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Speaker 2: Yess is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Eric.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her a second date.

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Speaker 1: But first, just how long has it been since you

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Speaker 1: heard from Eric.

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Speaker 3: It's been since the date, so I haven't heard from

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Speaker 3: him since the night we went out.

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Speaker 1: Okay, how did you guys leave that?

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Speaker 3: At the end of the day, I thought we left

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Speaker 3: it really great, you know, I thought we definitely had chemistry. So, yeah,

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Speaker 3: we met up at this at this bar. It's at

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Speaker 3: this like speakeasy. It was a pop up bar behind

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Speaker 3: a record store, so it was like a really cool setting,

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Speaker 3: you know. And conversation went, well, he's a graphic designer,

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Speaker 3: he's got a really great smile. Well, he's got kind eyes.

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Speaker 3: He was really funny. It felt very flirty. He was

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Speaker 3: a little dry and sarcastic, but I don't know, it

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Speaker 3: still felt really flirty when he would, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: make a joke, and I really liked his style, his

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Speaker 3: his vintage jacket. Well it smelled like tom Ford tobacco

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Speaker 3: and vanilla. I don't know, it felt.

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Speaker 1: Wow, very specific.

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Speaker 3: Well, he was close enough to me. Did I get

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Speaker 3: smell as jacket is when I'm trying to stay Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So we were at this pop up bar, like I said, uh,

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Speaker 3: there's a DJ there. So we danced some playing nineties

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Speaker 3: was fun, and we did indeed get a free round,

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Speaker 3: so that was cool. So you know, we had some drinks,

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Speaker 3: we had some laughs, and the night went really well.

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Speaker 3: So everything at the restaurant, like I've replayed it in

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Speaker 3: my mind a million times, you know, nothing seemed weird there.

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Speaker 3: And then after the bar closed, we went to my

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Speaker 3: apartment for a nightcap, and you know, we had a

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Speaker 3: we woke up or whatever, and then I noticed that

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Speaker 3: this is so, this is what I think happened, but

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure, but I noticed that my exit electric

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Speaker 3: razor was on the bathroom shelf, and I kept I've

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Speaker 3: kept my Exits Electric Raider because it works really well

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Speaker 3: I like it better than anything I've used. I'm afraid

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Speaker 3: that he might have seen it and think that I

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Speaker 3: have like a revolving door of guys, you know. But

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Speaker 3: I mean that's really the only thing I can think of,

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Speaker 3: because we had chemistry, We had a really fun time,

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Speaker 3: like we really seemed to be vibing. The date went

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Speaker 4: He came back to your place. I mean that's definitely

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Speaker 4: I think he was definitely feeling it. So then when

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Speaker 4: he left in the morning, did you hit him up later,

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Speaker 4: did you guys like say we'll do this again, or

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Speaker 4: was he just kind of like peace?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like in person in person, like it elluded, like, hey,

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: I didn't follow up with a text, just because I'm

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Speaker 3: trying to let the guy make the next move. You know.

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Speaker 3: It just it felt like ball was in his court,

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Speaker 3: you know, but now we're taking the ball back.

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Speaker 1: Whoa fig Oh yeah, okay.

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Speaker 3: Well, it just it just doesn't make sense to me.

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Speaker 3: It just does not make sense because like we had

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Speaker 1: Well, it could be a raiser.

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Speaker 4: I mean if you guys weren't if you weren't able

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and he didn't seem like a guy who was

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Speaker 3: just like looking to like hook up and then you know,

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Speaker 3: see it, it didn't seem like that at all.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, we'll see if we can figure it out

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Speaker 1: for you.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back and call him and

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Speaker 2: see to tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, thanks so much.

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Speaker 2: All right, we'll get your first day follow up right

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Speaker 2: after this if you're just joining us for today's first

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Speaker 2: Day follow up. Jess is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by a dude named Eric. So we're about

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Speaker 2: she still wants one. But before we do that, Jess,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch us up on your date again?

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Speaker 3: Real quick? Okay. So we met and this really cool

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Speaker 3: speakeasy bar. We had a really fun time. We danced,

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Speaker 3: garred him away. Okay, but I haven't heard from him

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Speaker 3: So I'm afraid the razor.

