1
00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:08,920
Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hey, guys,

2
00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:13,040
Speaker 1: we beck at it again. Welcome to another episode of

3
00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:17,079
Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions without the accident. I'm your girl, Vandy v

4
00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:20,320
Speaker 1: A pet To Stillion a k A debt, bitch ok,

5
00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:24,840
Speaker 1: full Court Pumps a K A Peggan Baskins a k

6
00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:29,000
Speaker 1: A no Peggan, Marco, my bag, Carol Baskins, Mandy Baskins, Goddamn,

7
00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:32,160
Speaker 1: I don't do my fucking a ks enough killers ship

8
00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:38,080
Speaker 1: just pussy kill a Bill Murderess, no Pegrid. You know,

9
00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:39,839
Speaker 1: it was a time or two in my life and

10
00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,120
Speaker 1: I realized it didn't work out for me. And we

11
00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:47,400
Speaker 1: are joined today by another duo podcast, Both Sides of

12
00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:53,000
Speaker 1: the Bed a mere Ambassio. Welcome to the podcast. So excited.

13
00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:54,960
Speaker 1: I actually met them when I was high on edibles

14
00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,240
Speaker 1: and they're like, yeah, you know, Mage, right, where'd you

15
00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,160
Speaker 1: guys meet up for green Park? Where about it in

16
00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:04,240
Speaker 1: the summertime? Yeah, we were working though. What were doing

17
00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:06,759
Speaker 1: we were interviewing. So in the beginning of all our episodes,

18
00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:10,040
Speaker 1: we're going to speak to the people. We had the

19
00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:11,880
Speaker 1: mic and everything we ran up for. People have it,

20
00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:15,280
Speaker 1: some don't. Yeah, like, I watched one of this really

21
00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:17,320
Speaker 1: really cute girl and I was really worded. I clicked

22
00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:19,479
Speaker 1: on it because she was sexy and she was doing

23
00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:21,160
Speaker 1: like word on the street ship, and I was like,

24
00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:23,960
Speaker 1: you know when you're watching an interview and you're like,

25
00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:26,160
Speaker 1: why didn't you ask this? Why don't you say that?

26
00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:27,800
Speaker 1: And I'm like, Bro, if he's gonna go on the street,

27
00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:31,320
Speaker 1: anybody could do this be the personality home asked me

28
00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,280
Speaker 1: the ship about, Like, yeah, you know what I mean,

29
00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:35,360
Speaker 1: the things that are going to make people uncomfortable. But

30
00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:37,800
Speaker 1: that's the ship I love, and I think actually that's why,

31
00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,600
Speaker 1: um the dude that we had on I had been

32
00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:43,480
Speaker 1: so drawn to his clips because I was like, I

33
00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,240
Speaker 1: love finding out things about people. I don't know that

34
00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,160
Speaker 1: it's so crazy, Like I don't really want to hear

35
00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:50,080
Speaker 1: celebrities talk more than I want to hear about you

36
00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,320
Speaker 1: fucking your cousin. What's what's the craziest thing that y'all

37
00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:57,360
Speaker 1: have heard? Like interviewing people outside, have we heard crazy yet?

38
00:01:57,480 --> 00:02:01,120
Speaker 1: I don't know about crazy, but maybe personal. Remember this

39
00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,640
Speaker 1: one girl was talking about how she was trying to

40
00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:07,360
Speaker 1: do anal but her butt was too small. So then

41
00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:09,320
Speaker 1: so then we like first needed to tell her, like

42
00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:11,920
Speaker 1: you should try you but plug and spread your asshole

43
00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,000
Speaker 1: so the tick can go in easier way. So y'all

44
00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:18,600
Speaker 1: educating people on the streets, I mean they have that's

45
00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:22,720
Speaker 1: a key life lesson. Yeah, I think my ball too. Yeah, no,

46
00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:24,440
Speaker 1: try it but she didn't did it though? She just

47
00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:26,400
Speaker 1: but I remember it was only the head and it

48
00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:28,280
Speaker 1: was like super painful. So I think the muscle. I

49
00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,280
Speaker 1: think some people just retract and it's like you can't relax. Oh,

50
00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:34,120
Speaker 1: you gotta be relaxed as you gotta have. I was

51
00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:36,160
Speaker 1: about to say, you gotta have a whole breathing exercise

52
00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:40,440
Speaker 1: like you're about to have a baby, like you know,

53
00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:44,720
Speaker 1: you literally you literally have to do a whole breathing exercise.

54
00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:47,040
Speaker 1: So both sides of the bed. You guys are a couple,

55
00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,480
Speaker 1: So tell us about what you guys talk about on

56
00:02:50,520 --> 00:02:52,560
Speaker 1: your show. Um, and I know you have so many

57
00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:55,959
Speaker 1: clips about freaky versus kinky and that not being the same.

58
00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:58,800
Speaker 1: But you guys really educate too, So tell our audience

59
00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:01,640
Speaker 1: about your show, right. So, I mean the premise of

60
00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:05,440
Speaker 1: the show is centered around having conversations about sex that

61
00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:08,680
Speaker 1: people are comfortable with or just not a not know

62
00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,080
Speaker 1: that are available to them, you know. So it's really

63
00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,160
Speaker 1: just opening up the doors for people to have sexual

64
00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:18,360
Speaker 1: exploration and self exploration through the process of having said

65
00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:20,560
Speaker 1: when you said open up, I thought you were going

66
00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:26,160
Speaker 1: with something else, but okay, I guess opening opening up

67
00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:29,000
Speaker 1: and y'all work together and y'all live in a relationship,

68
00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:30,800
Speaker 1: so I need to know what the funk that is

69
00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:32,880
Speaker 1: like because we've had other couples to that have pods.

70
00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:36,560
Speaker 1: But I also know in talking to them after they've

71
00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:38,840
Speaker 1: done it for some time, it becomes stressful, Like what

72
00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,120
Speaker 1: if y'all get in an argument and gotta record the

73
00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:47,360
Speaker 1: next day this happens? Should add what was it yesterday? Actually? Actually? Yeah,

74
00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:53,160
Speaker 1: you guys about who is the most recent? UM? I

75
00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,040
Speaker 1: think just trying to get on the same page with

76
00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:59,080
Speaker 1: one another UM and just trying to operate on his program.

77
00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:01,400
Speaker 1: Do you feel like, yeah, making well, how long have

78
00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,040
Speaker 1: we been together happen? Do you feel like podcasting together

79
00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:08,280
Speaker 1: like starting a business together was like smart? Like does

80
00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:11,160
Speaker 1: its strengthen the relationship? You're like absolutely, yeah, it's beautiful.

81
00:04:11,280 --> 00:04:14,480
Speaker 1: It's an amazing aspect of our relationship that's new now.

82
00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,039
Speaker 1: So it's like we really have a baby now through

83
00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:20,240
Speaker 1: doing this together. But I think because we basically live together,

84
00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:23,320
Speaker 1: but we have separate places. Once we reach that threshold

85
00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:25,719
Speaker 1: where it's like, all right, we've been two weeks. Now

86
00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:27,200
Speaker 1: it's time for you to take your ass home for

87
00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,120
Speaker 1: a little bit, then that's when the argument is really start. Yeah,

88
00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,360
Speaker 1: to go home. That's yeah, not not not not the

89
00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:37,400
Speaker 1: It's not that, it's it's more so that we've just

90
00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,680
Speaker 1: had our threshold of each other and just needing that

91
00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,159
Speaker 1: space because we do work together. Um, we do spend

92
00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:45,320
Speaker 1: a lot of time with each other. You know, we're partners,

93
00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,839
Speaker 1: are best friends, so we're partners in work as well.

94
00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:49,960
Speaker 1: I love it and a half years later though, you

95
00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:52,560
Speaker 1: guys still have your own separate places. Like to me,

96
00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:54,400
Speaker 1: that was something that I don't think I'll ever give

97
00:04:54,480 --> 00:04:57,240
Speaker 1: up in dating. Like, I love that we could spend

98
00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:59,240
Speaker 1: PHO days together and then you go on home. We

99
00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:03,520
Speaker 1: have the favor a house, yeah, only because I have, Um,

100
00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:07,320
Speaker 1: I lived my sister, so yeah, we can be allowed

101
00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:12,520
Speaker 1: at his place. Well, because you guys are in a relationship,

102
00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:15,880
Speaker 1: I wanted to start with some relationship questions. Um, like

103
00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:19,160
Speaker 1: I said, so mad, I didn't bring my cards. But um,

104
00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:22,160
Speaker 1: these questions do kind of stem from Love Unlocked, which

105
00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:25,320
Speaker 1: is shout out to therapist Max Stanley, who is here

106
00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:29,279
Speaker 1: on the pod. I wanted to know. Um, let me

107
00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:32,039
Speaker 1: start with the woman because this is normally something. Is

108
00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:36,040
Speaker 1: there a fear in telling your partner no to something?

109
00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:40,159
Speaker 1: And if there is, what is it telling him no

110
00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:45,360
Speaker 1: to something? I wouldn't say a fear, um, maybe like

111
00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:48,240
Speaker 1: just a mild discomfort, just because I'm not sure of

112
00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:52,279
Speaker 1: his reaction. Um. Also, we have a dom sub dynamic,

113
00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:56,240
Speaker 1: so saying no isn't really Oh, you're not allowed to

114
00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:57,800
Speaker 1: say no. It's it's not that I'm not allowed to

115
00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,000
Speaker 1: say no. It's just it's it's I have to say

116
00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:09,080
Speaker 1: it in a certain way. Yeah. Um, So with with

117
00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:14,159
Speaker 1: our dynamic, it's um, yes, it's not. Yeah okay, would

118
00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:18,000
Speaker 1: you like to help me explain this dynamic? Yes, we

119
00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:21,400
Speaker 1: have a down sub dynamic. And I would say our style, Well,

120
00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:24,320
Speaker 1: my style is more of a nurturing daddy dum, So

121
00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:27,400
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not really about the extra strict protocols

122
00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:29,240
Speaker 1: and all of that. That not that there's anything wrong

123
00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:31,240
Speaker 1: with that, it's just not my style. I'm more chill,

124
00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,840
Speaker 1: really you guys living it all day every day. And

125
00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,640
Speaker 1: that's like where our challenges came about. Because when we

126
00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:39,680
Speaker 1: got together, it's in the beginning of COVID, So we

127
00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:42,279
Speaker 1: met a month right before COVID, and then we just

128
00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:45,120
Speaker 1: shocked up like immediately after that. So we got to

129
00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,440
Speaker 1: the thick of it real quick. So within developing that

130
00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,520
Speaker 1: learning that this is something that we wanted to do,

131
00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,640
Speaker 1: it was an interesting experience because we had just so

132
00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:55,800
Speaker 1: much time to do it because it's nothing else. What

133
00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:57,719
Speaker 1: kind of pet names go on in the daddy dumb

134
00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:01,040
Speaker 1: dynamic for both of you, for us baby girl for sure,

135
00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:07,360
Speaker 1: Princess daddy daddy. It's crazy because I've seen the transition

136
00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,280
Speaker 1: because like we'll be around family and then I have

137
00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:12,640
Speaker 1: to figure out how to turn off because it was

138
00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,160
Speaker 1: it was just it was just on for the first

139
00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:16,800
Speaker 1: year and a half. So now we started getting back

140
00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:18,520
Speaker 1: out into the world, it's like we'll go out to

141
00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:21,520
Speaker 1: brunch with my parents or whatever, and dadd star you

142
00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:25,240
Speaker 1: in front of the parents. I do and that it's

143
00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:30,000
Speaker 1: not like so we initially agreed that we'll I know,

144
00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,960
Speaker 1: I'm just sucking math. We initially agree that we'd code

145
00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:34,760
Speaker 1: switched because like why am I calling him daddy friend

146
00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:37,320
Speaker 1: of dad? But I'm so used to it. And when

147
00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:39,840
Speaker 1: he has a son, um and his son called him daddy,

148
00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:41,360
Speaker 1: so we just both call him dady. His son doesn't

149
00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,040
Speaker 1: think anything, so it's just that's just me. I'm not crazy,

150
00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:47,200
Speaker 1: I asked. Daddy asked, Yeah. It's completely works in that,

151
00:07:47,320 --> 00:07:50,400
Speaker 1: so I'm not necessarily having to quote switch all the time.

152
00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:53,000
Speaker 1: So just in the midst of it, I'll just be like,

153
00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:54,760
Speaker 1: Daddy can pass me to catch up. And his mom

154
00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:58,640
Speaker 1: is right next to like the first time that we're

155
00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:01,720
Speaker 1: saying the first time that it was on my birthday. Yeah,

156
00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:04,040
Speaker 1: it was on my birthday. I remember we're just eating.

157
00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:05,520
Speaker 1: I'm looking at my place and she said past the

158
00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:09,800
Speaker 1: catch huh, and I was looked Daddy, Yeah, it was

159
00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:12,320
Speaker 1: very loud to it's very loud. And I looked at

160
00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:16,720
Speaker 1: both of them. They're reserves people, is my honest belief

161
00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:18,320
Speaker 1: that they heard, and they were like, let me just mon,

162
00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:23,320
Speaker 1: were y'all texting under the table? No, but he said

163
00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:26,040
Speaker 1: like like, oh, that's where we're going with it. Okay,

164
00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:32,320
Speaker 1: but no, but now it's transitioned to a consistent sir.

165
00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,520
Speaker 1: So in places where it's not appropriate for daddy. It's

166
00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:38,760
Speaker 1: still consistent, sir. And it's funny that you say uncomfortable.

167
00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:41,480
Speaker 1: It's funny because sir is less uncomfortable. I know when

168
00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:43,400
Speaker 1: Monique went on to the breakfast club and she was

169
00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:47,280
Speaker 1: calling her husband daddy and he's also her manager, that

170
00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:50,400
Speaker 1: people felt away that she was calling her husband daddy,

171
00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,880
Speaker 1: and I don't. I guess it mixed before because oh yeah,

172
00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:57,120
Speaker 1: called her husband daddy publicly and a lot of people

173
00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:01,840
Speaker 1: felt really weird that this powerful woman is somewhat submitting

174
00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,760
Speaker 1: to a man because she is who the funk she is?

175
00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:10,520
Speaker 1: Have you had this dynamic in a previous relationships? Really? So?

176
00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:13,000
Speaker 1: Then who introduced it? That was actually my next question?

