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Speaker 3: It's awkward.

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Speaker 1: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. We all have informal titles

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Speaker 1: on this show, like Alexis is our resident dog walker

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Speaker 1: And Brook is the poster child for getting along with

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Speaker 1: There is not one person I know who beats Brook

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that, and I appreciate that you're known as

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Speaker 3: Aren't we great? Sure?

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Speaker 1: Unfortunately, not everybody has that tight bond that Brooke does

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Speaker 3: How you doing, I'm doing okay.

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Speaker 5: How are you doing?

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Speaker 4: Doing good?

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Speaker 2: In law issues? I've never had him, don't know I

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Speaker 5: Well, I've been married for a couple of years now,

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Speaker 3: Oh wow. Yeah, like no contact at all with him,

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Speaker 3: He could be architecting the new Pentagon. Broke, I don't

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Speaker 5: No, we were able to talk and FaceTime a little bit,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense, that sense, And it sucks when

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Speaker 5: Actually it was when he got back.

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Speaker 5: Well, the day he got back, I was so excited,

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Speaker 5: She didn't stay just one night. She stayed for nine days.

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Speaker 3: No, now you're the bad guy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and he thinks now that like I hate his mom,

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Speaker 3: Yea, even if you don't believe that, it's really nice.

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Speaker 2: Like my mother in law a lot. But I do

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So, Abban, now that we've heard your story, you

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Speaker 5: Well, we're going to be calling my husband because he's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll see.

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Speaker 1: If we can change his mind and then get him

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Speaker 3: It's awkward, it's sad. It's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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Speaker 1: You could write a Doctor Seuss book called Oh the

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Speaker 1: Things you Shouldn't Say to your mother in law, And

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Speaker 1: one of those things you shouldn't say to her is

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Speaker 1: you need to get out of this house. You are

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Speaker 1: driving me and my husband crazy right now, please leave?

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Speaker 3: Oh, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I please.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I was really sugarcoating it with that recap, but

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Speaker 8: that's exactly what our listener Abby said to her mom

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Speaker 3: Straight days there.

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Speaker 1: Still, though, Abby understands it was not a good move,

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Speaker 2: I think it's also not good because it's not true.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't hate her. Yeah, that's her, It's just she

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Speaker 3: The break exactly And how long ago did this happen? Abby?

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Speaker 1: Okay, So now Abby's come to us for advice on

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Speaker 1: She just really wanted to reconnect with him alone just

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Speaker 2: Well, Listen, I have said a lot of things I

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Speaker 3: Okay, not just your mother in law, to a lot

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Speaker 2: Yeah, in the public, no, But when you're talking to

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Speaker 2: I would recommend not commenting at all about her behavior

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Speaker 2: it at that, Okay, like say less, say less and

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Speaker 2: So she doesn't like advices, Yeah, Brooks rejected, Jose Maybe

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Speaker 7: Well, action speak louder than words. So yeah, sure you

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Speaker 3: So I suggest you tell your husband you want to.

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Speaker 7: Invite his mom over for a special celebration just for her,

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Speaker 7: like a I don't know if for birthday's coming out,

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Speaker 7: maybe a part like you know, it's your mom or.

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Speaker 2: Or maybe plan a saying for her and her.

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Speaker 3: Son, and it's Abby's idea. What do you think of that?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I definitely think I could do something that's like

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Speaker 3: Oh that's right.

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Speaker 1: Yea, good job, good job. Okay, so there you go. Abby,

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Speaker 1: That conversation won't go well. No, we're dialing your husband,

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Speaker 1: Keith right now, and we will step away. Let you

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Speaker 3: You feel ready, I think?

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Speaker 4: Here we go. Hello, Hey it is me. Hey, Hey,

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Speaker 4: every babe, how are you?

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Speaker 5: I'm good? How are you doing hanging in there?

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Speaker 4: I guess everything considered?

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Speaker 6: You know, you can't just do that to her because

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Speaker 4: It's not fair.

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Speaker 5: No, you're right, she is, and she didn't deserve that,

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Speaker 4: You know, she stopped.

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Speaker 6: Please, Okay, she's family, and there's no way I'm sending

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Speaker 5: You say absurd, but like I need you to put

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Speaker 4: If like, how would I react?

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Speaker 6: I would be and loving husband to your mom, and

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Speaker 4: Like, come on, you already know that. I know you know.

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Speaker 6: I'll tell you one thing I wouldn't do. I wouldn't

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Speaker 6: to me now, and she's telling me that I shouldn't

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Speaker 4: Crude as you. You want to know why.

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Speaker 5: Why?

