WEBVTT - Ghost Stories 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind down with Janet Kramer, an iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:06.280 --> 0:00:11.159 Okay, so we got one walking in from therapy, we 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:16.000 got one walking in from home home work. I had 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:20.200 my appointment with Roman done done, done, Oh so much 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:23.599 to catch up on KB go oh boy, you would 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:28.479 lead with me the emotionally tender one. 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:31.440 I would just like to say, it is hard to 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:32.600 not have family. 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:39.000 Oh like here to help or just like any even 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:39.720 want to cry. 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:43.839 I just texted Janna this the other day because I 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:47.400 was like fucking tired of not being able to count 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:51.400 on people. It's really hard, and I know I'm not 0:00:51.440 --> 0:00:53.960 the only one dealing with it, and so I just 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:58.480 feel like it's a moment of just real tearful honesty 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:01.800 that it just sucks to cycle breakers into the people 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:08.120 that I am positive for me forward, my family legacy changes, 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:11.080 in the dynamic of my family changes. But it is hard, 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:17.360 king work, and it's exhausting and it's lonely. And that's 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:19.679 what therapy was today. I just was like, I'm just. 0:01:20.160 --> 0:01:21.440 I'm not lonely in my marriage. 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:24.280 Our marriage is actually really in like probably the best 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:27.960 place it's ever been, but like it's hard, you know, 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.119 like there's a weekend coming up where Preston is gone 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.800 doing what Preston does to provide for our family. And 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:39.280 I have to somehow be downtown Nashville at a two 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:42.360 day cheer competition and also be at a baseball game 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:45.120 thirty minutes away. And it's just me and I'll be 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:49.400 doing all that with a toddler on my hip. And 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:52.720 even if I can send someone or have someone take 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:54.760 legend to his game, that's not his family. 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:57.400 Sure, and you don't want you want to be both places? 0:01:57.680 --> 0:01:59.920 Yes, is also I'd like to be in four places, 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.120 one of which is at home, allowing my toddler to 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:06.720 have a nap in her crib. That's a lot. Sorry, 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.880 I didn't plan on crying, but I'm just frustrated. It's 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:14.280 just it's just hard, and I don't like feeling stuck, 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:17.160 and I don't like feeling impossible. And certainly I can 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.839 pay people to come get my kids and take them. 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:23.480 But and even if I think this is the hardest 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:25.840 part from you right now, I don't have a strong 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:26.720 crying voice. 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:29.440 I think even if I did. 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:32.919 Recruit a grandparent, they don't have close relationships with those people, 0:02:33.520 --> 0:02:36.639 and so it doesn't matter if they're family and air 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.080 quotes or not because my kids don't they don't know 0:02:39.120 --> 0:02:39.880 my kids. 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:41.880 Yeah, I hear, I feel that on that. 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:43.679 So that's what I was going to not to disc 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:45.200 I don't know if it would sound like I was 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:46.520 discounting your feelings. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.040 That is a flood of emotion really fast. Sorry, but 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.680 this is like I haven't been able to say it. 0:02:51.919 --> 0:02:54.400 Yeah, and I don't want it to sound like I'm discounting. 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:58.480 Just those are all valid. But I feel like for me, 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:01.320 even though I may have a parent that's there, that 0:03:01.400 --> 0:03:05.600 doesn't fill that void. No, and that's unfortunate, you know. 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:07.040 I mean, it's a person there. 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:09.080 I mean, I have a brother who hasn't met my 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:13.919 third baby, and sometimes I am I protect that information brother, 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:18.560 Yeah right, And sometimes I protect that information, but like 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:23.600 part of me doing that is just perpetuating the cycle 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:26.959 of dysfunction. Like I don't need to protect him. Isn't 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:29.840 met my daughter. And last time we saw the other 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:31.880 brother on the other side was four years ago until 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:36.560 like two weekends ago. Like it's lonely, yeah, and I 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:39.400 have the best friends. Like God, I fully believe he 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:44.680 supplements any lack with just abundance in all the other areas, 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:50.080 But like that doesn't make me wish that there wasn't 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:54.000 a grandparent that could just that knows them and knows 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:55.760 the routine and the rhythm of the house or whatever. 