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Speaker 1: Can my sugar baby be my lady? Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship with a woman for a

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Speaker 1: year and I need some advice. She's thirty five and

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Speaker 1: I'm fifty four years old. When we met, I was

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Speaker 1: legally separated, and I was miserable in a one bedroom

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Speaker 1: apartment and depressed because my wife had a new boyfriend already.

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Speaker 1: I wanted an arrangement with a woman so I could

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Speaker 1: get over my soon to be ex wife. That's when

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Speaker 1: I met the lady that I called my sugar baby.

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Speaker 1: She was honest about dating two other guys and said

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Speaker 1: she'd love to spend time with me, but it would

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Speaker 1: cost me. After a few months, it became our joke,

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Speaker 1: and she called herself my sugar baby every time I

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Speaker 1: gave her money. She was a lot of fun and

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Speaker 1: the sex made my toes curl. Within months, I I

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Speaker 1: was over my ex and I was crazy about my

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Speaker 1: sugar baby. I asked her if we could be exclusive,

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Speaker 1: and she reminded me of our arrangement. I told her

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Speaker 1: I was crazy about her, and she said we needed

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Speaker 1: to take a break. At this point, I had lost

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Speaker 1: the power and she was in control. I cut her off,

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Speaker 1: and within months she came running back to me, broke

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Speaker 1: love with her. I was happy she was back, so

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Speaker 1: I bought a house and she moved in. That was

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Speaker 1: four months ago. She's there eighty percent of the time

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Speaker 1: because she still has an apartment. I want her to

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Speaker 1: live with me one hundred percent of the time, but

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Speaker 1: she is skeptical about letting her apartment go. She wants

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Speaker 1: some kind of security blanket in case we break up.

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Speaker 1: I know they are all kinds of red flags with

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Speaker 1: dealing with my sugar baby, but I want to trust her,

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Speaker 1: and I want her to trust me. I'm ready to

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Speaker 1: take her baggage and try to make this work. How

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Speaker 1: do I show her that she's secure with me? Or

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Speaker 1: am I crazy for trying to make my sugar baby

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Speaker 1: my main lady? Okay, Okay, here we go again. I

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Speaker 1: don't know why you sugar daddies, you old sugar daddies,

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Speaker 1: think these young women are with you for anything other

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Speaker 1: than your money. I mean, she spelled it out. You

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Speaker 1: had an arrangement. I mean, don't let's not be delusional here.

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Speaker 1: She already knows she's got you, and that's all the

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Speaker 1: security she needs right now. You're obviously a man of means.

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Speaker 1: You're giving her money, you bought a house, but you're

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Speaker 1: allowing her to continue to see other men and to

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Speaker 1: have her apartment. I mean, don't you see that this

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Speaker 1: is not a real relationship. I mean, sugar baby told

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Speaker 1: you from the very beginning that she was seeing two

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Speaker 1: other guys, and I gotta say something about this term

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Speaker 1: sugar baby. I mean, there's this whole website dedicated to

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Speaker 1: this stuff where older men with money, you know, cater

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Speaker 1: to younger women. Okay, the term sugar baby makes it

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Speaker 1: sound all cute and sweet, but it's still a pay

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Speaker 1: for play arrangement. That's what this is. And again I

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Speaker 1: think that's what she really wants. She wants you to

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Speaker 1: continue paying her and she will continue playing you and

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Speaker 1: sleeping with other men and all that. I mean, it's

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Speaker 1: a true win win for her. She's winning at life

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Speaker 1: right now. Most women marry for security, but she nor

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Speaker 1: you have even mentioned that. And I don't think you

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Speaker 1: could ever be able to trust her if you did

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Speaker 1: marry her. This is not about trust. You're caught up

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Speaker 1: with your money and the life style. If you want

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Speaker 1: time to wean sugar baby off your money and for

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Speaker 1: you to get with someone who can love you for you.

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Speaker 1: I know you don't want that, but that's my advice

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Speaker 1: to you. Since you ask, you can get over sugar baby,

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Speaker 1: just like you got over your wife. Steve Man, what

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Speaker 1: is we talking about boy man. Let me just go

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Speaker 1: on and get to this right quick. First of all,

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Speaker 1: Sirley gave what I call an excellent answer. She called

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Speaker 1: you out. Now, this is a woman calling you out.

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Speaker 1: Oh International Women's Day. But now, dog, let me help

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Speaker 1: you out, you know me. I just get down to

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Speaker 1: Can my sugar baby be my lady? There's a word

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Speaker 1: missing in this letter, and as we go through it,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna show it to you. I've been a relationship

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Speaker 1: with a woman for a year and I need some advice.

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Speaker 1: She's thirty five, I'm fifty four. That's a nineteen year difference.

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Speaker 1: We met. I was legally separated and miserable in the

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Speaker 1: one bedroom department, depressed because my wife had a new

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Speaker 1: boyfriend already. That's why y'all separated. She didn't get the

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Speaker 1: new boyfriend already. She already had the new boyfriend. She's

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Speaker 1: a lot of ways in your letter you she got

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Speaker 1: a new boyfriend already. No, she already had the boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna help you with how you write your damn letter.

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Speaker 1: I wanted an arrangement with a woman so I could

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Speaker 1: get over my soon to be ex wife. You wanted

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Speaker 1: an arrangement. That's when I met the lady that I

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Speaker 1: called my shook up baby. She was honest about dating

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Speaker 1: two other guys. Now, whare in hill? Do you see relationship?

