WEBVTT - Questlove Supreme: Charlamagne Tha God Part 2

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<v Speaker 1>Quest Love Supreme is a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>What Up, y'all and welcome back to Questlove Supreme. So,

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<v Speaker 2>in Part one of our Conversation with Charlemagne the God,

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<v Speaker 2>we discussed charlemagne'sjourney into becoming one of the biggest voices

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<v Speaker 2>of our time.

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<v Speaker 3>If you haven't, you should check that out.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, don't forget Charlemagne is appearing live on the podcast

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<v Speaker 2>stage at this year's Ruth Picnic, and.

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<v Speaker 3>So is Quest Love Supreme. You don't want to miss that.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's get back to it part two of our

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<v Speaker 2>Conversation with Charlemagne the God.

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<v Speaker 4>Because before it was just clips. It was clips that

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<v Speaker 4>would lead you back to the dot com or leyo.

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<v Speaker 4>Nobody's doing it dot com anymore, yo.

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<v Speaker 1>All Right, So when that moment is happening, like I

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<v Speaker 1>guess now you're hyper aware of this can be a

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<v Speaker 1>viral moment where you know, a ten second rant could

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<v Speaker 1>suddenly define you whatever. But as that moment's happening, like

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<v Speaker 1>what's going in your head? Like is this about to

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<v Speaker 1>be about to say some real old Morton Downey Jr?

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<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm That's why I'm like, wow, No, But.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, like No, that was a moment where like

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<v Speaker 1>the brawl on the Morton Downey Junior Show became like

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<v Speaker 1>super viral. And then of course then there was about

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<v Speaker 1>our studio, uh old boy Horaldo Richard.

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<v Speaker 5>There was a brawl on Richard Bay before he was

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<v Speaker 5>like yeah, he was like the Morton Downy really Jersey.

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<v Speaker 1>So when that moment is happening, like, are you hyper

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<v Speaker 1>aware now that of like one frame could be a

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<v Speaker 1>jiff for life, like the the Soldier Boy Drake movement

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<v Speaker 1>of those things.

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<v Speaker 6>I wasn't you know, it's so funny.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember that day because you know, we pre record

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<v Speaker 4>all our interviews a day early, so we pre recorded

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<v Speaker 4>the Birdman interview a day early and we aired it

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<v Speaker 4>back on April twenty second. Everybody remembers what else happened

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<v Speaker 4>on April twenty first, Prince Prince passes while so I

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<v Speaker 4>remember being I was I was hosting the MTV Upfront.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember being at the upfront getting the news that

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<v Speaker 4>Prince died and I'm like, God, damn Prince died.

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<v Speaker 6>Everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>Then I'm like, we can't play bird Man tomorrow. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not gonna care about no bird Man interview. Like literally,

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<v Speaker 4>my mindset. That's what I thought. I was like, nobody's

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<v Speaker 4>gonna care. But then I said, different, crowd, it's only

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<v Speaker 4>two minutes thirty seconds. I remember saying this thing. I'm like, name,

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<v Speaker 4>he's only two minutes thirty seconds. We could throw it

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<v Speaker 4>on at like seven and then get back to Prince.

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<v Speaker 5>Even thinking like this interview is a bus. We don't

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<v Speaker 5>got nothing usable.

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<v Speaker 4>I thought it's Prince, Prince passed away. I'm thinking everybody

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<v Speaker 4>and Mama is going to be on Prince.

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<v Speaker 5>But we're of a certain age. Yeah, we.

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<v Speaker 4>Put the interview out and I could be wrong. It

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<v Speaker 4>felt like Birdman was the a side that weekend.

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<v Speaker 5>It was.

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<v Speaker 4>It was like that was the same weekend Prince passed away.

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<v Speaker 4>But my whole timeline is put some respect on it.

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<v Speaker 4>Memes and see that's the other thing, right, you can

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<v Speaker 4>you can know something's gonna go viral, but you don't

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<v Speaker 4>know the life is gonna take on the internet comes

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<v Speaker 4>something completely.

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<v Speaker 5>That's what I'm saying, respect no, because you better do

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<v Speaker 5>it now. I'd have made so many respects because in.

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<v Speaker 4>My mind I'm thinking, like I knew he was gonna

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<v Speaker 4>come up there. I knew he was coming up there.

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<v Speaker 4>Wiley because you know, one of the record reps hit

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<v Speaker 4>me like a couple of weeks before, and he was like.

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<v Speaker 6>No, he didn't want me.

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<v Speaker 4>He just said, Birdman wants to come on such and

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<v Speaker 4>such date. He wants to make sure that you're there

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<v Speaker 4>now listen. That's number one, but also number two, I

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<v Speaker 4>know what I've said about bird Man. I'm self aware

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<v Speaker 4>and now I'm not gonna act clueless like I didn't

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<v Speaker 4>see that about like, I know the things that I

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<v Speaker 4>was saying.

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<v Speaker 6>And that's why before he even came in, if you notice, there's.

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<v Speaker 4>Like an overhead view because I hold everybody turned the

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<v Speaker 4>cameras on before he walks in, cameras I told him,

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<v Speaker 4>I said, turn the cameras on before he walks in,

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<v Speaker 4>because I just knew he was coming in on something

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<v Speaker 4>and he ain't wait soon as he hit the doll.

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't no high I know nothing, y'all. Motherfucker's put

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<v Speaker 4>some respect on my name. And because the interview is

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<v Speaker 4>only two minutes thirty seconds wrestling, he was on air

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<v Speaker 4>for forty if that. Because the interview starts with me

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<v Speaker 4>saying power, Powerfire, Breakfast Club, Birdman talks and I'm like Noah, no, no,

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<v Speaker 4>Birdman just came in here and checked all of us.

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<v Speaker 4>Go ahead, get it off your chest, bird Man. And

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<v Speaker 4>then that's that's when you know, led to this single

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<v Speaker 4>file storm out.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow have you.

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<v Speaker 3>Ever been knocked off your square? And that went away

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<v Speaker 3>on on mic.

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<v Speaker 4>No I about to see I got pushed in the

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<v Speaker 4>back of the head. But that's not enough. I mean, like, really, wait,

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<v Speaker 4>an artists got pugilistic. It wasn't an artistic I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>somebody came with a camera. This was like twenty eleven.

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<v Speaker 4>They recorded it, though they put it on video. It

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<v Speaker 4>was all world Star. That was full world Star. That's

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<v Speaker 4>why that was full white Star.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like an instant somewhere. I'm sorry, no, I'm playing, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Like literally because you you seem like, of course they're

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<v Speaker 2>edits and all kinds of things, But even with the

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<v Speaker 2>bird Man thing, there's been so many situations you always focused.

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<v Speaker 4>In a way. I'm glad you said that about the

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<v Speaker 4>edits because I could edit all of that stuff if

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<v Speaker 4>I wanted to. But it's like, what's the point I can't.

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<v Speaker 4>You shouldn't be able as a personality to say what

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<v Speaker 4>you want about people, not not let them get theirs off.

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<v Speaker 4>So if I don't care if it's Beanie, Seagull, Master

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<v Speaker 4>p Frado start, any of these guys we have come

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<v Speaker 4>in there and and got at me. It's like I'd

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<v Speaker 4>be I'd be whacked to edit that, and Beans too.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, can you talk about that incident? Do you guys

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<v Speaker 1>know what happened? No, in Philly.

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<v Speaker 5>You remember when Beans is like making all these rhymes

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<v Speaker 5>about jay Z.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're talking about with searle Man.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, he felt a bet you you would have possibly

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<v Speaker 1>appreciated it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, be Bean's had an issue at Hove and he

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<v Speaker 4>called in. He called in my radio show on a

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<v Speaker 4>Friday morning. I played it back that Friday and went

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<v Speaker 4>crazy viow that weekend. I think Jay even got asked

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<v Speaker 4>about it because he was on tour at the time.

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<v Speaker 6>And then one day I got fired.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, you got.

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<v Speaker 2>Fired because Bean said something in an interview about Hove.

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<v Speaker 4>And that's where everybody says jay Z got me fired.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if that's.

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<v Speaker 2>True or not, because he would have got me fired

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<v Speaker 2>for sam what I said to him in his face

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<v Speaker 2>on the radio in Philly.

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<v Speaker 4>What I think it was at the time. I think

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<v Speaker 4>you had people in Philly. You know it's jay Zy.

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<v Speaker 5>We all love.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it's the number one market too.

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<v Speaker 4>I think sometimes people bring sacrifices to Jay, like here's

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<v Speaker 4>a lamb, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 6>Like, Jay, here's a here's a gerbil for you. I bought.

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<v Speaker 6>I did that his gold.

