Speaker 1: Can you at least lesten. Hey, everybody, Welcome to an
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Speaker 1: that in. Hello everybody, and welcome to a brand new
Speaker 1: episode of Help I Suck a Dating. I'm Jared, have
Speaker 1: been in studio with Dean anglerd with Vanessa Grimaldi calling
Speaker 1: in from Monterreal. We have a pretty great episode for
Speaker 1: you today. We have Vinny from Jersey Shore, and of
Speaker 1: course and of course Double Shot at Love. That was
Speaker 1: such a Jersey or accent. Of course, of course, well
Speaker 1: it's more of a Rhode Island accent. But I've always
Speaker 1: loved jose Shore. Jersey Shore was the only reality show
Speaker 1: I ever watched before going on The Bachelor. Really, did
Speaker 1: you ever watched the Real World? Or was like top not?
Speaker 1: I never got into Real World or Road Rules or
Speaker 1: any of those MTV shows right here and the Newly
Speaker 1: Wed Show with Jessica Simpson and Nick lash actually was
Speaker 1: huge into that show. Dean, you is that show still
Speaker 1: on Rules? So I actually I think Vanessa might have
Speaker 1: gotten this too. I got asked to join the challenge
Speaker 1: like a year ago, but it was infringing upon my
Speaker 1: bachelor contract and I was so I was like, please
Speaker 1: let me find a way to break this. I'll be
Speaker 1: on the show. I don't care what it takes. I'll
Speaker 1: do it no matter what. And it just ended up
Speaker 1: falling through. I So I was really upset about that.
Speaker 1: But UM, well, you're not on contract anymore. Unless you
Speaker 1: do it, reach out to him, You'll be fine. We're
Speaker 1: really excited to have Vinnie and studio. But first we're
Speaker 1: going to talk to a body language expert. Her name
Speaker 1: is Katilise l She has a website called Love Destination.
Speaker 1: It's a complete online relationships streaming service. Um and I
Speaker 1: want to make sure we're saying your name correctly, catil
Speaker 1: was l Oh. I did, okay. So you are a
Speaker 1: relationship and body language expert and I checked out your website.
Speaker 1: There's so many amazing things going on there. You have documentaries,
Speaker 1: um uh, courses and TV shows. So explain. Can you
Speaker 1: explain to us a little bit more what you do
Speaker 1: and how someone like ourselves can benefit from your website? Absolutely? Well, look,
Speaker 1: let's just start with a simple fact right when, whether
Speaker 1: you're looking for a new partner, whether you're already coupled up,
Speaker 1: looking to her broken heart, or to fix your relationship,
Speaker 1: the reality is relationships aren't always easy, and there's a
Speaker 1: matter of fact, for a lot of us, we get
Speaker 1: to a point where you know, our relationships are downright confusing.
Speaker 1: So the idea behind the Love Destination is really to
Speaker 1: provide experts at your fingertips, courses, um expert tips and resources,
Speaker 1: as well as documentaries and films, so that no matter
Speaker 1: what stage of your love relationship you're in, you've got
Speaker 1: these amazing resources that will help you navigate your navigate
Speaker 1: your relationships, improve your confidence, you know, overcome self doubt,
Speaker 1: and really mean that you can have more fulfilling relationships
Speaker 1: with yourself and others. Because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you know, if we're going out generally dating or we've
Speaker 1: got a wonderful partner, but we're also having issues with
Speaker 1: ourselves in terms of self doubt, in terms of being
Speaker 1: not able to say no when or express how we feel,
Speaker 1: and that's actually going to affake all of our locationships,
Speaker 1: not just the one we have with ourselves. So your website.
Speaker 1: Love destination dot com is a complete online relationship streaming service.
Speaker 1: And you talk about body language and also about the
Speaker 1: simple action of a kiss and how a kiss can
Speaker 1: determine what someone what their intentions are in a relationship.
Speaker 1: And I actually have a funny story about this. I
Speaker 1: was kissing a guy. Oh this is I mean, it's
Speaker 1: pretty dirty. I was kissing a guy and you know,
Speaker 1: it started off really sweet, so I thought my intentions
Speaker 1: his intentions were like, oh, he wants to date me.
Speaker 1: And then like you know, some really good tongue action happened.
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, this is interesting, and then that's
Speaker 1: exactly what I think of a tongue action. Then spits
Speaker 1: in my mouth like this strike So I spat in
Speaker 1: his mouth? WHOA hold on, on on, let's just make
Speaker 1: sure that we're clarifying. Is this like saliva going back
Speaker 1: and forth? Not to be to t M. I but
Speaker 1: you said it, so now we have to clarify. Or
Speaker 1: was it actually like I mean, in your mouth? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Was it wet the hawka lugi into your mouth? What
Speaker 1: does that even mean? No? No, it wasn't like that.
Speaker 1: It was more like a poor listeners. They had to
Speaker 1: just hear that. Oh no, so then I knew. Then
Speaker 1: I knew what were facts about. Here's some interesting facts
Speaker 1: about kissing. And we actually got a course on how
Speaker 1: to be an amazing kisser, and it covers this is
Speaker 1: that you know that men and women have pre wide
Speaker 1: differences when it comes to kissing. So guys are more
Speaker 1: likely to like a kiss with a lot more saliva
Speaker 1: because theoretically, when you kiss somebody, there's a small amount
Speaker 1: of testoster and that's released in your mouth, and your
Speaker 1: cheeks are the inside memories of your cheeks are actually impermeable,
Speaker 1: so over time that teststo slone might actually improve your
Speaker 1: libido or makes you more in the mood. But I
Speaker 1: don't know about speaking in your mouth. I've actually never
Speaker 1: heard of I've never heard of somebody somebody you do
Speaker 1: say you do say a kiss is worth a thousand words.
Speaker 1: I've never heard anyone say that before. Is that a
Speaker 1: real thing or is it the thing? So kipping kissing
Speaker 1: affects us emotionally, Biochemistry affects our biochemistry, it affects our thegeology.
Speaker 1: It actually activates all five of our senses. So when
Speaker 1: we kiss, this is why it's actually an important part
Speaker 1: of mate sellection that helps us bond to the couple.
Speaker 1: When we kiss it actually we get information from our sensors,
Speaker 1: smell from obviously the seni a chemically in oursal life.
Speaker 1: But it also, yes, it challenged us about the other
Speaker 1: person's intentions. As we said, So basically, if somebody speak
Speaker 1: in your mouth on the fruit cues, just basically up
Speaker 1: straight in and go straight for the hot you know,
Speaker 1: smooth pass with no tenderness at all, no eye contact,
Speaker 1: or literally doesn't kiss you at all, then you can
Speaker 1: pretty much guarantee that person if it's the first kiss,
Speaker 1: is really mostly after some physical action or intimacy. But
Speaker 1: if you if you have somebody or you're in a
Speaker 1: long term relationship and you know, we have more touching,
Speaker 1: more caressing, perhaps you know, a kiss on the cheek,
Speaker 1: from the nose, kiss on the forehead, which activates Yeah,
Speaker 1: isn't it? It's so beautiful and this, you know, shows
Speaker 1: it gives us a sense of security, feel nurtured. It
Speaker 1: indicates a level of emotional and physical intimacy, and it
Speaker 1: shows you that yes, you know, they think your heart
Speaker 1: potentially depending on how close your groins are, you know,
Speaker 1: that's really important. You could just be platonic as well,
Speaker 1: but so that you know that they that did there
Speaker 1: for you, and when we're talking about relationships, that's that's
Speaker 1: just as important as the hot stuff, right. So you
Speaker 1: have a twelve lesson video of how to be an
Speaker 1: Amazing Kisser on your website, loves the Destination dot com.
Speaker 1: I guess my question is kissing is hard sometimes, especially
Speaker 1: as guys, we sometimes maybe I think that the girl
Speaker 1: will like it or don't like it, and then we
Speaker 1: get insecure and then we overcompensate. So is it really
Speaker 1: can you tell a lot in a relationship by the
Speaker 1: first kiss, Like with Vanessa's story as an example, Like
Speaker 1: maybe that guy was just like I'm you know, girls
Speaker 1: like this, and like maybe he maybe he didn't mean
Speaker 1: to like put on this vibe that he just wanted
Speaker 1: a physical action, but maybe he was just well I
Speaker 1: don't know what else he did. But this is the
Speaker 1: thing is that you know, and they's a big big
Speaker 1: thing here when we're talking about dating, when we're talking
Speaker 1: about first days, when we're talking about first kisses, there's
Speaker 1: one big thing that gets in the way, and that
Speaker 1: is nerves. When we an expectation, So two big things
Speaker 1: that really stuff us up when we're talking about relationships. So,
Speaker 1: you know, when we're going for that first kiss, obviously
Speaker 1: when we're nervous, it actually affects the amount of for
Speaker 1: lie in our mouths, affects them our ability to actually
Speaker 1: connect with somebody for a start, and it actually can
Speaker 1: affect our ability to kiss like we normally would. You know,
Speaker 1: we're not usually our best self when we're so stressed.
