WEBVTT - Ep 239 - Ownership = Wealth 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.400 Mandra, Do you know what I need? I need to 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:06.120 walk in these streets in my BA swag. You know 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:08.160 what I'm really looking forward to? First of all, be 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:12.200 your own Brown Boost. What an awesome phrase. I cannot 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:14.360 wait to wear that on my chest like Superman. And 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:16.840 what I'm really excited for, though, is I am a 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:20.720 sweatshirt and like hoodie girl. So the classic Brown Ambition 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.520 logo sweatshirt has my name all over it. 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:25.480 But where can I go? Where can I find it? 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:29.240 I was hoping you would ask Young Tiffany. Tiffany, get 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:33.480 your Brown Ambition swag at Brown Ambitionstore dot com. 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Yes, 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:10.440 with Brown Ambition fifteen, that's promo code Brown Ambition fifteen 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:13.520 all one word, you can get fifteen percent off your 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:15.720 order at Brown ambitionstore dot com. 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:18.520 I can't wait to see y'all in these BA streets 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:38.360 repping BA bam with your BA swag. Hey. 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:46.319 Hey, hey we're back. We're black Capital B. We're Brown 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:50.480 Capital B as well ambition. Hey man scha ambition. 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:53.920 Hey, thanks for reminding me. I gotta I did. I 0:01:53.960 --> 0:01:55.880 forgot to put that on a damn T shirt for y'all. 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:57.640 I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do. 0:01:57.880 --> 0:01:59.440 Don't forget capital b's all the way. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:03.640 Yes, Actually, you know, the Associated Press itself is officially 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.960 capitalizing black, and so are we at our you know, 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:10.520 our very influential content team at lending Tree, we also 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:14.160 were capitalizing black. Yeah, times have it changed. 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:17.760 No, that's good for the for the better. So I 0:02:17.800 --> 0:02:19.520 know it's not time for like brown booths. But I've 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:21.400 got a little something on my chest. I want to 0:02:21.400 --> 0:02:21.760 get off. 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:23.120 Okay, go for it. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.920 So why is it that all these businesses now? I 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:27.200 guess it's strange. 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:29.679 So I'm getting you know, so y'all know, I have 0:02:29.720 --> 0:02:32.760 my business, the budget Nissa, and sometimes people will offer like, hey, 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.280 we want you to do like, you know, a keynote 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:38.840 or a panel or whatever it is, and the type 0:02:38.840 --> 0:02:41.799 of discounts they're wanting because they're like, well. 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:44.000 It's digital, and I'm like, wasn't this digital last year? 0:02:44.440 --> 0:02:47.760 So people are asking for ridiculous discounts, Like I just 0:02:47.800 --> 0:02:50.760 got an offer to tape like for damn near two days. 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:53.800 It was so much work and then they were like 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:55.600 and here's the pittance. 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:57.400 And I just couldn't believe it was a huge brand 0:02:57.440 --> 0:03:00.000 that has plenty of money, actually had a huge, huge 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:03.560 brand that just got some five just set aside five 0:03:03.680 --> 0:03:07.080 hundred million dollars for black initiatives, offered me to speak 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:11.280 for free, and I'm like, wait, a billion dollar company, 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:14.560 you just set aside money for this initiative. So it's 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.960 just very frustrated. I know it's not time for Brown Boost, 0:03:17.040 --> 0:03:18.760 but I don't know if y'all have seen that in 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:22.080 these these streets of yours, if you're seeing that people 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:25.480 are trying to undervalue and undercut even more now and 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:27.079 blame me it on COVID, And I just want to 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:28.360 tell you companies to stop it. 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:31.360 Well, I mean, I actually was going to talk about 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:35.400 this potentially as a brown break or boost, but it's 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:37.120 kind of the other side of the coin. And that's 0:03:37.120 --> 0:03:39.080 a really good point that you're making. It's like, how 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:42.640 do you ask for what you're worth? Even considering COVID times. 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:47.800 For me, I've negotiated the price of services with professionals 0:03:48.240 --> 0:03:51.080 that I haven't negotiated in the past, and I've had 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:54.120 to be like, look, I want to pay half of 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:56.400 what you quoted me. Is that cool? And they both 0:03:56.440 --> 0:03:58.720 said yes, because I mean so it's kind of like 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.440 I'm kind of taking advantage of COVID times to really 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:03.720 want to negotiate. 