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Speaker 1: Hey guys, So, welcome to our podcast.

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Speaker 2: Jamila so soon in my head, I'm like, this is

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Speaker 2: your cute too.

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Speaker 1: Wait, we didn't smoke with our other first ques really sober? Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's okay, it's okay. This is we're being our true

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Speaker 1: self because we do smoke often. We're smoking women and

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Speaker 1: parents anyway. So uh, welcome to our podcast, Parental Advisory,

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Speaker 1: Bad Moms. Good Wait, goode, good mom's bad choices. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna get this.

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Speaker 3: Be sure to get that right because we're going.

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Speaker 1: To get this together. We actually are good moms that

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Speaker 1: make bad choices sometimes, but you know, I think we

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Speaker 1: all do anyway. I'm Erica. I am a thirty year

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Speaker 1: old single parent. My daughter her name is i Jane.

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Speaker 1: She is going to be three. And I am an

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Speaker 1: actor and also work in the beauty industry.

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Speaker 3: And Jamila, who are you?

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Speaker 2: I am Jamila or Mela a Meila, Jamila jam I'm

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Speaker 2: a twenty nine year old mom, single mom of one.

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Speaker 2: Luna is three years old. I'm also in the beauty

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Speaker 2: industry and a writer and a painter and a bunch

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Speaker 2: of other struggling artists things. Welcome to our podcast. This

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Speaker 2: is our little space to talk about our good parenting

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Speaker 2: but sometimes our bad choices.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is our.

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Speaker 1: Little safe space. I'm sure you guys either will love

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Speaker 1: us or hate us, and that's totally fine. If you

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Speaker 1: hate us, then fuck off, that's fine too, But if

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Speaker 1: you love us, keep listening. So we're not prepared at all,

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Speaker 1: you know, not really sure what to be just on

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Speaker 1: the topic.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I think like this single parenting, oh, single parenting,

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Speaker 2: like dating and single parenting rights. Right, well, I guess

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Speaker 2: we can talk about dating and we okay, So first

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Speaker 2: of all, we both live in Los Angeles and you

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Speaker 2: probably wouldn't know from our voices, but we're black. We are, yes,

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Speaker 2: black people.

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Speaker 1: Well I'm black, but I'm mixed, but you know, that's

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Speaker 1: a whole other story. And I'm recently single, and so

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Speaker 1: dating in LA has been really that was my kid. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna hear that from time to time. Our kids

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Speaker 1: are playing right now in the other room, don't know,

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Speaker 1: don't they don't know we're smoking. So it's fine, but

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Speaker 1: dating in LA has been really weird, like apps and.

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Speaker 3: Just I have higher expectations than I did when I

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Speaker 3: was twenty two. Oh yeah, that makes it really difficult.

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Speaker 2: The expectations will be the buzz killer every time, because

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Speaker 1: I mean I have like I have, I have no expectations,

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Speaker 1: but then I have I have certain things that if

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Speaker 1: you're gonna, if I were ever to really seriously date you,

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Speaker 1: you have to have these certain things, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, like like money.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let me ask you this. Do you have any

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Speaker 2: you said to date you? You have expectations? Do you

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Speaker 2: have any fun expectations? Or they're a lot lower. If

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Speaker 1: A lot lower. I mean there's still you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: not a monster, but you know they're a lot lower.

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Speaker 1: Like you know, for example, there's this one guy that

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Speaker 3: That's on the Dirty Car.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is.

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Speaker 1: I call him No Chemistry Bay because like we like

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Speaker 1: I got sick and like we started talking with him,

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Speaker 1: met me once before, like years ago, and so we really.

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Speaker 3: Close that door.

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Speaker 1: Okay, close the door. We met each other on Instagram

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Speaker 1: and we facetimed for like two weeks. It was all

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Speaker 1: This is great. Then we got to his car and

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Speaker 1: we made out and it was there's no chemistry at all,

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Speaker 2: This is the oddest story I've ever heard, because like

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Speaker 2: generally he just doesn't it was bomb. No chemistry making out,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but it was bomb. It's all I

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Speaker 1: like his dirty ass car, he's broken iPhone. I'm not

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Speaker 1: into this broken iPhone screen. It's a major pet peeve

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Speaker 3: My phone is totally broken.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but you're not a man. I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I just feel like my ex kind of

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Speaker 2: Does Is it like he's a bad car or is

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Speaker 2: it just like a dirty.

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Speaker 1: Okay, he's gonna know if he listens to this podcast

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Speaker 1: he's talking about him.

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Speaker 3: I don't care. Sorry, I'm not sorry, Mini Cooper.

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Speaker 1: And he's really tall.

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Speaker 2: You found to mention it was a mini Cooper the

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Speaker 1: He's really tall too, So that's funnier, is like, I

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Speaker 2: You know, smaller the car, get easier, the rotation, oh god,

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Speaker 2: there was no rotating. No. Yeah. So so basically, keep

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Speaker 2: but it could be I can't.

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Speaker 1: I'm obviously like I'm not going to keep calling you

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Speaker 1: if the sex is bad or like the chemistry, well,

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Speaker 3: The chemistry bad sex good. Well, now I think we

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Speaker 1: But now we talk like I'm annoyed with him again,

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Speaker 3: It's been a while, we haven't done it. That was

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Speaker 1: Back to being like no chemist broke broke bag, right.

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Speaker 2: But and then that's another thing. When you start, like

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Speaker 2: it's like, oh my, I'm single, mom ah. And then

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Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I'm free, do whatever the fucking want.

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Speaker 2: Only have a maybe fifty percent of the time, I'm young,

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Speaker 2: I'm yes, I look good. Oh yeah, And so then

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Speaker 2: it's like, oh my god, what was gonna say, I'm

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Speaker 1: This anyway, guys, so when it comes back to me,

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Speaker 1: I'll remember, yeah, but no, I mean, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: You get your groove back.

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Speaker 2: And then it's like the first couple of fucks or dates,

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Speaker 2: it's like, is it good?

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Speaker 1: Is this sex good?

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Speaker 3: Is there chemistry?

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Speaker 2: Or am I just like so excited to be smashing

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Speaker 1: Right, so you're out the game?

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Speaker 2: But is bombed because at first I was like, girl,

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Speaker 2: it was bomb. But it's the time, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: you think it's just me. I think my sex is

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Maybe that's the truth. Maybe this was like the guy.

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Speaker 3: It's like, you know what, Honestly though, I'm got me

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Speaker 1: But so it was really bomb, but there was definitely

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Speaker 2: Which was and he couldn't stay hard.

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Speaker 2: It was just that beginning like intro singleness. And that

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Speaker 3: But I feel like.

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Speaker 1: It's like I'm finding it more and more, like it

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Speaker 1: really is it really an age thing? Or is it

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Speaker 1: Like what's going on with all of these dicks not

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Speaker 2: I mean, how many none staying hard dicks have become

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Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, I've been in a relationship for a

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Speaker 2: And another thing is like small dicks.

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Speaker 3: I can't really, I don't do that. I don't know

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Speaker 2: I can't. I don't I can tell, so I don't

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Speaker 2: even go there. I can almost off and off a

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Speaker 2: few times. But yeah, I've been disurprised though a few times.

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Speaker 2: And these are all reasons that will make you fucking

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Speaker 2: back wheel and like start fucking. One's familiar because it's like,

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Speaker 2: you know, I think that won't stay hard and a

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Speaker 2: little dick is not a fun dick. You're right, You're right,

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Speaker 1: I see what you mean, but I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: just feel like I think Also, we were talking about before,

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Speaker 2: That's another fucked up thing, Like as a woman, when

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Speaker 1: That's really why I'm doing this.

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Speaker 3: And it's time we joined. Four voices.

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Speaker 2: I go, moms do night.

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Speaker 3: We're sexy too.

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Speaker 2: Just has too much time.

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Speaker 3: We would did yoga, we went got massage with the beach.

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Speaker 1: Oh girl, that's a whole Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: He was like shaking in my mouth.

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Speaker 1: It was weird. It was like vibrating and not like

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Speaker 3: It was like, are you scared?

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Speaker 3: I think that can be worked on, but I don't

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Speaker 2: But anyway, so he had to become perfect.

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Speaker 1: He was like yes. He was like why I haven't

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Speaker 3: And I have talked to him, but he was just like,

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, I'm a kid. Shit, I'm doing shit

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's another saying, like guys always talking about women

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Speaker 3: I like, guys, I think I'm the guy because you

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Speaker 2: I'm like, motherfucker, I got shit to do.

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Speaker 1: How about you?

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Speaker 3: Guys?

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Speaker 1: Are women? They got it?

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Speaker 1: It's literally were more powerful and stronger, and so they

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for like sitting on that stick, I'm like cuddling. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: And if you get a good one, who will take

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Speaker 2: you the yoga and the beach? Yeah I got his.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go back out with him more.

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Speaker 2: Yeah you should.

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Speaker 3: And Okay, so our first date was that we met

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Speaker 2: So this is one of my like you know, you'd

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Speaker 1: I just know how to work it. But when I

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Speaker 2: You come up with these stories? Like this doesn't having

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Speaker 1: Up on me.

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Speaker 2: Wait, I just want to be clear about this tender meetup.

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Speaker 2: You were on the top of the mountain where in

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Speaker 3: One hundred percur How long were you waiting at the

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Speaker 1: I like waited for him. I didn't wait for him,

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Speaker 3: They don't want to go ski, they're all fucked up.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna go collet you. And so he met up

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Speaker 1: all I saw was you even can't fish that You're

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Speaker 3: Sure you should have known that.

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Speaker 1: he was a really good snowboarder. And then we got

443
00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,440
Speaker 1: on this chair lift and then like he just like

444
00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:52,400
Speaker 1: looked at me and then we just made.

445
00:19:52,280 --> 00:19:55,240
Speaker 3: Out and on the mountain, on the chair that's going

446
00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:56,080
Speaker 3: up the mountain.

447
00:19:56,400 --> 00:20:00,040
Speaker 2: Wow, I'm definitely right the fuck now, because this this

448
00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:02,639
Speaker 2: some bullshit, like this sounds like a love story.

