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Speaker 1: I realized it didn't work out for me. And we
Speaker 1: are joined today by another duo podcast, Both Sides of
Speaker 1: the Bed a mere Ambassio. Welcome to the podcast. So excited.
Speaker 1: I actually met them when I was high on edibles
Speaker 1: and they're like, yeah, you know, Mage, right, where'd you
Speaker 1: guys meet up for green Park? Where about it in
Speaker 1: the summertime? Yeah, we were working though. What were doing
Speaker 1: we were interviewing. So in the beginning of all our episodes,
Speaker 1: we're going to speak to the people. We had the
Speaker 1: mic and everything we ran up for. People have it,
Speaker 1: some don't. Yeah, like, I watched one of this really
Speaker 1: really cute girl and I was really worded. I clicked
Speaker 1: on it because she was sexy and she was doing
Speaker 1: like word on the street ship, and I was like,
Speaker 1: you know when you're watching an interview and you're like,
Speaker 1: why didn't you ask this? Why don't you say that?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, Bro, if he's gonna go on the street,
Speaker 1: anybody could do this be the personality home asked me
Speaker 1: the ship about, Like, yeah, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: the things that are going to make people uncomfortable. But
Speaker 1: that's the ship I love, and I think actually that's why,
Speaker 1: um the dude that we had on I had been
Speaker 1: so drawn to his clips because I was like, I
Speaker 1: love finding out things about people. I don't know that
Speaker 1: it's so crazy, Like I don't really want to hear
Speaker 1: celebrities talk more than I want to hear about you
Speaker 1: fucking your cousin. What's what's the craziest thing that y'all
Speaker 1: have heard? Like interviewing people outside, have we heard crazy yet?
Speaker 1: I don't know about crazy, but maybe personal. Remember this
Speaker 1: one girl was talking about how she was trying to
Speaker 1: do anal but her butt was too small. So then
Speaker 1: so then we like first needed to tell her, like
Speaker 1: you should try you but plug and spread your asshole
Speaker 1: so the tick can go in easier way. So y'all
Speaker 1: educating people on the streets, I mean they have that's
Speaker 1: a key life lesson. Yeah, I think my ball too. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: try it but she didn't did it though? She just
Speaker 1: but I remember it was only the head and it
Speaker 1: was like super painful. So I think the muscle. I
Speaker 1: think some people just retract and it's like you can't relax. Oh,
Speaker 1: you gotta be relaxed as you gotta have. I was
Speaker 1: about to say, you gotta have a whole breathing exercise
Speaker 1: like you're about to have a baby, like you know,
Speaker 1: you literally you literally have to do a whole breathing exercise.
Speaker 1: So both sides of the bed. You guys are a couple,
Speaker 1: So tell us about what you guys talk about on
Speaker 1: your show. Um, and I know you have so many
Speaker 1: clips about freaky versus kinky and that not being the same.
Speaker 1: But you guys really educate too, So tell our audience
Speaker 1: about your show, right. So, I mean the premise of
Speaker 1: the show is centered around having conversations about sex that
Speaker 1: people are comfortable with or just not a not know
Speaker 1: that are available to them, you know. So it's really
Speaker 1: just opening up the doors for people to have sexual
Speaker 1: exploration and self exploration through the process of having said
Speaker 1: when you said open up, I thought you were going
Speaker 1: with something else, but okay, I guess opening opening up
Speaker 1: and y'all work together and y'all live in a relationship,
Speaker 1: so I need to know what the funk that is
Speaker 1: like because we've had other couples to that have pods.
Speaker 1: But I also know in talking to them after they've
Speaker 1: done it for some time, it becomes stressful, Like what
Speaker 1: if y'all get in an argument and gotta record the
Speaker 1: next day this happens? Should add what was it yesterday? Actually? Actually? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you guys about who is the most recent? UM? I
Speaker 1: think just trying to get on the same page with
Speaker 1: one another UM and just trying to operate on his program.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like, yeah, making well, how long have
Speaker 1: we been together happen? Do you feel like podcasting together
Speaker 1: like starting a business together was like smart? Like does
Speaker 1: its strengthen the relationship? You're like absolutely, yeah, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: It's an amazing aspect of our relationship that's new now.
Speaker 1: So it's like we really have a baby now through
Speaker 1: doing this together. But I think because we basically live together,
Speaker 1: but we have separate places. Once we reach that threshold
Speaker 1: where it's like, all right, we've been two weeks. Now
Speaker 1: it's time for you to take your ass home for
Speaker 1: a little bit, then that's when the argument is really start. Yeah,
Speaker 1: to go home. That's yeah, not not not not the
Speaker 1: It's not that, it's it's more so that we've just
Speaker 1: had our threshold of each other and just needing that
Speaker 1: space because we do work together. Um, we do spend
Speaker 1: a lot of time with each other. You know, we're partners,
Speaker 1: are best friends, so we're partners in work as well.
Speaker 1: I love it and a half years later though, you
Speaker 1: guys still have your own separate places. Like to me,
Speaker 1: that was something that I don't think I'll ever give
Speaker 1: up in dating. Like, I love that we could spend
Speaker 1: PHO days together and then you go on home. We
Speaker 1: have the favor a house, yeah, only because I have, Um,
Speaker 1: I lived my sister, so yeah, we can be allowed
Speaker 1: at his place. Well, because you guys are in a relationship,
Speaker 1: I wanted to start with some relationship questions. Um, like
Speaker 1: I said, so mad, I didn't bring my cards. But um,
Speaker 1: these questions do kind of stem from Love Unlocked, which
Speaker 1: is shout out to therapist Max Stanley, who is here
Speaker 1: on the pod. I wanted to know. Um, let me
Speaker 1: start with the woman because this is normally something. Is
Speaker 1: there a fear in telling your partner no to something?
Speaker 1: And if there is, what is it telling him no
Speaker 1: to something? I wouldn't say a fear, um, maybe like
Speaker 1: just a mild discomfort, just because I'm not sure of
Speaker 1: his reaction. Um. Also, we have a dom sub dynamic,
Speaker 1: so saying no isn't really Oh, you're not allowed to
Speaker 1: say no. It's it's not that I'm not allowed to
Speaker 1: say no. It's just it's it's I have to say
Speaker 1: it in a certain way. Yeah. Um, So with with
Speaker 1: our dynamic, it's um, yes, it's not. Yeah okay, would
Speaker 1: you like to help me explain this dynamic? Yes, we
Speaker 1: have a down sub dynamic. And I would say our style, Well,
Speaker 1: my style is more of a nurturing daddy dum, So
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not really about the extra strict protocols
Speaker 1: and all of that. That not that there's anything wrong
Speaker 1: with that, it's just not my style. I'm more chill,
Speaker 1: really you guys living it all day every day. And
Speaker 1: that's like where our challenges came about. Because when we
Speaker 1: got together, it's in the beginning of COVID, So we
Speaker 1: met a month right before COVID, and then we just
Speaker 1: shocked up like immediately after that. So we got to
Speaker 1: the thick of it real quick. So within developing that
Speaker 1: learning that this is something that we wanted to do,
Speaker 1: it was an interesting experience because we had just so
Speaker 1: much time to do it because it's nothing else. What
Speaker 1: kind of pet names go on in the daddy dumb
Speaker 1: dynamic for both of you, for us baby girl for sure,
Speaker 1: Princess daddy daddy. It's crazy because I've seen the transition
Speaker 1: because like we'll be around family and then I have
Speaker 1: to figure out how to turn off because it was
Speaker 1: it was just it was just on for the first
Speaker 1: year and a half. So now we started getting back
Speaker 1: out into the world, it's like we'll go out to
Speaker 1: brunch with my parents or whatever, and dadd star you
Speaker 1: in front of the parents. I do and that it's
Speaker 1: not like so we initially agreed that we'll I know,
Speaker 1: I'm just sucking math. We initially agree that we'd code
Speaker 1: switched because like why am I calling him daddy friend
Speaker 1: of dad? But I'm so used to it. And when
Speaker 1: he has a son, um and his son called him daddy,
Speaker 1: so we just both call him dady. His son doesn't
Speaker 1: think anything, so it's just that's just me. I'm not crazy,
Speaker 1: I asked. Daddy asked, Yeah. It's completely works in that,
Speaker 1: so I'm not necessarily having to quote switch all the time.
Speaker 1: So just in the midst of it, I'll just be like,
Speaker 1: Daddy can pass me to catch up. And his mom
Speaker 1: is right next to like the first time that we're
Speaker 1: saying the first time that it was on my birthday. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was on my birthday. I remember we're just eating.
Speaker 1: I'm looking at my place and she said past the
Speaker 1: catch huh, and I was looked Daddy, Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: very loud to it's very loud. And I looked at
Speaker 1: both of them. They're reserves people, is my honest belief
Speaker 1: that they heard, and they were like, let me just mon,
Speaker 1: were y'all texting under the table? No, but he said
Speaker 1: like like, oh, that's where we're going with it. Okay,
Speaker 1: but no, but now it's transitioned to a consistent sir.
Speaker 1: So in places where it's not appropriate for daddy. It's
Speaker 1: still consistent, sir. And it's funny that you say uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: It's funny because sir is less uncomfortable. I know when
Speaker 1: Monique went on to the breakfast club and she was
Speaker 1: calling her husband daddy and he's also her manager, that
Speaker 1: people felt away that she was calling her husband daddy,
Speaker 1: and I don't. I guess it mixed before because oh yeah,
Speaker 1: called her husband daddy publicly and a lot of people
Speaker 1: felt really weird that this powerful woman is somewhat submitting
Speaker 1: to a man because she is who the funk she is?
Speaker 1: Have you had this dynamic in a previous relationships? Really? So?
Speaker 1: Then who introduced it? That was actually my next question?
