WEBVTT - Ep. 13 Written in the Stars

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<v Speaker 1>Give me the music. Wine Down with Janet Kramer and

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<v Speaker 1>I Heart Radio podcast, Mike, do you want to do that?

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<v Speaker 1>It's like it's claim to fame. Oh I got Easton

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<v Speaker 1>Are Sweet? Producer left it in and he's like, Babe, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>did you heard that? East left my braining? The biggest

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<v Speaker 1>thing I was worried about wasn't about anything I said.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the last ten seconds of the whole second

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<v Speaker 1>d just give me one more. I love it. Jenn.

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<v Speaker 1>You're like a worker. Be over there, what are you doing? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>It was really funny this morning. I was packing my

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<v Speaker 1>car up to get into work, and my phone was

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<v Speaker 1>in my pocket, and all of a sudden I heard

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<v Speaker 1>my sister saying, are you trying to call me? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you trying to call me? But there I but face

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<v Speaker 1>timed her so she saw a nice picture of your butt.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so funny. So she was actually weaving on

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<v Speaker 1>this loomb. She was making this beautiful wall art. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ordering one and I'm going to learn to do it. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>Our grandmother was a master weaver. Like she used to

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<v Speaker 1>weave pretty wall art. So for those of you that

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<v Speaker 1>can't see, I see there's like a lot on Etsy,

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<v Speaker 1>like the real pretty like Macromay. We So this is

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<v Speaker 1>what she was doing and our other sister does it too.

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<v Speaker 1>When they got into like this argument because the one

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<v Speaker 1>sister thought the other one was copying her. And so

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<v Speaker 1>my one sister, Rachel I was talking to this morning.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, you should order one because it makes you, like,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes me feel closer to Grandma, like you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>something that she really loves, and you get to be

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<v Speaker 1>really creative. And it's like, I don't know, I'm kind

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<v Speaker 1>of scared because I don't want to be picking. No.

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<v Speaker 1>I well I do. I'm afraid that the other sister

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<v Speaker 1>will get mad. And I'm now weaving. But then I

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<v Speaker 1>got to work and I was like, I'm just going

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<v Speaker 1>to I'm allowed to order a room if you want

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<v Speaker 1>to weave. Yeah, do you? Yeah? So I did it.

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<v Speaker 1>I just ordered. It'll be here next Thursday, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be weaving all weekend. I have no

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<v Speaker 1>idea how to do it. Will you make me a

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<v Speaker 1>weave for the like Jolie's room, Yes, make something cute?

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<v Speaker 1>I will. That will be my first one. What if

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<v Speaker 1>we hate the weave them? Mike, Like, that's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be awkward. Then she comes over to see they's like, not,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not up to do. That's the worst of his

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<v Speaker 1>My aunt oh got pretty God, she's out listing right now,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I pray, I'm like sledding a little bit. I

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<v Speaker 1>have to. She doesn't even know the podcast. But let's

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<v Speaker 1>just say someone like drew something and it's like, send

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<v Speaker 1>me a picture of where you put it. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I threw it all in the trash kill. No, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't. You're always to keep that. The person comes over,

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<v Speaker 1>story it's put it away bad. I mean he threw

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<v Speaker 1>it out. I think I might a left it. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I might have left it at my mom's and

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<v Speaker 1>then like the dog might have eaten it or something

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<v Speaker 1>like something like homework. I don't god, I feel it's

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<v Speaker 1>just like she's very like, oh my god. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I'm already like the black sheet. But that side of

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<v Speaker 1>the family, so it's fine. I'm so just like go

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<v Speaker 1>down hill, but like I will, I will not come

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<v Speaker 1>here rescue. You are doing this on your own, you know. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying I don't even think my dad knows

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<v Speaker 1>I have a podcast. I don't know, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>I feel very like black Sheet, but that side of

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<v Speaker 1>the family. So it's just she's very artistic, Like I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like she's incredible art I will say this if she is.

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<v Speaker 1>She's an incredible artist. But like it's just a different style.

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<v Speaker 1>So for like example, like one of her she has

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<v Speaker 1>an alien sculpture but with like pointy boobs coming out.

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<v Speaker 1>It's weird, but it's different. It's different. Yeah, So it's

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<v Speaker 1>just you know, and she's always like, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna stop. I'm stopping. I'm just stopping. I'm talking now,

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<v Speaker 1>my clothes. But you know what, I'm like, I'm already

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<v Speaker 1>far gone on that side, Like they just think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like a lost cause. So can you give us an update.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how you're feeling. I'm feeling pretty good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still nauseous at night, but I'm feeling I'm I

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<v Speaker 1>haven't peeped in like a couple of weeks, which is

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<v Speaker 1>like a huge win. That's amazing. Yeah, but we had

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<v Speaker 1>our check up and things are everything's good, babies growing,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm really happy. Awesome. And did you keep your

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<v Speaker 1>maternity clothes from Julie? I kept some maternity close you did, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>But what I'm really excited about is about thrown Up

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<v Speaker 1>because it's it's basically consignment but like good good clothing,

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<v Speaker 1>like and you can go on there, so because I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to spend like all this money. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a train close, I'm only gonna wear for what a

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<v Speaker 1>few months, And so I'm like, That's why I love

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<v Speaker 1>thrown Up because they have amazing, amazing brands, um but

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<v Speaker 1>in a public BCBG, Steve Madden, Kate's, Bay Lemon like

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<v Speaker 1>all of my favorite stores. And they also have like

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<v Speaker 1>a Matorney to section too and kids clothes to which

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<v Speaker 1>I love off It's amazing. But again, like Michael's always like,

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<v Speaker 1>why are you buying that for Jolie when She's going

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<v Speaker 1>to outgrow that in like a second, And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's cute, but on here, like I can actually

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<v Speaker 1>get her, Like I'm thrown up, I can actually get

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<v Speaker 1>her cute clothes and not feel bad about it, knowing

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<v Speaker 1>that she's going to grow. I'll grow it. Once you

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<v Speaker 1>have a little boy, this, you're going to have this

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<v Speaker 1>in your favorites because they grow out of stuff so fast,

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<v Speaker 1>so fast that you don't even want to buy new

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<v Speaker 1>clothes because it's sometimes he just I'll buy new clothes

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<v Speaker 1>and he totally skips the sizes. Oh my god, that's jastic. Well.

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<v Speaker 1>an extra thirty percent off today. Okay, So from our

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<v Speaker 1>last show, we had John Edward on and he started

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<v Speaker 1>talking about astrology, I mean to the fact that he

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<v Speaker 1>left his baby in the womb so that it would

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<v Speaker 1>come out a different sign and so um from our listeners,

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<v Speaker 1>there were Me, Mike and General all texting and it

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<v Speaker 1>could be really cool to get like an astrolog drawing

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<v Speaker 1>because I kind of want to know more about my signs.

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<v Speaker 1>Mike has no idea. We started reading some about his

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<v Speaker 1>signs and it's like some some were spot on somewhere off,

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<v Speaker 1>but I wanted to get an expert to kind of

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<v Speaker 1>discuss some of that explain. Yeah. And then also we

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<v Speaker 1>have a few emails too, um that they want to

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<v Speaker 1>know about their signs as well. So we have Deborah Silverman,

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<v Speaker 1>astrologer on the phone with us right now. Hey Deborrah, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? I'm doing great? How are you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good. I've got my husband Michael in the room,

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<v Speaker 1>producer Jen, and then Easton is a on the board.

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<v Speaker 1>We got a whole bunch of people having a party.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, totally. And um, I will I will start

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<v Speaker 1>off first by saying, um, do people question like the

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<v Speaker 1>I guess authenticity of of astrology? And they did. They

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<v Speaker 1>think it's weird that it's like you, you go off

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<v Speaker 1>of signs for for people's characteristics and stuff. But it

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<v Speaker 1>is weird. It is. I mean, I'm speaking for my

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<v Speaker 1>husband basically right now when I say this. But you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to believe I tell everybody this. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to believe in it for it to be true.

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<v Speaker 1>All you have to do is have a reading and

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<v Speaker 1>then suddenly you'll suspend your left brain. There's lots of

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<v Speaker 1>things we can't see. We can't see gravity, we can't

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<v Speaker 1>see love, and we don't really understand them, but we

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<v Speaker 1>believe in them. And that's true. Starts interesting. You can

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<v Speaker 1>feel that though, you can feel love, and you can

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<v Speaker 1>certainly see the results of gravity when you when you

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<v Speaker 1>get past thirty five seed for all of us thrown up. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I mean so that that's pretty good. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>to my naysair husband, what do you think about that?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to even Oh my god, he's such

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<v Speaker 1>an intuitive. Don't listen to him. He's just embarrassed how

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<v Speaker 1>much he feels. Yeah, yeah, and making him put words

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<v Speaker 1>to things is his specialty when he's in the mood.

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<v Speaker 1>Fantastic won over already you're on speed dial from Mike. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>never talk my wife feeling, But Mike, you have you

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<v Speaker 1>have a a little bit. Is that Mike who's got

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<v Speaker 1>the No, this would be Jana, Janna. You've got a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit of an eccentric chart. You've got a very

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<v Speaker 1>exuberant personality that's a little over the top at times

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<v Speaker 1>because you get so excited and my writer, am I right?

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<v Speaker 1>You're right? Fantastic? Shut up, Mike, Yes, and and if

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<v Speaker 1>you've got so much fire, Janna, you get so enthusiastic

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<v Speaker 1>and he's water. So one of your challenges is that

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<v Speaker 1>he can go deep and quiet. You can match him there,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's not where you live. You live in enthusiasm

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<v Speaker 1>and he lives in quiet, and it can clash fire

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<v Speaker 1>and water. But if you learn to master it, it

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<v Speaker 1>becomes a sensitivity where you know when not to bump

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<v Speaker 1>bump into him. He needs quiet time, You need to talk,

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<v Speaker 1>and he'll talk when he's in the mood. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>thing about Mike. He'll start going. You just can't push him.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know how women are. Come, do you have

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<v Speaker 1>a camera in my house? There's a camera just behind you. Look,

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<v Speaker 1>don't not just kidding. This is very predictable, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>been going on for thousands of years. It's the oldest

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<v Speaker 1>science on Earth. And I've been doing it for probably

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<v Speaker 1>that long. Yeah, I've been doing this for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>So your chances are fascinating because it could easily be

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<v Speaker 1>that you guys didn't get along. One is a place,

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<v Speaker 1>he's one is a sad squares. She might can detach

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<v Speaker 1>at times emotionally and not feel very much, and then

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<v Speaker 1>Janet gets so emotional and it's hard because she it

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<v Speaker 1>matters so much to you, and then all of a

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<v Speaker 1>sudden it flops over and he's sensitive if he's If

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<v Speaker 1>you dance together, there's a wonderful exchange. But if you crash,

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<v Speaker 1>I could see where this could be a little challenging.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you dancing or clashing? Right now? We're dancing,

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<v Speaker 1>But when we clash, it's like divorce layers. Yeah, for

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<v Speaker 1>you because you're a little over the top ec but

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<v Speaker 1>for me, well, it's just it's like when we we love,

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<v Speaker 1>we love. When we fight, it's like it's falls to

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<v Speaker 1>the wall. It's very passionate. It's like our our couple

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<v Speaker 1>of therapist is like it's you know, no one wants

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<v Speaker 1>to be in the middle of you two when you

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<v Speaker 1>guys go at each other. Yeah, and and this is

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<v Speaker 1>going to not make you happy, Janna, But part of

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<v Speaker 1>that is you, because you're so passionate. He would be

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<v Speaker 1>much more detached if you want. It's great talking to Deborah,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope you have a great I wish you

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<v Speaker 1>could see no victory dance, but you're bringing him light.

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<v Speaker 1>So without you around, yeah, be far more detached and

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<v Speaker 1>much less feeling. So the good news is, while it

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<v Speaker 1>may seem like I was accusing you of being the

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<v Speaker 1>source of the fire, it's exactly what he needs to

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<v Speaker 1>stay alive and kicking because he can get spacey. Yes

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<v Speaker 1>that Mike might come back, come back. Yeah, yeah, okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean this is spot on. Yeah, it's really good.