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:06.800 Ticket line. 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:08.760 Don't quite listen. 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.640 I don't have five hundred million dollars, but I'm also 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.640 not spending seven hundred dollars on some balloons for my 0:04:13.640 --> 0:04:15.920 birthday for my for my son's birthday party. Not I 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.279 ain't have an inra but yeah, if you're in my 0:04:18.520 --> 0:04:20.880 It's funny because the same business that h did the 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:23.200 balloons from a baby shower, I reached out to them 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:25.839 for my for for Rio's birthday because I'm trying to 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:27.800 do something small in the house. I'm just like, can 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:30.159 we get like an Elmo balloon display or whatever for 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:32.919 the gram She quoted me seven hundred and I was like, 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:35.760 let me, let me go get a helium tank real quick. 0:04:36.240 --> 0:04:39.159 And and Google had to make a balloon arch but 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:41.159 now she cut it down more than half. Uh. And 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:44.479 then the same thing where I'm I'm hiring the same 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:48.520 designer who helped with our sourcing items and like doing 0:04:48.520 --> 0:04:50.560 the interior design for our house. She's going to help 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:53.400 me redo the basement to turn it into my what 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:55.400 do you call it when it's a girl cave whatever 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:59.320 she said, but like more than a she shaid a 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:01.960 she studio. It's going to be or it's going to 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:04.080 be my office because I don't really have my own space, 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:06.400 Like all my company knows what my bedroom looks like, 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:09.640 which is really weird to me and uncomfortable. So I 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:12.520 returning the basement into like a little workout area and 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:15.720 it's going to double as an office space and then 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:17.599 a recording space so I can do the podcast and 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:19.080 also from a channel. 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:22.200 I love it, YouTube channel. 0:05:23.320 --> 0:05:25.720 So I mean, I'm happy to support their businesses, which 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:27.720 I you know, but I'm also which I feel good 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:29.880 about But I'm also like, if you guys had ever 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:33.479 a time to negotiate, it is time, you know, because 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:35.400 people are willing to cut their prices just to get 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:35.760 a gig. 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.520 I know, but I guess sometimes I know I'm on 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:41.320 the other side. Well, you know, it's not like you 0:05:41.360 --> 0:05:43.520 are a regular person, so I can understand that. But like, 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:46.840 you can't be a billion dollar company literally that has 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:52.320 a Black people Advancement initiative and be like, oh girl, yeah, 0:05:53.160 --> 0:05:56.479 literally there was two and I if I were to 0:05:56.520 --> 0:06:00.280 tell you the names of the companies, You're like, no way, yeah, 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:03.120 what you have served trillions. I'll just say like that 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:07.320 according to what you say, come on, now, you don't 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:08.400 have a speaker's fee. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:12.479 I just so you could push back, and what happened, Yeah. 0:06:12.360 --> 0:06:14.520 No, I pushed back, and I just said, hey, cause 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:16.839 the good thing is I have not only do I 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.279 have my rate, So I use canvas see a NBA. 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:19.839 Y'all should use it. 0:06:19.839 --> 0:06:21.760 It's free unless you want to get the upgraded version. 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:25.599 And I create like a like I guess it's like 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:28.080 kind of like a media speaker kit where it's like 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.640 my picture, my bio, but also my numbers. Like we've 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:33.240 helped over a million women save this amount of money, 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.719 and my social media hits and how many emails I 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:39.560 have just to show kind of like in a snapshot holistically, 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:43.240 you know, the strength of the brand. And then I 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:45.039 at the end, I'm like, okay, here are my rates. 