177
00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,480
Speaker 1: Who introduced it? And how did the conversation happen? If

178
00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:17,640
Speaker 1: I assume you introduced this since this is your first time,

179
00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:20,880
Speaker 1: he definitely introduced it. The way he introduced it was

180
00:09:20,920 --> 00:09:24,319
Speaker 1: so hilarious to me. I'm just getting my version. So

181
00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:27,920
Speaker 1: we met on what was it the twenty second, January

182
00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:29,520
Speaker 1: twenty two. Now only know this because it might maybe

183
00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:34,920
Speaker 1: knowing my my sister's birthday is met they and on

184
00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:36,520
Speaker 1: the twenty three, my sisters and I go to the

185
00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:40,480
Speaker 1: spot we get highest fun. I'm talking. We uh, we smoked,

186
00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:42,920
Speaker 1: we took edibles, we took some shrimps, and then this

187
00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,360
Speaker 1: random lady comes up to us. We're like soaking in

188
00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,440
Speaker 1: the top, asked naked, and she's like, I want to

189
00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:49,800
Speaker 1: buy some stuff, and like my two sisters, she's like

190
00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:51,720
Speaker 1: telling my two sisters wait, wait, wait, sorry, I don't

191
00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:53,800
Speaker 1: know if I skipped something. You were at a spot

192
00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:58,600
Speaker 1: and smoking. Yeah, you know, it's like the spot said,

193
00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:00,840
Speaker 1: I thought you said that we were at this spot.

194
00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:08,120
Speaker 1: I'm sorry at the spot and this lady just comes

195
00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,600
Speaker 1: up to us and just offers some drugs. So we're like, yeah,

196
00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,840
Speaker 1: we're gonna take some drugs. So I'm so because trusting.

197
00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:16,760
Speaker 1: We are really frusted because we're at the spot. It's

198
00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:18,960
Speaker 1: like we get high and then sweat it out. So

199
00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:20,920
Speaker 1: we kept taking more. So at the end of the night,

200
00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:23,240
Speaker 1: we had this one cookie left, and my sisters are like,

201
00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:24,920
Speaker 1: we like stop at the highway. It's my two older

202
00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:27,880
Speaker 1: sisters and my three older sisters and myself and um,

203
00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:29,880
Speaker 1: we're in two different cars. We like pull over and

204
00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:32,520
Speaker 1: take another cookie, and I'm like, guys, I really don't

205
00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:34,600
Speaker 1: think it's a good idea. It's like a really good piece,

206
00:10:34,679 --> 00:10:36,200
Speaker 1: like we should be doing a small marks, like you're

207
00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:39,640
Speaker 1: such a little bit. They stake it. Then we get

208
00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:41,840
Speaker 1: to our house. We're in Jersey, drive to Queens. We

209
00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:43,800
Speaker 1: get to your house. I'm high as fun. Then when

210
00:10:43,800 --> 00:10:46,000
Speaker 1: we get outside, my one sister goes. My husband can't

211
00:10:46,000 --> 00:10:49,200
Speaker 1: know we're high, so just pretend you're sober. Fuck man's

212
00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:52,280
Speaker 1: pretender sober. So we get into the house and their

213
00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:54,920
Speaker 1: idea of pertaining or sober is drink wine if he

214
00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:57,280
Speaker 1: thinks we're drunk. So then I get drunk and ship.

215
00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:01,360
Speaker 1: So I'm drunk and high to this day, I don't

216
00:11:01,360 --> 00:11:02,920
Speaker 1: think I've been drunk and high at the same time

217
00:11:03,040 --> 00:11:05,640
Speaker 1: like that. And this guy texts me like I really

218
00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:07,720
Speaker 1: need to talk to you, and we had we had

219
00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:09,880
Speaker 1: sex their first night. I don't think I'm so high.

220
00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:13,079
Speaker 1: I'm like, should I got him pregnant? Like about to

221
00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:16,920
Speaker 1: be your daddy? Like that's how high. I'm like freaking out.

222
00:11:17,400 --> 00:11:20,160
Speaker 1: And I'm with my nephew who's also the name is Amir,

223
00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:22,440
Speaker 1: and um, I was so high. I thought he was

224
00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:24,640
Speaker 1: my my best friend. So I'm just like telling him

225
00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:27,480
Speaker 1: about my sex competes. I'm just like oh my god. Yes,

226
00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:30,440
Speaker 1: his diak is so big. I know you I'm talking

227
00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:32,440
Speaker 1: about him. No, my niphew's name is Amir as well.

228
00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:35,040
Speaker 1: No, no no, but at least you were talking about him. Yeah. Yeah.

229
00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,439
Speaker 1: So I'm like laying my niphew's nap. He's like petting me.

230
00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:39,480
Speaker 1: He's like, okay on see, just like trying to sober

231
00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:42,079
Speaker 1: me up. And I'm texting him and I'm like and

232
00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,480
Speaker 1: he just thinks I'm just like regular high and he's like,

233
00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:46,680
Speaker 1: I'll just get you ver since you can't drive. So

234
00:11:46,720 --> 00:11:49,800
Speaker 1: I go over there. I'm so terrified. I'm like, he's pregnant.

235
00:11:50,400 --> 00:11:52,840
Speaker 1: I'm going to be because he said because like what

236
00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:55,360
Speaker 1: else he urgently need to talk to me about right

237
00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,199
Speaker 1: after we have sex, Like this is a day he

238
00:11:58,240 --> 00:12:01,160
Speaker 1: could have been itching. I could I could go. I

239
00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:04,079
Speaker 1: was so hot. I was so hot I couldn't even

240
00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:06,520
Speaker 1: go there. You don't even think like you, I know

241
00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,400
Speaker 1: how you thought he was probably urgently thinking this man

242
00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:14,640
Speaker 1: was pregned by me. So I get there and he

243
00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,160
Speaker 1: were like playing in bed and I'm just like looking

244
00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:19,400
Speaker 1: at him like just shaking, like, oh my god, like

245
00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:21,120
Speaker 1: what is he about to say? Because then at some

246
00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:24,839
Speaker 1: point I'm just like, this man is not pregnant, so

247
00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:26,440
Speaker 1: I just don't know what he's about to say. And

248
00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:29,480
Speaker 1: he's just like I was wondering, if you know, open

249
00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:33,040
Speaker 1: to this DS relationship. And I'm like, in two hours

250
00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:37,720
Speaker 1: brought it to her, that queen that this is the

251
00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,040
Speaker 1: whole part. This is me high. So this is this

252
00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:43,560
Speaker 1: is how it happened. When I remember, I remember, okay,

253
00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:46,160
Speaker 1: so was it four or forty hours prior we went

254
00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:48,720
Speaker 1: on our first date. Um, so, prior to that, we

255
00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:50,720
Speaker 1: didn't have a conversation. I don't even think I, let

256
00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:52,800
Speaker 1: you knew it was something I was interested in. I

257
00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:54,920
Speaker 1: don't think so. But prior to that, I only had

258
00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:59,959
Speaker 1: experience topping one person before, So you know, I had play,

259
00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:02,000
Speaker 1: I had the toys. You know. It was nice, fun

260
00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:06,120
Speaker 1: introduction to dominating somebody. So it's like that kind of

261
00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:08,000
Speaker 1: scratched a little issue. I was like, I want to

262
00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:10,200
Speaker 1: do what this is about. But I didn't find anybody

263
00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:12,280
Speaker 1: over the course of like maybe two years that I

264
00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:14,600
Speaker 1: was really ready to try to try that again with.

265
00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:16,560
Speaker 1: So we went on our first date and it was

266
00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:21,000
Speaker 1: just an instant, energetic experience. It was like she went

267
00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:22,959
Speaker 1: in to a very submissive space, and then I went

268
00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:24,960
Speaker 1: into a dominant space and it just kind of worked,

269
00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,719
Speaker 1: and then the light bulb went off, like maybe I

270
00:13:27,760 --> 00:13:31,040
Speaker 1: can activate on this. And so we get back to

271
00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:34,360
Speaker 1: my place and we, like you transformer, it was like

272
00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:37,720
Speaker 1: it was like it was left that. I was like

273
00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:40,360
Speaker 1: once that, once that button got pressed, I never went

274
00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:44,040
Speaker 1: back to predominant me in that way. And you've been

275
00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:46,520
Speaker 1: enjoying being a stuff as well, Yeah, because it came

276
00:13:46,559 --> 00:13:47,959
Speaker 1: out of her. So we get back to the house

277
00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:50,400
Speaker 1: and we started having sex and she's like, I just

278
00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:52,120
Speaker 1: want you to own me. I'm getting we're getting it in,

279
00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:56,319
Speaker 1: we're getting it, we get we're getting in heavy eye contacts,

280
00:13:56,679 --> 00:14:00,760
Speaker 1: we're going in. I'm definitely controlling the situation. Five bitch,

281
00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:05,680
Speaker 1: you was yelling, I want you to own So that's

282
00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:09,079
Speaker 1: not it's devil dick to let you the first time

283
00:14:09,240 --> 00:14:12,839
Speaker 1: you're saying during sex, but the first time, the first

284
00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:18,760
Speaker 1: time you said it was and continues to be great.

285
00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,960
Speaker 1: That's right to make a podcast with them, you know,

286
00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,800
Speaker 1: I love that. Well, we're gonna talk more about relationship shit,

287
00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:30,560
Speaker 1: but I wanted to get into our vanilla ship. If

288
00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:32,760
Speaker 1: you guys are listening to this for the first time

289
00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:35,680
Speaker 1: our Vanilla Ships segment is sex in the news. We

290
00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:37,720
Speaker 1: have been away from the studio for quite some time,

291
00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:42,720
Speaker 1: so you guys definitely saw this circulating the blogs. Our

292
00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:46,000
Speaker 1: good friend who was on the pod Shan on her

293
00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:49,520
Speaker 1: Lovers and Friends podcast, had someone by the name of

294
00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:52,720
Speaker 1: watch Jazzy on and yet she talked about being super

295
00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:55,000
Speaker 1: submissive in all those things. But I wanted to play

296
00:14:55,040 --> 00:14:57,080
Speaker 1: a clip and I wanted to hear you, guys, is

297
00:14:57,560 --> 00:14:59,920
Speaker 1: um response to it? I don't know, You're gonna play

298
00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:01,200
Speaker 1: and then I'll tell you when to cut it off.

299
00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:07,840
Speaker 1: This is regarding UM doing something with your partner that

300
00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:09,440
Speaker 1: you may or may not enjoy it. But this was

301
00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:14,280
Speaker 1: her answer to it. Anything goes for sure if you're

302
00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:16,920
Speaker 1: comfortable with the person. Because I'm doing sh it I

303
00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:18,720
Speaker 1: never did before. I'm just like, I would have never

304
00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:20,720
Speaker 1: done this, but you know what, I'm comfortable with this person,

305
00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:25,000
Speaker 1: and I feel safe to have an example. Are like

306
00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:28,200
Speaker 1: you have an example? Yeah that do you do it

307
00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:30,080
Speaker 1: for you or do you do it for them? I

308
00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:31,920
Speaker 1: do it for him because for me, I'm not at

309
00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:33,600
Speaker 1: a place where I like it. Yet I had we

310
00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:37,080
Speaker 1: had one successful time where I was like okay, you

311
00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:41,600
Speaker 1: know my butt creamed. It was like, oh, ship, like

312
00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:44,200
Speaker 1: it was like creaming. I don't know what that was,

313
00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:46,440
Speaker 1: but it was like it was weird. Yeah, I don't

314
00:15:46,440 --> 00:15:48,720
Speaker 1: know the science of that, in particular, because your butt

315
00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:54,320
Speaker 1: doesn't lubricate in that way it would you could shoot it.

316
00:15:54,320 --> 00:16:01,480
Speaker 1: It was clear. Yeah, yeah, that's fast. She This is

317
00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:03,040
Speaker 1: also a two minute clips, so I didn't want to

318
00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:04,880
Speaker 1: play at all, but she pretty much says, I don't

319
00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:07,240
Speaker 1: enjoy anal sex because it hurts. It's not something that

320
00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:09,200
Speaker 1: I do, but I do it because he wants to

321
00:16:09,240 --> 00:16:12,760
Speaker 1: do it. And luckily you guys are in the sense

322
00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:14,640
Speaker 1: to where you guys agree. But that was one of

323
00:16:14,680 --> 00:16:17,160
Speaker 1: my things with my ex. As much as I enjoy pegging,

324
00:16:17,760 --> 00:16:20,200
Speaker 1: he was not going to do it, and I didn't.

325
00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:22,320
Speaker 1: I didn't truly want to do anything that I knew

326
00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:24,720
Speaker 1: he didn't like, And so I wanted to know with

327
00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:27,560
Speaker 1: you guys, if there is anything that maybe you enjoy

328
00:16:27,720 --> 00:16:30,920
Speaker 1: that you don't or vice versa, and how you guys

329
00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:34,200
Speaker 1: go about that conversation and do you think it's healthy

330
00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:37,160
Speaker 1: that she says she's doing something sexually with her partner

331
00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:41,560
Speaker 1: that she doesn't enjoy and that's painful for her. HM, well,

332
00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:44,120
Speaker 1: I think it's beautiful to have that mindset, to be

333
00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:48,080
Speaker 1: open enough to push yourself for your partner, and I

334
00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,840
Speaker 1: understand that. I saw some other clips from Jazzy and

335
00:16:50,840 --> 00:16:52,600
Speaker 1: it was it was I don't know if she would

336
00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:55,960
Speaker 1: call herself an actual sub. She definitely given the stuffy,

337
00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:59,320
Speaker 1: heavy sub, so I understand what that mindset like. That's

338
00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:04,000
Speaker 1: true submission, pushing yourself past your comfort zone for the

339
00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:06,560
Speaker 1: sake of pleasing your partners. I also wouldn't compare this

340
00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:10,919
Speaker 1: to like doing something you don't like, like one, it

341
00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:14,480
Speaker 1: doesn't sound forceful like at first even hearing you say it,

342
00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:18,119
Speaker 1: and even like reading the thing like the headline. That

343
00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,680
Speaker 1: was totally different to me. That was more like I'm

344
00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:22,760
Speaker 1: not like I don't love eating pussy, but I do

345
00:17:22,800 --> 00:17:24,560
Speaker 1: it for you. Like she's like, I'm not the point

346
00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:26,639
Speaker 1: where I like it yet because it's still probably uncomfortable.

347
00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:29,520
Speaker 1: She's still like getting loose, getting loos learning how to

348
00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:31,879
Speaker 1: do it like that didn't give what I thought, but

349
00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:34,240
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's people in the comments trashing her because

350
00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:36,040
Speaker 1: I want to I want to ask you then as

351
00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:38,159
Speaker 1: a sub and being submissed because I ain't go hold you.