0:03:55.800 --> 0:03:57.280 And I think people go through this for a lot 0:03:57.320 --> 0:03:59.440 of reasons, whether you're transplanted into an area you didn't 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:02.640 grow up in, or you've lost parents, or or it's 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.200 unhealthy and you've set those boundaries for yourself. But like, 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:08.440 it just sucks, and I don't I do not like 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.240 the word impossible. I am highly allergic to it. So 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:14.840 when something starts to feel that way, I just I 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:15.440 don't like it. 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:16.120 I'm a doer. 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:19.120 I like to move pieces and make solutions and and 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:21.320 sometimes it's just hard. And that's what I just walked 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.080 in with the Amy today. I was like, it's just hard. 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:26.320 I mean, I obviously relate to a lot of that. 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:30.000 Our family isn't here. Even when they are, it's yes, 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:33.279 not the most helpful piece, but that's you know how 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:39.919 many times they come once maybe a year. Yeah, But 0:04:40.520 --> 0:04:44.200 on the side of that is you know, games at 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.560 the same time, different places I've got, you know, my 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:49.840 husband is now doing his clinics at night, so it's okay, 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:52.200 and I also need roaming down, so I've been changing 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:54.240 hours so that she can stay you know, later, or 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:55.800 I take him sometimes, but it's like all right if 0:04:55.800 --> 0:04:58.520 she's there. So it's like trying to coordinate. It's a 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.760 lot when you don't feel like you have anybody here 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:03.919 to help, even and that's already kind of like a 0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:06.559 truth to me. And you know, it's already a sting 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:09.440 even though we can hire. It's just it's still a 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.720 sting on top of it because even if they it's 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:14.440 not like we can just call because I know what 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:16.960 I I know who I will be as a grandparent. Correct, 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:20.520 I will be very close. I might not live in 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:22.800 the same area. I would like to hope that I will. 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:26.240 But when there is let's just say spring season of 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.159 whatever sports, I'm going to make sure that I'm staying 0:05:28.160 --> 0:05:30.159 for a couple of months to help or to be 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:34.479 there or to watch. I can't imagine my dad, mom, 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.440 I'm not seeing any either, Like then they don't. It 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:38.800 doesn't even seem like they care, just come see a 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:39.680 game or you know. 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:42.200 I think that's also tricky because then it's Preston that 0:05:42.279 --> 0:05:45.040 reminds me it's not that they're just missing the kids. 0:05:45.040 --> 0:05:47.760 They're also missing a daughter. Yeah, like I say, your 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:52.000 dad and your your and I'm like, man, I was. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:57.080 I was about to correct and say, my dad is 0:05:57.240 --> 0:06:01.320 the single best at taking all the grandkids' schedules. Now 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.119 there's a lot of them, so he will miss things, 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:06.919 but he is at everything that he can, so I 0:06:07.000 --> 0:06:09.640 will get you know, and my mom does her best 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:14.560 as well. I think my point was more that for me, 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:18.520 I'm still going to feel the same way that I 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:21.479 can't be there, regardless if my parents are there or 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:23.880 not sure, And I don't know if maybe they had 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:27.400 a stronger like personal bond though he's there all the 0:06:27.480 --> 0:06:30.160 time though my mom is there. I don't. I wouldn't 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.599 say they have the strongest bond, but I think that 0:06:33.720 --> 0:06:35.880 was kind of my thing. I think that I still 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.680 I don't. I'm sure I feel differently than you all. 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:42.360 I'm trying. I'm trying not to like sound insensitive, because yes, 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:43.880 my dad goes to as much as he can. 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:45.920 You have family here, though, so it's about one. 