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Speaker 1: Instead of panicking, you pause, take a breath and tell yourself,
Speaker 1: this is not a threat, This is an opportunity. The
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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. I am so
Speaker 1: glad that we're here together. Thanks, Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for tuning in and trusting me with the next thirty
Speaker 1: minutes to guide you from insecurity to confidence. I'm sure
Speaker 1: there's so many of you this year that have so
Speaker 1: many dreams, so many goals, so many aspirations. There are
Speaker 1: probably so many things that you want to achieve, learn, conquer, grow, master,
Speaker 1: or even just experience, and the thing that's standing in
Speaker 1: your way is your doubt, your insecurity, your scarcity. You
Speaker 1: might have the doubt I'm not good enough for that,
Speaker 1: I'm not ready for that yet. Or you might have
Speaker 1: the insecurity I'm sure they'll give it to someone else.
Speaker 1: I'm sure someone else will beat me to that job,
Speaker 1: that promotion, whatever it may be. Or you may just
Speaker 1: have scarcity there's not enough for me and I'm not enough.
Speaker 1: These feelings can make it harder for us to relate
Speaker 1: to people in our personal life, to connect with people
Speaker 1: at work, to actually thrive. And often we see people
Speaker 1: who may not be as smart, who may not be
Speaker 1: as talented, but they're just confident. Have you seen that before,
Speaker 1: where you look at someone you think, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: I know for a fact that I might actually know
Speaker 1: a little more than you. I actually know that I
Speaker 1: work really, really hard. But for some reason, you have
Speaker 1: confidence and I don't. And you might see that all
Speaker 1: around you where you look around and you think, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, how is it that you're moving ahead? How
Speaker 1: is it that you made that happen? And I find
Speaker 1: it's because some people are coming from a place of insecurity,
Speaker 1: which you can feel energetically from them. Right, have you
Speaker 1: ever felt insecure internally and everyone in the room could
Speaker 1: sense that, or even if they couldn't, you felt they could,
Speaker 1: and that made you less confident, less courageous, less brave,
Speaker 1: less bold in that room. And at the same time,
Speaker 1: we have people in our life where you can sense
Speaker 1: that our ideas are not taken as seriously because we
Speaker 1: come across as insecure, we come across as doubtful. Whenever
Speaker 1: you share one of your ideas, you will say something like, look,
Speaker 1: this may not be the best idea. Right as soon
Speaker 1: as you've said that, what everyone thinking, Oh well, it
Speaker 1: may not be the best idea. Or maybe you say
Speaker 1: something like, look, I know this might be a stupid question.
Speaker 1: Guess what, Now everyone thinks you're gonna ask a stupid question,
Speaker 1: And maybe people even replied to you by saying, look,
Speaker 1: there's no such thing as a stupid question, but now
Speaker 1: everyone's thinking it. You were gonna ask a really great question.
Speaker 1: Chances are ever in that room was thinking about the
Speaker 1: question you were going to ask. But because of your precursor,
Speaker 1: you've now set people up to doubt you, to feel
Speaker 1: differently about you. Maybe you say something like, look, I've
Speaker 1: been thinking about this. I'm not sure, but i'm thinking
Speaker 1: about it now. I'm not saying that you want to
Speaker 1: lie and say you're sure about something and it's the
Speaker 1: best idea ever. But what if you let the thoughts,
Speaker 1: the analysis, the assessment of what you're about to share
Speaker 1: happen live and in real time before you give a disclaimer.
Speaker 1: As soon as you've given the disclaimer, you've put the doubt.
Speaker 1: You've put the insecurity into other people's minds, which came
Speaker 1: from you because you had an insecurity about what you
Speaker 1: were going to say. And chances are you're about to
Speaker 1: have a great idea. Chances are you're about to say
Speaker 1: something that's actually really helpful, useful, and something everyone needed
Speaker 1: to hear. And I've seen this time and time again
Speaker 1: that when we add disclaimers, when we add precursors, we're
Speaker 1: the ones who end up losing out because we're the
Speaker 1: ones planting the seed of doubt in our own idea.
Speaker 1: So today I want to give you seven steps that
Speaker 1: are going to help you grow from insecurity to confidence.
