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Speaker 2: My best friend and I made a pact to stay together,

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Speaker 2: but she's a bad roommate.

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Speaker 3: Things change when you live together, that is true.

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Speaker 2: My roommate female twenty two and I Female twenty two

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Speaker 2: have been best friends for ten years now. I have

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Speaker 2: a six year old son from a previous relationship. In

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty two, we both left our abusive slash toxic

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Speaker 2: relationships with our ex's congratulations. I asked her to move

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Speaker 2: into my grandparents' rental property with me in January of

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty three. Best these yeah, besties, besties. I was

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Speaker 2: sleeping on my mom's couch and she was still living

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Speaker 2: with your grandparents. The move in would be beneficial for

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Speaker 2: both of us. By the way, this comes from user

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Speaker 2: pretty Baby thirty seven to twenty five on the r

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Speaker 2: slash Okay store Time Stop read it. So, I have

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Speaker 2: lived in my grandparents' rental property on and off for

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Speaker 2: six years now. When my son was six weeks old

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Speaker 2: and I was sixteen years old. My mom, my son,

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Speaker 2: and I moved into the property. When I turned eighteen,

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Speaker 2: I moved into a new house with my boyfriend at

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Speaker 2: the time, while my mother stayed at the property. Four

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Speaker 2: months later, my mom decided to move out of the

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Speaker 2: rental property and my grandparents needed new tenants. My boyfriend, Jay,

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Speaker 2: my son, and I moved into the rental property and

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Speaker 2: took over the lease nice. It was a bad relationship

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Speaker 2: and he was abusive towards me, not nice. In February

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty two, Jay got a really good job offer

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Speaker 2: on the opposite side of the country. Our relationship had

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Speaker 2: been rocky for quite some time, so I decided to

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Speaker 2: stay at the rental property until we were both ready

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Speaker 2: for me to move to the West Coast with him.

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Speaker 2: In October of twenty twenty two, we decided it was

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Speaker 2: a good time for my son and I to move

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Speaker 2: to the West Coast to be with Jay. He filled

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Speaker 2: me with empty promises of an easier and happier life.

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Speaker 2: I had to get rid of everything I owned and

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Speaker 2: I sold slash. Gave a lot of my possessions to

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Speaker 2: my best friend let's call her Emma. For example, I

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Speaker 2: sold her a sixty five inch LGTV for one hundred dollars. Woo,

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Speaker 2: that's a deal, A deal in the lifetime. I moved

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Speaker 2: away to be with Jay. Something bad happened and he

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Speaker 2: threw me out of his house. I had to drive

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Speaker 2: home all alone across eleven states. Wow, I mean, I

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Speaker 2: wonder what happened. I returned home and slept on my

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Speaker 2: mom's couch for two months until I decided that I

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Speaker 2: needed to get on my feet. That's when I asked

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Speaker 2: my best friend to move into my grandparents' rental property

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Speaker 2: with me. She agreed under the condition that she gets

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Speaker 2: to have the master bedroom. Well, okay, that's kind of lame,

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Speaker 2: but I mean, I guess people get to make conditions.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's weird, but Opie has a song and it's

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Speaker 3: their grandparents' property.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Wait yeah, Opie has a whole child.

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Speaker 3: Well I don't know about that, dude, not a fan.

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Speaker 3: Not a fan.

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Speaker 2: On one condition, I get the best room. Well, okay,

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Speaker 2: I was desperate to get off my mom's couch, so

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Speaker 2: I agreed. The house is a two bed, two bath,

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Speaker 2: so my son and I had to squeeze in the

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Speaker 2: eight hundred dollars for rent four hundred each, so we

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Speaker 2: got a nice family discount. Yeah, four hundred dollars for rent.

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Speaker 3: Is I'll take that discount, easy money.

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Speaker 2: She would constantly brag to friends how she got her

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Speaker 2: amazing her big room was. Oh, come on, come on,

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Speaker 2: what do you do? Come on, weird? I slept on

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Speaker 2: an air mattress for two months after moving in because

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Speaker 2: I couldn't afford a bed yet. Sometimes I would drift

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Speaker 2: come on, this is your best friend, dude. Best friend

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Speaker 2: is ruthless. It was extremely cold in my room and

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Speaker 2: Oh my Emma is a thick girl, so she runs hot.

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Speaker 2: We would constantly go back and forth about the thermostat.

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Speaker 2: Eventually I got to bed and it started to warm

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Speaker 2: up outside. Emma was extremely spoiled by her grandparents. There

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Speaker 2: Oh, there's the missing piece of the puzzle as to

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Speaker 3: She's entitled, very entitled, and she believes.

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Speaker 2: She earned it. She has never had to do chores, cook,

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Speaker 2: pay bills, and just be an independently functioning adult. She

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Speaker 2: had no interest in learning these things, but I forced

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Speaker 2: up until six am playing video games and working the

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Speaker 2: least amount of hours that she could. Her grandparents coddling

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Speaker 2: was severely showing. I asked her to do one household chore,

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Speaker 2: the dishes, while I would do literally everything else. She

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Speaker 2: the sink at a time. That's come on, that's honestly pathetic,

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Speaker 2: While meanwhile I took out the trash, cleaned the floors,

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Speaker 2: cleaned the appliances, cooked the meals, et cetera. For a

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Speaker 2: long time, things worked out. Okay. I wasn't happy with

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Speaker 2: her lack of contribution to the household, but I wasn't

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Speaker 2: mad about it either. I just accepted it. I really

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Speaker 2: love her, So we decided to make a pact Emma

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Speaker 2: and I won't leave each other behind. We will always

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Speaker 2: stick together until we both can stand on our own

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Speaker 2: two feet. Dude, that is a I don't know if

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Speaker 2: that's what I would do after everything I just wrote,

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Speaker 2: everything I just read.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't like living with people that are lazy,

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Speaker 3: if that makes sense, because if they're lazy, it's gonna

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Speaker 3: rub off on me. Show me your five friends, and

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Speaker 3: I'll show you who you are.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're in your environment inevitably affects you, like if

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Speaker 2: you've got a room made situation. Their vibe is going

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Speaker 2: to impact your vibe and is going to impact your energy.

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Speaker 2: But I mean they've been besties for so long that, yeah,

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Speaker 2: they've been through so much.

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Speaker 3: It's just not compatible living together. Some people can be friends,

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Speaker 3: but they can't live together.

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Speaker 2: True. That is a big That is a big, big,

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Speaker 2: big difference. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Uh.

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Speaker 2: In November of twenty twenty three, I met my now

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Speaker 2: boyfriend male thirty six. Let's call him d give name, yes, Uh,

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Speaker 2: let's call him Dimitri.

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Speaker 3: All right, we're gonna call hi Dmitri.

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Speaker 2: Yes, we have an age gap, and I don't have

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Speaker 2: my son, and I'm happy with him. The problem is

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Speaker 2: Dmitri lives in a large city two and a half

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Speaker 2: From the start of our long distance relationship, Dmitri and

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Speaker 2: I have been discussing our future. We decided that after

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Speaker 2: stable income, while I have a waitressing job and rent

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Speaker 2: the house that I live in. I told Dmitri about

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Speaker 2: my pact with my best friend slash roommate. While he

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Speaker 2: wasn't thrilled, he agreed that it would be okay if

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Speaker 3: Oh hell no, oh hell no, no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: I understand the pact if you both are working equal

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Speaker 3: amount or kind of almost equal amount. Yeah, Emma's not

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Speaker 3: it must just getting by.

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Speaker 2: No, Emma's gonna mess up your whole situation here, uhryl.

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Speaker 3: Just like Miley say on the Wrecking Ball, that's what

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Speaker 3: she was gonna do.

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Speaker 2: She gonna come in like a wrecking ball. Easy. Oh

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Speaker 2: my gosh, you know, no, dirty, a dirty wrecking ball. No.

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Speaker 2: I also don't like to it gives me weird vibes

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Speaker 2: that Dmitri would agree. So what is this pack? This

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Speaker 3: No, it was snow.

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Speaker 2: It's like you cannot abandon each other and not have

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Speaker 3: Emma's being the tick on OPI she's a tick.

