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Speaker 2: Hey, welcome to another episode of the Black Autess podcast.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host, Rod Join is always on my coast, Karen,

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Speaker 2: and we are live on a Tuesday doing feedback. You

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Speaker 2: do some feedback. This show is for all the people

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Speaker 2: You know, this episode is really all about what you

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Speaker 2: gonna get to all of that stuff. The official weapon

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Speaker 2: actual website. Episode four, Multi generation Multi Generational Learning Space

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Speaker 2: It's a lot of work, uh Apia says.

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Speaker 2: I think I have an example of emotional labor for friendships,

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Speaker 2: asking deep questions, Questions that bring relationships from superficial level

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Speaker 2: not consider that emotional labor like asking or answering. I

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Speaker 2: their and their relationships in weird ways to me, you

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Speaker 2: I'll just be like, hey, man, you you always call

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Speaker 2: than be like, I'm doing emotional labor for you. You

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Speaker 2: told me about your divorce and I didn't you know,

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Speaker 2: So I don't consider that stuff labor. But I can

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Speaker 1: Yeah. So for a lot of people, they want to

431
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Speaker 1: fit in, and for some people, even if they don't

432
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Speaker 1: drink or don't feel comfortable drink. They will any way

433
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:05,199
Speaker 1: to be accepted in these social circles and fall underneath

434
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 1: the pressure, you know, versus saying I don't want to

435
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Speaker 1: do this and I don't feel comfortable with this. A

436
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,239
Speaker 1: lot of them start doing drugs and things like that

437
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Speaker 1: for the first time because that's what people around them

438
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Speaker 1: are doing, versus saying I don't feel comfortable and I

439
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 1: don't want to do the same thing with sex and

440
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Speaker 1: things like that. Start engaging in these activities that they

441
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Speaker 1: may may or may not feel comfortable with because they

442
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Speaker 1: think this is what your quote unquote is supposed to do.

443
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Speaker 1: Falling undneath these pressures and things like that, and it's

444
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Speaker 1: very difficult, you know, to navigate this world for the

445
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Speaker 1: first time. And unless you would just rare at age

446
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Speaker 1: seventeen eighteen, nineteen years old, it's rare that you have enough.

447
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 1: There's some people that do now have enough strength, but like,

448
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do that, and don't mind being alone.

449
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Speaker 1: Sometimes don't mind being by themselves.

450
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Speaker 2: It could just depend on what kind of university you

451
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Speaker 2: go to. But there's a bunch of reactors. It's not

452
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Speaker 2: one to one but I think a lot of beings

453
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,359
Speaker 2: drinking is you know, we hit the nail on the head.

454
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Speaker 2: But yeah, Mecca says, I met my now ex husband

455
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Speaker 2: at work. We were married for fifteen years with a waste.

456
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Speaker 2: But how long did you have a job? Keenan says,

457
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Speaker 2: Monkey is the guitarist for Korn. Okay, I'm forgetting what

458
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Speaker 2: that's for. I think you know what. Yes, thank you,

459
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Speaker 2: I remember everything. Please no one right in with no

460
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Speaker 2: more details. Marvin says, Yep, I agree. If you're checking

461
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Speaker 2: on people, check on people, but do remember to look

462
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Speaker 2: out to yourself first. Yep, check on yourself before checking

463
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Speaker 2: on worrying about checking on others, to be honest when

464
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Speaker 2: you do. Yeah, I mean look, the other thing too,

465
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Speaker 2: was like the check on your strong friends, the you

466
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Speaker 2: know this, that and the other. A lot of this

467
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Speaker 2: shit just assumes that other people don't have issues, that

468
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Speaker 2: you're the person that can fix the other person. I'm

469
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Speaker 2: not a complicated shit, and I don't feel comfortable diagnosing

470
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Speaker 2: or blaming or signing blame and responsibility to anybody. Everyone's

471
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Speaker 2: kind of on their own to take care of their

472
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Speaker 2: own mental health. Hopefully, if you reach out to somebody

473
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Speaker 2: they'll have something to say, but you're not guaranteed somebody

474
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Speaker 2: can hit you up like I'm struggling right now, and

475
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 2: the magical words might not flow to you, and the

476
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Speaker 2: things that are like the cliches that we tell everybody

477
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,800
Speaker 2: might not hit them like that. So maybe it does,

478
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Speaker 2: maybe it doesn't. I don't feel I never feel comfortable

479
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 2: around these situations where we're talking about people dying by suicide,

480
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 2: and then it immediately turns into like, you know, do

481
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,639
Speaker 2: this and do that and do this like it like

482
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 2: some of this shit is just out of your hands

483
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Speaker 2: and you just got to hope for the best with people,

484
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 2: and at the end of the day, it's not your fault.

485
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Speaker 2: And I always feel bad for the loved ones of

486
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Speaker 2: people that very public famous people that die by suicide

487
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Speaker 2: because key the way we talk about it sounds a

488
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 2: little victim blame me, quote unquote, like they must not

489
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 2: have been checking on him, like you're not saying it explicitly,

490
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 2: but just saying that, like they must not have cared

491
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 2: for this person the right way, or obviously they still

492
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Speaker 2: be here. And I never feel comfortable with that.

493
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 1: Me either, because the thing is a lot of people

494
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Speaker 1: do that and just like everything on the social media,

495
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,639
Speaker 1: be on these moral how horses. A lot of people

496
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Speaker 1: do that to go, well, I'm what can I do

497
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: and how connected situation to make myself better than you? Honestly,

498
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, nobody knows how

499
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: they would it, could have, should have. And also some

500
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,480
Speaker 1: people are going through things and they just don't want

501
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,359
Speaker 1: to share. Yeah, people don't want to hear that. They

502
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:46,640
Speaker 1: might not they might not know how.

503
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Speaker 2: To deal with it themselves, or if they do share,

504
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 2: it just don't come out. You don't like people act

505
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 2: like it's a Hallmark movie where they share it and

506
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 2: you just start talking to them and they go, oh god,

507
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 2: I get it now, Like I don't know. Some of

508
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,680
Speaker 2: the stuff is medical. Some of this stuff is.

509
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 1: Just you know, you might not have an answer, You might

510
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 1: not can relate. It might be some some shit you've

511
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Speaker 1: never experienced before in your life. Yeah.

512
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Speaker 2: Home means a friend reached out the day about something

513
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 2: and I, you know, I was at work obviously, but

514
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:19,640
Speaker 2: I was like, you know, have you hit up your

515
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 2: therapist about maybe like an emergency appointment? You know, because

516
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 2: it sounds like you should talk to a professor like

517
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 2: you talk to somebody that's a professional that like knows

518
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 2: all this shit that that you've been going through, that

519
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 2: can can advise or say some stuff that that's that's

520
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 2: more helpful than me taking ten minutes away from work

521
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,360
Speaker 2: to try to say some shit that I don't even

522
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 2: know if I'm making it better or worse. And that's

523
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,239
Speaker 2: you know. That person was like, yeah, i'll hit up

524
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Speaker 2: my therapist. We're gonna talk like this afternoon already, so

525
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Speaker 2: you know, I appreciate youah blah blah blah. And I'm

526
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 2: like cool, you know, because you really don't fucking know

527
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 2: what people are going through, you know. The next episode

528
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 2: was twenty six forty five, Secure the Bag, Securing the Bag.

529
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Speaker 2: When I got my bag back, Appia says, have a

530
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Speaker 2: great time in New York, right, and please save the

531
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Speaker 2: world with extra good jokes. No pressure, yep, no problem,

532
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 2: no problem. No, I'll get it done. That's what I do.

533
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 2: And then let me see if we had any comments. Well,

534
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 2: we're not gonna probably have a ton of comments on YouTube,

535
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 2: as I just had to put all the episodes up

536
00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 2: like the other today or something like a day ago.

537
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 2: So I just realized like, oh, yeah, they haven't had

538
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 2: time to comment, which is fine, So nothing on YouTube

539
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: for that episode. But the poll, have you ever had

540
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Speaker 2: have you ever had your luggage lost by the airline? Yes?

541
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Speaker 2: Or no?

542
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 1: Lost, But we've had it delayed I think one time,

543
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 1: or it didn't get to where we was or something

544
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Speaker 1: like that. Huh we had to go next wow.

545
00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah we had to go back. Yeah. Have

546
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Speaker 2: you ever had so yes, twenty percent of had it lost.

547
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Speaker 2: Eighty percent No, Now I found you know, they got mine.

548
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Speaker 2: They got it to me that night, so it wasn't

549
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Speaker 2: that bad. But and then zero percent never had luggage

550
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Speaker 2: on the plane unless it was carry on. So there's

551
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Speaker 2: zero percent that had that. And I've never flown. Zero

552
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Speaker 2: percent of our audiences is that answer, this poll has

553
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Speaker 2: never flown. Those are interesting for the polls. I'm checking

554
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Speaker 2: the second one now, but that was the first one

555
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Speaker 2: on our website on Anchor. The second pole on Anchor,

556
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Speaker 2: twenty nine percent of people have had their luggage lost

557
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Speaker 2: by airline. Now this percentage is a lot higher. It's

558
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Speaker 2: ten nine percent higher, and it makes sense with the money,

559
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Speaker 2: they fly more and they probably fly to just different

560
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Speaker 2: locations and stuff. Sixty two percent have not, which is

561
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Speaker 2: lower four percent of never had luggage on a plane

562
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Speaker 2: less it was a carry on, and five percent have

563
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Speaker 2: never flown.

564
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Speaker 1: So the important they was like, what about gonna get

565
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Speaker 1: on the plane for and crash? Nah, I'm good, I'm

566
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Speaker 1: too important.

567
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 2: Rest in peace. Rat sputant was my Q and A

568
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 2: because of that big Dad rat eye scene. Alicia says,

569
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 2: recipees to a real one. Ernest says, survived by his

570
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 2: four sons and their friend, the TV reporter April O'Neil.

571
00:31:30,080 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 2: Raphael says, stop praying, stop paying shirtless of all griffs,

572
00:31:35,800 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 2: I look for the d for the most consistent with

573
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Speaker 2: a diversified portfolio. If you've been cheated on, can't catch

574
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Speaker 2: a future cheata pay me one hundred and twenty five

575
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 2: dollars a month and I'll get you heartbroken faster. Smith

576
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:56,560
Speaker 2: st eight says, I guess. Smith State says does it

577
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Speaker 2: count if they found the luggage? I have my luggage

578
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 2: temper rarely missing but eventually found. Happened fairly often when

579
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Speaker 2: I travel for ninety percent for work. I think if

580
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Speaker 2: they founded it don't count. And Shun says yeah. Shun says,

581
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 2: wear a disposable mask and replace it with a new one.

582
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Speaker 2: Every four hour at least every four hours. I guess

583
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Speaker 2: you said when you're flying or something. Thank you Shun

584
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Speaker 2: twenty one for the for the.

585
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Speaker 1: I guess for you out and about they was like,

586
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Speaker 1: just just change just because.

587
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, keep changing them. You know, I hear you. All right,

588
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 2: let's get to the next episode, which is twenty six

589
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 2: forty six Rick versus Roger, which is kind of a

590
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 2: random episode. We got four comments. Apia says Rod, please

591
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 2: try walking more. See it, see it like a mask

592
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 2: before your heart. You are a very young man exactly

593
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 2: my age, and a bright spot in the world. Try

594
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Speaker 2: to do the ten thousand steps a day as it

595
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 2: was a game. It helps a lot. You will feel

596
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 2: better very soon, love, Apia. I'm walking back and forth

597
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 2: to work and doing what I can do.

