1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,239 Speaker 1: Mm from grandmothers who whispered in their baby girl in 2 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: were fired. You will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who growing into hymnals 7 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored Alchemedo cheriots to keep 9 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood, be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: Opal Brown courts bloodstone and prayer, be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: Jim se King told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the ant us, 13 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: and the ancestors told me that you would come to 14 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: give wisdom. Thousands. They said you would come. Dropping Dropping Jim. 15 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of The Dropping Jim's Podcast, 16 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: Episode thirty. I'm your host, Debbie Brown, and on today's show, 17 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:22,960 Speaker 1: we are going to be focusing on how to meet 18 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,200 Speaker 1: your inner child. I know a lot of people are 19 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: starting to get more familiar with that vernacular that speaking 20 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: of ourselves as that kind of little us versus the 21 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:39,279 Speaker 1: current us. This work, though um that's being sprinkled around 22 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: the Graham is some of the most powerful work that 23 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: you can ever do on yourself. I've spent the last 24 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: two years deeply embroiled in meeting, healing, loving and accepting 25 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: all the versions of me that I've been so far, 26 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 1: everything that came before the point, and one of the 27 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: most difficult parts of this leg of my journey, but 28 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 1: also one of the most healing points of it, has 29 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: been really spending time engaging with the wounded little girl 30 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 1: that has lived inside of me. Little Debby, that's what 31 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 1: we'll call her for the rest of this episode. So 32 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 1: take a moment right now before we get started, and 33 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,840 Speaker 1: let's get grounded together. This episode can potentially be a 34 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: little bit triggering, it can also be so deeply nourishing 35 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,799 Speaker 1: and liberating. So let's just as we're listening, if it's comfortable, 36 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: take a moment to take a deep breath in together, 37 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 1: in handing through your nose and exhaling. We'll do that 38 00:02:46,360 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: two more times together inhale and last breath together, eyes 39 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: gently closed. If it's comfortable, in hill and excel and 40 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: just stay right there for a second. I still gently closed, 41 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:20,079 Speaker 1: and I want you to just hold space for you 42 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: to invite into the room the beautiful little you and 43 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:30,000 Speaker 1: whatever image you just saw of yourself. As I said that, 44 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: it's the perfect age. It's the perfect version of yourself 45 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: to work with. It's the piece of you that has 46 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: been wanting to be experienced and engaged with. So hold 47 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: in front of your mind right now, with your eyes 48 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 1: still gently closed, just natural breathing in and out. See 49 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: that version of you. And what was that version of 50 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: you called? Did you have a nickname at whatever age 51 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: you're experiencing right now, childhood nickname from you were friends, 52 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: something affirming, not languaging. That may have been teasing or minimizing. 53 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: Maybe you were just little blank, or maybe you had 54 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: a different nickname, but whatever is coming forward, let's just 55 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: plant that seed in our mind side that tiny version 56 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: of ourselves were visualizing right now at whatever age and 57 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 1: whatever that version of you was referred to as. Let's 58 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,839 Speaker 1: plant that inner mind right now and we are going 59 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 1: to be spending time with them for the rest of 60 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: this show. All right, whenever it feels comfortable, you can 61 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:49,159 Speaker 1: gently open your eyes back up, get back into whatever 62 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,919 Speaker 1: multitasking you may be doing as you hear my voice, 63 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:58,240 Speaker 1: all right, so that what you just experienced right now 64 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 1: is your inner child, and to quickly whatever comes forward first, 65 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: though there is healing to be done at every layer 66 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 1: and juncture of the journey, at every age, at every experience. 67 00:05:11,520 --> 00:05:13,719 Speaker 1: The version of you that may have popped forward in 68 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: your mind just now, that is the one that your 69 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,840 Speaker 1: spirit wants you to begin with. So that may be 70 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 1: the one that needs a little more acknowledgment first before 71 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 1: you dive into other ages. So that version of you 72 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 1: has entered the room, and let's get let's get started. 73 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: So I first realized I needed to do some inner 74 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:40,280 Speaker 1: child healing when it became clear to me that that 75 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: was the peace of my journey I had been avoiding. 76 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: I have been steeped into some of this uh self enrichment, 77 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: selfology work, this self discovery work for really specifically and 78 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: diligently the last ten years. So I do experience myself 79 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: as someone that has been on this journey since they 80 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: were born. Um. I can remember at really young ages 81 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: different observations I made about the world and about myself, 82 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: or different curiosities I had about feelings or why people behaved. 83 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:14,440 Speaker 1: The way that they behaved. So I kind of view 84 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:18,159 Speaker 1: different childhood moments as truly the beginning of my spiritual awakening. 85 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: And then I've been given a ton of curriculum since 86 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: then to work with to build upon. But when I 87 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: when I really started realizing some of the deeper work 88 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 1: I was doing, I'll never forget I had had this 89 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 1: big breakthrough in my life where I realized that I 90 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 1: was sabotaging myself and keeping myself from my own love 91 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: because of the way that I experienced my resilience. So 92 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 1: what I mean by that is I was driving and 93 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: I had this breakthrough. I was kind of walking myself 94 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 1: through a process of thoughts, and I'm always in my 95 00:06:55,600 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: friend groups considered the strong friend have been my whole life. 96 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:04,680 Speaker 1: There's always been this perception of perhaps supernatural strength or 97 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,840 Speaker 1: grace in me um, which is there, but I don't 98 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 1: always want to use it. Um I was. I was 99 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: really thinking about myself in that role that I was 100 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: kind of put into, and I was evaluating did I 101 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 1: still want to give that permission? Did I still want 102 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: to be showing up as that perception that other people 103 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 1: had of me? Or was I really craving an opportunity 104 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:34,360 Speaker 1: to soften and an opportunity to extend my extend and 105 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: expand my heart into a space of receiving and being 106 