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Speaker 2: She's just leaching off over Yeah, that's the leech I

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Speaker 2: mean in this book at this point, that's what it

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I never pressured Emma to move, but she was extremely

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Speaker 2: excited to move with me. I'm sure she was. She's like, bedroom, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I can't. I'm gonna sleep in the room with your boyfriend. Though,

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Speaker 2: we set a date and have been preparing for the

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Speaker 2: big move. In July twenty twenty four, Emma met her

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Speaker 2: of contribution got worse because she was spending all her

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Speaker 2: time with him. I asked her if she still wanted

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Speaker 2: that she does. I expressed to her that it would

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Speaker 2: make sense for her to stay back home because she

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Speaker 2: has a boyfriend now, but she refused. A new one

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Speaker 2: like op, just like being like, hey, maybe actually don't

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Speaker 2: move in with me and my long distance boyfriend. Maybe

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Speaker 2: you don't do that now that you have your own boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: Oh, you have a conversation with her, please.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you might have to actually be firm about that

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Speaker 2: if you don't want her to move, which I have

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Speaker 2: a suspicion you might not. You gotta be direct. I

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Speaker 2: because I was planning my childcare slash life around her coming.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, what does that mean helping out with the kid?

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Speaker 2: You want her helping out.

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Speaker 3: With the kid? I don't know, man, dude.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't sound responsible enough to take care of herself.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you should be trusting her to

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Speaker 3: True, just a thought.

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Speaker 2: Around August of twenty twenty four, Emma's laziness was starting

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Speaker 2: to get to me. I would work full time and

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Speaker 2: come home to clean the house, cook dinner, and take

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Speaker 2: care of my son. I paid for all the groceries

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Speaker 2: with my food stamps, I checked the mail and mowed

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Speaker 2: the lawn. She would help me sometimes, but not usually.

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Speaker 2: I expressed my frustration to my boyfriend and he told

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Speaker 2: me that he had no idea the extent of the

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Speaker 2: situation with Emma. He said he wasn't comfortable having her

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Speaker 2: move in unless she turned things around. Okay, cool, Wow,

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Speaker 2: So Dimitri must really like op because he got absolutely

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Speaker 2: zero details about Emma. M hmm. He was just like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you want her to move in? All right, I guess

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Speaker 2: we can do that. I'm not super happy about it,

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Speaker 2: but we can make it work. Yeah. Oh. That's when

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Speaker 2: I decided to make a Reddit post asking for advice.

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Speaker 2: Some people told me to write down my feelings and

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Speaker 2: talk to her about it. I sat her down and

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Speaker 2: explained that we both need to start better habits before

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Speaker 2: we move into Dimitri's house. Here's a summary of what

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Speaker 2: I asked. Clean up after yourself, help me mow the lawn,

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Speaker 2: I appreciate my boyfriend so much. He is building an amazing,

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Speaker 2: asked for a better partner. While I'm sad that Emma

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Speaker 2: So please be kind if you can, and by the way,

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Speaker 3: You are living your best life, and by living that,

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Speaker 2: I think there's you know, they probably not used to

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Speaker 3: Which is a you know, angel baby move of you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, need some You live in different worlds sometimes, you know.

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Speaker 2: Just enjoy. Just focus on enjoying your awesome new life

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Speaker 2: with Dimitri. Yeah, that's what i'd say.

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Speaker 2: A lot of you guys brought up the child care,

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Speaker 2: but our connection is very strong. Well, it's good knowing

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to force them. That's why my dating

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Speaker 2: one thing I was worried about, is like, yeah, it's

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Speaker 2: that's good. My boyfriend didn't like the idea of Emma

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Speaker 2: allow it. You guys are right, that was overstepping. Emma

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Speaker 2: and I absolutely have a codependent trauma bond and it's

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Speaker 3: I want to I didn't want to say it, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, it makes sense that it's there. Yeah, but

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Speaker 2: I tried therapy, but I couldn't afford it anymore, so

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Speaker 2: I had to stop going. I appreciate all the advice

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Speaker 2: I didn't want to make the post too long, so

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Speaker 3: Oh hey, we've made sense.

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Speaker 2: It's it's I think you gave us all of the

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Speaker 2: I hope your new life goes great and you know,

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Speaker 2: you learn how to have maybe a more healthy relationship

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Speaker 3: Yep, that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: That is the end of that story. My roommate doesn't

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Speaker 2: How else is she supposed to stay up? I twenty

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Speaker 2: I would pick her up as she didn't drive and

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Speaker 2: which was fifteen minutes away. This doesn't apply to anything really,

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Speaker 2: So I redd it. So. One of the first instances

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Speaker 3: Is kind of out of there, get out of the.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, come on, why are you doing that? In my defense,

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Speaker 2: she felt this way because I had nothing on my

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00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 2: walls yet, because I'm saving money. My bed wasn't made,

437
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:34,879
Speaker 2: and my closet wasn't aesthetically pleasing. There was no mess

438
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,360
Speaker 2: besides my bed not being made. And to add, she

439
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 2: leaves her hair behind and invites friends over to do

440
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:47,120
Speaker 2: makeup and leaves lipstick stains behind. Hmmm, so it looks

441
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 2: like there's a little projection going on here weird. I'm

442
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,560
Speaker 2: pretty low maintenance, so it didn't bug me other than

443
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 2: the fact that it's only okay.

444
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 3: When she does those things.

445
00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 2: She's also made this comment in front of our friends,

446
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 2: which hurt my feelings. I thought you were going to

447
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 2: leave your Hello Kitty stuff at home? Wow, hating on

448
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,000
Speaker 2: Hello Kitty in front of your friends.

449
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 3: Dude, you don't know how much like clout you can

450
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:13,880
Speaker 3: get for having Hello Kitty in your house.

451
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just depends on the right. If your circle's

452
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,360
Speaker 2: not discussing Hello Kitty, you're in the wrong circle.

453
00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 3: Yeah.

454
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 2: She was referring to a pencil holder that my grandma

455
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 2: got me, and maybe my tote bag hanging in my closet.

456
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 2: Oh wow, there's only like two things too. And I

457
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 2: said to her, what Hello Kitty is so cute, laughing

458
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 2: it off, to which she replied, well, I leave my

459
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 2: Star Wars stuff at home, and I honestly think that

460
00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 2: it's corny and weird, like a lot of people think

461
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:47,640
Speaker 2: it's corny. Okay, how are you trying to downtalk stout

462
00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 2: Star Wars?

463
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 3: Yeah? Come on, come on, girl, what are you What

464
00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:51,439
Speaker 3: universe are you in?

465
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,639
Speaker 2: Uh? Definitely not the cool one. I laughed it off,

466
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,399
Speaker 2: but later on I just gently told her that I

467
00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 2: can put it away when her friends come over, but

468
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 2: I would like to keep it out because it's the

469
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 2: only thing my grandma could afford to buy me.

470
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 3: Dang.

471
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 2: Oh, he's such a sweetie.

472
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

473
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 2: She didn't reply rudely to that, other than restating that

474
00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 2: she didn't know. She just thinks that it's corny. Another instance,

475
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 2: I had been helping our mutual friend move out for

476
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 2: Labor Day weekend. My roommate's boyfriend was coming to pick

477
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:26,359
Speaker 2: her up. At that time. I had gotten back to

478
00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:28,720
Speaker 2: my room and no one was there, so I just

479
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 2: sat and hung out for a second. She walks in

480
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,680
Speaker 2: with her boyfriend and I go, oh, hey, guys, I'll

481
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 2: head out so you can have some space, to which

482
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 2: she replied, yeah, I was kind of hoping you would

483
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:43,959
Speaker 2: still be with your friend. I said, yeah, I just

484
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 2: got back a minute ago, but i'll head out. Let

485
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 2: me say bye to you before you guys go. Before

486
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 2: I head out, and I held out my arms for

487
00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 2: a hug. And it's totally okay not to accept a hug,

488
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:01,280
Speaker 2: but this was her reaction. She held her hands up

489
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 2: to her chest like she was scared and made a

490
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:08,920
Speaker 2: disgusted face at me and goes, yeah, sorry, I don't

491
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 2: do hugs, and so I just went, oh okay, and

492
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,679
Speaker 2: I gave her a fist bump and left. Yeah, you

493
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 2: don't even give her a fist bump in that scenario.

494
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 2: At that point, you just leave without saying a word,

495
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 2: because that's not how human beings talk to each other.

