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Speaker 1: The Jewels Show on demand, Jewels dirty Little Secret? Hello, Hey,

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Speaker 1: what's up? This is the Jewel Show And you texted

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Speaker 1: us at four one oh six one and said that

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Speaker 1: you had a dirty little secret, So we're calling you back. Hi. Hi,

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Speaker 1: good morning, Hi, good morning, good morning. What's up. Do

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Speaker 1: you have time to tell us your dirty little secret

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Speaker 1: right now? Yeah? I do, Yeah, I got a few minutes. Okay, great,

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Speaker 1: what's your dirty little secret? Okay? My dirty little secret

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Speaker 1: is that I am still in love with my ex. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I mean we all have like a soft spot for

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Speaker 1: certain xes, I think, especially if they were like a

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Speaker 1: first true love. But how how how much of it?

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Speaker 1: I just realized, Christian, with my relationship history, I don't

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Speaker 1: have a soft spot for any of them. I've had

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Speaker 1: really better relations I'm like, man, thank god I got

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Speaker 1: out of that one. Had two exes, the odds favorite.

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Speaker 1: I keep going back to my ex. So tell us, like,

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Speaker 1: what level of are you just still crushing a little bit?

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Speaker 1: Are you talking like full fledged, you know, still still

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Speaker 1: in love with your ex. I'm like, full fledge still

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Speaker 1: in love with him. But he's like the problem is that, Like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I should be totally mad at him because

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Speaker 1: he cheated. I mean, oh, but like two years has

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Speaker 1: gone by and I'm still I still love him. I

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Speaker 1: mean like he's moved on, he's married. Oh well there

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Speaker 1: still might be a shot. Yeah, true, God, but his

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Speaker 1: like I look at his new wife's Instagram and there's

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Speaker 1: like pictures of like a baby shower, like she's gonna

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Speaker 1: she's expecting. Um. Yeah, but like I drove by their

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Speaker 1: house the other day and it's like, wait, what, I

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Speaker 1: don't know what I was like, well, I don't know

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Speaker 1: I was expecting to see I don't know. It's a try.

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Speaker 1: It's making me kind of crazy. Wait, you drove past

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Speaker 1: their house? Yeah, and what what? What was your goal?

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Speaker 1: Did you want to be close to them? I'm not sure.

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Speaker 1: Maybe like if I could just like catch a glimpse

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Speaker 1: of him, or I mean, what do you go down

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Speaker 1: the window and say, yeah, I don't know, I don't

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Speaker 1: know what to do. I mean, well, like I'm questioning

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Speaker 1: about the house real quick. Is it on the route

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Speaker 1: to and from where you were going? Or did did

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Speaker 1: you make a specially I had to kind of way.

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Speaker 1: She said it was about half an hour. It said

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Speaker 1: a couple states over you might ride you might not

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Speaker 1: be in love with him anymore, And I said, I

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Speaker 1: think I totally am. I think you're obsessed with him,

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Speaker 1: And I don't mean that like in a crazy way.

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Speaker 1: I think love and obsession are very close things, right.

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Speaker 1: I think I've been obsessed with people before, not actually

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Speaker 1: in love with him until I fell in love and

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is what love feels like.

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Speaker 1: Before I was obsessed. And when I was obsessed, I

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Speaker 1: let that relationship just take over my life. I let

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Speaker 1: those people take over my life and they became all

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Speaker 1: I thought about. Is he like all you think about? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, like I guess pretty much. Yeah. So I

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Speaker 1: don't think that's love. I think that's obsession. Yeah, And

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Speaker 1: you could be obsessed with just the idea of having

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Speaker 1: that closure that maybe you didn't get because he did

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Speaker 1: you wrong, you know, And now rather than moving on

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Speaker 1: from the trauma he calls, you're just trying to sort

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Speaker 1: of remedy what he did to you, you know, And

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Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with that. I mean, you're you're the

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Speaker 1: victim in the situation. I believe, you know, because I

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Speaker 1: think he hurt you, and I think it's you just

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Speaker 1: need to try and pull yourself out of that. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to keep on putting yourself through that

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Speaker 1: same trauma, you know, like stopping by, looking at the

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Speaker 1: Instagram and all of that. I feel like it's just

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Speaker 1: like reliving that, like what you went through with him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you guys are truly right. I can't tell

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Speaker 1: my friends this show, So I don't know if you

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Speaker 1: agree or not that it's obsession or not love. That's

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Speaker 1: honestly what I think. And the way to deal with that,

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Speaker 1: what I believe, is to is to find another thing

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Speaker 1: to be obsessed with. Right, then you'll forget about him. So,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, speed walking, become obsessed with speed walking?

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Speaker 1: I mean, it looks cool when people do it, right,

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Speaker 1: but then you know, but like making an obsession, that's healthy,

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Speaker 1: what I mean, like working out? Right, get obsessed with

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Speaker 1: working out, and then all of a sudden you'll notice

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Speaker 1: you're obsessed with that. You're thinking about that all the time,

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Speaker 1: and not him, right angel find someone new in the process. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: someone wise once told me the best way to get

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Speaker 1: over someone is to get under someone else, exactly. There's

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Speaker 1: also that that's also just my weekend. Thanks for your

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Speaker 1: dirty little secret. Nicole The Jebel Show on demand,