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Speaker 1: Well, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parent ten

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Speaker 1: Every Letter button. And since Charley's not here, Steve gonna

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Speaker 1: read the letter and he don't want no introduction, go

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Speaker 1: ahead him all right, here we go. Subject the side

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Speaker 1: pieces would trust issues? This Stephen Sheryl. I'm a thirty

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Speaker 1: two year old female currently dating the thirty five year

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Speaker 1: old male. We've known each other for years. When he

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Speaker 1: was married, I was his side piece. When he got divorced,

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Speaker 1: I'm married and he was my side piece. I got

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Speaker 1: divorced and we decided it was time to stop playing

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Speaker 1: games and become a couple. We got together and made

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Speaker 1: it official four months ago. He is everything I ever

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Speaker 1: wanted in a man, but he has some trust issues.

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Speaker 1: He can't stop going back to how we met and

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Speaker 1: how easily we began messing with each other. He seems

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Speaker 1: to forget that he was married and sleeping with me,

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Speaker 1: which means he's no good just like me. But there's

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Speaker 1: the nasty double standard for women who cheat because of

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Speaker 1: his trust issues. He hasn't had sex with me for

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Speaker 1: the past week, and it's saying he has to work

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Speaker 1: out some things in his head. It's not me, it's him.

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Speaker 1: I don't think he's cheating because we spend every night

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Speaker 1: together and we work out together. We both have a

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Speaker 1: high sex drive. So he's making himself miserable by not

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Speaker 1: having said with me. I wondered if he's playing games

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Speaker 1: to see if I would cheat on him. Those days

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Speaker 1: are long gone, and because of this new coronavirus, I

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Speaker 1: would not be out meeting random men like I met him.

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Speaker 1: I want our relationship to work, and I've told him

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Speaker 1: that we both are cheaters and we'll have to trust

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Speaker 1: each other. How can I get through to him? Please?

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Speaker 1: Advises going on? Right? All right, lucky looky looking. When

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Speaker 1: you were with your man or you were married, you

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Speaker 1: were his side piece when he was married and he

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Speaker 1: got a divorce, and you were married and you were

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Speaker 1: his side piece, and he was your side piece and

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Speaker 1: you got a divorce. And now you all have been

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Speaker 1: kicking it as a couple for about four months. But

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Speaker 1: you say he has some trust issues and you all

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Speaker 1: haven't been sleeping together and he said he had to

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Speaker 1: work some things out in his head. And that's usually

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Speaker 1: a line that a cheater says when they're ready to

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Speaker 1: break up with you. It's not you, it's me, you know,

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Speaker 1: and all that kind of stuff. Anyway, you have to

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Speaker 1: admit that you know now that you all are together,

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Speaker 1: and he's thinking that you might cheat on him, Well,

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Speaker 1: you can't say that that's not possible based on your past.

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Speaker 1: You know that he's having these feelings. And you also

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Speaker 1: went on to say, and I agree with you, it's

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Speaker 1: a double standard with women when they cheat, then when

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Speaker 1: men cheat. And if men cheat, then he's a player.

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Speaker 1: If women cheat, then she is a you know what.

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Speaker 1: So I guess for you in this relationship, patience is

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Speaker 1: the key, my friend, because either he's going to get

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Speaker 1: over it or you all will go your separate ways.

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Speaker 1: And you have to actions earn trust, not words, because

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Speaker 1: he doesn't trust you, so actions earn trust. But I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna keep it one hundred with you. I don't

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Speaker 1: think he can get over it. I don't think he

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Speaker 1: can get over who you are, how you all got together,

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Speaker 1: your past and the cheating and all that, because he's

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Speaker 1: stripping already and you guys been together four months, so

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Speaker 1: I really don't think it's gonna work. I don't think

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Speaker 1: he can get over it. See all right, the name

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Speaker 1: of this letter is the side pieces with trust issues.

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Speaker 1: I don't normally like to start at the bottom of

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Speaker 1: of the letter because this letter right here, we can

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Speaker 1: sum this up. Here's the bottom of the letter. This

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Speaker 1: is why side pieces have trust issues. Let's go to

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Speaker 1: the bottom of letters. Okay, I have told him that

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Speaker 1: we both are cheat us and we'll have to trust

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Speaker 1: one another. But I let us. Lady lady, what did

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Speaker 1: you hear yourself? I told him we are both cheatahs,

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Speaker 1: and we have got to trust each other. Why how Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it came from your mouth. We are both cheaters, not

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Speaker 1: reformed cheaters, not we were once cheaters. He was married,

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Speaker 1: you was his side piece. He got a divorce. You

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Speaker 1: got married, he was your side piece. You got a divorce.

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Speaker 1: Y'all can't stay with no damn? Sound like? And now

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Speaker 1: y'all a mess around it got together again? What once again,

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Speaker 1: y'all can't stay with no damn? Why I haven't told

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Speaker 1: him we are cheatahs. We have got to trust each other.

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Speaker 1: What I'm a cheating you're a cheetah. Baby. We got

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Speaker 1: to trust each other. Did you did you hear this letter? This?