496
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:30,439
Speaker 2: Go dude, that's why is she doing this?

497
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 3: Why is Yeah, you're supposed to live together in harmony.

498
00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 2: And you were the one like giving her rides like

499
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 2: before you guys moved like casual acquaintances. You were literally

500
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 2: just like doing her a favor.

501
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:45,360
Speaker 3: Why are you not repairing a little hug, like oh

502
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 3: thank you, like oh daysigaming space, have a great day.

503
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:53,680
Speaker 2: Person's got no respect. She just was like you established

504
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:55,920
Speaker 2: the relationship as being the chauffeur, and now she doesn't

505
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 2: respect you. I'm just crazy.

506
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,160
Speaker 3: Come on, You're more than just giving out rides.

507
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 2: Another instance, we were walking past one of my friends

508
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 2: on campus who has a disability and his special needs.

509
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 2: He speaks very much differently and has a deep voice.

510
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 2: I pass him and we talk a bit, and my

511
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 2: roommate laughs and goes.

512
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 3: Oh, why is his voice like that?

513
00:26:17,640 --> 00:26:20,560
Speaker 2: And she also made jokes about another boy with autism.

514
00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 3: So she's a terrible person.

515
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 2: This person is just a belongs in a dumpster because

516
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:28,160
Speaker 2: they're trash.

517
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 3: And I think that she lived in a household where

518
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 3: her parents put her down in order to make themselves

519
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 3: feel better, so now she has to put others down

520
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 3: in order for her to.

521
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 2: Make sern behavior.

522
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:41,880
Speaker 3: I'd love to talk to the boyfriend be like, how

523
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 3: do you guys joke?

524
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is such a good insight. It's such a

525
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 2: good insight.

526
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 3: We're going to have therapy or becoming a therapist, which

527
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 3: I never will be because it's like an eight time

528
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:54,360
Speaker 3: it's an eight year part time job. If I went

529
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 3: to pursue being a therapist.

530
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 2: It's a lot. There's definitely a lot that goes into it.

531
00:26:57,880 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 3: It should have been a different life of mine.

532
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:03,120
Speaker 2: Another instance, her plans got canceled on a Thursday night

533
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 2: and I had gone to an event and been partying

534
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 2: with some friends. My friend walked me back home and

535
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 2: she found me sitting with him real quick. She also

536
00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:14,159
Speaker 2: had our other sweet mate with her. We sat and

537
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,679
Speaker 2: talked and they were really nice until he starts walking away.

538
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,680
Speaker 2: He wasn't even out of our view when the two

539
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 2: of them start making fun of his face, saying that

540
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 2: he looks like he's sick, just completely being rude.

541
00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 3: Oh dude, this is the worst mean girl ever.

542
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 2: There's some nasty ass girls. Golly. Another instance got They

543
00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 2: just keep coming, And the most recent one that resulted

544
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 2: in us not speaking to one another for the past

545
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:45,000
Speaker 2: few days and there's still not words exchanged. This was

546
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 2: It was this Saturday night. I had gotten back home

547
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 2: from a party around two forty in the morning. She

548
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 2: was still out from partying at a different spot. She

549
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 2: had left her fairy lights on and I had communicated

550
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 2: that I cannot sleep with them on. I wasn't mad

551
00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 2: at all. It's really not a big deal. I just

552
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 2: shot her a text asking where the switch is to

553
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,920
Speaker 2: turn them off, and then said, oh, never mind, I

554
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 2: found them. She replied, I'm about to be home. I

555
00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 2: could have done it. The next day, we both woke

556
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 2: up late around four pm. Five pm. I get out

557
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: of the shower. Huh dang, Yeah, well, they were party.

558
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 2: They were partying hard. They were going hard at the party.

559
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 2: I get out of the shower and she woke she

560
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,120
Speaker 2: woke up and goes, you invaded my space last night.

561
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,760
Speaker 2: You don't just tell someone you're gonna touch their stuff,

562
00:28:32,800 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 2: you ask. I was upset. I have been super kind

563
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 2: for a very long time, and I have to put

564
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 2: up with a lot of rude behavior. I go, I'm

565
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 2: not gonna wait for you. When it's three in the

566
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 2: morning and I want to go to sleep, I'm gonna

567
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 2: shut them off. If they're on in the middle of

568
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,479
Speaker 2: the night. I can't sleep with them on, so maybe

569
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 2: just leave them off. She defends it, saying that she

570
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 2: needed them as a night light for when she got

571
00:28:59,200 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 2: back home.

572
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 3: With that, what do you mean?

573
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 2: Are you crazy?

574
00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:04,160
Speaker 3: Like whack?

575
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 2: Do you know what this is? Your phone? Do you

576
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 2: know what it has attached to it? A freaking flashlight? Dude?

577
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 3: But I like half of my little light bulb one

578
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 3: because it gets dark and I'm like, oh.

579
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 4: It's on.

580
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 2: Well, I know who I'm never living with Riley.

581
00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 3: We don't have to live in the same room.

582
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, we of course we would, We're a husband and wife.

583
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 2: She defends it, saying that she needed them as a

584
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 2: night light from when she got back home. I said,

585
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 2: there's other lights to add to this. She also had

586
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,959
Speaker 2: her TV on, and I compromise, and I am okay

587
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 2: with that. It bugs me, but I don't want her

588
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 2: to be inconvenienced. Well, you still shouldn't touch other people's

589
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 2: stop without asking first, which I guess is true. But

590
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:54,840
Speaker 2: you're just turning the lights off. That's not touching your stuff,

591
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 2: it's just turning it off. Get off your Who do

592
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 2: you think you are? I don't at your alarm when

593
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 2: it's going off forever, I said, I wouldn't mind if

594
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 2: you did, because not everything is a big deal. This

595
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 2: happened one time, and I apologized the alarm being on

596
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 2: for too long. I was in the wrong for my

597
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: alarm going off. I was under the impression that she

598
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 2: was at home because she left at six, but she

599
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:23,840
Speaker 2: came back to nap and couldn't sleep because of me.

600
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:28,240
Speaker 2: Still my bad, but hey, she apologized. Accidents happen.

601
00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, you get through it.

602
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, you move on.

603
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 3: You don't throw it in another people's face whenever you're arguing.

604
00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 2: They turn off your fairy lights at three in the

605
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:37,320
Speaker 2: morning because they're just trying to go to sleep.

606
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:37,920
Speaker 3: Come on.

607
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 2: I can't recall exactly how it ended, but it did

608
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,959
Speaker 2: shortly after that. Then she got on the phone with

609
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 2: her boyfriend, and me, being petty because I was fed up,

610
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 2: started blow drying my hair in the foyer just to

611
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 2: be rude. She slammed the door and that was our

612
00:30:54,800 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 2: last interaction. And by the way, I refused to accept

613
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 2: that this is your last interaction with us, because you

614
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 2: can join us when we go live every weekday on YouTube,

615
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 2: Facebook and Twitch at three pm PST. All you gotta

616
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 2: do is tap our profile. Tap it. Honestly. Yeah, I'm

617
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 2: cool with you never speaking to this girl ever again. Yeah,

618
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 2: try to move out and get out of this situation.

619
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 3: You can't be someone's punching bag for a few years.

620
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,480
Speaker 3: Get out. Yeah, she's she's straight up. She's just using

621
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 3: you to weighl on.

622
00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 2: Also to add, she has moved two of my soaps

623
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 2: under the sink now and put Halloween stickers on our

624
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 2: mirror without asking. I don't care because I'm chill, But

625
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, you know, it just reminded me of

626
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 2: the meme that's been going around right now that like

627
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 2: when she's mad, but I'm just a chill guy who

628
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 2: doesn't really mind, and it's just the dog like standing

629
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 2: there because.

630
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:54,680
Speaker 3: I'm a chill guy.

631
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,479
Speaker 2: Okay, put Halloween stickers on our mirror without asking. I

632
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 2: don't care because I'm chill, but just saying she has

633
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 2: double standards. Am I in the wrong or overreacting? I

634
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 2: know I was petty, but I felt it was justified. No, dude,

635
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 2: this girl just disrespects you. What do you mean You're

636
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 2: not overreacting? No, I think you like I like, like

637
00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 2: I said, out petty her.

638
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 3: Yep.

639
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 2: I want to see the contest and you're.

