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Speaker 1: Welcome into Unbreakable, a mental health podcast and today's weekend motivation.

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Speaker 1: Before I get to our lesson, if you're like many people,

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Speaker 1: you may be surprised to learn that one in five

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Speaker 1: adults in this country experienced mental illness last year. You

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Speaker 1: had far too many failed to receive the support they need.

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Speaker 1: Carol in behavioral health is doing something about it. They

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Speaker 1: understand that behavior health is a key part of whole health,

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Speaker 1: delivering compassionate care that treats physical, mental, emotional, and social

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Speaker 1: needs and tandem, Carolyn behavior health raising the quality of

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Speaker 1: life through empathy and action. All welcome into weekend Motivation,

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Speaker 1: and I want to go to something that people literally

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Speaker 1: stopped Rosie, my fiance, and myself on the street for

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Speaker 1: recently to ask us what we've meant and as opposed

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Speaker 1: to mine, and had a gratitude post for Rosie, and

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Speaker 1: the gratitude post was for her doing the work to

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Speaker 1: better handle me when I have my mental health issues.

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Speaker 1: I said, if that, I don't know what is but

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Speaker 1: the first time in my life when I have my

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Speaker 1: quote crazy time, Rosie shows up consistently and says, hey,

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Speaker 1: I got you. I'm not going anywhere no matter what

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Speaker 1: I got you, and no one's ever done that for me,

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Speaker 1: and a lot of people have asked Rosie and asked

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Speaker 1: myself what exactly she means or she says exactly to

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Speaker 1: lift me up to say I got you. We've got

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Speaker 1: a lot of people say hey, I want to know

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Speaker 1: to either tell my spouse or girlfriend or boyfriend or

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Speaker 1: for me to be there and show up to them

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Speaker 1: and for them better. So what she's done more than

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Speaker 1: anything else for me is when we have our little

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Speaker 1: crazy talks and our mental health let's say, breakdowns are

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Speaker 1: issues we don't mean to and because of that we

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Speaker 1: feel ashamed. So often we feel so bad and I

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Speaker 1: beat up with myself even worse than the breakdown itself.

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Speaker 1: So if Rosie really does for me, not only does

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Speaker 1: she say hey, I'm not going anywhere, that's that's huge

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Speaker 1: because when you also, when you have these mental health issues,

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Speaker 1: we don't think we're worthy of it a lot, so

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Speaker 1: we think it's gonna go away anyway, so we sabotage

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Speaker 1: it so we could speed up what we think is

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Speaker 1: the inevitable. If I feel I'm not worthy of it

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Speaker 1: and the sky is gonna fall, why do you want

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Speaker 1: that sky to fall faster. Living in question of when

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Speaker 1: that's gonna happen is more painful than the sky itself falling.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna feed it up. So when I sabotage

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Speaker 1: this relationship, what Rosie has done is saying, hey, I'm

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Speaker 1: not going anywhere. So telling your spouse or your significant other,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going anywhere, no matter how much we may

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Speaker 1: hurt you. We don't mean to do it. I'm not

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Speaker 1: going anywhere. And the other part which she realized is

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Speaker 1: I've discussed with her. I feel so ashamed, and I

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Speaker 1: used to feel ashamed for sometimes, like weeks, I would

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Speaker 1: you beat up on myself and I can't believe I

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Speaker 1: was so crappy to her. And now she knows that

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Speaker 1: I'm ashamed, So immediately that day she'll show me, hey, babe,

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Speaker 1: we're good. Don't worry about that. I just I know

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Speaker 1: it's a little breakdown for you. We're okay, nothing to

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Speaker 1: be a shamed if we're good. And she immediately starts

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Speaker 1: convincing me that day that she's not holding it against me.

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Speaker 1: That has been so invaluable for me. And again I

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Speaker 1: really have been taking aback. So is she We're at

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Speaker 1: a restaurant the other night, somebody pulled their aside and said, hey,

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Speaker 1: what did he mean when he was thanking you for

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Speaker 1: what you do to help him? Because I want to

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Speaker 1: know how to help my significant other. And I had

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Speaker 1: at Fox the other day some of the girls I

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Speaker 1: work with said, what did you mean when you were

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Speaker 1: saying how much she helps you through your issues? This

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Speaker 1: is what I mean. The two biggest things again, A

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Speaker 1: she's not going anywhere, So no matter how much I

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Speaker 1: try and get that sky to fall, push your away,

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Speaker 1: she ain't go it anywhere. And she is really, I think,

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Speaker 1: recognized better ways to convince me of that. And number two,

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Speaker 1: she takes my shame away from doing it. That's just

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Speaker 1: so huge to take that away. So for everybody out there, listen,

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Speaker 1: we ain't perfect, none of us are. And I think

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Speaker 1: in today's day and age, we all have mental health

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Speaker 1: crisis or breakdowns. Probably a little bit more because the

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Speaker 1: walls cave in because we don't have any privacy with

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Speaker 1: social media and our phones and our computers and our tablets,

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Speaker 1: we don't really get a break anymore. So a lot

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Speaker 1: of times we just feel like we're drowning. We're constantly

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Speaker 1: have in the past. So for your significant other, just

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Speaker 1: take that shame away immediately. I know it may hurt

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Speaker 1: you and your feelings may hurt. I get it. The

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Speaker 1: faster you can help us know that, Hey, nothing to

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Speaker 1: be a shame of. We're good, we're fie. Let's go

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Speaker 1: beat our merry way. The faster we'll rebound and the faster. Now,

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Speaker 1: everybody out there who has your mental health breakdowns, make

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Speaker 1: sure once that happens too, you immediately start doing what

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Speaker 1: you can to pick them up. To pick your significant

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Speaker 1: other back up. Who we've been, you know, unloading our

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Speaker 1: mental health breakdowns too. Make sure you pick them up.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you immediately start showering them with love. That's

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Speaker 1: what I had to do with Rosie. Also, it couldn't

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Speaker 1: be a one way street. She was there for me,

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Speaker 1: the more I had to make sure I picked her up.

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Speaker 1: That's what walking this walk together is all about. Love, y'all,