1 00:00:07,680 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 1: Hi everyone, we're back. Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours 2 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: Golden Hour, and thanks for joining us. Kathy and I 3 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:15,720 Speaker 1: are so excited to be here. 4 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 2: We are and if you haven't listened to our episode 5 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 2: from Wednesday, gain you really need to check it out. 6 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:25,840 Speaker 2: We had our gorgeous and fabulous friend Joan from The 7 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 2: Golden Bachelor on the podcast and she was spilling a lot. 8 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 1: Of tea and today we have some great fan questions, 9 00:00:34,720 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 1: but I can't wait to get to those. However, let's 10 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:40,199 Speaker 1: talk about Joan for a minute. I mean, she was 11 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: a great guest, wasn't she. Kathy? 12 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 2: I mean, how can anybody be so beautiful, so thin? 13 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 2: Love her family, cook date. 14 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 3: I don't know. 15 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: It's concerning, I know, And please don't forget. If you 16 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 1: do have a question for Kathy and I, just send 17 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: them in. Go to Bachelor nation dot com slash Golden 18 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: Hour and if. 19 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:07,000 Speaker 2: You're single and you're out there, send in your resume. 20 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:07,839 Speaker 3: We're interested. 21 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: Dm us. 22 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 2: All right, you want to do the topic of ouray, 23 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:18,039 Speaker 2: let's start here we go, Susan, does cheating have to 24 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:22,559 Speaker 2: be a deal breaker? Is there ever a scenario when 25 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 2: you can get past infidelity in a relationship. 26 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:30,720 Speaker 1: Oh God, I would struggle. Well, was I the teeter 27 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 1: or he the theater? 28 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 4: No? 29 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 3: I think that answers the question. Moving right along. 30 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: No, I think that's a tough one, and it would 31 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: take a really strong person to people that would communicate 32 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: well enough. And it depends on the circumstances. It's hard 33 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 1: to forgive that, but forgiveness is the key to success, 34 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: to happiness, to being okay with your own self, So 35 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: you don't forget. I think maybe it would be a 36 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: strain on the relationship. But if you really really love 37 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: each other and somebody screwed it up once, I mean, 38 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: if it was an ongoing affair, that's a no brainer. 39 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: But I don't know. That's a tough. 40 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 3: One for me. 41 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 2: I will tell you, in my forty six years of marriage, 42 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 2: the one thing my husband and I said we could 43 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 2: never get past would be cheating. So I think, in 44 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 2: the abstract, for me, cheating would be a deal breaker. 45 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 2: But in reality, I think there are a lot of 46 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 2: relationships that can be stronger after an episode of cheating. 47 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 2: I agree with you, if it's a long term affair, 48 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 2: your toast, But I think reality often is different than 49 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 2: what we imagine. The perfect scenario to be and so 50 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:58,880 Speaker 2: I don't really know. I mean I always said I would. 51 00:02:58,639 --> 00:02:59,240 Speaker 3: Be gone that. 52 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 2: I think sometimes times things happen and it takes a 53 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 2: big heart to forgive and maybe you can. 54 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: It depends on the people, but on the two people, right, 55 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: I mean how strong that? 56 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 3: Could you trust? 57 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:10,959 Speaker 4: Though? 58 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: Could you trust again? I would have a difficult time. 59 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 1: I think I would. I'd be constantly checking or well. 60 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:21,920 Speaker 1: So we're our first press question. If somebody actually did 61 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 1: call in and left the question, So we're going to 62 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 1: play that for everyone so they can hear it. And 63 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,799 Speaker 1: this question is from Jennifer. Let's listen. 64 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 4: Hi, this is Jennifer. I'm so excited to have the 65 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 4: opportunity to ask you to a very important question. I 66 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 4: am wondering how you feel about men after let's say 67 00:03:50,840 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 4: fifties and up, how they handle women who are not perfect, 68 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 4: as far as as the wonderful cellulite and many other 69 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 4: little things or big things to some such as not 70 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 4: doing any type of botox or injections fillers, et cetera. 