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Speaker 2: Ryan is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by Chelsea. So in a
Speaker 2: few minutes we're going to call her and see if
Speaker 2: you tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get
Speaker 2: him another date if he still wants one. But before
Speaker 2: we do that, Ryan was up, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Chelsea?
Speaker 3: Uh, it's been I've said, probably about a week or so.
Speaker 4: Have you how many times have you tried to reach
Speaker 4: out to her at that time?
Speaker 3: Probably about three or four times. You know. I didn't
Speaker 3: want to seem like I was a stocking, you know type,
Speaker 3: So after the last time, I just you know, left
Speaker 3: it alone and got in contact with you guys, you know,
Speaker 3: to see if I could try and figure something out,
Speaker 3: because you know, I don't know what I did wrong.
Speaker 3: I thought it was a great first date. I thought
Speaker 3: we hit it off, and I've just been ghosted ever since.
Speaker 4: Why don't you start by telling us about the date?
Speaker 3: Okay, So we went out, in our drinks conversation, everything
Speaker 3: was was pretty good, and this came about after you
Speaker 3: know us connecting on Hinge. Had some friends tell me
Speaker 3: some good things about HIMS, so I figured I'd try
Speaker 3: it out. So, you know, we went on our date
Speaker 3: and then we went to a nearby park after that.
Speaker 5: How to go at the park.
Speaker 3: The park went good, but I guess there was something
Speaker 3: that was pretty questionable that happened at dinner. You know,
Speaker 3: we were hanging out, having a good time, chatting it up,
Speaker 3: and so she got a phone call and she said
Speaker 3: she needed to take the call, and she excused herself
Speaker 3: from the table and went out for this call. And
Speaker 3: the call was probably about She was gone for about
Speaker 3: fifteen to twenty minutes.
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 3: I thought it was pretty important because she stepped outside
Speaker 3: of the restaurant. But she walked all the way to
Speaker 3: the corner or like you know, up the street a
Speaker 3: little bit, and I could see from the restaurant that
Speaker 3: she was in a heated exchange, Like her hands were flying,
Speaker 3: and I could see the veins popping out of her forehead,
Speaker 3: and she was like yelling and screaming into the phone.
Speaker 3: And I was by this time, like, you know, the
Speaker 3: food came, her food was cold. I didn't want to
Speaker 3: start eating without her, and so you know, she comes
Speaker 3: back inside and she's like really cool, calm and collected,
Speaker 3: and I said, is everything okay? And she said, yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm just dealing with some family stuff. You know, my
Speaker 3: sister called me and you know, a little sil sibling
Speaker 3: quarrels or whatever. So I just said, okay. I said, well,
Speaker 3: do you want me to order you something else? You know,
Speaker 3: I can have them send this back and we can
Speaker 3: order you a fresh one, so that way it's high
Speaker 3: and you know, she didn't want to eat at that point,
Speaker 3: she said, no, I'm fine. We can just wrap up,
Speaker 3: you know, if you want to eat, and you know,
Speaker 3: we can go to the park. So yeah, that's kind
Speaker 3: of how the that portion of the date went. That's
Speaker 3: the only pickup that I could think of that happened was.
Speaker 5: That pretty big hiccup, How was you to the park?
Speaker 1: Which is a good sign because to continue after dinner
Speaker 1: like she kept it.
Speaker 3: Going, Yeah, that's what I don't understand. We went to
Speaker 3: the park. You know, we had you know, great convo
Speaker 3: and I even got to you know, pick in on
Speaker 3: the cheek the end of the day. But thought was great,
Speaker 3: and I just don't know what else happened. It's really weird.
Speaker 5: All right, Well we'll see we can figure out for you.
Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come Back, and then call
Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you,
Speaker 2: and then maybe get you another day.
Speaker 3: All right, thanks, sounds good, let's do it.
