1 00:00:02,279 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: I'm a homegrow that knows a little bit about everything 2 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: and everybody. 3 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 2: You know, if you don't lie about that, right Lauren, Hey, y'all, 4 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:10,720 Speaker 2: what's up. 5 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 1: It's Laura l Rosa and this is another episode of 6 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 1: the Latest with Laura Rosa. This is your daily dig 7 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: on all things pop culture, entertainment, news, and all of 8 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: the conversations that shake the room. Now checking in behind 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: the scenes of the Grind. We are literally on a countdown, 10 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: so we hit the road. I've been talking to you 11 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:36,960 Speaker 1: guys about this every single episode, but really excited for 12 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:39,199 Speaker 1: a conversation that I'll be joining and now I can 13 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: give you guys a little bit more details. So if 14 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: you will be asked ut by Southwest this weekend coming 15 00:00:46,440 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: which is the weekend of March fifteenth, I will be 16 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: on a panel with a health professional and artist music 17 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: artist Sierra on Saturday, March for teenth, and we'll be 18 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:06,119 Speaker 1: having a conversation about HIV prevention and how entertainment and 19 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: culture helps us to start having a conversations that we 20 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:12,360 Speaker 1: don't want to have to make sure prevention is a 21 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,959 Speaker 1: thing that's actually happening. And I'm really excited for that 22 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: conversation y'all know. 23 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 2: I love to. 24 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: Talk, love to get into the things, but I love 25 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 1: when real conversations intertwined with culture pop culture. I think 26 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:30,760 Speaker 1: that we underestimate the impact that we have, especially in 27 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: areas like media, hip hop, R and B. I really 28 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: think we underestimate how much we make things cool and 29 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 1: how much we make things the thing to do. So 30 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 1: excited to be on this panel and be having this conversation, 31 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:46,960 Speaker 1: and that's what my behind the scenes of the grind 32 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: has been like. I've been kind of like just resting 33 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: and getting through work and resting as much as I 34 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: can because this weekend, baby, we are outside. But speaking 35 00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: of conversations and how culture and impact and real conversations 36 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: come together, let's get into a few real conversations that 37 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:09,639 Speaker 1: are happening right now that we just cannot ignore. So 38 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: our girl ri Lennox, she was over in La on 39 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: effective immediately with my bro DJ Head and my sister 40 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: Gina Views and they were having a conversation about music 41 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,799 Speaker 1: and where she is in life today in her new 42 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:27,320 Speaker 1: project Vacancy Now the Projects Fire. We interviewed her on 43 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:28,959 Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club. Go and check that out and full 44 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:32,119 Speaker 1: on Netflix if you have not already. But the project 45 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:35,359 Speaker 1: is all about just like back and forth struggle of 46 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 1: I found someone, this person's making. 47 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 2: Me feel good, I'm not vacant anymore, my. 48 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 1: Space is occupied, and then boom, this person is toxic. 49 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 2: It makes no sense. This person is leaving me. 50 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: Empty, and I'm walking away, and now I'm vacant again. 51 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 1: And now I'm here and I'm looking and I'm trying 52 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: to figure it out and I'm inviting new people into 53 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: my space. It's that tug of war that dating actually is, 54 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: where it's like, you figure out what your space is 55 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: that you even want to occupied, You figure out how 56 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:07,079 Speaker 1: you want to do it. You figure out who you 57 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: want to do it right, like who you want to 58 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:13,359 Speaker 1: occupy your space. But it's so up and down about 59 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: what that who looks like. I think most people don't 60 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 1: like having these conversations when it comes to the women's 61 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: side of things and women being actually able to get 62 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 1: out there and date. We talked about Loyd Harvey and 63 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: Demseon Adris on this podcast, and you know a big 64 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:31,639 Speaker 1: splash that they made in the news recently with their 65 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: dating life. If you didn't listen to that episode, go 66 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,920 Speaker 1: back and take a listen And the reason why I 67 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 1: bring up Lori Harvey in this is because people love 68 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: to give Lourie Harvey such a hard time for dating, 69 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: for going out dating people figuring out what she likes 70 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 1: so she doesn't like. 71 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 2: And I mean it's a lot more public. 