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Speaker 1: go to Bethany dot com, b E t h E

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Speaker 1: in this competitive industry. Welcome our guests. Justin long enjoy Well,

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Speaker 1: so i'm it seems like you're the same, uh and

427
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 1: you can really diffuse. I mean, I'll say to Paul,

428
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:57,360
Speaker 1: I'll go I'll say about somebody they could go fuck themselves.

429
00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,439
Speaker 1: And Paul will say, when I hear you, I hear

430
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,680
Speaker 1: the Queen like I hear the Crown when I when

431
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 1: I hear you, I think of the Crown. Because humor

432
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,479
Speaker 1: can diffuse so much in a relationship. And those death banter,

433
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,000
Speaker 1: yes for sure, and it lasts. It outlasts everything I

434
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 1: mean in it outlasts any kind of I think physical

435
00:23:14,320 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 1: I mean hopefully not, well maybe not. Maybe you can

436
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 1: have them both forever. All right, So I want to

437
00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: switch gears because I was shocked and I don't know

438
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,720
Speaker 1: that much always about what goes on, and I don't

439
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 1: read all of the articles about things. But I was

440
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 1: shocked about and I hope you can talk about it

441
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:34,120
Speaker 1: or okay talking about this. This a crazy abduction story

442
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,720
Speaker 1: that you had jumping out of a moving car? Is

443
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: that like, is that even real? Oh? Yeah, that's really funny.

444
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,360
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're lying like, oh my abduction. Yeah. Well,

445
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:45,960
Speaker 1: I wondered what you were going to say, and I

446
00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: thought it's funny as you were saying crazy abduction story.

447
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:52,440
Speaker 1: It was, but I guess I don't think of it

448
00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 1: that way, even though you're totally right. It's it's just

449
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 1: a much more dramatic way of saying it. I guess

450
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,200
Speaker 1: that than my than how I keep it in my brain.

451
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 1: But you're totally right. It was an abduction. It was

452
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 1: something that I talked about on just a basic abduction

453
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,479
Speaker 1: Well it was, I got really it's hard. It's one

454
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: of those stories that's very hard to nutshell and it's

455
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,080
Speaker 1: it's a long story. But I told it on Dax's

456
00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 1: podcast when I did that to help kind of launch

457
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 1: our own podcast, and Dax had asked me, this is

458
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 1: an example of like we had been talking about earlier,

459
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 1: where is the line, you know what, how do you

460
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 1: separate the things that you really want to protect in

461
00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:30,880
Speaker 1: your personal life? And this was one of those things

462
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 1: that I had told Dax years ago and kind of

463
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,159
Speaker 1: forgot it I told him because when it happened, I

464
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 1: was telling people, Yeah, I don't know DA's that well,

465
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: but like I was telling it was such a shocking thing,

466
00:24:42,119 --> 00:24:46,160
Speaker 1: and it coincided with kind of coincided with a breakup,

467
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 1: and so I was going through all these like pretty

468
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: heavy things and I was trying to make sense of it.

469
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: And so you just talk about those things when you

470
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: when you're I wasn't in therapy at the time I

471
00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:58,880
Speaker 1: should have been. And it seems to real it sounds like, oh,

472
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: it didn't even its reempt it. You made it up,

473
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: like my reaction to that, Bethany you I mean, it

474
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:07,520
Speaker 1: was in fact an abduction, and yet I'm not able

475
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 1: to like you're right. I had this kind of glib reaction.

476
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 1: I'm the same as you. I was so similar in

477
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: high school. I was held at gunpoint and I had

478
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:16,439
Speaker 1: to say later on, it's like I made it up.

479
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 1: I did not hit up, but it feels like that.

480
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 1: So anyway, we're on your abduction. We're not on my

481
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: gun point. We're on your abduction. At one point during

482
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 1: the abduction, I had thought that's what was going to

483
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: happen to me, because they were It's again, it's a

484
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 1: long story, these local guys in Michigan. Basically, this is

485
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 1: gonna sound so hard to nutshout. They I smoked with them.

486
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,760
Speaker 1: I smoked what I thought was weed and it was

487
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: I think I've told the story to people in like

488
00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 1: private security, and they said, oh, it was PCPs probably

489
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: like they're pretty convinced based on my reaction. And my

490
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:54,000
Speaker 1: body shut down and my mind stayed active and my

491
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 1: adrenals started firing and it was yeah, really like frightening. Uh.

