1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: Calm Down with Aaron and Carissa is a production of 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 1: I Heart Radio. But why are you saying something? Okay? 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:10,959 Speaker 1: Is this is this on we started? We're on high. 4 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: This is how this works, you guys. We end up 5 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: just talking and then we're like, oh, shoot, we should 6 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: actually record because this is what a podcast is all about. 7 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: We're talking about the girl from Selling Sunset. I'm a 8 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: huge fan of the show. I need to get involved, 9 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: you do. It's um my affinity for houses of course 10 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: as well, uh discussed at this point, but yeah, Selling Sunset. 11 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: If you guys haven't seen a bunch of hot real 12 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 1: estate individuals, but I just like the tour of the house. Anyways, 13 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: the Real Smoke Show. This chick said that she dated 14 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: Ben Affleck or they went on a date or he 15 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:43,199 Speaker 1: tried to like you d M S or something. Right, 16 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:45,519 Speaker 1: So here's what was No, she was on Riya. She 17 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,319 Speaker 1: was on Riya and he was like, I wasn't on 18 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:51,519 Speaker 1: Riya at the time. And then apparently the day she 19 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:55,440 Speaker 1: said that Jennifer Lopez announced their engagement or something, after 20 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: which you gotta think j Lo maybe has a little 21 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: PTSD from maybe I don't know, people cheating or things 22 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: a lot of things, but I would say this. I'm 23 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:11,759 Speaker 1: a big oh my gosh, I you know, I love christrips, 24 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: but they're never getting that white. No. No, but I'm 25 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 1: a receipt person. Just show me the receipts. Show me 26 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: a screenshot at the DMC sent you put all the 27 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: rumors to rest. I know, why are you going to 28 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:25,319 Speaker 1: go out and say that about him unless you like 29 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: put it out there. That's just weird. I don't know, 30 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: but if you know, it's weird how this all comes together. 31 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:32,319 Speaker 1: I put this hat on today, and whenever I have 32 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: a hat, well that's because I'm lazy and I didn't 33 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:36,319 Speaker 1: want to do my hair whenever I put a hat on. 34 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 1: That So, like, let's say I go and get coffee 35 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 1: in this house and someone's like, oh, like the Yankees, 36 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't even know what hat I'm wearing. Right, 37 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 1: I was in line. I don't have receipts for this, 38 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: But I didn't make this story up. I promise. I 39 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 1: was in line at a Starbucks in Brentwood. Guy in 40 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: front of me turns around. He was like looking back, 41 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: like out the window or whatever is He's like standing 42 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: in line. I see he's wearing a Red Sox hat. 43 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: As he turns around like, fuck, it's been affleck in line. 44 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: I was like, hot, hot, hot conversation. This is probably 45 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: seven eight years ago now, and I was like, oh god, 46 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: I thought it was today. I was like, he looks good. 47 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: But he looked great then too. So he So we 48 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: get in line, and you know, after you've ordered, now 49 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,520 Speaker 1: you're standing over off to the side, you're waiting for 50 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: your name to be called. This is before mobile ordering existed, 51 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 1: so there was a lot of milling around in the 52 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 1: lobby of the Starbucks. So of course I take the opportunity. 53 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:28,360 Speaker 1: I'm going to use the hat as my entrance points. 54 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 1: I go pretend like I don't know him. Fine, I 55 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: was like, oh, big Rex, Red Sox fan, huh. That's 56 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 1: what I went with. Of all the things I could do, 57 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: I went with the red I said, big Red Sox fan, huh. 58 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: And he goes, I am you wanna go? No, I'm 59 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 1: from Seattle Mariners fan. You know. We've struggled for years 60 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 1: and got into a whole baseball conversation and then like 61 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: his name gets called and like that's the end of it, 62 00:02:49,520 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: and he like, but couldn't have been nicer, but it 63 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: was my entrance in was the hat, the talk? What 64 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: was the name they called? Did he use Ben? Ben? An? 65 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: It was that great eat Ben. I think it was 66 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: a latte. I don't know. I can't be too sure, 67 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:07,639 Speaker 1: but big Red Sox fan, that's what That's what. That's 68 00:03:07,639 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: all I had. But yeah, I love it. Don't you 69 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: think he's more of a drip guy. I don't see 70 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 1: Ben being a latte guy. I see him being like 71 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: a black black coffee. I could see that for sure. 72 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 1: But yeah, he well, maybe he was picking up for 73 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: someone else, but maybe it was Jennifer Garner days, so 74 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: knowing him, he was probably just being as sweet as compete. Anyway. 75 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: We haven't talked about the engagement either, which one. Aren't 76 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: there a lot because you know I have seven or six, right, 77 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: I've been honest that Jennifer Lopez was not that nice 78 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 1: to me my days at Extra. She was not a 79 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: fan of mine, So that's fine, no big deal. But yeah, 80 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: I just love him so much because I just he's 81 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: I don't know, he's just like that guy's guy. I 82 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: love all the movies that he's in, so I'm curious. 