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<v Speaker 1>Now what do you get? Like, what do you get

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<v Speaker 1>this from? Deborah? Like how do you like you? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>You know our signs, you know our birthdays? Like where

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<v Speaker 1>are you drawing this from? It's called astrology and to

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<v Speaker 1>feel the science on Earth. And I had to use

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<v Speaker 1>your first date, time and place, and I executed a chart.

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<v Speaker 1>I put all the masks together and figured out Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>so he can be so detached and she gets so excited.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh she loves getting into the futuristic stuff. That's a

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<v Speaker 1>cool thing about you, Janny. You're You're always three steps

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<v Speaker 1>ahead of everyone, and Mike can track you there like

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<v Speaker 1>he's interested in the same thing through. That's a good thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You have a really strong overlap on your fascination with

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<v Speaker 1>anything off the beaten path. Yeah. Interesting, and just don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to get stuck in the old ways. You are

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<v Speaker 1>very good at keeping your minds open. And that's half

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<v Speaker 1>of what relationships about. If we can communicate to each

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<v Speaker 1>other and do the therapy, then we stay together. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you think we'll make it? What did this feeling? I

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<v Speaker 1>have a really good feeling? Would you tell us if

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<v Speaker 1>you had a bad feeling? Though? Like you wouldn't say like?

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<v Speaker 1>But can you send the charts charts to them so

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<v Speaker 1>that maybe they can they can go in depth and read.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know that Carol Young always had a chart

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<v Speaker 1>in front of him and he was quoted to say

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<v Speaker 1>psychology will be a dinosaur science until it includes astrology.

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<v Speaker 1>He was a full hunt astrologer and he was standing

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<v Speaker 1>next to Froid freyd went left brain and classical prove

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<v Speaker 1>it to me. And Young knew there was a mystical

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<v Speaker 1>world and he did it through dreams and so there

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<v Speaker 1>was two different schools stuff, but he was and all

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<v Speaker 1>there's real classical unions will tell you that astrology is

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<v Speaker 1>at the center of psychology, absolutely, and your psychology and

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<v Speaker 1>a psychologist and I studied humanistic psychology and um, so

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<v Speaker 1>it's there's a lot of mysticism in humanistic psychology. Is

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<v Speaker 1>there is there like a timeline, like a numerical timeline

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<v Speaker 1>of of how far like you read the stars in

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<v Speaker 1>somebody's life based on the information that you get, or

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<v Speaker 1>like where does it start and end? And I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>found fascinated by this. That's so funny you ask because

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<v Speaker 1>you were in a major cycle. So what happened a

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<v Speaker 1>year and a half ago, Mike, you should have had

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<v Speaker 1>a big change in two thousand, two thousand seventeen. Um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>well it health essentially Yeah, um wow, that's yeah. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean that's when Jana and I went through everything with

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<v Speaker 1>discovery of infidelity and major relationship changes in our world

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<v Speaker 1>that we faced, and mental health issues that I was

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<v Speaker 1>dealing with, and I mean that was the biggest change

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. Was Yeah, So there you have it,

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<v Speaker 1>and thank you for your honesty. How beautiful And yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that was the turning point for you to go from

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<v Speaker 1>one phase of your life to the next. When you've

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<v Speaker 1>made it through that was the eye of the needle. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>the good news is time wise, you're in a much

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<v Speaker 1>easier cycle now. I feel that. Yeah, happy birthday now

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<v Speaker 1>will that continue? Healthy? Well? Is the whole your whole life?

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<v Speaker 1>Lesson might guess to do is being honest with what

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<v Speaker 1>you just displayed ruthlessly honest, and there's a part of

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<v Speaker 1>you that can be a secret keeper, and you can

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<v Speaker 1>be inside your own little world. And then when you

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<v Speaker 1>finally speak it out loud and come clean, everybody you

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<v Speaker 1>know fall in love with you. But it's you know

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<v Speaker 1>you've been in your life, You've had to deal with secrets.

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<v Speaker 1>He literally has his head to his palm right now,

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<v Speaker 1>might be crying. Sorry, I know what you told me

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<v Speaker 1>to do this. I don't usually, by the way, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know how this happened because I don't usually

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<v Speaker 1>do this, like just this kind of disclosing on a

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<v Speaker 1>radio show. I don't know who's listening, but I bet

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<v Speaker 1>there's a whole bunch of people. And just so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I teach astrology and the classes opening next month, so

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<v Speaker 1>anyone that wants to learn in six weeks. I had

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<v Speaker 1>the coolest process where you go and you learn about

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<v Speaker 1>your psyche and your timing and your personality traits, and

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<v Speaker 1>you fall in love with yourself right there, and it's cool.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to take the class. That sounds amazing, aren't Yeah, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>let's do it. I mean, like, literally, my husband's brains

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<v Speaker 1>and are on the floor right now. His head is blown.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to pick that up before we finish. But

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<v Speaker 1>he's he's he's going to be good. Yeah. Once because

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<v Speaker 1>now he's in his honesty. He did it. He went

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<v Speaker 1>through a different person. Hold him, did it, old guy?

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<v Speaker 1>He's another person? Yeah, hashtag growth visuals. I love that. Thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't just hear wondering what he's doing over there. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Now he's just like bab Yeah, I mean this is yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to say. I mean, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to say anything. We could do telepathy on the radio.

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<v Speaker 1>That was okay. The third person in the room that's

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<v Speaker 1>not talking, jan I know that's me. I'm right here,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm right here. I have a I have a quick

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<v Speaker 1>question for you. So I'm a Gemini cancer cusp. I

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<v Speaker 1>was born use of leap beer. You have to find

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<v Speaker 1>out which because of leap beer. That's why we don't

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<v Speaker 1>know whether it's the twenties one the twenty second. From

0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:13.679
<v Speaker 1>time to time they give the wrong date. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to look in the year you were born was the

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<v Speaker 1>son and Gemini was in cancer and you can look

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<v Speaker 1>that up. Very people are it was in Gemini? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you also you're a Gemini. Hello, So when you're not

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<v Speaker 1>when you're not born in the cup, if you're one

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<v Speaker 1>degree in, it's like being partially pregnant. You can't you're

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<v Speaker 1>you're pregnant, You're not like you're you're in. It's only

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<v Speaker 1>zero degree and that only happens for a few hours

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<v Speaker 1>and you have to look it up in the Technical

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<v Speaker 1>Astronomer's book. Hey, debor really quick, UM, I just want

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want to read it? Channel? I'm sure, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a Libra and my boyfriend is a Scorpio. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>from the UK and absolutely love wine Down. I wondered

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<v Speaker 1>if you can do an episode on astrology and relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>and now we have you different. Yeah. I've been with

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<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend for just over a year now and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>completely in love with him. However, I'm a Libra and

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<v Speaker 1>he's a Scorpio, and in all the trusted resources I

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<v Speaker 1>can find, it says that these are very short lived

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<v Speaker 1>but intense relationships that don't have longevity. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be thinking our relationship is going to end just

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<v Speaker 1>because I read it in astrology, but it is in

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<v Speaker 1>the back of my mind and I'm worried it's starting

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<v Speaker 1>to affect the way I feel about him. Do have

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<v Speaker 1>any any advice on what you think I should do?

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<v Speaker 1>You want me to jump in, Oh if this is

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<v Speaker 1>all you girl, because I'd be like, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Drum roll. So the short answers, don't

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<v Speaker 1>believe everything you read that healthy astrology is here to

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<v Speaker 1>teach you to think independently and pay attention to your

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<v Speaker 1>own truth. And there's more than just the sun sign.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's say he's a got libra scorpy. Of those

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<v Speaker 1>two together, by the way, are very compatible. But you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know where his mind is, mercury, where the moon is,

0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:33.200
<v Speaker 1>his emotions, you don't know what his life lesson is.

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<v Speaker 1>There's so many other planets, and for some reason astrology

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<v Speaker 1>has been cheapened by just knowing the one thing, the

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<v Speaker 1>sun sign. But because we can't detect where the moon

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<v Speaker 1>is without without actually making a chart and having to

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<v Speaker 1>do them numbers and maps. So short answer is there's

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<v Speaker 1>many other factors. Don't read what every don't believe everything

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<v Speaker 1>you read and do your homework. You can find out

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<v Speaker 1>if you're compatible or not. It doesn't take long to

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<v Speaker 1>study and or go consult the good astrologer. I have them,

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<v Speaker 1>I produce. I have a twelve certified astrologers in my

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<v Speaker 1>school that give readings who are excellent, who have been

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<v Speaker 1>trained by me, and they can answer that question. But

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<v Speaker 1>you can't do the cheap version. You can't do the

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<v Speaker 1>little short answer. I'm will be pretty DISCORPORI We'll wait

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<v Speaker 1>a minute. What time were you born in what city?

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<v Speaker 1>And what year? Right? Plays a part in them? Right? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a deep art form that can't be cheapened with

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<v Speaker 1>just one fun time. The sky's the limits. They think,

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<v Speaker 1>think stars and then think just one and go Wait

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<v Speaker 1>a minute, there's more factors to consider. Do you do

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<v Speaker 1>like does it? Does astrology of a show like? Um?

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<v Speaker 1>Like for me, I kind of feel like I'm I

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<v Speaker 1>have a lot of things going on in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm not sure like where job wise? Like does that?

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<v Speaker 1>Does that? Does astrology plan a part of that? Or? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>That's what astrology is for. It gives you the indicator

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<v Speaker 1>of where your natural gifts are, tells you the timing

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<v Speaker 1>when it will be fertile myrtle to go and look

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<v Speaker 1>for a new job or when stay at the old job.

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<v Speaker 1>When it gives you timing and most of all, it

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<v Speaker 1>reminds you of what you came to do. Like. The

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<v Speaker 1>thing with astrology is it answers the question why am

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<v Speaker 1>I here? Like what part of what am I doing here?

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<v Speaker 1>And that's everyone's deepest secret question. Wanted to have a purpose, Debora,

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<v Speaker 1>Where can our listeners find you? Um? I have a

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<v Speaker 1>website three words Deborah Silverment astrology dot com. You can go.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a something called our community three words again

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<v Speaker 1>dot com and I teach it's a it's a platform

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<v Speaker 1>and you pay like two a month, and every single

0:22:32.760 --> 0:22:34.199
<v Speaker 1>day you hear where the moon is and where the

0:22:34.200 --> 0:22:36.320
<v Speaker 1>planets are, and you get to hear interviews with famous

0:22:36.359 --> 0:22:38.960
<v Speaker 1>people and you really get to learn astrology. So there's

0:22:38.960 --> 0:22:42.280
<v Speaker 1>the Star Community. There is my website, and then there's

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<v Speaker 1>my school Apprenticeship at Deborah Silverman Astrology, where you can

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<v Speaker 1>at least get some free videos to tell you what

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<v Speaker 1>the school is about. Then you can find whether or

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<v Speaker 1>not you're interested. But yes, and it's my deepest love

0:22:54.160 --> 0:22:55.879
<v Speaker 1>in this life to think that I can help people

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<v Speaker 1>fall in love with themselves stop judging over being on

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<v Speaker 1>her show. We appreciate it so much. And you are

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<v Speaker 1>a beautiful light and something. You want me to tell

0:23:04.480 --> 0:23:06.399
<v Speaker 1>you what your destiny is, you have to call me again.

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<v Speaker 1>Deals I She's awesome, Mike, you were like about to cry. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's true. I did feel some you know, salty discharge

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<v Speaker 1>coming out of my eyes. I don't know what you

0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:30.840
<v Speaker 1>call those things, but I'm not used to it, um whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I will say, after thinking about then my

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<v Speaker 1>skepticism comes into play, which part in a sense of Okay,

0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:44.160
<v Speaker 1>she knew she's coming on the show. Did she like Google?

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<v Speaker 1>She saw in two thousand sixteen that this stuff happened,

0:23:46.640 --> 0:23:48.879
<v Speaker 1>and she just decided to say, hey, and two sixteen,

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<v Speaker 1>your life changed. I don't think so. I don't either. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but she doesn't seem like the googling time, No, not

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<v Speaker 1>at all. She seems like she just sounds had two

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<v Speaker 1>names in an emails like right, let me do their

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<v Speaker 1>charge exactly. Yeah, and the information that we sent in

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<v Speaker 1>about where we're born in place and all that stuff.