72 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 1: Because she is the daughter of Steve Harvey and she's 73 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 1: become a figure in a fixture and culture. 74 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:55,720 Speaker 2: Of her own. 75 00:03:55,840 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: And she's also dating men who are high profile and 76 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: very well known as well too. But every time I 77 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: hear someone complain about her and a dating situation or 78 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 1: the fact that she may have moved on or may 79 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 1: have broken up with someone, I'm like, what it like? 80 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:10,520 Speaker 2: She's human. 81 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: That is how you figure out what not being vacant 82 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:16,640 Speaker 1: in your space looks like. You got to figure out 83 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:18,280 Speaker 1: who you want to check in and who you need. 84 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 2: To check out. 85 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 1: So Ri Lennox is on that journey right now. And 86 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 1: the album it literally is the R and B Neo 87 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: Soul soundtrack to that right So she's you know, over 88 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: on effective immediately with DJ Head and Gena Views and 89 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: it get into a conversation about just dating, and you know, 90 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 1: from having a conversation myself with the Ri Lennox, I 91 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: feel like she's in a season of accountability that I 92 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: haven't seen from her. And I've been a fan of 93 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:48,280 Speaker 1: her for a very long time, and I'm not mad 94 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 1: at it whatsoever, and i don't know why it's making 95 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: people so upset. But here's what she had to say 96 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 1: about the fact that she chooses toxic men over nice 97 00:04:57,520 --> 00:04:59,719 Speaker 1: men who would treat her nice, and that's why she 98 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:00,919 Speaker 1: thinks she he's a married Let's say a. 99 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 3: Listen, I think I have a thing for toxic energy, 100 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 3: so I think there's still some more healing that I 101 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 3: need to do. Because when I look back on all 102 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 3: of these energies, it's a shame I gave them so 103 00:05:15,200 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 3: much time and there were sweet energies that I didn't 104 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 3: And so now I see those sweet energies getting married 105 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 3: and starting families, I'm just like, dang, that probably could 106 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:26,719 Speaker 3: have been me if I recognize the security in those 107 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:31,039 Speaker 3: individuals at the time, And like now I'm like, yeah, 108 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 3: I'm definitely feeling that now I'm aware that there's something 109 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 3: going on, there's something wrong. 110 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 2: What do you think it is that attracts you to 111 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 2: like toxic energy? 112 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 3: I think they just seem really exciting at first. The 113 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 3: chemistry is incredible, and they don't even always be fine. 114 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,560 Speaker 3: It's not even that like they're sexy or something. Well, 115 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:52,000 Speaker 3: they're sexy, but they don't be the finest things I've 116 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 3: ever seen. It's just an energy. It's sometimes it's convenience 117 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 3: what we talk about. A lot of the the sweeter 118 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 3: energies that I felt like weren't for me. I felt 119 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 3: I could see myself falling asleep a little bit on 120 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 3: the phone. So I don't know if that's like if 121 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 3: boring is good or not, Like I'm trying to figure 122 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:13,920 Speaker 3: out what that means. 123 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 2: Like it's the thrill, Yeah, it's the thrill. 124 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 3: Yeah. 125 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: Can I just say that I don't know any woman 126 00:06:20,240 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 1: who has not been through this phase of her life, 127 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: Like I don't maybe some more drastic than others, right, 128 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: like maybe some you know, have allowed more than others, 129 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 1: have stayed in situations longer than others. 130 00:06:32,720 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 2: You know, or or in this mood in this phase 131 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:38,279 Speaker 2: a little bit older than others. 132 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:41,840 Speaker 1: Because I don't mean right now, myself, the relationship I'm in, 133 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,040 Speaker 1: it couldn't have been that, Like, it couldn't have been 134 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you had a nice guy. 135 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 2: I don't want to be with you because it's boring. 136 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 1: No, Like I am at a point where, yes I do, 137 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: I definitely need someone that is like gonna get me 138 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 1: in check and gonna get me together. 