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Speaker 1: My brother ditched his own wedding and ruined his life.

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Speaker 1: So my brother thirty eight has always been an a hole,

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Speaker 1: but this is next level even for him. He's a

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Speaker 1: drinker that has long stretches a sobriety before falling off

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Speaker 1: but during his stagno a couple of weeks back, he

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Speaker 1: was completely well behaved. He was drinking most of the day,

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Speaker 1: was perfectly pleasant and responsible to everybody, and went to

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Speaker 1: the Mighty Hucks on the Okay storytime severed it Now.

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Speaker 1: On top of all of that, he's never been completely trustworthy,

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Speaker 1: always doing the minimum out of work he can to

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Speaker 1: women that are lonely and willing to do everything for him.

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Speaker 1: For the last several years he's been with a very

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Speaker 1: kind lady who still fits that description. This girl can

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Speaker 1: do it all, painting, decorating, plumbing, fixing cars, anything she

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Speaker 1: sets her mind to, Absolutely the opposite of my brother.

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Speaker 1: She asked him to get married, and after he said yes,

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Speaker 1: she went to work, putting months of time and effort

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Speaker 1: his own suit, shoes, et cetera. And she was working

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Speaker 1: overtime to make this happen. The night before the wedding,

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Speaker 1: she was up late decorating the venue, whilst he was

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Speaker 1: at the pub having a few beers with the father

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Speaker 1: of the bride and his best man. Around twelve am,

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Speaker 1: eight am the next morning. My sister is doing the

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Speaker 1: bride's hair and makeup. My mother and Auntie are dressing

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Speaker 1: up the young bridesmaids, and everyone there is as happy

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Speaker 1: as you could imagine. Meanwhile, the father of the bride

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Speaker 1: and the best man are unable to contact my brother

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Speaker 1: and after gaining access to his room, realize he's not there.

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Speaker 1: And the bed was clearly.

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Speaker 2: It's the hangover. It's the hangover.

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Speaker 1: I don't think I've seen the hangover.

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Speaker 2: Classic movie Whee The Hangover was Counts and Keeps Bradley Cooper.

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Speaker 2: I might have seen that they're partying before the wedding. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: or they're partying in Vegas. They need to get back

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Speaker 2: to the wedding and where they're from. And then they

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Speaker 2: supposedly they do a lot of drugs and then they

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Speaker 2: lose the groom and they need to find the groom.

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Speaker 2: I have to get to the wedding in time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: is what this is.

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Speaker 1: They start frantically trying to call and go out looking

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Speaker 1: services at twelve thirty pm. He finally answers at around

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Speaker 1: coming back soon. Jim. It was a tiger or something

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Speaker 1: in There was a tiger there. There's music and laughter

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Speaker 1: He then hangs up and turns his phone off. An

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Speaker 1: hour later, there's still no sign, and the guys make

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Speaker 1: the decision to head to the Ladies hotel next door

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Speaker 2: What's ah not not bro not bro Cone. You gotta

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Speaker 2: find them on the midom fire before you tell the woman.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure you can imagine. The scene is such a

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Speaker 1: happy morning turns to one of complete devastations. That's so sad,

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Speaker 1: each other's arms, the bride hysterical being consoled by my

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Speaker 1: sister and bridesmaids, my mother Auntie, and the best man

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Speaker 1: watching all of this and feeling heartbroken and also complete embarrassing.

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Speaker 2: Because they were like partying with him ye before messed up.

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Speaker 1: It got to twelve fifteen, with the bride holding out

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Speaker 1: hope for the final few seconds before realizing it was

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Speaker 1: over and they had to cancel. And that was that.

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Speaker 1: The next time my brother was seen was randomly by

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Speaker 1: a wedding reception guest that turned up at the wrong

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Speaker 2: He was drinking in.

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Speaker 1: A bar over the road on his own, and when

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Speaker 1: off with, Eh, what all the fuss about, No big deal,

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Speaker 1: we can do it anytime.

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Speaker 2: He has a point, they can't do it. Anytime you

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Speaker 2: do it, ain't die. Come on, we'll do it next week.

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Speaker 2: We got the whole day at the venue.

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Speaker 1: The guest left him to it, and we all met

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Speaker 2: Guest was imagine.

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Speaker 1: It's like, hey, aren't you you bot to get us

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Speaker 2: Hey, there's a lot of pressure to put on.

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Speaker 1: The guest left him to it, and we all met

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Speaker 1: at the perception the bride I decided to go ahead

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Speaker 1: as a thank you to those who'd made the effort

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Speaker 1: That I'm sure you can imagine how it all went down,

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Speaker 2: Night, that's so unfortunate. Yeah, having to do that, that's.

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Speaker 1: So embarrassed, so embarrassing to be like, uh, hey, guys,

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Speaker 2: You guys like cake.

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Speaker 1: You guys like cake. We're gonna all get our credit cards.

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Speaker 2: Out, anya the cake and cry together.

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Speaker 1: Now it's the next morning and the bride and her

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Speaker 1: family travel home. My brother's outside the house complaining about

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Speaker 1: he swiftly turns on the waterworks and starts apologizing to

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Speaker 2: What does that even mean? You don't mean it?

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Speaker 1: He basically got chased out up the street. His bags

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Speaker 1: Maanke account is empty as he spent everything on that

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Speaker 1: one drinking session, and he has nowhere to go. None

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Speaker 1: of us would take him in, and my mother is

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Speaker 1: take care of everything. Stay with oh the bride, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think so, Okay, So the groom's mom is going

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Speaker 1: to spend time with you, Yes, with her, because she's like,

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Speaker 1: sorry about my son. He's the worst. Wow, that's the story,

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Speaker 1: and now we're living with the aftermath. The news is

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Speaker 1: My mother has always been a wonderful, kind hearted lady,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that's. Yeah, she's been dealing with

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Speaker 2: Put in a frame of it seems like he has

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Speaker 2: like so crappy for the wife. Yeah, like such a

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Speaker 2: it seems like he needs help and support. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: Necessarily mean Yeah, it doesn't necessarily mean that he has

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Speaker 1: it does seem like it's an ongoing problem. Yeah, needs

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Speaker 1: doesn't deserve to be allowed back into her life, and

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Speaker 1: obviously her family utterly despises him at this point, along

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Speaker 1: with most of my family, his friends, and best man.

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Speaker 1: I hear a neighbor has put him up in a

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Speaker 1: hotel outside of town for a few days, always a

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Speaker 1: bleeding heart for him to turn to to clear his head. However,

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Speaker 1: can go from here. Joining us live every week to

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Speaker 1: have three PMPSD just to have a profile. I got it, actually,

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Speaker 2: OP. He is very resentful, I think so other and

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Speaker 1: Well, I think this is behavior that OPI has.

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Speaker 2: Seen for I could understand that, which is.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's like hard like for us. We

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Speaker 1: The brother has his own things going on, and it's trying,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that it makes so much sense to

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Speaker 2: it seems just like just major struggling. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But I also think that with addiction you can only

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Speaker 1: garden pieces, Happy belated Halloween and Dwally.

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Speaker 2: Well, actually, I don't know. We don't know how the

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Speaker 2: of like you're obviously struggling. What do you need support? Like,

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Speaker 1: Patty says, at a certain point, you have to walk

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Speaker 2: Sure. Yeah, I have a friend whose mom has addiction issues,

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, at almost forty, the days of him using his

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Speaker 1: her mother in his place, along with the kids, are

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Speaker 1: which I couldn't be happier about. At least they're using

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you deserve it.

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Speaker 1: That will really help him. My brother, however, is now

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Speaker 1: overwhelming sense of anxiety and despair. Cliffs brother is a

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Speaker 1: wiener And that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 1: How are you gonna not pay for seven hundred and

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Speaker 2: We're paid. Yeah, honestly, you better drink that. So the

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Speaker 1: Can you get some more grubby little thumbs all.

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Speaker 2: suggested we all go to the pub and get wasted. Wasted,

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Speaker 1: What the heck? Okay, now I feel like you're not

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Speaker 2: Are you fun or not? We dropped them off at

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna get your freaking java cakes?

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Speaker 2: Outright refused, I don't eat fish at all. Quite reasonable

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like, we want to spend money on a

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Speaker 2: Mike and I went to the best steakhouse in Gibraltar.

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Speaker 2: I had at one point to Kilo steak that sounds

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Speaker 2: so good, an amazing cheesecake for dessert. They got the dessert.

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Speaker 2: We had a lovely time and the wait staff went

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Speaker 1: It was booked, so they said it was. The place

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Speaker 2: No, so yeah, they were going to go to this

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Speaker 2: fish restaurant. It was fully booked, but they couldn't go

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Speaker 1: You didn't check to see if it was booked before

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Speaker 2: There, what on your wedding. It's like, there's not really

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Speaker 1: You okay, I'm sorry. You chose not your hands, which

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Speaker 2: You chose to eat it with credit cards. Oh they're

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Speaker 2: You guys suck the AIRBB was one thing.

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Speaker 1: But your credit card credit cards. You're disgusting, dude.

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Speaker 2: And it's like also almost a wedding thing to like

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Speaker 2: your partners. It could have been it could have been Central,

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Speaker 2: it could have been Usual, and then you put your

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Speaker 2: dirty little credit card, dirty little credit cards. Just use

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Speaker 2: This is Yeah. They got hammer that night on supermarket vodka.

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Speaker 2: Mike and I had the perfect email. God, I loved it.