0:24:07.000 --> 0:24:09.720
<v Speaker 1>And then she then she charted out where all the

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<v Speaker 1>planets were and then dissected them and evaluated them. That

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<v Speaker 1>sends it to you, guys, so you can read it

0:24:19.080 --> 0:24:23.960
<v Speaker 1>if you have you ever written a comprehensive astrological report

0:24:24.280 --> 0:24:26.960
<v Speaker 1>on your So I had one done and it came

0:24:27.000 --> 0:24:32.320
<v Speaker 1>in a book and it was so spot on. It

0:24:32.400 --> 0:24:37.399
<v Speaker 1>was the most amazing thing to read about yourself and go,

0:24:37.480 --> 0:24:40.840
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, that's me, Oh my god, oh my god.

0:24:41.119 --> 0:24:44.479
<v Speaker 1>Like you just you're in awe. I mean, she nailed

0:24:44.960 --> 0:24:47.080
<v Speaker 1>literally everything that she talked about with Jane and I.

0:24:47.480 --> 0:24:50.800
<v Speaker 1>And it wasn't it wasn't subjective, it wasn't based on

0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:52.800
<v Speaker 1>a point of view or anything. It was black and

0:24:52.840 --> 0:24:55.240
<v Speaker 1>white like that is kind of how we are. There

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<v Speaker 1>was no subjectiveness to it. It was fascinating in it well,

0:24:58.880 --> 0:25:01.080
<v Speaker 1>and she couldn't have googled that, oh, not at all,

0:25:01.160 --> 0:25:03.639
<v Speaker 1>So that the only thing that had me skeptical was

0:25:03.640 --> 0:25:06.679
<v Speaker 1>the whole thing about change. But I mean, even like

0:25:06.720 --> 0:25:09.439
<v Speaker 1>the secret Keeper and you know, it's to be honest.

0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:14.560
<v Speaker 1>Like that's the biggest thing issue my entire life is honesty,

0:25:14.880 --> 0:25:17.480
<v Speaker 1>which sucks, but which is why it's I mean, shoot,

0:25:17.560 --> 0:25:19.199
<v Speaker 1>last night I was you know, J and I are

0:25:19.240 --> 0:25:21.440
<v Speaker 1>checking in and I had to be honest about something.

0:25:21.520 --> 0:25:24.080
<v Speaker 1>It's like pulling tee sometimes. Yeah, I mean it literally

0:25:24.280 --> 0:25:26.120
<v Speaker 1>was like it took him like five minutes to tell

0:25:26.280 --> 0:25:28.439
<v Speaker 1>me his like his lie of the day. And I'm like, like,

0:25:28.640 --> 0:25:31.720
<v Speaker 1>it's incredible the fear that comes over you. Yeah, it

0:25:31.800 --> 0:25:33.399
<v Speaker 1>wasn't even that. That wasn't even a lie. It was

0:25:33.440 --> 0:25:37.000
<v Speaker 1>just omission thus far, something that happened in the morning

0:25:37.040 --> 0:25:39.399
<v Speaker 1>that I hadn't told her yet that I needed to,

0:25:40.119 --> 0:25:41.640
<v Speaker 1>and it was just by the end of the day

0:25:41.640 --> 0:25:44.800
<v Speaker 1>it was just eat me alive. And it was just

0:25:44.880 --> 0:25:50.240
<v Speaker 1>so hard because my fear around telling the truth and

0:25:50.280 --> 0:25:53.560
<v Speaker 1>the repercussions that might come from that so ingrained in

0:25:53.640 --> 0:25:57.600
<v Speaker 1>me for so long in my life that I'm still

0:25:57.640 --> 0:25:59.800
<v Speaker 1>trying to practice to get out of that. And so

0:26:00.080 --> 0:26:02.399
<v Speaker 1>she talks about the honesty and the secret keeping, and

0:26:02.400 --> 0:26:09.800
<v Speaker 1>I think, Hi, that's it, that's that's crazy. I loved it.

0:26:09.880 --> 0:26:16.280
<v Speaker 1>You guys work so hard on the relationship. No, just

0:26:16.560 --> 0:26:19.480
<v Speaker 1>you guys are so committed. You guys are going to

0:26:19.760 --> 0:26:21.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't care what the charts say. You guys are

0:26:21.840 --> 0:26:26.880
<v Speaker 1>going to make good. Anybody who's that committed to growing together. Yeah,

0:26:27.200 --> 0:26:29.360
<v Speaker 1>but taking the time to check in with each other

0:26:29.400 --> 0:26:32.080
<v Speaker 1>at night, you guys, you guys are in it for

0:26:32.080 --> 0:26:34.320
<v Speaker 1>the long haul. I will say like if like, I mean,

0:26:34.320 --> 0:26:36.840
<v Speaker 1>I agree, but I would say, like if something were

0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:40.280
<v Speaker 1>to happen, like, no one could say we didn't try

0:26:40.600 --> 0:26:42.800
<v Speaker 1>at this point, it's not like, oh that's just another

0:26:42.920 --> 0:26:46.919
<v Speaker 1>like celebrity relationship that you know what it's like. No,

0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:49.240
<v Speaker 1>we like people would be like they thought they tried,

0:26:49.680 --> 0:26:52.000
<v Speaker 1>and that is like something that I can you can

0:26:52.040 --> 0:26:54.960
<v Speaker 1>look us at. Yeah, and again what I said to

0:26:55.160 --> 0:26:57.160
<v Speaker 1>what I wanted to say to Jolie, like I tried,

0:26:57.240 --> 0:27:02.080
<v Speaker 1>and you tried, Like we've were trying. So um, we

0:27:02.080 --> 0:27:05.480
<v Speaker 1>actually have a couple of therapy after this, so it's

0:27:05.480 --> 0:27:09.000
<v Speaker 1>probably better we do the podcast than couples. Sometimes after

0:27:09.040 --> 0:27:10.720
<v Speaker 1>couples we don't talk. But no, we've ben we've done

0:27:10.720 --> 0:27:13.240
<v Speaker 1>really well after couples. It's because of the place that

0:27:13.240 --> 0:27:16.760
<v Speaker 1>we're getting with communication and growing. And but I would

0:27:16.800 --> 0:27:21.440
<v Speaker 1>imagine you need some time in space after sometimes sometimes

0:27:21.440 --> 0:27:25.120
<v Speaker 1>we need it just depends or do you drive separately? Well,

0:27:25.160 --> 0:27:27.680
<v Speaker 1>we live walking distance, so sometimes like he'll drive home

0:27:27.680 --> 0:27:31.840
<v Speaker 1>and I'll walk home or vice versa. Yeah, So, but lately,

0:27:31.880 --> 0:27:35.159
<v Speaker 1>like we've done well, like usually it's one of us

0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:37.600
<v Speaker 1>leaping before the other person, like starving out of the room.

0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:43.480
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, therapists been high fiveing us on the way out, guys,

0:27:43.520 --> 0:27:46.000
<v Speaker 1>and so we'll see. But you're so tell me about

0:27:46.040 --> 0:27:48.800
<v Speaker 1>your psychology, because that's something where if I was to

0:27:48.800 --> 0:27:51.400
<v Speaker 1>ever go back to school, that would be what I

0:27:51.440 --> 0:27:53.680
<v Speaker 1>want to to study. And I'm just so afraid of

0:27:53.800 --> 0:27:57.840
<v Speaker 1>like them the classes to get there, like math and stuff,

0:27:57.840 --> 0:28:01.480
<v Speaker 1>because I'm stupid, so well, I don't know, like the

0:28:01.480 --> 0:28:07.080
<v Speaker 1>time stated. So my undergrad is when I had most

0:28:07.119 --> 0:28:10.760
<v Speaker 1>of my math and statistics, and then in my graduate

0:28:10.840 --> 0:28:17.840
<v Speaker 1>program I chose to um work on a qualitative thesis

0:28:17.880 --> 0:28:24.560
<v Speaker 1>instead of a quantitative qualitative is experience based on experience.

0:28:24.560 --> 0:28:27.880
<v Speaker 1>So when you're doing your research, you interview maybe ten

0:28:27.960 --> 0:28:31.160
<v Speaker 1>to fifteen people who have all had a similar experience,

0:28:31.640 --> 0:28:35.480
<v Speaker 1>and then find the themes and those experience. Maybe it's

0:28:35.560 --> 0:28:40.960
<v Speaker 1>Greef for insecurity or spiritual awakening, whatever it might be.

0:28:41.240 --> 0:28:44.200
<v Speaker 1>Quantitative is when you do all the numbers and you're

0:28:44.280 --> 0:28:49.760
<v Speaker 1>just crunching statistics. And that's dreadful for me because I'm

0:28:49.800 --> 0:28:53.760
<v Speaker 1>not good with numbers. So I decided I went for

0:28:53.840 --> 0:28:59.640
<v Speaker 1>a master's in clinical Psychology humanistic which is UM. It's

0:29:00.040 --> 0:29:02.080
<v Speaker 1>has a lot of mysticism in it, and that's why

0:29:02.160 --> 0:29:06.760
<v Speaker 1>I was drawn to it. Of course, uh intuition, dream,

0:29:07.000 --> 0:29:12.720
<v Speaker 1>dream analysis. It's more about being and you know, finding

0:29:13.080 --> 0:29:16.600
<v Speaker 1>how to be in the world. Do you take clients

0:29:16.720 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 1>or is it I used to I years ago, over

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:26.840
<v Speaker 1>twenty years ago, Over twenty years ago, I UM. I

0:29:26.960 --> 0:29:31.000
<v Speaker 1>used to work with teenage girls who lived in residential

0:29:31.600 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 1>facilities and I loved working with them. And then I

0:29:35.440 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 1>also used to administer and evaluate all of the psychologically

0:29:39.720 --> 0:29:43.680
<v Speaker 1>like psychologicals for criminal and family court. So I would

0:29:43.680 --> 0:29:48.800
<v Speaker 1>test everyone involved in the case, evaluate write reports, and

0:29:48.840 --> 0:29:52.400
<v Speaker 1>then I would go testify. So and I was really

0:29:52.440 --> 0:29:54.120
<v Speaker 1>young to be doing that, but it was a really

0:29:54.200 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 1>great experience. That's really cool. And do you mess up?

0:29:59.600 --> 0:30:02.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't because I have so many friends who use

0:30:03.000 --> 0:30:08.240
<v Speaker 1>me as a therapist. So I still get that, like

0:30:08.440 --> 0:30:12.800
<v Speaker 1>us on the show, like your our therapist, at least

0:30:12.840 --> 0:30:16.400
<v Speaker 1>one phone call or I get a text or you know.

0:30:16.440 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 1>So I always say, like even in my Instagram handle,

0:30:18.840 --> 0:30:22.600
<v Speaker 1>I think it says in therapist to money because because

0:30:22.760 --> 0:30:29.960
<v Speaker 1>I am of the people. But I will probably you know,

0:30:30.200 --> 0:30:34.280
<v Speaker 1>maybe when I'm sixty. Yeah, maybe I'll open an office

0:30:35.200 --> 0:30:38.880
<v Speaker 1>start taking clients again. When when when it needs your

0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:41.720
<v Speaker 1>needs feeding in the soul, then yeah, do it. But

0:30:41.840 --> 0:30:46.840
<v Speaker 1>the one thing I loved working on my master's in

0:30:46.880 --> 0:30:51.080
<v Speaker 1>clinical second, I did go post um postgrad two like

0:30:51.160 --> 0:30:54.280
<v Speaker 1>five classes away from my society. I just I stopped

0:30:54.320 --> 0:30:58.440
<v Speaker 1>when I was um, when I had Rocco, I loved.

0:30:58.640 --> 0:31:02.680
<v Speaker 1>You have to do your work to become a therapist.

