WEBVTT - Good Mom's be Gay(ish) 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.480 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.560 She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:09.639 man of the house, and of course she didn't talk back. 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:10.600 She was both. 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:12.200 Obedient and soft by nature. 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.600 She was a good woman who always made good choices. 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:19.960 That we're good mom's bad choices? Who single mom? Who said? 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.639 But the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and found 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:25.280 out they were so bad. After all, we're experts overhairs 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.040 and your new vesties. Sit back and near the ride. 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:35.680 I can do a bad I can do on my 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:43.640 Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:48.920 I'm Mela. Happy hump day, bitches, Happy motherfucking hump day. 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:52.680 We are in week two of June. How are you feeling? 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:57.280 Are you surviving summer? I am? I got my fresh 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:01.200 wig on. You're you are determin to wear the wigs. 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:05.120 This is my third ship top wig. The first two 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:05.960 or fails. 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:09.720 This one. I think it's okay. It's a little shiny, 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:12.400 but maybe hit a little bit little baby powder baby 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:14.240 powder on the front, but we didn't have time for that, 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:14.920 so we just. 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:17.240 Put it on, clapped it on. Did Did you hear 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:19.040 that this weekend and it reminds me. Yeah, I don't 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:22.280 like the color. I'm having a hard time with blonde 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:22.880 at the beginning. 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.120 What's wrong with it? What do you mean when it 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:26.560 first hits? Yeah, I don't. I don't like when it's 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:27.000 in the root. 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.880 I don't like being blonde to the root, solid like 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:34.200 fresh shake a little dark root situation. And right now 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:37.080 it's blonde to the root. And also she put a 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:40.120 rose gold on it, and it just it's just not 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:41.119 it's not. 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:42.360 Doing it for me. I'm gonna have to see it 0:01:42.400 --> 0:01:44.760 underneath it. What are you gonna call this one? This 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:47.920 is Erica? This looks like old me? Okay, doesn't it? 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:50.040 You know what I was thinking about you now that 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:52.480 we're having your wig your wig conversation. I was thinking 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:55.680 about you because yesterday I met my parents at an 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:59.920 old school barbecue and Auntie Viv was there. 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.440 Just told me that I'm her niece. You know, I'm Bernie. Now, 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.640 I didn't didn't say you knew me? No, I fuck no. 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:09.079 Auntie Viv was chilling playing spades. Also, Tasha was there, 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:11.040 our acting school. 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:14.680 Queen. She was there, she's my dad's friend. And then 0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:17.560 also Johnny Gill was there. So I was basically at 0:02:17.639 --> 0:02:20.519 the old school Hollywood barbecue and I was having a 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:22.480 good old time. And I left Orlando at home and 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:24.320 I texted him like, damn, there's a lot of food 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:28.360 here and viv Auntie Viv is playing spades. He's like, 0:02:28.400 --> 0:02:30.240 you left me? Why would you leave me? I could 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.760 be playing spades with Aunti Viv. I was like, too bad, 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:35.280 how sad I'm here? Do you know how to play spades? Hell? No, 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:38.880 I wanna do you know? No? I was like, I've 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:40.760 been taught like twenty two times. Me too, but I 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:43.040 don't know. It doesn't register my brain. I don't you know. 0:02:43.240 --> 0:02:45.200 I'm not a drinker. I'm not someone who wants to 0:02:45.240 --> 0:02:47.880 drink and talk shit and think I want to dance 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:50.200 and shit. So that's not my it's not my. Oh 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:53.400 my god. And then my fucking drunk ass mom talking 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:55.079 about she knew how to play. I was like, I've 0:02:55.080 --> 0:02:57.080 never seen you play spades in the whole thirty eight 0:02:57.120 --> 0:02:58.640 years I've known you that she was getting cursed out 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:00.320 because she doesn't really know how to play. For us, yes, 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.120 I do. This is cheat it. I was like, you're drunk, 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:05.640 let's go. Oh my God. You know, people played like 0:03:05.639 --> 0:03:08.840 take Spade's super super super super serious. But you know, 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:10.720 Auntie Viv had a little bun on and I was like, 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:14.160 look at Anti Viv or Auntie viv pony on. But 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:17.600 it was it was a nice little black backyarded barbecue 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:20.040 with all the food you could think of. But I 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:22.359 literally was like, I literally thought about you and your 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:24.639 your your wigs, your collection of wigs. Is every time 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:26.040 you put on a wig, you always talk about Anti 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:27.080 Viv's ponytails. 