83 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 1: Maybe this is just because I worked in entertainment. I 84 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: really hope it's real because I don't know. I just 85 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 1: I as someone talk about marriages in a minute. Given 86 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 1: my week, well, um, I just get you, not your life. 87 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: I'm laughing all do you hope it's real for who? 88 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: For him or for her? I'm team him him, yeah, 89 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: because he seems like he's so you know. And again 90 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: I don't like buy into like celebrity life whatever. Everyone's 91 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,719 Speaker 1: got their own stories. But I just I don't know. 92 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:28,520 Speaker 1: I hope for him it's real because it feels like 93 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 1: he's so into her, so into her. Yeah. So congratulations 94 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 1: on their nuptials. As one love story begins, another one ends. Um, 95 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:41,359 Speaker 1: So I you disclosure. I love you and I'm proud 96 00:04:41,360 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: of you. Thank you. I obviously like to thank you, Daisy. Um. 97 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 1: I had a shitty week. Um, the news of my 98 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: pending divorce came out, and it's obviously not something that 99 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 1: I wanted the at all. As somebody who grew up 100 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 1: in a family who my parents have been married since 101 00:04:59,839 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: they eighteen, I believe in the institution. I trust in 102 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: the institution, and I've been someone that's been married and 103 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: divorced before. So when I got married the second time. 104 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: I was so hopeful that it would be what you 105 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: stand up there and say it will be, which is 106 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: forever and better, for worse and all the things. But 107 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: unfortunately and I in a later episode we'll get into 108 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: more of the details, not specific to my relationship with Kyle, 109 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:30,039 Speaker 1: but just I think in general, for our listeners, we 110 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: use this platform and are very honest, as you have 111 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 1: been with fertility, with UH, your job, with all sorts 112 00:05:36,600 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 1: of things that are very personal in your life. You've 113 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:40,640 Speaker 1: been very honest and open about that, and I will 114 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: UH and I promised to do the same when it 115 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:45,720 Speaker 1: makes sense. There's a few legal things that I just 116 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 1: need to work through, But as far as the actual announcement, UM, yeah, 117 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: it's a decision that I did not reach overnight. As 118 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:55,839 Speaker 1: you know, I privately have been dealing with this for 119 00:05:56,920 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: a while. UM and my health stuff that you guys, 120 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: for those of you that have been listening know whether 121 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,800 Speaker 1: it was my appendix or the situation with my face. 122 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: A lot of that stuff I now know was related 123 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 1: to the stress that I was under to come to 124 00:06:11,760 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 1: this decision. As I mentioned, that was not easy for 125 00:06:14,440 --> 00:06:17,800 Speaker 1: me to make, and ultimately it comes down to this, 126 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 1: and this is my advice to anyone. Um, you have 127 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: to do what's best for you. You get one life, 128 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 1: and this thing is real short. So I knew that 129 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 1: I had exhausted all the options to try to keep 130 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 1: my marriage intact, and I have nothing but love and 131 00:06:34,480 --> 00:06:38,680 Speaker 1: respect for my now former significant other, and um, but 132 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:41,560 Speaker 1: it just reached a point where I knew that I 133 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: was better off by myself. And so again I will 134 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: expand upon that for people that are sort of oscillating 135 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 1: and having a difficult time or or in a difficult 136 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,839 Speaker 1: situation and don't know when to get out, because it 137 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 1: is embarrassing, you know, now having been divorced twice, I'm 138 00:06:57,440 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 1: going to be forty or we're gonna you know, we 139 00:06:59,520 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 1: have the same they here in a couple of weeks, 140 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: and I am embarrassed to admit that, like, you know, 141 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,919 Speaker 1: it's now my second divorce at forty. And then and 142 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: then you worry about this, Oh you can't keep a man, 143 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:14,800 Speaker 1: Oh like what did you do? Like there's all these 144 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: other like second dairy, third, fourth like level questions that 145 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: you start to think about, and then there's this I'm 146 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 1: gonna be forty, and then I'm like ship. Uh, I 147 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: am sixteen going on seventeen. Foolishly I believed, um, you 148 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 1: think about having kids, right, and now I don't have 149 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: a significant other, and so then you get into that 150 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 1: whole thing where you're like, you know, am I gonna 151 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: have kids? Because I you know, there's so many different layers, 152 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 1: but there's there's that's not a reason to stay in 153 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 1: something that is not making either one of you happy, 154 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 1: and you ultimately have to make a decision that's best 155 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: for you, even if it feels selfish. It is your life, 156 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:53,600 Speaker 1: and as my dad always says, you come into this 157 00:07:53,640 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 1: world alone and you leave alone. So it's a determination 158 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,080 Speaker 1: that did not come to me very easily. But in 159 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:03,000 Speaker 1: the end that's where I'm at. So yeah, I am. 160 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 1: I've had wonderful people reach out to me and say 161 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry and all that, and I don't want 162 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:10,000 Speaker 1: people to feel sorry for