1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 1: Best Bits of the Week with Morgan Listener Q and 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:12,119 Speaker 1: a Mary. Almost Christmas. Everybody, Welcome to the Best Bits. 3 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: Thanks for tuning in on your holiday break. I assume 4 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: most of you guys are Amy is joining me this weekend. 5 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: Make sure you go check out part one, but Amy's 6 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:22,239 Speaker 1: still here with me for part three. Amy, how are 7 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: you hi? 8 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 2: Good? And right before we did part three, I just 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:29,960 Speaker 2: ran up and down some stairs in the parking garage 10 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 2: to get something for lunchbox and I'm out of breath. 11 00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, I might need to work on 12 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 2: my cardio for a second. 13 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:40,279 Speaker 1: Yeah. I also feel like when you're rush though, too, 14 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: you just get out of breath a lot quicker and 15 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 1: your body's moving very fast. 16 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. No, there's a lot of factors involved. I definitely 17 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 2: feel like I'm like, Okay, I know I'm taking care 18 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 2: of myself and I'm in good shape, but whatever just happened, 19 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:54,320 Speaker 2: Like I'm oh, maybe it's just time for a break. 20 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's definitely time for a break, which we 21 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:58,720 Speaker 1: are going to have, but first we have to answer 22 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: some questions. Okay, We're It was some shout outs, though, 23 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 1: love you both so much. I look up to you all. 24 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: This is from Live in DC. 25 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:06,400 Speaker 2: Thanks Live. 26 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: I love Amy's new hair. Just a shout out from Kristin. 27 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 2: Oh thank you. I'm trying to get used to it. 28 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 2: It's not like that much different. But I did have 29 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 2: hair extensions even in my short hair, which is weird 30 00:01:18,240 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 2: sometimes for people to be like, wait, why with the 31 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 2: short because I had them when they were long, and 32 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:25,759 Speaker 2: then when I cut my hair, I just cut them, 33 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 2: and so I had really short hair extensions, which did 34 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 2: make it fuller. But anyway, I didn't realize how much 35 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 2: blonde was in some of the extensions. And this is 36 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 2: not a big deal at all, but it's just one 37 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:39,400 Speaker 2: of those things where she took them out and then 38 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 2: I didn't get my hair colored or anything. I'm like, oh, okay, 39 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:43,839 Speaker 2: now I have short hair, and it's just really brown. 40 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:45,759 Speaker 1: Isn't it your natural hair color? 41 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 2: Pretty much? I mean, there's still some highlights in here, 42 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 2: but not like the pops of blonde that I think 43 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:52,640 Speaker 2: kind of wake you up or me up. 44 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: I didn't realize that you were naturally like that brunette. 45 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's dark. 46 00:01:57,680 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: I mean I see like your eyebrows. I guess your 47 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 1: sister iste, isn't. 48 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 2: She Yeah, she's almost like dark dark dark brown to black. 49 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:07,560 Speaker 2: And my mom was same way. My dad was the 50 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 2: had the lighter hair. So have you always died your 51 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 2: hair blonde? 52 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:11,359 Speaker 1: This is audit tangent. 53 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 2: No, I've done really dark brown to black before all over. 54 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 2: I mean that's been in my ful gosh, twenty years 55 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 2: ago or so. When I first joined the show a 56 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 2: long time ago, it was like really really dark. 57 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: I think I've only known you up until like recently, 58 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 1: when you were kind of doing more than natural or 59 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: the ombre. Most of the time, I think I've known 60 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: you. You had blonde hair. 61 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, well my own bray look right now, is gray 62 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 2: hair coming through on the top. They're gonna be sober 63 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:42,400 Speaker 2: fox maybe maybe, but it is very freeing. I don't 64 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 2: know if any of you have had extensions. The first 65 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 2: time I ever got them put in was after my 66 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 2: mom died. My hair started falling out like I had long, 67 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 2: thick hair, and I think that's the most stress that 68 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 2: I had felt. I don't know. It was just a 69 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 2: very stressful time with her death, and then my eating 70 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:58,800 Speaker 2: sort of came back like all the same time, so 71 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 2: I think my body was freaking out a little bit 72 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 2: and it's healthier now. But I got so used to 73 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 2: the extensions it was hard to get rid of them. 74 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 2: But now that they're out, it is so freeing, like 75 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 2: I take a brush through my hair. So that's why 76 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 2: I say, if anybody's ever had them, you know what 77 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 2: I'm talking about, Where you can just take a brush 78 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 2: through your entire scalp and not worry about anything getting 79 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 2: caught tugging on there. It feels very freeing. 