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<v Speaker 4>So I think that was one of those things like

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<v Speaker 4>Beanie said that about you on Charlomagne show he got

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<v Speaker 4>rid of Charlotte. I think it was one of those things.

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<v Speaker 4>Beans Yeah, I don't think it was a call like yo.

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<v Speaker 6>Get rid of him from Hole. I don't know. It's

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<v Speaker 6>not that petty. I just don't think so.

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<v Speaker 5>But then where's your mind's like where do I go?

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<v Speaker 6>You know what's so interesting?

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<v Speaker 4>There's a lad TV interview I did right after I

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<v Speaker 4>I think it was the day I got fired, and

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<v Speaker 4>I literally said, this is just another stepping stone. I said,

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<v Speaker 4>I'll be back on the radio and like a year

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<v Speaker 4>or so, and you know, Scott's the limit, Like I

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<v Speaker 4>literally say that. I say that in the lad TV

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<v Speaker 4>interview and that's literally how I felt how I felt.

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<v Speaker 6>You gotta think I already been fired four times?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, you got your speech already written. Number you told

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<v Speaker 5>me you.

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<v Speaker 2>Ain't nobody till you get fired in the three times

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<v Speaker 2>they say three day say if you get fired three No,

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<v Speaker 2>they said, you're nobody if you get fired once.

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<v Speaker 6>If you get fired three times, you're a superstar.

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<v Speaker 4>S it is.

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<v Speaker 3>Not today though, Yo.

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<v Speaker 7>I would have asked you, man the ray J interview, son, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>what was going through your mind while he's on the phone.

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<v Speaker 5>Just man.

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<v Speaker 4>We was almost off air, Like we get off air

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<v Speaker 4>at ten. I think it was like nine thirty, and

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<v Speaker 4>I remember Angeliue gets a call and it's our guy

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<v Speaker 4>Billy and he was like, yo, man, I still didn't

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<v Speaker 4>know what was going on, like ray J and Fab

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<v Speaker 4>such and such and such, ra J wants to call in.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm still like, you know, at the time, he's like,

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<v Speaker 4>wants to call it right now. Him and Fab just

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<v Speaker 4>got into it whatever whatever. So ray J just called

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<v Speaker 4>in and that's what like that literally was. We was

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<v Speaker 4>live at first, like we had to tell him to

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<v Speaker 4>stop cursing and stuff like that, like, and then we

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<v Speaker 4>had to say, hold on, man, we're gonna play the

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<v Speaker 4>rest of this for y'all tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 6>And then we recorded it and it.

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<v Speaker 4>Became the Seven Rolls rooices and everything else you'll here.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 3>I keep telling them we need to get ray J.

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<v Speaker 2>He's one of the best interviews and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 4>You can't even script Man like the bird Man moment,

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<v Speaker 4>the ray J moment, like that's just radio magic, Like

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<v Speaker 4>like you don't script those, like you don't say, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>this is going to happen today. Those are just those

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<v Speaker 4>things that happen in live radio, and you just got

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<v Speaker 4>to be prepared for it.

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<v Speaker 7>Can you tell there's some uh there people that come

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<v Speaker 7>up where you can kind of tell they may be

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<v Speaker 7>kind of fishing for that viral moment, like they kind of.

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<v Speaker 5>As a guess.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, absolutely, And and I've had people say that and

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<v Speaker 4>then when the interview was over, they'd be like, that's gonna.

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<v Speaker 6>Go on world stuff.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>Luca Frederi, I remember, but I remember he did that,

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<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean, because because the question I

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<v Speaker 4>asked him.

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<v Speaker 6>I asked him because he said it right.

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<v Speaker 5>It was.

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<v Speaker 4>It was something he said about Brandy I think it

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<v Speaker 4>was on a flat TV interview and I asked him

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<v Speaker 4>about it and he got mad at me. But you

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<v Speaker 4>you said it, you know what I mean? And so

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<v Speaker 4>he turned up which I love because I'm an honest fan,

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<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean. So I was happy to

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<v Speaker 4>still see the Rye ray, you know, you know what

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I was. I was happy about that, right,

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<v Speaker 4>So it was so but I remember when the interview

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<v Speaker 4>was over, he was like, Yo, that's gonna that's gonna

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<v Speaker 4>make some noise on world stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was just like, so you started wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>be a super jock, then you became a super jock.

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<v Speaker 3>Then what did you decide was next?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh as far as what.

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<v Speaker 3>What you were gonna do?

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<v Speaker 2>Because you said you just as far as I knew before,

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<v Speaker 2>you just wanted to be a super job. Oh so

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<v Speaker 2>now you you became a super jobs. Yeah, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>so do we say I'm going to have my own network.

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<v Speaker 5>Show?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean definitely, because you know, the more you grow, right,

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<v Speaker 4>the more you see So it's just like we always

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<v Speaker 4>talk about, you know, there's levels to this, right.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>So the more you sin, you know, you start to

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<v Speaker 4>meet new people, and you start to get a bird's

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<v Speaker 4>eye view of the game and more opportunities, and you know,

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<v Speaker 4>now you're getting opportunities that you didn't even think was

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<v Speaker 4>was possible.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, now you you really feel like sky is

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<v Speaker 6>the limit.

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<v Speaker 5>Right.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's just like a few years ago when I

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<v Speaker 4>saw how the game was changing as far as podcasting

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<v Speaker 4>concern and you know, I've been on podcasts and earlier

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<v Speaker 4>I started my podcast, Me and Andrew been doing bro

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<v Speaker 4>for ten years. We actually just launched our first episode

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<v Speaker 4>last week officially, but we've been doing it for ten years.

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<v Speaker 6>It makes perfect right, Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>So when I saw where the game was going as

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<v Speaker 4>far as networks and everything, I was started looking around, like, man,

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<v Speaker 4>there's not a lot of uh, there's no network for

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<v Speaker 4>black podcas. Like there's no one place that you could

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<v Speaker 4>take these black podcasters that are getting these views, but

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<v Speaker 4>they don't have no infrastructure properly monetize what they're doing.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, Yo, that's what I want to create.

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<v Speaker 4>I saw Bill Simmons was doing with the Ringer, and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I want to create that for us. So

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<v Speaker 4>that's when I had the idea for the Black Effect,

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<v Speaker 4>like three four years ago, was.

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<v Speaker 7>That kind of what combat Jack was doing with.

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<v Speaker 4>His exactly what combat Jack was doing, because I you know,

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<v Speaker 4>God blessed the death luth to combat Jack.

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<v Speaker 6>Chris Moreau.

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<v Speaker 4>Chris Moreau is the first person to tell me, Yo,

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<v Speaker 4>you need to write a book and you need to

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<v Speaker 4>start a podcast.

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<v Speaker 6>This was two thousand and eleven.

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<v Speaker 3>That book thing is essential, Hans Charla May very very you.

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<v Speaker 6>Know, but Chris writes books.

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<v Speaker 4>So Chris has written, He's helped fifty cent russell Simmons like,

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<v Speaker 4>he's up to a lot of different people write books. So

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<v Speaker 4>he told me twenty eleven, you need to write a book,

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<v Speaker 4>you need to start a podcast. I was arrogant at

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<v Speaker 4>first with the podcast. I knew I wanted to do

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<v Speaker 4>a book because I'm an avid reader, right, but I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, why should I do a podcast? And I

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<v Speaker 4>got my own morning show and he was like, man,

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<v Speaker 4>trust me start a podcast. So I did, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>and with Loudspeaker's network, and that ended up being brilliant, idiot,

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<v Speaker 4>So it's me.

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<v Speaker 6>Combat Jack and to read.

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<v Speaker 4>And then when I started to see how creating a

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<v Speaker 4>podcast gives you a whole other voice and it's a

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<v Speaker 4>whole other platform, then I started seeing how it could

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<v Speaker 4>actually be lucrative. Started bringing in other people that I

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<v Speaker 4>thought were interesting to do podcasts, So you know, that

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<v Speaker 4>turned into the tax Stones and the Angela Rise and

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<v Speaker 4>then even like you know, Envy and his wife started

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<v Speaker 4>one and you know you took lip service from Shade

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<v Speaker 4>forty five and started doing a podcast, and it's just

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<v Speaker 4>like then eventually Lobspeaker gave me a percentage of the company,

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<v Speaker 4>so I equally important Arry, So I saw, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>the other side of the podcast game from the executive

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<v Speaker 4>side years years. Yeah, it's kind of.

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<v Speaker 3>Like distribution in a way.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that when you talk about those other companies like

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<v Speaker 2>loud Speaker, Like I heart, I'm just trying to so

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<v Speaker 2>so people who are listening to understand the formula of podcasts.

