Speaker 1: You found the Second Date Update podcast. It's Brooke and
Speaker 1: Jeffrey and we're here with your awkward Tuesday phone call today.
Speaker 2: It's brand new, and I feel for this guy.
Speaker 1: He's gotta have an awkward conversation with his neighbors, and
Speaker 1: when he gets nervous, something strange happens to him.
Speaker 3: Some people will afford to confrontation and the other people
Speaker 3: are like this guy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh man, you you're in for it this time.
Speaker 2: He definitely needs our support. But before we get to
Speaker 2: the brand new call, what do we got on comments?
Speaker 4: Alexis Yeah, Abraham said, I listen to you guys all
Speaker 4: the way from Germany at work, even though he gets
Speaker 4: me into trouble, But you guys are worth the risk.
Speaker 4: I love you guys to keep up with the dating
Speaker 4: world apocalypse.
Speaker 5: How do we get you in trouble? You have like
Speaker 5: a serious job and you're laughing on.
Speaker 2: Everyone in Germany is serious? Oh yeah, allowed to just kidding.
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. Here we go, let's start this.
Speaker 3: You see it in TV shows and movies, but it's
Speaker 3: true in real life. Sometimes neighbors, even if they get along,
Speaker 3: can get on each other's nerves.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, my neighbor trying to fight me. Remember
Speaker 2: a couple of times, I think, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: Especially bad when they decide to shut the blinds on
Speaker 3: that one window where your telescope's pointed at.
Speaker 5: Yeah, come on, Norman, it happened to the fun.
Speaker 3: But one of our listeners is dealing with a different
Speaker 3: kind of neighbor drama, and I can honestly say we
Speaker 3: have never had to give advice quite like this before.
Speaker 3: You're gonna hear why in your brand new awkward Tuesday
Speaker 3: phone call right after this.
Speaker 5: It's awkward.
Speaker 6: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 5: It's awkward Tuesday phone call. We've all had to deal
Speaker 5: with annoying neighbors before. Oh yeah, it's possible. It's Brook
Speaker 5: and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: Like Brook, Remember when your next door neighbor wouldn't sell
Speaker 3: you his childhood home after you offered severely lower than
Speaker 3: market value.
Speaker 2: And has the goal to still live there.
Speaker 3: I know, wow, even after you had your daughter plant
Speaker 3: termites underneath his front porch and reported into the city.
Speaker 2: He doesn't care, Jo, But.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know what a But one of our listeners
Speaker 3: is having neighbor problems too, and apparently it's bad enough
Speaker 3: where he emailed the show about it.
Speaker 5: So, Craig, welcome to the brook and Jeffrey Studios. How
Speaker 5: you doing, I'm doing.
Speaker 2: Okay, sound down.
Speaker 5: Man, before we get into this and waste time. We
Speaker 5: know how the termite thing works out. We can send Brooks.
Speaker 3: Over you like, that's always an option for us. But
Speaker 3: tell us what's going on with you in this neighbor.
Speaker 7: Well, I tried to talk to this person a few times.
Speaker 5: Okay, biggest mistake.
Speaker 2: You tried to reason.
Speaker 7: I try, but They've been a base of really really
Speaker 7: and I'm really bad with a confrontation that you can tell.
Speaker 8: You know, I need help, I really need help.
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, So give us a little bit of details
Speaker 3: about like what's pcifically is going on between you and
Speaker 3: this problematic neighbor and their name.
Speaker 7: There's a couple and the lady name is Danny. Okay,
Speaker 7: but the neighbors are a couple. I have a problem
Speaker 7: with both of them, okay, And I'm not getting through
Speaker 7: to the guys. So now I figured that now I
Speaker 7: have to move to the wife.
Speaker 1: And not always that is not always.
Speaker 5: So what is the root of the problem.
Speaker 7: Well, one of the problems they keep borrowing stuff and
Speaker 7: they don't return it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, give us an example, like, what's the most expensive
Speaker 1: thing that they still have of yours?
Speaker 7: They have a humidifier that I have. I have one
Speaker 7: in every rum in my house. That just makes the
Speaker 7: air quality so much better. But they asked to borrow it, and,
Speaker 7: like I said, I don't like confrontations, so I was like, okay,
Speaker 7: guy had one in every room of the house.
Speaker 5: I'd be like, yo, let me get one of these ten.
Speaker 5: Does it really make that big of.
Speaker 2: A difference when you lent it to him? Did you
Speaker 2: tell them when you needed it back?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 5: I didn't the problem.