80 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,440 Speaker 1: Oh good, Okay, Well, thanks Kristin. That's a sweet shout out. 81 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,280 Speaker 2: No, that was probably an unexpect That was a shout out, 82 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,560 Speaker 2: not a question, So that's okay. I rambled. 83 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: No, we were talking about hair. No questions. Just want 84 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: to say I love your podcast and the show. Sadie 85 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:39,119 Speaker 1: from Ohio. Thanks Sadie, amazing. Okay, getting into questions now, 86 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: Any Haitian traditions you incorporate into your holidays Merry Christmas 87 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: from Gin. 88 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 2: No traditions that the kids remember and want to bring in. 89 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 2: I don't know if there are any. We do it 90 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 2: throughout the year. Just a couple of weeks ago, we 91 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 2: went to our Haitian spot here in Nashville and picked 92 00:03:56,760 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 2: up food to go, and we go home and we 93 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 2: have Haiti Night, our Haitian night, and you know, we 94 00:04:03,400 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 2: try to just talk about Haiti as much as possible, 95 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 2: talk about their families. I think it would be natural 96 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 2: for me if it's Mother's Day, Father's Day, not as 97 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 2: much Father's Day, because they really don't ever talk about 98 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 2: their dads. They just talk about their moms. And I 99 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 2: know who their moms are. I do not know who 100 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 2: their dads are, but I would say Christmas family time, 101 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:25,719 Speaker 2: it may bring up thoughts for them. So we just 102 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 2: try to talk about it all the time so that 103 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 2: it's not difficult if it comes up during more sensitive times. 104 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: Because they were so young, like when they were in Haiti, 105 00:04:37,480 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: do they have any Christmas traditions that they were not doing. 106 00:04:40,880 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: That's why we don't have any that we have to carry. 107 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 2: The main thing for them is the food. They love 108 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 2: the food, so I try to make sure just you're 109 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,280 Speaker 2: around to have that. Or if we're having a family 110 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 2: meal around the table for the holidays, like I would 111 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:57,840 Speaker 2: imagine next week we'll be at my sister's, I could 112 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 2: see us doing some fried plantains or making some rice 113 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 2: and beans to go along with the Christmas meal, because 114 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 2: that's what they would enjoy with certain spices and seasonings 115 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 2: that they love. 116 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 1: I was wondering what those recipes would be, because I'm 117 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:13,360 Speaker 1: not sure what Haitian food is specifically like to them. 118 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a specific set of spices that they're used to. 119 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:18,839 Speaker 2: But even the ones that I have bought here in 120 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 2: America that are the same thing come from a Haitian 121 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 2: cookbook that I have from our Haitian friend Mark that 122 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:27,359 Speaker 2: lives here. He made a little cookbook. And we do 123 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:29,799 Speaker 2: have Haitian friends too that will all have cook because 124 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 2: they know exactly what they're doing. But picking it up 125 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 2: at the Haitian restaurant is also really good. But anyway, 126 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 2: I'll make it with seasonings that I buy here. And 127 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 2: my daughter is still She's like, this is just not 128 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 2: the same. The spices they have to come from Haiti. 129 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 1: I do wonder because we, I mean, we americanize everything, 130 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:50,880 Speaker 1: So I do wonder if we americanize those spices a 131 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: little bit so they don't taste quite the same. 132 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 2: I don't. 133 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:53,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. 134 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,279 Speaker 2: I think it's just in her I think it could 135 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 2: be in her mind, but I respect the fact that 136 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 2: also sometimes it's just that Haitian touch yeah, and maybe you. 137 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:03,440 Speaker 1: Add a little bit of this and a little bit 138 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:03,840 Speaker 1: of that. 139 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 2: And you don't necessarily tell anybody. Yeah, so then it's like, oh, okay, 140 00:06:06,960 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 2: this is why it tastes so good. But yeah, I 141 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 2: try to do it year round. But there's no specific traditions. 142 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 1: Okay, that's fun. I love you're gonna shout out the 143 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:20,479 Speaker 1: Haitian restaurant just in cases, I'll try and. 144 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 2: Look it up on my phone because I don't, I will, okay, 145 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 2: keep talking and then I'll pull it up. But it's 146 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 2: from one of those ghost kitchens. Oh right around the corner. Nice, 147 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 2: so it's not too far from here. And you go 148 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 2: and you enter stuff in on a screen and there's 149 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 2: all different types of. 150 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 1: Food ordered from ghost kitchens on like uber Eats. I 151 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:40,919 Speaker 1: didn't realize there was also like ghost minus. 