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Speaker 1: Scared him away.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, well are you ready for us to

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Speaker 2: call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here here we go. Hello, I'm askepeak to Eric. Please.

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Speaker 5: This is Eric.

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Speaker 1: Hey Eric, how are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jewel Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi Eric, I'm Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jewbell. What's up?

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Speaker 3: Good?

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Speaker 5: Wow? Yeah, I wasn't ready for that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you've listened to Have you listened to the

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Speaker 1: show before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? I listened all the time.

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Speaker 1: Okay, great. Have you heard a first a follow up before?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I didn't realize it'd be a victim of one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: It's a segment where if you go out on a

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Speaker 2: can email us to call you and find out why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting them. And we got an email about you, Eric, okay,

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Speaker 2: any idea who would email us?

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Speaker 1: Was it?

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Speaker 5: Uh? What was the name?

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Speaker 1: Uh?

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Speaker 5: Je Jeff, Jessica Jeh Jeff.

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Speaker 2: Yes, that's it, jess. She told us about your date,

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Speaker 2: said that you were awesome and really liked you, but

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Speaker 2: can't figure out why your ghost sting her. Do you

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Speaker 2: mind telling us?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I mean so, yeah. The night the night of the date,

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Speaker 5: she we went her place, she gave she gave me

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Speaker 5: a tour and she yeah, okay, she pulled a curtain

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I mean, honestly, I don't know how to recover from that.

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Speaker 1: She yeah, like a collection, like you know, maybe it's just.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, at least thirty I'm not even kidding, Like

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Speaker 1: Sometimes those dolls are worth a lot of money.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't care what they are. It was totally freaky.

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Speaker 4: They're hiding behind the curtain too, huh.

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Speaker 5: Exactly how they would play like it's just like revealed

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Speaker 1: I yeah, at well, thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll also let you know that Jess is on

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Speaker 5: Whoa wait, she's here.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he heard all that.

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Speaker 5: Oh hey Jes.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so that's ridiculous you ghosted me over that.

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, in the moment it stuck with me, and

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. There are a collection of dolls and

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Speaker 5: There were thirty worstlin faces staring right at me, and

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Speaker 5: they callowed me like what. I would walk around, they

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Speaker 3: You know, better than a household action figures you probably

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 5: I don't, I do not have two figures. Just not

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Speaker 5: everyone has dolls. I swear one of them even smirked

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Speaker 3: Oh are you sure it was a smirk and not

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, well I think one, yeah, one did that.

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Speaker 5: I just they're like little these little like mossia boxes

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Speaker 3: You know, they're inanimate. What you literally can't have a

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Speaker 5: Okay, look, okay, look if you're if you're having quirky

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Speaker 5: It's just a little too weird for me. I mean,

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Speaker 5: get some rest. I don't know, man, that's just really

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Speaker 3: Okay, you you made that. I didn't put up a

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Speaker 3: at me. I'm keeping them because maybe one day I

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Speaker 3: want to sell them and their vintage and antique. I

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Speaker 3: thought you were cultured. Jeez, Louise, Like, I don't know,

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Speaker 3: have you never heard of collectors?

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Speaker 5: Of course I've heard of collectors, but these these dolls.

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Speaker 5: I mean, if you're going to collect something like, why

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Speaker 5: plotting murder. I don't trust them, all right.

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Speaker 3: It sounds like you have some hang ups and you

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Speaker 3: have some phobias. And you know that's not on me.

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Speaker 5: What I don't I mean phobia is it's just it

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Speaker 3: Us Test is right about you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's just that's one of your adults.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, no, she wore me about you. She said

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Speaker 3: that you weren't good news. I should have listened to her.

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Speaker 1: Well, hey, Eric, would you like to go out? What

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Speaker 1: Jess again? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's a hard past.

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's no for me too. You know, I make

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Speaker 3: my own dolls do as well as collecting them. I

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Speaker 3: might be making one of.

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Speaker 5: You two, Please don't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, one of these days, if you get a random

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Speaker 3: pain in your side, that's me.

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Speaker 1: Juble's first date follow up