Speaker 7: I figured that he'll use it for a day or two.
Speaker 7: But every time I confront him about it, he says.
Speaker 8: Oh, let me use it for a couple more days.
Speaker 7: A couple more days, and it's been a while.
Speaker 2: Right now, you have one room in your house it's
Speaker 2: very dry, I hear you.
Speaker 5: So is it just the humidifiers?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 7: They borrow everything.
Speaker 8: They borrow my tools, they borrowed.
Speaker 7: Dishes, They have borrowed my lawncheers, they.
Speaker 2: Borrowed your weird things.
Speaker 5: He borrowed my wife for a week. Yeah, what are
Speaker 5: you saying?
Speaker 2: Yes? Every time they ask for something.
Speaker 7: Well here the thing?
Speaker 8: Lease?
Speaker 7: They were like they live a shoe houses down. You know,
Speaker 7: we have game night and when we were close, we
Speaker 7: go out to rest around.
Speaker 8: You have a good relationship, Okay, it's good.
Speaker 5: Oh so you have been friends, got it and you
Speaker 5: been neighborly.
Speaker 1: You just need our advice to what call them and
Speaker 1: set some boundaries here, How can we help you.
Speaker 8: I'm not really worried about what to say.
Speaker 7: I think I have an idea how to approach it.
Speaker 7: My problem is I have this thing that happens whenever
Speaker 7: I get nervous in a tense situation.
Speaker 8: My voice kind of gets get high and I can't
Speaker 8: control it.
Speaker 5: Your voice, your voice goes high, like high pitched.
Speaker 8: Yeah, it just did it. I'm sorry it gets high.
Speaker 8: I can't control it, and I really don't want that
Speaker 8: to happen.
Speaker 2: That's gonna be so frustrating.
Speaker 1: Honestly, It's like, yes, every time I try to confront
Speaker 1: somebody or how big emotions, I cried. No matter what
Speaker 1: my feelings are, it's not the message I want to
Speaker 1: be sending. So I get where you're coming from.
Speaker 2: Why are we calling just a wife?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 2: Not that he already tried.
Speaker 5: I tried with the husband and he's not getting anywhere.
Speaker 2: I'm guessing your voice got real high when you were Yah.
Speaker 5: Was that like a quick convo with a husband or
Speaker 5: how that go down?
Speaker 7: Well, it didn't work out well because my voice got
Speaker 7: kind and well it got high and the husband started
Speaker 7: laughing at.
Speaker 8: Mansle, you're a really weird part that my friends. We
Speaker 8: hang out with these guys all the time.
Speaker 5: Okay, gotcha. No, they know they can get.
Speaker 7: Away with you.
Speaker 3: So you need advice on how to have your voice
Speaker 3: not go high when you're asking this lady Danny to
Speaker 3: get your stuff back from her.
Speaker 5: You wanted to come across strong and powerful.
Speaker 2: Let's get the voice changer jaft.
Speaker 5: Because we'd have to lower her voice also.
Speaker 2: So I feel for you, man, I do.
Speaker 8: I appreciate it, but I need help to stay firm
Speaker 8: and stay strong to get my stuff back.
Speaker 3: I want you're one of those people that's like, give
Speaker 3: me my stuff back and they're like not right now,
Speaker 3: and you're.
Speaker 2: Like, okay, Alexis is classically good at bound.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'll do.
Speaker 2: My therapist and I can help you.
Speaker 3: And there's a lot of gentlemen out there who have
Speaker 3: trouble staying firms, So.
Speaker 5: Don't worry about that.
Speaker 3: We will come back some advice for you.
Speaker 7: What I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I hope you're a kidding with that, because that
Speaker 3: voice is pretty high.
Speaker 5: Is that a joke?
Speaker 8: I was just having fun there.
Speaker 2: I know that is actually really funny.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll call that the worst case scenario. We'll come
Speaker 3: back with our advice for you to let you make
Speaker 3: your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this.
Speaker 5: It's awkward.
Speaker 2: It's Tuesday.
Speaker 5: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: We're in the middle of an awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 3: with one of our listeners, Craig, who's nervous to ask
Speaker 3: his neighbor to return some of the items that she's
Speaker 3: borrowed from his house lately. The thing is they're actually friends. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Craig and his wife hang out with this woman and
Speaker 3: her husband all the time. The thing that's making him
Speaker 3: nervous is sometimes during tense situations, during conflicts, his voice
Speaker 3: accidentally gets really high.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he can't construct.