Speaker 1: This isn't about faking it. It's not about lying, it's
Speaker 1: not about manipulating. It's about having enough trust in yourself
Speaker 1: that the experience that you've garnered, the experience you've lived
Speaker 1: in life, the amount of meetings you've sat in, the
Speaker 1: amount of conversations you've had. I want you to learn
Speaker 1: to trust that you have a level of intelligence which
Speaker 1: grants you a seat at the table. You do not
Speaker 1: need to feel that you're crawling under the table. You
Speaker 1: do not need to feel that you've been given a
Speaker 1: seat at the table. You have a seat at the
Speaker 1: table because you've earned it. You're in that room because
Speaker 1: you've earned it. You're in that meeting because you've earned it.
Speaker 1: You belonged in that room. There is a seat with
Speaker 1: your name on it for a reason. But when you're
Speaker 1: you're the person yourself who's kind of sitting away from
Speaker 1: the table, putting the seat aside and acting as if
Speaker 1: you don't belong it creates distance. It creates a fracture
Speaker 1: in that communication. So what if I told you the
Speaker 1: reason you're insecure isn't because you lack confidence, but because
Speaker 1: your brain is stuck in survival mode. Insecurity isn't about
Speaker 1: being weak. It's your body's response to risk. But here's
Speaker 1: the secret. You can retrain your brain to stop feeling
Speaker 1: threatened all the time. I'm sure you're ready to learn how.
Speaker 1: Let's dive in with step one. Train your brain to
Speaker 1: stop seeing life as a threat. We have to turn
Speaker 1: off our threat detection system. See in the past, it
Speaker 1: made sense. Our brains are hardwired to protect us from danger.
Speaker 1: This is part of an ancient survival mechanism. When we
Speaker 1: feel insecure, it's often because our brain is perceiving a
Speaker 1: situation as a potential threat. So we think that there's
Speaker 1: a lion in the bushes, there's a snake in the grass,
Speaker 1: there's a hunter coming from a nearby village, whatever it
Speaker 1: may be. And here's the plot twist. Your brain is
Speaker 1: often overreacting. Your brain is overreacting. There isn't a lion
Speaker 1: in the bush, there isn't a snake in the grass.
Speaker 1: So what we need to do is we need to
Speaker 1: learn to recognize how to rate threats, and we have
Speaker 1: to learn how to rate threats when we're not in
Speaker 1: the threat. What I mean by that is if I
Speaker 1: ask you to rate a threat on a scale of
Speaker 1: zero to ten, when you're about to experience it, it
Speaker 1: will always feel like a ten right in the moment
Speaker 1: that you stub your toe or trap your finger into
Speaker 1: a door hinge. Right, even thought of that, you're like,
Speaker 1: that's a ten. But let's be honest, it's not a
Speaker 1: ten in the pains of life, right, there's things that
Speaker 1: are far more painful than both of those, But in
Speaker 1: the moment, you'd give it a ten. So we have
Speaker 1: to rate things outside of the moment. So let's look
Speaker 1: at rating the idea of sharing something at work that
Speaker 1: you might think will be seen or perceived as a
Speaker 1: bad idea. Let's rate it when we're not in that position.
Speaker 1: What's the worst that could happen if you shared something
Speaker 1: and people didn't get it or didn't understand it. Maybe
Speaker 1: a three or four or five, or maybe you're listening
Speaker 1: to me right now and going, Jay, that's a nine
Speaker 1: for me, Right, I'm so scared by that. So now
Speaker 1: let's reframe. Instead of letting your brain trigger fear in
Speaker 1: situations that don't actually put you at risk, let's use
Speaker 1: mindfulness to recognize and reframe these reactions. By simply observing
Speaker 1: the thought I feel anxious because of this meeting or
Speaker 1: this conversation, you can activate your prefrontal cortex, the area
Speaker 1: of the brain that controls rational thinking and override the amigdala,
Speaker 1: which controls the fight or flight response. So let me
Speaker 1: give you an example. You're preparing for a meeting. Your
Speaker 1: brain immediately starts firing off signals of danger, even though
Speaker 1: the meeting is not life threatening, and instead of panicking,
Speaker 1: you pause, take a breath, and tell yourself, this is
Speaker 1: not a threat. This is an opportunity. You've trained your
Speaker 1: brain to stop seeing every challenge as a rich and
Speaker 1: now you can actually use that energy that's often wasted
Speaker 1: in threat management into growth management. You can now actually
Speaker 1: switch from worrying about that moment to actually saying to yourself, well,
Speaker 1: now we can get ready. Now we can actually get
Speaker 1: it right. Now I can actually communicate in a way
Speaker 1: that will resonate with people where I'm not giving disclaimers
Speaker 1: and precursors, and that will actually connect. Try it out
Speaker 1: for me and let me know how it goes. Tell
Speaker 1: me in your stories, tell me in the comment section
Speaker 1: on one of our Instagram posts, post about it, Let
Speaker 1: me know how that worked for you. Stop and turn
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Speaker 1: to learn to do is harness your unconscious competence. There
Speaker 1: are four stages of learning. Now, have you ever learned
Speaker 1: something new and felt you were horrible at it, only
Speaker 1: to get to a point where it becomes second nature.
