Speaker 1: Best Bits of the Week with Morgan Listener Q and
Speaker 1: a Mary. Almost Christmas. Everybody, Welcome to the Best Bits.
Speaker 1: Thanks for tuning in on your holiday break. I assume
Speaker 1: most of you guys are Amy is joining me this weekend.
Speaker 1: Make sure you go check out part one, but Amy's
Speaker 1: still here with me for part three. Amy, how are
Speaker 1: you hi?
Speaker 2: Good? And right before we did part three, I just
Speaker 2: ran up and down some stairs in the parking garage
Speaker 2: to get something for lunchbox and I'm out of breath.
Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, I might need to work on
Speaker 2: my cardio for a second.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I also feel like when you're rush though, too,
Speaker 1: you just get out of breath a lot quicker and
Speaker 1: your body's moving very fast.
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, there's a lot of factors involved. I definitely
Speaker 2: feel like I'm like, Okay, I know I'm taking care
Speaker 2: of myself and I'm in good shape, but whatever just happened,
Speaker 2: Like I'm oh, maybe it's just time for a break.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's definitely time for a break, which we
Speaker 1: are going to have, but first we have to answer
Speaker 1: some questions. Okay, We're It was some shout outs, though,
Speaker 1: love you both so much. I look up to you all.
Speaker 1: This is from Live in DC.
Speaker 2: Thanks Live.
Speaker 1: I love Amy's new hair. Just a shout out from Kristin.
Speaker 2: Oh thank you. I'm trying to get used to it.
Speaker 2: It's not like that much different. But I did have
Speaker 2: hair extensions even in my short hair, which is weird
Speaker 2: sometimes for people to be like, wait, why with the
Speaker 2: short because I had them when they were long, and
Speaker 2: then when I cut my hair, I just cut them,
Speaker 2: and so I had really short hair extensions, which did
Speaker 2: make it fuller. But anyway, I didn't realize how much
Speaker 2: blonde was in some of the extensions. And this is
Speaker 2: not a big deal at all, but it's just one
Speaker 2: of those things where she took them out and then
Speaker 2: I didn't get my hair colored or anything. I'm like, oh, okay,
Speaker 2: now I have short hair, and it's just really brown.
Speaker 1: Isn't it your natural hair color?
Speaker 2: Pretty much? I mean, there's still some highlights in here,
Speaker 2: but not like the pops of blonde that I think
Speaker 2: kind of wake you up or me up.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize that you were naturally like that brunette.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's dark.
Speaker 1: I mean I see like your eyebrows. I guess your
Speaker 1: sister iste, isn't.
Speaker 2: She Yeah, she's almost like dark dark dark brown to black.
Speaker 2: And my mom was same way. My dad was the
Speaker 2: had the lighter hair. So have you always died your
Speaker 2: hair blonde?
Speaker 1: This is audit tangent.
Speaker 2: No, I've done really dark brown to black before all over.
Speaker 2: I mean that's been in my ful gosh, twenty years
Speaker 2: ago or so. When I first joined the show a
Speaker 2: long time ago, it was like really really dark.
Speaker 1: I think I've only known you up until like recently,
Speaker 1: when you were kind of doing more than natural or
Speaker 1: the ombre. Most of the time, I think I've known
Speaker 1: you. You had blonde hair.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well my own bray look right now, is gray
Speaker 2: hair coming through on the top. They're gonna be sober
Speaker 2: fox maybe maybe, but it is very freeing. I don't
Speaker 2: know if any of you have had extensions. The first
Speaker 2: time I ever got them put in was after my
Speaker 2: mom died. My hair started falling out like I had long,
Speaker 2: thick hair, and I think that's the most stress that
Speaker 2: I had felt. I don't know. It was just a
Speaker 2: very stressful time with her death, and then my eating
Speaker 2: sort of came back like all the same time, so
Speaker 2: I think my body was freaking out a little bit
Speaker 2: and it's healthier now. But I got so used to
Speaker 2: the extensions it was hard to get rid of them.