Speaker 2: Frustrating that frustrating.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it already happened when he's to the husband about
Speaker 3: this situation. So now he wants to try again with
Speaker 3: the wife this time, But how do we help him
Speaker 3: stop his voice from going crazy?
Speaker 5: Brook? What's your advice for Craig here?
Speaker 1: I actually feel you because, like I said, I cry
Speaker 1: at every emotion, even just intense emotions. And what I
Speaker 1: do because it can just really get in the way
Speaker 1: of things, is I have to go in thinking I'm
Speaker 1: someone else.
Speaker 2: It's almost like I'm playing a role. You know. It's
Speaker 2: almost like I removed myself from the situation.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense, Craigrow, What deep voiced person should
Speaker 1: he imagine himself being.
Speaker 2: I've thought about this. Have you seen the movie Aladdin?
Speaker 2: What stop it?
Speaker 8: James Earl Jones?
Speaker 1: James, No, no, listen, you need a little more evil
Speaker 1: than James Earl Jones because you got to be tough.
Speaker 2: So you need to go in thinking you're Jafar.
Speaker 1: Okay, you are, Jeffore setting your boundary. It's like, that's
Speaker 1: a guy who's good at boundaries.
Speaker 5: Seventy year old man with a parrot on the shoulder.
Speaker 8: Serious, that's a good one. That's a good one. I agree,
Speaker 8: that's a good one.
Speaker 5: Trying to scratching his Jose Do you have advice?
Speaker 8: Well?
Speaker 5: I like that, but I.
Speaker 6: Don't want you to back down.
Speaker 5: No, matter what happens. So if your voice starts getting high,
Speaker 5: stay strong.
Speaker 2: You can still be up here and be intimidating. You
Speaker 2: can still yelling people at a high voice.
Speaker 7: But if he walks away laughing.
Speaker 5: Oh, I'm scared. Not for the reason that you think.
Speaker 1: But we're calling a wife, right yes, yeah, okay, yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: don't back down.
Speaker 8: I'll stay strong. I'll stay strong. I'll stay strong.
Speaker 5: There we go.
Speaker 3: Good advice from Jose never stopped talking even when people
Speaker 3: watch him. Here, I'm in the dial, Danny for you,
Speaker 3: your neighbor. Let you make your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: We'll step in if we feel like you need help.
Speaker 1: Yeah, good luck, don't be embarrassed like weird stuff happens
Speaker 1: all of us.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm just glad you guys are on my side.
Speaker 5: You got this. Jafar Agra will be yours. There we go.
Speaker 2: I got it.
Speaker 6: Right now.
Speaker 8: Hello, Danny, what's up? It's Craig.
Speaker 6: Oh hi, Crag, it's not your normal number. I didn't
Speaker 6: know you. Sorry, how are you?
Speaker 8: I'm doing great? Cool?
Speaker 6: Oh, Brian and I were just talking about getting together again.
Speaker 6: If you wanted to get your schedule.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, oh man, we had amazing dinner outback of
Speaker 7: the night.
Speaker 6: Huh. Human def said that her onion was you know
Speaker 6: what I'm talking about, and she said her onion was
Speaker 6: blooming like literally, it's not out of my nose.
Speaker 8: So so classic. No, yeah, we we.
Speaker 6: Have to definitely go again.
Speaker 8: But what's up? So you know when you guys were
Speaker 8: over here on on Game Night last year?
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah are you okay?
Speaker 7: Yes, you guys you borrowed a count.
Speaker 8: Sorry couch?
Speaker 6: What are you?
Speaker 8: Yeah? Yeah yeah, I'm fine. But but regards to the cushion, oh.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, sorry, No, we're still testing it because, like
Speaker 6: I said, on it and Brian sat on it, but
Speaker 6: like we even had a dog sent on it. But
Speaker 6: we just I think we need like probably just like
Speaker 6: one more week.
Speaker 7: Yeah look sorry, that's not gonna work for me.
Speaker 8: I need it back tonight.
Speaker 6: Yes, why do you need tonight?
Speaker 8: Like literally, well, well, because.
Speaker 7: We're going to watch a movie on the couch and
Speaker 7: I keep sitting in a hole.
Speaker 6: Can you just like watching it in your bed? Like
Speaker 6: you guys have a TV in your bedroom which is
Speaker 6: way more cozy. Like I don't get why you wouldn't
Speaker 6: need this pillow back to night?
