Speaker 1: Second dating. I think there's a time in everyone's life.
Speaker 1: Usually it's somewhere in your twenties where you're having a
Speaker 1: good time, you're care free, the possibilities are endless, and
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, it happens your best friend
Speaker 1: gets engaged. Oh wait a second, the party's about to
Speaker 1: be over. Yeah, oh crap, I gotta find somebody. It's
Speaker 1: like dating musical chairs now, and if you don't move quickly,
Speaker 1: you're going to be left with just a spot on
Speaker 1: the floor. That type of anxiety saying you got to
Speaker 1: move fast. And that's kind of where one of our listeners,
Speaker 1: Mary Anne, found herself a few months back, and she
Speaker 1: said it changed the way that she thought about dating man. So,
Speaker 1: mary Anne, welcome to the show. Hey yeah, Mary yea,
Speaker 1: mary Anne, tell us about your dating life. What's going on.
Speaker 1: You know, it's been fine and normal and good. I've
Speaker 1: been trying though, to meet a guy for a while, right, okay,
Speaker 1: And your requirements are different now is kind of what
Speaker 1: Jeff is alluding to. You're looking for something more. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm looking for my soulmate now. Pressure. I mean, it
Speaker 1: was like, gosh, I guess the phase of life is here.
Speaker 1: It's like made this alarm go off inside me, you know,
Speaker 1: like what have I been doing? You know? Just turn around?
Speaker 1: And I can't be eagle by myself when everybody else
Speaker 1: is getting married. Don't feel peer pressure. I founding into
Speaker 1: peer pressure is a good thing always. So it is, okay,
Speaker 1: how have you tried to pursue a soulmate? Now? What
Speaker 1: strategy are you using? Most recently, I did speed dating
Speaker 1: whole school in person, like at a bar or something. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well so this one was interesting because it was lego
Speaker 1: speed dating. Actually what does that mean? So what you
Speaker 1: do if you meet and there's like a place with
Speaker 1: a bunch of tables and then there are lego pieces
Speaker 1: on each table and they start that timer and you
Speaker 1: sit down and then the person across from you. You
Speaker 1: guys are talking, but you create something from the lego
Speaker 1: while you are talking. You don't have to have like
Speaker 1: uncomfortable eye contacts. Like there's something else to do, like
Speaker 1: a big fidget table. Okay, I made an airplane crashing,
Speaker 1: But it sounds like you're supposed to build something together,
Speaker 1: Like it's like you're teaming up to make something of that. Okay,
Speaker 1: that's that's like a metaphor for your relationship, right, also
Speaker 1: kind of an innuendo there how the pieces fit together.
Speaker 1: I don't know if nobody would think, but it's good
Speaker 1: to know how many people are fighting like, no, we
Speaker 1: need this piece. Well, then you know you're not a
Speaker 1: good match. So how did it go with the lego building?
Speaker 1: I thought it went fantastic, Say, really, did you meet someone? Well?
Speaker 1: When I sat down across from Steve, we decided that
Speaker 1: we would build Harry Potter's wand yeah, was it just
Speaker 1: like one giant stack of leg a circular? Oh? Okay,
Speaker 1: wands come in many shapes and sizes. Are all kinds
Speaker 1: of wands. It's not just one long stick. So basically
Speaker 1: he's like a dorky Harry Potter head like you are,
Speaker 1: which is also another common interest. It sounds like we
Speaker 1: were like, oh, we totally speak the same language, we
Speaker 1: have the same interests here. It was going better than
Speaker 1: I ever could have hoped. And then I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: we have thirty seconds left. They let you know when
Speaker 1: your time is rubbing, and I was like, what spell
Speaker 1: should we cast? That was totally just being ridiculous, and well,
Speaker 1: I'm going to cast a love spell. On you to
Speaker 1: put your number in my phone so we can go
Speaker 1: on a real date. Answer. I think so, And they
Speaker 1: sat down to a big pile of brown legos. It
Speaker 1: sounds like, yeah, it was smart and clever and cute, right,
Speaker 1: and it was like playing along and and so we did.
