WEBVTT - Embracing our Bodies 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:05.320 It just runs in our family, like we have to 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.200 take care of ourselves more than other people, and we've learned, 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:11.400 I think throughout the years, to just embrace our body 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:14.960 and embrace who we are. Mom would always wake us 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:17.639 up super early, Let's go for a walk. She would 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:19.560 write in my journals like this is what you should 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:23.800 only eat. No breads, no carbs, only eggy. There's been 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:27.160 many times when I thought if I was this size 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:39.680 in the English market, I would be celebrated. Hello everyone, 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:42.560 and happy Monday. I hope you're all having a great 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:45.920 week so far. My week has been a little crazy 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:49.879 with work, but I can't complain. I've been traveling and 0:00:49.920 --> 0:00:52.160 finishing up some projects and I can't wait to share 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:55.560 some of them with you very very soon. Today's episode 0:00:55.640 --> 0:00:57.319 is going to be a lot of fun for me 0:00:57.520 --> 0:01:05.479 because I'm joined by what am I s We're gonna 0:01:05.520 --> 0:01:09.000 be talking about something women think about a lot. At least. 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:12.600 I have our bodies that includes our shape, our weight, 0:01:12.720 --> 0:01:15.920 and what we're expected to look like. But we're not 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:19.520 going to stop there. We're going to talk about accepting 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:22.759 and embracing our bodies. So let's get into it. This 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:31.000 is chick Ease and chill. For those of you who 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:34.200 don't know who Jenk is, she's my younger sister. She 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:38.280 is an entrepreneur and so much more. She actually just 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:41.720 launched an athletic apparel brand called over Comfort, which I 0:01:41.880 --> 0:01:45.800 freaking love. The material, you guys, is a bomb, okay, 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.319 And I know about work at close because I live 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:50.400 in it. So she really got it down with the 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:52.760 fabric and not only that, but the mission behind it 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:54.600 I absolutely love, So you guys have to check it out. 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:57.560 So as a woman, and especially a woman in the 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:01.120 entertainment industry, wait is something I think about all the time. 0:02:01.480 --> 0:02:03.160 Now I'm in a place where I love my body 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:05.000 most of the time, there are still days where I 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:07.520 feel a little insecure, and I think it's more of 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:11.400 the outside noise that causes that. But there was a 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:14.280 time where I really was just not happy at all 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:16.880 with my body. I don't know. I mean, I've gotten surgeries. 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.280 I believe in plastic surgeries, guys like I'm a huge, 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:22.320 Like it's your body, do what you want. I've got liposection, 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:25.639 I've gotten breast augmentations and then reductions and then again, 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:28.200 like it's been a struggle, and I think it has 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.760 to do with the way that we were raised. My 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:33.880 mom was very and I don't I don't blame her 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:35.400 and I don't judge her for it because I know 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:38.600 my grandpa was really hard on her and her sister 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.160 about their weight. So my mom and our household weight 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:44.920 was always a conversation, like it was just since I 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:48.160 can remember, you guys, And there was a time where 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:51.840 I'm like, I look at pictures now and I'm like, Damn, 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.440 I looked good. I I was thinner, you know, I 0:02:54.520 --> 0:02:57.280 look good and I didn't think I was then. And 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.640 it's crazy because my sister Jackie just posted on that 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:02.600 the other day, like on her feed. We've all I 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:06.040 think shared that, especially now that we're in the industry 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:09.240 and you're expected quote unquote to look a certain way. 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:11.880 I'm like, why didn't I appreciate my body then? I 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:14.600 was freaking thirty pounds lighter and I still thought that 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.560 I was big. But it's because of the stigma and 0:03:18.360 --> 0:03:21.120 the way that, again, we were raised and things that 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:23.520 I think my sisters and I are trying to work through. 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:26.680 And this is something my sister Jennica, which is here, 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:29.000 she's here. Let's like, I'm excited I'm gonna be able 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:31.920 to speak to herz Jenica, Welcome to the podcast. It's no. 0:03:32.200 --> 0:03:34.440 I definitely agree that it was the way we raised. 