WEBVTT - Sucking Dick & Sippin' Tequila 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:07.040 Forever. Hi, Happy New Year? Who I mean, it is 0:00:07.120 --> 0:00:10.280 the new year. We made it twenty twenty. 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.000 No sudden desks. Everything is pretty good. 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:17.279 Knock on woodsis. I feel like I could drop dead today. Ah, 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:22.200 we all could. I was standing underneath my chandelier and 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:25.599 I was putting my hoodie on and I my hand 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:27.760 hit it and it started to like shake a little bit, 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:30.840 and I was like, oh my god, is this how 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:35.519 I die? A peer one imports light fixture crushes my body? 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:39.640 Or or this is how you start jump start getting 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:42.440 rich because you sue them get money? 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:46.519 Fuck bitches. Well, I have renders insurance now, so I 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:48.720 think they would just paying my medical bills and I 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:50.560 would still have the same amount of money in the bank. 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:54.240 You can't sue them if my light falls down. Yeah, Actually, 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:55.760 I don't know how suing works. 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:59.240 Like it like it hit the CHANDELI hits you and 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.200 then I don't know, it's like, I don't know, knocks 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:03.280 your eye out then. 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:05.639 But I but, Sidney, I would rather have my eye 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.360 and the money that I already have. You can get 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:11.880 a whole new eye, can I. It's not gonna look 0:01:11.959 --> 0:01:14.679 the same as the other eye. It's literally just gonna 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:18.080 like look straight. I can't, you know, And no shod 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:20.840 to people who look yeah yeah, if you rock in 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.520 that eye patch, rap that eye patch, Mama, I see 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:25.840 you when you got that glass eye. I don't want that. 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:28.920 I don't want a glass eye because you know it 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:29.440 just like. 0:01:31.280 --> 0:01:34.000 It doesn't move, okay, or it does move, but it 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:36.160 moves too much or it's too slow. 0:01:36.319 --> 0:01:39.560 It's like loose and it just kind of like, no, 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:40.280 I don't want that. 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:44.440 It's gross, Okay, okay, rigglely eye in the New year anyway, 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.280 Sidney Howe, has your twenty been so far? 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.760 It's only like the second week, third week, it's. 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:52.400 You know, it's been cool. You know. 0:01:52.520 --> 0:01:55.040 My job is about to end, so I'm just trying 0:01:55.040 --> 0:02:01.760 to like figure out loose ends, just you know, making 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:04.720 friends with people so that when I bounce, I still 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:06.040 have emails like. 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:08.919 Hey, what's up? You got work for me? Like stuff 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:11.560 like that. Are you working now with the people that 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:12.320 you hate at your job? 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:12.880 No? 0:02:12.880 --> 0:02:14.600 No, I don't hate anybody. Love that. 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:18.920 I love you guys, Comedy Central, shout out love you. No, 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:21.799 But just there's people that I talk to you every day. 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:24.720 I just don't have their information. So this time, I'm 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:27.839 I'm because they won't be on slack anymore. So I'm 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:31.280 just getting their personal emails so that I can what's slack? 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:32.919 Slack is a thing. 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:36.720 It is like word working. No, it's like instant messenger 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:38.239 for for work. 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.280 Yeah, good chat. Yeah, there's differently channels. 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:44.440 Andrew, Yes, have you new year? 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:45.880 Hi? Yeah, I'm also here. 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:48.600 He has not quit yet? 0:02:49.280 --> 0:02:49.480 Wow? 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:50.560 Love? 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:53.840 So oh well. 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:59.200 Especially okay, okay, well, and we're I mean, if you 0:02:59.240 --> 0:03:02.360 want to leave, there's the door from Honestly, there's people 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:05.360 who want to be here. A million girls would kill 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:07.079 for this job. Absolutely. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:08.840 I don't know if they wouldn't be like you. 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:10.280 We would miss you. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:15.079 Dearly, right we would yeah. 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.760 No, no, no, no, no, it would take some time. We 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:19.360 have to readjust yeah, we miss you. Would like the spring? 