Speaker 1: Who introduced it? And how did the conversation happen? If
Speaker 1: I assume you introduced this since this is your first time,
Speaker 1: he definitely introduced it. The way he introduced it was
Speaker 1: so hilarious to me. I'm just getting my version. So
Speaker 1: we met on what was it the twenty second, January
Speaker 1: twenty two. Now only know this because it might maybe
Speaker 1: knowing my my sister's birthday is met they and on
Speaker 1: the twenty three, my sisters and I go to the
Speaker 1: spot we get highest fun. I'm talking. We uh, we smoked,
Speaker 1: we took edibles, we took some shrimps, and then this
Speaker 1: random lady comes up to us. We're like soaking in
Speaker 1: the top, asked naked, and she's like, I want to
Speaker 1: buy some stuff, and like my two sisters, she's like
Speaker 1: telling my two sisters wait, wait, wait, sorry, I don't
Speaker 1: know if I skipped something. You were at a spot
Speaker 1: and smoking. Yeah, you know, it's like the spot said,
Speaker 1: I thought you said that we were at this spot.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry at the spot and this lady just comes
Speaker 1: up to us and just offers some drugs. So we're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna take some drugs. So I'm so because trusting.
Speaker 1: We are really frusted because we're at the spot. It's
Speaker 1: like we get high and then sweat it out. So
Speaker 1: we kept taking more. So at the end of the night,
Speaker 1: we had this one cookie left, and my sisters are like,
Speaker 1: we like stop at the highway. It's my two older
Speaker 1: sisters and my three older sisters and myself and um,
Speaker 1: we're in two different cars. We like pull over and
Speaker 1: take another cookie, and I'm like, guys, I really don't
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea. It's like a really good piece,
Speaker 1: like we should be doing a small marks, like you're
Speaker 1: such a little bit. They stake it. Then we get
Speaker 1: to our house. We're in Jersey, drive to Queens. We
Speaker 1: get to your house. I'm high as fun. Then when
Speaker 1: we get outside, my one sister goes. My husband can't
Speaker 1: know we're high, so just pretend you're sober. Fuck man's
Speaker 1: pretender sober. So we get into the house and their
Speaker 1: idea of pertaining or sober is drink wine if he
Speaker 1: thinks we're drunk. So then I get drunk and ship.
Speaker 1: So I'm drunk and high to this day, I don't
Speaker 1: think I've been drunk and high at the same time
Speaker 1: like that. And this guy texts me like I really
Speaker 1: need to talk to you, and we had we had
Speaker 1: sex their first night. I don't think I'm so high.
Speaker 1: I'm like, should I got him pregnant? Like about to
Speaker 1: be your daddy? Like that's how high. I'm like freaking out.
Speaker 1: And I'm with my nephew who's also the name is Amir,
Speaker 1: and um, I was so high. I thought he was
Speaker 1: my my best friend. So I'm just like telling him
Speaker 1: about my sex competes. I'm just like oh my god. Yes,
Speaker 1: his diak is so big. I know you I'm talking
Speaker 1: about him. No, my niphew's name is Amir as well.
Speaker 1: No, no no, but at least you were talking about him. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I'm like laying my niphew's nap. He's like petting me.
Speaker 1: He's like, okay on see, just like trying to sober
Speaker 1: me up. And I'm texting him and I'm like and
Speaker 1: he just thinks I'm just like regular high and he's like,
Speaker 1: I'll just get you ver since you can't drive. So
Speaker 1: I go over there. I'm so terrified. I'm like, he's pregnant.
Speaker 1: I'm going to be because he said because like what
Speaker 1: else he urgently need to talk to me about right
Speaker 1: after we have sex, Like this is a day he
Speaker 1: could have been itching. I could I could go. I
Speaker 1: was so hot. I was so hot I couldn't even
Speaker 1: go there. You don't even think like you, I know
Speaker 1: how you thought he was probably urgently thinking this man
Speaker 1: was pregned by me. So I get there and he
Speaker 1: were like playing in bed and I'm just like looking
Speaker 1: at him like just shaking, like, oh my god, like
Speaker 1: what is he about to say? Because then at some
Speaker 1: point I'm just like, this man is not pregnant, so
Speaker 1: I just don't know what he's about to say. And
Speaker 1: he's just like I was wondering, if you know, open
Speaker 1: to this DS relationship. And I'm like, in two hours
Speaker 1: brought it to her, that queen that this is the
Speaker 1: whole part. This is me high. So this is this
Speaker 1: is how it happened. When I remember, I remember, okay,
Speaker 1: so was it four or forty hours prior we went
Speaker 1: on our first date. Um, so, prior to that, we
Speaker 1: didn't have a conversation. I don't even think I, let
Speaker 1: you knew it was something I was interested in. I
Speaker 1: don't think so. But prior to that, I only had
Speaker 1: experience topping one person before, So you know, I had play,
Speaker 1: I had the toys. You know. It was nice, fun
Speaker 1: introduction to dominating somebody. So it's like that kind of
Speaker 1: scratched a little issue. I was like, I want to
Speaker 1: do what this is about. But I didn't find anybody
Speaker 1: over the course of like maybe two years that I
Speaker 1: was really ready to try to try that again with.
Speaker 1: So we went on our first date and it was
Speaker 1: just an instant, energetic experience. It was like she went
Speaker 1: in to a very submissive space, and then I went
Speaker 1: into a dominant space and it just kind of worked,
Speaker 1: and then the light bulb went off, like maybe I
Speaker 1: can activate on this. And so we get back to
Speaker 1: my place and we, like you transformer, it was like
Speaker 1: it was like it was left that. I was like
Speaker 1: once that, once that button got pressed, I never went
Speaker 1: back to predominant me in that way. And you've been
Speaker 1: enjoying being a stuff as well, Yeah, because it came
Speaker 1: out of her. So we get back to the house
Speaker 1: and we started having sex and she's like, I just
Speaker 1: want you to own me. I'm getting we're getting it in,
Speaker 1: we're getting it, we get we're getting in heavy eye contacts,
Speaker 1: we're going in. I'm definitely controlling the situation. Five bitch,
Speaker 1: you was yelling, I want you to own So that's
Speaker 1: not it's devil dick to let you the first time
Speaker 1: you're saying during sex, but the first time, the first
Speaker 1: time you said it was and continues to be great.
Speaker 1: That's right to make a podcast with them, you know,
Speaker 1: I love that. Well, we're gonna talk more about relationship shit,
Speaker 1: but I wanted to get into our vanilla ship. If
Speaker 1: you guys are listening to this for the first time
Speaker 1: our Vanilla Ships segment is sex in the news. We
Speaker 1: have been away from the studio for quite some time,
Speaker 1: so you guys definitely saw this circulating the blogs. Our
Speaker 1: good friend who was on the pod Shan on her
Speaker 1: Lovers and Friends podcast, had someone by the name of
Speaker 1: watch Jazzy on and yet she talked about being super
Speaker 1: submissive in all those things. But I wanted to play
Speaker 1: a clip and I wanted to hear you, guys, is
Speaker 1: um response to it? I don't know, You're gonna play
Speaker 1: and then I'll tell you when to cut it off.
Speaker 1: This is regarding UM doing something with your partner that
Speaker 1: you may or may not enjoy it. But this was
Speaker 1: her answer to it. Anything goes for sure if you're
Speaker 1: comfortable with the person. Because I'm doing sh it I
Speaker 1: never did before. I'm just like, I would have never
Speaker 1: done this, but you know what, I'm comfortable with this person,
Speaker 1: and I feel safe to have an example. Are like
Speaker 1: you have an example? Yeah that do you do it
Speaker 1: for you or do you do it for them? I
Speaker 1: do it for him because for me, I'm not at
Speaker 1: a place where I like it. Yet I had we
Speaker 1: had one successful time where I was like okay, you
Speaker 1: know my butt creamed. It was like, oh, ship, like
Speaker 1: it was like creaming. I don't know what that was,
Speaker 1: but it was like it was weird. Yeah, I don't
Speaker 1: know the science of that, in particular, because your butt
Speaker 1: doesn't lubricate in that way it would you could shoot it.
Speaker 1: It was clear. Yeah, yeah, that's fast. She This is
Speaker 1: also a two minute clips, so I didn't want to
Speaker 1: play at all, but she pretty much says, I don't
Speaker 1: enjoy anal sex because it hurts. It's not something that
Speaker 1: I do, but I do it because he wants to
Speaker 1: do it. And luckily you guys are in the sense
Speaker 1: to where you guys agree. But that was one of
Speaker 1: my things with my ex. As much as I enjoy pegging,
Speaker 1: he was not going to do it, and I didn't.
Speaker 1: I didn't truly want to do anything that I knew
Speaker 1: he didn't like, And so I wanted to know with
Speaker 1: you guys, if there is anything that maybe you enjoy
Speaker 1: that you don't or vice versa, and how you guys
Speaker 1: go about that conversation and do you think it's healthy
Speaker 1: that she says she's doing something sexually with her partner
Speaker 1: that she doesn't enjoy and that's painful for her. HM, well,
Speaker 1: I think it's beautiful to have that mindset, to be
Speaker 1: open enough to push yourself for your partner, and I
Speaker 1: understand that. I saw some other clips from Jazzy and
Speaker 1: it was it was I don't know if she would
Speaker 1: call herself an actual sub. She definitely given the stuffy,
Speaker 1: heavy sub, so I understand what that mindset like. That's
Speaker 1: true submission, pushing yourself past your comfort zone for the
Speaker 1: sake of pleasing your partners. I also wouldn't compare this
Speaker 1: to like doing something you don't like, like one, it
Speaker 1: doesn't sound forceful like at first even hearing you say it,
Speaker 1: and even like reading the thing like the headline. That
Speaker 1: was totally different to me. That was more like I'm
Speaker 1: not like I don't love eating pussy, but I do
Speaker 1: it for you. Like she's like, I'm not the point
Speaker 1: where I like it yet because it's still probably uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: She's still like getting loose, getting loos learning how to
Speaker 1: do it like that didn't give what I thought, but
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's people in the comments trashing her because
Speaker 1: I want to I want to ask you then as
Speaker 1: a sub and being submissed because I ain't go hold you.