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 1: on the receiving end of strength and support sometimes. So 107 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: as I was walking myself through that thought, the next 108 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: thing that came up for me was one of my 109 00:07:48,640 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: greatest breakthroughs about my identity and freeing myself from that 110 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: constriction which was my entire identity was built around, was 111 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: ailience that the way that I valued myself, the thing 112 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: that I took a lot of pride in, was not 113 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: just how perceived strong I was, but really that my 114 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: worth and my value was tied into how much pain 115 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: I could tolerate, how much pain I could feel but 116 00:08:21,920 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: still keep going. And when that breakthrough came to me, 117 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: for me, it was massive because I realized, first and foremost, 118 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to live like that. I want to 119 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: have a life overflowing with joy and pleasure. I do 120 00:08:35,800 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 1: not want to be on the offensive constantly um rehearsing 121 00:08:40,600 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 1: tragedy and waiting for the other shoot to drop, or 122 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: waiting for the moment that I'm going to have to 123 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: gear up to go to battle or be a warrior, 124 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 1: be strong, I was sick of it. So as I 125 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:55,680 Speaker 1: sat in that thought, Um, the next piece that came 126 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:59,679 Speaker 1: up was how I envisioned myself now. So the way 127 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,559 Speaker 1: that I experienced myself now, and by now, I mean 128 00:09:02,559 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: when I was having this conversation in my car with 129 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: me about two years ago. Um, the way that I 130 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: was experiencing myself was with deep pride. Actually, I really 131 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: loved the version that I had become two years ago. 132 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 1: I really loved who I was and the way that 133 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:20,679 Speaker 1: I was showing up with myself. But then when I 134 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 1: thought about younger me, it was kind of like, you 135 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: go away, you don't deserve to be a part of this. 136 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: So I had I had been compartmentalizing myself. I was 137 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,840 Speaker 1: joyous and grateful for the woman I had become. I 138 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,840 Speaker 1: was walking around like, Yeah, you have a ship. Look 139 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:41,839 Speaker 1: at you doing it, doing the things right. Look at 140 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 1: you feeling good. Look at you, you know, having a 141 00:09:45,160 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 1: great life. But then if I thought of my childhood 142 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: or I thought of myself at different ages, it was 143 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 1: kind of like go away. It was an irritation, it 144 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: was a disappointment, it was a wanting to hide. And 145 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: when I looked at that and I realized that that's 146 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: how I was treating a child child me. It just 147 00:10:08,559 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: became very clear that something in that had my healing 148 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 1: written all over it, that something was in that that 149 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 1: I needed to start getting curious about, and that there 150 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: was freedom there for me. So the first thing that 151 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: I did, I got this amazing, amazing guidance from doctors 152 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: Ron and Mary Holnick, who have a beautiful program that 153 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,200 Speaker 1: they that they run around doing so much of this 154 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:39,840 Speaker 1: deep excavation work. And Dr Mary Holnick suggested to me, 155 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:45,439 Speaker 1: she said, get a picture of yourself, a picture that 156 00:10:47,200 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: perhaps would make you cringe if you saw it at 157 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 1: a certain age, right and put it in a beautiful frame, 158 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:57,960 Speaker 1: and spend time with her every day. So that's what 159 00:10:58,040 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: I did. I found a picture of an age where 160 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:04,560 Speaker 1: I probably would have not wanted anyone to see this picture, 161 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: where I was in deep judgment of myself for how 162 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: I looked, for what I experienced, for how I felt 163 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: about me. And I put it in a frame, and 164 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:16,440 Speaker 1: I put it on the counter in my bathroom, right 165 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: under where I do my affirmations, and I forced myself 166 00:11:20,480 --> 00:11:23,600 Speaker 1: to look at her and speak life to her every 167 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:27,439 Speaker 1: single day, And the first three weeks were excruciating. I 168 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:33,079 Speaker 1: really resented it. I was really annoyed, I was really triggered. 169 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:38,719 Speaker 1: And then I got down to more compassion. And when 170 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: I started looking at that little girl, I started seeing 171 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: my son, and I started speaking to her with the 172 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 1: same level of life that I would give my son, 173 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: or I would give any child that I saw on 174 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:53,400 Speaker 1: the street, the same level of love and nurturance and 175 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: acceptance and non judgment that we give all children everywhere, 176 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: the reassurance, the support, the safety. I started speaking to 177 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: her like that, and so that sounded like me walking 178 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: up to that picture frame and saying, you are so beautiful, 179 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 1: you were so innately wise, you were so gifted, You're 180 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: so strong, You're so beautiful. You are loved, you are cherished, 181 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 1: you are safe, you are provided for, you are worthy, 182 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 1: you are enough. First couple of weeks, that was awkward, 183 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 1: and it was a little excruciating. A month in changed 184 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:51,320 Speaker 1: my whole life, changed the entire way that I experienced myself, 185 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: and allowed me to really forgive myself for all of 186 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 1: the judgments I was putting on a child who didn't 187 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 1: have the ability to make her own choices, who was 188 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 1: given circumstances that she did not ask for and that 189 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 1: she did not control, and that she had no option 190 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 1: or choice in, and really celebrating her for surviving and 191 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: for showing up and for moving through the world anyway, 192 00:13:19,280 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 1: because the deepest truth of this, if anybody listening has 193 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 1: any level of separation from their tiny self and their childhood, 194 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:34,439 Speaker 1: the deepest truth is that the only reason I'm here 195 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 1: in this moment is because she was amazing. No matter 196 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:46,840 Speaker 1: what judgments I've had of little me, little Debby, she 197 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:51,600 Speaker 1: was amazing, and she survived and she pulled on whatever 198 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 1: tools she had to to be here in this moment 199 00:13:54,640 --> 00:13:58,719 Speaker 1: as this version of me, and that deserves reverence, that 200 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 1: deserves love, that deserves respect. And now I've been walking 201 00:14:03,760 --> 00:14:06,840 Speaker 1: with that little me ever since, and it has changed everything. 