352
00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:40,840
Speaker 1: I ain't doing it. I don't want to do I

353
00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:45,119
Speaker 1: know I am more of the doesn't want to She

354
00:17:45,240 --> 00:17:47,760
Speaker 1: literally said it's painful and it's not something she's ever done,

355
00:17:47,760 --> 00:17:50,119
Speaker 1: and she doesn't she's never done. Doesn't sound she doesn't

356
00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:52,720
Speaker 1: want to know. It sounds like she It sounds like

357
00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:54,600
Speaker 1: she does it for him. She wants to serve you,

358
00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,720
Speaker 1: she wants to see him, she doesn't want to do

359
00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:58,680
Speaker 1: anal sex that like, there's a difference there, and I

360
00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:00,720
Speaker 1: want to ask you then as a sub like the

361
00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:04,359
Speaker 1: difference in wanting to please him by doing whatever he

362
00:18:04,440 --> 00:18:08,359
Speaker 1: asked and in the same time doing something that you

363
00:18:08,480 --> 00:18:12,040
Speaker 1: genuinely don't like or that may be painful for you,

364
00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,679
Speaker 1: or that you may not ask forever because it's not

365
00:18:14,760 --> 00:18:18,199
Speaker 1: something you want. As far as like something that just

366
00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:21,359
Speaker 1: makes me uncomfortable. He's not the type to just push

367
00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:25,840
Speaker 1: me past my limit. Um, but even in if a

368
00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:29,240
Speaker 1: circumstance came up, I would I would push that limit

369
00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:31,639
Speaker 1: with him. Is that something that he really desired and

370
00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,680
Speaker 1: that's something that could bring us closer and bring pleasure.

371
00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:39,240
Speaker 1: Giving him pleasure gives me pleasure, And in that submission,

372
00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:40,879
Speaker 1: it's a part of it. It's a part of that

373
00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:43,200
Speaker 1: sacrifice and a part of that. That's what I heard.

374
00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:46,000
Speaker 1: I didn't hear anything about her. I really didn't take

375
00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:48,000
Speaker 1: that out the clip. I don't want to play the whole.

376
00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:51,400
Speaker 1: It just wasn't given. Like one, uncomfortable is a big

377
00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:55,800
Speaker 1: word to use. Someone's making you uncomfortable, and like that's

378
00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:59,119
Speaker 1: different from yeah, I don't know. I believe that she

379
00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:01,280
Speaker 1: wants to do it, Like I feel like the only

380
00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:05,280
Speaker 1: reason I had anal sex and granted I wanted it

381
00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:07,480
Speaker 1: to work, it didn't necessarily work. I got enough in

382
00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:09,280
Speaker 1: but he was probably the only partner I ever had

383
00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:12,040
Speaker 1: that really wanted it and I did it and yet

384
00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:14,320
Speaker 1: it hurt, but also like he was so turned on

385
00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:16,159
Speaker 1: and I knew it was gonna take me time. I

386
00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:18,600
Speaker 1: feel the same way, Like it wasn't like a complete

387
00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:20,960
Speaker 1: write off, you know what I mean. I think that

388
00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:23,920
Speaker 1: we do confuse sometimes, and I think that's what's scary

389
00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:27,200
Speaker 1: about a clip like this is because people can misconstrue

390
00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:29,440
Speaker 1: like she's doing things she doesn't want to do for

391
00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:32,720
Speaker 1: him and put all that pressure on her where it's

392
00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:34,760
Speaker 1: just like, girl, I ain't sucking, ask you. I love

393
00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:36,719
Speaker 1: this Nigga, let me warm up to it right now.

394
00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:38,040
Speaker 1: It kind of hurts a little bit. That's kind of

395
00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:40,960
Speaker 1: actually how I took that. But also there's a lot

396
00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:43,679
Speaker 1: of context with her last subclip too, to where you

397
00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:46,680
Speaker 1: can see that it probably turns her on to do

398
00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:49,239
Speaker 1: things like that for Niga. Yeah, I think also as

399
00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:52,280
Speaker 1: it just as a sub it's it's a it's very

400
00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:56,800
Speaker 1: pleasing and very validating in a way to just please

401
00:19:56,840 --> 00:19:59,520
Speaker 1: your man, to please your dumb in that way, and

402
00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:02,959
Speaker 1: to just give all of yourself to them because it's

403
00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,440
Speaker 1: it's it's also about trust, just being in a space

404
00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:08,080
Speaker 1: where you just fully trust this person and trust that

405
00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:11,200
Speaker 1: if you're at your limit that you can say it

406
00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:13,960
Speaker 1: like I tried. I want this for you, I want

407
00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:16,120
Speaker 1: this for us, and I'm at my limit right now

408
00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,680
Speaker 1: and just trusting that he will honor that. So being

409
00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 1: in that space, I'm in that space with him, so

410
00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,239
Speaker 1: kind of just anything goes and we'll try it at

411
00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:27,399
Speaker 1: least once, and then who gotta like it to do

412
00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:31,040
Speaker 1: it again. As long as he like it, it goes again.

413
00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:35,040
Speaker 1: I think in the way we can learn to communicate,

414
00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:36,639
Speaker 1: I always want to make sure it's a way that

415
00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:38,280
Speaker 1: she enjoy it. So if I feel like she just

416
00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:41,240
Speaker 1: doesn't enjoy it, I'm not going to truly Okay, you

417
00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:51,000
Speaker 1: need to work out the kinks until both right, But

418
00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:53,920
Speaker 1: let's get into our quarder. I am going to ask

419
00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:56,240
Speaker 1: each of you to give a sex a sex tip.

420
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:59,159
Speaker 1: So whether you do it from the dumb perspective, you

421
00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 1: do it from the sub perspective, or just something sexual

422
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:04,920
Speaker 1: that y'all have done that y'all think other people would

423
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:08,160
Speaker 1: enjoy too. Go ahead. We will start with the lady

424
00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:10,320
Speaker 1: you don't mine, but see here, go ahead and give

425
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:16,720
Speaker 1: us a sex tip. A sex tip. Um, I'm blanking,

426
00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: Oh my god. When we pass into your daddy, okay,

427
00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:25,480
Speaker 1: number one and wherever it is that you do, show

428
00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,320
Speaker 1: the funk up whatever, Thank you with great a dick

429
00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:32,159
Speaker 1: every time show up and whatever it is for you

430
00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 1: and your your partner's gonna feel that nobody wants mediocre anything.

431
00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 1: So whether it's a dumb sub situation or is the

432
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 1: most amazing vanilla missionary sex show the fun. So we

433
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:45,360
Speaker 1: had a debate last week where we talked about where

434
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:47,720
Speaker 1: we all the mike. When we talked about that, Yeah,

435
00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 1: so I was like, sometimes I'll show up with CB

436
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:54,040
Speaker 1: in the beginning, and then I grab, do you always

437
00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 1: show up a plus but bestick you'll ever have? I

438
00:21:57,280 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 1: guess you do because you always own it always. It's like,

439
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:03,399
Speaker 1: it's like, has that ever been an issue for you

440
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:05,479
Speaker 1: when you like fun the ship out of women on

441
00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,840
Speaker 1: the first night and then they'd be going crazy. I've

442
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:12,399
Speaker 1: even like, damn, my fuck too good? Yeah, because because

443
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 1: there's been times like I'll go out on a day

444
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:17,280
Speaker 1: and instantly know like I'm not really feeling her, but

445
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:20,600
Speaker 1: then I'm like, I probably still fuck though, and it's like,

446
00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 1: why am I even doing that? And then bringing that

447
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,400
Speaker 1: mindset and I'm gonna lay it down. I don't even

448
00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:27,400
Speaker 1: like you. Why am I even getting I gotta ask

449
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,480
Speaker 1: guys bring people into the bedroom with y'all. Yeah, So

450
00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:33,439
Speaker 1: I have a question for you, Matt, because it can

451
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 1: show up the best. This was not an issue but

452
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 1: a conversation I had multiple times with my ex. I'm like, damn,

453
00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:42,800
Speaker 1: everybody get this type of dick that you give me?

454
00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:45,440
Speaker 1: Like I actually was mad that he was showing up

455
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 1: so good at giving dick to everyone that joined us

456
00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:50,480
Speaker 1: in the best. But they were your friends, they got

457
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 1: not like that. It's no, because if you're talking my homegirl,

458
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:57,680
Speaker 1: you need know you you sucking told you you're doing

459
00:22:57,720 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 1: everything that you do that to me. No, they all

460
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 1: shouldn't be getting massages in the morning, or their toes

461
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 1: sucked or they're asked a He was that way even

462
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: at the sex club. So no, it's not even just

463
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 1: my friends. It's anyone that got brought into the room.

464
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: Showed the funk up. So he said he's going to

465
00:23:15,880 --> 00:23:19,199
Speaker 1: show up. How he shows up? Does that make you

466
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 1: feel any way, like nothing is left for you? It

467
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 1: makes me feel very turned on. Okay, I think, uh,

468
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 1: he has some great dick. I think I'd love to

469
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 1: share it with whoever is worthy. And um, we both

470
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 1: show up fully. One of my favorite things when we

471
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:40,639
Speaker 1: let someone else into relation our our bedroom is um

472
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 1: just kind of like catering to the experience, like grabbing

473
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:47,479
Speaker 1: some lube, you know, putting a finger where needed, whatever

474
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,679
Speaker 1: whatever to enhance the experience. Because we're all about experience.

475
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 1: It's not just like let's just funk. It's like, let's

476
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:58,480
Speaker 1: an experience with someone else. Is your relationship open separately

477
00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:00,439
Speaker 1: or you'd only have sex with other pe to together.

478
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 1: It started out together with whoever we chose to be with.

479
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 1: And I think that's the main thing that we loved

480
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 1: about being able to do it together because it's like,

481
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,679
Speaker 1: this is my homie and it's also my partner, and

482
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 1: so I can have that homie vibe with her and

483
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 1: still do it. But now it's like we've involved to

484
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 1: where we enjoy more intimate connections with our partners. So

485
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 1: once we established okay, we were working with this person,

486
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:24,440
Speaker 1: then we have our own solo encounters with them as well.

487
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 1: So you gotta suck them together first most of the time. Yeah. Interesting, Yeah,

488
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: I like that. Yeah, because I'm by So it works

489
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 1: out for me because I get to have the same

490
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 1: experiences with women and women get more new pussy. So

491
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 1: it's a one win situation. That's where people people couldn't understand,

492
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 1: like that was a part of my relationship that I

493
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 1: was like, oh, yeah, I want to keep doing this.

494
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: Like with sex clubs, I would be like, you want

495
00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 1: to go tonight, But it was because I had the

496
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:53,639
Speaker 1: urge to be with women, and I got to be

497
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: with a lot of women. Can I As we talk

498
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 1: about the sex clubs so much on this podcast, taking

499
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 1: the sex club out of it, where do you meet someone.

500
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people ask us that

501
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 1: and if they don't have access to a sex club

502
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,920
Speaker 1: or whatever, like where have your encounters happened? We'll get

503
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,200
Speaker 1: busy on the apps. That's how we met the apps,

504
00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,800
Speaker 1: which we met on okay Cupid and we've met. Yeah,

505
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:16,960
Speaker 1: I have an episode coming up with them on my

506
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: TV show where I met a girl on okay Cupid

507
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: and I had no idea, but in Sharona's guided me

508
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,679
Speaker 1: through it, we meet the girl together. We like go

509
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:31,840
Speaker 1: on the State. But basically there's like sixty categories of orientation. Okay,

510
00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 1: keep it more than any other app where it's like

511
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:35,840
Speaker 1: you can do buy like kind of polly like this

512
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 1: this that. Do you guys swap it in that way? Now?

513
00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:40,920
Speaker 1: Did you do you like fill it out in a

514
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,399
Speaker 1: certain way. We're not. We're not. We're not, okay, keep

515
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 1: it now because we realized it just doesn't work for

516
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:51,760
Speaker 1: what we're looking for. It's like Life and Field has

517
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: all of those categories too. We honestly haven't been on

518
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 1: there since we've met, so maybe they maybe they're trying

519
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 1: to get loose and you don't tup ship. Yeah, we

520
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: met on there, then what the funk? I thought, Okay,

521
00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 1: like that surprises me. Why that app because you hear

522
00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: about Tender Bumble feel I get no love when Tender

523
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:14,320
Speaker 1: I've never got I never like whatever reason. Never. I

524
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: think I made an account and it completely just never

525
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 1: went on. And so my friend was like, I saw

526
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: you on Tender. I was like a lot of people

527
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 1: on Bumble and on Riot. Yeah I liked Bumble. I

528
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: kicked off a Bumble for being myself. Someone thought it

529
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,119
Speaker 1: was a big page even when I thought it was

530
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 1: first time. Like all right, I said in my profile,

531
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:31,360
Speaker 1: and they come to me for the first time. Yeah, no,

532
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 1: it's not they They're laziest. Hell, they'll just say hi.

533
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 1: And I still got to do all this ship. I

534
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 1: don't like that would be lazy. I ain't gonna hold

535
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: you ill still I'm singling out. Y'all gotta teach me.

536
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 1: Please hopping my DM and tell me what works. I

537
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 1: still just in the GYP shooting my shop for the eyes.

538
00:26:45,320 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: I don't on Instagram. I don't do that. Oh I

539
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: need to see multiple pictures. I need to see mutual friends.

540
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not on no apps right now at all.

541
00:26:56,000 --> 00:27:02,359
Speaker 1: Before it might have been bigge Or forever ago, but

542
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: also Field, but they don't pay me no more. I

543
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 1: was on there because I was getting paid to be

544
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 1: on there. I'm not there. Yeah, okay, yeah, which is

545
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 1: still up. But I don't. I don't, I don't. I

546
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,359
Speaker 1: personally don't like meeting people on outs. Last week I

547
00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: talked about how I became a unicorn. I met them

548
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 1: in person, and my friends laugh because they know my

549
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 1: go to trick. It's sending drinks. I love buying people

550
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,880
Speaker 1: drinks because people don't buy drinks for you anymore, like

551
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: men do not buy drinks for women anymore. I know

552
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 1: they're expensive in New York. Really drinks nigga niggas don't.

553
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: They'll come up and talk to you, but I don't know.

554
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,480
Speaker 1: Men aren't buying you drinks. I have been going out

555
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,400
Speaker 1: often with my friends for what it used to be,

556
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 1: maybe because niggas don't want to do it in a group.