71 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 4: How do you think men in their fifties, sixties, seventies 72 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 4: feel about natural women who don't wear a lot of 73 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 4: makeup either? And Is it even possible to find love 74 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 4: in your fifties, sixties, or seventies when it seems like 75 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 4: so many men at that age are looking for women 76 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:50,880 Speaker 4: that just try to look much younger and perfect versus 77 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:55,239 Speaker 4: someone that's natural and I mean not overweight or anything, 78 00:04:55,320 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 4: but when it comes to cellulite and in general. 79 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 3: Wow. 80 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 1: First of all, I do think there's hope for fifties, 81 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: sixties and seventies, and there is nothing wrong with bn 82 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: L NATUREL. I'm ver serious. Men appreciate that we all 83 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: have cellulate I mean, I cheat, I get botox doesn't 84 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:24,880 Speaker 1: look like it sometimes, but I do. Yeah, what do 85 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 1: you think, Kathy. 86 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 2: I think there's a lot to unpack in this question. Yeah. 87 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 3: I'd like to believe. 88 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:39,160 Speaker 2: I would really like to believe that men like natural 89 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 2: whatever that means, you know, But my experience tells me 90 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 2: something different. My experience tells me that men really want 91 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:57,120 Speaker 2: to have on their arm someone who looks young and 92 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 2: vivacious and energetic, and they don't care if they have 93 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 2: fake boobs or dye their hair, or have extensions or 94 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 2: tattooed eyebrows. And god knows what else I too have had, 95 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 2: you know, By the way, it's the time to say 96 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 2: no cheek implants. You know, I've had botox and fillers 97 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 2: and all those things. I think that it's more about you, Jennifer, 98 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 2: feeling your best. If you feel good doing things, you know, 99 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 2: whether it's filler, botox, whatever, is a facelift, I don't care. 100 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 2: If you feel better, you should do it for yourself, 101 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 2: but not because you're trying to attract a man. 102 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 3: I think that's the difference for me. 103 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:47,480 Speaker 2: I think that some men, you know, want younger, some 104 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:48,119 Speaker 2: men don't. 105 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: Don't you think that some men go for younger because 106 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: it's making them feel better. Look who I have when 107 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 1: you if you're not confident in yourself and people that 108 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 1: don't wear makeup. I know a lot of beautiful women 109 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:03,599 Speaker 1: out there that are very natural and don't. 110 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 3: Are they single? 111 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:06,120 Speaker 1: I said women? 112 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 3: I know. I meant do they have a. 113 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 2: Man in their life or they're like or are they like, yeah, 114 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 2: I don't have a good boyfriend. 115 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 1: I mean a little bit goes a long way, and 116 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 1: a lot of men appreciate that. Not everybody likes a Barbie, 117 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. 118 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 3: I haven't met a guy yet who doesn't. 119 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 1: But okay, well, they look at them, but they want 120 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: to marry them or be with them on a long 121 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: term thing because then you're high maintenance, right, I mean, 122 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 1: there's a yeah. 123 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 3: I don't know. 124 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 2: I just I do think there's a variety of men 125 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 2: out there. I think there are some men who like 126 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 2: natural and I think I hate to admit it, Susan, 127 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 2: but I do think a lot of men like a 128 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 2: younger looking woman. And you know, for me, this gets 129 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 2: into the whole thing of agism. We we don't want 130 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 2: to say. I've said this to you before. When you 131 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 2: look at a thirty five year old, do you ever 132 00:07:58,280 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 2: say to her, Wow, how Susie Q you look great 133 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 2: for thirty five. No, we never say that. We say wow, 134 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 2: you're beautiful. But when you're seventy, people say, wow, Kathy, 135 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 2: you look great for seventy. So, you know, I think 136 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 2: it's in bread. It's just inherent in our society. That's 137 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 2: what people do. That's what it is. I don't like it, 138 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 2: but that's what it is. 139 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: I mean, I go to the grocery store all the 140 00:08:23,760 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: time without makeup, and I do. It is who I am. 141 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: But if I'm going to a function or an affair 142 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: or being on TV, you know, of course you're going 143 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:34,679 Speaker 1: to make yourself up a little bit. 144 00:08:34,960 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 2: But does it make you feel better or do you 145 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 2: do it to attract other people? 