202 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 1: And anytime I feel myself triggered, any traumas, any residue 203 00:14:11,800 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: rising through the surface, any old loops kind of replaying themselves, 204 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:18,200 Speaker 1: I just look to spend more time with her and 205 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: make sure she's doing good and she's feeling good about herself, 206 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:25,520 Speaker 1: whether that's in meditation, whether that's through my affirmations, or 207 00:14:25,560 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: whether that is me and that little picture frame being 208 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:31,960 Speaker 1: diligent about the way I not only self care for 209 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: me now, but the way that I reparent myself from then. 210 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: So that is how I began to experience this work. 211 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 1: And my hope is in today's show to really get 212 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:47,520 Speaker 1: your hearts open to exploring that version of you. And 213 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 1: then we'll continue this conversation on the show, and we'll 214 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 1: have other shows where we'll be able to really dive 215 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 1: into this little bit more and have more activities around that. 216 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 1: So I want to start with talking about what is 217 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: it that really creates this separation? You know, I believe 218 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 1: that when it comes to us healing, and I imagine 219 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 1: that every person listening to this show is committed to 220 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: some degree to their own healing and their own nurturance 221 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 1: of love. I believe that in an unhealthy relationship with 222 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 1: our inner child is the number one barrier that we 223 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 1: have up against receiving our own love. It is the 224 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 1: number one barrier that we must work to dissolve if 225 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,360 Speaker 1: we want to become who we are called to be, 226 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 1: and if we want to feel as healed and as 227 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: whole in this life as we deserve to be. So 228 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:47,320 Speaker 1: what is inner child work? Well, Inner child work is 229 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,080 Speaker 1: also referred to as inner child healing, and it's a 230 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: way to address our needs that haven't been met as 231 00:15:53,120 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: children and heal any attachment wounds that we may have developed. 232 00:15:57,520 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 1: So we all have a younger part of ourselves that 233 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:04,840 Speaker 1: was potentially not fully loved in the language name that 234 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:08,600 Speaker 1: perhaps we needed or didn't have the experiences based on 235 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 1: so many outside factors that are conducive to the false 236 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: American ideal that has always perpetuated in front of us. 237 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,280 Speaker 1: And that's where a lot of the wounding comes from too. 238 00:16:18,360 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 1: It's when we come into space where we are looking 239 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: at our childhood and our family structure and holding it 240 00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: up for comparison against a false ideal that has never 241 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: been true for anyone. We create in ourselves a sense 242 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:35,600 Speaker 1: of lack, a sense of not enoughness, and a sense 243 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: of what we had access to not being as great 244 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 1: as everyone else's. So something we talked about in an 245 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 1: episode most recently, UM was this phrasing that I had 246 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 1: heard that really shifted myself, really shifted the way I 247 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:59,520 Speaker 1: thought about childhood me and I was asking an amazing, 248 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 1: brilliant psychologist friend. I said, why, why is the fight 249 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:08,960 Speaker 1: of our life as adults on a journey to remember 250 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 1: that our whole. Why is it the fight of our 251 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:17,399 Speaker 1: life to release this false narrative that we aren't worthy, 252 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 1: that we're not enough. And what she said to me 253 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:25,480 Speaker 1: really floored me. She said, well, a child has to 254 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 1: blame or it will go insane. And so when I 255 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 1: asked for further clarification on what that meant, you know, 256 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 1: she said, well, when you're a child, your only understanding 257 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:43,320 Speaker 1: of God is really your parents, right, they are our 258 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:46,600 Speaker 1: first world. Your mother is very literally your first world. 259 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 1: You are grown inside of her. You interworld into the 260 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 1: world through her entrance through her portal. Right. And when 261 00:17:57,320 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: we are in a home system, our home is really 262 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,160 Speaker 1: all we know of the world, and maybe a tiny 263 00:18:02,280 --> 00:18:05,720 Speaker 1: handful of a couple other places, school of family members 264 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 1: Alice Park, right, But our world is small. It's small, 265 00:18:10,359 --> 00:18:12,879 Speaker 1: and there's just not the ability for a child to 266 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:16,359 Speaker 1: understand that the world is bigger than your immediate circumstance 267 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 1: or your immediate structure. And so when our parents are 268 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,959 Speaker 1: our God in that way, our first experience of the world, 269 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 1: it sets the tone for how we receive ourselves, and 270 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: it sets the tone for how we will feel about 271 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 1: the world, and so much of the way we feel 272 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 1: about our faith. So much of the way we feel 273 00:18:35,600 --> 00:18:39,720 Speaker 1: about our experience in life now is a rooted and 274 00:18:39,760 --> 00:18:43,679 Speaker 1: how we feel about ourselves and how we have processed 275 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 1: and experienced all of the mechanics of what our life 276 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:53,679 Speaker 1: has looked like. Right, So, from that space of a 277 00:18:53,760 --> 00:19:01,080 Speaker 1: child blaming or it will go insane physiologically, biologically if 278 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:05,040 Speaker 1: you were to admit to yourself as a child that 279 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: there was something wrong with your parents, that maybe they 280 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:12,680 Speaker 1: were unsafe or ill equipped, or didn't have the healing 281 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:18,360 Speaker 1: or the emotional intelligence, or were raising you through their woundedness, 282 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:24,200 Speaker 1: which oftentimes shows up as unprocessed emotions, as rage, as 283 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 1: a violence, as excessive discipline, or withholding or emotional isolation, 284 00:19:30,880 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 1: or even just stringent rules and regulations withholding of joy, 285 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:40,119 Speaker 1: you would go into as a child fight or flight response. 286 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: Because you develop mentally, emotionally, and in terms of language, 287 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,920 Speaker 1: you don't have any foundations set yet everything is being 288 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:53,000 Speaker 1: learned as it's being experienced, and without emotional languaging and 289 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 1: without a loving, supportive structure to move through questions and 290 00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:04,439 Speaker 1: life processing, we have to think that it's something wrong 291 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 1: with us, because if it were to be something wrong 292 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 1: with our parental structure, or our households, or the world 293 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 1: that we know. We would not be able to make 294 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:17,200 Speaker 1: sense of anything. We would be in a constant state 295 00:20:17,240 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 1: of fight or flight, which could kill us because we 296 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:23,159 Speaker 1: would deem everything is unsafe and we don't know the 297 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 1: world is any bigger than that small circumstance, So it 298 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 1: would become our tiny prison right. And then when we 299 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 1: come into a space of blaming of self, that's how 300 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:42,119 Speaker 1: we're able to get