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Speaker 1: to podcasts. Welcome to another episode of Selective Ignorance. I'm

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Speaker 1: your host, Mandy b and this week I'm joined by

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Speaker 1: some really lovely guests to talk about these several myths

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Speaker 1: point of decline or a time when certain opportunities close. Y'all,

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Speaker 1: there is the shriveled up hag myth that talks about

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Speaker 1: their twenties. There's the end of youth myth, where you

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Speaker 1: of course there is the conversations around parenting or your career.

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Speaker 1: Also there's instant adulting at thirty as a woman, you

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Speaker 1: I am joined by the lex P. Now hold on,

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Speaker 1: it now. Normally you're not supposed to ask a woman

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Speaker 2: Life is going good for you. It's going okay. It

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Speaker 5: Somebody or make somebody feel bad because just like Killer said,

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Speaker 5: My aunts we were just talking about this. My honey Lane,

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Speaker 2: Have care man bah bah as if that is the

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Speaker 1: See y'all's bank account, y'all see ya.

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Speaker 3: Y'all on Facebook. I've seen them.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not missing out on. That's one thing though,

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Speaker 1: And my grandma told me, I will be okay if

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Speaker 1: I never meet your kids tell them about me. I

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Speaker 6: You can show them my pictures like I show you

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Speaker 2: Boys to take there them because they like a man child.

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Speaker 1: The first time I met his mom, the very first

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Speaker 6: This past Christmas, when Beyonce was going to perform, she

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Speaker 1: That's the word special friend.

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Speaker 3: Ain't nothing wrong with a special friend, but that was wrong.

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Speaker 1: That was wrong.

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Speaker 3: I like a special friend.

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Speaker 1: I tell you you want to know me in my twenties.

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Speaker 3: They just want us to be cows, right, putting them out.

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Speaker 5: what is it? Your hemo level is so low. I

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Speaker 5: don't even know how you're standing up right now. My

439
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Speaker 5: body had just adjusted to it.

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Speaker 1: But I had went to so many doctors and they

441
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Speaker 1: didn't even just think just to take my reproductive system

442
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Speaker 1: and what's going on.

443
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Speaker 5: Because you said you was having I was having headaches

444
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Speaker 5: because my hemo level was so my iron was so low.

445
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Speaker 5: He said, I don't know how you're standing up right

446
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Speaker 5: now because your iron is so long.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow. So again, the US don't even try that.

448
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Speaker 1: Y'all didn't even.

449
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Speaker 3: Try complain about things, right.

450
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Speaker 2: We say that this is hurting, Oh, it doesn't hurt

451
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Speaker 2: that bad. What's your pain level on a scale of

452
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Speaker 2: one to ten? You tell them what seven?

453
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Speaker 3: They think? You fucking lie.

454
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Speaker 2: I am not hooked on the drugs, but I need

455
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Speaker 2: something right now because I am literally in pain, and

456
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Speaker 2: I also want you to.

457
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Speaker 3: Figure it out.

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Speaker 1: I will say, I think that that's the difference between

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Speaker 1: where we're at today, and it could be social media,

460
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Speaker 1: it could just be sisterhood is developing. I think we

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Speaker 1: have more conversations now about the pressures. We talked more

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Speaker 1: about our health, we talk more about our sex life,

463
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Speaker 1: and we talk more about our relationships with each other

464
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Speaker 1: than I think they did. I don't think so.

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Speaker 6: I think the fact that we don't have no kids

466
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Speaker 6: and no husbands, so we have more time to.

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Speaker 3: Talk helps us.

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Speaker 1: We got time to have conversations. You had to wake

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Speaker 1: up at five, get your kids up homegirls. Yeah, I was.

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Speaker 3: Talking to my mom about that. I was like, sometimes

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Speaker 3: I feel like when I come to.

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Speaker 2: Visit, you kind of feel a way when I'm hanging

473
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Speaker 2: out with friends and doing all this stuff and I'm

474
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Speaker 2: seeing family, I'm seeing friends. What was your life like

475
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Speaker 2: at my age at thirty six? I was sixteen, so

476
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Speaker 2: I remember what her life was like. She had her

477
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Speaker 2: book club and she would see than once a month

478
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Speaker 2: of the last Sunday of the month, and that was

479
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Speaker 2: her social always taken care of us. She did sell

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Speaker 2: Mary kay for a minute, that might work out.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that we're not in the of the what

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Speaker 1: is the pyramids?

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Speaker 3: And you know we're at lunch?

484
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Speaker 1: We yeah every hour? And what are we doing? Girl?

485
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Speaker 1: I had a fibroid, Yeah, taking out so surgery right.

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Speaker 5: I do want to go back to the point that

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Speaker 5: you made, though, because I know this sounds crazy because

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Speaker 5: it's apple and orange is what I'm about to compare.

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Speaker 5: But you said, you know, you know, when you hit

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Speaker 5: thirty five, it's extremely difficult to have children and it's

491
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Speaker 5: more dangerous. But like you said, we have so much

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Speaker 5: access to different things we do now, and honestly, extremely

493
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Speaker 5: difficult never scared me. It's extremely difficult for a black

494
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Speaker 5: woman to run a six figure business in the America.

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Speaker 1: That didn't stop me from doing. It's also with a kids, exactly.

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Speaker 1: Extremely A lot of things are extremely difficult. But I

497
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Speaker 1: would rather take my time.

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Speaker 5: Because I talked about this on Love Legs p the

499
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Speaker 5: other day, I think it's worse to like bring children.

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Speaker 5: I'm not saying that everybody needs to get abortions or

501
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Speaker 5: things like that. I just think that we need to

502
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Speaker 5: be bringing children into the world because you want to

503
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Speaker 5: check because he got money, or bringing a child into

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Speaker 5: the world because you think that's gonna keep him around.

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Speaker 5: We aren't really making a lot of the nowadays. They're

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Speaker 5: not making children because they're married. And this is a

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Speaker 5: loving I want a family or I want a legacy

508
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Speaker 5: or whatever. People say, y'all are having kids to prove

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Speaker 5: a point to another girl.

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Speaker 3: Y'all have.

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Speaker 1: I mean, but you know what I'm saying. But then

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Speaker 1: let me let me ask you even saying that, because

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Speaker 1: that's my stance on my legacy. When I say I

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Speaker 1: don't want children, that's almost the number one question. Well,

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Speaker 1: what are you leaving your leg like? What will you're making?

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Speaker 1: My dog is on B E. T Herd Travel. Y'all

517
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Speaker 1: can see that your last name is Johnson, You have

518
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Speaker 1: an Xbox, you have student loan debts. You don't have

519
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Speaker 1: a legacy.

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Speaker 3: But you're not like you were talking about Oh.

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Speaker 1: Wait about these men. I'm talking about the man, but

522
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Speaker 1: even to what about the women? The same thing you said, bitch,

523
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Speaker 1: you got a day, you got three wigs. You don't

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Speaker 1: have a legacy.

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Speaker 3: That's a crazy little hell that don't even fuck with you.

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Speaker 1: That's not a reason by wait wait a second, So

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Speaker 1: so is this idea of leaving something left your kids

528
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Speaker 1: carrying on your legacy? You think that that's a crock

529
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Speaker 1: of shit?

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Speaker 6: Yes, for that to be your number one reason I

531
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Speaker 6: want to have kids, it's a crock of malarkey.

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Speaker 1: Oh don't way what is your legacy.

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Speaker 6: Your legacy is you, what you do on this earth,

534
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Speaker 6: how you make people feel, how you treat people, the

535
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Speaker 6: work that you do, yes, the impact that you made.

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Speaker 1: It's not the kids, not your kids. God forbid. If

537
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Speaker 1: Beyonce dies right now, nobody gonna be like, oh, you said,

538
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: she said that. Be y'all say's legacy is not left

539
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Speaker 1: with Blue roomya sir, it's to the world. Okay.

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Speaker 5: There's a perfect example, because I talk about this a lot.