557
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,360
Speaker 1: When I was with my friends, No, even in my

558
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 1: twenty way, is it just two of you nigga's. It'll

559
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 1: be me and maybe one of those men. Where I

560
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 1: go out by myself, No, they'll come up and try

561
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: to have a whole ass conversation with me. I don't

562
00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 1: drink so you so you can hear, I'm I'm drink

563
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:07,960
Speaker 1: ice at this point, like waiting for nigga's ain't offering

564
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 1: to buy drinks, so I love. That's how I approached women,

565
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 1: like would you like a drink? Mind you fans buy

566
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 1: drinks all this wait, Okay, I have asked it. I

567
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 1: think this is a actual fair point. Do men not

568
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:25,000
Speaker 1: buy you drinks at like networking? No bitch bars, niggas

569
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 1: ain't barns the industry. Ship that's open bar. You ain't

570
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 1: gotta buy me a drink that ship know. When I'm

571
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:32,360
Speaker 1: out in regular places, I like the bar hop I'd

572
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:36,199
Speaker 1: be out in West Village, East Village, regular places. Nigga's

573
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: want to come up and hold whole lass conversations with

574
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,239
Speaker 1: me and not offer me a fucking train. Maybe it's

575
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 1: because I'm in nightlife, but I've always done the buying drinks.

576
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: I haven't. I didn't bought you a drink when we

577
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: were in Lads drink but like niggas. But niggas, they

578
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 1: have approached me and we talked about it, even going

579
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 1: out in Atlanta, going out of multiple cities. This is

580
00:28:56,080 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 1: a multiple city things, not even multiple cities. Niggas will

581
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: come up maybe I don't know to where, and I'm nasty,

582
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: so you want my number, but you ain't gonna buy

583
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 1: me a drink. But I'm good, like that's some new

584
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 1: new ship. Which is why as a woman, when I'm

585
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:17,240
Speaker 1: trying to holler at another girl, I'll buy I'll buy

586
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: the woman drinks. I'll send a drink across the bar.

587
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 1: Like fellas bro I don't have a homeboy in my

588
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 1: life that I don't go out with that doesn't set

589
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: drinks to other like they are constantly do. I've literally

590
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: just experienced that a week. So I'm selling niggas will

591
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: sit here and have whole conversations with me or whole

592
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: conversations of mine, but I'm would be really just has

593
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 1: been conven friends. It's like, and I'm not calling them broke,

594
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 1: but like a lot of my friends have jobs where

595
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: they may not be making six figures, yet you know

596
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:47,640
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, they still they still on my brokens

597
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 1: of broke days. Like you ever see Half Baked in

598
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: Dave Chapelle on the date and his little money was

599
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 1: dwindling down even on my brokens of broke days. I calculate,

600
00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 1: you know, I'm thirt three. I wonder if like this

601
00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: is like you know, it's a new thing. It got

602
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 1: to be. But also just niggers ain't moving the same.

603
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 1: They ain't got to let me, let me tell you

604
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: how bad it is. And I'm bringing this up because

605
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,239
Speaker 1: it's not just my experience, it's all my friends. I

606
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: was just talking to Tam was one of my home girls.

607
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 1: Her friend owns a bar, so they were talking about

608
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: how this guy comes in who knows the owner. We'll

609
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 1: sit at the bar. His drinks are free because he

610
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,680
Speaker 1: knows the owner, and he'll tell the girls that he's

611
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: with just leave them the tip. Bro, you're getting free

612
00:30:32,080 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 1: drinks and telling the girls you're with to just leave us.

613
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,760
Speaker 1: She's the bartender I was out with, that's where it is.

614
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 1: And she's like, bro, they he brings all these women

615
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: in and tells them to tip. And she was complaining

616
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: because so many times the women are they're getting free

617
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: drinks and they don't tip. You want to hear they don't.

618
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 1: I've ever heard I'm in a fucking uh what was I? Oh?

619
00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 1: I'm in an uber in l A had no idea

620
00:30:54,520 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 1: that uberpool was back share. Yeah it is. I'm fucking smacked. Okay,

621
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it's like two thirty almost three, and

622
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 1: now I'm going to fucking Habibi, which is some hookahspot.

623
00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: I don't even like Kuka, but I was just in

624
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: a mood. So I'm on my way there and I

625
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 1: wondered why the uber driver made me meet him across

626
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: the street, but that's how uberpool works, so I don't

627
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: know what I clicked. But anyway, long story short, there's

628
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 1: someone else in the car. I said, oh, ship, my

629
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,880
Speaker 1: bad and he was like are you I said yeah,

630
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: He's like, this is your ride? I said who. So

631
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: it was a dude in the car. And the dude

632
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 1: was actually really young and really funny. He was like

633
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: getting a car on my broke boy ship, you are too,

634
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: So I was like all right. So then we start

635
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: getting into it to uber share whatever. And I was

636
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 1: in West Hollywood if anyone knows who bebes, like really

637
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: farst maybe minute drive. He was going to the same place,

638
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 1: so I was like, um oh, I was like, what

639
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,440
Speaker 1: do you do that. We started talking and he was like, yo,

640
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 1: I'm like coming off my homeway, like my homeboy started

641
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: rapping and ships like wherever this nigga go, I'm that

642
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: because he got the bitches, and I'll just be taking

643
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,120
Speaker 1: left over. And I was like, damn, he's admitting to

644
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:04,280
Speaker 1: the very young though, like maybe maybe not even twenty one.

645
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, damn legal, But how are

646
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: you gonna be getting money? He said, well, right now,

647
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 1: all of my friends like working nights, night life. He

648
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 1: was like, one of my friends even work in the movies.

649
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,400
Speaker 1: So I'd just been saying like, oh, you know, get

650
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: you a ticket for half so I have a girl

651
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: send me money on the date. You know what I'm saying.

652
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: They think they're splitting the day. Really I'm coming up

653
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: because I ain't paying for the ship, see what I mean.

654
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 1: But the same saying crazy when I said nick A

655
00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 1: buying drinking, no kid, because the humble sexuals he grown.

656
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: He's not a kid. But let's not call twenty year

657
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: old kids. We're not gonna do that because then everyone's

658
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: at the files. They are not kids, They're fucking adults.

659
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: Are they at dults enough to understand how to Like

660
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: we were, we were dope enough to have fake I

661
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 1: das and getting drinks. The sixteen so I know by

662
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: twenty you know what the funk you're doing. Even that,

663
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 1: we knew we had to get the bottle, get there

664
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,960
Speaker 1: before the fun they started charging. So we got our armor.

665
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: Aut of hours along island. I teens to be lit

666
00:32:58,000 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: by the time they. Let me tell you how I

667
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:01,720
Speaker 1: noticed who as a kid. We get to the club,

668
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 1: were getting and I'm also get a drink, and I

669
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 1: felt so bad. You want to drink. Yeah, I'll take one.

670
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 1: I'll take one, but my homeboy's about to get a bottle. Anyway,

671
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: Someone get your drink back, That's what he said, and

672
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 1: sure enough he'd damn sure did his friend's bottle. Yeah.

673
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 1: Thirty minutes later, he came right up to me. The

674
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 1: cost of me goes, He said, you are red bar blanck. Wow,

675
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,000
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever I don't think somebody's ever

676
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,720
Speaker 1: bought bought me a drink. See, and you just said

677
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: I've never bought her a drink? Sent you k Yeah,

678
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: I've never that's never happened exactly. It's a real thing

679
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 1: that I experienced ten years ago, but now going out,

680
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 1: it's not a thing. No, niggas just want to talk.

681
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: Niggas want to targe with you lesbian, so bitch of

682
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 1: a sin and drinks but not oh dude, but I'm

683
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: saying she could still have dudes. Oh sorry, I thought

684
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 1: you was a lesbian by ratio happens again, you know what,

685
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 1: And that's how people do man. You buy so you're game.

686
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 1: I'll be now they wanted three. No nigga's be chatting

687
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 1: and so I'm drinking air. Nigga, you're talking too much.

688
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 1: Drink it. Whenever I go, I will say this, the

689
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 1: place is also where so sometimes smaller bars, not all

690
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,279
Speaker 1: the time, even like a last lap, not all the time,

691
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 1: because it feels so friendly and communal. But when I

692
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: go to like a club like New York club, like

693
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:29,280
Speaker 1: a PhD Little Sisters, whatever club I go to, dude,

694
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,439
Speaker 1: send me drinks at clubs, buy me drinks a club

695
00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,360
Speaker 1: like clubbing for some reason, maybe because it's too loud

696
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,919
Speaker 1: to talk. And I'll be honest with you can't tell

697
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 1: y'all the last time a bitch been in the club.

698
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't club. I'll do bars, I'll do restaurants,

699
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: but no, clubs are terrible. I can't do a club. Also, like,

700
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 1: is it the age that we're falling in. We're like

701
00:34:48,440 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: sitting down and listening to me like I can. Letting

702
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,760
Speaker 1: down and listening to music is like why are we here? Also,

703
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 1: I don't like the weird hierarchy of clubs necessarily, Like, okay,

704
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: so I've been I spent a lot of time in

705
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 1: l A, and I don't go to a Poppy or

706
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: Delilah or Hide or any of those places, or even

707
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 1: highlight room I don't really funk with because there's not

708
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 1: a dance floor, and it then forces you to go

709
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 1: to a table, and then once you get to that table,

710
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: you're supposed to stand just with the twenty people that

711
00:35:18,080 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: are there, because everybody wants to be at a table. Yeah,

712
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 1: so it's dumb. It's a weird ass fucking vibe. So

713
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:26,319
Speaker 1: of course I know people at these clubs, so I

714
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: will literally go get a drink hill and be like

715
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 1: all right, y'all, and then I just go dance in

716
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:33,359
Speaker 1: the aisle because there's no real dance floor. And then

717
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 1: everybody even thinks that I'm a fucking weirdo because I'm

718
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,120
Speaker 1: not at a table. So the niggas will be like, yo,

719
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 1: do you want to come and sit here? And I'm like, no,

720
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 1: I'm actually having a good time. Like it's just weird.

721
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 1: It's supposed to being at a bar where it doesn't

722
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:48,880
Speaker 1: feel like that, and I think it just is a

723
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:52,479
Speaker 1: uncomfortable like, I don't know, Bring clubs back, bro bring

724
00:35:52,560 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 1: binding drinks back, niggas. If you listening and you got

725
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: a motherfucking penis and you out here single trying to

726
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:02,239
Speaker 1: motherfucking find somebody, buy a woman a drink, and if

727
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:03,960
Speaker 1: you're talking to her and you see her drink is

728
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:07,880
Speaker 1: half done, please be like, well, what are you drinking?

729
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,320
Speaker 1: Let me get you want another one. It's so simple,

730
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 1: and yes it may not, but and to be fair,

731
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 1: that's the problem too. I think a lot of people

732
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 1: just expect that, Oh, if I bought this bitch of

733
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: drink sheet with me all night. No, it may or

734
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 1: may not go anywhere, but nigga, fourteen dollars, it could

735
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 1: take you way further if you just sucking. I mean,

736
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 1: if you're in the South and it appears about but

737
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 1: if you in the South and drinks better be six

738
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,359
Speaker 1: seth nate, they're in happy hour and if you want

739
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:39,280
Speaker 1: a PBR. But that's what I'm Camles was nine dollars.

740
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: Speaking of drinks costs and sending drinks with one of

741
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 1: my friends, we were watching the God damn it, what

742
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: was going on? Where the was it the last finals game?

743
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 1: What's happening? Was that? Not the was the Celtics? Yeah, okay,

744
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,720
Speaker 1: that was it. I knew I wasn't stupid, but I am.

745
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,919
Speaker 1: So we're sitting down, you d it's like a Celtic today,

746
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:05,239
Speaker 1: but the right a place and Silver Lake and it's

747
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 1: it's like a williamsburg E vibe for anybody that's listening.

748
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:10,880
Speaker 1: So we're there, there's girls, there's a nice bar, but

749
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: any of the nicest of the nice. And he was like,

750
00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:14,200
Speaker 1: I gotta send these girls drinks. They find a ship,

751
00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 1: so he tells the bartender to get them whatever they

752
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 1: want or whatever they're drinking. Do you know these bitches drink?

753
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 1: And he spent a hundred and ten dollars on their

754
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:30,840
Speaker 1: drinks and he was like, I sweart to know it

755
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: was freaking out, something like, dog, I ain't gonna lie.

756
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 1: That's a that's a drink to fucking order when someone's

757
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,959
Speaker 1: buying you a drink. Do you bet you they ordered

758
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 1: that ship? Because he said he was bro so then

759
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 1: I'm looking at the glasses they have before, like that's

760
00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 1: giving saying Grea and you bet just had ninety for

761
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,799
Speaker 1: you two girl. Do you know they came by right

762
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 1: at the end of the game talking about thanks so much.

763
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 1: It was a nice to meet y'all. You better takes

764
00:37:54,080 --> 00:37:57,880
Speaker 1: after that pussy. I can't believe it. I mean, but

765
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: technically each pussy was only forty dollars. You're not getting

766
00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 1: my pussy a forty dollars, I mean, because it was

767
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 1: forty plus text. That's probably how we got you know why,

768
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, I don't know if I

769
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,320
Speaker 1: could do that. That's a risky run though, you know,

770
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 1: but you game, you know you don't want You don't

771
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 1: want no pussy if you're not spending nothing on no drinks,

772
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:19,879
Speaker 1: you don't want a team. You said ninety and don't

773
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:21,200
Speaker 1: you know we had to hear about it all night,

774
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 1: getting your motherfucking competitive bag. You want to be put

775
00:38:24,120 --> 00:38:27,280
Speaker 1: into the game. We are the coach and you're asking

776
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: us to put you into the game. So buy some

777
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 1: motherfucking drinks. Let's get into our horrible decision for this

778
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: one with a couple I wanted to talk about accepting

779
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:40,520
Speaker 1: change and growth with your partner. There's toxic takes I've

780
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 1: seen on the internet regarding this, and um, I do

781
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:47,280
Speaker 1: want to bring up this article from newsweek dot com.

782
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,320
Speaker 1: There's like three different scenarios here and I want y'all input. Wheezy,

783
00:38:50,360 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: please share yours too. This is on relationships, and there's

784
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 1: fury on the internet over this. A not so happily

785
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: married woman has sparked a online after revealing that she

786
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 1: is refusing to have sex with her husband while he

787
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:10,720
Speaker 1: has a beard. Compromise maybe the key to a happy marriage,

788
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: but in this instance, neither side is willing to concede

789
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:16,800
Speaker 1: any ground and what is essentially a disagreement over facial

790
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:19,960
Speaker 1: here as the disc as the disgruntled wife in this

791
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:23,360
Speaker 1: tale of woe puts, he likes his beard. I hate

792
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,520
Speaker 1: it her avergence of facial hair him when it comes

793
00:39:26,520 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: to women and beards. Um, but pretty much she is

794
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: not attractive to him with this beard. He's grown it.