640
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,880
Speaker 3: People pleasing and what else?

641
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 2: Well, I think there's a fine line between people pleasing

642
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 2: and keeping the peace.

643
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 3: You're good. Your people pleasing is showing a tad bit

644
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 3: because you want to keep the piece. But I mean, yeah,

645
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:36,560
Speaker 3: you're over her, of course anybody else would be.

646
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 2: I think you're completely in the right, you know. I

647
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 2: mean your alarm went off like one. It was just

648
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 2: a misunderstanding. It's like you weren't doing that on purpose.

649
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 2: And now what she it's your roommate. Sounds like a petty,

650
00:32:53,880 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 2: self absorbed butthole. Yep. So yeah, you don't have to

651
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 2: deal with her, just on principle, you can. She keeps

652
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 2: fire and shots at you. Fire some back easy. I

653
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 2: like the hair dryer in the foyer. Do that some more.

654
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 3: Keep bothering, Just get a new roommate as soon as

655
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Speaker 3: you can, right and get her to leave by bothering her.

656
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Speaker 3: And we're gonna now have to leave.

657
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Speaker 2: Keep your keep your alarm on on purpose, and then

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Speaker 2: get mad at her. And this episode, I'm not letting

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Speaker 2: it in by Hey, it's Sam, your og host. Here.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

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Speaker 4: I had a secret roommate that I didn't know about.

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Speaker 4: And this is a direct Okay story Times vision. This

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Speaker 4: is one of you guys.

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Speaker 5: Oh my goodness, how did you not know about?

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Speaker 2: Hi?

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Speaker 4: Okay start type people. That's this happened back in twenty

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Speaker 4: twenty one. But I was telling you story to some

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Speaker 4: friends at a party this weekend and m horri fte.

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Speaker 4: They drove me to post it on Reddit. So here

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Speaker 4: I am. We love we love it. By the way,

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Speaker 4: in the comments, I will allow exactly zero assumptions about

673
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Speaker 4: the religion or ethnicity of the people I rented from

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Speaker 4: in this story. By the way, this comes from arch

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Speaker 4: Angie on the Okay Storytime severed it so a little backstory.

676
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Speaker 4: In twenty twenty one, Mike escaped an abusive relationship and

677
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Speaker 4: lost our housing. Oh oof. My mother found a basement

678
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 4: apartment listed on Facebook marketplace and sent it to me

679
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 4: one thousand dollars. Great for my area for the studio

680
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 4: style basement of a large home. Utilities and internet included

681
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 4: small galley style kitchen and a bathroom that was actually

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Speaker 4: functional about forty percent.

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Speaker 3: Of the time.

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Speaker 4: Okay, that's enough. Sure, I was fairly restricted with what

685
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Speaker 4: I could do with the space, no painting or putting

686
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Speaker 4: holes in the wall for decor.

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Speaker 3: But I didn't mind.

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00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,479
Speaker 4: I didn't have much anyway. The studio had no heat

689
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Speaker 4: or AC, but they provided me with the window AC

690
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 4: unit and a fireplace esque space heater for the space.

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Speaker 4: The family who owned the ho home had four generations

692
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Speaker 4: of people living above me, but I didn't.

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Speaker 2: Mind the noise.

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Speaker 4: When they gave me the tour, they mentioned that the

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Speaker 4: small area of the studio that was sectioned off by

696
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 4: false walls was their kitchen, storage, pots and pans, bags

697
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 4: of rice and what not, that the access maybe once

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00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 4: a week for meal prep, and would make sure to

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Speaker 4: call me before they used their separate staircase to go

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Speaker 4: in there. I think that's where the secret roommate is.

701
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 4: That would make sense. Seemed like a good enough deal

702
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 4: in a really great area, so I jumped on it.

703
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 4: For a couple months, everything was fine until it wasn't.

704
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 4: They asked me to park several streets away and walk

705
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 4: alone in the dark so the town didn't suspect they

706
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 4: had an illegal apartment. Whatever I do it, they said, no,

707
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 4: guess whatsoever, not even female friends whatever. This place was

708
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:46,959
Speaker 4: embarrassing anyway. Then they started vacuuming directly above my bed

709
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Speaker 4: for hours and hours right after I got home from

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Speaker 4: my twelve hour shifts. Then sewage backed up in the

711
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Speaker 4: bathroom and they told me I was responsible for the

712
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Speaker 4: repair and cleaning. But then they got chickens and let

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Speaker 4: them roam free right in front of my door, so

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Speaker 4: I got chased every time I came home. Oh my

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Speaker 4: what what? Then one member of the home bought a

716
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 4: Tesla and entered my apartment with no notice to run

717
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:11,520
Speaker 4: wires for the Tesla charger and all of this. I

718
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Speaker 4: guess they're allowed like they're able to get away with

719
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Speaker 4: because it's not like a legal apartment, I guess. So

720
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Speaker 4: there's no one like she can report it. Yeah, yes,

721
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Speaker 4: I came home that day to all the ceiling tiles

722
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Speaker 4: on the floor and one of my cats outside. Ah no.

723
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Speaker 4: And it continued like this. Basically every week there was

724
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Speaker 4: a new extremely annoying but not totally danging thing that

725
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Speaker 4: they did, whether it was their young son peeping through

726
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Speaker 4: my bathroom window or the power going out. There was

727
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 4: always some bs, but I dealt with it for the

728
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Speaker 4: sake of having housing. At the end of the day,

729
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Speaker 4: there was a roof over my head and I was

730
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Speaker 4: grateful for that. Then the winter hit. Who knew? They

731
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Speaker 4: call me they want twelve hundred dollars a month now

732
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Speaker 4: because their electricity bill went up like crazy because of

733
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Speaker 4: my space eater. Definitely not the brand new testa. Yeah what,

734
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Speaker 4: I'm sorry. Space a little space that that's generating more electricity.

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Speaker 2: Than it doesn't.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, if it was, like if it was like an

737
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Speaker 5: actual heater, and I was like, yeah, that would yeah

738
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Speaker 5: a lot energy, but not a.

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Speaker 4: Space heater versus a tesla, right, a tesla. That's crazy.

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Speaker 4: They told me they would be willing to compromise to

741
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Speaker 4: eleven hundred if I turned the heater off when I

742
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Speaker 4: left for work and let my cats stay in a

743
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Speaker 4: freezing basement. I refused and began looking for other housing options.

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Speaker 4: I think that's, yeah, just the best decision. One day,

745
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Speaker 4: I worked a double, a twenty four hour shift because

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Speaker 4: we were snowed in at my job. Oh, they were

747
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 4: just like, well, you're here, you gotta keep working. I

748
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 4: stumbled home, exhausted and smelly, and all I wanted to

749
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Speaker 4: do was shower and sleep. The hot water didn't work,

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Speaker 4: so I said efitt and tried to sleep. Cue the

751
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 4: vacuum for four hours? What the fri are they doing? Yeah?

752
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Speaker 4: Why are they vactor are they doing? How does it

753
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 4: take them so long in a vacuum? I was in

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Speaker 4: tears at this point. Then the fire alarm goes off.

755
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Speaker 4: Oh God. The entire family burst into my apartment, accusing

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Speaker 4: me of smoking inside and causing the alarm. I'm crying

757
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 4: and telling them to leave. The fire alarm turns off.

758
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Speaker 4: Five minutes later, a reenactment, it goes off. They bust in.

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Speaker 4: I don't know what's going on, insist I'm not smoking

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Speaker 4: in the apartment. Someone asks if the space heater is

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Speaker 4: on I tell them no, the space heater was on fire.

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Speaker 4: What it was a small electrical fire inside the heater

763
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Speaker 4: that wasn't visible because of the fake flame. Look it

764
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Speaker 4: has They take the space heater outside and put up

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Speaker 4: the fire with snow on. Okay, they suck, but honestly,

766
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Speaker 4: and this specific scenario, they did maybe save your life. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: they did that. This one scenarios pretty skey. They did

768
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Speaker 4: save your life by bursting into your room.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 4: I hear them joking amongst themselves. I told you not

771
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Speaker 4: to take that out of the trash. It was probably

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Speaker 4: there for a reason. Oh, they gave you a freaking

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Speaker 4: broken space heater. That's crazy and laughing. They gave me

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Speaker 4: a broken and dangerous heater they found in someone's trash

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Speaker 4: to heat at my apartment.