Speaker 1: A week later, we went out and we just went
Speaker 1: to a ping pong bar and pooped around and played
Speaker 1: ping pong and drank and hissed. And it was his
Speaker 1: Oh whoa. I mean literally it was perfect. I felt
Speaker 1: like I had this strong connection with him and we
Speaker 1: were we were talking about the future and our brains
Speaker 1: and mind. Well that's what happens when you get a
Speaker 1: love spell cast on you. Yeah, maybe the spell wear off.
Speaker 1: That's why, dude. That's crazy though. It's like you put
Speaker 1: out into the universe that you wanted to meet your soulmate,
Speaker 1: and it felt like this universe was kind of delivering. Yeah. Like,
Speaker 1: I mean, here's the deal. I've been on a lot
Speaker 1: of dates, okay, and I have met a wide variety
Speaker 1: of people, but I honestly feel like Steve might be
Speaker 1: my soulmate. WHOA, wow, after one date, I'm not lego
Speaker 1: building now, that's true. They warn you about that. When
Speaker 1: you build legos to you, why would you not be
Speaker 1: calling you back? I have no idea. It just felt
Speaker 1: like everything quicked so well and we were laughing and
Speaker 1: the chemistry was good, and I'm not really sure what happened.
Speaker 1: There's no red flags at all, but that's kind of
Speaker 1: a red flag in itself. The flag, Yeah, that might
Speaker 1: be what it is. In fact, if I was doing
Speaker 1: speed dating with the legos, I would build a red flag. Actually,
Speaker 1: just the yeah that you are walking up exact date
Speaker 1: at your own risk. But we're gonna call Steve here
Speaker 1: and we're going to ask him if he sees you
Speaker 1: two as soulmates the same way that you guys do.
Speaker 1: Can we say that for like a second question, Maybe
Speaker 1: we'll ask, and then we'll ask if we're going to
Speaker 1: do it with your second next second, Brook, do you
Speaker 1: remember the exact moment you first fell in love with
Speaker 1: your husband? Hush? I remember the first time I saw him,
Speaker 1: for sure, But we just fell in love. I mean,
Speaker 1: it takes time, and I don't think it happens in
Speaker 1: one My husband can tell you the exact moment he
Speaker 1: knew that he loved me for him? Oh no, yeah,
Speaker 1: we were on top of a volcano. What true story,
Speaker 1: true story, flare. We were very well prepared. We had
Speaker 1: just gone and thought we were going hiking and oh
Speaker 1: my god, goodness, Okay, he was having a heat stroke.
Speaker 1: It was very cold. Actually, just saying that special moment
Speaker 1: looks different for everyone. And for mary Anne, our listener,
Speaker 1: at moment happened when her speed dates Steve picked up
Speaker 1: some legos and built her a Harry Potter wand and
Speaker 1: cast a love spell. That's really cute. But after they
Speaker 1: went out to a bar, love spell seems to have
Speaker 1: worn off a little bit, so we're gonna try and
Speaker 1: reactivate it here with the second date update. How long
Speaker 1: ago was it that you saw him? Steve? It's been
Speaker 1: a week since I've heard of him from him, and
Speaker 1: and just nothing. He hasn't texted you back at all. No,
Speaker 1: he just disappeared. That wouldn't have happened if your date
Speaker 1: was on a volcano. Maybe he was actually Cinderella turned
Speaker 1: into a pumpkin. Oh, Harry Potter, he has the invisibility
Speaker 1: cloak on is there a shoe involved? Okay, all this
Speaker 1: talk of magic and eruptions and volcanoes, we gotta just
Speaker 1: call Steve before it gets too steamy in here? Are
Speaker 1: you ready? Maryanne? I am all right, let's do this.
Speaker 1: I'm Donard's number right now. Hey, Hello, Hey, is it Steve?
Speaker 1: Yees seeking? Who's hey Steve. It's your lucky day. You're
Speaker 1: on the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in
Speaker 1: the morning. Hey, I see Okay, okay, okay, all right,
Speaker 1: you got a second right now? Um? Yeah, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: what's up. We're calling because we got your number from
Speaker 1: one of our listeners named Mary Anne. Oh, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: She's a woman that you met at speed dating and
Speaker 1: went out with once. Yeah. Wow, okay, So she asked
Speaker 1: you to call me. Yeah. Yeah. Are you surprised by that? Uh? No,
Speaker 1: I guess I'm not surprised by that. I'm surprised it's happening.
