings a secret anymore, which is good.

900
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: I fully endorse that.

901
00:40:18,160 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 3: So it can be a really hard thing to do,

902
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 3: but if you feel it it's true, you should say it.

903
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 3: We had a cheesy moment where I told him he

904
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 3: could always talk to me about anything. It was straight

905
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 3: out of a rum com. We talked for a long

906
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,319
Speaker 3: time after that, and apparently he's had a crush on

907
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 3: me since before he came out in high school, and

908
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 3: after he had a few drinks last night, he decided,

909
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 3: ef it, why not try it?

910
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:42,360
Speaker 2: Dang before high school?

911
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 1: What a build up.

912
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 3: By the time he had to leave for his class

913
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 3: this afternoon, things felt normal. I don't feel weird knowing

914
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:55,239
Speaker 3: about his crush on me, and he doesn't seem to

915
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 3: feel hurt or anything because of my effing up, Maybe

916
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 3: just a little sad. I'll definitely keep an eye on

917
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 3: how we interact and how he acts for a while.

918
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 3: A few people warned me against accidentally flirting with him,

919
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:08,680
Speaker 3: and I'll try to keep anything like that and check.

920
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 3: I guess this is a happy ending. I know there

921
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 3: are still things to be aware of, but right now

922
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 3: it looks like the conversation went pretty well.

923
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 1: Thanks everyone for commenting and supporting.

924
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:20,960
Speaker 3: It helped me not just with advice, but also with

925
00:41:21,040 --> 00:41:23,960
Speaker 3: calming me down when I was really panicking this morning.

926
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,160
Speaker 1: And we have an update and we're just.

927
00:41:27,120 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 2: Gonna like cannonball ooohh.

928
00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 3: Right into this. First of all, I want to thank

929
00:41:33,239 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 3: the people who responded. I was majorly panicking when I

930
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 3: wrote the post, and the comments I got helped a

931
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 3: ton to get me to relax.

932
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:41,239
Speaker 1: Before talking to Noah.

933
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:43,719
Speaker 3: I wasn't expecting such a huge response at the time,

934
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 3: and I was amazed, but looking back now, I can

935
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 3: see why it got so much attention. It was a

936
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 3: pretty weird situation. Next, I want to say we are

937
00:41:51,560 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 3: both men. Apparently this makes a big difference for some

938
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:56,359
Speaker 3: people in terms of advice. Some of the people who

939
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,720
Speaker 3: assumed I was a woman also made some weird comments

940
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 3: and sent me some pretty gross men messages.

941
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 1: If you did this, please stop stop it, stop it.

942
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 3: That's not cool. I gave a bit of an update

943
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,359
Speaker 3: as an edit to the original post. But now, since

944
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 3: it's been three months, I thought i'd give you all

945
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 3: an update about how things have been since it seems

946
00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:13,479
Speaker 3: like there's been a lot of interest, and I'm still

947
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,319
Speaker 3: really thankful to all of you for helping me out.

948
00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:19,400
Speaker 3: Noah is doing really well. I could tell he was

949
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 3: still a bit embarrassed for the first couple weeks, but

950
00:42:22,520 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 3: after that he told me again that he was still happy.

951
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 3: He asked me because now he knew how I felt

952
00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 3: and he could get over it. He also thanked me

953
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 3: for taking it so well, which is definitely thanks to

954
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 3: what a lot of you said, So I guess I'm

955
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 3: sort of passing his thanks on to you li. One

956
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 3: of the commentors said I should be careful not to

957
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:44,400
Speaker 3: do anything that seemed like flirting, so I tried to

958
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 3: keep that in check. We used to hug a lot

959
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 3: and sit really close together and tell each other flirty jokes.

960
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 3: You know, you get the idea, but I toned these

961
00:42:50,719 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 3: all down to give him space and not mess with

962
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 3: his feelings. I honestly think I see now why he

963
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 3: thought I might be into him, because my relationship with

964
00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 3: him was very affectionate. It's been a lesson for me

965
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 3: on how to be more aware of how other people

966
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:03,800
Speaker 3: are interpreting my signals.

967
00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 1: About a month.

968
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 3: After he asked me out, he asked me if I

969
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,399
Speaker 3: wanted to go to a love men love a gay

970
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 3: bar with him. He made it super clear that it

971
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 3: wasn't a date, but he did it in a really

972
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 3: sarcastic way, which was a little embarrassing for me, but

973
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 3: also I think it was good that he could.

974
00:43:18,920 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 1: Joke about it yet that's the takeaway.

975
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,320
Speaker 3: So we went to a local love men bar together

976
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 3: and we had a really good time. He's a bit introverted,

977
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 3: so I played the wingman and he ended up flirting

978
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,399
Speaker 3: with this really cute guy and he.

979
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:31,840
Speaker 1: Just seemed really happy.

980
00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 3: Aw that was like two months ago, and we've gone

981
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 3: to the same bar a couple more times since then.