598
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: Maya Saif say, you might be hitting them ten thousand

599
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 1: steps now that apple and you feel all the rings

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Speaker 1: all the rings.

601
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I am filling up all my rings.

602
00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 2: I'm probably somewhere around like six thousand or so steps

603
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Speaker 2: a day, and we kind of we'll get into it later, Apia,

604
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,959
Speaker 2: but you know, I'll take it under advisement. But you know,

605
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 2: I'm doing what I can do. And we'll go from there.

606
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 1: You know.

607
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 2: Anyway, Roger versus Rick is a hard one, says Maya.

608
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:46,320
Speaker 2: But I have to give it to Roger. Remember when

609
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 2: he tricked Francine into digging up that woman's body just

610
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 2: so he could turn her hair into a wig. Yeah,

611
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 2: not much. You can do the top that. And since

612
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 2: y'all love American Dad, y'all should check out one of

613
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,719
Speaker 2: my favorite YouTube channels, Addicted the American Dad. It has

614
00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:00,760
Speaker 2: the best ad compilations. Love you both and congrats on

615
00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 2: all the success. Sean says, well, Rick did put a

616
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 2: spatially tesselated void inside a modified temporal field until a

617
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 2: planet developed intelligent life, which he introduced to the wonders

618
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 2: of electricity so they could generate it on a global

619
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,920
Speaker 2: scale in order to power his engine. You know, slavery

620
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Speaker 2: with extra steps. I mean, I would say that it's

621
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:25,360
Speaker 2: slightly worse than a little scud skullduggery. Yeah, I hear you.

622
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 2: I mean, listen, I could go back and forth. Yeah,

623
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 2: I could go back and forth with just terrible shit

624
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 2: they've done, and maybe Rick wins it. I don't know,

625
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,279
Speaker 2: but I just know they both terrible. And I liked

626
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 2: the game of talking about you know what terrible shit

627
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:43,360
Speaker 2: they've done.

628
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 1: Yes, Rogers stole electricity from a hospital to run his

629
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Speaker 1: like weig and like clothes to keep him running.

630
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Speaker 2: It was a children's hospital, and then.

631
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Speaker 1: Got mad, had it shut that bitch on fire? And

632
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 1: did it end up bringing down the hospital?

633
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 2: Turned down the children's hospital? God damn he evil power.

634
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 2: Wan Ganghi says they both trash. But I get a

635
00:35:10,120 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 2: nod to Rick because he's capable of so much more

636
00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 2: fuckery across a wider footprint. And then let me make

637
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:26,879
Speaker 2: sure there's no comments on YouTube really quick. Don't think

638
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 2: there are? Uh okay, yeah, no comments for this one,

639
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,399
Speaker 2: all right. So then let's go to the poll. Who

640
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 2: was worse Roger the Alien? Rick said, Chaz, I don't

641
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 2: watch these shows. It is exactly twenty seven and a

642
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:43,839
Speaker 2: half percent to twenty seven and a half percent, and

643
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 2: then forty five percent of the audience does not watch

644
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 2: the show. Fifty to fifty basically on a website. And

645
00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:55,040
Speaker 2: but I mean that's amazing fifty to fifty. I mean

646
00:35:55,080 --> 00:35:57,439
Speaker 2: that's that's why we was in that debate, I guess,

647
00:35:57,480 --> 00:36:01,680
Speaker 2: because it was so close to us. Oh shit, did

648
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:02,240
Speaker 2: I close?

649
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 1: Oh?

650
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:06,799
Speaker 2: No, no, I'm still here. Okay, sorry, I thought, yeah,

651
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 2: I thought I had closed the wrong thing by accident.

652
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 2: And then let's go to the poll on anchor, and

653
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:21,279
Speaker 2: it is okay, Rick wins thirty one Roger thirty seven percent. Rick,

654
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 2: and thirty two percent of people do not watch these shows.

655
00:36:24,239 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 2: That's that. That is still amazingly close to me. All right,

656
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 2: let's look at the comments. Why do why does one

657
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,680
Speaker 2: person get the control the heat for the whole building.

658
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 2: This is my ministry, this is my plight, this is

659
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 2: this is what's been killing me the last few days,

660
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:43,919
Speaker 2: coming in here fighting this. I left the windows open

661
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 2: all damn day to day, even when I wasn't here.

662
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 2: I said, fuck it, I'm tired of coming up three

663
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 2: flights of stairs. And then he hit the heat like

664
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,240
Speaker 2: I like, I want to. I want to hit something

665
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 2: cooler than the the you know, cooler than that, something

666
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 2: to help me cool down. Anyway, Lee says, I blame

667
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 2: it on slavery. I know, listen, it was so hot

668
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 2: the other day. I came in here, I started picking cotton, y'all.

669
00:37:04,960 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 2: I just went to Ed. I said, are we sure

670
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 2: they was on the right side? Are we sure the

671
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 2: north was with us, Did.

672
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 1: You open up the door? Nobody tripleized.

673
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 2: I see, I started singing Negro spirituals. Okay, geez, I'm

674
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 2: gonna do that. I'm gonna open the window and start singing.

675
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 2: And when somebody tells me shut the fuck up and

676
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 2: be like, didn't turn come in here and turn this

677
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 2: ready to down right, because right now.

678
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna quit singing these these Negro hymn spirituals.

679
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:40,440
Speaker 2: I'm getting reminiscent of the Song of the South. Okay uh.

680
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 2: And then meanwhile, my next door neighbors got the heat

681
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:44,799
Speaker 2: on and it's a white person. They like, I wish

682
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 2: I was in Dixie. It's making me reminiscent. It's making

683
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 2: me happy about the South too. Uh. Anyway, Rael like,

684
00:37:56,320 --> 00:38:00,760
Speaker 2: what's so while you work? Raphael says, that's a great question.

685
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 2: It had to be a white that came up with

686
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 2: this idea right after reading about colonialism and decided I

687
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: am not like my ancestors anyway, I got control of

688
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:14,040
Speaker 2: mind freedom. Yeah, yeah, I definitely missed that about home.

689
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 2: Saquina says, welcome back to New York City. Well, most

690
00:38:19,400 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 2: of us don't have Central Air. Yeah. Ernest says, hey, Siri.

691
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 2: Ernest says, hey, Siria, oh shit, this is gonna make

692
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:34,280
Speaker 2: my phone, do it? Hey, Susan play hiding here by Nelly.

693
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 2: That's funny. All right, So that's it for that episode.

694
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 2: Let's go to the next one, which is twenty six

695
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 2: forty seven radiators, thermostats, and shower rods. All right, it

696
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 2: had a lot going on. We got eight comments for this,

697
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,760
Speaker 2: but you'll see a lot of them are from Abia,

698
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 2: who says, fully vaccinated means three shots or two and

699
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 2: recovery from infection. It's in the law, I guess in Germany,

700
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 2: I've had four shots and an infection, bragging. I'm a

701
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 2: female body person, and still I'm way more bothered by

702
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 2: heat than cold. I mostly warm, some would say hot,

703
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 2: but that's another story. We never use any kind of

704
00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 2: heat in our bedroom. And it's in your degree sixteen

705
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 2: here right now. I love it must be my Slavic genes.

706
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 2: When it's too warm, especially inside, I'm getting dizzy. Yeah, man,

707
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 2: I've never done well with heat. Man, even when.

708
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 1: I was youngersitived.

709
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 2: I just I can't.

710
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: Yeah.

711
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:43,360
Speaker 2: And what's crazy is like cold? I do great in cold?

712
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 2: Like I remember one time we had to move in

713
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 2: the middle of the summer and so hot, and I

714
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 2: just felt useless. I just I was so weak. I

715
00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 2: wasn't you know, I need to help on everything. It

716
00:39:53,800 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 2: was like, can I help me carry this? Help me do?

717
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 2: And then another time we moved and it was cooler,

718
00:39:58,520 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 2: and I was just like, put that couch on my

719
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 2: I got it. You know, it's so different. I'm like, oh, yeah,

720
00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 2: give me two boxes.

721
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 1: Yes, honey, that time fun. That was back in Brooke days.

722
00:40:08,920 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 1: But now, nigga, you better we're gonna hide the move us.

723
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: I wanted to go back.

724
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 2: I wanted to use the locking out incident to campaign

725
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:19,680
Speaker 2: for walking again. It would have been easier and faster,

726
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:22,400
Speaker 2: but I also don't want to end up on some

727
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:25,560
Speaker 2: list of annoying people up. I still said that, oh well,

728
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:29,400
Speaker 2: you're the best ride, and so I actually replied to

729
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 2: this cause I'm like, all right now, Apia, I heard

730
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 2: you the first time about your walking thing. I'm not

731
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 2: sure where this is coming from. I don't know how

732
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 2: walking would help me when it's forty degrees out and

733
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:46,360
Speaker 2: raining and I have on pajamas and a T shirt

734
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:50,000
Speaker 2: and just my phone. Like, I'm not sure how walking

735
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 2: would have saved me this problem or help with this product.

736
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:57,160
Speaker 2: I don't. Yeah, like at some point you just harping

737
00:40:57,200 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 2: on me for some shit and it's something going on

738
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 2: with you and not me. And I don't want to

739
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:05,360
Speaker 2: get to a point where I'm getting defensive or upset

740
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 2: or angry because you know, like, Okay, heard you. Walking

741
00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 2: is good. I know this, you know this. We're gonna do.

742
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:16,959
Speaker 2: That's what I'm doing every day. That's enough, Yeah, okay, Oka,

743
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: And so I replied, I'm walking every day more than

744
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 2: them out you said to walk in the last comment.

745
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:24,760
Speaker 2: Please don't obsess over this as I'm working on it. Also,

746
00:41:24,840 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 2: walking wouldn't have saw me being locked out at nine

747
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 2: pm and the rain in my pajamas. If this is

748
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 2: going to turn into a thing for you, then I

749
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:35,400
Speaker 2: asked you drop it for both our sakes, and she said, okay, okay,

750
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 2: I was just worried about you. I will stop now. Sorry,

751
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 2: And then she replied later I thought about it, and

752
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 2: being so annoying about this topic was triggered by some

753
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 2: recent events in my life. And I put it on

754
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 2: you and I said, all good. I appreciate you saying that.

755
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 2: And there are no hard feelings. As we say in

756
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 2: New York, Hey, I'm walking ahead, and she said, thanks Rod,

757
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 2: and then she replied back, my friend slash neighbor died recently,

758
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 2: like last month. I always tried to motivate her to

759
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,919
Speaker 2: move more, to go on a walk together. It could

760
00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 2: have saved her, but she didn't want to. She was

761
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 2: ashamed because she felt unfit and chose isolation. In the end,

762
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,000
Speaker 2: couldn't even leave her bedroom. I knew she was just

763
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:14,760
Speaker 2: on the other side of the while, but I didn't

764
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 2: see her anymore in the last two years. Really, she

765
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 2: texted me and put pauses, but the pauses between the

766
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 2: text got longer and longer, like months. She lived in

767
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:25,839
Speaker 2: the house, attached her ours with her family. She had

768
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 2: heart disease, but the isolation and not moving made the

769
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 2: disease way worse. Not everyone is like my friend Corolla.

