WEBVTT - Aida Rodriguez: Healthy, Single & Sane 0:00:02.840 --> 0:00:08.840 Come Again, a podcast by Honey German. Welcome to another 0:00:08.880 --> 0:00:13.440 episode of Glasses Come Again. I'm excited today. I feel 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:16.200 like you are my one and only, you know female 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:23.959 comedian that I connect with being Benita Prodriguez. You're so 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:27.760 happy you're here, me too, and I know you. It's 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:30.280 like with stand up you get to know so much 0:00:30.280 --> 0:00:34.560 about the person you're look I know everything about but 0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:35.960 I really don't. 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:38.840 It feels that way though, I understand what you mean. 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.720 I have a lot of I feel good. I feel good. 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:44.160 I'm always happy when I'm in New York I Land 0:00:44.280 --> 0:00:46.120 and I just hit the vibration of the city and 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:48.239 it's it's just like I just get back to. 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:50.680 It's a good money city. If you're here, I know 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:52.720 you're moving. I know you're shaking, yes. 0:00:52.479 --> 0:00:55.360 Absolutely, and you know it's just it's just it's just 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:58.720 on the move. Where in LA can be really I've 0:00:58.720 --> 0:00:59.200 been to l. 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:01.040 A and I'm like, what's going Is this all we're 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:01.920 doing today? 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:03.360 And relaxed. 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:05.840 I'm like, wait, you're so used to like call the train, 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:09.240 call the uber, make a reservation, go here, go there. Yeah, 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:11.160 that LA. I can see how LA can be a 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:13.640 little bit different. But you're from Miami. 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:16.360 So I grew up Yeah, I grew up in Miami, 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:19.920 going back and forth between the Brons. 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:22.600 And don't take the bronx away from me. 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:25.280 Well, you know, it's it's in you. You can't take 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:28.360 it away. You know, it's it's not just yeah, it 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:31.600 is ingrained. It's so funny because when people meet me, 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:35.360 they never asked me if I'm from Miami. No. No, 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:38.160 they always say what part of New York are you from? 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:38.800 I love that. 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.000 Yeah, It's it's a very interesting thing because you know, 0:01:42.080 --> 0:01:45.880 Miami people. Miami people have their own language. I don't 0:01:45.880 --> 0:01:49.800 think I've ever really assimilated into the And I love Miami. 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:50.640 You claim it. 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:53.800 Yeah, absolutely. That's where my mom is right now. 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:55.440 Alaa is she still there? 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:57.240 She's still there. It's crazy. 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.320 I lived in Miami for a little while. Like that's 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:00.280 what the Dominican are. 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:03.520 Al. That's how they. 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:09.880 Im, Oh what is this place? And it's I love 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.040 it there. And even when I'm in Miami, I still 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:14.120 go get my hair done there. Yeah no, no, that's 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:16.680 where that neighborhood. Yeah me too, that your mammy is. 0:02:16.880 --> 0:02:19.720 That's where well mommy is now and she's like in 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:23.000 Fort Lauderdale because she went up with my deal. But 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:25.679 we we were there. She was there for most of 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:28.400 the time, and I spent a lot of time there. 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:30.919 It was back and forth, fifty to fifty. 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:33.040 Or I don't know if it was fifty to fifty. 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:35.880 It was more Miami than New York. But it's just 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:39.120 New York. New York doesn't go away. 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:40.799 You know, who do you have here in the Bronx. 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:45.079 So I have family here. My cousins are in Astoria. 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:48.239 They're not in the Bronx any I like a story. Yeah, 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:54.240 then city everybody is. Everybody is scattered around. They're not 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:57.720 in the Bronx anymore. But I say, in the Bronx 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:00.400 when I come here sometimes and it just feel good, 0:03:00.440 --> 0:03:04.600 right Yeah, it feels like the only borough that hasn't 0:03:04.600 --> 0:03:07.200 been gentrified. You know, they've tried, but they haven't been 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:09.040 able to. They do have some buildings up in the 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:10.760 Bronx where you could pay five thousand dollars a month, 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.640 right I know, I know. I stay in one of 0:03:12.639 --> 0:03:15.840 those sometimes because I have a friend that lives there. 