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:49.920 Hundred percent exactly. It's like, and it's help whether they're 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.440 super close or not. I have that help here and 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:56.440 I've had that help here, and that is a tremendous 0:06:56.480 --> 0:07:00.560 help and difference from you guys one percent. Uh, Like, 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:04.279 I can't even imagine, honestly not having that. Now that 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:06.760 my kids are older, it's gotten, you know, a lot easier, 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:09.240 and I don't need that as much. But when they're little, God, 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:11.520 that piece is so it is so helpful. 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:14.520 Yeah, for sure. Yeah, it's just a I. 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:18.920 Yeah, it just felt lonely and I don't love it. 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.320 But it's also like there's like what can you. 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.880 Do about it? Well, it's also as the sports and 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:25.560 as you have more kids, and as the sports get 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:28.640 really busy, they start overlapping. And it's so funny because 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.000 I was so ahead of everyone on this, and like, 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.520 you know, I love logistics, so to me, it's like 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:37.800 a puzzle that I to an extent enjoy piecing together. 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:39.920 But when you can't be in two places at one 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:42.080 time no matter what, it is so hard. 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:44.040 Same got she's got a game, Nolan's fault, and then 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:46.280 he's over there at the exact same time, same day, 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:49.040 and then like nap time for romance, he's out. A'm like, 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:50.880 what do I do? How do I do it? How 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:51.480 do I stretch? 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:53.240 And here's the deal and I'm gonna have to like 0:07:53.280 --> 0:07:55.560 drop him. I think I have the solution. Ish. My 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:58.760 prayer is that cheercomp is early and we go first, 0:07:59.000 --> 0:08:01.640 and that I can just get out early before I 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.720 won't know anything until literally that day probably and then 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.320 I can still. I always feel like God does move 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:09.560 pieces from me, So I don't want to sound ungrateful either, 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:13.600 because he's very busy untangling and behind the scenes. 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:17.200 And even if Preston was here, that's going to help, 0:08:17.600 --> 0:08:19.520 because you're going to feel like a parent is there, 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.120 You're still going to wish you could go to both. 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:22.600 Yeah, I just I wis you think a lot of 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:25.720 moms are also going through this as well, so to 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:29.000 know that you're not alone and absolutely when you stress out, 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:31.480 it's kind of your kids are active, like that's a 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:32.360 beautiful thing. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.520 Yeah, and Love only does two cheer comps a year, 0:08:35.600 --> 0:08:38.000 so I'm like, it's not like you know, like I really, 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:41.440 it's like they're so not that there. They wouldn't be 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.280 special if there was more. But I also am like, 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:44.960 it's not even like I can take her. 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:48.560 Very few When they're like very few, it does feel very. 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:50.280 Like I couldn't even take her out. I wouldn't because 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:51.679 we're part of the team. But it's like, there's just 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.439 I don't love that feeling. Yeah, and I'm going to 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:56.560 have a baby at a cheercomp no matter what. Anyways, 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:01.800 for that straight hot out of therapy, wait my question, 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:02.240 and I just. 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:04.160 First of all, let me know when this sheer comp is. 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.080 I want to try to come out an anti can. 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:07.560 Watch it because I still haven't seen her. 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:10.000 And then i'll also unless it's the same weekend as 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:10.400 isn't this. 0:09:10.360 --> 0:09:14.960 Week in which we have another schedule yet overlapping. 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:20.720 So I started watching White Lotus the first the first season. 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:23.640 I feel like I I know, so I feel like 0:09:23.679 --> 0:09:25.560 I do this with every show. I did it with Yellowstone, 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:27.160 I didn't watch until last season. I did this with 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:31.360 Ted ted Lasso started last season and I started, have 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.160 you seen White Lotus? No, person, you gotta started? It's 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:37.240 so good? See how you explain? But it is so good. 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.880 But it's so good. But anyone's explanation didn't make me 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:40.360 want to watch it. 