770
00:42:32,239 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 2: Luckily there was more to it. She was also depressed

771
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 2: and didn't do anything about it. She gave up on herself,

772
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:40,240
Speaker 2: and I see that now. Sometimes I still blame myself

773
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:42,600
Speaker 2: for not trying even more. But I asked her like

774
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 2: fifteen times, and it's unlikely that the sixteenth time would

775
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 2: have changed that. I hope this explains my annoying behavior more.

776
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 2: And yeah, like I said, from the first time, you

777
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:53,879
Speaker 2: just left to come and I was like, this, don't

778
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:57,359
Speaker 2: seem like it's about me. I might be a lot

779
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 2: of things, but I'm not like a wreck loose or

780
00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:05,920
Speaker 2: like shutting. I've been careful during the pandemic, which is

781
00:43:05,920 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 2: the only reason I'm not playing basketball and really going

782
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:12,600
Speaker 2: to the gym like that. But I mean, I'm hopped

783
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 2: on a plane, went to another state, and I'm getting

784
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:18,560
Speaker 2: up every day and walking you know, a mile and

785
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 2: a half or whatever over the course of the day.

786
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 2: I'm doing that at least five days a week, and

787
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 2: then of course the Saturday and Sunday. You know, if

788
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 2: I go anywhere, I'm probably walking too. So it is

789
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 2: what it is, man, you know, And it's not your

790
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 2: fault that your friend died. And it's no guarantee you

791
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 2: could have saved her, Like, don't take that on yourself.

792
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 2: That's not that's not on you. People make choices and decisions.

793
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 1: And.

794
00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 2: You know she could have she could have been out

795
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 2: there walking with you every day and got hit by

796
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,480
Speaker 2: a car. Who fucking knows. Life is random and fucked

797
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:52,839
Speaker 2: up and we're all getting a ticket out of here

798
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:56,800
Speaker 2: at some point. And mostly I'm you know, I'm sorry

799
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 2: that you lost your friend, to be honest, you know,

800
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 2: and if that's a thing that triggered you in a

801
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:05,640
Speaker 2: way that made you feel like, I got us. Save

802
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 2: the next person that says they don't like walking, you

803
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 2: know again, walk, yeah, And honestly, like the thing I'm getting, Like,

804
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:17,479
Speaker 2: the thing is I'm gonna walk. I could be taking

805
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 2: a fucking uber every day I'm getting up and walking,

806
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 2: and every day I get a little bit better, you know,

807
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 2: even like coming up the stairs and shit, like I

808
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 2: feel a little bit better every time I come up

809
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: and down the stairs and like take it, get a

810
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 2: little stronger. So you know, it's been a while since

811
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 2: I really was physically active. And I know this isn't

812
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 2: the same as random marathon or hitting the gym, but

813
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: everybody got to start somewhere, and yeah, I feel fine

814
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:44,440
Speaker 2: and I appreciate it. But please do not make this

815
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 2: your fucking ministry man, because I know you get obsessive

816
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 2: thoughts and I don't want to have a Keith Mallley

817
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 2: twelve responses back and forth about walking. I really would

818
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 2: like to nip this in the butt. We talked about it.

819
00:44:57,200 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 2: Let's just move on to the next thing. And I

820
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 2: don't want to encourage it, and I don't want to

821
00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 2: sound like it's just like Okay, I'm saying this because

822
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,760
Speaker 2: I am set in the boundary and I am serious

823
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:09,479
Speaker 2: about it. I don't want it to be every week

824
00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 2: the walking check up from Apia. I don't want it

825
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 2: to be. I would like us to be able to

826
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 2: to to move past this. And I've heard you and

827
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 2: I'm not dismissing it. There you go.

828
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm not dispositing the business at all. Like like I

829
00:45:25,080 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 1: just said it, I really do feel about your friend,

830
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: and a lot of people feel that gift. That goes

831
00:45:30,160 --> 00:45:31,919
Speaker 1: back to some of the stuff we're talking about before.

832
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,799
Speaker 1: You know how people you know, feel like things are

833
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:37,560
Speaker 1: beyond that controlling. You can't control everything around you and

834
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:38,400
Speaker 1: it's okay.

835
00:45:38,480 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I said, you know recipes to your

836
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:45,360
Speaker 2: friend man that that really does suck. Wan Ganghi says

837
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:47,960
Speaker 2: the Nick Cannon shit is some frog and scorpion shit,

838
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 2: just with more of ukhaki. I don't think we're getting

839
00:45:51,239 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 2: a lot of ukaki. I don't you know what's interesting

840
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:56,879
Speaker 2: about the Nick cannon thing. You know what's interesting about

841
00:45:56,880 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 2: the nick cannon thing is it doesn't seem very sexual

842
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 2: in like a in the like it doesn't sound like

843
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 2: freaky or nothing, you know what I'm saying. Like, it

844
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:13,479
Speaker 2: don't seem like if it's a fetish, it's some type

845
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 2: of weird like I want to get as many people

846
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 2: pregnant fetish. But it don't seem like I'm just a

847
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,840
Speaker 2: freak y'all. You know me, I'm just out here freaking

848
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 2: freaking it out. Like it feels like like a It

849
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 2: feels like a fetish in the way that like a

850
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,359
Speaker 2: person that leads a cult and has sex with all

851
00:46:29,400 --> 00:46:32,160
Speaker 2: the followers as a fetish, but not like a fetish

852
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:34,120
Speaker 2: and like a he's in there some bukkagi like I

853
00:46:34,160 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 2: don't even think I think he's having regular missionary sex

854
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:44,520
Speaker 2: with these people and just being like another cannon. All right,

855
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 2: here's the pole. Oh wait, actually, let me check the comments.

856
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 2: I forgot to check the comments on this one, which

857
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:56,920
Speaker 2: was RADI added thermostats and shower rods. Uh see, do

858
00:46:56,960 --> 00:47:00,919
Speaker 2: we get any comments? It doesn't seem like we did.

859
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 2: Oh no, we got some. I'm sorry, Syenne News says

860
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 2: I was listening on Spotify, but I had to come

861
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 2: to YouTube to see Santa. Oh yeah, because I saw

862
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 2: Santa in that store. Uh chee chee. Mama seventy seven,

863
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 2: says Karen. I've been natural since two thousand and eight.

864
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 2: My mom still buys box parents and tries to give

865
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,680
Speaker 2: them to me on occasion. I got my first permit five.

866
00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 2: It's great that your loved one is receptive.

867
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 1: Mm hmm yeah, yeah, yeah, like I said, And for

868
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 1: some reason, particularly for a lot of black women, like

869
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 1: I've seen people fall flat fall out with each other

870
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:40,239
Speaker 1: like and I've seen people being how can you say

871
00:47:40,280 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 1: this snooty on both sides, you know, both sides feel

872
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: like they better than the other one when at the

873
00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: end of the day is hair, and it's however you

874
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: choose to live with your hair, you know, and what

875
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:56,960
Speaker 1: work you might not work for somebody else. And that's

876
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 1: why I when I share this the journey with my hair,

877
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,359
Speaker 1: it's just my natural hair journey, Like I said, I

878
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 1: know that for me, I love my hair and the

879
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 1: format that is end and this is the healthya that

880
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:11,080
Speaker 1: it has ever been. And I know me, I know me,

881
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: I will never go back. I will breid it down

882
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:16,760
Speaker 1: and put on a wig if push come to shove,

883
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 1: you know, and stuff like that, you know, because for me,

884
00:48:23,080 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 1: that's what best works for me. And I know some

885
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 1: people whose hair is down their back and it's gorgeous

886
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: and it's they've been relaxed for years, they don't have

887
00:48:30,480 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 1: no problem. That's fine too. But I know for me

888
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 1: the format that my hair is now, particularly with my

889
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 1: age and things like that, I'm to the point now

890
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 1: I'm old and I don't care.

891
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, you just gotta believe people when they say whatever

892
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:46,399
Speaker 2: the fuck their thing is, you know what I mean.

893
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 2: So some people it works, some people are down't. Some

894
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 2: people is a health thing, some people is a style thing,

895
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 2: sometimes a pride or afrocentricity thing. It's just, for the

896
00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 2: most part, not my fucking business, you know. Even if

897
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 2: it's some weird like anti blackshit that people but dealing with,

898
00:49:00,560 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 2: it's for them to work out. Like, yeah, I have

899
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 2: no comment on anybody else's hair, like especially if it's

900
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 2: somebody I don't know. I don't know shit about them,

901
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 2: so good luck, go ahead.

902
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: Very it could be very frustrating at times, you know,

903
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,160
Speaker 1: and for some people and even some black people, they

904
00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 1: never admit this. You know, some particular people that are

905
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 1: very hardcore, not all, but some people that are very

906
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: hardcore anti natural. A lot of them got their own

907
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:33,720
Speaker 1: handcups with their own hair.

908
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Everybody got their own Everybody

909
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:39,560
Speaker 2: got their own journey, and we really don't know it.

910
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 2: So even when you start judging and complimenting people, you

911
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 2: still don't really know. I mean, now, obviously a compliment

912
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 2: is better than a lot of other comments, you know

913
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, But you really just don't know. You

914
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 2: don't know why they did what and why. You know,

915
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 2: even when it's I love you these systems with the

916
00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 2: natural hair, like I love it too, But some people

917
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:03,239
Speaker 2: one natural becuz the fucking parents was breaking off for

918
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 2: alopecia or health concerns or the cost. It could be

919
00:50:10,040 --> 00:50:14,640
Speaker 2: a bunch of reasons, you know. But anyway, my mom says,

920
00:50:14,719 --> 00:50:16,840
Speaker 2: y'all are funny. I laughed, allow and Rod said. The

921
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 2: podcast turned into the Yes Sir Boss Cleaning Show d O.

922
00:50:20,920 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 2: J Merrick Garland is my boo. I might have to

923
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 2: get him tatted in honor of kicking trash ass Trump

924
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 2: and the Faehead Great Show Sex mom. Yeah, I'm starting

925
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 2: to see now that there were more comments I missed,

926
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:35,880
Speaker 2: like for securing in the bag. My mom said, I

927
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 2: I got to see your face. Their brother and sister,

928
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 2: and then Aja said from a week ago when we

929
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 2: got banned, he said, free roding Karen. So it's not

930
00:50:47,239 --> 00:50:49,239
Speaker 2: just Britdany grinder. They trying free all of us.

931
00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 1: Okay, they're trying to free all of us, and I

932
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 1: will like I said, I wish they would tell us

933
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 1: the words. I wouldn't see him no more. But we

934
00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 1: don't know what the words are, so hopefully we won't

935
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 1: get to get another strike.

936
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 2: The poe was Nick Cannon and the mothers of his

937
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 2: latest kids all great people. He's bad, but they're great.

938
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 2: They're bad, but he's great. They're all pretty bad for this.

939
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:14,439
Speaker 2: On the website, one hundred percent of people said they're

940
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:17,759
Speaker 2: all pretty bad for this, because he admitted.

941
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 1: That he want everybody know what they're getting into. When

942
00:51:19,640 --> 00:51:21,479
Speaker 1: you number twenty one, you know what you're getting into.

943
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, he admitted he was spread thin. No pun intended

944
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:31,240
Speaker 2: between his kids anyway. On the actual anchor pole, fourteen

945
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 2: percent said all great people. Two percent said he's bad,

946
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,600
Speaker 2: but they're great, and then eighty four percent said they

947
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 2: are pretty bad for this.