139 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 2: Okay, because I can get I can take it there. 140 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: But I'm also just valuing and loving on myself so 141 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: much differently than I was when I thought that that 142 00:07:06,560 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 1: type of thing was like it for me and I 143 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: thought that was cute. My like how I am about 144 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: myself today wouldn't even allow me to entertain the type 145 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 1: of energy that or Lenox is talking about. But I 146 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: don't knock her for being there because I was there 147 00:07:26,280 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: and in me being there, and once. 148 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 2: I started to come up out of it. 149 00:07:33,160 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 1: And it's not that, And it's not that the relationship 150 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:39,040 Speaker 1: I'm in right now or the marriage I will be 151 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: in with you know, my partner now, it's all the 152 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 1: way perfect whatsoever. But the fact that we as women, 153 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:51,120 Speaker 1: and so many women I know have been through this 154 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 1: felt like if things were good, if we were being 155 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 1: loved on the right way, there's something wrong. 156 00:07:58,200 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 2: And I still had my. 157 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: Moments, don't get me wrong, Like I still my moments 158 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: where I'm ranting. 159 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 2: Like you really love me, like you tell me, like. 160 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: And it's and it's so crazy, nothing's wrong, Like like 161 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: it's like walking outside on a ninety degree day with 162 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: their sun and no rain and you're dressed for the 163 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: rain because it's just like, well, I know it rains 164 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: in the world, so I'm just dressed like this, Like 165 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: that's literally what that's like. And I don't know why 166 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,440 Speaker 1: our mind and our psyches do that to us as women. 167 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: And I think, you know, if I'm being honest with you, 168 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: coming out of the like that mental space and that 169 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 1: that aura that are Lennox is talking about, you get 170 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 1: so traumatized by manipulation and it becomes such a consistent 171 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: pattern of like this is too good to be true. 172 00:08:46,320 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: And I think it's not even about like manipulation from 173 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: men in relationships, because you know, some people listening to 174 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: this will be like never been there, never been that, 175 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:54,680 Speaker 1: never experienced that. 176 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 2: Sometimes that comes from life. 177 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:00,319 Speaker 1: Like I don't know about y'all, but I know even 178 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 1: in life, like there are times where I'm like, God, 179 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: you're doing your thing a little. 180 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 2: Bit too much, like what's about to happen? What's going on? 181 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:10,600 Speaker 1: And the fact that we even question that is if 182 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 1: we're not supposed to have good things in life when 183 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: you work for them, or you know, when you faith 184 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,120 Speaker 1: it through your journey the way that you were supposed to, 185 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: or just you know, like you showed for God, you're 186 00:09:21,040 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 1: gonna show off for you is insane. If you study 187 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:27,000 Speaker 1: for your test and you do well in your test, 188 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 1: you wouldn't go and actually teacher like, why do I 189 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: gotta abelus you crazy? 190 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:32,040 Speaker 2: But we do it anyway. 191 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:35,240 Speaker 1: And I think watching people be upset at or Linux 192 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:38,439 Speaker 1: for making these comments, I'm like, oh, I wish the 193 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: world was a lot more honest about the things that 194 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:43,559 Speaker 1: we actually go through as human beings. Because what I 195 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: love about our Linux in this conversation is and in 196 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 1: any conversation that I'm seeing her in throughout this, like 197 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 1: you know that this accountability phase that she's in, it's 198 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:57,679 Speaker 1: just very honest. And it's not even about trying to 199 00:09:57,720 --> 00:10:02,719 Speaker 1: be relatable. It's really just honest. And I think when 200 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: you get to the point where like you could be 201 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:07,760 Speaker 1: honest with yourself to like literally so honest with yourself 202 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:10,520 Speaker 1: where even if you're still doing the things that you're 203 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 1: having to sit yourself down and be like are you 204 00:10:12,320 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: crazy about? That's a different level of like transition and 205 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:21,840 Speaker 1: growth that's about to happen in your life. Now, let's 206 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:25,679 Speaker 1: get to Michelle Obama and her brother Craig Robinson and 207 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: the conversation they had with Sterling K. Brown and his wife, 208 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: Ryan Michelle Bath. Now, both Sterling K. Brown and Ryan 209 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 1: Michelle Bath are actors. They act and the conversation was 210 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: very wide range. It was about an Iron Owe conversation 211 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 1: on the In My Own Opinion podcast. 