492
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 1: And I and to ghetto and they got me in

493
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,920
Speaker 1: a car and basically to get away, I jumped out

494
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 1: of the car. The movie and they knew you were you.

495
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 1: They did, and they were saying things like you know,

496
00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 1: we're gonna make them. Let's make another movie for TMZ

497
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: or it fortunately was before everyone and now everyone's got these,

498
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: you know, the camp video video recorders, an old fashioned

499
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:25,880
Speaker 1: feel like doc back to the future. Everyone's got these

500
00:26:26,119 --> 00:26:29,479
Speaker 1: video recording devices. But at the time, it was they

501
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:32,560
Speaker 1: were driving me, I think to someone who had a camera,

502
00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:35,679
Speaker 1: and they were gonna My guess is they were going

503
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:39,399
Speaker 1: to probably film me doing something like salacious or in

504
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:43,760
Speaker 1: some compromised position. But so I you were just peripherally

505
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: aware of that, and you had some sort of where

506
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:47,360
Speaker 1: withal they were driving. They were in the front seat,

507
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 1: I was in the back seat. I could hear them

508
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: kind of speaking conspiratorially on the phone. And again it's

509
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,120
Speaker 1: a long story, but basically that's what I at the time,

510
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: I thought they were gonna shoot me. I thought they

511
00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:58,159
Speaker 1: were gonna kill me. And you opened a door and

512
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 1: ran and get went out of a moving car. Yeah,

513
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,760
Speaker 1: So what happened was it was there was no one around.

514
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 1: It was like three three thirty in the morning and

515
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 1: at this small town in Michigan, and uh, and I

516
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 1: saw headlights coming and they were going through red lights. Uh.

517
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 1: And we were not far from my hotel. But so

518
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: I knew, I knew roughly where I was, and so

519
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,360
Speaker 1: I jumped out. I opened the door. I would say

520
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 1: it was going thirty you know, thirty thirty five miles

521
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 1: an hour, and uh. And when I jumped out, of course,

522
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 1: you don't mind on your feet unless you're Spider Man.

523
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 1: And so I rolled under the car, and the car

524
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: rolled over my leg, and and and I got up

525
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: and we all seeping out of my pen and flag

526
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 1: down a cab. And the next day, anyway, the next day,

527
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 1: I woke up, you know, in a lot of pain.

528
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 1: And but but oddly my leg wasn't broken, the doctor thinks,

529
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 1: because I was kind of messed up. You know, I

530
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:48,880
Speaker 1: was gonna say, I don't even know if you could

531
00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: have jumped out of a moving car if you weren't

532
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:51,919
Speaker 1: sucked up like that takes you know what I mean,

533
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 1: Like that's insane. It was weird. It's strange, Buffy, because

534
00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 1: you like, you know, you're you, you've been in it

535
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 1: sounds like a very harrowing situation, and so your brain

536
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: starts doing, like frantically doing the math, like how do

537
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: I save? How do I live? How do And in fact,

538
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 1: when I when I got up on my leg, which

539
00:28:06,960 --> 00:28:11,639
Speaker 1: was really gnarled, and it was pretty gruesome looking. I

540
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 1: looked down at it, and I remember being I had

541
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:19,119
Speaker 1: the strangest reaction. I'm not at all fashion, as you

542
00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 1: can tell, I'm not a fashion person and I'm not

543
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: into that stuff. But but but you know, I have that

544
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 1: one like pair of jeans that you've just had forever,

545
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:29,959
Speaker 1: and it did fit like a glob and and so

546
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 1: I looked down and I thought, oh shit, I messed

547
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 1: up my jeans. That was the thought I had after

548
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: after thinking I was about to die. I was so

549
00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 1: relieved to be alive. I was just so Even the

550
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: next day, I remember thinking like, oh, my leg was

551
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 1: so swollen and gross, and and I just remember thinking

552
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 1: how lucky I was to be alive. And and sometimes

553
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 1: I look back at that, and actually it's weirdly inspiring

554
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 1: to me, Like you know it, there were other times

555
00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 1: in my life where I came close to death, and

556
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 1: I think and and all they are now are reminders.

