Speaker 1: Good.
Speaker 2: All right, break it down.
Speaker 3: If you ever have feelings that you just won't Amy
Speaker 3: and Cat got your cove and locking m brother, ladies
Speaker 3: and felons, do you just follow an the spirit where
Speaker 3: it's all the front over real stuff to the chill
Speaker 3: stuff and the m But Twayne, sometimes the best thing
Speaker 3: you can do it just stop you feel things. This
Speaker 3: is feeling.
Speaker 4: Things with Amy and Cat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things.
Speaker 4: I'm Amy and.
Speaker 1: I'm Cat, and I'm coming in hot with my feeling
Speaker 1: of the day because I'm feeling it at a level.
Speaker 4: Eight oh eight out of ten. Mm, okay, I'm at nine.
Speaker 4: I'm not you're just trying to I'm not trying to
Speaker 4: one of you, I promise. I just really I'm feeling
Speaker 4: I'm feeling.
Speaker 1: It, okay, in it Okay, Well I'm feeling merry and joyful.
Speaker 1: Same me too, the same feelings, the same It's like
Speaker 1: I gave you these feelings.
Speaker 4: I also have a little bit of anxiety, but not
Speaker 4: about this topic at all. It's totally totally separate. But
Speaker 4: it was like old feelings that came up. But we
Speaker 4: can get to that later because I don't want to
Speaker 4: kill the Mary and joyful vibe because I'm with you.
Speaker 4: I watched my first Christmas movie of the season.
Speaker 1: What was it?
Speaker 4: It was on Netflix. It was the old one. It's
Speaker 4: not even new. So it was called The Count the
Speaker 4: Christmas Contract?
Speaker 1: Wait, what was that one about?
Speaker 4: A contract with She took a boy to her hometown
Speaker 4: because her ex boyfriend was bringing a girl and she
Speaker 4: didn't want to show up alone, so she took her
Speaker 4: best friend's brother and they had a contract to do it.
Speaker 1: Did they fall in love?
Speaker 4: You have to watch to find out.
Speaker 1: I think I've seen that, but you know, they all
Speaker 1: run together. It would be really funny if you were
Speaker 1: like I watched Shoot, what's the one? You were?
Speaker 4: Old? Holiday?
Speaker 1: I watched Holiday Harmony. I was like, oh, you watch.
Speaker 4: Your Christmas No, but I did wonder should my boyfriend
Speaker 4: see that scene? I don't know. I want him to
Speaker 4: watch the whole movie because I think the whole movie
Speaker 4: is cute and adorable and awesome. And he does love
Speaker 4: Christmas movies because he started watching him with his daughter.
Speaker 4: I think she really enjoyed them. She liked watching with
Speaker 4: their mom, and then when their mom died, it's like
Speaker 4: he's like, well, I guess I have to step in
Speaker 4: now as the Hallmark Christmas movie Lover and now it's
Speaker 4: something they love to do, which we all watched it
Speaker 4: last night, the Christmas Contract. We watched it her the
Speaker 4: brothers watched the Daughter yea, so it was a it
Speaker 4: was a family affair and it was feeling good and
Speaker 4: like in my kitchen right now, I have my stovetop
Speaker 4: smelly Christmas stuff.
Speaker 1: We need a better name, stovetop smelly Christmas stuff. So
Speaker 1: I want to get to that. But can I answer
Speaker 1: your question that? What was the question should your boyfriend watch?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I already forgot a hundred percent. I feel like
Speaker 1: the whole family should watch. If Patrick's seen it, then
Speaker 1: your boyfriend should definitely have seen the movie that you're in. Okay,
Speaker 1: acting debut, that's the thing to be like, hey guys, so.
Speaker 4: Now this is crazy. It's like the first Christmas we've
Speaker 4: celebrated together. We're really close. I mean I was with
Speaker 4: them last Christmas but we were still new. So now
Speaker 4: that we're like all a lot closer, what do I say,
Speaker 4: Like if we're all gathered around the TV and they're like,
Speaker 4: what are we gonna watch tonight? And I'm like, how
Speaker 4: about the movie I'm in.
Speaker 1: You should just say what about Holliday Harmony? And you say,
Speaker 1: like what it's about, and then you play it and
Speaker 1: then it's a surprise.
Speaker 4: Oh, like they don't they don't know that I'm in it,
Speaker 4: and then my bathroom scene ends up. Okay, well, maybe
Speaker 4: we'll do that and I'll report back. Cow please please
Speaker 4: do that.
Speaker 1: If they don't know already, or if they wouldn't, maybe
Speaker 1: they know if you've been in a Christmas movie. They don't,
Speaker 1: but they don't know what it's called. Right, that would
Speaker 1: be so good. And then you should like film his
Speaker 1: reaction when he sees you on the big screen.
Speaker 4: Mm hmm, okay, I'll report back if I do that.
Speaker 4: But the the merriness and the joyfulness is alive, and well,
Speaker 4: because I think we're tis the season?
Speaker 1: Tis the season? Why didn't even.
Speaker 4: Though there's other feelings happening, I just those are dominating.
Speaker 4: So that's why I'm a nine. It's not just because
Speaker 4: you're in eight.
Speaker 1: It feels like it. So what's the stovetop smelly stuff?
Speaker 4: Well you know about it because we put it in
Speaker 4: our newsletter, But thank you for asking, just for podcast listeners.
Speaker 4: It is something that was in our newsletter that went
Speaker 4: out last Friday with our merch stuff.
Speaker 1: I wonder who puts the newsletter together.
Speaker 4: You do, which is cute for you to act like
Speaker 4: you didn't know what it was. But it smells so good.
Speaker 4: It's like Christmas in a pot.
Speaker 1: I actually made it last year, the year before. I
Speaker 1: remember I went to the store and got all the
Speaker 1: stuff and Patrick was like, why don't you just light
Speaker 1: a candle because it's different the same thing, and it's
Speaker 1: you're creating a vibe.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's cranberries, it's cinnamon sticks, it's cloves, it's a
Speaker 4: sliced up orange, it's rosemary, it's water in a pot stove,
Speaker 4: and you you you light it. We had we had
Speaker 4: all of this in our newsletter. So this is why
Speaker 4: you need to sign up for the newsletter. Not only
Speaker 4: do we have little nuggets like this, which is the
Speaker 4: week before you send out your potato souper recipe, so
Speaker 4: you just like, never know what you're gonna get. We
Speaker 4: have things that Cat and I are reading the Sure
Speaker 4: Things were loving before you put your Q tips.
Speaker 1: Yes, you never know what you're gonna get.
Speaker 4: Well, those Q tips to be fair or clutch or
Speaker 4: a game changer. Before I found those Q tips, I
Speaker 4: only bought Q tips where it was round on both sides. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I did not know people made a Q tip round
Speaker 4: on one side, pointy on the other. It's good for
Speaker 4: if you're trying to clean up your nails. It's good
Speaker 4: if you're trying to clean up makeup around your nose,
Speaker 4: in your nose, in your eyes, your eyebrows, on your legs.
Speaker 1: Don't in your ear.
Speaker 4: Yeah, the pointy part in your ear is a little rough.
Speaker 4: But don't sleep on those special Q tips. So I
Speaker 4: stand by that addition to the newsletter, and I'm saying
Speaker 4: so you never know what you're gonna get. And then
Speaker 4: on Friday, in our newsletter, we also had our merch
Speaker 4: which is so exciting. We'll link everything in the bio.
Speaker 4: If you are not on our newsletter yet, you can
Speaker 4: go sign up in the not the bio.
Speaker 1: The it's also in our Instagram bio.
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is Feeling Things podcast. But sign up for
Speaker 4: our newsletter. But we'll also link to our merch in
Speaker 4: the show notes and I'll link to or I'll copy
Speaker 4: and paste the Christmas on the Stove Smelly Stuff recipe
Speaker 4: stovetop Christmas stovetop simmers, stovetop pop pourri. I just don't
Speaker 4: like the word. I don't. I don't really like the
Speaker 4: word potpourri. And ever happens poop, I don't know pop
Speaker 4: potpourri speak enough?