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Speaker 1: He's just like my time is great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like us fantastic. I took another bubble wrath

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Speaker 2: hands quite romantic. Central. We watched a movie. It was

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Speaker 2: and then just cut some of them, like yelling like

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00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,240
Speaker 2: trying to eat with a credit card, and like yelling

437
00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:14,560
Speaker 2: about the court champagne. I'm like, the restaurant's closed. I

438
00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:15,399
Speaker 2: want my fish.

439
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 1: But what a story they'll have to tell.

440
00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:21,160
Speaker 2: I don't think they're gonna be happy with this. Mike

441
00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:23,800
Speaker 2: and I had the perfect evening. We got a taxi home,

442
00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:29,080
Speaker 2: smoked Devil's let us, smoked smoke Ganja on our balcony,

443
00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:32,680
Speaker 2: watched the stars and kissed for hours. If you want

444
00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:35,439
Speaker 2: to watch the stars and kiss us for hours, you

445
00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:38,320
Speaker 2: can go on live on YouTube every weekday at three

446
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,760
Speaker 2: pm PST. Just tap our profile. Okay, my question is,

447
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 2: what's the intense of the stories? Are they just like

448
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:47,520
Speaker 2: talking crap and then like literally just brag, keep bragging

449
00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:51,040
Speaker 2: about her own or their own eloping because it feels like.

450
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,720
Speaker 1: It didn't really hurt you that much.

451
00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:56,200
Speaker 2: I don't think any of this it's hurting.

452
00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:58,560
Speaker 1: I think nothing just really affected you that much.

453
00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:01,080
Speaker 2: I don't even think they're mad. I think they're just

454
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:02,480
Speaker 2: like idiots.

455
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:04,679
Speaker 1: I don't have any other thoughts on this, just I

456
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 1: guess like, good for you.

457
00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 2: We're done discussed. The next day, Mike and I set

458
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,840
Speaker 2: out for a day of hiking in the UNSCO World

459
00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 2: Heritage Site National Park. It was the best day ever.

460
00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:17,280
Speaker 2: Mike got robbed and bitten by a monkey, which was

461
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:20,680
Speaker 2: effing hilarious. We ate a full English breakfast in the

462
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:24,920
Speaker 2: Sky restaurant and explored Saint Michael's Cave. Unforgettable memories were made,

463
00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 2: d and fought, decided it was Gibraltar's fault and spontaneously

464
00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,959
Speaker 2: excuse me, decided to leave. They booked a beach resort

465
00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 2: up the coast somewhere in Spain, and headed on foot

466
00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:38,560
Speaker 2: to the train station. They were like, this place suck, like.

467
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:40,199
Speaker 1: Something about gibraltars cursed.

468
00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:42,880
Speaker 2: We need to get out of here. There's monkeys and

469
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:44,480
Speaker 2: bad champagne. We're leaving.

470
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:46,920
Speaker 1: They stole my they stole my husband's.

471
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:50,199
Speaker 2: No forts here either, only credit cards, credit cards. The

472
00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:52,760
Speaker 2: trains were all messed up. They got stranded somewhere in

473
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Speaker 2: Spain with all their luggage.

474
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Speaker 1: This is so sad, what a just crap series of

475
00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:03,399
Speaker 1: unfortunate events. Honest call Lemony snicket because these people are

476
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:04,919
Speaker 1: going through something.

477
00:22:04,960 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 2: They really are, So it took them fourteen hours to

478
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,119
Speaker 2: get to the resorts. They arrived at eleven pm and

479
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:13,200
Speaker 2: were checked out the next morning. Mike and I spent

480
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,800
Speaker 2: a few more nights enjoying our honeymoon and the road

481
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,199
Speaker 2: trip home. We stayed in the same little place in

482
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:21,479
Speaker 2: Cartonhena on the way back, and the host threw us

483
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 2: a little surprise party. It was magical. Dan Ann got

484
00:22:24,520 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 2: stranded again on the way home, lost half of their

485
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Speaker 2: luggage and caught COVID.

486
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, God, this isn't even honestly, at this point,

487
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 1: this isn't even dan Anne's fault.

488
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 2: This is like, yeah, this is the universe. This is universe.

489
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 2: It's like, I hate you guys, honestly.

490
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:44,080
Speaker 1: I honestly feel like maybe they're there. Champagne was corked.

491
00:22:45,480 --> 00:22:48,320
Speaker 2: I feel like maybe it was, But it's gotten so

492
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 2: bad that potentially the stampagne was cork it might have

493
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:53,640
Speaker 2: been corked. That's the end of the story.

494
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Speaker 1: The point of that, well, someone said the point of

495
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Speaker 1: it was a geography lesson.

496
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Speaker 3: I want to go no content with my child's dad,

497
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:02,719
Speaker 3: cause he's in prison.

498
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 4: Won't be that hard to not be in contact.

499
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:06,119
Speaker 2: I twenty six female.

500
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:07,919
Speaker 3: I have a six month old sun with my ex

501
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 3: thirty one male of one month. I know what you

502
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,440
Speaker 3: may be thinking, and yes, you read it right. Before

503
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,800
Speaker 3: my son, I was a hopeless romantic and I accepted

504
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 3: love in all the wrong places. When I broke up

505
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,640
Speaker 3: with my ex and soon after found out I was pregnant,

506
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:22,080
Speaker 3: I learned my lesson about having relationships and being too

507
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 3: trusting of people I barely know. I have been single

508
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 3: and focusing on taking care of my son ever since.

509
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,560
Speaker 3: A little background on the history of my ex and I,

510
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 3: and by the way, this comes from user routine librarian

511
00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 3: eight eighty three on the Okay Storytimes subreddit. He met

512
00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 3: on social media last year and he texted me first

513
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 3: with a line that I've never heard from anyone. It

514
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:42,200
Speaker 3: made me laugh, so I thought I'd give him a chance.

515
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:44,439
Speaker 3: He said all the right things to me and lied

516
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 3: about so much. For example, he lied about having a

517
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:50,240
Speaker 3: twin sister and she's the same age as me, and

518
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 3: I fell for it.

519
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:51,960
Speaker 2: What a weird lie.

520
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:53,760
Speaker 4: Maybe people find lying attractive.

521
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 2: That was just a weird, compulsive lie.

522
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 3: We ended up meeting in person and he told me

523
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 3: that he loved me after a week or so being together. Oh,

524
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 3: a major red flag that I ignored. And that was

525
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 3: the very night I conceived my son.

526
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 4: Let's go I love you.

527
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,159
Speaker 2: That's a love baby, I love you to go to

528
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 2: that's how I love you. Baby.

529
00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 3: Shortly afterwards, I found out he was cheating on me

530
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 3: and he stole money from me. Then about a month later,

531
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 3: I found that I was pregnant and when I told him,

532
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 3: he was excited.

533
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:20,719
Speaker 2: At first.

534
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 3: We kept a line of communication, but he made most

535
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:26,120
Speaker 3: of my pregnancy stressful. He denied my child and told

536
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 3: people that I was pregnant.

537
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,919
Speaker 2: When we met. We only had spicy sleep once.

538
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 3: We didn't, but if we did, the dummy doesn't realize

539
00:24:32,800 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 3: that it only takes one time to get pregnant and

540
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,920
Speaker 3: that we were never in a relationship. In the same breath,

541
00:24:36,960 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 3: he was trying to cheat on his several girlfriends with me,

542
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 3: but I wasn't having it. I would also notify him

543
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:45,680
Speaker 3: of appointments to check on the baby and he would

544
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 3: say he'll come and ended up being a no show.

545
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 2: I tried to keep him updated on the baby and

546
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:51,280
Speaker 2: he would say that I didn't.

547
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:53,159
Speaker 3: He had me involved in so much drama, and I

548
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 3: eventually found out he had two other women pregnant at

549
00:24:56,520 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 3: this same time as me. This guy's an overachieved suver

550
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 3: whoa very very strong swimmer, sharp shooter. He denies getting

551
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 3: one of those two pregnant, but I know he's lying.

552
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,880
Speaker 3: It was just all too much. Eventually we went no contact,

553
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 3: and shortly after he went to jail. He stayed for

554
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: the better half of the pregnancy and for about the

555
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 3: first month of him being incarcerated. We got back in

556
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:20,360
Speaker 3: contact with each other again, and he tried to make

557
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,880
Speaker 3: me do favors for him that I wasn't comfortable doing

558
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 3: because it would start drama or I just wasn't obligated

559
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 3: to do any of these things.

560
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 2: And this became a.

561
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 3: Huge problem for him since I was not doing what

562
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 3: he wanted. It turned into an argument and he told

563
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 3: me not to contact him again. So I told him

564
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 3: he wouldn't hear from me again and blocked him. Imagine

565
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 3: having the kahonas to be in prison and being like,

566
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:41,919
Speaker 3: don't contact.

567
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 2: Me, you were done. Wow.

568
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,720
Speaker 3: For months, he had strangers texting me on his behalf

569
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 3: asking me to contact him because he felt remorseful. I

570
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 3: blocked those numbers as well, because I didn't want to

571
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:52,679
Speaker 3: stress anymore during the rest of my pregnancy than I

572
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,359
Speaker 3: already have. Long story short, We were in contact on

573
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:57,679
Speaker 3: and off, and he eventually was released from jail. He

574
00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 3: didn't attend the birth of the baby because I didn't

575
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 3: want him there, Thank God.

576
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 4: Wow.

