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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and My

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and People's Choice Award nominated podcast. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 1: We are live from the Lobster in Santa Monica. Tanya

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Speaker 1: was supposed to be here a few years ago for

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, but she ended up getting sick. So how

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Speaker 1: It feels so good to be here for the first time.

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Speaker 1: You know. I it was gonna be like a wonderful

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day. My boyfriend had planned like a really fantastic

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Speaker 1: evening reservations here at the Lobster for the both of

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Speaker 1: us and just got too drunk and ended up spending

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Speaker 1: the night yakking on the toilet. So I never got

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Speaker 1: to make it. So now I'm here, We'll let me

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Speaker 1: tell you. We have the most incredible view of the

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Speaker 1: Santa Monica Pere and the ocean and the beach. It

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Speaker 1: is quite magnificent. It feels good to be back. I

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Speaker 1: missed the west side. I'm in the valley now and

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Speaker 1: I missed the west side. Every time I come over here,

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Speaker 1: I'm like the ocean breeze feels good. It does feel good.

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Speaker 1: It's like ten degrees cooler. It takes a lot for

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Speaker 1: me to get Tanya to admit that she misses the

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Speaker 1: West Side. I feel like, does that thing the West Side?

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Speaker 1: I'm very happy where I'm at. You said you missed

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Speaker 1: the one, but I do love the West Side. Yeah. Um, well,

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Speaker 1: we're here tonight. We're doing a little voting party for

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Speaker 1: the People's Choice Awards because today is the last day

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Speaker 1: to vote, so get your votes in. If there was

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Speaker 1: ever a time to vote, this is the day. This

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Speaker 1: is literally the last day you have. It's game day.

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Speaker 1: It's game day. Yeah, And we haven't officially been invited,

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Speaker 1: so we don't know if we're going or not. But

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Speaker 1: we decided that if we are going, we're gonna be

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Speaker 1: wearing shades of gold. Yeah. And when she says like

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Speaker 1: we've decided, it was really just Dawnia suggestion, and I

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Speaker 1: just go, alright, great gold. Nothing easy to find a

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Speaker 1: gold ensemble. You know. I love a matching moment. I

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Speaker 1: if we got invited. We don't want to plan too much.

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Speaker 1: Last year we had a speech planned and we didn't

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Speaker 1: even get announced. So we're just gonna let things happen natural,

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Speaker 1: just natural, just so Lucy Goosey, Yeah, Lucy Lucy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what have you been doing? I feel like I saw

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Speaker 1: haven't properly caught up. We haven't had a lot of

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm yeah, because we've spent a lot of

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Speaker 1: like I need undivided attention. Yeah. We're in like big

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Speaker 1: So that was not quality time. And there was a driver.

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Speaker 1: Senior a butterfly, and I appreciate the fact that, like

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Speaker 1: It's like I always try to remain hopeful and like

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Speaker 1: gone out, he had just gotten out of a relationship

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Speaker 1: or something that night. I don't know. I'm interested. I

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Speaker 1: would like to hear her, come on and tell because

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Speaker 1: it's pretty cool story. I know. That's how I feel

429
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Speaker 1: about this, Mia, Mia Maya, I know, am i A.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly how her story is. Honestly, it's the most compelling.

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Speaker 1: It's the most compelling story I've heard in a while. Yeah,

432
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Speaker 1: something like that. Yeah, I can text her right now. Yeah,

433
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Speaker 1: even if she just I could have totally butchered at

434
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Speaker 1: both something of this like that, but it was It's

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Speaker 1: just really cool because I think when you're just you know,

436
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Speaker 1: she thought that she was going to meet this guy

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Speaker 1: on her thirty day trial, and she had already met him,

438
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Speaker 1: but the timing wasn't right, so just you never know. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I've been actually just really trying to be a little

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Speaker 1: bit more intentional and like, um quiet about my prayer.

