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Speaker 1: Bug, hold on tight, we got it fun you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the strawberry lettter. Jesus, here we go. Subject.

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Speaker 1: Stressed wife, Okay, stressed wife and I both workaholics. He

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Speaker 1: is a good provider, and I've always served him because

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Speaker 1: I believe my man should never have a reason to

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Speaker 1: have his needs met any place outside of me. Well,

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Speaker 1: the past two years have been challenging due to my

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Speaker 1: layoff from a nonprofit community art job and my husband

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Speaker 1: having surgery on his wrist and most recently, a hernia operation.

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Speaker 1: My frustration with my husband is that he said if

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Speaker 1: I ever got that, he would leave me. I never

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Speaker 1: imagined he would get to be three hundred pounds at

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Speaker 1: five five. I am one twelve hundred and twelve pounds

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Speaker 1: at five four. He pays for a gym membership, he

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Speaker 1: never uses and hardly attends any functions with me, often

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Speaker 1: complains of everything, and makes time for bowling and friends weekly.

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Speaker 1: Just wondering how much is too much when the weight

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Speaker 1: is on him helped me to get past the weight.

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Speaker 1: I cannot deal with it alright, Dear stressed wife, you

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Speaker 1: know what I know. You know what that we had

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Speaker 1: a letter like this not too too long ago about

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Speaker 1: a woman being frustrated because her husband had gained a

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Speaker 1: lot of weight, you know, and men being such visual creatures,

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Speaker 1: like for their women to look right, their women to

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Speaker 1: look tight, but it's okay for them to gain a

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Speaker 1: few pounds. You know, don't say anything. But your situation, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: I have to tell you is a little different because

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Speaker 1: there's some medical issues involved with this situation. Uh. The

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Speaker 1: other man just blew up. I don't recall him having

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Speaker 1: any medical conditions or anything. He just you know, over

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Speaker 1: eight and didn't exercise and got fat. Um. Yours is

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Speaker 1: a little more serious. Your man has had risk surgery.

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Speaker 1: He has had a hernia operation, so you know, maybe

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Speaker 1: he's having some complications after the fact. You never know.

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Speaker 1: You gotta ask him. Um, I do know. I will

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Speaker 1: say this at three hundred pounds in five five as

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Speaker 1: a whole lot of weight, Okay, that's like boom shrunk. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: still the three hundred and something pounds, but but half

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Speaker 1: half his his height. So um, you know, just like

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Speaker 1: you wrote to us, you're frustrated. You gotta talk to

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Speaker 1: your man and see what's going on. I mean, he

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Speaker 1: put those stipulations on you that if you get fat.

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Speaker 1: You know he's gonna leave you. You You know you got

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Speaker 1: to talk to him. Uh this is a double standard here, definitely.

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Speaker 1: But he still may have some medical issues. I say,

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Speaker 1: send him down, talk to him, you know, treat him

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Speaker 1: like you would want to be treated in this sense,

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Speaker 1: since you don't want him to leave you. And that

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Speaker 1: was hurtful of him to say to you. You know,

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Speaker 1: you guys, get together, make a workout schedule, go for walks,

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Speaker 1: start cooking. You know you like to serve your man,

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Speaker 1: cook him differently. Uh, different meals, I would say, but

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Speaker 1: there's something at the house. Cat not not on that,

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Speaker 1: not out the dope, hen get out the door. But anyway,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you guys got to work together, you know,

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Speaker 1: out through the garage. When you take those viols, it's

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Speaker 1: for better for worse. So you know, don't leave. Just

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Speaker 1: work on it. It is worth right now. But can

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Speaker 1: handle it? Ya? My answer, nothing like that. How did

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Speaker 1: I know that? Steve har y'all stay tuned. He'll come

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Speaker 1: the truth, O cracker. Okay, Steve, come on with part

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Speaker 1: two of your response to today's Strawberry letter. All right,

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Speaker 1: well want it won't Well here's the letter. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: read it's stressed wife. We are both workaholics. He's a

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Speaker 1: good provider, and I've always served him because I believe

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Speaker 1: my man should never have any reason to have his

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Speaker 1: needs met any other place outside out of me. Well,

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Speaker 1: past two years have been challenging due to my layoff

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Speaker 1: from a nonprofit community arch job and my husband having

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Speaker 1: surgery on his risk and most recently a herneye operation.

