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Speaker 2: It's stay or go. She'll like give us some advice. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 2: go today. If you said no, we would just want

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Speaker 2: have moved on. Hi, Kelly, Oh you gotta push that

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Speaker 2: on button. Hi Kelly, Sorry on It is important to

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Speaker 2: push when you're one. People are talking to radio. How

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Speaker 2: you doing.

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Speaker 3: Hey, I'm okay.

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Speaker 1: I wanted some advice.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, she's right into it man, like she did.

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Speaker 2: This is serious time.

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Speaker 1: No, not at all. All right, let's talk about this.

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Speaker 2: I have I'm going to pretend like I don't know

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Speaker 2: what you're to say, but I've read your note.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is about your boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: It is Yeah, we've been together for gosh six six

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Speaker 2: Years, okay, and so yeah, and you you witnessed something

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Speaker 2: rather unfortunate for you and for him quite frankly, because

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Speaker 2: nobody really wants to get caught, uh like this, But

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Speaker 2: explain what what did you see?

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Speaker 3: So? I had gotten home from work and I walked

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Speaker 3: in on him watching let's call it adult content, and

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Speaker 3: you will.

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Speaker 1: I see familiar.

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Speaker 2: I see, yeah on the fun iPad?

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Speaker 1: Did he have his did he have his full laptop?

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Speaker 1: It makes a difference. Was he in front of his

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Speaker 1: desktop computer? Was it a video? Is it a v

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Speaker 1: ahent projector? Why does it make a difference because I

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Speaker 1: need to know, like, if you have a projector out

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Speaker 1: like he wheeled out, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, if you're on my couch watching on my

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Speaker 2: eighty in it's not even sanitary. Okay now sorry, but

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Speaker 2: what is the answer though?

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Speaker 1: Was it the phone?

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Speaker 3: Luckily it wasn't a projector, but it was his iPad,

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Speaker 3: so it was a little bit bigger iPad.

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Speaker 1: That's serious.

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Speaker 3: Well, and that's why I was able to see it

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Speaker 3: very clearly. Uh that you know, it was not the

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Speaker 3: kind of adult content that I was expecting. Again, I watch,

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Speaker 3: I watched, There's nothing wrong with it. It was just

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Speaker 3: that he was watching. Uh gay man.

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Speaker 1: Walked out? She did walked out. You can't compete with that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: did you finish? All right? So you wow? All right?

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Speaker 2: So so you walk in on this first of the

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Speaker 2: logistics of the iPad too, it's I'm caught, I'm caught

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Speaker 2: on the details here. But so so you walk in.

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Speaker 2: He's watching content that is is not congruent with what

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Speaker 2: you thought he was into. Based on the fact that

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Speaker 2: you've been with him for six and a half years,

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Speaker 2: and did you did you say something of him, because look,

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Speaker 2: I mean, you're right, there's nothing wrong with consuming that

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Speaker 2: kind of content. I realized that it's slippery slope. There

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Speaker 2: can be other issues and connection issues, and there's a

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Speaker 2: lot of there's a lot of reasons why this could

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Speaker 2: be problematic. But in itself, watching that kind of content

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Speaker 2: is all right. And but but yet this was this

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Speaker 2: was not this was not what you thought he was into.

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Speaker 1: So you asked him about it. What does he say?

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Speaker 3: Well, I had said, like, what what is happening? And

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Speaker 3: he said he wanted to try something new and you know,

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Speaker 3: listen again, there's nothing wrong with it, and he said

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Speaker 3: it's fantasy, Like I'm not going to act on it.

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Speaker 3: People do that, like I, I don't want to do

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Speaker 1: Jason heard this one before.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I do think that it's okay to I

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Speaker 4: don't know you, I don't watch everything I would actually do, right, Like,

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Speaker 4: do you everything that you watch?

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Speaker 1: Are you actually going to try to do in real life?

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Speaker 1: That's point? Yeah, gay aunt you know, but you will.

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Speaker 3: And that's what he has said, like he flipped.

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Speaker 5: The script something going on, like watch two women?

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Speaker 3: So why like, what's wrong with me?

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Speaker 2: It's kind of a double standard. I will say, there

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Speaker 2: is a double is it? Everybody can be watching two

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Speaker 5: Not three women?

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Speaker 1: Do say that they watch that? Yeah, and that's no

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Speaker 5: That's true.

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Speaker 2: But then you know a couple of dudes and now

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Speaker 1: That is That is a good point. Is there's a

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Speaker 1: double standard there? Yeah, it was her.

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Speaker 1: There was like, oh no, it's another Tuesday at the house.

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Speaker 7: But because it's two men exactly bred Yeah, you're.