212 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:42,560 Speaker 2: And what I love about. 213 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: Michelle Obama's conversation is exactly what I'm telling you, guys, 214 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 1: I took from Art Lennox, like and people they I 215 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:52,079 Speaker 1: hate to put these words together, drag and Michelle Obama 216 00:10:52,120 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: because I feel like she's our forever first Lady. 217 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 2: Don't ever play with her. 218 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: But what people love to drag Michelle Obama about in 219 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 1: this phase of her life where she's honest and talking 220 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:06,199 Speaker 1: us through things as a human, not just as the 221 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:08,320 Speaker 1: first Lady, but as a human who has had children, 222 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: who has been married thirty plus years, who has you know, 223 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:12,840 Speaker 1: loved the same man for thirty plus years. 224 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:14,720 Speaker 2: She tells the truth. 225 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: So they're having the conversation about Michelle Obama. You know, 226 00:11:21,080 --> 00:11:23,640 Speaker 1: she's she's been very vocal about the fact that there 227 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:27,120 Speaker 1: were ten some years that were not good with her 228 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 1: and Barack Obama, but comparing that to all the other years, 229 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: it was worth the fight. And in having that conversation, 230 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 1: Sterling K. Brown acts Michelle Obama basically did she did 231 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: they only make it through because of the kids, which 232 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 1: is a common thing as well too with married couples, 233 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:48,960 Speaker 1: especially once you've already put the time in and you. 234 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,559 Speaker 2: Know all the things. And I thought that this was 235 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 2: a very like he was very bold for acting this question. 236 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 1: But when I heard him ask it, I'm like, I've 237 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: never thought about that word her and Barack Obama because 238 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: it seems like, I don't know, like they're former president, 239 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 1: former first lady, they have the perfect family, like there 240 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 1: was no other option but for them to figure it out. 241 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:11,840 Speaker 1: But that's not true. They're humans. Let's take a listen 242 00:12:11,920 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: to how much Obama. 243 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 2: Answered that. 244 00:12:15,080 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 4: If kids were not a part of the equation in 245 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:20,439 Speaker 4: terms of, like, do you think that some of the 246 00:12:20,520 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 4: tough times may have led to a separation that didn't 247 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 4: Sometimes without kids, some of the tough times wouldn't happen, right, 248 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 4: And this is why I say, Look, it's great when 249 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 4: it's just YouTube, right, you know, and because there really 250 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:40,959 Speaker 4: isn't challenges with division of labor, because everybody can be 251 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 4: their own individual people. 252 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 2: You go off through your movie. 253 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, we have our separate lives, and then it's 254 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:50,719 Speaker 4: romantic we get back together. The thing that makes that 255 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 4: harder is when those beautiful, wonderful, lovely kids that we 256 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:58,719 Speaker 4: all want in love they show They show up with 257 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 4: their own agendas, you know, with their own needs. And 258 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 4: now it's the first major joint project that you have 259 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:11,679 Speaker 4: to do together, and that's when that's when the heart starts, 260 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 4: you know. So I think a lot of our heart 261 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 4: was because of the kids. 262 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 2: Do we love deeply, But I. 263 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:22,439 Speaker 4: Think without it, without them, you know, a lot of 264 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 4: the hard things don't come up all right because you could. 265 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 4: You can go to the gym all you want, when 266 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 4: there are no diapers to be changed, you know, you 267 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 4: can do whatever you want. Who's who's driving? 268 00:13:36,440 --> 00:13:36,839 Speaker 3: Do you know? 269 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 4: Do you know how to make a dental appointment? Do 270 00:13:41,320 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 4: you know where they go to the doctor? Do you 271 00:13:43,960 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 4: know their doctor's name? Look, the the level of muscle 272 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:52,160 Speaker 4: that Barack and I have in our marriage is earned. 