449
00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:04,400
Speaker 3: Was this lip trembling?

450
00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:08,800
Speaker 1: Then it was cold? It was justified if.

451
00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,000
Speaker 3: You have a lip trimble, always meet.

452
00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:13,000
Speaker 1: The bitch on the mountain. She may not.

453
00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:15,200
Speaker 3: Notice when you get back to the California.

454
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:17,920
Speaker 1: Oh, you might have had a troubling you know what.

455
00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:18,639
Speaker 3: I just realized.

456
00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:20,760
Speaker 2: Also, no one's ever going to date this if we

457
00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:22,639
Speaker 2: talk about every single person we date.

458
00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:24,359
Speaker 1: On here, but no one knows who they are. They

459
00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:26,920
Speaker 1: just know they know they're like, fuck that bitch. I'm

460
00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:29,560
Speaker 1: just I'm never going to talk about this podcast with them. No,

461
00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:33,080
Speaker 1: Like we can't even tell anyone it's a secret. They

462
00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:36,520
Speaker 1: won't listen. I mean, it's very rare that people invest

463
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:40,160
Speaker 1: in their friends, even you can't even get your friends.

464
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:43,240
Speaker 1: And you're like we post something right, right, right, Like

465
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:43,800
Speaker 1: you post a.

466
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:47,359
Speaker 2: Booty pick four hundred right, Like you're all your motherfucker's

467
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:48,760
Speaker 2: minded to followays from my business?

468
00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,280
Speaker 1: Right Like you post a booty pick, I get like

469
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: four hundred bags and I post something I'm really passionate

470
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:57,159
Speaker 1: about it's like fifty right, Okay, people, y'all don't love me,

471
00:20:58,440 --> 00:20:59,200
Speaker 1: They're not gonna listen.

472
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:00,480
Speaker 3: I might as well just say names.

473
00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:05,479
Speaker 2: So basically, all you your success in dating so far

474
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 2: has been on tender. That's why I'm failing in life

475
00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:12,119
Speaker 2: because my one tender encounter this is like end up

476
00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:18,480
Speaker 2: being our tender episode. I'm trying to think, Oh, E.

477
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: Only met up with like two.

478
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 2: The first one was much larger in person than he

479
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 2: appeared in his photographs. But I am a very nice

480
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 2: person and I'm very non judgmental, and I'm actually I

481
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,760
Speaker 2: usually am the least shallow of my friends. I'm like,

482
00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 2: he's such a nice guy, Like who cares? Like I've

483
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 2: been in all types of guys. Yeah, so he was

484
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:44,240
Speaker 2: like a big boy.

485
00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 1: He wasn't big, but he was big.

486
00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:47,679
Speaker 3: Did you want to say a date?

487
00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 2: Though? We went out to the club, went out to breakfast?

488
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:54,359
Speaker 1: Wait, did you spend the night? No?

489
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:58,280
Speaker 2: I know, I wasn't separcations. Yeah, and then he was

490
00:21:58,359 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 2: kind of cute, but like he was kind of square.

491
00:22:00,119 --> 00:22:02,040
Speaker 2: I went to his house one day, like he just

492
00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 2: moved out here. He had like a real job.

493
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 3: I'm hitting mary. He was an Edgina.

494
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,120
Speaker 2: It was like a very square, like a mama's boy.

495
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:08,840
Speaker 2: And that's good and all, but like not for me.

496
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:16,800
Speaker 2: But the second one, Jeremy should have said that. But Johnny, Hey,

497
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 2: Johnny was white.

498
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:21,120
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna believe that part out.

499
00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 2: That's a good one to the only reason we're gonna

500
00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 2: pre record to look everybody's fucking name out. We have

501
00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 2: no friends and no dating potential. Oh he was white

502
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 2: and he was cute, and I actually I matched with

503
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,400
Speaker 2: him on Tender. First of all, I need to update

504
00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:40,120
Speaker 2: my Tender. This is also shout out to Tender because

505
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:41,879
Speaker 2: I went to New York and went on Tender and

506
00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 2: for like four hours, I was still getting hits from

507
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 2: La and I was like, what the fuck, That's what

508
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,199
Speaker 2: happened to me too. You need to get that location

509
00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 2: ship on point because.

510
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 1: If I'm in New York, I needed as soon as

511
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:52,960
Speaker 1: I opened the app.

512
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 3: I need to be in New York.

513
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 2: I don't need to be four hours getting hits from California.

514
00:22:56,040 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 2: Because this is how I met fucking Johnny. Four hours

515
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 2: they hadn't switched it over. He's hitting me up and

516
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:04,679
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I meet up with him and he's like, oh,

517
00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 2: then I realized he's in California.

518
00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:07,640
Speaker 1: Whatever, I wasn't fucking New York.

519
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 2: Two months two months later, this motherfucker is still like

520
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 2: hitting me up. I'm like, okay, I'm gonna be when

521
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 2: he hit me up for like the sard time. I

522
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 2: had just happened to be in the airport coming back,

523
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 2: so I'm like, it just so happens. I'm on my

524
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 2: way back right now. I's like, oh, you came back

525
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 2: to you coming back to claim me as.

526
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:24,600
Speaker 1: My woman or something.

527
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:25,959
Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, he's real confident.

528
00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:30,439
Speaker 2: This is Jeremy Johnny and he has four girls, so.

529
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:30,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay.

530
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:33,160
Speaker 2: He seems like a good dad, which is kind of, yeah,

531
00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 2: at this point attractive because we should be the fucking

532
00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 2: Brady bunch up in this bench. You know, we don't

533
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:40,359
Speaker 2: have to school. You wan like do's and don't so

534
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: being a parent. Anyway, he was really cool. We went out,

535
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 2: they picked me up in the uber. We started drinking

536
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 2: and he was like real deep, like he came over

537
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:52,879
Speaker 2: and it's like, why do you start drinking? Came up

538
00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 2: set next to me and was like touching on my hand,

539
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,239
Speaker 2: looking deep in my eyes, which is also a thing

540
00:23:57,320 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 2: I tend to find when I do white guys.

541
00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 3: They're real deep, real into you, like it's so beautiful.

542
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 2: I've been winning so long to touch your face, touch

543
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 2: your hands, and just touch your lips. It was literally like,

544
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,159
Speaker 2: oh my god, I wish if I could find a

545
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,920
Speaker 2: text from him, girl, I'm gonna look for he would

546
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 2: talk to me as if he was writing. Yeah.

547
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 3: It was so strange.

548
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I plurried to God, I still have

549
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:26,600
Speaker 2: these sex Damn did I raise the Damn? It was

550
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:30,000
Speaker 2: like your sweet touch your warm, your warm hairs, and

551
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 2: it was so warm. It was so weird.

552
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:33,639
Speaker 3: Anyway, we started drinking.

553
00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 2: We're drinking, and we started walking up the street to

554
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 2: maybe the next spot, and I'm like, you know, so

555
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 2: asking about his ex wife, and I guess the ex

556
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:43,119
Speaker 2: wife must now date a brother. First of all, I

557
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 2: forgot to tell you he's from fucking like Utah. And

558
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 2: he also disclosed he never sent a black person till

559
00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:49,160
Speaker 2: he was in college.

560
00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, because I was out there, Utah

561
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: is not it's not a place for blocks.

562
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:56,639
Speaker 2: I mean Mormons, I mean I know Mormons are not

563
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 2: down with the blacks, So I can only imagine it.

564
00:24:58,480 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 1: A place for us.

565
00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 2: Yes, so he said he I don't know how he

566
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 2: got this sweet tooth for brown sugar, but he ain't

567
00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:07,439
Speaker 2: never seen a black person until against them.

568
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:08,440
Speaker 3: It was against the rules.

569
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: He felt like, yeah, so that's another thing.

570
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 3: I'm like, this is a fetish and I'm the type

571
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 3: of this girl.

572
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:16,359
Speaker 2: Anybody starts talking about the X the ex wife who's

573
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 2: now remarried to Jamal, So I'm like, yes, that was

574
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 2: really I was like, you're I started laughing, like, oh,

575
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 2: she got it.

576
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 1: I was like, what does he do.

577
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, well, basically just live off my child

578
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:31,439
Speaker 2: support checks. So I made the mistake of saying, oh,

579
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: he's a niggad and he was like, yeah, he's a nigga.

580
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:40,400
Speaker 2: Even he repeated it, repeated it, and at the time

581
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,359
Speaker 2: I was drunk in surprise, so I thought it was

582
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 2: because he said the like hard a too like nigga.

583
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 2: So I was like, okay, whatever, she's kind of funny.

584
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 2: But then like after that, he continued to make racial

585
00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 2: comments like if some are not comfortable, he thought you

586
00:25:56,359 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 2: were like, yeah, he got so comfortable, Like okay, this

587
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 2: is another funny joke. But then out for this I

588
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 2: got bad, so like the second day, I was meeting

589
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:08,400
Speaker 2: him for appetizers, and well, okay, that was meeting for food.

590
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 2: First of all, I don't go anywhere without the motivation

591
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 2: of food first. And if you disappoint me and your like,

592
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 2: I just never.

593
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 1: Heard someone say I was meeting someone for appetite.

594
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 2: What a sad which says something like that me, or

595
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 2: we'll look you in second spot for our entree and

596
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 2: a certain spot for our dessert.

597
00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 3: So I I said, disorder whatever looks good.

598
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 2: So when I get to the bar, I said, he said, yeah,

599
00:26:33,080 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 2: I asked the bartender what would be a good appetizer

600
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 2: for a black girl? So I got you macaroni and cheese. Oh.

601
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 3: I also thought that was hilarious.

602
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: But I shouldn't know.

603
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 2: These two signs were already like he was already given

604
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:51,320
Speaker 2: me you're doing too much. The third and fourth and

605
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 2: fifth strike came really bunched up together.

606
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,600
Speaker 3: Okay, there was a bunch of shrikes after that.

607
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:58,120
Speaker 2: A lot of them are bored because there was like intoxication.