948
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 1: I know why because they people with the money they

949
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 1: had day they out here spreading. They see it will

950
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:46,040
Speaker 1: so I.

951
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 2: Get him camel flu y'all be safe out here. Jed

952
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:53,879
Speaker 2: Domo says, you can change that option on door dash

953
00:51:53,920 --> 00:51:56,359
Speaker 2: where if they don't have what you order, you can

954
00:51:56,400 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 2: say call me castle order or go with the merchant recommendation. Okay,

955
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 2: thank you. Raphael says Nick Cannon needs to come talk

956
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 2: to me since something man moved into my turf. I'm

957
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:12,799
Speaker 2: now in real estate. I got this private island that

958
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 2: can accommodate fifty kids, great price. I also got camels

959
00:52:16,640 --> 00:52:20,239
Speaker 2: for sale, sheet discount. Aaron says, why does all this

960
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:25,760
Speaker 2: shit have to happen when all I'm alive? The camel flud, Yeah,

961
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:28,080
Speaker 2: sometimes it do. We feeling like that. It's like, why

962
00:52:28,239 --> 00:52:29,320
Speaker 2: why is it my turn?

963
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 3: You know?

964
00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 2: And the latest episode was forgot I was a bad bitch.

965
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 2: I don't think we have any comments on the website.

966
00:52:36,520 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 2: Oh shit, we do already got three. Huh. All right,

967
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:44,839
Speaker 2: I've just said stay safe, Rod, Huh, I said, dey.

968
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:45,239
Speaker 1: Be on it.

969
00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've just said stay safe Rod. I get the

970
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 2: feeling of feeling unsafe when I'm dark, when it's dark outside.

971
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:53,320
Speaker 2: Because it's a woman, you can also feel it very often.

972
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 2: I'm walking to the bakery this morning, and I don't

973
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 2: have my sweet dog with me because we had to

974
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 2: put her down on Sunday. I feel unsafe and sad.

975
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I saw that on social media. Very sad

976
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:08,600
Speaker 2: for yr Apia. Spent tough time over there in Germany.

977
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 2: PS ain't ps. Your sound is still great. And I

978
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,279
Speaker 2: don't understand that. Megan Marco hay either. For me, she

979
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 2: is fine. Maybe it's envy, yeah, and that's the other

980
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 2: thing too, So this happens to me sometimes. I had

981
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 2: no feelings one way or another about Megan Marco two

982
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 2: years ago, three years ago, Honest to god, I'm not

983
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:32,920
Speaker 2: even gonna say I thought she was a white woman,

984
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:35,840
Speaker 2: but I wouldn't I was. I didn't know she was black.

985
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 2: I didn't watch suits and stuff like that. No issues

986
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:45,240
Speaker 2: with her, she never I never seen her say anything

987
00:53:45,360 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 2: or whatever. And then now some of this vitrey'all is

988
00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 2: so uncalled for and this need to be quote unquote neutral,

989
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:55,399
Speaker 2: as if like, well, yeah, she's part of it too, right,

990
00:53:55,600 --> 00:53:58,720
Speaker 2: Like she loves this. That shit has turned me into

991
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 2: like a no man on her side, Like like if

992
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:05,560
Speaker 2: I have to pick which it sounds like everyone's choosing.

993
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 2: I can't be neutral on this. Y'all are being fucked

994
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:11,000
Speaker 2: up and then using being fucked up to be like

995
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,799
Speaker 2: but a she a bitch you she is? She don't

996
00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 2: like that were being fucked up? Like nah man she

997
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 2: I'm with her now. Uh And wan Ganghi says, I'm

998
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 2: sure there's a market for a black daytime edition. I

999
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 2: don't even I don't even know what that joke is

1000
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 2: in reference to, you know, Karen, No, that just sounds ready, okay,

1001
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:37,080
Speaker 2: Karen just laughing. Well Amy too, because oh you know

1002
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 2: what's in reference to the pole? Will Amy and TJ

1003
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 2: be back on the air together? There you go, And

1004
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 2: here's the thing. Black is daytime edition already, so they

1005
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 2: have another one that's called like black the Raw, that

1006
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:56,920
Speaker 2: is the nighttime edition. Shout the shout out to Chris Lambeth,

1007
00:54:56,960 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 2: he the one that put me on that told me

1008
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:01,799
Speaker 2: that that's what's happening. We'll Aimy and TJ be back

1009
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:05,799
Speaker 2: together on the air fifty to fifty on the as

1010
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 2: the poe results so, and then on anchor it's fifty

1011
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 2: three percent forty seven percent, with yes getting forty seven

1012
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,600
Speaker 2: and fifty three percent saying no. So people commed on

1013
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 2: someone like in the middle like this could happen, and

1014
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 2: I think, if that's right, I'm gonna say they will be.

1015
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 2: If if y'all are saying it's fifty fifty for y'all,

1016
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 2: then it's probably The answer is probably yes, even though

1017
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:37,879
Speaker 2: I was leaning towards no that they'll never be back

1018
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 2: on the air together. But shit, if y'all don't care,

1019
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:43,480
Speaker 2: I don't care. Q and A says, now for never forget,

1020
00:55:43,520 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 2: you are a bad bitch. We got this. Raphael says,

1021
00:55:47,360 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 2: uh takes a babbage to recognize another. Never forget and

1022
00:55:50,040 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 2: stun on these holes. Rachel says, as long as someone

1023
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:56,800
Speaker 2: thinks so, don't feel much like one with the house

1024
00:55:56,800 --> 00:56:00,120
Speaker 2: of sick kids and a needed husband five days for Christmas,

1025
00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:04,160
Speaker 2: Well you know what, babbit just got sick family sometimes too.

1026
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:10,640
Speaker 2: Rogers says, hello, hello Cam Newton voice, and tap Flos

1027
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,799
Speaker 2: just says, took a DNA test and I want one

1028
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:17,879
Speaker 2: hundred percent that nigga Absolutely I am him. As they say,

1029
00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:22,680
Speaker 2: all right, and let me make sure if there's any

1030
00:56:22,760 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 2: comments on the website. I don't know why the unmuted,

1031
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:30,719
Speaker 2: but on the website under this doesn't seem to be

1032
00:56:31,280 --> 00:56:33,279
Speaker 2: I mean, which makes sense. It did literally just go

1033
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 2: up last night. But yeah, cool. So that's it for

1034
00:56:38,400 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 2: the website and all that stuff. Let's transition into the voicemails,

1035
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:05,440
Speaker 2: all right. Voicemail seven O four five five seven zero

1036
00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:07,919
Speaker 2: one eight six is the voicemail line. We got one

1037
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:12,160
Speaker 2: new collar this week from Dre, who left two voicemails.

1038
00:57:12,200 --> 00:57:16,880
Speaker 3: What's up, y'all? It Dre again. I'm listening to the

1039
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 3: feedback show and I think Jackie called in and said

1040
00:57:21,440 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 3: something about the Brittany Grinder and how he posted something

1041
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 3: and it brought out all the hate. I'm usually not

1042
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 3: surprised by whatever kind of bullshit backlash that goes down

1043
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:38,880
Speaker 3: from black people from white people. Whatever. I knew all

1044
00:57:38,920 --> 00:57:41,040
Speaker 3: this was gonna come from white people, because all I

1045
00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:43,880
Speaker 3: had seen from the black community was free Britney Grinder

1046
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:48,800
Speaker 3: the way and bruh, he hit it on the head

1047
00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 3: the way black men came out the woodworks. I was

1048
00:57:54,640 --> 00:57:58,640
Speaker 3: so shocked. I was playing two K I'm playing video games.

1049
00:57:58,840 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 3: This is where I go to relax and chill. I

1050
00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 3: hop into a party with the niggas. I don't really

1051
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 3: know like that, but we want a few games together.

1052
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, this should be a positive gaming experience as

1053
00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:11,480
Speaker 3: soon as I hop in the party life. So what

1054
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:16,120
Speaker 3: you think about Britney grinder brou I'm like, I'm glad

1055
00:58:16,160 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 3: she's loan. Blah blah blah blah blah. They like, yeah,

1056
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 3: but it goes from merching the desk blah blah blah.

1057
00:58:23,880 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 3: It don't take three minutes before its dyke bitch. And

1058
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, and there it really is. That's the truth.

1059
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:33,040
Speaker 3: I don't I don't even have anything further. I was

1060
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 3: just disgusted and shocked by how strong that reaction was.

1061
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 3: It was. It was literally mind blowing to me. Love y'all, man,

1062
00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:44,240
Speaker 3: I'm out.

1063
00:58:45,040 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 2: He did call back. Let's see what the second voice

1064
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 2: mail says, and we'll responded to the whole game.

1065
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:54,120
Speaker 3: I had to call back because I think this ties

1066
00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:58,360
Speaker 3: into another point you were making. Rome. The reason I

1067
00:58:58,360 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 3: think all of that threw me off so much just

1068
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 3: because I have really curated the people around me to

1069
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 3: not be on no function. So I think before major

1070
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:11,960
Speaker 3: events like that happened. I don't even see the rumblings

1071
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 3: of some of it, because the black men in my

1072
00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,959
Speaker 3: life are not like that. Even when y'all are talking

1073
00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 3: about that article about how men's friendships aren't like, aren't

1074
00:59:22,440 --> 00:59:25,800
Speaker 3: as emotionally attached or whatever it was it was, I

1075
00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 3: was thinking of myself, like, can't relate. I know it

1076
00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 3: to be true because as I get older and I

1077
00:59:31,960 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 3: start to make friendships with like other men or meet

1078
00:59:34,240 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 3: other men, and I start to kind of think, oh man,

1079
00:59:36,040 --> 00:59:40,280
Speaker 3: maybe we'll be close, I start to see like you

1080
00:59:40,360 --> 00:59:42,200
Speaker 3: don't really know how to be someone's friend, like you

1081
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:45,000
Speaker 3: posturing to me in a way that I don't need

1082
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:49,360
Speaker 3: somebody who considers herself my friend to do. But regardless,

1083
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:54,680
Speaker 3: I think that that's why the reaction to the Britney

1084
00:59:54,680 --> 00:59:57,480
Speaker 3: Griner situations just fucked me up, because I don't have

1085
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 3: toxic men around me like that, and I hate that turn.

1086
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:02,920
Speaker 3: But I don't think there's any other quick way to

1087
01:00:02,960 --> 01:00:05,560
Speaker 3: describe it. I just keep all that shit away from me,

1088
01:00:05,680 --> 01:00:08,800
Speaker 3: So I don't know. You know how you getting thrown

1089
01:00:08,840 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 3: for a loop sometime, but ultimately for your peace, I

1090
01:00:11,120 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 3: think it's the move man. But anyway, that's all love y'all.

1091
01:00:15,360 --> 01:00:17,520
Speaker 2: Yep, I'm sorry.

