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Speaker 3: Also, Gandhi's here, and there's Scary producer Sam is here,

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Speaker 3: there's Danielle and Straight eight. So you know, we talked

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Speaker 3: about traveling a lot on this show, and so our

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Speaker 3: print and Jill, let me get Jill on here. Hello, Jill, Hi, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: we're talking. We're just talking about how we talk about

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Speaker 3: travel a lot on the show. We also talk about

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Speaker 3: solo travel a lot. So, Jill, you just got back

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Speaker 3: from a solo vacation and you definitely had naturally reservations

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Speaker 3: before you took a vacation by yourself. But now after

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Speaker 3: your vacation, what do you think? What say you?

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Speaker 4: Every single adult needs to go on vacation by themselves.

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Speaker 1: Kids, talk about what happened to you.

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Speaker 4: My mom and I were supposed to go away to Charleston.

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Speaker 4: She had gotten ill. She's fine now, but she didn't

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Speaker 4: think she'd be up to walking the twenty thousand steps

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Speaker 4: a day that I ended up doing. So we ended

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Speaker 4: up canceling her tickets. Mine were non refundable. So my

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Speaker 4: husband and I talked about it and he said, you

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Speaker 4: should go. And I'm like, I've never traveled alone before,

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Speaker 4: like this is this is not like I'm meeting people

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Speaker 4: I don't know anybody. And he said, just do it,

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Speaker 4: so I did. It was the most incredible four days

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Speaker 4: of course, but I felt like me again, not mom,

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Speaker 3: Wow, that is a glowing endorsement right there. When you

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Speaker 3: got off the plane, where were you still in your

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Speaker 3: Oh gosh, I may regret this mode. And if so,

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Speaker 4: When I've when I first go off the plane, I

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Speaker 4: which I've never done before, and then we had mechanical issues,

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Speaker 4: should not have done this? But it worked out. Everything

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Speaker 4: was great. The thing that really changed. It was I

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Speaker 4: were just It was such an incredible trip. Wow, Wow,

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Speaker 3: Now you're making each and every one of us so

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Speaker 1: I would love to do that. What's up, Gandhi?

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Speaker 2: So is this gonna be a one and done for

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Speaker 2: you or do you think you're going to travel more alone?

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Speaker 2: And would you leave the country by yourself?

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Speaker 4: I don't know about leaving the country by myself. I

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Speaker 1: Next time you come here.

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Speaker 4: You do Chinatown alone and they give you the fake bags,

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Speaker 4: Danielle, I went. I grew up in New York, and

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 3: There are so many people listening as I said, who

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Speaker 3: No, I can't do it, never could in a millionaire's

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Speaker 3: Well, if anyone snatches you off the street, it's a

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Speaker 5: Never the same.

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Speaker 1: It's not the same.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I never do it.

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Speaker 1: Well, I've given it some thought later in life.

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Speaker 5: You know, as a kid twenty years ago, you could

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Speaker 5: Like I get there and people like, I'm not talking

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Sam, Sam wants to comment on what you just said.

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Speaker 2: I just love how women are afraid of like danger

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Speaker 3: You don't want to, so that's your thing. You don't

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Speaker 4: But as soon as I hit my layover in Atlanta,

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Speaker 1: To me, there you have it. Did you swing with them?

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Speaker 4: I did not.

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Speaker 3: That's why it's great to eat at the bar when

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Speaker 3: I'm when I'm somewhere by myself, I go to the.

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Speaker 3: And you know, if you do need to have a conversation,

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Speaker 3: there's always the bartender or someone next year or.

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Speaker 4: Whatever, or And like Dandie said, she's worried about getting kidnapped.

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Speaker 4: I don't drink, you know, unless it's like a special occasion.

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Speaker 4: Like I was super careful with that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 1: So you're going to do it again, I will.

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Speaker 2: Do it again.

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Speaker 1: Nice love that all right, And.

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Speaker 4: The appreciation from the kids and the husband when I returned,

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Speaker 4: it's like a whole new that's the best part.

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Speaker 3: Jill has been a pleasure speaking with you. Thank you

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Speaker 3: for motivating all of us to go travel on our own.

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Speaker 3: I think vacation. I think I'm going somewhere about myself.

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Speaker 3: Bye bye anyway, Jill, Love you for listening, Have a

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Speaker 3: beautiful day.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing.

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Speaker 4: Love you guys.

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