0:03:27.280 --> 0:03:29.280 No, I had a full wig. I had a full 0:03:29.320 --> 0:03:30.880 Auntie Viv wig back when. 0:03:30.760 --> 0:03:32.880 I was to New York. And if she did, she 0:03:32.919 --> 0:03:33.720 had like a line of wigs. 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:37.560 I think she still has a wig wine, but I 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.040 looked like an Auntie and when I put it on 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:44.200 at twenty seven years old. So no, I want to 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:46.560 see her new movie. Though you've seen previous for her 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:48.800 movie is God is you haven't? 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:50.800 I don't think. So what is it about? Is it 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:51.480 a Tyler Perry? 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:57.760 Oh, it's the no is Tyler Perry. No, it's about 0:03:57.880 --> 0:04:00.520 two sisters who are out for revenge and one of 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:02.320 them is like all burned on their face, like she 0:04:02.320 --> 0:04:05.960 has her face is like totally totally disfigured. And and 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:10.840 Vivica plays their mom, and she's like, the preview is crazy. 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:14.160 I the preview was like, the girls go visit her 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:17.080 and she's in bed, and like you, she's revealed and 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.440 she's totally like she's been burned severely, like she's healed, 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:24.400 but she's fucked up. And basically their dad was abusive, 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:27.599 and I guess the final thing that he did was 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:30.800 just disfigure his wife, their mother, and now these two 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:33.000 daughters and and and the daughter. 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:34.480 Oh both of them got Yeah. 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:35.920 I mean I don't really know the whole storyline, but 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:37.880 this is what the preview looks like. Is now they're 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:40.120 out for revenge to go find their dad who did 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:41.640 this and kill him. 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:44.719 Oh okay like it. Yeah, it looks really good. I'm 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:45.640 into it. Yeah. 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:47.000 I was really happy to see her in it because 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:49.120 it's like it's like an artsy black film. 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:51.200 Like it's gonna kill it. Yeah. 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:54.920 I think it's based off a play. So it's based 0:04:54.960 --> 0:04:55.440 off a play. 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:57.440 That's good. Yeah. And now I'm just saying I'm just 0:04:57.440 --> 0:04:59.400 like going through all my all my Vivio and like 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:07.720 my favorite moments, thinking like Quentin Tarantino, m m m, yeah, 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:08.680 like like she was awesome. 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:12.359 Yeah, I just love how a lot of like Hollywood's 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:16.000 like nineties actresses are having like a revival moment right now, 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.920 or like they're finally getting like the respect that they 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:22.159 deserve or being casted in films that aren't just like 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.800 the same. Like you never would have thought you would 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.320 have seen Vivica as a burn victim, you know, in 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:29.799 like an edgy, campy horror film. 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:31.440 I mean, but you know, I think a little bit 0:05:31.440 --> 0:05:34.159 on like her and her set it off that kind 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:36.240 of like Primes Us for like and also Kill Bill 0:05:36.279 --> 0:05:38.440 like Killer I Vivica too, like she's still had in 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:40.120 that realm. But I mean like then she kind of 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:43.680 like she kind of like fell off. Well it's because 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:45.760 fifty cent dragon her, because fifty cents a fucking. 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:47.280 App But that's what I mean, Like women and black 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:49.120 women in Hollywood don't get a lot of grace, like 0:05:49.160 --> 0:05:51.400 they kind of like gotta let she cool off for 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:52.480 a second and for a year. 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.479 Yeah, I mean, and like you know, even like Nil. 0:05:55.360 --> 0:05:58.520 Long, like she obviously like hasn't everyone's always loved ni 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.200 al Long, but like you don't see her a lot 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.320 of films, yes, we've seen her obviously in like the 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:04.039 Natty Professor. 