Speaker 1: We can't even remember the person who are about the
Speaker 1: kids and we can't even remember their name. Um. But
Speaker 1: the thing is is there was a study done and
Speaker 1: it found that if you flank the first kiss, almost
Speaker 1: seventy women and nearly sixty of gods won't go there
Speaker 1: again because the kids does. What it does is it
Speaker 1: actually affects us subconsciously our decision whether or not we
Speaker 1: want to go for round two. And that's not always
Speaker 1: because they're a bad kids are. Maybe it was because
Speaker 1: their breath was really bad. Perhaps it was actually their
Speaker 1: genetic compatibility. So kissing actually does information about somebody's genetic
Speaker 1: compatibility as well. And sometimes it's not actually that the
Speaker 1: person was a bad kiss. It's just the fact that
Speaker 1: maybe we wouldn't make good babies, which doesn't mean we
Speaker 1: wouldn't have a good relationship. But you know, have you
Speaker 1: ever been in that situation? I know I have where
Speaker 1: you think somebody is gorgeous and you're so attracted to
Speaker 1: each other you almost can't breathe, and then you go
Speaker 1: and kiss them, and then all of a sudden, it's
Speaker 1: just like, oh, oh god, it's like kissing my brother
Speaker 1: or kissing my sister. Um. And that's because your your
Speaker 1: kiss is letting you know that you're actually just not
Speaker 1: genetically compatiblely said, the first kissing actually really really important. Well,
Speaker 1: so let's say for the listener. For let's say out
Speaker 1: there somewhere in the world, there's a listener listening to
Speaker 1: this right now that just recently experienced the first kiss
Speaker 1: with someone they were so so interested in. It didn't
Speaker 1: go as maybe they had expected it to. What would
Speaker 1: your advice be for follow up with them or next step?
Speaker 1: Do you think that they should maybe given another try?
Speaker 1: Do you think that first kiss is a big enough
Speaker 1: indicator to then cut ties all together? What kind of
Speaker 1: advice would you have for someone in that situation? Yes,
Speaker 1: absolutely give it another try. Definitely do not go missing
Speaker 1: in action. I've had some really funny stories, were not funny,
Speaker 1: heartbreaking stories of people who literally were so mortified by
Speaker 1: the first kiss that they just didn't speak to never again,
Speaker 1: just didn't follow up, fell off the edge of the planet.
Speaker 1: So definitely, the best advice I can give you is,
Speaker 1: you know, humor goes a long way when it comes
Speaker 1: to dating relationships. They are just as nervous as you are.
Speaker 1: And if the first kiss was bad, they're taking as
Speaker 1: much responsibility for it as you are. They're thinking, you know,
Speaker 1: there you go, Let there go. I'm a loser, I'm
Speaker 1: not attractive of such a bad kisser. What have I done?
Speaker 1: And so make you know, make it playful, be lighthearted
Speaker 1: about it. Suggest round two. You might say, gosh, that
Speaker 1: was that was a bit awkward, wasn't it. I think
Speaker 1: I was pretty nervous. Maybe we should have another round. Um,
Speaker 1: but do this to what your body is telling you.
Speaker 1: So if you're it's terrible, it could be terrible because
Speaker 1: you're both felling really anxious, because you're both um feeling awkward,
Speaker 1: or because you really like this person and you're really
Speaker 1: nervous that that's going to affect the kids. Or it
Speaker 1: could be that they're actually just not into you. And
Speaker 1: the way that we tell that is to think about
Speaker 1: sort of you know, flirting one oh one, um, and
Speaker 1: there's a course on body language of attraction if you
Speaker 1: want to name one on that love destination, but flirting
Speaker 1: one oh one. So when we're attracted to someone, we
Speaker 1: have increased proximity, increased eye contact, increased touch, and so
Speaker 1: we would have a lot more you know, holding of
Speaker 1: your gaze, you know, touching your face, getting close to you,
Speaker 1: their their torso orientated towards you, their mouth open, and
Speaker 1: you can't fake a kids. So if you're not into
Speaker 1: a kiss, your lips are cold, hard and definitely not
Speaker 1: moist or plump. But when you're into a kiss, what
Speaker 1: happens is, you know, blood flow increases. We actually get
Speaker 1: blood flow goes to our lips and other parts of
Speaker 1: our body and it actually makes the warm plump and
Speaker 1: increases also saliza and lubricates, and so if somebody is
Speaker 1: into the kiss, then their lips are going to let
Speaker 1: you know. And so there are some signs there that
Speaker 1: will let you know if you if you're not just
Speaker 1: listening to your expectations and hopes and dreams, if this
Speaker 1: person is the love of your life, whether or not
Speaker 1: it was just a bad kiss or whether they just
Speaker 1: maybe not into you, which happens right From an evolutionary perspective,
Speaker 1: what is it about kissing someone that's so arousing for us?
Speaker 1: You know, like why do I get a little tingle
Speaker 1: downstairs when I kissed someone for the first time? What
Speaker 1: is it? What is it about the actual process of
Speaker 1: doing yes? And you know, kissing actually sends out neural
Speaker 1: networks into overdrive. It actually releases serotonin and dopamine or
Speaker 1: a pine front and or a stellar mine. It actually
Speaker 1: sends us on an obsessive pie. That's why you can
Speaker 1: sometimes kiss somebody who you have this insane attraction to
Speaker 1: and then you cannot get them out of your head.
Speaker 1: It literally on cloud nine. So we have an incredible
Speaker 1: amount of nerve endings dedicated to our and a lot
Speaker 1: of these nerve ending same as with our fuehead samers.
Speaker 1: With the ear there there are biggest de Roginus zone.
Speaker 1: So obviously when where the somebody who's if if if
Speaker 1: your ears are on a Roginus zone and somebody who's
Speaker 1: kicking your ears or lips which are definitely on a
Speaker 1: roginous zone obviously that you know, this is all part
Speaker 1: of arousal that stimulates us in other areas as well. Um,
Speaker 1: how can I say, well you? So you also spoke
Speaker 1: about body language, and I don't know what the percentages.
Speaker 1: I think it's like really high. Our communication is through
Speaker 1: body language, nonverbal communication. So for the body language, but
Speaker 1: then we also have facial expressions and paral language. So
Speaker 1: in actual fact, the amount of our communication that's non
Speaker 1: veriable is much closer to the body language is one aspect,
Speaker 1: but we've also got our face, and then we've got
Speaker 1: the way we speak so curly, which is our speed,
Speaker 1: our tone, our pitch. So you could say you know,
Speaker 1: I love you and in other words get lost I
Speaker 1: talking to you today, or you could say I love you,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't mean the same thing, right, So it's
Speaker 1: not actually the words we're using, it's our nonverbal communication
Speaker 1: that loads that we're meaning. Um, in terms of courtship befo,
Speaker 1: we're talking about love and attraction. Then it's even higher
Speaker 1: because we have a part of our brain that's actually
Speaker 1: dedicated two courtship seas notts and I'm sorry, So we
Speaker 1: have a part of our brain that's actually dedicated to
Speaker 1: understanding courtship signals or mating because obviously finding a mate
Speaker 1: from an evolutionary perspective is pretty important. UM. And so
Speaker 1: when we're talking about courtship, when we're talking about dating,
Speaker 1: which we're talking about obviously relationships, communication comes much more
Speaker 1: into it. But if we're talking about attraction, it's very
Speaker 1: much near be all about nonverbal communication right at the beginning.
Speaker 1: Oh well, yeah, totally touched case eye contact. Like you said,
Speaker 1: it's all about nonverbal communication, especially at the beginning, because
Speaker 1: you're too scared to actually articulate how you actually feel.
Speaker 1: And so, and you know, the thing is is what
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't realize that our bodies shoot
Speaker 1: out over ten thousand stimulize a non verbal stimula during
Speaker 1: every interaction that actually you reveal not what we're thinking,
Speaker 1: because you know what it reveals our emotions or negative
Speaker 1: emotion or positive emotion, or how we're feeling. Um, that
Speaker 1: actually reveal how we're feeling. But a lot of the
Speaker 1: time body language or nonverbal communication is actually misinterpreted because
Speaker 1: our we all have we all come from different experiences
Speaker 1: different Um, we all have different hopes, dreams and expectations
Speaker 1: and Also, the closer you are emotionally to somebody, the
Speaker 1: less likely it is you believe it or not that
Speaker 1: that in some cases you'll be able to accurately eat
Speaker 1: their body language, particularly if they are aligned, because you're
Speaker 1: actually really home to the outcome. You know, you believe
Speaker 1: the reality is we you know body languages. Non Verbal
Speaker 1: communication is our first language. It's how we communicate when
Speaker 1: we babies right, how we get love and affection. Um
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Speaker 1: can what advice can you give them? UM to communicate
Speaker 1: more with their body language, like I know when I
Speaker 1: was working UM at one point I had my arms
Speaker 1: crossed and my manager was like, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: Make sure your arms to the side so you're welcoming. Um. So,
Speaker 1: for someone who's at a borrow or at an event,
Speaker 1: how should they stand or what should their facial expressions
Speaker 1: be like in order to attract you know, a significant
Speaker 1: other or someone they would like to date. Absolutely, the
Speaker 1: best advice I think is anyone is often we think
Speaker 1: of non our body language or nonverbal communications from our perspective.
Speaker 1: I feel comfortable crossing my arms and I deal with
Speaker 1: my friends and so there's nothing wrong with it. What
Speaker 1: we need to do is flip it around. The reality
Speaker 1: is most people, particularly in the dating scene, if they're
Speaker 1: out there and they're actively looking for a hook up
Speaker 1: or love or whatever they're looking for, are going to
Speaker 1: feel nervous. They're going to feel intimidated approaching you, just
Speaker 1: like we do when we see someone we're attracted to.