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Speaker 2: That was it.

777
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 4: I started packing my cats and my stuff to go

778
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Speaker 4: back to sharing a room at my parents' house at

779
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Speaker 4: age twenty five. Anything was better than this crap show.

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Speaker 4: The family began harassing me, saying I wouldn't get my

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Speaker 4: security deposit back because I smoked inside. I don't smell.

782
00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, but spaceator fire was their fault, right,

783
00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 4: and blah blah blah. I don't even care. I want

784
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,919
Speaker 4: to wash my hands of this. About a week after

785
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 4: everything went down. I showed up with some friends to

786
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Speaker 4: move out of this depression dungeon. We're almost done when

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Speaker 4: one of my friends opens the door to the dry

788
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Speaker 4: storage closet, thinking I kept clothes in there, and what

789
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:35,000
Speaker 4: did he see but another woman staring back at him.

790
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 4: They had another person living in the dry storage room

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Speaker 4: the entire time.

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Speaker 2: Did the woman know that?

793
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Speaker 3: Crazy?

794
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Speaker 4: Did the woman know that she was a secret?

795
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but she just like hell, I.

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Speaker 5: Wonder like the price then, like if the if they

797
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Speaker 5: were charging them more even though like maybe like this

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Speaker 5: secret woman was like also paying that much, like also

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Speaker 5: paying like they were just making a profit off of it.

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Speaker 4: That's the She had a little twin size bed, a radio,

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Speaker 4: a lamp, some clothes, a microwave. Everything. I work such

802
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 4: long days, usually gone for fourteen hours on the days

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Speaker 4: I work that I somehow never heard her or knew

804
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Speaker 4: she was there the entire seven months I lived there.

805
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 4: That's crazy. This woman had been there the whole time,

806
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 4: listening to me of spicy sleep, have full on mental breakdowns,

807
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 4: online therapy appointments, everything. To this day, I'm not sure

808
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:25,920
Speaker 4: if she was going upstairs for her utilities or if

809
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 4: she just waited until I left for work to enter

810
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Speaker 4: my apartment and shower slash used the toilet, And honestly,

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Speaker 4: I don't even want to know. By the way, I

812
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:34,920
Speaker 4: do want to know that you're joining us live every

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00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 4: weekday through PMPSD on YouTube. Just tap our profile, Just

814
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:41,320
Speaker 4: tap it. This family was fairly well connected and threatened

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Speaker 4: to get me and my mother both fired from our

816
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 4: jobs and lose our livelihood if we reported them for

817
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 4: the illegal apartment. They were gonna report you. What couldn't

818
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 4: you report them for the illegal apartment?

819
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Speaker 2: What?

820
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Speaker 4: I'm in a much better situation now, happily in a

821
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Speaker 4: relationship and with safe affordable housing that won't nearly alive me.

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Speaker 4: But god, dang, and that that is the end of

823
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 4: that story. But thank god you're out of there with

824
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Speaker 4: safe affordable housing and your cats hopefully. Yes, I hope

825
00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,240
Speaker 4: you and your cats are doing well. That is truly

826
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 4: so insane. Damn my goodness. Yeah, these people are crazy crazy.

827
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Speaker 5: But that was the end of that story, so we'll

828
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Speaker 5: see you next time. My last three roommates were a nightmare,

829
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Speaker 5: so I got out as quickly as possible.

830
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Speaker 2: Leave them, get out of there.

831
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Speaker 5: I am thankfully living with two friends As of now,

832
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,080
Speaker 5: the house is clean and smells nice.

833
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 4: We respect each other's boundaries, and life is good.

834
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Speaker 5: Now that I am not irritated twenty for seven, I

835
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:40,400
Speaker 5: want to sit back and reflect upon all the stuff

836
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Speaker 5: I consider funny. I will separate it into two categories,

837
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:46,240
Speaker 5: the gross and the stupid. Bear in mind that most

838
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 5: of the really crazy stuff was done by the owner,

839
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Speaker 5: so there was no arguing with her.

840
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 4: Also, bear in mind.

841
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 5: That we had a functional dishwasher at all times. Oh

842
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 5: and the code names are X, Y and Z.

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00:41:58,000 --> 00:41:58,840
Speaker 4: Those are the roommates.

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from Palapooci Pouci on the

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Speaker 5: r slash Okay storytime stepread it so the giruse category

846
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Speaker 5: leaving period stayed shorts to soak in a bucket for

847
00:42:12,080 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 5: more than six months and covering it with a plastic

848
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 5: bag when mosquitoes were literally breathing there.

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Speaker 4: What they said, No, it it takes those problem. We're

850
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Speaker 4: just gonna put we're just soaking it. Really have to

851
00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 4: get the stage you don't under Yeah, it's hard to

852
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:28,800
Speaker 4: get out. I'm sorry to get out. You have to

853
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 4: sit it with it for six six months. The mosquito

854
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 4: is really good to meritate.

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Speaker 3: That's crazy.

856
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 5: I mentally called this X's aquatic succession.

857
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 4: That's insane.

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Speaker 3: I would throw that away.

859
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:41,600
Speaker 2: I would.

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Speaker 5: I would absolutely a certain point, I would throw that

861
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:47,320
Speaker 5: away for sure. They also washed clothes every three months

862
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:48,240
Speaker 5: and not before.

863
00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:48,800
Speaker 2: Wow.

864
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Speaker 5: Once I entered the bathroom and smelled cat pee. I

865
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,719
Speaker 5: went to check on my cat's litter box.

866
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 4: And it was neat and not smelly at all. Turns

867
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Speaker 4: out X only washed her shower towel once a year.

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Speaker 5: Turns out they smell a cat pye after a certain

869
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Speaker 5: amount of time. That's insane.

870
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Speaker 4: I would literally have a breakdown if I lived in

871
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 4: this apartment, like legitimately, Yeah, I would have a breakdown. Yeah.

872
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 5: Another point in the gross category was storing unwashed used

873
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Speaker 5: milk cartons for a school project for weeks, leading to

874
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:24,279
Speaker 5: a bug infestation, and getting angry when anyone pointed out

875
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 5: it was because of the god dang spoiled milk and

876
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 5: the cartons, only to have it instantly clear out the

877
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 5: day that.

878
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:33,399
Speaker 4: She threw them away. Disgusting. It's like actually discussing it's

879
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:35,839
Speaker 4: a hazard. Yes, that's insane.

880
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 5: Another point living with clogged drains every day because they

881
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 5: didn't empty leftovers in the bin they just threw it

882
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 5: with the plate in the sink. I was also the

883
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 5: only one removing hair from the bathroom drains. Only God

884
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 5: knows how badly clogged they must be.

885
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:49,799
Speaker 2: Now.

886
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:50,320
Speaker 4: Wow.

887
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 5: There was also perm and larva on garbage bins because

888
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 5: I was virtually the only person taking it out often

889
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 5: enough and stopped doing most house chorge besides washing my

890
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 5: own stuff, or at some point they were just fruitflies.

891
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 5: I think permanent larva, permanent larvae lara.

892
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:06,759
Speaker 2: I don't know that that was the thing.

893
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:08,360
Speaker 4: This is insane.

894
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 5: There's also use pads, yes plural, glued to the side

895
00:44:12,719 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 5: of the bathroom bin, and this was a regular thing.

896
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:16,040
Speaker 4: By the way, there were.

897
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,799
Speaker 5: Cotton pads full of makeup on the bathroom counter, also

898
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 5: a permanent fixture, toddler grade messes, and about an hour

899
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:25,800
Speaker 5: to cook a simple chicken breastfillet with plain rights. Another

900
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 5: point was the owner said, if Z doesn't clean, then

901
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,919
Speaker 5: I won't either. And the owner said this proudly before

902
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 5: not doing a single house shore except the sporadic and

903
00:44:36,239 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 5: badly executed.

904
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 4: General cleaning for the next ten months. Wow.

905
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 5: There was absolutely no knowledge about cleaning products at all.

906
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 4: This meant a permanently smelly house.

907
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 5: There was also no cleaning of the air fier for

908
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 5: months because it was mine, so it somehow was my

909
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 5: duty to clean it for them. I even stopped using

910
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,280
Speaker 5: it for two weeks, so it was exclusively they're doing.