0:03:19.520 --> 0:03:21.080 Yeah, yeah, thank you. 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:22.960 We wouldn't allow that person to talk on the mind, 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:23.680 absolutely at all. 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:25.960 What if they were fun? 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:28.400 No? How long did it take you to get a microphone? 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:30.040 Yeah, let's talk about it exactly. 0:03:30.240 --> 0:03:32.600 Imagine somebody gets right in and gets a mic. 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:34.640 I would how bitterre you? 0:03:34.720 --> 0:03:36.839 Yeah? I would come and burn this building down. 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:39.440 I was yelling from the back for the longest time. 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:42.360 Exactly, which is our favorite. Those are. 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:44.280 Episodes. 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:46.360 Some of the listeners did like you yelling in the back. 0:03:46.960 --> 0:03:49.119 They're like, I love that he's there, but I can't 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:50.680 hear him. Really, yeah, you. 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.120 Can hear half of the conversation. 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:57.840 You're like about that, and we're like, Andrew said, just 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:01.000 repeat your question for you. Uh, these bones right here 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:04.119 in my shoulders are very prominent, Sydney, are your bones 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:05.000 sticking out right here? 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:07.920 Am I dying right here? 0:04:08.640 --> 0:04:12.000 Yeah? But I'm really skinny, So what do you don't 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.480 say about me? Sidney? Are sticking out? 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:17.480 You're muscular? Like, it's they're sticking out because like. 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:20.240 Because you work out a lot. Is that how bones works? 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:22.839 And I feel like it's just like muscles make bones 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:26.240 stick out. You're like, you're you're just really muscular. No, 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:28.599 I'm saying that the bones are sticking out. I feel 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:33.200 it right here. Yeah, my bones are sticking out. Okay, Andrew, you. 0:04:33.160 --> 0:04:34.400 Don't know anything about bones. 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:37.640 She's like, it's because you're muscular your bones when you 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:39.240 work out your own my bones stick out? 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:40.240 Your bones get sharper. 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:46.760 I'm a skinny lady, Ladies, I'm very felt spelt. Okay, 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:51.040 all right, okay, Well, uh, so you're trying to connect 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:54.080 with people at work, trying to make some moves. Have 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:57.080 you read anything recently? Have you seen anything recently that 0:04:57.120 --> 0:04:59.960 you want to talk about? Have I done anything recent 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:01.039 that I want to talk about. 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:06.640 I actually got to see Aquafina's new show that's about. 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:06.800 To come out. 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:07.000 Oh. 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:08.279 I watched the first three episode. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:12.680 Yeah, and it's I was really really like, Okay, this 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:14.560 is gonna be like. 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:15.640 Like Broad City adjacent. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:20.280 After the third episode, I was like, oh, yes, this 0:05:20.440 --> 0:05:23.440 is dope, and everybody who made appearances were really funny. 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:25.360 Michelle Butteu crushed it. 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:27.560 I like all the people that made appearances, but I'm 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:30.240 not gonna compare it to nobody's Broad City says oh okay. 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.280 I was watching it, and it was kind of a 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:32.960 struggle for me. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:37.239 Oh okay saying that, yes, Sydney, because we are allowed 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:41.200 to have different opinions about something that is art. Okay. Realistically, 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:43.480 I watched it and I was like, the first two 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:45.279 episodes were hard for me to get through. But I 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:47.120 remember I spoke to you and you said it gets 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:49.840 good around the third episode, and I was like, okay, 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:52.600 So I watched the third episode, and I enjoyed that 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.919 the most of the three that I watched. But you know, 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:59.400 sometimes I watch stuff and I'm like, oh, I too 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:04.600 can write a television show because I think as people 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:07.200 who are like as writers, we think our thing has 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:09.720 to be perfect when we first write it. But these 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:11.720 shows go through a bunch of different drafts and a 0:06:11.760 --> 0:06:14.400 bunch of revisions and a bunch of like a team 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.719 of people get together and like put notes on it 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.840 and tweak it, and when we do it. 0:06:18.720 --> 0:06:19.839 It's just us by ourselves. 