Speaker 7: No, no, listen, this needs to stop. We've been letting
Speaker 7: you borrow so many things. The humidified, the tool, the cushions,
Speaker 7: a little corn cop holders.
Speaker 6: We definitely threw those out first of all. So I'm sorry,
Speaker 6: but what you slew them out?
Speaker 8: Would you do that?
Speaker 6: They're crappy?
Speaker 8: I don't know, but they weren't yours?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you're doing amazing. Yeah?
Speaker 8: What? Thank you? Who is.
Speaker 5: Uh?
Speaker 3: I think you're referring to us and our voices, Danny,
Speaker 3: because we're a radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in
Speaker 3: the More and you're on it.
Speaker 5: Oh my god, good morning.
Speaker 1: You have that man's couch cushion in your house right now,
Speaker 1: just one of them?
Speaker 6: He said, we could borrow it. I don't like.
Speaker 1: I'm not why the why would you not just go
Speaker 1: sit on his couch and try it out?
Speaker 2: Why would you need to take his cushion?
Speaker 6: I asked, and he said okay, and it was no
Speaker 6: big deal, and so I didn't think twice about it.
Speaker 2: It is a big deal. Can't be on their couch comfortably?
Speaker 8: It was one pillow, it was, and my corn tabholder.
Speaker 1: I mean, do you see that there's like a pattern
Speaker 1: here that is a little frustrating, Danny, of you borrowing
Speaker 1: things and not returning them.
Speaker 2: I think that's what he's trying to get at.
Speaker 6: You're acting like I'm hearing it though, like, no, I'm
Speaker 6: asking permission for everything, and he's aware that I'm doing.
Speaker 2: He is the one saying yes, yeah, but you're abusing
Speaker 2: his kindness. You're abusing his like neighborliness.
Speaker 8: Okay, we are neighbors.
Speaker 6: We share things with each other. I would give him anything.
Speaker 6: He's just never asked to borrow something of mine.
Speaker 8: Okay, Well, he's always taking mind.
Speaker 5: And that's the.
Speaker 3: Reason that he's called us for help today, Danny, is
Speaker 3: because Craig has a little bit of an issue with
Speaker 3: asking for things back. He doesn't well, yeah, so he
Speaker 3: was hoping you'd be understanding for like why he has
Speaker 3: a difficult time asking you that.
Speaker 1: Apparently he asked your husband and your husband just laughed
Speaker 1: at him.
Speaker 5: Because of his voice.
Speaker 2: That's not fair.
Speaker 6: Are we like not all adults?
Speaker 8: I don't.
Speaker 6: I don't get it.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I think an adult, an adult thing to
Speaker 3: do would be to honor his request to get his
Speaker 3: stuff back.
Speaker 2: You have as humidifier, Danny, we know.
Speaker 5: And a bunch of other very cry.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I will give back all of the things, and
Speaker 6: then next time, Craig, you can just say it to
Speaker 6: my face instead of getting a trashy radio show to
Speaker 6: call us.
Speaker 5: She did nail us like that was we are Danny.
Speaker 1: He did ask you multiple times before you knew we
Speaker 1: were here.
Speaker 2: And you know.
Speaker 5: Brooks starting to cry. She's getting emotional.
Speaker 2: That it's not a fair assessment.
Speaker 5: Okay, Danny. Today, today we would like you to give
Speaker 5: him some stuff back.
Speaker 6: I will give back this stuff today. I will be
Speaker 6: at your place at seven o'clock.
Speaker 1: I just you know, he said really nice things about
Speaker 1: you and your husband and about what great friends you are.
Speaker 6: We are friends, which is why it's so weird. It's
Speaker 6: like whatever. I just think it's really strange.
Speaker 8: Okay, but the husbands laughed at my. He laughed at me.
Speaker 3: Okay, But what would Jafar say in this situation, Craig.
Speaker 7: He should not have laughed at me and walked away
Speaker 7: and give me my corn holding back.
Speaker 5: The wrath of ja'far.
Speaker 1: Oh Man, you better buy a new cornholders, Danny.
Speaker 6: I don't even know what's going on anymore. I don't
Speaker 6: know who Jafarian?
Speaker 5: All right? I think we got our point across. I
Speaker 5: think we've achieved what we came to achieve.
Speaker 1: You know what, Craig, you should be really proud of
Speaker 1: yourself for the way you handled that confrontation.
Speaker 2: I thought you did great.
Speaker 5: Your voice didn't really peak once.
Speaker 8: Oh my god, thank you.
Speaker 2: That'far Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.