1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:05,439 Speaker 1: Michael on Steve HARVEYFM writes, I really love my girlfriend. 2 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 1: She's smart, loyal, and one of the kindest people I've 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: ever known, But she has major trust issues and always 4 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: assumes the worst. She constantly thinks I'm cheating. I'm not, 5 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: that I think something's wrong with her. I don't, or 6 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: that I'm about to leave. I have no plans to. Ironically, 7 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:26,560 Speaker 1: the only real problem in our relationship is her believing 8 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: there are problems that don't exist. How do I here's 9 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: this question, how do I help her feel secure without 10 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: feeling like I'm constantly being cross examined? 11 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 2: Well, she gonna have to go to therapy. Yeah, this 12 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 2: is not cred because brouh. I don't know if there's 13 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:47,880 Speaker 2: nothing you can do right. See, you can't change anything 14 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:54,320 Speaker 2: that you haven't done. You it's hard to it's hard 15 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 2: to change something you're being accused of that you're not doing. 16 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 3: What right? What other action can you possibly take? 17 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:06,119 Speaker 2: She has to go and talk to somebody about her 18 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 2: trust issues, about the baggage that she's bringing from previous 19 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:14,279 Speaker 2: relationships obviously, and talk about how the hurt she's carried 20 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 2: it into the next relationship, which causes a bunch of 21 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 2: anxiety in her and you. 22 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 3: And what is anxiety? Loss of control of two things. 23 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 2: Worry about the past and the future, and you have 24 00:01:31,400 --> 00:01:34,240 Speaker 2: nothing to do with either one of those. And once 25 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 2: you put the burden of considering everything that's happened to 26 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 2: you and everything that could happen to you tomorrow, you 27 00:01:41,280 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 2: finished suffer from anxiety. 28 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 3: She need therapy. 29 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 2: Answer right there? 30 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 3: I did, I was, I did radio just now, I 31 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:53,240 Speaker 3: did radio. 32 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: All right, let's see how long this lasts, all right? 33 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 1: Ava Steve Harve FM says, I'm twenty five and I 34 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: still haven't found a job that feels like a good fit. 35 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:07,400 Speaker 3: I got tired. 36 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: I got fired from my first job out of college, 37 00:02:10,440 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 1: which wrecked my confidence, and the two jobs since then 38 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 1: just felt wrong from the start. Either the culture was 39 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 1: toxic or the work didn't challenge me. I'm living at 40 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: home with my and my parents have been supportive, but 41 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: I'm starting to feel like their patience is running out, 42 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: and honestly, so is mine. How do I keep my 43 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 1: head up when it feels like nothing I try is working. 44 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:39,520 Speaker 2: Well, here's the major problem. You're not living in your gift. 45 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 2: You're trying to fit into a job, and you're not 46 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 2: having any requirements of anything fitting into you. Stop taking 47 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 2: jobs just for the pay, because going to work every day, 48 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 2: I don't care who you. 49 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 3: Are is hard. 50 00:02:58,160 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 2: And there are people who have just managed somehow to 51 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:05,480 Speaker 2: make a life of it anyway. But it's very, very 52 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 2: challenging to go to work every day, down to a 53 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 2: place that you don't like or enjoy. It's hard, and 54 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 2: there are millions of people who exist that way. I 55 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 2: strongly suggest that you find out what your gift is 56 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 2: and live in that. You're never going to be happy 57 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 2: doing something just to be doing it. 58 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: This younger generation they quit if they don't like the job, 59 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: they'll just quit. 60 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:32,359 Speaker 3: We never, We couldn't. We didn't have that. 61 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: Luxury growing up. If we didn't like the job, we 62 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: just had to work at it until we found something else. 63 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 2: You know. 64 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 4: We couldn't use to. 65 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 3: The top of the food yeah right away, right, we 66 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 3: could not just quit? Yeah? 67 00:03:43,560 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: Like that? 68 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 2: All you can do what I finally learned how to do. 69 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:50,520 Speaker 2: You can have your job sponsor your dreams. 70 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 3: You know, what do you mean? 71 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 2: Go to a job that you don't really care for. 72 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 2: It's okay to be uncomfortable sometimes it's okay. 73 00:03:58,520 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 3: Yes, that's how you have to. 74 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 2: You have to get that way. Sometimes you're gonna have 75 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 2: to do some stuff you're uncomfortable doing. That's called growth. 76 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: Convenience is built through inconvenience. You got to do some 77 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:15,200 Speaker 2: inconvenient stuff to eventually become convenient. So take a job 78 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:17,359 Speaker 2: that you don't care for, that you don't really like 79 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 2: that you're struggling with, get yourself some money and have 80 00:04:20,520 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 2: that money finance your dreams. What is it you would 81 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 2: really like to do, Save your money to open your 82 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 2: business or your company. 83 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 3: Because you sound like you hard to work with. 84 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, I wasn't expecting that we'll have more 85 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 4: of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming up where you 86 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:40,960 Speaker 4: had one. 87 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:42,719 Speaker 3: Job and got fired. You ain't good. 88 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.