through. It's actually our at that age, 301 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:44,920 Speaker 1: tool of survival. It's how we're able to keep going 302 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: by believing, well, it's something that is not quite enough 303 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:54,719 Speaker 1: about me, there is something that is not quite fully 304 00:20:54,760 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 1: lovable about me, there is something unworthy about me, and 305 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:07,360 Speaker 1: that's why. And so then it turns into a pattern 306 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:13,040 Speaker 1: very often of people pleasing of codependency, of this false 307 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 1: ideal that love, that respect, that support has to be earned, 308 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 1: that there's a performance quality to the way we have 309 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:27,200 Speaker 1: to be with other people in order to have them 310 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: in our lives, in order to feel safe, in order 311 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 1: to feel enough. So inner child work is the work 312 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: of going back to that youngest, most tender, most wonderable 313 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:47,360 Speaker 1: version of you and reprogramming and reparenting and re teaching 314 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:51,679 Speaker 1: how to experience the world and ourselves and how to 315 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:54,320 Speaker 1: go back through each one of those experiences we had 316 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:58,119 Speaker 1: as a child that changed us and heal it and 317 00:21:58,160 --> 00:22:02,159 Speaker 1: dissolve it and removing need judgment that we began to 318 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: form about ourselves when that happened. So in our child 319 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 1: work is really deeply rooted in lots of self forgiveness, 320 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 1: lots of research and interpretation and understanding about the effects 321 00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:20,000 Speaker 1: that family structures and societal structures have on how we 322 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: feel about us. And I know it sounds like a lot. 323 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,879 Speaker 1: If you're listening right now, I know you're like, oh, 324 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:32,159 Speaker 1: good God, more work. But this work, this work is 325 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 1: the work that really leads to mastery, and it really 326 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:39,480 Speaker 1: leads to ease, and it really leads to such a firm, 327 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,880 Speaker 1: strong foundation and access to the tools needed that will 328 00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:47,400 Speaker 1: allow you to move through everything else in your spiritual curriculum. 329 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: Everything else you'll experience here with grace and with ease 330 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:57,200 Speaker 1: and with joy and with a connection to your original innocence. 331 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:03,560 Speaker 1: I of it. I love inner child work. So meeting 332 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:08,399 Speaker 1: your inner child, I think first it's really important to 333 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:12,400 Speaker 1: take a valuation of yourself and see what are some 334 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 1: signs that maybe showing up that your inner child needs healing. 335 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 1: So some of the signs can look like feeling highly 336 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,879 Speaker 1: reactive to things that are going on. We can notice 337 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:27,440 Speaker 1: when our wounded inner child appears in our daily lives 338 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 1: when you might find yourself being very reactive to situations 339 00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: or feeling unreasonably irritated or detached from things. So if 340 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:39,679 Speaker 1: something is coming up and it's saying like you're just 341 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:42,320 Speaker 1: noticing that there's charge in your chest about it, but 342 00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: it doesn't actually seem like a big deal, it's not 343 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:50,639 Speaker 1: actually something that is affecting you tangibly, it's important to 344 00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:53,639 Speaker 1: see that reactiveness. It's important to watch out for that 345 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 1: warning sign of maybe taking things out of proportion or 346 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 1: feeling easily reject did right, Like maybe someone doesn't answer 347 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 1: you back with the tone that you wanted and now 348 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 1: you feel rejected by it, or you feel like it 349 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: is somehow in a front, or it's a challenge about you. 350 00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,159 Speaker 1: That is a sign of your inner child needing some healing, 351 00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,560 Speaker 1: needing to be met and loved a little bit more. 352 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:23,400 Speaker 1: Another sign would be sometimes it can manifest itself as 353 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 1: overvaluing independence. So that could be like um. Telling yourself 354 00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: that you don't need anyone, that you don't need help. 355 00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 1: Is anybody listening experience with themselves that someone offers help 356 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:41,199 Speaker 1: like oh here, let me get that for you, or 357 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:42,639 Speaker 1: oh oh day you go oh no, no, no, I 358 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:46,119 Speaker 1: got it, I'll do it. That's a trauma response. Not 359 00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:51,080 Speaker 1: being able to receive. Telling yourself that everything has to 360 00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,680 Speaker 1: be done alone, that everything is on your shoulders because 361 00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,760 Speaker 1: that is some of the experience you've had. That's a 362 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,280 Speaker 1: trauma response, and that is a sign that you're inner 363 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 1: child could be loved a little more fully. Another sign 364 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 1: would be destructive coping behaviors, and that can look like 365 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:13,240 Speaker 1: consuming too much alcohol, buying things, being really connected to 366 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:17,119 Speaker 1: consumerism and thinking that the more you have equates to 367 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,119 Speaker 1: your value, or if you can be perceived or be 368 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,679 Speaker 1: held in a certain kind of way that that equates 369 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: your value and your worth. It can be sexual addictions 370 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 1: or just being very overly sexualized but not in a 371 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 1: way that feels authentically internally empowering. You know. Um. It 372 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,280 Speaker 1: can be if you are cheating a lot in relationships, 373 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:46,360 Speaker 1: or if you are betraying your friends or your partner 374 00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:51,840 Speaker 1: or yourself. That is a destructing coping destructive coping behavior 375 00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 1: of how you are acting out because your inner child 376 00:25:55,880 --> 00:26:00,080 Speaker 1: is unhealed. Gambling over consumption of food on health the 377 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 1: foods chronic for ecrastination, you know, just not getting things done, 378 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,600 Speaker 1: but not really knowing why you're holding yourself and back 379 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:15,000 Speaker 1: that way, or why you are self sabotaging in that way. 380 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 1: Those are destructive coping mechanisms based on an unhealed inner child. 