Speaker 1: I ain't doing it. I don't want to do I
Speaker 1: know I am more of the doesn't want to She
Speaker 1: literally said it's painful and it's not something she's ever done,
Speaker 1: and she doesn't she's never done. Doesn't sound she doesn't
Speaker 1: want to know. It sounds like she It sounds like
Speaker 1: she does it for him. She wants to serve you,
Speaker 1: she wants to see him, she doesn't want to do
Speaker 1: anal sex that like, there's a difference there, and I
Speaker 1: want to ask you then as a sub like the
Speaker 1: difference in wanting to please him by doing whatever he
Speaker 1: asked and in the same time doing something that you
Speaker 1: genuinely don't like or that may be painful for you,
Speaker 1: or that you may not ask forever because it's not
Speaker 1: something you want. As far as like something that just
Speaker 1: makes me uncomfortable. He's not the type to just push
Speaker 1: me past my limit. Um, but even in if a
Speaker 1: circumstance came up, I would I would push that limit
Speaker 1: with him. Is that something that he really desired and
Speaker 1: that's something that could bring us closer and bring pleasure.
Speaker 1: Giving him pleasure gives me pleasure, And in that submission,
Speaker 1: it's a part of it. It's a part of that
Speaker 1: sacrifice and a part of that. That's what I heard.
Speaker 1: I didn't hear anything about her. I really didn't take
Speaker 1: that out the clip. I don't want to play the whole.
Speaker 1: It just wasn't given. Like one, uncomfortable is a big
Speaker 1: word to use. Someone's making you uncomfortable, and like that's
Speaker 1: different from yeah, I don't know. I believe that she
Speaker 1: wants to do it, Like I feel like the only
Speaker 1: reason I had anal sex and granted I wanted it
Speaker 1: to work, it didn't necessarily work. I got enough in
Speaker 1: but he was probably the only partner I ever had
Speaker 1: that really wanted it and I did it and yet
Speaker 1: it hurt, but also like he was so turned on
Speaker 1: and I knew it was gonna take me time. I
Speaker 1: feel the same way, Like it wasn't like a complete
Speaker 1: write off, you know what I mean. I think that
Speaker 1: we do confuse sometimes, and I think that's what's scary
Speaker 1: about a clip like this is because people can misconstrue
Speaker 1: like she's doing things she doesn't want to do for
Speaker 1: him and put all that pressure on her where it's
Speaker 1: just like, girl, I ain't sucking, ask you. I love
Speaker 1: this Nigga, let me warm up to it right now.
Speaker 1: It kind of hurts a little bit. That's kind of
Speaker 1: actually how I took that. But also there's a lot
Speaker 1: of context with her last subclip too, to where you
Speaker 1: can see that it probably turns her on to do
Speaker 1: things like that for Niga. Yeah, I think also as
Speaker 1: it just as a sub it's it's a it's very
Speaker 1: pleasing and very validating in a way to just please
Speaker 1: your man, to please your dumb in that way, and
Speaker 1: to just give all of yourself to them because it's
Speaker 1: it's it's also about trust, just being in a space
Speaker 1: where you just fully trust this person and trust that
Speaker 1: if you're at your limit that you can say it
Speaker 1: like I tried. I want this for you, I want
Speaker 1: this for us, and I'm at my limit right now
Speaker 1: and just trusting that he will honor that. So being
Speaker 1: in that space, I'm in that space with him, so
Speaker 1: kind of just anything goes and we'll try it at
Speaker 1: least once, and then who gotta like it to do
Speaker 1: it again. As long as he like it, it goes again.
Speaker 1: I think in the way we can learn to communicate,
Speaker 1: I always want to make sure it's a way that
Speaker 1: she enjoy it. So if I feel like she just
Speaker 1: doesn't enjoy it, I'm not going to truly Okay, you
Speaker 1: need to work out the kinks until both right, But
Speaker 1: let's get into our quarder. I am going to ask
Speaker 1: each of you to give a sex a sex tip.
Speaker 1: So whether you do it from the dumb perspective, you
Speaker 1: do it from the sub perspective, or just something sexual
Speaker 1: that y'all have done that y'all think other people would
Speaker 1: enjoy too. Go ahead. We will start with the lady
Speaker 1: you don't mine, but see here, go ahead and give
Speaker 1: us a sex tip. A sex tip. Um, I'm blanking,
Speaker 1: Oh my god. When we pass into your daddy, okay,
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Speaker 1: most amazing vanilla missionary sex show the fun. So we
Speaker 1: had a debate last week where we talked about where
Speaker 1: we all the mike. When we talked about that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I was like, sometimes I'll show up with CB
Speaker 1: in the beginning, and then I grab, do you always
Speaker 1: show up a plus but bestick you'll ever have? I
Speaker 1: guess you do because you always own it always. It's like,
Speaker 1: it's like, has that ever been an issue for you
Speaker 1: when you like fun the ship out of women on
Speaker 1: the first night and then they'd be going crazy. I've
Speaker 1: even like, damn, my fuck too good? Yeah, because because
Speaker 1: there's been times like I'll go out on a day
Speaker 1: and instantly know like I'm not really feeling her, but
Speaker 1: then I'm like, I probably still fuck though, and it's like,
Speaker 1: why am I even doing that? And then bringing that
Speaker 1: mindset and I'm gonna lay it down. I don't even
Speaker 1: like you. Why am I even getting I gotta ask
Speaker 1: guys bring people into the bedroom with y'all. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: I have a question for you, Matt, because it can
Speaker 1: show up the best. This was not an issue but
Speaker 1: a conversation I had multiple times with my ex. I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: everybody get this type of dick that you give me?
Speaker 1: Like I actually was mad that he was showing up
Speaker 1: so good at giving dick to everyone that joined us
Speaker 1: in the best. But they were your friends, they got
Speaker 1: not like that. It's no, because if you're talking my homegirl,
Speaker 1: you need know you you sucking told you you're doing
Speaker 1: everything that you do that to me. No, they all
Speaker 1: shouldn't be getting massages in the morning, or their toes
Speaker 1: sucked or they're asked a He was that way even
Speaker 1: at the sex club. So no, it's not even just
Speaker 1: my friends. It's anyone that got brought into the room.
Speaker 1: Showed the funk up. So he said he's going to
Speaker 1: show up. How he shows up? Does that make you
Speaker 1: feel any way, like nothing is left for you? It
Speaker 1: makes me feel very turned on. Okay, I think, uh,
Speaker 1: he has some great dick. I think I'd love to
Speaker 1: share it with whoever is worthy. And um, we both
Speaker 1: show up fully. One of my favorite things when we
Speaker 1: let someone else into relation our our bedroom is um
Speaker 1: just kind of like catering to the experience, like grabbing
Speaker 1: some lube, you know, putting a finger where needed, whatever
Speaker 1: whatever to enhance the experience. Because we're all about experience.
Speaker 1: It's not just like let's just funk. It's like, let's
Speaker 1: an experience with someone else. Is your relationship open separately
Speaker 1: or you'd only have sex with other pe to together.
Speaker 1: It started out together with whoever we chose to be with.
Speaker 1: And I think that's the main thing that we loved
Speaker 1: about being able to do it together because it's like,
Speaker 1: this is my homie and it's also my partner, and
Speaker 1: so I can have that homie vibe with her and
Speaker 1: still do it. But now it's like we've involved to
Speaker 1: where we enjoy more intimate connections with our partners. So
Speaker 1: once we established okay, we were working with this person,
Speaker 1: then we have our own solo encounters with them as well.
Speaker 1: So you gotta suck them together first most of the time. Yeah. Interesting, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I like that. Yeah, because I'm by So it works
Speaker 1: out for me because I get to have the same
Speaker 1: experiences with women and women get more new pussy. So
Speaker 1: it's a one win situation. That's where people people couldn't understand,
Speaker 1: like that was a part of my relationship that I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, yeah, I want to keep doing this.
Speaker 1: Like with sex clubs, I would be like, you want
Speaker 1: to go tonight, But it was because I had the
Speaker 1: urge to be with women, and I got to be
Speaker 1: with a lot of women. Can I As we talk
Speaker 1: about the sex clubs so much on this podcast, taking
Speaker 1: the sex club out of it, where do you meet someone.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people ask us that
Speaker 1: and if they don't have access to a sex club
Speaker 1: or whatever, like where have your encounters happened? We'll get
Speaker 1: busy on the apps. That's how we met the apps,
Speaker 1: which we met on okay Cupid and we've met. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have an episode coming up with them on my
Speaker 1: TV show where I met a girl on okay Cupid
Speaker 1: and I had no idea, but in Sharona's guided me
Speaker 1: through it, we meet the girl together. We like go
Speaker 1: on the State. But basically there's like sixty categories of orientation. Okay,
Speaker 1: keep it more than any other app where it's like
Speaker 1: you can do buy like kind of polly like this
Speaker 1: this that. Do you guys swap it in that way? Now?
Speaker 1: Did you do you like fill it out in a
Speaker 1: certain way. We're not. We're not. We're not, okay, keep
Speaker 1: it now because we realized it just doesn't work for
Speaker 1: what we're looking for. It's like Life and Field has
Speaker 1: all of those categories too. We honestly haven't been on
Speaker 1: there since we've met, so maybe they maybe they're trying
Speaker 1: to get loose and you don't tup ship. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: met on there, then what the funk? I thought, Okay,
Speaker 1: like that surprises me. Why that app because you hear
Speaker 1: about Tender Bumble feel I get no love when Tender
Speaker 1: I've never got I never like whatever reason. Never. I
Speaker 1: think I made an account and it completely just never
Speaker 1: went on. And so my friend was like, I saw
Speaker 1: you on Tender. I was like a lot of people
Speaker 1: on Bumble and on Riot. Yeah I liked Bumble. I
Speaker 1: kicked off a Bumble for being myself. Someone thought it
Speaker 1: was a big page even when I thought it was
Speaker 1: first time. Like all right, I said in my profile,
Speaker 1: and they come to me for the first time. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: it's not they They're laziest. Hell, they'll just say hi.
Speaker 1: And I still got to do all this ship. I
Speaker 1: don't like that would be lazy. I ain't gonna hold
Speaker 1: you ill still I'm singling out. Y'all gotta teach me.
Speaker 1: Please hopping my DM and tell me what works. I
Speaker 1: still just in the GYP shooting my shop for the eyes.
Speaker 1: I don't on Instagram. I don't do that. Oh I
Speaker 1: need to see multiple pictures. I need to see mutual friends.
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not on no apps right now at all.