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:37.400 I always talk about it, like with like my friends 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:39.480 or my trainer or whatever. They're like, how are you 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:43.400 so disciplined? Like I'm like, I've literally been like this 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:46.600 my whole life. Mom would always like she'd wake us 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.400 up super early, let's go for a walk. She would 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:51.280 write in my journals like this is what you should 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:55.320 only eat. No breads, no carbs, like only egg whites, grapefruit. 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:59.040 It was really really hard. Like for me, it was okay, 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:00.760 like I have to listen to my mom. And then 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.680 as I got older and then Mom passed away, like 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:07.000 it's like we had the reality show and then we 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:10.040 were consistently in the spotlight. So it's like something it 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:13.160 mattered to me like it was at that time. Yeah, 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:15.000 I could say it was more about like what people 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:16.839 thought of me or whatever. But then it got to 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:18.240 a point where I just like I just want to 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:21.040 feel good, Like I got so tired, like I would 0:04:21.120 --> 0:04:23.600 remember like crying with you, like in dressing rooms, like 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:27.800 I'm so tired of trying on clothes, like I hate shopping, 0:04:27.880 --> 0:04:30.320 like I hate it, and then now is just kind 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:33.479 of like now, thank God, like brands are more inclusive 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.359 of like plus size and like okay, like this is 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:38.479 the plus size community and this is what it is. 0:04:38.560 --> 0:04:40.880 And it's like I'd rather just own it and feel 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:43.200 comfortable where I'm at because I feel good where I'm at. 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:46.280 I know I could do more, but like I'm like 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:49.080 happy with where I'm at, Like it goes support at 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:50.920 least for me, where it's like all these people were 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.360 talking so much mess about all of us, and it's 0:04:53.360 --> 0:04:55.400 just like they're always going to say something so like 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:58.480 why I even care about it? But do you know though, 0:04:58.880 --> 0:05:00.279 that you have a lot to do with it. You 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:01.920 have a lot to do with the fact that now 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:06.120 brands are more accepting of curvy women that we you know, 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.320 women like us that have to go out there and 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:10.240 it's it's hard. I think a lot of people look 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:12.200 at us like, well, like we get a lot of messages, 0:05:12.240 --> 0:05:14.000 at least I do. And I don't know about you, Jenica, 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.800 but like messages of of you really inspire me, like 0:05:16.880 --> 0:05:19.000 thank you, like for embracing your body. Now I'm I'm 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.560 embracing mine. But I still have tough days, you guys, 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.320 And I think it's sadly what is out there on 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:26.719 Instagram and what you're supposed to look like and this 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:29.839 whole facade, because there's a lot of people that weren't 0:05:30.000 --> 0:05:33.000 born that way. And again I'm all about plastic surgery, 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:36.880 do your thing, but it's like this kind of unrealistic 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:41.080 expectation of how you should look. And for a long time, 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:42.680 you guys, I knew I was always thicker. I was 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:44.919 always a thick girl in class and all my friends 0:05:44.960 --> 0:05:47.839 were like when I was a size nine I think 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:50.560 growing up or an eight, my friend was of course 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:52.960 afore So I was always that thick girl, but I 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:56.679 always felt pretty good. It wasn't really until I started 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.479 it started like getting into my head, like really really bad. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.320 Was when I got and stepped into this industry and 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:04.640 so many people have an opinion and it's like, oh 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:06.120 my god, you come out on TV. You should not 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.320 be that fat, And it's like I started looking at 0:06:08.360 --> 0:06:12.040 myself different in the mirror. And that's where like therapy 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.240 kicked in a little bit more, and really words of 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:18.600 affirmation and speaking, it's really how we speak to ourselves 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:22.359 in the mirror you guys. That makes a huge freaking difference. 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:24.440 And this as we spoke about this with Liz Hernandez 0:06:24.440 --> 0:06:26.560 on one of the episodes, and it's the power of 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:30.320 words and it starts with us. And yes, I've been 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.840 tea since I was little. And I don't blame mom, 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.760 to be honest, Like sometimes I would get upset and like, dude, 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:38.839 this is the reason that I am the way that 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.040 I am is because Mom was so tough on us. 