Speaker 2: But now that they're out, it is so freeing, like
Speaker 2: I take a brush through my hair. So that's why
Speaker 2: I say, if anybody's ever had them, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm talking about, Where you can just take a brush
Speaker 2: through your entire scalp and not worry about anything getting
Speaker 2: caught tugging on there. It feels very freeing.
Speaker 1: Oh good, Okay, Well, thanks Kristin. That's a sweet shout out.
Speaker 2: No, that was probably an unexpect That was a shout out,
Speaker 2: not a question, So that's okay. I rambled.
Speaker 1: No, we were talking about hair. No questions. Just want
Speaker 1: to say I love your podcast and the show. Sadie
Speaker 1: from Ohio. Thanks Sadie, amazing. Okay, getting into questions now,
Speaker 1: Any Haitian traditions you incorporate into your holidays Merry Christmas
Speaker 1: from Gin.
Speaker 2: No traditions that the kids remember and want to bring in.
Speaker 2: I don't know if there are any. We do it
Speaker 2: throughout the year. Just a couple of weeks ago, we
Speaker 2: went to our Haitian spot here in Nashville and picked
Speaker 2: up food to go, and we go home and we
Speaker 2: have Haiti Night, our Haitian night, and you know, we
Speaker 2: try to just talk about Haiti as much as possible,
Speaker 2: talk about their families. I think it would be natural
Speaker 2: for me if it's Mother's Day, Father's Day, not as
Speaker 2: much Father's Day, because they really don't ever talk about
Speaker 2: their dads. They just talk about their moms. And I
Speaker 2: know who their moms are. I do not know who
Speaker 2: their dads are, but I would say Christmas family time,
Speaker 2: it may bring up thoughts for them. So we just
Speaker 2: try to talk about it all the time so that
Speaker 2: it's not difficult if it comes up during more sensitive times.
Speaker 1: Because they were so young, like when they were in Haiti,
Speaker 1: do they have any Christmas traditions that they were not doing.
Speaker 2: That's why we don't have any that we have to carry.
Speaker 2: The main thing for them is the food. They love
Speaker 2: the food, so I try to make sure just you're
Speaker 2: around to have that. Or if we're having a family
Speaker 2: meal around the table for the holidays, like I would
Speaker 2: imagine next week we'll be at my sister's, I could
Speaker 2: see us doing some fried plantains or making some rice
Speaker 2: and beans to go along with the Christmas meal, because
Speaker 2: that's what they would enjoy with certain spices and seasonings
Speaker 2: that they love.
Speaker 1: I was wondering what those recipes would be, because I'm
Speaker 1: not sure what Haitian food is specifically like to them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a specific set of spices that they're used to.
Speaker 2: But even the ones that I have bought here in
Speaker 2: America that are the same thing come from a Haitian
Speaker 2: cookbook that I have from our Haitian friend Mark that
Speaker 2: lives here. He made a little cookbook. And we do
Speaker 2: have Haitian friends too that will all have cook because
Speaker 2: they know exactly what they're doing. But picking it up
Speaker 2: at the Haitian restaurant is also really good. But anyway,
Speaker 2: I'll make it with seasonings that I buy here. And
Speaker 2: my daughter is still She's like, this is just not
Speaker 2: the same. The spices they have to come from Haiti.
Speaker 1: I do wonder because we, I mean, we americanize everything,
Speaker 1: So I do wonder if we americanize those spices a
Speaker 1: little bit so they don't taste quite the same.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think it's just in her I think it could
Speaker 2: be in her mind, but I respect the fact that
Speaker 2: also sometimes it's just that Haitian touch yeah, and maybe you.
Speaker 1: Add a little bit of this and a little bit
Speaker 1: of that.
Speaker 2: And you don't necessarily tell anybody. Yeah, so then it's like, oh, okay,
Speaker 2: this is why it tastes so good. But yeah, I
Speaker 2: try to do it year round. But there's no specific traditions.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's fun. I love you're gonna shout out the
Speaker 1: Haitian restaurant just in cases, I'll try and.