795
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 1: You know, men be growing mind back. But okay, cool.

796
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 1: We've all experienced this in changes that happened with your

797
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 1: partner on a physical level like this one. What is

798
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 1: the conversation when you don't like something because I know

799
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 1: this was a thing with my hair. My partner felt

800
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 1: the way that I never came to him and discussed

801
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 1: the color I was going before coming. I was just

802
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: showing up with I mean the blond this He liked

803
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 1: the blind when it was colorful. It was just a

804
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: lot of attention. I looked, you know, I don't know,

805
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: maybe different with hot pink hair. I guess how is

806
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 1: your hair? When he met you, it was just regular black.

807
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 1: I had just chopped my hair off. Actually, when he

808
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: met me, I want to say I had a lace

809
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 1: weight on, so he may be thought I had some

810
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:27,240
Speaker 1: long hair because then I got dreads. So he's literally

811
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: been with me on every phase of my hair, Like

812
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 1: I had dreadlocks. At one point when we did Miami,

813
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:34,479
Speaker 1: I had long braids. You think, no, I just stay bald.

814
00:40:34,920 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: You just stay how many years uh since? Wow? So

815
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: what is the conversation of, say he cuts his hair off,

816
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:49,879
Speaker 1: his beard, his beard off, you vocalize it. Hey, Yeah,

817
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 1: it's so funny. I saw about it all the time

818
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,439
Speaker 1: where I'm like, that's the ones like you can cheat

819
00:40:55,440 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 1: on He was like, you can cheat on me, and like,

820
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: tell me, got somebody pregnant? And I'd forgive you faster

821
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 1: than if you just showed up without your beard. But yo, luckily,

822
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:11,319
Speaker 1: because here's the true thing about beards. Beards can be

823
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 1: like I've seen dudes that are not that cute and

824
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 1: they'll have something else like oh he's got dress, or

825
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 1: he's tall, or he's got a body, Luckily or hue.

826
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: Imagine if it was one of m nigga isn't cut

827
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 1: their beard off? I like facial hair, bro change the

828
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 1: whole nigga. It looks at James Harden, don't just don't

829
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:34,280
Speaker 1: want even covers his mouth. That's what his money covers

830
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 1: everything else. I hate when people, by the way, says

831
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 1: ship like, how can she fuck him? Hello, he's worth

832
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:51,239
Speaker 1: here's my asshole, he's fucking rich. Um okay, so how

833
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 1: do you feel that? Let's get into because this this

834
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,680
Speaker 1: husband in particular, is being withheld of sex until I

835
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 1: guess his beard gets cut. How do you respond to

836
00:42:01,040 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: somebody and then I'm going to switch it to women

837
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 1: after how do you respond with that beard take? I

838
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,439
Speaker 1: mean that definitely won't fly. You know what I'm saying.

839
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: If if if it was yeah, oh if you cut

840
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 1: your beard, I'm not going to have sex with you,

841
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: I would feel offended. Son, I just texted my girl,

842
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 1: would you rather I cheat on you or share my beard?

843
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 1: She said, defined cheat you? And that fellas not only

844
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 1: do we need you all to buy drinks, we need

845
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: you to keep your bed right now? Okay, wait, look,

846
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 1: and I don't want this to trigger anybody, but like, seriously,

847
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,600
Speaker 1: you're slim. She gained a bunch of weight. Would you

848
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,279
Speaker 1: feel that way? Because I feel like when men are

849
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 1: with women with this body type, even modelisque body right

850
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:54,280
Speaker 1: your neck or high everything. It's like, would it fuck

851
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,280
Speaker 1: you up if she gained weight? It's funny I recently

852
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: like I've been like escalating with weight um and recently

853
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 1: just lo I recently just lost some weight. So like

854
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:07,319
Speaker 1: he he likes me thicker, but if we have a

855
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 1: we have a lot of room for thicker is different.

856
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:13,359
Speaker 1: It's sighs. Probably it's probably like my booms get really big.

857
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 1: I think I hide them. Well, hey, somebody complaining about

858
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: no bus. He's not complaining. I like mine. I like

859
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:22,560
Speaker 1: my book smaller. I just put my clothes better and

860
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: just it's less heavy on my back. He wants them

861
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: like juicy and big like that was that was an argument.

862
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 1: It was a back and forth. It's her body type

863
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:34,439
Speaker 1: of your type. Absolutely, I got a lot of types,

864
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 1: but this is this is this is, this is the one.

865
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 1: But we have a lot of room for flexibility. So

866
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 1: if she gained thirty right, right, I mean, I'm not

867
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 1: like that's the that's that's the truth, and that's the conversation.

868
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 1: We see a lot online, right, Like we've seen so

869
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:54,080
Speaker 1: many couples literally say openly like, well, when I got you,

870
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,080
Speaker 1: you were one fifty, now you two fifty. That's too much.

871
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:59,440
Speaker 1: And it works for both sexes, like men gain and

872
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 1: lose weight us as well, and you lose some times

873
00:44:02,160 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 1: the tractability to your partner. I could say that he

874
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: did he tell you that conversation. No, you don't think

875
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:10,759
Speaker 1: he liked it. I know he didn't like it because

876
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 1: we just started working out, like crazyn, get me up

877
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 1: in the morning, come on back, let's go run, let's

878
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 1: go run. We're going to beat did that we were

879
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: living in Mexico was a taco okay, and it was

880
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: quarantine eating. But I will say, even though I knew

881
00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 1: it and I could feel it, I think he did

882
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: the best job he could and just trying to be like,

883
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 1: all right this and he knows I probably wouldn't like

884
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:35,879
Speaker 1: my body like that, right, He's like, I just gotta

885
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: get you back to where you are without saying it,

886
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:39,640
Speaker 1: but you got fat, but we're gonna get you ready.

887
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:41,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah. We would literally go out and he'd be like,

888
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 1: rice and beans. Baby, we haven't had winds. Last time

889
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: we've had cabbage? What did we ever had it? But

890
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:52,200
Speaker 1: I will say seventy to a hundred, I would have

891
00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 1: an issue with that, not weight weight game, game seventy

892
00:44:56,880 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 1: to undred, not aesthetically specifically, but like what I've been

893
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 1: to allow you to get this far off where we are?

894
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 1: So number one, I would hold myself accountable, like what

895
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 1: what did you know? What I'm saying? How I didn't

896
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:16,879
Speaker 1: know the people listening It could have very well came

897
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: from kids, which a lot of women, like men want

898
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: kids and then you're mad, I can't get rid of

899
00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 1: this this babyway, or like you know what I mean,

900
00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 1: And so he said, that's a different situation. One of

901
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:34,879
Speaker 1: the conversations I did get into with old Day it's

902
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:37,719
Speaker 1: my ex boyfriend, was he wanted me to get up

903
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 1: and I was really tired he was forced me to

904
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:40,680
Speaker 1: get up. I'm like, this is a motivational Now you're

905
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: making me feel like you just hate me be in fact,

906
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do when I have a baby.

907
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 1: He's like, that's different? Is it? Though? How is it difference?

908
00:45:47,200 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: Because right now I'm depressed, so something's wrong? So the baby.

909
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: You haven't excused that? Like, nah, bro, Like I just

910
00:45:54,080 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 1: kind of think. Dudes say that, and I feel like

911
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: maybe four months later you're like, get back on the treadmill.

912
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,320
Speaker 1: But both of y'all at it? Why? Why is I

913
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,319
Speaker 1: think that's a different type of big, a different type

914
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 1: of big. Some women gained sixty pounds in pregnant, Okay,

915
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 1: that's cool. I'm just like, you're creating a whole human.

916
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: You have room for that. It's more, it's more understanding

917
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:17,120
Speaker 1: of it just happening as opposed she had the baby

918
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 1: a year and a half ago and they lost the

919
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:23,720
Speaker 1: baby weight. Yeah, okay, you got a good three body.

920
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 1: You've got some time though, Okay, three years all right?

921
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: In terms of when I have a baby, every time

922
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: I look at a picture of Beyonce and her lips,

923
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:39,239
Speaker 1: her nose, I'm like, oh, even Brihanna now she you

924
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 1: could see the difference that's had her face every even

925
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:44,880
Speaker 1: I watched a little bit of Kardashians on Hulu with

926
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:47,480
Speaker 1: my mom and I was like, whoa. Now, I don't

927
00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:48,799
Speaker 1: say it in a bad way. I'm just saying it's

928
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 1: like a huge chain. But then I wonder if it's

929
00:46:50,680 --> 00:46:54,200
Speaker 1: just from the boat tooxic pillers, Like maybe, no, that's

930
00:46:54,239 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: probably why it was bigger. That's why all pregnant women

931
00:46:56,760 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: like kind of not all, but most I've seen like it,

932
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 1: or like after they had the baby pregnant, pregnant. And

933
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,400
Speaker 1: I know, bro, when I get sad, I get fat,

934
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 1: usually want to get pregnant, and you'll be sad pregnant.

935
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:11,840
Speaker 1: Oh it's over. You don't have to roll me down.

936
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: So the last growth and change, I wanted to bring

937
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:24,759
Speaker 1: it back to lifestyle, um because especially with you, this

938
00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:30,720
Speaker 1: being your first relationship UM with a DS situation, going

939
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: from a traditional relationship to lifestyle or vice versa. Now

940
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 1: that was the thing in my previous relationship. We kind

941
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 1: of started real lifestyle and then I wanted to kind

942
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 1: of pull it back in and just be with him

943
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: for a little bit. And I think it's another conversation

944
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 1: where people sometimes have been together so long now they're like, Okay,

945
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 1: how do we introduce things into the relationship. Or I

946
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: was with a partner who we've been dealing for years.

947
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 1: He ended up getting married and then getting married, he

948
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 1: realized he wanted a polly relationship, and he brought that

949
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 1: to his wife and I was like, I have a girlfriend.

950
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:05,320
Speaker 1: He wanted me to be the second girlfriend, but she

951
00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 1: knew about me from the past. But that was a

952
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 1: long story. Um. But in the middle of a marriage

953
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 1: with kids, the conversation he brought to her, it was like,

954
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:14,440
Speaker 1: I know we're married, I know we got kids. I

955
00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:16,959
Speaker 1: know we've had our relationship this way for so long.

956
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to be Polly and have girlfriends. I

957
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 1: want to know how you guys believe that type of

958
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:25,839
Speaker 1: change in your partner should be received. I think that

959
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think with us we do you

960
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 1: mean with us specifically or just with you guys in general?

961
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:33,960
Speaker 1: Like say, he then comes to you and as like,

962
00:48:33,960 --> 00:48:35,799
Speaker 1: I know we have fun together, but I think I

963
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:38,040
Speaker 1: don't have two other girlfriends where they're just like you,

964
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 1: because that's just what I want right now. How do

965
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 1: you respond to him saying this is what I want,

966
00:48:42,800 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 1: and I think this is what I need, and you

967
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: either stay with me or you don't, or you accept

968
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 1: it or you don't like What would that be like

969
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:54,680
Speaker 1: that with with our relationship, UM, we're we know that

970
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 1: we are life partners, like we're engaged, we know that

971
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 1: we're in for the long haul. And I think for

972
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: for me, it's it's it's about knowing that we're individual

973
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 1: people coming in deciding to be partners. So if he

974
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,279
Speaker 1: decides that he needs something for his life or in

975
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:13,520
Speaker 1: his life that is different from what we were doing,

976
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 1: then let's try it first and see if it works

977
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:17,000
Speaker 1: for us, and if it doesn't work for us, let's

978
00:49:17,040 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: switch and figure out what does work for us. UM.

979
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:22,880
Speaker 1: So I think that's how it would happen in our relationship.

980
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:26,719
Speaker 1: If some drastic shift UM needed to happen, Let's try

981
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: that shift and if it works, it works. If it doesn't,

982
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 1: let's shift again. UM. I think generally, UM, a lot

983
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:36,760
Speaker 1: of relationships aren't like that, unfortunately, and that UM people

984
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 1: are very used to They like familiarity and they want

985
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 1: to stay with what they're used to, and with that

986
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:45,720
Speaker 1: with a drastic change, it's just like it feels hurtful.

987
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: It feels traumatic, and people don't want to do it um,

988
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 1: but I think a lot of relationships could be just

989
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:54,799
Speaker 1: can grow to it together. Yeah, And I think specifically

990
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 1: going into a marriage where you know this is official, official,

991
00:49:58,520 --> 00:50:01,720
Speaker 1: going into it knowing as human beings, we may evolve

992
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:04,359
Speaker 1: and ship may change over time, whatever that may be,

993
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 1: and so having that understanding it won't be such a

994
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:09,560
Speaker 1: shock when you come three years later, Hey I want

995
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 1: to start having sex with other people we've already established. Hey,

996
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 1: I might grow into a place where this is something

997
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 1: I might want. So I think just having that setting

998
00:50:16,520 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: a tone in that I think you're in the age where, like,

999
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: I don't know I would want. I remember watching The

1000
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,399
Speaker 1: Ultimatum and thinking these people are so young as y'all

1001
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 1: watch it, Yeah, they're in their early twenties and talking

1002
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:29,160
Speaker 1: about getting married like this is crazy. But I feel

1003
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: like when people are in their thirties, like you've kind

1004
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:34,040
Speaker 1: of can feel who. Maybe you don't know all the

1005
00:50:34,080 --> 00:50:36,360
Speaker 1: way who you'll be at forty or throughout your marriage,

1006
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 1: but you kind of get a taste, like for the

1007
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:40,800
Speaker 1: lifestyle that you guys have, bringing partners in and daddy

1008
00:50:40,920 --> 00:50:44,239
Speaker 1: domb ship or domb sub ship. I feel like, you know,

1009
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 1: if someone threw that out there five years agow, you

1010
00:50:46,200 --> 00:50:48,919
Speaker 1: wouldn't be like this is a complete shocker. But it's

1011
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 1: good to kind of explore those things wild dating, and

1012
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:53,359
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't get the chance

1013
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: to do that. They're almost so focused on you know,

1014
00:50:57,120 --> 00:50:59,640
Speaker 1: each other that and these are people that I'm saying

1015
00:50:59,640 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 1: that are to be interested in probably ship. I kind

1016
00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:03,480
Speaker 1: of think you almost do need to test the waters. Yeah,

1017
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: that's a good point together, and you guys are doing

1018
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:07,680
Speaker 1: that so because I think, I don't think we would

1019
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:09,640
Speaker 1: have come to this place where we're so open so

1020
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:13,880
Speaker 1: quickly if I personally didn't have experience in the lifestyle myself.