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:21.320 So the show has been in the works for five 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:24.120 years now, So that's that. 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:27.840 Lets you know how long ago that was. 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:32.000 Yikes, like the like the pilot and just it shit 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:35.159 takes time, and then like after the third episode, there's 0:06:35.240 --> 0:06:37.960 just it's like probably like a different different writers room 0:06:38.000 --> 0:06:38.520 and everything. 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:42.120 So like things evolve and change, and so you know. 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:46.520 She's fun though, you know, Golden Globe winner Aquafena. 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:48.560 What is she win the Golden Globe for? 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:50.880 For the farewell? Is that the thing where her grandma 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:52.719 or something with the grandma? It was really really good. 0:06:53.200 --> 0:06:55.280 Oh I didn't have it spoiled for me either. 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:57.040 Andrew was still upset. 0:06:57.440 --> 0:07:01.560 Little backstory here we record did an episode in December 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:03.480 and Sidney and I had just seen Queen and Slim, 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:06.760 and she ruined the ending live on the podcast, and 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:10.000 Andrew was here and he took that part out of 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.240 the episode, so it didn't ruin it for y'all. But 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:14.400 he went just in a movie a couple weeks later, 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:15.920 and he was thinking about. 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:20.720 The end of the entire and Sidney won't apologize for it. 0:07:20.840 --> 0:07:22.680 Why won't you apologize? I just wonder. 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:26.680 I just I feel like people the movie had been 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:30.840 out for such a long time that spoilers are gonna happen. 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:34.240 I mean, Star Wars comes out like movies and shows 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:36.120 come out all the time, and people are live tweeting 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:39.120 while it comes out and telling you exactly what's happening. 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:42.720 So like, yeah, but you can unfollow the person that's tweeting, 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:45.680 or you can stop, you can log off of Twitter. 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.640 We were in here recording and having a conversation about it, 0:07:48.960 --> 0:07:51.440 and you said what the ending was while he was 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:52.080 sitting here. 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:57.120 I don't care. I'm sorry. I literally don't care. I'm 0:07:57.240 --> 0:07:59.360 sorry that I ruined it for you, but I don't care. 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:02.120 He's resolution in twenty twenty is to be a bitch. 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:04.240 Maybe I don't know. 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:08.520 I like, I'm very like compassionate towards people and understanding. 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.040 I'm a sensitive person, like, so I understand, but there's 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.840 just some things I'm like, No, I'm not, I don't. 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:14.960 I don't care about that. 0:08:15.480 --> 0:08:16.720 Okay, I don't know. 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:18.560 I think since you started taking this medication. 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.640 You've been less than to a friend. No, I'm still sensitive. No, 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:25.960 I'm saying sensitive to other people's feelings. You're sensitive, you 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:29.520 feel things, you feel everything. But I think since you 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:32.959 started taking this medication, you are kind of an insensitive person. 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:39.880 Okay, what other example, Well, we have a friend. 0:08:40.000 --> 0:08:43.480 I know we talked about Carolina, and we spoke last night, 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:48.120 and I was actually really annoyed by that, because it's like, one, 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.240 if I don't know that you're mad at me, or 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:52.920 you're annoyed at me and you're telling somebody else, that's 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:56.720 when you can we give people the backstaye Okay, So Carolina, 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:58.040 I just ruined it for you guys. 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.000 So sorry, I'm spoiler. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.120 And I'll say this about spoilers. 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:07.000 If you're gonna spoil something, you're supposed to say spoiler alert. 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:09.560 You're supposed to say there's spoilers at the end, it 0:09:09.600 --> 0:09:10.440 is sentenced. 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:11.880 That I'm about to say it's okay, like Sidney's just 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:13.360 not taking anyway. 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:14.200 I'm just gonna say it. 