0:31:02.960 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 1>You have to deal with all of your issues, so

0:31:08.000 --> 0:31:11.640
<v Speaker 1>you have to face everything because you can't go into

0:31:11.680 --> 0:31:15.520
<v Speaker 1>a room and be unhealthy. Yeah, and trying to try

0:31:15.520 --> 0:31:18.160
<v Speaker 1>to give other people advice, right, Yeah, that makes so

0:31:18.240 --> 0:31:21.520
<v Speaker 1>much sense. That makes a lot of sense. Not that

0:31:21.560 --> 0:31:24.160
<v Speaker 1>I have I'm not saying I have no issues. I've

0:31:24.200 --> 0:31:26.560
<v Speaker 1>got issues. Of course, we all have issues. That's a

0:31:26.640 --> 0:31:28.560
<v Speaker 1>thing you can't you have to work out, like the

0:31:28.680 --> 0:31:32.080
<v Speaker 1>trauma maybe or childhood stuff like to understand and go

0:31:32.160 --> 0:31:35.080
<v Speaker 1>through and absolutely, yeah that makes sense. A quick just

0:31:35.160 --> 0:31:38.920
<v Speaker 1>a quick explanation on you said dream analysis. So is

0:31:38.960 --> 0:31:42.120
<v Speaker 1>it like I know, like Janice Google, she's a Google machine,

0:31:42.760 --> 0:31:44.760
<v Speaker 1>um where you know it's like, oh, I how to

0:31:44.800 --> 0:31:47.960
<v Speaker 1>dream about polar bears and that means some crazy thing

0:31:48.280 --> 0:31:51.440
<v Speaker 1>like is it that simple or it's not that simple.

0:31:51.680 --> 0:31:54.120
<v Speaker 1>What I always tell people is keep a journal next

0:31:54.160 --> 0:31:57.200
<v Speaker 1>to your bad if you wake up in the middle

0:31:57.240 --> 0:32:01.240
<v Speaker 1>of the night and you know you been dreaming, right

0:32:01.320 --> 0:32:04.320
<v Speaker 1>down everything you possibly can. It doesn't even have to

0:32:04.360 --> 0:32:07.880
<v Speaker 1>be legible. It can just be bullet points. It can

0:32:07.920 --> 0:32:11.600
<v Speaker 1>be white blanket it was cold outside, you know whatever.

0:32:11.800 --> 0:32:15.800
<v Speaker 1>I had blue on um or in the morning. Just

0:32:15.960 --> 0:32:20.840
<v Speaker 1>take a couple minutes before you jump out of bed.

0:32:21.040 --> 0:32:23.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm guilty of totally just jumping out of bed. And

0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:26.800
<v Speaker 1>when you have kids, you that's what you do. Take

0:32:26.840 --> 0:32:31.920
<v Speaker 1>a couple of minutes and try and remember your dreams.

0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:34.440
<v Speaker 1>I remembered my dream last night. But maybe you can,

0:32:34.480 --> 0:32:37.280
<v Speaker 1>like try and help me break down Yeah, I have

0:32:37.400 --> 0:32:40.640
<v Speaker 1>like very vivid dreams when I'm pregnant. It's just it's nuts.

0:32:40.720 --> 0:32:45.120
<v Speaker 1>I mean it seems so real. So this is so random.

0:32:45.240 --> 0:32:47.680
<v Speaker 1>But we were at Julianne Huff's house and or the

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:49.440
<v Speaker 1>husband Brooks. I mean we we've never hung out with

0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:52.520
<v Speaker 1>them ever. I've only known her from when she was

0:32:52.600 --> 0:32:54.200
<v Speaker 1>the judge Dancing at the Stars and I was on

0:32:54.240 --> 0:32:57.760
<v Speaker 1>the show. You and I were there, babe, and we

0:32:57.880 --> 0:32:59.720
<v Speaker 1>had a couple of therapy that we needed to go to,

0:33:00.080 --> 0:33:01.920
<v Speaker 1>but we were having so much fun at their house

0:33:02.000 --> 0:33:04.080
<v Speaker 1>that we decided to stay. And You're like, oh, we'll

0:33:04.120 --> 0:33:05.760
<v Speaker 1>just I'll text in and Tom. We're just going to

0:33:05.840 --> 0:33:09.360
<v Speaker 1>do like an hour. But it was like snowing, so

0:33:09.400 --> 0:33:13.239
<v Speaker 1>we went. So we were we were we were like

0:33:13.520 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 1>sliding down this hill, but then all of a sudden

0:33:15.320 --> 0:33:18.400
<v Speaker 1>it turned into like a water park and Jolie was

0:33:18.440 --> 0:33:21.600
<v Speaker 1>there with us, like she she came. So that was

0:33:21.680 --> 0:33:23.360
<v Speaker 1>my dream, like we were hanging out it Like what

0:33:24.160 --> 0:33:28.600
<v Speaker 1>do you idolize the relationship between those two? I think

0:33:28.600 --> 0:33:31.080
<v Speaker 1>there I told this is where I ran into her

0:33:31.640 --> 0:33:34.040
<v Speaker 1>at UM I get my hair at nine one and

0:33:34.200 --> 0:33:36.120
<v Speaker 1>um we were sitting next to each other at the

0:33:36.200 --> 0:33:38.560
<v Speaker 1>sink bowls, and I was like, you guys are just

0:33:38.720 --> 0:33:41.920
<v Speaker 1>so cute together, Like he loves you, you love him

0:33:42.080 --> 0:33:44.000
<v Speaker 1>like you guys like from what I say on Instagram,

0:33:44.000 --> 0:33:47.600
<v Speaker 1>like they have like an amazing relationship. So maybe like

0:33:47.800 --> 0:33:49.600
<v Speaker 1>I wanted to stay to like hang out with them,

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:53.160
<v Speaker 1>to like have that rub rub off on us, because

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:57.320
<v Speaker 1>couples therapy was involved in that as well. Sometimes they're

0:33:57.440 --> 0:34:01.320
<v Speaker 1>really easy to dive sack and other times you have

0:34:01.520 --> 0:34:05.960
<v Speaker 1>to you know, go through and really pick up the themes. Yeah, like, oh,

0:34:06.080 --> 0:34:09.120
<v Speaker 1>I must have been feeling insecure. Yeah, you know, oh

0:34:09.200 --> 0:34:13.440
<v Speaker 1>it's snowing, which could mean you know, blurry vision or

0:34:13.719 --> 0:34:17.200
<v Speaker 1>treacherous roads or but then you're on the water slide

0:34:17.200 --> 0:34:22.160
<v Speaker 1>and you're happy slide water park, so weird. Michael. Do

0:34:22.200 --> 0:34:25.239
<v Speaker 1>you remember any of your dreams sately? I mean the

0:34:25.320 --> 0:34:27.440
<v Speaker 1>last one I had. If I would have remembered every detail,

0:34:27.520 --> 0:34:29.080
<v Speaker 1>it could have been like a smash of the box

0:34:29.120 --> 0:34:35.200
<v Speaker 1>office aliens and explosions. And I think the most stereotypical

0:34:35.280 --> 0:34:37.400
<v Speaker 1>guy dream, Like I think I had like you know,

0:34:37.520 --> 0:34:41.440
<v Speaker 1>two guns and hands and like jumping over saving people.

0:34:41.560 --> 0:34:43.440
<v Speaker 1>So I think that was the last dream I remember.

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:45.359
<v Speaker 1>And what does that mean is that just like a dude,

0:34:45.400 --> 0:34:52.640
<v Speaker 1>and you know, and sometimes they're just entertaining, right you

0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:55.560
<v Speaker 1>just you just have these dreams. You can't really explain them,

0:34:55.719 --> 0:34:58.600
<v Speaker 1>can you. Is it true that you really can't die

0:34:58.600 --> 0:35:01.279
<v Speaker 1>in your dream? It's every time I've almost died, I've

0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:06.799
<v Speaker 1>oken up. Oh, but I don't know. Interesting because I've

0:35:06.800 --> 0:35:12.360
<v Speaker 1>heard like if you do die like you, then you're dead. You.

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:15.279
<v Speaker 1>That reminds me of going into the bathroom like in

0:35:15.400 --> 0:35:17.319
<v Speaker 1>third grade and turning off all the lights and going

0:35:17.360 --> 0:35:23.239
<v Speaker 1>bloody Mary, bloody hair because blood. Yeah, I don't think so.

0:35:23.680 --> 0:35:25.000
<v Speaker 1>By the way, you guys are all looking at me

0:35:25.040 --> 0:35:27.560
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0:35:27.560 --> 0:35:31.920
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0:35:31.960 --> 0:35:34.080
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0:35:34.200 --> 0:35:37.720
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0:35:37.840 --> 0:35:40.920
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0:35:41.040 --> 0:35:44.239
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0:35:49.000 --> 0:35:52.840
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0:36:09.160 --> 0:36:10.960
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0:36:10.960 --> 0:36:13.839
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0:36:13.880 --> 0:36:15.319
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0:36:31.880 --> 0:36:35.400
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0:36:35.440 --> 0:36:39.440
<v Speaker 1>say to talk. I love working out with you, Like

0:36:39.520 --> 0:36:41.200
<v Speaker 1>it's like one of my favorite things in the world

0:36:41.200 --> 0:36:42.920
<v Speaker 1>to do. You know, every time, I'm always like, will

0:36:42.960 --> 0:36:45.160
<v Speaker 1>you work out with me? Because I hate working out alone,

0:36:46.200 --> 0:36:48.360
<v Speaker 1>So you're kind of like and I don't know, I

0:36:48.400 --> 0:36:50.320
<v Speaker 1>just like I feel like when we do work out together,

0:36:50.360 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I have to like I work I

0:36:53.120 --> 0:36:57.759
<v Speaker 1>work harder because I want to show offtitive. It's like

0:36:58.360 --> 0:37:00.680
<v Speaker 1>between we want to show off for each other and

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:05.040
<v Speaker 1>also beat each other and like look good though too. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But UM, we're really excited because we've been UM. We've

0:37:07.680 --> 0:37:10.480
<v Speaker 1>been working with Beach Body, which is awesome because it's

0:37:11.440 --> 0:37:13.959
<v Speaker 1>it's an app. UM. It's a streaming service that gives

0:37:13.960 --> 0:37:16.680
<v Speaker 1>you instant access to a wide variety of super effective

0:37:16.680 --> 0:37:18.919
<v Speaker 1>workouts you can do from the comfort of your own house.

0:37:18.920 --> 0:37:20.839
<v Speaker 1>And what's great about our setup is that we have

0:37:21.080 --> 0:37:25.359
<v Speaker 1>a gym in UM in the garage, so we work

0:37:25.360 --> 0:37:28.680
<v Speaker 1>out together. We use the streaming service. It's an easy

0:37:28.719 --> 0:37:30.959
<v Speaker 1>app that you can download. UM. You get the best

0:37:30.960 --> 0:37:34.719
<v Speaker 1>trainers from Shaun Ti to Tony Horton which baby you

0:37:34.760 --> 0:37:38.120
<v Speaker 1>do the Penny X which you love UM And I

0:37:38.160 --> 0:37:39.480
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I just think it's a lot of fun

0:37:39.520 --> 0:37:42.440
<v Speaker 1>because the workouts are are easy. It can be thirty

0:37:42.440 --> 0:37:47.080
<v Speaker 1>minute workouts. Yeah. And the thing is what what sold

0:37:47.080 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 1>me more to work out with Jane because she's always

0:37:48.960 --> 0:37:51.160
<v Speaker 1>coming in and it's like Jolie's nap time. You want

0:37:51.160 --> 0:37:52.239
<v Speaker 1>to go work out with me and I might be

0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:54.839
<v Speaker 1>feeling lazy and then when she came in a few

0:37:54.880 --> 0:37:57.080
<v Speaker 1>weeks ago and showed me about Beach Body on Demand

0:37:57.160 --> 0:37:58.560
<v Speaker 1>and show me like, you know, hey, we can do

0:37:58.600 --> 0:38:00.879
<v Speaker 1>these quick workouts. It's read are mean it, it's it's

0:38:00.920 --> 0:38:02.120
<v Speaker 1>there for you. You don't have to do any of

0:38:02.160 --> 0:38:04.520
<v Speaker 1>like work about what you want to do. Um. She

0:38:04.560 --> 0:38:06.760
<v Speaker 1>showed me that, and ever since then I've been hooked.