Speaker 1: Can I tell that story?
Speaker 4: What story for you?
Speaker 1: On the phone?
Speaker 4: Sure?
Speaker 1: Amy, just add a phone call on speakerphone so I
Speaker 1: could hear the person she was talking to. And she
Speaker 1: answered the phone normal. She said hello, and the lady
Speaker 1: was like, is the samey? That wasn't her accent, but
Speaker 1: she had an accent and she said something and then
Speaker 1: Amy changed her accent.
Speaker 4: Yeah, lady, But I didn't even know I was doing that.
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, we heard you go hello. I
Speaker 1: don't know why I did that.
Speaker 4: I really don't. I didn't even know why. Y'all were
Speaker 4: laughing at me. And then I thought, okay, well that
Speaker 4: tracks like sometimes I just you know, conformed my environment
Speaker 4: because I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's just like switch all of a sudden. I was like,
Speaker 1: that was funny.
Speaker 4: I mean, I know it drug out a little bit.
Speaker 4: I was like, hello, hello, but I mean I didn't
Speaker 4: do it with other words, right.
Speaker 1: No, Then you went back to normal.
Speaker 4: When I was saying this, that would be awkward. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I think just right away. I don't know. Is my
Speaker 4: first time talking about person. I was a little nervous,
Speaker 4: So I think I'm just just.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, hello, that's how you did it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's the right, missus doubtfire.
Speaker 1: Hello, can I shock you?
Speaker 4: Have you never watched that movie?
Speaker 1: Never seen it? Yeah? You?
Speaker 4: Oh, so many movies you've never seen. It blows my mind,
Speaker 4: Like have you seen elf y? Oh, don't act like
Speaker 4: that's a crazy question, because that's like more recent, quintessential
Speaker 4: Christmas movie, like you have to watch it. And then
Speaker 4: there's more like low key type Christmas movies like While
Speaker 4: you were Sleeping That sounds scary. No, it was Sandra Bullock. Oh,
Speaker 4: never seen and he gets hit by the train and
Speaker 4: then oh, you need to watch that. You would love
Speaker 4: it. It was my mom's favorite Christmas movie.
Speaker 1: So okay on our list this year.
Speaker 4: Added to the list with all the other movies were
Speaker 4: supposed to be watching. I think there was something else
Speaker 4: we were supposed to watch, and I had two weeks
Speaker 4: to watch it, and I think the past. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 4: not watching it. I'm just sorry. I don't want to.
Speaker 1: I mean, I get it. I don't think you I
Speaker 1: get you know. I don't want to watch it again
Speaker 1: right now currently where I am in my life. Yes,
Speaker 1: there is a there's a cat crowd. Cat's asking if
Speaker 1: there's a live action there was. I love Mulan, probably
Speaker 1: one of my favorite Disney movies. I don't want to
Speaker 1: go see the live action.
Speaker 4: Live action doesn't make me want to watch it anymore
Speaker 4: or less. No, I just thought it not my things.
Speaker 4: So okay, you're feeling the.
Speaker 1: Joy and the Okay, okay, so the marry, the marry
Speaker 1: and joyful, the merry joyful. So I feel like I'm
Speaker 1: telling myself this. So I'll check it out with my
Speaker 1: actual therapist soon. But I feel like I've still I've
Speaker 1: been in this stage for a while, which I've talked
Speaker 1: about where I'm just like there's a lot of things
Speaker 1: that are not in my control and I'm there's nothing
Speaker 1: I can do at all. I'm just in like a
Speaker 1: waiting stage. And it is not just waiting for the thing,
Speaker 1: but it's also like I can't do a lot of
Speaker 1: things that I normally would be doing right now.
Speaker 4: I e.
Speaker 1: Go on trips, plan things, fun things like that, And
Speaker 1: because I can't do that, I can't distract myself. My
Speaker 1: favorite way to distract myself is planning a trip, even
Speaker 1: if I'm not going on a trip, even if it's
Speaker 1: in the future. I can't do that right now. So
Speaker 1: I have been trying to find little ways to create
Speaker 1: joy and excitement in my life while this other thing
Speaker 1: is happening in the background. And so I won what
Speaker 1: on my stay cation.
Speaker 4: I'm on stay cation.
Speaker 1: A couple of weeks ago, and it was amazing, And
Speaker 1: I highly recommend doing that, especially if you have lived
Speaker 1: somewhere for a while and there are so many things
Speaker 1: that feel normal to you because you live there, but
Speaker 1: you've just never done them because you live there, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Yeah, And then so I went
Speaker 1: on a Sacasian and then I decorated for Christmas full
Speaker 1: decorated for Christmas the day after Halloween, two days after Halloween,
Speaker 1: November second, and I'm on it man, Yes, and so
Speaker 1: I feel a lot of marrying from my Christmas, but
Speaker 1: joyful from like these things. We went to places in
Speaker 1: this city that I grew up in that I never
Speaker 1: have done before.
Speaker 4: And I will say some advice like, if people are able,
Speaker 4: you may just have to do it on a weekend,
Speaker 4: you may have to work the full work week and
Speaker 4: then you can do a staycation on the weekend. But
Speaker 4: you and Patrick, oh, you took time off, like we
Speaker 4: we even altered our podcast schedule because you're like, hey,
Speaker 4: I'm really trying to have off as if I was
Speaker 4: actually on vacation and in another town. It was almost
Speaker 4: like you were leaving, but you weren't. And then y'all
Speaker 4: even had your mom like drive you around.
Speaker 1: Okay, so we went to.
Speaker 4: But so but I'm I'm I'm giving people pro tips
Speaker 4: of like how can you make it feel like save
Speaker 4: money you're saving but doing more And and you took
Speaker 4: off work and like you you still got your work
Speaker 4: done of.
Speaker 1: Work and you called your mom.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so I know not everybody has that option, but
Speaker 4: I'm just make I'm painting a picture that it wasn't
Speaker 4: like just you know, a Saturday or Sunday, Like y'all
Speaker 4: really were intentional about it and made it a whole thing,
Speaker 4: And I think that helped make the experience. Like you
Speaker 4: got your work done because Patrick also has responsibilities. But
Speaker 4: since you planned ahead, you're like, oh, let's look at
Speaker 4: the calendar and let's figure out how can make this work,
Speaker 4: just in case anybody else has the flexibility to do that.
Speaker 4: I feel like that helped make the experience.
Speaker 1: One hundred percent because much more. Yeah, we were at home,
Speaker 1: but we also weren't doing a lot of things with
Speaker 1: other people, so we were just spending a lot of
Speaker 1: time together as if we were on vacation. And my
Speaker 1: mom didn't just drive us, she used like your uber.
Speaker 1: So we went to Errington Vineyards, which is a vineyard
Speaker 1: maybe twenty five minutes from our house. I'd only been
Speaker 1: once ten years ago, and Patrick had never been, and
Speaker 1: it's close by. Why wouldn't we do that? So on Friday,
Speaker 1: that's what we did all days. We packed a picnic
Speaker 1: and then he went on a run with me outside.
Speaker 1: He has never done that before. And then we packed
Speaker 1: a picnic and went We ubered there and it was
Speaker 1: like twenty dollars, maybe fifteen twenty dollars. We looked for
Speaker 1: ubers and we were getting ready to leave. Just guess
Speaker 1: how much an uber was at that time.
Speaker 4: It was like four sixty bucks.
Speaker 1: Eighty dollars.
Speaker 4: Oh, oh my god, I mean I was guessing high
Speaker 4: on the sixty just because you eighty dollars acted like
Speaker 4: it was gonna be a lot.