381 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:24,480 Speaker 1: Another one would be poor emotional and poor mental health, 382 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: so that can manifest sometimes as depression, not fairly motivated 383 00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:32,800 Speaker 1: about anything, even the things that you know you potentially 384 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:36,120 Speaker 1: should be excited about or other people are excited about, um, 385 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 1: having troubled difficulties, having fluctuating weight up and down, um, 386 00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,120 Speaker 1: not being able to be fully productive at work, or 387 00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:51,960 Speaker 1: having anxiety, not wanting sex or wanting excessive sex, or 388 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,720 Speaker 1: you know. There's many different ways that this kind of 389 00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:58,280 Speaker 1: imbalance can manifest, but the best way to check it 390 00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,679 Speaker 1: out is to see do I feel aligned? Do I 391 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:06,760 Speaker 1: have the ability to regulate my emotions or experience them? 392 00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:10,840 Speaker 1: Do I give myself permission to experience my emotions fully 393 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 1: or to say them out loud to myself and others? Really, really, 394 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,800 Speaker 1: important to look at that. And another big sign, and 395 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,879 Speaker 1: this is how I think most of us come to 396 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: the understanding that our inner child needs a little bit 397 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:27,359 Speaker 1: of love is around repeating patterns in your relationships, and 398 00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:30,439 Speaker 1: that can be work that can be home. Most often 399 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: it's found in your romantic partnerships or relationships, or in 400 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,920 Speaker 1: your own parenting style. But when you start to notice 401 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 1: that patterns are repeated, maybe it's a narrative that you 402 00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:43,359 Speaker 1: told yourself that you're betrayed or you've been abandoned, and 403 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,120 Speaker 1: now you see that showing up, or you perceive that 404 00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 1: in all of your interactions, or that people don't really 405 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:52,320 Speaker 1: see you um and you see that showing up. Or 406 00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:56,720 Speaker 1: maybe you continue to be in relationship with someone that 407 00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,199 Speaker 1: mirrors a behavior of your parents, whether that was is 408 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:06,480 Speaker 1: perhaps a withholding or a punishment um or creating a 409 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:11,880 Speaker 1: structure where you felt you had to earn attention or appreciation. 410 00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:16,000 Speaker 1: And so when I say all of these different uh 411 00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,880 Speaker 1: signs that you can connect with that your inner child 412 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: needs healing, it's really important to know that none of 413 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:25,439 Speaker 1: this is your fault, and you don't have to judge 414 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:28,639 Speaker 1: yourself for any of this. You don't have to start 415 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,439 Speaker 1: evaluating yourself and then judge it as what am I 416 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,640 Speaker 1: doing wrong? I need to fix me. You know, all 417 00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,639 Speaker 1: of the work that we do in ourselves, all of 418 00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:40,360 Speaker 1: it inner child work and everything else, all of it 419 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 1: is in service to us remembering our wholeness. We are 420 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 1: not fixing ourselves. We are not these broken things that 421 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 1: are in constant need of being glued back together. In truth, 422 00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:56,160 Speaker 1: we are just doing the work so that we can 423 00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:00,720 Speaker 1: remember the innate wholeness that we entered the world with 424 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:05,160 Speaker 1: before everything else gotten the way, before someone told us 425 00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,960 Speaker 1: we were someone else, before we were in a system, 426 00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: before we were trained, before we took on and started 427 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:20,240 Speaker 1: mimicking some of the emotional illiteracy of the adults that 428 00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:23,960 Speaker 1: we knew in our life, before we started subduing ourselves 429 00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:27,120 Speaker 1: and our healing. That's all we're doing is just observing 430 00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: and then trying to reset and reprogram to our inherent 431 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:37,840 Speaker 1: innate worthiness that is always there, that is always available 432 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:57,000 Speaker 1: to us. And so Rising Woman dot Com actually has 433 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:03,320 Speaker 1: this really beautiful um access to information on inner child 434 00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,000 Speaker 1: work and healing trauma. And Susan Anderson, who is the 435 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 1: author of a Journey from Abandonment to Healing I love 436 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 1: the explanation of what that inner child looks and feels 437 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,960 Speaker 1: like that she gives. So the inner child, the little you, 438 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:20,920 Speaker 1: is tender and emotional. Your inner child is the most 439 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 1: innocent part of you, the part that really believed in 440 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:31,200 Speaker 1: full possibility in each moment, in imagination and safety. It's 441 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:35,480 Speaker 1: all about your personal feelings and the primal needs inside 442 00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 1: of you that need to be met. So that piece 443 00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:45,000 Speaker 1: of you is really deep feeling, really sensitive, curious, creative, playful, 444 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,480 Speaker 1: you know, the kid that just wants to know and 445 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 1: learn and explore all the things that we should so 446 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:55,480 Speaker 1: freely be able to do, especially as children. The one 447 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: that desires connection. When I even say that, I imagine 448 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,160 Speaker 1: my little son and always running up to me and 449 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:03,400 Speaker 1: like pulling me down to come down to his height 450 00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 1: and just cutting my hand, my face in his hands 451 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 1: and looking at me. You know, that's how we kind 452 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:13,720 Speaker 1: of connect with one another every day. And so that 453 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 1: that desire to be seen and to see, to have 454 00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:22,840 Speaker 1: intimacy and safety, to be open minded, and to be 455 00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,600 Speaker 1: an expression of your feelings, you know, like that big 456 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:30,800 Speaker 1: toddler energy of I'm angry, you know, yelling, throwing a 457 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 1: tantra when needed really testing out some of your boundaries. 458 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,240 Speaker 1: Feeling sad, being able to cry, and then feeling exuberantly joyful. 459 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:45,400 Speaker 1: Those are all the deepest pieces of little you. And 460 00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,360 Speaker 1: then if you're a wounded inner child, you know, when 461 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:52,840 Speaker 1: we have that wounding, it's uh, it's really connected to 462 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:57,280 Speaker 1: the response to emotional or psychological neglect. And I really 463 00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,080 Speaker 1: want to preface this because I do know that it 464 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 1: not only are some people listening to this and it 465 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:08,480 Speaker 1: begins sometimes in uncomfortable observation and questioning of your parents, 466 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 1: but I also know that I have some parents listening 467 00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 1: um that might be taking on a little guilt and 468 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,800 Speaker 1: shame for their style of parenting with their children. It's 469 00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:19,719 Speaker 1: so important for each of us to know. And I 470 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,959 Speaker 1: know that in some scenarios this will not feel natural, 471 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 1: but it's so so important for us to know that 472 00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:31,120 Speaker 1: every generation that came before us, they did the best 473 00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:35,320 Speaker 1: they could with the tools they had, and especially if 474 00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:39,320 Speaker 1: there was ancestral trauma woven into that, mixed in with 475 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 1: systemic racism, mixed in with the patriarchy, mixed in with 476 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:51,800 Speaker 1: the minimization of women, the marginalization of black and brown communities, 477 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 1: you know, all the layering that goes on that it 478 00:32:54,360 --> 00:33:00,480 Speaker 1: is so important to stress that even in some of 479 00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:09,160 Speaker 1: the most painful experiences, UM, the majority of adults were 480 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:13,680 Speaker 1: always trying their best, and they can only raise us 481 00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:17,280 Speaker 1: and love us and nurture us from the most healed 482 00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:22,360 Speaker 1: parts of themselves. And so many generations before ours never 483 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 1: had the luxury or the privilege of healing anything, never 484 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:29,960 Speaker 1: had the access. We can open Instagram right now and 485 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,959 Speaker 1: I can go directly to a psychology page and find 486 00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:39,280 Speaker 1: a beautiful explanation or unpacking and understanding of my deepest wounds. 