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:42.800 It's like she would grab my arms like, okay, if 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.920 you eat that, it's going through it to your arms. 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:47.400 Look at those guys, they're growing. And lat voice is 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:49.680 always in my head, like every time I don't want 0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:51.600 to go to the gym, and like all I remember 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:54.279 is like, oh, but you sweat so easily, you should 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:57.599 just do it. Oh. This is like Mom would always 0:06:57.600 --> 0:06:59.800 be like I'm so jealous that you get to sweat 0:06:59.800 --> 0:07:04.440 so fast, princess, keep going and keep going. I'm like okay, 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:06.560 And then I don't even think people know this, but 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:09.480 like it's like cause a lot of trauma, like at 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:13.000 least for me, like mom, Like I love obviously I 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:16.160 love my mom, but like she made me get surgery 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:19.080 when I was fifteen, like the gas strick and like 0:07:19.600 --> 0:07:22.640 all that stuff. So it goes hand in hand. It's like, okay, 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:25.200 like I'm doing this literally for my mom, and then 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.440 now that she's not here, it's like, okay, it's either 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:29.680 I have to do it for myself, like I have 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:31.640 to feel good. And at the end of the day, 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:34.240 she always had the best intention. She always wanted us 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:37.480 to feel good and look good and she loved us. Yeah, 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:39.800 because she had suffered so much as well, which I 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:43.280 understand her now exactly. Now I can say now, I'm like, 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:46.280 growing up, it was so hard, and I just like 0:07:46.720 --> 0:07:48.320 even there was times when I'm like, oh, my goodness 0:07:48.360 --> 0:07:51.280 as an adult and I'd be like, why was she 0:07:51.360 --> 0:07:53.160 like this with us? And now I can sit back 0:07:53.160 --> 0:07:55.360 and I'm like, I get it, Like she didn't want 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:57.560 us to suffer what she had suffered through, and she 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:00.560 wanted us to feel good. Even her sister Jackie. She 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:02.920 sent her to fat Camp and Jackie talks about that 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.000 all the time, so it was something that was always 0:08:06.040 --> 0:08:07.920 on her mind. But because I think she didn't want 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:10.960 us to suffer in this world that can be very critical, 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:14.600 and I thank her now because I think because of 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:18.840 her as well, Like I can withstand so much shit 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.840 that is thrown at me, So I think her for sure, 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:24.720 But I'm not gonna lie. And that's why I think 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:26.680 it's important. Now we're talking about this guy. So if 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.400 women or parents out there that are listening to this podcast, 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.840 the way you speak to your children is very important 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:35.280 because it really takes a huge part in what they 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:38.200 think of themselves and how they feel about themselves. You 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.880 know what I mean, because it's it's it starts even 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:43.040 in the womb, how you speak to your baby when 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:46.360 when they're in your tummy and speaking words of affirmation 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:48.360 and speaking words of life into them. And I'm not 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.439 saying that my mom didn't. She didn't know any better. Again, 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.199 she didn't know any better. She didn't think that it 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.160 was going to affect us in this way. Even then, 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:56.760 like at the end, like she would always, she still 0:08:56.760 --> 0:08:58.920 had curves and she was still happy about it, like 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:01.719 she would sing in her songs or whatever. And I 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:05.199 think ultimately she just wanted us to be healthy, start 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:08.280 now before it gets harder later, because it was harder 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:10.079 for her at her age to lose the weight than 0:09:10.120 --> 0:09:13.439 it is for now at my age. Yeah, that's what 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:15.760 she would always say. In our household, it was we 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:18.880 never had whole milk, it was non fat milk, egg whites, 0:09:18.920 --> 0:09:21.400 like Jennica said, we were not allowed to eat the yolk. 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:23.760 So it's just a lot of little things like that. 