WEBVTT - Should You Give Your Ex A Second Chance? 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:17.360 Hey, I do part two. 0:00:17.400 --> 0:00:20.239 It's your celebrity mentor, Cheryl Burke, and I'm joined by 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:22.840 our resident favorite real life single. 0:00:22.480 --> 0:00:25.360 Gal, Louise. Hey, Louise, nice to meet you. 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:29.120 Hi, nice to meet you. Still single, Cheryl, so happy 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:29.960 to still have that. 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:33.920 Title single unhappy? Hey, even though it's the beginning of 0:00:33.920 --> 0:00:36.479 the year. There is a lot happening, obviously in the 0:00:36.520 --> 0:00:41.440 celebrity divorce space, So let's dive into this. Tell me 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:44.080 about yourself first, because I feel we are doing like 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:47.560 headlines without really knowing you well. 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:51.800 I think the point here is is nobody's immune from divorce, right, so. 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:55.800 I too have divorced you too, you said nine years. 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:59.320 It's kind of like a really popular. 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:04.880 Club, and you know, even celebrities you know, experience it. 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:06.600 And I think that's one of the things I always 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:09.480 pay attention to, is no matter how beautiful, how amazing 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:12.880 their life is, whether it's the trips that this that like, 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:16.400 they are normal people who go home and deal with 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:19.280 things that don't make them happy, or people do bad 0:01:19.319 --> 0:01:22.520 things to them. And I just think it's a universal theme. 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.840 Relationships are challenging. 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:28.080 Especially in the public eye, I think, because not only 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:30.959 are you having to deal with the person you're involved with, 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:34.399 but then you're dealing with everything else, the noise around you. 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:37.399 So it is it is challenging. 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:40.080 Though I'm not Nicole Kidman or anything like that, but 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:41.800 I was kind of in a public. 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:45.520 Divorce and that was very That was hard for me. 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:47.160 It's hard for me. I'm sure. 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:48.800 I Ca'm not going to speak for my ex husband, 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:50.920 but I'm sure it wasn't easy for him either. And 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:53.320 you know, people are still talking about it and it's 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:56.040 been over three years, and it's like it's so it 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:59.200 just people like to focus I think, more on drama 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:00.680 than the actual good parts. 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:00.960 You know. 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:04.280 I think it's salacious stuff, and I think it's interesting 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:07.000 for people, and it's, you know, no different than somebody 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:10.040 in your group of friends that gets caught, you know, 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.400 sleeping with a pickle ball coach and all the book 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:13.880 clubs and everyone talked about it. 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:16.840 It's just people like to see people fall apart. 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:20.480 All apart, Yeah, and then when they finally come out 0:02:20.480 --> 0:02:22.720 of it, they just like to tear them apart still, 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:25.520 like it doesn't it just but that says more about 0:02:25.520 --> 0:02:28.080 the person tearing that person apart than it does. 0:02:27.919 --> 0:02:32.320 About I always have taught my children that the person 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:36.200 who talks badly about somebody looks bad, not the one 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:37.200 who's being talked about. 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:38.720 Well, it's because they're triggered. 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:41.720 And obviously whatever it is that's triggering them has nothing 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:43.160 to do with you, And it's really none of our 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:45.960 business what these people say about us, you know. I mean, 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:49.440 it's easier said than done, but it really is obviously 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:52.040 a trigger for that person, whatever it may be, whether 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:54.600 they are wanting to be like you or there's they 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.519 don't understand how you were able to come out of 0:02:56.560 --> 0:02:59.240 such darkness, you know, to where you are today, and 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:00.679 maybe that's where they still are. 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:01.600 You just never know. 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:06.520 People a lot of times don't root for people, sadly. 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:07.080 Especially women. 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:10.960 Speaking of divorce, let's talk about Amy Schumer files for 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:15.320 divorce from her husband, Chris Fisher after over seven years 0:03:15.360 --> 0:03:16.160 of marriage. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:18.520 Wow, have did you hear about this? 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:19.320 I did? 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:21.760 And they have a little one, which is you know, 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:25.960 just tough. Yeah, so that makes it hard when there's children. 0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:30.040 I guess she just filed for divorce on Tuesday, January sixth, 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:35.720 and basically it was I guess a shock to some people, 0:03:35.960 --> 0:03:39.360 but within their inner circle, not so much. But it 0:03:39.400 --> 0:03:42.000 seems like it's amicable for the most part. She said 0:03:42.000 --> 0:03:43.800 that Chris and I have made the difficult decision to 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.640 end our marriage after seven years. We love each other 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:49.240 very much and will continue to focus on raising our son. 0:03:49.640 --> 0:03:52.480 We would appreciate people respecting our privacy at this time. 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:54.680 I feel like everyone just says the same line every 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:57.240 time they announced the divorce. But it is true, and 0:03:57.280 --> 0:04:01.680 no one's going to respect your privacy unfortunately. But I 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:04.680 guess the source says it's close, it's a cohesive split, 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:07.880 and they've just been finalizing a few things. 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:11.040 Remember that phrase, the Gwyneth and the Chris. What is 0:04:11.040 --> 0:04:15.200 that conscious uncoupling? Yeah, of all the ones that we're 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:18.919 going to talk about, this one actually does feel tonally 0:04:19.080 --> 0:04:23.200 like the one that might be the most benign and friendly. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.800 Maybe, well, what does that mean? Like, does that mean 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:30.240 that they just both lost interest? Or like, what does 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:30.719 that mean? 0:04:30.800 --> 0:04:31.080 I mean? 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:35.719 I think sometimes people just over time they're just not 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:40.040 aligned anymore, or they become more like friends, and maybe 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.800 the passion goes away or one grows in a different 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:43.760 direction than the other. 0:04:43.880 --> 0:04:44.720 But it's not like. 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:49.080 Something bad happened, like there was infidelity or a massive 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:50.120 drag addiction. 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:53.440 It's just like our time, our chapter is done. We 0:04:53.480 --> 0:04:56.279 share this child. We're always going to be a part 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:57.120 of each other's lives. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.359 But I feel like this is the most vanilla of 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.480 the ones that we're going to talk about. 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:03.640 I hope, So I hope that's right. 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.040 I mean, you just never know, right like, because something 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.880 could trigger somebody, like if what if someone starts dating 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:12.560 before that person, Like, it can get real ugly really fast. 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.200 When you say, when you say that, maybe the passion 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:17.520 dies down. See for me, it's kind of like what 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:19.760 is like, what do you mean by the passion? Because 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:21.760 it's like the honeymoon phase. Is the honeymoon phase we 0:05:21.760 --> 0:05:23.600 all go through. We all love that, right Like it's 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.480 always the fun and we all do relationship and it 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:29.520 does no, but it does, but it does. And it's 0:05:29.600 --> 0:05:32.520 then then that's when the dirty work comes in. And 0:05:32.560 --> 0:05:34.839 it's like, are you willing to put the dirty work in? 0:05:35.040 --> 0:05:38.479 Because if you're not, there is no uh for sure, 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:40.279 your passion is never going to come back because you 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.080 have to like reintroduce yourself to each other. Look, you guys, 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:47.080 all we all as individuals, we evolve as humans, and 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:50.080 it just has to it takes work. 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.599 I almost think it's more than that because I. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.960 Think it's so important that the two people and the 0:05:55.960 --> 0:05:59.200 couple are actually best friends, right because at the end 0:05:59.240 --> 0:06:03.200 of the day, you know, the butterflies go away, things 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:06.520 change in the relationship. But if you're still friends and 0:06:06.560 --> 0:06:11.719 you still can laugh, then you have the you could 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:13.200 potentially go the long haul. 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.080 I think for me, my ex husband and I were 0:06:16.120 --> 0:06:16.920 just not best friends. 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:19.440 Do you mean that there was no communication, because like, 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:22.120 what is best friends? Like what does that entail? Right? 