1092
01:00:17,560 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 1: Go ahead, guys, I'm gonna say yep, sweet sweetie, and

1093
01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: I agree. And it's also I'm put like this as

1094
01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:28,880
Speaker 1: a woman. It's a catch twenty two. I'm very glad

1095
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:33,360
Speaker 1: that you are at the point in your life that

1096
01:00:33,600 --> 01:00:37,000
Speaker 1: you curated. You've got these people away from you, you know,

1097
01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:41,360
Speaker 1: for your own mental health, and you consider other people

1098
01:00:41,640 --> 01:00:43,920
Speaker 1: and you know, you think outside of the box and

1099
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 1: all that stuff because you've challenged yourself. Actually, but for

1100
01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:52,520
Speaker 1: a lot of men, they don't do that because society

1101
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:57,200
Speaker 1: teaches men to not be considerate honestly, you know, to

1102
01:00:57,440 --> 01:00:59,720
Speaker 1: just not be considered about your wife, your kids, just

1103
01:00:59,840 --> 01:01:06,120
Speaker 1: you know, don't be considerate, have this emotional unattachment you know,

1104
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 1: and quote unquote when you start getting a gender roles,

1105
01:01:09,080 --> 01:01:12,160
Speaker 1: particularly straight gender roles, what is the gender role. Man

1106
01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:14,440
Speaker 1: is the head of the household. Man is to be strong.

1107
01:01:14,920 --> 01:01:17,320
Speaker 1: Man is to you know, not show their weakness. Man

1108
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:19,440
Speaker 1: is to always be able to take take care of

1109
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:22,880
Speaker 1: his wife. Man is to you know, go and make

1110
01:01:22,920 --> 01:01:24,560
Speaker 1: all the money. That's why a lot of men have

1111
01:01:24,640 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 1: ego problems if they're with a woman that makes more

1112
01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:28,880
Speaker 1: money than they do. They don't know how to handle

1113
01:01:28,920 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 1: that shit emotionally, you know, and things like that. But

1114
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 1: the catch twenty two for that as a woman is

1115
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:37,560
Speaker 1: that a lot of men who are in these groups

1116
01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:41,440
Speaker 1: where they don't associate with, you know, with these lot

1117
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:44,280
Speaker 1: of these toxic men. A lot of times they get

1118
01:01:44,360 --> 01:01:47,440
Speaker 1: so deep in their bubble that when people complain about

1119
01:01:47,480 --> 01:01:50,840
Speaker 1: these toxic men that they are actually having true interactions

1120
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 1: with because for some men they're so insulated from it.

1121
01:01:55,120 --> 01:01:59,360
Speaker 1: They'll start arguing with the people online they say these

1122
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:01,880
Speaker 1: men ain't it and they'll be like, well, nah, not

1123
01:02:01,920 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 1: me and my boys. We're not talking about y'all. There

1124
01:02:05,120 --> 01:02:08,360
Speaker 1: are a subsection of y'all that this is a problem

1125
01:02:08,400 --> 01:02:11,200
Speaker 1: and it needs to be addressed, and it's one of

1126
01:02:11,240 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 1: the things. And this is just how I feel about it.

1127
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 1: Not all men, quote unquote, But there are times when

1128
01:02:18,080 --> 01:02:20,440
Speaker 1: a lot of the arguments online about things like this

1129
01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:23,200
Speaker 1: are stupid because I guess what, a lot of black

1130
01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 1: men can see racism against them. They can see the

1131
01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:29,959
Speaker 1: wrongs and the injustice against them. A black man dies,

1132
01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 1: they all out in the street. A black woman die.

1133
01:02:32,200 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, we we got the question, we

1134
01:02:35,400 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 1: got to dig we got to find out why. You know,

1135
01:02:38,880 --> 01:02:41,400
Speaker 1: she bitches, she holds, what does she do? And you

1136
01:02:41,440 --> 01:02:43,280
Speaker 1: know what, a lot of them sound like white people

1137
01:02:43,280 --> 01:02:46,160
Speaker 1: when they talk about bearing justices police, you know, when

1138
01:02:46,160 --> 01:02:48,240
Speaker 1: they talk about, you know, the things against them. And

1139
01:02:48,240 --> 01:02:50,080
Speaker 1: it's one of those things when women be like, I

1140
01:02:50,120 --> 01:02:52,600
Speaker 1: don't feel safe around men, even family members that don't

1141
01:02:52,600 --> 01:02:54,960
Speaker 1: feel safe around them, they act like, well, what's wrong

1142
01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:57,640
Speaker 1: with you? I'm safe? Okay? You know what, Just like

1143
01:02:57,800 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 1: all police officers look the same to you. Guess what tomorrow,

1144
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:02,560
Speaker 1: women all men look the same to them. I don't

1145
01:03:02,680 --> 01:03:05,360
Speaker 1: know you. I don't know if you're gonna hurt me.

1146
01:03:05,480 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if you're gonna harm me. You might

1147
01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 1: be the best men on the face of the earth.

1148
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:13,760
Speaker 1: I don't know that. You know, you're making the assumptions,

1149
01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:17,760
Speaker 1: and you know, sometimes that could be very frustrating. You

1150
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 1: know that men could get in their bubble and they

1151
01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:22,680
Speaker 1: could feel so safe and secure that, like I said,

1152
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:24,880
Speaker 1: when these issues are about up, they fight against the

1153
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:27,400
Speaker 1: reality that these people are out there. They act like

1154
01:03:27,560 --> 01:03:31,400
Speaker 1: their friends and their existence is the only existence. This matters,

1155
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:31,920
Speaker 1: and it's not.

1156
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, one, I can definitely relate to the hurt dad

1157
01:03:37,680 --> 01:03:41,440
Speaker 2: Drave probably felt from that with that dude and the

1158
01:03:41,440 --> 01:03:45,200
Speaker 2: betrayal and the it shakes you a little bit because

1159
01:03:45,280 --> 01:03:48,920
Speaker 2: especially when you consider, like I vetted my friends, you know,

1160
01:03:51,520 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 2: you just feel like you don't have those kind of

1161
01:03:53,160 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 2: people around you. And if you're a good, strong communicator

1162
01:03:55,800 --> 01:03:58,640
Speaker 2: like I am, you think you feel like those people

1163
01:03:58,680 --> 01:04:01,000
Speaker 2: know where you come from too, you know, so they

1164
01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:04,840
Speaker 2: should know better than to to say some bullshit like that.

1165
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:05,080
Speaker 1: You know.

1166
01:04:05,440 --> 01:04:06,880
Speaker 2: It's like, whoa, why would you think I would be

1167
01:04:06,960 --> 01:04:10,440
Speaker 2: cool with you saying some homophobic shit about Britney grinder

1168
01:04:10,720 --> 01:04:13,760
Speaker 2: or even this whole like angle of like Merchant of

1169
01:04:13,840 --> 01:04:17,400
Speaker 2: Death shit, you know. So that's one part of it.

1170
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:21,080
Speaker 2: I always find that, and this this is a common

1171
01:04:21,080 --> 01:04:25,240
Speaker 2: refrain I'm sure every woman has thought about, but as

1172
01:04:25,280 --> 01:04:29,600
Speaker 2: a dude, I always find it is a huge teale

1173
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 2: when men say stuff like there are no men who

1174
01:04:35,320 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 2: do blank, or the men around me all feel this

1175
01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:46,200
Speaker 2: way or whatever, mostly because in my experience, the guys

1176
01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 2: who say that are those men that they're talking about,

1177
01:04:51,240 --> 01:04:53,320
Speaker 2: you know, they're like, you know, the men around me.

1178
01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 2: So you got a man saying this, that's not a

1179
01:04:56,160 --> 01:04:58,240
Speaker 2: real man. He ain't no man around me like that

1180
01:04:59,080 --> 01:05:02,520
Speaker 2: very Quite often, those dudes are the kind of dude

1181
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:05,920
Speaker 2: that either agrees with or lets bullshit fly, or says

1182
01:05:05,920 --> 01:05:08,520
Speaker 2: and does bullshit all the time. And to them, it

1183
01:05:08,680 --> 01:05:11,400
Speaker 2: just don't count because they're going, I'm a good person.

1184
01:05:11,840 --> 01:05:14,640
Speaker 2: When I say a homophobic joke, it don't count as

1185
01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 2: me being homophobic. When I say something that's misogynistic, it

1186
01:05:22,680 --> 01:05:25,040
Speaker 2: doesn't really count because actually I'm a good guy and

1187
01:05:25,040 --> 01:05:29,120
Speaker 2: I respect women. So of course you know, I hear

1188
01:05:29,160 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 2: what you're saying about women not trusting men. I wouldn't either.

1189
01:05:32,440 --> 01:05:35,160
Speaker 2: I don't trust men. I'm a man, and I don't

1190
01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:37,360
Speaker 2: trust him because not on some because they're gonna do

1191
01:05:37,400 --> 01:05:40,840
Speaker 2: something to me, but just because you never know what

1192
01:05:40,880 --> 01:05:43,560
Speaker 2: the fucking person's into. And when you talk to these people,

1193
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:48,600
Speaker 2: a lot of times people tell on themselves. And the

1194
01:05:48,760 --> 01:05:52,400
Speaker 2: last thing I'll say is, and I don't think this

1195
01:05:52,480 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 2: is just a black man thing. I think this is

1196
01:05:54,200 --> 01:05:57,320
Speaker 2: an affinity group thing, by which I mean like if

1197
01:05:57,360 --> 01:06:01,240
Speaker 2: you're around straight black women, if you're around gay people,

1198
01:06:01,280 --> 01:06:05,000
Speaker 2: if you're around white people. When certain people are around

1199
01:06:05,080 --> 01:06:07,960
Speaker 2: the other people like them. A lot of ways that

1200
01:06:08,000 --> 01:06:11,280
Speaker 2: we define safety is in the ability to be toxic.

1201
01:06:11,800 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 2: Quote unquote, meaning I feel safe with you because this

1202
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:19,160
Speaker 2: is the place where I can be homophobic and that

1203
01:06:19,480 --> 01:06:22,720
Speaker 2: I won't get no pushback. And this is the place

1204
01:06:22,760 --> 01:06:27,320
Speaker 2: where I can say something bad about black women and

1205
01:06:27,360 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 2: I won't get that pushback. You know, I can make

1206
01:06:29,520 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 2: that joke that's really insensitive or that's actually really low

1207
01:06:34,320 --> 01:06:37,920
Speaker 2: key fucked up, and even if you don't agree, I

1208
01:06:37,960 --> 01:06:40,360
Speaker 2: expect you to relate to it, or relate to me

1209
01:06:40,720 --> 01:06:42,840
Speaker 2: in a way that allows me to say this willout

1210
01:06:42,880 --> 01:06:47,080
Speaker 2: you say anything back. And that's one of the reasons

1211
01:06:47,120 --> 01:06:49,080
Speaker 2: I have a hard the real reason I think I

1212
01:06:49,120 --> 01:06:53,919
Speaker 2: have a hard time maintaining or not even maintaining because

1213
01:06:53,960 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 2: that's not true. But I have a hard time having

1214
01:06:56,080 --> 01:07:01,280
Speaker 2: a lot of friendships with dudes especially, but people in general.

1215
01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:05,120
Speaker 2: It's because I don't like being the person that's like, well,

1216
01:07:05,120 --> 01:07:07,880
Speaker 2: I guess if you're gonna say the homophobic shit, it's

1217
01:07:07,920 --> 01:07:10,600
Speaker 2: cool with me because I need you to feel safe

1218
01:07:10,600 --> 01:07:13,640
Speaker 2: and like we're friends. I feel like we're not friends

1219
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:15,560
Speaker 2: if I can't be like, hey man, why'd you say that?