0:38:07.200 --> 0:38:09.399
<v Speaker 1>And especially for us where our schedule is a little

0:38:09.400 --> 0:38:12.200
<v Speaker 1>bit unorthodox, especially with Jana stuff. And then in the

0:38:12.200 --> 0:38:15.280
<v Speaker 1>work the field of work I do now my day,

0:38:15.520 --> 0:38:18.399
<v Speaker 1>my work schedules berries day to day, and so being

0:38:18.440 --> 0:38:21.439
<v Speaker 1>able to get those minute workouts at home, not taking

0:38:21.520 --> 0:38:23.880
<v Speaker 1>time to go to the gym or do any of that.

0:38:23.960 --> 0:38:27.120
<v Speaker 1>It's at home in our backyard minutes knock it out.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sweating my butt off. I feel good. I look great,

0:38:30.400 --> 0:38:33.879
<v Speaker 1>at least my wife tells me so. Um. But it's

0:38:33.920 --> 0:38:36.719
<v Speaker 1>been really helpful to have, you know, some structure in that,

0:38:36.760 --> 0:38:39.800
<v Speaker 1>because that's what the environment I come from with knowressal

0:38:39.800 --> 0:38:42.480
<v Speaker 1>athletics is everything. Every time I went in to work,

0:38:42.840 --> 0:38:44.959
<v Speaker 1>my workout was in front of me ready to go. Now,

0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:47.080
<v Speaker 1>this is my way to have that at home, and

0:38:47.120 --> 0:38:49.759
<v Speaker 1>that's been the game changer. For me. Yeah, cool, it's

0:38:49.760 --> 0:38:51.839
<v Speaker 1>your comfort zone. Yeah. It's usually like when I walk

0:38:51.880 --> 0:38:53.200
<v Speaker 1>in there too, and I'm like, all right, I'll do

0:38:53.360 --> 0:38:55.239
<v Speaker 1>a couple of curls. But it's like no, it's like

0:38:55.239 --> 0:38:57.160
<v Speaker 1>it's showing us what to do, and it's like it's

0:38:57.160 --> 0:38:59.120
<v Speaker 1>just like Mike said, like it basically lays out the

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<v Speaker 1>workout for you. Just fantastic. So join over one million

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0:39:05.800 --> 0:39:07.400
<v Speaker 1>one million and two would be me and Mike and

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<v Speaker 1>now Jen, I'm right now, My listeners can get a

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<v Speaker 1>free again. Just text Jana to thirty thirty Okay, Um, Jen,

0:39:28.960 --> 0:39:31.200
<v Speaker 1>do you want to do the first email? Sure, let's

0:39:31.200 --> 0:39:35.440
<v Speaker 1>do it. Okay, So from Samantha, I can really resonate

0:39:35.560 --> 0:39:38.160
<v Speaker 1>with this email. I'm at the title. Think you have

0:39:38.200 --> 0:39:44.040
<v Speaker 1>no idea? My mother in law is uber crazy? Hey,

0:39:44.040 --> 0:39:49.560
<v Speaker 1>Pam kidding, I'm kidding. Wait, what who's your mother in law?

0:39:50.520 --> 0:39:52.799
<v Speaker 1>Was ex mother in law? I'm not going to say

0:39:52.840 --> 0:39:54.800
<v Speaker 1>her name. Okay, can we talk about it or know

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:57.720
<v Speaker 1>for sure. So let me just before we do this

0:39:57.719 --> 0:40:02.719
<v Speaker 1>this I have so much experience eighteen nineteen years of

0:40:02.760 --> 0:40:08.279
<v Speaker 1>experience with us. So, I mean it started before we

0:40:08.280 --> 0:40:12.000
<v Speaker 1>were married. But she had an idea of who was

0:40:12.040 --> 0:40:14.719
<v Speaker 1>going to marry her son and it was not it

0:40:14.840 --> 0:40:19.400
<v Speaker 1>was not me. And so we had this huge Middle

0:40:19.440 --> 0:40:23.640
<v Speaker 1>Eastern wedding by the way, this is John story. And

0:40:25.000 --> 0:40:28.359
<v Speaker 1>she was supposed to she she was the mother's were

0:40:28.400 --> 0:40:31.480
<v Speaker 1>supposed to wear like like it was a fall wedding,

0:40:31.520 --> 0:40:35.520
<v Speaker 1>so brown or dark page or from Yeah, I gave

0:40:35.600 --> 0:40:38.759
<v Speaker 1>them many options. She showed me the dress that she

0:40:38.920 --> 0:40:41.719
<v Speaker 1>was going to quote unquote going to wear. But then

0:40:41.760 --> 0:40:49.200
<v Speaker 1>she showed up and all black to my wedding. I

0:40:49.480 --> 0:40:54.080
<v Speaker 1>didn't say a word to me, not one word all day.

0:40:54.160 --> 0:40:56.960
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I mean it just went on and on

0:40:57.000 --> 0:40:59.759
<v Speaker 1>and on that I mean that that was the start

0:40:59.760 --> 0:41:02.120
<v Speaker 1>of that. That was what was the worst thing that

0:41:02.120 --> 0:41:06.360
<v Speaker 1>ever happened that she did. After we got married. She

0:41:06.440 --> 0:41:11.759
<v Speaker 1>come over to the house one day and UM told him, like,

0:41:12.160 --> 0:41:15.080
<v Speaker 1>she said, you should just come home and leave, get divorced.

0:41:15.600 --> 0:41:19.120
<v Speaker 1>I can tell you're not happy. You should be, yes,

0:41:19.440 --> 0:41:22.200
<v Speaker 1>And she was really she wouldn't call me by my

0:41:22.280 --> 0:41:25.240
<v Speaker 1>name she would say, you're like when she was talking

0:41:25.280 --> 0:41:28.200
<v Speaker 1>to her daughter, she would say, your brother's wife. You know,

0:41:28.320 --> 0:41:32.520
<v Speaker 1>she wouldn't address you, she wouldn't address me. Yeah, well

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:34.360
<v Speaker 1>she must be happy now that you guys are divorced,

0:41:35.520 --> 0:41:39.040
<v Speaker 1>all right, I would imagine. I don't know. Those are

0:41:39.080 --> 0:41:42.400
<v Speaker 1>just a couple of the stories. Let's hearing. I should

0:41:42.520 --> 0:41:47.839
<v Speaker 1>have I should have been more aware before I got

0:41:47.880 --> 0:41:51.160
<v Speaker 1>married because she was acting the same way, and I

0:41:51.239 --> 0:41:57.000
<v Speaker 1>really should have taken note. Okay, because Samantha, I'm going

0:41:57.040 --> 0:41:59.160
<v Speaker 1>to read your email and then I'm going to give

0:41:59.200 --> 0:42:02.880
<v Speaker 1>you some advice. I'm getting married on August eleven to

0:42:02.960 --> 0:42:06.320
<v Speaker 1>my amazing fiance, Michael. We've been dating for three and

0:42:06.320 --> 0:42:10.800
<v Speaker 1>a half years, and I couldn't be happier his His mother,

0:42:11.160 --> 0:42:15.520
<v Speaker 1>on the other hand, is uber crazy. She constantly is

0:42:15.560 --> 0:42:18.120
<v Speaker 1>making all of my decisions about the wedding about her.

0:42:18.840 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 1>She cries to Michael about how terrible I am, but

0:42:22.640 --> 0:42:25.200
<v Speaker 1>the rest of the family loves me. I don't know

0:42:25.239 --> 0:42:27.279
<v Speaker 1>what to do because I don't want Michael to feel

0:42:27.320 --> 0:42:29.480
<v Speaker 1>like he's stuck between me and his mother. But at

0:42:29.480 --> 0:42:31.120
<v Speaker 1>the same time, I feel like he needs to have

0:42:31.160 --> 0:42:35.200
<v Speaker 1>some loyalty towards me. I'm stuck and needs some of

0:42:35.239 --> 0:42:41.040
<v Speaker 1>your lovely advice, Samantha. He has to be on your side.

0:42:41.200 --> 0:42:44.319
<v Speaker 1>And yes, she is his mother, but you two are

0:42:44.360 --> 0:42:48.240
<v Speaker 1>getting married, and you two are going to be living

0:42:48.400 --> 0:42:52.080
<v Speaker 1>in a house and in the future raising children together,

0:42:52.200 --> 0:42:54.360
<v Speaker 1>and she has nothing to do about that. She is

0:42:54.400 --> 0:42:57.839
<v Speaker 1>the grandmother and she is the mother in law. It's

0:42:57.880 --> 0:43:01.880
<v Speaker 1>you two. You two are the team. You can be

0:43:01.920 --> 0:43:05.280
<v Speaker 1>gracious and sweet and kind to her, but he has

0:43:05.320 --> 0:43:08.279
<v Speaker 1>to be on your side because this will not end

0:43:08.400 --> 0:43:11.400
<v Speaker 1>if he's not on your side. She has the power.

0:43:12.200 --> 0:43:16.600
<v Speaker 1>I agree, Michael. What I will say, I totally agree

0:43:16.880 --> 0:43:22.920
<v Speaker 1>Jen and Janna. My advice here would be, Samantha, go

0:43:23.000 --> 0:43:27.799
<v Speaker 1>to Michael and tell him, how do you feel about

0:43:27.840 --> 0:43:33.880
<v Speaker 1>all this? Yeah, from a good place. Tell him kindly

0:43:33.960 --> 0:43:37.120
<v Speaker 1>request that he talks to his mother, but also tell

0:43:37.200 --> 0:43:40.960
<v Speaker 1>him if he does not not, then you will. And

0:43:41.040 --> 0:43:43.600
<v Speaker 1>if he does not, you go to your future mother

0:43:43.600 --> 0:43:48.319
<v Speaker 1>in law in a healthy way and say, what's going

0:43:48.360 --> 0:43:52.840
<v Speaker 1>on here? Be adults and ask her directly. It is

0:43:52.880 --> 0:43:55.319
<v Speaker 1>probably gonna make her super uncomfortable. It's probably gonna make

0:43:55.360 --> 0:43:59.160
<v Speaker 1>you super uncomfortable, but that's the only choice you have.

0:43:59.400 --> 0:44:01.560
<v Speaker 1>You can't Something has to be the adult here. Someone

0:44:01.600 --> 0:44:05.400
<v Speaker 1>has to Clearly she's not being so Samantha, you go

0:44:05.520 --> 0:44:09.000
<v Speaker 1>be the adult. You address it to her. I would

0:44:09.080 --> 0:44:11.799
<v Speaker 1>like to think I make up that she might have

0:44:11.840 --> 0:44:15.000
<v Speaker 1>a newfound respect for you, that you're stepping up and

0:44:15.040 --> 0:44:17.680
<v Speaker 1>being like, look, I'm marrying your son. What do we

0:44:17.719 --> 0:44:19.680
<v Speaker 1>have to do to work our relationship out? What is

0:44:19.680 --> 0:44:22.719
<v Speaker 1>your issue with me? What is the underlying meaning of this?

0:44:23.800 --> 0:44:26.080
<v Speaker 1>You're not going to lose your son. We're still gonna

0:44:26.080 --> 0:44:27.920
<v Speaker 1>be a part of the family. We're all we're all family. Now.

0:44:28.120 --> 0:44:31.799
<v Speaker 1>He's not going anywhere. But hold on a second. Though,

0:44:32.000 --> 0:44:35.240
<v Speaker 1>you had a hard time with your mom stepping aside

0:44:35.239 --> 0:44:38.719
<v Speaker 1>like from because you were a mama's boy. So I

0:44:38.719 --> 0:44:42.560
<v Speaker 1>mean you have to have some empathy for Michael being

0:44:42.600 --> 0:44:46.440
<v Speaker 1>Michael and understanding like that. That's hard. No, I do.

0:44:46.640 --> 0:44:52.280
<v Speaker 1>But this aspect, like this is extremes when it's selling

0:44:52.360 --> 0:44:54.799
<v Speaker 1>Pam like hated me or no, not at all. She

0:44:54.880 --> 0:44:59.279
<v Speaker 1>loves loves you and loves you, And it wasn't you know,

0:44:59.360 --> 0:45:02.240
<v Speaker 1>y'all's biggest thing was about like sharing holidays and stuff

0:45:02.280 --> 0:45:05.560
<v Speaker 1>like this, and her talking about Christmas. But and then

0:45:05.719 --> 0:45:08.520
<v Speaker 1>but then also you're saying you were talking about having

0:45:08.560 --> 0:45:12.600
<v Speaker 1>traditions for Fourth July and Thanksgiving. So it's like you

0:45:12.640 --> 0:45:15.359
<v Speaker 1>guys are both kind of playing your ground on what

0:45:15.400 --> 0:45:17.440
<v Speaker 1>you wanted to keep as a tradition that you were

0:45:17.440 --> 0:45:19.920
<v Speaker 1>both used to. So it's not like she hated you.