Speaker 1: So I texted my mom when I was like, hey, Mom,
Speaker 1: what are you doing? So she was yeah, she was
Speaker 1: well she lives right there too. I guess you live
Speaker 1: over there too, and she picked us up. It was
Speaker 1: five stars best Uber ride. She showed up with. She
Speaker 1: had made mummy dogs, which are hot dogs wrapped in
Speaker 1: soured dough bread. She made them for my nephew and
Speaker 1: she was bringing them to him, so she brought us
Speaker 1: to It was literally like we were in on vacation.
Speaker 1: We get into her car our Uber and she's like,
Speaker 1: I brought you guys, waters and I have two mummy
Speaker 1: dogs for you. She even packaged up individual mustard and
Speaker 1: ketchup packets rush, so we had a snack on the
Speaker 1: way home. So free Uber with snacks from my mother.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Jody.
Speaker 4: I mean that would make me marry and joyful.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And then also I will say, ever since we've gotten
Speaker 4: the Mercha gear a vibe, I know you have this
Speaker 4: whole experience, so you're like, you know, got this energy
Speaker 4: about you. But even living in our sweat set for
Speaker 4: four days, so it's a hoodie and sweatpants and cats
Speaker 4: living in it, and I feel like your energy around
Speaker 4: it is so good.
Speaker 1: Upset. As soon as I picked it up, I texted you,
Speaker 1: I will say, if you're looking for something, I love
Speaker 1: a comfy anything, and I've been looking for a lot
Speaker 1: more comfy sets and I've been ordering them from different places.
Speaker 1: Half of them I have sent back. I've not taken
Speaker 1: this off for I took it off to wash, I
Speaker 1: will say that. And it still fits perfecto after I
Speaker 1: washed it.
Speaker 4: And it's a matching hoodie with sweatpants, and it has
Speaker 4: like a feeling things like circle on the hoodie and
Speaker 4: then it also has it on the pants too, which
Speaker 4: people can go look. They might be if you're watching
Speaker 4: on YouTube, you can see it, but if you're listening
Speaker 4: on the podcast, then go check it out. But I
Speaker 4: feel like a sweat set has made you happy. Your
Speaker 4: staycation has made you happy. And then I think, I
Speaker 4: think the excitement of what you have that you're talking
Speaker 4: you have going on in the background, Like Kat and
Speaker 4: I both have things happening in our life that we're
Speaker 4: not talking about really publicly. But I think your situation
Speaker 4: is rounding a corner where it's kind of getting exciting.
Speaker 1: We're getting good news and we're getting closer versus we're
Speaker 1: just like we don't know what's going to happen kind
Speaker 1: of thing.
Speaker 4: Whereas my situation is bringing up like good it's a
Speaker 4: good reminder of how two things can be true at
Speaker 4: the same time, because I do feel this excitement and
Speaker 4: marry and joy towards this season. I love this time
Speaker 4: of year and I want to go all in on that,
Speaker 4: especially since I have my kids and then I have
Speaker 4: now this other family that I get to celebrate with.
Speaker 4: But side by side with that, I have this other
Speaker 4: thing going on that is a lot, but it's not
Speaker 4: as overwhelming, I think, as it would be if I
Speaker 4: hadn't experienced something similar before. So it's sort of great
Speaker 4: because it's not my first rodeo. You know. However, today
Speaker 4: literally I had to do something with regarding like finances
Speaker 4: and logging into stuff and I didn't want to do it,
Speaker 4: and I felt this like uneasiness in my stomach. And
Speaker 4: I used to get this thing in my throat with
Speaker 4: my finances, like anytime I had to address it or
Speaker 4: look at a spreadsheet or numbers or anything, and I
Speaker 4: felt some of that stuff come up again, and I
Speaker 4: was like, oh, I thought I dealt with this, like
Speaker 4: we had graduated and I now know how to log
Speaker 4: into stuff and I don't get queasy about it. And
Speaker 4: I had to go log in, and it really was
Speaker 4: to check something. Normally I maybe would be excited about it,
Speaker 4: but all those old feelings came back. But I just
Speaker 4: had to power through and I didn't let it overwhelm
Speaker 4: me or stop me. Well, I didn't really have a choice,
Speaker 4: but I think back in the day, I would have
Speaker 4: found a way to escape it or delegate it or
Speaker 4: figure out. But I was like, nope, just log in,
Speaker 4: get the information, figure it out, and move on. And
Speaker 4: so to anybody else, if like something comes up that
Speaker 4: you haven't felt in a couple of years and you think, well, shoot,
Speaker 4: I've done all this work and I was feeling empowered
Speaker 4: and I've even talked about how much more confident I
Speaker 4: feel about it and how I don't get that lump
Speaker 4: in my throat anymore. And then it comes back. So
Speaker 4: then you feel like, oh, does this mean I'm going backwards?
Speaker 4: And I guess maybe it could depending on your situation.
Speaker 4: Like it makes me think of eating disorders and even
Speaker 4: you know, alcoholics and if they're in recovery or whatnot.
Speaker 4: And you said something about recovery when we were talking
Speaker 4: about eating disorders, and you were like, that's why they
Speaker 4: call it recovery. You said something about recovery when we
Speaker 4: were talking about eating disorders, and you were like, that's
Speaker 4: why they call it recovery.
Speaker 1: That about recovered.
Speaker 4: You're never recovered. It's always there. And so looking at
Speaker 4: my financial situation kind of like how I look at
Speaker 4: eating disorder recovery, I was like, oh, that makes sense,
Speaker 4: Like there is some sort of thing that's in me
Speaker 4: and it may pop up next year, it may pop
Speaker 4: up next month, it might go away and pop up
Speaker 4: in five years, like it may be something that is
Speaker 4: always within me. But it was also cool to see
Speaker 4: that I just take the next move into the do
Speaker 4: the next thing and the next thing, and then while
Speaker 4: it was done and the pain was minimal, whereas I
Speaker 4: if I had I don't know, the word that's coming
Speaker 4: to mind is to come like if I had given
Speaker 4: it to the all the anxiety that was coming up,
Speaker 4: then I could have prolonged that whole process and it
Speaker 4: would have made it more dreadful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I think that that's growth.
Speaker 4: Yeah, even though it felt like backwards it's like right,
Speaker 4: it was like backwards, but growth.
Speaker 1: This is good that you're saying this because a lot
Speaker 1: of people this happens all the time. Where I thought
Speaker 1: I got over this, I thought I worked through this,
Speaker 1: I thought this was an issue for me anymore, and
Speaker 1: life happens, and like you said, that's always a part
Speaker 1: of me. It's why people say I'm in recovery or
Speaker 1: I'm recovering, versus I am recovered. You won't really hear
Speaker 1: somebody say I'm a recovered addict or I'm a recovered
Speaker 1: whatever I'm in recovery from or in. What you demonstrated
Speaker 1: is I still had these feelings and I'm still a
Speaker 1: human that is affected by things and can feel things.
Speaker 1: And now I have better tools and I know more
Speaker 1: and I'm better equipped to deal with them. So even
Speaker 1: like me, I'll have days I've talked to you about
Speaker 1: them all days where my body image is like killing me,
Speaker 1: feels like and what do I always.
Speaker 4: Say, Oh, I have my coping skills.
Speaker 1: I have to use my skills today. I'm using my skills.
Speaker 1: I'm using my skills because I still am I'm a
Speaker 1: female living in this world where stress and things affect
Speaker 1: me but I know how to deal with those things better.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I need to extra help, I know how to
Speaker 1: ask for that help now, or I know what to
Speaker 1: do when I'm in that place. And it sounds like
Speaker 1: you had an experience where this came up again, and
Speaker 1: instead of shutting my computer and going to and going
Speaker 1: and ask somebody else to do this for me, I
Speaker 1: worked through this, even though it was hard. You working
Speaker 1: through something and processing something doesn't mean feelings go away.