1220
01:07:15,560 --> 01:07:19,560
Speaker 2: That was kind of weird? Like, yeah, do you understand

1221
01:07:19,840 --> 01:07:21,920
Speaker 2: like what that really means and why that's kind of

1222
01:07:21,960 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 2: like fucked up that you did that, and a lot

1223
01:07:24,280 --> 01:07:26,400
Speaker 2: of people don't have that or believe in that, so

1224
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:29,560
Speaker 2: you end up with them being like Ride not a

1225
01:07:29,600 --> 01:07:31,360
Speaker 2: cool dude or not. You know, I don't want to

1226
01:07:31,400 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 2: hang out with him, And that's fine because over the

1227
01:07:35,240 --> 01:07:37,840
Speaker 2: course of my life those boundaries have drawn themselves and

1228
01:07:37,880 --> 01:07:41,880
Speaker 2: I've become a better and bigger person and I and

1229
01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:44,520
Speaker 2: I And at the same time, I do believe that's

1230
01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:50,400
Speaker 2: some level of like understanding and empathy within your group

1231
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:55,720
Speaker 2: for shortcomings or people that need to out for lack

1232
01:07:55,720 --> 01:07:58,880
Speaker 2: of a better term, grow or whatever. I think there's

1233
01:07:58,920 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 2: there's something there that that is love too. Like just

1234
01:08:02,840 --> 01:08:04,720
Speaker 2: casting them out the second that y'all are out of

1235
01:08:04,720 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 2: step with each other does seem performative and over the

1236
01:08:08,040 --> 01:08:11,120
Speaker 2: top in my opinion, but just right, yeah, but just

1237
01:08:11,240 --> 01:08:15,480
Speaker 2: in general, and it's not just a black man thing,

1238
01:08:15,840 --> 01:08:18,639
Speaker 2: like it's a lot of there's a lot of black

1239
01:08:20,360 --> 01:08:26,840
Speaker 2: people that have just different hang ups about shit. And

1240
01:08:26,880 --> 01:08:30,639
Speaker 2: I think when you're talking about Brittany Griner, it brought

1241
01:08:30,680 --> 01:08:32,679
Speaker 2: out a lot of shit and a lot of people

1242
01:08:33,240 --> 01:08:37,040
Speaker 2: that they haven't really considered or just they've accepted these

1243
01:08:37,120 --> 01:08:42,360
Speaker 2: narratives whole sale of like you know, just a black woman, y'all.

1244
01:08:42,479 --> 01:08:45,720
Speaker 2: It was a marine, you know, so like you have

1245
01:08:45,800 --> 01:08:48,240
Speaker 2: to deal with that part too, But yeah, I feel you, bro,

1246
01:08:48,360 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 2: And like I said, man, it could be a bit

1247
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:56,400
Speaker 2: lonely because to me, it's like when that happens, I'm

1248
01:08:56,400 --> 01:09:01,120
Speaker 2: presented with an ultimatum, I have to say something to

1249
01:09:01,160 --> 01:09:08,960
Speaker 2: this person and and a lot of times that means

1250
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:11,599
Speaker 2: we either gonna not be friends, or they gonna take offense,

1251
01:09:11,680 --> 01:09:14,640
Speaker 2: or it won't be the same. And you know, occasionally

1252
01:09:14,640 --> 01:09:17,360
Speaker 2: it's worked out good and people have been like, you know, man, damn,

1253
01:09:17,400 --> 01:09:19,599
Speaker 2: thank you for saying that to me. And you know,

1254
01:09:19,680 --> 01:09:21,400
Speaker 2: I had not thought about that. But a lot of

1255
01:09:21,479 --> 01:09:26,640
Speaker 2: times it's just gonna go bad with people. All right,

1256
01:09:26,720 --> 01:09:29,759
Speaker 2: let's get to these emails. Someone said a comment on YouTube,

1257
01:09:30,240 --> 01:09:32,320
Speaker 2: just passing along the message. The HR lady said, you

1258
01:09:32,320 --> 01:09:36,479
Speaker 2: don't have any more PTO this year. Hilarious, we'll be

1259
01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:40,320
Speaker 2: taking we'll be missing more days, guys. And here we

1260
01:09:40,400 --> 01:09:42,639
Speaker 2: got a couple of emails. Now this is ironic because

1261
01:09:42,720 --> 01:09:46,599
Speaker 2: that was Oh so that was a black man, Dre

1262
01:09:46,680 --> 01:09:48,479
Speaker 2: who wrote in talking about another black man. This is

1263
01:09:48,520 --> 01:09:50,760
Speaker 2: a black woman, I believe, maybe I don't know, she

1264
01:09:50,800 --> 01:09:53,599
Speaker 2: could Actually it's an email, so this could be anybody,

1265
01:09:53,800 --> 01:09:56,559
Speaker 2: but this person is written in before they go by

1266
01:09:56,600 --> 01:10:00,639
Speaker 2: Mandy h And Mandy kind of writes in sometimes stuff

1267
01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:02,880
Speaker 2: that we didn't talk about on the show that much,

1268
01:10:03,040 --> 01:10:07,320
Speaker 2: like Kanye and Ship that I'm like, I didn't talk

1269
01:10:07,320 --> 01:10:09,080
Speaker 2: about on the show because I mostly didn't want to.

1270
01:10:09,120 --> 01:10:10,800
Speaker 2: But it's feedback. So if you want to hear our

1271
01:10:10,840 --> 01:10:14,920
Speaker 2: thoughts on something, here you go. But you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: assuming Mandy's not trolling, but you know, it could be.

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Speaker 2: You never know, but you know, a lot of times

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Speaker 2: Mandy has these things that I'm like, Oh, you sure

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Speaker 2: that this is the show that you show.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:39,080
Speaker 2: Like so anyway, this is the one she left for

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Speaker 2: for for this week because last time I think it

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Speaker 2: was about Kanye. Uh, but this is for about Britain,

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01:10:46,880 --> 01:10:51,439
Speaker 2: says Miss Griner. Dear Rod and Karen about Britney Griner. Yes,

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01:10:51,520 --> 01:10:53,360
Speaker 2: she got to get out of Russia and come back

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01:10:53,360 --> 01:10:56,000
Speaker 2: to the USA, but at the price of bargaining for

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01:10:56,080 --> 01:10:58,360
Speaker 2: a man that is known as the Merchant of Death,

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01:10:58,680 --> 01:11:01,639
Speaker 2: that has conspired to kill US citizens and other crimes

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Speaker 2: really put the puts the country in danger. I just

1286
01:11:07,560 --> 01:11:10,000
Speaker 2: wish society held the same sentiment for people in the

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Speaker 2: USA who have who are in prison for decades or

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01:11:13,600 --> 01:11:16,799
Speaker 2: have been classified as a felon for weed and cracked

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Speaker 2: like they did for BG, and have the offenders released.

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Speaker 2: I get the whole thing about the government and involvement

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Speaker 2: with crack in the nineteen eighties to force policies and

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01:11:26,439 --> 01:11:29,560
Speaker 2: laws that hinder harassed certain communities. But BG had cannabis

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01:11:29,600 --> 01:11:33,400
Speaker 2: oil and knew about the substance not being legal internationally

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01:11:33,880 --> 01:11:37,840
Speaker 2: since she has frequently traveled internationally for work. I know

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01:11:38,000 --> 01:11:41,439
Speaker 2: that might be a bad analogy and sounds harsh, but man, Mandy,

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01:11:43,640 --> 01:11:54,080
Speaker 2: but man, indeed, so I'm gonna tell you right now,

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Speaker 2: I one hundred percent disagree with almost every word you

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01:11:58,040 --> 01:12:05,880
Speaker 2: wrote for several reasons. The first reason being, and I've

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Speaker 2: tried to stay out of this shit because i feel

1300
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:10,599
Speaker 2: like it's not one hundred percent helpful. But the framing

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Speaker 2: of her as like nobody, and then the quote unquote

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Speaker 2: merchant of Death, as you know, a Marvel movie villain,

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01:12:22,600 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 2: and then the dude, you know, like the dude that's

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Speaker 2: the marine that's dishonorably discharged, and shit, all of this

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01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 2: stuff is taking shit. Yeah, all of this stuff, Yeah,

1306
01:12:34,400 --> 01:12:38,280
Speaker 2: all this stuff is really taking on like a rush

1307
01:12:38,320 --> 01:12:40,320
Speaker 2: act test of what do people want it to mean?

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01:12:40,880 --> 01:12:42,960
Speaker 2: And so if you want it to mean that she

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01:12:43,240 --> 01:12:46,680
Speaker 2: wasn't worth getting cool, but I don't agree with that.

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Speaker 2: The other thing is the fact that she had been

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01:12:51,120 --> 01:12:54,519
Speaker 2: over there many times and probably had had that oil

1312
01:12:54,600 --> 01:12:57,200
Speaker 2: with her and the pipes and stuff every single time

1313
01:12:57,720 --> 01:13:01,760
Speaker 2: them randomly decided to pull her out. Ridiculous. But number

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01:13:02,080 --> 01:13:06,799
Speaker 2: number three, they sentenced her like she fucking killed people.

1315
01:13:08,240 --> 01:13:12,120
Speaker 2: Now there's other people. Joy Taylor brought did this on

1316
01:13:13,160 --> 01:13:17,000
Speaker 2: uh whatever that show is on Fox Sports one where

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01:13:17,040 --> 01:13:20,040
Speaker 2: she broke down and we played it on our premium

1318
01:13:20,160 --> 01:13:25,800
Speaker 2: balls Y Sports. But she actually broke down how other

1319
01:13:25,960 --> 01:13:28,840
Speaker 2: people had had drug charges over there and they were

1320
01:13:28,840 --> 01:13:33,080
Speaker 2: getting like two months, uh you know, and find a fine,

1321
01:13:33,400 --> 01:13:37,440
Speaker 2: a slap on the wrist. This was a political prisoner,

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Speaker 2: and I don't understand why you don't bring her home.

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01:13:42,439 --> 01:13:45,680
Speaker 2: She is unjustly incarcerated. They were trying to give her

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01:13:45,680 --> 01:13:49,040
Speaker 2: twenty years in a fucking penal camp, a penal colony

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01:13:49,080 --> 01:13:50,680
Speaker 2: where she had to cut her hair off because her

1326
01:13:50,760 --> 01:13:54,240
Speaker 2: dreads are gonna freeze. I we are a show that

1327
01:13:54,320 --> 01:13:59,520
Speaker 2: talks about, you know, the industrialized the prison industrialized complex,

1328
01:13:59,720 --> 01:14:03,360
Speaker 2: and not just the overhaul and gutting that it needs,

1329
01:14:03,360 --> 01:14:07,880
Speaker 2: but just the the the the the huge unfairness and

1330
01:14:07,920 --> 01:14:11,280
Speaker 2: injustice at the at the at the at the bottom

1331
01:14:11,320 --> 01:14:18,519
Speaker 2: of it. We've talked about UH incarceration with UH black people. Uh.

1332
01:14:18,640 --> 01:14:21,839
Speaker 2: We literally just talked on the episode about Mayor Garland

1333
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:24,240
Speaker 2: saying we need to stop the descenis in disparity between

1334
01:14:24,280 --> 01:14:27,559
Speaker 2: crack and UH crack cocaine and and and powder cocaine.

1335
01:14:27,640 --> 01:14:32,360
Speaker 2: So like, I'm not even sure who the argument is

1336
01:14:32,400 --> 01:14:35,479
Speaker 2: for that last part about like what about them people?