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:25.960 In entail's honesty, transparency. 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:26.240 It's your vault. 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:28.960 I think it's the person that you're comfortable, you know, 0:06:29.520 --> 0:06:32.479 being next to on a park bench looking at the 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:35.080 birds quietly. But it's also the person that you're laughing 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:37.680 hysterically with and excited to see when you come home. 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:42.279 But what when two people basically are living under the 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:46.520 same roof and there's zero communication, connectivity, interest, and you're 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:51.160 just coexisting like roommates like roommates, and then it's done. 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:54.800 But the interesting thing is when you just meet somebody 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:59.200 and it's kind of like the falling in love. 0:06:59.040 --> 0:07:02.240 Which is the lush, right, But. 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:08.400 Then loving somebody is totally different, right, And you know, 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:11.000 I don't know about you. I'm in my mid fifties, 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:15.440 and I find that I'm trying really hard when I 0:07:15.480 --> 0:07:19.000 go on a date to basically stick it out, to 0:07:19.000 --> 0:07:21.560 go out a few more times if I don't have 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:25.240 the butterflies. Because the truth is I used to sit 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:28.200 on a date and be like at point A and. 0:07:28.160 --> 0:07:29.880 Be like, oh, is this my person? Could I see 0:07:29.880 --> 0:07:30.720 my life for them? 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:33.000 Now what I do is I sit there and say 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:38.000 is this person interesting enough to talk to? Does he 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:40.680 have right good moral compass that I opened going on 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.440 a second time and then a third time? 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.000 Yeah, I think that's smart. 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:48.120 Yeah. So the whole butterfly thing, yeah. 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:50.360 I think that's very high school maybe in a way. 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:53.160 But it's almost like those those movies that we see 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:57.280 are so toxic, those love stories, those rom coms, freaking 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:00.640 what's it called the Notebook? Like, first of all, there's 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:03.440 nothing romantic about a guy stalking you, Like does he 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:07.239 straight up stock? Ryan Gosling is stalking her? And we're like, oh, 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:08.520 we want someone to do that with us. 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:12.760 It's like, what this is like the wrong message? 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:13.440 I know. 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.120 But sometimes though you say to yourself like, well, am 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:18.600 I just fitting a square peg into a round hole. 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.119 Like it's so confusing. 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:22.920 Now, is it confusing? I don't know. 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:24.160 I'm all confused on it. 0:08:24.240 --> 0:08:27.400 I think we think, I think socially right, there's so 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:31.880 many so societal expectations when it comes to Like, for me, 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:35.480 I'm forty one, and you know, people are like, aren't 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:39.040 you so lonely? I'm like, no, I'm actually loving my 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.560 life living alone, and I enjoy it almost too much. 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:44.240 I don't have drama, you know. 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:48.280 I have had an interesting past of relationships where it 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.320 just followed the same toxic pattern that. 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:53.920 I was just not a great picker. 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:58.559 I think that people expect someone like any woman in 0:08:58.600 --> 0:09:01.200 their forties to have already have had children that have 0:09:01.360 --> 0:09:04.280 been married, and like, then if not, then oh my god, 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:06.640 she's not well there's something wrong with her, you know. 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:08.480 And I think that's why it's so confusing. 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:11.400 Yeah, But at the same time, also it's it's kind 0:09:11.440 --> 0:09:12.920 of like, I don't know about you, but I would 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:16.680 say eighty percent of my closest friends are all divorced 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.439 or never been married, and we're in our mid fifties. 0:09:20.520 --> 0:09:22.240 So I think that the difference. 0:09:22.280 --> 0:09:25.040 Now, are you happy being single or do you feel 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:28.520 like you need to have somebody in your life it's interesting. 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:31.640 So I don't need to have somebody in my life 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:34.840 because I have, you know, a lot of friends. I 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:37.240 have a big career, I have a lot in my 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.800 in my day that's fulfilling. I'm also very happy to 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.600 be home reading a book or going on a walk. 0:09:42.760 --> 0:09:46.319 So unless it speaks to me, I don't. 