608
00:26:58,200 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 2: But the one time he tried me when I was sober,

609
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, so I let me tell you

610
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 2: his other jokes were.

611
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 1: He was like, yeah, I was just talking to my

612
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 1: you guys' even die.

613
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,439
Speaker 2: I was talking to my homie Chris Chris and uh,

614
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 2: oh my god, would he say like Tiger? He said

615
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 2: t I or something and I was like, what are

616
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 2: you talking about?

617
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 3: No?

618
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 2: He was like yeah, I was talking to him about,

619
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 2: you know, the chick I just met basically tell me

620
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 2: these hell was ain't loyal and I was like, wait,

621
00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:35,760
Speaker 2: what who are your friends?

622
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:37,000
Speaker 3: I'm like, are you talking about me?

623
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: I was so confused.

624
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 3: He's like, you didn't get it, Chris Brown, and I

625
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 3: was like no.

626
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 2: Then I was like, I'm in Atlanta visiting my friend Miura.

627
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 1: We went to school together.

628
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 2: We went to HBCU.

629
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 3: He's like to mirror, hey girl, hey, and shout out

630
00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 3: to Clark.

631
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, you went to Helman And I was like,

632
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 2: what to Heilman? Is that from the Cosby's or something?

633
00:27:58,760 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 1: No?

634
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 2: Girls from different world? And then he's like, oh what

635
00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 2: you don't think I'm woke enough? And after he tried woke,

636
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 2: I was done with tender altogether. I met him close

637
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 2: the chapter on All My White Boys and I'm definitely

638
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: closing church and it was sad because he was so

639
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 2: into me girling. But like make out with me.

640
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 1: How did you end it?

641
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 2: After that conversation he knew I was not like it

642
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 2: was too much.

643
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: No, no, this one phone and you know what the

644
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,399
Speaker 1: last comment was. He made a joke to the.

645
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:28,399
Speaker 2: Effects of, oh, yeah, because I'm white, all I have

646
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 2: to do is just wake up and not do anything.

647
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 2: I said, are you implying that there's not white privilege?

648
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 2: I don't know how he got on this topic, but

649
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 2: he didn't get the memo that I'm not the person

650
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:38,920
Speaker 2: to discussed this with.

651
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 1: And he was like, yeah, because oh this is a comic.

652
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 2: Racism only exists on social media. I said, yeah, easy

653
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 2: for you to see.

654
00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:51,000
Speaker 3: That was sacred.

655
00:28:51,080 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, what's happening? Wow, don't do that to her. Sorry,

656
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 1: gave her. I had.

657
00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:06,520
Speaker 3: Be nice.

658
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: Choking each other, I know, to go, oh my gosh,

659
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 2: good mom, good moms. Just bad we're totally paying attention.

660
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:28,360
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, basically racism Alisi's on social media. And I said, yeah,

661
00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,400
Speaker 2: easy for you to say, because you don't ever have

662
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 2: to r any of these things. And he basically said

663
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 2: that he's from Ireland and the Irish never had slaves,

664
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 2: and that racism and that slavery only existed down South.

665
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 2: So after like those fourteen dumb ass fucking comments, I

666
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 2: kindly told him this was I'm not we're not going

667
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 2: to talk, and then he sent me like a book

668
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 2: chapter of text after like, I can't believe you would

669
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 2: think I'm a racist. You don't know what I've done

670
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 2: for this community because he's a he's like a gym.

671
00:29:59,120 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, what does that mean?

672
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 3: Five young black guys go to your gym?

673
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 2: So you saved your saving black community.

674
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 3: Then he even put it there.

675
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 2: You know, you don't know how I take care of

676
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 2: my my daughter's stepsister. I'm like, oh, Jamal's daughter, So

677
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 2: you got so Jamal's daughter in this too, like and

678
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 2: also and also my daughters have a black stepsister.

679
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

680
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 2: That's like when people say, like I have a black cousin, Yeah,

681
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 2: I have a black friend. Yeah, like my granddaughter's half black.

682
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 2: Like that wasn't your choice, your your daughter Lake was

683
00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 2: a black dag.

684
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 3: And now you gotta pay for it.

685
00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

686
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. Tinder is so not so much for me, so

687
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 2: much for you. But I'm downloading it now, so maybe

688
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 2: I have some updated story.

689
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 1: Oh you should swape swipe, but I don't use Tinder

690
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 1: in LA because it doesn't work. It's not so much

691
00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,200
Speaker 1: that Actually the first Tinder day I ever went on

692
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 1: was in LA because I just got on my relationship.

693
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 1: I was like, just felt like I needed to meet

694
00:30:57,160 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: someone or do something to make me feel like, I

695
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 1: don't know, like a woman again. I felt so like

696
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: like just like this weird, unsexual, like I don't know

697
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: who I was.

698
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 3: I was like, I just need to get some day.

699
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 2: That's the part, like like being secked into the mom mom.

700
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: I felt like I was, you know, I was really

701
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,600
Speaker 1: invested in my relationship, and I just felt like I

702
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: was just being playing this mom role, playing this loyal

703
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: girlfriend fiance role, and I kind of like lost my

704
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 1: like who Erica was as a woman, like sexually and

705
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,120
Speaker 1: emotionally and even.

706
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 2: In my career, you know.

707
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 3: And so like when I got out of it, I

708
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 3: was kind of like it was a relief, but it

709
00:31:43,640 --> 00:31:46,280
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, how do I I don't have male

710
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 3: friends and men. I have male friends, but none of

711
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 3: them I want to go on a date with. You know,

712
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 3: don't get that I needed someone so foreign to me.

713
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:55,920
Speaker 1: I did not want to be you know what I mean?

714
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 1: So I used it in La and the first day

715
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: it was cool, like I had a goal that was

716
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,160
Speaker 1: to make out and I accomplished that goal. You know,

717
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: afterwards guy homeboy got attached or whatever, and I was like,

718
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: absolutely not. But after that, like people would like people

719
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: would hit me up and be like, Erica, you know,

720
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 1: I saw someone had a fake Tinder account, but someone's

721
00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:16,560
Speaker 1: using your photos because.

722
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 3: You know, no one knew for sure if I was

723
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:21,000
Speaker 3: broken up, and I was like, no, that's that's me.

724
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: And then like it kept happening because La is way

725
00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 1: too small apparently, like everybody knows everybody.

726
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:32,600
Speaker 2: I mean, just oh, we gotta download soul swipe, got.

727
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh oh got downloak that I was just telling

728
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 3: my friend about that today.

729
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 2: Maybe, but because there's even less black people in LA,

730
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 2: nobody will find us there.

731
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 3: No, that's going to be all the hood hood niggas,

732
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 3: you know, kind of like.

733
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 2: What I got away from a.

734
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 1: God.

735
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:53,719
Speaker 3: I love me anyway.

736
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: But yeah, So then I realized I couldn't use it

737
00:32:58,240 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 1: Tinder in La. I was like, you know, this is

738
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 1: too close to home. I don't know people on here,

739
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: and Loki, I'd rather I don't know.

740
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 3: I just feel like it's more fun when you're out

741
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 3: of town.

742
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 2: Speaking of technological dating, have you heard of.

743
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:14,120
Speaker 1: That?

744
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 2: Like really exclusive?

745
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: They have to approve you, Riya. Yes, yeah, they denied me.

746
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:22,719
Speaker 2: They put me in a waiting list, and I want

747
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 2: to slip those through.

748
00:33:24,240 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 1: Wait when did this happen?

749
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 2: Like a year ago when I first got single, I

750
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 2: was like.

751
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 1: Really, my cousin's on that, or she was she's a boyfriend,

752
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: but she was on that.

753
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 2: I heard some really crazy stories about the guys that

754
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 2: were getting on there, like the girl who I told

755
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 2: me about it my client, This bitch sorry in the

756
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 2: best possible way. Met a guy who flew her to

757
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 2: Croatia for a week and her like six other girls

758
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 2: and put them up in like a did you on them?

759
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: No, he did not on them.

760
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 2: He was really respectful and nice.

761
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 1: Could she have sex with him?

762
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 2: No, she said the other girls were like biting at

763
00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 2: the bit, so she didn't feel she didn't even have to.

764
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 2: She was like she said, she was like a little

765
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 2: bit older than the other girls, and.

766
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: She was just like she just had a good time.

767
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 3: Amazing, that's how you do it.

768
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 2: Like he was like a soccer player or something. They

769
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 2: see when a date was like a ex tennis player.

770
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 1: Like, well, so my cousin went like dated some like

771
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 1: lead singer of like a pretty popular band, or like

772
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: a guitarist of a popular band. She's dated like she's

773
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: an art she's an artist to herself, so she's dated,

774
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: like what.

775
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 2: Are they Okay?

776
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,719
Speaker 5: She's dated like some You definitely meet some well to

777
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 5: do entertainment people have secret society day Like That's why

778
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 5: I'm not on there because I don't want to have

779
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 5: anything to do with anything related to entertainment.

780
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: I probably will never get accepted now because after they

781
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 2: tell me in the waiting list, I wrote a nasty

782
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:44,720
Speaker 2: you wrote.

783
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 3: An email email and suggested, oh did you who recommended her?

784
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 1: Did you? Don't you have to have recommendations?

785
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 2: Yeah?

786
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: And I had a recommendation where they had they with

787
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 3: the quality right.

788
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:57,280
Speaker 1: Their quality.

789
00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:59,000
Speaker 2: I guess I just was like, it's like the Soubhole

790
00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,239
Speaker 2: House of dating. I and I would I really want

791
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 2: to know who's on there, but I bet you I

792
00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 2: find the statistics that probably weren't that many girls that

793
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 2: look like me.

794
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,960
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know, probably not. I mean in

795
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 3: La yeah, Riot, I can't.

796
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know she showed me her profile, and

797
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 1: it's so dramatic, literally, like you have a soundtrack to

798
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: your photos.

799
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 3: Shut the fuck a music video. Wait, so it's a movie.

800
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you put photos and it's like you like

801
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: fades in and fades out. You have to pick a

802
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: song to be like your background music. Yeah, it's it's pretty.