me. It's my decision and 163 00:08:10,040 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: it's my life, and it's a decision that I am 164 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: at peace with now but really struggled to make. And 165 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: you held my hand through the entire process, as you 166 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: have with so many things. Hell for the first divorce, 167 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: for this one, and I like all things in my 168 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: life bring levity to it because it's the only way 169 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:30,880 Speaker 1: that I know how to get through stuff, because I'll 170 00:08:30,880 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 1: cry and then I'll just make light of it. Not 171 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 1: make light of divorce. Of course that's not or or 172 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: or by ex that's it's independent of him, because that's 173 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: nothing to do with him. It's about how I get 174 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:45,079 Speaker 1: through things that I poke fun at myself, and then 175 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: that's an opportunity for me to be able to sort 176 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: of take the power away from what anyone else can say, like, oh, 177 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:53,719 Speaker 1: you know, what did you do? Why can't you keep 178 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: a man? That's that kind of bullshit that comes with it. 179 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 1: But I know that what what went into the decision, 180 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:00,640 Speaker 1: and I'm at peace with the decision. And for anyone 181 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: that's out there that's in a situation that they don't 182 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,760 Speaker 1: necessarily want to be in anymore, I would just say, 183 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 1: take a step back and think about where you want 184 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:11,760 Speaker 1: your life to be in five years and if that 185 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 1: person should be in it or should you know, if 186 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:18,079 Speaker 1: that makes sense. But again, anyway, so that was kind 187 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 1: of a shitty week for me and it was a 188 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:23,199 Speaker 1: little embarrassing, but it was something that in the end, 189 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: I'm happy that both of us both my X and 190 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: I can move on peacefully and be amicable about it. 191 00:09:29,559 --> 00:09:32,480 Speaker 1: So that's number one. And there's no kids involved, because 192 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: that's a whole other thing, you know. So anyways, that's that. 193 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: Proud of you, very very proud of you. I you know, 194 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: when we die in your legal you have a lot 195 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 1: of legal stuff ahead of you, So we're going to 196 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:56,199 Speaker 1: hold back on what we could say. But yeah, I mean, 197 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: I'm proud of you the way you just handled it 198 00:09:58,040 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: right now. I'm proud of you in coming to the 199 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: decision because it is hard and I saw you struggle, 200 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 1: and anyone that's a fan of the show, we know 201 00:10:04,440 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: about your health and and I think when you were 202 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: talking to people and just saying if you're in a 203 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:10,719 Speaker 1: situation where you don't know if it's right for you, 204 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 1: got a step back and look at what it's doing 205 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:16,080 Speaker 1: to you physically. And I know people that loved you 206 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:18,200 Speaker 1: saw that kind of stuff, and that's where we were worried. 207 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: It's really interesting and I know when we get into 208 00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 1: it later about how to be a friend through it, 209 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 1: because I mean my husband was very colorful with you 210 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: last weekend and his comments about you know, how you 211 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: don't want to say too much. But there's also a 212 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: point where you're like, Okay, you're my my family, and 213 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: I need you to like, I'm really worried and I'm 214 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,200 Speaker 1: really freaking out about this, and you take it on 215 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,880 Speaker 1: like your own issue, and it's a really hard thing 216 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,319 Speaker 1: to figure out what to say and what not to say. 217 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: You said something to me in Montana. I won't repeat 218 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: it now, but I think it will be such a 219 00:10:55,800 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 1: great lesson that you teach people about what you learned 220 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 1: through it. When you said it to me, I was like, 221 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: holy sh it. It was like an Oprah moment of 222 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: when it hit you then it was the right time. 223 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:10,600 Speaker 1: So um, yeah, there's nothing coming out of me, but 224 00:11:10,720 --> 00:11:12,440 Speaker 1: just I'm just so proud of you. And I know 225 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:14,640 Speaker 1: you said you're embarrassed, but I gotta be honest. I 226 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 1: have had another friend that has gone through his second 227 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: divorce and that was something that was always coming out 228 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:21,719 Speaker 1: of his mouth, and I was like, that's not what 229 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:24,120 Speaker 1: people are thinking. That people that love you so much 230 00:11:24,240 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 1: just want you to be happy. And there were a 231 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: couple of people who I need to tell you about 232 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 1: offline that reached out to me because they wanted to 233 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 1: call you, but they didn't want to intrude, and I 234 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: just said do it because honestly, as hard as this is, 235 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: I do feel like your headspace is a lot better, right. 