152 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 2: Oh no, you can show up a lot of people 153 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:45,799 Speaker 2: picking up or working for Uber eats or door Dash, 154 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 2: but if you just want to go there, you can 155 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 2: enter it in on the screen and there's a bunch 156 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 2: of lockers and you get a locker code and it's like, 157 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 2: you know, you get locker five and it gives you 158 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 2: a thing. You put your phone up to it and 159 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,480 Speaker 2: the locker opens and whila, there's all this Haitian food 160 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 2: sitting there. You don't ever see a human that's wild. 161 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 2: But if you want Italian, if you want like there, 162 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 2: if you want name it Chinese, Jeff, like, there's so 163 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 2: many options there, or even like a burger, I'll tell 164 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 2: you where it is, OK, but let me look up 165 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 2: the restaurant we're going to go. 166 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 1: To, Stephanie. She wants to know how you really feel 167 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 1: about Lunchbox's Christmas gift that he gave you for our 168 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: annual Christmas. 169 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 2: The eye candy. 170 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. 171 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 2: Uh, it's on brand, like it tracks. It's funny, it's Lunchbox, 172 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 2: so I get it. And his wife was literally with 173 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 2: him when he picked it out, And. 174 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: That does make it not so creepy yet, you know, 175 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 1: because she probably picked it out and just handed it 176 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 1: to him. 177 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 2: You know, I can laugh at things like it's not 178 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:49,520 Speaker 2: I think some people might really not like that at all, 179 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 2: but I I'm not married anymore. I know that Ben 180 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 2: did not like that kind of stuff when we were married. 181 00:07:56,760 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 2: I think Lunchbox did that probably fifteen sixteen years ago 182 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 2: or so. He gave me like candy underwear, and I 183 00:08:07,080 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 2: think it was my first like it was my anniversary 184 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 2: or maybe my first Christmas after being married a year, 185 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 2: and Lunchbox like gifted me all kinds of edible things 186 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 2: and he's like, you know, you got to keep this 187 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 2: bark alive. It's I don't know, he's funny like that. 188 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 2: Ben did not think it was funny though, because I 189 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 2: was still very new to the show and very new 190 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 2: to understanding Lunchbox, and same with Ben. And he was 191 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 2: out of the country a lot, so he didn't really 192 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 2: listen to the show and he didn't understand. And we 193 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 2: were in our twenties, so think of Lunchbox now multiply 194 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:43,199 Speaker 2: that by twenty oh. 195 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: I can't imagine he was completely unhinged totally. And because 196 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 1: he was, he also wasn't married Ben. 197 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 2: Right, he was staying out all night. You can only imagine. 198 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 2: We were on a pop station, so things were. 199 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: A little less family friendly. 200 00:08:58,880 --> 00:08:59,680 Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. 201 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:05,400 Speaker 1: Okay. Favorite Christmas memory from your childhood Ashley in Arizona. 202 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 2: Okay, I'll answer that, and real quick. It's Chez Lama 203 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:14,160 Speaker 2: Haitian cuisine. Oh nice, and it's Midtown Foods is the 204 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 2: ghost Kitchen situation? Okay? 205 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, people love National recommendations, and I'm sure there's people 206 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 1: that want Haitian recommendations, so. 207 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:25,839 Speaker 2: Well, yeah maybe or any other yeah type of food 208 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:29,679 Speaker 2: because they have it all. Okay, so uh was the 209 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 2: question again? 210 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:33,600 Speaker 1: Favorite Christmas memory from childhood. 211 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 2: If anybody ever questions if I have ADHD it's hilarious. 212 00:09:37,720 --> 00:09:42,240 Speaker 2: Probably the year I got a microphone from my grandma. 213 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 2: We were in Birmingham, Alabama. All my cousins were over. 214 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 2: Everyone got something musical, like do you know somebody got drums? 215 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 2: Somebody got this. So my sister and my three cousins 216 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 2: we formed a band and my microphone was yellow and 217 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 2: had a stand and we performed Cocomo by the Beach Boys. 218 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: Could you still sing Cocomo right? 