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Speaker 5: Her example is Oprah. Oprah doesn't have any kids. The

542
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Speaker 5: impact what Oprah has done for the media and black women, media,

543
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Speaker 5: just media in general. It's always going to be Oprah

544
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Speaker 5: winfree textbooks literally when I was in college and my

545
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Speaker 5: journalism books, she's in there.

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Speaker 1: She is in there, you knowwork if she had a kid.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not gonna lie to y'all. And I don't know,

548
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Speaker 1: I might have said this on I think I said

549
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Speaker 1: this when I was sitting across from maryw But for

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Speaker 1: a lot of men who believe letting their their name

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Speaker 1: live on is their legacy, and well, you know what

552
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Speaker 1: I wanted to bring up, fellas, this is the greatest example. Y'all. All.

553
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Speaker 1: Do not like Marcus Jordan and y'all allow Michael Jordan's

554
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Speaker 1: to carry on his legacy without attaching it to his kids.

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00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 1: That didn't But yeah, two sons an old, so what

556
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Speaker 1: did he be doing? Son is fabulous, he's already yes,

557
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 1: But how men to attack and think? There are exceptions

558
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Speaker 1: even within pop culture where they haven't attached the son.

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Speaker 6: Here's what men need to ask themselves, a serious question.

560
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 6: Here's what people need to ask themselves. Do you really

561
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Speaker 6: want your kids to carry on what you're doing right now?

562
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: Yes, that's a good question. Yeah, but I always say

563
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Speaker 1: to the fact that you put your entire legacy in

564
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Speaker 1: the hands of a whole nother adult and human being.

565
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: I say it all the time. What if I give

566
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Speaker 1: birth to a serial killer? That is not my legacy? Bundy,

567
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Speaker 1: and I'm talking about you can't name you know what

568
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Speaker 1: I mean?

569
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Speaker 3: You need a new name because what are you?

570
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Speaker 1: I think that that's something that men carry more than women.

571
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Speaker 1: But are I Yeah, because I don't have to do

572
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Speaker 1: ship to have a baby. But that's not they don't

573
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: have to do at least, and you are sitting there for.

574
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Speaker 6: Nine months with your whole orbit changing, Like I don't

575
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Speaker 6: think we realize because people doing so much what being

576
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Speaker 6: pregnant means and what it.

577
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Speaker 3: Does, and then giving birds right because you gotta make it.

578
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 1: You don't have to make it to the end.

579
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Speaker 3: But if you do choose, make it.

580
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Speaker 1: If you choose a car and did it, I mean

581
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Speaker 1: an abortion, look at what that puts you through. You

582
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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. It was a It was a die.

583
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Speaker 1: But you'll get what I'm saying. So of course these

584
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 1: niggas are like, oh, let's do it for a lead.

585
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 3: They're not thinking about that. And you have to carry

586
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Speaker 3: a baby in your lot less and let it swell up,

587
00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 3: and now you gotta waddle around like mister pingu.

588
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Speaker 1: I don't think within our lifetime we see racism leave.

589
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: Do you think within our lifetime we see people accept

590
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Speaker 1: women like us, women in their thirties, not wanting to

591
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Speaker 1: be married, not wanting to have children, and all the

592
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Speaker 1: things in which generations prior to us, I think so

593
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Speaker 1: instilled into women. You think that we'll reach a place

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Speaker 1: within our lifetime.

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Speaker 6: Because I'm slowly starting to see men say that they

596
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Speaker 6: don't want children either.

597
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Speaker 1: Slowly.

598
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Speaker 6: They're still a very small population, but I'm starting to

599
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Speaker 6: see a lot more men.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they just don't show up.

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Speaker 5: But I honestly think that we are changing as a

602
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Speaker 5: society because I do agree with her, because I feel

603
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Speaker 5: like people are starting to realize the value in understanding

604
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Speaker 5: it's okay thirty is in a death wish. You don't

605
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Speaker 5: have to write your wills out and be like, oh

606
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Speaker 5: I'm finna croak and die. We are learning like, oh

607
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Speaker 5: my gosh, Like I said, I'm the healthiest I have

608
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Speaker 5: ever been in my entire life at thirty five years old.

609
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Speaker 5: I'm the best I've ever looked at thirty five years old.

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Speaker 1: Same.

611
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Speaker 5: So I just feel like we are all learning. Men

612
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Speaker 5: are learning that too. Look at metha man, That's what

613
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Speaker 5: I'm saying that they're like.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think even being able to see women right,

615
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Speaker 1: we have the Neolongs, we have the Halle Bear, we

616
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Speaker 1: have the even Angela Bassis, we have like all of

617
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Speaker 1: these beautiful j Lo goddamn like the women in their fifties.

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Speaker 1: When we look back and see that even a Rihanna

619
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Speaker 1: was only twenty two when she came out, Like, we

620
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Speaker 1: viewed age so drastically different that it's just like, wait,

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Speaker 1: one moment, and so with this I do want to

622
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Speaker 1: get into a hot topic because based on what you're saying,

623
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Speaker 1: like this's given age ain't nothing but a number. So

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Speaker 1: Tracey Ellis Ross recently talked about dating younger men. She said,

625
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Speaker 1: a lot of men my age are steeped in a

626
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Speaker 1: toxic masculinity and have been raised in a culture where

627
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Speaker 1: there's a particular way that her relationship looks. I think,

628
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 1: to be fair, we talked about even traditional relationships and

629
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Speaker 1: what it looks like anything that starts to smell of that.

630
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Speaker 1: For me, I did enough of it where I was

631
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Speaker 1: controlled and felt like I was a possession or a prize.

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Speaker 1: I just have no interest in it, and I will

633
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Speaker 1: not do it again. I have long been past the

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Speaker 1: age where I feel like it's my job to teach

635
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Speaker 1: somebody or grow them up like the man child you

636
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Speaker 1: was talking about that I'm not interested in. I also

637
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Speaker 1: want to be very clear, there was really comprehension skills

638
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Speaker 1: are lost amongst us. She did not say she wants

639
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Speaker 1: a nineteen year old. She is in her fifties, which

640
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,120
Speaker 1: means a younger man could be a millennial in his

641
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 1: thirties or forties. That's what it can mean. So the

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Speaker 1: narratives that where they've been comparing her to the and

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Speaker 1: we'll talk the Drea and the Jalens, or they've been

644
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Speaker 1: comparing it to Trick Daddy, who recently said at his

645
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Speaker 1: big age of fifty one, that he dates women between

646
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Speaker 1: the age of twenty two twenty two. You're dating trick Daddy.

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Speaker 1: If you got a better help dot com backslash poor

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Speaker 1: mind p A. You are in my NDAs?

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, well just periods fifty something.

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Speaker 1: I don't would I don't today, I try not. We

651
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Speaker 1: just had conversation on the way over.

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Speaker 6: I'm trying to judge women a lot less, but I

653
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Speaker 6: can see myself being fifty some day.

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Speaker 1: Now I can. I ask you, then, what is the

655
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Speaker 1: difference and is there one between women saying they like

656
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 1: younger men and men saying they like younger women, because

657
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 1: oftentimes with men, the words attached to it is grooming.

658
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 1: Do you feel like Tracy ellis Ross maybe dating younger

659
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: men because she doesn't want to be held accountable and

660
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: she's grooming them, or do you think that it could

661
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:40,560
Speaker 1: be something different.

662
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 6: I'm not gonna say she's grooming them, and I wouldn't

663
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 6: say a fifty year old man is grooming a thirty

664
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 6: five year old woman?

665
00:33:46,160 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: Okay, but I would say for me, it's a little weird. Okay,

666
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 1: what is the age? What is the age difference that

667
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 1: you find it to be weird because you said fifty

668
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:56,720
Speaker 1: and thirty five? I agree? Is you st an age?

669
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Speaker 1: Then I think that if she was dating like a

670
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: forty year old, maybe, and that may sound like what's

671
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: between thirty five and forty, but think about yourself from

672
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 1: thirty to thirty five.

673
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:09,319
Speaker 3: I think that it's four.

674
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 2: And I think too, it's like people aren't listening to her.