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<v Speaker 4>And in a way, I think Loudspeaker provided a lot

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<v Speaker 4>more infrastructure because people didn't even know what to do

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<v Speaker 4>to start a podcast, you know what I mean. Like

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<v Speaker 4>Loudspeaker had the engine room studios downtown, like they would

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<v Speaker 4>tell you to come at this time. They had a

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<v Speaker 4>producers there for you and everything, so they made it

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<v Speaker 4>very easy. Then they had the ad sales team.

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<v Speaker 1>So to start a podcast in twenty twenty three, what

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<v Speaker 1>are the essentials to at least stick make a DMP?

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<v Speaker 5>Like I know there's some people that just like record

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<v Speaker 5>and you got you like you're making a TV show.

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<v Speaker 1>Damn there, But yeah, like, what do you what is

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<v Speaker 1>the starter's kid post pandemic starter kit one on one thing?

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<v Speaker 5>Two jews in the corner killing your assurance car.

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<v Speaker 4>That sounds like a great podcast.

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<v Speaker 6>That is a fantastic.

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<v Speaker 5>Pom No, that's just an essential part of any podcast.

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<v Speaker 5>Let's talk about our mutual friend, all right?

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<v Speaker 1>So weezy, Oh, I feel like she is on the

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<v Speaker 1>verge of greatness as a solo act.

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<v Speaker 5>Like what steps. Oh, I'm sorry, I'm just horrible decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, one half of the horrible decisions. Right, so she

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<v Speaker 1>about to cut a solo deal whatever. I'm treating it

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<v Speaker 1>like it's the music thing. But what do you recommend

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<v Speaker 1>that a person does.

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<v Speaker 4>To I think number one, you have to be authentic

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<v Speaker 4>meaning and I know that's such a cliche thing to say,

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<v Speaker 4>but everybody in their mama is getting on these microphones

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<v Speaker 4>and they're just talking nowadays. It's like, what do you

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<v Speaker 4>actually have the offer that's different from everybody else?

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<v Speaker 5>But how can you tell the difference between a provocatory

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<v Speaker 5>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>So look, academics is deal with rumble, which kind of

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<v Speaker 1>just why in my opinion, you know, it's I know,

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<v Speaker 1>people want to be provocateurs. You can tell people that

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<v Speaker 1>are easy, like Okay, whatever buttons I should not be pressing,

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<v Speaker 1>Let me press those buttons. But what is authentic in

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<v Speaker 1>terms of like being a provocateur or being honest.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a great question. I think the difference is I

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<v Speaker 4>think somebody like Weezy, right, Weezy and man do with

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<v Speaker 4>horrible decisions, their story is authentic. There were two people

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<v Speaker 4>in the corporate world who were literally sneaking to do

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<v Speaker 4>a podcast about sex. They didn't want people at their

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<v Speaker 4>job to find out that they were having these conversations

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<v Speaker 4>about sexual liberation and women empowerment and everything else. But

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<v Speaker 4>it started getting so big that they couldn't hide anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>But they told us this story every step of the way,

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<v Speaker 4>like literally, you can go back the original episodes and

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<v Speaker 4>hear them talking about sneaking off to do this, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>from their jobs. Then it got so big that they

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<v Speaker 4>were able to quit their their corporate jobs and just

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<v Speaker 4>fully invest in horrible decisions. By the way, one of

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<v Speaker 4>the best live podcast show, if not the best live

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<v Speaker 4>podcast show.

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<v Speaker 3>That's horrible Decisions.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh, they're incredible.

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<v Speaker 4>So to me, that's authentic, having like an authentic story

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<v Speaker 4>and an authentic POV like another another example, I like to.

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<v Speaker 6>Users to read Kid Fury and Crystal. I remember watching

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<v Speaker 6>time like one of the longest decade.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember watching Kid Fury on YouTube back in the day,

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<v Speaker 4>and you always knew he was funny, you always knew

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<v Speaker 4>he was smart, you always knew he had a star quality.

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<v Speaker 6>Then he starts to read with Crystal, and you could

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<v Speaker 6>tell that they're friends.

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<v Speaker 4>They're just on there having two you know, authentic conversations

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<v Speaker 4>talking about their experiences, like you just happen to know

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<v Speaker 4>Kid Fury's a gay man from Miami and Crystal is

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<v Speaker 4>a queer woman from Oklahoma. That's because they tell you this,

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<v Speaker 4>But that's not the vein of their existence. They're just

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<v Speaker 4>good at what they do. To me that that's the

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<v Speaker 4>type of authenticness that makes for a good podcast. Nowadays,

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<v Speaker 4>people think just because you got a name, you can

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<v Speaker 4>launch a podcast. Both be the whackest ones and relationships. God,

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<v Speaker 4>all these people and all the people that aren't in

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<v Speaker 4>relationships with relationship podcasts, all these men who've never been

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<v Speaker 4>married telling women what they should be doing, and.

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<v Speaker 3>How many you got a couple of those shows on No, I.

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<v Speaker 6>Don't have any I don't have nothing. I don't have

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<v Speaker 6>no man's man sphere of podcast.

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<v Speaker 4>Man man playing podcast on black effect.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually to Jews in the corner would be a good

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<v Speaker 1>weekend man. Listen, Yo Shan.

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<v Speaker 7>I always wanted to ask you, man, because I don't

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<v Speaker 7>think I've ever heard you speak about this in any

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<v Speaker 7>interviews of platforms, specifically making it out of South Carolina?

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<v Speaker 5>What is that like trying to explain to people you know?

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<v Speaker 7>Because I mean, I'm from North Carolina, So trying to

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<v Speaker 7>explain to people that you know, Like you said, you know,

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<v Speaker 7>you have opportunities now that you.

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<v Speaker 5>Never thought were possible.

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<v Speaker 7>How have you adjusted, you know, knowing coming from where

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<v Speaker 7>you come from to where you are now? Mentally, like,

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<v Speaker 7>how do you make that adjustment?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if you ever truly make the adjustment.

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<v Speaker 4>I know I just started dealing. I just stopped dealing

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<v Speaker 4>with HIMSI syndrome probably in twenty nineteen, because.

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<v Speaker 5>You wait, I don't have to do that no more.

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<v Speaker 8>You definitely to do that, Like I'm sorry, I forget effects.

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<v Speaker 4>That's good because I think when you come from a

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<v Speaker 4>certain extreme, like it never leaves you.

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<v Speaker 6>I was raised on a dirt road in Monks Corner,

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<v Speaker 6>South Carolina.

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<v Speaker 4>The town I'm from the population with seven thousand people

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<v Speaker 4>like we were.

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<v Speaker 5>In Atown was from three thousand.

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<v Speaker 6>We were in a double wide trailer.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, me, my mom, my dad, my oldest sister,

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<v Speaker 4>and my mom had three more kids like we When

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<v Speaker 4>you come from those type of extremes, you don't.

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<v Speaker 6>Ever really lose that or forget that, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's like for me, I never truly adjust, Like

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<v Speaker 4>I said, I just I just started feeling worthy of

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<v Speaker 4>being in a position I'm in, like in the twenty

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<v Speaker 4>nineteen like and and that was just me saying it

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<v Speaker 4>to myself. I probably really didn't get get to a

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<v Speaker 4>feeling of worth until like the beginning of twenty twenty one,

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<v Speaker 4>like like right after COVID.

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<v Speaker 7>Because that was my next question, So how did lockdown

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<v Speaker 7>did that effect?

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<v Speaker 5>Like what what what changes did you make during lockdown?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean I lost I lost friends during COVID because

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<v Speaker 4>the suicide you know, like my good homegirl Jazmin Waters

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<v Speaker 4>Jazz Fly, So that that put a lot of things

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<v Speaker 4>in perspective because me and Jazz was two individuals who

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<v Speaker 4>would have like conversations about therapy and you know things

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<v Speaker 4>we might have been going through and it's just like

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<v Speaker 4>to know that she couldn't make it through that that time, right,

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<v Speaker 4>Like that was like whoa, you know? So I just

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<v Speaker 4>came out of there feeling like, man, we made it

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<v Speaker 4>through that. I'm going to just really embrace life to

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<v Speaker 4>the fullest, Like I'm gonna really enjoy this process that

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<v Speaker 4>that that that I'm going through. I'm enjoy this this

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<v Speaker 4>ride that I'm on. So that that's what it was

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<v Speaker 4>for me, Like that's that's what made me just not

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<v Speaker 4>just have a sense of worthiness, you know, for myself,

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<v Speaker 4>but just a sense of worthiness for life.

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<v Speaker 6>Like I'm not taking any of this for granted.

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<v Speaker 5>What was it like when you go back home.

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<v Speaker 6>And I definitely can't.