Speaker 1: It means you learn how to cope with those feelings better.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Nor does it mean that I've lost any progress
Speaker 4: that I made. I do see how those thoughts could
Speaker 4: enter though, and someone may feel that way. But I
Speaker 4: just want to send encouragement to anybody else. Because we
Speaker 4: had a question recently on the Bobby Bone Show. I
Speaker 4: do a Best Bits or Morgan does the Best Bits
Speaker 4: every weekend and she rotates people on the show, and
Speaker 4: a couple of weeks ago was my week and a
Speaker 4: question that came in was about a disorder and someone said,
Speaker 4: or you ever fully recovered? And I wish I would
Speaker 4: have had what you said about Well, that's why it's
Speaker 4: called I'm in recovery. I'm not recovered well I answer
Speaker 4: it in that way. I just didn't have that language,
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh, yeah, that's such an easy
Speaker 4: way to put it. Like it's sort of similar to grief,
Speaker 4: like it's it's always there, you always carry it, but
Speaker 4: the load doesn't feel as heavy. Like we've used the
Speaker 4: backpack example before, like if grief is in a backpack
Speaker 4: and you're carrying it around, like some days that backpack
Speaker 4: may feel really heavy, and other days you're like, Okay,
Speaker 4: the backpack is still here, but.
Speaker 1: I can live my life with the backpack.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm walking around fine, I'm walking around with ease,
Speaker 4: like it will always be like there's not a day
Speaker 4: that goes by that I mean, honestly, there's days go
Speaker 4: by that I don't think of my mom and my dad.
Speaker 4: That can't be true. I'm sure there's days where like
Speaker 4: they don't cross my mind. I'm just saying there's days.
Speaker 4: If they do cross my mind, I always miss them.
Speaker 4: But of all the days, is that weird to say?
Speaker 4: I feel like you gave me a weird look, like
Speaker 4: you don't think of your mom and dad every day?
Speaker 1: I think you do. You don't realize that, Okay, I
Speaker 1: think you like even looking in your backyard. You see
Speaker 1: the the chair or the birds singing of yours, my
Speaker 1: rocking chair.
Speaker 4: My mom's rocking chair. Oh, I sold that on Facebook
Speaker 4: Marketplace the day.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. We sold it update.
Speaker 4: I know we discussed me doing it, and I thought
Speaker 4: that ultimately we decided on here that I was gonna sell.
Speaker 1: I thought we were going to refurbish it. But like, great,
Speaker 1: I'm glad you sold it. Great, great, great, great, good
Speaker 1: for you. That's the right thing to do.
Speaker 4: Hello, Hello, I thought.
Speaker 1: I think you probably think of your parents more than
Speaker 1: you realize. It's just integrated into you.
Speaker 5: You.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like I have my mom's I don't have it
Speaker 4: on right now, but like I normally I don't have
Speaker 4: on my pinky ring for my mom right now because
Speaker 4: it's a little teeny tiny diamond sell out and I'm
Speaker 4: getting it fixed, so it's the only reason. But I
Speaker 4: always have that on. So you're right, like I probably
Speaker 4: look at that every day and think of her, but
Speaker 4: I just don't.
Speaker 1: The grief feels different. It's more integrated. Yeah, so you
Speaker 1: see that, and the feeling is still there, but it's
Speaker 1: a different kind of feeling.
Speaker 4: Like my mom, what are we like almost mid November. Now,
Speaker 4: so my mom her what do you call it death anniversary,
Speaker 4: death of versary, her heaven birthday? What is it called?
Speaker 4: Her day she got her wings? That sounds like a country,
Speaker 4: but I feel like people call her Yeah, her birthday
Speaker 4: is coming up in December. I don't know how I
Speaker 4: feel about it, like come December, but her death of day.
Speaker 1: What do people call that? Avirtue of her death?
Speaker 4: I know, I feel like there's a better way to
Speaker 4: say that. The day she got her wings, let's call
Speaker 4: it her heavenly birthday. The day she got her wings
Speaker 4: was October twenty seventh, and my sister's birthdays right after
Speaker 4: that October twenty eighth, And those two days are always
Speaker 4: kind of weird because my sister's birthday, my sister just
Speaker 4: texted me a red balloon because we associate red balloon
Speaker 4: with my mom died, and I texted the red balloon back.
Speaker 4: And then my sister was traveling. She was in Austin
Speaker 4: and she was doing family things there, so we didn't
Speaker 4: even really talk that day. And then it was weird
Speaker 4: because some anniversaries of that have been really, really hard,
Speaker 4: and this year it wasn't at all. Like I said,
Speaker 4: the red blutant, and of course I missed her, but
Speaker 4: I didn't. I wasn't overwhelmed, And I think normally when
Speaker 4: I feel overwhelmed, i'll do something like, Okay, well now
Speaker 4: I need to do something special, or let's go on
Speaker 4: her mom so that I can have like more peace
Speaker 4: come over me.
Speaker 1: But I didn't.
Speaker 4: I didn't do that, And it was weird that I
Speaker 4: didn't even talk to my sister that day. I tried
Speaker 4: to call her, she didn't answer.
Speaker 1: Busy. But you also had a lot going on that day.
Speaker 1: I will say that, like that.
Speaker 4: Was a it's a good point. I think maybe also
Speaker 4: this team, this team, this time of year, not every
Speaker 4: year or this time of year, but what I have
Speaker 4: going on right now, You're right, Okay, I will say
Speaker 4: I felt it, but it wasn't like as hard, Like
Speaker 4: I didn't have a breakdown. Maybe I need to.
Speaker 1: So why do you think you have to have a
Speaker 1: breakdown to miss somebody? I don't know.
Speaker 4: Good question, because then if you don't break down, do
Speaker 4: you even really miss them? Do you miss your mom? Yes, okay,
Speaker 4: I was joking. I don't think you have to have
Speaker 4: a breakdown.
Speaker 1: But I think what I'm hearing too, is usually it
Speaker 1: feels heavier.
Speaker 4: But also too, You're right, the other things were heavier. Yeah,
Speaker 4: so it's like I only have so much capacity to
Speaker 4: feel and so the mom stuff actually seemed manageable. But
Speaker 4: that's okay. I feel like it's so it'll be every
Speaker 4: years different. Yeah, this is an example of that.
Speaker 1: And I think to speak on what you were saying
Speaker 1: before this year, it felt like it was manageable. It
Speaker 1: didn't feel as heavy. That doesn't mean next year you
Speaker 1: won't be in a place where like you do cry.
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that like you're bad at graving. That
Speaker 1: means that grief is not linear, right, and growth oftentimes
Speaker 1: is not linear like we in our heads think it's
Speaker 1: supposed to be. But things are going to affect us
Speaker 1: at different times in different ways based on what else
Speaker 1: is going on within our environment. And you have a
Speaker 1: lot going on within your environment that's probably taking up
Speaker 1: a lot of space from these other things.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Shannon sent us other ways to say anniversary of
Speaker 4: her death, are you ready for him? Remembrance day.
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 4: Commemoration okay? And angel versiary. Could you imagine if I
Speaker 4: was like, what have I texted you today? Is my
Speaker 4: mom's angel versary.
Speaker 1: I know I wouldn't say anything negative because I don't
Speaker 1: want to judge somebody who if that's how they cope
Speaker 1: with that, that's true. I can't see you saying that,
Speaker 1: and I can't see myself using that. I think I
Speaker 1: would just say anniversary of her death. But I agree,
Speaker 1: I don't really like that. It's kind of a mouthful
Speaker 1: and it's like.
Speaker 2: Don't dundun't like anniversary of her death? The day she died, Yeah,
Speaker 2: the day then music died. I think heaven birthday is
Speaker 2: cute birthday. Yeah, I think it's sweet. Okay, let's hope
Speaker 2: she's there. I'm joking too heavy.
Speaker 5: Obviously, I'm just kidding, right, yeah for sure, Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 5: I know obviously, yeah, of course yeah.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. Question that doesn't come up?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 1: So I have a update okay about what two updates?
Speaker 1: Kind of one for anybody who's wondering my treadmill's working.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you know people were wondering.