219 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:08,000 Speaker 2: Like a Ruba Jamaica? Ooh, I wanna take it to 220 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: Bermuda Bahama Come, I'm Freddy, Mama, key Largo, montego baby 221 00:10:13,960 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 2: Ladle we go down to cocame Okay. 222 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: And I didn't know, No, I didn't know the song. 223 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:23,839 Speaker 2: So the faster them, We'll take it slow, that's where 224 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 2: we wanna go. 225 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,200 Speaker 1: Did you guys all tell your grandma collectively that you 226 00:10:28,240 --> 00:10:30,559 Speaker 1: wanted to form a band or what was this music instrument? 227 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 2: Situation. Maybe it was her idea. She was like, Oh, 228 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 2: maybe I'll just get them all something and then they 229 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:37,079 Speaker 2: can play. That'll give them something to do. 230 00:10:37,400 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and probably get your guys to bond to. That 231 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,719 Speaker 1: was probably something. Oh that's super sweet. How old were 232 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:49,160 Speaker 1: you roughly roughly seven maybe and you still remember that? 233 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:50,680 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, core memory? 234 00:10:50,679 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 1: Then I feel like it's the core memories you remember. Yeah. 235 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:56,280 Speaker 2: I don't remember much from my childhood, which that's a 236 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:58,719 Speaker 2: whole nother thing, but yes, I remember. 237 00:10:58,320 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: That, Okay, core memory. Shout out Grandma. Kaylie would like 238 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:05,839 Speaker 1: to know what kind of cat is Maggie Ballanese. How 239 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 1: is Maggie doing. 240 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 2: She's doing great, except for she did throw up yesterday. 241 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 2: I don't know why, but she seemed okay. It was 242 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 2: just one time, and then. 243 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:15,120 Speaker 1: Cats always throw up its hair balls. She was fine. 244 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 2: So Cara threw up the other day too, But I 245 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 2: know why. She ate a bunch of coffee. 246 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 1: So she ate a bunch of coffee like coffee. 247 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:23,959 Speaker 2: Yes, someone had given me a gift here at work, 248 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 2: and it was a bag of coffee and I had 249 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:30,720 Speaker 2: it on the counter because i'd unpacked the box. And 250 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 2: I left the room for a little bit, and then 251 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:33,559 Speaker 2: I find the coffee. She didn't need the whole bag 252 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 2: or anything. I think she figured out pretty quickly this 253 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:36,720 Speaker 2: is not good. 254 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: Didn't that taste it? 255 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:43,200 Speaker 2: At least it came out, Yeah, came out. But Maggie's good. 256 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:46,080 Speaker 2: A Balinese is a long haired Siamese. 257 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 1: She's cross eyed. How much is Maggie way? 258 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:53,959 Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know, probably more than she should. 259 00:11:54,160 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: Let's just say that. The reason I asked this is Hazel, 260 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: my cat is so small, and I try everything. She 261 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:03,600 Speaker 1: eats three times eight, like all day she has food, 262 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 1: and she's seven pounds. 263 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,960 Speaker 2: But I think her fur is less. 264 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's not long haired. She's short haired. 265 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 2: So even Kara, for example, she's a labberdoodle, and so 266 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: when she is shaved down, she looks like a skinny 267 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:21,320 Speaker 2: little rat dog. But when her coat is grown out, 268 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:25,040 Speaker 2: even just an inch or inch and a half, she 269 00:12:25,120 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 2: looks like the fluffiest, biggest dog you've ever seen. So 270 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 2: I think for Maggie, since she's long haired, she looks 271 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 2: fluffier and bigger than she is. 272 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: Have you ever given Maggie bath? 273 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 2: Yes, yes I have. I don't know that she likes it, 274 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 2: but yes I have, especially when we were first learning 275 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:48,320 Speaker 2: how to use the little robot, she did not like 276 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 2: that thing. And I see people rave about the little robots, 277 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 2: so I was very excited to get it, and it 278 00:12:53,600 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 2: did not work for our family. I had to sell 279 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 2: it because she can figure it out. So now I 280 00:12:57,400 --> 00:12:59,559 Speaker 2: just use a regular litter box and we are happy 281 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 2: as a clam. But that thing, she was ending up 282 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 2: with stuff all over her, and so I would want 283 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 2: to bathe her. 284 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, people you want to. 285 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 2: Cause a little controversy on Instagram or whatever social media 286 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:17,079 Speaker 2: platform you choose, people do not understand or like if 287 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:18,719 Speaker 2: you bathe the cat. I mean some people get it 288 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,040 Speaker 2: and they're fine, but that will get some attention. And 289 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 2: people are just like what cats clean themselves? And I'm like, 290 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 2: yes to a certain extent, but cats. 291 00:13:26,640 --> 00:13:29,480 Speaker 1: Also are They're still animals and they'll still get dirty, 292 00:13:29,520 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: and they still have moments. Hazel's been baits, I haven't. 293 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:34,680 Speaker 1: I had them tod that one time and it was 294 