1337
01:14:35,600 --> 01:14:38,160
Speaker 2: It's just a lot of what aboutism in this What

1338
01:14:38,280 --> 01:14:42,479
Speaker 2: about Brittany Griner because while we're talking about theory, she

1339
01:14:42,680 --> 01:14:46,519
Speaker 2: really stuck over there and we can't wait for the

1340
01:14:46,560 --> 01:14:49,400
Speaker 2: Ali Ali Oxen free on everybody that's ever smoked crack

1341
01:14:50,080 --> 01:14:54,599
Speaker 2: to get her out. And uh, I don't think her

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01:14:54,680 --> 01:15:01,559
Speaker 2: being a political prisoner is mitigated by the fact that

1343
01:15:01,600 --> 01:15:03,160
Speaker 2: what she did break a lass. So if they would

1344
01:15:03,200 --> 01:15:05,240
Speaker 2: have did the same thing for her jaywalking, what she

1345
01:15:05,320 --> 01:15:08,760
Speaker 2: did jaywalk, Like, what they were doing was unfair and

1346
01:15:08,800 --> 01:15:11,479
Speaker 2: it was on purpose and it was to her and

1347
01:15:11,520 --> 01:15:15,920
Speaker 2: it was a political game that they were playing. So yeah,

1348
01:15:16,000 --> 01:15:23,840
Speaker 2: I really do disagree with almost every single thing you said, man,

1349
01:15:25,280 --> 01:15:27,639
Speaker 2: and even the stuff with him being a merchant of death.

1350
01:15:27,680 --> 01:15:32,599
Speaker 2: And it's so funny to hear because the one is

1351
01:15:32,680 --> 01:15:35,839
Speaker 2: just the name that's making people be that way. Because

1352
01:15:36,200 --> 01:15:38,679
Speaker 2: if we're like guns are gonna get on the streets

1353
01:15:39,280 --> 01:15:42,160
Speaker 2: we live in America, that man was in prison for

1354
01:15:42,200 --> 01:15:44,519
Speaker 2: the last ten years and guns ain't did nothing but

1355
01:15:44,560 --> 01:15:49,840
Speaker 2: get worse. So hell, it ain't just a one man

1356
01:15:49,880 --> 01:15:54,439
Speaker 2: problem that was solving the guns in the world, and

1357
01:15:54,439 --> 01:15:57,120
Speaker 2: people been getting plenty of hands on them around this motherfucker.

1358
01:15:57,160 --> 01:16:00,720
Speaker 2: So I'm not with the idea that Brittany should have

1359
01:16:00,720 --> 01:16:05,160
Speaker 2: spent even one fucking second in prison, let alone the

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01:16:05,280 --> 01:16:09,880
Speaker 2: last nine or ten months. So yeah, I'm all the way,

1361
01:16:09,880 --> 01:16:15,760
Speaker 2: one hundred percent against everything in this same all right,

1362
01:16:16,400 --> 01:16:18,080
Speaker 2: And the last email is y'all about to get me

1363
01:16:18,160 --> 01:16:23,000
Speaker 2: kicked out of my office? Confession, Life be life in

1364
01:16:23,120 --> 01:16:25,479
Speaker 2: Extra hard, Life being life in Extra hard, Lalen and

1365
01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:27,599
Speaker 2: I haven't listened to the podcast in a while, so

1366
01:16:27,640 --> 01:16:29,519
Speaker 2: I went back to shows from November so I could

1367
01:16:29,520 --> 01:16:31,479
Speaker 2: binge a bunch of shows at once. Every day when

1368
01:16:31,520 --> 01:16:33,439
Speaker 2: I'm in my car, find myself blurting out, I hate

1369
01:16:33,479 --> 01:16:37,160
Speaker 2: y'all before I begin laughing hysterically. Sometimes I get weird

1370
01:16:37,200 --> 01:16:39,400
Speaker 2: looks from people sitting next to me at the stoplight,

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01:16:39,439 --> 01:16:41,920
Speaker 2: but I don't care because, in the words of Tabitha Brown,

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01:16:42,120 --> 01:16:46,960
Speaker 2: that's my business. Well, today I was alone in the

1373
01:16:47,000 --> 01:16:49,280
Speaker 2: office in episode twenty six thirty one was playing ro

1374
01:16:49,320 --> 01:16:51,559
Speaker 2: I was talking about ordering food from the ghost kitchen

1375
01:16:51,600 --> 01:16:54,280
Speaker 2: and going to pick up the food, only to found

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01:16:54,320 --> 01:16:56,679
Speaker 2: out it was a buffalo wild wings. When he said

1377
01:16:56,680 --> 01:16:58,880
Speaker 2: it was like eating the cooking from the aunt who

1378
01:16:58,920 --> 01:17:03,360
Speaker 2: had the roaches, I shrieked so loud. Then this fool said, no,

1379
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Speaker 2: thank you. I seen your rope situation, and I couldn't

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01:17:06,560 --> 01:17:10,639
Speaker 2: hold it in anymore my whole My white coworker told

1381
01:17:10,680 --> 01:17:14,639
Speaker 2: me she never heard me laugh like that before. By

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01:17:14,680 --> 01:17:17,479
Speaker 2: the time she said he said he got home and

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01:17:17,520 --> 01:17:20,320
Speaker 2: the food was in the target bag that they took

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01:17:20,360 --> 01:17:24,240
Speaker 2: out from another bag that was filled with bags, I

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01:17:24,320 --> 01:17:27,640
Speaker 2: had tears rolling down my cheeks. These folks about to

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01:17:27,640 --> 01:17:32,080
Speaker 2: get me escorted out for disturbing the peace. Also, I

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01:17:32,120 --> 01:17:34,200
Speaker 2: know that by the time this email comes out, the

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01:17:34,200 --> 01:17:36,599
Speaker 2: midterms will have been long gone. Georgia got it right,

1389
01:17:36,640 --> 01:17:39,000
Speaker 2: thank god. But I wanted to ask something about voting.

1390
01:17:39,360 --> 01:17:41,400
Speaker 2: I work in local government, have done so for over

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01:17:41,439 --> 01:17:44,240
Speaker 2: ten years. Since May twenty twenty one, I am also

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01:17:45,120 --> 01:17:49,559
Speaker 2: an elected council member of my town. Congratulations. By the way,

1393
01:17:50,280 --> 01:17:53,280
Speaker 2: people really need to start paying very close attention to

1394
01:17:53,320 --> 01:17:55,439
Speaker 2: their local elections in addition to the mid terms of

1395
01:17:55,479 --> 01:17:59,680
Speaker 2: presidential elections. Firstly, firstly, because your local elections are the

1396
01:17:59,720 --> 01:18:03,960
Speaker 2: election that most affect you every day in your everyday life. Yep,

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01:18:04,760 --> 01:18:09,400
Speaker 2: that's your trash being collected or potholes being repaired on

1398
01:18:09,520 --> 01:18:13,760
Speaker 2: busy streets, etc. But your local city council, your local

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01:18:13,760 --> 01:18:16,840
Speaker 2: council people are often the ones who run for county council,

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Speaker 2: then state Senate and possibly your US Senate.

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01:18:19,320 --> 01:18:19,400
Speaker 1: Se.

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01:18:20,080 --> 01:18:22,280
Speaker 2: We really have to power to weed so many of

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01:18:22,320 --> 01:18:24,479
Speaker 2: these folks our early. We all know it can be

1404
01:18:24,479 --> 01:18:26,160
Speaker 2: over women to stay on top of the issues. I

1405
01:18:26,200 --> 01:18:29,160
Speaker 2: feel like the Republicans bank on this, but we have

1406
01:18:29,200 --> 01:18:31,240
Speaker 2: to do as best as we can. I find myself

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01:18:31,320 --> 01:18:35,120
Speaker 2: becoming so discouraged when talking to younger people, especially younger

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01:18:35,120 --> 01:18:38,599
Speaker 2: black people, about voting, and they say foolish stuff like, oh,

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01:18:38,640 --> 01:18:41,439
Speaker 2: I'm just not into politics. My reply is always for

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01:18:41,520 --> 01:18:43,880
Speaker 2: them to tell me one area of your life not

1411
01:18:43,920 --> 01:18:46,880
Speaker 2: affected about politics or some sort of lawmaking. We still

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01:18:46,920 --> 01:18:49,160
Speaker 2: have such a long way to go. Anyway, I love you,

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01:18:49,240 --> 01:18:51,160
Speaker 2: I love your show. I hope you all are having

1414
01:18:51,200 --> 01:18:54,800
Speaker 2: an amazing holiday season, Mary Christmas, Keana.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and a lot of people do that.

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01:18:59,560 --> 01:19:03,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to talk about politics because like a

1417
01:19:03,240 --> 01:19:05,280
Speaker 1: lot of shit people go, if I say anything, it's

1418
01:19:05,280 --> 01:19:07,479
Speaker 1: gonna be augumented. I don't want to argue with people

1419
01:19:07,479 --> 01:19:10,680
Speaker 1: about this quote unquote particular thing. I think that's why

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01:19:10,720 --> 01:19:11,639
Speaker 1: a lot of people do that.

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01:19:12,120 --> 01:19:18,320
Speaker 2: You know, people, it's because they don't know, Karen about arguing.

1422
01:19:18,520 --> 01:19:21,599
Speaker 2: It's not about arguing. They don't know. They can't be bothered.

1423
01:19:21,840 --> 01:19:25,599
Speaker 2: It's whether they're being lazy or they feel intimidated by

1424
01:19:25,760 --> 01:19:29,599
Speaker 2: like getting involved. And so a lot of people play

1425
01:19:29,920 --> 01:19:32,160
Speaker 2: like a lot of centrism. It's people that don't know

1426
01:19:32,400 --> 01:19:34,720
Speaker 2: a lot of both sizism. It's people that don't know

1427
01:19:35,320 --> 01:19:37,920
Speaker 2: a lot of like even the comedy angle of this.

1428
01:19:38,040 --> 01:19:40,800
Speaker 2: So I gotta pick on Joe Biden because I picked

1429
01:19:40,800 --> 01:19:44,040
Speaker 2: on Trump is some weird like I just didn't I

1430
01:19:44,040 --> 01:19:46,719
Speaker 2: couldn't be bothered to figure out what the fuck was happening.

1431
01:19:47,160 --> 01:19:49,439
Speaker 2: And I don't feel that confident because Americans don't really

1432
01:19:49,479 --> 01:19:53,120
Speaker 2: get taught that much or read that much about, you know,

1433
01:19:53,360 --> 01:19:55,479
Speaker 2: policies and how things work. So a lot of times

1434
01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:58,040
Speaker 2: they just take the easy way out and go ah,

1435
01:19:59,320 --> 01:20:01,320
Speaker 2: or you know how, I just don't like, I don't

1436
01:20:01,360 --> 01:20:03,840
Speaker 2: get into politics, and it's like, oh, you just don't know,

1437
01:20:04,160 --> 01:20:06,760
Speaker 2: and no one wants to feel stupid, you.

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01:20:06,720 --> 01:20:10,240
Speaker 1: Know, Right, But then the first time you get upset,

1439
01:20:10,320 --> 01:20:12,639
Speaker 1: once you find a fucked up lawless pass or something

1440
01:20:12,680 --> 01:20:16,040
Speaker 1: that impacts you matter, how the fuck this happened, nigga voting?

1441
01:20:16,320 --> 01:20:17,000
Speaker 2: Yeah you mad?