Speaker 2: We'll play us on come Back, get your first Day
Speaker 2: follow up next. If you're just joining us for today's
Speaker 2: first date follow up. Ryan is on the phone. He's
Speaker 2: getting ghosted by Chelsea and doesn't know why. So in
Speaker 2: just a second, we're gonna call her see if she'll
Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him
Speaker 2: another date. But before we do that, Ryan, why don't
Speaker 2: you catch everybody up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah? So had to. Really what I thought was a
Speaker 3: great date with Chelsea. The only hiccup that happened during
Speaker 3: the date, but she had to take a phone call
Speaker 3: from you know, an important phone call to deal with
Speaker 3: the situation. Family situation, I guess. But other than that,
Speaker 3: we hit it off. Great conversation, great energy, great vibes,
Speaker 3: even got a peck on the cheek at the end
Speaker 3: of the night. After that, just ghost nothing gone, click.
Speaker 6: It all right?
Speaker 5: You ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3: I'm ready.
Speaker 5: Okay, here we go.
Speaker 6: Hello.
Speaker 5: Hi, man speak to Chelsea. Please, Chelsea? Hi, how are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jebel and this is a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jubil Show.
Speaker 4: Hi, Chelsea, I'm Nina also on the show.
Speaker 5: Hi, and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 6: Hi. Hello.
Speaker 5: Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 6: Actually?
Speaker 1: Have?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 6: Cool?
Speaker 5: Really cool? You know why we recalling you? Oh?
Speaker 6: Did I win something? I hope I did.
Speaker 2: It's possible. It depends how much you like Ryan. You
Speaker 2: remember going on a date with Ryan.
Speaker 6: Oh, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: So this is a first date follow up the segment
Speaker 2: where we if you've been ghosted, you can email us.
Speaker 2: So we get that person on the phone and ask
Speaker 2: why you're being ghosted. And Ryan emailed us about you,
Speaker 2: So can you tell us why you're ghosting him?
Speaker 7: The reason why I'm ghosting him is because I'm trying
Speaker 7: to dodge my ex and I honestly didn't want to
Speaker 7: scare Ryan away.
Speaker 6: So my eggs.
Speaker 7: Texted me while I was from the date with Ryan,
Speaker 7: and he texted, I need to see you, and then
Speaker 7: he continued like I trucked your phone.
Speaker 6: I'm coming to see you.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, And so I went to call him to
Speaker 7: kind of diffuse the situation. Becau it's like we've been
Speaker 7: broken up for about six months, but he's really having
Speaker 7: a heart accepting the breakup, and so he drives by
Speaker 7: my house constantly.
Speaker 6: He like sends me still flowers to work.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, wow.
Speaker 8: And so I honestly I took the call and after
Speaker 8: that I just had a hard time because I just
Speaker 8: don't want I really feel like I need to.
Speaker 7: Get a handle on him before I bring anybody into
Speaker 7: my life and bring this drama into anybody's life. And
Speaker 7: I honestly feel bad for Ryan, like I just don't
Speaker 7: want to bring that to.
Speaker 6: Him, And so I just haven't really responded much to Ryan.
Speaker 6: You liked him though, Yeah, I like trying a lot. Actually,
Speaker 6: it's actually.
Speaker 5: Kind of respectful.
Speaker 1: Like, think about how many people have like X drama
Speaker 1: and they don't even care about the new person they
Speaker 1: bring into their life. And now this new person is
Speaker 1: like collateral damage. I think that that's really cool of you.
Speaker 1: But I also think that's something you could probably tell him.
Speaker 7: I guess I could have told him. I honestly feel
Speaker 7: like I just it's not fair. It's not fair to
Speaker 7: bring anybody with my ex is pretty.
Speaker 6: Persistent as easy.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and I.
Speaker 6: Just don't want to put him in any dangerous situation.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, you think he's like dangerous.
Speaker 6: Well, I mean, I don't know about how.
Speaker 7: He will be confrontational, Okay, if he sees me with
Speaker 7: another guy. Yeah, and so that hasn't happened yet, so
Speaker 7: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Well, if you think about it this way, though, your
Speaker 2: ex is still controlling you because you're not dating people
Speaker 2: you want.
Speaker 6: To date pretty much. Yeah, that's true. I didn't even
Speaker 6: think about that.