Speaker 1: That is the principle of unconscious competence. You're more capable
Speaker 1: than you think, but it's hidden in plain sight. The
Speaker 1: problem is we often don't acknowledge our progress. So the
Speaker 1: first layer that we start at is called unconscious incompetence.
Speaker 1: You're unaware of the things you're not even very good at. Right.
Speaker 1: We actually don't know our blind spots. They're called blind
Speaker 1: spots for a reason. There are lots of things that
Speaker 1: we don't know that we're good at. But let's say
Speaker 1: we say to ourselves, you know what, this is the
Speaker 1: year I'm going to learn how to build good habits.
Speaker 1: This is the year I'm going to develop a reading habit.
Speaker 1: This is the year that I'm going to develop a
Speaker 1: meditation habit. This is the year that I'm going to
Speaker 1: quit sugar. This is the year that I'm going to
Speaker 1: work out every day. Now you rise to something known
Speaker 1: as conscious incompetence, you don't just go to developing that habit.
Speaker 1: You actually have to live through the experience of being
Speaker 1: consciously incompetent. What does that mean. It means you're aware
Speaker 1: of your incompetence. You're aware of the fact that you
Speaker 1: can't do something that you're not good at it. You're
Speaker 1: aware of it. Now. You tried to build a habit
Speaker 1: at the start of this year, and now you've realized
Speaker 1: you couldn't. You tried to work out every day this year,
Speaker 1: and you realized it wasn't that easy. You tried to
Speaker 1: meditate every day this year, and you struggled. And this
Speaker 1: is a natural realization. There is no one who has
Speaker 1: mastered a skill who hasn't had to experience this. There
Speaker 1: was a day you shifted from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence.
Speaker 1: You went from being unaware to being aware. And this
Speaker 1: is actually a really painful thing. I want to acknowledge this.
Speaker 1: This is a really painful thing because we want to
Speaker 1: go from not knowing something to knowing it. We don't
Speaker 1: want to go from not knowing something to knowing that
Speaker 1: we don't know it and that we're not good at
Speaker 1: it either. It's actually a really hard stage, and the
Speaker 1: majority of people will duck out at this point because
Speaker 1: they don't want to live with the rejection. They don't
Speaker 1: want to live with the failure. They don't want to
Speaker 1: live with the pain of the realization that we don't know.
Speaker 1: Let's say you said, Hey, I'm going to take on
Speaker 1: this extra task at work. I'm going to learn project management,
Speaker 1: I'm going to learn social media, I'm going to learn
Speaker 1: about AI. And then all of a sudden, you start
Speaker 1: reading a book, you start reading an article, you start,
Speaker 1: you know, going through some sort of guy and you go, wow,
Speaker 1: I know nothing. I know nothing. Now, what happens when
Speaker 1: you stick it through, right, when you push forward, and
Speaker 1: this is a really really important thing. When you push through,
Speaker 1: what happens is you get to conscious competence. You keep working,
Speaker 1: you keep practicing, you keep developing, and now you know
Speaker 1: what it takes to perform well. You know how much
Speaker 1: focus is required, how much discipline is required, how much
Speaker 1: energy is required, and all of a sudden you start
Speaker 1: to understand. But you're dependent on a certain environment, a
Speaker 1: certain set of skills, a certain set of parameters boundaries
Speaker 1: to be able to perform at that level. Right, And
Speaker 1: then finally you get to something known as unconscious competence.