487 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:43,640 Speaker 1: Right No one had access to that before, no one there. 488 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 1: There was barely therapy before, let alone free online. There 489 00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:51,880 Speaker 1: was no online, There was no like minded communities for 490 00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: the most part, you know, in a mainstream way, there 491 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:57,960 Speaker 1: was no tribe in a mainstream way for healing. This 492 00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:01,360 Speaker 1: is all new, and this is all such a luxury 493 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,160 Speaker 1: for each of us. So it is important as we 494 00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 1: do this work. A lot is going to come up 495 00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 1: as you're on this journey of healing your inner child. UM. 496 00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,840 Speaker 1: But really, really, if you can push to stay in 497 00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:16,120 Speaker 1: a space of compassion for yourself and also for the 498 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,799 Speaker 1: adults in your life, UM, none of this has been 499 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: easy for anyone, So I just wanted to sprinkle that 500 00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:25,200 Speaker 1: in there. Um. But you know, the wounded inner child, 501 00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,640 Speaker 1: a response to emotional or psychological neglect can look and 502 00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:31,680 Speaker 1: feel like a deep seated belief that you are broken, 503 00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,920 Speaker 1: a deep seated belief that you are broken, a fear 504 00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,880 Speaker 1: of abandonment and a fear of a loss of love. 505 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 1: And sometimes that can look like maybe staying with a 506 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 1: partner for too long when you're not being treated well 507 00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,680 Speaker 1: because you're chasing how you first felt with them, or 508 00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 1: you were just trying to get them to value you again, 509 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,279 Speaker 1: and so you're doing everything you can. You are performing, 510 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,520 Speaker 1: you are contorting, you are manipulating, you were moving in 511 00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:02,399 Speaker 1: hopes of having a return of whatever you are calling love. 512 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,320 Speaker 1: In that moment, that's wounded in her child, feeling insecure, 513 00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:10,400 Speaker 1: having low self esteem, loss of self, and an attempt 514 00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,880 Speaker 1: to gain approval from others. That's that self betrayal where 515 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,680 Speaker 1: you say yes when you wanted to say no. Or 516 00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:22,120 Speaker 1: you know, um, you are in performance in front of 517 00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:25,520 Speaker 1: other people, hoping that they will be pleased, hoping that 518 00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: they will like you, hoping that they will see you, 519 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:31,400 Speaker 1: hoping that they will receive and appreciate you. Wounded in 520 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:36,480 Speaker 1: her child also manifests as being fearful of setting boundaries 521 00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:40,960 Speaker 1: for yourself for your own healthy protection, and being fearful 522 00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:46,319 Speaker 1: of saying no. And it's also seeking instant gratification through 523 00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:52,680 Speaker 1: other substances like shopping or distractions, sex, drugs, liquor, or procrastination. 524 00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:56,480 Speaker 1: So these are all just useful to look at to observe, 525 00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:59,439 Speaker 1: do not be in judgment of yourself, but just say 526 00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,480 Speaker 1: I do do that. Oh wow, that's interesting. Yeah, I 527 00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 1: noticed my chest gets really tight when I'm confronted with 528 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:12,040 Speaker 1: fill in the blank from your own experience, and it's 529 00:36:12,080 --> 00:36:16,200 Speaker 1: just noticing. It's just really building up the fortitude and 530 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:19,319 Speaker 1: the courage to be with yourself even when you don't 531 00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:23,760 Speaker 1: understand yourself, even when you feel in judgment of yourself, 532 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:28,080 Speaker 1: and gifting yourself with the ability to release that. So, 533 00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:31,040 Speaker 1: now let me anchor this conversation and how I was 534 00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:35,560 Speaker 1: experiencing myself when I would open up photo albums and 535 00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,719 Speaker 1: I'd see pictures of little me. For whatever reason, I 536 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:41,520 Speaker 1: created a narrative about my young self that I was 537 00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:46,279 Speaker 1: very unlovable, that I was very unwanted, that I was neglected, 538 00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,759 Speaker 1: and that I was an afterthought for all of the 539 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,799 Speaker 1: adults in my life, that I was the burden, that 540 00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:57,200 Speaker 1: I was the piece that was always um there was 541 00:36:57,239 --> 00:37:01,120 Speaker 1: no time for, or didn't really matter. I felt like 542 00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,520 Speaker 1: I didn't have access to the things that other young 543 00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:06,120 Speaker 1: people had access, that I didn't have the nurturance that 544 00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,799 Speaker 1: I saw other people have. And again, so much of 545 00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:13,600 Speaker 1: this can totally just be tied to my perception from 546 00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,640 Speaker 1: my lack of understanding of the world, and also just 547 00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:21,200 Speaker 1: a lot of bullying I was doing them myself over 548 00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:24,000 Speaker 1: the years, right, Because the deeper truth now that I'm 549 00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:26,880 Speaker 1: in a healed space with minner child, is that she 550 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:32,040 Speaker 1: was amazing and so deep, so cerebral, so funny, so 551 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:40,320 Speaker 1: emotionally intelligent, so thoughtful, so kind, so investigative, so beautiful, 552 00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:44,759 Speaker 1: so sweet, so funny. You know, but based on all 553 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,400 Speaker 1: of the experiences and based on you know, many of 554 00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:54,720 Speaker 1: the ways our parents experienced themselves and mirror self love. 555 00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:59,560 Speaker 1: It changes things. It changes the way we experience, look, 556 00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:04,000 Speaker 1: see love, all of the things with us. So the 557 00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,600 Speaker 1: old me was looking back at that little girl, little me, 558 00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:10,239 Speaker 1: little Dervy, with so much judgment. I'd be like, why 559 00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,879 Speaker 1: was she so disheveled in all these pictures. Why didn't 560 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:15,160 Speaker 1: anyone ever care enough about her to do her hair? 561 00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,279 Speaker 1: Why didn't anyone ever care enough about her to not 562 00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:22,040 Speaker 1: put her and hand me down clothes or in you know, 563 00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:27,560 Speaker 1: adult clothes, Like why why wasn't she given access to 564 00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:31,480 Speaker 1: looking and feeling and being able to behave like a child. 