WEBVTT - Barking Up the Wrong Tree 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:04.720 Hell I Suck At Dating with Denglert and Jared Haven 0:00:04.960 --> 0:00:10.920 and I heard radio podcast. Hey, welcome to an all 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.640 new episode of Help I Suck at Dating. I am Jared, 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:17.799 joined in studio by the one legged Dean Ungla Suck 0:00:18.360 --> 0:00:23.640 Suck Suck. We have Tori and Easton in studio joining us. 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:25.680 We have a great episode coming up. How dare you, 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:29.280 first of all, forget Pappy's here too? Pappy, So, Pappy 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:30.840 is here. I just don't want you to leave. I 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:32.440 don't want him to feel left out. We'll explain to 0:00:32.440 --> 0:00:35.080 everybody who Pappy is if they don't already know. Pappy 0:00:35.159 --> 0:00:37.400 is mine and Kitlin's little foster child. We picked him 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.239 up four days ago and he just wanted to tour 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:41.960 the office. I figured it was bringing your pappy to 0:00:42.040 --> 0:00:45.400 work day and uh, he's yeah. He's an eleven year 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:49.320 old little mixed puppy with the cutest little teeth and 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:51.360 he's got the cutest little face. He looks like a 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.640 baby Yoda. Yeah, we keep getting that with the years. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:55.320 And now he was just chilling beneath me and Jared 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:57.320 while we record the podcast. So how long have you 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:00.320 had Pappy? Four days? So my question becomes because I 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:02.080 feel like a lot of people who take foster dogs 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:04.760 end up keeping the dog because how can you possibly 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:07.280 give up what your wife is a foster failed twice over. 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:11.240 Once you take in a dog, it's over. Yeah. We 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:12.920 me and Caitlin when we first took in and were like, 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:14.240 all right, we'll take him in. We won't give him 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:16.399 back to the pound, but we'll give him up when 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:18.280 a new family comes in to adopt him. How's kind 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.720 of our our our mindset. But last night we were 0:01:20.800 --> 0:01:21.959 laying in bed with him and he's just like the 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:24.240 perfect dog. I can't get over how perfect Pappy is. 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:25.560 And we were like, we looked at each other and 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:27.200 we're like, there's no way we can give this dog pack? 0:01:27.240 --> 0:01:29.479 Can me? Have you ever heard a small dog before? Um? 0:01:29.480 --> 0:01:31.840 Growing up, I had a little dogs and basically the 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:34.720 same size as Pappia is now. But in college I 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:39.120 rescued Nala, who's that big flatcoat retriever. She's obviously a 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:41.679 bigger dogs eighty pounds, and Pappy is much much smaller, 0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:45.639 but he's a good what seventeen pounds. Yes, he's tiny, 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.880 but he's good. Like I crutched, I crushed in today 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:49.640 he like he can walk on a leash while I 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.240 crutch around. For the most part, he gets like a 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:54.520 little scared of elevators and stairs and stuff. I heard 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:57.360 him bark for the first time today. He we got 0:01:57.360 --> 0:01:58.960 on a bicycle at road by and he just started 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.640 losing his mind. Never heard and barked before. But yeah, 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:03.920 we'll see what happens. Um. We do have an adopting 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:06.120 family coming in to look at him from San Francisco 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:10.200 next week. And honestly, with the way things are going, 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:12.040 even Caylin was like, you need to take Pappy today 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:13.799 because I can't continue to get as attached as I'm 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:16.720 getting to him. So it's looking like we're gonna be 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:20.080 foster fails, which on, Like, I don't hate the idea 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:21.840 he's gotta I think we were just talking about this 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.239 before we came in. He's got a level four heart murmurs, 0:02:24.240 --> 0:02:25.839 so I don't know like how much time he's got 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:27.799 left and if Kaylin and I can give him a 0:02:27.800 --> 0:02:30.680 couple of good months before he goes, you know, um, 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.600 But yeah, we'll see what happened. Who's more attached to 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:35.200 Pappy right now? You're Klin. We're both absolutely obsessed to there, 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.120 I'm sure, just like the level of obsession you have 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:40.480 with Lowest, We're like I can't get I can't whenever 0:02:40.480 --> 0:02:42.400 he's not in the room with me, like, I freak out. Actually, 0:02:42.440 --> 0:02:45.720 and I always talk about if if our dogs only 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:48.680 knew how much we talk about that literally every time 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:50.560 I actually leave, actually, and I leave the house, it's 0:02:50.600 --> 0:02:55.600 like what's lowest? And we have the fur boat inside that. Yeah, 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:58.760 we constantly watched that thing. It's like, what's lowest up to? Oh, 0:02:58.760 --> 0:03:02.639 it looks she's laying down own, She's laying down so adorable. 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:06.040 It's just a little stuff. Pappy is great too, because 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:07.959 I'll be laying in bed obviously, like I'm recovering, so 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:09.840 I don't really move around a lot. I've never really 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:11.760 had a dog that was like good with coming like 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:13.800 when I asked him to I'm sorry, what was that? Okay, 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:15.040 I knew you were going to make some sort of 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:18.520 sick joke out of that. You freak Anyways, laying on 0:03:18.560 --> 0:03:20.600 the bed, I'd be like, Pappy, come here, and all 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:22.160 he does is like Perker's little ears up and jumps 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:23.639 on the bed and comes up and snuggles right next 0:03:23.639 --> 0:03:25.680 to me. Oh. It melts my heart every single time. 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:28.000 I do have a story about a dog, but let's 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:33.760 save that for another time. It's so the listener discretion 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:35.720 is advised. If you don't have any interest in hearing this, 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:38.880 maybe skip forward to that gross. I mean, it's gross, 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:41.680 but it's it's more funny. So we have Lois and 0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:45.080 then Ashley's sister Lauren has Gurgy, who's also a very small, white, 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.880 little fluffy dog. And Gurgy is definitely a humper. So 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:51.960 when we first got Lois, he was obsessed with her 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:56.000 and constantly with Hopper humper. And one time it was 0:03:56.040 --> 0:04:00.520 an all day affair and Lauren is, you know, she's 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.560 trying to pull Gegy off of him, and then so 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:05.480 she does, she pulls Georgy off of Lois, and as 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:09.240 she does that, even first of all, he's fixed, but 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:15.040 this his semen shoots out all over her arm and 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:18.960 she was scarred for a lot mid vinegar stroke. Oh 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:21.760 I just yeah, he was. He was ready and and 0:04:22.120 --> 0:04:24.720 Lauren kind him at perfect time, right because they are 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:26.839 hump right, so he like he got to the point 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:29.600 and just air humping. I mean, he's obviously very attracted 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:31.920 to the loan. She could do that to him. Good 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:34.920 for him. Well, that's super exciting about Pappy. You guys 0:04:34.920 --> 0:04:37.080 are adorable with him. He's so cute. I'm glad I 0:04:37.080 --> 0:04:38.680 finally got to meet him because I've heard so many 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:40.240 stories and I wanted you to meet him. But yeah, 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:42.640 Peppy tell us about our episode that Jared. So our 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:45.880 episode is just us. There's no guess. It's you me, 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.640 Tori Easton in this room at I Heart Studios in Burbank. 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:51.279 These are the moments I live for. I think I 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:55.600 think so too. Yeah, but I do have some user questions. 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:59.480 We have some people out there that needed vice. That's 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:03.200 what we call her, our fans users. Yeah, yeah, I'm 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:06.520 being way too professional. We have questions from suck the 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:13.640 people that make this podcast. Good. God, we just need 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:15.719 to do a live podcast and really just feel the 0:05:15.800 --> 0:05:18.800 energy of Suck Army. I feel like we're underestimating them. 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:21.200 Of the four attendees that would come to our live podcast, 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:23.800 I told you that the almost famous live that we 0:05:23.800 --> 0:05:27.760 have no Well, here's the thing. So when I went 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:29.440 out there and Channon Suck Army, we got like a 0:05:29.480 --> 0:05:31.919 good seven or eight people, and last year when we 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.479 did it, we got four. So We've doubled our audience 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:37.240 in a year. That's pretty good. That's not bad. That 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:39.880 rate would go up exponentially too. So in ten years 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:42.640 I'm talking, we're talking three millions, four millions, and we 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:45.960 hit a milestone I think so we reached fifteen thousand 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:50.320 followers on Instagram. Yeah, so thank you for everybody who 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:53.800 follows us. It is at help I suck a dating 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:55.520 if you want to give us a follow if you're 0:05:55.520 --> 0:05:57.440 not following us, we put some great content up there. 0:05:57.520 --> 0:05:59.680 I always say, there's so many pictures of Dean's face 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:01.440 on their why would you not want to follow us? 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:03.080 We could be doing more. I think we should make 0:06:03.800 --> 0:06:12.440 the year of upping our social media presidents followers two 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:16.880 D followers. How about by the end of the year. Okay, 0:06:17.040 --> 0:06:18.640 we got that, we should be able to reach that 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:20.719 by June. I agree, but I'm just saying we got 0:06:20.720 --> 0:06:23.440 to put make a more considered effort towards our Instagram 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:26.520 I agree. Um, So, before we start getting into your 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:30.760 wonderful questions for everybody here, Tory is in studio and 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:34.599 I swear so many people want to know. They always comment, 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:36.560 they always d M, they say we want an update 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.479 from Tori. Where is Toriy? What is going on in 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:42.640 tories life? So guess what we have Tori here to 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:45.360 tell us everything that's going on in your life? How 0:06:45.640 --> 0:06:48.240 to give us the juicy gass? Well, what do you 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:50.240 want to start with? Let's start that was a little 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:53.120 bit more than Jared. So let's start with what everyone knows. 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:56.239 The football player boy. Okay, yeah, football player boy. So 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:00.800 I went to the game, So hold up because I 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.840 need a little refresher. You're right, okay, and I think 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.279 some people might need some too. So you're talking to 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:09.200 this football player. He's a professional athlete. Yeah, it's badass, 0:07:09.200 --> 0:07:12.600 by don't I it's the one that we I that. 0:07:13.040 --> 0:07:15.120 It's not the one that didn't pay for me. It's 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:17.000 the other one that I met through one of my 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:20.960 good friends. Guy. We like, yes, yes, but he's a 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:26.040 little unresponsive. Well he's like, oh yeah he was. He's 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.400 hard to get ahold of. Sometimes I feel like, well, yeah, 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:31.360 he gives you like the response in like five hours 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:35.120 with like full conversation, but you're just like full disclosure. 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:39.840 He was playing up until this weekend. Yeah, and there right, 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:41.960 And there's the time change that also was like kind 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:44.920 of hard Okay, so he's not from California, not San Francisco, 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:50.960 forty niners, so it's narrows down, all right. I don't 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:53.440 like it. Sounds like it was going well enough because 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:58.360 you were at the NFC championship game. M hm, confirm 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:00.280 or deny? You already kind of confirmed. You said you 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:04.400 were at the football game this past weekend, and there's 0:08:04.520 --> 0:08:07.520 so you were at the championship game, which means things 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:12.400 have been going at least they've been progressing to some degree. Well, 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:15.160 he's still you guys, are still conversing enough to where 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.040 he's going to invite you to the football game, Like 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:19.120 he only got a set number of tickets for those 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:23.320 types of things, right, right, So that's pretty good totally, 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:27.720 and um so his whole So I've met his family 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:31.800 before already, because that when they played the Chargers, his 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:34.760 family was there and I met the sister, which I 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.960 get it. I got along really well. Yeah, well actually 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:40.360 almost because I guess his sister has like a secret boyfriend, 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:43.280 and I almost outed that to the dad in a 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:44.959 matter of like five minutes of knowing. You know, this 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:49.120 is a very very publicly broadcasting podcast. No, so there's 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:52.080 it comes full circle because then at this game, I 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.640 saw the family again and she brought the boyfriend. So 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:56.320 I got to meet the boyfriend. So now I don't 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:57.920 know who the guy is. So we don't know the families. 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:00.839 You didn't ask anyone, Well we okay, you're right, I 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:02.760 don't know who it is. I guess I'm looking through 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:04.480 it with my lens and I know who the guy is. 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:06.080 That means I wouldn't be able to figure out who 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:09.199 it wasn't I assume everyone don't say the name Dean. 0:09:09.840 --> 0:09:14.120 Okay anyways? Right, So um yeah, so I mean he 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:16.800 I was really hesitant to go, given just I've been 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.560 working like thirty hours these past two days and so 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:25.920 leading I worked like thirty hours this week and I'm exhausted. 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:28.240 Now that's Dean with his influence her life. Now, Dean 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:34.800 works like it's very generous, thank you. Um No, Tory works. 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:38.200 You work way harder than that. So we had podcast awards, 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:40.520 We've had all these events, and so I was like, 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.360 I don't really want to go. I honestly just want 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.200 to sleep, but I also love football. So I bought 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:47.960 a ticket last minute. Um he did offer to pay, 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:50.440 but I just felt a little uncomfortable to accept that, 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:53.480 given that he was paying for two tickets because he 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:57.440 let me bring a plus one boy. Yeah, I feel 0:09:57.440 --> 0:10:02.280 think I'm actually talking to two. You know. I brought 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.560 my sister in law and so her dad he's played 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:06.200 for the forty niners. So then we just had like 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:09.520 a blast all around, just like on the field. Yeah, 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:12.280 we were on the field sweet hopping. I was like, 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:15.719 I'm scarred life right there. But at the beginning he 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.880 said that it didn't seem like it was. It's progressed 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:20.280 at all. It hasn't though, because in this sense, well 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:22.800 he's offered to like fly me out a lot of times, 0:10:22.880 --> 0:10:25.800 which I'm like a little hesitant to do um, just 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:27.280 because I think it's hard when you do the long 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.079 distance dating. You can't really date long distance, Like you 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:31.800 can't be like, hey, I'm gonna come there and then 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:34.720 like get me a hotel room and then like let's 0:10:34.760 --> 0:10:36.560 pick me up at eight for dinner and then drop 0:10:36.600 --> 0:10:39.080 me back off. Like you're very much submerge into somebody 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:41.559 else's world. So I've been a little intimidated by that. 0:10:43.160 --> 0:10:46.160 In my personal opinion, I think it's almost best for 0:10:46.200 --> 0:10:49.360 you because you are so entrenched with work seven here, 0:10:49.440 --> 0:10:51.360 so a long distance relationship and almost be better for 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:52.959 you that way you can kind of focus on that 0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:54.520 when you want to focus on that, but then also 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:56.640 kind of like put push that by the wayside when 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:58.120 you need to push it by the way side. Definitely, 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:00.560 I think I do appreciate that he as his own 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.960 world because I love to work, so I want to 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:05.920 be able to feel good in that lane. But at 0:11:05.960 --> 0:11:09.480 the same time, it's easier when you know the person 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.800 well and then you go long distance because you guys 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:14.400 can still pick up and see each other and like 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.000 pick up where you left off. For us, it's like 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.040 we're still picking up where we left off, which is 0:11:18.120 --> 0:11:20.920 like way beginning stage, it's hard to build a relationship 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.839 off of long distance. It's easier to build a relationship 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.040 and have that foundation, and then you guys go long distance, 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:29.160 but now you're you're still in the early stages of dating, 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:32.160 while doing long distance makes it more difficult. But we've 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:35.480 been like talking for like very loosely, like eight months, 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:40.439 and I'm like, it's so brutal. You're saying, did you 0:11:40.480 --> 0:11:42.920 saw him over the weekend? Well, yeah, for like ten 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:45.480 minutes with his family, and I was like, this is 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.080 just not what I was all the time before that 0:11:48.480 --> 0:11:50.760 that you saw. When was the last time Chargers game 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:54.600 so well, I think that was like September October. I mean, 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:57.880 obviously our entire audience is following the Chargers and they 0:11:57.920 --> 0:12:01.840 know the care we all everyone knows he plays for 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:04.280 the Pack, like everyone knows, and if you were trying 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:07.080 to look him up, he doesn't have Instagram to time. 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:18.040 Got a great first name though, So okay, now that 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:21.320 his season is over, though, what lays on the horizon? 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.880 So I don't know. It's it's so hard for me 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:30.200 because I don't really like struggle with loneliness, and I 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:33.000 think that's part of me also as I allow myself 0:12:33.040 --> 0:12:35.400 to be really fine being single and like I have 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:38.400 fun and I have friends, So it's really hard for 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:41.320 me to to invite something that is kind of like 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:45.479 codependency into my life. And I realized I'm really struggling 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:48.520 with that and I'm not the most vulnerable person, Like 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:50.360 there's there's probably like a handful of people who have 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:54.120 seen me like truly, truly cry. So the Green Bay 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.079 Chargers game was early November, so this was the first 0:12:57.080 --> 0:13:01.760 time you saw him in almost three months. Yeah, so 0:13:03.480 --> 0:13:05.719 he's not giving me anything to be like I need 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:08.880 to shut this down. It's like he's being he's so kind, 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:10.360 like the fact that he even gave me a plus one, 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:13.960 like those tickets are easy, Like he dropped over a 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:17.800 grand on just and everybody and his mother was asking 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:20.600 for tickets. Second and he chose to give two to you, 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:22.160 which was like he did not have to at all. 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:23.640 And then he offered to pay for my flight, but 0:13:23.679 --> 0:13:25.719 I just didn't feel comfortable with that. Although I'm like, 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:27.920 I'm a broke homeb homegirl like I would have. So 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:32.280 you kind of dodged the question a little bit. That's awesome. Okay, Yeah, 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:36.120 I don't know. I don't know. His sister when I 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:38.160 saw him after the game, was like I wanted to 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:41.160 train in California and she's like getting to train out here, 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.600 and I was like, I want no part of this conversation. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:48.319 He's only been to l A, I think twice, but California, 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:52.920 like I mean outside of a game, like probably like 0:13:53.000 --> 0:13:55.480 three times too, So is there a chance he'll come 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:58.000 out here instead of He's like really wanting to train 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.320 in San Diego, but I'm like, I don't really want 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:04.480 that to be a part of our situation. And I 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:06.440 know he's never really trained out He's trained out here 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:08.360 for like a couple of weeks before, but like never 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:11.320 being like, Hey, I'm gonna come out here and train. 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:15.560 And we have great training facilities in l A. I mean, 0:14:15.600 --> 0:14:17.200 and I know there's good ones in San Diego. So 0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:19.720 I get why people come out here and train. But 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:21.360 at the same time, I'm like, I just don't want 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.400 you to come out here because you have like hopes 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:25.960 for us, because I don't know how I feel that. 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:28.160 I don't put that much pressure on it or don't 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:31.000 overthink it. He wants to come out here and training. 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:35.360 You guys can hang out. Girl over thinks everything, but 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:40.640 not Tori. Tori doesn't. Tori stays grounded, not to pivot 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.240 off of this incredible topics. I do think it's interesting 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:44.560 and I do want you to continue to keep us 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:47.000 updated on what's going on with this guy. Okay, yeah, 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:49.480 you guys need to meet him. Where's it leave off? Like, 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:52.440 that's what I want to know. Where So he texted 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:55.440 me after the game and was like, Hey, just let 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:58.560 you know he texted you, Tory. He's put a lot 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:01.960 of effort in He said, uh, seeing you after the 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:05.920 game really like brighten my day, And I was like, 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:11.640 to the super Bowl. I'm so weird. I got that 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:14.640 text and I was like, I literally do not know 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:17.400 how to respond to this. It made me so uncomfortable. 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:19.920 Was it the day of Uh No, I think it's 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.600 the next day, Okay. Still regardless, he lost out an 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:25.800 opportunity to go to the Super Bowl every athlete's dream 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:29.320 in the next day and you saying you brightened his day. 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.240 That's really sweet, But like, what do you respond to that? Well, 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:34.160 as a guy, what would you want to hear and 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:39.320 respond to that? I love you? But no, I'm actually 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:42.160 being honest. I mean I would have said it was 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:46.640 great seeing you too, you had a great season. No no, no, no, no, no, no, 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:51.240 you gotta go more like feeling emotional left That dude 0:15:51.240 --> 0:15:53.840 literally just said seeing you brighten my day. And I'm 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:56.000 just saying it was great seeing you two. You had 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:58.240 a great season. I'm really proud of that you and 0:15:58.280 --> 0:16:01.000 you accomplished many things, et cetera, et cetera, so on 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:02.880 and so forth. You don't need to get all mushy 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:05.760 right away. The dude just lost He's reaching out to her. 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:08.440 What did you say anything back? I'm like really scared 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:10.640 to check what I sent back. Can you read it? Forest, please? 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.080 As the listeners while you're finding it. The oally reason 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:16.400 I said no to that was because it sounds very 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:19.240 off pudding, like, well, hey, you had a good season 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:22.000 and you should be proud. And how's that off putting? Well, 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:25.600 because he made it about her. This is so awkward 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:29.480 what I sent back. I feel like, can I read it? Yeah? Okay, 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:31.040 it making me like a little less awkward for you 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:32.680 if I read it. I just like, I know you 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:37.080 guys are gonna have I know I've you because I 0:16:37.160 --> 0:16:40.240 don't like to feel emotions. It's so bad. I don't 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:41.880 want to be hurt. And I think that's the reason 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:43.600 why I never know how to respond to people, because 0:16:43.600 --> 0:16:46.080 I'm like, that's vulnerable. It's funny seeing the name, just 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:50.160 seeing the name is hilarious. I'm reading Tori's phone right now. 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:52.560 He texts her thanks for coming and staying after to 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:54.880 see us, seeing you brighten me up after the game, 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:59.560 and she responded four hours later, mind you, I guess 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:03.440 you were working. I guess you're also though, like I'm 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:08.600 exhausted but it's probably about four hours later, Tori responds, Oh, 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:10.919 that's so nice of you to say, smiley face. I 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:13.240 felt bad cutting into your family time. Hopefully you'll get 0:17:13.280 --> 0:17:15.639 to hang with them soon now that season is done. 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:21.280 I just I think that's a deflection. You deflected. It's sorry. 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:25.040 If I got that, I would be bummed. Right, It's 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:26.600 kind of like, I'm glad you got your family because 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:28.080 I'm not really going to be hanging with you, So 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:30.480 hanging out with them now that that's offseason, it was 0:17:30.600 --> 0:17:32.840 very That's the only reason. Yeah, I gotta say. I 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.920 gotta say though, it's probably working in Tori's favor, because 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:38.160 guys always loved the chase, right, and she was kind 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.920 of like deflecting and like not making it about them, 0:17:40.960 --> 0:17:43.879 kind of making about him and other things. Hopefully he 0:17:43.920 --> 0:17:46.280 doesn't listen to his podcast. I bet you would driving 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:50.040 him bonkers, like a like a good way, though he's 0:17:50.160 --> 0:17:54.080 very even keeled. Yeah, judging by the very little I 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:56.920 know about this person, I would agree with you, Tori. 0:17:57.280 --> 0:17:59.879 I think that, but now every girl knows how to 0:18:01.200 --> 0:18:03.399 sure like it would drive someone like Dean crazy and 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:05.600 probably me too, and I would we'd like to sleep 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:07.560 over it all night, and I would It would just 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:09.840 make me like so much more invigorated. We want to conquer, right, 0:18:10.440 --> 0:18:13.120 I feel like this guy I don't know, but from 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:15.760 my gut feeling says that it made him more sad 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:20.640 than intrigued. I don't know, I don't know. Maybe yeah, 0:18:20.840 --> 0:18:23.679 I listen, I've been wrong a million times. But what 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:26.119 did he respond back with? I saw I read the 0:18:26.119 --> 0:18:29.439 whole text conversation. Well, here's the bad guys. Because they 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:31.439 got a response. I didn't want to scroll too far. 0:18:31.480 --> 0:18:35.439 I didn't want Well, the thing is, it's like, literally, 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:41.399 oh my gosh, because then he responded back to never. 0:18:42.400 --> 0:18:45.119 This guy is confiding in you. His family struggles to. 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:47.480 The follow up message to Toris that she did not 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:51.119 respond to was no, that's okay. My sister tends to 0:18:51.160 --> 0:18:53.280 talk a lot, and my dad asked too many questions. 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.359 Hopefully you're able to get some rest now back in 0:18:55.480 --> 0:18:58.399 l A. He's wanting you to get rest after he 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:01.440 just finished an eighteen game football season. This man, and 0:19:01.480 --> 0:19:04.200 he's confiding in you. My sister tends to talk a lot, 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:05.960 and my dad asked too many questions. I don't really 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:07.560 want to hang out with him. Do you want to 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:09.240 hang out with me? How how long did it take 0:19:09.240 --> 0:19:11.359 for him to respond to the tour's message? Two hours 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:14.479 roughly so half the time, just just under two hours, 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:20.320 and she's don't responded. Do you take my phone in response? 0:19:20.520 --> 0:19:25.240 I've been eighteen hours since Tory hasn't responded to this guy. 0:19:25.760 --> 0:19:27.840 I feel bad for him, not bad. I know that 0:19:27.880 --> 0:19:29.480 he like I'm sure he kind of like likes it 0:19:29.520 --> 0:19:31.040 a little bit, But Tori, you need to give this 0:19:31.080 --> 0:19:33.239 guy maybe a little bit more attention. Yeah, throw him 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:35.560