Speaker 1: This means you've become so good at it that it's
Speaker 1: second nature. You don't even think of it, you're not
Speaker 1: even aware of it. So here's what I wanted you
Speaker 1: to do. Practically. I want you to identify something you
Speaker 1: do well but you don't actually recognize as a skill.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're amazing at organizing problem solving, maybe you're great
Speaker 1: at making people laugh. Use that as your starting point
Speaker 1: for confidence. Acknowledge that you already have skills at a
Speaker 1: deep level, and that you're more skilled than your insecurity
Speaker 1: suggest Because what happens is when you go through this process,
Speaker 1: that's when you honor your skills. Skills that you have
Speaker 1: where you haven't gone through this process consciously, that's the
Speaker 1: ones that you undervalue. We undervalue skills that we have naturally,
Speaker 1: and we overvalue skills that we don't have naturally. If
Speaker 1: you don't have a skill and someone else has it,
Speaker 1: you think, oh my God, they're so talented. It's a
Speaker 1: gift from God. They must be amazing. I could never
Speaker 1: be that. I can never do that. Not true, It's
Speaker 1: just that you haven't gone on that journey. People look
Speaker 1: at you and feel the same thing. I promise you.
Speaker 1: Even check you with your friends and say, what do
Speaker 1: you think I'm great at that? I don't even acknowledge.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm sure they'll say something to you. Right. I'll
Speaker 1: give you an example. Let's say you've been feeling insecure
Speaker 1: about your career progress. But remember you've probably been successfully
Speaker 1: managing multiple projects or influencing others for years without even
Speaker 1: noticing it. I want you to tap into that unconscious
Speaker 1: competence you already have, and then go on that journey
Speaker 1: from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence to conscious competence to
Speaker 1: unconscious competence with the skill that you want to develop
Speaker 1: and learn. I promise you, when you go through that journey,
Speaker 1: it will build so much strength and courage. But start
Speaker 1: with something you already have. Step number three. I want
Speaker 1: you to face your fear of not being seen. This
Speaker 1: is something known as the spotlight effect. The spotlight effect
Speaker 1: tells us that we tend to believe others are scrutinizing
Speaker 1: us far more than they actually are. It's a classic
Speaker 1: insecurity trigger. Everyone is watching me fail, right, We've all
Speaker 1: felt that, Oh my gosh, I just tripped over. Everyone
Speaker 1: saw that, or I asked that silly question in the meeting.
Speaker 1: Everyone saw that, Oh my boss didn't quite get the
Speaker 1: project I handed, and everyone saw that, you know, I
Speaker 1: was late today. Everyone saw that. The truth, people are
Speaker 1: too focused on their own lives to scrutinize yours. While
Speaker 1: you're worrying about how you're seen, everyone is worrying about
Speaker 1: how they're seen. Every single person in that room is evaluating, critiquing,
Speaker 1: assessing themselves as they talk. And yes, they might think
Speaker 1: about you for ten percent of the time, if that,
Speaker 1: but for ninety percent of the time they are hyper
Speaker 1: focused on themselves. So the trick is to stop hyper
Speaker 1: focusing on yourself. Redirect your attention outward rather than fixating
Speaker 1: on how you're being perceived. Start paying attention to others, Listen, engage,
Speaker 1: ask questions. The more you make other people the focus
Speaker 1: of your attention, the less you feel trapped in the
Speaker 1: spotlight of self doubt. People think being confident means being interesting.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the best way to feel confident is to be interested.
Speaker 1: Be interested instead of trying to be interesting, and you
Speaker 1: will be more confident. Conversation will flow. Natural questions will
Speaker 1: come up when you're trying to tell a funny story. Right,
Speaker 1: let's talk about this. You meet someone new, you're out
Speaker 1: with friends and there's some new people at the table
Speaker 1: you haven't met. You try to tell a funny story
Speaker 1: to come across relatable. No one really laughs, and now
Speaker 1: you're say in the going, oh my gosh, they think
Speaker 1: I'm a loser. I'm not funny. I didn't say anything relatable.
Speaker 1: What do I say next? Guess what? You've just not
Speaker 1: listened to them. You've literally missed words that have come
Speaker 1: out of their mouth, what they've said, how they feel.
Speaker 1: And now it's back to your turn, and guess what.
Speaker 1: You try and tell another story, You try and say
Speaker 1: something else, so maybe this time you try and make
Speaker 1: it meaningful and again maybe get a reaction. Maybe you don't.
Speaker 1: And now you go back into self analysis mode. Okay,
Speaker 1: they didn't laugh at me, they didn't think I was
Speaker 1: that meaningful. Okay, maybe I should just or should I do? Now?