557
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 1: I mean, there's trauma from it, for sure. There's trauma that,

558
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: like I think, has made me change my behavior in

559
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 1: the world. Emotional and physical trauma. Yeah, But but really

560
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,760
Speaker 1: it's it's mostly just relegated to like where I go out,

561
00:29:15,840 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 1: who I trust in some ways it's good for it's good. Yes,

562
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: I have some kind of that that that thing, that

563
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 1: event was the result of me really not wanting things

564
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:28,880
Speaker 1: to change in my life. I didn't want to change

565
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: my behavior. I wanted things to stay normal. I didn't

566
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: want to accept that I was being I was. Things

567
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: were different in my life socially. When I'd go out,

568
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: I would, you know, my way of coping with it

569
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 1: at the time was I would do like a couple

570
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: of shots of of whiskey, you know, just to just

571
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: to kind of take the edge off at a bar

572
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: because I loved going out, I love being around people,

573
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 1: and I didn't want that to change. But it was

574
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 1: it was, you know, it was during a time where

575
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 1: I was also doing a lot of movie is that

576
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 1: a lot of people were watching, and I was in

577
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 1: a relationship that was very public, you know, and and

578
00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 1: so they were changing and I and I, uh, I

579
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: needed to change my behavior. I remember talking to Funny

580
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: Enough a couple of nights before this event happened. I

581
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 1: was at the same bar where I met these guys.

582
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: I was at this bar with Steve Boushemi and Boushemi

583
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 1: we were doing this movie together and he had told me,

584
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: he said, you know, he saw the way I was

585
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:31,680
Speaker 1: behaving in the world in this bar and and wanting

586
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: everyone to be to like me and wanting things to

587
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 1: be normal, and hey, are you that actor? Yeah, but

588
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 1: I'm just a regular person here seven years old. You know,

589
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, I didn't want the world to be as

590
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: different as it had gotten, and and so and Steve

591
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: said to me it was interesting, he said, you know,

592
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 1: you need to be a little like wary. Sometimes I

593
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 1: forget how we put it. But he then told me,

594
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: and Michael told me that one time, really, you gotta

595
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 1: you're gonna you're gonna have to close your circle. Close

596
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: your circle. There will be people your close. Your circle

597
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 1: will get tighter. I've never really had a big circle.

598
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 1: I My circle's always been fairly closed and tight. But

599
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: the fact that he said that about people that he

600
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 1: had advised just who are coming up, And this was

601
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 1: years ago. He said to me, your circle will get tighter,

602
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 1: And he's right, Well, that's a good point, but it's

603
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: also yes, for sure, that happened naturally in my life.

604
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:27,480
Speaker 1: But but I think it's also like how you strangers.

605
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 1: You know, there's something about having just a little bit

606
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: of a sense of protective, like a more protective quality

607
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: about your space, trusting. And Steve had been I don't

608
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: know if you know this. He told me to inspire

609
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: me to do that. He told me about in greater detail,

610
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,240
Speaker 1: this incident with Vince Vaughan. I mean this is all public. Yeah,

611
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:46,640
Speaker 1: where they had been jumped. You know, this is early

612
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 1: two thousands. They were in North Carolina and they were

613
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 1: all jumped by some some local guys for whatever reason.

614
00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:56,480
Speaker 1: I'm my guess is they were, you know, they're probably

615
00:31:56,560 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: jealous of you know, Vince was was, you know, attracted

616
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 1: a lot of female attention, and who knows what it was.

617
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:07,520
Speaker 1: But they followed them out of this bar. They followed

618
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: Steve and Finnce out and they jumped them and Steve

619
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 1: was stabbed within christ Yeah, he was stabbed in the

620
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 1: neck close to his jugular and so he had a

621
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:20,160
Speaker 1: really frightening incident. And I think he told me that

622
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 1: as kind of a cautionary tale to just just be

623
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: hud guard a little bit more than I was. And

624
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 1: then sure enough, a couple of days later, this wild thing.

625
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,959
Speaker 1: Oh that's crazy that that was right. And as you

626
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: you don't have kids, right, no, no, okay, So as

627
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: you become a parent, that goes to exponentially because it's

628
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,360
Speaker 1: about them, and then you don't want to be dangerous

629
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 1: anymore because you don't want to leave them. You know

630
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 1: what I mean? When you have an incident, If you

631
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 1: have an accident, there's like a boat that's scary or something,

632
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:51,400
Speaker 1: or there's people aren't being safe around you are a

633
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,080
Speaker 1: non safe driver, things like that get really heightened. And

634
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 1: especially since you've been through that, it's crazy. If you,

635
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 1: you know, become a parent, that becomes another level. Bethany,

636
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 1: I would I know, I imagine I would be so

637
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 1: protect I mean with with partners in my life, with pets,

638
00:33:06,280 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 1: I mean, I bet with kids. Got I can't imagine

639
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 1: how protective I would be. Can I just ask you

640
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: about the gun? What? What were the events surrounding that?