982
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,759
Speaker 3: He's been getting a bit more comfortable putting himself out there,

983
00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 3: which is really cool to see. And he's just been

984
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 3: more open and happy for the last two months, always

985
00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 3: smiling and eager to go do stuff. I'm not sure

986
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:52,000
Speaker 3: how it's related, but it's a noticeable change from before

987
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 3: he asked me out. I mean, yeah, because he's been

988
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:56,719
Speaker 3: able to let go of emotional baggage he's been.

989
00:43:56,680 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 2: Awing to for years and years, long time, at least

990
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 2: five years.

991
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:03,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm doing great too.

992
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 3: I'm just really happy that I didn't hurt our relationship

993
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 3: and that he's so happy. I also learned some important

994
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 3: things from this whole situation about communication and being aware

995
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 3: of how I present myself important lessons. I actually think

996
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 3: I feel more confident now too, since he asked me out.

997
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 3: Getting asked out feels good, man, Man, yeah.

998
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 5: Man, I honestly just decide okay, sorry time. But like

999
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 5: whenever I go out, it's so fun, like when do

1000
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:30,880
Speaker 5: you have you guys? Ever got hit on? But like

1001
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 5: like a guy for you and like a guy guy

1002
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:35,399
Speaker 5: like for you for you, it's such like.

1003
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I get hit all the time.

1004
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 5: Man, Yeah, oh cool for us guys when we go

1005
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 5: to the gay bar. That's like the biggest confidence boost.

1006
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:47,279
Speaker 5: But like it's a confidence boost when you get asked out.

1007
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1008
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:51,320
Speaker 1: Bottom line is getting asked out feels good.

1009
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 3: And you know what I'm gonna ask you out right now,

1010
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 3: I'm gonna ask you out. To listen to full episodes

1011
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:02,959
Speaker 3: with stories like this on Spotify, on Apple Podcasts, on iHeartRadio,

1012
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:04,839
Speaker 3: wherever you get your podcasts.

1013
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,279
Speaker 1: Go there and search okay, story.

1014
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 3: Time, and there you will find all of the love

1015
00:45:10,800 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 3: you'll ever need, all the love man.

1016
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, and what did we learn, Sofia? When did I

1017
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 1: tell them.

1018
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:20,319
Speaker 2: That I got a sunburn, that I need to wear

1019
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 2: sunscreen even when I'm not outside a lot long?

1020
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 1: How do you know you even got that today because.

1021
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:26,919
Speaker 2: I was outside on the roof.

1022
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:28,719
Speaker 1: It sounds kind of weird, but I think it made

1023
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 1: us closer.

1024
00:45:29,719 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 3: We started talking about relationships more, which isn't something we

1025
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 3: really talked about before. He's gone on a few dates

1026
00:45:35,680 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 3: and he tells me about them, and the most recent

1027
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 3: guy he went out with he was really excited about,

1028
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,440
Speaker 3: and I think he might be heading for his first

1029
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 3: serials relationship, which is amazing. That's actually what made me

1030
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 3: think of this post and decide to give you all

1031
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 3: an update. And that is the end of that of

1032
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 3: that update, how's the end of that story?

1033
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:02,359
Speaker 2: My friend secretly hates me, so I.

1034
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: Ghosted her valid response.

1035
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 2: This is my first post, but this definitely belongs here.

1036
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 2: The saga spans at least ten years, so buckle up.

1037
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 5: This might be a really petty story.

1038
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 2: Oh, I've known Bee. Let's call her Bianca. Since high school.

1039
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,240
Speaker 2: We had the same classes and our friend circles crossed,

1040
00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 2: so it was only natural that we hung out during

1041
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 2: the summers we were home from college. Soon we were

1042
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 2: each other's go to hangout person. By the way, this

1043
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:31,880
Speaker 2: comes from Advance units seven four for eight and if

1044
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:33,360
Speaker 2: you want to smit your own stories, go to our

1045
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 2: slash jokey storytime separate it. So we'd buy junk food

1046
00:46:36,960 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 2: and hang out at the beach parking lot for the

1047
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 2: most part, while other friends pulled up the chat. Once

1048
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 2: in a while, she make the offhand remark about my

1049
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 2: weight or that my butt was getting big, and that's

1050
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 2: when you tell her that your mouth is getting a

1051
00:46:48,040 --> 00:46:51,440
Speaker 2: little big and to shut up. I was nearly six

1052
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 2: feet compared to her five to two, so yeah, everything

1053
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 2: about me was bigger than her, but I was far

1054
00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 2: from that. One weekend, her long distance boyfriend came to

1055
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 2: I took it as business as usual and brought our

1056
00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 2: regular snacks for the beach. When I took them to

1057
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:07,560
Speaker 2: her car, where she and her boyfriend were sitting on

1058
00:47:07,560 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 2: the tailgate, she looked at me like I had three heads.