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: like a scene from a movie. I was in my 295 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:38,120 Speaker 1: shower and she was up on the walls and I 296 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: was like, this is not going well. The Bobby had 297 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:45,560 Speaker 1: gifted me like a two or three Christmas exchanges ago, 298 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:50,200 Speaker 1: like this mobile pet spa and randomly like they'll always 299 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:52,240 Speaker 1: come like once a month to bathe Remmy because Remy 300 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:55,040 Speaker 1: needs a good little blowout. But every so often, like, 301 00:13:55,040 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 1: can you guys bathe Hazel? And they will, and Hazel, 302 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,680 Speaker 1: I guess, just sits calmly in the bathroom them and 303 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:01,800 Speaker 1: they just like and she They're like, she's literally the 304 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 1: most well behaved cat ever, Like that was not my experience. 305 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:05,160 Speaker 1: This is rude. 306 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, well, they do make little sacks you can put 307 00:14:07,160 --> 00:14:09,440 Speaker 2: them in that help them feel like safe and contain 308 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 2: while you're making like a mesh sack. And then also 309 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 2: I have used a groomer before, only twice in the 310 00:14:16,880 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 2: entire time that we've had her, which has been several 311 00:14:19,360 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 2: years now, but her hair got really madded in the back. 312 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 2: With long hair, you do have to brush a lot, 313 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 2: and with the oil build up it if you don't 314 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:31,640 Speaker 2: brush often, which we're not always the best at, it'll 315 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 2: build up into these little knots. And there's nothing I 316 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 2: could do. And I felt bad because I'm pretty sure 317 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 2: that's painful on her. Yeah, I've used a groomer and 318 00:14:39,440 --> 00:14:41,920 Speaker 2: I mean there's nothing like it. She looks beautiful when 319 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 2: they get done with her, and I'm like, well, but 320 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 2: I am not paying to have my cat bait. Sorry, yeah, 321 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 2: like a lot. I will every once in a while. 322 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,240 Speaker 1: I would say every once in a while. That Hazel's 323 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: like once a year maybe if she really needs it 324 00:14:52,680 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 1: or something. It's more just like on a random occasion. Remy, 325 00:14:55,160 --> 00:14:57,400 Speaker 1: on the other hand, needs one more Quite often. 326 00:14:57,440 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 2: I feel like, Remy so small, you just throw in 327 00:14:59,120 --> 00:14:59,880 Speaker 2: the sink. Oh. 328 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 1: I bathe her a lot, too, but it's like she 329 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:04,240 Speaker 1: needs a good blowout because she won't let me blow 330 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 1: dry her hair and her fur needs to be pulled 331 00:15:06,920 --> 00:15:09,480 Speaker 1: off of her body, especially when I'm about to like 332 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: shave her down, and so I always have them blow 333 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: her out and then I do the her actual grooming. 334 00:15:14,920 --> 00:15:17,720 Speaker 1: Oh wow, Okay, it's a whole process skill set there. 335 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:18,600 Speaker 2: I didn't know you had. 336 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:21,720 Speaker 1: It's not it's not a professional. Like anybody who would 337 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: ever ask me to be like, can you groom my? 338 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:25,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, no, I'm not. I just I can be 339 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 1: content with what Remy looks like when I do it, 340 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:31,040 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Versus if somebody else, I'm like, 341 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,520 Speaker 1: I'm not a professional. I definitely don't have the skill 342 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: set to like make her look like she would from 343 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:38,880 Speaker 1: a groomer. Right, It's just for her to survive, you know, 344 00:15:39,120 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 1: and it looks good. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break. 345 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. Everybody's always asking for Nashville recommendation, 346 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 1: so I can share these of mine first and it 347 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 1: can make you think. But we had a woman want 348 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:57,000 Speaker 1: to know best places in Nashville for a business lunch 349 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 1: and dinner. So maybe think of some places you've been 350 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 1: for the two that I would come up with for lunch. Postina, 351 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 1: which is a new spot in twelve South. They have 352 00:16:06,400 --> 00:16:10,680 Speaker 1: these amazing different boards from Cheeseboard, Duhummas Board, and they 353 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,360 Speaker 1: do a fun little happy hour with those boards and 354 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:15,760 Speaker 1: wine and stuff, and it's a cool vibe. I feel 355 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 1: like it's such a cool spot for a work lunch 356 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: while also being a little bit fun. And then dinner. 357 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 1: I'd say sixty Vines because sixty Vines is elegant, but 358 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 1: it's upscale American and it's also friendly. 359 00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 2: Do you feel like for a business meeting though it's 360 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 2: a little crowded and loud. I don't know what type 361 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:33,960 Speaker 2: of business meeting we're having here, so I'm just trying 362 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:34,800 Speaker 2: to say, like, I'm. 363 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: Having a business meeting and a thing. You need a vibe. 364 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 2: I get it. Oh, I'm with you. 365 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: It is a vibe. 366 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:42,120 Speaker 2: I love going there, but I'm thinking, like it's just 367 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:44,480 Speaker 2: so crap because there's so much happening and it's right 368 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:48,040 Speaker 2: off Broadway. It's definitely fun. I'm just trying to think and. 369 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 1: Maybe I have different ideas for business dinners. So that's 370 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:51,400 Speaker 1: why I want us both to share. 