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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Subject.

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Speaker 1: She called out his name more than once. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I am a twenty seven year old single man and

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Speaker 1: I love dating beautiful women. I've been messing around with

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Speaker 1: a close friend of mine. We're about six months. We've

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Speaker 1: been friends for years, and then one thing led to

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Speaker 1: another and we had sex. I knew that if I

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Speaker 1: mess things up, mess this up, I could lose a friend,

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Speaker 1: so I was careful to keep her happy. The sex

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Speaker 1: is amazing and everything was going really great until recently.

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Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, when we were intimate, she called out

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Speaker 1: her ex boyfriend's name. I heard it, but it didn't

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Speaker 1: that she didn't realize she said it, so I stayed

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Speaker 1: focused on what I was doing. Then a few minutes later,

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Speaker 1: she said her ex man's name again. This time, I

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Speaker 1: think she realized what she had said, but I didn't

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Speaker 1: want to make it awkward, so I kept going and

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Speaker 1: ignored it. Fast forward to the other night and we

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Speaker 1: were getting it on and I was really showing out,

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Speaker 1: and yes, she moaned out her ex's name. Of course

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Speaker 1: I kept going because I don't care what she calls me.

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Speaker 1: I was not stopping. Later that night, she texted me

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Speaker 1: and asked why I wasn't mad about her calling the

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Speaker 1: wrong name and why I didn't stop. I told her

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Speaker 1: that it's just sex for me, and because she can't wait.

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Speaker 1: I told her it was just sex for me, and

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Speaker 1: we're not serious and we're not dating, so why would

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Speaker 1: I stop just because she can't remember my name. She

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Speaker 1: was furious with me, and now we aren't speaking. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what I did wrong. She's the one that

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Speaker 1: called me the wrong name more than once while we

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Speaker 1: were having sex, so how could she be mad at me?

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Speaker 1: I know I'm still young and don't fully understand women yet,

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Speaker 1: so I need you all's advice. I don't understand why

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Speaker 1: she's so mad at me. I'm hoping we can be friends.

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Speaker 1: Again without having sex. Can men and women be friends

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Speaker 1: after they've been intimate? I do miss her, please help see.

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Speaker 1: I think you can. I really do. I think you

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Speaker 1: can still be friends. That means if you were truly

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Speaker 1: truly friends. I think you know, after some work, you

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Speaker 1: guys can work it out and you know, work around

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Speaker 1: to becoming friends again. I think though, when you said

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Speaker 1: it's just sex for me, I think you just destroyed

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Speaker 1: something for her because she was in the moment and

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Speaker 1: the fantasy. It sounds like she's starting to catch feelings

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Speaker 1: for you. That's what it sounds like to me, and

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Speaker 1: for women. You know, that can happen even when it

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Speaker 1: starts out as just casual sex between a man and

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Speaker 1: a woman. You know, sometimes we get caught up as women.

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Speaker 1: And yes, she called you her ex's name, but that

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Speaker 1: was a mistake. That's why she texted you back and

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Speaker 1: said why didn't you say something? And then you said,

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Speaker 1: because it was just sex with me, And now she's

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Speaker 1: mad and you're not speaking. Yeah, you know it'll you're young,

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Speaker 1: and it will take you a long time and you

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Speaker 1: will never understand women. Okay, we're very complicated emotionally. You

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Speaker 1: may not ever understand us how she can be having

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Speaker 1: not realizing that she did it and all of that.

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Speaker 1: You know, you guys just need to, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: maybe stop having sex for a moment and talk to

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Speaker 1: but if you want to be friends, you are gonna

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Speaker 1: have to do some work to get the friendship back.

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Speaker 1: Steve Man dog, I'm so glad when you wrote this

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Speaker 1: lot of Young Soldier that you said, dear Steve first,

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Speaker 1: because what Sureley just told you listen to me, the

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Speaker 1: truth in what she told you was you will never

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Speaker 1: understand women. They are complicated. Now, that is the takeaway.

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Speaker 1: But oh, young brother, let me hip you to something.

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Speaker 1: I know. Here we go. Yeah, you've been messing around

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Speaker 1: to another. You didn't want to be her friends for years,

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Speaker 1: but she was involved. So you be in the low

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Speaker 1: flying vulture that you are. You circle the caucus into

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Speaker 1: and began to feast. I know the game, brother, I

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Speaker 1: know the game, brother. And then you try to be kind,

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Speaker 1: And the letter said, I knew that if I messed

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Speaker 1: thought that's all it was, you were willing to accept it.

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Speaker 1: So I was careful to keep her happy. Sex is amazing.

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Speaker 1: Everything was going really great into recently. Two weeks ago

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Speaker 1: we were intimate, she called out her ex boyfriend's name.

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Speaker 1: She know you know him, she know you know who

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Speaker 1: he is. First time it was an accident, I heard.