577
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 3: I wanted to have a peaceful labor and delivery, which

578
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,439
Speaker 3: you deserve. After my son's birth, he was asking to

579
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 3: see him, but I didn't want him anywhere near us.

580
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 3: My mom made me change my mind by telling me

581
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,320
Speaker 3: that I should let him see the baby because I

582
00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 3: don't want to give him the chance to say that.

583
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,200
Speaker 3: I never let my son see him if he were

584
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 3: to ask in the future why he couldn't come around him.

585
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 3: To this day, he has not physically seen my son

586
00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 3: since he was born and has only helped once with him. Financially,

587
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 3: he's only seen him via FaceTime, and after a month

588
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,720
Speaker 3: of my son being born, he went back to jail

589
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,160
Speaker 3: for violating his probation.

590
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 2: Ever since, we have been on and off with communication.

591
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:35,720
Speaker 3: He always tries to get back into relationship with me,

592
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 3: even when I have told him no several times, and

593
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,719
Speaker 3: he knows why, but expects me to get over him

594
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 3: treating me like crap when I was pregnant. This guy

595
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 3: sounds like a great a scumbag. Don't get back together

596
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 3: with him. Probably keep your child away from him as well.

597
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,000
Speaker 3: He flirts with me and calls me bay, even after

598
00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 3: I would tell him to stop. We still fight from

599
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 3: time to time, and he always goes out of his

600
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,920
Speaker 3: way to disrespect me. So now I don't answer when

601
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:58,160
Speaker 3: he calls unless the baby is awake, and he says

602
00:26:58,160 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 3: things to me like when I call, you need to

603
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 3: and don't let anyone keep you away from me. These

604
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 3: are huge red like flags. Yeah, don't let him know

605
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 3: where you are, change a number, move, get out of

606
00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 3: the area you're in. Yeah, you don't want this guy

607
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 3: mess around. He sounds like he's kind of going to

608
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 3: go off the deep end here. I don't want to

609
00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 3: talk to him unless it's about our son. I've made

610
00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 3: this clear to him several times, and he blatantly dismisses

611
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 3: it and gets angry because he can't get any control

612
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:23,199
Speaker 3: over me. He doesn't respect me or my wishes, and

613
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 3: I don't want to deal with it any longer. But

614
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,879
Speaker 3: I don't want to deny my son of his father.

615
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 3: I feel like he thinks he has some kind of

616
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 3: sense of ownership over me because I have his child

617
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: and it doesn't sit well with me at all. Would

618
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:34,879
Speaker 3: I be the a hole if I stopped contacting him

619
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 3: because he makes me feel uncomfortable. You'll never make us

620
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:40,120
Speaker 3: feel uncomfortable when you join us live on YouTube every

621
00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 3: weekday at three PMPST, just tap on our profile.

622
00:27:42,880 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 4: I understand your consideration for your kid, not wanting him

623
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 4: to be angry at you that you never saw that

624
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 4: they never got to sell their father. I think it's

625
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 4: safe that if they make you feel uncomfortable, you don't

626
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 4: owe them the right. Just stay in contact and you

627
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 4: can explain that to your kid when they get older.

628
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 4: They may hate you for a little bit, but I

629
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 4: think it's you have to protect you and your own first.

630
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:05,480
Speaker 3: The vibes I'm getting from this guy are definitely not

631
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 3: someone who would be safe to have around. Yeah, like

632
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,119
Speaker 3: I think, literally for your safe, for the safety of

633
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 3: you and your son, it's probably best that he does

634
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 3: not ever find himself in a position where he could

635
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 3: have power or control over either of you. Thank all

636
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:21,919
Speaker 3: of you that have been giving very helpful advice. I

637
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 3: really appreciate it. Also, any negative comments will be deleted

638
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 3: and you will be blocked. I know what I did

639
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 3: was not the best thing, but as I stated in

640
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 3: the beginning of this post, I learned my lesson. I

641
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:34,639
Speaker 3: have an example this set for my son, and I

642
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 3: will never believe anything or trust anything another man tells

643
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 3: me unless I see some action behind it and he

644
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 3: matches it.

645
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 2: I'm not dating and don't intend to.

646
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,840
Speaker 3: My main focus is on my healing and making sure

647
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,959
Speaker 3: my baby is taken care of. Yeah, you don't need

648
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 3: to focus on dating. You just need to focus on

649
00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 3: the healing and focus on raising your kid.

650
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,160
Speaker 4: It'll be a minute, but be patient with yourself.

651
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, because if we don't heal, we can't really be

652
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 3: there for others if we don't be there for ourselves.

653
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 2: First, canceled my wedding after my ex cheated, but now

654
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 2: my sister's trying to steal my wedding. I was meant

655
00:29:05,320 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 2: to get married on the first of February, which was

656
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 2: my and my ex fiancees anniversary. We ended the engagement

657
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 2: shortly after the New year because he cheated on me.

658
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,360
Speaker 2: That's so very sad, but at least it happened before

659
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 2: you got married.

660
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: That's that's true.

661
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 2: Thank god. The wedding was initially planned with just my

662
00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 2: money but was very low key, and my parents asked

663
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 2: if they could put up some additional money to make

664
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 2: the whole thing a bit bigger. And by the way,

665
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 2: this comes from you dash deleted on the rs okay

666
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 2: storytime subreddit. So by the end, about sixty percent of

667
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 2: the wedding was paid for by me and forty percent

668
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 2: my parents contribution. My ex and I had agreed that

669
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 2: I would pay for the wedding while he covered the honeymoon.

670
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 1: Damn, you didn't even get to the honeymoon.

671
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. My ex left me to deal with canceling the

672
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 2: wedding as his money wasn't involved.

673
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: That's so messed up.

674
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 2: So he cheated on you. Yeah, and it was like,

675
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 2: deal with the wedding. Yeah, wow. And I turned to

676
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 2: my mother and sister for help because I didn't have

677
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 2: the mental or emotional capacity to call vendors and venues

678
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 2: and whatever else and cancel everything. My sister is engaged

679
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 2: and helped me with a lot of the wedding planning.

680
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 2: Next thing I know, my mother and sister are asking

681
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 2: me if I wouldn't mind my sister just taking my wedding.

682
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 1: Okay, I understand, like optics here are not good. I

683
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: kind of get it.

684
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 2: It seems quite easy. It seems to cancel everything and

685
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 2: lose it all on that money.

686
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, as long as they're like, hey, we'll pay for it. Yeah,

687
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 1: that I would think we're gonna take it, and you

688
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 1: still have to be crazy.

689
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

690
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 1: But if it's just like hey, like I want to

691
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 1: pay for it, is it okay? If I take it,

692
00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: wouldn't want to go to waste that way that you

693
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 1: don't you don't have to go through canceling.

694
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 2: Did sister shoot with fiance? That was another story. If

695
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 2: you're if you're referencing that other story, yeah, oh that

696
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 2: was a wild one.

697
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 1: That was a wild one.

698
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Speaker 2: Every part of it, from the venue to the cake

699
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 2: and everything in between. The sole difference would be the

700
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 2: wedding dress. And even then she said, if she can't

701
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 2: buy off the rack, she might have to get mine

702
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 2: Taylor to fit her instead. I called off my engagement

703
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 2: less than three weeks ago. I am an e fing mess.

704
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 2: I reached out to my family to help me cancel

705
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: the wedding, and my sister is planning to take it

706
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 2: over and said okay, she asked you. Yeah, OPI seems

707
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 2: quite mad, but it seems like her sisters, her family's

708
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:10,959
Speaker 2: trying to be like creative and find a way to

709
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 2: manage the situation.

710
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: I honestly, I totally understand she's going through a lot

711
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 1: of emotions right now.

712
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:19,600
Speaker 2: Yes, but we will, we will recognize that. Yeah, my

713
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 2: sister has wrung round our family explaining that she's taking

714
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 2: over before she told me this. Okay, well that's.

715
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: That's a little bit.

716
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, you can't just be like assume that, you know, Op,

717
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: he's gonna be chill with this, and then just start

718
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 2: telling the family so they are all attending. Her fiance

719
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,560
Speaker 2: has contacted his family and given them the date he

720
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 2: will be getting married. Okay, I understand why mad so

721
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 2: before checking like, hey, this is a Crown show, can

722
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:47,840
Speaker 2: we help out? I think creatively if we do that,

723
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 2: like this would really help out. But they're just like

724
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:53,280
Speaker 2: assuming and they're like telling everyone and like making plans

725
00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:53,719
Speaker 2: around it.

726
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: That's not cool.

727
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,120
Speaker 2: I found out all of this today. She asked me

728
00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 2: if I was okay with this, Like she hasn't already

729
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 2: arranged everything. I told her to go f herself. I

730
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 2: have until the twenty third to cancel things and get

731
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,400
Speaker 2: the money back. Oh, you get money all back?

732
00:32:07,480 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: Do you get all of the money back or you

733
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: get you probably lose the deposit.

734
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a couple of things where I won't get

735
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 2: money back at the stage, but over two thirds of

736
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,400
Speaker 2: it is still refundable. But is the sister going.

737
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 1: To give you That's what I want to know. If

738
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 1: this is and he's paying you everything, then that's different.

739
00:32:23,120 --> 00:32:25,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, the money will be refunded to the card

740
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 2: it was paid by, so both me and my parents

741
00:32:27,680 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 2: will get the correct amounts back. Everything is shut right now,

742
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:32,800
Speaker 2: but it's the twenty first tomorrow. As I've not been

743
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 2: in contact with these companies and it's my name on

744
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 2: all the contracts, I have full power over this wedding.

