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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with on our radio.

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Speaker 2: Hey everybody, welcome to the Almost Famous podcast.

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Speaker 3: We are breaking down Bachelor Nation headlines with our expert

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Speaker 3: Ashley and Ashley. The first headline today, there was one

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Speaker 3: that we said we're gonna keep being updated on. I

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Speaker 3: don't know if we're getting any more clarity other than

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Speaker 3: we're getting more information. This is the headline, a big

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Speaker 3: one getting I feel like it's getting more cryptic. But

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Speaker 3: what are you gonna do?

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Speaker 2: Bachelor Nations.

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Speaker 3: Ryan Setter clarifies he and wife Trista are great after

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Speaker 3: cryptic messages.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so last week we talked about how Ryan has

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Speaker 4: posted a series of pictures on Instagram with the captions

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Speaker 4: that are like I miss you. I can't believe I'm

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Speaker 4: doing life without you. I need to hear your voice.

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Speaker 4: And we all just assumed that she's off shooting a show,

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Speaker 4: but he's making it seem like it's like way more

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Speaker 4: than that. And I did read in the comments section

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Speaker 4: somebody was like, you can't like say stuff like this.

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Speaker 4: It makes us really worried, and he was like, don't

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Speaker 4: be worried. She's going through something. And she got an

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Speaker 4: opportunity that she really thought would help her through this

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Speaker 4: journey that she's on. Everyone is good, It's like, okay,

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Speaker 4: but then you just said that she's going through something,

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Speaker 4: So now we're like, is it just a TV show

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Speaker 4: or what the opportunity has to be a TV show? Apparently,

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Speaker 4: like I said last week, there's a number of celebrities

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Speaker 4: along the lines of Trista that did sign off on

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Speaker 4: Instagram as if they were going to be away for

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Speaker 4: a while. Some people are speculating in its Traders, some

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Speaker 4: Special Forces. Last week it was as if Bob Guinea

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Speaker 4: could confirmed that it was Special Forces, but then he

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Speaker 4: told us that he actually has no idea, so who knows.

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Speaker 4: But let's get into this a little bit because because

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Speaker 4: Ryan did get on Instagram and try to clarify all

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Speaker 4: the cryptic stuff he said, I write what's on my

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Speaker 4: mind at the moment. I write my feelings without regard

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Speaker 4: for how they will be interpreted, and with absolutely no

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Speaker 4: intent to deceive or mislead anyone. This is the farthest

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Speaker 4: thing from my mind. I choose to share my thoughts

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Speaker 4: on the occasion because it helps me process them and

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Speaker 4: I hope may help others navigate their own lives just

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Speaker 4: as fine. We are fine, We are great, Just as

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Speaker 4: in a place in her life where she's searching a bit,

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Speaker 4: an opportunity presented itself that may help her on this quest. Oh,

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Speaker 4: that is the quote that I was referring to earlier.

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Speaker 4: With her family's support, she's taken it part of the process.

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Speaker 4: Means that she's temporarily inaccessible to us. I miss her,

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Speaker 4: We miss her. I wish that Jared would miss me

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Speaker 4: like this. You're away from Jess all the time. I

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Speaker 4: have a couple of days every month where I'm away

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Speaker 4: from Jared, and I don't think he ever missed me

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Speaker 4: like this. But yeah, I mean, we hope that everybody's good.

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Speaker 4: I think that.

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Speaker 2: Think.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I would like to say that we did try

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Speaker 4: to get right on the podcast. We wanted him to

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Speaker 4: just talk about his feelings, but he said that he

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Speaker 4: would rather Trista address everything when she's back, as she

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Speaker 4: is our og bachelorette.

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Speaker 3: So, in doing some investigation, I think we've pretty much

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Speaker 3: came to the consensus.

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Speaker 2: It's not traders. She's not on.

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Speaker 4: Traders, Okay, And why did you come to that, because

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Speaker 4: you know somebody who's going on traders I.

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Speaker 3: Believe, I know somebody is going on Traders and it

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Speaker 3: has not started filming yet, and it doesn't start filming

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Speaker 3: for a while, so then it leaves us with Special

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Speaker 4: Don't know of that's on like a lesser no network.