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Speaker 1: My frustration with my husband is that he said if

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Speaker 1: I ever got fat, he would leave me. Now, I

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Speaker 1: never imagine that he would get to be three hundred

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Speaker 1: pounds at five five, said, I am a hundred and

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Speaker 1: twelve pounds at five four. He pays for a gym membership,

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Speaker 1: he never uses and hardly attends any functions with me,

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Speaker 1: often complains about everything, and makes time for bowling and

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Speaker 1: friends weekly. Just wondering how much is too much? When

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Speaker 1: the weight is on him? Help me to get past

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Speaker 1: the weight. I can't deal with it. Well, you rolled

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Speaker 1: into the right person because I specialized in sensitive issues

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Speaker 1: like this. See you struggling, because see fat boy when

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Speaker 1: you first met him, gonna lay it down to you

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Speaker 1: that if you ever get fat, he leaving you. Well,

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Speaker 1: who fat now I can say fat because you are

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Speaker 1: five four, you weigh a hundred and twelve pounds. Your

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Speaker 1: man ain't but five five, which means when you put

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Speaker 1: heels on, you actually taller than little bitty. But little

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Speaker 1: bitty ain't a little bitty no more? Is it? Little

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Speaker 1: bitty din became a little bigger. Now a little bigger.

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Speaker 1: It's five for three hundred pounds. Fat boy didn't got

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Speaker 1: jakie with it. Fat boyd and gained all that week.

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Speaker 1: Shirley gave this crazy response, whatever that maybe it's a

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Speaker 1: medical issue because he has sagery on his wrist and

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Speaker 1: most recently or honey operation. I didn't have both of them.

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Speaker 1: Let me explain something to you. I didn't had a

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Speaker 1: knee operation, a stomach operation, and I didn't broke my arm.

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Speaker 1: When you break a wrist, it cuts back on eating.

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Speaker 1: How do you hold a fark with a cast on,

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Speaker 1: y'all if you haven't broke your wrist? What is he

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Speaker 1: doing to eat the food? Now? He's just just putting

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Speaker 1: the bone up to his mouth. He is wasting no time.

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Speaker 1: Is he cooking in the bathtub and landing in it?

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Speaker 1: What is fat boy doing? Fat Boy smoking weed? Right?

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Speaker 1: Now can't handle the pressure. Now he got the munches. Now,

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Speaker 1: fat boy five five three hundred pounds, Now he ain't

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Speaker 1: even your man no more. He's sitting over there looking

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Speaker 1: like a look call he over there, looking like that

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Speaker 1: new little frist Carla car. He'd come up all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden, he'd have swollen up like a tick. He

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Speaker 1: didn't dray someone blood. He got a little fat tick

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Speaker 1: at the house. Now, your man over there looks like

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Speaker 1: a flow model TV kid. I want to go out

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Speaker 1: in public nowhere, because hell, nobody know what he is

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Speaker 1: sitting over there looking like a plasma at too hitch plasma.

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Speaker 1: That's why your man don't want to go nowhere. He

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Speaker 1: looked like one of them speakers at a concert you

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Speaker 1: go to when Maze is playing or something. Now that

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Speaker 1: bitch speaker with the base coming out of that's your man.

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Speaker 1: Now you're sitting over there, your man looks like a

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Speaker 1: Called fat boy sitting over there looking like a fifty

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Speaker 1: five gallon drama crisc He go out to a place.

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Speaker 1: People be leaning on him because they thought he was

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Speaker 1: a trash came. Now he mad cause something tall dude

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Speaker 1: like me six to laying. I got my elbow in

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Speaker 1: this little five ft five inch head. Fat boyfriend going

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Speaker 1: to barbershop and somebody try to sit on him because

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Speaker 1: they thought he was a chick, telling you, fat boy

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Speaker 1: got some issue here over that looks like a little

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Speaker 1: tug boat. When he jumped in the pool and gonna swimming,

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Speaker 1: people think here tug boat. They try to put a

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Speaker 1: rope on him and make him save him. I'm telling

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Speaker 1: you you ought to leave fat boys. What you want

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Speaker 1: to do, well, okay, listen, but you ain't got sleep

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Speaker 1: with him no more. Don't listen to him. Stop sleeping

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Speaker 1: with it cutting my marriage. You can't deal with it.

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Speaker 1: Let him go outside. But let's see you said before

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Speaker 1: meet any of his needs. That's why he served him well.

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Speaker 1: Not guess what quick serving it quick sleeping with your man? Now,

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Speaker 1: guess what he ta't on the whales, because don't nobody

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Speaker 1: wants a little fat rascal who's gonna have a little

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Speaker 1: fat when the last time you've seen the five ft five,

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Speaker 1: three hundred pound player. Come on now, if you don't

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Speaker 1: want him and you're married to him. How do you

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Speaker 1: get a lady down the street on it at five

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Speaker 1: for five intes three hundred pound players. But the last

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Speaker 1: time you heard him say if it ain't easy, it

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Speaker 1: ain't easy, breathing ain't easy, easy, ain't easy Nowhere, I

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Speaker 1: ain't got no Steve. We got to go email us

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Speaker 1: or Instagram. What's your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at

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