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Speaker 2: Right, but but I will say I don't like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: well we'll get to that, but like I don't, I

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Speaker 2: don't mean yeah, I'm starting to interrupt you, but I

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't say. I have vast conversations with my friends

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Speaker 2: about what sort of content they like, but none of

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Speaker 2: them have shared with me that they like watching two men.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know if that's just like another level

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Speaker 2: or if it's simply a double standard and I should

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Speaker 2: be able to watch that and no one should say

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Speaker 2: two things about it, Like I don't know, I don't

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Speaker 2: know why that is so so he's just fantasizing you

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Speaker 2: have other concerns. Have you ever had any other reason

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Speaker 2: to question and try if you can, to remove the

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Speaker 2: fact that you're now sort of influenced by what you

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Speaker 2: saw him watching. Have you ever had any concern other wise?

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Speaker 2: Like without this, never, I feel like sometime something happens

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Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I've been seeing the signs, but maybe

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Speaker 2: you're putting two things together that weren't already there. So never,

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Speaker 3: All of that, and we're I mean, you know, again,

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Speaker 3: we've been together forever, but it's not like, you know,

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Speaker 3: that is an issue for us. We are physical together,

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Speaker 3: you know. Of course, now I'm over analyzing everything, like

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Speaker 3: oh yeah, a couple of months ago when he said,

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Speaker 3: oh my gosh, that man is you know that he's

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Speaker 3: like an Adonis, and I thought to jump him.

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Speaker 2: I'd love to jump him intimately, but I love up

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Speaker 2: and you know that now you're concerned about that, I'm.

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Speaker 3: Thinking, yeah, of course. And then like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 3: thinking about that Adonnas at the supermarket?

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Speaker 2: Like, you know, if he's referring to other men as Adonnas,

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Speaker 2: maybe we yes, maybe, I mean, we have more to

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Speaker 2: We'll surveyed the room here as well. I appreciate you

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Speaker 2: sharing this. Have the radio on and let's see what

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Speaker 3: Good luck, Kelly, Thank you, I really appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Got it so in short, this man that she's been

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Speaker 2: with for six and a half years, she walked in

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Speaker 2: on him consuming content of two gay of two men,

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Speaker 2: of two men enjoying one another's company a lot, and

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Speaker 2: it's it's uncharacteristic. It's not what she thought he was into.

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Speaker 2: He's never expressed that before. And what I what I

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Speaker 2: jump to conclusions like I didn't want her to say. Well,

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Speaker 2: now that he did that, now I can connect the

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Speaker 2: dots to a bunch of other stuff. If he's really

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Speaker 2: calling other men adonis, then it's interesting. But here's the

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Speaker 2: other thing. It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't value her.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't mean that he doesn't value what they do together.

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Speaker 2: It's possible that the guy is by curious maybe, but

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Speaker 2: that doesn't that doesn't If the concern here is that

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Speaker 2: could mean that he has some kind of fantasy that

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Speaker 2: or the double standard that we referred to earlier, or whatever,

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Speaker 2: But like, I don't, I you're right if I walked

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Speaker 2: walked in she was watching two women. I wouldn't necessarily

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Speaker 2: assume that I'm no longer you know, she's not into me,

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Speaker 2: So I don't know why it would be fair to

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Speaker 6: Well, I just think sometimes like what we watch doesn't

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Speaker 6: really always equal like real life, especially like the Damsel

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Speaker 6: in Distress, Like, no, I will never like, you know,

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Speaker 2: That's good, sounds like something and have done many times

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Speaker 1: Like, did you not like look into that, you know

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Speaker 1: Like maybe it's new to him or in the situation,

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Speaker 2: If her concern is that, because why would you Okay,

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Speaker 2: think it necessarily means that. It could mean he also

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Speaker 2: So if that's her worry, then I don't necessarily think

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Speaker 2: that she that that one leads to the other. Now, Jason,

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Speaker 2: care for them, but you also did know, right, And

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Speaker 2: I don't mean to speak for you, but we've talked

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Speaker 2: about this at length for a decade or longer. You

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Speaker 2: gravitate towards. You were kind of doing it to conform, right.

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Speaker 9: I think like you sort of set out and think

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Speaker 9: the world. But I mean, I definitely did care for

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Speaker 9: the women that I was with, and.

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Speaker 2: So there's a world where he could maybe be with

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Speaker 9: Yeah, it's possible, people do that every single day. But

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Speaker 9: I think to jump to that conclusion just from this

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Speaker 1: A little much.