1021
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,759
Speaker 1: So I think I was twenty two, like the first

1022
00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 1: time I went to a play party and just I

1023
00:51:22,800 --> 00:51:25,200
Speaker 1: don't even know these things existed. Why do you guys

1024
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:27,920
Speaker 1: have us too? Too? Too? The proposal dators and ship No,

1025
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:29,799
Speaker 1: So this is our angel numbers. So it's just yeah,

1026
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:34,000
Speaker 1: I connected representative representation of our connectingness. And do you

1027
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 1: both see it a lot of them? Yeah, most of

1028
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 1: our now we saw it. We just in our relationship.

1029
00:51:39,200 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: We just saw a lot of angel numbers all the time,

1030
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:42,879
Speaker 1: and we're just like, let's pick one for us. But yeah,

1031
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:45,359
Speaker 1: you also said y'all met on the twenty second. Yeah

1032
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:47,560
Speaker 1: we Oh my god, is I didn't realize that look

1033
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:50,279
Speaker 1: at you. But we were like saying, like, let's pick

1034
00:51:50,320 --> 00:51:57,560
Speaker 1: the number. It is not many, ye that before? Oh

1035
00:51:57,800 --> 00:52:01,800
Speaker 1: this is what we um alright, gag, But we were like,

1036
00:52:01,880 --> 00:52:03,360
Speaker 1: let's pick a number. And I just so happen to

1037
00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:05,600
Speaker 1: look over at our washing machine and said twenty two.

1038
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:07,800
Speaker 1: So that's how we picked in. It just means unity

1039
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:10,160
Speaker 1: and just like coming together as one. I'm not laughing

1040
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 1: at that because Angel want to understand Angel numbers and

1041
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 1: things like that. It's just such a deep thing. She's like,

1042
00:52:17,719 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 1: did I look at the washper to this on my body?

1043
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:26,200
Speaker 1: That's how we picked it. But we got it on two. Amazing. Well,

1044
00:52:26,239 --> 00:52:31,480
Speaker 1: let's not one of my tattoos on a napkin. This

1045
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: is all things that Boskaya drew. But he drew this

1046
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:37,120
Speaker 1: particular thing on a napkin that was and they had

1047
00:52:37,120 --> 00:52:38,840
Speaker 1: it in a frank and I was like, are you

1048
00:52:38,880 --> 00:52:42,959
Speaker 1: sure that's him? She was like, yeah, my brother, Well

1049
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:46,759
Speaker 1: can I take it before we get out of here?

1050
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 1: I want to end with a homemail, and we would

1051
00:52:48,800 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 1: love for you guys to help us with this question,

1052
00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:54,439
Speaker 1: especially since you've been doing it this wanted two. All right, Hey, y'all,

1053
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 1: I've been listening to your podcast for about a year now,

1054
00:52:56,719 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 1: and I found comfort in knowing I'm not the only

1055
00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:00,719
Speaker 1: one in this world that feels the comfortable in my

1056
00:53:00,760 --> 00:53:04,040
Speaker 1: sex life and sexuality and talking about it as well.

1057
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,880
Speaker 1: I'm it's a lot of experiences in my under age,

1058
00:53:07,040 --> 00:53:09,799
Speaker 1: being that I got at my younger age, being that

1059
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 1: I got married and became a mom at twenty one.

1060
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 1: I'm now, but I believe it's never too late to

1061
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:17,480
Speaker 1: try things. I've been really thinking I want to gain

1062
00:53:17,520 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 1: more experience and try new things and get more into

1063
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:23,360
Speaker 1: my sex life, but don't know where to start. I

1064
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:26,720
Speaker 1: live in Austin, Texas, but I'm not from down here,

1065
00:53:27,239 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 1: so don't know much about the city or the quote

1066
00:53:30,120 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 1: unquote sex scene. So I know I couldn't just walk

1067
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:34,840
Speaker 1: up to a random man and ask him if I

1068
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 1: could peg him. Do you have any suggestions or ideas

1069
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:41,120
Speaker 1: on how to get into these sex world or even

1070
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 1: approaching meeting new people in that way? Of course, you

1071
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:47,759
Speaker 1: brought up daddy dom to her twenty four hours later,

1072
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 1: how would you suggest her bringing that up either with

1073
00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:53,480
Speaker 1: new partners or getting into a sex scene and maybe

1074
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 1: a place that's not New York. We did the main

1075
00:53:56,719 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 1: question and it's interesting because just like we live in

1076
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:03,320
Speaker 1: a new world, are full of technology. A quick Google

1077
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:06,759
Speaker 1: search can send you on the right path pretty quickly. UM.

1078
00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:08,960
Speaker 1: I would say, even if it's just partners that you

1079
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,319
Speaker 1: have and they're more vanilla, just being honest about what

1080
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,760
Speaker 1: you want. Let's start there with who you have access

1081
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:17,319
Speaker 1: to UM right away. But you know there's resources like

1082
00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:20,359
Speaker 1: fat life, you got field out there UM or if

1083
00:54:20,360 --> 00:54:23,160
Speaker 1: you just meet new people. I think the main thing

1084
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:26,280
Speaker 1: is being clear on what you want. Yeah, yeah, I understand,

1085
00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:28,239
Speaker 1: like what kinks you might you be into, so you

1086
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:31,160
Speaker 1: know how to communicate these to potential partners. And Google

1087
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:33,439
Speaker 1: UM is definitely a resource if you want to try

1088
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:37,120
Speaker 1: the clubs or anything like that. But I would say

1089
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 1: before going to the club, maybe find a home girl.

1090
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 1: If you say you're comfortable talking about sex, bring it

1091
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:44,319
Speaker 1: up with one of your home girls. And that was

1092
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:46,880
Speaker 1: my introduction to the sex clubs. Like we went to

1093
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,359
Speaker 1: the beach, they talked about it, and I don't think

1094
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 1: I would have ever been able to push myself to

1095
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 1: go by myself. So I brought a home girl with me,

1096
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:56,319
Speaker 1: and to me, that broke the ice real easy because

1097
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:58,000
Speaker 1: we went like we were going to the club. No,

1098
00:54:58,160 --> 00:54:59,919
Speaker 1: I want to just make a point really quick, because

1099
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:01,799
Speaker 1: I even said earlier, like we talked about the sex

1100
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:03,640
Speaker 1: club so much, and it's because we're a lot of

1101
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:05,800
Speaker 1: your sex has happened. But as someone that's had a

1102
00:55:05,880 --> 00:55:07,960
Speaker 1: lot of threesomes and was sucking a lot of girls

1103
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:10,759
Speaker 1: with my ex, Like, I'm not really a sex club

1104
00:55:10,840 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 1: right for me? How would you? I would ask, how

1105
00:55:12,680 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 1: would your how have your experiences on photos? I've heard

1106
00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 1: the show a lot, and it seems like you just

1107
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 1: have very organic situations that unfold. Yeah, it's funny because

1108
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:21,800
Speaker 1: Mandy last week told us about a story in Mexico,

1109
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:23,600
Speaker 1: Like that's a very mean thing to happen, Like I

1110
00:55:23,600 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: had threes in Mexico, right, Like, I don't know, and

1111
00:55:26,000 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 1: I'm actually someone that likes apps. It's just for some

1112
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 1: reason another person coming into my ship, like it just

1113
00:55:32,800 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 1: didn't really work for me. I've had a threesome off

1114
00:55:35,080 --> 00:55:38,480
Speaker 1: app with Jeeves, but I don't like sex clubes and

1115
00:55:38,480 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 1: I think it's particularly because I don't feel like I

1116
00:55:40,719 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 1: can connect during sex um and some people can. Like

1117
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 1: one of my friends was telling me a story like

1118
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:48,799
Speaker 1: she felt like nobody else was around. I don't think

1119
00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,360
Speaker 1: I feel like that. But that's just because I'm a

1120
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 1: I'm thinking too much about what's going on, or like

1121
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 1: maybe a little too precautious. Um. Even when I like

1122
00:55:58,480 --> 00:56:00,640
Speaker 1: did an episode about the sex club, went in there,

1123
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: had a camera and SFW and was like trying to

1124
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:07,000
Speaker 1: meet people, like I just can't let go. But for me,

1125
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 1: the things have unfolded by just being able to go

1126
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 1: out and my partner making other women feel uncomfortable, Like

1127
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 1: as much as he's a piece of ship, he is

1128
00:56:16,760 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 1: really feel comfortable. Huh, making him making them feel comfortable

1129
00:56:21,120 --> 00:56:24,920
Speaker 1: like they like I did, He doesn't meant to say

1130
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 1: feel and make them feel ncofortable. I think with women

1131
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 1: that aren't sure if they want to have a threesome,

1132
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 1: it's either because the men have too much mask energy.

1133
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:34,399
Speaker 1: They either get a little too broye almost or try

1134
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 1: to be a guy in front of them and it's

1135
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,680
Speaker 1: weird and he's just a cool ass nigked like everybody

1136
00:56:38,719 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 1: wants to hang out with him, and that's why they do.

1137
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: That's just I would even describe, like most of our

1138
00:56:43,280 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: friends like me or you like you, you're out and

1139
00:56:45,160 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 1: sometimes people just start finding you. He's one of those people.

1140
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,319
Speaker 1: He's not really an introvert, like he's just the guy

1141
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 1: if people want to be around. And so what happens

1142
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 1: with that is women then feel like I'm not pressured

1143
00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:59,319
Speaker 1: into this sometimes I think when a guy isn't as

1144
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:01,759
Speaker 1: smiley or lee, because it's true you should let your

1145
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:05,920
Speaker 1: girl lead, but I want to feel welcomed by you too,

1146
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:08,160
Speaker 1: And I think that that was the thing about his

1147
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:10,000
Speaker 1: energy that made girls want to hang with us all

1148
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 1: the time. But also I would say there was something

1149
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:16,720
Speaker 1: particularly about him more than anyone else, which is why

1150
00:57:16,760 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: I think we kept having uh sex with women just

1151
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: around where we lived. He would immediately tell women that

1152
00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:28,080
Speaker 1: we wanted to funk what we were doing that night,

1153
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 1: and it was just like put it in their ear right,

1154
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 1: Like for example, last lap, we sucked a lot of

1155
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 1: girls out of last lap. So let's just say it

1156
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 1: was midnight. He'd be like, oh, what are you up

1157
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:38,760
Speaker 1: to tonight? And then they tell him. He was like, okay,

1158
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 1: well we're gonna go to gold bar. Actually, like in

1159
00:57:40,880 --> 00:57:43,960
Speaker 1: an hour, you come in, you that we're all going

1160
00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: together and be like O guy and so like. He

1161
00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: would almost make them a part of our plans. And

1162
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:51,280
Speaker 1: I don't even know if he consciously did that, or

1163
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 1: he would say something about food you never had up

1164
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:56,480
Speaker 1: and out a mom or I'm not we gotta go now,

1165
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:58,760
Speaker 1: we're all fucking going to the next place. And it

1166
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 1: was little things like that would do it no matter

1167
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 1: what city we were in, Miami, New York, wherever. And

1168
00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's it now. And if a girl is

1169
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 1: not interested in, they're like, I'm gonna stay on my

1170
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:12,520
Speaker 1: home girls, and I'm like I try. And never were forceful,

1171
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 1: like we definitely had a girl come upstairs. Actually, my homegirl, Chanelle.

1172
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody knows Chanel Lopez, but she

1173
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:22,800
Speaker 1: is so fucking sexy. She used to live in New York,

1174
00:58:22,920 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 1: she lives in Miami. Now she knows. I ain't sh

1175
00:58:25,360 --> 00:58:27,400
Speaker 1: she knows. My X say, I'm sure she knows we

1176
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 1: want to fund. So we all go upstairs, were just

1177
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:31,440
Speaker 1: smoking and talking. We're all in the couch together and

1178
00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: she goes, I'm not ready for this, but I still

1179
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:38,960
Speaker 1: want to hang out. And I was like, but we

1180
00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 1: all laughed. We're like, no, we're you gonna try to

1181
00:58:40,760 --> 00:58:43,080
Speaker 1: do that. She's like, yes, she would, but anyway, And

1182
00:58:43,400 --> 00:58:45,280
Speaker 1: you know, I think that's the thing too, is knowing

1183
00:58:45,320 --> 00:58:46,840
Speaker 1: that a man's not gonna make you feel bad. She

1184
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:49,000
Speaker 1: knew that we'd be having three sons. But you know,

1185
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:52,520
Speaker 1: I think also that room for letting someone feel like

1186
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 1: they don't have to do anything, because guys say that

1187
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:56,160
Speaker 1: but they don't mean it. Now you chased me around

1188
00:58:56,160 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 1: the bed for three hours when you said we were

1189
00:58:57,480 --> 00:59:00,800
Speaker 1: just gonna cuddle, but letting couples like being serious, like

1190
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:02,920
Speaker 1: we're gonna fun regardless either you can use or not.

1191
00:59:03,560 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 1: Sometimes people are too thirsty when you got that too

1192
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 1: thirsty energy, like nobody wants it exactly. I think that

1193
00:59:08,920 --> 00:59:12,360
Speaker 1: um just also just setting the intention of what you're

1194
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: wanting and not going out with so much thirst just

1195
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:19,160
Speaker 1: knowing like I'm really hot, sexual being and I'm just

1196
00:59:19,200 --> 00:59:20,919
Speaker 1: gonna go out there and get some sex. I don't

1197
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 1: know how, I don't know who it's gonna happen, and

1198
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 1: just like going and moving with that confidence, moving with

1199
00:59:25,760 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 1: that energy. It goes a long way and then all

1200
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:30,080
Speaker 1: of a sudden, like people start like feeling it and

1201
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 1: just get drawn towards you. You can't. Also, we're saying,

1202
00:59:33,280 --> 00:59:35,680
Speaker 1: like having an intention, don't let the one night you

1203
00:59:35,720 --> 00:59:37,800
Speaker 1: go out and nothing happens be the thing like something

1204
00:59:38,280 --> 00:59:41,440
Speaker 1: you have to do your numbers. Yea numbers thing. It

1205
00:59:41,480 --> 00:59:44,000
Speaker 1: takes time and it and it takes it takes the energy,

1206
00:59:44,000 --> 00:59:46,760
Speaker 1: and it takes um. I think just intention, just like

1207
00:59:46,920 --> 00:59:49,560
Speaker 1: moving and knowing exactly what you're king, sorry, what's your

1208
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:54,080
Speaker 1: desire and exactly women are going out just like I'm

1209
00:59:54,040 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 1: in a couple, Like, yeah, I don't want to trick

1210
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:58,919
Speaker 1: it's that it's trickier that way because he might think

1211
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 1: a might a dude to, but like a couple is different.