371 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 2: Oh I know, well, maybe by the time it's dinner time, 372 00:16:53,440 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 2: they're just really trying to hang out and get along. 373 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 2: But I feel like every time I'm there, so I'm like, 374 00:16:57,440 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 2: what'd you say? What? See? 375 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:02,240 Speaker 1: That's also good for too. That's why she's Blanco, because 376 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:05,000 Speaker 1: Blanco for me is even loud. So it's funny that 377 00:17:05,040 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 1: you say sixty vines because they're like, oh, that one's 378 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:07,200 Speaker 1: formally okay. 379 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:12,239 Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe you need to figure out if Audrey is 380 00:17:12,320 --> 00:17:15,880 Speaker 2: open for lunch. Have you been there yet in East Nashville. 381 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: No, but I have heard good things about it. 382 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 2: It's an amazing My goodness, it's amazing. I don't know 383 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:23,560 Speaker 2: that I would say it's a lunch place. And then 384 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:28,120 Speaker 2: it also depends on what you're trying to spend because 385 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:32,280 Speaker 2: more taking people out. Yes, it's a little nice. It's 386 00:17:32,280 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 2: more of like a date night spot, so scratch that. 387 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 2: But Henrietta Red is also so good and cozy. But 388 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,680 Speaker 2: I don't know that I have good like take a 389 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 2: bunch of people. How do you know? I was just 390 00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 2: thinking Barcelona is so good, But I don't know that 391 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:48,879 Speaker 2: that's a good Barcelona being. 392 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: A spot that could be good for lunch because that 393 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:52,720 Speaker 1: does get wild and a little bit louder at night, 394 00:17:52,960 --> 00:17:57,280 Speaker 1: but they have good lunch. Okay, so maybe lunch spot Barcelona. 395 00:17:57,600 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 2: Sorry, I don't know that I made that helpful. We 396 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:00,680 Speaker 2: eat out of Chipotle. 397 00:18:02,119 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 1: Chipotle is also a good spot for lunch. 398 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:06,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, but you couldn't get that anywhere, so she went 399 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:11,040 Speaker 2: to Nashville spots. So maybe as we continue talking, I 400 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 2: might think of something else. 401 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,679 Speaker 1: Okay. We have Melissa in California who would like the 402 00:18:15,720 --> 00:18:18,679 Speaker 1: best tip for balancing a career in kiddos. She is 403 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:19,880 Speaker 1: always feeling guilty. 404 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,320 Speaker 2: Oh, the best tip is there is no balance. Really, 405 00:18:22,440 --> 00:18:25,520 Speaker 2: I've learned that from multiple people that have talked about it. 406 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:28,919 Speaker 2: The most famous one for sure would be Shonda Rhimes, 407 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:34,160 Speaker 2: the TV creator producer, director, all the things. She said 408 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:37,680 Speaker 2: it best, and I'm paraphrasing here, but you know, if 409 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 2: she's out doing something for Grey's Anatomy, she's inevitably missing 410 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:45,320 Speaker 2: something for her children. And if she's with her children, 411 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 2: then she's missing someone's last scene in a show that 412 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 2: she's been working on forever. So there's give and take, 413 00:18:52,880 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 2: And I don't think you need to feel guilty. You 414 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 2: just need to say, in order for me to do 415 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:59,600 Speaker 2: this part of my life and pursue this part of 416 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 2: my dream, I am going to have to miss out 417 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:04,320 Speaker 2: on other parts of my dream. So your kids are 418 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:06,480 Speaker 2: important to you, and your job is important to you, 419 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:09,439 Speaker 2: and there really is no balance to that. There's just 420 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 2: decisions that you have to make, and then you have 421 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 2: to surrender and release that guilt because it's doing you 422 00:19:14,119 --> 00:19:17,199 Speaker 2: no favors carrying it around. Now, if you're in a 423 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:21,359 Speaker 2: position where you are literally having to choose work all 424 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:23,840 Speaker 2: of the time and you're missing everything with your kids, 425 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:28,320 Speaker 2: then okay, there's room for some guilt, maybe reflection on 426 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 2: how can we remedy this. But if you're doing the 427 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:34,199 Speaker 2: best you can to make a hard to make a choice, 428 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:38,160 Speaker 2: and it's going to be hard. Then that's where it's at, 429 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,200 Speaker 2: and you got to surrender the guilt. 