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Speaker 1: This is so damn ridiculous. So, lady, when I come back,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna this is doomed. It's doomed. Yeah, and I'll

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Speaker 1: just tell you why when we come back. I don't

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Speaker 1: know why we're reading this letter. Side pieces with trust trusted.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna drop the knowledge, You're gonna letter We're gonna have.

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Speaker 1: Part two of Thieves was put at twenty three after

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Speaker 1: the hour because the lady is dude, these side pieces

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Speaker 1: got trust issues out here, law in COVID. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Uh, let's recap today Strawberry letters subject the

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Speaker 1: side pieces with trust issues. This letter right here screams

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Speaker 1: at me stupidity. Side pieces with trust issues. And I

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Speaker 1: started at the bottom of the land. I'm gonna reiterate.

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Speaker 1: This is what the lady said. I told him we

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Speaker 1: both are cheatahs and we're gonna have to trust each other.

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Speaker 1: Now what you're tripping forward, we both cheatas. Let's trust

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Speaker 1: each other now. Thirty two year old dating a thirty

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Speaker 1: five year old man. He was married while he was married,

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Speaker 1: she was his side piece. He got a divorce, She

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Speaker 1: got married while she was married, he was her side piece.

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Speaker 1: Now they didn't got together after realizing they can't stay

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Speaker 1: with no damn body cause of each other. That they said,

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Speaker 1: why don't we get together and have a couple relationship

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Speaker 1: with each other? Four months ago? Now that he's let

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Speaker 1: me show you this other part. He's everything I've wanted

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Speaker 1: in the man. He's everything I've wanted in the man.

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Speaker 1: I have looked hind and though for a man who

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Speaker 1: would getting married and then find another woman to sleep with,

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Speaker 1: somebody such as myself, and then he get a divorce,

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Speaker 1: allowed me to marry somebody else, and then I got

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Speaker 1: him as my side piece. It's everything ever wanted in

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Speaker 1: a man. This is what she's saying out of her mouth.

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Speaker 1: He seems to forget that he was married and sleeping

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Speaker 1: with me, which means he's no good just like me.

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Speaker 1: Tell that's a magic trick. This It means he's no

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Speaker 1: good just like me. Why the hell we can't gonna

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Speaker 1: have this relationship and trust each other? We both cheatings, right, man,

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Speaker 1: he ain't no good just like me. But then that's

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Speaker 1: a double standard. Now I ain't no double standards. Everybody

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Speaker 1: in the letter funking. There's no one in this letter right.

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Speaker 1: You ain't right here. These ain't double standards. These is

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Speaker 1: no standards. He can't be true to nobody. You can't

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Speaker 1: be true to nobody. Now you want him to be

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Speaker 1: true to you when you just said you ain't no good,

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Speaker 1: he ain't no good. And at the end of the letter,

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Speaker 1: we both cheatahs. We got to trust each other. Write

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Speaker 1: it down like two cheatahs can't trust each other? My god,

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Speaker 1: I know, yeah, I know what she's trying. Shut up.

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Speaker 1: We both rules. Who wouldn't a hell? Who can't see

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Speaker 1: how this can work? Let me go with this again. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you ain't no good and I ain't no good. We

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Speaker 1: both cheat us. Yeah true. So if we're in a

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Speaker 1: relationship and you ain't no good and I ain't no

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Speaker 1: good and we both cheat us, what is you tripping for?

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Speaker 1: You just got to trust. We have to trust each other.

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Speaker 1: We listen to me. We belong together to no good.

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Speaker 1: Ask people who couldn't be true to nobody? Day was

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Speaker 1: married to have now found a way to get together

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Speaker 1: after each one of them to divorce, after being each

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Speaker 1: other side piece. Now we're together and we can't make it.

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Speaker 1: I'm a pall can What is Tommy talking about? Tommy? Timmy?

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Speaker 1: This Timmy, don't. Timmy don't know how this work. See,

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Speaker 1: there are some number twos with number one potential. You

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Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. There's a possibility. He don't, sir,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't. These number twos. It is cheatahs and no

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Speaker 1: good people according to both of them. Right, and I

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Speaker 1: get it on what it is like the number twos.

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Speaker 1: And they have not transformed to knowing that their number one.

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Speaker 1: It's just a transformation. Tommy, Tommy, they never wanted to

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Speaker 1: Um tell tell to tell nephew Tommy. How much pressure

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Speaker 1: in that relationship with the phone rang? Boy? How many

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Speaker 1: people jump across theme? They've been living together? Right, they

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Speaker 1: get it. They get a landline, put it in the house.

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Speaker 1: Don't do that. They're sitting up in there, they're eating dinner. Landline,

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Speaker 1: see that phone rang, and both of them jerk and

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Speaker 1: look at each other. You're gonna get that. You're gonna

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Speaker 1: get that that for you, that for me? You think

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Speaker 1: who you think that? Who you think it is? You're

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Speaker 1: gonna get it. You you get the phone I got.

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Speaker 1: I got new TV put in. I saw a number

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Speaker 1: Almost students play did this man? Boy? It'll make a

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Speaker 1: snatch a flash screen off the wall? I tell you,

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Speaker 1: oh man, piece of trust issues. Post your comments on

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry. Let us at your baby Instagram and Facebook.

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