745
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 2: My sister said she'd pay me back eventually, but knowing her,

746
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: I'll never see that money again. Okay, so that's I think.

747
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: Well, I think what you can say is you can

748
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: have the wedding if you pay me.

749
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,560
Speaker 2: Upfront or if you pay me by this date.

750
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 1: Yes. Yeah yeah, but oh he needs to cancel, so

751
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 1: it's like she might not get this money.

752
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 2: No, Like, are you gonna like, are you gonna agree

753
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 2: with me if we do this. Yeah, if you take

754
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 2: over the wedding, you will pay me by this date.

755
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I guess it's like, what if she doesn't

756
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 1: pay you by that date? Yeah, you can't cancel anything

757
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: for sure, So it's like I think that I think

758
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: you just have to say, like, okay, you have to

759
00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 1: pay me by this or I'm just going to cancel

760
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:14,880
Speaker 1: it because I can't be sure that you'll pay me.

761
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 2: Yeah again, so eventually, but knowing her, I'll never see

762
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 2: that money again. So would I be the a hole

763
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 2: if I wrung round everything and canceled update.

764
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: I think just have a conversation with her and say, hey,

765
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 1: that was like really inappropriate that you told everyone that

766
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: you were taking my wedding before.

767
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 2: You without consulting with me, like it possibly could have happened.

768
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I might have considered it, but you just assume

769
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 1: so much. And if you really want this wedding, I'll

770
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:41,200
Speaker 1: consider it, but you need to pay me upfront for sure.

771
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 2: One hundred percent of conversation, Pixie.

772
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:45,120
Speaker 1: Loved Us says, I'm so petty I would cancel without

773
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 1: communicating because she took over the date without.

774
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 2: Communicating Josephine, I'm just trying to you know. Update time,

775
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 2: I talked to my sister who would have thought and

776
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 2: explained how upset I was and how hurt this made

777
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 2: me feel, and she said that this was a good

778
00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 2: thing and it would be therapeutic for me to see

779
00:33:59,720 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 2: good come from bad. I said, that is really not

780
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 2: what it's feeling like on my end, And to me,

781
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 2: it feels like I got cheated on a month before

782
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 2: my wedding, and my sister said she would cancel everything

783
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: for me and then decided that getting married in my

784
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 2: dress in the venue my ex and I picked out

785
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 2: together on my anniversary date. And this did not feel good. Yeah,

786
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 2: from her perspective, also totally could see like this was

787
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 2: the wedding. Oh my god, you're gonna have your wedding.

788
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 2: You're gonna marry this person, be with them for the

789
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 2: rest of your life. You get cheated on right before

790
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:28,760
Speaker 2: the wedding, and then you have to watch your sister

791
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 2: have the wedding that would have been yours and get

792
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 2: reminded by to the detail of all the things you

793
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 2: could have had wedding dress too, and to the wedding dress. Yeah, yeah,

794
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 2: pretty messed up, I said, So this could have all

795
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 2: been avoided if the sister was like, just what about

796
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: this option and she's like, actually no, that would make

797
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 2: me feel like crap, and then it could have all

798
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 2: been avoided. I said. If she wanted to buy the

799
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 2: wedding off me, then I needed payment in full, okay,

800
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 2: like you said, for my sixty percent by the twenty third,

801
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,880
Speaker 2: and I wanted to switch out our names on the contract.

802
00:34:58,000 --> 00:34:59,359
Speaker 1: Fair, very fair, very fair.

803
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:01,800
Speaker 2: She said she was hoping for closer to a payment

804
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 2: plan where she paid me back fifty percent of the

805
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 2: sixty percent I put down in monthly installments over the

806
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 2: next ten months.

807
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,319
Speaker 1: Well what about that last ten percent? Does no one

808
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: pay you back the last ten percent?

809
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:13,759
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

810
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 1: She's like, I'm going to pay you back fifty percent

811
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 1: of the sixty percent over ten months. Huh. So she's

812
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 1: just not going to pay back the ten percent the

813
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 1: last ten percent?

814
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 2: Oh okay, So she's yeah, yeah, it's.

815
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 1: Just an extra ten percent that she's not going to

816
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:26,120
Speaker 1: pay back.

817
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 2: Maybe I don't know. She wanted to pay me back

818
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:31,240
Speaker 2: five percent per month for ten percent, and I still

819
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 2: want to get all of my money back. Yeah what Yeah,

820
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: I've made calls and canceled everything. Everything was paid for

821
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 2: by me and my parents' money, paid primarily for upgrades

822
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 2: to the things I'd already bought. The money will be

823
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 2: refunded who ever paid for it, so myself and my

824
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 2: parents will all get the correct money back. However, with some,

825
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 2: like the caterer, we've lost a deposit entirely. With some,

826
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 2: like the venue, they kept part of the money average

827
00:35:52,560 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 2: fifty percent, but some kept more and some kept less.

828
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:58,320
Speaker 2: And with some like the baker who was a family

829
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 2: friend and had it started on the cake. Yet thank god,

830
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 2: they completely refunded it. We found out from the last

831
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:05,000
Speaker 2: story how expensive cakes are.

832
00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 1: Pretty expensive when you're in Gibraltar.

833
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 2: When you're in Gibraltar. I think the fact that I

834
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 2: was open that the wedding was off because he cheated

835
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:13,839
Speaker 2: and made them feel bad for me and probably made

836
00:36:13,880 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 2: a few of them more lenient on refunds. Yeah, yeah,

837
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,719
Speaker 2: like I got cheated on. I'm like, oh okay, yeah,

838
00:36:20,719 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 2: it's not like just randomly trying to change the day.

839
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 2: It's like, you know, like you got left over. Yeah,

840
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 2: didn't just bring it up for the sake of it.

841
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 2: But most of them asked if he if I'd wanted

842
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 2: to reschedule on the whole, I've gotten a little over

843
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 2: half back, which is not as much as I thought. Really, Yeah,

844
00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 2: that sucks. You could have got more if your sister.

845
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're willing to do the ten months plan.

846
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 2: Yeah. The thing is that I put these cancelations through

847
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 2: on the twenty first, and if i'd done it on

848
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: the eighteenth, two full week's notice, i'd had gotten more.

849
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 2: But they waited until the twentieth to tell me the

850
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 2: dates are now oh yeah, because she thought she was.

851
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 1: Supposed to be her sister was supposed to be canceling everything.

852
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:59,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, So she thought her family was going to cancel it. Yeah.

853
00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 1: And then they tell her, no, we didn't do that.

854
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 1: We're gonna take it from you.

855
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,600
Speaker 2: And she's like, so the dates are not open, the

856
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 2: plans are now there. If she wants to rebook everything

857
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,880
Speaker 2: in her name, she was welcome to. She helped me

858
00:37:08,920 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 2: with an f ton of planning, knows the details better

859
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 2: than I do, and she could easily rebook the exact thing,

860
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 2: same thing, or will probably be doing. The vendors a

861
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,719
Speaker 2: favor of considering how close we are to the big day,

862
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:20,840
Speaker 2: and if you want to have a big day every day.

863
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 2: You can join us live on YouTube every weekday at

864
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 2: three pm PST.

865
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 1: Just have our profiles happen.

866
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: Also, there's another relevant update. But let's discuss. But we

867
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:33,239
Speaker 2: it feels like we disciscussed, we discussed, We've we decided, discussions,

868
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 2: discussions over. Yeah, So some refunds will be instant, some

869
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 2: will take a bit of time. Longest is two weeks

870
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 2: and I'm no longer going on my honeymoon, so once

871
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 2: all the refunds have come through, I might book a

872
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 2: week away somewhere.

873
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 1: Yeah.

874
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 2: It seems like in other stories when like I just

875
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:49,880
Speaker 2: never seen someone do that. What blow your hair out?

876
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: I do it all the time.

877
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,960
Speaker 2: Nice. It seems like in other stories where people like

878
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 2: like the wedding crashes or something, Yeah, that they just

879
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 2: go on their honeymoon.

880
00:37:57,719 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 1: I think you got it. It's like you're you got

881
00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 1: the trip plant. Well, in this case, she doesn't have

882
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 1: a trip plan, but most times they have trip plans,

883
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 1: and you're like, I don't want it to go to waste.

884
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:09,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just kind of like so tainted. That's a curse.

885
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:10,920
Speaker 1: Oh, this is fun.

886
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,600
Speaker 2: I could have gone on this with my husband, but

887
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 2: I guess I'll go on it with my family. Were

888
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 2: going to cry in a hotel room in Spain now,

889
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,760
Speaker 2: I guess, though I'm not sure what's happening with my sister,

890
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,280
Speaker 2: mother family at large. In total, I would have gotten

891
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 2: more back from my sister than I would from the venues,

892
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:29,399
Speaker 2: but it would be a year wait, I mean ten

893
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:32,080
Speaker 2: months wait, yeah, on her repaying me versus a few

894
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 2: weeks on the venues. Currently drafting a Facebook post to

895
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 2: tell the family what happened without me looking like a

896
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,640
Speaker 2: total b She's gonna post this.

897
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: Where are we why? Okay, let's like, let's think about

898
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:44,799
Speaker 1: it and then not, Let's not do it.

899
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:46,440
Speaker 2: Let's like make a different decision.