430 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:42,760 Speaker 1: Oh that's really good advice. Also, I didn't know that 431 00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:43,920 Speaker 1: about Shonda. That's cool. 432 00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, she did a commencement speech a while back. I 433 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,159 Speaker 2: think it was maybe even the college she went to, 434 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 2: but you can look it up on YouTube. Watch the 435 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:56,440 Speaker 2: entire thing. It's brilliant. She did a great job. She's 436 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 2: a wonderful speaker, and it really resonated with me. And 437 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 2: since then, I've heard a lot of other people say 438 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:06,879 Speaker 2: a similar message and something that they've adopted for their 439 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:08,919 Speaker 2: own life. But I think that that's what we have 440 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 2: to do. Like, you can't carry that type of guilt. 441 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:15,640 Speaker 2: You just have to know like you're doing the best 442 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 2: that you can and you're living out multiple dreams. Like 443 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:23,120 Speaker 2: if you've wanted to be a good mom and you're 444 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,679 Speaker 2: getting to do that, that's amazing. If you've wanted to 445 00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:28,880 Speaker 2: pursue this career and you're getting to do that, that's 446 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,360 Speaker 2: also amazing. You just got to make hard decisions sometimes, 447 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:35,720 Speaker 2: but release the guilt. Like I've missed stuff before and 448 00:20:35,760 --> 00:20:37,439 Speaker 2: I'm like, uh, but then I try to be in 449 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,480 Speaker 2: the moment. I don't want to miss out on where 450 00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:42,880 Speaker 2: I am in that present moment because I'm carrying around 451 00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 2: this guilt. But it's okay to be sad and grieve 452 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 2: that I can't be there. And then there's times where 453 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 2: I've said no to work for family, not even just 454 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 2: my kids. I know that there was a time that 455 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 2: I missed iHeart Festival in Vegas, which is very rare. 456 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 2: I think I've been to that every single time except 457 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,879 Speaker 2: for one year. My dad was really sick and he 458 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,879 Speaker 2: was in Nashville and I was his primary caregiver and 459 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:06,199 Speaker 2: I just thought, oh, I think it was like the 460 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,640 Speaker 2: day before, I was like, there's no way I can leave. 461 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 2: And being with my dad was clearly the right decision. 462 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 2: I knew it. It was hard to call Jen, our boss, 463 00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,200 Speaker 2: and say, hey, I know everything's already booked and y'all 464 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 2: have me scheduled for interviews and I but I can't. 465 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 2: And I backed out. And that was a hard decision 466 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 2: but also the right decision. And again it's it's not balance, 467 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:32,200 Speaker 2: it's just making hard. 468 00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 1: Always coming in with the wisdom on things. 469 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 2: Oh it's from other people. 470 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 1: No, that was really good. Okay, speaking of wisdom, we 471 00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: have a last piece here, so we have Laura who 472 00:21:42,840 --> 00:21:45,440 Speaker 1: would really like to get a four Things tope for 473 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,640 Speaker 1: her fourth kid, but she had gotten one for all 474 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,640 Speaker 1: of her kids before that. Unfortunately, she lost her kid 475 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:55,400 Speaker 1: three days after he was born. As she put he 476 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,200 Speaker 1: grew his wings. So she still wants to get one 477 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:01,640 Speaker 1: to commemorate that fourth kids. So she's trying to figure 478 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:04,639 Speaker 1: out what she should put on the fourth like the 479 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:09,120 Speaker 1: tote the words, so we can brainstorm here together for her, 480 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:11,560 Speaker 1: maybe some ideas, some words that she can put on that. 481 00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:14,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that if you look at what the 482 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 2: other totes are for the kids, I don't know if 483 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 2: their names are on it, so a name would be 484 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 2: one spot if that is the case. If not, what 485 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:25,960 Speaker 2: words bring you comfort when you think of him and 486 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 2: his situation. I don't really honestly know what would be 487 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,879 Speaker 2: comforting about that at all, because it's one of the 488 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 2: most difficult things ever. I do try to look in 489 00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 2: at the the gain, and I don't know what you 490 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:41,120 Speaker 2: have gained as a mom going through something so terrible. 491 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:47,840 Speaker 2: There's strength, there's tenacity, there's perseverance, there's so many emotions. 492 00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,040 Speaker 1: But I think it could be another word because there's 493 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:53,920 Speaker 1: so much love there for them. That's like a hopeful word. 494 00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:57,919 Speaker 2: Maybe, yeah, I think this is a really I know 495 00:22:57,960 --> 00:23:00,920 Speaker 2: this is a hard testical question. I guess I could, 496 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 2: but I saw it some more time on and come 497 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:08,359 Speaker 2: up with something meaningful. But I would just maybe dream 498 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 2: up to what you thought he might be like, and 499 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,960 Speaker 2: if there's a word that could describe that, like if 500 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:20,520 Speaker 2: you just sometimes you just know, like I don't know 501 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 2: what number of child it is, is a fourth yeah, 502 00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 2: so fourth child, the youngest. We're normally a little bit. 503 00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:31,720 Speaker 2: I see Amy and I can both speak to that, 504 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 2: and so you may know some of his personality traits 505 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:38,639 Speaker 2: just based on the fact that he is your fourth child. 