803
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:30,800
Speaker 1: That's insane.

804
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 3: And I had another friend who was on a Millionaire

805
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:34,560
Speaker 3: Matchmaker and she's with her boyfriend.

806
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: Now did she pay for it?

807
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:37,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, it wasn't like the show.

808
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:40,040
Speaker 1: It was like the actual app. There's an app, yes.

809
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:40,399
Speaker 2: And you pay.

810
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 3: I might know if you pay you that's gonna be

811
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:45,840
Speaker 3: the same one. She's she likes older guys though, like

812
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 3: he's probably like fifty guys. That's true. So then I mean,

813
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 3: I don't mind, I don't know.

814
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: I'm open.

815
00:35:51,160 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 3: I'm open. Call me.

816
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,960
Speaker 2: How are you? How do you call me? I've didd

817
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:00,040
Speaker 2: some or like been friends with some pretty older.

818
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 1: I find that I always date like within like five

819
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: year during age gap between not below though, I will

820
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 1: never date.

821
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,399
Speaker 3: Someone younger than me. Don't even try, just don't.

822
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: I met that one's really sexy young thing who's mature

823
00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 2: and I'll still a cancer.

824
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 1: But he's also like youngestuck. I just feel like everyone

825
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 1: seems mature of us.

826
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then they said I can crazy when they're

827
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 2: twenty seven.

828
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, even if they're fifty.

829
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 2: They're twenty seven.

830
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 3: That's true, but it's even worse than they actually are. Like, honestly,

831
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 3: if someone told me they were twenty nine, I might

832
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 3: not date them. That's how like age, just.

833
00:36:32,280 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 1: Like I don't know.

834
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:35,320
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't want to date unless you really

835
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,400
Speaker 2: have your shit together, because I always say this, Like

836
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 2: my bad baby's daddy is my age. She's twenty nine

837
00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 2: and in man years, that's about fifteen. Okay, so if

838
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 2: you were.

839
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:49,719
Speaker 3: Even thirty five and man years, you were about twenty three.

840
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 3: So they like the older the better because I don't

841
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:52,879
Speaker 3: have time.

842
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 2: Like, don't fucking call me too much, don't be right

843
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 2: in me, don't be asking me to me god damn questions.

844
00:36:57,480 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 2: Have some shit to do, so you're not worried about

845
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 2: what the fuck I'm doing. Don't be insecure. That's all

846
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 2: young guys shit, Get your shit together, have your money together,

847
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 2: because mine's not all the way together. We lie sixty five.

848
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 3: Percent there, so I need you to handle the rest.

849
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 2: You need to be like one hundred and ten percent

850
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 2: there because you know, honestly, I.

851
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 1: Need a man, but I help me.

852
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 2: I need a mentor.

853
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, show me I need I need a mentor. Okay,

854
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 1: oh my god.

855
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 3: Honestly, like I don't want to do the teaching.

856
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: I don't.

857
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 2: I can't mold anyone like I'm so used to like

858
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,360
Speaker 2: caring and nurturing and all this shit. I have not

859
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 2: one single lesson to give one person. I need all

860
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:31,920
Speaker 2: the teaching I can get.

861
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 3: I agree. That's why I guess I'm an agist. Yeah

862
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 3: that I'm the highest.

863
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:42,560
Speaker 2: I'm I'm too short, Like you can't be short than me.

864
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 2: You're a minute sure. I might legally be right over

865
00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 2: a midget. Like legally I believe I am like right

866
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 2: past the mid tree. So if you're sure, then me,

867
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 2: it's just.

868
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:53,320
Speaker 3: Like your a dwarf.

869
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 2: And I don't m a. I doctors, Kimmina. I think

870
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 2: I have one eye. I need a guy in a

871
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:03,839
Speaker 2: predile agic not Fetti Boll he was a paraplegic. Hi

872
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 2: turn the lot, l Okay, that's not try, it's irin,

873
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 2: she says, lights on.

874
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 1: You don't want to do it. Okay, show show show Luna,

875
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: Show Luna okay.

876
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:18,000
Speaker 3: Bye, Okay, those are our children.

877
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 2: Those are our kids, Luna and Irin, that are up

878
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 2: at ten thirty nine PM because we're good moms and

879
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 2: we're making a bad decision to not put our kids

880
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 2: to sleep right now, especially the best decision, because they're

881
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 2: going to sleep into borrowing exactly. Okay, here's a confession.

882
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 2: I regularly, if I'm not doing shit, let my daughter

883
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 2: stay up late so that she doesn't make it too

884
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 2: early in the morning, which is terrible because it's going

885
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:40,480
Speaker 2: to mess her life up in the future, and I'm

886
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:42,640
Speaker 2: going to work on it next week. She seems that

887
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 2: our sleeping patterns change every week.

888
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 3: I was like, she needs she that's an easy fixy.

889
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:50,080
Speaker 1: Okay, my, I mean, I can't say that I do

890
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: that on purpose, but I have done it and it

891
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 1: definitely works, and maybe I should because my kid has

892
00:38:56,320 --> 00:38:58,919
Speaker 1: been waking me up at like between six forty five

893
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 1: and seven thirty every morning, and sometimes like I don't

894
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: go to bed till like two, so I'm tired and

895
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 1: I don't even know how to sleep. And that's why

896
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 1: I took a nap today because I was like, I'm tired,

897
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 1: I need a nap.

898
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:13,319
Speaker 2: Another confession when my kid breaks up too early, I'll

899
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 2: pour some cereal and I give her my phone on

900
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 2: you too and do a small silent pair. She doesn't

901
00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:24,320
Speaker 2: suck anything up, and usually she does it. She's just

902
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:27,879
Speaker 2: compactly fine, like an angel watching YouTube until my phone dies,

903
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 2: in which case that's am I alert.

904
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 3: To wake the bet wake time. Yeah.

905
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 1: The other day she woke me up and I was like, I.

906
00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 3: Was like, you're going to sleep, and she's like, Mama,

907
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 3: She's like, I'm not tired.

908
00:39:38,400 --> 00:39:40,720
Speaker 1: I said, no, we're going to sleep, like I forced

909
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: her she wouldn't feel like girls.

910
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 3: She went by to sleep, took a lot, but I

911
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 3: was tired.

912
00:39:45,840 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

913
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,319
Speaker 1: It's like and I was like, no, we're not doing

914
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: this right.

915
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:52,040
Speaker 2: Now, nothing's happening for you to be up.

916
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, just close your eyes and you're sleeping. I

917
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 1: don't care what you just be quiet. Yeah.

918
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 3: But I've been like really trying to.

919
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: Like it's been like the past week or two, Irie

920
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: has been like crying about TV. She's obsessed with the TV,

921
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 1: and it's been pissing me off because it's my fault

922
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: because like I need to get things done, so I'll

923
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 1: put the TV on, you know what.

924
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 3: I mean or like it's just an easy thing to do.

925
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 1: So I've challenged my I was like, okay, like I

926
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 1: need to challenge myself every like we're not doing TV

927
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 1: in the morning anymore, and it's been hard like today,

928
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:27,960
Speaker 1: like I was like really tempted to put the TV on.

929
00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what I really have to

930
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 3: get I send these emails.

931
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:31,080
Speaker 2: I have to do this.

932
00:40:31,200 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 1: And I was like, we're gonna read this book, okay,

933
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 1: and we read it, but I think it's it's honestly

934
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 1: been helping though. It's really been helping because it forces

935
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:42,800
Speaker 1: me to have to like not the first thing that

936
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 1: I do in the morning is get on Instagram when

937
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 1: we have right, because that's what I do because I'm

938
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: addicted to my phone.

939
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 2: Look like one hundred percent twenty we all are, we

940
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 2: all are. It's so bad though, Like I was disgusting.

941
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:54,880
Speaker 1: I was literally like thinking, like I wonder, like if

942
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 1: I can track how many hours a day I'm on

943
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: my phone, it would probably be so many, so many hours,

944
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: like probably most of my day.

945
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 2: And then it's like when you when you add that

946
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 2: up in your life or in your child's life, exactly most.

947
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 3: Of my day.

948
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: If it's not checking my emails. If it's not checking

949
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: how many likes I have on this Yeah, but like

950
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:17,840
Speaker 1: you just posted to minute yah, how many who commented?

951
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 1: Like who's why this is? Sign ask cuture Like it's

952
00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:22,919
Speaker 1: seventy we like over things that looks good.

953
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 3: It's just too much.

954
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,920
Speaker 1: And then my job is like requires me to be

955
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:33,359
Speaker 1: like socially active, and it's just like it's too much.

956
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:35,480
Speaker 1: It's just a lot, and I'm trying to.

957
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 2: Like I feel like that morning thing hopefully will grow

958
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 2: into something else, but I already feel myself wanting to

959
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 2: like be like fuck it, just turn the TV on. Yeah,

960
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess the part of the bedness was

961
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,320
Speaker 2: I still be putting the hair, like here's here's a

962
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:50,280
Speaker 2: YouTube right.

963
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 3: Now, and that shit is so weird.

964
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 2: But the cool thing about raising a kid is that

965
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:58,759
Speaker 2: it kind of forces you to be more aware of

966
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 2: your own actions to so you know what I mean.

967
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:03,640
Speaker 2: So like you're going to have times you know you

968
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:05,440
Speaker 2: want to do certain shit and you're like, you know,

969
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 2: that rational voice in your head it's like, no, don't

970
00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 2: just get weird fucking kids the phone so she can

971
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 2: look at other people play this way.

972
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 3: It's weird, right, you know, I know, but I think

973
00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 3: when I was a kid, like, what but my mom

974
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 3: wasn't on Instagram?

975
00:42:18,280 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: Was she? I guess?

976
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 3: Was I just watching TV?

977
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 1: Probably?

978
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 2: Yeah? The VHS, I don't know. They had to be

979
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:23,880
Speaker 2: way more involved obviously.

980
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 1: Yeah.

981
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 2: Oh my god. It reminds me of heavy. Woke to

982
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 2: the Chris Rock Special and I was like, I haven't

983
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 2: seen it. He has this joke about this is my wife.