1059
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 2: Why did you bring that, she asked, with a look

1060
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 2: of disgust. You know, I don't eat that junk. I

1061
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:20,120
Speaker 2: was confused because this was our normal deal. Why are

1062
00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 2: you Why are you trying to pose in front of

1063
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 2: your boyfriend?

1064
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 3: Man?

1065
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: Eh, stop gas slighting.

1066
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 2: Turns out her boyfriend was monitoring her food and take

1067
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 2: while he was there. Yikes.

1068
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: Also enormous red flag. Yike. You might as well just

1069
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:36,480
Speaker 1: dunk that guy in a vat of red paint.

1070
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 2: She didn't want him to find out. She ate like

1071
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:41,479
Speaker 2: a normal person while he was away, and she threw

1072
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 2: me under the bus in the process. Heads up would

1073
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 2: have been nice. The comments continue, you're bigger than me. Yeah,

1074
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:50,360
Speaker 2: she's six foot and you're five two. Are you sure

1075
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 2: you want to wear that skirt? And so on. One

1076
00:47:53,120 --> 00:47:54,880
Speaker 2: day I noticed she put a picture of me on

1077
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,359
Speaker 2: the board above her bed. She had taken it while

1078
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 2: we were on a boat. I was in a swimsuit

1079
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,439
Speaker 2: and sitting in a really awkward position. When I say

1080
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:05,240
Speaker 2: it was an awful picture, it was awful and weird.

1081
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 2: My torso looks detached from the rest of my body

1082
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 2: to the point where I look deformed.

1083
00:48:09,520 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: Oh we all have one of those.

1084
00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's posted that above her bed. The thing

1085
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:15,719
Speaker 2: is It was the only picture of me anywhere in

1086
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:18,800
Speaker 2: her house. We had known each other since the eleventh grade,

1087
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 2: and this is how she wanted to see me. I

1088
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 2: didn't know what to think. I graduated college. We did

1089
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:27,800
Speaker 2: odd things here and there. She gossiped and said catty

1090
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,480
Speaker 2: things about anybody. She cut off a friendship I was

1091
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 2: developing with a former colleague because she didn't like that

1092
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 2: we had similar interests and would talk shop.

1093
00:48:35,120 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, she wants, Hold up, Wait a minute.

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00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 2: How did she cut off the friendship that you were starting?

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00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: Yeah? What why did you?

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00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:42,200
Speaker 3: You?

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00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:42,640
Speaker 2: Guys say?

1098
00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 3: No?

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00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 5: Girl?

1100
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:45,359
Speaker 1: Is she in charge of your itinerary?

1101
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 2: She said? I turned guys off because I used too

1102
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 2: many big words. She told me. I real ent her

1103
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 2: stammer once because I decided to do the spring semester

1104
00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 2: but would return in mid June. She got mad when

1105
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 2: I accepted my first real job. I was beginning to

1106
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 2: wonder if she really was my friend. She's not. Then

1107
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 2: comes the dreaded wedding season. Everyone started to pair off,

1108
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:11,359
Speaker 2: and be Unca was no exception. She got married one

1109
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 2: summer and asked me to be her maid of honor

1110
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 2: and only bridesmaid. I accepted and things went fairly well.

1111
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,919
Speaker 2: No screaming bride zillo scenes. I think it is kind

1112
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 2: of says something that you're her only bridesmaid and made

1113
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:26,240
Speaker 2: of honor, because she doesn't seem very pleasant.

1114
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:30,399
Speaker 1: Also, what is wedding season? I don't notice that where

1115
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:33,320
Speaker 1: it sounds like tears off. Are you in a cult

1116
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 1: of some where.

1117
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,720
Speaker 2: Are you living where everyone's getting married? Where twenty four

1118
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:39,320
Speaker 2: it's the summer of marriage.

1119
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 1: Everyone find your partner for life.

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00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 2: Literally sounds like Bridgison. Dress shopping was a little tricky, however,

1121
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 2: Bianca had the shop set aside some dresses for us

1122
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:50,799
Speaker 2: to try on. She found a dress that was just

1123
00:49:50,880 --> 00:49:52,759
Speaker 2: right for her, so we were ready to decide on

1124
00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:55,920
Speaker 2: a dress for me that complimented hers. The first dress

1125
00:49:55,960 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 2: I tried on looked like it was made for me.

1126
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,960
Speaker 2: It was floor length and maybe look long and slender.

1127
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 2: Bianca passed on that one. The next dress was the

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00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:07,439
Speaker 2: typical calf length sweetheart neckline with the poofy sleeves type

1129
00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:10,240
Speaker 2: thing you saw them at every wedding in the mid nineties.

1130
00:50:10,719 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 2: Bianca opted for that one, which was fine by me

1131
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 2: as long as it was a good color. I was

1132
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 2: happy that Bianca was happy. The wedding went on without

1133
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:21,080
Speaker 2: a hitch. However, there was a bump in the road

1134
00:50:21,160 --> 00:50:26,000
Speaker 2: during the reception line. Standing alongside Bee, several strangers commented

1135
00:50:26,040 --> 00:50:28,919
Speaker 2: on my hourglass figure, which no one had ever said

1136
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 2: to me in my life. The poofy sleeves and sweethearted

1137
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 2: neckline of my dress made me look snatched enough to

1138
00:50:34,680 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 2: garner attention noise Bianca bristled. I felt bad and uncomfortable.