441
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Speaker 1: And that's why I really want to get back into

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Speaker 1: like reading my Bible and this my worship music. Because

443
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,440
Speaker 1: she she was saying in this how like God whispers

444
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Speaker 1: to us. He's not like shouting at us, He whispers,

445
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Speaker 1: And so I've been really trying to like make myself

446
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Speaker 1: quiet and give myself time so that I can like

447
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Speaker 1: hear what it's really hard, hear what he's trying to

448
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Speaker 1: say to me. It's really good. It's so good. I'm

449
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Speaker 1: going to send you the and I'll put it in

450
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Speaker 1: the Facebook group so that you guys can hear what

451
00:23:34,280 --> 00:23:38,639
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. It is at forty forty minutes and

452
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:42,359
Speaker 1: it's such a compelling story, So I'll pop it in

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna do something that we've never done before

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Speaker 1: in the wild. We are going to have Normally we

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Speaker 1: ask you as to submit your questions over email, but

511
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Speaker 1: since we're here at our voting party, we have Sarah

512
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:05,199
Speaker 1: who is going to ask us a question live on

513
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Speaker 1: the podcast. So batter up. Okay. So Becca, I know

514
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship and we all respect and love that.

515
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: But I know all of you um have been on

516
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:22,880
Speaker 1: you know, the apps before. What's the weirdest or creepiest

517
00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:26,479
Speaker 1: thing creepy that a guy has ever said to you

518
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 1: or maybe you've said to him, Kanya, I feel like

519
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Speaker 1: you have like a good one, Like what's the weird

520
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 1: things you've said, Tanka, because we've all been there. I

521
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: love that she assumes that it was you that said

522
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:40,240
Speaker 1: something creepy. Always I always take it creepy. I would

523
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: love it if it Rebecca, But I don't know. Well,

524
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 1: when I was on dating apps, it was I only

525
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: really like did that to where it went anywhere before

526
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 1: The Bachelor. So I went on like four bad tender

527
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:55,439
Speaker 1: dates and then I was like, I gotta come up

528
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 1: with another way of doing this because like I just

529
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: let them come to me. That my tactic. I mean

530
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: I say it here all the time. If they want you,

531
00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 1: don't come after you. However, things have changed. I was

532
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,560
Speaker 1: like five years ago, and guys are lazier now, and

533
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: they're creepier now, Like they're they're like braver to say

534
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:18,919
Speaker 1: creepy and do creepy things. Um. I don't think anything

535
00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:21,920
Speaker 1: I've said is weird, but I also say weird things

536
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,680
Speaker 1: all the time, so I don't know there's something in particular.

537
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 1: But I did have a guy once asked me, um,

538
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:29,639
Speaker 1: his opening line was breakfast for dinner, question Mark, And

539
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my gosh, I love eggpods, like yeah,

540
00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: and then he stopped talking to me. Wait was it sexual?

541
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's I feel like I was missing something,

542
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 1: Like I feel like it was something sexual. I didn't

543
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:49,000
Speaker 1: pick up them. Yeah, dodged a bullet. I do love

544
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: breakfast for dinner. I know it's like eggpods for like

545
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, he's probably thinking more pancakes and you

546
00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:55,800
Speaker 1: can write or he was probably thinking like morning sex

547
00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 1: or something like that. Probably and he thank you so

548
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 1: much for your love. You love it. Wait this is

549
00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:22,120
Speaker 1: so fun. I'm so nervous and just started at Macy's.

550
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 1: So tell me, tell me more about this pink and

551
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: red coat you have. Um, So, it's this really awesome girl.

552
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I'm a net um from Becca Tilly bar three.

553
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Speaker 1: Go get it. It's great. It's on sale. I saw

554
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Speaker 1: it online. It's on sale. Looks amazing on you. Thank

555
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Speaker 1: you so much. I feel amazing. I feel like a

556
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 1: modern woman truly. Um So, Becca, I kind of asked

557
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Speaker 1: you in this in the line, but I wanted to

558
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Speaker 1: know what you if you know, like you're in your

559
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Speaker 1: grand style and how has that effected you and like

560
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 1: the way you just react to other people or the

561
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 1: way people react to you, because in my church we're

562
00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:58,840
Speaker 1: going through it and like through the Gospel and what

563
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 1: that looks like. So I wanted to know if you

564
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Speaker 1: have any experience in that. What was Jesus? Do you

565
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Speaker 1: think I would say it? Not want because he was perfect?