Speaker 1: Before it might have been bigge Or forever ago, but
Speaker 1: also Field, but they don't pay me no more. I
Speaker 1: was on there because I was getting paid to be
Speaker 1: on there. I'm not there. Yeah, okay, yeah, which is
Speaker 1: still up. But I don't. I don't, I don't. I
Speaker 1: personally don't like meeting people on outs. Last week I
Speaker 1: talked about how I became a unicorn. I met them
Speaker 1: in person, and my friends laugh because they know my
Speaker 1: go to trick. It's sending drinks. I love buying people
Speaker 1: drinks because people don't buy drinks for you anymore, like
Speaker 1: men do not buy drinks for women anymore. I know
Speaker 1: they're expensive in New York. Really drinks nigga niggas don't.
Speaker 1: They'll come up and talk to you, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: Men aren't buying you drinks. I have been going out
Speaker 1: often with my friends for what it used to be,
Speaker 1: maybe because niggas don't want to do it in a group.
Speaker 1: When I was with my friends, No, even in my
Speaker 1: twenty way, is it just two of you nigga's. It'll
Speaker 1: be me and maybe one of those men. Where I
Speaker 1: go out by myself, No, they'll come up and try
Speaker 1: to have a whole ass conversation with me. I don't
Speaker 1: drink so you so you can hear, I'm I'm drink
Speaker 1: ice at this point, like waiting for nigga's ain't offering
Speaker 1: to buy drinks, so I love. That's how I approached women,
Speaker 1: like would you like a drink? Mind you fans buy
Speaker 1: drinks all this wait, Okay, I have asked it. I
Speaker 1: think this is a actual fair point. Do men not
Speaker 1: buy you drinks at like networking? No bitch bars, niggas
Speaker 1: ain't barns the industry. Ship that's open bar. You ain't
Speaker 1: gotta buy me a drink that ship know. When I'm
Speaker 1: out in regular places, I like the bar hop I'd
Speaker 1: be out in West Village, East Village, regular places. Nigga's
Speaker 1: want to come up and hold whole lass conversations with
Speaker 1: me and not offer me a fucking train. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: because I'm in nightlife, but I've always done the buying drinks.
Speaker 1: I haven't. I didn't bought you a drink when we
Speaker 1: were in Lads drink but like niggas. But niggas, they
Speaker 1: have approached me and we talked about it, even going
Speaker 1: out in Atlanta, going out of multiple cities. This is
Speaker 1: a multiple city things, not even multiple cities. Niggas will
Speaker 1: come up maybe I don't know to where, and I'm nasty,
Speaker 1: so you want my number, but you ain't gonna buy
Speaker 1: me a drink. But I'm good, like that's some new
Speaker 1: new ship. Which is why as a woman, when I'm
Speaker 1: trying to holler at another girl, I'll buy I'll buy
Speaker 1: the woman drinks. I'll send a drink across the bar.
Speaker 1: Like fellas bro I don't have a homeboy in my
Speaker 1: life that I don't go out with that doesn't set
Speaker 1: drinks to other like they are constantly do. I've literally
Speaker 1: just experienced that a week. So I'm selling niggas will
Speaker 1: sit here and have whole conversations with me or whole
Speaker 1: conversations of mine, but I'm would be really just has
Speaker 1: been conven friends. It's like, and I'm not calling them broke,
Speaker 1: but like a lot of my friends have jobs where
Speaker 1: they may not be making six figures, yet you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, they still they still on my brokens
Speaker 1: of broke days. Like you ever see Half Baked in
Speaker 1: Dave Chapelle on the date and his little money was
Speaker 1: dwindling down even on my brokens of broke days. I calculate,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm thirt three. I wonder if like this
Speaker 1: is like you know, it's a new thing. It got
Speaker 1: to be. But also just niggers ain't moving the same.
Speaker 1: They ain't got to let me, let me tell you
Speaker 1: how bad it is. And I'm bringing this up because
Speaker 1: it's not just my experience, it's all my friends. I
Speaker 1: was just talking to Tam was one of my home girls.
Speaker 1: Her friend owns a bar, so they were talking about
Speaker 1: how this guy comes in who knows the owner. We'll
Speaker 1: sit at the bar. His drinks are free because he
Speaker 1: knows the owner, and he'll tell the girls that he's
Speaker 1: with just leave them the tip. Bro, you're getting free
Speaker 1: drinks and telling the girls you're with to just leave us.
Speaker 1: She's the bartender I was out with, that's where it is.
Speaker 1: And she's like, bro, they he brings all these women
Speaker 1: in and tells them to tip. And she was complaining
Speaker 1: because so many times the women are they're getting free
Speaker 1: drinks and they don't tip. You want to hear they don't.
Speaker 1: I've ever heard I'm in a fucking uh what was I? Oh?
Speaker 1: I'm in an uber in l A had no idea
Speaker 1: that uberpool was back share. Yeah it is. I'm fucking smacked. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it's like two thirty almost three, and
Speaker 1: now I'm going to fucking Habibi, which is some hookahspot.
Speaker 1: I don't even like Kuka, but I was just in
Speaker 1: a mood. So I'm on my way there and I
Speaker 1: wondered why the uber driver made me meet him across
Speaker 1: the street, but that's how uberpool works, so I don't
Speaker 1: know what I clicked. But anyway, long story short, there's
Speaker 1: someone else in the car. I said, oh, ship, my
Speaker 1: bad and he was like are you I said yeah,
Speaker 1: He's like, this is your ride? I said who. So
Speaker 1: it was a dude in the car. And the dude
Speaker 1: was actually really young and really funny. He was like
Speaker 1: getting a car on my broke boy ship, you are too,
Speaker 1: So I was like all right. So then we start
Speaker 1: getting into it to uber share whatever. And I was
Speaker 1: in West Hollywood if anyone knows who bebes, like really
Speaker 1: farst maybe minute drive. He was going to the same place,
Speaker 1: so I was like, um oh, I was like, what
Speaker 1: do you do that. We started talking and he was like, yo,
Speaker 1: I'm like coming off my homeway, like my homeboy started
Speaker 1: rapping and ships like wherever this nigga go, I'm that
Speaker 1: because he got the bitches, and I'll just be taking
Speaker 1: left over. And I was like, damn, he's admitting to
Speaker 1: the very young though, like maybe maybe not even twenty one.
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, damn legal, But how are
Speaker 1: you gonna be getting money? He said, well, right now,
Speaker 1: all of my friends like working nights, night life. He
Speaker 1: was like, one of my friends even work in the movies.
Speaker 1: So I'd just been saying like, oh, you know, get
Speaker 1: you a ticket for half so I have a girl
Speaker 1: send me money on the date. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: They think they're splitting the day. Really I'm coming up
Speaker 1: because I ain't paying for the ship, see what I mean.
Speaker 1: But the same saying crazy when I said nick A
Speaker 1: buying drinking, no kid, because the humble sexuals he grown.
Speaker 1: He's not a kid. But let's not call twenty year
Speaker 1: old kids. We're not gonna do that because then everyone's
Speaker 1: at the files. They are not kids, They're fucking adults.
Speaker 1: Are they at dults enough to understand how to Like
Speaker 1: we were, we were dope enough to have fake I
Speaker 1: das and getting drinks. The sixteen so I know by
Speaker 1: twenty you know what the funk you're doing. Even that,
Speaker 1: we knew we had to get the bottle, get there
Speaker 1: before the fun they started charging. So we got our armor.
Speaker 1: Aut of hours along island. I teens to be lit
Speaker 1: by the time they. Let me tell you how I
Speaker 1: noticed who as a kid. We get to the club,
Speaker 1: were getting and I'm also get a drink, and I
Speaker 1: felt so bad. You want to drink. Yeah, I'll take one.
Speaker 1: I'll take one, but my homeboy's about to get a bottle. Anyway,
Speaker 1: Someone get your drink back, That's what he said, and
Speaker 1: sure enough he'd damn sure did his friend's bottle. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Thirty minutes later, he came right up to me. The
Speaker 1: cost of me goes, He said, you are red bar blanck. Wow,
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever I don't think somebody's ever
Speaker 1: bought bought me a drink. See, and you just said
Speaker 1: I've never bought her a drink? Sent you k Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've never that's never happened exactly. It's a real thing
Speaker 1: that I experienced ten years ago, but now going out,
Speaker 1: it's not a thing. No, niggas just want to talk.
Speaker 1: Niggas want to targe with you lesbian, so bitch of
Speaker 1: a sin and drinks but not oh dude, but I'm
Speaker 1: saying she could still have dudes. Oh sorry, I thought
Speaker 1: you was a lesbian by ratio happens again, you know what,
Speaker 1: And that's how people do man. You buy so you're game.
Speaker 1: I'll be now they wanted three. No nigga's be chatting
Speaker 1: and so I'm drinking air. Nigga, you're talking too much.
Speaker 1: Drink it. Whenever I go, I will say this, the
Speaker 1: place is also where so sometimes smaller bars, not all
Speaker 1: the time, even like a last lap, not all the time,
Speaker 1: because it feels so friendly and communal. But when I
Speaker 1: go to like a club like New York club, like
Speaker 1: a PhD Little Sisters, whatever club I go to, dude,
Speaker 1: send me drinks at clubs, buy me drinks a club
Speaker 1: like clubbing for some reason, maybe because it's too loud
Speaker 1: to talk. And I'll be honest with you can't tell
Speaker 1: y'all the last time a bitch been in the club.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't club. I'll do bars, I'll do restaurants,
Speaker 1: but no, clubs are terrible. I can't do a club. Also, like,
Speaker 1: is it the age that we're falling in. We're like
Speaker 1: sitting down and listening to me like I can. Letting
Speaker 1: down and listening to music is like why are we here? Also,
Speaker 1: I don't like the weird hierarchy of clubs necessarily, Like, okay,
Speaker 1: so I've been I spent a lot of time in
Speaker 1: l A, and I don't go to a Poppy or
Speaker 1: Delilah or Hide or any of those places, or even
Speaker 1: highlight room I don't really funk with because there's not
Speaker 1: a dance floor, and it then forces you to go
Speaker 1: to a table, and then once you get to that table,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to stand just with the twenty people that
Speaker 1: are there, because everybody wants to be at a table. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's dumb. It's a weird ass fucking vibe. So
Speaker 1: of course I know people at these clubs, so I
Speaker 1: will literally go get a drink hill and be like
Speaker 1: all right, y'all, and then I just go dance in
Speaker 1: the aisle because there's no real dance floor. And then
Speaker 1: everybody even thinks that I'm a fucking weirdo because I'm
Speaker 1: not at a table. So the niggas will be like, yo,
Speaker 1: do you want to come and sit here? And I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm actually having a good time. Like it's just weird.