0:45:19.960 --> 0:45:25.120
<v Speaker 1>There's no animosity between and if there was stepped in, yeah, yeah,

0:45:25.200 --> 0:45:27.760
<v Speaker 1>my mom was like I reckon Jana and all this stuff,

0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:31.000
<v Speaker 1>then that had been one thing, but that was never

0:45:31.080 --> 0:45:33.360
<v Speaker 1>the case. So this is an extreme case that she

0:45:33.520 --> 0:45:40.080
<v Speaker 1>needs to address. And my only concern is that the

0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:42.440
<v Speaker 1>mother in law won't be the future mother in law

0:45:42.520 --> 0:45:47.560
<v Speaker 1>won't be aware enough. Absolutely, that's it's going to be

0:45:47.640 --> 0:45:50.680
<v Speaker 1>a struggle. It really is, Samantha. And I think it

0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:55.000
<v Speaker 1>is too because of the age of the adults. Like

0:45:55.040 --> 0:45:56.480
<v Speaker 1>even like when I've tried to talk to my mom,

0:45:56.520 --> 0:45:58.800
<v Speaker 1>it's like they don't it's like they didn't have and

0:45:58.920 --> 0:46:01.520
<v Speaker 1>not the therapy, but they don't know how to communicate.

0:46:01.600 --> 0:46:06.920
<v Speaker 1>I feel like to be um, you know, vulnerable, So

0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:10.440
<v Speaker 1>that's in to listen and to not get defensive. So

0:46:10.480 --> 0:46:12.520
<v Speaker 1>I think that that might be really hard for Symantha,

0:46:12.600 --> 0:46:14.600
<v Speaker 1>But just try to be the adults. Try to be

0:46:14.680 --> 0:46:16.600
<v Speaker 1>calm and know that you said all the things from

0:46:16.640 --> 0:46:19.920
<v Speaker 1>a good place and from a place of yeah, and

0:46:19.960 --> 0:46:22.279
<v Speaker 1>just be like, if they're what can I do to

0:46:22.400 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 1>like you? Know? It's not like you want to change

0:46:25.120 --> 0:46:27.080
<v Speaker 1>things to make her like you. But at the same time,

0:46:27.360 --> 0:46:30.359
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to have this going on for your

0:46:30.440 --> 0:46:33.560
<v Speaker 1>entire marriage, because that's being exhausting. It becomes a poison,

0:46:34.080 --> 0:46:37.879
<v Speaker 1>it really does. It becomes a poison. Well, I'm lucky

0:46:38.000 --> 0:46:40.680
<v Speaker 1>that I have Pam Howney. You want to read the

0:46:40.719 --> 0:46:45.680
<v Speaker 1>next one? Sure? This email is from Sarah Sarah, okay,

0:46:45.719 --> 0:46:48.000
<v Speaker 1>and there's another one Jane, which I think we should

0:46:48.000 --> 0:46:49.440
<v Speaker 1>read too. Okay, that's a good one for both of us.

0:46:49.440 --> 0:46:54.200
<v Speaker 1>All right, So from Sarah, my boyfriend is extremely insecure.

0:46:54.880 --> 0:46:57.440
<v Speaker 1>My boyfriend was previously cheated on by his X of

0:46:57.480 --> 0:47:01.160
<v Speaker 1>five years. Coming into our relationship sometime later, he continues

0:47:01.200 --> 0:47:04.520
<v Speaker 1>to be very insecure about anything and everything. For example,

0:47:04.920 --> 0:47:07.560
<v Speaker 1>I asked him if it's okay if I celebrated an

0:47:07.600 --> 0:47:11.640
<v Speaker 1>engagement dinner with two other girls. He responds, yes, of course, honey,

0:47:11.719 --> 0:47:13.920
<v Speaker 1>So I told them yes. Later he said he was

0:47:13.960 --> 0:47:17.439
<v Speaker 1>saying that sarcastically. Mind you, it's on a Thursday after work.

0:47:17.800 --> 0:47:20.160
<v Speaker 1>He proceeds to say, well, me and my buddy are

0:47:20.160 --> 0:47:22.200
<v Speaker 1>going out for pizza wings and beer. I don't care

0:47:22.200 --> 0:47:25.640
<v Speaker 1>if he does. However, we got into a huge argument

0:47:25.760 --> 0:47:27.640
<v Speaker 1>and I told him that if he cannot trust me

0:47:27.719 --> 0:47:30.760
<v Speaker 1>for something that's simple and small, then we shouldn't be together.

0:47:31.120 --> 0:47:33.960
<v Speaker 1>I'm just exhausted with this. I need all hands on deck,

0:47:34.000 --> 0:47:39.080
<v Speaker 1>including Mike's, to get a man's perspective. All right, So

0:47:40.120 --> 0:47:45.600
<v Speaker 1>first things first is I don't think there's room for

0:47:45.600 --> 0:47:52.520
<v Speaker 1>sarcasm in a relationship when it comes to asking direct

0:47:52.560 --> 0:47:56.520
<v Speaker 1>questions and wanting direct answers. There, that's just that's a

0:47:56.560 --> 0:47:59.799
<v Speaker 1>cop out. That's that's bad communication. You're not gonna get

0:47:59.800 --> 0:48:02.880
<v Speaker 1>any think done. That builds resentment, that's miss communication, and

0:48:02.960 --> 0:48:06.520
<v Speaker 1>it's just it's just gonna cause a lot of issues. Yeah,

0:48:06.520 --> 0:48:10.719
<v Speaker 1>because he said yes, then it's like your girlfriends. And

0:48:10.719 --> 0:48:13.520
<v Speaker 1>then he's gonna make her feel bad by saying how sarcastic? Well,

0:48:13.520 --> 0:48:15.840
<v Speaker 1>how how is Sarah supposed to know you're being sarcastic?

0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:18.719
<v Speaker 1>You can't know. That's childhood. You can't be sarcastic in

0:48:18.760 --> 0:48:24.319
<v Speaker 1>that um And then and then him coming back and saying, well,

0:48:24.320 --> 0:48:26.479
<v Speaker 1>I'm going out for pizza, you know, for pizza wings

0:48:26.480 --> 0:48:29.439
<v Speaker 1>and beer, and my buddies. That's just being childish, you said,

0:48:29.480 --> 0:48:31.279
<v Speaker 1>when you read it like it just seems immature. Ye.

0:48:33.600 --> 0:48:36.759
<v Speaker 1>And then but also you know, she says that they

0:48:36.800 --> 0:48:38.759
<v Speaker 1>got into a huge argument and that she says, I

0:48:39.120 --> 0:48:42.440
<v Speaker 1>if he cannot trust her with something that's simple, then

0:48:42.480 --> 0:48:44.799
<v Speaker 1>we shouldn't be together. And that's where I'll get his back,

0:48:44.880 --> 0:48:48.880
<v Speaker 1>where I don't say, we'll just be careful minimizing his

0:48:49.000 --> 0:48:53.239
<v Speaker 1>feelings about something. Okay, So clearly he had he's had

0:48:53.320 --> 0:48:56.360
<v Speaker 1>issues with infidelity in previous relationship, and he's carrying that

0:48:56.440 --> 0:49:01.080
<v Speaker 1>into y'all's relationship, which is unfair. But everybody has her baggage, right,

0:49:01.120 --> 0:49:04.080
<v Speaker 1>everyone has their baggage. But him acting out around this

0:49:04.200 --> 0:49:07.319
<v Speaker 1>in a sense of just acting childish what I mean

0:49:07.360 --> 0:49:09.760
<v Speaker 1>like physically acting now, but acting childish and the mature

0:49:09.800 --> 0:49:14.960
<v Speaker 1>around this topic, minimizing his feelings around it is only

0:49:15.000 --> 0:49:18.960
<v Speaker 1>gonna make it worse because he's not feeling heart So

0:49:19.120 --> 0:49:23.400
<v Speaker 1>it's just going to take a sit down between you two, Sarah.

0:49:23.440 --> 0:49:27.120
<v Speaker 1>You tell him and validate his feelings of having fear

0:49:27.200 --> 0:49:32.080
<v Speaker 1>because of his past relationship history. Reassure him that you

0:49:32.120 --> 0:49:34.399
<v Speaker 1>love him and you would never even dream about doing

0:49:34.440 --> 0:49:37.560
<v Speaker 1>something to hurt him and then and then you know,

0:49:37.800 --> 0:49:40.040
<v Speaker 1>be like, how can we handle the situation in the future.

0:49:40.719 --> 0:49:43.520
<v Speaker 1>But the key is to validate his fears going into it,

0:49:43.800 --> 0:49:47.319
<v Speaker 1>because clearly through this example that is he's speaking from

0:49:47.320 --> 0:49:49.560
<v Speaker 1>a place of fear. That's it. I get that. But

0:49:49.600 --> 0:49:52.319
<v Speaker 1>what I'll disagree with with you, babe and agree with

0:49:52.360 --> 0:49:55.040
<v Speaker 1>Sarah is like something that is so small and simple

0:49:55.960 --> 0:49:59.799
<v Speaker 1>where it's like, like, that's so like I know, like

0:49:59.840 --> 0:50:01.879
<v Speaker 1>I get what you're saying because we're like we're going

0:50:01.920 --> 0:50:03.440
<v Speaker 1>through it and stuff. But at the same time, I'm like,

0:50:03.520 --> 0:50:06.319
<v Speaker 1>if it's that's what they're arguing about, something that's so

0:50:06.480 --> 0:50:10.680
<v Speaker 1>like simple like that, it's like God, like, it's gonna

0:50:10.680 --> 0:50:13.640
<v Speaker 1>be exhausting move having moving forward with like other things well,

0:50:13.640 --> 0:50:16.640
<v Speaker 1>and what happens when the big stuff comes? Right? Yes,

0:50:16.760 --> 0:50:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I agree that I'm saying, example, nip this in the

0:50:20.000 --> 0:50:22.040
<v Speaker 1>butt now, because that's going to help you communicate better

0:50:22.040 --> 0:50:24.160
<v Speaker 1>when the big Yeah, But I do agree with you

0:50:24.200 --> 0:50:27.560
<v Speaker 1>with like, you know, not making it because to him,

0:50:27.560 --> 0:50:30.000
<v Speaker 1>it's not simple. It's a big not about the lamp

0:50:30.000 --> 0:50:32.880
<v Speaker 1>shade feeling, it's about something else. He doesn't know how

0:50:32.880 --> 0:50:35.520
<v Speaker 1>to articulate that to her because she has done nothing

0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:37.880
<v Speaker 1>to hurt him as far as we know, so he

0:50:38.000 --> 0:50:39.520
<v Speaker 1>just you know, you guys need to have an honest

0:50:39.520 --> 0:50:41.960
<v Speaker 1>conversation about that because it's coming from somewhere else. Just

0:50:42.000 --> 0:50:44.319
<v Speaker 1>like when Mike and I got into a fight. Um,

0:50:44.400 --> 0:50:47.400
<v Speaker 1>it's we got to fight over a lampshade, but it

0:50:47.440 --> 0:50:49.279
<v Speaker 1>wasn't about the lamp shade. It was about something else

0:50:49.360 --> 0:50:53.000
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0:50:53.040 --> 0:51:03.360
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<v Speaker 1>read you, guys, an email from Jane. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>good one. The title is we have similar stories, don't

0:52:38.120 --> 0:52:41.839
<v Speaker 1>dont done? Your story and mine are so similar with

0:52:41.920 --> 0:52:43.960
<v Speaker 1>a bit of an age difference. I'm a fifty year

0:52:43.960 --> 0:52:48.279
<v Speaker 1>old mother of two teenagers, married seventeen years, I was

0:52:48.320 --> 0:52:51.440
<v Speaker 1>the one who wanted sex more than my husband. My

0:52:51.520 --> 0:52:56.200
<v Speaker 1>husband confessed a year long affair with our mutual female friend.