984
00:42:33,040 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 2: He was like, back in the day when my parents,

985
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:39,560
Speaker 2: my parents were when we were coming up, my dad

986
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 2: left at six point thirty. He didn't come back to

987
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:44,759
Speaker 2: about eight o'clock at night. That means all day my

988
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 2: mom had no way to get in contact with with

989
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:47,319
Speaker 2: my dad.

990
00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 1: If we died he came back, he said, well, what

991
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 1: time did the dad the kids say?

992
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 2: Because he wouldn't he would have no way of finding

993
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 2: outuntil he got home at night.

994
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:56,120
Speaker 1: He said.

995
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:59,279
Speaker 3: Now you leave the fucking house and your wife's.

996
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 2: Fucking texting every night a mout the fucking second minute,

997
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 2: every feeling for you.

998
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 3: She's like, you didn't miss me, Why are you want

999
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:04,839
Speaker 3: to talk?

1000
00:43:05,280 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 1: We've been talking oh the fucking day.

1001
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, ain't that the fucking I know everything?

1002
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 1: Going on all the fucking time, all the time. I mean,

1003
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 1: it's a good thing or when it comes to I

1004
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 1: guess your kids. But it's also like FaceTime is amazing,

1005
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 1: Yeah you know what I mean, especially because I travel

1006
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 1: a lot and like so does your dad.

1007
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 3: But it's really bad for like you're blowing up my spot. Yeah,

1008
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 3: don't don't face I don't.

1009
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 1: Not make a FaceTime appointment, but appointment first. So I'm

1010
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: not FaceTime me.

1011
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:34,920
Speaker 2: I hate that.

1012
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 1: No, that like the only person that can do that

1013
00:43:38,239 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 1: is like her, like floor the nanny missed me or

1014
00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:43,400
Speaker 1: my grandmother.

1015
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 3: She's with my daughter. It's okay, like low key, her.

1016
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 2: Dad's gonna have to stop doing it, yeah, because because wait,

1017
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 2: what if you're like laid up, yeah, and you're like

1018
00:43:53,760 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 2: the baby is not with you, but you don't want

1019
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 2: to that.

1020
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:57,239
Speaker 3: I don't have big right now, like right now.

1021
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: It's okay, it's still early in the game of singleness

1022
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 1: that I'm not out here too great. Well right, no,

1023
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: but yeah, I've had people like just face time me

1024
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 1: out of the blue, and I'm like, why are you

1025
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 1: face text first?

1026
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 2: Ye?

1027
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 3: Step one?

1028
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 1: Step one, make an appointment.

1029
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,399
Speaker 2: Back to the dating thing. Now that we were talking

1030
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 2: about the kids. Have you like has ever been around

1031
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 2: anybody you've dated or like no or like seeing No.

1032
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 2: I had a scenario world that young guy I met.

1033
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 2: I met him in New York. I'm playing all my

1034
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:39,239
Speaker 2: business while Lena was with me, like at a barbecue,

1035
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:42,080
Speaker 2: so there was like it was an all in one situation.

1036
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:43,919
Speaker 2: So he had already like not that I'm like making

1037
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 2: out or like what like you knew you were going

1038
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 2: to meet him there or no, no, we happened to

1039
00:44:48,239 --> 00:44:51,800
Speaker 2: meet there. Yeah, my whole family was like my grandmother,

1040
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:52,319
Speaker 2: my dad.

1041
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I didn't plan that.

1042
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:58,360
Speaker 2: We didn't like to meet up there, but like he

1043
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:01,439
Speaker 2: like made out with me a the barbecue, so cute,

1044
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 2: young and sexy, so I went with it.

1045
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:06,359
Speaker 1: My kid was there, my dad, my brother.

1046
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 3: I didn't give three focks.

1047
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 2: I was like, ah, but you know after that, you

1048
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 2: know he would come by and hang out because he

1049
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 2: was also friends with the girl I was staying with,

1050
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 2: and you know, like it I had to think about it,

1051
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:19,279
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, like you know, being a

1052
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 2: certain way or like not even affectionate because I'm not

1053
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: like a mushy type of girl. But it is kind

1054
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 2: of weird and then like her dad is face signing me,

1055
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:30,400
Speaker 2: and she, oh, great, she face signed me Luna.

1056
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:32,920
Speaker 3: I get the phone to Luna. She says here, it's

1057
00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 3: my dad to the guy.

1058
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: And then the dumb young ass guy because he's twenty six,

1059
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:45,360
Speaker 1: goes awkward. I'm like, you shut the fuck up. Oh feedmeal,

1060
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 1: you pretend like you can't hear a receipt.

1061
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god? Right now?

1062
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 1: Well so did so?

1063
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:53,440
Speaker 3: Did Luna see you make out with this guy?

1064
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 2: No, but she didn't see us like sitting on the

1065
00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 2: couch together, and I can see her eyes kind of

1066
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 2: looking at me, like looking at him not and she

1067
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,879
Speaker 2: looked like, what do you I didn't not necessarily kind

1068
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 2: of get.

1069
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: In on it.

1070
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:05,919
Speaker 3: But he's really cute.

1071
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:07,240
Speaker 2: So I don't know if she was trying to battle

1072
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:08,200
Speaker 2: me for MYSI.

1073
00:46:08,640 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 3: I just I didn't know he was young.

1074
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: I don't know she was shut up to do some

1075
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 1: kind of territorial shit.

1076
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 2: Oh.

1077
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 3: I don't know if it was about me or about him,

1078
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 3: but you.

1079
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 1: Know what it is for me. I mean, it's definitely

1080
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 1: like I'm like, don't I have really no desire to

1081
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:26,320
Speaker 1: introduce these people to my kid? But also more so

1082
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: it's more so an egotistical thing, and it's that I

1083
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 1: absolutely do not want.

1084
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:34,759
Speaker 3: Her father bringing any woman around her.

1085
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 1: So I don't want to give him any reason to

1086
00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:42,840
Speaker 1: feel like that's okay because I'm a jealous bitch, and

1087
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:46,080
Speaker 1: not even jealous. I just don't want another woman.

1088
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 3: Around my kid, at least not yet. I know eventually

1089
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 3: one day it'll happen, but I'm so not ready for that.

1090
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 2: I know, and I like.

1091
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 3: Might hurt somebody, and so it's just better for us.

1092
00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:58,560
Speaker 1: I mean, we actually just recently have this conversation, me

1093
00:46:58,640 --> 00:47:00,439
Speaker 1: and him because I was like, look, look, we're trying

1094
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 1: to iron out, like you know how we do. So

1095
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 1: I'm just learning, we're learning how to co parent like currently,

1096
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:09,160
Speaker 1: you know, and so like I was, just like you,

1097
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 1: I don't want her around any women.

1098
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:14,479
Speaker 3: It's like, I know, eventually one day you'll date someone,

1099
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:17,400
Speaker 3: but I need to meet them first, and like you

1100
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 3: need to know.

1101
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 4: For sure that this is something serious. Oh those are

1102
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 4: already show them to her. No, close the door, okay,

1103
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 4: close the door, close.

1104
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 2: The door, please, thank you.

1105
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: So I think it's more so it's more so like

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00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:39,680
Speaker 1: I don't want hands to do it, but it's all

1107
00:47:39,719 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: of them. I don't know, I look at my daughter's

1108
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 1: like this like precious, like little, like a little person,

1109
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 1: and I just don't. I don't even met any men

1110
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:51,359
Speaker 1: that I feel like are worthy of even meeting her.

1111
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 1: That's what it really comes down to. No, I agree,

1112
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:58,640
Speaker 1: and they already see her on Instagram, Like right, that's fine, fine, right,

1113
00:47:58,719 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: stay there.

1114
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:02,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, if if I can get if I can avoid it, definitely.

1115
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,280
Speaker 2: But like I mean, I guess people I've known longer

1116
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:07,000
Speaker 2: who call themselves winning to date me, I'm definitely like

1117
00:48:07,480 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 2: you want to eat and it's me and my baby,

1118
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 2: And then it also makes me so don't touch me,

1119
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 2: don't look at me, don't think about it, see us.

1120
00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: That's true because you know, like I mean, I'm definitely

1121
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:18,879
Speaker 2: not gonna bring abound someone.

1122
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 1: I'm you know, you've been single longer than me too,

1123
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:24,200
Speaker 1: like on and off, single longer than me, so I

1124
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 1: feel like, But also she's she.

1125
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 2: Started to learn how to talk, like the talking is

1126
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 2: way clearer right now too, And I'm like, oh, bitch,

1127
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:33,799
Speaker 2: you're gonna tell yeah like.

1128
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:38,560
Speaker 3: Nixnay on the date A Yeah.

1129
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: I just Also I think also because my my growing

1130
00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 1: up with a single parent, she never I mean, I've

1131
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: met my mom. I remember my mom's boyfriends. I'm sure

1132
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: she brought people around and was just like this is

1133
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:56,720
Speaker 1: this is Johnny, you're right friends right, right, uncle? Whereas

1134
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: my dad was reckless, yeah right, and you're like, yeah,

1135
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 1: my dad would just bring a bit, you.

1136
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:03,359
Speaker 3: Know what I mean?

1137
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: And like you, I would. I would be the one

1138
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 1: because I could talk. I would be the one fucking

1139
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:11,840
Speaker 1: where we like.

1140
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:15,720
Speaker 2: And who's Ashley?

1141
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: I remember?

1142
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:18,840
Speaker 3: I remember you should have purpose?

1143
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 1: I remember distinctly one of his girlfriends what was her name,

1144
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,799
Speaker 1: names like Eureka zy should And I remember her me.

1145
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 3: Being in the car and she was like, I'm your favorite,

1146
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 3: aren't I?

1147
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:33,359
Speaker 1: No? Tell me I'm your favorite? Like your dad loves me? Right?

1148
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:34,320
Speaker 3: What a psycho?

1149
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 2: Like?

1150
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:35,480
Speaker 3: You love me too?

1151
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,439
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, I'll never forget that because

1152
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, stuck in this car.