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Speaker 6: Because you told my mom that you just want to

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, what is going on right now?

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Speaker 3: What's happening.

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Speaker 4: What's happening right now? Want to know?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so there's been a lot of people listening to

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Speaker 3: You're on the radio right now with a show called

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Speaker 3: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Jeffrey in the Morning.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I am we are stunned.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Abby, this is you said that.

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Speaker 4: You know, you really called the radio station.

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Speaker 5: Yea, I know, I know, but I just I was

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Speaker 5: and they give really good advice. So I just thought

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Speaker 5: I was you didn't follow any of it.

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Speaker 2: None of the advice was really taken, and you didn't

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Speaker 3: You actually said those words.

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Speaker 5: To his I said, I wanted, like I love making session.

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Speaker 4: That's so discressed than you.

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Speaker 6: Never I would never tell your mom that that's just

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Speaker 1: I think that they're you know, the words are a

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Speaker 6: Do you think I wanted my mom to know, like,

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Speaker 2: I did not want details of your marriage right.

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Speaker 7: Now, I mean off air, yes, but not now.

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Speaker 2: Abby, do not have a door to your bedroom?

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Speaker 5: We do, but I feel awkward.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, come on, Brooke, you do with your in laws

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Speaker 2: They're in another room.

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Speaker 7: Might got her to leave sooner?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but listen, the last thing that we want to

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Speaker 7: It is true, she's apologizing.

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Speaker 2: And Keith, I bet, I bet your mom wants grandbabies,

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Speaker 2: so how are those gonna happen?

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Speaker 5: And you know, again though it's a weird convo, I'm

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Speaker 5: so sorry. I know I handled this completely the wrong way. Yeah, Like,

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Speaker 5: I don't want your un to feel unwelcome, but we

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Speaker 2: She's going to stay. Like, Keith, you two need to

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Speaker 6: A good point.

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Speaker 4: I can see that point.

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Speaker 5: If you're willing to meet me halfway, yeah, I totally,

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Speaker 5: I totally agree with you. I want to meet you

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Speaker 5: half way. I was thinking, since her birthday's coming up,

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Speaker 5: I can help you guys put something together whatever she wants.

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Speaker 5: If she wants to have dinner with just you, like,

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Speaker 5: that's totally fine. If she wants to come have dinner

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Speaker 1: Go somewhere, or Abby could pop out of the birthday

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Speaker 5: I think that might be more for Keith's birthday.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that one. Mom's like, why wasn't I invited? But

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Speaker 1: She she's very apologetic about how the conversation went down,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she loves your mom.

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Speaker 3: Not the same way she loves you.

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Speaker 6: But yes, yeah, well I'm willing to do that, and

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Speaker 6: I hope we can get past this and I will

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Speaker 6: do better.

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Speaker 3: This is sounding really nice.

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Speaker 1: It feels like you two are in a much better

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Speaker 2: It looks like they need a make up love session.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, well I guess we'll stay on the phone

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Speaker 1: while you two knock it out.

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Speaker 4: Go for it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you may, you guys make up off the air.

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Speaker 3: You're good though, right?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? I think so?

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Speaker 3: So there you go.

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Speaker 1: That's your awkward Tuesday phone call on jeff Shout out

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Speaker 1: to all the mom in laws.

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Speaker 3: It's brooking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 2: Brooking Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's going to be a fun Thanksgiving with the

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Speaker 3: I wonder what they're going to talk about over dinner.

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Speaker 2: I think it's cute. I think they're going to work

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Speaker 2: it all out. Yeah, I think. Okay, if you want

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Speaker 2: to know the real gossip, I think the mother in

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean I didn't bring it up speed that she

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Speaker 3: People don't love their kids.

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Speaker 7: What is the conversation that happens when they finally sit down,

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Speaker 7: They're like, well, how was the love making?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I hope it was worth kicking your mother out for anyway.

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Speaker 1: I do hope it's all smoothed over. And if anybody

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Speaker 1: out there listening needs our advice, where can they find us?

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Speaker 3: Brook what's your Instagram handle?

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Speaker 2: No, not mine? Just go to.

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Speaker 3: Getting as Jose What do you want when hilarious Jose?

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Speaker 3: Go follow him and Alexis what's your handle?

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Speaker 2: Brook?

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Speaker 3: And Jeffrey. There we go.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, someone needed to do.

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Speaker 1: You can listen all of our awkward Tuesday second Ate

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Speaker 1: updates wherever you get your podcasts at.

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Speaker 2: I am Brooke Fox and that's not even my hand.

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Speaker 4: Help you