Speaker 2: Look it up on my phone because I don't, I will, okay,
Speaker 2: keep talking and then I'll pull it up. But it's
Speaker 2: from one of those ghost kitchens. Oh right around the corner. Nice,
Speaker 2: so it's not too far from here. And you go
Speaker 2: and you enter stuff in on a screen and there's
Speaker 2: all different types of.
Speaker 1: Food ordered from ghost kitchens on like uber Eats. I
Speaker 1: didn't realize there was also like ghost minus.
Speaker 2: Oh no, you can show up a lot of people
Speaker 2: picking up or working for Uber eats or door Dash,
Speaker 2: but if you just want to go there, you can
Speaker 2: enter it in on the screen and there's a bunch
Speaker 2: of lockers and you get a locker code and it's like,
Speaker 2: you know, you get locker five and it gives you
Speaker 2: a thing. You put your phone up to it and
Speaker 2: the locker opens and whila, there's all this Haitian food
Speaker 2: sitting there. You don't ever see a human that's wild.
Speaker 2: But if you want Italian, if you want like there,
Speaker 2: if you want name it Chinese, Jeff, like, there's so
Speaker 2: many options there, or even like a burger, I'll tell
Speaker 2: you where it is, OK, but let me look up
Speaker 2: the restaurant we're going to go.
Speaker 1: To, Stephanie. She wants to know how you really feel
Speaker 1: about Lunchbox's Christmas gift that he gave you for our
Speaker 1: annual Christmas.
Speaker 2: The eye candy.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Uh, it's on brand, like it tracks. It's funny, it's Lunchbox,
Speaker 2: so I get it. And his wife was literally with
Speaker 2: him when he picked it out, And.
Speaker 1: That does make it not so creepy yet, you know,
Speaker 1: because she probably picked it out and just handed it
Speaker 1: to him.
Speaker 2: You know, I can laugh at things like it's not
Speaker 2: I think some people might really not like that at all,
Speaker 2: but I I'm not married anymore. I know that Ben
Speaker 2: did not like that kind of stuff when we were married.
Speaker 2: I think Lunchbox did that probably fifteen sixteen years ago
Speaker 2: or so. He gave me like candy underwear, and I
Speaker 2: think it was my first like it was my anniversary
Speaker 2: or maybe my first Christmas after being married a year,
Speaker 2: and Lunchbox like gifted me all kinds of edible things
Speaker 2: and he's like, you know, you got to keep this
Speaker 2: bark alive. It's I don't know, he's funny like that.
Speaker 2: Ben did not think it was funny though, because I
Speaker 2: was still very new to the show and very new
Speaker 2: to understanding Lunchbox, and same with Ben. And he was
Speaker 2: out of the country a lot, so he didn't really
Speaker 2: listen to the show and he didn't understand. And we
Speaker 2: were in our twenties, so think of Lunchbox now multiply
Speaker 2: that by twenty oh.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine he was completely unhinged totally. And because
Speaker 1: he was, he also wasn't married Ben.
Speaker 2: Right, he was staying out all night. You can only imagine.
Speaker 2: We were on a pop station, so things were.
Speaker 1: A little less family friendly.
Speaker 2: Yes, exactly.
Speaker 1: Okay. Favorite Christmas memory from your childhood Ashley in Arizona.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'll answer that, and real quick. It's Chez Lama
Speaker 2: Haitian cuisine. Oh nice, and it's Midtown Foods is the
Speaker 2: ghost Kitchen situation? Okay?
Speaker 1: Yeah, people love National recommendations, and I'm sure there's people
Speaker 1: that want Haitian recommendations, so.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah maybe or any other yeah type of food
Speaker 2: because they have it all. Okay, so uh was the
Speaker 2: question again?
Speaker 1: Favorite Christmas memory from childhood.
Speaker 2: If anybody ever questions if I have ADHD it's hilarious.
Speaker 2: Probably the year I got a microphone from my grandma.
Speaker 2: We were in Birmingham, Alabama. All my cousins were over.
Speaker 2: Everyone got something musical, like do you know somebody got drums?