1212
01:00:02,280 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 1: That's the challenge that's harder. I'm trying to learn how

1213
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 1: to navigate both of them comfort you want. You have

1214
01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:10,400
Speaker 1: to make both of them want to. You have to

1215
01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:12,640
Speaker 1: make both of them comfortable to where they've not been.

1216
01:00:12,840 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 1: Also about you being around exactly, That's that's a big

1217
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: thing with us. I am like, I'm gonna admit I

1218
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:22,560
Speaker 1: am the bitch that is always tired, and we will

1219
01:00:22,600 --> 01:00:24,560
Speaker 1: bring someone home and I'll be like, all right, like

1220
01:00:24,720 --> 01:00:26,360
Speaker 1: the vibes are here, but I need a ten minute

1221
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:32,440
Speaker 1: Apps kidding me, Like I'm just it's embarrassing. I am

1222
01:00:32,480 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 1: I tired home because what will happen. It's not that

1223
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:36,240
Speaker 1: I was just like, oh, I'm just a little tired,

1224
01:00:36,280 --> 01:00:38,440
Speaker 1: I'll just pass out. I was just like slowly, just stop,

1225
01:00:38,800 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 1: like stop, I'm I'm the bailout to have sex all sleep. Yes,

1226
01:00:43,520 --> 01:00:50,560
Speaker 1: And that's like I joined them first, like like are

1227
01:00:50,600 --> 01:00:53,120
Speaker 1: you sure you gotta start with them first? And then

1228
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 1: so what I do is once I get everybody comfort,

1229
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 1: I'll be like, all right, y'all have fun. I've gone

1230
01:00:57,080 --> 01:00:58,720
Speaker 1: to the couch and went to sleep and let them kept.

1231
01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 1: So yeah, I've done that. It's I have to because

1232
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:04,280
Speaker 1: what I what I do. What I do is I

1233
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:06,080
Speaker 1: end up just saying like okay, I'm gonna I and

1234
01:01:06,400 --> 01:01:08,360
Speaker 1: I hold to it. I'll take a time inute nap,

1235
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:10,480
Speaker 1: but I'll be right back because sometimes I come back

1236
01:01:10,480 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 1: and they're fucking sometimes they're still talking like either way,

1237
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 1: I'm joining and something's gonna happen. You I need you

1238
01:01:17,320 --> 01:01:20,000
Speaker 1: to join the nin I literally like it's part of

1239
01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 1: it's part of the thing I expected at this point. Yeah,

1240
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 1: and I do. I do, and I do say like

1241
01:01:25,400 --> 01:01:29,080
Speaker 1: like it's completely cool, like this is okay. They never

1242
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:31,760
Speaker 1: believe they after you go to the beady, but they

1243
01:01:31,760 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 1: know it's about the door. It's okay. One of my

1244
01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 1: partners now, one of our partners now, they ended up

1245
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:40,920
Speaker 1: having sex with him while I was sleeping, like the

1246
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:43,720
Speaker 1: first time we went, yeah, on the same washing machine.

1247
01:01:47,080 --> 01:01:49,720
Speaker 1: But yeah, they were like freaking out and it was

1248
01:01:49,760 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 1: so funny because they had some bomb sex apparently they

1249
01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:54,000
Speaker 1: were allowed. I was knocked the funk out and I

1250
01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 1: like come back out and they're like they got dressed

1251
01:01:56,400 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 1: and they were on the couch. If they didn't tell

1252
01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:00,200
Speaker 1: me they funk, I would have never known. Wow. And

1253
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:01,920
Speaker 1: I was just and they like ended up like leaving

1254
01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 1: um like soon after, and I was like, damn, we

1255
01:02:04,080 --> 01:02:06,640
Speaker 1: make sexy time. He's like, actually, I was like, funk,

1256
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:08,720
Speaker 1: I missed sexy time. If I can't even get mad,

1257
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:12,320
Speaker 1: I'm tired, that's amazing that you're just like, well, damn,

1258
01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:14,720
Speaker 1: next time, next time I'll join. You know what, though,

1259
01:02:14,760 --> 01:02:18,520
Speaker 1: like that kind of thought to me, you have to

1260
01:02:18,760 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 1: a lot of people may not feel that. And I

1261
01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:23,080
Speaker 1: also don't want to like push on someone's insecurities here.

1262
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:26,240
Speaker 1: But I will just say this is like a situation

1263
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:29,000
Speaker 1: where eighty percent of the time when you're that type

1264
01:02:29,040 --> 01:02:31,680
Speaker 1: of person, there's a real trust there. Because a lot

1265
01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:33,560
Speaker 1: of time people are having sex with someone that you're like,

1266
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:35,280
Speaker 1: would you suck at my back? And you're not sure

1267
01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:37,880
Speaker 1: and your partner maybe doesn't make you feel like you

1268
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:41,600
Speaker 1: can completely trust him. That's a real trustworth thing, like

1269
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:43,680
Speaker 1: my X and I like, I wasn't bothered that he

1270
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 1: would if he would do that, I don't know if

1271
01:02:45,440 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: you ever did. Maybe haven't did a little bit there

1272
01:02:47,280 --> 01:02:49,720
Speaker 1: working around, but like that doesn't bother me. And I

1273
01:02:49,800 --> 01:02:51,360
Speaker 1: know a lot of people may think it is, but

1274
01:02:51,400 --> 01:02:52,960
Speaker 1: it's like if I brought someone in here, like I

1275
01:02:53,000 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 1: already know you're my naked you know what I mean?

1276
01:02:55,080 --> 01:02:59,000
Speaker 1: Like my and when once you're open. But that to

1277
01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:01,800
Speaker 1: me is a complete trustworthy situations. Yeah, And I trust

1278
01:03:01,880 --> 01:03:05,280
Speaker 1: him fully not just to respect me and whatever my

1279
01:03:05,320 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: boundaries maybe in that situation, but to also treat that

1280
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 1: person with respect and to treat them safe, Like I

1281
01:03:11,120 --> 01:03:13,040
Speaker 1: trust him fully with myself and with that person. That's

1282
01:03:13,040 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 1: one of my big things. Yeah, I don't niggs that

1283
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:18,000
Speaker 1: don't make girls feel safe. Yeah, absolutely no, it's not

1284
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 1: hot fu embarrassing yo. I would like literally he would

1285
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:25,840
Speaker 1: knock out after fucking almost kick him, Like, get get

1286
01:03:25,840 --> 01:03:28,080
Speaker 1: the uber for her now. Yeah, we do a whole thing.

1287
01:03:28,120 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 1: Like when somebody comes to especially the first time we

1288
01:03:30,320 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 1: lay it all out, we definitely focus on them, and

1289
01:03:32,960 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 1: it's like we want that we we want that experience

1290
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:37,760
Speaker 1: to be all about them, you know, so we cater

1291
01:03:37,880 --> 01:03:40,560
Speaker 1: to them, whether it's something that we're doing specifically in

1292
01:03:40,560 --> 01:03:42,280
Speaker 1: the bedroom. We make sure we bring out the toys

1293
01:03:42,280 --> 01:03:44,720
Speaker 1: that they were a couple of years. I'm so crazy

1294
01:03:44,720 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 1: that you're just saying that because outside of the food

1295
01:03:46,400 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 1: and drinks, I feel like I was spoiling both the

1296
01:03:48,960 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 1: couple that I'll just with maybe because I'm just so

1297
01:03:50,560 --> 01:03:53,120
Speaker 1: used to being in charge. I felt like I was

1298
01:03:54,080 --> 01:03:57,840
Speaker 1: spoiling the couple, boiling both of them that I would

1299
01:03:57,880 --> 01:04:00,560
Speaker 1: like to experience that I was spoiling both them, like

1300
01:04:00,880 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 1: I would like kiss her, massage her. But I was like,

1301
01:04:04,040 --> 01:04:05,880
Speaker 1: do y'all want to like I was? I feel like

1302
01:04:05,880 --> 01:04:08,360
Speaker 1: I was. I liked it and they should be grateful

1303
01:04:08,800 --> 01:04:11,800
Speaker 1: and I get really good. I'm a really good like

1304
01:04:11,920 --> 01:04:14,640
Speaker 1: threesome teammate, so I just don't feel like I ain't

1305
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:16,360
Speaker 1: got a man to go home too. So y'all need

1306
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:19,040
Speaker 1: to be doing I feel like it's so important too.

1307
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:21,000
Speaker 1: It's so important to us to just like make that

1308
01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:23,560
Speaker 1: person feel sexy, like we want to know, like what

1309
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:25,240
Speaker 1: are your designs, what are your rules? Are you allowed

1310
01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:28,280
Speaker 1: to caddle kiss? Yeah? Maybe that's why I knew I

1311
01:04:28,320 --> 01:04:30,960
Speaker 1: was there first time. I wasn't gonna expect them to spoil.

1312
01:04:31,120 --> 01:04:34,360
Speaker 1: They've never been with another woman together, so to me,

1313
01:04:34,560 --> 01:04:36,120
Speaker 1: I felt like I was teaching them the lay of

1314
01:04:36,200 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 1: the land. Oh, there's one rule for anyone who's ever

1315
01:04:38,480 --> 01:04:41,160
Speaker 1: going with the one together men and women, take them

1316
01:04:41,160 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 1: on a date. Just think date opening doors should werous date, date,

1317
01:04:45,360 --> 01:04:48,479
Speaker 1: date to date. That's it and see. And that's maybe

1318
01:04:48,480 --> 01:04:50,160
Speaker 1: why you don't do the sex club thing. I don't

1319
01:04:50,160 --> 01:04:51,440
Speaker 1: want to take a bit on a date, which is

1320
01:04:51,440 --> 01:04:53,400
Speaker 1: why I like sucking people in the sex club. I

1321
01:04:53,440 --> 01:04:54,760
Speaker 1: don't want to have to talk to you. But you

1322
01:04:54,800 --> 01:04:56,360
Speaker 1: want to invite a lot of people to your house.

1323
01:04:56,800 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: My friends sucked me. I don't meet girls out. I

1324
01:04:59,440 --> 01:05:02,000
Speaker 1: bring my friend into my bedroom. Otherwise, I prefer having

1325
01:05:02,040 --> 01:05:04,160
Speaker 1: sex with someone that we don't have to court we

1326
01:05:04,240 --> 01:05:07,080
Speaker 1: might share from fucking shrooms, we fucking then we go home.

1327
01:05:07,160 --> 01:05:09,720
Speaker 1: I don't like the courting aspect, which now makes sense

1328
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:14,320
Speaker 1: why you enjoy going on dates though that was the

1329
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 1: first time. Yeah, I mean, but you know how nice

1330
01:05:16,800 --> 01:05:18,960
Speaker 1: it is. I got courted with food and drinks, but

1331
01:05:19,120 --> 01:05:21,120
Speaker 1: I was doing the spoiling to both of them, like

1332
01:05:21,920 --> 01:05:24,240
Speaker 1: I don't know whatever. My experience was different. Yeah, we're

1333
01:05:24,600 --> 01:05:26,240
Speaker 1: in the middle of thing because I think at first

1334
01:05:26,320 --> 01:05:28,240
Speaker 1: it was all about the sex, and so we were

1335
01:05:28,240 --> 01:05:32,080
Speaker 1: just writing people over. We just you know, we had

1336
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:35,960
Speaker 1: like our own like couple's home phase, and then after

1337
01:05:35,960 --> 01:05:38,680
Speaker 1: a while we're like, we want to settle partners. We

1338
01:05:38,720 --> 01:05:42,760
Speaker 1: went empty. Yeah I got there too, but now it

1339
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 1: makes sense. I see the differences here. Well, go ahead

1340
01:05:46,160 --> 01:05:47,880
Speaker 1: and let everyone know where they can listen to your

1341
01:05:47,920 --> 01:05:51,320
Speaker 1: pody and where they can find you. Our brand new baby.

1342
01:05:51,320 --> 01:05:53,320
Speaker 1: We're very excited to bring it to the people. Um.

1343
01:05:53,320 --> 01:05:55,800
Speaker 1: You can check us out on all podcasts, string platforms

1344
01:05:56,000 --> 01:05:58,280
Speaker 1: at both sides of the bed um and on YouTube,

1345
01:05:58,720 --> 01:06:00,680
Speaker 1: and you can also check us out into edually. We

1346
01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:04,640
Speaker 1: love the comments, we love hearing stories absolutely, so y'all

1347
01:06:04,640 --> 01:06:06,360
Speaker 1: are taking people to slide in your dms. To join

1348
01:06:06,400 --> 01:06:08,880
Speaker 1: you all in the bedroom as well. I mean, I'm

1349
01:06:08,880 --> 01:06:10,520
Speaker 1: looking forward to the first slot. We haven't got our

1350
01:06:10,520 --> 01:06:12,560
Speaker 1: first s lie yet. I'm looking forward today. We also

1351
01:06:13,040 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 1: just launched our website, so it's both sides the bed

1352
01:06:15,280 --> 01:06:18,560
Speaker 1: dot tv and if you want some sex relationships coaching

1353
01:06:18,600 --> 01:06:21,440
Speaker 1: with b then it's at the Intimate dot com and

1354
01:06:21,600 --> 01:06:23,640
Speaker 1: as open and trustworthy as you are. I feel like

1355
01:06:23,840 --> 01:06:26,960
Speaker 1: my needs to hear y y'all come check me out

1356
01:06:26,960 --> 01:06:29,160
Speaker 1: here in New York at w TF Media to come

1357
01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:31,440
Speaker 1: check me ont in l A. We're in Hollywood. Come

1358
01:06:31,440 --> 01:06:34,600
Speaker 1: meet our new staff and check out sex Cells every

1359
01:06:34,600 --> 01:06:38,120
Speaker 1: Wednesday at eleven o'clock or on the Fuse app. There's

1360
01:06:38,120 --> 01:06:39,640
Speaker 1: a bunch of episodes. I don't know when ours is

1361
01:06:39,640 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 1: coming out, but I watched it. It It was really funny. People,

1362
01:06:42,920 --> 01:06:46,200
Speaker 1: I feel like are gonna be surprised with like how

1363
01:06:46,240 --> 01:06:49,520
Speaker 1: open we got about work like it was. It's a

1364
01:06:49,560 --> 01:06:51,360
Speaker 1: really dope episode, Like it's one of my favorites. It's

1365
01:06:51,360 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 1: not the nastiest sex Cells episode and I literally get

1366
01:06:54,240 --> 01:06:55,640
Speaker 1: naked in one of them, but like the one that

1367
01:06:55,680 --> 01:06:58,160
Speaker 1: we did, it's really it's still it's very business. Well,

1368
01:06:58,200 --> 01:07:01,720
Speaker 1: I'm excited, guys, y'all know for me, you can catch

1369
01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:04,520
Speaker 1: me on my other podcasts every Tuesday and every Friday.