Speaker 1: And I will say somebody came and fixed it. I
Speaker 1: last week I was talking about, like I have to
Speaker 1: take it down the stairs. This is gonna suck. They
Speaker 1: sent somebody to fix it for free. He was very nice,
Speaker 1: and he also told me it might have just been
Speaker 1: because I plugged it in wrong, but he waited to
Speaker 1: tell me that until after he we we wired, rewired.
Speaker 4: Rewired, you know, RS and w's are hard hard.
Speaker 1: He rewired the whole thing and then he was like,
Speaker 1: could have been just you plugged it in wrong. And
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, thanks reding kind about that. That
Speaker 1: brings me to upstairs, which brings me to my fire alarm.
Speaker 4: Which brings you to the question that doesn't come up? Yes, okay.
Speaker 1: So after I had the issue with my smoke detector
Speaker 1: that I talked about last week, and I had the
Speaker 1: lady talking to me, Yeah, that was weird. So we
Speaker 1: now have We haven't fixed it, we just took it off.
Speaker 1: So I started kind of panicking, not super seriously, but
Speaker 1: like a little bit thinking in the back of my head, well,
Speaker 1: if there is a fire in our bedroom and we
Speaker 1: have to escape and we cannot get out of our bedroom,
Speaker 1: we're going to have to jump out our window, which
Speaker 1: led me to how would you jump out of the window.
Speaker 1: It's a two story building. Do you know how to
Speaker 1: do this?
Speaker 4: I have thought about ordering one of those throw down
Speaker 4: ladders from Amazon. Oh so I just haven't ever done it.
Speaker 4: Wait what it's like a little you know rope with
Speaker 4: little wooden. You know, it's not very sturdy at all,
Speaker 4: but it'll work in an emergency and you throw it
Speaker 4: out and then you like climb down. So you can
Speaker 4: order those on Amazon.
Speaker 1: Okay, I will be ordering that because carry on. Don't
Speaker 1: know how to jump out of a window.
Speaker 4: Though, I'm thinking. I'm thinking what I would do probably
Speaker 4: is I would get a sheet, my sheets, okay, and
Speaker 4: make my own rope.
Speaker 1: Okay, Like, as I'm not jumping out, you're not jumping out.
Speaker 4: What would do? You have some special way to jump
Speaker 4: and land and not hurt yourself like I would. I
Speaker 4: would have my She won't go all the way down,
Speaker 4: but I could maybe get down enough enough.
Speaker 1: What are you connecting the sheet to so it doesn't fall?
Speaker 4: Good question? Don't know yet. Maybe my curtain rod because
Speaker 4: it's screwed into the wall.
Speaker 1: Yeah, could I tie it?
Speaker 4: And then yeah, hang out. I'm still gonna have to jump,
Speaker 4: but just maybe not as far.
Speaker 1: Okay. I'm thinking, like the door it's burning, you have
Speaker 1: ten seconds to get out of here. The smoke is coming.
Speaker 1: Get out, Okay. So you're thinking I have some time
Speaker 1: to make okay, contraption.
Speaker 4: I guess I'm just going to jump?
Speaker 1: Okay, do you know how to jump? Okay?
Speaker 5: Do you so?
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm glad to do Okay, I do now. But
Speaker 1: I'm glad I'm talking about this because I asked Patrick
Speaker 1: this and he acted like it was like, well, eevery,
Speaker 1: I knows this. I said, Patrick, if we had to
Speaker 1: jump out of our windows, how how do you land?
Speaker 1: Because you don't want to land on your bottom because
Speaker 1: you're hole. Your tailbone will completely shatter. If you land
Speaker 1: just on your feet, your your legs are gonna shatter,
Speaker 1: and then like you can't land on your hands, you
Speaker 1: can't let Like, how do you land where you might
Speaker 1: be able to walk again? Because two stories is kind
Speaker 1: of high and we have concrete underneath of ours. So
Speaker 1: he go I said, Patrick, how would you jump out
Speaker 1: of this window? And he goes tuck and roll? What
Speaker 1: he just said, tuck and roll? What are you talking to? Stop?
Speaker 4: Drop and roll?
Speaker 1: Like a little different tuck and roll.
Speaker 4: I'm not talking. I can't tuck and roll out of
Speaker 4: a window.
Speaker 1: Like what No, he means when you so I looked
Speaker 1: it up. I actually like googled this because I was like,
Speaker 1: how do you He was like, everybody knows this, and
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a part of everybody, and I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 4: Oh, so you jump out of the window and right
Speaker 4: before you hit the ground and you tuck and roll.
Speaker 1: So like I've said, you would just hit the ground
Speaker 1: as a roll.
Speaker 4: Because I'm picturing he's like in the window and he's roll.
Speaker 4: He's like rolling out of the window. Like, how does it?
Speaker 1: How how you just do a front flip out of
Speaker 1: the window. Okay, So basically it says the Internet says,
Speaker 1: and this is what he was saying. When you land,
Speaker 1: you land in as as soon as you land, you
Speaker 1: you roll, so you're smoothing the impact so the impact
Speaker 1: doesn't all go through your legs.
Speaker 4: I mean, I just don't know how I'm gonna I
Speaker 4: do need to practice it, true.
Speaker 1: I need to practice, but not through the two story window.
Speaker 1: But I also was thinking, maybe this is more This
Speaker 1: is gonna sound a little bit sexist, but I don't
Speaker 1: mean it that way. Maybe this is more natural for
Speaker 1: men because they're like football. He was like, in football,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna whatever, you you roll so you you
Speaker 1: don't hurt yourself as much, or you slide or you
Speaker 1: do whatever. So they're like taught how to and he
Speaker 1: played rugby, so I'm assuming there's a lot of tucking
Speaker 1: and rolling where nobody ever told me how.
Speaker 4: It's a classic rugby. Yeah, he's still manly.
Speaker 1: I will say every time that he's done something recently,
Speaker 1: he'll be like, was that masculine?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: So does he know I showed him because I didn't
Speaker 1: want him to find out about that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know what we're talking about. Listening to
Speaker 4: last week's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he knew exactly what I meant when I said it.
Speaker 1: But then now he's like, was that masculine enough for you?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, k, it's any any who tech and roll.
Speaker 1: So if you live in a two story building and
Speaker 1: there might be a fire, if you have to jump out,
Speaker 1: which we hope that you have the time to make
Speaker 1: the sheet ladder. We should put the ladder in our newsletter.
Speaker 1: Can you give me that?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Oh, Shannon already has it.
Speaker 4: It'll be on our next upcoming newsletter. So make sure
Speaker 4: you sign up because you probably can't google. Lads, we
Speaker 4: just make it easy for you. You never know a yeah, Okay, well,
Speaker 4: so now we know how the questions rule don't come up.
Speaker 4: I didn't know how to do that, and now I know.
Speaker 4: So thank you for teaching me. I feel like you
Speaker 4: saved my life.
Speaker 1: Honestly, Potentially we won't know until we know.
Speaker 4: But I'm like trying to figure out how manna practice
Speaker 4: because I would be scared to like jump from my
Speaker 4: kitchen counter.
Speaker 1: I think we need to go jump off stuff.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I'm nervous. I need to stretch more before
Speaker 4: or like, because I've got to build up like muscles
Speaker 4: and and then form and what you could do if
Speaker 4: you had time? Honestly, I know the fire's coming, the
Speaker 4: fires coming. So could you go in your closet and
Speaker 4: put on like Joey from Friends and put on like
Speaker 4: every clothing item that you have, like every sweat jacket,
Speaker 4: and then jump out?
Speaker 1: That's actually really if there's a way to tie like
Speaker 1: a pillow around your bottom, yes, or on your knee
Speaker 1: you like, And can you jump with a pillow and
Speaker 1: then roll into the pillow mm hmm. Okay, so we
Speaker 1: can add some stuff to the tuck and roll. But
Speaker 1: I do think maybe we should go to a park
Speaker 1: and jump.