236 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:43,199 Speaker 1: I just yeah, no, and I can I can't thank 237 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 1: you enough in anyone that you know has listened to 238 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: us or knows our relationship. You are like a sister 239 00:11:48,720 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 1: to me, right And there's the difficult conversations that we've 240 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 1: had and when somebody else holds up the truth in 241 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: front of your face, and when you're in it, you 242 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: don't always want to see it, right. And this is 243 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,079 Speaker 1: and again I want to make a big point here, 244 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:06,439 Speaker 1: this isn't just about my ex um right now, Like 245 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:09,280 Speaker 1: that's him and I are. You know, I have the 246 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: utmost respect for him and his his path that he 247 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: will move on without me and um, and I hope 248 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 1: that there will come a time where you know, I 249 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: was friends with my my It sounds so that sounds 250 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 1: it's like so embarrassing my first ex. Stop labeling your know, 251 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:27,200 Speaker 1: it just it's it's something that I have to like 252 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: work through. But anyways, you're not the only one out there, 253 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:32,600 Speaker 1: and this is so helpful to other people. You're not 254 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:37,840 Speaker 1: thank you so without getting upset. I just yeah, there's 255 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 1: like it's not easy, but proud of you and the 256 00:12:42,920 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: baby part is easy. To be honest with you, it's 257 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:48,040 Speaker 1: not easy. I'll jump in to help you freeze your eggs, 258 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,319 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna make you do this because only have 259 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 1: some Hey, girl, that's the same. All you need is one. 260 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: I mean, believe me, I get it. So listen. I 261 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:02,680 Speaker 1: mean there's things we can do you. We've got this, 262 00:13:02,880 --> 00:13:05,319 Speaker 1: you know, and you already did the hardest part. And 263 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:08,000 Speaker 1: you should really be so proud of yourself about that. 264 00:13:08,080 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I you just should. I know this is difficult, 265 00:13:11,559 --> 00:13:15,079 Speaker 1: but yeah, I actually haven't been like, you know, it's 266 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: too emotional because I feel like I've been doing dealing 267 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:19,400 Speaker 1: with us for a really long time. But I just 268 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 1: I don't want anyone to ever be, you know, heard 269 00:13:22,600 --> 00:13:26,080 Speaker 1: in any situations. So ultimately, like for him, and it 270 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:28,719 Speaker 1: was just a decision that needed to happen. But you know, 271 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:32,200 Speaker 1: it's so weird, like we met in COVID right before COVID, 272 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:35,079 Speaker 1: and then COVID happened, and so then from March, I 273 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: mean we got engaged very quickly in our relationship, but 274 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 1: then we had a whole year of just being together 275 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 1: because you know, COVID happened in March and we didn't 276 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 1: end up getting married until December, and I don't know 277 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:49,040 Speaker 1: if you know. And I'd love to hear other people's 278 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: stories about relationships either starting or ending in COVID because 279 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:57,160 Speaker 1: it was a completely different beast and I I'm a 280 00:13:57,320 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 1: very social person and so just being isolated with one 281 00:14:01,200 --> 00:14:03,800 Speaker 1: person was incredible for the maturation of a relationship because 282 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:05,840 Speaker 1: you get to just fully immerse yourself in each other. 283 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: But you know me, once the world opens back up, 284 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: the person doesn't see you in the same way that 285 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:15,319 Speaker 1: they used to do. So anyways, yeah, it's a very 286 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:17,080 Speaker 1: it's the case study. And I know a lot of 287 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: relationships um either started or ended because of COVID or 288 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: or as part of the contribution to it starting or ending, 289 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:27,240 Speaker 1: not solely because of that. But yeah, it's uh, my 290 00:14:27,320 --> 00:14:30,680 Speaker 1: emotion comes from, I think a place of fatigue honestly, 291 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 1: just because I've been dealing with this for a long 292 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:35,960 Speaker 1: time time. I will say this in closing, Um, I 293 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 1: feel very lucky to have had the time that I 294 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:39,680 Speaker 1: had with my ex and I wish him nothing but 295 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:42,440 Speaker 1: the best, and it is an amicable situation there that 296 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 1: said girlfriends are so I I you know, we have 297 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:47,960 Speaker 1: a lot of guy friends just from the nature of 298 00:14:48,040 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 1: our work and the guys that we have had in 299 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 1: our lives for so long as the Big brothers, right, 300 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: the guys that we work with. But damn, I'll tell you, like, 301 00:14:56,920 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 1: there's nothing like a good girlfriend like you and like 302 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 1: you know, the couple of girlfriends that really helped me 303 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 1: through this thing. It's just I can't say enough about girlfriends. 304 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:08,680 Speaker 1: It's just something that I never ever ever take for 305 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: granted because it's it's it's tough to go through certain 306 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:15,040 Speaker 1: things in life, but you don't feel alone when you 307 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: have them. So hold on tight to those girlfriends and 308 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: keep it moving. The COVID thing is so interesting, Chris, 309 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 1: I mean, especially now when you see when you talk 310 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 1: about kids and depression and adults and depression going through COVID. 311 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: Uh you talk about I mean unfortunately suicide rates and 312 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 1: what's coming out of it. It would be incredible when 313 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: this thing is all said and done, to know about relationships. 314 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like you heard about people going 315 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 1: into COVID getting divorce as soon it was as it 316 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 1: was over, just because they got to spend time people 317 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: and couldn't stand up you know, yeah, and never again 318 00:15:49,560 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 1: in our history. I mean a knock on wood. You 319 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:54,440 Speaker 1: know that you have a situation like that where you 320 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: end up really learning that much about somebody or or anyways. 