900
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 1: Let's not do that.

901
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:49,879
Speaker 2: I have a the way people use Facebook, so like.

902
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about it and need it. I need

903
00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:56,320
Speaker 1: to let everyone know on Facebook. Yeah, oh wow, I

904
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:57,719
Speaker 1: don't know what Chat's gonna think about this.

905
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 2: I have a feeling they've already guessed what went on,

906
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 2: but only one way to make sure.

907
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.

908
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 2: Again, it's seals is pointless, like my X ruined our relationship,

909
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:11,719
Speaker 2: but won't leave me alone.

910
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 4: Give me one more shot, one more chance.

911
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 3: Hey, let me make your life a mess one more time. Firstly,

912
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 3: I have really struggled to write this all down. Our

913
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:21,360
Speaker 3: friendship groups are so heavily entwined that it's got so

914
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: many people involved now and I don't even know where

915
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 3: to start. So much has happened, and I'm doing a

916
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:26,840
Speaker 3: lot of work on myself after all this.

917
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:27,719
Speaker 2: By the way, this.

918
00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 3: Comes from users stressed pressy Messi on the r slash

919
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,240
Speaker 3: Okay story time subreaddit I female twenty six started talking

920
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:37,440
Speaker 3: to my ex j male twenty three in February. We

921
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: were in the same extended friendship group and I was

922
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 3: really worried about dating within this group. I already had

923
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 3: an ex in the group see who I had dated

924
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:46,879
Speaker 3: five years ago before. He had met my friends through

925
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,320
Speaker 3: work in a small town two years after we split.

926
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:51,759
Speaker 3: He had no idea they were my friends until about

927
00:39:51,760 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 3: a year before a wedding we both attended. We're now

928
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 3: on good terms after a lot of work after a

929
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 3: messy split where Chester cheated on me with his ex

930
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,440
Speaker 3: at a fest of a We don't hang out or

931
00:40:01,480 --> 00:40:03,320
Speaker 3: go for coffee or anything, but we do have a

932
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 3: chat and get on well enough. If we're both out

933
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:08,160
Speaker 3: on a night out from the onset, Jay pursued me

934
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 3: and messaged me. Originally I thought he was gay, but

935
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 3: it turned out he wasn't. I ended up finally agreeing

936
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 3: to a date after our mutual best friend M female

937
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 3: twenty three pushed both of us to pursue the developing feelings.

938
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 3: We had an amazing first date and we talked all evening.

939
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 3: We went on more dates and the topic of spicy

940
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 3: Sleep started coming up more. I had made it clear

941
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,360
Speaker 3: that I don't sleep with someone until a romantic connection

942
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 3: has really been established due to past trauma that made

943
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 3: it hard to connect. After Spicy Sleep, he really understood

944
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 3: it made me feel completely.

945
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 2: Safe and relaxed with him about it. We love that.

946
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 3: Our biggest disagreement was arguing over condiments and which are

947
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 3: the best.

948
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:45,279
Speaker 2: He eats his.

949
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 3: Fries dry, and that is truly abhorrent to me. As

950
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 3: stupid as it was, it made me laugh and it

951
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 3: was like dating my best friend because he was already

952
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,800
Speaker 3: my friend beforehand. When things started to progress, we finally

953
00:40:56,960 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 3: slept together and it was great. I didn't feel sick

954
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 3: having him in my bed, and he was the first

955
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 3: man to stay in my bed after my last boyfriend

956
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 3: who caused all my trauma. I'd told him everything about it,

957
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 3: in more details than I had with any of my friends,

958
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 3: and he'd been so understanding and supportive about my issues

959
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 3: and the commitment problems I've since faced after the severe

960
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 3: trauma I experienced. Glad to hear you're on the path

961
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,880
Speaker 3: of healing op for real. We started planning further in

962
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,399
Speaker 3: advance for things in May. We had two big date

963
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 3: nights planned. One was a work event for him and

964
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,720
Speaker 3: the other was going to be an event with friends.

965
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 3: My birthday was a few weeks before these things, as

966
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 3: it is at the beginning of May, and I'd asked

967
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 3: if he wanted to come on the day out with

968
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 3: my friends. I made it clear that there was no

969
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 3: pressure for me to come, and I just thought he'd

970
00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 3: enjoy the day as a lot of our mutual friends

971
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 3: were coming, as well as a couple of my friends

972
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 3: from UTI in childhood. He didn't even hesitate when he

973
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 3: said yes. Our next date involved us going out for dinner,

974
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 3: where he started making Christmas plans for me to spend

975
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 3: time with his family. I ended up having a minor

976
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 3: panic attack at planning so far in advance because We

977
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 3: were in mid April at this point, and he stopped

978
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,839
Speaker 3: immediately once I said I wasn't to talk that far

979
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 3: in advance. We'd agreed not to sleep with other people

980
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 3: after the first time we'd slept together, as we were

981
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:08,720
Speaker 3: both serious about our developing relationship, or so I thought.

982
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 3: Oh no, oh, no, here comes the cold water. My

983
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 3: birthday came and we had an amazing time, despite the

984
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:17,359
Speaker 3: little things that irritated me. He was over an hour late.

985
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 3: The boys had gone to the pub whilst I went

986
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:21,839
Speaker 3: to brunch with the girls, and they all ended up

987
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,759
Speaker 3: trashed and incredibly late. After a few stern words, they

988
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 3: eventually showed up. I had a bit of a wobble

989
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 3: about being the center of attention, but Jay took me

990
00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 3: off for some time where I was one on one

991
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 3: with someone and talked me down from the incoming panic.

992
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 3: We rejoined my friends at the pub and he pulled

993
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 3: me for a chat about our future.

994
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: He asked me to be.

995
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 3: His girlfriend, but I told him I wasn't quite ready

996
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:45,279
Speaker 3: for a label. We then agreed to complete exclusivity, where

997
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 3: we didn't see anyone else anymore and basically committed, but

998
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 3: without the official label.

999
00:42:49,640 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 2: According to Jay, interesting.

1000
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,800
Speaker 3: After this, he spent the night chatting to my friends

1001
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 3: and told our married friends that he was going to

1002
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,480
Speaker 3: take care of me and that he was serious about me,

1003
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 3: something They relayed the next out of happiness and excitement.

1004
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 3: All of my friends loved him and were so happy

1005
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 3: for us. We left at nine pm and he stayed

1006
00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 3: the night, something that was becoming more routine. I loved

1007
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,839
Speaker 3: spending time with him, and my work colleagues were all

1008
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 3: enthusiastically rooting for us, as I'd been single for three

1009
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 3: and a half years with very little luck in the

1010
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:18,280
Speaker 3: dating feel I was completely smitten with him and started

1011
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 3: to see myself falling head over heels in love with

1012
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 3: them who During our evenings, we'd talk about the days

1013
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 3: we were having, and he expressed his frustrations about his friends.

1014
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 3: Some of his opinions were questionable, to say the least,

1015
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 3: and were offensive. I called him out for the most part,

1016
00:43:33,200 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 3: but ashamedly I didn't make it clear enough that he

1017
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 3: was being mean and shouldn't have said some of these

1018
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 3: things at all. He was going out of the country

1019
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 3: to a festival with the boys and em a couple

1020
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 3: of days after my birthday. I had no issues with this,

1021
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 3: until EM had asked me how I was so chilled

1022
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 3: with the situation. I trusted him up until EM mentioned

1023
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 3: being chill. I am not famous for my chill amongst

1024
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:55,920
Speaker 3: my friends. When I asked for more details, he explained

1025
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:59,720
Speaker 3: that his long term bad blood x L female twenty

1026
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 3: three and his ex fling B female twenty four were

1027
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,719
Speaker 3: both going as well. He'd completely omitted this, but I

1028
00:44:05,840 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 3: just noted it and didn't mention to him.

1029
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 2: I knew as I started to get suspicious.

1030
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 3: During the week he was away, we'd gone from speaking

1031
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 3: every day to no contact at all. I'd assumed that

1032
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 3: he had no data, but he was viewing all my

1033
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 3: social media posts within ten minutes of posting.

1034
00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 2: I knew something was up, but I had no evidence.

1035
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:24,760
Speaker 3: Oh come on, dude, this guy can't keep a secret.

1036
00:44:24,840 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 3: Once they were back, I still heard nothing. EM came

1037
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 3: over for dinner and proudly announced that nothing happened when

1038
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 3: they were away. I didn't believe her. I knew something

1039
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 3: had I just had no evidence.

1040
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 2: Still.

1041
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 3: Finally, after a drink, I asked to speak to Jay.

1042
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:39,640
Speaker 3: He called me and I told him I knew everything,

1043
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 3: so this was his chance to tell me the truth.

1044
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:44,040
Speaker 3: This was the biggest bluff of my life. Yo op,

1045
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:47,840
Speaker 3: he's pulling the police interiator tactic. He immediately told me

1046
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 3: that he'd slept with Elle while they were away.

1047
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:52,000
Speaker 4: Yes, come on.