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<v Speaker 4>It's love, but it's not love from the people you

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<v Speaker 4>want to get the love from, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>Because it's people that you grew up with, you came

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<v Speaker 4>up with. They might be upset over something you said

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<v Speaker 4>in a book, you know what I mean. They might

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<v Speaker 4>be upset over something they heard you say on.

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<v Speaker 1>Air about you know, growing up years ago that you've evolved.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, upset because Grandma, your grandma is like that that

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<v Speaker 4>that little ma Calvy boy he really doing. He really

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<v Speaker 4>does a lot for our community and stuff like that

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<v Speaker 4>that might just make you matter.

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<v Speaker 6>Fuck him. I remember him in high school. He wasn't shit,

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<v Speaker 6>you know what I mean, you're.

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<v Speaker 3>And he wasn't quiet. Used to talk on everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>So people, it's definitely like that, damn it not that one.

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<v Speaker 4>I used to get bullied, and then I went from

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<v Speaker 4>getting bullied to being the bully because I got tired

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<v Speaker 4>of being bullies, Like you can't be them, join them.

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<v Speaker 4>So that day my glasses fell off for that final

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<v Speaker 4>time and they cracked. I said, fuck them, I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>wearing them the more because every other time they would

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<v Speaker 4>fall on the ground, they'd be crooked. I was going

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<v Speaker 4>to school wearing crooked glasses, you know, getting more, getting

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<v Speaker 4>more bullied because the glasses were crooked. So after that,

0:21:15.200 --> 0:21:17.600
<v Speaker 4>I was like, I'm done, you know. So I just

0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:20.960
<v Speaker 4>started being the bully. But I mean it's a love,

0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:22.800
<v Speaker 4>don't get me wrong, his love. But I do a

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<v Speaker 4>lot from my hometown. Do a book bag drive every year.

0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:27.280
<v Speaker 4>I do the Turkey drives every year. We do mental

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<v Speaker 4>health initiatives, you know what I mean. I bring therapists

0:21:30.200 --> 0:21:31.880
<v Speaker 4>and psychiatrists you know, to.

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<v Speaker 3>March, Charlamaine.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so thankful for all your conversations about black men's

0:21:35.240 --> 0:21:37.840
<v Speaker 2>mental health. Oh my god, I feel like it's a

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<v Speaker 2>new era even in this room, as these men now

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<v Speaker 2>speak freely about this stuff. I just wanted to say

0:21:43.800 --> 0:21:45.359
<v Speaker 2>that as you were going down to the World College One.

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<v Speaker 4>I did that last year. My man Jay Bartnett, he's

0:21:48.200 --> 0:21:50.280
<v Speaker 4>a psychiatrist. He does his toy called the Just Hill

0:21:50.320 --> 0:21:53.399
<v Speaker 4>bro Tour and it's him and some other psychiatrist therapists.

0:21:53.400 --> 0:21:55.760
<v Speaker 4>I bought that, you know, the Charleston so people know

0:21:55.840 --> 0:21:57.919
<v Speaker 4>I do a lot for the community. So I think

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<v Speaker 4>it's one of those things where it's like I love them,

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<v Speaker 4>but also I hate them a little bit too. And

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<v Speaker 4>maybe I'm just exactly Maybe that's just in my mind.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe nobody hates me, and I'm just scared to go around.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I was gonna say.

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<v Speaker 5>You know what.

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<v Speaker 1>This happened once at my high school reunion where I

0:22:17.200 --> 0:22:20.320
<v Speaker 1>did that whole Marty Mare pretty Ricky what they call him,

0:22:20.840 --> 0:22:24.480
<v Speaker 1>had the list ready. You know, My date was tired.

0:22:24.480 --> 0:22:26.479
<v Speaker 1>I would to suit and everything. I was like, give

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<v Speaker 1>revenge when you all boys them in all I got

0:22:35.920 --> 0:22:39.960
<v Speaker 1>there and yo, man, everyone was so nice, we're so

0:22:40.080 --> 0:22:41.400
<v Speaker 1>proud of you, mirror, and I was.

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<v Speaker 5>So mad like.

0:22:44.920 --> 0:22:50.159
<v Speaker 1>Guys, like literally, and then I realized, maybe again, the

0:22:50.240 --> 0:22:54.480
<v Speaker 1>voice in your head is your worst enemy ever. And

0:22:54.520 --> 0:22:59.000
<v Speaker 1>I think maybe what I thought was everyone's opinion.

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<v Speaker 5>Of me in high school is maybe the opinion I

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<v Speaker 5>had myself.

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<v Speaker 6>Absolutely and absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>That's when I realized, like, ah, man, like now I

0:23:08.240 --> 0:23:10.760
<v Speaker 1>got to be friends with everyone, and like for real, I.

0:23:11.320 --> 0:23:13.200
<v Speaker 5>Was a year like that's right.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's just in the gym all that stuff, Like

0:23:15.440 --> 0:23:18.320
<v Speaker 4>I was getting ready, and I think you got to

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<v Speaker 4>remove yourself from certain things.

0:23:19.760 --> 0:23:21.520
<v Speaker 6>That's the other thing that hurts too. Right. The other

0:23:21.520 --> 0:23:22.040
<v Speaker 6>thing is.

0:23:22.680 --> 0:23:25.160
<v Speaker 4>I know, if I come home, I can't go there

0:23:25.160 --> 0:23:27.000
<v Speaker 4>because they're doing the same things we were doing thirty

0:23:27.080 --> 0:23:29.439
<v Speaker 4>years right, right, you know what I mean. So I'm

0:23:29.440 --> 0:23:32.560
<v Speaker 4>gonna be over here and possibly end up in a

0:23:32.600 --> 0:23:34.920
<v Speaker 4>situation where I lose everything just to keep it real.

0:23:36.280 --> 0:23:37.600
<v Speaker 6>If that's what I got to do to keep it real.

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<v Speaker 4>If I got to hang out with y'all on the

0:23:39.000 --> 0:23:41.760
<v Speaker 4>block and drink and smoke and all that, I'm cool

0:23:41.840 --> 0:23:44.560
<v Speaker 4>on that. I'm not going there. I'm not subjecting myself

0:23:44.560 --> 0:23:44.920
<v Speaker 4>to that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's kind of one thing I wish I could lose

0:23:47.359 --> 0:23:49.840
<v Speaker 1>because like my mom and my sister teach me to

0:23:49.880 --> 0:23:54.879
<v Speaker 1>this day because they know like my addiction to like

0:23:56.040 --> 0:23:59.359
<v Speaker 1>I won't waste a second to like hop in my

0:23:59.440 --> 0:24:03.320
<v Speaker 1>car and just drive to Philly at like eleven pm

0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:06.520
<v Speaker 1>just to sit in front of my childhood crib or

0:24:06.640 --> 0:24:07.880
<v Speaker 1>go to my grandmam's block.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh I do that, not even get out the.

0:24:09.480 --> 0:24:12.480
<v Speaker 3>Car, but just like it ground It's like a grounding well.

0:24:12.440 --> 0:24:13.359
<v Speaker 5>Chase, Chase ghost.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what it is because the thing was

0:24:14.800 --> 0:24:17.399
<v Speaker 1>I used to always if you remember, like back in

0:24:17.400 --> 0:24:20.199
<v Speaker 1>the eighties or nineties, you hear about like such and

0:24:20.240 --> 0:24:24.760
<v Speaker 1>such sewing basketball player getting to an altercation with you know,

0:24:24.840 --> 0:24:27.119
<v Speaker 1>someone at their old projects or you know what happened

0:24:27.119 --> 0:24:30.240
<v Speaker 1>to Bobby Brown and his brothers in Roxbury Projects, And

0:24:30.280 --> 0:24:33.680
<v Speaker 1>you're like, in my mind, as the as the outsider,

0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:37.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well wait, you're like blah blah blah Platinum Wars, Like,

0:24:37.240 --> 0:24:38.000
<v Speaker 1>what the hell are you.

0:24:37.920 --> 0:24:42.080
<v Speaker 3>Doing back at Survivor's remote. You're right, literally the show too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but it's it's it's an addiction, Like I don't

0:24:45.520 --> 0:24:49.800
<v Speaker 1>know why. I literally there was one point where like

0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:53.240
<v Speaker 1>I got up at like maybe ten thirty in New York,

0:24:53.800 --> 0:24:56.480
<v Speaker 1>drove the Philly just to get my Uh there's a

0:24:56.560 --> 0:25:04.520
<v Speaker 1>fish sandwich for not punchies or fifty second Street, but.

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<v Speaker 5>Bottom of Oh.

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<v Speaker 9>I ain't been the bottom of his speed in a minute, Yo, Steve,

0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:14.880
<v Speaker 9>you know you know what Steve is really?

0:25:16.280 --> 0:25:18.560
<v Speaker 5>Yes, Yes, we get.