321 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 1: But yeah, so it's uh, it's as my father likes 322 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: to say that we are of a lot of chapters 323 00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 1: in our stories of life, and we're the authors of 324 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 1: our own story. And so he always says to me, 325 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 1: if you don't like the way this thing is reading, 326 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: if you're reading your own story and you don't like 327 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 1: the way it's going, change it. And so, um, I'm 328 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 1: looking forward to the next chapter in my life, and um, 329 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: see what happens. But yeah, I guess it's uh, it's 330 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 1: not something you want to go through, but if you 331 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:28,160 Speaker 1: have to, it's the best case scenario in a lot 332 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:30,760 Speaker 1: of ways, you know, to be able to walk away 333 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: and have the means to do so, because I know 334 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 1: that's also not for a lot of people either. Now 335 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:42,000 Speaker 1: I see we transitioned tanning, oh nothing, so so getting 336 00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 1: your body back part of the fact that I got 337 00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:47,040 Speaker 1: to go back out and date again. It's so you guys, 338 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 1: hold on tight for the Calm Down podcast because she's 339 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 1: about to get very interesting. Bring forty years old. I'll 340 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 1: tell you what I've never had to go. I've never 341 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 1: not had to I've never went on a dating app, 342 00:16:56,800 --> 00:16:58,880 Speaker 1: and I'm not going to go on one. But where 343 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 1: are we supposed to meet people in the streets at 344 00:17:00,720 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 1: this age? Anyways, I'm going to start with getting a 345 00:17:03,640 --> 00:17:06,480 Speaker 1: tan Okay, first and foremost not for dating, because I 346 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:08,119 Speaker 1: think I need to take a minute on that. But 347 00:17:08,800 --> 00:17:12,920 Speaker 1: the tanning thing is because I am We have done 348 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:16,000 Speaker 1: so much as I get older to like the lotions 349 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:20,439 Speaker 1: and the motions to prevent aging. That it is eighty 350 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 1: degrees outside right now. If you guys live in Los Angeles, 351 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,920 Speaker 1: you know that this week you're sitting over the weekend too. 352 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 1: It is so hot. All I want to do is 353 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:30,399 Speaker 1: throw on that bathing suit, throw on some tanning oil, 354 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:32,639 Speaker 1: and get out there. And I'm like, Chrissa, that completely 355 00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: negates the laser treatments you're doing. So I know you 356 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 1: get a spray tan on Wednesday, and I'm not so 357 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: where you professional? What's happening there? Coming to your house? 358 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 1: What's going on? Yes, coming to the house. The spray 359 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:47,120 Speaker 1: tan situation pop that tent up in the living room. 360 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:52,640 Speaker 1: But the smell. Can we get a tanning anybody out there? 361 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,199 Speaker 1: No a solution that doesn't smell, because even when they 362 00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:57,720 Speaker 1: say like, oh, this one doesn't smell, it always smells 363 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 1: and always comes off on the sheets and it takes 364 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:08,320 Speaker 1: it does it's ruining. Yeah, towels, I've ruined so many. 365 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 1: It's just I have to do it. Oh see, I 366 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:13,400 Speaker 1: have to do it. I feel disgusting, like I need 367 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:15,920 Speaker 1: to get a tan. I need to like get out 368 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: of my funk that I've been in and just be like, 369 00:18:18,280 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 1: get a little tan. Can't tone it, tann it, you know, 370 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:23,440 Speaker 1: I'm telling you a second, I step out of that tent, 371 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:26,000 Speaker 1: I feel five pounds thinner. I'm like, look at me. 372 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:28,680 Speaker 1: When she's like, you want me to paint some abs on? Yeah, 373 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,119 Speaker 1: do it? Carve it right out. I don't want to understand. 374 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:34,400 Speaker 1: With where we are in the world and vaccines were 375 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 1: coming up with, why can't we come up with some 376 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 1: tanning solution that doesn't smell like armpit or a whole 377 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:45,040 Speaker 1: It just does. It really does. It's awful and I'm 378 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 1: a sweater, Like what we've established that why it doesn't 379 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:52,520 Speaker 1: mix well? With that. It's just awful. I am a person. 380 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,879 Speaker 1: When I sleep, I do my covers right up to 381 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:58,680 Speaker 1: my nose. It's something I've always done, if I mean, 382 00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 1: like all the way up, yeah, to my nose, like 383 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:04,640 Speaker 1: I like to put like my eyes are sticking out, 384 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 1: but my nose is underneath. It's just I'm confused, are you? 385 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:12,280 Speaker 1: Like does your mom tuck you in? And I like 386 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 1: like this like night night, Jared, Like, how does this work? 387 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:18,240 Speaker 1: It's just how I do. I like to get cozy 388 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:20,960 Speaker 1: right up to like my eyeballs. And then like when 389 00:19:20,960 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: I'm at a hotel, I don't like the sheets touching 390 00:19:23,320 --> 00:19:25,920 Speaker 1: my face or my neck or my arms, So I 391 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:31,360 Speaker 1: bring sweatshirts and I do my sweatshirts up to my eyes. Okay, no, no, no, no, 392 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:38,200 Speaker 1: I stop. You pack sweatshirts too so you can cozy up. 393 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:40,760 Speaker 1: No stop it. I didn't not know this about you. 394 00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 1: But the problem is when you've got the spray tan 395 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,720 Speaker 1: and your body heats rolling, I don't want to smell that. 396 00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:50,520 Speaker 1: It's tough sledding. It's awful. Hey, get back on the 397 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:52,679 Speaker 1: slopes and let's go back to the sweatshirt thing. So 398 00:19:52,840 --> 00:19:55,760 Speaker 1: you grab a sweatshirt and knowing that you're not going 399 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:57,159 Speaker 1: to wear it, or is it a sweatshirt that you 400 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:59,199 Speaker 1: wear and then you're willing to bring into bed to 401 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 1: cozy up. How what is the So there's a real situation. 