146 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: No, it makes me feel better. I think I look 147 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: better if I put a little lip gloss on, or 148 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:48,160 Speaker 1: lashes or something, so you feel better, You feel better. 149 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: Not doing it to impress anybody else. To know me 150 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 1: is to know that. 151 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 2: Okay, So you know, I think Jennifer, you seem like 152 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 2: you're struggling a little bit with being who you are. 153 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 2: And I think Susan, you and I would agree. You 154 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 2: know it, be yourself and whatever yourself is. If that's 155 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 2: if that's a complete makeover, do it. If it's you know, 156 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 2: letting your underarm hair grow and not shaving your legs, 157 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:13,600 Speaker 2: do that. 158 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:15,439 Speaker 3: But just be comfortable with who you are. 159 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 1: Never ever worry about cellulate. It's part of life. I mean, 160 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 1: everybody's got. 161 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:21,680 Speaker 3: I don't have any. 162 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:24,199 Speaker 1: Oh whatever, it's perfect. 163 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 3: I forgot. 164 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 1: About question. 165 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:40,080 Speaker 3: Let's go to number two. Oh Joey sent this one 166 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 3: to us. 167 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 2: Okay, Oh Joey, Okay, Hi, Susan and Kathy. I love 168 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,840 Speaker 2: listening to your podcast while working out at the gym. 169 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:53,560 Speaker 2: You always have me laughing. My question is this. I 170 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 2: recently found out my boyfriend cheated on me after being 171 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 2: together almost three years. He didn't go any farther than kissing, 172 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 2: but retained feelings for this other person. I still love him, 173 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 2: but it's hard to trust him now. We've been trying 174 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 2: to work things out, but this is something that can 175 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 2: be hard to forget. Is it really true, once a cheater, 176 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 2: always a cheater, or can something like this be a 177 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 2: one time. 178 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: Mistake where we go for society again. They say once 179 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 1: a cheater, always a cheetterer, but I don't believe that. 180 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:33,000 Speaker 1: I think people do make mistakes. I do. Everybody's capable 181 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:36,360 Speaker 1: of screwing it up just once. Yeah, Like I said 182 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:40,839 Speaker 1: last time, it depends on how genuine he is when 183 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:42,480 Speaker 1: he comes to you, first of all, if he told 184 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: you himself without you finding out, or he's hartly sorry. 185 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:48,719 Speaker 1: I don't know. 186 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 2: Why are you asking me that, Joey, Joey, we love you. 187 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 2: Here's the thing, Joey, it's not about what we think. 188 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 2: It's really about what you think. If you're having trouble 189 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 2: trusting him now, that's probably going to go forward in 190 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 2: your relationship, and that's going to be tough because Susan 191 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,680 Speaker 2: and I can both attest. If you can't trust your partner, 192 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 2: you've got nothing. So I would encourage you to talk 193 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:19,839 Speaker 2: to your partner see if you can develop that trust again. 194 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 2: It's going to take some time. It can be rebuilt, 195 00:11:23,640 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 2: but you're really gonna have to want it. 196 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, i'd like you better when you're laughing. Yeah really, Okay, Hi, 197 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 1: Susan and Kathy. My name is Courtney. I'm twenty four 198 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:41,200 Speaker 1: years old and I started dating my boyfriend a year ago. 199 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: He is such a kind and genuine person, and we 200 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 1: are both each other's first relationships. My sister is twenty 201 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:53,880 Speaker 1: six years old and she's never been in a relationship. 202 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: I've noticed some jealousy because of this. Okay. She doesn't 203 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: want to get to know my boy and seems annoyed 204 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:05,080 Speaker 1: when I mention him. She's had a tough time dating, 205 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:08,960 Speaker 1: and I know the older she gets, she's scared she 206 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: won't find someone. Do you have any advice for her 207 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:14,839 Speaker 1: on how to go about finding a boyfriend for the 208 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: first time? And could you offer any advice on how 209 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:24,640 Speaker 1: to not let this affect our relationship? Thank you? 210 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:25,120 Speaker 3: You want to go. 211 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 1: I got to think about this one well. 212 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 2: For me, Courtney. Number one, congrats on your relationship. Number two, 213 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 2: your sister is not your responsibility. She will find her 214 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 2: happiness or not in her time and in her own way. 215 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 2: She can get on dating aps, she can go to 216 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:53,559 Speaker 2: the gym, she can take a sailing class, a cooking class. 