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:47.439 Need my bills paid, you know what I'm saying. So 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:49.680 unless it like speaks to me in my heart, so 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:52.319 I don't need it. Would I like somebody. 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:53.280 That you a companion? 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:56.840 Yeah, but that I really like, right, because I go 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.760 out with a lot of people that's just not totally right. 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:02.920 And then you throw on a person's attachment wounds and 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:05.680 then the it comes and then there it's you get 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:10.000 it right. It's kind of like anxious attachment avoidant attachment. 0:10:10.559 --> 0:10:13.240 Actually, if I was into girls, then I would totally 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:13.959 be attracted to. 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:16.520 Well, anxious people love me, you know what I'm saying. 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:19.000 I mean, it's like, and here's what happens. The more 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:20.880 they come at me, the more I feel like this, 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:22.440 and the more I feel like this, the more they 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:24.840 come at me, and it's having me, you know, it's. 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:30.040 Almost inevitable that anxious and anxious and what are you 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:35.760 avoidant always marry each other always. It's just unless you're 0:10:35.800 --> 0:10:38.200 secure attachment, which is very rare, especially in the Los 0:10:38.200 --> 0:10:38.960 Angeles area. 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:43.040 I would assume I don't know many people secure attachment 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.679 because I think we all have stuff in our cuff 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:48.120 or in our cup as life goes on, and I 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:51.640 think ultimately people just trigger each other differently, and it's 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:55.319 really that do our wounds line up and exactly? 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:57.760 And also you can still change your attachment if you 0:10:57.760 --> 0:11:00.120 want to, just saying we're not like stuck to this 0:11:00.200 --> 0:11:02.240 one attachment to the rest of our lives, Okay. Nicole 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:07.200 Kidman and Keith Urban finalized divorce. Settlement details revealed so 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:10.080 three months after Nicole filed for divorce from Keith, the 0:11:10.120 --> 0:11:12.800 former couple of finalized the breakup in documents obtained by 0:11:12.840 --> 0:11:16.280 a News January sixth, Come what may, Nicole and Keith 0:11:16.280 --> 0:11:18.160 will always be there for each other till the end 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:21.360 of time. Three months after the mullin Ridge actress filed 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:24.600 to legally end her nineteen year marriage to the Somebody 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:27.560 Like You singer, the former couples officially finalized their divorce 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:31.040 according to legal documents, so basically all in all, I mean, 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.480 I don't think this is as amical as it may sound, 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:38.640 or I would think he's definitely moved on, right, I 0:11:38.720 --> 0:11:41.600 mean from what I saw. Again, I don't don't believe 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.160 everything you read. I don't you know, I am, I 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:47.640 know that, but there, I think it's it happened quickly 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:50.640 for us, not necessarily. We don't know what happened in 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:55.080 their world. She seemed very much in love with him. 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:56.520 It feels like either side. 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:58.600 I don't think it was her decision put it that way. 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:01.880 And her daughters were they mad too about something I 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:02.720 had read. 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:05.000 I don't know. They're also grown enough. 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:08.520 They're seventeen and fourteen, Sunday Rose and Faith Margaret Right, 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:10.679 they're old enough to know what the hell's going on. 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:13.360 And I come from a divorce family. My parents got 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.439 divorce when I was too. I think it's so much 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:17.760 easier when you're not as you know, you're not able 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:19.880 to really put two and two together at that moment 0:12:19.960 --> 0:12:22.400 than to be teenagers going through and seeing your parents. 0:12:22.400 --> 0:12:23.000 I would only. 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:27.520 Assume it was eighteen. It was awful. I remember all 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:27.840 of it. 0:12:28.480 --> 0:12:32.520 Oh, it's very very Yeah. I mean, my first memory 0:12:32.559 --> 0:12:34.600 I remember was my dad with another woman at two 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:38.120 years old. But again I wouldn't I don't know if 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:39.840 it would have affected me. I think it would have 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.880 affected me more if I was older. Maybe I don't 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:43.720 know either way. 