675
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 2: She wasn't saying because she wants to change their minds

676
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 2: about something, or she literally says she ain't teaching nobody shit.

677
00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 2: I think that younger men closer to our age and

678
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 2: possibly older I don't know, but younger than her around

679
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: our age, they have more open minds, right, And I

680
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 2: think that's what she's interested in, and not trying to

681
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 2: control somebody, not trying to teach somebody or mold them

682
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:37,839
Speaker 2: into a man.

683
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: Tries out to me, I was my ex was seventeen

684
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 1: years my senior. My current boyfriend now is eight years

685
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 1: younger than me. And look at the judge.

686
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:53,640
Speaker 3: Is he mature.

687
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 1: Yes, he's he's retish, she's twenty six.

688
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 3: They're a fast over there.

689
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm just saying the reason No, the reason I

690
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 5: was saying that because to me, I just had this conversation. Okay,

691
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 5: let people like to talk about like the Dreas or

692
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 5: the Ayisha. You know, she was sleeping with Anthony Edwards

693
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 5: and Edwards. I say this to me, once you hit

694
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 5: like thirty five forty, age.

695
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,920
Speaker 1: Gaps don't really matter. Like you are who you are, like,

696
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 1: you don't really change. To me personality wise, I agree.

697
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 5: But once you're like dating people that's thirty and under,

698
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 5: I'm kind of like eight years. To me, that's not

699
00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 5: that big of a difference because you're not in your

700
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 5: forties or fifties. So I'm just looking at you sideways

701
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 5: because I don't know what a twenty six year old

702
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 5: can do for your ass.

703
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: So and I guess so that as modern day women

704
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 1: who have our own money, who don't seek uh like

705
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 1: having babies. To me, I'm in a position now where

706
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: I'm not looking for the security of a man. I'm

707
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: not looking for the protection of a man. Nigga. I

708
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:59,120
Speaker 1: got the ring camera on my front door, like to me,

709
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 1: I'm looking for a genuine connection with just a person

710
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 1: I like. And when I was in my twenties, a

711
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,799
Speaker 1: lot of it was how much money does nigga make?

712
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:10,439
Speaker 1: What can he do for me? I as a woman

713
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: who has her own Now I'm I feel like I'm

714
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 1: privileged to be able to enter into relationships with men

715
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 1: that I genuinely just like, yes, I agree with you

716
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: to a certain part, talk to me, but the money

717
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: is still important. And money he got his own house, car,

718
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:29,760
Speaker 1: he got his own career, not to make or break

719
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 1: thing like it is not for me. It is I'm

720
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 1: not gonna lie it is so now we need to be,

721
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 1: We need to be.

722
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 6: I can agree with that because one of the last

723
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,680
Speaker 6: arguments I had in my last relationship, he was like,

724
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 6: you don't need a vacation every year.

725
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: I need a vacation quarter every quarter. And anybody who

726
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:53,920
Speaker 1: knows me that's some wild ship to say to me

727
00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 1: me And I was like, yes, you do. Well, Okay,

728
00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 1: do you feel like there's an insecurity right now with

729
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 1: because because women are getting degrees at a higher rate,

730
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,439
Speaker 1: which means they're making more money than men, our age

731
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 1: that the insecurity is that they're not equally yoked. They're

732
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 1: not them. Why you like me? I don't like. I

733
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: would never talk to it.

734
00:37:20,239 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 5: I think that it's important to like to find a

735
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 5: man that really supports you and claps for you, because

736
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 5: you'll notice if a man is not clapping for you

737
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 5: when you get that job promotion, or you get a

738
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 5: new podcast or whatever you're trying to do and he's

739
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 5: not clapping for you, it's gonna get worse.

740
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:40,480
Speaker 1: You know, we're talking about insecurity and jealousy. Do you

741
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:43,760
Speaker 1: guys believe then that as the modern day woman woman,

742
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: we are literally intimidating men. Yes, I think so.

743
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 2: And I don't think it's anything that outright say or

744
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:53,359
Speaker 2: do you directly to them.

745
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 3: They just feel it.

746
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 2: They look at your instagram, they see what you have

747
00:37:57,280 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 2: going on.

748
00:37:57,760 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 3: If you have a conversation.

749
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,839
Speaker 2: You're not saying any thing to them to put them down,

750
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 2: but they start feeling less than because they realize they

751
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 2: ain't really been doing it.

752
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 3: But goddamn gay, they go to a job they hate.

753
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:10,919
Speaker 1: My friend broke it down to me like this, She said,

754
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:13,200
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to date you either. Why And I

755
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 1: was like damn? And she was like, because you are annoying,

756
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: like you you are going to You're gonna look up.

757
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 6: You're gonna make some more money. You're gonna look up.

758
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 6: You're gonna have a podcast. You're gonna look up. You're

759
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 6: gonna get a house. You're gonna look up, You're gonna

760
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 6: get another car.

761
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: You look up. You I went to you're a blast

762
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 1: year for my birthday for a month, and you're gonna

763
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,359
Speaker 1: look up and have a man? Well, no, she said,

764
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 1: A man's annoying because I gotta keep living like it's

765
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,640
Speaker 1: She was like, as your friend, I'm annoyed because I'm

766
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,279
Speaker 1: trying to you know, I'm trying to keep on.

767
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 5: We have to date men who are ambitious and just

768
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 5: as hard as god getters as we are. But honestly,

769
00:38:49,400 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 5: it's hard because most of the time they are intimidated

770
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:52,320
Speaker 5: by it.

771
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 1: Okay, so I have a hot take care all ship

772
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 1: because we are all around the same age. Yes, what's

773
00:39:00,120 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 1: crazy is I will only be interested in dating the

774
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: generation under me or the generation before me. I think, well,

775
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 1: hear me out. I think millennial men grew up in

776
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 1: the worst era. They are the most stunted emotionally. They

777
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: are all either crack babies or undiagnosed with tisms that

778
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:25,080
Speaker 1: were not diagnosed because we did not believe in mental

779
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: health care. In the nineties, they were raised by the

780
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: hip hop of misogyny, and in terms of where we

781
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 1: were in terms of comedy and television, everything was like

782
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:39,080
Speaker 1: at the guise of them, they were these powerful beings

783
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,799
Speaker 1: and women were all just possessions to them. They were

784
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,320
Speaker 1: all toys. They were all just for sex and to

785
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:47,879
Speaker 1: make them look better. And unfortunately in the era right

786
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: now that we're in of the red pill pods as well,

787
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: they're doing nothing but reiterating those same skewed notions that

788
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 1: they refuse to unlearn. And so for me, I have

789
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 1: not been I do like they're the laziest of the generations,

790
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,839
Speaker 1: and so for me, I have not been interested, nor

791
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 1: have I, I would say, in the last ten years

792
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 1: dating anybody my age. But I don't know that older

793
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 1: men are any better. It's wider, and they are providers,

794
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:25,960
Speaker 1: but the massage is very loud, because that's what the

795
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 1: misogyny is loud. I do believe they believe in gender roles. However,

796
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: in the in the terms of where millennial women are,

797
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 1: we are looking for those providers and niggas to take

798
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 1: care of the household. Those are the tricks. Those are

799
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 1: the niggas that they feel like they are men when

800
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: they provide. That's the older generation. That's not the millennials

801
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 1: and these young And I will say to you, like

802
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 1: you said, you're not looking for anybody to provide those No, no, no,

803
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:54,120
Speaker 1: But I'm saying a lot of women still are. We

804
00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 1: lean into the patriarchy still very much as millennial women,

805
00:40:57,480 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 1: and we believe that a man gonna pay for the date.

806
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:03,279
Speaker 1: We're not split in fifty fifty weeks what I'm saying,

807
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: and or this just what we do because it's just

808
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,480
Speaker 1: like if you want a job, you gotta send your resume.

809
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 1: You want a job, you gotta come to the interview.

810
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 5: I'm not gonna lie when it comes to relate like

811
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 5: little stuff like that. I don't even talk about that,

812
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 5: like oh, who's paying for the day? No, no, no,

813
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 5: I don't care about that. I'm not gonna lie when

814
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 5: it comes to like marriage and buying houses, doing businesses

815
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 5: together and creating like you know, a net worth.