Speaker 1: If you're single, they're going to feel the same way.
Speaker 1: So the key to attraction, the key to being liked,
Speaker 1: is actually we like people who like us. We also
Speaker 1: like people who we see more often, and even if
Speaker 1: it's three times in the space of half an hour.
Speaker 1: Of research shows that we will be more likely to
Speaker 1: give that person yet or go on a date with them.
Speaker 1: So my first thing advice is to do a non
Speaker 1: verbal check of your body language. Ask yourself the question,
Speaker 1: would I approach me? Do I look open, friendly and approachable?
Speaker 1: If I was having a crap day? Would I look
Speaker 1: at me and think that's a safe person. If the
Speaker 1: answer is no, uncrossed your arms, uncrossed, your legs, scan
Speaker 1: the room, make eye contact and smile and straight away
Speaker 1: what you're sending out to people, remember the nonverbal the kids,
Speaker 1: we send out ten thous stimuli that reveal what we're
Speaker 1: really feeling. Your non verbal communication is going to say
Speaker 1: I'm a safe and approachable So that's my my first
Speaker 1: um thing it's about It's actually about the other person.
Speaker 1: It's not about you, and realize that you know, we
Speaker 1: all feel as they were the only person sometimes you
Speaker 1: feel is nervous, the only person who feels like we've
Speaker 1: got nothing to say, or feels like a bit of
Speaker 1: a loser. But you know, stranger anxiety is part of
Speaker 1: the human condition. We all we're pretty wide to feel
Speaker 1: that way. It keeps us safe when their baby is
Speaker 1: not necessarily as adults. Another thing that I would say
Speaker 1: in terms of the familiarity effected. If you were the bar,
Speaker 1: it's just say three times, so walk not past that
Speaker 1: person to bump into them three times, but sort of
Speaker 1: just walk past them. You know, you might to go
Speaker 1: into a drink and then maybe walk past them to
Speaker 1: go to the bathroom and just smile and make eye
Speaker 1: contact if you walk past three times, and that's going
Speaker 1: to increase the um the likelihood that they would be
Speaker 1: more open to at least talking to you. I used
Speaker 1: to do that all the time when I be at bars.
Speaker 1: I would just if I saw a girl that I
Speaker 1: was attracted and I wanted to say hi, instead of
Speaker 1: actually just going up, I would always make sure that
Speaker 1: I was walking past them and try to make eye contact,
Speaker 1: you know, just to break the ice a little bit
Speaker 1: and hopefully it would be like a more natural meaning
Speaker 1: instead of me coming up. But Katillo, we really appreciate
Speaker 1: you coming on now. I don't want to mispronounce your name.
Speaker 1: I'm terrible with names. Katia, Catty, I think Katia, And
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Speaker 1: am I pronouncing that right? Perfect pronunciation? They are perfect good.
Speaker 1: I always get self conscious about that, but we really
Speaker 1: appreciate you joining us. Guys. Go check out Love Destination.
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Thank you very much, love chatting
Speaker 1: to Okay, I'm going to try this one more time,
Speaker 1: Katia ka no no no, katais he talked about We
Speaker 1: talked about language last week's podcast when we were talking
Speaker 1: about man escaping. Just a little a little less bit
Speaker 1: of hair can really add to yourself confidence is in
Speaker 1: your body language because you work around with your shoulders
Speaker 1: back very confident. When he was saying that name, I
Speaker 1: just want you to know that Jared standing up here
Speaker 1: shoulders back, like I speak too languages. I speak English
Speaker 1: and bad English. So when I need to pronounce a name,
Speaker 1: which I am terrible at name, am I? Oh and
Speaker 1: I got Katia Lewis said. Lois said, am I saying
Speaker 1: that properly? There you go. I like that you guys
Speaker 1: should stop Dan, maybe you should it in Yeah, exactly
Speaker 1: in Your body language is really poor. Right now. Your
Speaker 1: legs are crossed, your arms are crossed, because it's early
Speaker 1: for you. He's not making eyes in the morning. I
Speaker 1: guess it's pretty early. Do you guys think you have
Speaker 1: bad body language? Um? I think I have bad body language.
Speaker 1: When I'm at a dinner and it's a really loud environment,
Speaker 1: I tend to lean really close to the table um,
Speaker 1: and I'm like crouched over, so I'm like into a
Speaker 1: small little ball, and I'm not like open and like
Speaker 1: it doesn't look like I'm sitting confidently. I'm like like
Speaker 1: a little ball leaning towards a person trying to hear
Speaker 1: what they're trying to say. See for me, I feel
Speaker 1: like I have awful bad body language. Usually all the time.
Speaker 1: My legs are always crossed and my arms are always crossed.
Speaker 1: I don't know why, but I've noticed that more and
Speaker 1: more because people call me out on it because they
Speaker 1: just feel like I'm a little cold and it's not
Speaker 1: that it's just maybe it's just a comfort thing. But
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I need to work on it.
Speaker 1: There's oh sorry, because I studied this body language in university.
Speaker 1: About body language on love destination dot com, it wasn't,
Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure she does talk about this. Katia
Speaker 1: laise L talks about this on her website. Pay attention
Speaker 1: to where your hips are being pointed towards. So if
Speaker 1: let's say you're on a date with someone, but your
Speaker 1: hips are pointed towards like the other direction and not
Speaker 1: towards them. If I'm like driving to the basket the
Speaker 1: hoop and basketball, like, where you are pointed No, So
Speaker 1: like let's say right now, I can't see you, guys,
Speaker 1: I can't see where your hips are. But like let's say,
Speaker 1: if you're talking to Dean, if your hips aren't towards Dean,
Speaker 1: that means your interest isn't towards Dean, it's you're not
Speaker 1: paying full attention to Dean. And I've paid attention to that.
Speaker 1: When I'm on a date with someone, I'm in a
Speaker 1: relationship now, But when I was on a date with people,
Speaker 1: um my hips were if they were like pointing towards
Speaker 1: another direction and not towards the person I was on
Speaker 1: a date with, I was like, yeah, now, either I'm uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: or he's making me uncomfortable, or I'm just not into him.
Speaker 1: There's a Last week I talked about Jordan Peterson, that
Speaker 1: clinical size psychologist. He wrote a book and the first
Speaker 1: chapter is titled Stand Up Straight with Your Shoulders Back,
Speaker 1: and he talks about his obsession with the lobsters and
Speaker 1: how when lobsters fight each other, the winning lobster like
Speaker 1: puffs is, you know, quote unquote shoulders lobster shoulders back,
Speaker 1: and the losing lobster like kind of shrinks into a
Speaker 1: little ball, and how the winning lobster gets like a
Speaker 1: rush of serotonin and then it walks around and like
Speaker 1: basically shows up to the other lobsters that have just
Speaker 1: won the fight, and how humans are derivative of lobsters
Speaker 1: a third of a billion years ago, and how we
Speaker 1: basically act the same way. And how if you basically
Speaker 1: pretend to be the lobster that won the fight all
Speaker 1: the time and like walk around with your shoulders back
Speaker 1: which has puffed out, people respond to you in a
Speaker 1: way that's going to be more beneficial for you together
Speaker 1: things that you want. Two things going to mind with
Speaker 1: that one. I agree with that wholeheartedly, because when you
Speaker 1: think about people who just naturally act confident, aren't you
Speaker 1: drawn to them immediately and already approached them differently than
Speaker 1: you would somebody that you feel equal to. Like a
Speaker 1: good example is you know in the you know, on
Speaker 1: the show, if somebody's walking around with their shoulders back
Speaker 1: and confident, I would always be super intimidated by those
Speaker 1: people because I just immediately think that they're just, you know,
Speaker 1: a better human than me. Um. And then secondly, I
Speaker 1: went to the beach the other day, I had some
Speaker 1: lots of shoulders you know what for you? You were
Speaker 1: looking Tann, I was wondering why you're looking so tan.
Speaker 1: I wanted to say that I'm just so full of
Speaker 1: dad jokes. Eastern, I feel like you're full of dad jokes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I am. Do you want me to Yeah? I want
Speaker 1: one right now. I want a dad joke from Eastern Uh.
Speaker 1: We should take a break. That's a good dad joke
Speaker 1: right there. We'll be back in a second. See how
Speaker 1: this is thing, guys. All right, let's jump into a
Speaker 1: couple of listener emails. UM. I listened back to our
Speaker 1: podcast last week where I read the listener email from
Speaker 1: Ben for Ben, and I was like, Wow, you have
Speaker 1: the reading ability of a literal six year old. I'm
Speaker 1: going to try to better myself this time around. This
Speaker 1: email is from Caitlin. She says, perfect on paper, but
Speaker 1: no chemistry, and I'm gonna try and be a storyteller
Speaker 1: with this one like Mark does. Perhaps. Caitlin says, I'm
Speaker 1: twenty four and I just want that person that's my buddy,
Speaker 1: my friend, and my go to shut You're messing up
Speaker 1: the flows. Oh my god, I can't believe you. Just
Speaker 1: do you want to start over? I'm a relationship person.
Speaker 1: I like being able to take care of someone else.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's what I was put on this
Speaker 1: earth to do. I keep finding these guys that are
Speaker 1: perfect on paper and are willing to give me everything
Speaker 1: I want, but I just don't feel the emotional connection.