Speaker 2: Somebody got this. So my sister and my three cousins
Speaker 2: we formed a band and my microphone was yellow and
Speaker 2: had a stand and we performed Cocomo by the Beach Boys.
Speaker 1: Could you still sing Cocomo right?
Speaker 2: Like a Ruba Jamaica? Ooh, I wanna take it to
Speaker 2: Bermuda Bahama Come, I'm Freddy, Mama, key Largo, montego baby
Speaker 2: Ladle we go down to cocame Okay.
Speaker 1: And I didn't know, No, I didn't know the song.
Speaker 2: So the faster them, We'll take it slow, that's where
Speaker 2: we wanna go.
Speaker 1: Did you guys all tell your grandma collectively that you
Speaker 1: wanted to form a band or what was this music instrument?
Speaker 2: Situation. Maybe it was her idea. She was like, Oh,
Speaker 2: maybe I'll just get them all something and then they
Speaker 2: can play. That'll give them something to do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and probably get your guys to bond to. That
Speaker 1: was probably something. Oh that's super sweet. How old were
Speaker 1: you roughly roughly seven maybe and you still remember that?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, core memory?
Speaker 1: Then I feel like it's the core memories you remember. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I don't remember much from my childhood, which that's a
Speaker 2: whole nother thing, but yes, I remember.
Speaker 1: That, Okay, core memory. Shout out Grandma. Kaylie would like
Speaker 1: to know what kind of cat is Maggie Ballanese. How
Speaker 1: is Maggie doing.
Speaker 2: She's doing great, except for she did throw up yesterday.
Speaker 2: I don't know why, but she seemed okay. It was
Speaker 2: just one time, and then.
Speaker 1: Cats always throw up its hair balls. She was fine.
Speaker 2: So Cara threw up the other day too, But I
Speaker 2: know why. She ate a bunch of coffee.
Speaker 1: So she ate a bunch of coffee like coffee.
Speaker 2: Yes, someone had given me a gift here at work,
Speaker 2: and it was a bag of coffee and I had
Speaker 2: it on the counter because i'd unpacked the box. And
Speaker 2: I left the room for a little bit, and then
Speaker 2: I find the coffee. She didn't need the whole bag
Speaker 2: or anything. I think she figured out pretty quickly this
Speaker 2: is not good.
Speaker 1: Didn't that taste it?
Speaker 2: At least it came out, Yeah, came out. But Maggie's good.
Speaker 2: A Balinese is a long haired Siamese.
Speaker 1: She's cross eyed. How much is Maggie way?
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know, probably more than she should.
Speaker 1: Let's just say that. The reason I asked this is Hazel,
Speaker 1: my cat is so small, and I try everything. She
Speaker 1: eats three times eight, like all day she has food,
Speaker 1: and she's seven pounds.
Speaker 2: But I think her fur is less.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's not long haired. She's short haired.
Speaker 2: So even Kara, for example, she's a labberdoodle, and so
Speaker 2: when she is shaved down, she looks like a skinny
Speaker 2: little rat dog. But when her coat is grown out,
Speaker 2: even just an inch or inch and a half, she
Speaker 2: looks like the fluffiest, biggest dog you've ever seen. So
Speaker 2: I think for Maggie, since she's long haired, she looks
Speaker 2: fluffier and bigger than she is.
Speaker 1: Have you ever given Maggie bath?
Speaker 2: Yes, yes I have. I don't know that she likes it,
Speaker 2: but yes I have, especially when we were first learning
Speaker 2: how to use the little robot, she did not like
Speaker 2: that thing. And I see people rave about the little robots,
Speaker 2: so I was very excited to get it, and it
Speaker 2: did not work for our family. I had to sell
Speaker 2: it because she can figure it out. So now I
Speaker 2: just use a regular litter box and we are happy
Speaker 2: as a clam. But that thing, she was ending up
Speaker 2: with stuff all over her, and so I would want
Speaker 2: to bathe her.
Speaker 1: Yeah, people you want to.