0:25:18.520 --> 0:25:22.359
<v Speaker 1>D'Angelo, forget Erica, like forget Steve's whole history is my engineer.

0:25:22.840 --> 0:25:26.160
<v Speaker 1>Steve is by my side because Steve knows where all

0:25:26.440 --> 0:25:30.720
<v Speaker 1>the bodies are buried, and I gotta get my every.

0:25:30.880 --> 0:25:31.960
<v Speaker 4>I forgot about bottom of.

0:25:31.960 --> 0:25:34.040
<v Speaker 1>The seconds at bottom of the see, I was like, wait,

0:25:34.040 --> 0:25:36.920
<v Speaker 1>what you know about damn you?

0:25:37.240 --> 0:25:39.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, in the potatoes.

0:25:41.560 --> 0:25:42.119
<v Speaker 5>He's sugar.

0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:45.879
<v Speaker 1>He sugar Steve because I gave him diabetes, like he

0:25:46.040 --> 0:25:50.919
<v Speaker 1>literally got yeah in eight months, adapting to my DIETI.

0:25:50.680 --> 0:25:53.400
<v Speaker 5>Between bottom of the sea and the church. Yes, yes,

0:25:53.520 --> 0:25:56.000
<v Speaker 5>how the prayer soul food Yeah yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Staying Philly that long to get all the secret, ain't

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<v Speaker 3>I got?

0:26:00.440 --> 0:26:02.359
<v Speaker 6>I got incabibbles.

0:26:02.640 --> 0:26:13.760
<v Speaker 1>Max's Max, All right, I'm evolvedvolved. Just say yes shout

0:26:13.760 --> 0:26:20.000
<v Speaker 1>out to Max's Hello, I love you guys.

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<v Speaker 4>That was like my grand My grandmother's house is still

0:26:25.359 --> 0:26:28.080
<v Speaker 4>uh still up in South Carolina, Monks Corner, South Carolina,

0:26:28.080 --> 0:26:30.280
<v Speaker 4>and I go sit on the porch, just the ground there,

0:26:30.320 --> 0:26:31.560
<v Speaker 4>take my shoes off, walk through her.

0:26:32.320 --> 0:26:34.600
<v Speaker 5>What about your parents? And they still my dad?

0:26:34.680 --> 0:26:37.040
<v Speaker 4>My dad lives in Kidfield, South Carolina. My mom lives

0:26:37.080 --> 0:26:38.240
<v Speaker 4>in Monk's Corner still.

0:26:38.080 --> 0:26:41.399
<v Speaker 3>Like the yeah, you retire them or where they already retired.

0:26:42.040 --> 0:26:44.080
<v Speaker 6>My mom was kind of always already retired. She was

0:26:44.119 --> 0:26:44.840
<v Speaker 6>a school teacher.

0:26:45.119 --> 0:26:47.119
<v Speaker 5>But it's like, yo, when you she let you retire,

0:26:47.160 --> 0:26:49.160
<v Speaker 5>because my like they still didn't.

0:26:49.160 --> 0:26:50.720
<v Speaker 4>That's what I thought about it, because when I brought.

0:26:50.520 --> 0:26:54.640
<v Speaker 1>My mom's career, she she has just started unpacking boxes

0:26:54.640 --> 0:26:57.439
<v Speaker 1>from like ten years ago. It was almost like I

0:26:57.440 --> 0:26:59.880
<v Speaker 1>don't trust this and still didn't unpacked.

0:27:00.160 --> 0:27:01.920
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's like my mom won't.

0:27:02.000 --> 0:27:03.880
<v Speaker 4>I don't know what she wants, you know what I mean,

0:27:03.960 --> 0:27:06.520
<v Speaker 4>Like usually the things that she wants are for other people,

0:27:07.359 --> 0:27:09.480
<v Speaker 4>you know. And I know, right right now, I'm gonna

0:27:09.480 --> 0:27:12.800
<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna restore my grandmother's house, right because she got

0:27:12.800 --> 0:27:16.000
<v Speaker 4>like one of those old school sovereign porch houses.

0:27:16.040 --> 0:27:17.320
<v Speaker 6>Right, I'm gonna restore that.

0:27:17.680 --> 0:27:19.879
<v Speaker 4>But she don't really they don't really ask me for anything,

0:27:20.119 --> 0:27:23.080
<v Speaker 4>which is which is wild. Right, Well, my mom was

0:27:23.119 --> 0:27:25.520
<v Speaker 4>an English teacher, so she kind of been retired. She

0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:29.199
<v Speaker 4>substitutes every now and then, but she likes to do that, like,

0:27:29.280 --> 0:27:32.000
<v Speaker 4>you know, she likes to get up and go substitute

0:27:32.000 --> 0:27:33.479
<v Speaker 4>the class. You know, I don't want her in there

0:27:33.480 --> 0:27:35.520
<v Speaker 4>a no more because these little kids is crazy nowadays,

0:27:35.840 --> 0:27:37.680
<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean. And she's up in age,

0:27:37.680 --> 0:27:40.560
<v Speaker 4>but you know, I don't think she wants to fully retire.

0:27:41.840 --> 0:27:44.520
<v Speaker 3>You got two girls, four four girls now.

0:27:47.280 --> 0:27:51.440
<v Speaker 8>Talk about at all the time, like all the time,

0:27:52.840 --> 0:27:54.320
<v Speaker 8>a comical disaster.

0:27:58.640 --> 0:28:00.920
<v Speaker 2>But as men, how does that change on that in

0:28:01.000 --> 0:28:03.680
<v Speaker 2>new daily interactions all the time.

0:28:05.440 --> 0:28:08.399
<v Speaker 4>I don't know, Oh it changes everything because because you

0:28:08.440 --> 0:28:11.160
<v Speaker 4>know how they always say like the future is female,

0:28:11.280 --> 0:28:14.080
<v Speaker 4>and it's like, yo, my future is female regardless.

0:28:14.280 --> 0:28:14.440
<v Speaker 5>Right.

0:28:14.520 --> 0:28:17.199
<v Speaker 4>So it's just like, you know, why not try to

0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:19.560
<v Speaker 4>make the world a better place for women? Like it

0:28:19.600 --> 0:28:21.760
<v Speaker 4>makes you listen more, which is something I think men

0:28:21.880 --> 0:28:24.440
<v Speaker 4>historically didn't do a good job of. Right, So now

0:28:24.480 --> 0:28:27.160
<v Speaker 4>that you've got a house full of women, at least

0:28:27.160 --> 0:28:29.280
<v Speaker 4>in my life, I have I have no choice. I

0:28:29.320 --> 0:28:31.359
<v Speaker 4>have to hear what's going on, whether I want to

0:28:31.400 --> 0:28:34.119
<v Speaker 4>hear what's going on or not, right, And then, But

0:28:34.240 --> 0:28:37.240
<v Speaker 4>historically in my life, I've always had more women around

0:28:37.240 --> 0:28:40.920
<v Speaker 4>me than guys because my dad went from my dad

0:28:40.960 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 4>went from telling me why why do you want to be?

0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:45.080
<v Speaker 4>My dad would say, why you want to be around

0:28:45.080 --> 0:28:48.239
<v Speaker 4>all these dudes all the time? Man's all these dudes right,

0:28:48.320 --> 0:28:49.840
<v Speaker 4>like you do? They do nothing but to get you

0:28:49.840 --> 0:28:51.000
<v Speaker 4>in trouble. So when he told me that when I

0:28:51.040 --> 0:28:54.320
<v Speaker 4>was young, all I would do is be around a

0:28:54.360 --> 0:28:56.440
<v Speaker 4>bunch of women. And then you realize, even when I

0:28:56.480 --> 0:28:58.360
<v Speaker 4>used to throw parties back in the day, having a

0:28:58.360 --> 0:29:01.360
<v Speaker 4>bunch of women at the party, all the guys want

0:29:01.360 --> 0:29:02.840
<v Speaker 4>to come to the parties. You let women in free

0:29:02.880 --> 0:29:05.600
<v Speaker 4>before eleven. Now you can hit the guys over the head,

0:29:05.680 --> 0:29:06.160
<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean.

0:29:06.480 --> 0:29:07.200
<v Speaker 6>Twenty dollars.

0:29:07.320 --> 0:29:09.000
<v Speaker 4>That was a lot back then, people, you know I mean,

0:29:09.080 --> 0:29:11.760
<v Speaker 4>but twenty dollars right. So it's just like I've always

0:29:11.920 --> 0:29:15.120
<v Speaker 4>been around women, right, But I don't I don't know

0:29:15.160 --> 0:29:18.600
<v Speaker 4>if if if I was always listening to them like

0:29:18.640 --> 0:29:19.840
<v Speaker 4>I should have should have been.