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:18.720 But when you go outside and you turn, you spend 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:21.160 the block, you ride in the hoods. 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:24.560 It's still the bodies are still the mini guns. We 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:26.440 own the Bronx. I feel like that's the one borough 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:27.480 that we're never going to give up. 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:30.320 I hope they don't. I hope that. I hope we 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:31.040 keep it forever. 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.080 You know, we have to have a burrow that we 0:03:33.080 --> 0:03:36.720 can go back to. But like to sobro Garden with Jimmy, 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.520 and it's like it's like back in the days, remember 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:40.400 Jimmy's Bronx Cafe. 0:03:39.760 --> 0:03:41.520 So all those. 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:43.640 Spots when you go in there, it feels like, you know, 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.720 the original New York. I called the original New York. 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:50.440 That's what you call the original New York. I yeah, 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:54.080 I feel that way too. There's something there. I never 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.680 I mean, I don't feel in danger. I feel I 0:03:57.760 --> 0:04:01.240 just I just hit this the beat, you know. I went, 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.320 I went to get something to eat. The last time 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:07.320 I was there. I stayed there the last the last 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:09.280 time I stayed with Angelo. The time before that, I 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:13.560 was in the Bronx and I stayed there and I went, 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:17.640 I just got I just got up, walked outside and 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.760 just started walking and then I started eating as I went. 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:22.440 Everywhere I went, I got something different. 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:24.479 Mostly now that you're like, I'm gonna I'm gonna do 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:25.760 those walking tours that they do. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.799 But in the Bronx, Yes, in the Bronx. 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:31.120 What's your go to with the Latino food when you're 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:32.039 in the Bronx? What you're getting? 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:34.880 Ah, you know, it's really hard for me because I 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:38.080 don't eat pork. But I haven't eaten pork since I 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:40.680 was a kid and you were a kid. Yeah, because 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:43.680 my grandmother converted to she became a seven day Adventist, 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:45.200 so we stopped eating pork. 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:46.880 This is your Dominican grandma. 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:52.080 My Puerto Rican grandma, and Puerto Ricans eat a lot 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:53.840 of pork, right, So. 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:58.320 Just randomly you go to what you like. Why it's 0:04:58.360 --> 0:04:58.760 not even. 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:01.520 Christmas, No, it's Wednesday. My sister made the other day. 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:04.040 She was like, I'm cooking. I said, what are you making? 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:08.560 We'll not like like just ran whole pork shoulder see 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:09.800 not not a salad. 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:14.920 No no, And I don't eat it, So you know it. 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:20.200 It's it's so the battle between Puerto Ricans and Dominicans 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:24.479 that it's a ridiculous battle. I eat a lot of 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:29.520 Dominican food. I eat. I gravitate a lot towards it 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:32.880 because I love fish and I love chio, and you know, 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:38.719 I like colorad. So that's my that's my goal to 0:05:38.920 --> 0:05:41.560 So even when I'm in the Puerto Rican neighborhood, you know, 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:50.240 I'll eat an every once in a while. Battle I 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.560 eat a lot of fish. I have a friend who 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:55.800 posts about me because everywhere I go there's. 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:58.000 You get like, do you have a fish? Whish the 0:05:58.000 --> 0:05:58.760 whole fish? 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:00.080 I'll go see. 0:06:02.080 --> 0:06:07.160 Piccolo is mandatory, delicious, bring the whole thing's so good. 0:06:07.360 --> 0:06:10.279 My husban banasizing about that fry fish. He's Puerto Rican, 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:12.080 I'm Dominican, and he loves it. 0:06:12.080 --> 0:06:14.240 And no, it's delicious, it's delicious. 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.359 Last time we were there, he had the whole fish. 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:19.080 I'm like, me too, I like fish. 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:23.599 I love fish. I love seafood. So, okay, your expensive date, 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:29.000 I don't. I don't order anything I can't afford to 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:29.839 pay for myself. 