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:07.400 No, that's no, not Professor o' the Best Man. No. 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:10.159 She did another movie with Martin Lawrence, Big Mama's House, 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:14.800 and you know she's but I just love how, like, 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:16.599 you know, now she's in the Michael Jackson film and 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.240 she's getting that notoriety and like you know, potentially maybe 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:21.440 would be nominated for maybe an Oscar who knows. 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:23.279 But I just I like that I'm. 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:27.039 Seeing these women that we grew up watching like kind 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.240 of having a big, a big moment right now. 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:31.160 Yeah. And you know, and now that you say that 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.119 about Nayalal, like yes, she did the Big Mama's House, 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:38.160 Siri or whatever, but uh, to see her cast it 0:06:38.200 --> 0:06:43.560 as Michael Jackson's mom, like our icons are like getting 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:45.960 older and so they're getting like these roles because when 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:47.479 I saw I didn't realize she was the mom and 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:50.360 I was like, oh, okay, yeah, I guess so because 0:06:50.400 --> 0:06:53.000 it's like young Michael's mom. But I'm like, oh, it's 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:56.159 like it's interesting to be in the audience watching our 0:06:56.400 --> 0:07:00.880 faves get this like these these later that you know, 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:04.239 she was the pyt in Fresh Prince, so it's interesting 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.160 to like, yeah, to visual like to see it. I 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:09.400 literally when I was at the barbecue and I was 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.320 like I didn't notice, Like it was difficult at first, 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:13.600 and then I was like, damn, Like I really thought 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:16.360 about how much she did have to like chill out 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:19.480 and how fucked up and mean the world was to her, 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:22.360 like on the count of fifty cent and like how 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:24.960 what a fucking asshole fifty cent is? And like also 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:27.360 because he's a sensitive cancer and I just like he's 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:29.440 just a sensitive boy and he's just like acting out, 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:34.000 but like just being mean for years, Like how do 0:07:34.040 --> 0:07:37.440 you be the fucking internet bully for years and you're 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:39.560 like fifty years old? 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:42.680 Because men love it. Men love to see grown men 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:48.800 be mean to women. They do, you know. And women 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:51.480 aren't doing it about it either. They're joining it and 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:55.000 peaking behind it, you know, especially when it's about a 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.400 beautiful woman. I mean, we're seeing how fifty cents you know, 0:07:57.400 --> 0:08:00.680 handling this whole you know, Daphne joy thing with that's 0:08:00.720 --> 0:08:03.160 you know, her sex tape being leaked in the news 0:08:03.280 --> 0:08:06.560 or whatever on Vlad TV. Who God, his karma's gonna 0:08:06.560 --> 0:08:09.200 be so fucked up. He's gonna oh, he's so gross. 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:13.360 But I but like just I just feel like what 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:18.520 beautiful women like Vivica, Like, Okay, I'm not gonna put 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:20.760 Daphne maybe in the same realm of Vivica, right, They're 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:25.480 totally two different people with totally like Vicause, successful actress, 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:29.240 but still like, I just see so often like beautiful 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:32.160 women being penalized. 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:33.360 And I don't know, we can talk. 0:08:33.480 --> 0:08:35.480 We can call it pretty privileged, whatever you want to 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:37.560 call it, pretty pretty punishment. 0:08:37.679 --> 0:08:41.040 You think there's something that men genuinely enjoy about dragging 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:45.199 a woman who is highly sought after, like like versus 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:48.960 like a woman who they may think is less traditionally beautiful, Like, yeah, 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:52.000 it's more fulfilling to like fuck her that bitch. Now 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:55.040 she's gonna drag She's not cute anymore. I mean I think, yeah, 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:57.880 of course there is. Yeah. And also I think like 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:01.240 the part of Daphane is like also and Vivica like 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:04.240 being sexual beings. Because there was a time like Vivica 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:07.280 was outside with fifty cent he was like taking her 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:11.960 to awards and then something switched up. But like, do 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:14.840 women love the downfall of beautiful do men love the 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:17.520 downfall of beautiful women? Like the collapse in the downfall 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:19.760 to see, Like I don't know, it's almost like they 