816
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,319
Speaker 1: And doing this. I want a partnership.

817
00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 5: Just sit at home and be like, oh, he's taking

818
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 5: care of it. You know all many times we see

819
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 5: women get divorced. They be like, I don't know how

820
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 5: to pay a light build they they don't have.

821
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 1: Access to anything.

822
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 5: I want a partnership, So I don't mind being like

823
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 5: a fifty to fifty because just as much I want

824
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:46,960
Speaker 5: my man to be a millionaire, I'm gonna be a

825
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 5: millionaire period, you know what I'm saying. So I am

826
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:53,320
Speaker 5: all about partnership. I don't necessarily want a provider because

827
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 5: I feel like I just want partnership.

828
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: But I do feel like the midlium because I date

829
00:41:57,760 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 1: my age. So she's saying, is though, the millennial men

830
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: that I have found that I have been dating, they

831
00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 1: like that. They want to I know I.

832
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 5: Intimidate a lot of men, but I feel like the

833
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 5: men that I've encountered in the past few years have

834
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 5: been like, Okay, I like that about it because they got.

835
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 1: Their own thing going on. That a lot of that

836
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: what she was talking about, I agree with a lot

837
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: of it.

838
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 6: But it's like you said, they wake up one day

839
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 6: and they realize, oh shit, I'm forty and I haven't

840
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 6: done anything, and then I have all these I do

841
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 6: and unfortunately for them, they have a dating pool of

842
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 6: just amazing women. How many amazing women do we know?

843
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 6: But it's like damn. Like my friend said, I'm tired

844
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 6: of dan you.

845
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: Every time I look up. I gotta get a new job.

846
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 6: I want to work my same job, make my same

847
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 6: They are very I'm noticing their Yeah, they do the

848
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 6: same shit, go to the same place and talk to

849
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 6: the same It's no growth.

850
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 2: And I think, for me when I'm looking for somebody,

851
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 2: I do want a partnership. I want you to have

852
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 2: that innu that you do want to provide, because I

853
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 2: do need you to understand. You gotta work, You got

854
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,400
Speaker 2: to bring some income it. You don't necessarily have to

855
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 2: clock in and out, but you do need to provide something.

856
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,440
Speaker 2: But in a long term relationship, I am looking at

857
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 2: it more of a partnership.

858
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:14,120
Speaker 3: I have no problem contributing.

859
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 2: But I also don't want you to think that because

860
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:18,000
Speaker 2: I go out here and get it, then I'm taking

861
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 2: care of your ass.

862
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 3: Right, you know it's not going to go that way.

863
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: You want you want to be married? You want to

864
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: be married? Do you want to be married? Absolutely? Don't

865
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 1: want to be married a time? Are y'all initiating or

866
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 1: signing prenups?

867
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, And if he.

868
00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 2: Ship, I think it makes it so much easier. And

869
00:43:39,120 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 2: I think that people go into prenups thinking that a

870
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 2: prenup means when when or if you get divorced, you

871
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:46,160
Speaker 2: achieve with nothing.

872
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 3: You know, that is not what it is. It's just

873
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 3: what it's gonna be.

874
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey, i'm gonna give you ten thousand dollars a

875
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:55,879
Speaker 1: month when we divorced. Hey I'm gonna give you. Okay.

876
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,960
Speaker 1: But you can make them say whatever you want. You

877
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 1: can say, as a woman, you could say I'm gonna

878
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:04,840
Speaker 1: protect all my assets and we ain't protecting yours. Literally,

879
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 1: you can say that if you want to.

880
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 5: Becausepreingup worked in Nicholache's favor with Jessica Sinson her favor,

881
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, So it doesn't. I think

882
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,439
Speaker 5: a lot of times people are scared, oh they're gonna

883
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:17,280
Speaker 5: leave with everything. A lot of times they have cheating

884
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 5: clauses in there when the men are taking up and like,

885
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:22,960
Speaker 5: oh this is why you don't get married. It was

886
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:24,800
Speaker 5: a cheating clause in there. So if he could have

887
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,279
Speaker 5: just stayed faithful, he would have had to give up

888
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 5: no money, you know what I'm saying, I don't know, Claus.

889
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:34,840
Speaker 5: That's why I got to give it up to Sinko

890
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 5: because did y'all wait what weapon? Because when him and

891
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:41,360
Speaker 5: Charrelle were still together fake, I know it was, but

892
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 5: it was just funny because they were like, oh, it's

893
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 5: a cheating clause in there.

894
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 1: He said, Oh, I'm definitely not signing.

895
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:49,000
Speaker 3: Well, I gotta know yourself.

896
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 1: I mean, allegedly a cheating clause was in the Uh

897
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:55,359
Speaker 1: there was a prenup between Tiana and he mine.

898
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 6: Oh, and I was surprised, but according to they left

899
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:01,719
Speaker 6: what mostly everything that they came with.

900
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 1: Besides, didn't she get some support? But she like the

901
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:10,399
Speaker 1: houses and stuff? That's what. So if that's if there's

902
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:13,919
Speaker 1: a prenup, if you are a woman with your own

903
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 1: and I know I had this conversation with Alison, but

904
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:21,600
Speaker 1: then what what is the reason for married so that

905
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 1: I can leave with my ship that I worked hard? No? No, no, no,

906
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 1: that's the prenup. If if everything that he has is

907
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: his and everything that you have is yours before we

908
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:33,720
Speaker 1: got here, So you may say, hey, so for example,

909
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 1: if we all get married at forty, we're gonna we

910
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 1: already pretty successful, right, So all my retirement accounts that

911
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 1: I've built up before I even knew you. All my

912
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: money is before I knew you is mine. Now if

913
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:49,160
Speaker 1: we get things together, we buy a house together, then

914
00:45:49,239 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 1: we spent Were you just joking when you said you

915
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:54,879
Speaker 1: wanted eight husbands? No? I Wasn't you want you want

916
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: eight husbands? Yeah? I want to be like Elizabeth Taylor.

917
00:45:58,080 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: Let me say that all at the same time. But

918
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: if y'all don't get married, y'all gonna be at that

919
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: man funeral you said thirty years with getting introduced as

920
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 1: a special friend, that part you ain't had no benefits.

921
00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 2: Or somebody else in his family is going to make

922
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:17,800
Speaker 2: the decisions for him when he is in the hospital,

923
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 2: even though you have been.

924
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 6: End had a guy that were together for years and

925
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,920
Speaker 6: year years, had two kids together, blah blah blah blah blah.

926
00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 6: He falls into a coma out of nowhere, y'all. He

927
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 6: got pneumonia, went to komah blah blah blah. His mama

928
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 6: came to the next day say I'm pulling the plug

929
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:33,480
Speaker 6: and it.

930
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 3: Was nothing outside of me.

931
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 5: Marriage is still important if that's what you want, but

932
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,880
Speaker 5: we have to look beyond the Oh, the partnership and

933
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 5: the love.

934
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,240
Speaker 1: It's serious like that that happened. The marriage is very important.

935
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 1: I mean, you got paper There's a song, an old song.

936
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm really about to tell y'all who I am for real,

937
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 1: But it's a song called She's Got Papers on Me.

938
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 1: And the point of the song is the man is

939
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 1: singing to another woman and.

940
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 6: He's telling his side bitch, Hey, I really want to

941
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 6: leave my wife, but she got papers on me, so

942
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 6: we can do this, but I gotta stay married. And

943
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 6: I always think about this song because a niggas don't

944
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 6: think twice when you got that paperwork.

945
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 1: But he still had a side chick, So did he

946
00:47:13,200 --> 00:47:15,799
Speaker 1: really think twice? But yeah, because he didn't leave, he said.

947
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:17,399
Speaker 1: And at that time, you know, it's an old song.

948
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:19,879
Speaker 1: So at that time, women needed their husbands to be there.

949
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 2: To open a bank account. We couldn't buy a home.

950
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 2: Relatively recent in, my grandmother.