565 00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:35,600 Speaker 1: That is the way I experienced myself. So a lot 566 00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:40,440 Speaker 1: of my reprogramming and reparenting and nurturance of little Dervy 567 00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:44,120 Speaker 1: is just rooted in affirming her and inviting her into 568 00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:47,000 Speaker 1: the to my life now and inviting her into the 569 00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:52,520 Speaker 1: conversations I have now, and feeling grateful for her, really 570 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:55,160 Speaker 1: looking at that little girl with reverence, because if she 571 00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,480 Speaker 1: didn't plow through, I would not be here. If she 572 00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:04,120 Speaker 1: didn't have enough inside of herself to keep going and 573 00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:08,240 Speaker 1: to keep seeking and to keep being curious, I would 574 00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,080 Speaker 1: not be here in this moment. So I want to 575 00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:14,640 Speaker 1: introduce to you guys now this beautiful um archetype that 576 00:39:14,719 --> 00:39:18,560 Speaker 1: was first theorized by psychoanalyst Dr Carl Young, and it's 577 00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:22,759 Speaker 1: called the Divine Child archetype, and it's a series of 578 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:26,279 Speaker 1: archetypes that are representative of milestones, in this process of 579 00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:30,239 Speaker 1: being able to really be in the individual ation of 580 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,640 Speaker 1: yourself and UM. It outlines his theory of what the 581 00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:36,359 Speaker 1: divine child is. So a divine child and you guys 582 00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:40,200 Speaker 1: know how I feel about the word divine. Um. Divine 583 00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:44,360 Speaker 1: child archetypes and characteristics and traits can really look like 584 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,440 Speaker 1: the divine child is both helpless and powerful at the 585 00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:50,399 Speaker 1: same time. So instead of looking at ourselves as weak 586 00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,600 Speaker 1: or somehow minimized, UM, we're able to stand in the 587 00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:56,759 Speaker 1: fullness of like, yeah, you take on this helpless characteristic 588 00:39:56,760 --> 00:39:59,239 Speaker 1: because you are learning how to receive it is how 589 00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,920 Speaker 1: you are shown and what being nurturing is, so that 590 00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:06,359 Speaker 1: you can then share that with yourself and with future generations, 591 00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:11,200 Speaker 1: but also recognizing the power that you actually really held 592 00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:15,960 Speaker 1: and magnetize within yourself. At these ages, the helplessness comes 593 00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:19,319 Speaker 1: from the fact that it's youth ensures that it's still 594 00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:23,200 Speaker 1: reliant on the adult or a more mature influence around them. 595 00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:27,080 Speaker 1: But you're all powerful because that same youth and vitality 596 00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,040 Speaker 1: make you the center of attention all around. So the 597 00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:32,880 Speaker 1: oohs and ahs and oh yeah, do that dance, so 598 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:34,879 Speaker 1: you know all of the ways in which you can 599 00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,760 Speaker 1: show up and be applauded and really celebrated as a child. 600 00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:41,520 Speaker 1: That's the power, and that the attention has mutual benefits, 601 00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:44,680 Speaker 1: both enabling the divine child to flourish, but also bringing 602 00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,400 Speaker 1: to the parent figure a sense of pride and achievement, 603 00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,440 Speaker 1: which benefits them too. And so much of the healing 604 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:54,319 Speaker 1: comes around that too. Write like really evaluating how much 605 00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:57,480 Speaker 1: of my decision making is me trying to make my 606 00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:01,319 Speaker 1: parents happy or proud or get them to notice or 607 00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:04,799 Speaker 1: recognize me or be at peace with me, and how 608 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:07,080 Speaker 1: much of it is really rooted in what my own 609 00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,920 Speaker 1: desires and what my own needs are, and what my 610 00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,040 Speaker 1: own personal trajectory on this earth is and my own 611 00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:17,239 Speaker 1: soul mission. So just observing and just looking at those 612 00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:22,240 Speaker 1: things is so important, And so even just experiencing yourself 613 00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:25,279 Speaker 1: as you begin to meet little you and engage with 614 00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:29,960 Speaker 1: little you and call little you forward, really experiencing little 615 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:33,960 Speaker 1: you as a divine child, and perhaps calling yourself that 616 00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:40,800 Speaker 1: you divine, little you, divine, little DEVI, divine, sacred child. 617 00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:43,640 Speaker 1: That's a lot of the languaging I use with my son. 618 00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,759 Speaker 1: He is called divine constantly, you know, I call I 619 00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:51,799 Speaker 1: call my son a sacred child, A beautiful boy, He's 620 00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,840 Speaker 1: a gorgeous boy. I say those words to him. I 621 00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,960 Speaker 1: want to fill him with that level of not just compliment, 622 00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:01,960 Speaker 1: but authentic empower it from the inside out. Give him 623 00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:06,160 Speaker 1: a taste of how to experience himself as the grandest, 624 00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:10,520 Speaker 1: most fullest version of himself. So really, maybe lend some 625 00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,600 Speaker 1: of that language to you as you are on this journey. So, 626 00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:17,840 Speaker 1: inner child, this is your experience meeting that little you, 627 00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:21,080 Speaker 1: and I just really invite you to spend some time 628 00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:25,320 Speaker 1: before we come back together again to really just start observing. 629 00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,640 Speaker 1: And we'll have another episode moving forward that's really rooted 630 00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,240 Speaker 1: in how to begin the steps of healing your inner child, 631 00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,560 Speaker 1: which is such beautiful work. And trust me, you are 632 00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,880 Speaker 1: ready for it, and you're capable, and you're able and 633 00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:42,080 Speaker 1: you're equipped. But today let's sit here. Let's sit here 634 00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:44,919 Speaker 1: and just offer yourself the opportunity until we come back 635 00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:49,399 Speaker 1: to this conversation to meet yourself more deeply exactly right there. 636 00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:52,360 Speaker 1: So I invite you, as your soul work for this episode, 637 00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:56,480 Speaker 1: to take some time go through some albums. I want 638 00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,800 Speaker 1: you to look out for pictures of you at different 639 00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:03,200 Speaker 1: ages where you either felt really, really good about you. 640 00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:07,240 Speaker 1: Pull those pictures and pictures where you feel in judgment 641 00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:09,759 Speaker 1: of you. You know, maybe a photo that would be 642 00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:15,239 Speaker 1: considered awkward by some or photo that maybe brings to 643 00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:18,640 Speaker 1: light a hardship that you had at that time, whether 644 00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:21,080 Speaker 1: that was in school or in your household or whatever 645 00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:24,200 Speaker 1: the wounding may maybe and where it may lie, and 646 00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:28,280 Speaker 1: bring that picture forward and just create a little collection 647 00:43:28,400 --> 00:43:31,760 Speaker 1: and start spending time with that collection of photos. Find 648 00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:33,520 Speaker 1: one to put in a frame. You can always switch 649 00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,080 Speaker 1: it out later. Don't overthink it. But find a photo, 650 00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:38,440 Speaker 1: put it in a frame, Put it near your affirmations, 651 00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:41,080 Speaker 1: put it near your sacred space, put it somewhere you'll 652 00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,880 Speaker 1: see it, and spend time with that version of you, 653 00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:53,080 Speaker 1: and just start noticing, without judgment, Just start noticing, how 654 00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:56,040 Speaker 1: are you feeling about that little you, what's coming up. 655 00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:59,080 Speaker 1: There's no judgment. If it comes up that I really 656 00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,920 Speaker 1: don't like this and I've uncomfortable and I don't like them, 657 00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:05,800 Speaker 1: that's okay because you're noticing. You're noticing where those triggers 658 00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:09,480 Speaker 1: are lying. You're noticing what your barriers are, You're noticing 659 00:44:09,520 --> 00:44:13,680 Speaker 1: the boundaries you've given yourself to your own love. So 660 00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:18,319 Speaker 1: we're just noticing and take some time to write down 661 00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:22,080 Speaker 1: some thoughts. Just start with some bullet points. If it 662 00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:25,200 Speaker 1: feels comfortable, free form right about it for an hour 663 00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:27,279 Speaker 1: or so. We talked about this a lot actually in 664 00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:30,120 Speaker 1: my Karma Gang community on Carman Gang dot org and 665 00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,879 Speaker 1: on there. I have another tier of our community that's 666 00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:35,520 Speaker 1: called the Mastery Collective, and we just did a big 667 00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:39,680 Speaker 1: eleven week shed challenge around spending time with their inner child. 