Speaker 5: Yeah, my opinion, that's pretty unacceptable.
Speaker 4: But like, how do you handle how do you handle that?
Speaker 6: I don't know. I am really trying hard to just be.
Speaker 7: Civilized and talk to him and just try to calm
Speaker 7: him down and just let him know that I'm not
Speaker 7: interested anymore.
Speaker 6: And it's just been really hard.
Speaker 5: Well, I have a couple ideas for you. I'll get
Speaker 5: to those at a second.
Speaker 2: First, I'm going to let you know that Ryan is
Speaker 2: actually on the other line and has been listening and
Speaker 2: wants to talk to you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yes, hi, Ryan, Hey, Chelsea, how are you. I'm
Speaker 6: good to you. I'm so sorry. I honestly did not
Speaker 6: mean to go see you. I just it's just been
Speaker 6: really stressful.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm so happy to hear your voice. I'm
Speaker 3: sorry to put you on the radio and put you
Speaker 3: on the spot like this, but I didn't know what
Speaker 3: else to do, and I, yeah, some closure I needed
Speaker 3: to know. I just really thought there's a connection there
Speaker 3: and so yeah, I'm happy to hear that it wasn't me.
Speaker 6: No, you didn't do anything wrong. You were so sweet.
Speaker 6: I felt like we really had a connection. And it's
Speaker 6: been so hard for me. It's been really.
Speaker 7: Heavy because I just honestly don't want to put you
Speaker 7: in any weird situation, you know, I don't think it
Speaker 7: will be fair.
Speaker 3: There are a couple of questions. Are you completely are
Speaker 3: you still attached emotionally? Like you know, do you still
Speaker 3: have feelings for him?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 6: I don't have feelings for him and it's been six months. Yeah,
Speaker 6: absolutely not, Chelsea.
Speaker 5: I have a question for you, why do you still
Speaker 5: talk to him?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 5: I'm just did you feel bad?
Speaker 6: I'm like that, I feel bad for him. I know
Speaker 6: he's stuff bering.
Speaker 2: Care about yourself. You're done with a relationship with him.
Speaker 2: You don't need to talk to him. Unless you have
Speaker 2: like a kid or something and you have to talk
Speaker 2: to him. You don't need to feel bad for him,
Speaker 2: feel bad for yourself. You're not able to date Ryan,
Speaker 2: and you want to date Ryan, and you're letting your
Speaker 2: extra control. All that issue goes because you're worried about
Speaker 2: your ex. Worry about yourself. Get it, girl, Well you
Speaker 2: should get it girl.
Speaker 1: You should also make sure that your man like has
Speaker 1: some type of restraining order if he really does keep
Speaker 1: popping random places, because that is not okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, if it's super bad, you should do that for real.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I haven't really stopped fully the communication.
Speaker 7: That's I could definitely block him. I just feel so
Speaker 7: bad for him because I thought he's just really suffering,
Speaker 7: and I.
Speaker 6: Just don't I mean, I hated having a break up
Speaker 6: the relationship, but I really don't have any feelings for him.
Speaker 2: Believe me, it's hard. It's hard to not talk to
Speaker 2: somebody who's persistent. But you ghosted Ryan, you can ghost again.
Speaker 4: Like this life coaching right now is just you know, accurate.
Speaker 7: That's true.
Speaker 6: You know, I'm sorry Ryan.
Speaker 1: You can tell she's so empathetic too, which is a
Speaker 1: great quality, Chelsea.
Speaker 5: But doubles. Right, would you like to go on another
Speaker 5: day with Ryan? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6: I will love to. I am really like.
Speaker 5: Right, what else you got?
Speaker 7: Like?
Speaker 2: Just get it girl, That's all I'm science.
Speaker 3: Thank you. I really want to say thank you. Guys.
Speaker 3: I'm so much for getting us back together here so
Speaker 3: that we can continue on. And Chelsea, don't worry. You know,
Speaker 3: I'm a big boy. I can my own, I can
Speaker 3: hold you down and you know, protect you and myself.
Speaker 3: So no worries about the crazy X and come get
Speaker 3: it girl.
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