Speaker 2: Cause a little controversy on Instagram or whatever social media
Speaker 2: platform you choose, people do not understand or like if
Speaker 2: you bathe the cat. I mean some people get it
Speaker 2: and they're fine, but that will get some attention. And
Speaker 2: people are just like what cats clean themselves? And I'm like,
Speaker 2: yes to a certain extent, but cats.
Speaker 1: Also are They're still animals and they'll still get dirty,
Speaker 1: and they still have moments. Hazel's been baits, I haven't.
Speaker 1: I had them tod that one time and it was
Speaker 1: like a scene from a movie. I was in my
Speaker 1: shower and she was up on the walls and I
Speaker 1: was like, this is not going well. The Bobby had
Speaker 1: gifted me like a two or three Christmas exchanges ago,
Speaker 1: like this mobile pet spa and randomly like they'll always
Speaker 1: come like once a month to bathe Remmy because Remy
Speaker 1: needs a good little blowout. But every so often, like,
Speaker 1: can you guys bathe Hazel? And they will, and Hazel,
Speaker 1: I guess, just sits calmly in the bathroom them and
Speaker 1: they just like and she They're like, she's literally the
Speaker 1: most well behaved cat ever, Like that was not my experience.
Speaker 1: This is rude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, they do make little sacks you can put
Speaker 2: them in that help them feel like safe and contain
Speaker 2: while you're making like a mesh sack. And then also
Speaker 2: I have used a groomer before, only twice in the
Speaker 2: entire time that we've had her, which has been several
Speaker 2: years now, but her hair got really madded in the back.
Speaker 2: With long hair, you do have to brush a lot,
Speaker 2: and with the oil build up it if you don't
Speaker 2: brush often, which we're not always the best at, it'll
Speaker 2: build up into these little knots. And there's nothing I
Speaker 2: could do. And I felt bad because I'm pretty sure
Speaker 2: that's painful on her. Yeah, I've used a groomer and
Speaker 2: I mean there's nothing like it. She looks beautiful when
Speaker 2: they get done with her, and I'm like, well, but
Speaker 2: I am not paying to have my cat bait. Sorry, yeah,
Speaker 2: like a lot. I will every once in a while.
Speaker 1: I would say every once in a while. That Hazel's
Speaker 1: like once a year maybe if she really needs it
Speaker 1: or something. It's more just like on a random occasion. Remy,
Speaker 1: on the other hand, needs one more Quite often.
Speaker 2: I feel like, Remy so small, you just throw in
Speaker 2: the sink. Oh.
Speaker 1: I bathe her a lot, too, but it's like she
Speaker 1: needs a good blowout because she won't let me blow
Speaker 1: dry her hair and her fur needs to be pulled
Speaker 1: off of her body, especially when I'm about to like
Speaker 1: shave her down, and so I always have them blow
Speaker 1: her out and then I do the her actual grooming.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, it's a whole process skill set there.
Speaker 2: I didn't know you had.
Speaker 1: It's not it's not a professional. Like anybody who would
Speaker 1: ever ask me to be like, can you groom my?
Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm not. I just I can be
Speaker 1: content with what Remy looks like when I do it,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Versus if somebody else, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm not a professional. I definitely don't have the skill
Speaker 1: set to like make her look like she would from
Speaker 1: a groomer. Right, It's just for her to survive, you know,
Speaker 1: and it looks good. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break.
Speaker 1: We'll be right back. Everybody's always asking for Nashville recommendation,
Speaker 1: so I can share these of mine first and it
Speaker 1: can make you think. But we had a woman want
Speaker 1: to know best places in Nashville for a business lunch
Speaker 1: and dinner. So maybe think of some places you've been
Speaker 1: for the two that I would come up with for lunch. Postina,
Speaker 1: which is a new spot in twelve South. They have
Speaker 1: these amazing different boards from Cheeseboard, Duhummas Board, and they
Speaker 1: do a fun little happy hour with those boards and
Speaker 1: wine and stuff, and it's a cool vibe. I feel
Speaker 1: like it's such a cool spot for a work lunch
Speaker 1: while also being a little bit fun. And then dinner.