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:46.480 You know, this is how much I charge for this, 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:49.400 this and this, and we submit them so that way 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:51.240 it's not just like I'm not just saying, hey, pay 0:06:51.279 --> 0:06:53.960 me this. And so at first the company came to 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:55.520 me and said, hey, we'd love for you to speak it. 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:57.479 I was excited because I'm like, wow, the names don't 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:00.040 get bigger than this. And I was like okay, and 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:02.640 they said, well one, you know, can you send your rates? 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:04.520 And I said, sure, set my rates and then they 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:07.080 were like, ooh, actually this is a little higher than expected. 0:07:07.120 --> 0:07:08.640 And I said, okay, well you know, what are your 0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:10.800 rates because maybe there's some wiggar room. And then they 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:13.440 came back and said, ooh, actually my bad, we don't 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:14.080 have any money. 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:20.320 Oh keep me in mind for future opportunities. So yes, 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:21.960 I'm like, so, how are you gonna ask me for 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.680 my rates? And then say actually, Psych will give you 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.760 our rates. Okay, actually Psych Psych we. 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:27.600 Don't have any money. 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:31.440 And you know what's really frustrating is that manby every 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:34.400 time it happens, it's for their black you know how, 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:36.080 Like I don't know if you have to set lending tree, 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:38.320 but like some of these like really big companies have 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:40.160 like their their black what do they call it, like, 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:42.000 you know, like almost like they have a black group 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:42.520 within the. 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:46.240 It's literally like the Black employee network group or whatever. 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:48.280 I've been part of my fair share. 0:07:48.560 --> 0:07:51.880 Yeah, so almost I would say ninety percent of the 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:55.680 time that a huge organization doesn't want to pay it's 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.920 for me to speak to their black employee network, which 0:07:57.920 --> 0:07:59.600 is very disheartening, you know. 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:00.760 Yeah. 0:08:00.800 --> 0:08:03.520 So if typically if it's like, hey, come speak to everyone, 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:05.360 it's like, oh, we have some money for you. Oh 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:08.240 the Black employee network all growing. We don't pay anybody 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:11.640 for those people. And it's very telling. And so I've 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:15.160 actually turned down some huge names where maybe before I 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.200 would have done it, you know, just for the exposure. 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.600 But I'm like, you know what doesn't pay bills exposure? 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:23.200 Exposure, right, because who's going to be watching, who's at 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:26.400 this company? Who's your audience, you know exactly? So yeah, yeah, 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:29.400 so it's just very disappointing. Girl. You got to stand 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:31.520 in your truth and you know what you're worth these days. 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:33.840 But you're right, I mean when it comes to when 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:37.280 it comes to it's like the whole appraisal thing with homes, 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:39.680 right when you find out it's in a black neighborhood 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:42.840 or you know, has a very diverse community, Often you're 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:45.680 undervalued and it's almost like you're out of all the 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:48.080 financial experts and you are unique because there aren't that 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:52.120 many people at your level women of color, and it's 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.560 sad to see that even even you still have to 0:08:54.600 --> 0:08:57.800 deal with this. But it's only going to change if 0:08:57.880 --> 0:08:59.800 you speak out and keep sharing it and show that 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:02.439 you're brave enough to you know, kno back down. 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:07.400 Yeah, yeah, it's important because if you don't, here's the thing, 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:11.160 and I remember you said this and it stuck with me, Mandy. 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:12.800 You I think you were answering like. 0:09:12.760 --> 0:09:16.319 A question and you said that basically, if you don't 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:20.240 negotiate your salary when you first start working, you spent 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:22.120 basically your whole career trying to catch up. 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:25.319 Yep, and that always thank you for quoting me back 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.120 to me. This is just making my day. I'm like 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:29.120 I agree with that. 