566
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Speaker 1: And I don't think he was any style because he

567
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Speaker 1: was perfect. That's a good point. I love the test

568
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: because it totally opened my eyes to not only just

569
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Speaker 1: how I think and how I react, but to how

570
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:34,560
Speaker 1: other people do and when I don't understand their reaction

571
00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: and like knowing that it is based on our personality types.

572
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 1: And I always have this, especially because Tanny and I

573
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 1: could not be more different. I'm like, why does Tan

574
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: I'm just like, you know, for a long time, I

575
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Speaker 1: was like, why does Tanya react to certain things this way?

576
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Speaker 1: Or like why does she need this for me? Or

577
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: like when I affirmation and love we all just need it. Okay,

578
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:03,720
Speaker 1: you are need it more more than others verbally, physically, emotionally, mentally,

579
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: but I literally it like really helped me understand people

580
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Speaker 1: in another level and also understand myself why I am

581
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: such a people pleaser and why I hate confrontation because

582
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 1: I'm always like I feel sometimes like, um like limited

583
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: by it because it feels like oh, hindered, hindered, handcuffed, handcuffed,

584
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Speaker 1: tied down. But it's just helped me understand not only

585
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,880
Speaker 1: other people but also myself. Um, I've never felt more

586
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: seen than when I discovered that I was a one

587
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: wing too, because I was like, oh my gosh, this

588
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: explains it in a better way than I ever could

589
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: explain myself. And then this is what I found wildly

590
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: fascinating finding out the number that of the person that

591
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: you're dating is also so good because like other numbers,

592
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: like there's one the guy that I was just dating,

593
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,160
Speaker 1: he was a three, and you're like not supposed to

594
00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: bother them all there at work. So I was like

595
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: very hyper aware of that because I was like, when

596
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: you're at work, if I text you, like, it's cool

597
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 1: if you don't text me back for a while, Like

598
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:08,320
Speaker 1: I'm such a breezy girl, Like I'm three, you're three? Yeah,

599
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Speaker 1: I think I am. You're nine. Well, sometimes you don't

600
00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 1: like to be bothered, You're not. You're definitely You're definitely

601
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:17,520
Speaker 1: not a three. Kelty Night is a three. Yeah. Yeah,

602
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 1: But I think it's so important to find out like

603
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Speaker 1: what you are and the person that you're with, the

604
00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 1: people in your life. So you said you're one wing too,

605
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 1: I'm a one wing two. So it's like perfectionist with Helper.

606
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 1: I think, Helper, what are you? What do you think

607
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Speaker 1: I am? I know you don't know me, but if

608
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Speaker 1: you had to guess, what do you do for a living?

609
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 1: Um So, I work for a nonprofit at a summer

610
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Speaker 1: camp and I'm a manager MS six close five seven,

611
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 1: I'm a seven? What is that one? Um So? That's

612
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 1: like the enthusiasts so very like about what you are.

613
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: Marks with seventh to Mark's seven. I love being a seven.

614
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 1: My best one of my best friends is a seven.

615
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:07,920
Speaker 1: So sometimes it's a little much, but it's wow. Well,

616
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,719
Speaker 1: that is a great question. Thank you. I love that topic.

617
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: I want to do like a study on it and

618
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: actually like delve into the different numbers because there's so

619
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 1: much information. There's so many books. Do you want some books?

620
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 1: I just haven't read it yet. Are you reading The

621
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:22,840
Speaker 1: Road Back to You? That's the one I got. Yes,

622
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: it's really good and they have a podcast and they're

623
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 1: cute like twiny accents, and it's like, I'm gonna add

624
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:30,959
Speaker 1: that to my tongue spreadsheet and the book and all

625
00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 1: of red stuff. So columns with books in every column,

626
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Speaker 1: that's a better watch out because I'm coming fire hot

627
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Speaker 1: as a seven. I don't have a spreadsheet. I don't

628
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Speaker 1: I've never had a spreadsheet. Thank you so much. Thank

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Speaker 1: you for asking a question. Step right up. Gorgeous hair color.

630
00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 1: I always say, if I'm gonna go red, this is

631
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Speaker 1: the color reds do it best. So my name is Dianna.

632
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Speaker 1: So we're going to play a game of f Mary kill.