1153
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 2: It just scared me one thousand more percent over her

1154
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 2: being around another bitch with her dad, like I will

1155
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:48,240
Speaker 2: cut a bit exactly.

1156
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:50,400
Speaker 1: That's why. That's I'm telling you, that's like where my

1157
00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 1: life go. I can't love me, you love me, I'm

1158
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: your dad, your dad's favorite, You're I'm your favorite? Like

1159
00:49:57,680 --> 00:50:00,320
Speaker 1: it was like those type of like brainwash your he

1160
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: was so weird and I'll never forget because I was

1161
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: old enough to be like this. This, This is crazy, right, Dad?

1162
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 2: Eureka's nice And if you didn't know already by her name,

1163
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 2: let me read that four year old ring retell you

1164
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:13,200
Speaker 2: one more time.

1165
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:23,400
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, but anyway, so obviously we're just scrambling and

1166
00:50:23,480 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 3: maybe we're not.

1167
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: I don't know, we like on topic or something. I

1168
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:26,919
Speaker 1: think you're still talking about dating.

1169
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think, okay, so yeah, so anyway, dating

1170
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 2: in LA, we're single moms. Dating in LA is very

1171
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:45,239
Speaker 2: slim pickens. Most of the men are borderline gay. It's true,

1172
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 2: but so are you? Yes, but I say it, I tell,

1173
00:50:52,239 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 2: I'll gladly tell anyone I'm borderline gay. I have sometimes

1174
00:50:57,880 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 2: I pussy, but I'm never gonna be in a relationship

1175
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:02,839
Speaker 2: another woman. But the problem with the borderline gay men

1176
00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:05,040
Speaker 2: that I was referring to in LA is that like

1177
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 2: it's like beyond metro sexual and they don't even know

1178
00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 2: or think. And then it's not even just gay, I

1179
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:12,439
Speaker 2: mean gay like bitch assness because I ain't no bitch

1180
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 2: ass person. But like the guys have a lot of bitchassness,

1181
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:18,279
Speaker 2: which is like making you gay and not in the

1182
00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:23,200
Speaker 2: good way. Right now, I get it, and like, yeah, no,

1183
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:27,480
Speaker 2: Erica is in style, but like black girls are not

1184
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 2: in style. But there's a lot of mixed girls. You

1185
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:32,399
Speaker 2: don't hear a lot that's not true.

1186
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:35,240
Speaker 1: Not no, it's the starting the way you was starting

1187
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: to shift because Wakanda.

1188
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:41,839
Speaker 3: Didn't come down to LA with the memo yet.

1189
00:51:41,920 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 1: Look, Wakanda life bitches.

1190
00:51:47,440 --> 00:51:50,400
Speaker 2: They shipped no more Kim k Wakanda may not have

1191
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:53,439
Speaker 2: ship on Kim k okay because that's these guys. First

1192
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:56,319
Speaker 2: of all, the amount of fake asses as I see

1193
00:51:56,480 --> 00:51:59,959
Speaker 2: and fake everything I see in LA or like black

1194
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 2: woman attributes on non black women is find is strange,

1195
00:52:04,400 --> 00:52:06,640
Speaker 2: and like the light skin makeup I see young girls,

1196
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 2: I'm like.

1197
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:10,919
Speaker 1: On dark skinned girls and you trying to be like yeah, yeah,

1198
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 1: Tea Zone is white. It's not even like blending. I know,

1199
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just I'm trying to be darker honestly,

1200
00:52:19,320 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 1: like make me darker, please, whereas like I just feel

1201
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:24,040
Speaker 1: like light skinned women.

1202
00:52:25,680 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 3: I'm a light skinned woman. Check out our Instagram friends,

1203
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 3: will ad.

1204
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:33,440
Speaker 1: Guys, Wait, good mom, you need to stop shouting out

1205
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:36,760
Speaker 1: the Instagram that you don't know the Instagram mom's underscore

1206
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 1: bad choices. Thank you. I feel like we are like oversaturating.

1207
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: We've oversaturated, like there's a lot of mixed children out here.

1208
00:52:47,719 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 1: We're just not special anymore. Like that's why when I

1209
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 1: was like, I've always wanted light eyes because I felt

1210
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 1: like it gave me like an extra edge over through

1211
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:56,400
Speaker 1: regular skin power parts.

1212
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:57,759
Speaker 3: If I just had.

1213
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 2: The light eyes, Erica, you are a special I don't

1214
00:53:01,680 --> 00:53:04,480
Speaker 2: do what I do, but I'm no I could have.

1215
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: I could have.

1216
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right though, because you were saying.

1217
00:53:08,440 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 1: How like you never get hit on by like black men,

1218
00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 1: where I only get hit on by black men and

1219
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 1: never really get hit on by white.

1220
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 2: Men unless they're fat or really old, Like I think

1221
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:21,959
Speaker 2: I miss have an old soul because, like I'm telling,

1222
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 2: like sixty, I get hit on like sixty year old

1223
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:26,719
Speaker 2: guys and fat guys a lot and white like yeah,

1224
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 2: never black guys. If I get hit on by a

1225
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:31,760
Speaker 2: black guy in the club, I'm shocked, and he's probably

1226
00:53:31,800 --> 00:53:36,320
Speaker 2: twenty three, and I'm like, I'm all the empty your auntie, I've.

1227
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 3: Never hit on by white men. But then again, I'm

1228
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 3: also really bad at reading white men.

1229
00:53:39,880 --> 00:53:41,560
Speaker 1: Is what I found is that like, I don't know

1230
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 1: they're hitting on me because I'm so used to aggressive

1231
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 1: black men like very a lot of eye contact and

1232
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 1: like come in mommy, yeah you know, whereas white guys

1233
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:53,680
Speaker 1: like they like are scared to make eye contact very.

1234
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:57,320
Speaker 3: Nice, and I'm like, what the fuck are we friends?

1235
00:53:57,360 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 1: Are we just? Are you going to go to the

1236
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:02,359
Speaker 1: book club? Like I don't know, I just can't read them,

1237
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 1: but language.

1238
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 3: Are you speaking right now?

1239
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:06,200
Speaker 1: Nice? Being too nice?

1240
00:54:07,600 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 3: I don't know what's hard out here? It's hard.

1241
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:10,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1242
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:11,880
Speaker 3: I'm thinking that I'm going to go.

1243
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:14,439
Speaker 2: On vacation with Erica and turn on my tender because

1244
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 2: clearly this bitch has all the money.

1245
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 1: Cantle let me like, let me see your profile.

1246
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:22,960
Speaker 3: Right, I mean, this is the right biotos.

1247
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 1: And actually my tender. Someone told me that my tender

1248
00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 1: is all over the place, but I look like a

1249
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:27,600
Speaker 1: different person in every photo.

1250
00:54:28,320 --> 00:54:31,279
Speaker 2: I put a picture of me and on Tinder because

1251
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 2: I wanted them people to know in advance I was

1252
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 2: a mom in case they did have any discrimination, and

1253
00:54:35,120 --> 00:54:37,479
Speaker 2: someone told me that was wrong. I shouldn't put Linda's picture.

1254
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 2: But I see a lot of people put their parents. Wait,

1255
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:42,120
Speaker 2: let me show you my protra parents. I mean the

1256
00:54:42,239 --> 00:54:43,520
Speaker 2: case their kids.

1257
00:54:44,280 --> 00:54:48,399
Speaker 1: Okay, look there's meny mca hair.

1258
00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:53,240
Speaker 3: But wait, long hair. That's totally different than my worries.

1259
00:54:54,120 --> 00:54:54,719
Speaker 2: Okay, there's me.

1260
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 1: This is me, this is joyful, this is me, good time.

1261
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:01,440
Speaker 2: I lie, you know, I wear a white eyeliner.

1262
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 1: I'm edgy, you know. Okay, and then this is like

1263
00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:07,960
Speaker 1: I gotta get her. I like dinner, I like I

1264
00:55:08,000 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 1: have expensive taste. Wait, and then there's but I'm also

1265
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:12,680
Speaker 1: a thought.

1266
00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:16,720
Speaker 2: I gress you guys can really look at this center

1267
00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:20,320
Speaker 2: way because it is awfully colorful.

1268
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:22,400
Speaker 3: These babes are found me if you find me.

1269
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:22,799
Speaker 2: Okay.

1270
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 1: And then but I'm also white, but I also like

1271
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:29,480
Speaker 1: to ski. I'm also adventurous and white. These activities so

1272
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 1: like we can hang like no matter what you are.

1273
00:55:31,760 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: But I also like corn rows. Wait then, look at

1274
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:35,360
Speaker 1: my anthem.

1275
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:39,800
Speaker 2: Her anthem is no scrubs And didn't even know you

1276
00:55:39,840 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 2: could put an anthem on your Tinder page.

1277
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 1: Well, it's just like the bootleg version of Riot, because

1278
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:47,440
Speaker 1: Ryot would have no scrubs. Playing of my photos like,

1279
00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:51,320
Speaker 1: I'm like going and fading and fading it out. Do

1280
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:53,759
Speaker 1: you think I can try out for ryot again with

1281
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 1: a different Instagram. Let's get this pop. And so.

1282
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:02,440
Speaker 2: I'm really doing this podcast in hopes of getting more followers.

1283
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:06,400
Speaker 3: And to meet a man. Amen.

1284
00:56:08,480 --> 00:56:12,440
Speaker 2: Now that you are dating, like well whatever, dating as

1285
00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:14,760
Speaker 2: a mom, and I know you're not looking for anything

1286
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 2: serious because it wouldn't be healthy to jump into one

1287
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:20,080
Speaker 2: long term relationship for another. But I feel like there's

1288
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:23,560
Speaker 2: this underlying always thing, like if you're a mom, you

1289
00:56:23,640 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 2: should be looking for a husband in stability because that's

1290
00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 2: what you're supposed to do. How like obviously is that

1291
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:34,320
Speaker 2: your end goal or no? And when and if so,

1292
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:39,840
Speaker 2: when do you see that being enforced? But it's like

1293
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:41,520
Speaker 2: just playing the field right now, and if it happens,

1294
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 2: it happens my end hole.