0:29:19.880 --> 0:29:21.360
<v Speaker 2>That's why I asked about the daughters, because you have

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:23.840
<v Speaker 2>no choice, like you could have been raised behind grandmothers

0:29:23.840 --> 0:29:24.360
<v Speaker 2>and things.

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:26.880
<v Speaker 4>But daughters and the teenage, the fourteen year old, challenging

0:29:26.960 --> 0:29:28.280
<v Speaker 4>me like no other.

0:29:28.480 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 8>The energy is different. It's hard to explain, Like male

0:29:31.040 --> 0:29:32.920
<v Speaker 8>energy is just like put on a helmet, run into

0:29:32.960 --> 0:29:36.480
<v Speaker 8>the door. Like the women's energy is different. Man, it's

0:29:36.520 --> 0:29:38.440
<v Speaker 8>not like that. They were like, just like gotta listen

0:29:38.680 --> 0:29:41.160
<v Speaker 8>and make you feel so guilty about something.

0:29:40.920 --> 0:29:45.640
<v Speaker 4>Everything guilty and stupid stupid as all, Yeah, guilty and stupid.

0:29:45.720 --> 0:29:49.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah it's already is dad, Like, it's that level of they.

0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:51.840
<v Speaker 8>Say actually all the time, as like no matter what.

0:29:51.800 --> 0:29:54.520
<v Speaker 1>You say, actually, or.

0:29:54.560 --> 0:29:57.160
<v Speaker 8>Basically as if like I'm a fucking idiot, and he

0:29:57.280 --> 0:30:00.760
<v Speaker 8>told basically what's going on? This is like every sentence

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:04.680
<v Speaker 8>I got, Actually, Dad, that's right, basically, Dad, Like that's

0:30:05.000 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 8>like over the all four of them.

0:30:07.240 --> 0:30:10.120
<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, and trying not the parent like like our parents.

0:30:10.440 --> 0:30:13.080
<v Speaker 4>So then that, you know, because I always say my

0:30:13.160 --> 0:30:15.560
<v Speaker 4>dad didn't parent with love. I think my dad parented

0:30:15.560 --> 0:30:19.160
<v Speaker 4>out a fear. You know what I'm saying, This motherfucker

0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:20.160
<v Speaker 4>is not gonna be like I was.

0:30:20.520 --> 0:30:21.120
<v Speaker 6>You know what I'm saying.

0:30:21.120 --> 0:30:22.560
<v Speaker 4>I don't want him to make none of the mistakes

0:30:22.600 --> 0:30:24.840
<v Speaker 4>that I made, So I think, you know, just trying

0:30:24.840 --> 0:30:27.720
<v Speaker 4>to parent out of love. Even answering those questions, like why,

0:30:28.040 --> 0:30:29.800
<v Speaker 4>Like when you're a seven year old or four year old,

0:30:29.800 --> 0:30:30.600
<v Speaker 4>ask you why.

0:30:30.880 --> 0:30:33.840
<v Speaker 2>No longer do we say, don't ask why.

0:30:34.000 --> 0:30:36.520
<v Speaker 4>That's right, that's right, and that that makes you think

0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:39.240
<v Speaker 4>because sometimes you be like, what is the why?

0:30:39.520 --> 0:30:41.400
<v Speaker 6>You know, what is the why?

0:30:41.520 --> 0:30:44.240
<v Speaker 5>My just parenting got my own anxiety doing what.

0:30:44.120 --> 0:30:46.800
<v Speaker 7>I was done to me. That's right, that's what we

0:30:46.840 --> 0:30:47.440
<v Speaker 7>always did.

0:30:47.640 --> 0:30:49.920
<v Speaker 6>Like I grew up getting beaten. I'm not beating my children.

0:30:50.360 --> 0:30:53.960
<v Speaker 6>You know what I'm saying, like get beaten? Nah?

0:30:55.280 --> 0:30:57.360
<v Speaker 7>How is your marriage changed over the years and what

0:30:57.720 --> 0:30:59.600
<v Speaker 7>or developed over the years since.

0:30:59.680 --> 0:31:02.320
<v Speaker 4>Me and my wife being together for twenty five years?

0:31:02.880 --> 0:31:05.160
<v Speaker 4>So we met in nineteen ninety eight.

0:31:05.280 --> 0:31:08.120
<v Speaker 5>I don't have to make up my sound effects years.

0:31:08.200 --> 0:31:10.840
<v Speaker 3>It's like fifty years entertaining sight.

0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:11.440
<v Speaker 4>I don't.

0:31:14.800 --> 0:31:18.080
<v Speaker 5>That was life.

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:20.520
<v Speaker 8>There you go, twenty five years a total waste.

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:22.520
<v Speaker 5>If I don't do one effect for this, thank you.

0:31:22.800 --> 0:31:25.120
<v Speaker 4>But even with that, right, Like, that's what I was

0:31:25.120 --> 0:31:27.760
<v Speaker 4>gonn say about my pops. I've always been the type

0:31:27.760 --> 0:31:30.360
<v Speaker 4>person that I like being with one woman, right, Like

0:31:30.400 --> 0:31:34.480
<v Speaker 4>I've always why having a rider for you, having somebody

0:31:34.520 --> 0:31:36.480
<v Speaker 4>that's riding with you, Like I always thought that was

0:31:36.520 --> 0:31:39.520
<v Speaker 4>the cool way until I caught my pops cheating and

0:31:39.880 --> 0:31:42.440
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, I hit cheating on my mom. He looked

0:31:42.440 --> 0:31:44.520
<v Speaker 4>me in the eyes and goes, you only got one

0:31:44.560 --> 0:31:49.480
<v Speaker 4>girlfriend one day. One day you'll understand. One day you

0:31:49.480 --> 0:31:51.240
<v Speaker 4>don't understand, you know what I mean. So in my mind,

0:31:51.280 --> 0:31:54.200
<v Speaker 4>I'm thinking that's something wrong with having one girlfriend. So

0:31:54.240 --> 0:31:58.600
<v Speaker 4>that's when the whole player things started off or trying year.

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<v Speaker 4>But to be a player, No, that was way before

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<v Speaker 4>the third This was I reme since ninety eight, you

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<v Speaker 4>know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 6>So this is way before that.

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<v Speaker 4>But it's just like it took me, honestly, it took

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<v Speaker 4>me until like twenty sixteen to totally get rid of

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<v Speaker 4>that because I started to realize I'm becoming my father, right,

0:32:14.920 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 4>So you're turning into what you hated, right, And not

0:32:18.520 --> 0:32:20.440
<v Speaker 4>that I hate my dad. I just hated how he

0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:22.920
<v Speaker 4>did our family, you know what I mean. I saw

0:32:23.360 --> 0:32:26.440
<v Speaker 4>what his infidelity did and breaking apart him and my

0:32:26.520 --> 0:32:29.640
<v Speaker 4>mother and what that did to my younger siblings, you

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<v Speaker 4>know me, absolutely, and I didn't want that to be me.

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<v Speaker 2>On the side note, I always want to ask us

0:32:35.400 --> 0:32:37.320
<v Speaker 2>about to men to cheat and we all cheat because

0:32:37.360 --> 0:32:38.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm I've been a cheater.

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<v Speaker 3>But what if the shirt the shirt I knew it

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<v Speaker 3>was gonna come.

0:32:51.600 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 5>I knew it was going to come.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I was gonna what I was gonna say

0:32:55.120 --> 0:32:56.920
<v Speaker 2>is what if she What if what if she would.

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<v Speaker 3>Have turned around while you were in the stage and

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<v Speaker 3>been like.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, baby, since you went the stage, why don't we

0:33:01.440 --> 0:33:04.200
<v Speaker 2>just poly marit this thing for a second until you

0:33:04.200 --> 0:33:04.680
<v Speaker 2>can get.

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<v Speaker 4>A Because I not a idea with the Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not with the polonies.

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<v Speaker 5>Out of the situation. Considered it too much work.

0:33:19.680 --> 0:33:20.800
<v Speaker 3>Because she got to get her.

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<v Speaker 5>Well no, no, there's a lot one. I'm just lazy and

0:33:25.720 --> 0:33:27.240
<v Speaker 5>it's already doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but like you still, like, no matter who, you

0:33:31.120 --> 0:33:34.800
<v Speaker 1>got to deal with somebody, and when you deal with someone,

0:33:34.840 --> 0:33:36.720
<v Speaker 1>you got to talk to them, communicate.

0:33:36.240 --> 0:33:39.200
<v Speaker 5>With them, get emotionally connected. Now we're gonna ask somebody else. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>And it's just too it's too much.