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:46.319 And it's also hard when you worry about a parent 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:48.680 and not the other one. And so what I've read 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:51.160 with this and again not everything is true. But whether 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.600 it's smoke, maybe there's fire in this case, I don't 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:56.960 know in this one because that girl and the band 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:58.920 or the singer, and then you see this thing with 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:02.120 the daughters Matt, I don't know, seems something there. I 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:05.160 don't think this is as calm and friendly as the 0:13:05.200 --> 0:13:05.640 first one. 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:07.280 As Amy Schumer, yeah, I know. 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:10.000 This one's a little more chocolate than vanilla. 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:11.240 And I don't know if they're going to be like 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.400 the next headline with Kyle and you know, Maricio spending 0:13:14.440 --> 0:13:17.439 Christmases together and Holidays together. You know, I'm not sure 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:20.040 they're ever going to get there as far as I'm concerned. 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:22.760 But you know, I think I don't know from what 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:26.600 I saw outsider Big Time. Don't know them personally, but 0:13:26.679 --> 0:13:28.880 like it seemed to me that Nicole was head over 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:32.440 heels even was willing to deal with his alcoholism, you know, 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:37.000 and I get I'm an addict and that if you 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:40.640 let it take over, and if you don't, you know, 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.920 want to do the steps to be sober and get better, 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:45.480 it will take you there. 0:13:46.040 --> 0:13:48.480 Unfortunately, it's dark, but. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:54.920 Sounds like he was there supporting him and and very devoted. 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:59.400 And it's hard, very sad. It's really sad, and it's 0:13:59.400 --> 0:14:11.480 sad for the K's. What do you think of this 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:13.640 settlement though? In particular, I. 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:17.360 Guess well, I feel like we all found out about 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:19.640 it later. I think it had probably been going on 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:21.600 for a while, because it just seems like it's not 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:24.720 stamp pretty quickly. I mean, I think mine took six 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:27.440 months right before that stamp came. I don't know, what 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:31.880 do you mean, stamp like the divorce settlement stamp like. 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:33.840 Oh yeah, mine took six months at least. 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:37.080 Right, But this one I feel like was quicker. 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:37.600 For some reason. 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:40.680 So the document states each party indicates that he or 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.960 she does not want to proceed with formal discovery, including 0:14:44.040 --> 0:14:48.040 completing interrogations, in requests for production of documents or discovery 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:51.440 depositions that are designed to discover assets and debts. 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:54.000 So they are going to split everything. I guess is 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:54.680 that what it is. 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:56.920 I think that they just don't want to go through 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:57.640 the whole thing with it. 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:01.120 Yeah, with having all their books open and all the 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:02.880 skeletons taken out of the closet. 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.280 They didn't have a prenapp obviously because. 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:09.120 They settled or they settled quietly something just to have 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:10.600 stuff not come out in the public. 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:13.120 I don't know, because when you have a prenup, I 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:16.160 mean I had a prenup. Everything was quite simple. There 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:19.480 was really there was no I mean there was nothing. 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:22.640 It was written prior to our marriage, right like what 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:25.680 you know, whatever it was, It's like, it was quite 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.280 None of this was like I didn't even. 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:31.600 Feel like maybe there was an understanding like what's hers 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.680 is hers, what's his is his? And so therefore it 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:35.720 was easy to buifurkid or whatever the word is on 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:38.120 that front. But they had to have some sort of 0:15:38.160 --> 0:15:40.760 agreement because they were both uber successful when they met. 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:43.680 Yeah, yeah, and I don't think yeah exactly, and they're 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:45.520 both going to be fine without each other. They both 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:49.320 can support their own lives and the children's lives. 