0:52:56.520 --> 0:53:01.120
<v Speaker 1>Double portrayed, Yeah, working on our marriage, which is better

0:53:01.160 --> 0:53:04.560
<v Speaker 1>than ever even our sex life. Listen to episode four twice.

0:53:04.640 --> 0:53:07.760
<v Speaker 1>I cried both times. I'm sorry. I can completely relate

0:53:07.800 --> 0:53:10.600
<v Speaker 1>to all of your triggers and feelings after listening to

0:53:10.640 --> 0:53:14.920
<v Speaker 1>episode twelve, here's my question, how do you reconcile balance?

0:53:15.120 --> 0:53:18.879
<v Speaker 1>John Edwards comments about positive energy, what you put out

0:53:18.880 --> 0:53:22.680
<v Speaker 1>there is what you attract, arguing for the negative, which

0:53:22.719 --> 0:53:25.719
<v Speaker 1>is based on fear with these fears and triggers we

0:53:25.760 --> 0:53:28.920
<v Speaker 1>are experiencing after the infidelity. Wait, I don't understand that.

0:53:29.080 --> 0:53:33.279
<v Speaker 1>So she's asking, you know, John Edwards said, what you

0:53:33.360 --> 0:53:36.520
<v Speaker 1>put out you get back, So mind be mindful of

0:53:36.560 --> 0:53:39.920
<v Speaker 1>your thoughts. So she I think what she's asking is,

0:53:40.200 --> 0:53:43.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm so worried that he's going to go have another

0:53:43.440 --> 0:53:46.080
<v Speaker 1>affair that am I putting that out there in the

0:53:46.200 --> 0:53:49.560
<v Speaker 1>universe and he's going to do it because that's the

0:53:49.640 --> 0:53:53.279
<v Speaker 1>energy and putting out I interpret another way where you

0:53:53.360 --> 0:53:56.360
<v Speaker 1>want to have, you know, positive thoughts to have a

0:53:56.400 --> 0:53:59.279
<v Speaker 1>positive life around you, right around yourself with that, But

0:54:00.040 --> 0:54:05.480
<v Speaker 1>you're naturally being the victim of this betrayal, You're going

0:54:05.520 --> 0:54:07.880
<v Speaker 1>to have those negative thoughts. So I think she's scared

0:54:08.080 --> 0:54:10.719
<v Speaker 1>of yes, you know, especially the same thing, having those

0:54:10.760 --> 0:54:13.560
<v Speaker 1>negative thoughts and creep in. Will that affect the positivity

0:54:13.960 --> 0:54:16.359
<v Speaker 1>the positive environment she's trying to create with her husband. Yeah,

0:54:16.400 --> 0:54:17.879
<v Speaker 1>And she goes on to say, I'm trying to create

0:54:17.920 --> 0:54:20.839
<v Speaker 1>a positive environment from healing from this infidelity, but am

0:54:20.840 --> 0:54:23.319
<v Speaker 1>getting bogged down by the trigger as fears and insecurities.

0:54:23.360 --> 0:54:26.200
<v Speaker 1>I feel as though I need to be constantly reminded

0:54:26.200 --> 0:54:28.480
<v Speaker 1>that I was the one who has chosen and why

0:54:28.520 --> 0:54:31.200
<v Speaker 1>that's not what I want to attract for the new

0:54:31.280 --> 0:54:34.319
<v Speaker 1>marriage that we are working towards. And and that's you know, Jane,

0:54:34.360 --> 0:54:37.279
<v Speaker 1>I can I can totally get the triggers and fears

0:54:37.280 --> 0:54:39.839
<v Speaker 1>and insecurities. And that's where you know your partner, like

0:54:39.880 --> 0:54:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Mike has done a good job now with doing and

0:54:42.640 --> 0:54:45.640
<v Speaker 1>he took a good year and a half to get

0:54:45.680 --> 0:54:50.000
<v Speaker 1>to the point where it's like they can um acknowledge

0:54:50.000 --> 0:54:53.960
<v Speaker 1>your triggers and fears and insecurity insecurities. But it's also

0:54:54.120 --> 0:54:57.400
<v Speaker 1>it's on us, Jane, to be able to let the

0:54:57.400 --> 0:54:59.440
<v Speaker 1>past be the past and it's hard, but not let

0:54:59.480 --> 0:55:02.840
<v Speaker 1>it bogged down out. It's okay. If it creeps in, um,

0:55:02.920 --> 0:55:05.799
<v Speaker 1>it still does for me, it might just not be

0:55:05.880 --> 0:55:08.480
<v Speaker 1>a minute now, maybe it's just a few seconds, and

0:55:08.480 --> 0:55:10.480
<v Speaker 1>then I say, Okay, that was the past, let's move forward.

0:55:10.520 --> 0:55:12.399
<v Speaker 1>What's the present. And so I'm just trying to stay

0:55:12.400 --> 0:55:15.800
<v Speaker 1>in the present and trying not to put that negative

0:55:15.920 --> 0:55:18.439
<v Speaker 1>and negative energy out there because we don't want that

0:55:18.800 --> 0:55:21.759
<v Speaker 1>person back in our life. For those right and you

0:55:21.760 --> 0:55:24.919
<v Speaker 1>can still, Jane, from from just the experience that Jane

0:55:24.960 --> 0:55:26.799
<v Speaker 1>and I have gone through, do you have every right

0:55:26.840 --> 0:55:28.920
<v Speaker 1>to have those negative feelings? You have every right to

0:55:28.920 --> 0:55:35.560
<v Speaker 1>feel that way, to express those feelings now by by you, uh,

0:55:35.880 --> 0:55:37.719
<v Speaker 1>I haven't trying to say that by articulating them in

0:55:37.760 --> 0:55:40.480
<v Speaker 1>a healthy way to your husband, by coming to him

0:55:40.480 --> 0:55:44.000
<v Speaker 1>and expressing, hey, I'm feeling this way. As opposed to

0:55:44.160 --> 0:55:48.360
<v Speaker 1>being passive, aggressive, or holding things against him or being resentful,

0:55:48.840 --> 0:55:51.320
<v Speaker 1>that's how that negativity is going to creep into your life.

0:55:51.480 --> 0:55:54.160
<v Speaker 1>But if you have those negative feelings and talk about

0:55:54.200 --> 0:55:57.239
<v Speaker 1>them in a healthy way, then I don't think that

0:55:57.280 --> 0:55:59.680
<v Speaker 1>negativity creeps into the life around you because you're handing

0:55:59.719 --> 0:56:02.239
<v Speaker 1>things in a positive, healthy way. I agree, you know,

0:56:02.360 --> 0:56:04.319
<v Speaker 1>so I think that's the key, that's been the key

0:56:04.360 --> 0:56:07.560
<v Speaker 1>for us um which neither of us do perfectly all

0:56:07.560 --> 0:56:09.760
<v Speaker 1>the time, because everyone's going to bring in a negative

0:56:09.840 --> 0:56:15.520
<v Speaker 1>energy we all have. Yeah, that's that's just human, whether

0:56:15.560 --> 0:56:18.480
<v Speaker 1>there was infidelity, where we all have fears, whether it's

0:56:18.520 --> 0:56:21.239
<v Speaker 1>work or relationships or like split money. Like, we all

0:56:21.280 --> 0:56:22.960
<v Speaker 1>have our fears with all of our insecurities. That's how

0:56:23.040 --> 0:56:24.640
<v Speaker 1>much we let them come in. And if we don't

0:56:24.640 --> 0:56:26.959
<v Speaker 1>speak on it, then it's going to continue to take

0:56:27.360 --> 0:56:30.479
<v Speaker 1>over what we really want, the positivity. It's all about

0:56:30.480 --> 0:56:34.919
<v Speaker 1>being able to manage them in a healthy way. Yeah, yes, bam,

0:56:35.400 --> 0:56:38.880
<v Speaker 1>thanks for thanks for listening though, Yeah, thank you Jane

0:56:38.880 --> 0:56:41.960
<v Speaker 1>twice and all in so and I love too that

0:56:42.000 --> 0:56:43.880
<v Speaker 1>we have such a wide range of listeners on the

0:56:43.920 --> 0:56:49.040
<v Speaker 1>show from teenagers too. I'll be curious to know how

0:56:49.160 --> 0:56:53.759
<v Speaker 1>recent the affair was. Yeah, but it's probably you know,

0:56:54.600 --> 0:56:58.200
<v Speaker 1>at least our timeline, because they said their marriage has

0:56:58.239 --> 0:57:00.319
<v Speaker 1>been better than ever even their sex life. You know,

0:57:00.400 --> 0:57:03.520
<v Speaker 1>we're reaching that point. So they're working on it. They're

0:57:03.520 --> 0:57:07.120
<v Speaker 1>working on it, and you guys, for your kids, and

0:57:07.360 --> 0:57:09.360
<v Speaker 1>that's a great you know, I don't know when infidite

0:57:09.400 --> 0:57:12.920
<v Speaker 1>had happened. But that's really great for the kids to

0:57:12.960 --> 0:57:16.440
<v Speaker 1>see that they're working through it, right, because I mean,

0:57:16.480 --> 0:57:18.920
<v Speaker 1>I remember my parents got divorced. I knew about the affair.

0:57:18.960 --> 0:57:20.800
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I basically caught my dad in the affair,

0:57:21.000 --> 0:57:25.240
<v Speaker 1>and you know, they tried for maybe a month, but

0:57:25.320 --> 0:57:27.280
<v Speaker 1>then my dad was in love with his affair girl.

0:57:28.160 --> 0:57:30.160
<v Speaker 1>But it's like I saw, so I'm like that that

0:57:30.280 --> 0:57:32.080
<v Speaker 1>is what I saw. That is what I saw men do.

0:57:32.280 --> 0:57:34.080
<v Speaker 1>Like so it's like, but if I would have saw

0:57:34.120 --> 0:57:35.800
<v Speaker 1>them work on it, then I maybe would have had

0:57:35.800 --> 0:57:40.360
<v Speaker 1>a different perspective. So you saw that answer in which

0:57:40.400 --> 0:57:43.800
<v Speaker 1>a lot of kids nowadays see because divorce raised No,

0:57:43.880 --> 0:57:45.840
<v Speaker 1>it's more than that. More than that. I mean, that's

0:57:46.240 --> 0:57:50.040
<v Speaker 1>insane that people just treat it like it's just a

0:57:50.040 --> 0:57:51.880
<v Speaker 1>button that you just pushed. Well, I mean I can't talk.

0:57:51.920 --> 0:57:54.479
<v Speaker 1>I've been divorced twice. But I mean, like again, mine

0:57:54.480 --> 0:57:57.000
<v Speaker 1>were like I was nineteen, went through a drive fay

0:57:57.000 --> 0:57:58.560
<v Speaker 1>didn't even know the guy, and then the other one.

0:57:58.680 --> 0:58:00.360
<v Speaker 1>You know, we were married for a week and you know,

0:58:00.440 --> 0:58:03.640
<v Speaker 1>obviously now we're best friends, but you know this, those

0:58:03.640 --> 0:58:06.000
<v Speaker 1>were just weddings or not even the first one wasn't

0:58:06.000 --> 0:58:08.120
<v Speaker 1>even a wedding. It was literally drive through in Vegas.

0:58:08.160 --> 0:58:14.160
<v Speaker 1>But like nineteen But I mean, I think a marriage

0:58:14.200 --> 0:58:16.960
<v Speaker 1>to me is you know what we're doing. We're working

0:58:16.960 --> 0:58:19.120
<v Speaker 1>on our marriage. It's it's a couple of years in.