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:34.680 Oh I said, nobody was so powerful because even though 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:36.800 I wasn't, I didn't take the advice as far as 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:39.679 me like negotiating my salary. But what I did think 0:09:39.679 --> 0:09:43.319 to myself is Mandy's right. Then if I say, hey, 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.360 huge company, you don't have to pay me, word gets 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:49.160 out and then it's like you're always fighting to regain 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:49.720 that footing. 0:09:50.080 --> 0:09:50.679 And I get it. 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.600 You know, fifventy ten years ago, who was like, girl, 0:09:52.679 --> 0:09:54.000 I'm sorry, we have no groceries. 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:55.880 We're doing it for fifty bucks. I would do it 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:56.800 for fifty bucks. I get it. 0:09:56.840 --> 0:10:00.000 I'm not shading anyone who's first starting and they take less. 0:10:00.200 --> 0:10:04.720 But I challenge you to figure out and not quickly 0:10:04.840 --> 0:10:08.400 learn how to figure out how to make money outside 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:11.760 of the budget Nissa, until people were willing to pay 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:13.320 me what I believe I was worth. It took me 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:15.400 probably like three or four years when I first started 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:17.480 to finally say, you know what, we're not doing, Tiffany 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.760 all this stuff for free, like I don't mind doing 0:10:21.000 --> 0:10:22.839 to me, Oh, we church wants me to speak for free? 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:25.280 Got you? Boys and Girls Club? Sis? 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.280 Yes, oh you're not a way got you? But you 0:10:28.280 --> 0:10:30.640 know it's so crazy. It's those organizations that always want 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:30.920 to pay. 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:31.640 You know. 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.800 I've had little churches with like ten people say we 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:36.840 took a love offering Tiffany, and here's some money, you know, 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:40.120 and so yeah, like I said, it's just and it's 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:44.920 just frustrating. But it's also important that you understand your worth. 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:47.640 And I mean not to quote, you know, the illustrious 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:49.880 Kanye West, but I was just reading. 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:52.280 Do you do you do? 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:56.720 You know the styary of Kanye and like his Nike 0:10:56.800 --> 0:10:58.360 deal versus Adidas deal. 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:01.480 Yeah, something is ringing a bell, but yeah, go for it. 0:11:02.040 --> 0:11:05.920 So like in like in two thousand and seven, he 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:08.400 I think he met the CEO of Nike and was like, hey, 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:10.920 you know, I think we should work together. I would 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:13.400 let's design a shoot together, and Nike was like, bet, 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:17.360 let's do this. And so he from in two thousand 0:11:17.600 --> 0:11:20.280 like nine, I think like he started like the official 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:22.520 release of like the Yeezy's, like the Air Yeezys came 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:25.679 out and it seemed like everything was like going great, 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:29.560 but he was like Nike, yo, I want like a 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:32.240 Michael Jordan deal. You know, I want royalties from every 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:35.960 state from every sale. He said, I want to be like, like, 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.640 like how you did with you know, the air Jordan's 0:11:38.160 --> 0:11:41.679 And Nike was like, yeah, no, but what we can 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:43.559 do is we could do a small percentage toward a 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:46.840 charity you first of all, you know, Kanye was like 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.839 the hell and so he said, He's like, no, I 0:11:49.840 --> 0:11:51.440 should be treated like an athlete. I'm going to be 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:53.680 just as big as Michael Jordan. So what he decided 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:56.920 and said was he split from Nike in twenty thirteen 0:11:57.080 --> 0:12:01.120 and he started working with Adidas, and he got an 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:02.280 even better deal. 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:03.920 With Adidas. 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:07.840 He gets to retain one hundred percent of the Easy 0:12:07.880 --> 0:12:12.560 brand and instead he has an exclusive distribution deal for 0:12:12.679 --> 0:12:18.920 his Easys And so that's that's like crazy. And so 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:21.400 as a result of that, in two thousand and nine, 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:25.600 Easy did it. He sold about one point five billion 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.400 dollars in sales, up fifty percent from the year before. 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:33.760 And that's about half of what Nike made off Jordan. 