1048
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 3: He even followed it up with I thought about you

1049
00:44:55,120 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 3: the whole time. Oh gross. Within five days of my birthday,

1050
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:01,919
Speaker 3: he'd slept with her. He didn't even apologize for any

1051
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 3: of it, not even those bad I'm sorry I hurt

1052
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:07,359
Speaker 3: your feelings apologies. After some insults hurled from my end,

1053
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,600
Speaker 3: I ended it. I didn't cry until I was finally

1054
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:12,960
Speaker 3: off the phone, and EM was devastated. M shared a

1055
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 3: hotel room with Lisette, and she had lied about the

1056
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 3: night she'd spent with Jay. We had no idea if

1057
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:20,360
Speaker 3: Lisette knew about me, and she lived with one of

1058
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 3: Jay's friends, so we had assumed she'd known, as Jay

1059
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 3: had told this guy about us. EM stayed with me

1060
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 3: that night as I was a total mess. She had

1061
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 3: never seen me so upset, as I normally have kept

1062
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 3: it together when things go wrong. She had known Jay

1063
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 3: for ten years and decided to cut him out. We

1064
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 3: called married friends so we could let them know the

1065
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:39,359
Speaker 3: situation and that I wanted to stay away from Jay.

1066
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 3: But I wanted them to stay friends if they wanted.

1067
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 3: I told the married friends that em and I support

1068
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 3: their respective friendships with Jay. Realistically, I didn't want to

1069
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:49,279
Speaker 3: be that girl who split up the group, and I

1070
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 3: didn't want them to choose between me and him. Prizingly

1071
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 3: to me, they all cut him off. Yeah, that's a

1072
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:57,359
Speaker 3: good group of friends. They said that they all found

1073
00:45:57,400 --> 00:46:00,480
Speaker 3: his actions awful and were appalled by it all, especially

1074
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:03,440
Speaker 3: after the way he'd acted less than five days before

1075
00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:05,919
Speaker 3: with me and all my friends. Emma and I spoke

1076
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,400
Speaker 3: about it NonStop so I could piece my feelings together

1077
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:10,439
Speaker 3: and work out where I stood. He'd made it clear

1078
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 3: that this was premeditated cheating during our breakup chat, and

1079
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 3: I couldn't fathom what I had done to deserve it.

1080
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:18,400
Speaker 3: To be honest, you didn't do anything to deserve it.

1081
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 3: I can tell you that right now. I'm not perfect,

1082
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:22,440
Speaker 3: and I never pretend to be, but I don't think.

1083
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:25,040
Speaker 2: I deserve this. Jay idolizes Chester.

1084
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:27,160
Speaker 3: In the weeks that followed, I was egged on to

1085
00:46:27,239 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 3: confront lysett for her part in all this. I reached

1086
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 3: out to Beth, who had heard on the grapevine about

1087
00:46:32,680 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 3: what had happened. I knew Beth through Jay and wanted

1088
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 3: to get to know her more before everything happened. We

1089
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,400
Speaker 3: met for brunch and she just asked me what happened.

1090
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 3: I told her everything, sparing most details. She informed me

1091
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 3: that Lisette had no idea. I was so glad I

1092
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 3: hadn't confronted Lisette, but I had spoken horribly behind her back.

1093
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,879
Speaker 3: I contacted Lysette that night to apologize for the things

1094
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:55,080
Speaker 3: I'd said, and she immediately responded, apologizing for the part

1095
00:46:55,120 --> 00:46:57,560
Speaker 3: that she'd played in everything, and asked to meet up.

1096
00:46:57,640 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 3: I was hesitant, but we ended up going for dinner injury.

1097
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 2: Within a week.

1098
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 3: She told me everything about that night, including the fact

1099
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 3: that he wasn't as intoxicated as he'd made out. He

1100
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 3: used her grief from losing a parent to angle their closeness,

1101
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 3: and he'd even done something similar to her when they

1102
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 3: had dated the first time around. She explained about how

1103
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 3: he has since been saying that I was horrible and controlling,

1104
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 3: which is why he cheated on me. Garbage man. Throw

1105
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 3: this man into the deep space. I had one question

1106
00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 3: for her. Realistically, in the month after the split, I'd

1107
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:30,680
Speaker 3: unpaused my dating apps on one of them, someone had

1108
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:33,360
Speaker 3: liked me using my late partner's name and photos of

1109
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 3: us from before his death. I was shaken to my core.

1110
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 3: The married friends automatically said they thought Jay was behind

1111
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 3: the fake profile. I wasn't sure, but they were almost certain.

1112
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 3: I tore him to shreds in our breakup call, but

1113
00:47:43,760 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 3: surely not enough to warrant this.

1114
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 2: I needed to know if she thought he was capable

1115
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 2: of this.

1116
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:51,800
Speaker 3: Lisette informed me that something similar had happened following their breakup,

1117
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 3: but she never knew if it was him. For Lisette,

1118
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 3: this confirmed it was him who had done this to her. Yeah,

1119
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 3: I feel like, oh yeah, that's too much of a

1120
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 3: coincidence not to not line up.

1121
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:02,000
Speaker 2: You both break up.

1122
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 3: With this dude, and then you both get ghost profiles

1123
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 3: of your previous lovers who are now dead.

1124
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 2: Like he's trying to traumatize you, guys. This guy sucks.

1125
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 3: I was devastated. It ended up being a rather lovely

1126
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 3: eve where I felt connected to my body and she's

1127
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 3: actually really lovely. We are quite good friends now. In fact,

1128
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:21,800
Speaker 3: Lisette had a go at Jay for his behavior that evening.

1129
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 3: After leaving, Beth cut off Jay as well as her

1130
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 3: and I hang out so regularly now that she didn't

1131
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 3: want the negativity he brings around anymore. I heard rumblings

1132
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 3: that Jay has since said we weren't together, so it

1133
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 3: wasn't cheating, and that I'm exaggerat it hurts, but I

1134
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 3: didn't want to keep it going. Really, those who knew

1135
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:42,360
Speaker 3: what happened knew. Those who didn't want to be involved

1136
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,520
Speaker 3: had my full support. I just wanted to heal and

1137
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 3: move on, to be honest, And if I'm being honest,

1138
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 3: you guys can join us live on YouTube every weekday

1139
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 3: at three PMPST.

1140
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 2: Just tap that profile.

1141
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 4: This guy's dirt bag and you've got a friend out

1142
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 4: of it.

1143
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you did.

1144
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 3: It sounds like you got really a lot of solid

1145
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 3: friends out of this. For the whole married friend group

1146
00:49:00,840 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 3: to cut him off.

1147
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 4: I would encourage you to maybe look for some ways

1148
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 4: to like continue to heal yourself because I know you

1149
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 4: got cheated on, you have a late partner, you got

1150
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 4: cheated on like twice. It seems like you've got a

1151
00:49:11,800 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 4: lot of stuff to work through and you're probably already

1152
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:15,960
Speaker 4: working through it. Yeah, like maybe finding a therapist to

1153
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 4: help you. Therapists can go with this stuff and be

1154
00:49:18,120 --> 00:49:21,439
Speaker 4: like because it's emotionally heavy, so that brings us to now.

1155
00:49:21,520 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 4: He was called out by Lysette's housemate.

1156
00:49:23,680 --> 00:49:25,719
Speaker 3: The housemate met up with Jay, who was acting as

1157
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:28,919
Speaker 3: if he hadn't done anything wrong. Housemate and I were acquaintances,

1158
00:49:29,000 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 3: but he is close with Lisette, Beth and M, so

1159
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 3: he knew everything at this point. The housemate was angry

1160
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:36,600
Speaker 3: at him for his conduct and told him as such.

1161
00:49:36,640 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 3: He made the point that he has split everyone up

1162
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 3: and everyone is angry. So Jay got whiny and upset

1163
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:44,360
Speaker 3: and sent apologies out. He sent one to M detailing

1164
00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 3: how upset he was about the situation and how he's

1165
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:49,400
Speaker 3: left it so many months because he was so scared,

1166
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:51,680
Speaker 3: but he's done loads of growth. He sent one to

1167
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 3: Lysette about how he was so sorry for his treatment

1168
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 3: of her and he's sorry for not telling her the

1169
00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:59,279
Speaker 3: details about the week away. I had been reduced to

1170
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 3: the details. Lisette had two apologies. M had one, and

1171
00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:05,319
Speaker 3: I'm still waiting. The married friends want apologies for his

1172
00:50:05,400 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 3: behavior and the lying on my birthday because he clearly

1173
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 3: wasn't serious about me. I don't think an apology would

1174
00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 3: have changed anything for me, especially one he only sent

1175
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 3: because he was told off by his housemate, but I

1176
00:50:15,520 --> 00:50:17,839
Speaker 3: do think it would have given me that last bit

1177
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:20,400
Speaker 3: of closure. I don't really know why I shared this,

1178
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,319
Speaker 3: but I just think I needed to get it out.

1179
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:24,520
Speaker 3: It's been months of working on my self worth and

1180
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 3: just connecting with my friends. Friends and time are the

1181
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,800
Speaker 3: best healers for everything, and on that I certainly agree.

1182
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:31,240
Speaker 4: I agreed.

1183
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 2: I'm glad that you have.

1184
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:35,280
Speaker 3: You have yourself a nice little friend group that's supporting

1185
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 3: you during this. I knew my husband was perfect for

1186
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 3: me because I stalked him.

1187
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 4: I think it just makes your relationship easier.

1188
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 2: You're just putting in the extra effort. Ope, I see you.

1189
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 3: I twenty four female, married my husband twenty eight mail,

1190
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 3: about a year and a half ago. The first time

1191
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 3: I saw my husband, I was a freshman in high

1192
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 3: school and he was a freshman in college. He was

1193
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 3: walking his dog at the park when he stopped to

1194
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:57,760
Speaker 3: talk to my brother twenty seven male, because they happened

1195
00:50:57,760 --> 00:50:58,720
Speaker 3: to go to high school together.