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:34.480 Come on, come on, they have I'd be like, that's 0:06:34.480 --> 0:06:35.480 what I'm going to be ordering. 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:38.080 No, me too, but I'm saying, just in case somebody 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:41.159 wants to splash on me, I'm like, I can pay. 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:43.480 My grandmother told me that when I was in the hood, 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:46.120 very young girl. She goes, don't ever go anywhere you 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:48.080 can't afford to pay for yourself. Don't let no, don't 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.760 ever subject yourself to the humiliation of a man. 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:55.520 And I feel you because I've kind of like always, 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:57.640 I've been a kind of like a flexer, Like if 0:06:57.680 --> 0:06:58.960 I go out to you, I'll be like, you want 0:06:58.960 --> 0:07:02.039 me to pay? Because I never wanted no man to 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.520 feel like I needed him. It was always like I 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:06.560 always have my car, I always have my crib. I 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:09.120 always had my degrees. I'm like, but you know, New 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:12.160 Yorkers and Latinas and we're not. We're not gonna let nobody, 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:15.080 you know, make us feel like lesser up. I got 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:15.720 my own bread. 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:19.040 What's the deal? 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.120 You want to mess with me? Yes or no? Nothing 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:23.320 necess Yeah, I love that. If I mess with you, 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:24.760 it is because I like you. 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:27.600 Yeah, me too, me too, you know it's it's life 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:29.600 is too short to be with somebody that you don't 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:32.280 like absolutely, And I don't have a strong stomach like that. 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:37.000 I look at Joe and I'm like, man, I salute 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:43.000 them because I can't. It's written all over my face. See, you're. 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:51.640 No football status, no football because I need to be 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:54.040 with somebody I like. You don't know, no disrespect, Like 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:55.640 if you have your your sugar daddy, if you have 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:58.840 you know, somebody older, somebody who's not as attractive, that's 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:00.280 on you. But when it comes to me. 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:06.040 Yeah, but nah, I can't. I don't have the good 0:08:06.080 --> 0:08:09.400 I don't. I wish because my life would have been 0:08:09.440 --> 0:08:14.200 a lot easier, but I don't have it. That's not 0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:17.600 my thing. Where are you now with love? So I'm 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:20.360 single right now for you enjoy it. I was in 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:26.040 a long relationship and it didn't work out, and then 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:29.120 I went and did some trauma therapy because I wanted to. 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:34.719 I wanted to investigate within myself what were the shortcomings 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.840 and the issues and how I show up in the 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.719 best way that I can, because I don't want to 0:08:39.760 --> 0:08:43.840 be in any more relationships that are so toxic, and 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.600 and I've just been chilling and I've been talking to people, 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:50.200 you know, I talked to somebody that I kind of like. 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.600 But I'm just taking my time, just you know, really 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.600 just chilling. I've been in a relationship my whole life, 0:08:57.600 --> 0:08:59.480 Like I feel it feels that way, you know. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.640 So it's kind of like your long term relationship after 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:03.679 long term relationship. 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.599 Yeah, yeah, yeah, since you were young since I was 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:08.840 a child. Yeah, so this. 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:10.920 Is your first time that you're like single. 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:13.760 This is my first time that I feel like I'm single. 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:17.959 And I'm gonna say, I say single andsane, but I 0:09:18.880 --> 0:09:21.480 say it, and you know, in just but I mean, 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:25.640 I think probably the most healthy that I've been as 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:29.200 a single person, because before when I was single, I 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:32.120 would I was I felt like I was missing something, 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:35.120 like I was incomplete, And it was because of all 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:36.960 the stuff they taught me when I was a young 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:39.560 girl and you know, always being told to find a 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:40.680 good man and not to. 0:09:42.840 --> 0:09:45.480 It's crazy that you say that because my sister, she's 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:47.760 been single for a while and we were just talking 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:49.640 yesterday and she's like, can you believe Mom just told 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:52.800 mely just have a kid as a single person, Like 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:54.760 what do you mean without a man? And she's like, yeah, 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:56.880 just have a kid just so you can check off 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:00.360 the kid box. I'm like, what's wrong with mom? And 0:10:00.400 --> 0:10:02.240 I don't want to just say Latina moms because the 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:08.319 pressure of like like all those boxes and it's twenty 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:11.480 twenty five, Like life is so different now that I 0:10:11.520 --> 0:10:16.400 feel as far as like feeling that pressure like the 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:17.439 poso like. 