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Speaker 1: All right this time with Steve. Let's go let him man,

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Speaker 1: Let's nephew buckle up. Hold long time a man, get subject.

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Speaker 1: Somebody better come get this little boy. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I've been with my girl. I thought she was talking

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Speaker 1: about Tommy Strawberry. Letter. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been with

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend for about a year now, and I love

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Speaker 1: her to death. I feel like I finally found my

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Speaker 1: soul mate. Whenever we were around each other, you can

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Speaker 1: just feel the love. But there's one problem. She has

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Speaker 1: a very bad little boy. I have tried not to

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Speaker 1: raise someone else's kid, but dang, her son is bad.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't listen to anything anyone says to him, and

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Speaker 1: He walks around the house pointing out what's all his,

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Speaker 1: and he tells me not to mess with his stuff

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Speaker 1: if I can try to. If I try to clean

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Speaker 1: up his toys, he says, that's my toy. If I

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Speaker 1: try to get something to drink, he says, that's my cup.

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Speaker 1: When I'm talking to his mom, he tells me that's

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Speaker 1: my mama. Whenever I talked to my girlfriend, about her son.

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Speaker 1: She brushes it off or gets matt. She always says

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Speaker 1: that he doesn't know any better because he's only three

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Speaker 1: years old, but he acts like he's thirty three. Steve.

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Speaker 1: This little boy even sits on the couch and watch

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Speaker 1: his TV with his hand in his pants like a

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Speaker 1: grown man. I need your help. What I need your help?

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Speaker 1: If I leave her because of her son, that would

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Speaker 1: not be right. If I stay with her, I will

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Speaker 1: have to put up with a kid disrespecting me, and

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Speaker 1: that just ain't gonna happen. That's what he said in

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Speaker 1: the letter. What should I do? Please help? Uh? This

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Speaker 1: issue is definitely one to be taken up with your girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: with your soul mate, with the love of your life.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she's a mother, she's the one with the issue.

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Speaker 1: She really is. Uh, when you talk to her about him,

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Speaker 1: she gets mad or ignores it. I mean, yes, he's

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Speaker 1: only three years old, but three years old, Uh, they

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Speaker 1: know right from wrong At that point, he needs discipline.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying, you know, beat the kid or anything

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Speaker 1: like that, but she's definitely wrong for not not disciplining

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Speaker 1: him and letting him know at that moment what not

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Speaker 1: to do. He has the run of the house. They

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Speaker 1: have allowed this. Where's his father and all of this?

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Speaker 1: Is his father? Even around? Uh, this is an easy fix,

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Speaker 1: I think, correct the baby when he does wrong? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: where is his father and all of this? Steve, he

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Speaker 1: ain't got no daddy. That was wrong with the little

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Speaker 1: boy now and nobody father. That's his whole problem. He

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Speaker 1: has no male role model in his life that this

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Speaker 1: young man had come along, and he want to beat that.

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Speaker 1: But the board have been running a work so long

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Speaker 1: the terrible twos then extend it all off into his

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Speaker 1: threes because therein' no checking balance on this little board.

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Speaker 1: There is no checking balance on this board. Now. I

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Speaker 1: agree with Shellley and that you have to talk to

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Speaker 1: the mom about this, but this ain't gonna work because

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Speaker 1: every time you bring it up, she brushed it off

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Speaker 1: for getting mad because that you know, that's how they

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Speaker 1: are about their kids sometimes. And when you come in

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Speaker 1: there trying to raise somebody else kids, man, because you

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Speaker 1: see it going wrong, because you know of a better way,

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Speaker 1: then guess what, bro, You're gonna have to implement your

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Speaker 1: better way. How many minutes? I got one more? One more?

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Speaker 1: You gotta put them to the side. I haven't done

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Speaker 1: it many times. Wait, what you gotta pull him to

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Speaker 1: back exactly what you can do. But you gotta put

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Speaker 1: with people having little boys before. Asked me to help

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Speaker 1: raise the ass. Okay, I'll tell you what. Watch this hill.

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Speaker 1: You ain't my daddy. Okay, Well where is punker ass?

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Speaker 1: That there? Yea? Where is he? Yeah I ain't. You

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Speaker 1: you don't know where it at. Though. First we're gonna

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Speaker 1: And this man been dating this girl for about a

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Speaker 1: He don't listen to anything his mama. You don't listen

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Speaker 1: They cry for attention, They look for attention. They throw

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Speaker 1: I will not put up with a kid disrespecting me.

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Speaker 1: That ain't gonna happen. What should I do? Please help? Well,

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Speaker 1: listen to how you do it, bro. First of all,

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Speaker 1: I've had a little boy tell me you ain't my

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Speaker 1: ain't chill, real daddy, how about that? See, I've had

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Speaker 1: You ain't my daddy. Where is your damn daddy with

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Speaker 1: with that. Hear what you got to do. You've got

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Speaker 1: had no consequences. Now you can't give him consequences, but

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Speaker 1: you can get his attention. And you start by playing

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Speaker 1: the alpha mayle through play. That's how they structure each

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Speaker 1: they do that through play. By works in all animal kingdoms.

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Speaker 1: So take him outside and play with him. Don't let

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Speaker 1: But catch him. But but but put your man on him,

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Speaker 1: dude right here different. But y'all just playing. No, but

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Speaker 1: you don't want to hurt him. He ain't gotta get

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Speaker 1: made to cry. But he's gotta have that sudden burst

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Speaker 1: that my shirt? Now, well it is your shirt, but

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Speaker 1: I got all of it in my hand. So, son,

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Speaker 1: and that alpha male sitting over there. Because he snatch

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Speaker 1: But then you're gonna have to say something to him,

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Speaker 1: just in his ear, just in his ear, just nobody,

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Speaker 1: because I beat your just you know, just keep moving.

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Speaker 1: You ain't gotta say nothing. I'm stronger than you. How

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Speaker 1: your weak ass field to day? And then snatch him

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Speaker 1: up right, throwing way up in the air, and damn,

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Speaker 1: there don't catch him, scares, have to dell. He's three

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Speaker 1: years olf here you toss his grass up that nice y'all. No,

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Speaker 1: but I'm just telling you how you do it. I

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Speaker 1: hurt the boy. No, we aren't trying to hurt nobody

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Speaker 1: be abusive, but we do want his attention. And you

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Speaker 1: I just locked him and he'd be just squirling here.

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Speaker 1: He was squiring with his mom and she damned and

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Speaker 1: dropping because he beat me. You're squiring with me. That

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Speaker 1: Mr strongman, let me quit trip it. And if I

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Speaker 1: my answer to the man. You're listening,