1196
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 2: That was the moment I became hooked. Oh my god.

1197
00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 3: That same day, I found his Instagram, his family social media,

1198
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 3: and also where he lived, since my brother offered to

1199
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 3: walk him home while I tagged along. When I got

1200
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 3: home that day, I knew I wanted him, but of

1201
00:51:11,960 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 3: course I was only fourteen while he was eighteen.

1202
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 2: So I came up with a plan.

1203
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user hot relation eight

1204
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 3: ninety nine on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. I

1205
00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:23,600
Speaker 3: found out his younger brother was only one year younger

1206
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 3: than me and would be attending my current high school.

1207
00:51:25,719 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 3: I figured that I had to befriend his younger brother

1208
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 3: by any means possible next year when he moves up

1209
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 3: as a freshman while I become a sophomore.

1210
00:51:32,480 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 2: And I did.

1211
00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 3: It took about halfway of my junior year, where we

1212
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 3: became best friends and he invited me over regularly to

1213
00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:41,400
Speaker 3: his house to hang out. This is where I was

1214
00:51:41,480 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 3: able to befriend my current husband's mom, and God did

1215
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 3: she love to talk about him.

1216
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:49,759
Speaker 4: Flip was switched and this is in Crazyville. We were

1217
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 4: in Crazyville.

1218
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 2: Hey, this is just a girl who knew exactly what

1219
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:53,240
Speaker 2: she wanted.

1220
00:51:53,320 --> 00:51:56,640
Speaker 3: Yes, at fourteen, knew exactly who her husband was going

1221
00:51:56,719 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 3: to be and was like, I have a plan.

1222
00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:02,160
Speaker 2: From her.

1223
00:52:02,239 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 3: I found out what college he goes to his past girlfriends?

1224
00:52:05,400 --> 00:52:08,400
Speaker 3: What is elementary slash middle school was his favorite slash

1225
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 3: least favorite foods, his pet peeves, what he likes, et cetera,

1226
00:52:11,800 --> 00:52:12,320
Speaker 3: et cetera.

1227
00:52:12,600 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 2: This is actually starting to scare me. This is scary.

1228
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:19,399
Speaker 4: It's also scary like knowing what's going through your head

1229
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:21,319
Speaker 4: right now and talking to the mom to get all this.

1230
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:24,359
Speaker 4: At least she's not snooping. She's just asking questions. I mean,

1231
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 4: she's not snooping yet.

1232
00:52:25,600 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1233
00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 3: It seemed like she think day one she snooped, Bro,

1234
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 3: you're talking about day one. She has idoctored him. He

1235
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 3: was fully doffed no, and.

1236
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 4: She found out where he lived. You can do a

1237
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 4: little social media stock, but once you find where they live.

1238
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:41,600
Speaker 3: Eventually, when my visits started getting more and more frequent,

1239
00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:43,759
Speaker 3: I formally met current husband again.

1240
00:52:43,880 --> 00:52:46,319
Speaker 2: Current husband, who i'll call e it's call Ethan.

1241
00:52:46,400 --> 00:52:48,600
Speaker 3: Ethan would come over every other week and stay for

1242
00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 3: either Friday through Sunday or Saturday to Sunday. On those days, specifically,

1243
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:54,719
Speaker 3: I would wear my cutest outfits to impress him and

1244
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 3: also joke around with him a lot. Eventually I befriended

1245
00:52:57,600 --> 00:52:59,759
Speaker 3: him as well. A little background on Ethan. He's the

1246
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,680
Speaker 3: school record holder for a certain sport at my school,

1247
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 3: which I just so happened to do. And around halfway

1248
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:07,600
Speaker 3: through my senior year, Ethan came back during the season

1249
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 3: to help coach the current high school athletes, which included me,

1250
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:12,920
Speaker 3: in order to get some more volunteer work hours in,

1251
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 3: and I got to spend a lot more time with him.

1252
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,600
Speaker 3: I loved every second of it. We were friends before,

1253
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:20,719
Speaker 3: but then we became much closer since I got to

1254
00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:23,040
Speaker 3: spend lots of extra time with him after school, where

1255
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:25,880
Speaker 3: sometimes he would even drive me home since we lived

1256
00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 3: relatively close. Oh boys, I can only imagine like the

1257
00:53:29,480 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 3: little trophies and trinkets that this girl was like secretly

1258
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:33,879
Speaker 3: like taking, like.

1259
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 2: From his car.

1260
00:53:34,600 --> 00:53:36,720
Speaker 3: Like she would just like run her finger like over

1261
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 3: the like the dashboard, and like a hair was on there,

1262
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:42,160
Speaker 3: and she would just like to just eat it.

1263
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:43,839
Speaker 2: This is what true love looks like. Don't let anyone

1264
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:44,319
Speaker 2: tell you this.

1265
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 4: Goodness, gracious, this is some of this was cute.

1266
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 2: What's not cute is that this guy became her husband.

1267
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:53,759
Speaker 4: Like I think I got married. It's all planned out.

1268
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:55,839
Speaker 4: That's what I don't like it. It's like all methodically

1269
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:57,959
Speaker 4: planned out. Then I come then I get her mom,

1270
00:53:58,000 --> 00:53:58,960
Speaker 4: then I get her Yeah.

1271
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:01,680
Speaker 3: It was like this of like first I'll get to

1272
00:54:01,719 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 3: the little brother, yeah, and then I'll work my way up.

1273
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 2: It's pretty scary.

1274
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 3: I don't know how i'd feel if I was the

1275
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:08,799
Speaker 3: husband reading this. Fast forward to when I had to

1276
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:11,680
Speaker 3: move away to New York City for college. Ethan moved

1277
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 3: with me since he coincidentally got a job near my college.

1278
00:54:14,680 --> 00:54:14,879
Speaker 1: Edit.

1279
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:16,440
Speaker 2: I lied, It wasn't a coincidence.

1280
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:18,920
Speaker 3: I found out he got a job offer and applied

1281
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:21,319
Speaker 3: to a college nearby his workplace.

1282
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:23,800
Speaker 2: This girl's going the extra extra mile.

1283
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 3: Being each other's only friends in a new state, we

1284
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 3: became incredibly close. We started dating when I was a

1285
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:33,239
Speaker 3: sophomore in college. He proposed to me after I graduated,

1286
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:35,759
Speaker 3: and we just got married almost a year ago. He

1287
00:54:35,880 --> 00:54:39,400
Speaker 3: knows absolutely nothing about how I truly know him and

1288
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:42,359
Speaker 3: believes it is fate that brought us together through his

1289
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:45,000
Speaker 3: younger brother. Lately, I've been debating on whether or not

1290
00:54:45,040 --> 00:54:47,040
Speaker 3: I should tell him, or at least tell his younger

1291
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 3: brother the truth, since the only reason I befriended him

1292
00:54:49,640 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 3: was to get closer to Ethan. I feel guilty every

1293
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:54,280
Speaker 3: time he tells others our love story, because the truth

1294
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:56,799
Speaker 3: is I've known him for ten years, while he's only

1295
00:54:56,840 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 3: known me for about seven. This also started at fourteen.

1296
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 3: Think about a fourteen year old brain. The level of

1297
00:55:02,640 --> 00:55:05,719
Speaker 3: an infatuation that this fourteen year old had with this guy.

1298
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:06,359
Speaker 4: Oh boy.

1299
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:10,359
Speaker 3: I told him this fourth of July, after the fireworks

1300
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 3: mostly ended and we were heading back, I asked him

1301
00:55:13,120 --> 00:55:15,080
Speaker 3: in the car, wouldn't it have been weird if we

1302
00:55:15,120 --> 00:55:17,920
Speaker 3: had met each other before the first time we actually met,

1303
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,279
Speaker 3: but we just didn't think of each other as significant

1304
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:24,480
Speaker 3: at the time. He smiled and he said, that's impossible.

1305
00:55:24,600 --> 00:55:26,840
Speaker 3: There's no universe where we would have met, and I

1306
00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:30,240
Speaker 3: would not think of you as significant. That statement struck

1307
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:32,239
Speaker 3: me in my heart because I knew I would soon

1308
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:34,320
Speaker 3: prove that sentence very wrong.

1309
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,680
Speaker 2: But I continued on with my plan. Anyway. Oh my god, girl,

1310
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 2: your commitment.

1311
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 3: What if I told you we have met each other

1312
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 3: before before that time I was introduced as Ethan's little

1313
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 3: brother's friend. He looked at me like I was crazy.

1314
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:47,800
Speaker 3: So that's when I pulled over on the side of

1315
00:55:47,840 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 3: the road and pulled out my phone to show him

1316
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:53,080
Speaker 3: the post I put up here before that explained everything.

1317
00:55:53,239 --> 00:55:56,839
Speaker 2: She showed him this post. Oh my god, you are

1318
00:55:56,880 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 2: built entirely different.

1319
00:55:58,840 --> 00:55:59,960
Speaker 4: This would be such a good movie.

1320
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 2: This is a good script.

1321
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 3: He took about eight minutes to read the whole thing,

1322
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:05,759
Speaker 3: and when he finished, he put the phone down and

1323
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:11,279
Speaker 3: stared straight ahead like he was dumbfounded, scared, confused, all

1324
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 3: at the same time. I started throwing out every excuse

1325
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 3: an apology I could muster at the moment for about

1326
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 3: fifteen minutes straight when he decided to tell me to stop,

1327
00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:19,439
Speaker 3: and I did.