633
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Bachelor villains? So um, all right, Chad Johnson,

634
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Speaker 1: Luke P and Jed Wyatt, and I want to hear

635
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Speaker 1: reasons why you know this is as like at this

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Speaker 1: type of confrontational type of game stresses me off so much.

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Speaker 1: Anybody when I can do it because I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know any of them except for except for Jed.

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Speaker 1: So sure, I'll marry Jed because he's the only one

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Speaker 1: I know. And then I'll I'll f luke P. Which

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643
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644
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Speaker 1: the other one, kill Chad. I've seen Chad's Twitter. I'm

645
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646
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Speaker 1: I don't remember him. I don't remember him. I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry Um. This is the game I know,

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Speaker 1: look at I'm gonna also marry Jed. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm not because I think that he

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Speaker 1: could be a cheater, right, Yeah, yeah, he cheated. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna kill him and then I'm gonna I guess

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Speaker 1: Mary luke p. We're gonna be very biblical together. Yeah okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: I know same that. Um I know you're in a

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695
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Speaker 1: It really sucks. And I want to hear from both

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Speaker 1: of you, like I guess the best advice somebody's giving

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Speaker 1: you in that time of kind of just being really

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Speaker 1: think it's really important to one UM. I was listening

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Speaker 1: to this podcast with Rich Wilkerson, and it said, don't

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Speaker 1: let your pain define you, let it refine you. And

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Speaker 1: sometimes you have to break things, like use this analogy

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Speaker 1: capacity in the person that you are. Sometimes you need

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Speaker 1: to break down walls to open up the space. And

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Speaker 1: person or you need to change anything about who you are.

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741
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Speaker 1: That was amazing. I've been doing a lot of thinking

742
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747
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751
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Speaker 1: so yeah, I'm putting I don't remember your name, but

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Speaker 1: I got married a year ago. So and you've never

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Speaker 1: You don't fly under a rangar. Here, what's your name, Tyler? Tyler?

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Speaker 1: That's a great name, Tyler an Tanya. I don't w

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Speaker 1: some questions. I don't know, ye ask a man pan.

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Speaker 1: So you're like you strike me as like a duty dude,

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Speaker 1: How old are you doing? My math? When did you

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Speaker 1: getting married. That's great. Yeah, do you feel the laser

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Speaker 1: she could have done at the beginning that would have um,

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Speaker 1: So I don't think she could have really done anything

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Speaker 1: like scare me away. We maybe would have had to

847
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 1: like figure some stuff out if there was some like

848
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 1: you know, things that were conflicts, but I knew that

849
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: we had like the same foundational values and like, yeah,

850
00:46:56,360 --> 00:46:58,799
Speaker 1: the most important thing, So did you? Were you very

851
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 1: good at making her feel stick care in the relationship

852
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:04,799
Speaker 1: from the beginning? I tried. Yeah, I definitely tried, but

853
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 1: I think sue her hard. Yeah. We met online and

854
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:13,840
Speaker 1: so it was kind of like a well, okay Cupid,

855
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 1: I guess it's a website, Okay, okay, Yeah, I like

856
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 1: that one because I was looking for a Christian. I'm

857
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:21,960
Speaker 1: a Christian, so I was looking for someone that was

858
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:25,280
Speaker 1: a Christian, and on Okay Cupid, you could at least

859
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:28,720
Speaker 1: like you could search by girls that say that they're Christians.

860
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:32,839
Speaker 1: So that was yeah, that was kind of the That

861
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 1: was like number one. That was like the most important thing. Yeah,

862
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:37,880
Speaker 1: and then everything else just fell into place. This is

863
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:42,279
Speaker 1: great intel. Yeah right, yeah, Tony was already logging into her.

864
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 1: I recommend it. Yeah, that's just so funny because it's

865
00:47:47,360 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 1: like we all tell ourselves these stories of like, well

866
00:47:49,920 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: maybe if I was like Chiller, he wouldn't have you know,

867
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 1: it's like no into someone. Yeah, if you do, you

868
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:00,799
Speaker 1: just have any advice for just roles in general, not

869
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 1: me specifically, because I don't know. I mean, not to

870
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 1: sound closh, but like just be yourself, I guess, And

871
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 1: I know, like like what you guys, you just said

872
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 1: it where if I mean, you need to look for

873
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 1: that guy that wants you as much as you want

874
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: them and loves you as much as you love them,

875
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,439
Speaker 1: So like that's just gonna happen, Like it's you're gonna

876
00:48:19,440 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 1: find that and um yeah, tough man, it's tough out there.