Speaker 1: I'd say sixty Vines because sixty Vines is elegant, but
Speaker 1: it's upscale American and it's also friendly.
Speaker 2: Do you feel like for a business meeting though it's
Speaker 2: a little crowded and loud. I don't know what type
Speaker 2: of business meeting we're having here, so I'm just trying
Speaker 2: to say, like, I'm.
Speaker 1: Having a business meeting and a thing. You need a vibe.
Speaker 2: I get it. Oh, I'm with you.
Speaker 1: It is a vibe.
Speaker 2: I love going there, but I'm thinking, like it's just
Speaker 2: so crap because there's so much happening and it's right
Speaker 2: off Broadway. It's definitely fun. I'm just trying to think and.
Speaker 1: Maybe I have different ideas for business dinners. So that's
Speaker 1: why I want us both to share.
Speaker 2: Oh I know, well, maybe by the time it's dinner time,
Speaker 2: they're just really trying to hang out and get along.
Speaker 2: But I feel like every time I'm there, so I'm like,
Speaker 2: what'd you say? What? See?
Speaker 1: That's also good for too. That's why she's Blanco, because
Speaker 1: Blanco for me is even loud. So it's funny that
Speaker 1: you say sixty vines because they're like, oh, that one's
Speaker 1: formally okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you need to figure out if Audrey is
Speaker 2: open for lunch. Have you been there yet in East Nashville.
Speaker 1: No, but I have heard good things about it.
Speaker 2: It's an amazing My goodness, it's amazing. I don't know
Speaker 2: that I would say it's a lunch place. And then
Speaker 2: it also depends on what you're trying to spend because
Speaker 2: more taking people out. Yes, it's a little nice. It's
Speaker 2: more of like a date night spot, so scratch that.
Speaker 2: But Henrietta Red is also so good and cozy. But
Speaker 2: I don't know that I have good like take a
Speaker 2: bunch of people. How do you know? I was just
Speaker 2: thinking Barcelona is so good, But I don't know that
Speaker 2: that's a good Barcelona being.
Speaker 1: A spot that could be good for lunch because that
Speaker 1: does get wild and a little bit louder at night,
Speaker 1: but they have good lunch. Okay, so maybe lunch spot Barcelona.
Speaker 2: Sorry, I don't know that I made that helpful. We
Speaker 2: eat out of Chipotle.
Speaker 1: Chipotle is also a good spot for lunch.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you couldn't get that anywhere, so she went
Speaker 2: to Nashville spots. So maybe as we continue talking, I
Speaker 2: might think of something else.
Speaker 1: Okay. We have Melissa in California who would like the
Speaker 1: best tip for balancing a career in kiddos. She is
Speaker 1: always feeling guilty.
Speaker 2: Oh, the best tip is there is no balance. Really,
Speaker 2: I've learned that from multiple people that have talked about it.
Speaker 2: The most famous one for sure would be Shonda Rhimes,
Speaker 2: the TV creator producer, director, all the things. She said
Speaker 2: it best, and I'm paraphrasing here, but you know, if
Speaker 2: she's out doing something for Grey's Anatomy, she's inevitably missing
Speaker 2: something for her children. And if she's with her children,
Speaker 2: then she's missing someone's last scene in a show that
Speaker 2: she's been working on forever. So there's give and take,
Speaker 2: And I don't think you need to feel guilty. You
Speaker 2: just need to say, in order for me to do
Speaker 2: this part of my life and pursue this part of
Speaker 2: my dream, I am going to have to miss out
Speaker 2: on other parts of my dream. So your kids are
Speaker 2: important to you, and your job is important to you,
Speaker 2: and there really is no balance to that. There's just
Speaker 2: decisions that you have to make, and then you have
Speaker 2: to surrender and release that guilt because it's doing you
Speaker 2: no favors carrying it around. Now, if you're in a
Speaker 2: position where you are literally having to choose work all
Speaker 2: of the time and you're missing everything with your kids,
Speaker 2: then okay, there's room for some guilt, maybe reflection on
Speaker 2: how can we remedy this. But if you're doing the
Speaker 2: best you can to make a hard to make a choice,
Speaker 2: and it's going to be hard. Then that's where it's at,
Speaker 2: and you got to surrender the guilt.