Speaker 1: Am I crazy? I want the passion and the love,
Speaker 1: So should I? I want? I want the passion and
Speaker 1: the love. So should I be giving more to these
Speaker 1: people paper perfect guys and hope the connection to develop? Okay,
Speaker 1: it's not my fault. This is just written it weirdly.
Speaker 1: Or do I wait for someone that sets my soul
Speaker 1: on fire but maybe not be as paper perfect girl? Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: you got plenty of time. Yeah you got plenty of time.
Speaker 1: I made. I had time to fall love a couple
Speaker 1: of times, then go on the Bachelor, get engaged, and
Speaker 1: then break up and now be in a relationship at
Speaker 1: thirty one. So I think, I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys can relate to this. I think, um, when you
Speaker 1: I think, at the end of the day, you need
Speaker 1: to make sure what you value in a significant other
Speaker 1: and in a partner, and if the connection is there,
Speaker 1: then that's great. But if all you're looking for is
Speaker 1: really what's on paper, like unicorns don't exist and you're
Speaker 1: not going to find someone that meets all the criteria
Speaker 1: that you have listed. So I think you know, make
Speaker 1: sure you have like your top three top five things
Speaker 1: that you wanted a partner, and you want to have
Speaker 1: that bond, you want to be able to like you know,
Speaker 1: that fire that makes you want to kiss them and
Speaker 1: make out with them and do stuff with them. So
Speaker 1: let me ask you. Let me ask you this question, Caitlin,
Speaker 1: are you perfect on paper? If you're not perfect on paper?
Speaker 1: Because I bet I'm willing to be but her version
Speaker 1: of paper, but her version of perfect. I'm willing to
Speaker 1: bet that these guys aren't perfectly at the point. But
Speaker 1: just saying exactly, make sure your house is in order
Speaker 1: before you criticize someone else. Like so, So, for instance,
Speaker 1: if Caitlin is looking for this ideal sociological image of
Speaker 1: someone that she wants to date, but in reality she
Speaker 1: doesn't reflect that in her own life, then that's why
Speaker 1: it's not working out. Is because just because you are
Speaker 1: seeking the things that you think are going to make
Speaker 1: a good partner, not but not what necessarily makes a
Speaker 1: good partner for you. I think there's a difference. There's
Speaker 1: a huge difference you have to find because if there's
Speaker 1: no emotional connection, then obviously it's not the person for you.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's just pretty generic and obvious. I feel like.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a lot of people that, even in
Speaker 1: my own life when I was single in my twenties,
Speaker 1: that it was like, oh, they check off this. They're perfect,
Speaker 1: they're nice, they're sweet, they're beautiful. But for some reason,
Speaker 1: I just don't picture my life with them. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean there's anything wrong with them or wrong with me,
Speaker 1: it just hasn't worked out. And so don't look for
Speaker 1: anything perfect on paper. Just look for something that's perfect
Speaker 1: for you, and saying that includes an emotional connection. And
Speaker 1: so her last sentence, her last question that email was
Speaker 1: do I wait for someone that sets my soul on
Speaker 1: fire but maybe it's not perfect on paper? My response yes,
Speaker 1: My response is yes, wait for that person that ignites
Speaker 1: the fire inside of your belly and makes you want
Speaker 1: to be around them all the time. Um, and they're
Speaker 1: not preventing people. You guys will figure out together. And
Speaker 1: I think that's kind of the beauty of being in
Speaker 1: a relationship exactly. I like that answered, Dean. Thank you, Vanessa.
Speaker 1: I think you're ready for a relationship now after that
Speaker 1: one answer, I'm ready. Now, all right, you guys, I'm
Speaker 1: going to do another email. Is that okay? Lets someone
Speaker 1: else wants to jump in. You want me to read it?
Speaker 1: I mean I can read it too. No no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no no no no, no no no. This has
Speaker 1: helped I sucker dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared. Not Dean, Vanessa,
Speaker 1: Jared and Easton. Okay, I actually don't. I actually have
Speaker 1: a saucy now. God, I know, I'm just kidding east
Speaker 1: and read it please, Well okay, I don't have it.
Speaker 1: I'm not prepared. Do you want me to read it?
Speaker 1: I got it, I have it now. And also I'm
Speaker 1: standing up. Why doesn't anyone want me to read it?
Speaker 1: With your shoulders back? Vanessa, your your your addiction is
Speaker 1: too good. That's the problem. Yeah, you're watching her addiction
Speaker 1: dition the Three Idiots in the Studio days from yea
Speaker 1: to Yeah. Tori is way too smart for us too.
Speaker 1: This is from Tyler. Uh. He wants to know is
Speaker 1: she into me? I have recently started going on dates
Speaker 1: with a girl I used to work with for a year.
Speaker 1: She and I have had a lot of fun going out.
Speaker 1: We've been on four dates, but I find that she
Speaker 1: is not the best in initiating text conversations and well,
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, disappear and not get back to
Speaker 1: me until I initiate a new conversation with her. She
Speaker 1: also hasn't set up any of our outings. I think
Speaker 1: I've an answered for this guy already. She recently told
Speaker 1: me she has an anxiety problem, so I'm mainly talking
Speaker 1: up to that. Obviously, we just started going out. But
Speaker 1: is this a red flag? Second, I received four tickets
Speaker 1: to a sports game. I want to ask her to
Speaker 1: come with me and my friends, but I'm also worried
Speaker 1: about my one friend not going and training into a
Speaker 1: third wheel situation. I've been seeing her since the end
Speaker 1: of March. I don't really know how long enough, how long?
Speaker 1: How long is enough time before introducing her to my friends?
Speaker 1: Is it too early for her to meet my friends?
Speaker 1: So there's a couple of questions here? Uh, I mean,
Speaker 1: I let you guys take you said, there's a couple
Speaker 1: of questions there. We were all all lovated breath to
Speaker 1: see what Easton's questions were. No, I mean his tyler's questions.
Speaker 1: Is she into me? Is it too early for her
Speaker 1: to meet his friends? Well, here's the thing. They've been
Speaker 1: on a few dates, but what is the what is
Speaker 1: the relationship? Like, is it going somewhere? Have they hung
Speaker 1: out only as friends thus far and haven't kissed. There's
Speaker 1: a lot of information that's left out here that is
Speaker 1: very pivotal to what he should do moving forward. I
Speaker 1: still think that he should invite her to the game.
Speaker 1: Well what was your take on it? Because you interrupted
Speaker 1: yourself at one point and said, I think I know
Speaker 1: what's going on. I don't think she's into him. I agree, Well,
Speaker 1: hold on, but after once you said that she recently
Speaker 1: told me that she has an anxiety. No, it's not
Speaker 1: I have anxiety, and I know what it's like that
Speaker 1: she's dating another guy that's getting more serious than this guy.
Speaker 1: I also think that if that hey bold prediction, and
Speaker 1: you're painting a picture in your head right now, Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is turning into Dean's own little room. Sorry, someone,
Speaker 1: someone can't just sugarcoat everything for Tyler through his life.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm telling Tyler right now if he if
Speaker 1: he if he likes her and he wants to keep
Speaker 1: hanging out with her, my suggestion to him, because she
Speaker 1: doesn't seem to be initiating text conversations. I've been there before.
Speaker 1: I think we could all say we've been there before have.
Speaker 1: My advice for him is to not necessarily text her
Speaker 1: about innocuous, unimportant things. But whenever you text her, have
Speaker 1: purpose with your texting and be like, hey, um, what
Speaker 1: are you doing Wednesday evening or Wednesday morning for brunch?
Speaker 1: Like let's get a coffee like that type of stuff,
Speaker 1: to always encourage some sort of like resolution, some sort
Speaker 1: of not necessarily a date, but like, let's get somewhere
Speaker 1: with this conversation we're gonna have. And I think that
Speaker 1: will allow you guys to build a level of trust
Speaker 1: and then maybe if she does actually have anxiety, which
Speaker 1: hopefully that's only the case, then that those walls can
Speaker 1: continuously get broken down until um, you know, you guys
Speaker 1: are able to be on the level of comfortability. I
Speaker 1: to Easton's point, it sounds like she's not that into you,
Speaker 1: But that's not to say that after enough time she
Speaker 1: won't be into you, you know. But I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: just don't don't fade away into being like every other
Speaker 1: guy out there that texts hey, what's up exactly? That
Speaker 1: type of stuff. It doesn't get you anywhere. It never
Speaker 1: will get you anywhere. Text with purpose and try and
Speaker 1: set something up in my opinion, I like that because
Speaker 1: some girls just want to be pursued and really pursued.
Speaker 1: I mean they've gone out four times, so she's clearly
Speaker 1: saying yes exactly, I mean, ask her out again. And
Speaker 1: I think I agree invited to the game. Even if
Speaker 1: your buddies third wheeling, like he's at a game, he'll
Speaker 1: be fine. I fully agree with that too. I think
Speaker 1: that you should definitely invite her to the game, invite
Speaker 1: your buddy to the game, your other one like flake, Sure,
Speaker 1: that's fine, but don't worry about your buddy being a
Speaker 1: third wheel. I mean, if she flakes, then it's like,
Speaker 1: all right, then there's your answer, right, I doubt you would.