641
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: How did you come to be held at gunpoint? I

642
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:22,160
Speaker 1: was in high school, and god, I was in high

643
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 1: school and we were waiting. I was with a girlfriend

644
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: and we're waiting in a park, and that I can

645
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 1: say this because it's irresponsible and I wouldn't want my

646
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 1: daughter to hear it. But we were waiting. I remember,

647
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 1: I was in this Toyota Supra. She's not I don't

648
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 1: think she's listening to this episode. She doesn't. She's not

649
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 1: a fan adjust am, so she doesn't seeing He's not

650
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 1: that she actually has seen. He's just thought that into you,

651
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: but so she So I was of a friend and

652
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 1: we were waiting, I think for these people to meet.

653
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: These people out, so we had some time to kill

654
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 1: and I think we were going to drink later. And

655
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: we had champagne or something in the car and we

656
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: were popping the bottle out of the door, which we

657
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 1: opened up. We were pop popping it and because the

658
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 1: door was open and my leg was out popping the

659
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:02,479
Speaker 1: bottle outside, these guys, these two men held us at gunpoint.

660
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: It made us get on the floor of the car

661
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: and took my friend's necklace off and and then and

662
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 1: and said they'll kill us, and they ran and they

663
00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: left them. We went to the cops and we went

664
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:14,359
Speaker 1: to the hospital. But it was really surreal and like

665
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 1: it didn't happen because it happened so fast, And it's

666
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: the same thing you're saying, it's anecdotal now, like I

667
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: always forget about it, like do you have any recollection

668
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 1: of the details of their faces or anything like that?

669
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 1: The color like the guns, like the colors of the guns,

670
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 1: and weird. I would picture that, and my friend remembers more.

671
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 1: But I had a lot of like childhood trauma, and

672
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: she's seen a lot of abuse and stuff. So for me,

673
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:38,880
Speaker 1: I'm like you, I'm glib about things, and I just

674
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:40,919
Speaker 1: sort of, you know, I could have a near death

675
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 1: experience with something and just sort of convinced myself that

676
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 1: it's not a big deal or I'm making it up.

677
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,359
Speaker 1: It's weird how the mind does that. Yeah, it must

678
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,800
Speaker 1: be for survival. What yeah, But I always imagine I

679
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 1: always wanted to think about that often, you know, especially

680
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:55,840
Speaker 1: when I was a kid. I think about being held

681
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 1: at the idea of that, like your life, especially if

682
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 1: you're that phone about your your face down and it's

683
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:05,040
Speaker 1: and your life is totally in the hands of a

684
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: strange totally. I can't imagine what that loss of control

685
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,839
Speaker 1: must be like, Like what, yeah, do you do you

686
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:16,280
Speaker 1: remember that feeling? Was it? Was it? Do you remember

687
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,800
Speaker 1: thinking they're going to shoot me? Not even clothes? I

688
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: don't remember any No, I bomb a block out or wow, yeah,

689
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 1: probably yeah. So, so what has been the rows of

690
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:32,479
Speaker 1: your career and the thorn the rose? Well, god, that's

691
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 1: a good question. That is a good question. Well, you know,

692
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 1: I think the movie that kind of sparked so much

693
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 1: for me, whether it was Galaxy Quest and Dodgible, were

694
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: two movies that really set into motion a lot of

695
00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: great professional things. And they're both movies that I think

696
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: like maybe re looked at. I know, Galaxy Quest is, uh,

697
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,360
Speaker 1: there's a there's a show in the works. There's like

698
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 1: a I don't know if it's a reboot. I don't

699
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: know what you would call it. But but I know

700
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: Simon I've talked to Simon pegg On on my podcast

701
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,320
Speaker 1: about that. I think he's writing it and so hopefully

702
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:12,799
Speaker 1: that will come to fruition. And uh, Dodgeball was just

703
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,799
Speaker 1: working with Vince Vaughn, like I said, and he was