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.040 And because because you're you ask for another example, and 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:18.480 I'm going to give this example, and then we can 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:21.040 figure out we can decide who's right or who's wrong. Here, 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:24.920 we have a friend. Her name is Carolina Sidney, and 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:28.840 she are neighbors. Sidney eats at Carolina's house every day. Yes, 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:31.680 Carolina cooks, She's a good cook. She feeds you. 0:09:32.120 --> 0:09:34.480 She makes sure you eat your vegetables, your greens, your fruits. 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:37.520 Yes, yes, yes, yes. You get home from work, you 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:40.400 go to her house, the door be open. Yes, y'all 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:44.000 are like it's like a dorm, right. So Sidney eats 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:47.640 a lot of cereal, and so Carolina and her cousin 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:51.240 who lived together, started leaving cereal, keeping cereal in the 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:53.640 house because they eat it now. So Sidney went to 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:57.360 Carolina's house after work, shows up. Carolina fixes her a 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.960 plate of food like dinner. Sidney eats it. Then after 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:04.760 dinner wants a bowl of cereal. Okay, so dinner and 0:10:04.800 --> 0:10:08.160 the cereal for supper, same meal, same city, Syne. He 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:10.160 goes to the refrigerator. She picks up a box of cereal. 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:12.640 She's like, oh, there's nothing in here. It's like powder 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.320 or like dust. And Carolina's like, Carolina was offended. I 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:18.240 was joking. 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:22.080 I you weren't there. I'm telling you exactly wasn't there. 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:24.520 I said it in such a voice that's not even 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:25.080 my voice. 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:25.480 I was. 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:28.120 I was joking because there was stuff in there. It 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:32.160 was just literally like the it was it was the 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:35.720 it wasn't oh, it wasn't completely gone, but it was 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:39.000 a lot of like the ends of the cereal. 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:40.960 But I was, I was literally joking. 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:45.640 Carolina says that hurt her feelings. Right, you're saying you 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.880 were joking. Whether you're joking or not, she told you 0:10:49.400 --> 0:10:53.000 it hurt her feelings. She just fed you. You don't 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.480 pay for any food in that house, none of it. Right, 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:59.800 she feeds you regardless she got the cereal because you 0:10:59.880 --> 0:11:02.120 like eating cereal. It's not your. 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:06.880 Cereal, it's still her, it's still her cereal. I was 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:10.000 completely I have my own cereal downstairs. 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:11.720 And yet you were complained about her not having It 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.679 was a joke. But Sydney, we've joke. Can we can 0:11:14.800 --> 0:11:17.800 joke and you can hurt somebody's feelings and they tell 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:20.880 you that you hurt them, and you can't keep saying 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:24.000 it was a joke. You can apologize, or you can 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:25.959 buy some cereal, or you could. 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:26.400 You know what I mean? 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:29.520 Like, Okay, so Andrew, you heard what what are your 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:30.040 thoughts here? 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:33.920 Wait? So it's it's fully her cereal? Yeah, okay, So 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:38.400 I could see you doing that. And especially if I 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:41.480 I'm like giving so much to you and then you're like, oh, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:43.920 complaining that there isn't like one thing, I would be 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.520 hurt as well. And I think that's just like the 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:48.439 place to apologize, right. 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.959 But that's but this is why I did apologize. I said, 0:11:52.120 --> 0:11:53.320 I'm joking. I'm so sorry. 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:53.640 I was. 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:55.120 I was completely joking. 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:58.160 And then the next day I come in and she's like, 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.760 I'm mad at you, and I was like what And 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:02.600 she tells me about what happened, and I was like, 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:06.080 I was completely joking and I had already said sorry, 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:09.360 But did you apologize? I said, I'm sorry, I was 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:12.880 joking that when it actually happened, I was like, I'm 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:13.800 totally kidding. 0:12:14.840 --> 0:12:16.640 I was saying, so what happens when she says she's 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:19.160 met at you. The next day, I was like, I 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.440 text you earlier that day. 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:22.520 Nothing. 