Speaker 1: And honestly, like if this kid is your if the
Speaker 1: other friend is actually your friend, he would have no
Speaker 1: issue third wheeling. Like if one of my buddies gaming
Speaker 1: he was like, Hey, I really like this girl. I
Speaker 1: just don't want it to be just me and hurt
Speaker 1: the game. Will you come with me? I'd be like absolutely, yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: And then hopefully your friend is just savvy enough to
Speaker 1: understand like when he should be there, when he should
Speaker 1: not be there, and things of that nature. But then
Speaker 1: definitely when you're inviting her, tell her that you're going
Speaker 1: to a game with a couple of friends and you
Speaker 1: have an extra ticket and you want her to come,
Speaker 1: so she's not thinking it's a and it takes a
Speaker 1: lot of the pressure off of it too, totally because
Speaker 1: it's more of a hangout than an actual one on
Speaker 1: one day. Yeah, well, hope that it helps you, Tyler.
Speaker 1: Some great advice. Guys. Yeah, we know, you know, we tried.
Speaker 1: Every once in a while. Even a blind squirrel finds
Speaker 1: it not every two days three days that an expression,
Speaker 1: not the two or three days. I'll tell you that much.
Speaker 1: Even a broken squirrel is right twice a day. But
Speaker 1: it has to be your squirrel. Yeah, sure, I'm coming
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Speaker 1: special guest from the Jersey Shore. We're not going to
Speaker 1: tell you who he is. Yet, but we've already said it. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we have a very special guest, Vinny from The
Speaker 1: Jersey Shore. You from what two eleven, two seventeen or
Speaker 1: something like that, more than two and nine, I think
Speaker 1: two thousand thirteen. Well, because they had multiple seasons in
Speaker 1: one year a lot of times, and they did six
Speaker 1: seasons at Jersey Shore because I've watched. And then they
Speaker 1: did two seasons of The Jersey Shore Family Reunion, which
Speaker 1: just aired. And now Vinnie and Poldie are on a
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Speaker 1: You really made me pause there because I was looking
Speaker 1: at it and it said Vanessa and you're like, and
Speaker 1: the code is and I was like, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: dart the right page? Is it deep or something like that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: we kind of promoted you as one of the most
Speaker 1: famous reality stars in the history of television because we
Speaker 1: said it's the Kardashians and then pretty much the entire
Speaker 1: cast Shore. So, Vinnie, I'm gonna what's your last name?
Speaker 1: Bro Nigy is here, but just so you know, it's
Speaker 1: Guadono Guaddnino. I've heard you pronounced it probably five times
Speaker 1: between the shot at Love and Jersey Shore, and I
Speaker 1: don't get it. I'm terrible Italian, right, yes, Okay, I
Speaker 1: guys gonna say, I don't think it gets more Italian
Speaker 1: than that Sicilian. Yeah, yeah, your your mother was born
Speaker 1: in Sicily? Right? Yes, Si, my mother was born in Sicily.
Speaker 1: Wait what you mean? No, that's like a whole level
Speaker 1: of Italian. But I'm not far from Vanessa. You and
Speaker 1: Vinnia met before. Yeah, ob usually what happened there? Because
Speaker 1: you're Italian, he's Italian, and obviously that makes it a
Speaker 1: match made in heaven. So it was. I was in
Speaker 1: New York for Jessica, so it was really wild. It
Speaker 1: was Jersey Shore, Bachelor and Big Brother like collided into
Speaker 1: one dinner. I was there for Jessica Graff's wedding dress
Speaker 1: shopping event, and um, I think Vinny your agent or
Speaker 1: someone knows my agent. I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 1: How are you telling the truth here? Oh wait, what
Speaker 1: is the truth? I don't know where we messaging each
Speaker 1: other or something. And then I like, not in a
Speaker 1: creepy way, but I was like on Twitter, you guys
Speaker 1: want to go to dinner, I'll have my people set
Speaker 1: you up. So I set them all up. I said,
Speaker 1: like all the I didn't know who was gonna be coming.
Speaker 1: She came with a gaggle of bachelorette and then it
Speaker 1: was just like setting them up for dinner and it's
Speaker 1: hanging out and it's like network I like networking and
Speaker 1: taking care of people and meeting people like that. And
Speaker 1: it always liked Vanessa too, obviously, you know, and Italian.
Speaker 1: I like her whole like thing, you know, like her
Speaker 1: whole person, like the Italian And I love girls from
Speaker 1: Montreal to Montreal is my favorite city. Canadian girls on
Speaker 1: Double Shot. I love no, But if there was, she
Speaker 1: would have been to run her up. I love it,
Speaker 1: you said, already, being honest, right now, Yeah we're gonna yeah, alright,
Speaker 1: so you are on Double Shot. I love you and
Speaker 1: your boy Polly. I've been keeping up with the season
Speaker 1: so far. It's Dean. I was your biggest fan, and
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I remember when you tweeted at
Speaker 1: him during his season of Paradise. I don't think I
Speaker 1: ever got more jealous of another Bachelor contestant from that
Speaker 1: moment because I was a big Jersey Shore fan. But
Speaker 1: were you on it? Did I ever see you on it?
Speaker 1: Because I watched for like four seasons in a row.
Speaker 1: I was on The Bachelorette with Nick and I don't
Speaker 1: think you started watching until he was the Batchel after
Speaker 1: Paradise Is and stuff. Yeah, even through Paradise man, I
Speaker 1: appreciate the support, dude. I loved it. It was great.
Speaker 1: I was a big fan and now I'm a big
Speaker 1: fan of Well. I stopped watching it because it was
Speaker 1: competition to my show, So I was like, I can't like, um,
Speaker 1: I mean even Jersey Shore, Like I'm not gonna because
Speaker 1: like when I was tweeting The Bachelor, it was like
Speaker 1: a huge thing, like I was getting booked on jobs
Speaker 1: and stuff, like it was becoming my whole world, you know,
Speaker 1: and um, then like you know, I'm not. It's like
Speaker 1: it was almost like I had ownership in the show.
Speaker 1: But now Jersey Shore came back and that's the show
Speaker 1: I'm really tweeting and stuff. I'm still a fan though,
Speaker 1: but I also didn't have time. I was always filming
Speaker 1: the show and stay you're a busy guy. I heard
Speaker 1: it sucked when I stopped watching it, though, I was
Speaker 1: like ari or something. Sorry that your boy. As soon
Speaker 1: as you saw tweeting just went. So you have a
Speaker 1: lot of power people. Is that is that where the
Speaker 1: idea for a Double Shot at Love? Kind of I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously it's a very Bachelor asking the sense. So our
Speaker 1: executive producer used to was like the first show runner
Speaker 1: on The Bachelor, so you know what the show runners are,
Speaker 1: they're like the executive producers pretty much like there's like
Speaker 1: the guy in charge, but then the ones running the
Speaker 1: whole thing on the on the ground. She did like
Speaker 1: a bunch, like a lot, maybe a decade of The
Speaker 1: Bachelor from the from the beginning. Then she did a
Speaker 1: show called, um, a Shot of Love with Tila Tequila. Yeah, together,
Speaker 1: a huge show with the freaking there was two girls
Speaker 1: and guys on. But that was a shot at Love.
Speaker 1: Then they did another season called a Double Shot at
Speaker 1: Love with these two twin sisters bisexual twin sisters. Um,
Speaker 1: So that was kind of like I don't want to
Speaker 1: say like a reboot because it has the same title,
Speaker 1: but it's a different show with me and Polly, but
Speaker 1: it's the same producer, so she's from that world and
Speaker 1: you know it's me and Polly, like needed a dating show,
Speaker 1: you needed it just needed to happen, right like our
Speaker 1: show in general, But like dating is our element. The
Speaker 1: most compelling part of Jergy Shore for me. I mean
Speaker 1: I love the entire show, in the entire cast, but
Speaker 1: for me, it was when you guys would be going
Speaker 1: out to the club and it would be poly d
Speaker 1: and you and then you know, if single Ronnie was there,
Speaker 1: that was great too. Sometimes yeah, sometimes, um. And so
Speaker 1: it just when I first saw the promotion for this
Speaker 1: and you guys are up there with like the Italian
Speaker 1: flag roses and you said, will you accept these bros?
Speaker 1: I was like, just just take my money, like I
Speaker 1: need to. I'm watching, I'm watching. I always describe it
Speaker 1: like it's almost like, um, you know, Bachelor is like
Speaker 1: Filet mignon. It's beautiful, it's you know. And then but
Speaker 1: every once in a while, people want a little bit
Speaker 1: of fast food, you know, they want to like just
Speaker 1: give me some pizza. And that's what Double Shot of
Speaker 1: Love is. It's like the pizza of the Bachelor world,
Speaker 1: where it's like a little informal, a little ratchet. Um,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter whether it's hot, whether it's cold, You're
Speaker 1: still gonna love it anyway. Yeah, look at it. Look
Speaker 1: at the host Pauli and me like because people always
Speaker 1: Like when I used to tweet The Bachelor, they were like,
Speaker 1: would you ever be the Bachelor? I'm like, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't look like these guys. You guys are beautiful.