Speaker 4: On practicing okay, practicing our duck and roll.
Speaker 1: So if you see us tucking and rolling in a park.
Speaker 4: Nearby, just we could go to like a gymnastics place
Speaker 4: and practice like tucking and rolling into the foam pit.
Speaker 1: Okay, oh we could. Just I was gonna say, what
Speaker 1: do we say to the gymnastics people when we book
Speaker 1: a session.
Speaker 4: Like, hey, we just want to you can do adult sessions.
Speaker 1: They're gonna be like, what do you want to come do?
Speaker 4: And we're like free, free form, we would like.
Speaker 1: To practice jumping out of our window caase there's a fire.
Speaker 4: I don't think they ask like what are you? What
Speaker 4: are you training for?
Speaker 1: Whatever?
Speaker 4: You just say like, I'm I'm an athlete, Like I
Speaker 4: want to practice, Like.
Speaker 1: I'm an athlete. What do you mean? What am I
Speaker 1: here for? I'm here to do athletic things.
Speaker 4: And you can just sign up. Yeah, okay, tuck and
Speaker 4: roll all right. I have an email from a new
Speaker 4: listener named Dave. Hey, Dave, you don't.
Speaker 1: Know what that's from? Do you know what it's from? No?
Speaker 4: But I was hoping you did, because whenever I saw
Speaker 4: that his name was Dave, I had in my mind,
Speaker 4: Hey Dave, So if anybody listening right now, knows what
Speaker 4: that's from, Like, do you know what what's up?
Speaker 1: That's a commercial?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Budweizer.
Speaker 1: So you think Dave is like a Dave.
Speaker 4: I don't know. It could be a movie, a TV show,
Speaker 4: a commercial, a meme. Nothing could just be from like
Speaker 4: I know, it could be from nothing. It just could
Speaker 4: be from my brain.
Speaker 1: I could have had a conversation with somebody named Dave
Speaker 1: in your head and.
Speaker 4: That's dinner rave, Like, I don't know, but I'm gonna
Speaker 4: I'm gonna just I'm gonna read his note and I
Speaker 4: just want to give a shout out because not only
Speaker 4: is he a new listener and he's already emailing, but
Speaker 4: he is also offering some advice.
Speaker 1: Okay, Dave, Hey, Dave, let's go.
Speaker 4: I'd listener give me that emailing because we've gotten some
Speaker 4: really good emails lately lately from listeners that have been
Speaker 4: listening a long time, and like, you don't have to
Speaker 4: email right away at all, because these listeners had not.
Speaker 4: They were like, I've been listening for years, this is
Speaker 4: my first time emailing, and i've or I've thought about
Speaker 4: emailing for two or three years now, and I'm finally
Speaker 4: sitting down to do it and like that's really special,
Speaker 4: Like if you take the time to sit down and
Speaker 4: email us, that's not lost on us. But he just
Speaker 4: started listening on October fourteenth, so he hasn't even listening
Speaker 4: a full month. Oh my god, Hey Dave, Hey there,
Speaker 4: Amy and Kat I just listened to your podcast on
Speaker 4: burnout October fourteenth and enjoyed the whole show. Good to
Speaker 4: hear the male caller who listens as a way to
Speaker 4: learn more about being a good partner with his wife.
Speaker 4: US guys can always use some help in that category. Amy,
Speaker 4: you mentioned the meh massages from your boyfriend. My question
Speaker 4: to you is do you ask him to do anything
Speaker 4: differently or just receive what he gives feel unsatisfied and
Speaker 4: not give feedback. Oh you found a good not can
Speaker 4: you dig into that area a little more that feels good?
Speaker 4: Like things? So Dave is saying, like, speak up, tell
Speaker 4: him what you need. Don't hope he guesses right and
Speaker 4: then feel disappointed when he doesn't guess right. Y'all know
Speaker 4: we are not mind readers, So lay it out there
Speaker 4: for us to digest and act on. Let's go Dave, Hey, Dave,
Speaker 4: and why I listened in the first place. The burnout
Speaker 4: is real. I finally learned to let go and not
Speaker 4: be one hundred percent attached to my email and phone
Speaker 4: when my dad was in his last days. Oh his dad, hassa.
Speaker 4: Maybe he's a has an angel versiary or a heaven birthday.
Speaker 1: What did we.
Speaker 4: Decide heavenly birthday?
Speaker 1: We didn't say angel versary.
Speaker 4: Dave, tell us what you say. A coworker mentor encouraged
Speaker 4: me to go a day without looking at email and
Speaker 4: see if the world continued it did not blow up.
Speaker 4: Since then, I have learned that I can go for
Speaker 4: larger blocks of time without staying connected. It has really
Speaker 4: helped me a new and happy listener and probably soon
Speaker 4: to be a subscriber.
Speaker 1: Dave, Dave.
Speaker 4: By this point, he probably has subscribed in the newsletter,
Speaker 4: so he's emailed, offered advice and subscribe for the newsletter.
Speaker 1: Subscribe.
Speaker 4: Probably is walking around. Well, they haven't shipped out yet,
Speaker 4: but I wonder if he's ordered a hoodie or a hat. Oh,
Speaker 4: here's our hats.
Speaker 1: But also he could have.
Speaker 4: For people on YouTube sick. What does it say, cat?
Speaker 4: It depends, it says it depends. This makes you think
Speaker 4: of this time I tried to do this viral video
Speaker 4: with Kat where I was like, hey, you know, like
Speaker 4: if you therapists rank their coping coping skills. Yeah, so
Speaker 4: it's like journaling and Cat's like, well, it depends. It's
Speaker 4: like going for a walk. It depends. And it's like
Speaker 4: just say if you think it's a one or a ten.
Speaker 4: But Kat couldn't do it because it she has integrity
Speaker 4: and it really depends. She can't just say something's a ten,
Speaker 4: which when for somebody else it might be a one. Right,
Speaker 4: So it depends. And then with the let them theory
Speaker 4: and Mel Robbins, it's sort of like, okay, yeah, let
Speaker 4: them works at times, but also it depends. So there's
Speaker 4: so many things in life where it's not black and white.
Speaker 4: This is a representation. Even though the hat is sort
Speaker 4: of off white and brown. Life is gray, it's not.
Speaker 1: Mid life is an opportunity to make a gray hat
Speaker 1: that says it.
Speaker 4: Depends, it's fine. I kind of like this color go better.
Speaker 4: But our sweatsuit is gray sweat yeah, and our T
Speaker 4: shirt is sort of gray and it says hat the
Speaker 4: day you need to have, but it depends. Represents the
Speaker 4: gray are in life. Where if you're feeling like it
Speaker 4: has to be this one way or another because sometimes
Speaker 4: we've been conditioned that way to be more black and
Speaker 4: white with our thinking. This hat is an exhil it's
Speaker 4: a deep breath and an exhale to be like you
Speaker 4: know what it depends right, Yes, I think.
Speaker 1: That was the best natural commercial for that hat that
Speaker 1: anybody could have ever.
Speaker 4: Except for we got to tell you. Oh yeah, the
Speaker 4: hat arrives flat brimmed. It's not a flat brimmed hat.
Speaker 4: It is a you have to mold it with your
Speaker 4: hands yourself.
Speaker 1: Which I didn't know.
Speaker 4: I'm sure Dave probably knows how to do this with
Speaker 4: a hat because sort of like Patrick with Tuck and Roll, like,
Speaker 4: guys probably just know how to do hats better than girls. Yeah,
Speaker 4: but Cat's like, oh no, this hat is flat. It
Speaker 4: looked so ridiculous. But then finally can me who's doing
Speaker 4: our merch. She's like, hey, guys, I've never had any
Speaker 4: trouble bending the brim, so if you're having any trouble,
Speaker 4: just keep messing with it, like keep you can't.
Speaker 1: She said. She said it really kindly, like hello, yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't want to break it in half.