1442
01:20:17,080 --> 01:20:19,519
Speaker 1: Now when people ask you to get involved, you you

1443
01:20:19,600 --> 01:20:20,200
Speaker 1: opted out.

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01:20:20,520 --> 01:20:22,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, And a lot of times the only people they

1445
01:20:22,400 --> 01:20:25,679
Speaker 2: do know shit about are the Democrats. So that's why

1446
01:20:26,120 --> 01:20:27,800
Speaker 2: in the media doesn't help. But a lot of shit

1447
01:20:27,880 --> 01:20:31,960
Speaker 2: is framed as in, when Republicans do something bad, they go, Democrats,

1448
01:20:32,080 --> 01:20:35,080
Speaker 2: let this happen when Republicans, you know what I'm saying,

1449
01:20:35,120 --> 01:20:37,280
Speaker 2: When Democrats do something good, they go, it's just not

1450
01:20:37,360 --> 01:20:39,680
Speaker 2: good enough because those are the only people they know

1451
01:20:39,920 --> 01:20:43,000
Speaker 2: it and the only shit they keep up with. So yeah,

1452
01:20:43,200 --> 01:20:45,400
Speaker 2: but I feel you, especially on that city council and

1453
01:20:45,439 --> 01:20:49,400
Speaker 2: local elections things. So many people just do not looking

1454
01:20:49,439 --> 01:20:51,160
Speaker 2: at that stuff and when you look on the ground,

1455
01:20:51,280 --> 01:20:53,920
Speaker 2: Republicans are killing the ground game because they're like, listen,

1456
01:20:54,600 --> 01:20:58,200
Speaker 2: this is what the school council is. This who approves superintendence,

1457
01:20:58,280 --> 01:21:02,280
Speaker 2: This is who changes the budget. And when you start

1458
01:21:02,360 --> 01:21:06,720
Speaker 2: looking up and realizing, like, uh, some states, even when

1459
01:21:06,720 --> 01:21:08,679
Speaker 2: there was a law saying you could get an abortion,

1460
01:21:08,760 --> 01:21:11,080
Speaker 2: there were some states where you basically couldn't because they

1461
01:21:11,200 --> 01:21:14,680
Speaker 2: just figured out all the ways locally to make it

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01:21:14,680 --> 01:21:19,599
Speaker 2: as difficult as possible before the Roe v. Wade overturning. So, yeah, man,

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01:21:19,720 --> 01:21:22,519
Speaker 2: you gotta gotta pay attentions down your toes. That's it

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01:21:22,640 --> 01:21:25,240
Speaker 2: for feedback care. Is there any mail or anything to open?

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01:21:26,439 --> 01:21:28,639
Speaker 1: Yeah? I got some cars. I'm gonna read them.

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01:21:29,080 --> 01:21:29,240
Speaker 3: Now.

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01:21:29,479 --> 01:21:31,599
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not like Rod, So I'm gonna try

1468
01:21:31,680 --> 01:21:32,880
Speaker 1: quote unquote try my best.

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01:21:34,360 --> 01:21:35,759
Speaker 2: They understand it. It'll be fine.

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01:21:36,439 --> 01:21:39,720
Speaker 1: So y'all did y'all? Y'all? I got one? Can you

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01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:40,120
Speaker 1: see this?

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01:21:40,760 --> 01:21:43,120
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's beautiful. It's a bird and a wreathe.

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01:21:43,240 --> 01:21:44,719
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

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01:21:44,880 --> 01:21:48,240
Speaker 1: It says a partridge in a pear tree and it

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01:21:48,360 --> 01:21:52,599
Speaker 1: says still listening, wishing you and Mary Christmas from Mike

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01:21:52,680 --> 01:21:58,840
Speaker 1: in London. Oh wow, Mike, thank you, still listening? Thank

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01:21:58,880 --> 01:22:00,200
Speaker 1: you baby.

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01:22:00,160 --> 01:22:02,360
Speaker 2: Wow across the pond. Thank you, good brother.

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Speaker 1: And uh, this one is from our friend Olivia and

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Speaker 1: her family. Shout out to ratchet ass lawyer and we

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01:22:12,880 --> 01:22:15,040
Speaker 1: got some beautiful family pick picks.

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Speaker 2: Oh they always do it well. This is why I

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Speaker 2: was afraid for marriage equality, because you knew that the

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01:22:21,560 --> 01:22:23,719
Speaker 2: same sex couples and stuff. You knew they was gonna

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01:22:23,720 --> 01:22:28,000
Speaker 2: stunt on us every year, and on us. You know,

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01:22:28,080 --> 01:22:30,720
Speaker 2: I sitt out my little straight person card and then

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01:22:30,760 --> 01:22:33,080
Speaker 2: here they go with the blow and the fireworks and

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01:22:33,120 --> 01:22:35,520
Speaker 2: the glitter popping out when you open it and the lights.

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01:22:35,280 --> 01:22:39,639
Speaker 1: Going off making us look bad, right and and uh

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01:22:39,680 --> 01:22:40,519
Speaker 1: and ship like that.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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01:22:41,400 --> 01:22:45,439
Speaker 1: This one says happy holidays, May your holidays be married

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01:22:45,560 --> 01:22:49,639
Speaker 1: and your new year bring you joy. Wishing you both

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01:22:49,760 --> 01:22:53,120
Speaker 1: the best. And this is from I'm gonna say Miller.

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01:22:53,320 --> 01:22:56,120
Speaker 1: And if I'm miss pronounced that wrong, I'm sorry. I'm

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01:22:56,160 --> 01:22:58,320
Speaker 1: just looking at the name on the address. And this

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01:22:58,400 --> 01:22:59,920
Speaker 1: is the car. This is the car.

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01:23:00,560 --> 01:23:05,599
Speaker 2: Happy holidays, okay, Red? Oh thank you.

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01:23:10,360 --> 01:23:19,719
Speaker 1: In this one. MM, Merry Christmas, Dear Rod and Karen Hope,

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01:23:20,000 --> 01:23:24,639
Speaker 1: happy moments and enjoyful memories make this your merriest holiday ever.

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01:23:25,280 --> 01:23:28,400
Speaker 1: Thank you for both for all the last Merry Christmas.

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01:23:28,439 --> 01:23:29,840
Speaker 1: And this is from Victoria.

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01:23:30,439 --> 01:23:36,000
Speaker 2: Oh, thank you, Victoria. I got a lot.

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01:23:36,120 --> 01:23:38,680
Speaker 1: This is the last one, yeah, because I checked the

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01:23:38,680 --> 01:23:47,400
Speaker 1: mail today. Okay, now, this one is absolutely positively gorgeous.

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01:23:47,600 --> 01:23:50,240
Speaker 2: They are all gorgeous, everybody, y'all the same special to me.

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01:23:50,560 --> 01:23:53,120
Speaker 2: But oh my god, look at this little baby and

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01:23:53,160 --> 01:24:00,880
Speaker 2: its shiny. Oh my god, ah, all look at the baby.

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01:24:01,520 --> 01:24:05,040
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness.

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01:24:05,320 --> 01:24:11,719
Speaker 1: Just look at the babyes. It says, playing from a podcast,

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01:24:11,760 --> 01:24:15,920
Speaker 1: The Black Eye Who Tips Podcast. Hey, Rody Karen, remember

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01:24:16,000 --> 01:24:20,519
Speaker 1: us August twenty twenty one. All, and I don't want

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01:24:20,520 --> 01:24:22,639
Speaker 1: to tell your baby's names up. But it's two of them.

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01:24:22,640 --> 01:24:24,479
Speaker 1: One it's three and a half and one is one.

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01:24:25,160 --> 01:24:27,880
Speaker 1: It says, we want to wish you a merry Christmas

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01:24:28,000 --> 01:24:32,639
Speaker 1: to you all. It says twenty twenty three ninety one

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01:24:33,080 --> 01:24:36,200
Speaker 1: black Gold, the Black Eye Who Tips Podcast, And it's

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01:24:36,280 --> 01:24:40,840
Speaker 1: pictures of the babyes. Oh absolutely, And then it has

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01:24:40,880 --> 01:24:42,320
Speaker 1: like this on the back of it.

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01:24:42,880 --> 01:24:45,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh that's beautiful. Thank you.

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01:24:46,040 --> 01:24:49,400
Speaker 1: Oh and that was the last one. I ain't do

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01:24:49,479 --> 01:24:50,720
Speaker 1: too bad. I thought I was gonna tear it up

1523
01:24:50,720 --> 01:24:51,920
Speaker 1: because you know you.

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01:24:51,920 --> 01:24:56,200
Speaker 2: Did good, don't get it yet? Okay? Cool. Well that's

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01:24:56,280 --> 01:25:00,160
Speaker 2: it for the feedback episode. Thanks everybody listening, and thank you,

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01:25:00,360 --> 01:25:03,439
Speaker 2: uh for all the feedback that you guys provided. And

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01:25:03,600 --> 01:25:06,080
Speaker 2: like I said, these will be a little more random,

1528
01:25:06,160 --> 01:25:09,320
Speaker 2: might not always be on a Saturday, but as we

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01:25:09,840 --> 01:25:12,240
Speaker 2: pile up episodes, will make sure to stop like every

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01:25:12,320 --> 01:25:14,680
Speaker 2: four or five episodes and do a feedback episode. So

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01:25:15,200 --> 01:25:18,360
Speaker 2: thank you everybody that listen, uh.

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01:25:17,880 --> 01:25:21,040
Speaker 1: And thank you very very much for the cars. I

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01:25:21,120 --> 01:25:22,920
Speaker 1: love the cars. I'm gonna have to get me. I'm

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01:25:22,920 --> 01:25:24,760
Speaker 1: gonna have to start bag number two. I got a one,

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01:25:24,880 --> 01:25:27,280
Speaker 1: I got one ziplop bag for I'm gonna have to

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01:25:27,280 --> 01:25:29,640
Speaker 1: go to bag number two. I don't know what I'm

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01:25:29,920 --> 01:25:31,799
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna take the cars, make a collage

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01:25:31,840 --> 01:25:34,400
Speaker 1: or something out of it because they are beautiful. I

1539
01:25:34,520 --> 01:25:36,679
Speaker 1: like I said, Roger jokes, but he not lying. I'm

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01:25:36,680 --> 01:25:39,200
Speaker 1: an old grandma. I got a whole grow up there

1541
01:25:39,280 --> 01:25:42,680
Speaker 1: full of every single i'm I'm. I'm like your I'm

1542
01:25:42,720 --> 01:25:45,560
Speaker 1: like your kindergarten teacher. I keep all the kids cars

1543
01:25:45,760 --> 01:25:46,960
Speaker 1: and they're all beautiful to me.

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01:25:47,800 --> 01:25:48,120
Speaker 3: Uh.

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01:25:48,160 --> 01:25:52,240
Speaker 2: So, yes, thank you for all of that stuff, and yeah,

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01:25:52,320 --> 01:25:55,439
Speaker 2: welcome home, Brittany grind I'm glad you're out, and uh,

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01:25:55,560 --> 01:25:58,200
Speaker 2: I don't care what mandy Ate says. Uh. You know

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01:25:58,439 --> 01:26:01,679
Speaker 2: we we support blacky and over here. All right, y'all,

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01:26:01,720 --> 01:26:03,960
Speaker 2: we'll talk to you later. Until next time, I love you.

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01:26:04,479 --> 01:26:05,160
Speaker 1: I love you too.

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Speaker 3: Wh