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.760 So Easy's made half of what Nike made, Right, But 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:41.800 guess who got paid more. Kanye got paid about ten 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:45.600 million dollars more than mj So even though Kanye sold 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:49.160 less half as many sneakers as Michael Jordan, he got 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:51.600 paid more than Michael Jordan on his sneakers. And it 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.440 was just a reminder that like, if you're able, because 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:56.000 it's not always you have to feed kids and you know, 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.400 you gotta you know, you got a you gotta make 0:12:58.440 --> 0:13:00.679 sure that you are okay. But they're time a time 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.240 when you have to stand up for yourself and say 0:13:03.280 --> 0:13:05.280 I am worth more, I bring more to the table 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:07.440 and I'm going to hold out for someone who is 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:08.440 going to recognize that. 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:09.560 And so can you imagine? 0:13:09.559 --> 0:13:11.320 So I think Kanye got paid one hundred and forty 0:13:11.360 --> 0:13:14.360 million dollars from Adidas last year. Now, like I said, 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:18.480 that's ten million more than MJ. Meanwhile selling over a 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:20.280 billion dollars less than MJ. 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:21.520 That's insane. 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:23.199 So it was just like, you know, Kanye West is 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:25.240 not always my favorite person, but when it came to that, 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:26.760 it just like kind of put a battery in my 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:31.920 back that we need to understand that ownership is wealth. 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:35.080 Oh I would remember, I'm put that on the shirt that. 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:36.880 Right, who good one? 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:42.120 Because well, another example a whole different kind of entertainer. 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:45.280 I actually watched the Dolly Parton documentary on Netflix this 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:48.360 weekend because Dolly Parton's like the one thing people can 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:51.360 agree on. And you know, I Will Always Love You, 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:54.200 which was performed and made famous by Whitney Houston. Dolly 0:13:54.240 --> 0:13:57.320 Parton wrote that track like in the sixties or seventies 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:00.680 or something, and at a certain point Elvis apparently wanted 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:04.640 to record the song, but they wanted like a very 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:08.040 big share of or they wanted like a credit that 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:12.000 would have prevented her from recouping like profit from the song. 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.040 And you know, ay, and even back then it was 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:16.800 before streaming, but like when you heard the song on 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.520 the radio, the producers and songwriters get a cut of that. 0:14:19.640 --> 0:14:23.040 So anyway, Dolly was like Elvis was for her a 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:25.360 huge star and she turned him down and she was like, 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:27.240 let me hold on to this. And it wasn't until 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.280 like twenty something years later when Whitney recorded it and 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:32.640 made it super famous, and she's like that record made 0:14:32.720 --> 0:14:35.600 me was like the key to everything. And it was 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:39.000 because she stood her ground. Little baby Dolly Parton. She's 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:40.280 a badass business woman. 0:14:40.360 --> 0:14:41.960 She is a bad I want to watch it that. 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:43.960 I love a good documentary. 0:14:43.400 --> 0:14:45.640 She and it shortened to the point and you know, 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:48.600 I mean Dolly and Dolly is just I mean I 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:51.480 haven't really thought about Dolly, but she is. You have 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:54.040 got to respect the woman from where she came to 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:56.360 where to the empire she has made. I mean from 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:58.400 she has a freaking theme park named after herself. 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.680 I know Dolly's World, isn't it. 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:03.560 Dolly's Yeah, Dolly Land or I don't know now I 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:07.680 forgot Dolly something. Okay, Yeah, So mad respect to her, 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:09.800 and it's the same story. It's about that ownership. It's 0:15:09.800 --> 0:15:14.160 like having the wherewithal to, yeah, to read the fine 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:16.400 print and stand up for what you think you deserve. 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:19.000 And it's easier so than done. So I have I 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:21.360 have so much respect for her and for yes, for ye, 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:25.240 for Kanye. The man does not lack ego, that's for sure. 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:26.000 Yes. 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:28.080 I mean you know, even a broken clock is right 0:15:28.120 --> 0:15:31.560 twice a day. So yeah, hey, how is your birthday? 