Speaker 4: But but like you just like fold from the and
Speaker 4: like do like a scoop like a scoop. So it
Speaker 4: depends a lot in life depends. Thanks Dave for yours
Speaker 4: was going to give your advice subscriber.
Speaker 1: He could have been a thousandth YouTube script subscriber.
Speaker 4: Maybe do you think I took that as he was
Speaker 4: subscribing to the newsletter.
Speaker 1: I subscriber to anything. You could subscribe and be a
Speaker 1: follower of the podcast and subscribe to the podcast.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: We finally got a thousand subscribers on YouTube and I
Speaker 4: found out because I got an email. Because I don't
Speaker 4: I didn't go to the YouTube. I got an email
Speaker 4: from YouTube and they were like, congratulations, you hit a thousand,
Speaker 4: And I opened it up and it was all these
Speaker 4: falling bananas. It was like a little dopamine hit. I
Speaker 4: don't know. I mean YouTube has to know what they're doing,
Speaker 4: like something was rewarding about the falling bananas and.
Speaker 1: You want to get more for They were like, let's.
Speaker 4: Like, go bananas, you just hit a thousand subscribers que
Speaker 4: or something. So I thought it was cute.
Speaker 1: I think when you get one hundred thousand, they send
Speaker 1: you a plaque. Sweet soro to one hundred thousand.
Speaker 4: Yeah, here we're going to go. Except for you and
Speaker 4: I are the we're not big on like the best
Speaker 4: at promoting it.
Speaker 1: The YouTube.
Speaker 4: The YouTube, yeah, the YouTube.
Speaker 1: But it will happen naturally.
Speaker 4: It is happening naturally.
Speaker 1: You're listening and you have a internet if you have
Speaker 1: subscribed to us on YouTube phone, yeah, subscribe to us
Speaker 1: on YouTube. Just there was a little that's like giving
Speaker 1: Essa thank you. You just subscribe.
Speaker 4: Yeah, even if you don't watch it over there, can.
Speaker 1: You have to love if you did watch it.
Speaker 4: I don't really know what that does for us, Like
Speaker 4: I'm sort of old school with this, like podcasting, Like
Speaker 4: I like that we just have listeners that listen on podcasts.
Speaker 1: Well they can listen on the podcast and subscribe to
Speaker 1: our YouTube.
Speaker 4: I know. I still just haven't figured out what that's
Speaker 4: doing for us yet.
Speaker 1: It was making us get banana emails.
Speaker 4: I wonder what they send you at two thousand that
Speaker 4: that dopamine hit though, is real? Like when I did
Speaker 4: plates the other day that I tell you, I signed
Speaker 4: up for one plotate's class and I hadn't done it
Speaker 4: in months, and I was going to a new place
Speaker 4: and you're assigned a locker when you get there, like
Speaker 4: whatever bed or machine you're on, they're numbered like one
Speaker 4: through fifteen.
Speaker 1: I love that you called them beds. They call it.
Speaker 4: I'm calling it back. I love that because I lay
Speaker 4: on it sometimes and do nothing like say I have
Speaker 4: bed number seven or machine machine numbers. Workout that then
Speaker 4: that means I'm locker seven and I can go put
Speaker 4: my stuff in locker seven. When I got out on
Speaker 4: my first class and I went to this class on
Speaker 4: a code. My friend had a code, so I went
Speaker 4: for free, cost me nothing. I go to my locker
Speaker 4: and they put a card to my locker that said, like, congratulations, Amy,
Speaker 4: you're a Pilates princess. You just finished your first class.
Speaker 4: Guess what I did. Guess what I did because I
Speaker 4: bought a package. Now I'm a Pilates prince.
Speaker 1: You bought a package.
Speaker 4: I bought a year stop.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like they know what they're doing.
Speaker 4: They my dopamine hit was so high. But here's the thing.
Speaker 4: They gave me a code. The code was twenty percent off.
Speaker 1: Well they know how to get you, so.
Speaker 4: Twenty percent off for a pack of five. Okay, but
Speaker 4: now I'm a plates princess, so I have to show
Speaker 4: up way more like I'm in the class was so
Speaker 4: good too, Like I really loved it. Guess what I've
Speaker 4: been every day since I signed up? Every single day.
Speaker 1: Let's go.
Speaker 4: Why Sometimes I just lay there like it's a bed,
Speaker 4: but I've been there.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you some insider baseball of the gym
Speaker 1: atmosphere of selling.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so they got me. Well, no, it was, but
Speaker 4: hes it is dope. It was fresh off of a
Speaker 4: dopemine hit from a good workout.
Speaker 1: Yeah, ding ding ding.
Speaker 4: Then I opened the locker and I have a card
Speaker 4: congratulating me, calling me a plates princess and giving me
Speaker 4: a discount code.
Speaker 1: I mean that's probably.
Speaker 4: And then I purchased something.
Speaker 1: Did you get so you bought that? Did you get
Speaker 1: any merch too? Were they like, if you buy a merch,
Speaker 1: well you have to have those.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I already have plenty of socks, but I needed.
Speaker 1: Did you give a socks discount on their socks? Now
Speaker 1: you're like, well, I'm going to buy these socks for
Speaker 1: you since you gave me this discount.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you help me, But the discount was sick. It
Speaker 4: was good twenty percent off of a year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the year.
Speaker 4: So that was where I say, I did the math,
Speaker 4: I save the most money, and now I'm a polite princess,
Speaker 4: so I have to show up.
Speaker 1: Because you might be a queen eventually. Maybe here's the thing.
Speaker 1: To get your money's worth of that you have to
Speaker 1: go the whole year.
Speaker 4: That's why I'm going.
Speaker 1: But you don't need to go.
Speaker 4: Actually you just go, I know a couple times now.
Speaker 4: But I'm but right now I'm motivated and I'm in
Speaker 4: and I'm feeling stronger, like I already on the bands,
Speaker 4: like I was having to do, you know, the different
Speaker 4: resistance levels, like saying, I was having to always go
Speaker 4: down from the recommended. They're like just you know, for
Speaker 4: this move, it's recommended red red red, but you know,
Speaker 4: if you need to go red, red blue, you're good.
Speaker 4: And I was always having to I was like, shoot,
Speaker 4: I can do blood red yellow like that's and so
Speaker 4: and now red red blue, which you know what's around
Speaker 4: the corner, red red red.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 4: So I'm getting stronger. Also, I feel better. Maybe my
Speaker 4: merry and joyfulness is from like cause you're a politics princess, yes,
Speaker 4: And I'm moving my body like endorphins are legit and
Speaker 4: doorphins make you happy, and happy people don't kill their husbands. Boom,
Speaker 4: just saying, so, name that movie Legally Blonde. Okay, I've
Speaker 4: seen that.
Speaker 1: One wouldn't be crazy if I hadn't seen Legally Blonde.
Speaker 4: Not really, you haven't seen like a lot of classics.
Speaker 1: Okay. I worked over ten years ago at this gym
Speaker 1: and my job was front desk, but I had to
Speaker 1: do sales, so I had to sell the memberships and
Speaker 1: I wasn't very good at it because it gave me
Speaker 1: too much thing. I don't like selling things to people.
Speaker 1: I'm like, if you want it, here it is. But
Speaker 1: they were what their motto was, you take the you
Speaker 1: get to every class. The first class is free to
Speaker 1: get people in and like I don't remember the percentages
Speaker 1: of it, but because people are like so hopped up
Speaker 1: on the endorphins after a workout, they are most if
Speaker 1: they're gonna buy it, they're gonna buy it. Then they're
Speaker 1: not gonna like I mean, sometimes they do go home
Speaker 1: and think about it and buy it, but like that's
Speaker 1: when you wanted to lock it in. And they put
Speaker 1: so much pressure on us to put pressure on them,
Speaker 1: and I knew I was the annoying salesperson. You know
Speaker 1: that feeling? Do you know that feeling?
Speaker 4: Oh, and you're like.