402 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:07,479 Speaker 1: I can't wear the sweatshirt that I've worn on the 403 00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 1: plane there in the hotel bed because it's touching everything 404 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 1: in the plane. So that's no use to me. It's 405 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:16,200 Speaker 1: got to be the sweatshirt I'm wearing home, but I 406 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 1: turn it inside out just in case the sweatshirt has 407 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 1: been touching anything. Okay, no, you psycho, are you kidding? 408 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 1: Oh God, not Andy Roddick, she said, neurotic. What are 409 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 1: you talking about? You think about? I mean, I'm someone 410 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: that doesn't like certain hotel sheets. But then I'm like, 411 00:20:41,119 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 1: it's I don't know, I was a Ritz or a 412 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:46,680 Speaker 1: fourth season and it's a crispy, crispy sheet. I mean, 413 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,159 Speaker 1: I'm not letting that down come near my face. But 414 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:52,199 Speaker 1: if it's a crispy white sheet that it's just lovely 415 00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:55,199 Speaker 1: and you want to dive headfirst into like a twelve 416 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:58,080 Speaker 1: foot pool, yes, that thing goes up to my face. 417 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 1: But I will tell you I also then have a 418 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,639 Speaker 1: panic attack in that hotel room. That second, that sheet 419 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:07,760 Speaker 1: and the inserts started to break through, and I wake up, 420 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: jump out of bed like a tarantulas been on that bed. 421 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's touched me. There's a lot of other 422 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:22,119 Speaker 1: people it's touched, and that's disgusting. Holy sh it. I 423 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 1: didn't know that. I mean, I know, I know that 424 00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:26,879 Speaker 1: you're a clean freak and for a certain thing, but 425 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: I had no idea that this it transfers into the 426 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:43,919 Speaker 1: hotel as far as sweatshirt and wow, well, I definitely 427 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:46,640 Speaker 1: and you know, the hotels because we've spent a lot 428 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:50,639 Speaker 1: of time in certain regions of the United States, there's 429 00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:55,040 Speaker 1: no chance that that top not even a comforter, it's 430 00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:58,760 Speaker 1: that top little thing. Just throw that off immediately, because 431 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:03,600 Speaker 1: that is the decrity pillow that they always don't know. 432 00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 1: I kick it right off. Kick it. I'm not even 433 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 1: touching it. Kick it. Also, I made the fatal mistake 434 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:15,600 Speaker 1: of watching a dateline on the hotel cleaning staffs one 435 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 1: times they did like an undercover investigation. Let's just say 436 00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 1: I no longer ever use a glass even to put 437 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 1: my toothbrush in, like as a holder in the hotel room, 438 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:27,639 Speaker 1: because they are wiping. This is what it was on 439 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 1: the dateline, taking the cleaning to toilet straight to the glass, 440 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: cleaning of the inside, disgusting anywhere so far as to 441 00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:41,240 Speaker 1: put like if I'm if I have like a sleeping 442 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,760 Speaker 1: pill with me, or like any sort of antibiotics that 443 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 1: I have on the road. I now put that in 444 00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: the safe because I'm convinced the cleaning crew is going 445 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:52,919 Speaker 1: to steal it. What you're like, I just put my 446 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 1: whole entire like whatever, dopkin, That's what Jared calls. Yeah, dopkin. 447 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,919 Speaker 1: I put that in the safe too, because I'm like, 448 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:04,120 Speaker 1: what if they thumb through it and they're like, here's 449 00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:07,960 Speaker 1: a toothbrush, let me comb my My dance teacher, my 450 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,960 Speaker 1: dance coach for the University of Florida, Donny, she used 451 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:13,520 Speaker 1: to say, you better put that toothbrush away. They comb 452 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:17,439 Speaker 1: their your their butt hairs with it. Also, is that 453 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: a landline ringing? It is? Jared? And also King call 454 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:25,640 Speaker 1: Ran and to go get it. I have a landline too, 455 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 1: and everyone's like, well you have a landline, Like you 456 00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,400 Speaker 1: have to have a landline. What happens when the cell 457 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 1: tower goes down there's no WiFi you gotta have a landline. 458 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: We're really rich and we have a game. So Tanning, 459 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,399 Speaker 1: you're gonna tan Hey, We're going to go to stagecoach 460 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,200 Speaker 1: this weekend. I'm excited. I'm just gonna have a tan 461 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,080 Speaker 1: a stage coach this girl. Our group needs it too. 462 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,480 Speaker 1: Between what you're going through. I'm having eggs come out 463 00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 1: this week. Our girl, Kelly Stafford just had to put 464 00:23:56,320 --> 00:24:00,960 Speaker 1: their dog down and I can't take it. That was 465 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:03,199 Speaker 1: another thing I was going to write. I mean the 466 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:08,880 Speaker 1: day Kelly's post when she posted the girls crying the dog, 467 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,879 Speaker 1: I just started losing it in the car because I 468 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 1: know I will have to be buried with Howie. I 469 00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:17,960 Speaker 1: cannot do this life without him. I have. And when 470 00:24:18,000 --> 00:24:19,560 Speaker 1: she wrote about so for those of you guys that 471 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:23,080 Speaker 1: don't know Kelly Stafford, um, the Stafford's lost their dollars. 