0:15:32.040 --> 0:15:34.760 Honestly it was amazing, Superman, And this is what I 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:36.720 tell I'm going to tell you all you men's out 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:38.880 there who are not good at planning stuff, because Superman 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:41.240 is not tacked to plan, He's attacked to be like, Babe, 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:44.200 I want to surprise you, but I don't know where 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:45.400 spots and stuff are. 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:47.800 So here's my card and just book it. I'm like, 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:50.240 that's not I know. 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:52.720 So I told him this time. I was like, honestly, 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:56.200 it's been a very hectic couple of weeks. I want 0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.000 to have something special for my birthday, but I do 0:15:58.080 --> 0:15:59.440 not want to participate in the planning. 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:02.280 He looked at me like, wait, well, and so. 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:04.800 Instead he actually reached out to baby Lisa, shout out 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:06.720 to you, baby Lisa, who's not a baby, she's thirty one, 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.720 but she's my little sister, the youngest of the five 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:13.160 of us. And Lisa hooked my guy up. When I 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:16.280 tell you, she made a typed out itinerary was text 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.560 messaging him, you guys have ten minutes to get to dinner. 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:21.040 Don't forget about the SPA appointment. So we went to 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.960 Equinox Hotel in New York City. So we all know 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:26.600 kind of Equinox for the gym, but they have this 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:27.480 amazing hotel. 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:29.800 About to say, what, I've never heard if they had 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:30.280 a hotel. 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:33.080 Yes, well it's it's you know, Hudson Yards. Is that 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:37.240 new like beautiful billionaire's row in the city. So it's 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:40.560 five star. But I was like, one thing. I was like, 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:42.720 I was like, we gotta preserve these coins. So I 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.680 have so many points on my credit card because you know, 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.600 I haven't been able to use them. So I told Lisa, like, 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:50.600 you know, and I told Superman, I'm like, no, just 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:51.360 use the points. 0:16:51.120 --> 0:16:52.880 In our car. Are you crazy? Who's paying out of 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:54.280 pocket for like the hotel? 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.880 And so the hotel has a spa, it had restaurants, 0:16:57.880 --> 0:16:59.160 so we were able to do a lot of those 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:02.200 things there. So first night we got there, Lisa found 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:05.520 a really amazing steakhouse in Harlem for us to eat. 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:08.520 So we drove and actually traffic wasn't bad from Jersey. 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:10.560 It was like thirty five minutes we ate got to 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:15.480 the hotel. It was so gorgeous. We had this amazing 0:17:15.640 --> 0:17:18.080 view of the water. Honestly, I felt like I was like, 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.000 this is how Beyonce feels. I'm like, no, girl, Beyonce's 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:23.320 in the penhouse. Either way, it felt like ow Beyonce 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:26.800 felt maybe twenty years ago. But it was amazing. We 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.040 walked in, he had like they had already put up 0:17:29.040 --> 0:17:29.960 the roses in the candle. 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:31.199 I'm like, how did they know we were coming in? 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:34.200 He was like ah, And so it was just honestly, 0:17:34.320 --> 0:17:36.439 even my chocolate chip cookies, which I love. I was like, 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:38.959 they have fresh, big, talkative cookies they have waiting for you. 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:41.960 It was honestly awesome. I will say that, so you 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:44.200 deserve that was It just was great. 0:17:44.240 --> 0:17:45.560 And like I said, we had the spot treatment the 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.320 next day and then we went on one of those rickshaws, 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.240 like you know the bicycle people through Central Park. In 0:17:50.320 --> 0:17:54.320 our shout out to Vitali. He was hilarious, funny, kind 0:17:54.359 --> 0:17:56.880 and so knowledgeable about the city. And like I said, 0:17:56.920 --> 0:17:58.359 it was just an amazing weekend. I didn't do a 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:01.800 lick up work, which I love, and yeah, it was 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:04.000 a good time. But if there's anything I would say 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:06.879 takeaway is I'm not y'all know, I'm not huge. Me 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:08.320 and man are not huge on debt, and I'm not 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:11.280 huge on credit cards. But when I tell you, American Express, 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:13.120 they don't pay me anything. I don't have any partnership 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:15.840 with them. But girl, So that was the points that 0:18:15.880 --> 0:18:18.760