951
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 6: Divorced my biological grandfather in like seventy eight because they

952
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 6: got into a fight at the nightclub and he left her.

953
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 1: They lived at the nightclub in the when they was

954
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 1: in their seventies. It was seventy eight. The year was

955
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:43,080
Speaker 1: seventy Yeah, seventy eight. Oh, but yeah, they still be

956
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 1: the go.

957
00:47:43,400 --> 00:47:45,720
Speaker 6: But this is the year was The year was seventy

958
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 6: eight and they had an argument and he left her

959
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 6: the nightclub in Seattle. She had on a mini skirt

960
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 6: and pantyhose and she didn't have a nickel to use

961
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 6: the pay phone and she had to walk home and

962
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 6: feet to snow.

963
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 1: And she divorced him after that, And I was like,

964
00:47:58,160 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: why you ain't having a nickel? She was like, cause

965
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:03,439
Speaker 1: that that time your men had had the money. Oh wow,

966
00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 1: that was in seventy eight.

967
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 6: She didn't have a bank account, her own ban account

968
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:08,080
Speaker 6: in nineteen seventy eight.

969
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, we weren't allowed to even get them into

970
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 1: I think nineteen seventy four somewhat. Yeah, so it's like, oh,

971
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 1: my husband had all the money, so then with everything

972
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 1: in you not, is there no fear of getting old?

973
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 1: We're in our thirties and I know a lot of

974
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 1: people feared getting to the thirties. For me, is there

975
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: a fear of aging or aging out? And what do

976
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: you feel like you would age out of a shit? Yeah?

977
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 4: Ag.

978
00:48:31,400 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 5: I just feel like the reason I say that is because,

979
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 5: like I said, I look at poor minds in the

980
00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:36,960
Speaker 5: beginning of Wine Down Wednesday.

981
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 1: And as I get older, I get wiser and.

982
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 5: I just changed, but my audience changes with me, and

983
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 5: they love it and they embrace they. I don't pay

984
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 5: attention to people, to the in cells and the people.

985
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 5: I pay attention to people who understand me. You can't

986
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 5: age out if you are authentically who you are. How

987
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:54,439
Speaker 5: can I age out of being meat?

988
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,000
Speaker 1: So why do you fear getting older than even hearing

989
00:48:57,040 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 1: your best friends say that? Probably because it's foolishly. I

990
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:04,000
Speaker 1: fear so much change.

991
00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 6: Like again, I was talking to your friend the other

992
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:07,920
Speaker 6: day so much as I was talking to my friend

993
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 6: the other day, and she was like, I missed my

994
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:11,520
Speaker 6: old life when we was twenty something, that I could

995
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 6: just show up at my little rinkiding job and I

996
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 6: could do whatever I wanted to do.

997
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:16,799
Speaker 1: And I'm like, girl, I missed that shit. But then

998
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 1: she brought a good point. She said, I do because

999
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 1: now I got to like help my parents, you know,

1000
00:49:21,400 --> 00:49:24,800
Speaker 1: with their lives. And I'm talking about taxes inhering in

1001
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:29,280
Speaker 1: their properties. And you know what actually it's and leaning

1002
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 1: into the name of this show, it's ignorance being blissed, right,

1003
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 1: there's a lot in being able to just exist and

1004
00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:39,759
Speaker 1: party when you're not fearing right the things that come

1005
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 1: with real life. Yeah. Now she's like, I always talk

1006
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 1: about his money and investments, and I'm tired of this shit.

1007
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:48,840
Speaker 5: I just want to But honestly, like she said, it's ignorance,

1008
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:51,800
Speaker 5: because honestly, the thing is, we are not educated on

1009
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:53,600
Speaker 5: stuff that we should be educated on. I had a

1010
00:49:53,640 --> 00:49:56,759
Speaker 5: conversation with Medina because I'm trying to move and I

1011
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 5: was telling her what I pay in rent now and

1012
00:49:58,640 --> 00:49:59,640
Speaker 5: what I'm probably gonna.

1013
00:49:59,440 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 1: Have to be paying.

1014
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 5: You said, girg, you need to buy a house. Yeah,

1015
00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 5: she said, and don't be scared mortgage. She was like,

1016
00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 5: don't be afraid. But we don't educate ourselves.

1017
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 2: Why is it?

1018
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 1: And not only that, do you know how many of

1019
00:50:08,640 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 1: my friends are having to downsize or change their thing

1020
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:17,360
Speaker 1: because they all owe six figures in taxes because they

1021
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:19,400
Speaker 1: chose not to pay taxes for the last three to

1022
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:23,279
Speaker 1: five years. So many, Oh, taxes is not something that

1023
00:50:23,320 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 1: we're taught about. And the problem is too a lot

1024
00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:29,520
Speaker 1: of us grew up with white collar, blue collar parents.

1025
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:33,239
Speaker 1: So now that we're all entrepreneurs with ten ninety nine.

1026
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: There's so many people that don't know how to deal

1027
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:38,360
Speaker 1: with taxes, or how to pay or what to put aside,

1028
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:41,120
Speaker 1: or how to pay quarterly. And so I'm seeing so

1029
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 1: many of my peers in their thirties not only be

1030
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 1: in debt from college because we were all told that

1031
00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 1: college was what we had to do. I'm seeing everyone

1032
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:52,920
Speaker 1: having to change in their mid thirties too late to

1033
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:55,799
Speaker 1: early forties because now they owe so much goddamn money

1034
00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:58,400
Speaker 1: in taxis. But these aren't bad or scary conversations I

1035
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: think we have to turn. But I agree with her

1036
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: in the fact that that's kind of all we talk

1037
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 1: about were mature. Sorry, it's so funny because we went

1038
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:11,759
Speaker 1: to the farmers market the other day. Uh, me and

1039
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 1: my me and my best friend was the farmer's market

1040
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 1: and it was cold, so we couldn't shot because we

1041
00:51:15,320 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 1: was uncomfortable. So then so then were driving. So then

1042
00:51:18,440 --> 00:51:21,520
Speaker 1: we're driving and she said, girl, guess to sixty seven

1043
00:51:21,560 --> 00:51:21,879
Speaker 1: over here.

1044
00:51:21,960 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 4: Let me.

1045
00:51:23,239 --> 00:51:27,439
Speaker 1: I was like, I said, I said, oh my god,

1046
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:28,360
Speaker 1: we sound like.

1047
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:34,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, goddamn weather, enjoy it, y.

1048
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,800
Speaker 1: You're not going to restaurants to be like it's just

1049
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 1: too loud?

1050
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:42,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, can you'll turn that music. I can't stand on

1051
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 2: that bumping in a restaurant. It is to god damn loud.

1052
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 2: Turn the TV down. I don't know what these kids

1053
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 2: is rapping about. It's disturb yeah, rapper.

1054
00:51:54,960 --> 00:51:57,360
Speaker 5: But this is what I was saying earlier. We have

1055
00:51:57,560 --> 00:52:03,719
Speaker 5: to learn how to embrace the I know we were

1056
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 5: talking about we were talking about aging and how you

1057
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 5: was like, oh, I was lying how even till I'm

1058
00:52:09,160 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 5: just noticing y'all y'all are still saying mid thirties.

1059
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 1: Who gives a damn? We have to age?

1060
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:23,520
Speaker 2: So I didn't want to message now, but I'm happy

1061
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 2: with it now, right, are y'all?

1062
00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:28,719
Speaker 1: Always I am okay?

1063
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 3: But yes I am.

1064
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: You're okay. Lex is okay as long as they not

1065
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:35,279
Speaker 1: saying it. They are.

1066
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:36,839
Speaker 4: Well.

1067
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:39,640
Speaker 5: People on the poor crew called me Auntie and I enjoyed.

1068
00:52:39,680 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 5: But yourself there, right. But this is the thing, though,

1069
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:45,759
Speaker 5: I wish I had a lex P to look up

1070
00:52:45,800 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 5: to when I was in my twenties, So I always

1071
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:50,480
Speaker 5: say lex P went through that, so you ain't got

1072
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 5: to go through that period, you know what I'm saying. So, like,

1073
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:55,440
Speaker 5: getting back to what I was saying, embrace it inevitable

1074
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:58,320
Speaker 5: now I'm talking about these taxes. I'm talking about because

1075
00:52:58,360 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 5: that's something we have to do.