Speaker 1: It's supposed to being at a bar where it doesn't
Speaker 1: feel like that, and I think it just is a
Speaker 1: uncomfortable like, I don't know, Bring clubs back, bro bring
Speaker 1: binding drinks back, niggas. If you listening and you got
Speaker 1: a motherfucking penis and you out here single trying to
Speaker 1: motherfucking find somebody, buy a woman a drink, and if
Speaker 1: you're talking to her and you see her drink is
Speaker 1: half done, please be like, well, what are you drinking?
Speaker 1: Let me get you want another one. It's so simple,
Speaker 1: and yes it may not, but and to be fair,
Speaker 1: that's the problem too. I think a lot of people
Speaker 1: just expect that, Oh, if I bought this bitch of
Speaker 1: drink sheet with me all night. No, it may or
Speaker 1: may not go anywhere, but nigga, fourteen dollars, it could
Speaker 1: take you way further if you just sucking. I mean,
Speaker 1: if you're in the South and it appears about but
Speaker 1: if you in the South and drinks better be six
Speaker 1: seth nate, they're in happy hour and if you want
Speaker 1: a PBR. But that's what I'm Camles was nine dollars.
Speaker 1: Speaking of drinks costs and sending drinks with one of
Speaker 1: my friends, we were watching the God damn it, what
Speaker 1: was going on? Where the was it the last finals game?
Speaker 1: What's happening? Was that? Not the was the Celtics? Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that was it. I knew I wasn't stupid, but I am.
Speaker 1: So we're sitting down, you d it's like a Celtic today,
Speaker 1: but the right a place and Silver Lake and it's
Speaker 1: it's like a williamsburg E vibe for anybody that's listening.
Speaker 1: So we're there, there's girls, there's a nice bar, but
Speaker 1: any of the nicest of the nice. And he was like,
Speaker 1: I gotta send these girls drinks. They find a ship,
Speaker 1: so he tells the bartender to get them whatever they
Speaker 1: want or whatever they're drinking. Do you know these bitches drink?
Speaker 1: And he spent a hundred and ten dollars on their
Speaker 1: drinks and he was like, I sweart to know it
Speaker 1: was freaking out, something like, dog, I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1: That's a that's a drink to fucking order when someone's
Speaker 1: buying you a drink. Do you bet you they ordered
Speaker 1: that ship? Because he said he was bro so then
Speaker 1: I'm looking at the glasses they have before, like that's
Speaker 1: giving saying Grea and you bet just had ninety for
Speaker 1: you two girl. Do you know they came by right
Speaker 1: at the end of the game talking about thanks so much.
Speaker 1: It was a nice to meet y'all. You better takes
Speaker 1: after that pussy. I can't believe it. I mean, but
Speaker 1: technically each pussy was only forty dollars. You're not getting
Speaker 1: my pussy a forty dollars, I mean, because it was
Speaker 1: forty plus text. That's probably how we got you know why,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: could do that. That's a risky run though, you know,
Speaker 1: but you game, you know you don't want You don't
Speaker 1: want no pussy if you're not spending nothing on no drinks,
Speaker 1: you don't want a team. You said ninety and don't
Speaker 1: you know we had to hear about it all night,
Speaker 1: getting your motherfucking competitive bag. You want to be put
Speaker 1: into the game. We are the coach and you're asking
Speaker 1: us to put you into the game. So buy some
Speaker 1: motherfucking drinks. Let's get into our horrible decision for this
Speaker 1: one with a couple I wanted to talk about accepting
Speaker 1: change and growth with your partner. There's toxic takes I've
Speaker 1: seen on the internet regarding this, and um, I do
Speaker 1: want to bring up this article from newsweek dot com.
Speaker 1: There's like three different scenarios here and I want y'all input. Wheezy,
Speaker 1: please share yours too. This is on relationships, and there's
Speaker 1: fury on the internet over this. A not so happily
Speaker 1: married woman has sparked a online after revealing that she
Speaker 1: is refusing to have sex with her husband while he
Speaker 1: has a beard. Compromise maybe the key to a happy marriage,
Speaker 1: but in this instance, neither side is willing to concede
Speaker 1: any ground and what is essentially a disagreement over facial
Speaker 1: here as the disc as the disgruntled wife in this
Speaker 1: tale of woe puts, he likes his beard. I hate
Speaker 1: it her avergence of facial hair him when it comes
Speaker 1: to women and beards. Um, but pretty much she is
Speaker 1: not attractive to him with this beard. He's grown it.
Speaker 1: You know, men be growing mind back. But okay, cool.
Speaker 1: We've all experienced this in changes that happened with your
Speaker 1: partner on a physical level like this one. What is
Speaker 1: the conversation when you don't like something because I know
Speaker 1: this was a thing with my hair. My partner felt
Speaker 1: the way that I never came to him and discussed
Speaker 1: the color I was going before coming. I was just
Speaker 1: showing up with I mean the blond this He liked
Speaker 1: the blind when it was colorful. It was just a
Speaker 1: lot of attention. I looked, you know, I don't know,
Speaker 1: maybe different with hot pink hair. I guess how is
Speaker 1: your hair? When he met you, it was just regular black.
Speaker 1: I had just chopped my hair off. Actually, when he
Speaker 1: met me, I want to say I had a lace
Speaker 1: weight on, so he may be thought I had some
Speaker 1: long hair because then I got dreads. So he's literally
Speaker 1: been with me on every phase of my hair, Like
Speaker 1: I had dreadlocks. At one point when we did Miami,
Speaker 1: I had long braids. You think, no, I just stay bald.
Speaker 1: You just stay how many years uh since? Wow? So
Speaker 1: what is the conversation of, say he cuts his hair off,
Speaker 1: his beard, his beard off, you vocalize it. Hey, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so funny. I saw about it all the time
Speaker 1: where I'm like, that's the ones like you can cheat
Speaker 1: on He was like, you can cheat on me, and like,
Speaker 1: tell me, got somebody pregnant? And I'd forgive you faster
Speaker 1: than if you just showed up without your beard. But yo, luckily,
Speaker 1: because here's the true thing about beards. Beards can be
Speaker 1: like I've seen dudes that are not that cute and
Speaker 1: they'll have something else like oh he's got dress, or
Speaker 1: he's tall, or he's got a body, Luckily or hue.
Speaker 1: Imagine if it was one of m nigga isn't cut
Speaker 1: their beard off? I like facial hair, bro change the
Speaker 1: whole nigga. It looks at James Harden, don't just don't
Speaker 1: want even covers his mouth. That's what his money covers
Speaker 1: everything else. I hate when people, by the way, says
Speaker 1: ship like, how can she fuck him? Hello, he's worth
Speaker 1: here's my asshole, he's fucking rich. Um okay, so how
Speaker 1: do you feel that? Let's get into because this this
Speaker 1: husband in particular, is being withheld of sex until I
Speaker 1: guess his beard gets cut. How do you respond to
Speaker 1: somebody and then I'm going to switch it to women
Speaker 1: after how do you respond with that beard take? I
Speaker 1: mean that definitely won't fly. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: If if if it was yeah, oh if you cut
Speaker 1: your beard, I'm not going to have sex with you,
Speaker 1: I would feel offended. Son, I just texted my girl,
Speaker 1: would you rather I cheat on you or share my beard?
Speaker 1: She said, defined cheat you? And that fellas not only
Speaker 1: do we need you all to buy drinks, we need
Speaker 1: you to keep your bed right now? Okay, wait, look,
Speaker 1: and I don't want this to trigger anybody, but like, seriously,
Speaker 1: you're slim. She gained a bunch of weight. Would you
Speaker 1: feel that way? Because I feel like when men are
Speaker 1: with women with this body type, even modelisque body right
Speaker 1: your neck or high everything. It's like, would it fuck
Speaker 1: you up if she gained weight? It's funny I recently
Speaker 1: like I've been like escalating with weight um and recently
Speaker 1: just lo I recently just lost some weight. So like
Speaker 1: he he likes me thicker, but if we have a
Speaker 1: we have a lot of room for thicker is different.
Speaker 1: It's sighs. Probably it's probably like my booms get really big.
Speaker 1: I think I hide them. Well, hey, somebody complaining about
Speaker 1: no bus. He's not complaining. I like mine. I like
Speaker 1: my book smaller. I just put my clothes better and
Speaker 1: just it's less heavy on my back. He wants them
Speaker 1: like juicy and big like that was that was an argument.
Speaker 1: It was a back and forth. It's her body type
Speaker 1: of your type. Absolutely, I got a lot of types,
Speaker 1: but this is this is this is, this is the one.
Speaker 1: But we have a lot of room for flexibility. So
Speaker 1: if she gained thirty right, right, I mean, I'm not
Speaker 1: like that's the that's that's the truth, and that's the conversation.
Speaker 1: We see a lot online, right, Like we've seen so
Speaker 1: many couples literally say openly like, well, when I got you,
Speaker 1: you were one fifty, now you two fifty. That's too much.
Speaker 1: And it works for both sexes, like men gain and
Speaker 1: lose weight us as well, and you lose some times
Speaker 1: the tractability to your partner. I could say that he
Speaker 1: did he tell you that conversation. No, you don't think
Speaker 1: he liked it. I know he didn't like it because
Speaker 1: we just started working out, like crazyn, get me up
Speaker 1: in the morning, come on back, let's go run, let's
Speaker 1: go run. We're going to beat did that we were
Speaker 1: living in Mexico was a taco okay, and it was
Speaker 1: quarantine eating. But I will say, even though I knew
Speaker 1: it and I could feel it, I think he did
Speaker 1: the best job he could and just trying to be like,
Speaker 1: all right this and he knows I probably wouldn't like
Speaker 1: my body like that, right, He's like, I just gotta
Speaker 1: get you back to where you are without saying it,
Speaker 1: but you got fat, but we're gonna get you ready.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah. We would literally go out and he'd be like,
Speaker 1: rice and beans. Baby, we haven't had winds. Last time
Speaker 1: we've had cabbage? What did we ever had it? But
Speaker 1: I will say seventy to a hundred, I would have
Speaker 1: an issue with that, not weight weight game, game seventy
Speaker 1: to undred, not aesthetically specifically, but like what I've been
Speaker 1: to allow you to get this far off where we are?