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:53.440 I would assume comfortably. We would think, now you never know, 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:54.960 you never know. We don't know. 0:15:55.320 --> 0:15:56.520 That one was a surprise. 0:15:57.400 --> 0:15:59.160 Yeah, it was big time. 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:00.920 Yeah, I was definitely surprised. 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:03.280 I didn't even know he was an alcoholic. I had 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:06.440 no idea that was kept quiet. I know. That's a 0:16:06.560 --> 0:16:08.120 scary part. That's scary. 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:11.000 And I have to say, when I was drinking, no 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:12.760 one knew either because I was functioning. 0:16:12.920 --> 0:16:14.360 So it is scary. 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:16.680 And she probably kept it really quiet too. 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:19.240 And so I just like a family, a family secret 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:20.680 or just in our circle. 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:23.480 And imagine like just the feelings of shame and guilt 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:25.440 and god, it's like dark, it's dark. 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:26.440 I agree. 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.640 But sad for those girls because at fourteen and seventeen, 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:34.040 they're still in the house, but yet they want to 0:16:34.040 --> 0:16:36.960 live their life, meaning they're starting probably with you know, 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.400 all the teen girls stuff, and also to worry about 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:43.520 their whole family foundation, fowing magazines, worrying about. 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:46.280 Their mom or dad maybe fall I don't. 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:47.840 Know, it's a lot for girl. I mean, to deal 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:48.560 with a stepmom. 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:52.160 Oh, sounds like you had a few of those. 0:16:52.800 --> 0:16:55.560 No, I had not mom, No, I mean technic my 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:59.240 dad was This is a long, long story. Short, he 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:02.600 followed his past pussy and went to Thailand open strip clubs. 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:04.359 He was a very successful lawyer in the bar area, 0:17:04.800 --> 0:17:06.879 and so I had a bunch of stepmoms probably, but 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:07.880 we won't go there. 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:12.000 Rest and pacey. Then okay, got it. 0:17:12.800 --> 0:17:14.280 You turned out. That's all good. 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:17.960 So thanks therapy though for the rest of my life, 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:22.320 and I'm proud of it. Kyle Richards and estranged husband 0:17:22.320 --> 0:17:28.080 Mauricio Umansky or Umanski stand after spending holidays together. So 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:31.560 basically they spent it sounds like Christmas and New Year's together. 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:35.359 They seemed very lovey dovey when they went to what's 0:17:35.400 --> 0:17:41.160 her name's Uh there some party in Aspen. Hey, Hudson, 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:43.640 the Hudson's Party. Yes, and Aspen. They were all over 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:47.640 each other supposedly, but supposedly the people in there inner 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:51.080 circles say, there's no chance that they're going to reconcile. 0:17:52.000 --> 0:17:53.320 What are your thoughts with this? 0:17:53.600 --> 0:17:53.800 Oh? 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:58.040 No, Like I always kind of liked them together, Like, yeah, 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.399 I kind of. 0:18:00.119 --> 0:18:02.640 Losing the passion. I'm pretty sure that's what happened with them. 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:04.879 I don't know, Like I kind of don't think so 0:18:04.880 --> 0:18:07.399 I'll still feel an energy sometimes when I look at 0:18:07.400 --> 0:18:10.080 them together, and they I kind of feel. 0:18:09.800 --> 0:18:12.880 Like if any of the couples were talking about could 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:19.000 have a potential reconciliation, it would be them, because I 0:18:19.000 --> 0:18:20.760 think they were happy for a long time or so 0:18:20.840 --> 0:18:22.520 it looked, and they were married a long time. 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:24.760 I don't know, like I do. 0:18:24.920 --> 0:18:29.240 I have seen couples get divorced and then I have 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:34.080 friends that literally got divorced and are dating again, like. 0:18:34.520 --> 0:18:37.960 They're dating their ex husband. Yes, I was, Oh my god, 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:38.880 that's so crazy. 0:18:39.160 --> 0:18:42.680 So I actually think that's I don't know, like, I 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:44.840 don't know if that's a function of like, Okay, we've 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:46.760 been out there, we've seen what else is out there? 0:18:46.840 --> 0:18:48.400 Like the devil I. 0:18:48.400 --> 0:18:50.680 Know was better than the devil I didn't know, and 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:53.720 we still the good things that were in a relationship 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:56.920 still exist, right, and we have this life together. 0:18:56.960 --> 0:18:58.119 So then why not do it again? 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:00.280 Or maybe they've been alone for so long that like 0:19:00.440 --> 0:19:01.920 they do want a companion or something. 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:03.080 He has not been alone. 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:04.400