0:33:42.200 --> 0:33:43.560
<v Speaker 1>And I think at the end of the day, it's

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:45.640
<v Speaker 1>also like you just get yeah, and this time my

0:33:45.680 --> 0:33:46.360
<v Speaker 1>ego gets.

0:33:46.160 --> 0:33:46.560
<v Speaker 6>The best of me.

0:33:47.080 --> 0:33:49.240
<v Speaker 3>Come on, come on, tell the truth for real.

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:52.040
<v Speaker 5>Like all of us want to be on some Drake Wayne,

0:33:52.560 --> 0:33:53.800
<v Speaker 5>every girl in the world doing.

0:33:54.240 --> 0:33:55.800
<v Speaker 6>But Drake can't even handle.

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<v Speaker 1>That right, Yeah, that's almost the end of the episode.

0:34:07.000 --> 0:34:07.840
<v Speaker 8>It's a book ending.

0:34:07.920 --> 0:34:09.279
<v Speaker 5>Like I think at the end of the.

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:13.879
<v Speaker 1>Day, like we just get generally tired of getting cart

0:34:13.960 --> 0:34:18.880
<v Speaker 1>and you know, racing shit, right, I got lazy. So

0:34:18.920 --> 0:34:21.640
<v Speaker 1>it's just like, all right, no, that's not fair.

0:34:21.440 --> 0:34:24.520
<v Speaker 4>And you find things that actually feed your soul and

0:34:24.560 --> 0:34:27.239
<v Speaker 4>not your ego, because that's what I think cheating is, right,

0:34:27.239 --> 0:34:29.640
<v Speaker 4>like nine times out of ten, when you out there cheating,

0:34:29.840 --> 0:34:31.560
<v Speaker 4>you're really just trying to feed your ego.

0:34:31.760 --> 0:34:34.040
<v Speaker 7>It's not about cheating, is not about I want to

0:34:34.080 --> 0:34:35.840
<v Speaker 7>be with another person. It's about you want to be.

0:34:36.160 --> 0:34:38.000
<v Speaker 4>But you know, another question too is can you handle

0:34:38.040 --> 0:34:39.920
<v Speaker 4>it when your woman cheats on you?

0:34:39.960 --> 0:34:41.480
<v Speaker 3>But that's why I was asking, because I was like,

0:34:41.520 --> 0:34:42.040
<v Speaker 3>while you're.

0:34:41.920 --> 0:34:44.279
<v Speaker 2>Out there, I don't want to know because men, I

0:34:44.320 --> 0:34:46.080
<v Speaker 2>don't know if men think that why you're cheating, that

0:34:46.200 --> 0:34:49.319
<v Speaker 2>a woman is fulfilled, because when we're not, if you're

0:34:49.320 --> 0:34:51.080
<v Speaker 2>given to somebody else, I'm still horning.

0:34:51.680 --> 0:34:53.880
<v Speaker 4>Your women are the most If you was with your

0:34:53.920 --> 0:34:55.719
<v Speaker 4>woman in college, you know what I'm saying.

0:34:55.840 --> 0:34:58.080
<v Speaker 6>Trust me, your woman had a life. Here we go

0:34:58.520 --> 0:34:59.600
<v Speaker 6>all right out of your mind.

0:34:59.600 --> 0:35:01.239
<v Speaker 4>If you think young woman didn't have a life in

0:35:01.280 --> 0:35:04.120
<v Speaker 4>college is nineteen ninety eight.

0:35:05.440 --> 0:35:06.040
<v Speaker 6>What I'm saying.

0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:07.840
<v Speaker 3>And then she hit Florida.

0:35:07.840 --> 0:35:09.680
<v Speaker 2>It'll be like you better fulfill or she going because

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<v Speaker 2>real Horny play.

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<v Speaker 8>The track again.

0:35:11.719 --> 0:35:19.520
<v Speaker 1>I can't even find it here, we go here, just

0:35:19.560 --> 0:35:20.239
<v Speaker 1>a lady.

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<v Speaker 5>Horn all right.

0:35:23.120 --> 0:35:25.279
<v Speaker 1>This has been a long time coming. Thank you for

0:35:26.200 --> 0:35:28.239
<v Speaker 1>having me, Thank you for having me. It's beautiful to

0:35:28.280 --> 0:35:32.520
<v Speaker 1>see your your evolution and and how you're coming up

0:35:32.560 --> 0:35:35.440
<v Speaker 1>in the world. Yes, I absolutely believe that you know

0:35:36.000 --> 0:35:43.160
<v Speaker 1>you will be the new Byron is Yo. No too, hey, yo,

0:35:43.480 --> 0:35:44.040
<v Speaker 1>that's a thing.

0:35:44.120 --> 0:35:45.560
<v Speaker 6>Somebody said that to me this weekend.

0:35:45.680 --> 0:35:46.759
<v Speaker 4>That's a thing.

0:35:46.760 --> 0:35:48.480
<v Speaker 3>Can you take us what listen?

0:35:49.680 --> 0:35:52.520
<v Speaker 5>Face Byron all just isn't the guy from real people

0:35:52.600 --> 0:35:57.600
<v Speaker 5>back in If don't make Byron Island your ceiling is

0:35:57.600 --> 0:35:59.120
<v Speaker 5>why I was right.

0:35:59.200 --> 0:36:00.920
<v Speaker 6>You know who first told me I'm gonna be a billionaire?

0:36:01.520 --> 0:36:02.400
<v Speaker 6>Dave Chappelle.

0:36:02.840 --> 0:36:06.920
<v Speaker 4>Really Chapelle random He randomly said that, like five years ago.

0:36:07.120 --> 0:36:08.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't know how you know what you can be

0:36:09.000 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 2>a billionaire living your black truth? Like I am just

0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:11.680
<v Speaker 2>so impressed.

0:36:12.000 --> 0:36:14.319
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no, I'm gonna tell you something. And I

0:36:14.400 --> 0:36:17.200
<v Speaker 1>know you might say, like, well, that's easy said than done. Yes,

0:36:18.400 --> 0:36:21.200
<v Speaker 1>I actually spend I hate that I'm getting real deep

0:36:21.239 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 1>in like the last minutes of this podcast. My assessment

0:36:24.080 --> 0:36:26.520
<v Speaker 1>in my last life in the last two years is

0:36:26.560 --> 0:36:31.200
<v Speaker 1>that I spend more time thinking how can I sabotage

0:36:31.239 --> 0:36:34.120
<v Speaker 1>something than I do letting it happen.

0:36:35.400 --> 0:36:37.839
<v Speaker 5>And I almost feel like it's transported like little.

0:36:37.880 --> 0:36:41.920
<v Speaker 1>I believe that we collectively as black people get these moments.

0:36:41.960 --> 0:36:45.520
<v Speaker 1>But because we getting our heads of was blah blah

0:36:45.520 --> 0:36:47.680
<v Speaker 1>blah gonna think? Is that not going to talk shit

0:36:48.320 --> 0:36:51.160
<v Speaker 1>Like something happened to me like three days ago and

0:36:51.239 --> 0:36:54.799
<v Speaker 1>I'm dreading this news getting out.

0:36:55.200 --> 0:36:57.239
<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's some big, a good thing.

0:36:57.280 --> 0:36:58.640
<v Speaker 3>It's a good thing, but you just.

0:36:58.680 --> 0:37:00.719
<v Speaker 5>Read for the history sake would be a good thing.

0:37:01.360 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 1>But if my first thoughts are a man like now,

0:37:07.040 --> 0:37:09.719
<v Speaker 1>I was gonna talk like it's it's hard to get

0:37:09.760 --> 0:37:11.560
<v Speaker 1>that voice out of your head, which is why, like

0:37:11.680 --> 0:37:14.080
<v Speaker 1>I keep stressing on the show, like the importance of

0:37:15.120 --> 0:37:16.480
<v Speaker 1>meditation and all that stuff.

0:37:16.560 --> 0:37:18.680
<v Speaker 4>That's because we live in a world when you whenever

0:37:18.719 --> 0:37:22.200
<v Speaker 4>you announce good news, it's always somebody ready to shoot

0:37:22.200 --> 0:37:23.040
<v Speaker 4>your good news down.

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:24.000
<v Speaker 6>It's always ready.

0:37:24.000 --> 0:37:25.520
<v Speaker 1>For half the time, it's us waiting for the other

0:37:25.560 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 1>shoot ain't gonna last forever.

0:37:29.160 --> 0:37:29.480
<v Speaker 5>That's right.

0:37:30.880 --> 0:37:35.840
<v Speaker 1>I believe it is absolutely easy as hell to succeed.