Speaker 1: Guess what you've missed what they said. Again, if you
Speaker 1: just listened, ask the question, maybe replied with a comment,
Speaker 1: build up some confidence, build up some trust, build up
Speaker 1: some reciprocal report, and then you told that story. Now
Speaker 1: you have so much more to go on. I was
Speaker 1: at dinner the other night, and I noticed how one
Speaker 1: person at the table just kept making it about themselves,
Speaker 1: and everyone else would go quiet because the person was
Speaker 1: quite dominant, and I could see that this conversation was
Speaker 1: just turning into them, making it a therapy session for themselves,
Speaker 1: and so acknowledging their feelings and empathetically responding to them.
Speaker 1: I would then open the question up and try and
Speaker 1: ask the person to my left to question the person
Speaker 1: opposite me, the person to my right. And what I
Speaker 1: found is that I also didn't want to be that person.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be the person who is directing
Speaker 1: or driving the conversation to be around me. I wanted
Speaker 1: to learn about everyone. I wanted everyone to be a
Speaker 1: part of the conversation, and I felt so confident doing that.
Speaker 1: But if I would have just tried to be confident
Speaker 1: by making myself the central focus, I'd actually be more scared.
Speaker 1: I'd be more worried. Take yourself out of the spotlight.
Speaker 1: Put the spotlight onto others, and you won't be as scared.
Speaker 1: Step number four understand the power of sunk cost fallacy.
Speaker 1: I remember studying economics, and I remember this behavioral economics
Speaker 1: term called a sunk cost fallacy. It's when we continue
Speaker 1: doing something because we've already invested time, money, or effort,
Speaker 1: even when it's clearly not serving us. Insecurity often thrives
Speaker 1: when you feel like you've failed in some way and
Speaker 1: you can't back out now. It traps you in the
Speaker 1: belief that you're stuck. I'll give you a few examples.
Speaker 1: Let's say you studied something at college, and even though
Speaker 1: you hate it, even though you don't want to do
Speaker 1: your career in it, you don't like your job, you
Speaker 1: still keep doing it because you have sunk cost fallacy.
Speaker 1: Maybe you invested in something a few years ago. It's
Speaker 1: not going that well, you're never going to see a return,
Speaker 1: but you keep investing in it because of sunk cost fallacy.
Speaker 1: That's how it works. Now. What you have to do
Speaker 1: in this scenario is recognized when you're holding onto a
Speaker 1: situation or mindset that no longer serves you just because
Speaker 1: of past investment. Give yourself permission to walk away from
Speaker 1: anything that's training your energy, whether it's a toxic relationship,
Speaker 1: a career that no longer excites you, or a self
Speaker 1: image that's how dated. I find that last one to
Speaker 1: be the most interesting. Going away from a self image,
Speaker 1: that's how dated. It's okay. Our insecurity stems from the
Speaker 1: fact we keep investing in things that we know don't work,
Speaker 1: and in turn, that makes us less confident. In turn,
Speaker 1: it makes us value ourselves less because whatever we're doing
Speaker 1: is not growing in value. You've been in your job
Speaker 1: for years, and while it once felt like the perfect fit,
Speaker 1: it's no longer fulfilling. But you stay because of all
Speaker 1: the years you've invested, and that is what ruins your confidence.
Speaker 1: It makes you more insecure, It makes you more self conscious.
Speaker 1: It makes you more self critical and judgmental because things
Speaker 1: are not going well and you keep putting pressure on yourself.
Speaker 1: So how do you change? You recognize it's okay to
Speaker 1: invest differently. It's okay to reallocate that time, that energy,
Speaker 1: that money, whatever it was, because guess what, when you
Speaker 1: do that, you can reap another reward. Step five, we
Speaker 1: have to reclaim our control with our locus of control.
Speaker 1: Let me explain what that means. Your locus of control
Speaker 1: is a concept in psychology that refers to whether you
Speaker 1: believe outcomes in your life are under your control or
Speaker 1: dictated by external forces. Insecurity comes from feeling like you
Speaker 1: have no control or that everything depends on luck or others.
Speaker 1: We say things like yeah, if the universe wants Yeah,
Speaker 1: if my boss realizes it, yeah, if my partner gets
Speaker 1: there one day. We're outsourcing, postponing, and post dating our
Speaker 1: own life. We're hoping, wishing, wanting, waiting for something to
Speaker 1: change without focusing on our own agency and the autonomy
Speaker 1: that we have. Shift your mindset on what you can control,
Speaker 1: What action can you switch, What conversation can you have?