1076
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: We have to. It's inevitable. Look up a beautiful I

1077
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 1: love it. I love it.

1078
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 2: So I don't like the stressful parts of growing up,

1079
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 2: but I am very much looking forward to being old.

1080
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 2: I cannot wait to have a home lemonade sometimes with

1081
00:53:20,880 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 2: some vodka in it. Sometimes I want to be talking

1082
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:24,759
Speaker 2: to the kids. I want them to come over to

1083
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:27,880
Speaker 2: Miskis and ask me for a cup of sugar.

1084
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:31,760
Speaker 1: Because the older I get, the more beautiful life gets.

1085
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:36,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean the thing I've been able to experience

1086
00:53:36,360 --> 00:53:38,680
Speaker 5: in life. And like, I honestly think maybe I'm a

1087
00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:42,600
Speaker 5: little biased because every year, every month, my dreams are

1088
00:53:42,640 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 5: coming more and more true. Like we just had the

1089
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 5: premiere of Travel Queens last night, you know what I'm saying.

1090
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 5: So I think maybe I am a little biased on this.

1091
00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 5: But I always tell people, like, whatever it is that

1092
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:55,280
Speaker 5: you want to do, if it is marrying a banker

1093
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 5: or being a teacher, do everything that you want to

1094
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:00,239
Speaker 5: do and get everything you can.

1095
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 1: I will say you you the bar is aging doesn't

1096
00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 1: bother you when you're excelling in life.

1097
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:11,200
Speaker 3: Absolutely, when you say that because I'm exelling.

1098
00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:14,919
Speaker 6: But I, like my friend said, I kind of miss

1099
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 6: so like in the pandemic, right. I moved to Barbados,

1100
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:18,680
Speaker 6: just moved.

1101
00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:23,919
Speaker 1: There and I had life exactly so my youngest self

1102
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:25,880
Speaker 1: would just pick up my ship and go right. And

1103
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 1: so for the last five years that's kind of what

1104
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 1: I did.

1105
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:31,720
Speaker 6: I left Barbados, I came and moved here, started high Maindenance,

1106
00:54:31,760 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 6: and I just was doing whatever I wanted to do.

1107
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 6: I would go live somewhere for a month and go

1108
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,080
Speaker 6: do all this. But now my life has kind of

1109
00:54:37,200 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 6: changed and I had to give me a house. I

1110
00:54:39,640 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 6: have had a car since twenty eighteen because I was

1111
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 6: always so the other day I went and I reluctantly

1112
00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 6: I went to Mercedes and was like.

1113
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:48,479
Speaker 1: Oh no, she had to buy life.

1114
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,120
Speaker 4: You know.

1115
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 1: They're gonna be people listening to this like these b.

1116
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:01,800
Speaker 3: Your friend says, you annoyed.

1117
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:05,520
Speaker 1: You really? I got the car I put in the garage,

1118
00:55:05,600 --> 00:55:07,800
Speaker 1: never looked at it again. Everybody like you happy. I'm like, no,

1119
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 1: because this means I'm an adult for real. I'm not

1120
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 1: gonna be just traveling. It's free and not having shit, y'all.

1121
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 1: For real? It is do you know what's crazy. When

1122
00:55:17,120 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 1: I moved to New York, I say some of my

1123
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:24,399
Speaker 1: best nights in life came when I was jacket hold

1124
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:28,879
Speaker 1: as fun, eating a dollar pizza, trying to figure out, Okay,

1125
00:55:28,920 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: am I gonna spend my money on toilet paper or

1126
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:32,719
Speaker 1: RUMI because I gotta eat, but I gotta wipe my ass.

1127
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,200
Speaker 1: Now you're like all my taxes in the front of

1128
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: the market. I had a grand old time in my twenties,

1129
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 1: but no, I'm having a way better time. I want

1130
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:41,600
Speaker 1: to go away.

1131
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:44,480
Speaker 5: I do not. I had a grand time, but like

1132
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:47,440
Speaker 5: I said, I'm just embracing this life that i'm You

1133
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:51,320
Speaker 5: just brought a Mercedes period off the lot off.

1134
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: Please be for real.

1135
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,960
Speaker 6: My point is it symbolized to me that one part

1136
00:55:56,040 --> 00:56:00,080
Speaker 6: of myself was essentially dying, and I had to embrace that.

1137
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:02,480
Speaker 1: Bitch, you are this, You are that.

1138
00:56:02,840 --> 00:56:05,360
Speaker 6: Like you know, I've been brace that I'm kind of

1139
00:56:05,400 --> 00:56:07,360
Speaker 6: important in the when the work that I do and

1140
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:08,760
Speaker 6: then accidentally got important.

1141
00:56:08,800 --> 00:56:12,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, wait a minute, y'all accidentally got my career.

1142
00:56:12,920 --> 00:56:15,320
Speaker 1: Really like hold on, y'all really need me. Like my

1143
00:56:15,400 --> 00:56:16,759
Speaker 1: friend said, we used to just be at a show

1144
00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: tal rinking ding job clocking and kind of coats for

1145
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:22,400
Speaker 1: the day and go home. But we allso like to

1146
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:25,200
Speaker 1: This is just like a relationship when you can have

1147
00:56:25,280 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 1: the most horrible boyfriend, then y'all break up and be like,

1148
00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 1: oh but this was so sweet.

1149
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 5: This was so you don't remember how you were stressed

1150
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 5: because the rent was due, Bill's was due, that.

1151
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:34,360
Speaker 1: Ship wasn't peachy.

1152
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:36,879
Speaker 5: It's just looking back on it, it's like, it looks

1153
00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 5: good now because of what you're doing now.

1154
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 1: I think this is hard now, right, So now the

1155
00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 1: first eggs just thirty six dollars. Different.

1156
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:46,800
Speaker 5: Life was hard when I moved to Atlanta and I

1157
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:49,880
Speaker 5: talked about I had three dollars, I would never go

1158
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 5: back to that.

1159
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:51,120
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

1160
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 5: Yes I didn't have responsibility, but I still got my

1161
00:56:54,280 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 5: stating leg said.

1162
00:56:55,040 --> 00:56:56,880
Speaker 1: Whoever said money didn't buy happiness?

1163
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:04,239
Speaker 3: Happiness, but it's showed on by stress.

1164
00:57:05,760 --> 00:57:08,520
Speaker 6: That says money don't buy happiness, but poverty doesn't buy anything. Now,

1165
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 6: I never said I didn't want the money. I never

1166
00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:12,959
Speaker 6: said I didn't want the money.

1167
00:57:13,200 --> 00:57:13,840
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that.

1168
00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 6: I'm being challenged a lot more now and the work

1169
00:57:16,520 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 6: that I do and in my life, like my friends said,

1170
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:21,080
Speaker 6: figuring out taxes, and I really had to mourn that

1171
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 6: that part of you is kind of over. You're not

1172
00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:26,280
Speaker 6: going to be traveling around and going to stay in

1173
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 6: Atlanta because you feel like it are going that's not

1174
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:30,880
Speaker 6: your life no more. If you could leave, and I

1175
00:57:30,960 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 6: guess we'll wrap with this, if you could tell your

1176
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:39,280
Speaker 6: teenage or twenty something year old self something that wasn't

1177
00:57:39,320 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 6: told to you, what would it be.

1178
00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:43,959
Speaker 1: I don't know about that wasn't told to me because

1179
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:47,200
Speaker 1: it was very much showed to me. I told you, Yeah, yeah.

