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Speaker 1: right now, ladies and Jonas's time for the Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: with my good friends. Shirley Strawberry. Thank you, my good friend, Junior. Subject.

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Speaker 1: I can tell by the smell this stearsan Shirley. I've

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Speaker 1: been married for almost forty years. I have a thirty

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Speaker 1: eight year old son that has moved back into my house,

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Speaker 1: and my husband is overjoyed to have a running buddy.

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Speaker 1: They are out from sun up to sundown on Saturdays,

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Speaker 1: and I was cool with it at first until one

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Speaker 1: of my son's friends approached my husband and I at

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Speaker 1: the grocery store recently. His name, her name is Muriel,

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Speaker 1: and she's got a small restaurant that a lot of

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Speaker 1: single men and women have hang out at, eating, drinking

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Speaker 1: and carrying on. I didn't know that my husband was

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Speaker 1: hanging out at Muriel's until I smelled her. She smelled

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Speaker 1: like she had been in the kitchen and then sprayed

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Speaker 1: some cheap body spray over the grease smell in her clothes.

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Speaker 1: That is what my husband smells like when he comes home,

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Speaker 1: comes in late at night with our son. I asked

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Speaker 1: her how things were going down at the restaurant, and

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Speaker 1: she said things are going great and looked at my husband.

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Speaker 1: I stayed tight lipped until we got in the car.

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Speaker 1: I asked if he'd been hanging out at her place,

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Speaker 1: and he said it's a place for our son's friends,

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Speaker 1: not an old man like him. His clothes sure to

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Speaker 1: smell like he's been to Muriel's a few times, and

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Speaker 1: he even had a little of Muriel's fragrance on his

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Speaker 1: shirt before. He couldn't possibly be messing around with Muriel

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Speaker 1: because she is not a petite woman. He's five nine

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Speaker 1: and Muriel is a tall woman. I could not get

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Speaker 1: the truth out of my husband nor my sons. My

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Speaker 1: son said he hangs out there sometimes, but his dad

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Speaker 1: is never with him. I asked him where his dad

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Speaker 1: is while he's hanging out at Muriels and he said

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Speaker 1: he didn't know. I am too old to be driving

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Speaker 1: by Muriels looking around from my husband. If nothing is

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Speaker 1: going on, why does he smell like a cafe? Why

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Speaker 1: won't they tell me the truth? Okay, Sis, now you

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Speaker 1: know that's not happening. You know that's not gonna happen,

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Speaker 1: the truth. Sorry, ma'am, but he's not gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: the truth because he can't. He won't, He ain't. He

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Speaker 1: refuses too. He wants to keep on cheating, on and

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Speaker 1: on and on whatever he's been with Muriel, because he

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Speaker 1: knows how you will react. He's never gonna admit that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: He's never gonna admit that, because he knows you're gonna

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Speaker 1: go off on him. You'll be mad, you'll be hurt,

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Speaker 1: You'll because him, You'll be angry, you'll be upset, devastated, betrayed,

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Speaker 1: want to leave, and want to kill him, all of

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Speaker 1: those things. So many many reasons why he won't tell

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Speaker 1: you the truth. You know, cheating and lying go together

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Speaker 1: other you know, you usually don't do one without the other,

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Speaker 1: and you usually don't have one without the other. Or

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Speaker 1: that would be some sort of open relationship. If he

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Speaker 1: told you the truth, you know that he was sleeping

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Speaker 1: with Muriel, then you know that's like an open relationship.

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Speaker 1: He's letting you know what he's doing. Okay, I just

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Speaker 1: think you know he's a typical cheater who wants his

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Speaker 1: cake and eat it too. If you're in a restaurant,

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Speaker 1: sometimes the smell might get in your clothes, depending on

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Speaker 1: what's on the menu. I'll give you that, But that

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Speaker 1: does not explain Miss Muriel's perfume on him, her fragrance.

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Speaker 1: Like you said, he had to be in close contact

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Speaker 1: with her. But here's the thing. If you're waiting for him,

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Speaker 1: waiting around for him to tell you the truth, forget it.

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Speaker 1: That's not gonna happen from him or your son. They're

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Speaker 1: thick of Steve's right now. So do you, I say,

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Speaker 1: trust your instincts. Okay, if it looks like a duck

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Speaker 1: and smells like a duck in this case, you already

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Speaker 1: know what's up. Steve. It's so much to unpack this left.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I've been married for almost forty years

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Speaker 1: say they got married at twenty Okay, they had a

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Speaker 1: that the woman is sixty Now you're thirty eight year old.