1139
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 2: The next spring and ax of mine, Matt was getting married.

1140
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 2: He and I had met through Bianca's work. We dated

1141
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 2: for about ten months. We had a great time, and

1142
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:56,239
Speaker 2: I became close with his mom and grandma. I had

1143
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:58,359
Speaker 2: some daddy issues I had to work through, so broke

1144
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 2: it off with him, yet stayed close with his mom.

1145
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 2: Fast forward a few years later, I met up with

1146
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 2: Bianca and her husband at Matt's wedding reception. I introduced

1147
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 2: them to my new guy, Reggie, who I ended up

1148
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 2: marrying a few years later. Our first in person date

1149
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:16,799
Speaker 2: was at this wedding. Weird, I know, Oh that is

1150
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 2: super weird. Wait, your first in person date was.

1151
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 3: At their first in person date, so they had dates

1152
00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 3: at fortnite beyond.

1153
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 2: I wanted to make my presence very low key. I

1154
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 2: wanted to be the picture of class and decorum. I

1155
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 2: wore a tasteful beige dress that I frequently wore to church.

1156
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 2: I stayed seated for most of the reception and quietly

1157
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 2: chatted with Bianca and Reggie at the table. Once the

1158
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:42,960
Speaker 2: dancing started, someone in typical Midwest style brought out the

1159
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 2: money tree. Guests who wanted to dance with the bride

1160
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 2: or groom stock a dollar on the tree and waited

1161
00:51:48,600 --> 00:51:51,399
Speaker 2: in line for dance. Bianca got it in her head

1162
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 2: that I should dance with Matt and wouldn't let it go.

1163
00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 2: She played it like it was innocent fun, but I

1164
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:01,080
Speaker 2: felt all she wanted was to stir up drama. I

1165
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 2: wanted no part of that. She kept bringing it up,

1166
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 2: and I finally had to tell her to drop it.

1167
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,760
Speaker 2: There were far too many people feelings to consider Matt,

1168
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 2: the bride, Matt's mom and family, and my date. It

1169
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 2: would have derailed the whole night, and there Bianca sat

1170
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:19,759
Speaker 2: salivating like a Volk show, waiting to feast on the cottage.

1171
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,359
Speaker 2: It bothered me so much that a week or so later,

1172
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:25,000
Speaker 2: when Matt's mom and I talked about the wedding. I

1173
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 2: told her what Bianca was trying to do. Matt's mom

1174
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 2: told me that Bianca also insulted the bride's mom to

1175
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:34,240
Speaker 2: her face during the reception when she made a snide

1176
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 2: remark about the food. Matt's mom said she was done

1177
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 2: with Bianca for being such a well be. This incident

1178
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,760
Speaker 2: caused me to distance myself from Ianka, but I hadn't

1179
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:48,239
Speaker 2: reached the deal breaker majorly redactive for the good of all,

1180
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 2: there was an incident with a kitten. We no longer

1181
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 2: have the kitten. The incident involved a large dose of

1182
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 2: silly juice. I will not elaborate for the sake of

1183
00:52:57,080 --> 00:53:01,040
Speaker 2: our collective peace of mind. I felt duped, tricked, and

1184
00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 2: lied to. It was like waking up to find someone

1185
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,400
Speaker 2: you had known for ten years was replaced by an alien.

1186
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 2: I didn't know who she was. I increased my distance

1187
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 2: from her, actually afraid to end a relationship outright. Over

1188
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 2: the next year or so, we both moved out of state.

1189
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:19,319
Speaker 2: So that was that or so. I thought it was

1190
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 2: my turn to get married, and I didn't want Bianca

1191
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 2: involved at all. I knew she expected to be in

1192
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:27,680
Speaker 2: my wedding since I was in hers, I made excuses

1193
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:30,239
Speaker 2: about the small wedding venue and how I had to

1194
00:53:30,280 --> 00:53:32,400
Speaker 2: limit the number of people I had in the wedding party.

1195
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:35,319
Speaker 2: I could tell she was annoyed and suspicious, but it

1196
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:38,480
Speaker 2: put her off At the time. I made all the

1197
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 2: wedding arrangements and booked a highly recommended B and B

1198
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 2: for the wedding night. One day, Bianca called to discuss

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Speaker 2: her travel plans for the wedding. She mentioned she booked

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00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:50,520
Speaker 2: a B and B to stay at that weekend. When

1201
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 2: she said the name of the B and B, my

1202
00:53:52,600 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 2: breath caught in my throat. It was my B and B.

1203
00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 2: It was too late to change plans, so I called

1204
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 2: the owner and asked if she could work with me.