911
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 5: It was filthy, but they used it anyway. One time

912
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 5: after thoroughly cleaning it. I used it for a pretty

913
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 5: messy recipe and I left it dirty on purpose and

914
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 5: left for a business trip. Why sent me a picture

915
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:10,320
Speaker 5: complaining about it, and I removed it from the kitchen

916
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 5: for the remainder of my stay, seeing why angrily frying

917
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:16,840
Speaker 5: stuff on a pan like a simple peasant was priceless.

918
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 4: God, you complain about my afry, you cannot use it there.

919
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 5: Oh and now for the stupid list number one, not

920
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:29,399
Speaker 5: replacing light bulbs from their lamps and complaining about it

921
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 5: and still not buying.

922
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:31,280
Speaker 2: New light bulbs.

923
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 5: There was also leaving so many dirty dishes in their

924
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 5: rooms that we literally had no spoons, forks nor plates

925
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:41,600
Speaker 5: for a good six months, and I had to buy

926
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 5: some and store them in my own personal storage.

927
00:45:44,520 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 4: Yes, they used them and didn't clean them anyway.

928
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 2: Wow.

929
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 5: So they dug in our personal storage and was like,

930
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 5: here's this we need more spoons.

931
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 4: We ran out of spoons. We don't know where they went.

932
00:45:54,400 --> 00:45:58,279
Speaker 5: Another point was not calling home insurance ever, So we

933
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 5: drank water with small black dots for a year and

934
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 5: they probably still do. That's insane, but that's also like,

935
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 5: I feel like, maybe maybe you could have done that bar. Yeah,

936
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 5: maybe you wouldn't leave that to there. Another point was

937
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:14,480
Speaker 5: that there was so much victimization and stupidity, especially from

938
00:46:14,520 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 5: one of them.

939
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 4: Oh my god. There was also completely.

940
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,840
Speaker 5: Ruining pans and cake molds by putting them in the

941
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 5: dishwasher several times and then still.

942
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 4: Cooking with rusty pants. That is really stupid.

943
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,759
Speaker 5: There were tons of beautiful plants that the owner let

944
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,799
Speaker 5: die over time, never taking out the pots. So it

945
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,400
Speaker 5: was a living room with no shelf space because it

946
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:36,800
Speaker 5: was full of dead plants.

947
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 4: That's really annoying. Now this one was wild. Picture this.

948
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:43,439
Speaker 5: You are frying something on a pan, the range hood

949
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 5: is on. It's very loud. You don't know it, but

950
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:49,359
Speaker 5: your roommate has been standing behind you for a good

951
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 5: solid minute, completely still and silent, until they went.

952
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 4: Never mind, I'll come back later.

953
00:46:56,239 --> 00:47:01,399
Speaker 5: After recollecting yourself getting scared to death, politely asked, did

954
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:05,040
Speaker 5: you want something, and they reply back yes I wanted

955
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 5: to then getting the fork or whatever she wanted to

956
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 5: that is stored beneath the stove instead of using the

957
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 5: ample counter space far away from you. She completely blocks

958
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:18,000
Speaker 5: you from cooking and then blames you for being impossible

959
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 5: to cook with. If you ever wonder how I know

960
00:47:20,560 --> 00:47:22,760
Speaker 5: she stood there for a minute, it's because I actually

961
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:25,719
Speaker 5: heard her a few times and pretended I didn't just

962
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 5: to see what she did.

963
00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 4: It was a regular occurrence, mind you, that's crazy.

964
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 5: Even though I was able to handle it in a

965
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 5: much more calmed way than I did eight years ago

966
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:37,399
Speaker 5: with the worst roommate I've ever had, I still let

967
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 5: this on for far too long.

968
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,400
Speaker 4: I became friends with X and Z was my ex

969
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:43,160
Speaker 4: and why.

970
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 5: I was a spoiled, rich kid with the emotional management

971
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:48,960
Speaker 5: of a toddler and an adult frozen in her high

972
00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:52,040
Speaker 5: school bully stage, so avoiding her it was less straining

973
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 5: than actually trying to talk to her. I got badly depressed,

974
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 5: stopped cooking so I wouldn't have to spend half an

975
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 5: hour cleaning the counter space, play it's silverware, et cetera,

976
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:04,120
Speaker 5: just in order to cook a simple egg omelet with rice.

977
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 5: I resorted to snacking in microwaves slash air fried pre.

978
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 4: Cooked meals, and I didn't realize it.

979
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 5: At the time because depression fogs your vision, but it

980
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 5: was the main reason I was sick so often. Needless

981
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 5: to say, my sleep schedule was completely ruined and my

982
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,360
Speaker 5: energy was virtually non existent.

983
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:24,880
Speaker 4: I just keep remembering. I'm like, you know what, she

984
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 4: doesn't end up here. She ends up in a better place,

985
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:32,239
Speaker 4: and she is happy. It lives in a great apartment.

986
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 2: Everyone's good.

987
00:48:33,880 --> 00:48:36,719
Speaker 4: She never has to see these cleeople again. We just

988
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 4: have to get through this story.

989
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:40,760
Speaker 5: Then one of those days when you get a stroke

990
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 5: of lucidity and willpower, you start contacting every single human

991
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 5: being you know on the face of earth and ask

992
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 5: about available rooms and when f you can move in.

993
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 2: I had a goal.

994
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 4: Now life made sense a Kain girl. I truly don't

995
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:58,560
Speaker 4: understand how you wait it like like this. I if

996
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 4: I went through a week of this, ID be like

997
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 4: moving out.

998
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, an acquaintance had a spare room for the summer.

999
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:06,880
Speaker 5: I took it without blinking an eye. Yes, the apartment

1000
00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:09,759
Speaker 5: was worse. The neighborhood was far worse too. And to

1001
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 5: top it off, it was slightly more extensive. Living with

1002
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 5: this person was not ideal, but it was a great

1003
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 5: deal better than living with X and Y.

1004
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:18,560
Speaker 4: Sounds like it sounds like anything would be better than

1005
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 4: living in the night maremar.

1006
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:25,000
Speaker 5: I started eating regularly again, started cooking again, getting out

1007
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 5: of my room more often, which led to a better mood,

1008
00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 5: which led to getting out of that depressive fog and

1009
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 5: getting my energy back.

1010
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 4: That's great.

1011
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 5: Something as simple as having breakfast in a clean kitchen

1012
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 5: can take away so much stress from your life. I agree,

1013
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 5: and this was just two months instantly improved.

1014
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:41,560
Speaker 4: I also had planned.

1015
00:49:41,239 --> 00:49:43,640
Speaker 5: To live with the friends I live with now since

1016
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:46,719
Speaker 5: around March, so that also kept me slightly more motivated.

1017
00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 5: We had to wait for their Lisa to end, and

1018
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 5: that's why it didn't happen sooner. But what keeps us

1019
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 5: motivated is you joining us live every weekday at three PMPSD,

1020
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 5: just top a profile, looking forward to it, looking so much.

1021
00:50:01,239 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 4: I literally know, just thank god, you're out of it everything,

1022
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:07,319
Speaker 4: Thank God. Like I don't know, report them.

1023
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 5: I don't know why I turned this into a motivational speech,

1024
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 5: but I am in such a great apartment, living with

1025
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:16,120
Speaker 5: responsible people that communicate in a civilized way, and I

1026
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:17,120
Speaker 5: wish all of.

1027
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:17,799
Speaker 4: That for you.

1028
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1029
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 5: I know moving is a be Betting on living with

1030
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 5: yet another filthy stranger seems terrible, but it turns out

1031
00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 5: for the better sometimes, and it's certainly better than being

1032
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 5: stuck in a loop with unreasonable people who are basically

1033
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 5: damaging you mentally and probably emotionally as well.

1034
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 4: Probably that is right. And that's the end of that story.

1035
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:42,960
Speaker 4: Thank god, thank you for telling that story. But thank

1036
00:50:43,080 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 4: god because it was sad.

1037
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you for the benefit that you had on us.

1038
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 5: Thank you for the benefit that you had on yourself and.

1039
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 4: By getting out, for getting out of there yet getting

1040
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 4: out of bed. I'm so sorry you had to go

1041
00:50:56,000 --> 00:50:58,760
Speaker 4: through that, because that is my nightmare. But you're doing

1042
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 4: you're doing great. You're doing right now. You're doing great.