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:21.640 Nah and you know, when I think about some of 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:25.079 the men that I have, you know, entertained, not all 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:29.560 been in relationships with some bombs like that, should not 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:33.199 ever even have the opportunity to know me. Not because 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:35.840 I'm all that and I think I'm better than anybody, 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:39.080 but because I if I was in a sane, whole place, 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:44.160 I would never entertain these clowns. And so I it's 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.480 just the pressure of feeling like, oh, he has a 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:50.000 good job, he has money, he has a career, and 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:52.760 and still he's a clown. It's like, I don't you know, 0:10:53.320 --> 0:10:57.240 I think now I feel happy. I'm like, this is 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:59.280 the first time I've been happy and single. Like I 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.120 remember being in my room and waking up in the 0:11:02.160 --> 0:11:05.440 morning and just realizing that I was free, and I 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:09.200 just started crying of happiness, happiness, just that for you. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:12.040 I was so happy. I was like, oh, this is 0:11:12.040 --> 0:11:15.240 what it feels like to be to feel like I 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:18.760 love this quote I belong deeply to myself. That's beautiful, 0:11:18.800 --> 0:11:21.440 because I felt like I belonged to people, you know, 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:24.319 And it's just it feels good. So I'm chilling. I'm 0:11:24.400 --> 0:11:26.840 enjoying dating, and I don't believe the propaganda I do 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.760 believe if I want to be in a relationship, I 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.360 can be in one. But I don't choose not to. 0:11:31.600 --> 0:11:33.840 I just yeah, I don't want to be in any old, 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:35.800 raggedy relationship. 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:36.960 Just to be like I got a man. Yeah, oh 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.840 I got a girl. No man, a man? 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:43.200 Yeah. I just like, don't put that on me. I'm 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:46.559 oh cool, I'm cool. I just don't. I think when 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:48.680 I think about being in a relationship with a woman, 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.640 I think about myself. I remember my therapist was like, 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:53.760 would you date you? And I was like, heyll no. 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:56.000 Like I say it all the time, I'm like, I 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.520 don't know how women date women because just so very temperamental, 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:00.120 very mood. 0:12:00.240 --> 0:12:00.680 I'm a lot. 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:03.959 I wake up some days I'm like a hold on Nadia. Yeah, 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:07.160 hormones raging, and shit is not where it needs to be. 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.120 Imagine both of us together. 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.080 I just know I crashing out on our period. I 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:14.000 can't do we are not doing that. 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:18.680 I have really bad menstrual cycles. So I just was like, 0:12:18.840 --> 0:12:21.320 I'm just chilling. I'm having a good time. 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:25.959 From relationships, and I love that. Nobody asking you were 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:28.200 you going while you took that picture, while you posted 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:31.840 that story, Yes, Yes, that's stressed. Yeah, I wish I 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:32.560 shouldn't nobody. 0:12:32.760 --> 0:12:37.040 Yeah, also, you know, just enjoying learning myself in a 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:40.080 way where I've been talking to people and just learning 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.200 I don't like that, or that is a red flag 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:45.200 for me, or this is a deal breaker, or you know, 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.720 I really appreciate that he did this, or that he 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:51.080 said that. I've never learned this stuff. I've always been 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:55.120 told this is what you deserve, this is what you 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:58.960 should have, and now now that I've learned, No, it's 0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:03.120 not like I'm just enjoying really learning myself in a 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:05.600 way that I've never been able to do before, because 0:13:05.600 --> 0:13:08.240 I've been in these crazy. 