Speaker 1: So number one, I would hold myself accountable, like what
Speaker 1: what did you know? What I'm saying? How I didn't
Speaker 1: know the people listening It could have very well came
Speaker 1: from kids, which a lot of women, like men want
Speaker 1: kids and then you're mad, I can't get rid of
Speaker 1: this this babyway, or like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: And so he said, that's a different situation. One of
Speaker 1: the conversations I did get into with old Day it's
Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, was he wanted me to get up
Speaker 1: and I was really tired he was forced me to
Speaker 1: get up. I'm like, this is a motivational Now you're
Speaker 1: making me feel like you just hate me be in fact,
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do when I have a baby.
Speaker 1: He's like, that's different? Is it? Though? How is it difference?
Speaker 1: Because right now I'm depressed, so something's wrong? So the baby.
Speaker 1: You haven't excused that? Like, nah, bro, Like I just
Speaker 1: kind of think. Dudes say that, and I feel like
Speaker 1: maybe four months later you're like, get back on the treadmill.
Speaker 1: But both of y'all at it? Why? Why is I
Speaker 1: think that's a different type of big, a different type
Speaker 1: of big. Some women gained sixty pounds in pregnant, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's cool. I'm just like, you're creating a whole human.
Speaker 1: You have room for that. It's more, it's more understanding
Speaker 1: of it just happening as opposed she had the baby
Speaker 1: a year and a half ago and they lost the
Speaker 1: baby weight. Yeah, okay, you got a good three body.
Speaker 1: You've got some time though, Okay, three years all right?
Speaker 1: In terms of when I have a baby, every time
Speaker 1: I look at a picture of Beyonce and her lips,
Speaker 1: her nose, I'm like, oh, even Brihanna now she you
Speaker 1: could see the difference that's had her face every even
Speaker 1: I watched a little bit of Kardashians on Hulu with
Speaker 1: my mom and I was like, whoa. Now, I don't
Speaker 1: say it in a bad way. I'm just saying it's
Speaker 1: like a huge chain. But then I wonder if it's
Speaker 1: just from the boat tooxic pillers, Like maybe, no, that's
Speaker 1: probably why it was bigger. That's why all pregnant women
Speaker 1: like kind of not all, but most I've seen like it,
Speaker 1: or like after they had the baby pregnant, pregnant. And
Speaker 1: I know, bro, when I get sad, I get fat,
Speaker 1: usually want to get pregnant, and you'll be sad pregnant.
Speaker 1: Oh it's over. You don't have to roll me down.
Speaker 1: So the last growth and change, I wanted to bring
Speaker 1: it back to lifestyle, um because especially with you, this
Speaker 1: being your first relationship UM with a DS situation, going
Speaker 1: from a traditional relationship to lifestyle or vice versa. Now
Speaker 1: that was the thing in my previous relationship. We kind
Speaker 1: of started real lifestyle and then I wanted to kind
Speaker 1: of pull it back in and just be with him
Speaker 1: for a little bit. And I think it's another conversation
Speaker 1: where people sometimes have been together so long now they're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: how do we introduce things into the relationship. Or I
Speaker 1: was with a partner who we've been dealing for years.
Speaker 1: He ended up getting married and then getting married, he
Speaker 1: realized he wanted a polly relationship, and he brought that
Speaker 1: to his wife and I was like, I have a girlfriend.
Speaker 1: He wanted me to be the second girlfriend, but she
Speaker 1: knew about me from the past. But that was a
Speaker 1: long story. Um. But in the middle of a marriage
Speaker 1: with kids, the conversation he brought to her, it was like,
Speaker 1: I know we're married, I know we got kids. I
Speaker 1: know we've had our relationship this way for so long.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be Polly and have girlfriends. I
Speaker 1: want to know how you guys believe that type of
Speaker 1: change in your partner should be received. I think that
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think with us we do you
Speaker 1: mean with us specifically or just with you guys in general?
Speaker 1: Like say, he then comes to you and as like,
Speaker 1: I know we have fun together, but I think I
Speaker 1: don't have two other girlfriends where they're just like you,
Speaker 1: because that's just what I want right now. How do
Speaker 1: you respond to him saying this is what I want,
Speaker 1: and I think this is what I need, and you
Speaker 1: either stay with me or you don't, or you accept
Speaker 1: it or you don't like What would that be like
Speaker 1: that with with our relationship, UM, we're we know that
Speaker 1: we are life partners, like we're engaged, we know that
Speaker 1: we're in for the long haul. And I think for
Speaker 1: for me, it's it's it's about knowing that we're individual
Speaker 1: people coming in deciding to be partners. So if he
Speaker 1: decides that he needs something for his life or in
Speaker 1: his life that is different from what we were doing,
Speaker 1: then let's try it first and see if it works
Speaker 1: for us, and if it doesn't work for us, let's
Speaker 1: switch and figure out what does work for us. UM.
Speaker 1: So I think that's how it would happen in our relationship.
Speaker 1: If some drastic shift UM needed to happen, Let's try
Speaker 1: that shift and if it works, it works. If it doesn't,
Speaker 1: let's shift again. UM. I think generally, UM, a lot
Speaker 1: of relationships aren't like that, unfortunately, and that UM people
Speaker 1: are very used to They like familiarity and they want
Speaker 1: to stay with what they're used to, and with that
Speaker 1: with a drastic change, it's just like it feels hurtful.
Speaker 1: It feels traumatic, and people don't want to do it um,
Speaker 1: but I think a lot of relationships could be just
Speaker 1: can grow to it together. Yeah, And I think specifically
Speaker 1: going into a marriage where you know this is official, official,
Speaker 1: going into it knowing as human beings, we may evolve
Speaker 1: and ship may change over time, whatever that may be,
Speaker 1: and so having that understanding it won't be such a
Speaker 1: shock when you come three years later, Hey I want
Speaker 1: to start having sex with other people we've already established. Hey,
Speaker 1: I might grow into a place where this is something
Speaker 1: I might want. So I think just having that setting
Speaker 1: a tone in that I think you're in the age where, like,
Speaker 1: I don't know I would want. I remember watching The
Speaker 1: Ultimatum and thinking these people are so young as y'all
Speaker 1: watch it, Yeah, they're in their early twenties and talking
Speaker 1: about getting married like this is crazy. But I feel
Speaker 1: like when people are in their thirties, like you've kind
Speaker 1: of can feel who. Maybe you don't know all the
Speaker 1: way who you'll be at forty or throughout your marriage,
Speaker 1: but you kind of get a taste, like for the
Speaker 1: lifestyle that you guys have, bringing partners in and daddy
Speaker 1: domb ship or domb sub ship. I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: if someone threw that out there five years agow, you
Speaker 1: wouldn't be like this is a complete shocker. But it's
Speaker 1: good to kind of explore those things wild dating, and
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't get the chance
Speaker 1: to do that. They're almost so focused on you know,
Speaker 1: each other that and these are people that I'm saying
Speaker 1: that are to be interested in probably ship. I kind
Speaker 1: of think you almost do need to test the waters. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a good point together, and you guys are doing
Speaker 1: that so because I think, I don't think we would
Speaker 1: have come to this place where we're so open so
Speaker 1: quickly if I personally didn't have experience in the lifestyle myself.
Speaker 1: So I think I was twenty two, like the first
Speaker 1: time I went to a play party and just I
Speaker 1: don't even know these things existed. Why do you guys
Speaker 1: have us too? Too? Too? The proposal dators and ship No,
Speaker 1: So this is our angel numbers. So it's just yeah,
Speaker 1: I connected representative representation of our connectingness. And do you
Speaker 1: both see it a lot of them? Yeah, most of
Speaker 1: our now we saw it. We just in our relationship.
Speaker 1: We just saw a lot of angel numbers all the time,
Speaker 1: and we're just like, let's pick one for us. But yeah,
Speaker 1: you also said y'all met on the twenty second. Yeah
Speaker 1: we Oh my god, is I didn't realize that look
Speaker 1: at you. But we were like saying, like, let's pick
Speaker 1: the number. It is not many, ye that before? Oh
Speaker 1: this is what we um alright, gag, But we were like,
Speaker 1: let's pick a number. And I just so happen to
Speaker 1: look over at our washing machine and said twenty two.
Speaker 1: So that's how we picked in. It just means unity
Speaker 1: and just like coming together as one. I'm not laughing
Speaker 1: at that because Angel want to understand Angel numbers and
Speaker 1: things like that. It's just such a deep thing. She's like,
Speaker 1: did I look at the washper to this on my body?
Speaker 1: That's how we picked it. But we got it on two. Amazing. Well,
Speaker 1: let's not one of my tattoos on a napkin. This
Speaker 1: is all things that Boskaya drew. But he drew this
Speaker 1: particular thing on a napkin that was and they had
Speaker 1: it in a frank and I was like, are you
Speaker 1: sure that's him? She was like, yeah, my brother, Well
Speaker 1: can I take it before we get out of here?
Speaker 1: I want to end with a homemail, and we would
Speaker 1: love for you guys to help us with this question,
Speaker 1: especially since you've been doing it this wanted two. All right, Hey, y'all,
Speaker 1: I've been listening to your podcast for about a year now,
Speaker 1: and I found comfort in knowing I'm not the only
Speaker 1: one in this world that feels the comfortable in my
Speaker 1: sex life and sexuality and talking about it as well.
Speaker 1: I'm it's a lot of experiences in my under age,
Speaker 1: being that I got at my younger age, being that
Speaker 1: I got married and became a mom at twenty one.