217 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:58,199 Speaker 2: But you're not responsible for her life, and I think 218 00:12:58,240 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 2: you have to accept that. 219 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:05,560 Speaker 1: For starting, I think that maybe she's annoyed because the 220 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:08,080 Speaker 1: attention is not so much on her anymore. So what 221 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: about like inviting her along on one of your dates? No, no, 222 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:14,960 Speaker 1: take her with you when you go do something fun. 223 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:17,440 Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with that, and have her get to 224 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 1: know your guy and she might really like him. And 225 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 1: do you like for my sibling you now, I take her? 226 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 1: I would, and I would want to prove to her 227 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 1: that he's a cool guy and he likes you too. 228 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 3: So that way, okay, I want to paint a picture. 229 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:36,839 Speaker 2: I want to paint a picture for a season. You're 230 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 2: sitting at a table. You're sitting there with your boyfriend, 231 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:44,559 Speaker 2: having a good time. Your sister's across the table, She's 232 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 2: got nobody across from HER's got an empty chair. 233 00:13:46,840 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 3: How do you think she's feeling? 234 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 1: Because we're all going to talk. You know, we're not 235 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 1: going to talk about serious was she stuff. We're going 236 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:54,680 Speaker 1: to say something late and you know, make her feel 237 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:56,200 Speaker 1: welcome and a part of it. 238 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 2: You know, I think it's natural that she feels jealous, 239 00:13:59,480 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 2: but I really I think you just have to live 240 00:14:02,440 --> 00:14:02,960 Speaker 2: your life. 241 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:03,720 Speaker 3: It's hard. 242 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:06,839 Speaker 2: I think you should reach out to Susan because she 243 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 2: lives in Philly and she'll she'll find your sister a 244 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:12,680 Speaker 2: boyfriend in no time flat or better? 245 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:15,679 Speaker 1: Yet, does your boyfriend have friends that we could introduce? 246 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:17,880 Speaker 3: Dating app? 247 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: Ways? 248 00:14:19,120 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 3: A dating app? Take her class? Good luck to mad 249 00:14:22,680 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 3: at her? Don't be mad? 250 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:26,720 Speaker 2: And you know what, just give it some time, Courtney, 251 00:14:26,840 --> 00:14:30,600 Speaker 2: and hopefully your sister will find someone. Truthfully, as we 252 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 2: sit here, you're both really young and you have lots 253 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 2: of years ahead of you. Give her some time to 254 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 2: grow and mature. She's probably going to find a guy 255 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 2: next month. And this question is all going to be 256 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 2: a moot point and anything. All right, we got one 257 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 2: over a question because one question Okay, it's not really 258 00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 2: a question, it's a relationship question. But Jena Jenna send 259 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 2: us this. How did Bean on the Golden Bachelor impact you? 260 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 2: If you were asked the Golden Bachelorette, would you accept 261 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 2: go Susan? 262 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: How did it impact me? I made friends and that 263 00:15:10,320 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: meant so much to me. However, I went there to 264 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: find love. I became friends with Gary, and that's all 265 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 1: either one of us wanted the Golden Bachelorette. I've always said, oh, yes, 266 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:27,880 Speaker 1: of course, of course. But you know what, I'd be 267 00:15:28,120 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: afraid that what if I didn't connect with twenty all 268 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 1: twenty of them? Then what would happen? 269 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, what would happen if you did connect with 270 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 3: all twenty? 271 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: Oh I'd be in a lot of trouble. But I've 272 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:41,960 Speaker 1: be taking numbers in case it didn't work up back, 273 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:45,600 Speaker 1: I've always had that beer, like what if that were me? 274 00:15:45,720 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: I used to feel sorry for Gary, like he had 275 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:50,080 Speaker 1: to let people go and he felt so bad, and 276 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:52,440 Speaker 1: we all know he cried a bit, and I was 277 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 1: always there for him, like, oh, Gary, I got you, 278 00:15:54,720 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 1: It's okay, you have to do this process. Yeah, how 279 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:57,880 Speaker 1: about you? 280 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 2: Well, I think it impacted me differently. I think that 281 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:06,960 Speaker 2: it was a show, and I think some people read 282 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:09,840 Speaker 2: me differently than who I am. And you know, people 283 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:13,320 Speaker 2: have always really liked me, and so I was surprised. 