0:37:36.120 --> 0:37:39.719
<v Speaker 1>If we just for any person that has not truly succeeded,

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:42.520
<v Speaker 1>I will show your person that has somehow figured out

0:37:42.560 --> 0:37:47.719
<v Speaker 1>a way to thwart or sabotage it subconstantly or or

0:37:47.760 --> 0:37:51.920
<v Speaker 1>on purpose. I guarantee you I'm almost ninety nine per

0:37:53.000 --> 0:37:53.960
<v Speaker 1>certain that this happened.

0:37:53.960 --> 0:37:55.719
<v Speaker 6>How many times have you recommended the Big Leap on

0:37:55.760 --> 0:37:56.360
<v Speaker 6>this podcast?

0:37:57.320 --> 0:37:58.920
<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean we need a book let.

0:37:59.360 --> 0:38:01.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm actually on it, like not, I don't want to

0:38:01.400 --> 0:38:04.120
<v Speaker 1>be that even then, Like I have a truth to share,

0:38:04.200 --> 0:38:08.080
<v Speaker 1>but I'm so scared that everyone's like hear me goes.

0:38:08.000 --> 0:38:10.200
<v Speaker 2>Again with you there, we've been talking about meditation since

0:38:10.200 --> 0:38:12.160
<v Speaker 2>the COVID Like we're all different, we all Bob, and

0:38:12.239 --> 0:38:13.120
<v Speaker 2>let's not let's not do that.

0:38:13.200 --> 0:38:14.759
<v Speaker 4>I read the Big Leap because of quest. I saw

0:38:14.800 --> 0:38:17.319
<v Speaker 4>a quests at this last year we got named as

0:38:17.360 --> 0:38:20.279
<v Speaker 4>what was it that we awarded something for the most

0:38:20.280 --> 0:38:22.440
<v Speaker 4>powerful media in New York or something or New York

0:38:22.440 --> 0:38:22.799
<v Speaker 4>something like.

0:38:22.960 --> 0:38:25.799
<v Speaker 5>There's an Illuminati room white people exactly, we.

0:38:25.719 --> 0:38:31.960
<v Speaker 4>Were the only people about the blackness, That's right.

0:38:32.800 --> 0:38:34.239
<v Speaker 6>So I go up to question and I asked, quess,

0:38:34.239 --> 0:38:35.520
<v Speaker 6>I'm like, yo, how's everything.

0:38:35.320 --> 0:38:39.319
<v Speaker 4>Changed since the you know, the Grammy and and when

0:38:39.320 --> 0:38:41.920
<v Speaker 4>you ask somebody how they're doing better, be prepared to

0:38:41.920 --> 0:38:44.680
<v Speaker 4>get her. And he gave me a real honest answer

0:38:44.680 --> 0:38:46.800
<v Speaker 4>and it was about the self sabotage everything else. He

0:38:46.840 --> 0:38:48.359
<v Speaker 4>was like, I'm reading this book called the Big Leap,

0:38:48.400 --> 0:38:51.400
<v Speaker 4>and I ordered literally the next daybout it.

0:38:51.440 --> 0:38:53.919
<v Speaker 1>Now I got one job, and that's just literally get

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:54.719
<v Speaker 1>out my own way.

0:38:54.960 --> 0:38:55.359
<v Speaker 6>That's it.

0:38:55.800 --> 0:38:58.080
<v Speaker 7>If I get out my own way, I'm here, that's it.

0:38:58.360 --> 0:39:00.200
<v Speaker 7>I was gonna say, Man, I mean this is so.

0:39:00.280 --> 0:39:02.960
<v Speaker 7>This is me and his first time ever meeting crazy.

0:39:03.000 --> 0:39:04.600
<v Speaker 7>We were supposed to do is crazy. It kind of

0:39:04.640 --> 0:39:07.040
<v Speaker 7>came full circle two thousand and five this I think

0:39:07.080 --> 0:39:11.839
<v Speaker 7>you were in Colombia, Columbia and mister show.

0:39:11.880 --> 0:39:12.600
<v Speaker 5>It just came out.

0:39:13.080 --> 0:39:15.319
<v Speaker 7>We were going to do a radio tour and we

0:39:15.360 --> 0:39:17.239
<v Speaker 7>had to do the next day we had to do

0:39:17.320 --> 0:39:20.759
<v Speaker 7>the MTVu Awards whatever. Literally the day we had to

0:39:20.840 --> 0:39:22.600
<v Speaker 7>leave was with my wife and the labor with my son.

0:39:23.160 --> 0:39:26.200
<v Speaker 7>So nice they went and did the interview, but that

0:39:26.320 --> 0:39:27.600
<v Speaker 7>was the time we were supposed to meet.

0:39:27.680 --> 0:39:30.000
<v Speaker 5>But that was like the only every show.

0:39:29.800 --> 0:39:32.399
<v Speaker 4>Because Pool we actually we did it. I had them

0:39:32.400 --> 0:39:33.920
<v Speaker 4>host a mixtape for me. I think it was had

0:39:33.920 --> 0:39:35.200
<v Speaker 4>Pool do some drops for a mixtape.

0:39:35.880 --> 0:39:38.319
<v Speaker 7>Yeah, so yeah, that was like, yeah, that was what

0:39:38.440 --> 0:39:41.759
<v Speaker 7>he was November two thousand and five. So so yeah, man,

0:39:41.800 --> 0:39:42.920
<v Speaker 7>it's good for us to find.

0:39:42.680 --> 0:39:45.319
<v Speaker 4>It's fantastic to me. I love I love Little Brother.

0:39:45.360 --> 0:39:48.160
<v Speaker 4>What's so crazy is in South Carolina we didn't have no,

0:39:49.040 --> 0:39:50.959
<v Speaker 4>we didn't have nobody to look to in hip hop

0:39:51.520 --> 0:39:53.440
<v Speaker 4>as to look at them and be like, oh, I

0:39:53.440 --> 0:39:56.280
<v Speaker 4>can do that too. But North Carolina had Little Brother

0:39:56.480 --> 0:39:59.400
<v Speaker 4>and Pete Pablo and I used to go there and

0:39:59.440 --> 0:40:02.520
<v Speaker 4>watch a Josie Mole Shelley B.

0:40:03.520 --> 0:40:05.800
<v Speaker 6>You remember Shelley B.

0:40:06.160 --> 0:40:07.360
<v Speaker 5>That was up the core Oud of Wilson.

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:09.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, the homie like they got some m c MC

0:40:09.840 --> 0:40:11.080
<v Speaker 4>that raps my favorite rapper.

0:40:11.239 --> 0:40:13.640
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, man, she's that. She's will uh.

0:40:14.040 --> 0:40:17.600
<v Speaker 7>Rock snow Hill, snow Hill, snow Hill Hill. Yeah no man,

0:40:17.640 --> 0:40:19.359
<v Speaker 7>so no, So it was just crazy. I thought about

0:40:19.360 --> 0:40:21.759
<v Speaker 7>I'm like, man, we was supposed to do this two

0:40:21.840 --> 0:40:24.600
<v Speaker 7>years ago. Guys, we're literally getting kicked out.

0:40:24.440 --> 0:40:25.359
<v Speaker 5>Of our house right now.

0:40:25.520 --> 0:40:25.919
<v Speaker 3>That's fine.

0:40:25.960 --> 0:40:28.960
<v Speaker 1>Thank you for having on behalf of Charlemagne and Fan

0:40:29.040 --> 0:40:37.080
<v Speaker 1>Tickeolo and like and to jews in the corner, that's

0:40:37.080 --> 0:40:37.560
<v Speaker 1>gonna stick.

0:40:38.000 --> 0:40:40.960
<v Speaker 8>Please, every game I've been given on the show sticks

0:40:40.960 --> 0:40:42.680
<v Speaker 8>white bill, unpaid bill to the.

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<v Speaker 3>Corner, white bill. You ain't never been.

0:40:45.120 --> 0:40:48.400
<v Speaker 5>That was the first you were there. That's right. Thank

0:40:48.440 --> 0:40:49.640
<v Speaker 5>you Charlemagne for doing this.

0:40:50.280 --> 0:40:52.040
<v Speaker 3>Armagne give folks.

0:40:53.080 --> 0:40:56.600
<v Speaker 5>Yes, the team just sent me. He says, thank you

0:40:56.680 --> 0:40:59.640
<v Speaker 5>like he's he changed my life. So that's good. She

0:41:00.080 --> 0:41:01.719
<v Speaker 5>is that I'm interviewing right now.

0:41:01.760 --> 0:41:02.640
<v Speaker 6>Oh dopey.

0:41:03.080 --> 0:41:05.120
<v Speaker 5>Anyway, we will see you on the next one around.

0:41:05.160 --> 0:41:19.319
<v Speaker 5>Quest Love Supremio See you West. Love Supreme is a

0:41:19.360 --> 0:41:21.160
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