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.439 But I also I thank her because I think that 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:28.560 it's it's the back of my mind working out and 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.040 being healthy and you know what I mean, like because 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:32.920 it just runs in our family. It's just that's what 0:09:33.000 --> 0:09:34.960 it is. Like we have to take care of ourselves 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.560 more than other people. And we've learned, I think, throughout 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:41.439 the years to just embrace our body and embrace who 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:44.760 we are. And I love to see you, Jennica, because 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.440 I know how much you suffered with with your weight 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:49.240 from like I don't know, I think you held were 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:52.480 you when you started like really realizing probably like well, 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:54.720 Mom sent me to camp like when I was eleven 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:58.400 or twelve. No, you went to suck up when you didn't, Yeah, 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:00.040 I did, And then you and your boyfriend went to 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:02.760 me up because I didn't want to either, and you 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:08.000 got mad at me because I didn't stay longer. Really 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:11.480 should I thought it was just Jessica, I mean Jessica Jackie. 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:17.760 It was in San Diego. M Yeah, okay, well yeah 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.120 I went and then yeah, but now it's like becoming 0:10:20.160 --> 0:10:22.520 like I wish I would have done it then because 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:25.320 the now, I mean what, who knows. But now I'm 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:27.640 kind of just like I never really thought i'd be 0:10:27.720 --> 0:10:30.000 that person to like really see the gym as an outlet. 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.760 But it's so relieving. I feel so good after. And 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:35.520 it's such a good point that there's this quote that says, 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:38.160 you never regret or work out, and you never do. 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:41.120 You feel so good. It's gotten to the point for 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:44.400 me where it's not just about losing weight to work out. 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.320 It's for my mental health for sure. Like I feel 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:50.040 more empowered, I feel like I have more energy. I 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.680 feel like I accomplished so many things that day once 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.240 I work out. For sure, Right, if I work out, 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:56.720 I'm good for the rest of the day. Like I 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:58.960 feel like I did what I needed to do. Yeah, 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.240 So tell a little bit about camp. Now that we 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:03.920 got there and I had forgot, how was what was camp? Like? Oh? 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:08.840 That was horrible. It was not traumatizing, but I remember 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:10.920 being in like the dorm rooms and like they would 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.440 give you one little pack of gummy bears, those little 0:11:13.440 --> 0:11:16.600 snack packs for kids, and the girls would save them. 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:18.920 They would put them in their drawers and save them 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:21.720 because apparently you would only get so many here and 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:23.520 then so they would eat them in the middle of 0:11:23.600 --> 0:11:26.600 the night. Once Kurfey was up, you couldn't eat anymore, 0:11:27.400 --> 0:11:29.560 so all these girls would put them away and then 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:32.240 they would eat them, and then like running around the track, 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:34.079 and I was just like, oh no, like I need 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:38.520 to go home, like I just can't, Like I can't, 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:40.560 I can't be here and I don't. I'm not a 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:43.960 very social person, like and being around people just gives 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:46.960 me a lot of anxiety. So I just like in that, 0:11:47.200 --> 0:11:49.200 in that little space and bubble, I just felt like, 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:50.760 oh no, I need to go home. I need to 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:52.720 just I'll figure it out. I'll tell my mom, like 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:55.600 I'll go work out, Like I just can't be here. 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.920 I can't do this. How long were you there for? 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.920 I was there like three days. I was supposed to 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:05.120 be there for like two or three weeks. Oh my goodness, Jennica, 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:07.560 I'm so sorry. I was just listening to a mom. 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:16.080 But but anyways, okay, So Jennica, like I said earlier, 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:20.559 she was very very like a very shy, introvert type 0:12:20.559 --> 0:12:23.720 of girl. Now I love to see her blossom like 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.600 she really like I see her on her posts and 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.960 I'm just like, do Jennica is hot? Is fuck? Like 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:32.600 she is beautiful, She's got going on, Like I was 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:34.200 telling her the other day, I'm like, dude, this girl 0:12:34.320 --> 0:12:37.520 is working out every single day. Like I've seen the 0:12:37.559 --> 0:12:40.320 transformation and how much she has lost on her own. 