Speaker 1: I know you don't want to buy this, but I
Speaker 1: have to give you this spiel anyway. Anyway, if you
Speaker 1: didn't buy it, then what they did is we'll give
Speaker 1: you another class for free, but if you don't end
Speaker 1: up buying a membership, you have to pay for that class.
Speaker 1: So people would come back in and they would be
Speaker 1: on endorphins again, and then I would get them m
Speaker 1: So that's how they do it.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 1: We didn't do We didn't do the cards, and we
Speaker 1: didn't call people like kickboxing queens, which we should have
Speaker 1: because that would have been a little extra humph. But
Speaker 1: I think, but your studio is doing it. They're doing
Speaker 1: it right.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, I mean props to them. So anybody,
Speaker 4: if you own a fitness studio, used to a card
Speaker 4: in somebody's locker, so I call them a princess like
Speaker 4: depending on their I'm sure Dave probably wouldn't want to you.
Speaker 4: Maybe maybe Dave would. I don't know Dave's preference, but whatever,
Speaker 4: you just it's c it was good, you know, It's
Speaker 4: something I just learned about both of us as I
Speaker 4: used to work front desk at a gym. You know,
Speaker 4: we find our similarities.
Speaker 1: Like the same we're the same kind of gym.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Gold Gym. I work at the front desk. I
Speaker 4: didn't have to sell any memberships though. But it was
Speaker 4: right after I got out of college and I was
Speaker 4: living with my sister and I needed to get a
Speaker 4: job because I didn't have a job, my job yet.
Speaker 4: I got into sales after that, but it was because
Speaker 4: I ran in to a friend when she came in
Speaker 4: to work out there and she was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 4: I'm working at Luke over with Luke over at AGM.
Speaker 4: And I'm like what. So then I call Luke and
Speaker 4: she was like, yeah, I think we might be hiring.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, Luke, what up? He was my bff
Speaker 4: in high school. And I was like, are y'all hiring?
Speaker 4: And he was like yeah, let me set you up
Speaker 4: an interview. So it was all that, like you never know,
Speaker 4: Like I did not want to go work at the
Speaker 4: front desk at Gold's, but it's like that is what
Speaker 4: led me to my next job. So somebody you just
Speaker 4: got to do what you got to do. Like I
Speaker 4: was working, I had to get there at five am,
Speaker 4: and I was working with some eighteen year old kid
Speaker 4: and here.
Speaker 1: I am, you're like twenty one.
Speaker 4: No, I was like twenty two, but he was like
Speaker 4: I was out of college and yes, And then my
Speaker 4: classmates that are starting a professional careers were coming into
Speaker 4: work out and I'm like, you need to tell.
Speaker 1: But no, shame.
Speaker 4: Like I think at the time I wouldn't have a
Speaker 4: problem with it now because it's like whatever, like I
Speaker 4: understand life better. But I think at the time I
Speaker 4: was embarrassed. Yeah, I like, don't forget to beat your card.
Speaker 4: Excuse me your car did skin? You need to check
Speaker 4: in because they were they were sticklers about being the
Speaker 4: card and making sure you had a towel.
Speaker 1: What if they were laid on their payments because you
Speaker 1: have to like be like you.
Speaker 4: Know, I wasn't even that high level, Like I was
Speaker 4: like literally bottom of the like I was started from
Speaker 4: the bottom. I was with the eighteen year old punk
Speaker 4: kid from like that just had finished high school and he's.
Speaker 1: He's like, you went to college for this, and I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, yep, I did. Could you fold the
Speaker 1: towels really well?
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, you know skills I'd skills, you know, But
Speaker 4: did your gym have a I had to wake up
Speaker 4: so early. Remind me, my sister's husband would talk about this,
Speaker 4: like I had to wake up so early. This before
Speaker 4: I got into radio, which then I learned what early
Speaker 4: early was doing a morning show. But I had to
Speaker 4: be at Golds at five am. And I would go
Speaker 4: to bed at night and I would be so I'm
Speaker 4: dreading waking up, but I would sleep in my uniform
Speaker 4: and then uh huh, and then I would wake up
Speaker 4: and just get my car and go to work. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I'd sleep and it was like a black like the
Speaker 4: material was horrible, but black with like gold stripes. It
Speaker 4: was cold, and I wear these gold pants. Oh, and
Speaker 4: I would just sleep in it. And that was when
Speaker 4: I was living with my sister's little It was more
Speaker 4: like a shed, but we painted it and it didn't
Speaker 4: have a bad shed. Well, it was the only space
Speaker 4: and it was either that or go like live with.
Speaker 1: My air conditioning. No, I lived outside.
Speaker 4: I lived outside and it didn't have a bathroom, and
Speaker 4: I was too scared to walk into their house at night.
Speaker 4: I would pee in a vase. Yeah, yeah, you come
Speaker 4: a long way.
Speaker 1: You were working at Gold gym, and you lived outside
Speaker 1: and you peed in a vase.
Speaker 4: Yes, Oh my gosh, this is like the story you know,
Speaker 4: you hear of those people where they're like, you know,
Speaker 4: like Jewel was like before I was famous. I slept
Speaker 4: in my car.
Speaker 1: You're like, I slept in the shed and I peed
Speaker 1: in a vase.
Speaker 4: Yeah. But but we painted the inside purple and then
Speaker 4: the outside we painted to match their house.
Speaker 1: Could she know you sleep on the couch inside with it?
Speaker 4: I was excited about living in the shadow. It's on
Speaker 4: my own space. Okay, we don't litle makeshift closet.
Speaker 1: Are you sure you have electricity?
Speaker 4: Yeah? We had, I'm Sureeah. We had a light. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I had a light like a you know from the
Speaker 4: ceiling where you pull that string down.
Speaker 1: Do you have any pictures of this? You think? Hmmm?
Speaker 1: Did you have in bite? Anybody over to your shed?
Speaker 4: I know the vase looked like a bamboo.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I did. Go on.
Speaker 4: So so I have.
Speaker 1: My own place. You want to come over? Yeah?
Speaker 4: So while I was working at Gold's gym, I got
Speaker 4: to work out there for free, and so one day
Speaker 4: after a workout, actually I think I had already did
Speaker 4: I move up to my sales job. Yet no, because
Speaker 4: once I got my sales job, I got an apartment
Speaker 4: with roommates because I could afford it. But I must
Speaker 4: have just been working out one day, because when I
Speaker 4: was going to the parking lot this guy that was
Speaker 4: also working out. I did work there at the time,
Speaker 4: because I would check him in and be like, do
Speaker 4: you need to tell Yeah, okay, how I told you
Speaker 4: the guy where I went on a couple dates to them,
Speaker 4: and then we went to the lake for one of
Speaker 4: our dates, and I real est he shaved his legs
Speaker 4: and I was like, no, I can't that was him.
Speaker 1: So but he wasn't a deal breaker that you lived outside.
Speaker 4: I don't think you realized that because when he picked
Speaker 4: me up for my date, I had to meet me
Speaker 4: at my sister's front door, so we probably thought that
Speaker 4: was my house.
Speaker 1: I was like, baller, she must own Gold Show. No
Speaker 1: I have.
Speaker 4: My sister wasn't rocking that way back then. But okay,
Speaker 4: they were newly married with a baby. I mean it
Speaker 4: was a super cute house.
Speaker 1: But like she's the manager of gold Show.
Speaker 4: Maybe yeah, like the manager, but.
Speaker 1: He never you never brought anybody to your quarters.
Speaker 4: Okay, that would be hilarious, hilarious, all right, so yeah,
Speaker 4: it's fun, all right, so fun. The one thing we
Speaker 4: used to both work at the gym, yep, good times.
Speaker 1: Used to be in a vase.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm surprised I never told you that story.
Speaker 1: I'm glad we're doing this podcast because I'm learning more
Speaker 1: about you. Things that don't come up.
Speaker 4: That's right, things that don't come up.
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