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Speaker 3: Sure, I don't think it's Special Forces, because she has

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Speaker 3: commented on some of Ryan's posts, and uh, there it

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Speaker 3: was spoken that they had that Ryan and Trista have

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Speaker 3: spoken on the phone, and Trista did reply to one

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Speaker 3: of our text messages. If it was Special Forces, she

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Also, the first post that Ryan shared was on May eleventh,

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Speaker 3: in today's May twenty second. Now she could have left,

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Speaker 3: got some prep, the timeline would work out for Special

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Speaker 3: within the next few days.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's only ten days of filming.

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Speaker 3: It's only ten days of filming, two to three days

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Speaker 4: So you know, like if you don't win, you get home,

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Speaker 3: So it has to be a show that we don't

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Speaker 3: know about. The confusing part here is the comment that

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Speaker 3: Because Ryan's most recent post kind of speaks to that too,

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Speaker 3: So I wonder if Trista was just kind of hitting that, hey,

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Speaker 3: you know what, like I haven't gotten known for anything

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Speaker 3: to be on a show and she's like, maybe this

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Speaker 3: and it would be completely fair. These messages are cryptic,

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Speaker 3: he's like, no, no, no, please. I think if he

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Speaker 3: She's just gone and I miss her. I will say

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Speaker 3: it is an amazing amount of missing that he's doing,

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Speaker 3: I think that is so cool that he is willing

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Speaker 3: I think that is the sweetest thing ever. And at

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Speaker 3: what in the world was going on when I was?

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Speaker 4: You know? I love it. I can't wait to hear

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Speaker 4: her for her take. Okay, what's our next headline? It's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we do got some big ones today. Colton Underwood

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Speaker 4: Congratulations you too. They confirmed this news in an interview

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Speaker 4: with Men's Health. It was published yesterday May twenty first,

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Speaker 4: and the couple explained that they used a concierge service

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Speaker 4: to find an egg donor, but they will not know

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Speaker 4: They said, some people want blue eyes, blonde hair. We

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Speaker 4: Love our little boy. It's a boy. It's coming in

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Speaker 3: It's an exciting time for the two of them. Obviously,

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Speaker 3: Colton Ashley, you probably know more about this than I do.

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Speaker 3: He started a project, like a podcast right to kind

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Speaker 4: Talk about like really getting his sperm right, because there

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Speaker 3: So this is a big journey for the two of them.

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Speaker 3: It is exciting. We will be falling along with that

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Speaker 4: When you don't know whose sperm is used and the

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Speaker 4: they will figure out whose sperm was used, and do

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Speaker 4: and how do you think that will make the other

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Speaker 2: I don't think it will be a thing at all.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, I know what you're It's clear to me just

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Speaker 3: based on how we care as humans. When you want

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Speaker 3: I don't think it'll be a thing. And here's the

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Speaker 2: Than this child.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Jared and I were honest. It wasn't like he

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Speaker 4: see Heaven's gates because like my my mother in law

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Speaker 4: definitely it was. It was a matter of a day

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Speaker 4: before we were like, we must protect this child at

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Speaker 4: Augusts and it grows more and more every day and now,

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Speaker 4: and we are also honest about like our concerns now

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Speaker 4: with the second kid. We're like, you're telling me that

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Speaker 4: love Dawson. Now, how is that possible? But that's also

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Speaker 4: like whatever most parents also are concerned about for the

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Bachelor lum Sean Lowe reveals secret to ten year marriage

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Speaker 3: to wife Catherine. His quote is, it's just about committing.

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Speaker 4: He said. Anyone who's been married knows that it takes work.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for sharing that final headline today, a Golden

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Speaker 4: Well, this article that we have here is really just

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Speaker 3: It would be a very different feel and vibe.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm not saying like make it don't have a

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Speaker 3: Make it new. It's going to be interesting what they

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Speaker 3: I think the show, my excitement for it has not changed,

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Speaker 4: To me, I just wanted to be slower.

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Speaker 2: I want it to be slower. Yeah, we don't have

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Speaker 4: Let's make it slow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah out all right, that's all the headlines we have

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Speaker 3: Sutter journey of where in the world is Trista's Sutter?

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Speaker 3: That's probably what you should mean this podcast. Where in

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Speaker 3: the world is Trista's Setter? Hey, until next time, I've

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