273 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 4: It's earned over time, and it's only gotten better, and 274 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 4: I think that's the point. It gets better, and then 275 00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:01,599 Speaker 4: you if you quit, you soon you rob yourself of 276 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,400 Speaker 4: the success of the better the work that goes in. 277 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:09,480 Speaker 1: Love it, love it, And that's the duality of like 278 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 1: growth and womanhood and love. It's like because even Michelle Ryan, 279 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 1: Michelle Bath and Sla Kate Brown, they have a podcast 280 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 1: called We Don't Always Get Along and they're literally on 281 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: Michelle Obama's podcast with her and her brother Craig and 282 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 1: are talking about the fact that like, it doesn't always 283 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 1: feel good the conversations, the relationship a lot of things 284 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: it doesn't, but they figure it out. And they even 285 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: talk about at one point where like one person might 286 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: check out and be like, I ain't doing this, No, 287 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:47,760 Speaker 1: not happening. I'm good, but there's still one person there 288 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:51,880 Speaker 1: fighting for the relationship. So basically what I'm trying to 289 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:55,520 Speaker 1: say here is leave my guard ri Lennox alone. Everybody 290 00:14:55,640 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 1: has their phases in their stages that they must go through, 291 00:14:58,240 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 1: and a lot of us go through the same ones, 292 00:14:59,840 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: just with different people at different times of our lives. 293 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 2: But I think once you get to this like stage 294 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 2: of growth, we tend to forget. 295 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 1: And I think that's what makes Arlenox so amazing as 296 00:15:12,040 --> 00:15:15,720 Speaker 1: an artist, is like she's just very honest about what 297 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: she's dealing with, and it makes you relate to the 298 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:21,440 Speaker 1: music even more. Like when I listened to the project, 299 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:25,040 Speaker 1: I knew I'm like, oh, baby, girl is dating and 300 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 1: she is trying to figure it out. And the only 301 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 1: reason why I knew that is because before getting into 302 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: a relationship, I was dating, and I know what it's 303 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,800 Speaker 1: like to feel like, Okay, I have this space, I 304 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,880 Speaker 1: have my boundaries that I've set up, and I'm allowing 305 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 1: you to come into it. And I understand the reference 306 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: of like comparing that to a hotel and checking in 307 00:15:43,840 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 1: and checking out and you know, fixing up the hotel 308 00:15:47,120 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: and fixing up the rooms and fixing up what it 309 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: looks like when people walk into your life, especially after 310 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: other people walk out across the board, where everybody's just 311 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: trying to figure it out, y'all, period, that's it. 312 00:15:58,400 --> 00:15:58,800 Speaker 2: That's all. 313 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:01,920 Speaker 1: Everybody is just trying to figure it out. And I 314 00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:04,360 Speaker 1: appreciate the good conversations that have it in the midst 315 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: of it. Let me know how y'all are feeling, though. 316 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 1: Number One, are you where r Lenox is at. How 317 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:11,600 Speaker 1: do you feel about what she said? I want to 318 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: hear from you, guys. I'm Laura Laoza everywhere l O 319 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 1: R E N l O R O s A. Let's 320 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:20,960 Speaker 1: really talk about it. There is also a talk back 321 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:24,480 Speaker 1: feature on the iHeart app. If you download the iHeart app, 322 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 1: you'll find the talk back feature there. 323 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:27,280 Speaker 2: You can literally go. 324 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 1: There, click the talk back feature and talk back to me, 325 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:32,800 Speaker 1: my lowriders. I want you all to get outside in 326 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 1: the streets, in the tweets. 327 00:16:33,960 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 2: I want to hear it. R Lenox. Is she crazy? 328 00:16:38,120 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 2: Do you feel her? Why are people so upset? 329 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:44,400 Speaker 1: And on the other end of things, on the married 330 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: end of things, do you think that Barack Obama and 331 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,960 Speaker 1: Michelle Obama but hearing everything that Michelle Obama has said 332 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 1: very openly about the issue that they went through, if 333 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: there were no babies involved, would we have had the 334 00:16:56,720 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 1: first family that we had in that White House during 335 00:16:59,120 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: the time. I'm Lona Rosa. This has been another episode 336 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:05,120 Speaker 1: of the Latest with Lorna Rosa. Tell you guys, every 337 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 1: single episode. Look, y'all could be anywhere with any old 338 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 1: body talking about all of the things, But you guys, 339 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: choose to be right here with me every single day, 340 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:14,920 Speaker 1: my Lowriders. 341 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 2: I appreciate you guys. I'll catch you at my next episode.