704
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 1: were he's been romanticizing doing it, having doing a sequel,

705
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: and having an idea for a sequel. But those two

706
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 1: movies were really led to a lot of uh led

707
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 1: to a lot of professional opportunity. So I would say,

708
00:36:29,280 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 1: but you know, I've also done really bad movies that

709
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: you know, I did one where where you know, I

710
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,359
Speaker 1: met you meet people that are important to you, and

711
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,680
Speaker 1: you have a lot of laughs. And so the ones

712
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:46,439
Speaker 1: that that work out in the world are not necessarily

713
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: my own personal roses, you know, those those two Galaxy

714
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: questions thought what happened to be a lot of fun,

715
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 1: and I met Vince and such good friends on some

716
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,560
Speaker 1: of those. But god, I did a movie called Strange

717
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,960
Speaker 1: Wilderness that that got like he got a zero on

718
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:08,160
Speaker 1: Rotten Tomatoes. It was one of the greatest Yes. No, uh,

719
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 1: the movie I directed with my brother was was uh.

720
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:13,840
Speaker 1: You know, we had some some some great reviews and

721
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 1: some really shitty ones, and but overall it was such

722
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: a joy to get to do, to work with Melanie

723
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 1: Lynsky and Judy Greer and women like that. And so

724
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,800
Speaker 1: it's hard to say. Thorns are easier, I think to count,

725
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 1: and there are so few of them because even the

726
00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:33,879
Speaker 1: ones that that didn't necessarily work maybe weren't all that fun.

727
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: I feel like, I know this is these are such boring,

728
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 1: like boy Scout answers, But I feel like I learned

729
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:40,799
Speaker 1: so much and then you learn what not to do.

730
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 1: It's like it's like relationships too, and you learn to

731
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,160
Speaker 1: be a little bit more discerning and whatever and look

732
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,839
Speaker 1: for different things and value different things. So it's hard

733
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 1: to say, like, oh, I wish I hadn't done this.

734
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: There was a play that I really wish I had done.

735
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 1: There's certain things like that that I wish I hadn't

736
00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 1: passed on. But you know, you live learned. You said

737
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,240
Speaker 1: that your life changed sort of in that bar time

738
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 1: and you were dating publicly, and I don't know what's

739
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: gone on in between, and I don't know that much,

740
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 1: only what sort of I dating papers, But you have

741
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: dated publicly. And is it easier to date someone in

742
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: your industry because they understand your life in a schedule

743
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 1: or is it not? Because there's two peacocks, like how

744
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: do you decide when to date a civilian or when

745
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 1: to date someone that's that's in the industry. That's interesting

746
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 1: two peacocks. That that's a good point. I think I

747
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:45,799
Speaker 1: think that the former point is true of me, is

748
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 1: that like there it's it's easier to meet though those

749
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:49,399
Speaker 1: are people you bond with, you connect with, you meet

750
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: like I don't really go out certainly during the pandemic

751
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 1: and all that, and since since the pandemic yam and

752
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:57,320
Speaker 1: since I turned for you know, since I got older.

753
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: I I don't really drink much that much and I

754
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: don't go out. I just don't so go out much.

755
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 1: I went out last night for the first time in

756
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: a while, and it felt again I keep thinking about

757
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 1: this progressive commercial, like I'm turning into one of those guys,

758
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: and like it was exciting. I kept commenting on how

759
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 1: exciting it was to be out. And it was just

760
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: a restaurant. It wasn't even like some like hip bar.

761
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,279
Speaker 1: It wasn't like some cool club. It was just like hey,

762
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 1: and I was like, Wow, we're really out, We're doing it.

763
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: But I think it's just natural to meet people that

764
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:29,359
Speaker 1: you again, we were talking about just humor, laughing with

765
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:32,879
Speaker 1: somebody and that being such a like immediate connective thing,

766
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:37,439
Speaker 1: and those are the people that I find myself really

767
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: laughing with and bonding with. And uh. And in terms

768
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 1: of it being public public people who are known or whatever,

769
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 1: it was always kind of you know, I hear people

770
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 1: talking about how difficult that can be, and you know,

771
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 1: you reading stuff, and I found at least back in

772
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:57,440
Speaker 1: the day, you know, it might be different now with

773
00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:00,239
Speaker 1: social media and stuff. But I found that it so

774
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 1: easy to avoid that stuff. You just don't read it.