877
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 1: Tough when you give like a luck hundred and ten

878
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: percent of people and you get like twenty back. Do

879
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 1: you have any single friends or what most of my friends. Yeah,

880
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 1: and you know what songs right now? Oh yeah, sorry,

881
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:38,959
Speaker 1: I forgot to give me in songs until the cute

882
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 1: guy DM sor something. All right. So here we have

883
00:48:43,160 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 1: the other half of the wedded bliss Tyler and wearing

884
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:49,880
Speaker 1: a very cute jump suit. But I did say three everyone,

885
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: it's beautiful. Um. I just want to say, Tonia, I

886
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,520
Speaker 1: was like a hundred ten percent. I'm like the person

887
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 1: who can't be chilling relationships. It's like when I like someone,

888
00:48:58,920 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 1: it's like I fall hard. I felt hard for him,

889
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: and like he will be the first to admit like

890
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: his feelings weren't. I don't think he felt as hard

891
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 1: for me as I felt for him. Interesting, Yeah, it's

892
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: fine because it's like I had to be patient and

893
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 1: I had to learn that. Like even if it's not

894
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 1: this perfect like chick flick fairy tale where it's like,

895
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:18,399
Speaker 1: oh he wants me like more than I want him

896
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,320
Speaker 1: at the beginning, it's like it worked out and eventually

897
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: it's like he just took time to catch up, you know,

898
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,080
Speaker 1: like with his feelings. How long did you all date

899
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:30,879
Speaker 1: before you got engaged? Like about three years? So how

900
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: and within how many dates before you knew. Did you

901
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 1: have a moment of what he's it or did it

902
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:41,520
Speaker 1: take a while like on the first dag about him?

903
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:48,279
Speaker 1: How many dates did it take? Yeah, I need him

904
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 1: to get on the mic. I just I've never been

905
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:57,560
Speaker 1: in love before, so I didn't know what that felt like,

906
00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:00,440
Speaker 1: what that meant, like, I had never experienced that before,

907
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:03,920
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't say that I like, I didn't know

908
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:06,280
Speaker 1: I felt that way. I just was like figuring out

909
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:09,840
Speaker 1: like what those feelings even were and when around what

910
00:50:10,239 --> 00:50:12,799
Speaker 1: were I mean, I could say from the first day

911
00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: I knew something was very different, where it was like, Okay,

912
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 1: this is somebody that I could really see myself. And

913
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 1: then did you and then and then like, at what

914
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: point did you get scared or nervous at all? I

915
00:50:21,719 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 1: was never scared or nervous. It was it just always

916
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:28,400
Speaker 1: felt right. I mean yeah, even in like moments that

917
00:50:28,440 --> 00:50:30,560
Speaker 1: it was hard, it was like, well, I I just

918
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 1: want to figure it out. I don't want to you know,

919
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:35,879
Speaker 1: did you feel that he was scared or nervous? Did

920
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:37,880
Speaker 1: you feel like you had to like play it cool

921
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: because the feelings like you felt so strongly immediately? Um,

922
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:45,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's like I think I'm just not

923
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 1: good at playing it cool, so I probably should have,

924
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 1: but I was just like I always tell Tonia, with

925
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:53,880
Speaker 1: the right person, you're not gonna happen, you know. And

926
00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:55,919
Speaker 1: I told him I loved him first, and he didn't

927
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:57,960
Speaker 1: say it back for a while and I cried. There

928
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,360
Speaker 1: were tears, but you know what, I just had to

929
00:51:00,400 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 1: be patient, and eventually he was like, I want to

930
00:51:02,560 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 1: tell you when I feel, you know when I feel,

931
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,400
Speaker 1: And even with proposing, it's like he waited and I

932
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 1: just had to be really patient, and it doesn't mean

933
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:12,280
Speaker 1: he loves me any less, but it's like he's different.