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:41.400 I didn't know how to explain it. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:44.160 Yeah, but it's just it's so good. 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:47.559 It is so good. I always the first one was 0:09:47.600 --> 0:09:48.160 my favorite. 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:50.520 That's what I remember you saying, so I've already prepped. 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:52.160 Alan like, hey, I don't think season two is going 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.400 to be bad. It wasn't bad, Okay, I'm a I'm 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.640 excited to watch it. But the show I really want 0:09:56.640 --> 0:10:01.760 to talk about is Adolescence. I haven't watched because it's 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:06.760 a it's a mom uh. It's a show that I 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:09.719 think all moms should watch and number one right now. 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.800 And Dad's yes, absolutely, and Dad's good point. It is 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.840 on Netflix. It's the number one TV show right now. 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:17.880 It's actually a UK show. Alan's like, hey, it's the 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:21.319 UK show. We should watch it. Awesome. Knew nothing about it. 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:25.400 The last episode I was in just a puddle of tears. 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:28.560 It really makes you think about your parenting. But also 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.319 if I need that right now. But it's good. I 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:34.520 think it's good for the a lot of it. Well. 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:36.440 I don't want to give it all away obviously because 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:38.400 I want people to watch it, but I think it's 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.000 I think it's scary. The world that our kids are 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:46.360 growing up in was with social media and how bullying 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:48.840 you don't even know that it could be bullying with 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:53.640 just a simple emoji, and that's the things that you know. 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:56.040 We're all learning these new words that kids are coming 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:59.640 home with or no cap cramer, what's that mean? That's good. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:01.640 I'm proud of me. I don't even know what hapabi mean. 0:11:01.679 --> 0:11:05.160 I just know in a sentence, well, one they thought 0:11:05.240 --> 0:11:08.439 that someone was bullying someone, but really you find out 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:13.240 that this girl was actually bullying him. And I won't 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:16.280 tell you what happens, but it's wild though, because I 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:19.199 was I was reading some things online and the entire 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:21.240 time I did not want to believe that it was him, 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.079 and I kept saying, it's not him, It's going to 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:26.400 be something else that happens, and it's gonna. 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:29.960 Which is the point I know in the show, which 0:11:30.000 --> 0:11:33.559 is so messed up because I'm like. 0:11:33.520 --> 0:11:35.800 You know me, so cute and like he would never 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.839 and it's my boy. 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:43.280 And just the relationship between the child and a parent 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:47.680 and the relationship that you think that you have and 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:51.360 then what you think, you know, what you think your 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:54.120 child is capable of, and what they're not. For that 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:57.480 to just be completely flipped upside down. I mean, this 0:11:57.559 --> 0:11:58.360 show wrecked me. 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.040 It absolutely right then I can do that right now, 0:12:02.040 --> 0:12:03.439 but I'll put it on my list. 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:05.640 And you may not be able to. But I will say, 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:08.520 as emotionally hard as it was. I think it's so 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:09.760 important for people to watch. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:11.959 I'll do I'll watch things when I know they're important. 0:12:12.000 --> 0:12:13.040 I just maybe. 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:16.640 But you're also a little bit not there yet. 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:19.000 Yeah, either, I want to know, like it is not 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:19.560 bliss to me. 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:22.040 So but here's the thing. We're all and that's the thing. 0:12:22.160 --> 0:12:23.920 I'm in the thick of it, and I'm ignorant to 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:26.559 half of it. And that's what's so hard, Like everyone 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:28.520 kind of is. Do you see that all. 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:31.240 Parents before us felt this way that they thought they 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:32.440 knew but they probably didn't. 