Speaker 1: I'm not surprised that she would do that. I guess. Well,
Speaker 1: you don't have to sound nervous. It's supposed to be
Speaker 1: a good thing. It means that she had a really
Speaker 1: good time with you. It did a great time with you. Yes,
Speaker 1: I gathered that. Yeah you did well, that's good. Did
Speaker 1: you have a good time? Honestly? I did? Um, she
Speaker 1: was very fun to talk to. It just started getting
Speaker 1: a little weird towards the end. Um, it sounds like
Speaker 1: you're choosing your words like super carefully. Well, well, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't dislike um. It's just a little too unusual
Speaker 1: for for me. Okay, actual is this before or after
Speaker 1: you kissed her? Because we heard there was kissing involved
Speaker 1: at the bar Um. I would say it definitely got
Speaker 1: the weirdness spike after that. Why is it Sai? Then
Speaker 1: she said what so she was pretty openly talking about
Speaker 1: the idea of soulmate? Uh huh? Was that she said
Speaker 1: that to you? Yeah, but she was just talking about
Speaker 1: it as like a big idea, right, like not your
Speaker 1: my soulmate. She opened it like that, and then she
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I think you might be one
Speaker 1: of my homemates. Whoa wait and then one of isn't
Speaker 1: there only one soulmate? Now you can have Mark. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's the point. It's not soul mate, it's soul mate.
Speaker 1: That's That's exactly what I said. And she it is like, yeah, welly,
Speaker 1: everyone has three soulmates three three. I didn't know that, Brook.
Speaker 1: This is good news for you and your marriage. No,
Speaker 1: I can see that though it's like your best friend,
Speaker 1: your sister. No, you want to bring your sister. It
Speaker 1: isn't a sexual thing. Soul is just someone who you're
Speaker 1: like connected with in this beyond any other relationship type
Speaker 1: of ways. Yeah, exactly. I mean that's that's kind of
Speaker 1: how we are understanding it. But Steve, how were you
Speaker 1: understanding what mary Anne was telling you? Oh? I mean
Speaker 1: what you guys are talking about sounds great, that sounds
Speaker 1: very reasonable. Um, that is not what I was presented with.
Speaker 1: Um to her, it's like a thing where you have
Speaker 1: a past soulmate, a present soulmate, and a future soulmate
Speaker 1: and these are all romantic. You have three. God, you
Speaker 1: got to find three of them in your life that
Speaker 1: you want to want to make it out with a friend.
Speaker 1: But I don't get it. Yeah, just a little too
Speaker 1: absurd to me, this idea of like boy friends of past,
Speaker 1: present and future. Hy Hey, I have something to say, Hey, Steve, Sorry,
Speaker 1: that that's mary Anne. She's she's been listening on the
Speaker 1: other line and clearly wants to talk to you. Usually
Speaker 1: wait till we call him ghost a Christmas past. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh wow, Um, were you going to tell me that?
Speaker 1: I think I just did. Okay, okay, okay, yes, Hi
Speaker 1: mary Anne, Marianne something to say. Hi, Hi, Steve. You
Speaker 1: sound really confused, and I feel like maybe I just
Speaker 1: didn't do a very good job of explaining it, you know,
Speaker 1: because it's like this for everyone. It's just the rule
Speaker 1: of the universe. Right, So you have three soulmates. You
Speaker 1: have a past soulmate and a present soulmate and a
Speaker 1: future soulmate. Those was a three fine in your life? Right,
Speaker 1: Which soulmate and which soulmate is Steve number? Okay? Right?
Speaker 1: So he I'm pretty sure if my presence soulmatee right,
Speaker 1: my past my high school boyfriend that was my past soulmate, Steve,
Speaker 1: I really think has a possibility to be my present soulmate. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but that kind of indicates to him that he's gonna
Speaker 1: get dumped for another dude along. It's better to have,
Speaker 1: you know, a small part of Maryanne than none at all.