0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:23.319 enjoy throwing them away so shaming, like you know what 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:25.520 it is, I see. I think I think a lot 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.720 of grown men who secretly or not so secretly hate 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:34.520 women all have this like this this villain origin story 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:36.720 where they were a kid and they saw their mom 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:39.000 or their aunt or their ex girlfriend in the sixth 0:09:39.000 --> 0:09:41.120 grade cheat on them, and now they hate all women 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:42.920 and now they think all women are hoes and all 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:45.360 women are users, and now like as soon as shit 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:49.559 like that happens, it's like told you, it's like it's 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:54.360 like it like affirms all of their childhood, like our 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:59.120 new bitches weren't shit. Okay, Well, I never understood why 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:00.920 women can never like come back from that. 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.520 I feel like a less attractive woman would have a 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:09.480 better chance. Why though, because it's I don't know, because 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:13.480 it's easier to want to hate on the more beautiful woman. 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:18.960 Like I mean, I think historically, beautiful women have been underestimated, 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:22.960 like they like, they have been downplayed. They have been 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:26.479 considered the slut in the story, even if they didn't spread. 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:26.920 Their legs at all. 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:30.480 It's just this assumption that you know, because they are 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:32.720 beautiful and there's this light on them and people are 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:35.319 attracted to them, that everyone has access to them, and 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:37.439 you know, it's just it's more fun. 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:39.520 It's more fun to throw and shiny to. 0:10:39.640 --> 0:10:42.400 To have the person that was this high up on 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:44.920 the pedestal to be knocked off is a lot more 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:47.360 entertaining than the bitch who's like maybe on the medium 0:10:47.400 --> 0:10:49.840 pedestal that gets knocked off, Like, no, no one cares 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:50.440 about that story. 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:52.360 They want the bitch that's on the top that gets. 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.600 Sucked up, you know, like there's no it's just it's 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:57.880 not as entertaining, it's not as fulfilling, and it doesn't 0:10:58.000 --> 0:11:01.720 feed whatever insecurity is. It's it's it's feeding for whoever 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:04.199 is doing the knocking off. And then the fun part 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:06.559 is is like some women never recover, like some women 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:10.360 literally knows don't recover, and even if they do recover publicly, 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:13.360 there are still parts of them that are tied to that, 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:17.040 like intense criticism or the intense Like when I saw 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:19.800 that video of Daphni or whatever, I was like, this 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:22.480 is fucked up because I saw that fifty cent like 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:25.640 commented on it or said something about like his son 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:28.079 is going to eighth grade, Like this isn't acceptable. 0:11:28.320 --> 0:11:31.240 It's like, first of all, fifty cent beat her ass 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.240 like years ago beat her ass. So it's like the 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:39.080 fucking audacity of you to a promote this be like 0:11:39.720 --> 0:11:42.560 come at me publicly and then bring my child into 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:45.199 it when like this could have been anybody. Let's be real, But. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.760 I mean, is it really audacity. I mean, at this point, 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:48.760 it's not audacity. 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.360 This is what he This is normal because everybody allows it. 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:53.000 But you know, he doesn't even have to have audacity 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:55.760 about it. It's just is. But that's what It's so 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:58.880 disappointing that as a society doesn't see this and think 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:00.920 this is fucked up and they think, oh yeah, that 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:03.400 whole I'm like, literally, no one is really commenting on 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:08.280 p Diddy outside of his anatomy, but like not negatively 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.320 outside of that, which is a whole other We. 0:12:10.600 --> 0:12:12.880 Talked about this like months ago, where we talked about it, 0:12:12.880 --> 0:12:14.040 and he's gonna recover from this. 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:16.000 We're already seeing it happen. 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:19.080 We're already seeing how like things are getting spun to 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:23.280 the other side, the victim blaming and like even with 0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:24.040 someone like Daphni. 0:12:24.160 --> 0:12:25.880 Like, you know, I already know what the meant. 