Speaker 1: Oh that's really good advice. Also, I didn't know that
Speaker 1: about Shonda. That's cool.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she did a commencement speech a while back. I
Speaker 2: think it was maybe even the college she went to,
Speaker 2: but you can look it up on YouTube. Watch the
Speaker 2: entire thing. It's brilliant. She did a great job. She's
Speaker 2: a wonderful speaker, and it really resonated with me. And
Speaker 2: since then, I've heard a lot of other people say
Speaker 2: a similar message and something that they've adopted for their
Speaker 2: own life. But I think that that's what we have
Speaker 2: to do. Like, you can't carry that type of guilt.
Speaker 2: You just have to know like you're doing the best
Speaker 2: that you can and you're living out multiple dreams. Like
Speaker 2: if you've wanted to be a good mom and you're
Speaker 2: getting to do that, that's amazing. If you've wanted to
Speaker 2: pursue this career and you're getting to do that, that's
Speaker 2: also amazing. You just got to make hard decisions sometimes,
Speaker 2: but release the guilt. Like I've missed stuff before and
Speaker 2: I'm like, uh, but then I try to be in
Speaker 2: the moment. I don't want to miss out on where
Speaker 2: I am in that present moment because I'm carrying around
Speaker 2: this guilt. But it's okay to be sad and grieve
Speaker 2: that I can't be there. And then there's times where
Speaker 2: I've said no to work for family, not even just
Speaker 2: my kids. I know that there was a time that
Speaker 2: I missed iHeart Festival in Vegas, which is very rare.
Speaker 2: I think I've been to that every single time except
Speaker 2: for one year. My dad was really sick and he
Speaker 2: was in Nashville and I was his primary caregiver and
Speaker 2: I just thought, oh, I think it was like the
Speaker 2: day before, I was like, there's no way I can leave.
Speaker 2: And being with my dad was clearly the right decision.
Speaker 2: I knew it. It was hard to call Jen, our boss,
Speaker 2: and say, hey, I know everything's already booked and y'all
Speaker 2: have me scheduled for interviews and I but I can't.
Speaker 2: And I backed out. And that was a hard decision
Speaker 2: but also the right decision. And again it's it's not balance,
Speaker 2: it's just making hard.
Speaker 1: Always coming in with the wisdom on things.
Speaker 2: Oh it's from other people.
Speaker 1: No, that was really good. Okay, speaking of wisdom, we
Speaker 1: have a last piece here, so we have Laura who
Speaker 1: would really like to get a four Things tope for
Speaker 1: her fourth kid, but she had gotten one for all
Speaker 1: of her kids before that. Unfortunately, she lost her kid
Speaker 1: three days after he was born. As she put he
Speaker 1: grew his wings. So she still wants to get one
Speaker 1: to commemorate that fourth kids. So she's trying to figure
Speaker 1: out what she should put on the fourth like the
Speaker 1: tote the words, so we can brainstorm here together for her,
Speaker 1: maybe some ideas, some words that she can put on that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that if you look at what the
Speaker 2: other totes are for the kids, I don't know if
Speaker 2: their names are on it, so a name would be
Speaker 2: one spot if that is the case. If not, what
Speaker 2: words bring you comfort when you think of him and
Speaker 2: his situation. I don't really honestly know what would be
Speaker 2: comforting about that at all, because it's one of the
Speaker 2: most difficult things ever. I do try to look in
Speaker 2: at the the gain, and I don't know what you
Speaker 2: have gained as a mom going through something so terrible.
Speaker 2: There's strength, there's tenacity, there's perseverance, there's so many emotions.
Speaker 1: But I think it could be another word because there's
Speaker 1: so much love there for them. That's like a hopeful word.