1205
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 2: I told her I wouldn't put it past Beanca to

1206
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 2: ruin my wedding night and asked if there was any

1207
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 2: way we could sneak into our room after our reception

1208
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 2: and stay hidden during our stay. The owner said she

1209
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 2: had just the thing. I love that the owners like

1210
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: I freaking got you.

1211
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, B and B owner's pretty cool.

1212
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 2: Victorian homes were typically built with servant stairs behind the

1213
00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 2: common areas. She told us how to get in the

1214
00:54:25,239 --> 00:54:27,440
Speaker 2: back door to the kitchen and up the hidden stairs

1215
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 2: to the second story.

1216
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 1: Lady.

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00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 2: She also arranged for us to have breakfast in our

1218
00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:34,080
Speaker 2: room the next morning. I prepared her for all the

1219
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:37,120
Speaker 2: snarky comments Beyonca would make about the wedding at breakfast

1220
00:54:37,120 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 2: the next morning. I told her to take it with

1221
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 2: a grain of salt. My wedding went wonderfully as planned,

1222
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 2: with no intrusion from Beyonca. Yes, during the reception line,

1223
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:50,320
Speaker 2: there was no gracious. The wedding was beautiful, our congratulations.

1224
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:52,919
Speaker 2: The only thing she said to me was I see

1225
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 2: you stuff your bra? Can we stuff your mouth? Man?

1226
00:54:55,840 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm about to stuff you into a black hole?

1227
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:00,320
Speaker 2: Bye? Why are you at this wedding?

1228
00:55:00,320 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 1: Spaghetti lady?

1229
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 2: The seamstress at the bridle shop added cups inside my

1230
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 2: dress because one my dress was backless so I couldn't

1231
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:09,120
Speaker 2: wear a bra, and two she didn't want to mess

1232
00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 2: with the princess seeming to take it in. So that's

1233
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:15,319
Speaker 2: basically all Bianca said to me. All evening, after the

1234
00:55:15,320 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 2: reception and the guests had all gone, My new hobby

1235
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 2: and I made our way to the B and B.

1236
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 2: Reggie opened the back door with the owner's key and

1237
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,960
Speaker 2: we found the hidden stairs next to the kitchen. We

1238
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 2: giggled as we snuck up the steep, narrow stairs, my

1239
00:55:28,040 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 2: voluminous dress scraping the walls as I tried my best

1240
00:55:30,960 --> 00:55:32,880
Speaker 2: not to trip going up to the second floor. This

1241
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 2: is nice, by the way. You know what else is cute?

1242
00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:38,920
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Speaker 2: and search a pokeas story time our Reggie stuck his

1245
00:55:44,000 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 2: head out in all way, saw the coast was clear,

1246
00:55:46,160 --> 00:55:48,880
Speaker 2: and we tiptoed to our room. We took a wonderfully

1247
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,440
Speaker 2: romantic chacoozy bath, even though weren't supposed to run the

1248
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 2: jets past ten yet. The next morning, we had breakfast

1249
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:56,400
Speaker 2: in bed and waited for the owner to tell us.

1250
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 2: Bianca and her husband had finished their breakfast in the

1251
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:02,720
Speaker 2: common room and went back upstairs. Reggie and I reversed

1252
00:56:02,719 --> 00:56:06,120
Speaker 2: our secret trek downstairs. We thanked the owner for assuring

1253
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:09,560
Speaker 2: our wedding night was perfect, and laughed conspiratorily at our success.

1254
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:12,480
Speaker 2: I asked if Bianca gossips about the wedding, and the

1255
00:56:12,520 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 2: owner said she did. I told her I knew she would.

1256
00:56:15,920 --> 00:56:18,840
Speaker 2: We thanked her again and drove off to start our honeymoon.

1257
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:23,200
Speaker 2: I never spoke to Bianca again. And that's the end

1258
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 2: of the story.

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00:56:26,560 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: Hey, it's johniog host here. We're gonna get back to

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00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 1: the stories. But here's a quick three minute break of

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00:56:30,120 --> 00:56:33,000
Speaker 1: ass from our sponsors. My trip to Paris with a

1262
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:37,200
Speaker 1: friend is stressful. I want to split up for good.

1263
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, break up the trip.

1264
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense.

1265
00:56:41,200 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 3: I've gotten off of my twelve hour shift at the

1266
00:56:43,719 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 3: hospital l O L. Anyways, me and my friend, let's

1267
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 3: call her Bella. I've known Bella for a while. We've

1268
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 3: got close after I lost my son at five months.

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00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 2: Oh.