Speaker 1: I would agree with that, sure, but look like it's
Speaker 1: not me, Like I'm not making this up right, This
Speaker 1: is like a law of the universe. Okay, Steve, how
Speaker 1: does that make you feel, figuring that you could possibly
Speaker 1: be her present soulmate? Well, if I if I'm the
Speaker 1: present soulmate, and then suddenly there's a future soulmate, then
Speaker 1: with that future soulmate, then that's your present soulmate, and
Speaker 1: then I'm your past soulmate. So the whole system falls
Speaker 1: apart really fast. Yeah, it should be on a numbering
Speaker 1: system rather that deep and just be like a date. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: I've already had my first soul mate, I can't have another,
Speaker 1: and I'm fairly certain, like it really feels like you
Speaker 1: will be the second. And then if you're lucky, right, Like,
Speaker 1: if every pos well, then I wouldn't even find my
Speaker 1: future soulmate until after you are dead. Oh okay, let's
Speaker 1: let's get on that. The most romantic sentence that's ever
Speaker 1: been up about this show. I mean, wouldn't you want
Speaker 1: me to find somebody after you die? What are you
Speaker 1: talking about? We're not even together yet. What are you
Speaker 1: talking about meeting someone after I die? That's a good point.
Speaker 1: You aren't together yet until we send you out, and
Speaker 1: we'll pay for you, guys, to make it official as
Speaker 1: present soulmates to each other. We'll pay for it. Maybe
Speaker 1: soulmate is a little bit stronger, we'll send you out
Speaker 1: on another date better, and then you can figure out
Speaker 1: if the soulmate thing is real or Now ate I
Speaker 1: like that? I mean, given that you did have a
Speaker 1: good time with her. She's got some cookie ideas, but
Speaker 1: she likes you. You guys had a great time. See. No,
Speaker 1: it is not cookie. It is the rule of three soulmates.
Speaker 1: Everybody follows this. Okay, okay, wow? Did that convince you
Speaker 1: to go out with her this time? Steve? No, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I don't want to find out what other rules of
Speaker 1: life there are that I didn't know about. I will
Speaker 1: say it does explain the divorce, right, People are just
Speaker 1: go into their future soulmates. Yes, that's what's happening. Wait
Speaker 1: a seconds, wait, Steve, since you said no to the date,
Speaker 1: does that now make mary Anne your past soulmate or
Speaker 1: so that means you only have two more to go
Speaker 1: till you find your forever lady. And does it mean
Speaker 1: that Maryanne only gets one or maybe? Yeah? Well, when
Speaker 1: you started talking about this, you know, more and more
Speaker 1: information sort of came to me, and the energy was
Speaker 1: just not what I thought it was, and I just
Speaker 1: canceled you in my mind. So it's unsubscribed from the
Speaker 1: soulmates this guylmate. I kind of like these universe rules
Speaker 1: Broke and Jeffrey in the morning. You know, it's funny
Speaker 1: that girl mentioned that she had a past present in
Speaker 1: future soulmate somewhere in the world. If I got some
Speaker 1: funny in it, Well, yeah, sure, it's just funny because
Speaker 1: I remember when we did a live broadcast from Vegas
Speaker 1: and I walked into one of the hotel rooms and
Speaker 1: I met all three of Jose's soulmates. Yeah, remember that
Speaker 1: their names? Remember their names? I doubt Yeah. I mean
Speaker 1: it just goes to show that everybody's got a little
Speaker 1: bit of a different take on what love means. Love is, yeah,
Speaker 1: and how much you have to pay love that three
Speaker 1: for one deal on the street. Okay, but you know
Speaker 1: your soul mate might be different than you're forever person,
Speaker 1: who might be different than the one who might be
Speaker 1: different than the love of your life. Oh man, I
Speaker 1: haven't any of them. It's not the same. Those are
Speaker 1: all different. Oh my god. Love is hard, and we're
Speaker 1: here to help you with that hard love. I think
Speaker 1: we should go with that. I said it was help
Speaker 1: me in Vegas. I know that dating can be difficult,
Speaker 1: and if you want to get a little help. Email
Speaker 1: the show, we'll call the person who wasn't calling you back.
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