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Speaker 1: She told you she was dating two other guys and

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Speaker 1: she loved us paying time with you, but it would

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Speaker 1: cost you, sir. Two other guys loved just spaying time

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Speaker 1: with you. But Shirley said, this is the pay for

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Speaker 1: play arrangement. We come back. I'm gonna show you the

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Speaker 1: word that's been left out this entire left. Hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we'll have heard two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour, subjects can my sugar

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Speaker 1: baby be my lady? We'll get back into it right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Stry Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject can my now? Hey,

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Speaker 1: no bro, came my sugar baby be my lady? Are

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Speaker 1: you nuts? Boy? You thirty fifty thirty five, you go

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Speaker 1: outed an arrangement with a woman because you say you

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Speaker 1: was living in the one room department depressed, causing your

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Speaker 1: wife had a new boyfriend already. Boy, boy. The reason

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Speaker 1: y'all separating is because not because she got a new

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Speaker 1: boyfriend already. It's because she already had a boyfriend. Then you.

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Speaker 1: Then you wanted to get in the arrange with somebody

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Speaker 1: so you could get over your ex. Then you met

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Speaker 1: a lady that you called your sugar baby. Then she

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Speaker 1: was honest with you about dating two other guys. She

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Speaker 1: hadn't see letters spending time with you. But it's gonna

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Speaker 1: call you. Shirley told you this is pay for player arrangement.

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Speaker 1: A few minutes, it became my joke, and she called

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Speaker 1: herself my sugar baby every time I gave her money.

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Speaker 1: She was a lot of fun, sex, made of toads, curled.

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Speaker 1: Within months, was over my ex, and I was crazy

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Speaker 1: about my sugar baby. We have used the term sugar

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Speaker 1: baby both times in this letter. I asked her we

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Speaker 1: could be exclusive. She reminded me of our arrangement. Exclusive.

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Speaker 1: You're talking about wait waiting exclusive? Wait a minute, you're

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Speaker 1: talking about Jesse me and you ain't you? Oh? Didn't

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Speaker 1: I tell you I'm dating two other men? You think

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Speaker 1: I'm fitting, I'm fitting to be exclusive to you? Didn't

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Speaker 1: I tell you it was gonna cost you. I spend

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Speaker 1: time with you. See food, what you're trying to make

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Speaker 1: more this than it is. I told her I was

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Speaker 1: crazy about her, and then she said, we need a

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Speaker 1: break because see now you're going too far. At this

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Speaker 1: point I had lost the power when she was in control. Well,

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Speaker 1: you never had no power and arrangement. I cut her

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Speaker 1: off and within months she came running back to me.

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Speaker 1: See now you're happy. But she came running back to you.

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Speaker 1: Why because she was broke and hurt. You leave all

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Speaker 1: this running back to me because she was hurt and

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Speaker 1: and and thought that a man was in love with her. No,

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Speaker 1: she ran back to you because she was broke. I

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Speaker 1: was happy she was back. I bought a house and

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Speaker 1: she moved in. What boy, your stupid as sir, Listen

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Speaker 1: to me, Here's the term that is not in this letter.

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Speaker 1: You keep talking about sugar baby. Here's the term that's

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Speaker 1: not in the letter, sugar daddy. See you thought it

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Speaker 1: was cute to call her your sugar baby. But the

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Speaker 1: truth of the matter is is that you don't want

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Speaker 1: to write in the letter. Is you just the sugar daddy?

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Speaker 1: Daddy meaning older man. Sugar is money. Without the money,

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Speaker 1: you would just be the daddy, which is the older man.

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Speaker 1: The older man without the money, ain't no sugar. You

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Speaker 1: are the sugar daddy. Why ain't you coming to that

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Speaker 1: if nineteen years old than this girl and you provide money.

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Speaker 1: And now you didn't bought this damn house. She didn't

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Speaker 1: moved in. While she moved in because she was broke.

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Speaker 1: That was four months ago. She's that eighty percent of

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Speaker 1: the time. Let's back up. She is in the house

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Speaker 1: you bought eighty percent of time because she still has

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Speaker 1: an apartment. And where she at the other twenty percent, Well,

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Speaker 1: let me tell you what. She's at the house, at

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Speaker 1: the apartment the twenty percent of the time because the

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Speaker 1: old and she got to go over there and take

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Speaker 1: care of business. I want her to live with me

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent at the time. But she's skeptical, skeptical

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Speaker 1: stay there with your old ass all the time. She

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Speaker 1: can't roll over and without knocking over all the medicine

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Speaker 1: bottles of the nice stand she tied, or walking in

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Speaker 1: here seeing your teeth in that glass. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: of little stuff in here. She trying to figure out

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Speaker 1: what all it. She can't even you got so much medicine.

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Speaker 1: She can't even pronounce the words on your label. She

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Speaker 1: tired of stopping down at the CBS area of the

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Speaker 1: week trying to pick up stuff, sitting there waiting a

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Speaker 1: long time because they got to count your peels out exactly.

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Speaker 1: She didn't. Got tired of packaging up your peel and stuff.

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Speaker 1: These ain't supplements. You're taking theseus I'm gotta leave here

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Speaker 1: if I don't take it. She didn't asked you three

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Speaker 1: times what is nitrogen? And you ain't answering her yet

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Speaker 1: three times because thirty people don't even know what nitrogen is.

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Speaker 1: Fault nitro glistening. You sit up in here trying to

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Speaker 1: explain that she is not understanding what is that? Damn smeil,

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Speaker 1: Who is being Yeah? Did he say I know that?

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Speaker 1: All kinds of red flags dealing with my sugar baby dog?

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Speaker 1: You a sugar daddy? Stopped man, Come on, brother, this

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna be your woman. She all want to be

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Speaker 1: your woman. Put her out that damn house school, Get

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