1328
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:20,840
Speaker 2: Then he just sat there.

1329
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:24,400
Speaker 3: And sobbed uncontrollably for about ten minutes before he finally

1330
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:26,839
Speaker 3: asked me how much of our relationship and how much

1331
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:30,360
Speaker 3: of my identity was fabricated according to his liking. I

1332
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 3: told him the honest truth that none of my personality

1333
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 3: or identity was fabricated for him.

1334
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,879
Speaker 2: Girl, do you believe that? That's because if you believe that.

1335
00:56:37,880 --> 00:56:39,360
Speaker 4: So I was playing this whole game, some of the

1336
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:41,759
Speaker 4: parts of it would be like my TRUSSEEU, I probably like,

1337
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 4: I'm really not that into.

1338
00:56:42,840 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 3: Star Trek except for the fact of how we met.

1339
00:56:45,600 --> 00:56:47,799
Speaker 3: The only thing I ever changed about myself to make

1340
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:50,760
Speaker 3: him like me more was lying about liking Chinese food

1341
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:52,040
Speaker 3: because I hate Chinese food.

1342
00:56:52,080 --> 00:56:53,560
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, that's what okay?

1343
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:54,040
Speaker 2: Oh cool.

1344
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:57,440
Speaker 3: Well, that's one thing. It's one thing, But other than that,

1345
00:56:57,600 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 3: everything else was real. Although my friendship with his young

1346
00:57:00,000 --> 00:57:03,000
Speaker 3: your brother was built upon ill intentions, my friendship between

1347
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:04,680
Speaker 3: his brother and I is now one of the most

1348
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:06,040
Speaker 3: genuine friendships.

1349
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 2: That I have.

1350
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:08,120
Speaker 3: He just cried and told me that he doesn't want

1351
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 3: a divorce at all, but he does want us to

1352
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 3: have some time of part so that he can absorb

1353
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 3: the truth that I gave him. He also said that

1354
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 3: he expects me to tell his brother and mom this Friday,

1355
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:18,560
Speaker 3: because they deserve to know the truth just as much

1356
00:57:18,560 --> 00:57:20,360
Speaker 3: as he did. I told him okay, and we drove

1357
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:22,320
Speaker 3: the rest of the ride home in silence. When we

1358
00:57:22,360 --> 00:57:24,640
Speaker 3: got home, he hugged me and cried for about five

1359
00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:26,720
Speaker 3: minutes before he got out of the car, packed his

1360
00:57:26,800 --> 00:57:28,680
Speaker 3: stuff and said that he'll be staying at a nearby

1361
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:30,640
Speaker 3: hotel for now. He said that he knows that he

1362
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 3: still loves me, but does not yet know how to

1363
00:57:32,840 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 3: react to the fact that the beginning of our relationship

1364
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:38,520
Speaker 3: was very, very orchestrated. To sum it all up, I

1365
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:41,440
Speaker 3: guess telling him was a success. I honestly don't know.

1366
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:42,960
Speaker 3: He sent me a good night and I love you

1367
00:57:43,040 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 3: text last night while he was at the hotel, so

1368
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 3: I guess he's not so much mad as he may

1369
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 3: feel betrayed.

1370
00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:50,320
Speaker 2: And there's another update.

1371
00:57:50,400 --> 00:57:51,680
Speaker 4: I think they filled it portrade.

1372
00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:53,920
Speaker 3: Can you imagine if you felt like you had been

1373
00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 3: tricked for ten years by your wife that you just

1374
00:57:56,960 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 3: married a year ago, Like if you like your girlfriend,

1375
00:57:59,240 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 3: like if she if she's secretly told you, like, yeah,

1376
00:58:01,320 --> 00:58:04,000
Speaker 3: I've known you for seven years, and that random happenstance

1377
00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:05,920
Speaker 3: how we met wasn't random at all. I entered that

1378
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:06,920
Speaker 3: contest to win that.

1379
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 2: So that he would bring me there so I could

1380
00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 2: meet you.

1381
00:58:09,000 --> 00:58:10,880
Speaker 3: Hey, what did I say at the beginning? Guys, find

1382
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:12,960
Speaker 3: you a girl who actually likes you this much? Well,

1383
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:13,800
Speaker 3: it scares you?

1384
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 2: Oh right?

1385
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 4: My response is, oh, that's cute. But I've never been

1386
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:19,920
Speaker 4: that deep into it, So I don't really know.

1387
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:23,080
Speaker 3: How many people have really been in that deep where

1388
00:58:23,120 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 3: it's like somebody is scheming for ten years.

1389
00:58:26,800 --> 00:58:28,600
Speaker 4: I do kind of have like someone that kind of

1390
00:58:28,640 --> 00:58:30,600
Speaker 4: stalks me a little bit, but like I'm not interested

1391
00:58:30,640 --> 00:58:30,880
Speaker 4: in them.

1392
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:32,880
Speaker 2: Okay, see, but it's you already know about it.

1393
00:58:32,960 --> 00:58:33,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I already know.

1394
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:35,800
Speaker 3: I did I know about it until a year into

1395
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 3: their marriage. I woke up this morning to find out

1396
00:58:38,000 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 3: that the hubby not only lied about going to a

1397
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 3: hotel to stay at, but also lied about not wanting

1398
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,520
Speaker 3: a divorce through a text message. Well, if I can

1399
00:58:45,600 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 3: just interrupt the real quick, I don't think he was

1400
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 3: necessarily lying. I think he was just trying to compute

1401
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 3: one of the most unbelievable things he's probably heard in

1402
00:58:54,680 --> 00:58:55,640
Speaker 3: his entire life.

1403
00:58:55,840 --> 00:58:57,200
Speaker 4: And he's probably scared.

1404
00:58:57,400 --> 00:58:59,400
Speaker 3: I mean, he didn't know what to say it that moment.

1405
00:58:59,640 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 3: He probably meant it. In that moment, He's like, I

1406
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 3: don't want a divorce. I just need time to think.

1407
00:59:03,320 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 3: Then he thought about it and he was like, yo,

1408
00:59:05,200 --> 00:59:08,360
Speaker 3: I need a divorce now. He went to his family's home,

1409
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 3: not a hotel, and then told the entire story himself,

1410
00:59:11,880 --> 00:59:14,920
Speaker 3: probably exaggerated it too to make me seem crazy.

1411
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:16,840
Speaker 4: That could be boss, you know what.

1412
00:59:17,000 --> 00:59:20,160
Speaker 2: I don't want to I don't want to say. That's impossible.

1413
00:59:20,400 --> 00:59:22,760
Speaker 3: His whole family wants nothing to do with me and

1414
00:59:22,800 --> 00:59:25,000
Speaker 3: claims I'm a psycho. He said that he lied about

1415
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:26,840
Speaker 3: going to a hotel because he knew if he told

1416
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 3: the truth, I would try to stop him. Honestly, I

1417
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:32,000
Speaker 3: feel so betrayed. Shut the hell up, girl, you lied

1418
00:59:32,040 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 3: to him. The entire time you with.

1419
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 4: This happens, they're like, you can't do this, you can't

1420
00:59:36,680 --> 00:59:37,920
Speaker 4: do that, you can't do this, can't do that. And

1421
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 4: the second they do one of the things, while they're

1422
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 4: doing all these other things, it's like, watch you do that,

1423
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:43,320
Speaker 4: you trade me, And it's like huge double standard.

1424
00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:44,880
Speaker 3: It's like you got to be able to understand that

1425
00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 3: this guy just had the biggest like truth bomb of

1426
00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 3: all time dropped on him, this woman he's in love with,

1427
00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 3: and thought it was all just magical fame. Now has

1428
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 3: all been thrown completely upside down. And by the way,

1429
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:59,480
Speaker 3: you can join us live on YouTube every weekday at

1430
00:59:59,600 --> 01:00:02,560
Speaker 3: three p MPSC just tap our profile.

1431
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:04,760
Speaker 2: I tried to be a good wife by showing him

1432
01:00:04,760 --> 01:00:05,240
Speaker 2: the true me.

1433
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 3: This person is completely unhinged and this is what he does.

1434
01:00:09,400 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 3: I did all this work just for it to end

1435
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:14,240
Speaker 3: up like this. Honestly, I kind of deserve it. I

1436
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:16,200
Speaker 3: didn't even tell him in the first place because I

1437
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:18,640
Speaker 3: felt bad. I told him because I had a suspicion

1438
01:00:18,640 --> 01:00:20,360
Speaker 3: that he was catching on to the fact that I

1439
01:00:20,440 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 3: knew him for two and a half years before he

1440
01:00:22,520 --> 01:00:25,000
Speaker 3: knew me, largely because I found out he was keeping

1441
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:27,680
Speaker 3: my old phone in his work desk, my old phone

1442
01:00:27,680 --> 01:00:30,360
Speaker 3: that has screenshots of a lot of his old Instagram posts,

1443
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:33,200
Speaker 3: plans in my notes app about him, et cetera. So

1444
01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 3: I guess he never truly loved me if he can't

1445
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 3: even get past an honest confession like this one. I

1446
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,360
Speaker 3: might update this in a few years when I find

1447
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:41,320
Speaker 3: a new husband.

1448
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 4: New project.

1449
01:00:42,360 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 3: Shout out to the unfortunate soul that becomes this person's

1450
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:47,600
Speaker 3: next husband.