Speaker 1: You guys are you guys are like hot? You know? No,
Speaker 1: I wanted to like blushing in front of me and
Speaker 1: like and like I'm like maybe one day I'll have
Speaker 1: my own, like weird, wacky version of the Bachelor. And
Speaker 1: here do you guys use the tanning bed? No, we
Speaker 1: don't use this. It's just for a problem. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: just it's just for a problem. Like when the girls
Speaker 1: first walked in the house, they didn't know who the
Speaker 1: celebrity was going to be, because no, like that was
Speaker 1: part of the thing. Well they didn't. They signed up
Speaker 1: for a show not knowing who the celebrity was because
Speaker 1: The Bachelor. That was actually kind of hard for us too,
Speaker 1: because um, on The Bachelor now they don't always know
Speaker 1: who it's going to be. But it wasn't always like that,
Speaker 1: right right, I think your first day of filming would
Speaker 1: be the day that you found out who it was.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it always like sometimes they wouldn't
Speaker 1: announce it until they already have the cast like in
Speaker 1: Los Angeles ready to go, and then they would announced
Speaker 1: it so they wouldn't hear it. So I guess, yeah,
Speaker 1: the first day filming would be when they find out
Speaker 1: who it's going to be. Most of the time now
Speaker 1: though they know ahead of time because they'll do like
Speaker 1: the yeah, and they're like, I'm so excited because Colton's
Speaker 1: the Bachelor and I only wanted it to be you see,
Speaker 1: And like, I don't know if that's good or bad
Speaker 1: because we want of course I would like that because
Speaker 1: all the women are there for me, you know. But
Speaker 1: at the same time, you know, are they there for
Speaker 1: me because they like there? Are they just fans? You know?
Speaker 1: That's what we had to figure out. So I watched
Speaker 1: episode four yesterday, Um, we see some connections coming with
Speaker 1: the girls. How many episodes are there total in the season?
Speaker 1: Probably around like fourteen or something. And are you in
Speaker 1: a relationship now? Can't say you're really asking me that?
Speaker 1: Come on, give us something here. Nope, I will say
Speaker 1: my two favorite frontwners for you are Zuli and Maria.
Speaker 1: I like Maria too interesting, not Nikki. Well, no, I
Speaker 1: do like nick What a lot of people gotta understand though,
Speaker 1: is like and you watch these shows and it's like
Speaker 1: one episode in someone gets like a little bit of
Speaker 1: camera time and stuff, and all of a sudden, they're like,
Speaker 1: that's the one. That's the one. I'm like, guys, there's
Speaker 1: like fourteen other episodes. Or we're like, okay, so does
Speaker 1: anyone come in halfway through the season that's not already
Speaker 1: part of the cast, Like do they add in another
Speaker 1: woman to add drama? Um? I can't. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: say that. You can only tell us this is there
Speaker 1: another what we see a guest appearance from another Jersey
Speaker 1: store members in the trailer. They all come, um, can
Speaker 1: you explain what it means to people? Chute? Um? Well, okay,
Speaker 1: so chuote used to be I don't know where like
Speaker 1: it really came from, but they used to say it
Speaker 1: on the Sopranos. Um it's like an Italian kind of
Speaker 1: slang for like an idiot or just like you're like,
Speaker 1: I don't know, like this guy's that I can't explain
Speaker 1: it a backla like yeah, like you you could just
Speaker 1: mean anything like you. Polly calls me that because I'm
Speaker 1: kind of a nerd, So like if I, like, you know,
Speaker 1: go to like clean my glasses or something. It's like,
Speaker 1: you're a cute you know. Um. It's like a way
Speaker 1: of saying like you're a nerd, you're NITTI eat or
Speaker 1: or whatever. Um. But then Paul like it's such a
Speaker 1: Sopranos fan and Polly is like a walking sound machine.
Speaker 1: Anything he says becomes like part of the vernacular. It
Speaker 1: becomes like a thing. So he started saying it on
Speaker 1: Jersey Shore and stuff, and now it's like everyone's saying it.
Speaker 1: Now it's a thing. So yeah, I don't have that power.
Speaker 1: I have like a very low, like calm voice and stuff.
Speaker 1: Like we have an ongoing joke that when I say something,
Speaker 1: nobody laughs. And then Paul says it the next second
Speaker 1: and people die because he says it with like conviction
Speaker 1: and louder like writer. You know. Yeah, You're like, you're
Speaker 1: just you're so cute. He really is just this because
Speaker 1: we're on some sh a mislove connection. I feel like
Speaker 1: you really would have been well, you know what it is.
Speaker 1: Vanessa is like you know, she's like wifey, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. And at the time when I met her, Um,
Speaker 1: I wasn't like on thee time, you know, you're looking
Speaker 1: for your guid at was that well, no, because that
Speaker 1: could be wife too. That just make that Yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: They're also staten iron girls, which are not. But you
Speaker 1: ever you ever been in that position where you're, you know,
Speaker 1: playing the field and then you meet like an amazing
Speaker 1: girl or something You're just like, I'm not ready for that,
Speaker 1: Like she's too. That was my life for thirty years, Vinny. Yeah,
Speaker 1: tell you I get a little ratchet or something. Trust me,
Speaker 1: I have been, but I've refined myself. But I wanted
Speaker 1: to say, like you're you're you have like such a
Speaker 1: presence about You're just like you You're You're You're nice,
Speaker 1: You're you have like this nice calming aura. Um. So
Speaker 1: it was funny. It was nice to see how like
Speaker 1: you went from Jersey Shore to now doing Double Shot
Speaker 1: at Love and I'm like Chippin Dale's like I couldn't, Like,
Speaker 1: I feel like you're a shy, Like you're you're more
Speaker 1: on the shy side. How does that happen? Well, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm a scorpio. I don't know if that means it's
Speaker 1: nice for a moment anyway. So like I've always been
Speaker 1: like I'm quiet and introverted, but like I'm also ratchet
Speaker 1: as hell, like I love like hip hop, I love clubs,
Speaker 1: like I'm on I Got that night. Yes, I'm on
Speaker 1: Jersey Shore. So we're learning more and more here. I'm
Speaker 1: on Jersey Shore for a reason because I have that
Speaker 1: party side to me as well. Um, and then I
Speaker 1: don't know, because like the Keto diet and all this
Speaker 1: other stuff like me being more into health and fitness
Speaker 1: in the last five years, Like I like taking off
Speaker 1: my shirt, and I also love being on stage performing.
Speaker 1: I've always been a performer my whole life, like in
Speaker 1: school plays in high school, as I was the lead
Speaker 1: in the plays. Now Chipping Nails, people think it's like
Speaker 1: a male strip club where they're just like in your
Speaker 1: face kind of thing. But it's a show. It's like
Speaker 1: these guys are talented. It's like a production, and um,
Speaker 1: it's just the best audience that you could be in
Speaker 1: front of. Two It's just like women that I love
Speaker 1: you and you're with him for five weeks five weeks
Speaker 1: and you is it every night you're doing three Friday
Speaker 1: through Sunday. Okay, Jared did one performance for Chippingdale. I
Speaker 1: did a while ago, so you know exactly what I'm
Speaker 1: talking about. Yeah, so it was before You're obviously residency,
Speaker 1: which goes until May twenty six, by the way, Friday
Speaker 1: through Sunday, until you can go to Chippendal's in Vegas
Speaker 1: at Real All Sweet Hotel and you can check out
Speaker 1: the show it is. I can back you up on that.
Speaker 1: It's it's I was super intimidated walking in um and
Speaker 1: these guys, I'm engaged, so like I had the engaged
Speaker 1: body going for a little while until like two weeks beforehand,
Speaker 1: where I just tried not to eat and just worked
Speaker 1: out all the time. Terrible for me. And then so
Speaker 1: but the guys are super welcoming and they were just
Speaker 1: super down to earth. A lot of them are have families,
Speaker 1: are married. This is a gig a job for them.
Speaker 1: Their their former dancers, performers, so on and so forth.
Speaker 1: It's just like, hey, we work at you Bidel's, this
Speaker 1: is our job, this is what happens. And like you said,
Speaker 1: it's totally a show, like it's an entertaining show. I
Speaker 1: had buddies there who sat through it to like support me,
Speaker 1: and they were like, I'm not gonna lie. I had
Speaker 1: I had a lot of fun with it. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: saw it too, and people ask me that too, and
Speaker 1: she as I saw the show. Did you see the
Speaker 1: show before you ended it all? Or no? No? So
Speaker 1: I didn't see it before I was in it. So
Speaker 1: I got to sit like I was a part of
Speaker 1: the show, but the way I was brought into it,
Speaker 1: like I was in the audience. And then you know,
Speaker 1: they did the first opening act and then they were like, oh,
Speaker 1: we have some special guests from Bachelor blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: like one of them is Jared. Jared, wh did you
Speaker 1: come up on stage? And then that's how I got involved.
Speaker 1: So I got to see like the first ten minutes
Speaker 1: and then go backstage and kind of watch the rest
Speaker 1: of the show from back there, And you're right, it's
Speaker 1: just it's really entertaining, funny a residency. I like sat
Speaker 1: through a whole show and watched it before, and I
Speaker 1: was like hell if. I already thought like I'll be
Speaker 1: cool with this, but then when I saw it, I'm like,
Speaker 1: of course, this is dope. It's really dope, Like I'm
Speaker 1: working my ass off for this sick body and everyone
Speaker 1: needs to see it. And dude, did you ever like
Speaker 1: rip your shirt off? In front of like hundreds of women.
Speaker 1: It's like that you can't say that we can't get
Speaker 1: you a bachelor in Paradise. Well, he might be in
Speaker 1: a relationship. You don't want to be the bartender there
Speaker 1: you go. Yeah, well it's never took your shirt off.
Speaker 1: I bet you we could get you to do that.