1270
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 3: We planned a Paris trip, which I honestly thought was

1271
00:56:56,600 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 3: just like a oh, we should totally go here than

1272
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 3: never do that until the plane and hotel were purchased,

1273
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:04,560
Speaker 3: which I paid her back for. By the way, this

1274
00:57:04,600 --> 00:57:06,319
Speaker 3: comes from user sad reap per twenty three and if

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00:57:06,320 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 3: you want to submit your own story, go to the

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Speaker 3: our slash Okay storytime sub and submit it there. Anyways,

1277
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 3: time got closer to the trip and we talked about

1278
00:57:12,840 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 3: taking our euros so we can have some cash on hand,

1279
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 3: and we both agreed to take some out, but the

1280
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 3: day of the trip, I tried to give her euros,

1281
00:57:20,320 --> 00:57:22,959
Speaker 3: which was the amount I didn't pay because I didn't

1282
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 3: have money at the time. I took out three thousand

1283
00:57:25,400 --> 00:57:28,400
Speaker 3: euros because I wanted to shop and shop I did

1284
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 3: not Wow. Here's some context about myself. I grew up

1285
00:57:32,240 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 3: in horrible living situations and now as a nineteen year

1286
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 3: old adult with an apartment and a fiance, I worry

1287
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 3: about money often, and I have an amazing memory and

1288
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 3: often worry about misunderstanding. So I take notes on everything,

1289
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 3: pretty much a summary of every conversation.

1290
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 1: It's okay.

1291
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:53,200
Speaker 3: The day of the trip, Bella proceeds to try and

1292
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 3: gaslight me, telling me I was the only one who

1293
00:57:56,360 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 3: was going to take out money and that's what we

1294
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:01,800
Speaker 3: agreed on. There was no of that conversation. She now

1295
00:58:01,840 --> 00:58:05,080
Speaker 3: owes me about nine hundred and eighty six dollars and

1296
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:07,400
Speaker 3: eighty four cents. Yes, very specific. I keep all my

1297
00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 3: receipts and made envelopes with how much money was in

1298
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:12,280
Speaker 3: each envelope. Money was not the only issue, it was

1299
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 3: just the start of it. More context. I've never been

1300
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:18,439
Speaker 3: on a plane or traveled out of the country. I've

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00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 3: driven states away. Uh huh, yes, paying tolls and whatever planes.

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00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 2: No.

1303
00:58:24,760 --> 00:58:27,000
Speaker 3: Also, as a child, I didn't really have a home,

1304
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 3: so I was very aware because I grew up in

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00:58:30,880 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 3: a substance infested area at the airport. I'm nervous. There's

1306
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 3: a pokey sabby in my checked bag and it's a

1307
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 3: nice pokey stabby and I was worried it would get taken.

1308
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:45,080
Speaker 3: Belly gets mad at me for bringing a backpack instead

1309
00:58:45,080 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 3: of a small suitcase as a carry on while my

1310
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:48,920
Speaker 3: purse is my personal bag.

1311
00:58:49,240 --> 00:58:52,280
Speaker 1: I apparently looked poor, but in reality, I didn't want

1312
00:58:52,280 --> 00:58:54,720
Speaker 1: to lug two ROLLI bags around and would rather carry

1313
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:57,200
Speaker 1: a backpack. I wear steel toed boots all the time.

1314
00:58:57,440 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 1: They make me about five three in height and protect

1315
00:58:59,840 --> 00:59:02,720
Speaker 1: my little toes. I knew to take my shoes off

1316
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 1: during the metal detector, and Bella points out my socks

1317
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:07,960
Speaker 1: aren't matching and I don't need take off my shoes.

1318
00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 1: It's embarrassing. Apparently, Well, joke's on you.

1319
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 3: I'm colorblind and I can't tell that the gray isn't

1320
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:14,000
Speaker 3: the same as that gray.

1321
00:59:14,120 --> 00:59:18,120
Speaker 2: I'm also not colorblind. Uh, and I'm misspatched socks all

1322
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:18,360
Speaker 2: the time.

1323
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 1: Who cares I'm pretty small.

1324
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:21,960
Speaker 3: I'm five foot in about one hundred and fifteen pounds,

1325
00:59:21,960 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 3: but I'm also claustrophobic. Bella is about five two and

1326
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:27,320
Speaker 3: is a bit bigger and wider than me. I was

1327
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 3: put into the middle of the seats, which I am claustrophobic,

1328
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:32,480
Speaker 3: and kept passing out from hyperventilating, which he told me

1329
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 3: to stop. It's to embarrass them. I was in the

1330
00:59:35,720 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 3: middle of every plane ride and the same thing happened repeatedly,

1331
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:40,240
Speaker 3: and I was told the same thing every time too.

1332
00:59:40,240 --> 00:59:42,920
Speaker 3: Where the fight attendants? Where's anyone offering to help you here?

1333
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 3: What are you on a flight full of just the

1334
00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:50,120
Speaker 3: robot monsters? Anyways, each airport encounter was the same except

1335
00:59:50,160 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 3: the last one, which was finally the plane to take

1336
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 3: us home. I was in the middle again, but with

1337
00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 3: my awareness brain type of response, I read every sign,

1338
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:01,160
Speaker 3: and when Bella would want her off, I would mention

1339
01:00:01,360 --> 01:00:02,200
Speaker 3: reading the signs.

1340
01:00:02,480 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 1: She got mad and yelled at me to.