Speaker 1: What attitude can you develop? Stop waiting for others to
Speaker 1: validate your worth or success. When you fully embrace that
Speaker 1: you're in control. Insecurity has nowhere to take root. Insecurity
Speaker 1: takes root when we keep repeating things like yeah, it's
Speaker 1: up to them if they feel like it, Hopefully they'll
Speaker 1: change one day. We're taking no responsibility and accountability in
Speaker 1: our own lives. It's like saying I'm going to sit
Speaker 1: in the passenger seat and I'll just go wherever the
Speaker 1: driver wants. I won't give them any directions, I won't
Speaker 1: suggest to drive, I won't take control. Let's just hope
Speaker 1: they go in the right direction. Let me give you
Speaker 1: another example in real life, like you're feeling insecure about
Speaker 1: relationship and what your partner thinks of you, and instead
Speaker 1: of fixating on their behavior or approval, think about what
Speaker 1: you can control, your own boundaries, your self respect. The
Speaker 1: more you focus on your agency, the less power insecurity has.
Speaker 1: Now have a couple more I want to share with you.
Speaker 1: Number six is utilize the false consensus effect. The false
Speaker 1: consensus effect is when we assume that everyone else thinks
Speaker 1: the way we do. We think that our mistakes or
Speaker 1: quirks are glaringly obvious, but the reality is other people
Speaker 1: don't notice as much as you think. Right, we have
Speaker 1: a spot on our face and we think everyone sees
Speaker 1: it that day, and the truth is no one can
Speaker 1: see it, and we blow that out of proportion and
Speaker 1: we make it our identity. When you feel insecure, realize
Speaker 1: that others aren't as focused on your flaws as you
Speaker 1: might believe, and often you're the one amplifying your flaws
Speaker 1: so that people start to notice them more. Most people
Speaker 1: are so preoccupied with their own lives and they're scrutinizing themselves.
Speaker 1: But when you start scrutinizing yourself publicly, and I've heard
Speaker 1: people do this like, oh you know I always hand
Speaker 1: in a bad project. Oh you know I'm always late,
Speaker 1: that's what starts to create that self fulfilling prophecy and
Speaker 1: the judgment that people have. So don't take that too
Speaker 1: seriously and stop repeating who you don't want to be.
Speaker 1: And the final step is to break free from imposter
Speaker 1: syndrome using cognitive dissonance. Now, cognitive dissonance occurs when your
Speaker 1: actions conflict with your beliefs. If you're succeeding in your
Speaker 1: career or relationships, but you still feel like a fraud,
Speaker 1: your brain experience is a disconnect, making you feel into
Speaker 1: How many of you have ever felt that no matter
Speaker 1: what you do, no matter what you achieve, your always thinking,
Speaker 1: how am I here? I don't deserve to be I
Speaker 1: know I've felt that way before. It's really hard. We
Speaker 1: struggle to celebrate our wins, but we find it so
Speaker 1: easy to criticize our losses. We will quickly judge our mistakes,
Speaker 1: but we will very slowly celebrate our wins. Please take
Speaker 1: your wins as importantly as your losses. Don't overvalue failure
Speaker 1: and undervalue success. Thank you so much for listening to today.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that you trusted me with your time.
Speaker 1: And remember, insecurity isn't some personal flaw. It's a byproduct
Speaker 1: of outdated mental patterns. And learn the behaviors that are
Speaker 1: keeping you stuck. But the good news is you can
Speaker 1: change all of that by understanding how your brain works.
Speaker 1: Using advanced psychological theories like cognitive dissonance, sun cast, fallacy,
Speaker 1: and the locus of control, you can take back control,
Speaker 1: embrace your unique strengths, and walk confidently into the life
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Speaker 1: to anyone. It's something you build, and you just started today.
Speaker 1: Remember I'm forever in your corner and I'm always rooting
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, see you so thank you so
Speaker 1: much for listening to this conversation. If you enjoyed it,
Speaker 1: you'll love my chat with Adam Grant on why discomfort
Speaker 1: is the key to growth and the strategies for unlocking
Speaker 1: your hidden potential. If you know you want to be
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Speaker 1: right now. You set a goal today, you achieve it
Speaker 1: in six months, and then by the time it happens,
Speaker 1: it's almost a relief. There's no sense of meaning and purpose.
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