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, that's a great idea. If you could
Speaker 1: be like you and wells, that's fine. And then like
Speaker 1: you could because there's two bars in Paradise, one downstairs,
Speaker 1: one upstairs. Okay, oh, I can do like the upstairs
Speaker 1: bar because I don't want to be like, well you
Speaker 1: downstairs upstairs bars trash. No, yeah, you could be make
Speaker 1: it popping upstairs and he can be like the love
Speaker 1: guru and then you're downstairs just like having fun. I'd
Speaker 1: be down yeah, I'd be like what squid porn porn?
Speaker 1: She's saying that because me and Maria had a conversation
Speaker 1: about squid porn went so, I don't watch squinn porn,
Speaker 1: by the way, I know what it is though. No
Speaker 1: Japanese people they have these porns where like they take
Speaker 1: like octopus ease and Octopie octope whatever, and like they
Speaker 1: they used the tentacles to do things. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: these people are are crazy. That porn is nuts. Well,
Speaker 1: I know of anime porn, ever watched about it? Um,
Speaker 1: I know like every genre of porn, just like I'm
Speaker 1: very knowledgeable an historian clapping, so they have you ever
Speaker 1: spat in anyone's mouth? Releases there that's weird, releases their
Speaker 1: most search search search bars in every continent around the
Speaker 1: world every year, and Russia was clapping. It's like the
Speaker 1: thirteenth most popular search thing in Russia. It was my
Speaker 1: little to my little ponies, one male, one female, doing
Speaker 1: the deed sexually, obviously, and then that's just what people
Speaker 1: were searching in Russia to get off to. I think
Speaker 1: there's a lot of weird. See, I guess I don't
Speaker 1: know these things. But they say that if you think
Speaker 1: about if you can think about it, there is a
Speaker 1: porn for it, or there will be one in the future. Um.
Speaker 1: But no, that's like I'm the type of person where,
Speaker 1: especially on this show, we were talking about small talk,
Speaker 1: We're like, you know, what do you what do you do?
Speaker 1: What are your dreams? What was your last relationship? Like
Speaker 1: you guys know, like so whack And then like with
Speaker 1: that girl Maria for like one second, she was like
Speaker 1: something reminded her of like She's like, oh, yeah, you
Speaker 1: know those porns that blah blah blah. And then I
Speaker 1: felt I was engaged because I was like having a
Speaker 1: deeper conversation and more fun conversation. And then it became
Speaker 1: a part of the show and people, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't watch squid porn though. That porn, not squid porn.
Speaker 1: Let's just put that. Let's talk about you spinning in
Speaker 1: mouth because Vanessa talked about the top of the podcast,
Speaker 1: so you spat it. So I was talking, We're talking
Speaker 1: to like a length body language expert, and we're talking
Speaker 1: about kissing or whatever. I'm like, oh, you know, I
Speaker 1: was kissing. I was making out with this guy, but
Speaker 1: one and then all of a sudden, he's spat in
Speaker 1: my mouth. Yeah, so I spat in his mouth. Oh no,
Speaker 1: in your mouth too. But it wasn't like it was
Speaker 1: like a slow drip spit. That's weird for me. I
Speaker 1: think it's like a dominating thing. Yeah, and so I
Speaker 1: would never want a girl to spit in my mouth
Speaker 1: to mouth. Wait, so all of you guys spit in
Speaker 1: girl's mouth, Well, yeah, I gotta stop talking in trouble.
Speaker 1: But when you're kissing somebody, you're exchanging spit, right, like
Speaker 1: you're that's what you're doing. Your spit is going in
Speaker 1: their mouth. And then I think when you make a
Speaker 1: little bit of separation and see it, it becomes like
Speaker 1: a visual thing. So the same thing is happening. You're
Speaker 1: just kind of magnifying it almost, And I think depending
Speaker 1: on the woman, like you said, it's more of like
Speaker 1: a dominating thing and she wants to be like, you know, submissive,
Speaker 1: submissive by spitting in her mouth. It's just it's, uh,
Speaker 1: it's like a metaphor. Really it's a literal physical action.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to come from that. I've spent other places,
Speaker 1: but not in the mouth. Okay. I think this is
Speaker 1: getting to what women need to Like women when they
Speaker 1: do that to us, whether like oh, spit on me
Speaker 1: or slapping or choke me or whatever, like whatever, it
Speaker 1: is like they are being submissive, but they're the ones
Speaker 1: in control because they're trying the guy crazy. That guy
Speaker 1: will do whatever you tell you is your slave at
Speaker 1: that point because if you can control his you're controlling
Speaker 1: everything in that moment. So it connects the brains, but
Speaker 1: it's they are in full control of your point. Um.
Speaker 1: There is one Facebook question that I wanted to ask you.
Speaker 1: There's come to this guy Thomas, and he wants a
Speaker 1: guy's opinion on So what better opinion than vinny? He said,
Speaker 1: I'd like a guy's opinion on this particular topic. Do
Speaker 1: guys have any dating rules? Like no holding hands? Were
Speaker 1: kissing on the first date? Regardless of the day is
Speaker 1: going well his are he doesn't talk politics, religion or
Speaker 1: x is on the first couple of days. I go
Speaker 1: right into politics, religion, the squid porn dude, I go there.
Speaker 1: It's almost important to cover those hard topics first because
Speaker 1: then it's like, why was your time If you're not
Speaker 1: gonna agree with it? Just zero hundred real quick. Well,
Speaker 1: also because like I hate small talk, and when you're
Speaker 1: having a deeper conversation about other random things, that's when
Speaker 1: your personality shines through. So like if a if a
Speaker 1: woman starts talking about you know, I can test her
Speaker 1: like intelligence, her just general knowledge, her curiosity about life
Speaker 1: while she's talking about those things. You can't get that
Speaker 1: when she's like, so I've lived in l a year.
Speaker 1: I love the weather out there. I did the you know,
Speaker 1: I did the modeling thing, and then this is you know,
Speaker 1: but if she's giving an opinion on whether I agree
Speaker 1: with it or not, I'm like, yo, damn, that's attractive.
Speaker 1: So did you hate small talk even before Double Shot
Speaker 1: at Love? Or was it magnified because you're in this
Speaker 1: like environment where everything is sped up both? I mean,
Speaker 1: I hated it before, and now you're putting me in
Speaker 1: a place where I have to do it with twenty
Speaker 1: women in a row. You know. Yeah, Well I feel
Speaker 1: like because in the Bachelor, it's like it is you know,
Speaker 1: you have this time limit right where you try to
Speaker 1: get to know someone, so it's like, we can't you
Speaker 1: gotta cut through the small talk in like Night one,
Speaker 1: it's like, hey, what are your hopes and dreams, family
Speaker 1: opinions on this? Blah blah blah. Was it like that
Speaker 1: on Double Shot of Love? Because the Night one is
Speaker 1: very living in a house with them, aren't you? Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're living in the house, but we still have to
Speaker 1: make elimination. So at the do you know what? You
Speaker 1: know what happened the first like I had ten women
Speaker 1: and then Paul he had ten women, ten separate women.
Speaker 1: You guys pranked him because like you came down as
Speaker 1: the host and was like, Paul is the celebrity. And
Speaker 1: then the next night was ten different girls and Paul
Speaker 1: came down. It was like, Vinny's a celebrity. And then
Speaker 1: they were like, by the way, there's twenty girls and
Speaker 1: we're both the celebrities. So I had to do the
Speaker 1: speed dating on ten. He did the speed dating on
Speaker 1: the other ten, and then we like, but it was cool,
Speaker 1: like watching it from another perspective because like I got
Speaker 1: to see which ones from his group I liked while
Speaker 1: I was watching it, you know, and he was doing
Speaker 1: the kind of like the dirty word for it. But
Speaker 1: you're also watching so when like PAULI was mingling with
Speaker 1: the ten girls on there, you're watching in a camera,
Speaker 1: but you were also seeing girls that you might be interested.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like I was like vetting the mount I
Speaker 1: was like, oh I like that one or whatnot? Like
Speaker 1: those are your two? I'm telling you kind of put
Speaker 1: mark me down. Mark my word. You guys are so cute.
Speaker 1: I did the same thing for your show. I was like,
Speaker 1: Rachel's definitely choosing Brian and I don't care what anyone said, so,
Speaker 1: will there be a return of either the grenade whistle
Speaker 1: or the grenade horde? Dou no, no grenades. No we're not.
Speaker 1: We're leaving that stuff to decide. Wait, Dean, there was
Speaker 1: a part where um on Paradise and I had your back.
Speaker 1: I think when you got in trouble, was in trouble
Speaker 1: A lot of trouble on Paradise because, um, I don't
Speaker 1: know if I remember this correctly, what you were like
Speaker 1: talking to one of them, but then you I was
Speaker 1: talking to you like kissing another girl. I was talking
Speaker 1: to Christina and Danielle at the same time. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: oh I know Danielle. Danielle L right, cool, Um, she's cool.
Speaker 1: But I you were talking to them, And why people
Speaker 1: get mad at you? I'm like, that's what this show is.
Speaker 1: You're supposed to date multiple people. Yeah. I got a
Speaker 1: lot of heat for that. I think they hated you.
Speaker 1: You were like a hero, and then everyone hated you.