1370
01:07:04,920 --> 01:07:08,360
Speaker 1: See the thing is with Bridget Kelly. Um. I'm excited

1371
01:07:08,400 --> 01:07:10,960
Speaker 1: because Horrible Decisions will be filming out of Full Court

1372
01:07:11,000 --> 01:07:14,560
Speaker 1: Studios soon, so you guys will be able to book

1373
01:07:14,800 --> 01:07:17,920
Speaker 1: very very surely, if not this week honestly, um, and

1374
01:07:17,960 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 1: then next month date my playlist on in TV airs

1375
01:07:22,000 --> 01:07:24,480
Speaker 1: where I'm hosting a fucking dating show. So check out

1376
01:07:24,560 --> 01:07:28,400
Speaker 1: date my playlist. It is coming to you soon. Um.

1377
01:07:28,440 --> 01:07:32,840
Speaker 1: And outside of that, Horrible Decisions will be live at

1378
01:07:32,880 --> 01:07:37,000
Speaker 1: the Black Effect Podcast Festival August. Get your tickets now

1379
01:07:37,080 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 1: at black Effect dot com Backslash Podcast Festival. Um, we're

1380
01:07:42,480 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 1: gonna be there with eighty five South, all the Smoke,

1381
01:07:45,120 --> 01:07:47,080
Speaker 1: all of your favorite pods on the Black Effect Network,

1382
01:07:47,160 --> 01:07:50,360
Speaker 1: so go ahead and get your tickets now. Um. You

1383
01:07:50,400 --> 01:07:52,480
Speaker 1: guys may hear it at in the beginning of this episode.

1384
01:07:52,480 --> 01:07:55,040
Speaker 1: We are also doing Envisioned Festival, which is also here

1385
01:07:55,120 --> 01:07:57,680
Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. We'll let you know more details about that

1386
01:07:57,760 --> 01:08:01,520
Speaker 1: as well. And if you haven't yet joined us on

1387
01:08:01,560 --> 01:08:05,880
Speaker 1: our Patreon that's Patreon dot com. Backslash Horrible Decisions where

1388
01:08:05,880 --> 01:08:09,880
Speaker 1: we dropped a bonus episode every motherfucking week, So check

1389
01:08:09,960 --> 01:08:11,920
Speaker 1: us out there again as patreon dot com back slash

1390
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:14,120
Speaker 1: Horror Decisions. We're leaving you with a five minute bonus clip.

1391
01:08:14,280 --> 01:08:17,679
Speaker 1: Amara Pasara think he's so very much for joining us today.

1392
01:08:18,320 --> 01:08:22,160
Speaker 1: Check out both Side podcast um and again, this has

1393
01:08:22,200 --> 01:08:28,479
Speaker 1: been yet another episode of horrible Decisions by It's bonus bitches.

1394
01:08:28,640 --> 01:08:34,519
Speaker 1: Welcome to another cinema episode. Alexa, shut your gass up boom.

1395
01:08:34,600 --> 01:08:37,920
Speaker 1: That's how I talk to her. She just got an election,

1396
01:08:38,200 --> 01:08:40,840
Speaker 1: God making me feel like the bitch is stalking me,

1397
01:08:40,960 --> 01:08:43,080
Speaker 1: Like I get worried about you. I've never that is

1398
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:47,960
Speaker 1: my first Alexa. Really I don't like I have. Um

1399
01:08:48,000 --> 01:08:51,880
Speaker 1: it's weird because I have two in my house, a

1400
01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:53,880
Speaker 1: Seri in my bathroom, and then I got my man

1401
01:08:54,720 --> 01:08:57,840
Speaker 1: uh one for his car. But he's old, so he

1402
01:08:57,960 --> 01:08:59,880
Speaker 1: just feels like you don't want nobody watching him and

1403
01:09:00,120 --> 01:09:02,639
Speaker 1: just like they're good, you're not a criminal. They That's

1404
01:09:02,680 --> 01:09:07,160
Speaker 1: how I just felt. But lambea scared me there about

1405
01:09:08,520 --> 01:09:10,880
Speaker 1: They just tell us the weather and play our tunes.

1406
01:09:11,200 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: That's all they do. Lamba made me unplug it. Um.

1407
01:09:16,200 --> 01:09:19,799
Speaker 1: I wanted to play some rent fires and fuck and

1408
01:09:20,000 --> 01:09:22,280
Speaker 1: I was like Alexa played rent fires and he was like,

1409
01:09:22,439 --> 01:09:25,920
Speaker 1: whoa wonderful that should going on? Now? You knew you

1410
01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:33,320
Speaker 1: was gonna activate her as bro Alexa stop, Alexa stop nothing, Alexa,

1411
01:09:33,520 --> 01:09:42,040
Speaker 1: turn it off? Bit you already. That's why he said

1412
01:09:42,080 --> 01:09:44,880
Speaker 1: he didn't want her around because they hear everything you

1413
01:09:45,000 --> 01:09:48,679
Speaker 1: tell them day and them. Okay. I said, fine, okay,

1414
01:09:48,680 --> 01:09:50,880
Speaker 1: I'll turn it off. He was like, played on your phone?

1415
01:09:51,840 --> 01:09:53,280
Speaker 1: So then I started playing it on my phone, but

1416
01:09:53,320 --> 01:09:56,360
Speaker 1: I chrome casted to the TV and then he was like,

1417
01:09:56,400 --> 01:09:58,280
Speaker 1: I thought your TV had Internet. Why are you putting

1418
01:09:58,280 --> 01:10:00,120
Speaker 1: ship up on the TV now? And it's talking like

1419
01:10:00,200 --> 01:10:02,280
Speaker 1: I don't like this shoot and I was like, nigga,

1420
01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:05,920
Speaker 1: what the fuck, Mandy, He's not even that whole, Like

1421
01:10:06,000 --> 01:10:07,960
Speaker 1: this is how you know, even in the system too long,

1422
01:10:08,040 --> 01:10:11,960
Speaker 1: Like it's crazy, it's fun to me. Um. Also update,

1423
01:10:12,479 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 1: I told Old Bay two weeks ago. You guys probably

1424
01:10:14,880 --> 01:10:18,160
Speaker 1: heard me say that Lambeau is gonna get me a car.

1425
01:10:18,560 --> 01:10:21,800
Speaker 1: I called Old Bay right after the episode. I was like,

1426
01:10:21,840 --> 01:10:23,559
Speaker 1: you know Kodak glack, because that's what you call him.

1427
01:10:24,479 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 1: He said, yeah, what's up? I was like, they never

1428
01:10:27,040 --> 01:10:28,360
Speaker 1: want to get me a car and pay my right

1429
01:10:29,520 --> 01:10:31,360
Speaker 1: and he just was silent, and I was like, what

1430
01:10:32,240 --> 01:10:34,559
Speaker 1: he said? Okay, Gila, what do you want me to say?

1431
01:10:34,720 --> 01:10:36,080
Speaker 1: I was like, I just want you to tell me

1432
01:10:36,120 --> 01:10:39,719
Speaker 1: whether you think that's crazy. His answer to that was saying,

1433
01:10:40,520 --> 01:10:43,000
Speaker 1: I know you're gonna do what you want to do regardless.

1434
01:10:43,640 --> 01:10:46,280
Speaker 1: That's that's what that response was giving. Do you want

1435
01:10:46,320 --> 01:10:47,559
Speaker 1: me to pick you up in a nice car when

1436
01:10:47,560 --> 01:10:49,400
Speaker 1: you visit l A your web bad? That's really what

1437
01:10:49,479 --> 01:10:54,679
Speaker 1: it is. That's really like the real question. So how

1438
01:10:54,680 --> 01:10:56,559
Speaker 1: did you respond to that? Like if he said what

1439
01:10:56,600 --> 01:10:59,000
Speaker 1: do you want me to say? Like what what type

1440
01:10:59,040 --> 01:11:01,599
Speaker 1: of response did you expect him? Tap? I was like,

1441
01:11:01,640 --> 01:11:03,160
Speaker 1: you know what kind of car I want? That car

1442
01:11:03,240 --> 01:11:05,920
Speaker 1: is like two thous a month, Like is that really

1443
01:11:05,920 --> 01:11:09,720
Speaker 1: gonna drive you crazy? And he was just like, it's

1444
01:11:09,720 --> 01:11:15,200
Speaker 1: what you want to do, Gela. So giving I can't

1445
01:11:15,240 --> 01:11:18,120
Speaker 1: telling you what you do, well, it's given that, but

1446
01:11:18,200 --> 01:11:22,000
Speaker 1: also I can't tell you what to do. Appreciate. But

1447
01:11:22,080 --> 01:11:24,160
Speaker 1: I also feel like if he called me like and

1448
01:11:24,320 --> 01:11:26,320
Speaker 1: was like this bitch wants to fucking buy X, Y

1449
01:11:26,320 --> 01:11:27,760
Speaker 1: and Z for me, you know what I'm saying, Like,

1450
01:11:28,080 --> 01:11:34,720
Speaker 1: you would have a fucking fit. Yeah I wouldn't. Um,

1451
01:11:34,840 --> 01:11:38,880
Speaker 1: but you know, I ain't gonna lie. I feel like

1452
01:11:38,920 --> 01:11:40,879
Speaker 1: the worst of it all was saying that I accidentally

1453
01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:43,519
Speaker 1: sucked him. Were all like that was the real fucking

1454
01:11:43,760 --> 01:11:46,920
Speaker 1: embarrassing thing to call my nigga with whish to be honest, man, dye.

1455
01:11:47,080 --> 01:11:52,280
Speaker 1: He was so appreciative that I said it without like

1456
01:11:52,800 --> 01:11:54,519
Speaker 1: trying of bullshit around it when I came home, you

1457
01:11:54,560 --> 01:11:56,120
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, And I feel like I would

1458
01:11:56,120 --> 01:11:57,360
Speaker 1: have been the same way. Like when I really thought

1459
01:11:57,360 --> 01:11:58,840
Speaker 1: about it, I thought that he was gonna be like, Bisher,

1460
01:11:58,880 --> 01:12:00,960
Speaker 1: you out of your mind, but can call me? Was like, yo,

1461
01:12:01,280 --> 01:12:03,439
Speaker 1: I mean that's what I'm saying. Mistakes happened, But a

1462
01:12:03,560 --> 01:12:05,760
Speaker 1: nigga paying your rent and in you a car, that's

1463
01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:07,920
Speaker 1: more like a relationship, which is why I wanted because

1464
01:12:07,920 --> 01:12:09,240
Speaker 1: I don't want him to think he could just take

1465
01:12:09,320 --> 01:12:13,640
Speaker 1: the condom off. Beats bitch. If a nigga buys you

1466
01:12:13,760 --> 01:12:18,080
Speaker 1: a car, your rent, he's not sucking you with a condom. Ever, Okay,

1467
01:12:18,240 --> 01:12:22,240
Speaker 1: well that's who you do it. Damn. I wish I

1468
01:12:22,280 --> 01:12:25,200
Speaker 1: could just put both of them like that, but um,

1469
01:12:25,240 --> 01:12:29,679
Speaker 1: you know, I mean it kind of sucks, but whatever. Anyway, Uh, Yeah,

1470
01:12:29,720 --> 01:12:31,840
Speaker 1: that conversation was a little bit uncomfortable. And I think

1471
01:12:31,840 --> 01:12:35,719
Speaker 1: that also Lambeau like doesn't really like understand Old Bay

1472
01:12:35,760 --> 01:12:39,840
Speaker 1: because he doesn't really I just don't think he gets it,

1473
01:12:39,880 --> 01:12:43,120
Speaker 1: Like I think he thinks this is some relationship off

1474
01:12:43,120 --> 01:12:45,360
Speaker 1: of TV or like he thinks it's not like a

1475
01:12:45,439 --> 01:12:48,760
Speaker 1: real thing, Like he doesn't really maybe understand the openness

1476
01:12:48,800 --> 01:12:50,800
Speaker 1: because he's very like if you might beach, you can't

1477
01:12:50,800 --> 01:12:53,800
Speaker 1: fun nobody type of nigga. But I'm having fun with

1478
01:12:53,880 --> 01:12:56,800
Speaker 1: him right now and I don't want it to end.

1479
01:12:56,920 --> 01:12:58,880
Speaker 1: So who knows? They could blow up in my face

1480
01:12:59,240 --> 01:13:00,800
Speaker 1: one of his baby my must can fly here and

1481
01:13:00,880 --> 01:13:04,160
Speaker 1: kill me. There's also that that's a big opportunity for that.

1482
01:13:04,200 --> 01:13:07,240
Speaker 1: One happened as them host damn show, one of them

1483
01:13:07,600 --> 01:13:09,560
Speaker 1: what was I gonna say? Hit him up and was

1484
01:13:09,640 --> 01:13:11,920
Speaker 1: like this bitch talking about you on her podcast and

1485
01:13:11,960 --> 01:13:14,439
Speaker 1: started like blowing up. She was like, who the funk

1486
01:13:14,439 --> 01:13:18,599
Speaker 1: else got a lamba and nigked, So I mean there's

1487
01:13:18,600 --> 01:13:23,400
Speaker 1: always that, um you know, who knows. Hopefully they don't

1488
01:13:23,439 --> 01:13:28,040
Speaker 1: come get both uns, bitch. I We're gonna take this

1489
01:13:28,200 --> 01:13:31,000
Speaker 1: thing back to the car. The model I thought a

1490
01:13:31,040 --> 01:13:34,080
Speaker 1: boy her, it's nothing that happens with you. They ain't

1491
01:13:34,080 --> 01:13:35,720
Speaker 1: coming for us, which they're coming for you.