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:28.360 I don't even have to read the comments because I 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:30.360 recently saw a video of Daphni and she was like 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:34.480 in her apartment doing like sexy sexy videos in lingerie 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:36.960 and shit. So the timing of this couldn't even be 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:38.800 more worse because now niggas are gonna be like, see, 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:40.640 this is a whole ar she's you know, it's like 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:43.240 it's like damned if you do, damned if you don't. 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:46.960 But also they're also like obsessed with her and like 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:48.880 look at her and like, you know, put her. I 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:50.760 don't understand, like do you love the hose or do 0:12:50.800 --> 0:12:53.199 you hate them both? Because when you see the bitches 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:56.280 you like, sexy bitch do sex, then it's like, oh no, 0:12:56.480 --> 0:12:58.360 she's doing sex, even though I like a sexy bitch, 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.880 dub sexy bitches do sex. Yeah, I don't know. 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:07.880 I feel really bad for her actually, you know, because 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:09.360 at the end of the day, like, hey, she's a 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:10.600 human number one too. 0:13:10.720 --> 0:13:13.240 Yeah, she is a mother and her and her child 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:13.800 is at. 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.760 The age where like his peers can come up are 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:18.280 going to come up to him and make fun of 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.840 him like this impacts so much more than like you 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:24.079 liking and leaving a comment under the picture, like making 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.560 fun of a woman that's going through something like this, 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:28.160 because if the shoe was on the other foot and 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:29.880 it was you or your sister or your mother, like 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:30.760 you would feel differently. 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:32.880 I was thinking like if I had a this. 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:35.840 Was me, and like people were like just going to 0:13:35.920 --> 0:13:38.439 look at it just because just because like just out 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:40.520 of curiosity, maybe not even to talk shit. It just 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:44.480 is it just feels like a violation, and you know 0:13:44.600 --> 0:13:47.640 this was something that was done, like well what She 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:49.720 came out and made a statement basically and said that like, 0:13:49.880 --> 0:13:53.040 first of all, the video being recorded she didn't consent to. 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:57.920 And then I guess another company years ago had tried 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:00.360 with someone had tried to blackmail her with the video 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:02.880 they had. They tried to get money from her, She 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.560 wouldn't give it to them, She ended up giving They 0:14:04.640 --> 0:14:07.640 ended up selling it to a company. They reached out 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.040 to her for a comment and then realized it was 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.480 revenge porn and then they backed off of it and 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.160 so they didn't ever post it. And she was saying 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:17.400 how she was grateful that they they understood that this 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:20.480 was ethically wrong. And so now that this is coming 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:24.520 up again, how much emotion it's bringing up for her 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:29.440 because like she was she was basically not her like 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:33.400 on drugs during this time with Diddy, like didn't really 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:36.400 know what was going on. Doesn't recognize who this person 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:39.640 was at the time and whether or not she she 0:14:39.720 --> 0:14:42.840 was on drugs or not, like even if she was, 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.200 even if it was consented to, this was a private, 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.200 private moment between a fucking adult and. 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:52.640 Yeah, you know, so like we care what they did. 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.040 It's not your job to judge whether she's a sled 0:14:55.160 --> 0:14:56.960 or a whore or whatever. Like all y'all do weird 0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:57.760 shit behind clothes. 0:14:58.000 --> 0:15:00.800 Was plenty of people were doing freaky shit behind closed 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.960 doors or just happen to not be fucking ditty and 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:05.960 not be have a following. And maybe you're not doing 0:15:06.000 --> 0:15:07.360 it with you don't have enough money to do it 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:09.160 with the third party or whatever freaking shit there had 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:11.280 going on over there. But the fact that we are 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:15.440 openly chastising a woman for having sex with the managers 0:15:15.480 --> 0:15:17.520 dating at the time, and however way you fashion form 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:20.160 you're doing it, it's just so juvenile. It's like a 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:24.440 reading high school. Obviously we are Yeah, I mean it's 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:26.360 it's it's fucked up. 