775
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 1: I just want to read it. I would say that

776
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: to people who are you know, and you know in

777
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 1: one of those relationships or or or you know, have

778
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: something coming out that's that's being consumed by the public.

779
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:14,400
Speaker 1: It's like, it's so easy to not read. No, And

780
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 1: you also don't call paparazzi to come take a picture

781
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 1: if you're private. If you don't go to the ivy

782
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: on rocks, you might not get paparazzi. Do you know

783
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 1: what I'm saying? Do go to the ivy all the time?

784
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 1: Because I love the s No, It's true. You're right, Bethany.

785
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:29,680
Speaker 1: You you there's certain places you avoid. I mean I

786
00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:32,919
Speaker 1: live in you know, Massachusetts and in a small town

787
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 1: and h Connecticut and a smile, I just don't go

788
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: to You're right. I mean, it's it's easy to avoid

789
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 1: that stuff. Sometimes it's hard to avoid sometimes, you know,

790
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: if they're at the airport or if they there happens

791
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:45,239
Speaker 1: to be something you're going through in your life, and

792
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 1: they'll be you know this better than anyone they're they're around.

793
00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 1: I'm in a long distance serious, engaged relationship. Yeah, so

794
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: I find that that you know, and we're in different industries,

795
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 1: but that has its challenges and it has to absolutely managed.

796
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 1: And if you're meeting if you live in Massachusetts and

797
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: Connecticut and you're always meeting people in the industry, they're

798
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 1: usually LA based, I guess, or in New York, how

799
00:41:07,560 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 1: do you manage? Because I always asked this question, like,

800
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 1: how do you create a successful relationship? What is the

801
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 1: definition of that to you? What's the recipe for that?

802
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 1: Like what works? What doesn't work? Bethany I, You know,

803
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 1: I'm forty three years old, and I feel like I'm

804
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 1: just starting to figure that. So I'm by no means

805
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: an expert. I'm a novice still and I'm trying to

806
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:34,280
Speaker 1: figure it out. But I think it's about carving out

807
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: space and time and and and honesty and communicating and

808
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 1: just being really communicative and vulnerable. And you know, it's

809
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 1: all the things you hear about, and it's when you

810
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:54,279
Speaker 1: start putting into practice and you find such such great

811
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:56,400
Speaker 1: at what dividends it pays? What did you say earlier?

812
00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,880
Speaker 1: Ro Oi ROI, Well, it's interesting what you're saying. So

813
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:01,359
Speaker 1: you're a year younger than I fiance. And you know,

814
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 1: I go to therapy and we go to therapy, and

815
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 1: I'm seven years older than him, and I notice different

816
00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: things developmentally in relationships with him and his past and

817
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: him having a different relationship history than I do. I

818
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: notice this is like a coming of age for him,

819
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: this age that you're at where you're sort of realizing

820
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 1: that there's not a one size fits all relationship model

821
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 1: and it can be not traditional and it can be

822
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:27,080
Speaker 1: sort of a choose your own adventure al Acart menu,

823
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 1: as long as you're curating that and nurturing it and

824
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 1: paying attention to it, meaning it's not the twenty five

825
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:38,200
Speaker 1: I my what a therapist said to me was, when

826
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:41,320
Speaker 1: you're young and you first get together in a relationship,

827
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 1: your expectations are in a relationship. Once you really get

828
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:48,839
Speaker 1: into the relationship, the reality of the situation is what's

829
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 1: in a relationship, right. I guess I had put a

830
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,359
Speaker 1: lot of Yeah, I guess in the past, I've been

831
00:42:53,360 --> 00:43:00,040
Speaker 1: guilty of having investing too much in those expectations, and

832
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 1: of course, when they don't come to fruition or when

833
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 1: it becomes a real thing with you know, real struggles

834
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 1: and difficulties and you start seeing and all the gloss

835
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:14,200
Speaker 1: of the chemicals wears off and you get into who

836
00:43:14,239 --> 00:43:16,839
Speaker 1: the people are. But I think it's and then you're

837
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:18,960
Speaker 1: in a real partnership, which isn't always easy. It's just

838
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 1: what you put into it, right unless unless, And I

839
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: think what the key might be, and again, like I'm

840
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 1: new at this, I think it might just be like

841
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: honesty upfront is establishing as establishing a habit of like

842
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 1: regular honest communication. And I know that sounds like basic,

843
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 1: and but it's it's it's to to to practice it.