1295
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 1: In life or in my love life. Like I.

1296
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:48,839
Speaker 3: Don't want to be alone of my life. You don't

1297
00:56:48,840 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 3: want to be a player for life. But I mean

1298
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:52,200
Speaker 3: I would like to have another kid, you know what

1299
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:52,480
Speaker 3: I mean?

1300
00:56:52,600 --> 00:56:55,440
Speaker 1: I mean absolutely in no rush whole and again I

1301
00:56:55,440 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 1: don't want to wait forever, Like my siblings are much

1302
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:00,080
Speaker 1: younger than me, years younger than me, Like I have

1303
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:03,359
Speaker 1: a five year old brother. Yeah, So like I don't

1304
00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:06,399
Speaker 1: want that and then also my first brother was born

1305
00:57:06,440 --> 00:57:08,320
Speaker 1: when I was thirteen, so I still don't want I

1306
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:09,399
Speaker 1: don't want that much of a gain.

1307
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 2: So I don't want to say I'm in a rush,

1308
00:57:11,800 --> 00:57:14,279
Speaker 2: but like at some point in.

1309
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 1: The semi distant future, semi maybe I don't know, I

1310
00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: don't know. I have I hope that I can be

1311
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 1: more open to love and that operate the opportunity of

1312
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:30,440
Speaker 1: love and like partnership. I'm just not there right now,

1313
00:57:30,560 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 1: and like I'm just so focused on like myself and

1314
00:57:33,840 --> 00:57:39,840
Speaker 1: like being home, having meditation going that I'm really not

1315
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:40,760
Speaker 1: focused on being home.

1316
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:43,000
Speaker 3: I was, but now I'm more focused on.

1317
00:57:43,120 --> 00:57:46,280
Speaker 2: Like me and like, oh well, I want everybody to understand.

1318
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 2: So let's just be clear when we use the term

1319
00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:51,640
Speaker 2: how it's not like in the typical format you're thinking

1320
00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 2: of of thinking that you know ho and like the playful, fun, flirty,

1321
00:57:57,920 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 2: hearty I'll do what the fuck I want if i'm

1322
00:58:00,080 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 2: want to, but I don't have.

1323
00:58:01,440 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 1: To do it all. Yeah, but society isn't going to

1324
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 1: make me feel bad about any doing.

1325
00:58:06,480 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, So don't take the hope. Don't get all touchy

1326
00:58:08,680 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 2: fucking peely about two moms calling themselves homes because we

1327
00:58:11,640 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 2: know we're not house We're actually very classy women. Check

1328
00:58:14,560 --> 00:58:18,960
Speaker 2: out our instagrams. You can tell their instagrams. We're very classy,

1329
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 2: very classy. I come from a very very very classic

1330
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 2: don't get any ideas just because we're using the term.

1331
00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 2: How okay, it's the most fancy hell you've ever seen.

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00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:34,960
Speaker 1: Show I've ever seen. But yeah, I don't know, Like

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00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 1: I think I do want kids. I want one more,

1334
00:58:37,560 --> 00:58:40,400
Speaker 1: one more max if I only had her. I don't

1335
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:44,520
Speaker 1: think if any max one more max maximum, like no

1336
00:58:44,640 --> 00:58:46,560
Speaker 1: more than I want? Yeah, or she can't do like

1337
00:58:46,640 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 1: half we two we're great.

1338
00:58:52,560 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 2: Want I think because I was.

1339
00:58:55,760 --> 00:58:58,080
Speaker 1: An only child for so long, like I always wish

1340
00:58:58,160 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 1: I had a simbling that was closer in age to me,

1341
00:59:00,160 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 1: like and I want I want that for her if

1342
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:04,840
Speaker 1: I can, if I buy that, I'm not forcing it though,

1343
00:59:05,480 --> 00:59:08,040
Speaker 1: you know, but what about you?

1344
00:59:09,640 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I definitely want more kids. I used

1345
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:15,920
Speaker 2: to think I wanted like between three and five. I've

1346
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 2: actually started thinking now, like what if I didn't have

1347
00:59:17,920 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 2: any markets but Lena's like I want to breath that.

1348
00:59:20,200 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: I want to says Cineamic, shut up, get a job.

1349
00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 2: But I do like as allergic to commitment. I feel

1350
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:32,000
Speaker 2: like I am, I do really want someone who's like,

1351
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 2: you know, gonna help stay around. But I think now

1352
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:40,120
Speaker 2: I am super fucking not scared. But like there's this

1353
00:59:40,200 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 2: whole thing like when nobody wants a lot of baby daddies. Erica,

1354
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:45,920
Speaker 2: she did it.

1355
00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:47,760
Speaker 3: She did a bad motherfucking job.

1356
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:48,480
Speaker 1: I did doing it.

1357
00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:51,920
Speaker 2: She does it real well too. There's always Erica for

1358
00:59:52,040 --> 00:59:54,280
Speaker 2: the hope. So yeah, I mean it doesn't matter, but

1359
00:59:54,960 --> 00:59:56,600
Speaker 2: I guess I have to get out of that social

1360
00:59:56,920 --> 00:59:58,760
Speaker 2: you know. I just want to make the right decision

1361
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 2: when I do it next and when I and with

1362
01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 2: the next person, it's going to be because you got

1363
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:06,720
Speaker 2: your your the bomb dot motherfucking come and that's that.

1364
01:00:06,840 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 2: And then I'll lay down if you're rich, and I'll

1365
01:00:08,640 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 2: have a bunch of fun. Fais.

1366
01:00:10,280 --> 01:00:14,200
Speaker 3: I think, like I think really the way or the

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01:00:14,240 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 3: hopefully I think I have no idea.

1368
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 1: I'm totally making this up, but I would assume the

1369
01:00:18,120 --> 01:00:21,320
Speaker 1: way to find that partner is like you have to

1370
01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:23,960
Speaker 1: find that within yourself first, you know what I mean.

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01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:26,960
Speaker 1: And I'm done, yeah, and I'm not there yet, and

1372
01:00:27,040 --> 01:00:28,880
Speaker 1: that's and I'm okay with that and that's why I'm

1373
01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:31,120
Speaker 1: not looking for anything at all, you know, Like I

1374
01:00:31,280 --> 01:00:32,120
Speaker 1: know I'm not a hunt.

1375
01:00:32,160 --> 01:00:34,560
Speaker 3: I know I don't fully one hundred percent love myself

1376
01:00:34,600 --> 01:00:35,000
Speaker 3: all the way.

1377
01:00:35,120 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know that.

1378
01:00:36,200 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 3: Like, and until that happens, like you can't really give that.

1379
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:40,280
Speaker 2: It can't be like a half a person.

1380
01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 1: How can I love someone else more than I love myself?

1381
01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 1: And That's what I've done in all my relationships, So

1382
01:00:46,000 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 1: I'm not doing that again. It hasn't worked. I'm just

1383
01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: going to try something new. Yeah, And I feel like

1384
01:00:51,640 --> 01:00:55,200
Speaker 1: loving yourself is obviously, like that's the ship. Why would

1385
01:00:55,240 --> 01:00:55,680
Speaker 1: I not want to?

1386
01:00:55,920 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know, and now that I'm like coming

1387
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:01,720
Speaker 2: like thirty is rapidly approaching, I'm really super very much

1388
01:01:01,800 --> 01:01:06,200
Speaker 2: in that space where I'm totally realizing, like, oh, but

1389
01:01:06,320 --> 01:01:08,160
Speaker 2: she thought she loved herself, but there's all these decisions

1390
01:01:08,160 --> 01:01:12,080
Speaker 2: you're making that seem otherwise. And even being in a

1391
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:14,480
Speaker 2: non and like an unhealthy relationship, even if it is

1392
01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:17,560
Speaker 2: with the father of my child, like, those are like

1393
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:22,200
Speaker 2: prime examples of not loving myself. And I realize now

1394
01:01:22,240 --> 01:01:24,640
Speaker 2: how important is to be in a relationship to work

1395
01:01:24,680 --> 01:01:27,280
Speaker 2: on those things first. But then I also have I

1396
01:01:27,320 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 2: think I struggle with loving myself and taking the time

1397
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:33,360
Speaker 2: to really do that and like mend myself, but then

1398
01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:37,080
Speaker 2: also getting distracted with just like oh, look at him,

1399
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:39,240
Speaker 2: look at that. This is fun people wanting my energy

1400
01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:42,080
Speaker 2: and then beginning it to them, and then I'm not working. Yeah,

1401
01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:42,840
Speaker 2: I'm not working myself.

1402
01:01:42,880 --> 01:01:43,680
Speaker 1: I'm just home.

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01:01:43,720 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 4: And for showing you're doing the same thing you were

1404
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 4: doing in a relationship and not really Yeah, and just

1405
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:49,800
Speaker 4: with multiple people that I don't ever really see myself

1406
01:01:49,800 --> 01:01:50,600
Speaker 4: being in a relationship with.

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01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:52,920
Speaker 2: So it also is like equally as much of a

1408
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:54,880
Speaker 2: waste of time. So it's just like it's actually I

1409
01:01:54,960 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 2: have to really focus on loving myself.

1410
01:01:57,160 --> 01:02:00,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, honestly, it's so crazy you said that because

1411
01:02:00,200 --> 01:02:02,560
Speaker 1: I was having that conversation today at dinner saying that,

1412
01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:05,240
Speaker 1: like I think when I first became single, which wasn't

1413
01:02:05,280 --> 01:02:07,000
Speaker 1: that long ago without but I was like going really

1414
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:10,160
Speaker 1: hard with like its going out and dating guys because

1415
01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: I was so I had so much energy, Like I

1416
01:02:14,120 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 1: had so much extra energy to be given because it

1417
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:18,440
Speaker 1: wasn't being given to my partner anymore.

1418
01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:20,320
Speaker 3: And so I felt like, well, what do I do

1419
01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:20,760
Speaker 3: with all this?

1420
01:02:20,880 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 1: What do I do with all this?

1421
01:02:21,840 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 3: And I like, dup, put it back in me yourself, right.