284 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 2: People think I'm funny and they like me and they 285 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 2: know I'll give you the. 286 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 3: Shirt off my back. 287 00:16:17,560 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 1: You are funny, thank you. 288 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 2: But so that was hard for me to see that 289 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 2: people took what they saw on the show and said, oh, 290 00:16:25,320 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 2: she's a mean girl, because I'm really not and you 291 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:29,960 Speaker 2: know that. So I think that was an impact for me. 292 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 2: But also I've always been a pretty confident person. I 293 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 2: think being on that show Susan made me even more confident. 294 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:42,000 Speaker 2: It made me know what I want for this last 295 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 2: chapter of my life. To say, my friend, yep, not 296 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 2: going to settle. I mean the friendships you and I 297 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 2: for those of anyone who's wondering, we really are good friends. 298 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 2: And that's the most valuable gift I got from the 299 00:16:56,280 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 2: show is having you as my friend. So that's really 300 00:17:01,200 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 2: the impact for me. Would I be the golden Bochlerrette. 301 00:17:03,600 --> 00:17:07,919 Speaker 2: I've said this a gazillion times. I don't think they 302 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:11,639 Speaker 2: could find twenty two guys to keep up with me, just. 303 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:15,199 Speaker 1: Either one of us with our big personalities. You know what, Susan, 304 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,480 Speaker 1: do you guys that do apply? If you don't get cold, like, 305 00:17:18,720 --> 00:17:21,160 Speaker 1: just send us a DM and maybe you know, we'll 306 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: check it out. 307 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 2: Wait, I have a question, do you really think Susan 308 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 2: guys you know Bachelor Nation? In case you haven't figured 309 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:33,280 Speaker 2: it out yet, Susan and I both have really big personalities, 310 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:35,919 Speaker 2: and you know a lot of you ask how can 311 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:39,000 Speaker 2: you be such good friends? Because we both are kind people, 312 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:41,960 Speaker 2: we love each other, we love other people, but we 313 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:43,720 Speaker 2: are both big personalities. 314 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,200 Speaker 3: Do you think guys really want big personalities? 315 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:52,480 Speaker 1: I think I've always been told I intimidate people because 316 00:17:52,640 --> 00:17:56,320 Speaker 1: I am sure of myself and I'm out there. I'm friendly, 317 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:59,200 Speaker 1: I'm flirty, but I'm a good girl, I'm loyal, and 318 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:03,920 Speaker 1: people you for being such a big personality sometimes so 319 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: that's sad. I know, yeah, go ahead, And on the show, 320 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:13,600 Speaker 1: I feel as if you need more time to get 321 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 1: to know somebody. So your first impression to me is 322 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:20,680 Speaker 1: like crazy, But if you got to know me, I'm lovable. 323 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 2: Yep, I think people, I think that is such a 324 00:18:24,359 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 2: valid point. You and I are both even though maybe 325 00:18:27,880 --> 00:18:31,240 Speaker 2: people wouldn't see it, we are both sensitive, we're both 326 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 2: carrying people. But on the show there's just not really 327 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 2: enough time. So people who think, oh, you know, you're 328 00:18:37,359 --> 00:18:40,680 Speaker 2: both so loud or you're this or you're mean. They 329 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 2: didn't really see who we really are. 330 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: So those would imagine, Kathy, imagine if we went on 331 00:18:47,440 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 1: that show and that was our person, like that happens. 332 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:54,720 Speaker 1: You know, That's what I always always wish for for 333 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:55,479 Speaker 1: any of us. 334 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 3: You mean, if he had been our person. 335 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:01,679 Speaker 1: Sometimes it doesn't. If he had been our person, like that. 336 00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:04,359 Speaker 2: Does happen, I would have walked on you, Susan again, 337 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:06,000 Speaker 2: I'll plight you for him. 338 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 3: I'm stronger. 339 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 1: Hey, people out there, if you have a question for us, 340 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 1: we really do want to hear it. All you have 341 00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:17,399 Speaker 1: to do is go to bachelornation dot com slash Golden 342 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 1: Hour and I can't wait till somebody's actually featured on here. 343 00:19:21,960 --> 00:19:24,160 Speaker 1: And you know what I mean, like a stranger that's 344 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 1: asking us a question, and it won't be a stranger anymore. 345 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:28,679 Speaker 1: You become our friend friend. 346 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 3: All right? 347 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 2: Before we go, we've got to play another round of 348 00:19:41,960 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 2: moral quandary. 349 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 3: I love this game. I'm going to read the. 350 00:19:45,840 --> 00:19:49,600 Speaker 2: Quandary and then we each have to guess what each 351 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 2: other will do in that situation. Okay, so you're gonna 352 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 2: guess what I do. I'm gonna guess what you do okay, 353 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 2: all right, you're late for a job interview and cut 354 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 2: off another car to merge onto the freeway. 