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Speaker 1: To move back at the house with y'all. You got

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Speaker 1: then one of your friends approached you all at a

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Speaker 1: Mirriel who's got a restaurant that a lot of single

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Speaker 1: people hang out at, eating, drinking and all that. Now

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Speaker 1: was hanging out at Mirriels until I smelled her. Oh lord,

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Speaker 1: so now we got a marriage hanging in the balance

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Speaker 1: based off your skills as a bloodhound. Boy, ain't this

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Speaker 1: letter taking her ignorant ass? Turned right here? See? Women,

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Speaker 1: I respect you all for you all forensic skills, and

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Speaker 1: I respect you all for you alls intuition, I really do.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's none greater. But this whole letter

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Speaker 1: is based on smells. That's what this is. Now, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna struggle with this one with you a

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Speaker 1: little bit. I gotta be honest with you. She got

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Speaker 1: a small restaurant single men hang out. You didn't know

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Speaker 1: your husband was hanging out the meals until I smelled her.

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Speaker 1: She smelled like she had been in the kitchen and

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Speaker 1: spray cheap body spray over the grease smell in her clothes.

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Speaker 1: Doc gonn it. That is what my husband smelled like

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Speaker 1: when he come home late at night with our sons.

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Speaker 1: Du du done what you're matching smells? See now, if

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Speaker 1: your husband and Miriel was right next to each other's

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Speaker 1: smelling just like each other at the same time, I

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Speaker 1: got you. But these are never stayed together with the

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Speaker 1: same smell. Oh, lord lady. I ask her how things

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Speaker 1: we're going down in her restaurant. She said, things are

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Speaker 1: going great, and then looked at my husband. They're going great.

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Speaker 1: Oh now there's a way out of this for him. See.

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Speaker 1: But then we got to deal with some other facts

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Speaker 1: too late. So I'll be right all right. Hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Part two of your responses coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. The subject of today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: I can tell by the smell. All right, we'll get

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Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. I can

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Speaker 1: tell by the smell. I want to see you weasel

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Speaker 1: and wiggle your way out of this one. Come on, well,

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Speaker 1: this lady's been married forty years, got a thirty eight

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Speaker 1: with the husband. They hang out a lot, and everything

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Speaker 1: was cool with y'all hanging out until one of your

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Speaker 1: that grocery store. Her name was Mirriel. She got a

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Speaker 1: hanging out at Murriels until I smelled her. She smelled

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Speaker 1: like she had been in the kitchen and sprayed. Somebody

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Speaker 1: I said, you gotta marriage that's hanging in the balance

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Speaker 1: based on smells. So I asked her how things was

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Speaker 1: and then looked at my husband. I stayed tight lipped.

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Speaker 1: Now this is the pro that women are fellas. I

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Speaker 1: that car was crowded when they got in there. Oh,

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Speaker 1: that car was crowded when they got in that damn car.

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Speaker 1: I asked if he'd been hanging out at her place,

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Speaker 1: and he said, that's a place for our son's friend.

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Speaker 1: What is I'm doing down there? Girl? Go down there?

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Speaker 1: Let my son be down there at that place. Not

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Speaker 1: an old man like me. His clothes should do smell like.

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Speaker 1: He's been the Muriel a few times. And he's even

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Speaker 1: had a little of Muriel's fragrance on his shirt before. Okay, now, lady, lady,

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Speaker 1: hold on, you mean you never mentioned the female fragrance

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Speaker 1: start losing it. He couldn't possibly mess around with Mirrile

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Speaker 1: because she's not a petite woman. He five nine and

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Speaker 1: Merril is a tall woman. Now this is where when

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Speaker 1: because he's petite, your husband. It's the same size as Timmy.

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Speaker 1: He five nine, and Merril is a tall woman. If

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Speaker 1: I can't really meet tall women myself personally, but you

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Speaker 1: know I ain't no little petite man. I could not

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Speaker 1: What truth? What you want him to say? Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: that truth. My son said he hangs out there sometimes,

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Speaker 1: but his dad is never with him. That's a true statement,

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Speaker 1: if nothing is going on, why does he smell like

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Speaker 1: But I think he'd been in the kitchen. Yeah. But

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Speaker 1: Muriel owns the restaurant. She come out and hug all

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Speaker 1: I don't think they seeing each other, none of that.

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Speaker 1: If nothing is going on, why does he smell like? Now?

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Speaker 1: Why won't they tell me the truth? Now, let's just

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Speaker 1: I hang out with at Mirriels. Why didn't you just

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Speaker 1: because that's too much now. So, no, I ain't been there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah he said no, no, no, no, no, no, m no, no,

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Speaker 1: that's not what he said. Okay, what do he saying?

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Speaker 1: Let me see. I'm gonna give you the quote. He

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Speaker 1: did not allow, He did not lie. He did not

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Speaker 1: give her all the information. He said, it's a place

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Speaker 1: for our sons. Friend, not an old man like me.

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Speaker 1: They ain't say he ain't say he ain't been down there,

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Speaker 1: but she can smell that's been down there. All right, ladies,

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Speaker 1: kind of time today. Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Steve

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Speaker 1: Harvey FM, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand.

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Speaker 1: Coming up next, it's Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to the Stave Harvey morning show,