1422
01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:25,320
Speaker 2: I didn't do that.

1423
01:02:25,400 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 1: I was like looking for like distractions to not work

1424
01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:30,919
Speaker 1: on myself, right, And so that's what I think dating

1425
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 1: can do sometimes.

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01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 3: That's why I like, actually right now kind of like

1427
01:02:33,720 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 3: been low key.

1428
01:02:34,920 --> 01:02:37,240
Speaker 2: It's been like a month, but like I haven't been

1429
01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:38,840
Speaker 2: to any Epperancis trips lately.

1430
01:02:38,920 --> 01:02:40,520
Speaker 3: They just fine on Tinder, going.

1431
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:43,960
Speaker 1: To Vegas this weekend? So why tender? When I was

1432
01:02:44,000 --> 01:02:47,720
Speaker 1: in Vegas? Why was I thinking, Yeah, what were you figuring?

1433
01:02:48,680 --> 01:02:50,000
Speaker 3: I mean, maybe my might I might.

1434
01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 1: Swipe, I swipe, you know, I feel like Vegas you

1435
01:02:52,240 --> 01:02:54,400
Speaker 1: must don't eat a swipe or just there this like

1436
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:57,480
Speaker 1: Vegas is tender the live version.

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01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:03,560
Speaker 2: I'm going to j low so you know, so I

1438
01:03:03,600 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 2: guess that was That's a good, really good discussion after

1439
01:03:07,320 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 2: all the stories that we've heard that how much like

1440
01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 2: dating can really especially right now in this space.

1441
01:03:14,320 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 1: Especially with kids.

1442
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 2: It will check you to you know, check yourself, which

1443
01:03:20,080 --> 01:03:22,120
Speaker 2: is important, which is most important, especially if we want

1444
01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:24,160
Speaker 2: to be good moms and good humans and good people.

1445
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 2: You can't just like fuck around. Also have to love

1446
01:03:27,280 --> 01:03:30,360
Speaker 2: yourself a lot, and it takes a lot of work.

1447
01:03:30,680 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 1: A lot, especially as mothers. Because we're loving our kids

1448
01:03:33,040 --> 01:03:35,800
Speaker 1: so much, we forget about ourselves a lot, and most

1449
01:03:35,840 --> 01:03:37,960
Speaker 1: people forget about us too. Yeah, as a fuck about

1450
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 1: me anymore. My mom does not care about you have

1451
01:03:40,360 --> 01:03:42,880
Speaker 1: your kids. My grandmother doesn't say hi to me. I'm

1452
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:46,720
Speaker 1: just like we're sorry, Yeah, hi, Hello, I'm the baby

1453
01:03:46,880 --> 01:03:51,960
Speaker 1: you remember. But if you guys have any like I

1454
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:55,480
Speaker 1: want you guys to email us, like any topics they

1455
01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 1: want to talk about. If you have any stories you

1456
01:03:58,360 --> 01:04:03,000
Speaker 1: want us to discuss they can you remain anonymous or not.

1457
01:04:03,600 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 1: We have a segment called.

1458
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Speaker 2: Stories again the Horn the nicest, classiest way. Yeah, you know,

1459
01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:16,440
Speaker 2: just that.

1460
01:04:16,560 --> 01:04:18,320
Speaker 1: Time maybe you got caught up or you did a

1461
01:04:18,360 --> 01:04:22,240
Speaker 1: little too nice, little dirt, a little extra my horry.

1462
01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 1: Dun dun dun.

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01:04:25,400 --> 01:04:29,080
Speaker 2: Okay, back in the day, I used to work as

1464
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 2: a cocktail waitress. And I'm like a classy hotel and

1465
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:37,280
Speaker 2: I was waitress, saying I had a lot of good

1466
01:04:37,320 --> 01:04:40,040
Speaker 2: stories being contail waitress. So I was working and it's

1467
01:04:40,040 --> 01:04:44,400
Speaker 2: like a bet weekend in Atlanta or something, and I

1468
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:46,680
Speaker 2: meant there was this there was a couple two girls

1469
01:04:47,760 --> 01:04:50,520
Speaker 2: and you know, like one of those jobs you like get.

1470
01:04:50,400 --> 01:04:51,240
Speaker 3: Drunk with the customer.

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01:04:51,240 --> 01:04:52,760
Speaker 2: I don't know what the fuck I was doing back then,

1472
01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:55,640
Speaker 2: but I was having I was partying network. Anyway, the

1473
01:04:55,720 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 2: girls the couple left, like one of them was Mocha,

1474
01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:02,200
Speaker 2: the other was Lifer, and one of yeah whatever, that's

1475
01:05:02,200 --> 01:05:02,640
Speaker 2: their names.

1476
01:05:02,840 --> 01:05:03,480
Speaker 1: There were the names.

1477
01:05:03,520 --> 01:05:07,360
Speaker 3: It was like it was like a story, yes, okay.

1478
01:05:07,760 --> 01:05:09,840
Speaker 2: And one was like this little chocolate fan was like, well,

1479
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,280
Speaker 2: chocolate and thick and cute and it's like kind of

1480
01:05:12,320 --> 01:05:15,560
Speaker 2: like a soft stud like little Dominican girl, like with

1481
01:05:15,680 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 2: a shortcut.

1482
01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:18,480
Speaker 1: She was cute. Anyway, left, I was like, I'm gonna

1483
01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:19,680
Speaker 1: get off some she come up.

1484
01:05:19,640 --> 01:05:20,080
Speaker 3: To our room.

1485
01:05:20,120 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 2: They left me and not like come to our room. Room.

1486
01:05:23,960 --> 01:05:26,040
Speaker 2: Keep in mind, it's like forbidden you go to your

1487
01:05:26,240 --> 01:05:27,840
Speaker 2: guest room, like you could drink all the job and

1488
01:05:27,920 --> 01:05:28,440
Speaker 2: do a lot of shit.

1489
01:05:28,480 --> 01:05:29,680
Speaker 1: You're not supposed to go to the room.

1490
01:05:30,520 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 2: My ass goes to the room because you can't tell

1491
01:05:33,800 --> 01:05:37,400
Speaker 2: me nothing. Anyway, we have like we smoke weed. We

1492
01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:41,320
Speaker 2: be like drinking. You have this super hot sexy three

1493
01:05:41,400 --> 01:05:45,960
Speaker 2: way the chick like has this like super soup, this

1494
01:05:46,120 --> 01:05:48,400
Speaker 2: like super exclusive strap one I've never seen it like

1495
01:05:48,520 --> 01:05:50,400
Speaker 2: comes with shorts that like suction.

1496
01:05:50,240 --> 01:05:53,440
Speaker 1: To it super exclusive. Never I mean I've done some

1497
01:05:53,640 --> 01:05:53,880
Speaker 1: like that.

1498
01:05:53,960 --> 01:05:56,800
Speaker 4: Had shorts, yeah, Like it was like these tight shorts

1499
01:05:56,840 --> 01:05:58,240
Speaker 4: and then the compression shorts.

1500
01:05:58,400 --> 01:05:59,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's like a circle and and just like

1501
01:06:00,120 --> 01:06:04,080
Speaker 1: suction to the shore. It was amazing. But I've had

1502
01:06:04,120 --> 01:06:05,320
Speaker 1: none of those straps and ship.

1503
01:06:05,360 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 3: They must have made a lot of money for that. Anyway,

1504
01:06:09,080 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 3: we got we got it.

1505
01:06:10,160 --> 01:06:15,040
Speaker 2: Pop In midway through the three way, They're like, I

1506
01:06:15,080 --> 01:06:17,920
Speaker 2: guess I was like a little slut waitress because I'm

1507
01:06:18,000 --> 01:06:20,800
Speaker 2: obviously not in the relationship, but like, call it me

1508
01:06:20,840 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 2: a pitch.

1509
01:06:22,600 --> 01:06:24,520
Speaker 3: Well, I was like, sucking, this.

1510
01:06:28,000 --> 01:06:31,200
Speaker 2: Might be too graphic for the first to go round. Anyway,

1511
01:06:31,240 --> 01:06:33,560
Speaker 2: in my head, I was like, she call me a bitch.

1512
01:06:36,080 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 2: I'm like whatever, I guess.

1513
01:06:37,240 --> 01:06:38,480
Speaker 3: I guess I can get what I deserve.

1514
01:06:39,480 --> 01:06:41,240
Speaker 1: Anyway, I say, there's two beds in the room.

1515
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:42,040
Speaker 2: My crash another bed.

1516
01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 3: I walk up the next.

1517
01:06:42,760 --> 01:06:46,120
Speaker 2: Morning like I'm okay, okay, nice meeting you guys. I

1518
01:06:46,280 --> 01:06:49,400
Speaker 2: like put on my jacket and walk downstairs, like please, God,

1519
01:06:49,440 --> 01:06:51,840
Speaker 2: don't let anybody can fucking recognize me from the night before,

1520
01:06:51,880 --> 01:06:52,320
Speaker 2: because I'm.

1521
01:06:52,200 --> 01:06:54,440
Speaker 1: Going to loose my job. I crept out of the

1522
01:06:54,520 --> 01:06:55,440
Speaker 1: side door and I.

1523
01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:56,960
Speaker 2: Took my ass on perfect.

1524
01:06:57,480 --> 01:06:58,880
Speaker 1: So that was like a good little hory.

1525
01:06:59,000 --> 01:07:03,560
Speaker 2: That's my first lesbian threesome. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's a good one. Very high class. Thank you,

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Speaker 1: very high class. Told you told you that worth, We're

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Speaker 1: classy mom. Here here, Yeah, this is are closing. I

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Speaker 2: Our email is Parental Advisory b no, Parental Advisory gm

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Speaker 2: b C at gmail dot com. Again, that's Parental Advisory

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Speaker 2: gm b C at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 3: And our Instagram Erica is good.

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Speaker 1: Moms underscore bad choices. Yes, here with us.

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Speaker 3: We're working on it.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna get better.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, well we look forward to hearing from you.

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Speaker 1: Oh, good nights. The most story