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:41.800 And I want to tell you, Jennica that I'm very 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:51.360 proud of you. I know that it probably hasn't been 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:55.840 an easy process, right, Yeah, no, I think you're you know, 0:12:56.720 --> 0:13:01.000 because like you the first person I so, I'm just like, dude, 0:13:01.040 --> 0:13:03.920 I'm so over this crap. I'm so over not saying 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.840 the difference. I'm so over and not really feeling good 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:09.200 because people are still telling me all these things like 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.040 I could be as confident as I want to be, 0:13:11.080 --> 0:13:13.640 and like little comments like really get to me. So 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:18.200 like yeah, like I have people like can comment back 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:20.360 for me because if not, like it'll mess on my 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:22.679 day or like I just don't want to deal with 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:24.640 it because I feel so good in confident. I worked 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.720 so hard to get to where I'm at now, I 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:29.280 don't need it, and those people generally don't really matter. 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:32.439 Are those comments though, that you receive, Are they mostly 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:36.240 about your body? Yeah, they're they're mainly about my body, 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.680 or like, oh, you have all this money, why don't 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:40.960 you just get surgery? Oh my god. A lot of 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.840 them are very encouraging, like when I post my workout videos, 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:45.800 like I literally pray. I'm like, you know what, like 0:13:46.400 --> 0:13:49.440 I just hope that it inspire someone, and I get 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:51.560 comments like oh, good job, good job job, which is 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:55.040 good ultimately, thank God. But for me, it's like I've 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:58.079 learned to like keep social media away so it doesn't 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:01.520 affect my mind because I think that's what's the most hurtful. 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:03.840 And then I just get compared to you in Jackie 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:06.640 a lot, so I'm just like, really, yeah, I don't 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:10.679 what do you mean, like how you guys are skinny, 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:13.560 or like, oh my god, like you don't even look 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:15.960 like them, or this isn't that. So I'm just like, 0:14:15.960 --> 0:14:20.200 you know what I swear. I know I'm telling you. 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:23.560 People on social media can be so mean, but I've 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:26.520 learned that it's like those people aren't busy enough, those 0:14:26.520 --> 0:14:29.840 people aren't successful enough, those people aren't even happy with themselves, 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:33.000 because if they were, they wouldn't be there trying to 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:37.080 hurt someone's feelings. Trying like busy people that are successful 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:39.560 and happy don't have time to sit there and talk 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:41.880 ship on social media. Like that is so lame and 0:14:41.920 --> 0:14:43.760 whack to me, guys, if you are one of those 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:45.960 people listening to my podcast, I want you guys to know, 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:49.520 if you sit there and criticize people on social media 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:53.520 behind a fucking telephone, you are whacked as fuck. I'm sorry, 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:56.400 I just need to tell you it is so fucking 0:14:56.840 --> 0:15:00.240 unattractive that I'd rather someone come to my face tell 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.080 me you know what I think this so I can 0:15:02.120 --> 0:15:05.120 tell you something back. But it sucks because there are 0:15:05.160 --> 0:15:07.640 people that love us on social media. No, and like 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.400 we meet the people in person and they're so sweet, 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.880 like like everybody in person is so much more nicer, 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:15.920 Like they'll come up when we are so pretty, like 0:15:16.240 --> 0:15:17.840 you've really inspired me to go to the gym and 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:19.600 like to me, like I don't know why, but I'm 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:21.800 just like, oh my god, thank you. Like they'll tell 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:23.560 me thank you, and I'm like, no, thank you, Like 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:25.760 that really helped me today that I'm really happy, like 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:30.160 keep going or whatever. So those things are like important 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:32.240 to me and like where I feel like, Okay, it's 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:35.280 worth it. Exactly, it's worth it, and that's what we 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:37.240 have to focus on. And I think, do you you 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:40.280 have more positive comments to negative ones? Right? I'm sure, yeah, yeah. 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:42.600 And I think we've learned to just accept that it 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:44.240 being in this there's always going to be that ten 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.080 percent that they're going to have an opinion and it's 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:48.720 probably a negative one and they're not gonna like you 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:51.280 no matter what you do. Before, I would love going 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:54.320 on social media after posting something and then replying to 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:57.760 people because I just I love having that direct contact. 