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:29.240 I don't know does this does this type of situation 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:32.200 ever make you feel like not filming, like worry about 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:33.800 the things that you filmed or if you if they 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:36.080 were leaked, would you just stand ten toes down in it? 0:15:37.800 --> 0:15:39.320 Because like it's one thing to be like, yeah, I 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.720 did it, I look good. Fuck, But when then like 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:46.160 the apps, like the attacks, and like I mean, I 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:48.680 would imagine it would be challenging. 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:52.880 Women who like I'm just even thinking about Corinne, you 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.480 know what I mean. Like there it's just like it's 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:58.720 like a scarlet letter. It never goes away. It's like 0:15:58.760 --> 0:16:00.560 you're going to be marked for the rest of your life. 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:02.560 And I see, like I see how that affects women, 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:04.680 Like how you have to show up with like so 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:08.080 much guard up and like on defense, and like how 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:10.160 you feel just like maybe walking into a room not 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.720 knowing who recognizes you and from where if there's whispering 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:15.960 about you, Like that's a level of fucking anxiety that 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.480 I can't even imagine. And like, I mean, I don't 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:20.160 feel like I'm famous enough for anybody to pop up 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:23.120 a video of me. I mean, I just that would be. 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:25.800 I mean it would have until this, until you did 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:27.880 something freaky and effort to go viral. It doesn't even 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:29.480 matter who you are, you just did some freak as 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:30.720 shit and now it's on the internet. 0:16:30.720 --> 0:16:32.760 Well I think I think that is where a lot 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:36.080 of my sympathy comes in. Like, I good, seeing I 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.000 didn't run into ditty when I was nineteen, I would 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:42.360 very well be like, okay, sure whatever. I can totally 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:46.160 see myself as a thirty and below woman on a 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:48.080 good Friday. I mean, like, did he invite us to 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:50.840 the party? Were going? Like, I can see how any 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:53.760 fucking young woman could get into this scenario. I've probably 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.200 been in, not in this exact form or fashion, in 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:57.640 a lot of different ways. And so I have a 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.760 lot of people and bitches, a lot of people have 0:16:59.840 --> 0:17:02.120 just somewhere shit when you're young and dumb and drunk 0:17:02.200 --> 0:17:03.960 and at a party or whatever the fuck, but it 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.520 doesn't get filmed. But so it's just like I have 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:09.160 I have sympathy for it because I know how easily 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:11.840 it is for a nigga and a good night and 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:15.159 like all types of things to go totally left. And 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:17.719 then now that one good night is now or whatever 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:21.040 night is now public for everyone to dissect. Fucking a 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:25.200 decade later, and let's talk. 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:28.199 About the time, because the times have changed since, like 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:32.159 recording videos in two thousand and seven versus recording a 0:17:32.240 --> 0:17:34.959 video in two thousand and fucking twenty six, you know, 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:38.920 like the speed in which things get discovered, the way 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:41.880 like just all of it, the way things share pop screwed, 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:45.800 deep fakes, I mean, weepm. We potentially could have deep 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:47.400 fakes on the internet. We might be on porn sites 0:17:47.480 --> 0:17:51.480 bitch okay with our faces. Yeah, that's it's very possible. 0:17:51.800 --> 0:17:53.640 So if I have a real whatever comes up, it's 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:55.960 gonna be like, that's a deep fake. I'm gonna be like, 0:17:56.040 --> 0:17:57.480 that's not even me. You guys are dumb. 0:17:57.520 --> 0:17:59.719 But like this, this makes me really think about like 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:02.680 how we talk about this type of stuff with our kids. 0:18:02.840 --> 0:18:05.920 I know, because I realized, like us having this conversation 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:10.040 with our kids is so much more serious than it 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:13.600 is than it was for us, because the likelihood of 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:17.760 us being in fucking four K is very low. But 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:20.960 with our kids it's like, I mean, even in what's 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:26.240 the show we were watching with Zosia Forever Forever, Yeah, 0:18:26.240 --> 0:18:29.520 when she has that like sex tape, Like it reminded me, like, 0:18:29.560 --> 0:18:31.360