1180
00:57:48,480 --> 00:57:49,880
Speaker 6: The women and my family been telling me for a

1181
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 6: long time, get you some money, get you get your

1182
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:56,800
Speaker 6: own money. Money will open doors, like we just said

1183
00:57:56,880 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 6: that a lot of stuff cannot open it. When I

1184
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:02,040
Speaker 6: was young, I just I wanted money, and I knew

1185
00:58:02,040 --> 00:58:03,880
Speaker 6: I wanted money and all that, but I wasn't really

1186
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 6: actively doing the things I needed to do to go

1187
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:10,680
Speaker 6: get it and to understand it. My retirement, I'm late

1188
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:13,240
Speaker 6: in the retirement game. Like I know people that have

1189
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 6: been saving four one k since they very first job

1190
00:58:15,680 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 6: right at sixteen. That wasn't me, baby, I need all

1191
00:58:18,240 --> 00:58:20,080
Speaker 6: it take them four one k the dishes off the

1192
00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:23,440
Speaker 6: So I wish I would have did stuff like that,

1193
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 6: you know, kind of set myself up more because now

1194
00:58:25,600 --> 00:58:27,320
Speaker 6: I kind of feel like I'm playing it and I'm

1195
00:58:27,360 --> 00:58:30,280
Speaker 6: doing well, but I still feel like I'm kind of

1196
00:58:30,320 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 6: trying to play ketchup to my peers, some of my peers,

1197
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 6: so it's not a good feeling. So I wish all

1198
00:58:35,400 --> 00:58:38,880
Speaker 6: it took certain things a little more serious, would.

1199
00:58:38,360 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 1: Have said get you some money, what about you let

1200
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: kind of the same thing.

1201
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:44,080
Speaker 5: But I wish I would have had more confidence and

1202
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:47,480
Speaker 5: been more focused because I feel like, now, as crazy

1203
00:58:47,560 --> 00:58:49,320
Speaker 5: as it sounds, I've been doing Poor Minds for so long,

1204
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 5: but I was so scared to start love LEXP. And

1205
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 5: it's crazy because I've only been doing love lex P

1206
00:58:54,200 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 5: for about three months now, and I've had so many

1207
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:59,120
Speaker 5: opportunities come in that I'm working on and things are

1208
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 5: coming up, and I'm just like, if I would have

1209
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 5: had the confidence to just start a podcast or something

1210
00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:06,520
Speaker 5: when I was like twenty five and been focused, and

1211
00:59:07,200 --> 00:59:10,120
Speaker 5: you know, where would I be now ten years in

1212
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 5: the game. But I'm always grateful because it's supposed to happen.

1213
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:16,800
Speaker 5: I have the best co host and fucking business partner

1214
00:59:16,840 --> 00:59:19,880
Speaker 5: that anybody could ever ask for. It's amazing, So I'm

1215
00:59:19,920 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 5: not mad at it, but I'm like, damn, Drea, if

1216
00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 5: we would have met and we would have been focused,

1217
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:26,120
Speaker 5: imagine where we would be now.

1218
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:28,200
Speaker 1: But that's probably what I would say.

1219
00:59:28,240 --> 00:59:29,919
Speaker 5: But I'm still happy where I'm at and I feel

1220
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:31,200
Speaker 5: like it's a lesson and everything.

1221
00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 2: So yeah, I do wish I had more confidence in

1222
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:36,880
Speaker 2: myself and not always feeling like I need to do

1223
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 2: something with somebody else, I need somebody to help me.

1224
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:42,680
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I do wish that I

1225
00:59:43,160 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 2: understood networking more and I did things like by the

1226
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:51,400
Speaker 2: book as you're supposed to. You go to college, you

1227
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,680
Speaker 2: get your degree, you do your internships, you do all

1228
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 2: these things, and it should lead you to the path

1229
00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 2: that you want for your career. But what I wasn't

1230
00:59:58,400 --> 01:00:01,200
Speaker 2: doing was making sure that not on did I meet people,

1231
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:04,160
Speaker 2: but maintain those connections. And I wish I would have

1232
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 2: done a better job at that. I think it would

1233
01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 2: have helped me. And then just having more confidence to

1234
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 2: do things on my own and not always waiting for

1235
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 2: somebody else. Even before I started Cocktails, I wanted to

1236
01:00:15,120 --> 01:00:17,280
Speaker 2: do a podcast. When I found out about podcasts. To

1237
01:00:17,400 --> 01:00:21,880
Speaker 2: read was the first past my friend Candice was like,

1238
01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:24,480
Speaker 2: I think you would like this show. It's a podcast,

1239
01:00:24,600 --> 01:00:26,560
Speaker 2: and I was like, what's a podcast? And she tells me,

1240
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 2: since me the link, I'm listening to it.

1241
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: I loved it.

1242
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 2: It got me through a job. I hated it right

1243
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:32,160
Speaker 2: because at that point I had a couple of years

1244
01:00:32,200 --> 01:00:36,240
Speaker 2: to catch up on. But I tried different names. I

1245
01:00:36,360 --> 01:00:38,640
Speaker 2: tried a ton of different people. Even when I started Cocktails,

1246
01:00:38,640 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 2: I had three co hosts yeahbo didn't even know that,

1247
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:44,520
Speaker 2: two niggas and another girl. And it's just like Destney's Child.

1248
01:00:44,560 --> 01:00:47,880
Speaker 2: People was rotating no, no, no. But I wish that

1249
01:00:48,240 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 2: I would have stuck to my own guns with my

1250
01:00:50,640 --> 01:00:52,920
Speaker 2: initial thought for the show and how I wanted it

1251
01:00:53,080 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 2: to go. And I wish that I wouldn't have waited

1252
01:00:55,640 --> 01:00:57,680
Speaker 2: so long to even start it. I wish that I

1253
01:00:57,920 --> 01:01:01,040
Speaker 2: wasn't waiting on other people to give me opportunities. And

1254
01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 2: I try to tell people that stop waiting on everybody

1255
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:05,920
Speaker 2: else to give you a chance. If you believe in

1256
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:08,360
Speaker 2: yourself and you think you can do it, just do it.

1257
01:01:09,120 --> 01:01:11,680
Speaker 2: If the opportunity is not there, make it. It's so

1258
01:01:11,800 --> 01:01:15,280
Speaker 2: much easier to do things now with the Internet than

1259
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:18,080
Speaker 2: it was before. So I wish you know all of that,

1260
01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 2: and I should have been saving some money. I still

1261
01:01:20,360 --> 01:01:20,960
Speaker 2: need to work on that.

1262
01:01:21,040 --> 01:01:21,960
Speaker 3: I ain't learned that yet.

1263
01:01:23,360 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 1: Are you for me? Because I said this probably and

1264
01:01:28,000 --> 01:01:30,000
Speaker 1: you're one of horrible decisions, And it was one of

1265
01:01:30,040 --> 01:01:32,520
Speaker 1: the most ignorant things I said, based on how far

1266
01:01:32,600 --> 01:01:35,400
Speaker 1: I've come in the last four years, the most, yes,

1267
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:39,400
Speaker 1: one of the most, I would say, because I'm a

1268
01:01:39,480 --> 01:01:43,600
Speaker 1: millennial like these niggas, I won't date that. I should

1269
01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 1: have gotten to therapy much earlier, to forgive my younger

1270
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 1: self and the decisions that were being made. I like

1271
01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 1: to forget her. And when I say her, my teenage self,

1272
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:56,520
Speaker 1: the woman in my twenties, and so I'm learning to

1273
01:01:56,880 --> 01:02:00,000
Speaker 1: love that person for I'm here where I'm at because

1274
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:05,160
Speaker 1: because of her, and so navigating my twenties, with the

1275
01:02:05,280 --> 01:02:11,360
Speaker 1: baggage of trauma, with the regret, with my family issues

1276
01:02:11,440 --> 01:02:13,440
Speaker 1: and all those things, I think I could have been

1277
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 1: more confident back to what y'all said and more sure

1278
01:02:18,040 --> 01:02:20,960
Speaker 1: of who I was instead of seeking so much validation

1279
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:25,360
Speaker 1: from men and people that shouldn't have gotten to smell

1280
01:02:25,440 --> 01:02:29,400
Speaker 1: my ass. To be very clear, and so for me

1281
01:02:29,960 --> 01:02:36,120
Speaker 1: in your twenties. There, I would just recommend therapy. We

1282
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:38,840
Speaker 1: don't have ads here yet, so go to better better.