844
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:47,239
Speaker 1: I found is hugely rewarding and not always and not

845
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:49,840
Speaker 1: easy because it's like you have to do it, you

846
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:51,520
Speaker 1: have to like get up and do it. But once

847
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 1: you do it, you feel better, like probably the way

848
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:55,680
Speaker 1: people feel and they work out well exactly. I mean,

849
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Speaker 1: I yeah, it's what I've been told. Yeah, it's what

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Speaker 1: I've heard. I know. It's it's doing it. You're right,

851
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Speaker 1: And it's like avoiding getting bogged down by the story

852
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Speaker 1: that you tell yourself. I go, I can't. I remember

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Speaker 1: my dad used to say cowards die many times before

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Speaker 1: their death, and and I think about that often. I

855
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Speaker 1: think about when whenever i'm I fear something. I it's

856
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Speaker 1: it's it's never, it rarely isn't as bad as the

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Speaker 1: story that I've told myself. Right, do you feel so

858
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Speaker 1: you're forty three, do you feel I don't have the

859
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: word is self conscious? But do you feel any urgency

860
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Speaker 1: to have kids? Or like, wait, I haven't been successful

861
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:37,160
Speaker 1: because I've felt self conscious in my own life about failing. Yeah,

862
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Speaker 1: but now I wrote a book called I Stuck a relationship,

863
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Speaker 1: so you don't have too. So do you feel like

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Speaker 1: you're you suff written a forward? Do you suffer? You're

865
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Speaker 1: good because you've had so many practice, so much practice

866
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Speaker 1: not being good. Yeah, that's a good you know what

867
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Speaker 1: I think kind of in a way I think now

868
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Speaker 1: in my life it is it is the latter. I think.

869
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Speaker 1: I think you're right because I've had so much practice

870
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Speaker 1: in one that didn't work, and uh, you know, I

871
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:05,600
Speaker 1: think what it is is you just start to distill

872
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Speaker 1: your own needs and recognize your own needs and and uh,

873
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Speaker 1: and understand more clearly what it is that you want

874
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:18,319
Speaker 1: and value. And I think that's what age does. I

875
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: think that's I was always so afraid of getting older

876
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 1: and and now I'm really grateful for the wisdom it's

877
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: given me, and that is probably at the top of

878
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:32,239
Speaker 1: that list relationship with Yeah, it's knowing what I knowing

879
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:33,840
Speaker 1: what I want, knowing how to maintain it, and I

880
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 1: also knowing what the other side is. I think a

881
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: lot of guys certainly covet the idea of, you know,

882
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: being wild and free and being out there and and

883
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 1: I feel like I I've seen the other side of that,

884
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: and and uh and and it's and it's not it's

885
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:58,799
Speaker 1: not what it was cracked up to be. Yeah, it

886
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 1: only has to happen, I mean, theoretically, but it's the

887
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: idea of it. I mean, I think a lot of

888
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Speaker 1: guys are are compelled by the idea of what's out there.

889
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 1: And so when you kind of have have glimpsed that

890
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 1: just because I was single for a long time, and

891
00:46:11,840 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 1: you know, I was not in the longest relationships I've

892
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:18,359
Speaker 1: had have been like three years. So it's it's uh,

893
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: at forty three, I certainly don't feel any pressure, but

894
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:26,279
Speaker 1: I feel a real sense of calm about where I

895
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Speaker 1: am in that. In terms of that stuff, well, I

896
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 1: guess the last question would be do you what percentage

897
00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 1: are you lucky? And what percentage. Are you smart, lucky

898
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 1: and smart? Oh man? In terms of relationships Bethany or

899
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: everything career? Oh both, But that's good that I've never

900
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:46,919
Speaker 1: asked it. In terms of relationships, well, well, I think

901
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: I think it's a matter of being. But I think

902
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 1: both things are both mechanisms work the same way, and

903
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:59,760
Speaker 1: they both work best when you're I mean, like acting

904
00:46:59,800 --> 00:47:02,879
Speaker 1: and life being in a relationship. I think it's best

905
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:06,479
Speaker 1: when you stay out of your own way, when you

906
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: are able to kind of be present and not in

907
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 1: your head. And I think, like I said, I think