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Speaker 2: Six and a half years to be with someone while

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Speaker 2: very long time. And then for her to not see

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Speaker 5: You'll do it all the time though people live secret

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Speaker 10: I guess, yeah, I guess, Hey, Sarah, Yeah, Hey, what

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Speaker 10: do you think if you're just tuning in a woman

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Speaker 8: I think she should still stay. I think you know,

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Speaker 8: it's somewhat normal for you know, people to watch that. Again,

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Speaker 8: like you said, the double standard, and if you bisexual,

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Speaker 8: that still doesn't change you know how he feels about her.

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Speaker 2: I mean, now I can just now I'll have her

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Speaker 2: jokes like the George Michael posters all over the room.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know, you might have I don't know, Madonna.

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Speaker 2: He loves to go to he loves to go to

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Speaker 1: But you know what I mean, that's that's normal, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: You know you have a steam works all right?

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Speaker 2: All right, Sarah, So it's normal and and and so

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Speaker 2: she should stick with it.

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Speaker 1: I think so, yeah, okay, fair enough, Thank you, Sarah.

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Speaker 8: I have a good day, of course, Thanks you too.

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Speaker 1: Glad you called. Hey, Josie. How you doing, Josie? So

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Speaker 1: you call the radio station. Look alive, Josie.

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Speaker 2: Wait, we're on the radio station all right now, Thank

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Speaker 1: What say you?

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Speaker 11: I think she should stay okay? And I say that

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Speaker 11: past acted upon it. And we're still kind of working

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Speaker 11: through that whole what what what the heck did you do?

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Speaker 1: How did he act upon it?

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Speaker 2: Now? How did he did he act upon it before

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Speaker 2: Like when you say acted upon it and you work

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Speaker 11: So he before he met me, and it was with

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Speaker 11: he knew this person before he met me, and then

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Speaker 11: while we were dating, he acted upon it recently. So

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Speaker 11: we're still trying to work through that. And with our

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Speaker 11: I was being selfish, blah blah blah. So we're still

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Speaker 11: want to be with? And my answer was yet, Okay,

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Speaker 11: we are working. We are working through that, rebuilding that trust.

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Speaker 11: You know. Obviously, everyone has their fantasies, everyone has their

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Speaker 11: his feelings because he feels embarrassed about the things that

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Speaker 11: he likes in that aspect, but he has been more

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Speaker 10: Well.

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Speaker 1: I think that's a good sign. Right, that's good.

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Speaker 2: Now you you've opened the lines of communication. You've you've

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Speaker 2: So let's work through this and let's let's have an

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Speaker 11: Way exactly, and communication is key. And you're right. I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you're right, Josie. I'm glad you called.

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Speaker 2: I'm glad that I yelled at you to talk to me,

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Speaker 2: because this is a great call.

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Speaker 11: You welcome up.

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Speaker 1: I love you have a good day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, all these years later, man, Hey Amber, Hi, Hi Amber,

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Speaker 2: good morning.

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Speaker 1: Stare go go.

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Speaker 2: Why oh, well, with my opinion, if that was me

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Speaker 2: and I was with a man for over six years

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Speaker 5: Know I randomly saw him doing what he was doing

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Speaker 1: Night, morning, whatever.

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Speaker 12: Time of day it was, I would almost kind of

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Speaker 12: be like offended, almost in shock, especially if I didn't

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Speaker 12: I don't think I can be with somebody that's even

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Speaker 12: bisexual or has ever been with a man ever.

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Speaker 1: That's just, you know, not something that I'm into.

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Speaker 5: I'm completely heterosexual, and that's you know, how I would

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Speaker 5: six years is more than half a decade. That's you know,

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Speaker 5: a pretty good chunk of time for somebody that you've

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Speaker 5: you never knew about this, So for it to be

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Speaker 5: like new information, you know, I don't think it's worth.

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Speaker 1: Saying, Okay, fair enough, Amberg, thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 2: I think the bottom line is that if she really

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Speaker 2: and she can live with it, live with what she saw.

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Speaker 2: Then the only way is to have a dialogue and

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Speaker 2: to make the guy feel like she's comfortable with him,

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Speaker 2: and and maybe the end result is that we find

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Speaker 2: or that he has been repressing something. But like again,

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Speaker 2: you could shun it, and then he's never going to

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Speaker 2: tell you anything about anything, and you're always going to wonder,

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Speaker 2: or you can have the conversation is I don't know

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Speaker 2: that there's another choice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, seeing a man do that at all is a

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Speaker 1: little terrifying. So no matter what he's watching, you know,

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Speaker 1: how do you get that on your brain? Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: that's something that we you never you never want.

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Speaker 5: You kind of you know, I would look with so

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Speaker 5: much shame, Like if someone want to know you never

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Speaker 5: you never want to get coughing with myself.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I like it. I'd you off