0:58:19.240 --> 0:58:22.320
<v Speaker 1>It's we're like we're actively working. So that's why, like

0:58:22.400 --> 0:58:26.400
<v Speaker 1>I sometimes forget, you know, but yes, it's insane how

0:58:27.080 --> 0:58:29.520
<v Speaker 1>high rate. And I hate saying that because I mean,

0:58:29.560 --> 0:58:31.360
<v Speaker 1>you're getting divorced. But it's like you tried too, though

0:58:31.600 --> 0:58:36.160
<v Speaker 1>I tried. We went to couples therapy and we are

0:58:36.280 --> 0:58:41.640
<v Speaker 1>just completely different people at different stages of awareness. But

0:58:41.640 --> 0:58:43.440
<v Speaker 1>but here's my thing, though we're gonna You're gonna be

0:58:43.480 --> 0:58:46.120
<v Speaker 1>on different stages though, like Mike and are, but you

0:58:46.120 --> 0:58:50.160
<v Speaker 1>don't where people don't grow. Yeah, I just continued continued

0:58:50.280 --> 0:58:55.240
<v Speaker 1>and continued to grow and and I try. I used to,

0:58:55.480 --> 0:58:58.520
<v Speaker 1>believe me a lot of tools in my tool kit,

0:58:59.160 --> 0:59:03.160
<v Speaker 1>and over the years, I pulled out every tool to

0:59:03.200 --> 0:59:07.800
<v Speaker 1>try and help facilitate growth. And it just wasn't recepted,

0:59:08.000 --> 0:59:11.320
<v Speaker 1>you know, right, wasn't received right, And that's that's a

0:59:11.320 --> 0:59:13.280
<v Speaker 1>hard It's like, why would you want to stay in

0:59:13.320 --> 0:59:16.880
<v Speaker 1>the unhappy marriage? Right? Still the answer for some people

0:59:16.920 --> 0:59:22.400
<v Speaker 1>and that's okay. Well, yeah, it's just clearly there's a

0:59:22.400 --> 0:59:24.200
<v Speaker 1>lot of people out there not doing the work, that's all.

0:59:24.320 --> 0:59:26.920
<v Speaker 1>But that with that, there's facts out there. I'm not percentage.

0:59:27.120 --> 0:59:29.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm really curious to actually know what it is. Someone

0:59:29.240 --> 0:59:33.120
<v Speaker 1>should Google. Look, I have my computer from one in

0:59:33.160 --> 0:59:36.200
<v Speaker 1>here in studio Google Studio. But yeah, I hope, I

0:59:36.240 --> 0:59:38.960
<v Speaker 1>hope Jane's kids are are able to see the positive.

0:59:39.000 --> 0:59:40.800
<v Speaker 1>And we don't know if they've kept it secret from

0:59:40.800 --> 0:59:44.920
<v Speaker 1>them or whatever. But regardless of whether the teenagers know

0:59:45.000 --> 0:59:48.600
<v Speaker 1>about or not, they're seeing their parents work on their marriage.

0:59:49.120 --> 0:59:51.000
<v Speaker 1>They don't have to know that it's through infidelity. I

0:59:51.040 --> 0:59:53.080
<v Speaker 1>have a question for you though, I mean, obviously for us,

0:59:53.080 --> 0:59:55.400
<v Speaker 1>it's on Google. So when Julie has Google, she can

0:59:55.400 --> 0:59:57.680
<v Speaker 1>like google it. Yeah, that's gonna be a tough day.

0:59:58.640 --> 1:00:01.240
<v Speaker 1>But I but and if it wasn't on Google, I

1:00:01.240 --> 1:00:04.640
<v Speaker 1>would want to tell her that when she's old enough

1:00:04.680 --> 1:00:07.520
<v Speaker 1>to understand, like if something was going on in her relationship,

1:00:07.560 --> 1:00:10.160
<v Speaker 1>like I would want her to understand like our dynamic

1:00:10.280 --> 1:00:13.680
<v Speaker 1>to show like that we fought for it and you know,

1:00:13.920 --> 1:00:15.960
<v Speaker 1>yes and no, and let me just say, let me

1:00:16.000 --> 1:00:20.560
<v Speaker 1>tell her the specifics would. It would all depend if

1:00:20.560 --> 1:00:23.800
<v Speaker 1>she was going through or son was going through a

1:00:23.880 --> 1:00:28.080
<v Speaker 1>tough situation with infidelity in relationship or something like that,

1:00:28.800 --> 1:00:31.120
<v Speaker 1>and the timing is right and they're of age to

1:00:31.200 --> 1:00:35.200
<v Speaker 1>really understand. I would be right there in line with

1:00:35.240 --> 1:00:38.160
<v Speaker 1>you to tell them together, Like when your parents were

1:00:38.200 --> 1:00:40.000
<v Speaker 1>talking about some stuff. It's like to me, I'm like,

1:00:40.080 --> 1:00:42.800
<v Speaker 1>that's some like that gives me encouragement to know that

1:00:42.840 --> 1:00:45.000
<v Speaker 1>they're like still married this long and they had like

1:00:45.080 --> 1:00:50.120
<v Speaker 1>a big issue, you know. But as the person who

1:00:50.800 --> 1:00:53.520
<v Speaker 1>done that, if you just wanted to tell Jolie or

1:00:53.600 --> 1:00:58.480
<v Speaker 1>tell not a spite, but just like the first issue

1:00:58.520 --> 1:01:01.720
<v Speaker 1>that she comes up with her first boyfriend and she's

1:01:01.760 --> 1:01:05.160
<v Speaker 1>fifteen and impressionable, and you say that you know, daddy

1:01:05.240 --> 1:01:07.320
<v Speaker 1>cheated on me, so it's okay, like you can get

1:01:07.320 --> 1:01:09.680
<v Speaker 1>stronger from this, And she's like, wait what because her

1:01:09.720 --> 1:01:13.360
<v Speaker 1>image of me is not that person, because you know

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<v Speaker 1>from the time you know now the only person, the

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<v Speaker 1>only dash who knows is the president carrying, affectionate, loving

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<v Speaker 1>father that I am now not the distant you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a piece of crap. So for me, I wouldn't want

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<v Speaker 1>that image tarnished unless it was something that she could

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<v Speaker 1>actually learn from. So what happens when she does google it?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, granted we're still together, you know, because if

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<v Speaker 1>we're a divorce and it's like, well, obviously like she's

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<v Speaker 1>going to know, like there's issues together opimist Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm just saying, like, you know, but if we're

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<v Speaker 1>when we're still together down the road and she does

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<v Speaker 1>like what happens, and that's fine, that's fine. She discovers

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<v Speaker 1>it and she wants to come. She might google it

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<v Speaker 1>at four I mean, god, kids are online now, and

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<v Speaker 1>she might and she probably will. That's probably how it's

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<v Speaker 1>going to happen. And that's fine. If she googles that.

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<v Speaker 1>Then we sit down and we had the discussion about

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<v Speaker 1>what happened to an extent, about how we fought through it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, all the work that we put in. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the kind of work that relationships take. Yeah, And

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<v Speaker 1>because we love you, Julian, we love your brother, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to do everything we possibly could to make

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<v Speaker 1>this work. And look at us we have. Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>it's just coming from us an unsolicited manner when it's

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<v Speaker 1>not something relevant to a lesson she needs to learn.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't think is the way to do it. Yeah, okay, John,

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<v Speaker 1>what'd you find? Good? God, this is the most comprehensive

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<v Speaker 1>study it even with like um the occupations that people

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<v Speaker 1>have that are most likely to get divorced. But I

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<v Speaker 1>was reading this in every thirteen seconds, there is a

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<v Speaker 1>divorce in America every thirteen seconds. Yes, that equates to

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<v Speaker 1>seventies seven divorces per hour, six thousand, six hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>forty six divorces per day, forty six thousand, five hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and twenty three divorces per week, and two million, four

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<v Speaker 1>hundred nineteen thousand, one hundred ninety six divorces per year.

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<v Speaker 1>Rest there are nine divorces in the time it takes

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<v Speaker 1>for one couple to recite their wedding vows, which is

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<v Speaker 1>two minutes. People, nine divorces every two minutes. There's been

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<v Speaker 1>three divorces since you started talking about this. Wow. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we need to divorce lawyers. Yeah right, yeah right, you're

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<v Speaker 1>very aggressive. They are very aggressive. Are you kidding me?

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<v Speaker 1>Every woman would hire Janna as Harry divorce lawyer and

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<v Speaker 1>get them by the ball's second career hurts. That's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's sad. But but marriages are down to he says,

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<v Speaker 1>are they people are getting married like they used to?

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's okay. I always say I am

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<v Speaker 1>Goldie hawnting it the rest of my life. See, I

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<v Speaker 1>disagree with that they do. But I for some reason, like, Okay, Amy,

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<v Speaker 1>can we get Goldie hana on please? I want to

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<v Speaker 1>ask her because I think for some people, yeah, it

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<v Speaker 1>might work, but for me personally, it's I I do

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<v Speaker 1>believe in the marriage. I do believe in that. What's

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<v Speaker 1>that called like the foundation the sacrament of marriage? And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's for me that's I just I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. I couldn't. I couldn't just be have a

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<v Speaker 1>partner for the you know, if Michael and I were

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<v Speaker 1>to get divorced, yeah, I mean I would want to

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<v Speaker 1>get married again. Like even in my head, I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I just I would just whatever. But for for what

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<v Speaker 1>I want my kids to see and I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I just believe in it. I believe in the spiritual union,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever that may be in the future. I would love

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<v Speaker 1>to have some incredible shaman do perform some incredible ceremony.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't feel like I need to go down

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<v Speaker 1>to the courthouse and get a piece of paper that's

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<v Speaker 1>stamped and gives me five days to get married. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I'm just old school with that. Where are

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<v Speaker 1>you out of mike? Um, we have therapy, couple of

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<v Speaker 1>therapy and seven minutes okay, and then not answering that question. No, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm old school. And my parents have been married

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<v Speaker 1>for gosh, thirty probably close to thirty five years, um,

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<v Speaker 1>And they've been the only ones that have either been

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<v Speaker 1>married or remain married on both sides of my family,

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<v Speaker 1>the only ones. And they are each one of four children,

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<v Speaker 1>the only ones out of both sides of my family.

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<v Speaker 1>So they have been the foundation for that, and they

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<v Speaker 1>have been through their their crap, and so they have

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<v Speaker 1>been a role model in a relationship since of that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I strongly believe marriage because of them. And according

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<v Speaker 1>to the study, your fourteen percent less likely to get

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<v Speaker 1>divorced because of my parents, because of your parents. But

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<v Speaker 1>then but then, like, okay, so I hear that. But

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<v Speaker 1>then like, but then why didn't you like like why

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<v Speaker 1>didn't you love our marriage? More? Like it depends on

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<v Speaker 1>everyone still has issues, Like if you idle, I know,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just for me, I'm like, if you idolize

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<v Speaker 1>our marriage so much a lot more now in the

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<v Speaker 1>place that I'm not right, I have a greater appreciation

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<v Speaker 1>with what we're going through, with what they have because

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<v Speaker 1>we're in the trenches doing work, and I know my

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<v Speaker 1>parents were in the trenches doing work for a long

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<v Speaker 1>long time. So I see what we can have. And

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<v Speaker 1>they're probably more in love now than they ever were. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>and you too will are in will continue. But but

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<v Speaker 1>I will say I do sig with Genda's sense of

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<v Speaker 1>if that makes two people happy, well, of course, do

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<v Speaker 1>whatever makes you happy. I'm just saying my personal opinion

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<v Speaker 1>is I believe in marriage. My only fear with the

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<v Speaker 1>Goldie Haunting it is someone um is one of the

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<v Speaker 1>partners in that relationship or not. Maybe they're not being

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<v Speaker 1>completely honest in genuine like maybe they do really want

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<v Speaker 1>to get married, but their partner is so set on

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<v Speaker 1>Goldie haunt in it that is the thing, um that

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<v Speaker 1>they just conformed to that. So that's my only fear.

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<v Speaker 1>Every both both parties would have to feel the same way,

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<v Speaker 1>would have to feel safe, and there's not resentment under right. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So this has been an awesome show and I want

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<v Speaker 1>to thank Michael jen easton UM a huge thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for the record, Thank you Bristal Farms, because this whole

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<v Speaker 1>show I did with like cookie my teeth and I've

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<v Speaker 1>been like trying to pick it with my tongue the

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<v Speaker 1>whole time on my phone, like how many talcolate chips have? Myth?

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<v Speaker 1>But thank you having killing them? All right, baby, you

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<v Speaker 1>ready go to a couple of therapy. Let's do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Good buck, thanks bye? Would you ready go to it?