1043
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 3: You've overcome.

1044
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:05,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's the end of that story. That's the end.

1045
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:07,760
Speaker 4: So see you next time.

1046
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:10,960
Speaker 2: Hey, it's John you og host here. We're gonna get

1047
00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 2: back to the stories. But here's a quick three minute

1048
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:13,919
Speaker 2: break of ass from our sponsors.

1049
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 4: My roommates blame me for causing a rift just because

1050
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:21,440
Speaker 4: I tried to set boundaries you go, girl said those bounces.

1051
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 4: So those boundaries. Me twenty one female and my roommate

1052
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 4: Fern twenty one female, have been in conflict with their

1053
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:31,959
Speaker 4: other two roommates, Garrett twenty male and Lewis twenty two male,

1054
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:34,800
Speaker 4: while living together. I am not a jack o' lantern.

1055
00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:38,640
Speaker 4: My name is Lewis. Me and Fern and Lewis are

1056
00:51:38,680 --> 00:51:42,480
Speaker 4: autistic and Garrett has ADHD. Most of us are diagnosed

1057
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,319
Speaker 4: with either anxiety and depression, and Garrett is suspected to

1058
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:49,320
Speaker 4: have them too, but isn't confirmed. You guys all just suspect.

1059
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:52,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, probably he just hasn't gotten ditreoue.

1060
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:55,360
Speaker 4: There you go. By the way, this comes from Available

1061
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 4: Crow ninety five to forty seven on the OK Storytime Separate.

1062
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 4: So we became friends due to being in the same

1063
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,640
Speaker 4: course during the first year of university and quickly made

1064
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 4: the decision to live together for the next year. We

1065
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 4: moved into a pretty decent union accommodation and all was

1066
00:52:09,080 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 4: well for the first couple of months living in the

1067
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 4: same space. We cooked group meals, the chores were split evenly,

1068
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:17,040
Speaker 4: and generally money that was owed was paid back quickly.

1069
00:52:17,080 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 4: It went downhill when my physical health went downhill suddenly.

1070
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 4: I couldn't eat much outside of a few staple bland meals,

1071
00:52:23,239 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 4: so I spent most of my time hold up in

1072
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 4: my room. Chores broke down quickly, and they stopped making

1073
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:31,399
Speaker 4: group meals, mostly because Fern felt bad. I couldn't eat

1074
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:33,919
Speaker 4: what they made. It didn't help. Fern was battling constantly

1075
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:37,920
Speaker 4: with debiliitating migraines and illnesses back to back. Slowly I

1076
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 4: got better and started resuming my previous shenanigans. I had

1077
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:43,360
Speaker 4: become the de facto meal planner, so me and Fern

1078
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,880
Speaker 4: tagged team dinners together. For the most part, they ate

1079
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:47,759
Speaker 4: what we cooked because I was still on a strict

1080
00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 4: diet for my health, for example, no acidic foods. Usually

1081
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 4: the things they suggested weren't safe for me to eat,

1082
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,919
Speaker 4: so we always chose an alternative. I remember one time

1083
00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:58,919
Speaker 4: Garrett suggested a tomato chicken dish and we shot it down,

1084
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 4: and he asked us indignantly why we couldn't, before being

1085
00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:04,799
Speaker 4: reminded that I was still sick. If the group meal

1086
00:53:04,840 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 4: stuff isn't working, just cook your own stuff. Yeah, It's

1087
00:53:07,239 --> 00:53:10,040
Speaker 4: like it's important to say that they always had the

1088
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:12,759
Speaker 4: choice to cook themselves, and we never pressured them into

1089
00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:15,640
Speaker 4: group meals. There you go, literally the solution, just cook

1090
00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 4: your own food. Yeah, even though me and Fern were ill,

1091
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 4: cooking and cleaning became our responsibility because nothing would get

1092
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 4: done if we didn't step up to do it. Group

1093
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:26,280
Speaker 4: meals weren't planned if we didn't plan them. Dishes wouldn't

1094
00:53:26,280 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 4: get washed for days, even though we were the ones

1095
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:30,520
Speaker 4: who slaved at the stove for hours, and bins would

1096
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 4: be full of things until it overflowed, despite Garrett insisting

1097
00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 4: he'll do them. It felt as if there was a

1098
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:39,399
Speaker 4: hidden expectation for us to do stuff despite being ill,

1099
00:53:39,480 --> 00:53:41,759
Speaker 4: and if we didn't, they'd give us an attitude. So

1100
00:53:41,920 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 4: we stopped washing their dishes, still doing small things like cups,

1101
00:53:45,520 --> 00:53:47,360
Speaker 4: just not if their stuff took up the majority. He

1102
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 4: stopped meal planning and cooking and buying food. The person

1103
00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 4: who had the most problem with me is Garrett. We

1104
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 4: were friends originally, but over the course of being in

1105
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 4: close proximity to him, I've gained a bit of a

1106
00:53:57,280 --> 00:53:59,680
Speaker 4: sore spot at the mere mention of his name. Here

1107
00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:01,360
Speaker 4: are some of the things that have rubbed me the

1108
00:54:01,400 --> 00:54:03,800
Speaker 4: wrong way. He wouldn't do much around the shared areas,

1109
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 4: but the things he did do he'd hold over our

1110
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:08,640
Speaker 4: heads like it was worthy of an Olympic medal. He

1111
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:11,319
Speaker 4: cooked once, but the entire time he asked me to

1112
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 4: do simple things like where the recipe was in our

1113
00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 4: group chot. He would complain about his leg acting up,

1114
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 4: but whenever we told him to go to a doctor,

1115
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 4: he would refuse. It got in the way of group

1116
00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 4: food shopping, doing the dishes, et cetera. But it didn't

1117
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:25,160
Speaker 4: get in the way of standing all day for a

1118
00:54:25,239 --> 00:54:27,440
Speaker 4: job or going out in the weekend, so it just

1119
00:54:27,480 --> 00:54:28,319
Speaker 4: got in the way when he.

1120
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:29,440
Speaker 3: Needed to do some chores.

1121
00:54:29,800 --> 00:54:32,560
Speaker 4: Of course, of course, he's only recently got it checked

1122
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:35,319
Speaker 4: out and started complaining about physio for it, which he

1123
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,839
Speaker 4: likely hasn't done either. Once he complained me and Fern

1124
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 4: didn't do the dishes in the sink, we had been

1125
00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 4: going around their pile and just doing ours. As an

1126
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:45,320
Speaker 4: active defiance, shouted through the walls at Fern for multiple reasons.

1127
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:48,480
Speaker 4: One time, Garrett shouted and banged on their connecting walls

1128
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 4: because she told them to lower his volume when talking

1129
00:54:50,960 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 4: to his online friends, which he does until two am.

1130
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,279
Speaker 4: Another time, he was coughing, and Fern woke up and

1131
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:59,240
Speaker 4: asked about it, which prompted more wall hitting and shouting

1132
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 4: that it wasn't him, it was a ghost. Ghosts must

1133
00:55:02,120 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 4: have been. We didn't let him use some eggs that

1134
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,280
Speaker 4: we had bought for baking, forcing him to go outside

1135
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:08,839
Speaker 4: to buy his own, which he promptly labeled with his name.

1136
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 4: After he left for home, we noticed the eggs, still

1137
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 4: in date at that point, had been broken into the

1138
00:55:14,320 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 4: food bin. Only paid us back for all the food

1139
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 4: shops we'd done after he gained extra money unrelated to

1140
00:55:19,600 --> 00:55:21,959
Speaker 4: his job, despite us knowing he had enough money, where

1141
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 4: did it go to all the outings he went to,

1142
00:55:24,400 --> 00:55:26,960
Speaker 4: all the clothes and merch he bought. On the topic

1143
00:55:27,000 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 4: of money, he would always complain how he didn't have

1144
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:32,600
Speaker 4: enough money, when in reality it's just because he doesn't

1145
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 4: like going below a certain amount think five hundred pounds.

1146
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:38,600
Speaker 4: He interrupts conversations all the time just to talk about

1147
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:41,239
Speaker 4: himself or his online friends. He once asked me in

1148
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:43,680
Speaker 4: Fern what we were talking about because he was too

1149
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:46,800
Speaker 4: busy in a call with said friends. Despite being in

1150
00:55:46,840 --> 00:55:49,720
Speaker 4: the same room as us, he criticizes our food habits.