Speaker 1: It wasn't a fun time. There was a lot of
Speaker 1: hate that was directed my way. When like I was
Speaker 1: kept being reminded to from producers and everyone there. I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, that's what you're supposed to do here,
Speaker 1: date multiple people. I was like, all right, fine, I'll
Speaker 1: date multiple people I'm supposed to be doing. Um, but yeah,
Speaker 1: thanks for my back, man. I appreciate you, of course
Speaker 1: I did. I was like, what do you guys like,
Speaker 1: why are you so mad? I know it sucked too,
Speaker 1: because all you were doing was being honest about it.
Speaker 1: You were never going behind anybody's back. You're like, like,
Speaker 1: but I like d low two. Wait which one was
Speaker 1: Christina again, woman, the beautiful young Russian woman? Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah yeah. And that's what the thing too, is that
Speaker 1: every one really loved Christina. If it was another girl,
Speaker 1: I don't know if they would have reacted the same way,
Speaker 1: lying wholeheartedly agree. And that sucks. Um. As much as
Speaker 1: I love talking about this, I can talk about it
Speaker 1: all day long. I know we appreciate you coming in.
Speaker 1: Make sure you guys come see me. Chippendale's Vinny has
Speaker 1: the residency at the Real All Sweet Hotel and Casino
Speaker 1: in Vegas Friday through Sundays and it goes until May.
Speaker 1: I cannot recommend this show. Actually I can recommend it
Speaker 1: more because now Vinny is a part of it. UM,
Speaker 1: So guys definitely go check that out. It's an incredible show,
Speaker 1: a lot of fun, especially for like a girl's weekend.
Speaker 1: And then even so like as a guy, I really
Speaker 1: enjoyed it. I'm not even joking. It's just like funny
Speaker 1: and self aware a single guy, it's a pretty much
Speaker 1: the best place ever totally because you have like a
Speaker 1: hundred single women. They're just going crazy and their hormones
Speaker 1: are shot through the roof after the show. Catch it
Speaker 1: weird if just the one single guy went by himself
Speaker 1: to you go with a group of guys, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like you're Vegas trip and make sure you go
Speaker 1: to chip and Dale's does this right afterwards. You're gonna
Speaker 1: be fine. We'll support you and sports hip and nails.
Speaker 1: But something just feels weird about that. Um Double Shot
Speaker 1: at Love is airing on right now. Jerdays, um Jersdays,
Speaker 1: and check out Vinney on social media. And it's what
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you handle this. Well. I'm a big
Speaker 1: Jersey Shore fan and I started watching it because Polyde's
Speaker 1: from Rhode Island and I'm from Rhode Island. So Rhode
Speaker 1: Islands a very small state, so if anybody's on TV,
Speaker 1: everybody knows about it. So I was like, man, there's
Speaker 1: this guy's on this new reality TV show. He's from Johnston,
Speaker 1: Rhode Island. And then of course it became Shore and
Speaker 1: it's skyrocketed. So I used to watch season one that
Speaker 1: became really invested in it and just loved it. In
Speaker 1: every Thursday night ten o'clock I would watch Jergy Shore
Speaker 1: and it was just kind of like a fun thing
Speaker 1: I did with my friends. And then now out here
Speaker 1: I am hosting a podcast and Vinny from just As
Speaker 1: Shore as a guest on my podcast Never in a
Speaker 1: MILLIONE tell that to the Jared back in two thousand nine.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, that's the crazy world. That's
Speaker 1: why I'm such a high right now because it's just
Speaker 1: a cool moment, which and Dean Vinny tweeted about you.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it's really cool and he
Speaker 1: was down to earth, like regular guy. It's weird. They're
Speaker 1: just like one of us, man, I know, just like
Speaker 1: one of us. That's crazy now that I think it's
Speaker 1: crazy because in my mind, you know, watching six seasons
Speaker 1: Jersey Shore than watching family reunion just a couple of
Speaker 1: years ago. It's like he's more of like a celebrity
Speaker 1: in my eyes. I guess no, I'm saying he's just
Speaker 1: like a regular person. He's reg person. It's just weird
Speaker 1: to think about, you know. It's like he eat and sleeps,
Speaker 1: put his pants one foot at a time. Well, I
Speaker 1: think it's weird to think about. He's obviously far more
Speaker 1: of a celebrity than us. How dare you? But it's true,
Speaker 1: which is no Jared take it back. But it's just
Speaker 1: weird to even think that we're on some sort of
Speaker 1: playing level with that guy. But he was cool, he
Speaker 1: was nice. He's a little uh uh. He was injured. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I felt bad. He was a limp and he heard
Speaker 1: his ankle playing basketballing around. I'm a big fan, I can.
Speaker 1: I hate to say, I'm not as big of a
Speaker 1: fan as you are. I mean, obviously a great guy. Well,
Speaker 1: I just watched Jersey Shore and then you know, when
Speaker 1: you're from the East Coast, you lived in that region
Speaker 1: for a long time, and and Paully was from Rhode Island,
Speaker 1: and then obviously so Pauli, d and Vinny became really
Speaker 1: good friends on the show and their quote unquote bromance
Speaker 1: was the funniest and best part of Jersey Shore for me.
Speaker 1: I can ask you this question, and I know we
Speaker 1: have to wrap, but one question, and I know it
Speaker 1: comes pre fiance pretty before you even meeting Ashley, so
Speaker 1: I know you can answer this honestly. Of the craft
Speaker 1: of Jersey Shore, which one did you like them? Which
Speaker 1: one did you have a crush on the most? Oh?
Speaker 1: J Well? Yeah, so yeah, j Wow was my first
Speaker 1: saw j Well. It was like, oh God, you're like,
Speaker 1: that is a woman. That is what a woman looks like.
Speaker 1: I liked the other girl, what was named britt me
Speaker 1: not poably. I'm sorry, ron Oh, Sammy, Alex Sammy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Sammy is a beautiful girl. But Sammy because like at
Speaker 1: the beginning, ron and then I said, it was like
Speaker 1: Sammy and Ronnie had this big thing. But if you
Speaker 1: remember from season one, Sammy like and Mike kind of
Speaker 1: had a thing for the first few episodes, and then
Speaker 1: she went to Ronnie and then it became six seasons
Speaker 1: of Ronnie and sam. I was a big Jersey Shot
Speaker 1: fan too. I was telling you guys off the air
Speaker 1: that I read Sunkies book. I had situations, i'd work
Speaker 1: out I had the whole thing. I want to headphones, headphones.
Speaker 1: I don't if you guys remember this. Vinny got offered
Speaker 1: thirty thousand dollars to not only pose nude for play
Speaker 1: Girl but make a mold of his penis. That is
Speaker 1: not nearly enough money for that. I hear it's pretty legendary.
Speaker 1: And when he was in here just now, I was like,
Speaker 1: should I bring it up? Should? I don't know. We
Speaker 1: talked about squid porn, and you're afraid of bringing up
Speaker 1: him molding his penis. I didn't want him to know
Speaker 1: how much I've thought about his penis though, Like, right
Speaker 1: there with him in front of me, that is a
Speaker 1: weird thing. That's how much for you guys to do
Speaker 1: that posing play girl and get a mold of your
Speaker 1: penis made? How much? Give me a number? It was
Speaker 1: like the Playgirl full nudity or is it like, you know,
Speaker 1: full frontal quarter million dollars? I mean I couldn't put
Speaker 1: a probably something like that eastern Uh, I don't know.
Speaker 1: That might everyone everyone's got a price that might be enough.
Speaker 1: What material is the mold made of? That's what I
Speaker 1: want to know. It's it's not it's harmless. It's made
Speaker 1: it to a b P A free Well, that's that's
Speaker 1: what I'm talking. Is it made of chocolate? Um, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't like probably a cool half meal that dude for like,
Speaker 1: but yeah, i'd pay about how much you would pay
Speaker 1: for days. We're asking how much you would do to
Speaker 1: sell yourself. I tried to do that once. I tried this.
Speaker 1: It's called clone a Willie. By the way, there's a
Speaker 1: way you can make your own. I couldn't. I couldn't
Speaker 1: make it cloon a Willie. Yeah, a little too smaller,
Speaker 1: Yeah it's too big. Yeah. No, it was having issues
Speaker 1: and I might cut this part out. Everybody, what were
Speaker 1: the issues and the show? Now you can cut it out?
Speaker 1: What issues like impotence? Yeah, I mean it's it's hard
Speaker 1: to it's it's self excited while you're shoving it into
Speaker 1: a cold sleeve. You know what. Um, some guys do
Speaker 1: like from Thunder down Under. They like rap, so they
Speaker 1: like you know, they use the pump right and they
Speaker 1: get it to like a good eye. But then what
Speaker 1: they do in order to keep your blood flow in there,
Speaker 1: they wrap an elastic band around their balls and like
Speaker 1: the base of the base of the penis to keep
Speaker 1: the blood flow in there. Will you show us how
Speaker 1: they did it? Tory and Danielle please leave the room.
Speaker 1: Stuck it Dating. Thank you everyone for tuning in. I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry that you're gonna have nightmares tonight after listening
Speaker 1: to everything that we just talked about. We started off
Speaker 1: with spitting in the mouth and we're ending with clone
Speaker 1: and Willie. Yeah, and now you have nightmares for the
Speaker 1: rest of your life. Sorry about. Thank you to Vinnie
Speaker 1: for coming in and spending about thirty minutes of us
Speaker 1: telling us about his time on Double Shut Out Love
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