355 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 3: This is you, Susan the driver. The driver flipped you off. 356 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 2: When you get to the interview, you quickly realized the 357 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 2: person interviewing you was the man who flipped you off. 358 00:20:15,600 --> 00:20:16,439 Speaker 3: Do you say anything. 359 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 1: I run up to him and say, oh my god, 360 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:21,920 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry I would late for this. Oh please 361 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,640 Speaker 1: forgive me, Please forgive me. But when that does happen 362 00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: and I do gonna go fast on the highway and 363 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:29,720 Speaker 1: somebody flips me off, I give him the peace sign 364 00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:30,960 Speaker 1: or say I'm so sorry. 365 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 3: Do you know what I do? 366 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,639 Speaker 2: I grew up in Boston. I'm a Boston driver. I 367 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:37,919 Speaker 2: can cut off the driver to the best of them. 368 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:40,000 Speaker 2: But you know what I do when they yell at me, 369 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:42,600 Speaker 2: I roll down the window, I smile at the stop 370 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:44,119 Speaker 2: light and say, have a nice stay. 371 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 3: But I gotta say, if I were in a job interview, 372 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:47,879 Speaker 3: you know what I. 373 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 2: Would do, play completely dumb and pretend because it would 374 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:53,959 Speaker 2: just embarrass him. 375 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,680 Speaker 1: He flipped you off, right because you cut him off. 376 00:20:58,040 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, but the driver flips you off, You're gonna coup 377 00:20:59,880 --> 00:21:03,120 Speaker 2: in a apologize and say, hey, jerk, you flip me off. 378 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. No, no, I'm gonna play. 379 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:07,720 Speaker 4: No. 380 00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:10,000 Speaker 1: I would apologize, say please don't do that, because you 381 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 1: know people get killed for doing that. 382 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:13,880 Speaker 2: That's and you know what, Susan, Can I just tell 383 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 2: you I'm the next interviewer and I get the job, 384 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 2: not you? 385 00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:25,600 Speaker 1: Alrighty? Okay, Kathy. Your best friend starts dating someone they 386 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:29,160 Speaker 1: are crazy about. They can't wait for you to meet them. 387 00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,440 Speaker 1: When you finally do, you realize it's someone you made 388 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:36,480 Speaker 1: out with once at a party, but years ago, you 389 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:39,800 Speaker 1: doubt he even remembers. Do you say anything to your 390 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 1: best friend. 391 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 2: If it were you, No, if it were no, If 392 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:49,159 Speaker 2: it were you, I would say I would say, oh 393 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 2: my gosh, I kissed this guy on a sixteen I'm 394 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,159 Speaker 2: sure hope the hell he's learned something. 395 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,520 Speaker 3: Yes, I would say it because. 396 00:21:57,119 --> 00:22:01,600 Speaker 1: Of the words years ago. That's a no brainer. Yet 397 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,440 Speaker 1: why not? I mean I would not not say it 398 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 1: and then have the guy tell her, oh my gosh, 399 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:10,320 Speaker 1: your friend we made out in you know, twelve three. 400 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,800 Speaker 2: Year Sorry, I'm sorry. If you made out with the 401 00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 2: guy when you were sixteen, that doesn't count. Even if 402 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 2: it counts you're sixty years old. Really, I mean, first 403 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 2: of all, I wouldn't even remember it. But secondly, you know, 404 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,280 Speaker 2: come on, if you can't get over that, how you're 405 00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,520 Speaker 2: going to have a relationship. By the way, Susan, the 406 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,440 Speaker 2: guy you're dating, I made out with him several years ago. 407 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:36,159 Speaker 3: I wasn't he sucked. 408 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:38,520 Speaker 1: I'm glad they didn't have a name to that, because 409 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:40,160 Speaker 1: I've been calling this girl going. 410 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:44,840 Speaker 3: Really, okay, here's the next one. 411 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 2: Your daughter announces out of nowhere that she's in a 412 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:53,119 Speaker 2: throuple and that's like a threesome, and she would have 413 00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:58,000 Speaker 2: what's a throuble? It's not nipple, it's a throupple, and 414 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 2: she would like to bring both her boy friend and 415 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 2: girlfriend to Thanksgiving dinner. 416 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 3: Do you say okay? 417 00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,640 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, are you sure they're okay with each other? 418 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:09,639 Speaker 1: We're the merrier? 419 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,359 Speaker 3: Really you're going to say that as. 420 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:13,800 Speaker 1: Long as the three of them are okay? 421 00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:14,159 Speaker 4: Why not? 422 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 1: Well, I'm not there to decide for her. 423 00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:19,400 Speaker 3: Who what do you what about if your other kids 424 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:22,760 Speaker 3: don't know, well, they're not. What are you gonna say? 425 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 3: This is my friend? How do you know? 426 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:27,040 Speaker 4: Oh? 427 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:28,320 Speaker 1: Is that what Aule is? 428 00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:31,360 Speaker 3: I'm just saying, can you imagine? 