934
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,080
Speaker 1: I'm more like a go getter, like I want to

935
00:51:14,080 --> 00:51:16,239
Speaker 1: get married tomorrow, and he's more like I need to

936
00:51:16,280 --> 00:51:19,439
Speaker 1: get my ducks in a row, you know. But it's

937
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 1: like it's still worked out fine. So it's like, don't

938
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:24,359
Speaker 1: be scared of being over the top, because when they

939
00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: love you, they love you. And even if you're like

940
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 1: creepy like I want to get married, like it's gonna

941
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 1: be okay. It's so funny because it's not like I

942
00:51:31,680 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 1: don't really like want to get married tomorrow, but I'm

943
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 1: just a lot in general, you know what. I mean like,

944
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 1: I'm just a lot, but I just don't think you're

945
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: I don't think you're gonna be a lot for the

946
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: person that you end up, right, Like, look at you.

947
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:47,919
Speaker 1: I'm a lot with you and you're still my best friend.

948
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 1: I don't think, Yeah, I don't think you can mess

949
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:54,759
Speaker 1: it up. When it's wow, you guys can be getting

950
00:51:54,800 --> 00:52:02,920
Speaker 1: around a blas wow. So we want to say a

951
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 1: giant thank you again to the Lobster at Santa Monica

952
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 1: for hosting us tonight. We had the best time ever

953
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:12,440
Speaker 1: meeting all of our scrub sisters. Um Chef Armstrong has

954
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:15,720
Speaker 1: been here for over two years, creating amazing new dishes

955
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:18,400
Speaker 1: to add to the already scrumptious menu. I'm so hungry

956
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:21,439
Speaker 1: and so excited to eat this food tonight. This past July,

957
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 1: they actually celebrated their twenty year anniversary, over twenty people

958
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:27,880
Speaker 1: that have been here since day one, and October is

959
00:52:28,120 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 1: National Seafood lun didn't know that. That's so exciting. How appropriate.

960
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:34,239
Speaker 1: And they have a new happy hour that is from

961
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:37,480
Speaker 1: three pm to six pm. That is so good. That

962
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:40,320
Speaker 1: seems to be right now prime time. I hate that

963
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 1: happy hours usually start at five. I'm like why not

964
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:45,479
Speaker 1: start up earlier? So this is great. Also, I wish

965
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: you could see the amazing cake for the event tonight.

966
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:51,400
Speaker 1: It's from Half Baked Coke for the cutest cake ever.

967
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: They're located in Bourbank, California, and they offer vegan and

968
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 1: gluten free desserts and custom cakes. I'm telling you, I

969
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 1: cannot wait to post photos of this cake. It's so

970
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:02,960
Speaker 1: freaking cute. They're goodies, are baked with half the fat

971
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 1: and sugar, but all the same great taste. So you

972
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 1: can follow them on Instagram. Their Instagram handle is at

973
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:12,000
Speaker 1: half Baked co Thank you guys so much. Yeah, it's

974
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:15,560
Speaker 1: did you see it? It's so cute. It's seriously so cute.

975
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 1: I cannot I don't want to cut it, but I

976
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 1: need to cut it. You know. I'm to go take

977
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:23,279
Speaker 1: photos in front of it. Okay, Yeah, we're gonna take

978
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: photos and we'll cut it. Um, thank you all so

979
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:30,359
Speaker 1: much for listening. Today has been such a great day.

980
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 1: We got to meet so many of our listeners. It

981
00:53:32,640 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 1: was so fun. As always, UM, thank you for voting.

982
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 1: Today is your last day, so make sure you get

983
00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 1: in those votes. Use as many emails as you can find. Um. Yeah,

984
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 1: quick shout out to to Serbia for being really loyal

985
00:53:45,200 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 1: in the voting department. Yeah, Serbia is really uh my

986
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 1: my family in particular is really really kicked it up

987
00:53:52,719 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 1: and notch this this year, so more than last year,

988
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:59,759
Speaker 1: I think. So thank you to Serbia. Um, thank you too.

989
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:02,919
Speaker 1: What we're listening today and we hope you have a

990
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 1: great weekend. We love you, mhm.