472 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,360 Speaker 1: She was Smarley was thirteen. I think she was thirteen, 473 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: which is an incredible life. And I get it and 474 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 1: you know enough though it's not long enough. And that's 475 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,840 Speaker 1: the thing, and you know, from for us like our 476 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 1: babies because we don't have children yet, are our dogs. 477 00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:40,040 Speaker 1: And Willis has been there for me and I think 478 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:42,000 Speaker 1: about this too, like as I was just talking about divorce, 479 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:46,040 Speaker 1: like me crying at night by myself, and through all 480 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 1: the ups and downs and through all the ship that 481 00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 1: we've been through. Like again, I know a lot of 482 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 1: people go through stuff, so this isn't like just us, 483 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:57,320 Speaker 1: but totally. Dogs become that person for you that's there 484 00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:01,080 Speaker 1: through everything. And they know talking about knowing secrets, those 485 00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:05,119 Speaker 1: bad all. They know it all. And I can't even 486 00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,560 Speaker 1: begin to imagine. I remember I was in Hawaii on vacation. 487 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 1: I got a call from my dog walker saying Willis 488 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 1: has been missing for eight hours. Willis got out of 489 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 1: a door. And when Willis like Willis will run right 490 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,879 Speaker 1: because he's just like he's a wolf, he belongs in 491 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:22,639 Speaker 1: the wild. But he had been gone for eight hours. 492 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,919 Speaker 1: I immediately booked flights to fly back. I was like, 493 00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 1: I have to go find me and talk to you. 494 00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:30,080 Speaker 1: I was hype, you know, you know, I was like 495 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,000 Speaker 1: hyper ventilating. I was like, oh my god. And where 496 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:33,560 Speaker 1: he had gotten out was on a busy street, and 497 00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:35,280 Speaker 1: I was like, he's dead. Oh my god, Oh my god, 498 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:38,240 Speaker 1: oh my god. I'm I'm almost at the airport. And 499 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:40,880 Speaker 1: then I get a call being like he with somebody 500 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 1: turned him into a pound. But that moment where you 501 00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:47,600 Speaker 1: think like this my like little slice of like heaven 502 00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:51,119 Speaker 1: is gone, is beyond anything. So anyone that has a 503 00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:54,120 Speaker 1: dog or an animal that they love can understand. But yeah, 504 00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: I just we've had a week. But um, I'm excited 505 00:25:57,840 --> 00:25:59,919 Speaker 1: for all of the fun things that we're going to do. 506 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,480 Speaker 1: We're gonna happen weekend. We're not Coachella people because well, 507 00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm too old to go to 508 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:06,840 Speaker 1: I wouldn't know what to do there. I wouldn't know 509 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 1: any of that the bands. I feel like a real 510 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 1: like I want to be Now that I'm almost I 511 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:13,399 Speaker 1: have this thing like I just feel too old to 512 00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 1: do anything. I put on a shirt. This is like 513 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:16,920 Speaker 1: a middrift. It's like has a little thing that I 514 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:19,760 Speaker 1: was like, who am I stop it with the middrift? 515 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 1: Too too old for this. I just it's like what 516 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 1: we were talking about before doing dinner at eight o'clock. 517 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,639 Speaker 1: I'm trying to get into a reservation tomorrow at seven 518 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 1: or seven thirty Eight's too late. That's too late for me. 519 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:32,680 Speaker 1: If someone says let's do dinner at six o'clock. I've 520 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,120 Speaker 1: never been happier. That means I'm back at home by eight. 521 00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:36,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to start the dinner at eight. That's 522 00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 1: going to ten o'clock. Then by the time I get 523 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:40,320 Speaker 1: home and take a shower and go to bed, now 524 00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 1: it's eleven o'clock. I'm too old for this. No, I'm 525 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,639 Speaker 1: too old. I'm too old, But I'm excited for Stage Coach. 526 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,680 Speaker 1: It's gonna be uh, it's gonna be fine. I'm having 527 00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 1: a really hard time speaking of being too old, of 528 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 1: trying to figure out what to wear. I've been on 529 00:26:53,640 --> 00:26:56,400 Speaker 1: Instagram and I'm looking at all these gals and they're 530 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:59,520 Speaker 1: barely nothing there. And like, first of all, I'm I 531 00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 1: haven't been able to work out in the last like 532 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 1: five days. I'm gonna go on gonna go on a 533 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,040 Speaker 1: walk in a minute, because you can't really when you're 534 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:09,160 Speaker 1: doing IVF, and so I feel gross, I feel bloated. 535 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,159 Speaker 1: It's all the things. Whatever. If we can get an 536 00:27:11,160 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 1: egg out of this, I'll be so pumped. I won't 537 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,359 Speaker 1: even give a crap. You're going to be the girl 538 00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 1: all on this stage at Stage coach if we over 539 00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:24,480 Speaker 1: carry launching from the stage. But yeah, it's so funny 540 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,639 Speaker 1: because I you know, Jared is walking by me and 541 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,720 Speaker 1: I'm on my laptop and he's like, are you shopping 542 00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:31,240 Speaker 1: for Stagecoach? And I'm like, I can't be the girl 543 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,520 Speaker 1: in the bikini and the short skirt, Babe. I'm gonna 544 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,719 Speaker 1: wear my nikes and I'm gonna wear baggy jeans. I 545 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 1: was like, I'm just not this girl. And he's like, 546 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:39,919 Speaker 1: I know you're not this girl. And I don't know 547 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,920 Speaker 1: if that's bad or good. I'm just so cute. Please, 548 00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:46,200 Speaker 1: you're you're sexy and a white T shirt and jeans, 549 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:48,800 Speaker 1: and he loves you just where you are. But we 550 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:50,399 Speaker 1: were You were asking me what wear and I have 551 00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,359 Speaker 1: this like dress whatever, which, by the way, I'm someone 552 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: I never try anything gone. I'm a shopper, play off 553 00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:59,639 Speaker 1: the rack, go home. As a former sales associate at 554 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 1: North you hate who I am because you come back 555 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:04,760 Speaker 1: in and why do I feel guilty? I've never even 556 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,520 Speaker 1: worn the item? But I come back in those sales people. 