429 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:32,960 Speaker 1: Need to make up your mind. 430 00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,200 Speaker 3: Okay, here's here's how this is gonna roll, Susan. 431 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:40,720 Speaker 1: Let me get what Kathy'll say. None of me are coming. 432 00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 3: I'm saying, I'm not cooking, remember me. 433 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:46,480 Speaker 1: There she goes with the cooking. 434 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:48,040 Speaker 3: Here's here's how it rolls. 435 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 2: You walk in, you go, John, here's my daughter Louise 436 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,760 Speaker 2: and her friend Joan. I'm not really sure how they're rolling, 437 00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,520 Speaker 2: but I mean, come on in, sit down and have 438 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 2: to he really you're gonna do that? 439 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:02,800 Speaker 3: I don't think so. 440 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 1: She doesn't know what she was, the woman or the man, 441 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:09,200 Speaker 1: So leave her alone and let her have Thanksgiving. 442 00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:13,360 Speaker 2: Susan, I'm bringing up I'm bringing them all to your 443 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:18,399 Speaker 2: going to know who wrote these questions. I'm telling you, 444 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 2: I'm bringing them all to your house next Thanksgiving. We're 445 00:24:21,800 --> 00:24:22,440 Speaker 2: gonna see how. 446 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 3: You roll with that. Susan's gonna bend the table. 447 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:26,399 Speaker 1: Into the next droom will fit them all. 448 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,680 Speaker 3: You know what Susan's gonna be doing. Let me tell y'all. 449 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:29,440 Speaker 3: I want to tell you. 450 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,560 Speaker 2: When I was at Susan's house, she had lots of 451 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:36,840 Speaker 2: friends for dinner. Speaking of she made the best meal. 452 00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:41,200 Speaker 2: I swear I am sitting enjoying this meal. Yeah, she 453 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,200 Speaker 2: knows what's coming. Literally, she's done. She gets up with 454 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,680 Speaker 2: the dust pan and broom and then in a vacuum 455 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 2: cleaner and literally is vacuuming. 456 00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,960 Speaker 1: Non the vacuum cleaner out while the dishes, before the 457 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: dishes were done. I'm a neat freak, people, I'm a 458 00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:56,480 Speaker 1: neat freak. 459 00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:57,119 Speaker 3: No, she is. 460 00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 2: Literally, Cathy, lift your feet so I can swim. Can 461 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 2: I please have my last bite of mashed potatoes? 462 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 3: Please? No, I have to clean, she says. So you know, 463 00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 3: we'll see how you do it as much as you want. 464 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll see how you do with a thrupple. You 465 00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 2: can't even handle a dustpaint of broom for five minutes. Lead, 466 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:15,399 Speaker 2: I didn't know what a throuble was. 467 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: Now I do you learned something new every day? 468 00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:27,119 Speaker 3: Okay, Well this does it for this episode. I'm gonna go. 469 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,879 Speaker 2: I'm gonna go get my thropple together to go to 470 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 2: Thanksgiving dinner at Susan's house next year. I got my 471 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:36,000 Speaker 2: room and she's got a broom ready. All right, Susan, 472 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,679 Speaker 2: we have one last question here. Hey, Kathy and Susan. 473 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:44,639 Speaker 2: My name is Cassandra. I'm so obsessed with your podcast. 474 00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:45,840 Speaker 2: You guys are amazing. 475 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:46,480 Speaker 3: Thanks. 476 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,240 Speaker 1: Yes, we like you too. 477 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:54,120 Speaker 2: I have a question about marriage. So I've been living 478 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 2: with my partner for almost three years now. I'm twenty seven, 479 00:25:58,440 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 2: he's twenty nine, and things are awesome between us. We 480 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,240 Speaker 2: really get each other and have a great balance of 481 00:26:05,359 --> 00:26:09,200 Speaker 2: closeness but giving each other space and enjoying our space. 482 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 2: I'm not in a rush to get married or anything, 483 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,880 Speaker 2: but I can totally see it happening someday. My boyfriend 484 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 2: is super chill and has a great family. I, on 485 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,600 Speaker 2: the other hand, had a rough childhood. 486 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:23,879 Speaker 3: Therapy helped me deal with most of it. 487 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 2: But recently I've been thinking I grew up surrounded by 488 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:32,200 Speaker 2: only women, so I've never really seen a relationship up close. 489 00:26:32,880 --> 00:26:36,760 Speaker 2: So what does a marriage, a very long term relationship 490 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 2: look like? How often do married couples talk on a 491 00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,640 Speaker 2: daily basis? And what do you think are the big 492 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:44,960 Speaker 2: things to think about before tying than not? 493 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 1: Whew, Okay, I know right off the bat, here go 494 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,800 Speaker 1: it's about you too. It's not about where you came from. 495 00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:59,640 Speaker 1: You mentioned earlier how perfect your relationship was. Once again, 496 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 1: our three c's communicate, babe, keep on talking to them, 497 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,159 Speaker 1: and you should talk every day. Maybe somebody's got a 498 00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,160 Speaker 1: headache or not in the mood or had a bad day, 499 00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:13,840 Speaker 1: that's okay. But share what you're feeling, share what you're thinking. 