668 00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:45,120 Speaker 1: And so that comes with quite a bit of surrender 669 00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:52,000 Speaker 1: and journaling, uh, and just really willing to witness yourself. 670 00:44:53,800 --> 00:44:56,480 Speaker 1: So that is your soul work. Start looking through those pictures, 671 00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:59,760 Speaker 1: identify a few that you want to work with. Start 672 00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:01,719 Speaker 1: calling ling that photo by the name you were known 673 00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:05,000 Speaker 1: at in that time, and sending and sharing love and 674 00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,399 Speaker 1: any thoughts that come up. There is no good or bad. 675 00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:12,319 Speaker 1: Any thoughts that come up, start writing them down, start exploring, 676 00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:17,319 Speaker 1: start getting curious about yourself. Be a scholar of you. 677 00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:21,840 Speaker 1: Let's start documenting. Let's start researching. Your life is worthy. 678 00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:25,680 Speaker 1: Your story deserves to be known and told. You deserve 679 00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:29,120 Speaker 1: to be seen. You are seen, and you've always been enough, 680 00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:33,160 Speaker 1: and you've always been worthy, and you've always been lovable 681 00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:38,640 Speaker 1: and you've always been likable. I think I'm gonna end 682 00:45:38,680 --> 00:45:42,280 Speaker 1: this show with UM sharing with you guys some audio 683 00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,279 Speaker 1: of the affirmations I do with my son each night. 684 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,400 Speaker 1: So if it feels comfortable, I want you to listen 685 00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:51,680 Speaker 1: to this and listen back as many times as you wish. 686 00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:55,120 Speaker 1: You can gently close your eyes and you can imagine 687 00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:57,960 Speaker 1: that these words are being said to you as the 688 00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:02,319 Speaker 1: young version of yourself, and really sit and feel and 689 00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,680 Speaker 1: savor how it would have felt if you heard those 690 00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:09,800 Speaker 1: things as a child. And alternatively, you can also listen 691 00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:12,960 Speaker 1: to the affirmations I do every night with Quest since 692 00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,960 Speaker 1: he was born, as we get ready for bed, putting 693 00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:20,920 Speaker 1: the pajamas and doing the nighttime routine. You can also 694 00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,600 Speaker 1: just spend some time with perhaps doing that for the 695 00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:26,640 Speaker 1: child in your life. You know, maybe it can be 696 00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:31,759 Speaker 1: UM a nice little storyboard for the way that you 697 00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:37,320 Speaker 1: want to start leaning some beautiful foundation, some new traditions 698 00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:40,600 Speaker 1: of how you experience and treat the children in your life. 699 00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:42,839 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna go ahead and let that play. Now. 700 00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:48,879 Speaker 1: I love you, I'll see you next episode. Peace, okay, Mom, 701 00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:57,359 Speaker 1: Daddy loves you, God loves you, and you love you. 702 00:46:57,880 --> 00:47:03,840 Speaker 1: Quest loves and accepts himself. You are filled with joint 703 00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:10,839 Speaker 1: enthusiasm for yourself in your life. You are safely or protective. 704 00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:14,840 Speaker 1: You are provided for. You are covered in God's grace. 705 00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:20,640 Speaker 1: You are perfectly designed. You are loved and lovable. You 706 00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:26,040 Speaker 1: are valued and valuable. You are cherished and how that 707 00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:33,320 Speaker 1: is precious by the people your life. You are worthy, 708 00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:41,920 Speaker 1: You're worthy, your whole realthy. You're worthy, you are limitless. 709 00:47:43,480 --> 00:47:49,839 Speaker 1: You are pure potentiality. You're so smart ef You're so 710 00:47:49,960 --> 00:47:57,719 Speaker 1: communicative and brilliant and intelligent, real and worthy. You're creative, 711 00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:08,280 Speaker 1: so expansive. You are discerning and rational. You are loving. 712 00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:13,160 Speaker 1: You have a huge, open, loving heart. You are thoughtful 713 00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:18,880 Speaker 1: and caring and so kind. You're highly intuitive. You are 714 00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:25,200 Speaker 1: deeply connected. You can hear God's voice clearly in your life. 715 00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:29,360 Speaker 1: You are wise. You are deeply connected to your mission 716 00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:35,560 Speaker 1: and your purpose for this life. You are perfect health. 717 00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:41,239 Speaker 1: You will wake up in perfect health the self perfect health. 718 00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:47,359 Speaker 1: That's right. I'm so grateful for you. Mm hmm, I'm 719 00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:53,000 Speaker 1: so grateful for questions. I love and let's do your prayers? 720 00:48:54,760 --> 00:49:01,160 Speaker 1: We say what do we say? Dear God, Dear God, 721 00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:07,640 Speaker 1: thank you for blessing us. Thank you, for loving us, 722 00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:11,560 Speaker 1: Thank you for your protection, thank you for having us, 723 00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 1: your grace and all your abundance. We're so grateful, and 724 00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:20,000 Speaker 1: we praise your name. Amen, and what else we say? 725 00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:24,120 Speaker 1: Mommy promises I will always be here to love, protect 726 00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:27,960 Speaker 1: and support you, and I will always give you the 727 00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:35,799 Speaker 1: best version of me possible forever, no matter what. Are 728 00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:44,680 Speaker 1: you ready for your meditation? Okay, let's do it? Oh Sam, 729 00:49:51,280 --> 00:50:08,560 Speaker 1: what my oh so nah my, my MoMA. Okay, one 730 00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:10,520 Speaker 1: more time and then we go to Sleepy, It's okay, 731 00:50:10,960 --> 00:50:31,279 Speaker 1: go to sleep. It's okay, oh so nah, it's so 732 00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:34,680 Speaker 1: good by. We're gonna go to sleep now, go to 733 00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:39,319 Speaker 1: sleep now. I love you very much, Brass. You are 734 00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:46,920 Speaker 1: so loved. Quest you are more than enough. You know 735 00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:51,560 Speaker 1: how to set and maintain healthy boundaries from your life chality, 736 00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:59,960 Speaker 1: pure potentiality. That's right. Have sweet dreams, and my baby, 737 00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:04,840 Speaker 1: give all the nourishing rest that's your mind, body and 738 00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:11,839 Speaker 1: soul need. I trust You're gonna please so gently, so effortlessly, 739 00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:14,880 Speaker 1: and I cannot wait to see you in the morning. Okay, 740 00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:23,319 Speaker 1: I love you. Have sweet drinkings. Hey, find me on 741 00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:27,719 Speaker 1: social Let's connect at Debbie Brown that's Twitter and Instagram 742 00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:31,239 Speaker 1: or go to my website Debbie Brown dot com. And 743 00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:34,320 Speaker 1: if you're listening to the show on Apple Podcasts, please 744 00:51:34,440 --> 00:51:41,000 Speaker 1: please please don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe, and 745 00:51:41,120 --> 00:51:44,200 Speaker 1: send this episode to a friend. Dropping Jams is the 746 00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,920 Speaker 1: production of I Heart Radio and the Black Effect Network. 747 00:51:47,320 --> 00:51:50,919 Speaker 1: It's produced by Triple and Me Debbie Brown. For more 748 00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:54,080 Speaker 1: podcasts from My heart Radio, visit the I heart Radio app, 749 00:51:54,280 --> 00:52:26,840 Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.