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:34.880 I mean, I think that's the extent. Yeah, I think 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.599 it's just exponentially more layered and crazy. I got to 0:12:37.640 --> 0:12:39.800 be honest, though, And this is a sad piece that 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:43.160 I was talking to Jolie about last night, because we 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:45.800 were getting ready to go to Jas's baseball game. And 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:48.360 so I like to have them have dinner when they 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:49.959 get home from school, just because they're always asking for 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.160 a snack anyway. So I usually have a dinner ready 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:54.360 and made because then we're not eating at eight o'clock 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.880 at night. So I make them a dinner or whatever, 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.920 and we're eating last night I can't remember how I 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:03.439 chnology came up in the conversation or about kids. And 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.520 one day, when you're a mom, you'll understand. And I said, 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.720 you know what, Jolie, actually never mind, I said, because 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:11.280 mommy grew up. Remember how we talked about this. I 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.679 was like, mommy grew up with no cell phones, no 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:17.640 real internet, no you know, we played outside. And so 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.400 that's why I'm always saying to you guys, go outside, 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:21.360 go outside, don't be on you know, know none of 0:13:21.360 --> 0:13:22.959 this stuff. And this is why you won't have social 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:27.239 media for a very long time. And I said, but unfortunately, 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:31.040 you'll you'll never be able to say that to your 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:34.000 kids because it's going to be a whole another layer 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:36.880 of technology and you'll never know, not no technology. And 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:39.200 I was like, oh, that's such a sad moment. It's weird. 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:42.240 She'll never not know, never know technology like we did. 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:48.280 And will will that then generation be at saying to 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.520 go outside? I don't think so it's wild. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:52.120 I've been going through our attic space and I've been 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:54.080 seeing all these pictures of me when I was young. Yeah, 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:57.360 I thought, oh my god, I was stunning, Like if 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:00.679 anyone's young and listening just go where it to do it, 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:03.040 h enjoy the collagen in your face. I was just 0:14:03.080 --> 0:14:04.840 so cute and I just didn't think I was cute. 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:06.640 But it was funny because in this I had a 0:14:06.720 --> 0:14:10.000 very humboling moment as I'm standing there with love and 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:14.480 she's like, so you just carried a camera around and 0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.520 I go we did, and she's like and then what 0:14:16.640 --> 0:14:19.520 And I'm like, wild right, and you took it to 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:21.280 a store and you got the stuff. 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:22.920 But I will just say back to the show though, 0:14:22.920 --> 0:14:26.040 it is about, you know, opening your eyes as a parent, 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:29.680 really seeing what's gowy happening on social media, understanding things, and. 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.800 I do want to say back to that point, things 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.000 start to circle back around. For instance, you know, one 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:38.240 of the top Christmas presents for young kids or like 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:43.360 teenagers this Christmas was cameras. So they're so used to 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:45.680 what they're used to, right, so it's like a novel, 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:49.320 something different or whatever. You know. Emmy, for instance, Yeah, 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:51.480 she's got her phone and she's whatever. But like when 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:53.240 her friends call up and we're like, hey, let's go 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:54.720 run around the neighborhood, She's. 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:57.760 Like, yes, let's go. That's right. So I do think 0:14:58.200 --> 0:14:59.680 you can Capture the Flag, come back. 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.800 Absolutely, there's games like that that they do kind of 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:04.520 so there's. 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:06.160 Things that we keep parents running. 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:08.440 We should do that and that I think that they 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.840 will enjoy doing that are not just I think they'll 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:15.440 get so used to so much technology, and I think 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:17.720 it will suffer in a lot of help, make us 0:15:17.720 --> 0:15:18.960 suffer in a lot of ways. But I think that 0:15:19.520 --> 0:15:22.160 it'll help. I do think it'll come back around for them. 0:15:22.120 --> 0:15:23.680 Want to go outside and do other things, and all 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:40.920 parents watch adolescents. Put that on your watch list. I 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:42.400 have a whine about it, but I feel like it's 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:44.960 going to be a little controversial. I love those let's. 0:15:45.120 --> 0:15:46.360 I like it when you're controversial. 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:46.800 Same. 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:48.440 Well, I don't even know if I want to bring. 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:51.080 It up and go. 