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Speaker 1: It didn't phase me one bit. I kept going. I

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Speaker 1: I ignored. Fast forward to the other night we're getting

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Speaker 1: it on. I was showing out, clowning, standing up, performing,

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Speaker 1: giving it all I got. She moaned out her ex name,

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Speaker 1: and you, being young, you kept going because I don't

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Speaker 1: care what she called me. I wasn't stopping. And this

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Speaker 1: come back, I'm gonna put you on game. Oh, I

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Speaker 1: see it, Shelley, you didn't. All right, we'll be back

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Speaker 1: with part two if Steve's response coming up. Today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: she called out his name more than once. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back in twenty three minutes after the hour right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letters subject she called out his name more than once. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: let's just stay with the title. This man was for

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Speaker 1: him just girls for years, and finally her relationship broke

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Speaker 1: up and he talked to her. Next thing, you know,

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Speaker 1: they had sex. It was amazing. He's been this girl

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Speaker 1: been fined to him for years. He's waiting on the

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Speaker 1: relationship to die. Did he moved in? They having sex,

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Speaker 1: she calls out her ex's name. They go a little

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Speaker 1: bit further. Two minutes later, she called out her ex's

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Speaker 1: name again. When young No, I ain't stopping what I killed,

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Speaker 1: handling my business over here, showing out. Then when the

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Speaker 1: the other night, we're getting it on our really showing out. No,

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Speaker 1: now he proud of himself. Now he in hell letting

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Speaker 1: it go. What she do? She moaned out her ex's name.

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Speaker 1: What he's saying the letter? Of course I kept going

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Speaker 1: because I don't can what she called me. I wasn't stopping.

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Speaker 1: I know. Dated that night she text me and asked

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Speaker 1: wrong name and why I didn't stop. Now, listen to me,

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Speaker 1: young man, this is fast for us. See the first night,

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Speaker 1: the first time she did was an accident. She didn't. Again,

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Speaker 1: she didn't do it. But then the next time, y'all

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Speaker 1: hands sex. She said it again, but you didn't stop.

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Speaker 1: You came handling your business. So now she curious, So

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Speaker 1: she texts you and asked you why I wasn't mad

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Speaker 1: about her calling me the wrong name. You know why,

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Speaker 1: because she called you that name on purpose, because she

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Speaker 1: she was testing you. But then you told her that

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Speaker 1: it's just sex for me and we're not serious and

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Speaker 1: we're not dating. That's because you're young, you really do

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Speaker 1: have kind of dug this chick. But since you thought

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Speaker 1: y'all were just friends doing it, you're trying to play

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Speaker 1: a loof like it don't matter to you. So now

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Speaker 1: both of y'all didn't got caught playing the game. Now,

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Speaker 1: like Shirley said, she didn't called feelings for you, but

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Speaker 1: now she wanted it to be something. But when you

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Speaker 1: said we ain't seen its me just dating, So why

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Speaker 1: would I stop just because you can't remember my name?

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Speaker 1: She was furious with me. And now we aren't speaking.

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Speaker 1: You know why she mad, young man? Because the girl

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Speaker 1: is really digging you. And when she called you the

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Speaker 1: wait a minute, why you're not mad? And then when

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Speaker 1: now cause you're stupid. Here we go. I don't know

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Speaker 1: what I did wrong. She didn't want called me the

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Speaker 1: wrong name more than once, absolutely, so if it keeps

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Speaker 1: happening more than once, man, don't you get it. She

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Speaker 1: testing you now, So how she gonna be mad at me?

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Speaker 1: Because she a woman? I know I'm still young and

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Speaker 1: I don't fully understand woman women, And like Shirley said,

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Speaker 1: And now for you to turn around and say it

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Speaker 1: but she did. Now I'm hoping we can be friends

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Speaker 1: listen to me. Once you've been in the candy stough

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Speaker 1: and don't won't know more candy. It does not work

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Speaker 1: that way. Sex is like lais potato chips, Yes it is.

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Speaker 1: You can't eat just one. You can't eat just one.

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Speaker 1: Of course they can be friends after they've been into

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Speaker 1: But you ain't gonna ever stop wanting to be intimate

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Speaker 1: because your mind gonna drift, y'all sitting up watching TV.

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Speaker 1: What y'all gonna do while y'all watching TV? It's a commercial?

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Speaker 1: You gonna do it again? Oh, it's a commercial. What

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Speaker 1: y'all gonna do when y'all watching the show when the

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Speaker 1: show ain't good? Ain't nothing good on TV? What you're doing,

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Speaker 1: what you're doing, what you're looking at? What you're looking at?

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Speaker 1: Why are you? Why are your hand on mine? While

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Speaker 1: your hand on mine? Yet? The next said, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's rattling. Can men and women be friends after they've

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Speaker 1: I do miss huh? Ah? Do you miss huh? Or

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Speaker 1: do you miss huh? Please help young man what you

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Speaker 1: need to do? Throw yourself at the mercy of the court?

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Speaker 1: Call up and said, you know what, I'm young. I

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Speaker 1: made a huge mistake. I got more, I got deeper

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Speaker 1: feelings in you. Then I was willing to admit, but

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Speaker 1: I was trying to play like I didn't because I

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Speaker 1: But yeah, it hurt me because I don't see you.

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Speaker 1: I miss you. I missed talking to you, I miss

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