1341
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 3: Read the signs I was, and I made her cry

1342
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:10,400
Speaker 3: by telling her in a stern voice, which God I

1343
01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 3: wish I did earlier, not to make her cry, but

1344
01:00:13,240 --> 01:00:14,040
Speaker 3: just to make it stop.

1345
01:00:14,400 --> 01:00:14,960
Speaker 1: Quote.

1346
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:17,919
Speaker 3: I am reading the signs. That's how I know where

1347
01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:20,360
Speaker 3: I'm going. It would be helpful if we both read

1348
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 3: the signs in bold writing and proceeded to point at

1349
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 3: the signs that said our plane number.

1350
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 1: Thingy. Enough about the airport, it's time for perie pari.

1351
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:30,080
Speaker 1: I won't lie.

1352
01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 3: I didn't hate the trip, but I didn't enjoy myself much.

1353
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 3: We get to the hotel, she checks us in. We

1354
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:38,360
Speaker 3: get into the room and she yells at me because

1355
01:00:38,360 --> 01:00:40,160
Speaker 3: she's hungry, and then falls asleep.

1356
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:42,400
Speaker 1: This sounds good, Muggy.

1357
01:00:44,680 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 3: I'm very independent and can read French, just not to

1358
01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 3: say to get understand it when spoken to me. I

1359
01:00:50,920 --> 01:00:52,720
Speaker 3: went out to get pizza, and the only time I

1360
01:00:52,800 --> 01:00:55,640
Speaker 3: enjoyed walking was when I was alone. Anyways, the next

1361
01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:57,880
Speaker 3: day we went to a market and everything was closed,

1362
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:00,960
Speaker 3: so we went back. She got mad and I mentioned

1363
01:01:00,960 --> 01:01:04,240
Speaker 3: a museum. That's all I wanted to do, and it's

1364
01:01:04,280 --> 01:01:06,280
Speaker 3: all I wanted to do while they are even just

1365
01:01:06,400 --> 01:01:10,480
Speaker 3: for an hour, Bella says, that's stupid where they're to shop.

1366
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:14,280
Speaker 3: That's why we came here. In my head, I'm like, ah, shoot,

1367
01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 3: three thousand euros isn't enough. I wanted to go crazy

1368
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 3: and bring stuff to my friends at home, but I.

1369
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:22,480
Speaker 1: Have to split it. I will withhold unless I really

1370
01:01:22,520 --> 01:01:25,320
Speaker 1: want something. That way everyone will be happy. Bella would

1371
01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 1: be stupid.

1372
01:01:26,400 --> 01:01:30,600
Speaker 3: So when we did shop, I shopped for my friends, coworkers, fiance,

1373
01:01:30,720 --> 01:01:33,240
Speaker 3: and my foster mom. The most I got for myself

1374
01:01:33,320 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 3: was a sweater and a necklace. I spent literally thirty

1375
01:01:36,280 --> 01:01:39,840
Speaker 3: two euros on myself. This whole time there, Bella wanted

1376
01:01:39,840 --> 01:01:42,600
Speaker 3: to be right and that just wasn't happening. I have

1377
01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 3: training in the army, I know how to fight in track.

1378
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 3: I never get lost and never did, and she kept

1379
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:50,200
Speaker 3: trying to make us go in the wrong direction, then

1380
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 3: got mad and yelled at me when I was right

1381
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 3: or tried to correct her. I'm very passive, but I'm

1382
01:01:55,560 --> 01:01:58,000
Speaker 3: also assertive and aggressive when I need to be. I

1383
01:01:58,000 --> 01:02:00,600
Speaker 3: would sit in the bathroom and cry because I felt

1384
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:01,600
Speaker 3: so just.

1385
01:02:02,240 --> 01:02:02,600
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1386
01:02:02,680 --> 01:02:05,720
Speaker 3: I was also the designated bag holder because I'm stronger

1387
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:10,120
Speaker 3: all her bags. This person sucks, dude, You're not her.

1388
01:02:11,560 --> 01:02:14,440
Speaker 1: Hunter, awe abandon her in Paris.

1389
01:02:14,840 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was the designated bag holder because I'm freaking yoked, dude.

1390
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:21,360
Speaker 3: I felt like this trip was for her and I

1391
01:02:21,480 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 3: was just her bodyguard, money bag holder, direction giver. She

1392
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 3: was never this way with me before. I lost all

1393
01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 3: excitement for the trip and just wanted to go home

1394
01:02:29,520 --> 01:02:32,120
Speaker 3: to my cats and my fiance. I had to smile

1395
01:02:32,200 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 3: and pretend I was so happy. If I let it

1396
01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:36,680
Speaker 3: show that I was tired, sad, annoyed, or anything, she

1397
01:02:36,720 --> 01:02:38,680
Speaker 3: would start to cry and get mad, and I'd be

1398
01:02:38,720 --> 01:02:40,760
Speaker 3: the problem. See that's where you're wrong, though, girl, because

1399
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:43,440
Speaker 3: you could have just been however you felt, and then

1400
01:02:43,480 --> 01:02:46,080
Speaker 3: her going, whoa you got?