1283
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:46,360
Speaker 1: But but to me, I think that we're getting into

1284
01:02:46,440 --> 01:02:49,120
Speaker 1: therapy a little late. I think and.

1285
01:02:51,520 --> 01:02:56,680
Speaker 3: Decades we wouldn't have there would have.

1286
01:02:56,720 --> 01:02:58,160
Speaker 1: Been I think it would have been a little bit

1287
01:02:58,200 --> 01:03:00,320
Speaker 1: easier to guide me into where I'm at now, and

1288
01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:03,360
Speaker 1: I would have been able to know myself way better

1289
01:03:04,160 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 1: had I gone earlier. So that would be my advice

1290
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 1: to myself. I want to ask the audience do you

1291
01:03:09,360 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 1: feel pressured for your life to be at a certain level,

1292
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:16,960
Speaker 1: whether professionally or personally by your thirties or are you

1293
01:03:17,080 --> 01:03:24,280
Speaker 1: comfortable with aging and the unpredictability it brings. I'm still

1294
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 1: I still don't know where I'm at with that. I'm battling.

1295
01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:28,959
Speaker 1: I'll be thirty five this year and I'm like, oh shit,

1296
01:03:29,840 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 1: be my mama call me thirty five on the phone

1297
01:03:31,600 --> 01:03:36,320
Speaker 1: and I said, bitch, I'm thirty four. I'm so respect

1298
01:03:36,400 --> 01:03:39,480
Speaker 1: on my thirty four. Anyways, before we get out of here,

1299
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:41,880
Speaker 1: I want everyone to be able to drop where my

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Speaker 1: audience can listen to you more and your opinions, your views,

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Speaker 1: your thoughts, your concerns on all things okay.

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Speaker 3: You can listen to me on Cocktail Shaty Discussions.

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Speaker 2: And then I have a new podcast that will be

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Speaker 2: launching sometimes.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Just follow me on Instagram to find out at Kiki

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Speaker 3: said so.

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Speaker 2: But it is called the xomn Podcast, and I am

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Speaker 2: exclusively interviewing black men.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how they.

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Speaker 2: But I've I've been learning a lot about them. They're

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Speaker 2: very interesting creatures. But I'm talking to them about different

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Speaker 2: aspects of black masculinity from their point of view. Instead

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Speaker 2: of us telling them, as a man, you should, I

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Speaker 2: can stand with somebody tell here's a woman you should.

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Speaker 2: So I'm talking to them and they need therapy too,

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Speaker 2: so they need to go to Betterhelp dot com. Those

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Speaker 2: episodes will be dropping audios on Tuesday Wednesday. It will

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Speaker 2: be the video it comes out sometimes spring summer.

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Speaker 3: It's not just my show. So I am the only

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Speaker 3: host though, but you gotta wait.

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Speaker 1: I love it all Rightlex go ahead, and.

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Speaker 5: So Monday's Love LEXP drops every morning ten a m.

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Speaker 5: Then on Wednesdays we have Travel Queens that is on

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Speaker 5: b E t her and then Fridays, Poor Minds drops

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Speaker 5: every morning audio ten am.

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Speaker 1: Visuals at seven pm. And make sure my my co host, Drea.

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Speaker 1: She has a.

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Speaker 5: YouTube channel, so y'all go follow her during the call

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Speaker 5: at three e's. I'm also wearing her lip line Mused Beauty,

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Speaker 5: so y'all go check that out Mused Beauty collection dot com.

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Speaker 1: Okay, here are you and come on Killer Well. Go

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Speaker 1: to Hot Main Pod. Keep watching new videos on Youtubeke's

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Speaker 1: running it up my old podcast. And then I have

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Speaker 1: my new project coming out, which kind of gonna be

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Speaker 1: like a lifestyle think Mark the Steward Mets Wendy Williams

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Speaker 1: called Honeycomb. Yeah, so I'll be doing like cooking. I

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Speaker 1: always do dinner parties at my house and stuff, so

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Speaker 1: be documenting all that will be and then of course

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Speaker 1: it'll be some potting on there. So Honeycomb coming soon.

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Speaker 1: I love and as y'all know, you can catch me

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Speaker 1: every Monday. Decisions Decisions. Make sure you get my No

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Speaker 1: Holds Barred available for pre order now. We are also

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Speaker 1: going on tour, so if you haven't yet, go to

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Speaker 1: NHB tour dot com for that book. And again, if

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Speaker 1: you want to see the video of Selective Ignorance, make

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Speaker 1: sure you join us on Patreon We're also beginning our

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Speaker 1: live town halls this month, so y'all get to join

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Speaker 1: me in being fucking ignorant. I love it. Y'all also

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Speaker 1: can talk to me daily on the discord if you

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Speaker 1: are a patron, so make sure y'all go go on

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Speaker 1: over to patreon dot com backslash selective ignorance. I hope

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Speaker 1: that y'all didn't miss Jason and a King too much

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Speaker 1: this episode, but we didn't want to hear from your

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Speaker 1: niggas there was enough woman to keep up with the topic.

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Speaker 1: Can I say something real quick?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I just had a full circle moment, and I

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Speaker 5: know I give you all, y'all flowers so much, Keiki

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Speaker 5: and Mandy because when I first got in this game,

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Speaker 5: I remember coming to a horrible decision show Kicky, you

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Speaker 5: and Medina had opened up and I was just like,

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Speaker 5: oh my god, I hope I can do that one day.

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Speaker 5: And honestly, y'all showing up, kicking you moderated the travels amazing, Mandy,

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Speaker 5: you showed up for me. So I really just wanted

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Speaker 5: to say thank y'all so so much, because I really,

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Speaker 5: if I'm being honest me Andre, I wouldn't even be

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Speaker 5: in this space if y'all didn't welcome us with open arms.

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Speaker 1: So I really just wanted to say, thank y'all, why

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Speaker 1: do you want to be like me? Because I was

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Speaker 1: definitely about to say, Mandy, thank you for letting me

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Speaker 1: get on this First off, I find you to be

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Speaker 1: fucking hilarious and much like Lex who I've always seen

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Speaker 1: the talent from her tweets before we knew what a

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Speaker 1: goddamn podcast was. I love seeing women just be unapologetically

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Speaker 1: themselves and navigate life in a way to where I've

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Speaker 1: been able to see you trendsend from your twenties to

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Speaker 1: working at god damn massage envy to now being a

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Speaker 1: multi to now im saying watch my show on be

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Speaker 1: you know you know what your book don't don't. I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna talk something about this book. That's crazy to me.

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Speaker 1: I could go all your resumes.

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Speaker 6: Y'all need so out tours. Now you've got a new

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Speaker 6: pod coming out, you did that moderation. I'm just I'm

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Speaker 6: just happy to be.

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Speaker 1: I'm so proud to be sharing Mike's and sharing space

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Speaker 1: with all of you.

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Speaker 2: I think that's so important and that's something that I

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Speaker 2: love about you. Guys like not being gatekeepers, always helping.

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Speaker 2: I think it's very important to show up for people.

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Speaker 2: If I can make it, I'm coming. I will be

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Speaker 2: in the audience and I'm rooting people on. And I

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Speaker 2: hate that there's this idea that women can't support each other,

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Speaker 2: especially women in the same space, and I am so

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Speaker 2: against that.

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Speaker 3: I think that we have to support.

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Speaker 1: There's enough that face, money and audience for us all

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Speaker 1: and as y'all keep agents. So anyways, y'all, you can

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Speaker 1: hate it or you can love it. Either way, are

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Speaker 1: you choosing to be selectively ignorant or are you choosing

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Speaker 1: to be educated? See you guys next week.

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Speaker 4: Thanks for tuning in the Selective Ignorance of Men. Selective Ignorance.

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Speaker 4: It's executive produced to buy Mandy B. And it's a

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Speaker 4: full court media studio production with lead producers Jason Mondriguez.

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Speaker 1: That's me and Aaron A. King Howell.

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Speaker 1: It's Segro Mady b And you just checked out my

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