908
00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:19,520
Speaker 1: just knowing what doesn't work has helped. I've really I

909
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:23,600
Speaker 1: love meditation. I love, in a weird way, being home

910
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 1: for the pandemic and having putting less pressure on myself

911
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: to continue to work work work is, and investing in

912
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: things like leisurely enjoys like I got a guard, I

913
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:40,400
Speaker 1: started gardening again and cooking and things like that. As

914
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 1: cheesy as it sounds, I think it's really allowed me to,

915
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:45,880
Speaker 1: like we were talking about, like down regulating, you know,

916
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Speaker 1: it's it's it's allowed me to kind of find my

917
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:54,759
Speaker 1: neutral place, and in that there's a great degree of

918
00:47:54,760 --> 00:47:59,399
Speaker 1: of of wisdom I think, and understanding, and I think

919
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 1: that's that's when that's the best time to enter into

920
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: some relationship, when you really know what you want and

921
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:10,239
Speaker 1: know who you are. It's so true, and you reminded me,

922
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 1: which is a good note to end on that with

923
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:16,640
Speaker 1: luck in business and in relationship, you have to be

924
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 1: you have to set yourself up. You have to have

925
00:48:19,400 --> 00:48:22,319
Speaker 1: everything ready on the boat for if those fish do come. Yeah.

926
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 1: So with emotionally, you have to set yourself up emotionally

927
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Speaker 1: so you're ready if if a good relationship comes that

928
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Speaker 1: you're prepared for it and you can treat it properly

929
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Speaker 1: and nurture it and be you know, be set up

930
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: for success in that. That's a great note for both.

931
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Speaker 1: I think so, Bethany. I I mean again like shake

932
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 1: this with a big grand song because I'm I'm new

933
00:48:43,280 --> 00:48:46,440
Speaker 1: at it being good. But I think acting is the

934
00:48:46,480 --> 00:48:50,080
Speaker 1: same way acting. It's it's helped my you know, and

935
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Speaker 1: I certainly like some of the jobs I've done since

936
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:55,879
Speaker 1: since this change has occurred, I find myself a lot

937
00:48:55,920 --> 00:49:00,800
Speaker 1: more present and confident in the work. I mean to

938
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Speaker 1: to act your best, I think you just need to

939
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:07,839
Speaker 1: be as present as possible. I it's you know, it's

940
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:10,680
Speaker 1: similar to to you on the shoot. You had mentioned

941
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Speaker 1: being on the show, and it's it's like any sort

942
00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: of improv you have to be open to listening and responding.

943
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: It's it's basic, it's very basic. But when you do

944
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:22,879
Speaker 1: it properly, when it when it, when you're in put

945
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:24,920
Speaker 1: yourself in a position to succeed, it's it can be

946
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: so exhilarating. I think, exactly. Well, it's no mystery to

947
00:49:30,160 --> 00:49:33,400
Speaker 1: me why you're so good at podcasting. You're so interesting

948
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:36,560
Speaker 1: to talk to. It has been such an absolute pleasure.

949
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:40,240
Speaker 1: I can't even tell you. I like you. You're so great. Likewise, Bethanie,

950
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Speaker 1: I'm so happy to hear that you're you found, you

951
00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:45,520
Speaker 1: got a fella and you're you're doing it. Yeah, I

952
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 1: am doing it. Maybe one day we'll get together, we'll

953
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 1: go on a double date. I would like that. Awesome,

954
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: have a great odd day. It was so good talking

955
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Speaker 1: to you, Thanks, Bethny. So Justin Long is so wonderful.

956
00:49:57,600 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 1: That was such a great conversation. I I'm so happy

957
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Speaker 1: for his success. But his success is so deserved and

958
00:50:04,800 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 1: justified because he's such a conversationalist. He has such a

959
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 1: beautiful curiosity he honestly wants to hear genuinely about what's

960
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 1: going on with other people. And I just think he

961
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 1: was terrific and wonderful. And we talked about relationships and

962
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 1: success and being guarded and getting activated. It was just

963
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:26,640
Speaker 1: a really beautiful conversation. So thank you so much for listening,

964
00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:29,319
Speaker 1: and remember to rate, review and subscribe. It just I

965
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:31,919
Speaker 1: never grow tired of these amazing conversations and I learned

966
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: every day, so I appreciate you so much. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Just b is hosted by me, Bethany Frankel. Just Be

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