500 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 1: And if you guys are best friends, now nothing's going 501 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,880 Speaker 1: to change. Just be honest and open with each other, 502 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,440 Speaker 1: and make sure you have spontaneous sex. 503 00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 2: Oh JESU, throw us down to sex with you. So, Cassandra, 504 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,159 Speaker 2: this question kind of it's home for me. I was 505 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:30,640 Speaker 2: married a long long time. 506 00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:32,200 Speaker 3: I also came. 507 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:36,920 Speaker 2: From a pretty rotten, rough childhood, and I will tell 508 00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:40,560 Speaker 2: you that people used to say to me, Oh, you 509 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,640 Speaker 2: can't possibly have a good marriage or good family life 510 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:47,400 Speaker 2: because you grew up in such a dysfunctional childhood. I'm 511 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:51,000 Speaker 2: here to tell you you can have a great long 512 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:52,120 Speaker 2: term relationship. 513 00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:53,920 Speaker 3: What does it look like. 514 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,680 Speaker 2: It looks like loving and caring for someone, listening to them, 515 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:03,720 Speaker 2: listening to each other, caring for each other, compromising with 516 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 2: each other. And the very fact that you wrote this 517 00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 2: question tells us you're already on your way to having 518 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:12,360 Speaker 2: a great relationship. 519 00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 3: So don't worry about it. 520 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,240 Speaker 2: I think you are already thinking about the big things, 521 00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:21,600 Speaker 2: and I wish you, Cassandra and your partner only the 522 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:25,119 Speaker 2: best and the best of a marriage and or a 523 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:29,560 Speaker 2: long term relationship. I think you you've got it all 524 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,199 Speaker 2: going on, and I'm so happy that you found your 525 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:33,080 Speaker 2: perfect partner. 526 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,160 Speaker 1: I am really excited for you. You've got this girl. 527 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:40,520 Speaker 2: And by the way, wait, can I say, Susan, if 528 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 2: they want to get married, I happen to know a 529 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 2: really good wedding officiant. 530 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm here. 531 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:46,959 Speaker 3: May you the Susan Knowles? 532 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 2: What is your? 533 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,760 Speaker 1: What is yours? By Knowles? 534 00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 3: There you go? 535 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 2: She can I just tell you she married officiated my 536 00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,160 Speaker 2: son's wedding, oh, a couple of months ago. She does 537 00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,480 Speaker 2: a fabulous job. So reach out her if you want 538 00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 2: to get married. She will make it the most memorable 539 00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:03,640 Speaker 2: wedding you've ever seen. 540 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 1: Thank you, Kathy. I love doing it. 541 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 4: I do. 542 00:29:06,800 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 1: I love love. 543 00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 3: We both love love. 544 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,120 Speaker 2: And you know what, I love seeing Cassandra write this 545 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 2: question because it tells me that you don't have to 546 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,640 Speaker 2: be a product of your you know, childhood. If it 547 00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 2: was tough, you can learn from your parents' mistakes. You 548 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:24,440 Speaker 2: can build a great, strong relationship. 549 00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:26,440 Speaker 3: And that gives me hope for a future. 550 00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:31,720 Speaker 1: And something you just said triggered something. Sometimes, don't worry 551 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 1: too much about it because it will make you not 552 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,720 Speaker 1: be you and he'll like, what is wrong with you? 553 00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:38,000 Speaker 4: Like? 554 00:29:38,080 --> 00:29:40,080 Speaker 1: Why do you keep going on the negatives? I don't 555 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,720 Speaker 1: want anything to happen to us, you know, stay positive, 556 00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 1: Enjoy this moment. We don't know the future. Believe it's 557 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 1: going to be perfect and it will. 558 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, well it won't be perfect, Susan, but it'll be great. 559 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 2: Believe in yourselves, guys, believe in your relationship and it'll 560 00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 2: go well. 561 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,520 Speaker 1: And enjoy it. Thank you so much for rating. 562 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,760 Speaker 3: Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Bachelor 563 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 3: Happy Hours Golden Hour. 564 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 1: Yes, thank you guys so much. 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