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:11.360 Relationships so much noise that you can't even hear my 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:13.199 soul speak to you. 0:13:13.320 --> 0:13:18.320 Absolutely, And yeah, you know, my ex was very here's 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:20.640 a lot of opinions. He was always telling me stuff 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:24.199 about your career everything, just always you know, in authority 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.760 in so many things. A really wise man, but just 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:31.440 kind of daddy ish, very daddyish. And so when we 0:13:31.520 --> 0:13:34.280 broke up. I remember when I moved, I went to 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:37.600 a furniture store to because I was furnishing my new 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:41.560 place and I couldn't make a decision because I couldn't 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:43.800 get his voice out of my head and I started 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:47.520 crying in a furniture store because I kept saying, oh, 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:49.560 he would think this is a stupid move, or he 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:53.400 would think it to be able to unpack that like 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:56.360 in therapy and all of this stuff. I had just 0:13:56.480 --> 0:13:59.400 become the epitome of the women that I used to 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:02.520 the size when I was younger. I'm never gonna be 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.360 like that. And I had just become like that because 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:10.640 I didn't allow myself a moment to just listen to 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.160 my own voice. I was always listening to the voice 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:16.560 of the man in my life, and it just became 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:22.760 so overwhelming and so boring to listen to somebody just 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:24.080 because they say. 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:26.440 So, and then you start trusting their opinion more than 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:27.239 your own. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.280 And based on nothing of merit. You're like, you know, 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:34.080 just thinking back, like why did I listen to this 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:38.320 person and do this because they told me to look 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:41.480 at their life, like why are you listening to these people? 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.520 So and I know I'm long winded about the subject 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:49.720 because I want young women, especially younger women that are 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:57.000 always being told within our culture, yeah, look for yourself 0:14:57.240 --> 0:15:00.840 and find yourself before you go looking for somebody udos. 0:15:14.320 --> 0:15:16.800 And that's true. You know, find who you are and 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:18.680 you know if your partner comes and that also, like 0:15:18.760 --> 0:15:22.760 that's searching on the apps on this the dms can see. 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:25.119 That's got to be exhausting. 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:29.600 Yeah, yeah, I don't. I mean, I've met people that 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:33.080 I've gone out on date with, uh dates with through 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.600 social media who've d M me, but it's because it's 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:37.920 people that I know that know somebody that I know. 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:41.000 But that's not my goal to for dating. And the 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:42.560 apps just don't work for me. 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:45.880 People recognize you, like on the apps, they know exactly 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:47.720 what you use, your your full name. 0:15:48.600 --> 0:15:51.200 No I don't, but no, but you know I have 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:53.800 guys when they figure out who I am. This is 0:15:53.800 --> 0:15:56.640 the worst on the apps. I got a joke for you. 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:59.160 Oh my god, my god, please don't do that. 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:03.480 Yes, and it's like they'll tell you the joke and 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:04.000 you're like. 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:07.200 I was like, left, that's not funny. 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:11.200 On Match Yeah, on Match, I want my rolls back, 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:14.160 like everything every whatever's on the app. Look, so I 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:15.760 am not on an app. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:17.720 Let's talk comedy. 0:16:17.920 --> 0:16:18.800 Let's talk comedy. 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.960 I love you on stage, thank you. That's special when 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:23.760 you have the shorts I'm sorry, I couldn't focus on 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:27.120 nothing but your legs. I appreciate she got these good 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.840 ass legs. She got these shorts, she's moisturized. Like, I 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:32.360 love watching that special just because of the way you look. 0:16:32.720 --> 0:16:33.320 Thank you. 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:35.200 The jokes are good too, Don't get me wrong, but 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:36.960 you just look so good. And you know it's because 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:38.800 I expected you to be tall, because I'm like, she 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:43.440 don't got little legs, good tall woman legs. Yeah, you know, 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:49.960 I my grandmother was. I'm not saying yo what I'm weak, right, My. 