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:55.520 Unpinned. I need to say this in a way because 0:15:55.520 --> 0:15:57.160 I don't know who listens, and I don't want it 0:15:57.200 --> 0:16:00.440 to come back and have it be a thing. So 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:03.400 I'm just going to pose a question, okay, and then 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.600 we'll know. Okay, got it. I love it this way. 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:08.800 I love this, Like, how does the detective work? 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:13.520 If you are seeing another kid do something like hitting 0:16:13.800 --> 0:16:18.560 another kid and their parents aren't watching, do you say 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:22.360 something to that other kid. Yes, I do. 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:26.240 If you are seeing someone's kid hitting another kid, so 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:27.720 it's not your your kid's not involved. 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:31.680 I'm just making sure I'm clear that your child, yes, 0:16:31.720 --> 0:16:34.600 would not be involved. It is another your kid hitting 0:16:34.640 --> 0:16:37.360 another kid, and you're looking to see if the parent 0:16:37.600 --> 0:16:40.400 because we might or may or may not be watching 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:43.880 a baseball game and the other kid is hitting another kid. 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:47.240 Do you say something to that kid even though you're 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:47.720 not the parent. 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:50.800 I thought you're talking about my kid, So I'm like, 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:52.840 yess is it siblings? 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:58.960 Pardon? It's another teammate hitting another teammate. No one else 0:16:58.960 --> 0:16:59.400 has noticed. 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:00.120 I say something. 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:01.520 It depends I do. 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:04.320 It depends for me. 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:07.639 You also say something if you see that same kid 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:11.040 pouring a juice box on top of another kid and 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:13.479 hitting the kid on the head, parents still not noticing. 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.680 Is it okay for you to come in and say, boys, 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:22.280 keep your hands to yourself. Yep? No hitting? Is that okay? 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.800 Okay to discipline somebody that is not your child? 0:17:25.920 --> 0:17:28.359 I don't think. I think disciplining is a really strong 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:31.440 word for diab but I do have But I do. 0:17:31.560 --> 0:17:34.119 I guess there's a wine in it. But I just 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:34.760 want to open. 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:38.240 I want to open the topic of that because it 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:42.760 made me question if that is okay or not. 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.240 Yeah, I don't think you're disciplining. I think if you're 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:49.120 just advising, you're coming in with your responsibility an adult 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.760 to say something if you're seeing it over and over again, 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:55.439 because that if the kid, if the kid that's getting 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:58.119 the juice box poured on his head isn't able to 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.879 say something, a very younger kid can't say anything. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:04.159 That's a separate kid. The other kid that he is 0:18:04.240 --> 0:18:07.000 hitting is just a team. And then somebody else's than 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:09.000 the same kid, just a different little kid. 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:12.520 Yeah, I think it's a responsibility as the village to 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:14.960 say something because if you're the little kid who can't 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:17.159 say something, you wished an adult would say it for you. 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:21.119 And that is where I always stay passionate. And that 0:18:21.160 --> 0:18:24.080 could be childhood trauma, but I love sticking up for kids. 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:27.119 I wouldn't come in and try to fix their situation necessarily, 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:29.399 but I think how refreshing it would be that someone 0:18:29.440 --> 0:18:30.400 notices that happening. 0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:36.160 I absolutely agree with you, but I'm afraid we don't 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:39.119 live in that world anymore. And I think that you 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:41.720 have to be willing to deal with the consequences of it. 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:46.639 If I saw a child pouring a juice box on 0:18:46.680 --> 0:18:49.560 a younger child, I actually would step in. I would 0:18:49.560 --> 0:18:52.440 actually go up to that said child and I would say, hey, 0:18:52.680 --> 0:18:56.160 that's not appropriate, let's not do this, knowing darn well 0:18:57.000 --> 0:18:58.919 that that parent may not be okay with that. And 0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:00.880 we live in a world now where people don't give 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:02.520 you permission to discipline their children. 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:03.639 That was my fear. 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:06.560 Yes, I've lived this as they've gotten older. 0:19:06.720 --> 0:19:08.679 Okay, tell me more like there are. 0:19:08.440 --> 0:19:11.000 Plenty of instances where parents have stepped in, and parents 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:15.320 have come and said, you're not necessarily me, but not 0:19:15.400 --> 0:19:19.520