0:15:57.960 --> 0:15:59.880 But then I had to stop doing that because you 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:03.200 come across some negative comments and it sucks because I 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:06.120 felt like I was intending to the people that love 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:08.520 me and that I love as much, but because I 0:16:08.560 --> 0:16:10.640 was also protecting my heart in my mind and saying 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:13.040 I don't want to see negative comments because I'm not 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:16.120 in the right place emotionally, because sometimes those comments are 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:19.920 are harsh, like it's like like you're on a diet, 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.600 like they're fucked up. And when you're around p M messing, 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:25.040 when you're a PM messing like it, it can really 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:28.040 get to you. But I've learned to just like, no, okay, 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:30.440 I'm not the first, I'm not the last. I know 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:31.960 this is a part of it. And it's like really 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:34.640 giving yourself therapy every single day, and like Jenica said, 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:37.760 focusing on those people that really get it and that 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:41.560 we're inspiring and that keep us motivated and keep us going. 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:44.040 And this is why it's so good you guys to 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.000 take pictures of your progress. If you don't want to 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.120 wear yourself, I get it, But if you take pictures, 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:49.800 like Jenica just showed me the other day, She's like, 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:51.560 do you see a difference? And I swear to you, 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:55.200 I was like, I'm so freaking proud. She wakes up, 0:16:55.280 --> 0:16:57.520 she goes to the gym for an hour, She works hard. 0:16:57.920 --> 0:17:01.880 She's super disciplined. That's something that my mom. She taught 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:04.080 us to be very disciplined to finish what we start. 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:07.679 And I thank her for that. Jennica like, I give you, like, honestly, 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:09.720 a round of applause, girl, Like you've have been killing 0:17:09.720 --> 0:17:12.000 it in the gym. Girl, you look good. I don't 0:17:12.000 --> 0:17:13.800 know how much you've lost, but how much have you lost? 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:17.920 I don't own myself. Okay, see, yeah, but I'm glad 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:20.040 you took those pictures because I'm sure you could tell 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:23.880 I do. Yeah, but I don't own myself because like literally, 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:25.359 like how I would say, like the number on the 0:17:25.400 --> 0:17:28.600 scow really doesn't matter. It just doesn't because I could 0:17:28.640 --> 0:17:31.440 weigh the same, but I have more muscle instead of fat. 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:34.400 The weight it's not gonna measure my inches, so it's 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:36.919 just like there's no point. Yeah, how to do that. 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:38.840 My therapist told me to do that. They're like there's 0:17:38.880 --> 0:17:41.400 throwed away, like you don't need it, and it made 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:44.760 you feel better. Yeah, some people believe in like weighing yourself. 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:46.479 I don't like you know what I mean, It's not 0:17:46.520 --> 0:17:49.040 my thing. But pictures are a good thing to have, guys. 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:51.240 People Actually, j I have a question for you. Do 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:54.040 you think that Latina's face added pressure to look sexy? 0:17:54.440 --> 0:17:57.040 Small ways, big breast and but like do you feel 0:17:57.040 --> 0:18:00.320 that I feel like it's kind of generalized. Is I 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:04.160 don't feel like it's just for Latinas. Maybe more because 0:18:04.320 --> 0:18:09.680 Latinas have natural curves, they're thicker, We're thicker in that sense. Yeah, 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:13.240 but I think everybody always has that pressure because it's 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:16.960 what what Kim Kay has. She has thick thighs, a 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:20.120 big gass, and like a small waist. That's the ideal 0:18:20.200 --> 0:18:22.439 body everyone he wants to have because she is like 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:28.320 the social media idol. Yeah, like you know, it's a 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:31.240 molded body and I'm a for it girl that you 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:34.760 look great, you know, but as latinas you know, we 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:37.679 have those and it's crazy because it's like you have 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:39.800 this big button, these big guys and it's just and 0:18:39.800 --> 0:18:41.919 then we we don't want it, like some people are like, 0:18:42.080 --> 0:18:44.320 well people want that, Like there are people that would 0:18:44.359 --> 0:18:46.760 die for that body type, and I get it, you know, 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:50.160 but I do feel like it's harder for us. But 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:54.919 it's also what we eat, like what we were raised 0:18:54.920 --> 0:18:58.119 with two like all we were given and beads and 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:01.640 all those stuff. It's just exactly so it's like it's 0:19:01.640 --> 0:19:03.400 harder for us to lose the weight and to get 0:19:03.440 --> 0:19:06.560 that body because we eat all this stuff, which I'm 0:19:06.600 --> 0:19:09.000 not mad about. I'm happy with the freaking culture that 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:12.080 I have, Like I know, I'm so happy. I feel 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:14.960 like we have the best food and like I don't know, yeah, 0:19:15.240 --> 0:19:17.800