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:53.560 Grandmother Dominican grandmother, my Puerto Rican grandmother. I never met 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:55.920 my Dominican grandmother, so I grew up with my Puerto 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:59.640 Rican grandmother was a matriarch of my family. Either I'm 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:02.880 her namesake, but we grew. I grew up with this 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.760 woman whose shoes always matched her purse. You know, she 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:09.240 never went out Nagula. She used to get her hair 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:15.120 done every Friday. Yeah, her nails were always done, and 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:17.800 it rubbed off on me, you know, Like I used 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:20.000 to go to the salon with her, Milady Salon for 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:24.400 the blowout every week, and so I just remembered her 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:26.520 when I when I went on television, because she used 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:29.439 to love to watch TV and she would always comment 0:17:29.520 --> 0:17:32.639 on the women being a legante and dressed well. So 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:35.119 I always I honor her that way. So when I 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:38.600 do my comedy specials, I'm always gonna dress up and 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:41.800 wear my heels and my makeup. It's me paying homage 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:42.600 to Mayamila. 0:17:43.160 --> 0:17:44.840 And you're doing a goddamn chop. 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:46.400 Thank you. 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:50.120 You look absolutely amazing. Now you're also an author, you're 0:17:50.119 --> 0:17:53.160 also an actress, you're also a producer. How many hats 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:54.800 does Idea Rodriguez wear? 0:17:56.160 --> 0:18:00.520 You know, I wear many? Your mom too, I am 0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:00.960 a mom. 0:18:01.119 --> 0:18:02.760 I forgot the most important title. 0:18:02.920 --> 0:18:05.520 I'm sorry, No, you don't have to apologize for that. 0:18:05.720 --> 0:18:09.640 That's That's been the greatest gift for me. And now 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:14.640 that I'm stepping into just becoming AIVA for Eiva, it's 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:16.439 been fun wearing a lot of hats. What I have 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:19.560 made a decision and is that whatever hat I'm wearing 0:18:19.600 --> 0:18:21.840 at the time, that's the hat I'm dedicated to so 0:18:21.880 --> 0:18:24.240 that I can do a good job. Because I see 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:26.439 a lot of people putting on all the hats at 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:30.280 the same time. And I'm an artist, so I like 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:33.760 to express myself differently. I don't have that narcissistic trait 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:37.119 that a lot of artists have that they need to 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:39.399 be recognized and acknowledged and seen. 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:40.600 I don't get that from you at all. 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:44.040 It's not my thing. So, like I directed these comedy 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:48.560 specials for these comedians and Dominican Ian Laura, who's a 0:18:48.760 --> 0:18:53.280 brilliant voice, and Marcella. I love just showing up in 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:56.240 my jeans with my sneakers and just directing them and 0:18:56.640 --> 0:18:59.840 putting shining the light on them. I just like to create. 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:03.439 It's this that's where that's where my sweet spot is. 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:07.000 So I am a writer though the writing is probably 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:09.040 the foundation of everything that I do. 0:19:10.160 --> 0:19:12.520 It's like the ground up right, Yeah, even even with 0:19:12.600 --> 0:19:15.200 your comedy, it's like you write the material and then 0:19:15.240 --> 0:19:17.440 you take it from there. So I can see. And 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:19.480 I love the fact that you know, you mentioned working 0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:23.239 with other women that do what you do, because in 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:26.360 some spaces, women feel like if I bring you up, 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:31.119 I'm not gonna eat absolutely not. You know, they close doors, 0:19:31.119 --> 0:19:34.239 they gatekeep, so you know you working with you know, 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:37.560 other women. I love that. It makes me happy. 0:19:38.080 --> 0:19:40.359 Yeah, I love it, And I think it's important because 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:44.480 when you think about latinas in the business, if we 0:19:44.560 --> 0:19:49.080 are really honest, the ones who are very visible, you 0:19:49.240 --> 0:19:52.600 can't think of other women that they've ushered into fame. 0:19:52.680 --> 0:19:56.520 They're too insecure. You know a lot of Latinas in 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:59.359 the business, and I know people I'm gonna get flack 0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:02.080 for this, but I don't care because we've been over sexualized. 0:20:02.119 --> 0:20:05.840 We're always very much objectified, and we become a shell 0:20:06.280 --> 0:20:09.200 this physical and then we start getting older and then 0:20:09.240 --> 0:20:12.639 what now, Because it's twenty five million beautiful young girls 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:14.720