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:24.400 She didn't tell me that she was upset at me, 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:26.920 So she had been upset all day. And then I 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:30.079 finally see her and I'm like, oh, so. 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:31.640 Why didn't you just mention this earlier? 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:34.640 But also I was just joking, and the way our 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:38.680 relationship is the way you joke, Amina jokes, Carolina jokes, 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:41.200 the way we are on this podcast. There's stuff that's 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:44.440 been said that's way more hurtful, and we. 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:47.800 Just that's just how our rapport is. 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:50.120 So there's some things that I'm like, I gotta take 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:52.240 that l or I'll be like, oh, that really hurt 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:56.199 my feelings. But I constantly checked myself in the group 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:59.000 chat with everybody and the things that we've said to 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:03.240 each other in passing that I'm like, am I overreacting? 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:07.040 Or is this person serious? Is this person joking? 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:07.640 Like? 0:13:07.679 --> 0:13:09.760 What is the matter? Yeah, But Sidney, that's the cool 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:13.720 thing about being friends with somebody. You if you feel 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:15.920 something and you want to talk to them about it, 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:20.319 there's no expiration date on how you feel. Sis feelings 0:13:20.320 --> 0:13:23.080 don't have an expiration date, right, She didn't want to 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.360 say anything, or if you felt away in a group 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:28.480 chat with your rude ass friends, which is us, then 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:32.520 you like there's conversations that we've had that you're like, uh, 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:34.720 X amount of days ago, because sometimes you need to 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:39.360 build up to saying something to somebody. Sometimes, like you 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:41.800 don't want to confront somebody because you're like, ah, maybe 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:42.679 I'm overreacting. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.320 But it's like it's weighing on you. 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:46.080 It's sitting on you for a couple of days, right, 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:48.080 and you're like, well, I have to say something. You 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.720 can't say, well, it happened two days ago. It happened 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.400 X amount of weeks ago. Like there's stuff that's happened. 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:56.199 Andrew still upset about Queen and Slim and you won't 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.240 apologize to him. I won't. 0:13:58.320 --> 0:14:00.559 You literally just said I'm not going to apologize. 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:03.680 And then that's why I said you're being insensitive and 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:05.920 why I bought the Carolina thing up in the first place. 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:10.800 So and you still sitting here like you still don't care. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:12.880 I'm not. Then it's not I don't care. 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:17.640 It's just like there's so much like more important things 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:18.559 to you. 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:20.120 No, no, no, not not to me. 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:23.960 I'm talking about in general that you can't say, oh, 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:27.640 I am sensitive and then dish out all this stuff 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:30.600 on a daily and then all all of a sudden 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:34.560 when I'm like, I'm completely joking because I am, like, 0:14:34.760 --> 0:14:38.840 I totally am appreciative of everything that Carolena does. When 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:41.840 Carolina did that whole party, she asked me for money, 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:44.880 and I here you go, boom, I gave whatever. I 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:48.760 gave a great amount of money to that party, to 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:49.440 the food. 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:51.040 That I barely ate it. 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:52.680 But I'm not upset about them. 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:53.280 They know that. 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:55.640 But I'm just saying, like, I know what you mean, 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:57.800 Like she does a lot for me, but whenever she 0:14:57.920 --> 0:15:00.680 needs anything or whatever, I'm I'm very a and I 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:01.880 tell her every single. 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:05.880 Day, well no, because like a person to respond that 0:15:05.920 --> 0:15:08.600 way and get upset over making a joke, you know, 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:11.600 that's like a slow burn. You know they're getting upset 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:14.280 over like a number of things. And maybe she didn't 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.080 feel appreciated by you, and maybe you, like you weren't 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:21.040 showing appreciation the way that she wants to be appreciated. 