Speaker 1: I'm now, but I believe it's never too late to
Speaker 1: try things. I've been really thinking I want to gain
Speaker 1: more experience and try new things and get more into
Speaker 1: my sex life, but don't know where to start. I
Speaker 1: live in Austin, Texas, but I'm not from down here,
Speaker 1: so don't know much about the city or the quote
Speaker 1: unquote sex scene. So I know I couldn't just walk
Speaker 1: up to a random man and ask him if I
Speaker 1: could peg him. Do you have any suggestions or ideas
Speaker 1: on how to get into these sex world or even
Speaker 1: approaching meeting new people in that way? Of course, you
Speaker 1: brought up daddy dom to her twenty four hours later,
Speaker 1: how would you suggest her bringing that up either with
Speaker 1: new partners or getting into a sex scene and maybe
Speaker 1: a place that's not New York. We did the main
Speaker 1: question and it's interesting because just like we live in
Speaker 1: a new world, are full of technology. A quick Google
Speaker 1: search can send you on the right path pretty quickly. UM.
Speaker 1: I would say, even if it's just partners that you
Speaker 1: have and they're more vanilla, just being honest about what
Speaker 1: you want. Let's start there with who you have access
Speaker 1: to UM right away. But you know there's resources like
Speaker 1: fat life, you got field out there UM or if
Speaker 1: you just meet new people. I think the main thing
Speaker 1: is being clear on what you want. Yeah, yeah, I understand,
Speaker 1: like what kinks you might you be into, so you
Speaker 1: know how to communicate these to potential partners. And Google
Speaker 1: UM is definitely a resource if you want to try
Speaker 1: the clubs or anything like that. But I would say
Speaker 1: before going to the club, maybe find a home girl.
Speaker 1: If you say you're comfortable talking about sex, bring it
Speaker 1: up with one of your home girls. And that was
Speaker 1: my introduction to the sex clubs. Like we went to
Speaker 1: the beach, they talked about it, and I don't think
Speaker 1: I would have ever been able to push myself to
Speaker 1: go by myself. So I brought a home girl with me,
Speaker 1: and to me, that broke the ice real easy because
Speaker 1: we went like we were going to the club. No,
Speaker 1: I want to just make a point really quick, because
Speaker 1: I even said earlier, like we talked about the sex
Speaker 1: club so much, and it's because we're a lot of
Speaker 1: your sex has happened. But as someone that's had a
Speaker 1: lot of threesomes and was sucking a lot of girls
Speaker 1: with my ex, Like, I'm not really a sex club
Speaker 1: right for me? How would you? I would ask, how
Speaker 1: would your how have your experiences on photos? I've heard
Speaker 1: the show a lot, and it seems like you just
Speaker 1: have very organic situations that unfold. Yeah, it's funny because
Speaker 1: Mandy last week told us about a story in Mexico,
Speaker 1: Like that's a very mean thing to happen, Like I
Speaker 1: had threes in Mexico, right, Like, I don't know, and
Speaker 1: I'm actually someone that likes apps. It's just for some
Speaker 1: reason another person coming into my ship, like it just
Speaker 1: didn't really work for me. I've had a threesome off
Speaker 1: app with Jeeves, but I don't like sex clubes and
Speaker 1: I think it's particularly because I don't feel like I
Speaker 1: can connect during sex um and some people can. Like
Speaker 1: one of my friends was telling me a story like
Speaker 1: she felt like nobody else was around. I don't think
Speaker 1: I feel like that. But that's just because I'm a
Speaker 1: I'm thinking too much about what's going on, or like
Speaker 1: maybe a little too precautious. Um. Even when I like
Speaker 1: did an episode about the sex club, went in there,
Speaker 1: had a camera and SFW and was like trying to
Speaker 1: meet people, like I just can't let go. But for me,
Speaker 1: the things have unfolded by just being able to go
Speaker 1: out and my partner making other women feel uncomfortable, Like
Speaker 1: as much as he's a piece of ship, he is
Speaker 1: really feel comfortable. Huh, making him making them feel comfortable
Speaker 1: like they like I did, He doesn't meant to say
Speaker 1: feel and make them feel ncofortable. I think with women
Speaker 1: that aren't sure if they want to have a threesome,
Speaker 1: it's either because the men have too much mask energy.
Speaker 1: They either get a little too broye almost or try
Speaker 1: to be a guy in front of them and it's
Speaker 1: weird and he's just a cool ass nigked like everybody
Speaker 1: wants to hang out with him, and that's why they do.
Speaker 1: That's just I would even describe, like most of our
Speaker 1: friends like me or you like you, you're out and
Speaker 1: sometimes people just start finding you. He's one of those people.
Speaker 1: He's not really an introvert, like he's just the guy
Speaker 1: if people want to be around. And so what happens
Speaker 1: with that is women then feel like I'm not pressured
Speaker 1: into this sometimes I think when a guy isn't as
Speaker 1: smiley or lee, because it's true you should let your
Speaker 1: girl lead, but I want to feel welcomed by you too,
Speaker 1: And I think that that was the thing about his
Speaker 1: energy that made girls want to hang with us all
Speaker 1: the time. But also I would say there was something
Speaker 1: particularly about him more than anyone else, which is why
Speaker 1: I think we kept having uh sex with women just
Speaker 1: around where we lived. He would immediately tell women that
Speaker 1: we wanted to funk what we were doing that night,
Speaker 1: and it was just like put it in their ear right,
Speaker 1: Like for example, last lap, we sucked a lot of
Speaker 1: girls out of last lap. So let's just say it
Speaker 1: was midnight. He'd be like, oh, what are you up
Speaker 1: to tonight? And then they tell him. He was like, okay,
Speaker 1: well we're gonna go to gold bar. Actually, like in
Speaker 1: an hour, you come in, you that we're all going
Speaker 1: together and be like O guy and so like. He
Speaker 1: would almost make them a part of our plans. And
Speaker 1: I don't even know if he consciously did that, or
Speaker 1: he would say something about food you never had up
Speaker 1: and out a mom or I'm not we gotta go now,
Speaker 1: we're all fucking going to the next place. And it
Speaker 1: was little things like that would do it no matter
Speaker 1: what city we were in, Miami, New York, wherever. And
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's it now. And if a girl is
Speaker 1: not interested in, they're like, I'm gonna stay on my
Speaker 1: home girls, and I'm like I try. And never were forceful,
Speaker 1: like we definitely had a girl come upstairs. Actually, my homegirl, Chanelle.
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody knows Chanel Lopez, but she
Speaker 1: is so fucking sexy. She used to live in New York,
Speaker 1: she lives in Miami. Now she knows. I ain't sh
Speaker 1: she knows. My X say, I'm sure she knows we
Speaker 1: want to fund. So we all go upstairs, were just
Speaker 1: smoking and talking. We're all in the couch together and
Speaker 1: she goes, I'm not ready for this, but I still
Speaker 1: want to hang out. And I was like, but we
Speaker 1: all laughed. We're like, no, we're you gonna try to
Speaker 1: do that. She's like, yes, she would, but anyway, And
Speaker 1: you know, I think that's the thing too, is knowing
Speaker 1: that a man's not gonna make you feel bad. She
Speaker 1: knew that we'd be having three sons. But you know,
Speaker 1: I think also that room for letting someone feel like
Speaker 1: they don't have to do anything, because guys say that
Speaker 1: but they don't mean it. Now you chased me around
Speaker 1: the bed for three hours when you said we were
Speaker 1: just gonna cuddle, but letting couples like being serious, like
Speaker 1: we're gonna fun regardless either you can use or not.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people are too thirsty when you got that too
Speaker 1: thirsty energy, like nobody wants it exactly. I think that
Speaker 1: um just also just setting the intention of what you're
Speaker 1: wanting and not going out with so much thirst just
Speaker 1: knowing like I'm really hot, sexual being and I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna go out there and get some sex. I don't
Speaker 1: know how, I don't know who it's gonna happen, and
Speaker 1: just like going and moving with that confidence, moving with
Speaker 1: that energy. It goes a long way and then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, like people start like feeling it and
Speaker 1: just get drawn towards you. You can't. Also, we're saying,
Speaker 1: like having an intention, don't let the one night you
Speaker 1: go out and nothing happens be the thing like something
Speaker 1: you have to do your numbers. Yea numbers thing. It
Speaker 1: takes time and it and it takes it takes the energy,
Speaker 1: and it takes um. I think just intention, just like
Speaker 1: moving and knowing exactly what you're king, sorry, what's your
Speaker 1: desire and exactly women are going out just like I'm
Speaker 1: in a couple, Like, yeah, I don't want to trick
Speaker 1: it's that it's trickier that way because he might think
Speaker 1: a might a dude to, but like a couple is different.
Speaker 1: That's the challenge that's harder. I'm trying to learn how
Speaker 1: to navigate both of them comfort you want. You have
Speaker 1: to make both of them want to. You have to
Speaker 1: make both of them comfortable to where they've not been.
Speaker 1: Also about you being around exactly, That's that's a big
Speaker 1: thing with us. I am like, I'm gonna admit I
Speaker 1: am the bitch that is always tired, and we will
Speaker 1: bring someone home and I'll be like, all right, like
Speaker 1: the vibes are here, but I need a ten minute
Speaker 1: Apps kidding me, Like I'm just it's embarrassing. I am
Speaker 1: I tired home because what will happen. It's not that
Speaker 1: I was just like, oh, I'm just a little tired,
Speaker 1: I'll just pass out. I was just like slowly, just stop,
Speaker 1: like stop, I'm I'm the bailout to have sex all sleep. Yes,
Speaker 1: And that's like I joined them first, like like are
Speaker 1: you sure you gotta start with them first? And then
Speaker 1: so what I do is once I get everybody comfort,
Speaker 1: I'll be like, all right, y'all have fun. I've gone
Speaker 1: to the couch and went to sleep and let them kept.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I've done that. It's I have to because
Speaker 1: what I what I do. What I do is I
Speaker 1: end up just saying like okay, I'm gonna I and
Speaker 1: I hold to it. I'll take a time inute nap,
Speaker 1: but I'll be right back because sometimes I come back
Speaker 1: and they're fucking sometimes they're still talking like either way,
Speaker 1: I'm joining and something's gonna happen. You I need you
Speaker 1: to join the nin I literally like it's part of
Speaker 1: it's part of the thing I expected at this point. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I do. I do, and I do say like
Speaker 1: like it's completely cool, like this is okay. They never
Speaker 1: believe they after you go to the beady, but they
Speaker 1: know it's about the door. It's okay. One of my
Speaker 1: partners now, one of our partners now, they ended up
Speaker 1: having sex with him while I was sleeping, like the
Speaker 1: first time we went, yeah, on the same washing machine.