1401
01:02:46,200 --> 01:02:48,120
Speaker 2: You know what I'm gonna I'm gonna head out and

1402
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 2: do something else today.

1403
01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 3: I'm actually gonna hang out by myself because I don't

1404
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 3: usually hang out with little babies.

1405
01:02:52,920 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 2: Little cry baby.

1406
01:02:53,960 --> 01:02:55,800
Speaker 1: Sorry, by the way, I'm gonna dunk you in the river.

1407
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:58,640
Speaker 3: If you don't listen to full episodes of stories like

1408
01:02:58,720 --> 01:03:03,360
Speaker 3: this Spotify, Apple Podcasts, i Heeart Radio, wherever you listen

1409
01:03:03,360 --> 01:03:07,800
Speaker 3: to podcasts and search Okay story time, and then you

1410
01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 3: have the whole archive at your fingertips. She hasn't apologized yet,

1411
01:03:11,080 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 3: and I don't think she will because I don't have

1412
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 3: the heart to tell her how I felt. Oh maybe,

1413
01:03:15,360 --> 01:03:17,880
Speaker 3: deep down I feel like I owe her. She helped

1414
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:20,720
Speaker 3: me get through my miscarriage. She was in the room

1415
01:03:20,880 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 3: when I had the procedure, when I held him for

1416
01:03:23,000 --> 01:03:26,080
Speaker 3: the first and last time. Anyway, I probably won't go

1417
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:28,479
Speaker 3: on a trip with her again. But is it worth

1418
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 3: throwing the whole friendship away?

1419
01:03:30,200 --> 01:03:30,439
Speaker 1: Yes?

1420
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:34,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not good with decisions. I'm commonly if you

1421
01:03:34,440 --> 01:03:37,000
Speaker 3: are bad, you're gone for my life. But it's usually

1422
01:03:37,040 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 3: the newer people that I meet. Ugh, sorry for the

1423
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 3: long post here. You have some comments Comment one, It

1424
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:44,600
Speaker 3: is absolutely worth the loss.

1425
01:03:44,720 --> 01:03:45,200
Speaker 2: Trust me.

1426
01:03:45,280 --> 01:03:48,280
Speaker 3: Someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, appreciates your strengths, or

1427
01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:50,600
Speaker 3: even pays back the big amount of money they owe

1428
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:53,240
Speaker 3: you is not a friend. She definitely has some very

1429
01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 3: clear main character syndrome, and the moment something doesn't fit

1430
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,840
Speaker 3: her idea of picture perfect is blamed on someone else.

1431
01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:03,440
Speaker 3: This goes far beyond just having an off day. The

1432
01:04:03,480 --> 01:04:05,959
Speaker 3: fact that she can't even offer support in your time

1433
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:08,720
Speaker 3: of need or accept your own choices in life are

1434
01:04:08,880 --> 01:04:13,360
Speaker 3: huge red flags alone. Opie replied, Yeah, was kind of

1435
01:04:13,360 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 3: disheartening when I was called embarrassing for things I can't

1436
01:04:16,080 --> 01:04:20,000
Speaker 3: necessarily control, like color blindness or claustrophobia, which she knew

1437
01:04:20,000 --> 01:04:20,920
Speaker 3: about beforehand.

1438
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 1: I wonder why she switched up. What was the switch up?

1439
01:04:24,560 --> 01:04:25,800
Speaker 1: What was the switch up moment?

1440
01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:29,080
Speaker 2: Because she wants to be a bully and she doesn't

1441
01:04:29,080 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 2: need a reason.

1442
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 1: They allowed people with claustrophobia to enlist.

1443
01:04:32,680 --> 01:04:34,960
Speaker 3: That's usually a disorder that disqualifies you from serving in

1444
01:04:35,000 --> 01:04:38,560
Speaker 3: any branch, At least it was when I joined the military. Ope,

1445
01:04:38,560 --> 01:04:40,760
Speaker 3: he replied, I didn't enlist as a child. I joined

1446
01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:43,640
Speaker 3: programs and got help from my siblings, And yes, I

1447
01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:45,640
Speaker 3: know hence why I am not in the army and

1448
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:48,160
Speaker 3: decided to go into the medical field. I'm allowed to

1449
01:04:48,200 --> 01:04:50,280
Speaker 3: go to some bases just to watch and learn. I

1450
01:04:50,320 --> 01:04:53,600
Speaker 3: just can't do the full extended things they do, but fight, Yes,

1451
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:56,840
Speaker 3: tracking I can do, just not one hundred percent. I've

1452
01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:59,040
Speaker 3: never traveled before, but based on this, I'll probably be

1453
01:04:59,040 --> 01:05:00,240
Speaker 3: doing it alone from now on.

1454
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:03,200
Speaker 1: And that is the end of our story.