1151
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 4: Despite him eating like trash. For the times we didn't

1152
00:55:52,000 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 4: cook for them, think worse than can suit. When we

1153
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:57,360
Speaker 4: stopped planning meals with them. Instead of pushing to be involved,

1154
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 4: Garrett liaised with Lewis to create their own meal plans.

1155
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 4: The bins they constantly forgot and blamed it on their

1156
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:06,480
Speaker 4: mental health, despite it being the only chore I expressly

1157
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 4: said I wouldn't too. I washed the dishes, cleaned the countertops,

1158
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:12,120
Speaker 4: mopped the floor, clean the oven. He'd leave the food

1159
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 4: bin until it was moldy and couldn't close, leaving fern

1160
00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 4: to wash it every time like they. I mean, I

1161
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 4: think they have a chort chart, but you need to

1162
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:20,640
Speaker 4: like if you don't, definitely get a chort chart and

1163
00:56:20,680 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 4: be like, dude, this is all you no excuses. He

1164
00:56:24,640 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 4: got snappy when my partner reminded him of his duties

1165
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 4: because he took his bedroom bins down but not the

1166
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 4: clearly full kitchen bins. Personally, I love a certain toxic

1167
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:35,480
Speaker 4: game because of the cool character designs, and I love

1168
00:56:35,560 --> 00:56:38,040
Speaker 4: infotoon think about them, but whenever I did that, I

1169
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:41,120
Speaker 4: was met with indifference. However, when Lewis got into the game,

1170
00:56:41,160 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 4: he would excitedly engage in the talks like I hadn't

1171
00:56:43,680 --> 00:56:46,439
Speaker 4: shown them the exact same things mere weeks Brier, Yeah,

1172
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 4: I wasn't an hour. Sometimes sometimes you just you They

1173
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:52,200
Speaker 4: don't get the excitement until they do it. A side

1174
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 4: note to say that because I associated myself with Garrett,

1175
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 4: my reputation in the course had fallen because everyone hated

1176
00:56:58,560 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 4: him for one reason or another. So I know I'm

1177
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:03,879
Speaker 4: not alone and this resemblment at least Fern also hates

1178
00:57:03,960 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 4: him for a lot of the above reasons. Now to

1179
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:09,000
Speaker 4: present day, we're stuck in this tendency in the same

1180
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 4: flat because of money incentive and the fact we've decided

1181
00:57:11,920 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 4: this before the rist started. We've only been back here

1182
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 4: for a couple of weeks and are trying to rejust

1183
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 4: to being back here. We learned through Lewis that Garrett

1184
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:21,120
Speaker 4: had discussed a flat meeting with him, not us as

1185
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 4: a group. We have a group. After finding this out,

1186
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:26,160
Speaker 4: Fern took initiative and told them to start it at

1187
00:57:26,160 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 4: that moment to get it over with, despite us being

1188
00:57:28,120 --> 00:57:31,360
Speaker 4: exhausted from an emergency the night before. The conversation lasted

1189
00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 4: forty minutes and is summarized as such, Them feeling like

1190
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 4: the group had split off into Me and Fern and

1191
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 4: Garrett and Lewis. Makes sense because Me and Fern spent

1192
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 4: our time cooking together a whole year. One apology for

1193
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 4: making conversations about himself and his online friends, realizing that

1194
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:47,360
Speaker 4: things were bad only after him and his online friends

1195
00:57:47,400 --> 00:57:49,800
Speaker 4: got into a fight, called me and Fern hypocrites for

1196
00:57:49,840 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 4: not communicating better about cooking and washing dishes, even though

1197
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 4: when we did we were promised things would be done,

1198
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 4: but it would sit another few days until we did it.

1199
00:57:57,640 --> 00:57:59,960
Speaker 4: Garrett and Lewis said the meal planning document was hard

1200
00:57:59,920 --> 00:58:02,280
Speaker 4: to access, even though it was a basic Google link

1201
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 4: and pin to our chat. Garrett getting a therapist over

1202
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 4: the summer and promising us that things would get better.

1203
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 4: Garrett having an issue with me because I began ignoring

1204
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 4: his presence in the room when he entered and stopping

1205
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 4: my conversation. I was honestly sick of him interrupting all

1206
00:58:14,400 --> 00:58:16,760
Speaker 4: the time. He wanted to talk privately with me, which

1207
00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 4: I really don't want because I don't think this will

1208
00:58:18,880 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 4: change anything. Fern was the main one speaking, and most

1209
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 4: of it consisted of agreeing or appeasing statements since I

1210
00:58:24,800 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 4: absolutely didn't want to speak up. I haven't spoken to

1211
00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 4: Garrett in months, more than a few passing sentences. We

1212
00:58:30,120 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 4: didn't say much to conflict with them because we were

1213
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 4: honestly scared of the consequences. After all, we have to

1214
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 4: live with them another year.

1215
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 2: That sucks.

1216
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 4: During the meeting, Garrett suggested to we start over, and

1217
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:43,520
Speaker 4: Fern suggested we cook a group meal together as a

1218
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:45,760
Speaker 4: test to sort of make peace with them. Then Garrett

1219
00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:47,520
Speaker 4: got sick on the day we were cooking and didn't

1220
00:58:47,560 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 4: end up participating. Despite not helping or paying with the dinner,

1221
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,160
Speaker 4: he privately messaged Erne telling her that he would take

1222
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:55,160
Speaker 4: a portion later. When she answered that it had been

1223
00:58:55,200 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 4: frozen already and that it was unfair that he got

1224
00:58:57,520 --> 00:58:59,240
Speaker 4: a portion when he didn't help, he said it was

1225
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:02,000
Speaker 4: unfair that's sick people didn't get anything. This annoyed us

1226
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:04,360
Speaker 4: both because me and Fern had been chronically ill for

1227
00:59:04,480 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 4: months and we were still expected to cook, and when

1228
00:59:06,640 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 4: I was sick, they didn't do anything for me. Berne

1229
00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:10,600
Speaker 4: was the one buying me food when I couldn't leave

1230
00:59:10,600 --> 00:59:13,600
Speaker 4: the flat, and I owe her everything for that. Fernie,

1231
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 4: you are power power team.

1232
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:18,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, we like them to give it, but we owe

1233
00:59:18,200 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 5: you everything if you join us live every weekday a

1234
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:22,280
Speaker 5: three pmpst on YouTube.

1235
00:59:22,480 --> 00:59:23,280
Speaker 3: Just tap our profile.

1236
00:59:23,360 --> 00:59:26,400
Speaker 4: Let's top it. Nowadays, we're keeping the peace barely. Ern

1237
00:59:26,480 --> 00:59:28,360
Speaker 4: still has to talk to Garrett because he's under the

1238
00:59:28,360 --> 00:59:31,520
Speaker 4: illusion that all was forgiven between them, like having ADHD

1239
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 4: and anxiety excuses being a weider, and I still barely

1240
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:38,120
Speaker 4: acknowledge their existence anyway, large rant over. I still don't

1241
00:59:38,120 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 4: think there's anything to salvage this sinking ship other than

1242
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:43,000
Speaker 4: to wait it out until graduation. And that is the

1243
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:45,439
Speaker 4: end of that story. That is the end. I wish

1244
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 4: you luck and I hope that you're able to get

1245
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 4: out of this soon and you never have to deal

1246
00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:51,320
Speaker 4: with Garrett r Juis ever again.

1247
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 5: I'm glad that you have a partner in crime. Me

1248
00:59:53,560 --> 00:59:57,560
Speaker 5: too with Fern love her Love Love Fern Love Fern. Yeah,

1249
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:00,320
Speaker 5: but yeah, seems like you know how to handle You're

1250
01:00:00,320 --> 01:00:02,160
Speaker 5: figuring it out, yes, And I wish you the best,

1251
01:00:02,320 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 5: wish you the absolute best up.

1252
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:07,400
Speaker 4: But that is the end of that story and the

1253
01:00:07,480 --> 01:00:10,560
Speaker 4: end of this episode. So if you love us, make

1254
01:00:10,600 --> 01:00:14,720
Speaker 4: sure to subscribe We Love you and see it tomorrow.