Speaker 2: Maybe, yeah, I think this is a really I know
Speaker 2: this is a hard testical question. I guess I could,
Speaker 2: but I saw it some more time on and come
Speaker 2: up with something meaningful. But I would just maybe dream
Speaker 2: up to what you thought he might be like, and
Speaker 2: if there's a word that could describe that, like if
Speaker 2: you just sometimes you just know, like I don't know
Speaker 2: what number of child it is, is a fourth yeah,
Speaker 2: so fourth child, the youngest. We're normally a little bit.
Speaker 2: I see Amy and I can both speak to that,
Speaker 2: and so you may know some of his personality traits
Speaker 2: just based on the fact that he is your fourth child.
Speaker 2: And if there's a verse or scripture. I don't know
Speaker 2: if faith is a part of your life, but I
Speaker 2: guess just if something has brought you comfort, a quote
Speaker 2: or a verse pulling from that, but I know a
Speaker 2: full quote is not going to fit because there's a
Speaker 2: character limit for each thing. But like my mom's joy,
Speaker 2: like when she was going through cancer, joy was her motto,
Speaker 2: but it came from Niamiah eight ten, the joy of
Speaker 2: the Lord is my strength. So for example, on my
Speaker 2: mom's so we might put Niamiah eight ten and that
Speaker 2: was some of that. So if there is a verse
Speaker 2: or a poem or a quote or a book or
Speaker 2: anything like that that brought you comfort, you can incorporate
Speaker 2: that somehow with one of the more powerful words or
Speaker 2: the title or the passage.
Speaker 1: Yeah, these are really good. I know this was a
Speaker 1: hard one, but I saw it come through and I
Speaker 1: was like, I feel like we have to help her
Speaker 1: with this one, just because or even hard to think
Speaker 1: of right now.
Speaker 2: You know the name, and then yes, there's other things
Speaker 2: to describe him, but just brother because he's the brother
Speaker 2: to the other siblings mm hm.
Speaker 1: And maybe a middle name because I imagine he had a
Speaker 1: first and a middle name, so maybe both of his
Speaker 1: names if you just feel like nothing is going to
Speaker 1: suffice his names in scripture, and maybe a you know, love,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of other words for love, because
Speaker 1: I love you.
Speaker 2: Like you can even write things out does it can
Speaker 2: be an action. So that's another thing about the four
Speaker 2: things totes is it could be one word or it
Speaker 2: can be an action of we miss you, we love you,
Speaker 2: You're precious, you are loved, and you know, yeah you
Speaker 2: can kind.
Speaker 1: Of Okay, Well, I didn't want to end on that,
Speaker 1: But that's where we are. Is there any We're gonna
Speaker 1: We're gonna try and go to a different direction, just
Speaker 1: to end on something. Did you have any other suggestions
Speaker 1: for Nashville dinner lunch as we were talking, but I
Speaker 1: know we did.
Speaker 2: There's just you know what my brain is just it's
Speaker 2: like the last few places that I've eaten, literally or Chipotle,
Speaker 2: Audrey Henrietta Read and Barcelona, so like, those are the
Speaker 2: things that come to my mind. I'm like, where else
Speaker 2: have I gone? Or what do I like? What's that
Speaker 2: place we went to for lunch that was so good?
Speaker 2: We went to a business in Sadies, Mediterranean, right next
Speaker 2: to Barcelona, and it's in edge Hill and it is
Speaker 2: That's a cute little place.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good one for a lunch or dinner.
Speaker 1: They do both.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, there we go.
Speaker 1: We got we ended on one. Okay, Well, Merry Christmas,
Speaker 1: like early Christmas, Happy holidays everybody, Amy, thanks for joining.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 1: Tell the people where they can.
Speaker 2: Find you all that good stuff at radio Amy, that's
Speaker 2: the easiest place. I feel like sometimes I rattle off
Speaker 2: like tons of stuff, but if you just go there,
Speaker 2: there's links and all the things but podcast is Four
Speaker 2: Things with Amy Brown and Yeah, I hope y'all have
Speaker 2: the Christmas that you need to have.
Speaker 1: Very good Merry Christmas everybody.
Speaker 2: Bye.
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