Speaker 1: But yeah, they were like freaking out and it was
Speaker 1: so funny because they had some bomb sex apparently they
Speaker 1: were allowed. I was knocked the funk out and I
Speaker 1: like come back out and they're like they got dressed
Speaker 1: and they were on the couch. If they didn't tell
Speaker 1: me they funk, I would have never known. Wow. And
Speaker 1: I was just and they like ended up like leaving
Speaker 1: um like soon after, and I was like, damn, we
Speaker 1: make sexy time. He's like, actually, I was like, funk,
Speaker 1: I missed sexy time. If I can't even get mad,
Speaker 1: I'm tired, that's amazing that you're just like, well, damn,
Speaker 1: next time, next time I'll join. You know what, though,
Speaker 1: like that kind of thought to me, you have to
Speaker 1: a lot of people may not feel that. And I
Speaker 1: also don't want to like push on someone's insecurities here.
Speaker 1: But I will just say this is like a situation
Speaker 1: where eighty percent of the time when you're that type
Speaker 1: of person, there's a real trust there. Because a lot
Speaker 1: of time people are having sex with someone that you're like,
Speaker 1: would you suck at my back? And you're not sure
Speaker 1: and your partner maybe doesn't make you feel like you
Speaker 1: can completely trust him. That's a real trustworth thing, like
Speaker 1: my X and I like, I wasn't bothered that he
Speaker 1: would if he would do that, I don't know if
Speaker 1: you ever did. Maybe haven't did a little bit there
Speaker 1: working around, but like that doesn't bother me. And I
Speaker 1: know a lot of people may think it is, but
Speaker 1: it's like if I brought someone in here, like I
Speaker 1: already know you're my naked you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like my and when once you're open. But that to
Speaker 1: me is a complete trustworthy situations. Yeah, And I trust
Speaker 1: him fully not just to respect me and whatever my
Speaker 1: boundaries maybe in that situation, but to also treat that
Speaker 1: person with respect and to treat them safe, Like I
Speaker 1: trust him fully with myself and with that person. That's
Speaker 1: one of my big things. Yeah, I don't niggs that
Speaker 1: don't make girls feel safe. Yeah, absolutely no, it's not
Speaker 1: hot fu embarrassing yo. I would like literally he would
Speaker 1: knock out after fucking almost kick him, Like, get get
Speaker 1: the uber for her now. Yeah, we do a whole thing.
Speaker 1: Like when somebody comes to especially the first time we
Speaker 1: lay it all out, we definitely focus on them, and
Speaker 1: it's like we want that we we want that experience
Speaker 1: to be all about them, you know, so we cater
Speaker 1: to them, whether it's something that we're doing specifically in
Speaker 1: the bedroom. We make sure we bring out the toys
Speaker 1: that they were a couple of years. I'm so crazy
Speaker 1: that you're just saying that because outside of the food
Speaker 1: and drinks, I feel like I was spoiling both the
Speaker 1: couple that I'll just with maybe because I'm just so
Speaker 1: used to being in charge. I felt like I was
Speaker 1: spoiling the couple, boiling both of them that I would
Speaker 1: like to experience that I was spoiling both them, like
Speaker 1: I would like kiss her, massage her. But I was like,
Speaker 1: do y'all want to like I was? I feel like
Speaker 1: I was. I liked it and they should be grateful
Speaker 1: and I get really good. I'm a really good like
Speaker 1: threesome teammate, so I just don't feel like I ain't
Speaker 1: got a man to go home too. So y'all need
Speaker 1: to be doing I feel like it's so important too.
Speaker 1: It's so important to us to just like make that
Speaker 1: person feel sexy, like we want to know, like what
Speaker 1: are your designs, what are your rules? Are you allowed
Speaker 1: to caddle kiss? Yeah? Maybe that's why I knew I
Speaker 1: was there first time. I wasn't gonna expect them to spoil.
Speaker 1: They've never been with another woman together, so to me,
Speaker 1: I felt like I was teaching them the lay of
Speaker 1: the land. Oh, there's one rule for anyone who's ever
Speaker 1: going with the one together men and women, take them
Speaker 1: on a date. Just think date opening doors should werous date, date,
Speaker 1: date to date. That's it and see. And that's maybe
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Speaker 1: Welcome to another cinema episode. Alexa, shut your gass up boom.
Speaker 1: That's how I talk to her. She just got an election,
Speaker 1: God making me feel like the bitch is stalking me,
Speaker 1: Like I get worried about you. I've never that is
Speaker 1: my first Alexa. Really I don't like I have. Um
Speaker 1: it's weird because I have two in my house, a
Speaker 1: Seri in my bathroom, and then I got my man
Speaker 1: uh one for his car. But he's old, so he
Speaker 1: just feels like you don't want nobody watching him and
Speaker 1: just like they're good, you're not a criminal. They That's
Speaker 1: how I just felt. But lambea scared me there about
Speaker 1: They just tell us the weather and play our tunes.
Speaker 1: That's all they do. Lamba made me unplug it. Um.
Speaker 1: I wanted to play some rent fires and fuck and
Speaker 1: I was like Alexa played rent fires and he was like,
Speaker 1: whoa wonderful that should going on? Now? You knew you
Speaker 1: was gonna activate her as bro Alexa stop, Alexa stop nothing, Alexa,
Speaker 1: turn it off? Bit you already. That's why he said
Speaker 1: he didn't want her around because they hear everything you
Speaker 1: tell them day and them. Okay. I said, fine, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll turn it off. He was like, played on your phone?
Speaker 1: So then I started playing it on my phone, but
Speaker 1: I chrome casted to the TV and then he was like,
Speaker 1: I thought your TV had Internet. Why are you putting
Speaker 1: ship up on the TV now? And it's talking like
Speaker 1: I don't like this shoot and I was like, nigga,
Speaker 1: what the fuck, Mandy, He's not even that whole, Like
Speaker 1: this is how you know, even in the system too long,
Speaker 1: Like it's crazy, it's fun to me. Um. Also update,
Speaker 1: I told Old Bay two weeks ago. You guys probably
Speaker 1: heard me say that Lambeau is gonna get me a car.
Speaker 1: I called Old Bay right after the episode. I was like,
Speaker 1: you know Kodak glack, because that's what you call him.
Speaker 1: He said, yeah, what's up? I was like, they never
Speaker 1: want to get me a car and pay my right
Speaker 1: and he just was silent, and I was like, what
Speaker 1: he said? Okay, Gila, what do you want me to say?
Speaker 1: I was like, I just want you to tell me
Speaker 1: whether you think that's crazy. His answer to that was saying,
Speaker 1: I know you're gonna do what you want to do regardless.
Speaker 1: That's that's what that response was giving. Do you want
Speaker 1: me to pick you up in a nice car when
Speaker 1: you visit l A your web bad? That's really what
Speaker 1: it is. That's really like the real question. So how
Speaker 1: did you respond to that? Like if he said what
Speaker 1: do you want me to say? Like what what type
Speaker 1: of response did you expect him? Tap? I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what kind of car I want? That car
Speaker 1: is like two thous a month, Like is that really
Speaker 1: gonna drive you crazy? And he was just like, it's
Speaker 1: what you want to do, Gela. So giving I can't
Speaker 1: telling you what you do, well, it's given that, but
Speaker 1: also I can't tell you what to do. Appreciate. But
Speaker 1: I also feel like if he called me like and
Speaker 1: was like this bitch wants to fucking buy X, Y
Speaker 1: and Z for me, you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: you would have a fucking fit. Yeah I wouldn't. Um,
Speaker 1: but you know, I ain't gonna lie. I feel like
Speaker 1: the worst of it all was saying that I accidentally
Speaker 1: sucked him. Were all like that was the real fucking
Speaker 1: embarrassing thing to call my nigga with whish to be honest, man, dye.
Speaker 1: He was so appreciative that I said it without like
Speaker 1: trying of bullshit around it when I came home, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, And I feel like I would
Speaker 1: have been the same way. Like when I really thought
Speaker 1: about it, I thought that he was gonna be like, Bisher,
Speaker 1: you out of your mind, but can call me? Was like, yo,
Speaker 1: I mean that's what I'm saying. Mistakes happened, But a
Speaker 1: nigga paying your rent and in you a car, that's
Speaker 1: more like a relationship, which is why I wanted because
Speaker 1: I don't want him to think he could just take
Speaker 1: the condom off. Beats bitch. If a nigga buys you
Speaker 1: a car, your rent, he's not sucking you with a condom. Ever, Okay,
Speaker 1: well that's who you do it. Damn. I wish I
Speaker 1: could just put both of them like that, but um,
Speaker 1: you know, I mean it kind of sucks, but whatever. Anyway, Uh, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that conversation was a little bit uncomfortable. And I think
Speaker 1: that also Lambeau like doesn't really like understand Old Bay
Speaker 1: because he doesn't really I just don't think he gets it,
Speaker 1: Like I think he thinks this is some relationship off
Speaker 1: of TV or like he thinks it's not like a
Speaker 1: real thing, Like he doesn't really maybe understand the openness
Speaker 1: because he's very like if you might beach, you can't
Speaker 1: fun nobody type of nigga. But I'm having fun with
Speaker 1: him right now and I don't want it to end.
Speaker 1: So who knows? They could blow up in my face
Speaker 1: one of his baby my must can fly here and
Speaker 1: kill me. There's also that that's a big opportunity for that.
Speaker 1: One happened as them host damn show, one of them
Speaker 1: what was I gonna say? Hit him up and was
Speaker 1: like this bitch talking about you on her podcast and
Speaker 1: started like blowing up. She was like, who the funk
Speaker 1: else got a lamba and nigked, So I mean there's
Speaker 1: always that, um you know, who knows. Hopefully they don't
Speaker 1: come get both uns, bitch. I We're gonna take this
Speaker 1: thing back to the car. The model I thought a
Speaker 1: boy her, it's nothing that happens with you. They ain't
Speaker 1: coming for us, which they're coming for you.