506 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 2: And if there's a verse or scripture. I don't know 507 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:45,560 Speaker 2: if faith is a part of your life, but I 508 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:49,199 Speaker 2: guess just if something has brought you comfort, a quote 509 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,800 Speaker 2: or a verse pulling from that, but I know a 510 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:54,359 Speaker 2: full quote is not going to fit because there's a 511 00:23:54,440 --> 00:24:01,359 Speaker 2: character limit for each thing. But like my mom's joy, 512 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,840 Speaker 2: like when she was going through cancer, joy was her motto, 513 00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:07,560 Speaker 2: but it came from Niamiah eight ten, the joy of 514 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 2: the Lord is my strength. So for example, on my 515 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,639 Speaker 2: mom's so we might put Niamiah eight ten and that 516 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,240 Speaker 2: was some of that. So if there is a verse 517 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:19,520 Speaker 2: or a poem or a quote or a book or 518 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,520 Speaker 2: anything like that that brought you comfort, you can incorporate 519 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,119 Speaker 2: that somehow with one of the more powerful words or 520 00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 2: the title or the passage. 521 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, these are really good. I know this was a 522 00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:30,600 Speaker 1: hard one, but I saw it come through and I 523 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 1: was like, I feel like we have to help her 524 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 1: with this one, just because or even hard to think 525 00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 1: of right now. 526 00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:39,440 Speaker 2: You know the name, and then yes, there's other things 527 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:42,399 Speaker 2: to describe him, but just brother because he's the brother 528 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:45,679 Speaker 2: to the other siblings mm hm. 529 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,239 Speaker 1: And maybe a middle name because I imagine he had a 530 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:51,679 Speaker 1: first and a middle name, so maybe both of his 531 00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:54,320 Speaker 1: names if you just feel like nothing is going to 532 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:59,639 Speaker 1: suffice his names in scripture, and maybe a you know, love, 533 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of other words for love, because 534 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:02,720 Speaker 1: I love you. 535 00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:04,760 Speaker 2: Like you can even write things out does it can 536 00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:07,080 Speaker 2: be an action. So that's another thing about the four 537 00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 2: things totes is it could be one word or it 538 00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 2: can be an action of we miss you, we love you, 539 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 2: You're precious, you are loved, and you know, yeah you 540 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 2: can kind. 541 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 1: Of Okay, Well, I didn't want to end on that, 542 00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 1: But that's where we are. Is there any We're gonna 543 00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:26,720 Speaker 1: We're gonna try and go to a different direction, just 544 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,040 Speaker 1: to end on something. Did you have any other suggestions 545 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:32,080 Speaker 1: for Nashville dinner lunch as we were talking, but I 546 00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:32,479 Speaker 1: know we did. 547 00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:35,280 Speaker 2: There's just you know what my brain is just it's 548 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:38,160 Speaker 2: like the last few places that I've eaten, literally or Chipotle, 549 00:25:38,320 --> 00:25:43,480 Speaker 2: Audrey Henrietta Read and Barcelona, so like, those are the 550 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:45,080 Speaker 2: things that come to my mind. I'm like, where else 551 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 2: have I gone? Or what do I like? What's that 552 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:49,920 Speaker 2: place we went to for lunch that was so good? 553 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,399 Speaker 2: We went to a business in Sadies, Mediterranean, right next 554 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 2: to Barcelona, and it's in edge Hill and it is 555 00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:00,280 Speaker 2: That's a cute little place. 556 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:02,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good one for a lunch or dinner. 557 00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:03,080 Speaker 1: They do both. 558 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, there we go. 559 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 1: We got we ended on one. Okay, Well, Merry Christmas, 560 00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: like early Christmas, Happy holidays everybody, Amy, thanks for joining. 561 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 2: Thank you. 562 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:12,720 Speaker 1: Tell the people where they can. 563 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:15,160 Speaker 2: Find you all that good stuff at radio Amy, that's 564 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,320 Speaker 2: the easiest place. I feel like sometimes I rattle off 565 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:18,680 Speaker 2: like tons of stuff, but if you just go there, 566 00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:22,400 Speaker 2: there's links and all the things but podcast is Four 567 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 2: Things with Amy Brown and Yeah, I hope y'all have 568 00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 2: the Christmas that you need to have. 569 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 1: Very good Merry Christmas everybody. 570 00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:31,200 Speaker 2: Bye. 571 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,720 Speaker 1: That's the best bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks 572 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 1: for listening. Be sure to check out the other two 573 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,880 Speaker 1: parts this weekend. 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