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:24.320 She listened to the podcast that we just had, and 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:27.760 I talk about how appreciative I am of Carolina and 0:15:27.800 --> 0:15:28.880 how much she does for me. 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:31.720 Well, well, don't you get her like five boxes of cereal? 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:33.040 Sidney. That's what I said. 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.240 I was like, out, what do you need more cereal? 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.240 What do you need? I'll need you. She didn't need 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:40.160 more cereal. You needed more cereal. You went up, you 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:43.120 left your cereal downstairs, went to her house. A yeah, 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:45.160 and then you were like, oh, it's not no cereal. 0:15:45.480 --> 0:15:48.480 Whether you were joking or not, that wasn't. She didn't left, 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:51.320 She's and she sat and thought about it and could 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:54.400 She told me about it the next day and I said, well, Carolina, 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:55.920 if you feel a certain way about this, then you 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:58.000 need to say something, right. That's all I said to her. 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.200 I said, if you feel strong, if you're this upset, 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:03.720 then you need to talk to Sidney because she's gonna 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.280 keep doing this because she's gonna think that you're fine 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:08.640 with it. She's gonna keep making these same types of jokes. 0:16:08.880 --> 0:16:12.840 No, she's the way she responded, I was like, oh, 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:15.760 I was joking, but I haven't joked like that. That 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:18.160 was the first time I made a joke like that ever. 0:16:18.320 --> 0:16:18.760 Sidney. 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:21.680 I know you, okay, I know how you joke, I 0:16:21.720 --> 0:16:23.080 know what you say, I know how you are when 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.160 you get into people's houses. I know how you like 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:27.840 to like make yourself real comfortable when you go to someone. 0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:30.240 Oh you know what, food you go this, You open 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:32.240 people's fridges, you take stuff out, you eat what you 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.240 want whatever. That's fine, but that's not fine for everybody. 0:16:35.480 --> 0:16:39.480 And that's not fine for your friend who loves Carolina, 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:43.000 adores you. You like Carolina, you appreciate her or whatever whatever. 0:16:43.120 --> 0:16:46.600 These are all true, but in that moment, she didn't 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.520 feel appreciated, and she told you about it the next day, 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:53.120 and you responded by saying all of this other stuff 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:56.360 and adding to that, you started talking about you know, 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:59.360 like how like it didn't really matter that she was 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:00.520 upset because it. 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:03.240 And that also is annoying to me that she's talking 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:06.199 to you about like something that I'm like, I had 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:08.199 already spoke to her. I'm like, you can't talk to 0:17:08.400 --> 0:17:11.040 people in the group about something that is first of all, 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:14.200 it's in the house, and I'm telling you, like, oh, 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:17.160 I said that, I'm sorry, But also I was just like. 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:19.360 Well, there's tons of things that we all do in here. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:21.720 That's just like lou But Sidney, that's not how you 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:24.359 apologize to somebody, and I'm saying that as somebody who 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:27.240 is It's hard for me to apologize, right. You can't 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:31.680 say I'm sorry, but I'm sorry, but we all say 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:35.280 crazy things. I'm sorry, but I've been offended before and 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:36.159 I didn't say anything. 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.080 That doesn't matter, that's on uses. No, no, no. 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:41.040 When I told her what I was offended about and 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:44.920 the way she responded and she was like, I'm sorry, 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:48.159 Like I mean, I've she's done things, and I'm like, okay, 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:49.760 it's Carolina, like I get it. 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.560 Whatever, and I moved forward. Yeah, but that's you, Sidney. 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:55.199 Those things didn't affect you as much. You moved forward 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:57.720 because you could. She couldn't move forward because she was 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:00.000 stuck in it. When I saw her literally twenty four, 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:01.960 I was later and then she called you on it 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:03.800 and you were like, too much time has passed? 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:05.159 How dare you bring this up? 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:05.359 No? 0:18:05.240 --> 0:18:06.400 No, no, that's not what I said. 0:18:06.400 --> 0:18:09.680