557 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 1: They look at you. They're like, was there anything wrong 558 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,879 Speaker 1: with this? And You're like, no, I just just didn't 559 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 1: fit when I got home. Yeah, and then they're like 560 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 1: they do the full inspection. It's like you like I've 561 00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:20,240 Speaker 1: worn it like that move of like I worried out 562 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:21,880 Speaker 1: and now I'm trying to return it. They're like looking 563 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 1: under the armpits. They're smelling it like the I never 564 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: I'm like, I just tried it on. I didn't want 565 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,159 Speaker 1: to try it on in the store, but they make 566 00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,480 Speaker 1: you feel so bad. So it happened to me the 567 00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,000 Speaker 1: other day. I brought back like a bunch of ship 568 00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:34,399 Speaker 1: and they were not happy because it goes against the store. 569 00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,080 Speaker 1: And then she goes, you know, you could return this 570 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 1: to the original location where you bought it. I was like, yeah, 571 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 1: but this location is closer, Like, just take it back, okay, 572 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 1: just pull up my portfolio. You see. I spent an 573 00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:47,000 Speaker 1: exorbitant amount of money here, and I don't need your attitude, lady, 574 00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:48,520 Speaker 1: because this was gonna be an exchange and I was 575 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 1: going to peruse the store for some more items that 576 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 1: I'm gonna okay exactly, and I have all of this 577 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:56,800 Speaker 1: money for dinner tonight and no one will help me. 578 00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,280 Speaker 1: I didn't ask if it would fit. I ask how 579 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,080 Speaker 1: much it was anyway, so I bought the dress. I 580 00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 1: don't know if that thing fits. When I sent you 581 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: a picture of anyone caring. I'm not going to get 582 00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,320 Speaker 1: a new boyfriend with this potty mouth. I don't worried 583 00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:12,760 Speaker 1: about it. Oh God, what is this world? So yeah, 584 00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:15,239 Speaker 1: so we'll see if that actually works. I could end 585 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:16,840 Speaker 1: up I'm for sure going to probably just end up 586 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,320 Speaker 1: in a T shirt and jeans. It's fine. I already 587 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,160 Speaker 1: know and I know the ladies out there. You had 588 00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:22,960 Speaker 1: talked about wearing boots, and then I was like, God, 589 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 1: this one outfit would look so cute with boots. But 590 00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't do boots because the second I'm 591 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,280 Speaker 1: in the boots or something that sound comfortable on my 592 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,280 Speaker 1: feet and it's like this for me on the sidelines, 593 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: it affects my mood. I'm like thinking about it NonStop. 594 00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:39,080 Speaker 1: Is it hurting? I'm just a happier, skippier, like dancier 595 00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:41,640 Speaker 1: person and sneaks. So why am I going to make 596 00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:45,720 Speaker 1: anyone miserable trying to be cute acute sins in a 597 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 1: food that I'm just gonna be. And then like the 598 00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 1: conversation is going to start thirty minutes in God, I 599 00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:52,840 Speaker 1: hope these don't hurt my feet. My feet are fine. 600 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 1: Forty five minutes like are they are? They not shoot 601 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 1: you know what, gut the gut through it. You got it, 602 00:29:58,080 --> 00:29:59,720 Speaker 1: you got it, you got it. It's okay, it's about 603 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,560 Speaker 1: and you were performing. Then you feel and you're like, fuck, 604 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,800 Speaker 1: I know what's happening. You don't want to complain about it. 605 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,800 Speaker 1: You know what's going to happen. You know. Ryan just 606 00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:11,840 Speaker 1: reminded us of the high risk returns. I know, I 607 00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:14,360 Speaker 1: know I'm gonna be a high risk return. Now. My 608 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,560 Speaker 1: other issue is what I'm wearing as a cover up, 609 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 1: because I see a lot of these girls and they 610 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,719 Speaker 1: look cold, and I don't like to be cold. So 611 00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,560 Speaker 1: I'm like looking at all these fringe jackets I could 612 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,560 Speaker 1: put around my little waisty too. But then, as we 613 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 1: discussed in the Calm Down podcast, I got stomach and 614 00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,920 Speaker 1: as Sweat. There's a lot of things, many things going 615 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,000 Speaker 1: on here. So thank you for joining us on this 616 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: episode of Divorce Fertility, As Sweat, Awareness Stowe stage coach, Jesus, 617 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,560 Speaker 1: we hope that you joined us next week. You never 618 00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:50,280 Speaker 1: know what's going to happen. Then fuck subscribe like by 619 00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:57,640 Speaker 1: end review. Oh congratulations Ben and Jen. Oh we didn't 620 00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 1: even get into Johnny Depp and Amber heard now there's 621 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:04,600 Speaker 1: a conversation for next week's podcast, because this child is 622 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,840 Speaker 1: going nowhere. Don't mess with that makeup company. They'll tell 623 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:17,000 Speaker 1: you when that compact came out by everyone. Calm Down 624 00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 1: with Aaron and Chrissa is a production of I heart Radio. 625 00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 1: For more podcasts from my heart Radio, visit the i 626 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 1: heart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts.