Speaker 1: Ailita.
Speaker 2: I know that sometimes we joke on the show that
Speaker 2: we need to find you husband, Numeto says number six.
Speaker 1: I know, but today that.
Speaker 2: Actually might be possible because we have our very first
Speaker 2: episode featuring.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I heard that he is quite the
Speaker 3: cats right.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, absolutely, but.
Speaker 4: You know what, I know him, but I know him well.
Speaker 1: I think we'll be able to keep the focus on him,
Speaker 1: hopefully I have.
Speaker 3: So why don't we get started?
Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, welcome listeners. This is Date my A Alita. First,
Speaker 2: we're our cy Cupid Alita. Liliana plays matchmaker for one
Speaker 2: hopeful main dater. She's gonna meet three lucky contestants before
Speaker 2: sending one of them off on a one on one
Speaker 2: date with her beautiful main dater. I am your host,
Speaker 2: Vico ortis joined by our ever glowing Auelita Lileana Montene.
Speaker 3: Ya ya ya Yola, Mivico.
Speaker 4: I'm so glad we're finally getting the chance to find
Speaker 4: love for someone right.
Speaker 3: Around my age.
Speaker 1: I know, I'm so excited.
Speaker 4: You know, it is very important to have love at
Speaker 4: all ages, and getting older is absolutely no exception. So
Speaker 4: just talk a little bit more about our beautiful hands
Speaker 4: on Soltero Dorado today.
Speaker 2: Our Soltero Dorado this week is Alberto. Alberto is sixty
Speaker 2: six years young and is quite the nostalgic man, especially
Speaker 2: for his family.
Speaker 1: Christmas is growing up.
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 2: Alberto describes himself as living in the present.
Speaker 1: I love that and likes to make people laugh.
Speaker 2: Yes, he likes sell some music and classic seventies music.
Speaker 2: He is a working actor who also loves working with
Speaker 2: his hands around the house. I mean, what, but seriously,
Speaker 2: Alberta ones a partner with whom he has a mental connection,
Speaker 2: and he believes in the importance of accepting other people
Speaker 2: exactly as they are. Yes, Alberta was a self confessed
Speaker 2: playboy when he was younger and had a tool belt
Speaker 2: for bad pickup lines.
Speaker 1: I think we need to hear some of those. Yes,
Speaker 1: we will, we will. Alberto is ready.
Speaker 2: For our relationship after being married for twenty three years
Speaker 2: and dating for four years. So let's see if a
Speaker 2: Willita is gonna find a match.
Speaker 4: I am going to do my absolute best, Alberto, because
Speaker 4: you are the total package, my love.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, what's up with you two?
Speaker 4: He's been a very good friend for many years. I've
Speaker 4: always called my Alberta good.
Speaker 3: Good, bring him in.
Speaker 1: Sure, come on in, Alberta, join us.
Speaker 2: Comus, Dan, How are you moment?
Speaker 5: Everything you said about their all lies good? I was
Speaker 5: to Little Saint when I was younger.
Speaker 1: True, sure, su sure, it's all good. We've all been there,
Speaker 1: done that.
Speaker 2: I feel like when I'm in my sixties, I'm also
Speaker 2: going to be like listen, I went through I call
Speaker 2: it my fuck boy era.
Speaker 4: So we do know that word, don't we.
Speaker 1: Alberto?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I mean I was a youngster, That's all
Speaker 5: I can say.
Speaker 3: You became a ladies man.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you can say that.
Speaker 4: So you remember back in the seventies they were and
Speaker 4: this is what I did. Also, we'd go to all
Speaker 4: the Latin clubs that Hollywood had at the time, and
Speaker 4: they were just about corner to corner, from the Peruvian
Speaker 4: Room to Yamadadas to Candy Lejas.
Speaker 5: You mentioned those nation I got chilled.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5: As a matter of fact, you mentioned the room. I
Speaker 5: was a DJ at the Peruvian Oh my gosh. So
Speaker 5: you can imagine what the girls would do with the DJ.
Speaker 5: I mean, the DJ was the.
Speaker 3: Man, Alberto.
Speaker 4: I do remember many DJs, and I frequented the Peruvian
Speaker 4: Room a lot.
Speaker 2: I am truly surprised that both of you have not
Speaker 2: been together A truly.
Speaker 3: Looking for some nails.
Speaker 5: You know, maybe it was a one night standing with
Speaker 5: Eleana and we don't remember.
Speaker 1: Honestly, you know that, I sy I am that is
Speaker 1: a possibility.
Speaker 4: There were a lot of well furnished vans back in
Speaker 4: the time. Do you remember that, Yeah, customized customize vans.
Speaker 5: Yes they were.
Speaker 4: There was a bar, a bed, Oh my god. It
Speaker 4: was like, yeah, we had fun.
Speaker 2: Wow, this truly is incredible, honestly, I mean, I know
Speaker 2: that we have three contestants for you though, but I'm
Speaker 2: kind of just like vuying for Aura at this point. Anyway,
Speaker 2: what should Alwalita and I know about you in this
Speaker 2: precise moment in your life?
Speaker 1: And what do you have capacity for?
Speaker 5: What do you want being an intellectual? Something I can click? Chemistry,
Speaker 5: good communicator?
Speaker 2: How do you communicate if there's something that bothers you?
Speaker 2: How do you communicate so that your needs get met?
Speaker 5: Just to the point, you know what, I don't like this,
Speaker 5: So I don't like that. What can we do to
Speaker 5: change it? Or can we improve on whatever we did
Speaker 5: with that?
Speaker 2: What's your perspective around conflict? You know when sometimes like
Speaker 2: you have a need and your other person has a
Speaker 2: need and you're kind of having a little bit of friction,
Speaker 2: how do you normally maneuver or how do you handle conflict?
Speaker 5: You have to compromise. Either we do this or we
Speaker 5: do that. Okay, now what's more important this or that?
Speaker 5: And then you have to balance it out. Either maybe
Speaker 5: you can do both or you can do one. One
Speaker 5: thing has to be done.
Speaker 1: You've been eating for four years and you're married for
Speaker 1: twenty three.
Speaker 2: What are some things that you're like, I don't want
Speaker 2: to do that again, and what are some things that like, Oh,
Speaker 2: I really love that I want to keep that.
Speaker 5: When I got married, my theme song was called honesty
Speaker 5: by Billy Joel. That was the primary thing that I
Speaker 5: was looking in my relationship through my marriage, and that
Speaker 5: got lost eventually, so you know, and that song still
Speaker 5: reminded me that whoever comes along, that has to be
Speaker 5: the primary thing, honesty.
Speaker 4: Let me ask you one thing. Let's say that the
Speaker 4: lady you're going to meet is sitting right next to me,
Speaker 4: tell her what is the biggest quality you bring into
Speaker 4: your relationship.
Speaker 5: I'm ver, very respectful, I'm well mannered, I'm a guy
Speaker 5: that opens the door and the car door for the lady.
Speaker 5: I'm a guy that pulls the seed so she can
Speaker 5: sit at the table. I was taught by my dad,
Speaker 5: you always very respectful to women. One of the things
Speaker 5: that he told me once she goes, you never touch
Speaker 5: a woman, not even with a roast. So you know,
Speaker 5: those are the things that he taught me.
Speaker 2: You're so adorable a little bit though, pardon me if
Speaker 2: I'm like overstepping with this question, because you mentioned honesty
Speaker 2: quite a few times.
Speaker 1: Have you been cheated on? Is that something that has
Speaker 1: happened where your trust was broken?
Speaker 5: Yes. I dated several women when I was young, and
Speaker 5: actually one which I was very fond of, her brother
Speaker 5: through under the bus.
Speaker 3: Oh wow.
Speaker 5: We were going to a party and I called her
Speaker 5: and she goes, oh, I can't, Oh, I'm so sick.
Speaker 5: So I went to actually pick up her brother. I
Speaker 5: picked up her brother and we're at the party and
Speaker 5: then he goes, I gotta tell you this, but my
Speaker 5: sister she wished she was because she was going out
Speaker 5: with someone else.
Speaker 6: No dang.
Speaker 5: So that's one of the most memorable ones. Now in
Speaker 5: my marriage throughout the years, I ended up being cheated.
Speaker 5: Ut So going back to when I was dating, to
Speaker 5: when I got married, and still the same word ups up.
Speaker 4: Honestly, Listen, as a culture, we carry this honesty trust
Speaker 4: baggage already. You know the way that we were raised,
Speaker 4: what we saw with our families. So today we're going
Speaker 4: to kind of just leave all that in the little
Speaker 4: box behind us, and we're going to open up our
Speaker 4: hearts and open up.
Speaker 3: Our minds and give love a chance.
Speaker 4: You love song just like so let's give this the
Speaker 4: opportunity to bring someone wonderful in your life, even if.
Speaker 3: From the beginning sometimes we have to.
Speaker 4: Compromise a little bit to find happiness at the end.
Speaker 5: Okay, sounds good, I agree, Okay.
Speaker 2: Better I think with that, Lenna and I are ready
Speaker 2: to find a few for you.
Speaker 1: So let's meet our contestants, shall we. We'll be back
Speaker 1: after the break.
Speaker 6: Welcome back today, Mayawani the first.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello, welcome contest Tom. Thank you all for
Speaker 2: joining us today. We have a lovely group of people,
Speaker 2: so let's.
Speaker 1: Start with Lily.
Speaker 2: Lily is a Bay Area based writer and researcher who
Speaker 2: focuses on sustainable architecture.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that's hot. She has a young soul
Speaker 1: and is happiest spending time with her twelve year old son.
Speaker 2: I love that Lily is looking for a man who
Speaker 2: can add to her very full life. Yes, she wants
Speaker 2: a relationship that is both flexible and committed. Oh, I
Speaker 2: love Lily is looking for someone who is curious and funny,
Speaker 2: who doesn't take themselves.
Speaker 1: To see you. We are so happy to have you, Lily.
Speaker 7: Hello, that sounded so good. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 6: Hello.
Speaker 4: Yes, another Lily, Well, so happy to have you here.
Speaker 4: Welcome Lily. Now, who's our next special some will all right?
Speaker 1: Our next special someone is Rula.
Speaker 2: Rulo is a visual artiste who communicates her love through
Speaker 2: acts of service, like a home cooked meal. She loves
Speaker 2: her alone time and takes a long bats and walks
Speaker 2: around her apartment naked.
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, me too.
Speaker 8: Three.
Speaker 2: Rula worries that folks are getting too cynical about love,
Speaker 2: but she believes it's the only thing that actually saves us.
Speaker 2: So yeah, you're definitely in the right podcast. Thank you, Rula, Hello.
Speaker 7: Thank you hello, Thanks for having me.
Speaker 4: Oh, welcome, welcome, And finally we have oh, and finally
Speaker 4: we have Brenda.
Speaker 2: Brenda teaches various movement classes at UCLA and is passionate
Speaker 2: about having a holistic approach to wellness and side and out.
Speaker 1: Yes, Queen Brenda is.
Speaker 2: A long term relationship person and since her last relationship,
Speaker 2: has been taking time to work on herself and get
Speaker 2: comfortable with being alone.
Speaker 1: If I get that.
Speaker 2: Deeplyase, she is taking the task of being with herself seriously.
Speaker 2: She's ad a residency in the Dominican Republic teaching yoga
Speaker 2: and spent Christmas and New Year's with complete strangers exploring
Speaker 2: maybe we.
Speaker 1: Can find Brenda. That's special companion today. Welcome Brenda.
Speaker 9: I am ready for our companion. I'm ready for life.
Speaker 1: Yes, incredible.
Speaker 3: Why don't we play some games?
Speaker 1: So we are going to.
Speaker 2: Get to know you a little bit better with the
Speaker 2: first game of never Have I Ever?
Speaker 1: Listen.
Speaker 2: It's a classic for a reason. So here's how we're
Speaker 2: gonna play. We're gonna list out something like this, never
Speaker 2: have I ever been on a blind date? And if
Speaker 2: you have been on a blind date, you're going to
Speaker 2: respond by telling us the story of what happened.
Speaker 3: Make them juicy, ladies, make them real juicy.
Speaker 2: The first example is never have I ever ditched a
Speaker 2: date in the middle of the date.
Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh, Lily jumping in Lily, what's your story?
Speaker 1: What happened? What did you have to leave in the
Speaker 1: middle of the date.
Speaker 7: This was a while ago.
Speaker 8: I was at a restaurant with the most obnoxious guy
Speaker 8: who was saying things to me that were making me
Speaker 8: so angry that I excuse myself to go to the bathroom.
Speaker 8: Called my friend who lived up to the street, just
Speaker 8: to make sure she was home. I said, I'm coming over,
Speaker 8: and I walked right past him and out of the restaurant.
Speaker 3: What was he saying to you? Can you share?
Speaker 8: I used to work at Nashville Geographic, a pretty well
Speaker 8: known magazine.
Speaker 1: Absolutely super well known.
Speaker 7: My gosh, I was sharing my expertise.
Speaker 8: I hadn't worked there in a few years, and he
Speaker 8: was working at a different magazine and he said something like,
Speaker 8: I think it's really interesting how you're talking about something
Speaker 8: when you really don't know what you're talking about. And
Speaker 8: I just looked at him like, huh, excuse.
Speaker 1: Me, Oh no, I love you.
Speaker 2: Walked right past him, was like, bye, Brenda, what's your story.
Speaker 10: Recently, I went on a first date. It was a
Speaker 10: Mexican restaurant. It was at five o'clock. So I was like, okay,
Speaker 10: he wants to do happy hours. So we meet and
Speaker 10: I get there and he's already got like four drinks
Speaker 10: in a bar and he's waiting for me, and he's
Speaker 10: like off his rock or off the chair, already didn't
Speaker 10: offer to order any food. And the bartender comes up
Speaker 10: and it's like it's two for one for another hour.
Speaker 10: And I'm like, well, I'm not that big of a drinker.
Speaker 10: I said, I won't drink too and he's like, well,
Speaker 10: I'll get two and you get two and.
Speaker 9: I'll have your other one. And I was like, this
Speaker 9: is too much for me. This is the first time
Speaker 9: I met him within ten minutes, and so I was like, oh,
Speaker 9: it was really nice to meet you. I don't think
Speaker 9: this is going to work out. And I booked out other.
Speaker 9: I mean, at least wait till i'm there before you indulge.
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, how disrespectful.
Speaker 9: I have another one. It's a little ball.
Speaker 1: Go for it. We're very vulgar.
Speaker 3: Here, go for it.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 10: So I went on another date and we met her
Speaker 10: drink and the guy walked to the place and it
Speaker 10: was freezing and so I offered to give him a
Speaker 10: ride home because he lived pretty close, and he's like, oh,
Speaker 10: do you want to come up?
Speaker 9: We don't met an hour ago.
Speaker 10: And I'm like, yeah, but I'm just going to be clear,
Speaker 10: like I'll be happy to come up and you know,
Speaker 10: have a drink with you. But this is strictly platonic
Speaker 10: on the first date. And so I go up into
Speaker 10: his apartment, I say, can I use your bathroom? And
Speaker 10: I come out and he's like on the couch and
Speaker 10: he's masturbating.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 9: He's like you could just watch.
Speaker 10: And I was like, good luck for your new apartment.
Speaker 5: I'm out of here.
Speaker 1: This is around.
Speaker 2: No, I never have my ever I am scandalized, Well,
Speaker 2: we have another one here?
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, So never have I ever accidentally excitedly
Speaker 4: greeted as stranger who I thought was someone I knew.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Lily is ready for it.
Speaker 7: It just happened to me the other night.
Speaker 8: I mean, this is not like sexy story, but I
Speaker 8: went to a fundraiser for my high school and I
Speaker 8: just assumed the woman greeting me was a woman I'd
Speaker 8: been talking to on the phone, and at first she acted.
Speaker 7: Like she knew me. Too, and then she said have
Speaker 7: we met? And like, I don't know, how we do
Speaker 7: you think I'm Hannah? I was like maybe, oh notheless.
Speaker 1: What about to Brenda? You said you also have done this?
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 10: I mean when you said this, the first thing that
Speaker 10: popped around mind. I'll never forget it. I was a
Speaker 10: younger kid and I was coming out of the store
Speaker 10: and I actually jumped.
Speaker 9: In a car thinking it was my father, and.
Speaker 10: I jumped in the vac seed I had groceries and
Speaker 10: I was like, okay, let's go, and then they turned around.
Speaker 9: I was like, oh, wrong car.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 10: That was probably the biggest reminder of thinking you know
Speaker 10: somebody and you don't and it was my dad.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what about you? Roula.
Speaker 11: I haven't done that, but it's been done to me
Speaker 11: a couple I'm like, oh hey, and.
Speaker 9: I'm like uh, and usually you know, I'll go with it,
Speaker 9: you know.
Speaker 11: Both times I like hugged them and I was like,
Speaker 11: I'm sorry, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I am obsessed with these stories. Oh my gosh, do
Speaker 1: we have anymore?
Speaker 3: Yes, we have one final one.
Speaker 2: Never have I ever had a crush on someone I
Speaker 2: shouldn't have had a crush on, Lily shut us off
Speaker 2: because you're like yeah immediately, like, nah, who hasn't.
Speaker 8: In high school my sister's boyfriend breaking up and I
Speaker 8: ended up dating them, but not you know.
Speaker 3: How did your sister feel about it?
Speaker 8: She didn't necessarily know so much spicy go to college.
Speaker 1: So good, Lily, this is spicy. I love it so much.
Speaker 1: Did you find out?
Speaker 7: I don't think so.
Speaker 9: No, she's gonna find out now.
Speaker 1: It's too good. Rula, what about you?
Speaker 9: It was a priest.
Speaker 3: Married, but I had such a I know, there's so fun.
Speaker 11: Like I think I've attracted to the people that are
Speaker 11: like the least.
Speaker 5: Sexual in a way, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 11: Like monks, priest you know, Buddhist bodies like all a bit.
Speaker 7: You're just like, oh, yeah, you're amazing.
Speaker 9: Say you know, I don't know what it is.
Speaker 11: It's like this thing that you're just.
Speaker 2: Like, there's discipline, there's discipline and that ripping up.
Speaker 9: The self containment.
Speaker 1: Yes, self contained? Yummy.
Speaker 2: Anyway, Brenda, talk to me, what's your story?
Speaker 9: I don't know if I should say this in case
Speaker 9: they listen to this. But a very good friend, like
Speaker 9: my best friend.
Speaker 10: Growing up, her husband, but they weren't married, they were separated,
Speaker 10: and she had cheated on him, and so I knew
Speaker 10: that the thing was over between them, but I still
Speaker 10: probably shouldn't have here here.
Speaker 3: Wait wait, wait, wait wait, you acted on it.
Speaker 9: We dated a little bit. That's why I wasn't sure
Speaker 9: I should say any going to know which one it is?
Speaker 1: This is incredible. I think we should play never haveever
Speaker 1: more often.
Speaker 2: Thank you for getting silly with us and just really
Speaker 2: pouring your hearts out, and your stories were just like amazing, magnificently.
Speaker 4: I know, and I know that these are silly games
Speaker 4: and silly little stories that you're telling us, and we're
Speaker 4: all laughing about it, but remember that each and every
Speaker 4: one of you is expressing who you truly are, and
Speaker 4: that's what we're looking for. This is how we are
Speaker 4: learning who you are and who is going to be
Speaker 4: the best partner for our main dater.
Speaker 2: So it's time to play another game before our EA
Speaker 2: sends one of our lovely contestants home. Our main dater
Speaker 2: has admitted that in his past he was kind of
Speaker 2: a playboy who had a whole tool belt full of
Speaker 2: pickup lines. So for this next game, we're going to
Speaker 2: give you all a couple of minutes to write up
Speaker 2: your best and worst pickup lines and perform them for Ailita.
Speaker 2: So in this game, best means the pickup line that
Speaker 2: might actually score a date, and worst means the pickup
Speaker 2: line that in no world would land you a date. So,
Speaker 2: for example, a good pickup line for me would be
Speaker 2: maybe you are a full course meal and I'd love
Speaker 2: to take you home for some dessert.
Speaker 4: Ah yeah, yeah, yay, yay, I gotta hang out with
Speaker 4: you more often.
Speaker 7: Wait, that was a good one or a bad one?
Speaker 2: I know, yeah, being dragged to veilve A good one
Speaker 2: could also.
Speaker 1: Be I'll always have capacity for you. Oh yeah I
Speaker 1: can get Oh yeah, Lily is ready for it.
Speaker 8: Yes, I'm looking at this from a slightly different perspective.
Speaker 7: I'm taking this seriously.
Speaker 8: I walk into a bar and I see a strange
Speaker 8: man sitting at the bar. My pickup line is going
Speaker 8: to be something like, Hey, do you know what time
Speaker 8: the game starts? Where's My worst pickup line be something
Speaker 8: like hey, I'm in my early forties and ovulating.
Speaker 2: Maybe immediately, just like shriveled shrink and goodbye.
Speaker 1: Brenda would go for it.
Speaker 10: So the probably worst pickup line I could give someone
Speaker 10: would probably be something like, you look like trouble, so.
Speaker 5: Let's go.
Speaker 1: Terrifying. Yes, so scary.
Speaker 10: As far as a good pickup line, I might say,
Speaker 10: I just want to let you know you have the
Speaker 10: kindest eyes.
Speaker 9: You must have a really beautiful soul.
Speaker 3: That's so nice.
Speaker 1: Rule out what are your best and worst pickup lines.
Speaker 11: I just thought of a couple that I might potentially No,
Speaker 11: I would probably never use them, But as you guys
Speaker 11: were talking, I was thinking it would be fun to
Speaker 11: approach somebody and be like, let's run away and rub
Speaker 11: a bank together.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, yeah, I'm in for that one.
Speaker 11: And the worst thing I could think of would be
Speaker 11: to tell somebody, you know, I haven't had sex since
Speaker 11: my last disease, so we need to.
Speaker 3: Get all right now.
Speaker 4: Oh god, I see runs out the door. Well listen, ladies,
Speaker 4: these lines are so smooth. They're like fine wine, like
Speaker 4: soft skin, oh, like a date that hasn't arrived, like
Speaker 4: a rose losing its aid.
Speaker 2: Well, well, this was so much fun, and unfortunately we're
Speaker 2: going to start moving towards the least one part of
Speaker 2: the show, which is sending one of you incredible women
Speaker 2: home probably, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I want to keep you all, but it's fine.
Speaker 4: We have to make a decision, and you have to
Speaker 4: remember this is a very important show because so far
Speaker 4: we've had members of the LGBQT plus community.
Speaker 3: We have had young men and women.
Speaker 4: But this is a special show with strong professional women
Speaker 4: who have had a wonderful life and it's nothing personal.
Speaker 4: We just have to match our main dat to one
Speaker 4: of you, and for that reason alone, one of you
Speaker 4: is leaving, and that person is.
Speaker 3: Rula.
Speaker 1: We absolutely adore you.
Speaker 9: Bye guys, good luck to everybody.
Speaker 1: Thank you, rank you, thank you, my love.
Speaker 6: We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, my ELII.
Speaker 6: The first.
Speaker 2: Congratulations to our two remaining lucky contestants.
Speaker 1: You've made it to.
Speaker 2: The next portion of our show where Aurilita is going
Speaker 2: to take each of you on a speed date a
Speaker 2: little daf You're gonna have a one on one just
Speaker 2: you and Lilyana. This is an opportunity for her to
Speaker 2: get to know you a little bit more intimately, dive
Speaker 2: deep and ask questions that will help her pick who's
Speaker 2: going to end up with the main dater.
Speaker 1: So I would ead that let's start with Lily you ready.
Speaker 3: I'm ready take it away? Is Lily ready?
Speaker 7: I'm a little nervous. I have no idea what's about
Speaker 7: to happen.
Speaker 4: No, it's just the conversation. I just want to know
Speaker 4: more about you now. Talk to me about your love life.
Speaker 4: I know you date frequently.
Speaker 7: I try to, yes, I try to get out.
Speaker 3: You are on dating apps.
Speaker 7: Off and on.
Speaker 8: I find that if I'm on for too long and
Speaker 8: start to get really frustrated, that sort of comes across,
Speaker 8: so I pull off. So right now, I'm not on
Speaker 8: any dating apps. I'm just trying to go out and
Speaker 8: meet people in real life.
Speaker 1: Where do you go?
Speaker 8: I would go out to live music a lot. I
Speaker 8: feel like that's a good place to meet people where
Speaker 8: it's a little bit easier to strike up a conversation.
Speaker 3: So when was your last relationship?
Speaker 8: Last relationship was a year ago, and it wasn't a
Speaker 8: very long relationship, but it got intense very quickly.
Speaker 7: It was a beautiful man.
Speaker 8: I met him on bumble and he had everything going
Speaker 8: for him except for the fact that he had a
Speaker 8: horrible mental illness. And when I met him, he happened
Speaker 8: to be in a really good place with his meds
Speaker 8: and soon after we started dating, everything kind of fell apart,
Speaker 8: and really quickly I realized that I had to get
Speaker 8: out of there because I had sort of become like
Speaker 8: a caretaker, not a.
Speaker 3: Girlfriend, because you're a loving person.
Speaker 8: A year before that, I dated a great guy named Bob.
Speaker 8: He's a lawyer, and I would set him up with
Speaker 8: anyone in a heartbeat. I love everything about him, but
Speaker 8: I just didn't feel it for me, you.
Speaker 3: Know, So what is it that you are looking for?
Speaker 8: Mostly someone who is kind and open minded and curious.
Speaker 8: I always say funny because then I don't have to
Speaker 8: say intelligent, because I feel like anyone who is funny
Speaker 8: kind of has to be intelligent. And funny is very
Speaker 8: important to me. Someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously,
Speaker 8: but at the same time, someone who can actually stop
Speaker 8: and reflect on the big picture without getting freaked out.
Speaker 7: You know, someone who's present, articulate.
Speaker 3: And what are you bringing to the relationship.
Speaker 8: I think I am in a really great place in
Speaker 8: my life. My career is really exciting. I'm doing a
Speaker 8: lot of writing, I'm working on a book.
Speaker 7: I'm in a great community.
Speaker 5: I have tons of.
Speaker 8: Friends around here through my son, very involved, so I
Speaker 8: feel like I have, you know, a very full, kind
Speaker 8: of happy, nice life that I could offer to share with,
Speaker 8: you know, and bring somebody in with me.
Speaker 3: So where do trust honesty stand with you?
Speaker 8: I couldn't imagine not having either of those. That's I
Speaker 8: feel like I'm too old to even think about that anymore,
Speaker 8: Like someone who hasn't figured out how to be in
Speaker 8: a relationship that's honest, because.
Speaker 7: Otherwise why are you in it?
Speaker 8: Like, if you're in a relationship and you're not trustworthy,
Speaker 8: they don't do that to someone else.
Speaker 4: And that's something that we can tell someone at any age. Really,
Speaker 4: but you are ready to be in a committed relationship
Speaker 4: and be loyal and honest and see it all the way.
Speaker 8: Through one hundred percent. I feel like my life is
Speaker 8: really full, so it has to be an addition. And
Speaker 8: I hope someone would feel the same way about me.
Speaker 8: You know, they're not looking for a spouse who's going
Speaker 8: to you know, fulfill them or take on, you know,
Speaker 8: all their responsibilities or anything. And they're looking for someone
Speaker 8: who is going to uplift their life. Because I feel
Speaker 8: like at this point in our lives.
Speaker 3: Well you both have to shine.
Speaker 4: Yeah, now you are in the san Francisco and the
Speaker 4: Bay Area.
Speaker 3: So do you come to La often?
Speaker 7: I love La La.
Speaker 8: I used to live in Santa Monica, and in a
Speaker 8: perfect world, I'd love to live down there. I write
Speaker 8: about architecture, and I love the architecture in.
Speaker 3: La Right, you're very intelligent.
Speaker 4: You've had wonderful jobs, especially national geographic.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much, my love.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Leli, my goodness, I'm obsessed with you. Well, Brenda, this
Speaker 2: is a wonderful opportunity for you to have a more
Speaker 2: intimate one on one with as Aita always says, open
Speaker 2: your heart, open your mind, dive in and with that
Speaker 2: take it away.
Speaker 1: I we need that.
Speaker 3: Thank you, Mia Moore. How are you, Brenda?
Speaker 9: I'm great. How are you.
Speaker 3: Enjoying the process?
Speaker 9: Yeah, this is fun.
Speaker 4: So tell me about your fun past love relationships.
Speaker 3: What has that been like?
Speaker 4: Oh gosh, well that's a great start.
Speaker 10: I thank you some time for myself and I am
Speaker 10: a very sensual person.
Speaker 9: I'm a movement specialist.
Speaker 10: I do dance, I do yoga, I do meditation, I
Speaker 10: do contortion and acro arts.
Speaker 4: So what does this movement bring onto your life to
Speaker 4: find a new partner?
Speaker 9: Well, this is what I'm coming to.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 10: So I recently discovered a modality of healing and movement
Speaker 10: that I think is very interesting. So I am actually
Speaker 10: in training to be a clinical sexologist.
Speaker 3: I'm interested.
Speaker 10: It's opened my eyes to explore things that are very
Speaker 10: taboo subjects, different ways of looking at intimacy and sexuality
Speaker 10: and desires.
Speaker 9: And so it's allowed me to explore.
Speaker 10: And because I'm single and I have done it purposefully
Speaker 10: for the past year, I could do things and enter
Speaker 10: experiences with no guilt or shame, being that I'm like
Speaker 10: a mom before in my forties, you know turney fifties.
Speaker 3: Well, like, what what are these intentional acts that you So.
Speaker 10: I recently met a friend with benefits and we have
Speaker 10: attendance Swingers Club.
Speaker 7: Real yeah.
Speaker 10: And I wasn't necessarily into the lifestyle. I was always
Speaker 10: very judgment provoked because of the way.
Speaker 9: I grew up.
Speaker 10: But I went a couple times, and it wasn't necessarily
Speaker 10: for me about swapping partners. But I learned that I
Speaker 10: kind of liked to have people watch and enjoy the process.
Speaker 4: How does this manifest in a long lasting relationship?
Speaker 5: It does it?
Speaker 10: But it allowed me to explore what I'm looking for
Speaker 10: what I like and what I'm not.
Speaker 3: Down for, and what do you want.
Speaker 10: I want to be with a partner who is exploring
Speaker 10: and free sexually, but does it in a safe way
Speaker 10: that respects my boundaries.
Speaker 9: And I'm open and honest to try things.
Speaker 10: But if I say it's something that I'm not willing
Speaker 10: to do, like I'm not into ethical non monogamy, if
Speaker 10: I'm in a relationship with somebody, I don't judge people
Speaker 10: who choose otherwise.
Speaker 9: But in my exploration through doing these other things, you know.
Speaker 10: It allowed me to at least offer the opportunity up
Speaker 10: to myself to be open to that and know if
Speaker 10: it's for me or not right.
Speaker 4: So to be very clear, these are not things that
Speaker 4: are going to be happening once you establish a long
Speaker 4: term relationship.
Speaker 3: Correct, just so that we know that our main dat
Speaker 3: or knows that.
Speaker 4: The best thing you want to do on a day
Speaker 4: off with your partner, you're both off.
Speaker 3: It's a beautiful sunny day. How do you enjoy it?
Speaker 9: I love being outdoors. I live by the beach. I
Speaker 9: love spending time at the beach. I love going for
Speaker 9: walks and hikes.
Speaker 10: I love to get fancied and dress up, but I
Speaker 10: also live in yoga pants, right, I.
Speaker 1: Think we all do.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much to the both of you for
Speaker 2: having thank you for your honesty. We we have not
Speaker 2: been so honest. We have been a little bit sneaky
Speaker 2: because we've invited the main dater to listen in on
Speaker 2: everything that's been happening. He's been here in secret this
Speaker 2: whole time. Might have an idea of.
Speaker 1: Who she likes. But let's see if we have a
Speaker 1: unanimous decision.
Speaker 2: So muchisimus, grassies, We're gonna ask you for quick exit
Speaker 2: and we'll bring back our main contestant.
Speaker 1: I called that. I called it that.
Speaker 2: They were both very kinky, and I that's why I
Speaker 2: was like, I got to ask Alberto because like he
Speaker 2: better keep up because otherwise, you know what I'm.
Speaker 4: Saying, and they're bringing it. They're both beautiful, smart women.
Speaker 4: And yes, we had to ask Brenda a little bit
Speaker 4: more about, you know, the things that she has been
Speaker 4: doing because of Alberto's issue with cheating and that, but
Speaker 4: she was very clear that she is looking for a
Speaker 4: long time relationship and all of that was just part
Speaker 4: of her year out and her research and from now on,
Speaker 4: this is what she wants. I'd be interested to find
Speaker 4: out how Alberto feels about that.
Speaker 1: Lily.
Speaker 3: She's an amazing person.
Speaker 1: She's incredible.
Speaker 3: I love her two pieces. I think she would be
Speaker 3: a great partner to Alberto.
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan of both, Alberta.
Speaker 3: What are your thoughts?
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I yes, you do, Yes, you do.
Speaker 3: What are you thinking?
Speaker 5: Oh? I like the intelligence of Lily Brenda. I don't
Speaker 5: know if she's at the age to change to go forward.
Speaker 5: I mean, she did mention that she wants to go forward,
Speaker 5: and she was to be honest and truthful and all
Speaker 5: that without asking her. So I'm at a crossroom.
Speaker 4: How easy is it for you to put that aside
Speaker 4: and move on forward with Brenda?
Speaker 3: How would that look?
Speaker 5: You know? Like she said, what starts here goes forward.
Speaker 5: What's behind here? Just leave it behind. And that's the
Speaker 5: way we should live every single day. Everybody has passed,
Speaker 5: and everybody has baggage. I can guarantee you that all
Speaker 5: my luggage and all my past is behind me. Okay,
Speaker 5: So the other partner has to have the same time, right,
Speaker 5: have to think the same way.
Speaker 4: And say, you know what, whatever I think we I
Speaker 4: think we know who we want, Alberto, Thank you also,
Speaker 4: Almonta forever.
Speaker 2: You ready, Yeah, we know, yeah, we know, we know
Speaker 2: who it is. Let's bring in the contestants. Okay, the
Speaker 2: jury has a verdict. Alida has made a choice, Alita.
Speaker 2: Take it away.
Speaker 3: Ladies.
Speaker 4: You are each amazing women, just smart, creative, beautiful and
Speaker 4: I haven't even asked your age. You have lived a
Speaker 4: wonderful life. And I know that the lady that we
Speaker 4: pick for our main dater has to be a little
Speaker 4: closer to what.
Speaker 3: He wants or what he is about.
Speaker 4: So for that reason alone, nothing personal, and thank you
Speaker 4: for being with us. The one who took Awalita's heart
Speaker 4: today for our main dater.
Speaker 3: Is Lily.
Speaker 1: Lily congratulatedly.
Speaker 4: This is the first time you don't jump into the
Speaker 4: screen and just go She's like, what, stunned?
Speaker 1: Brenda, Thank you so so very much.
Speaker 9: Congrats, good luck.
Speaker 3: On your day.
Speaker 7: Brenda. You, by the way, you're beautiful.
Speaker 9: I hope you I love or at least a good friend.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 3: Let's take care of my love.
Speaker 2: Well, Lily, I'm like, how you doing, how you feeling?
Speaker 7: I feel great? This is so fun here.
Speaker 2: Here, Well, I guess without further Ado, Lily, Meet Alberto.
Speaker 5: Hi Lily, I heard everything you said, even the dirty stuff.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I realize that now, Alberto.
Speaker 1: First impressions on Lily.
Speaker 5: She's a gorgeous woman. First of all, she's intelligent.
Speaker 2: Here here Lily. First impressions on Alberto, Oh.
Speaker 5: Look at me. Come on, what kind of a question
Speaker 5: is that.
Speaker 7: I haven't heard any of your dirty stories. But so far,
Speaker 7: so good. I know you're a friend of Lilyano, so
Speaker 7: that bodes well.
Speaker 5: That's correct. I used to babysit her when she was
Speaker 5: a little kid.
Speaker 1: I'd bet it's a sensian vampire. Just kidding.
Speaker 3: That was in another lifetime.
Speaker 1: Amazing.
Speaker 2: Now we're gonna send our contestants away for a little
Speaker 2: virtual date.
Speaker 1: Enjoy your Kyo days, have fun.
Speaker 3: My love's okay, good luck to you both.
Speaker 5: So you have one boy?
Speaker 9: I do.
Speaker 7: I have a twelve year old boy. Okay, he's in
Speaker 7: sixth grade, so he just started middle school.
Speaker 9: He's super athletic.
Speaker 8: He plays like five different sports. Wow, very much a
Speaker 8: boy's boy.
Speaker 5: What about you? You're athletic?
Speaker 8: Show?
Speaker 7: Yes, I play a lot of pickleball.
Speaker 5: I hear a lot of people playing our people now nowadays.
Speaker 8: It's really fun because you can definitely get a good
Speaker 8: exercise and sweat, but you can also talk and catch
Speaker 8: up with your friends. So I play with a bunch
Speaker 8: of other moms a couple times a week. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 8: pretty athletic.
Speaker 7: I like to run. I like to do yoga.
Speaker 5: What do you like? What do you like? Dancing? You
Speaker 5: like food?
Speaker 7: You like I like dancing.
Speaker 8: I need someone that's a good dancer, though, to dance
Speaker 8: with me, because I'm not very good necessarily myself.
Speaker 7: But I do like to dance. Do you dance salsa?
Speaker 5: I dance alsa. That's one of my favorite music. Obviously.
Speaker 5: When I was younger, it was all disco. I mean,
Speaker 5: disco actually changed my life.
Speaker 7: How did disco change your life?
Speaker 5: I was going into the wrong crowd, the gangster type
Speaker 5: guy and all that, and all of a sudden, disco
Speaker 5: is like beautiful girls with moon dresses. So I went
Speaker 5: that way. So I tell people, you know, disculd change
Speaker 5: my life. Well, else I probably wouldn't eve get talking
Speaker 5: right now, because you know you're going to the wrong
Speaker 5: side of the street. You don't get to talk about it.
Speaker 7: You know, where did you grow up?
Speaker 5: I came to a right when I was fourteen from
Speaker 5: Alpasa from Texas. Okay, so I was a little rebel.
Speaker 5: That's why I left their pastor, And that's why I'm
Speaker 5: saying that I was going into the wrong crowd. And
Speaker 5: then all of a sudden, disco comes along. It's like, oh,
Speaker 5: I could do better with my life, you know, and
Speaker 5: the boom and enough, I'm still alive.
Speaker 7: I really never heard anyone say that before. That's great.
Speaker 11: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So what is it that you do when you're an
Speaker 5: engineer your architecture?
Speaker 7: I write about architecture.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, well what do you mean you write that?
Speaker 5: You get architects and then they tell you the stories.
Speaker 8: Or yeah, telling the story about an interesting space and
Speaker 8: what makes it unique or different. And that's one of
Speaker 8: the reasons why I love going down to LA because
Speaker 8: I find the architecture down there is a lot more
Speaker 8: interesting than it is around here.
Speaker 5: Correct, And the reason I asked for it is because
Speaker 5: that was my major architecture. Oh yeah, So you write
Speaker 5: about architecture, not the architecture itself. The architecture, Well.
Speaker 7: It really depends.
Speaker 8: I mean I find architects are really usually pretty interesting too. Okay, Wow,
Speaker 8: I'm writing a book about ADUs ad us that is
Speaker 8: an accessory dwelling unit. Okay, I'll get tiny house you
Speaker 8: can build in your backyard.
Speaker 5: Okay, like a little shit type of seeing like a
Speaker 5: kiosk or something like that. Yeah, something to meditating or
Speaker 5: something like that.
Speaker 7: Yeah, something like that.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well wow, wow wow. I hope those sweeties headed off.
Speaker 1: Find us back here next week as Leanna and I
Speaker 1: make some more matches. Good work today, Alida, Oh we
Speaker 1: did good. I like what I'm looking at, bit Maauri.
Speaker 2: The First is a production from WV Sound and I
Speaker 2: Heard Media as Mike Utura podcast Network, hosted by me
Speaker 2: Vigo Ortiz, joined by the fabulous Lenna Montenegroo bait My Houri.
Speaker 2: The First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raquel and
Speaker 2: Sophie Spencer zavos Or. Executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem,
Speaker 2: and Nico Raguel.
Speaker 1: W V Sound.
Speaker 2: Special thanks to our team of cupits at WV Entertainment Special.
Speaker 2: Thanks also to our hopeful romantics this week, Alberto, Lily,
Speaker 2: Brenda and Rula. Additional thanks to Salta Line Media. For
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Speaker 2: wouldn't do.
Speaker 3: Just do it better, okay, besitos