Speaker 1: What would you do if you were young and you
Speaker 1: just got engaged and you're totally in love and you
Speaker 1: think everything's going good, but you don't have the father
Speaker 1: of the girl's approval, but he didn't improve at all.
Speaker 1: In fact, he doesn't even like you. What would you
Speaker 1: do in this situation or would you have even asked
Speaker 1: her to begin with? That is a question. That's one
Speaker 1: of the several questions we're going to tackle today with
Speaker 1: my brother Parker, who's always so good. If you have
Speaker 1: any questions like that or anything else, could be life
Speaker 1: or music or relationships or anything at all, email Grangersmith
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com. We'll add it to the
Speaker 1: queue and we'll get on here and we'll answer them
Speaker 1: like we're sitting around a campfire and you bring it
Speaker 1: up and this is a this is a good one.
Speaker 1: We have some great questions today and I love to
Speaker 1: be able to answer them with Parker. I'm also excited
Speaker 1: because we're touring and by the time you see this podcast,
Speaker 1: we will have already done our first big run in
Speaker 1: the Midwest, which is Kansas and Wyoming and South Dakota,
Speaker 1: and then we have all kinds of other dates on
Speaker 1: the books. Right now. I even saw California in June,
Speaker 1: which is great because we have such great fans in
Speaker 1: California and it's a relief to see that a state
Speaker 1: that has been through so much trouble over the last
Speaker 1: year is now opening up for country concerts. Also saw
Speaker 1: New York, another state that I didn't think we're going
Speaker 1: to be back to in a while, and I see
Speaker 1: it on the calendar for this fall. So everybody in
Speaker 1: between New York and California, we're coming to see you.
Speaker 1: Get ready. Grangersmith dot com is where you can find
Speaker 1: out all of that information and see if we're coming
Speaker 1: to your town. If you don't see your town on
Speaker 1: there yet on grangersmith dot com, hang tight, keep check
Speaker 1: in watching my socials and we'll be announcing because a
Speaker 1: lot of the dates we've confirmed, but we haven't put
Speaker 1: them up on the website yet and we'll wait till
Speaker 1: they're ready to launch and put tickets on sale and
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. We're also gonna be doing
Speaker 1: meet and greets, so a lot of great stuff happening.
Speaker 1: Such a relief that this great stuff is happening now,
Speaker 1: so stay tuned for that. And this is a great episode.
Speaker 1: Thanks for watching, Thanks for listening. Welcome to the Grangersmith Podcast,
Speaker 1: Episode eighty one. Yee roll the intro months time and
Speaker 1: long line, fool of up and down, go back, rangy Yeah,
Speaker 1: thenation the farm is recovering from ye day. We will rebuild.
Speaker 1: It looks like we just plowed out in the field
Speaker 1: out back and it's ready to be ready to spread
Speaker 1: some seed on it. Actually, I have two fifty pounds
Speaker 1: bags of oats and I thought maybe go throw it
Speaker 1: out there onto the place where we did all the mudding.
Speaker 1: So what we're talking about is we did ye E Day.
Speaker 1: We celebrated ten years since the gee was first set
Speaker 1: by us, and then five years since we incorporate Geee Apparel.
Speaker 1: So we celebrated Yegee Day and it was it was
Speaker 1: pretty amazing. We're gonna do it bigger and better next year.
Speaker 1: We tore up so much grass munting, which is why
Speaker 1: we have this farm though, like we don't really have
Speaker 1: this farm to farm, hey, you know, we we have
Speaker 1: it for content, for inviting influencers, for having fun. I
Speaker 1: was thinking as everything wound down, and Ben, who runs
Speaker 1: all our social media, and Tyler and I were all
Speaker 1: in my office and it was in Hayden and it
Speaker 1: was like ten thirty and it's getting late and things
Speaker 1: were winding down. Everybody had left, and Ben Ben goes,
Speaker 1: I feel like you know when you when you win
Speaker 1: a big football game in high school that was like
Speaker 1: a big rivalry and you're just kind of sitting in
Speaker 1: the locker room afterwards, sitting in front of your locker
Speaker 1: just like, wow, that just happened. Because that's how I felt.
Speaker 1: That's exactly how I feel. I spent one hour yesterday
Speaker 1: cleaning my truck, and I'm still finding mud in my clothes,
Speaker 1: in my Like the inside of my truck is still
Speaker 1: completely mudded out, outside is pretty clean, undercarriage still has mud.
Speaker 1: I'm still finding mud. In fact, look at the camera
Speaker 1: right now. Look look at that still finding it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like I'm still finding it on the lens of the camera. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna answer some questions today. Parker is one of
Speaker 1: my favorite guests. Anytime I have you as a guest,
Speaker 1: our TikTok does really well on the podcast. Yeah that's
Speaker 1: show biz. I'm gonna go easy on your first one,
Speaker 1: and if you want to, if you want to ask
Speaker 1: me anything with whatever guest I have on this podcast.
Speaker 1: We put these out every Monday. You could email Grangersmith
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com. Could be any subject we
Speaker 1: had lunch with, pastor Chad the other or now passer Josh. Wait,
Speaker 1: who do we have lunch with? We have lunch with?
Speaker 1: Still so many pastors trying to learn it was Chad. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was Chad because he he mentioned me on the
Speaker 1: podcast and so he's probably listen now, and so I'm
Speaker 1: a little bit more self aware of what I'm saying now,
Speaker 1: but I think we should always speak as if our
Speaker 1: pastor is watching. I'm gonna go easy with your first question,
Speaker 1: says I absolutely love the Smiths podcast and Rise with
Speaker 1: the Amber. Y'all are real down to earth people. Thank you, James.
Speaker 1: So his quick question any idea how long till the
Speaker 1: boots are available? Or how long are the boots available?
Speaker 1: And are they on the EEE site? So I figured
Speaker 1: i'd thrill you this one. It's a little bit of
Speaker 1: a source subject. Yeah, I think the company that we
Speaker 1: partner with put up a few more pair that were available,
Speaker 1: but I'm not sure how long they're going to be there,
Speaker 1: and we're not going to be restocking or doing that.
Speaker 1: So Will ye get back into the footwear business anytime soon.
Speaker 1: I think people are probably wondering that we had a
Speaker 1: call with hey dude the other day that everybody loves,
Speaker 1: but I don't think. I don't think they want to
Speaker 1: work with us. So if if you have any suggestions
Speaker 1: of footwear companies that we should work with, let us know.
Speaker 1: But there's no plans in the near future. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: I think having boots on ee dot com is awesome.
Speaker 1: It seems like a good fit. No pun intended. It's
Speaker 1: not sound as easy as we thought because you got
Speaker 1: to either stalk all those sizes or have someone do
Speaker 1: it for you. So it's going to be about us
Speaker 1: finding the right partner. And that kind of leads me
Speaker 1: to my next question from Ishmael. He says, how do
Speaker 1: you Granger your My name is Ishmael. I'm from south
Speaker 1: of Houston, Texas, and I've been trying to get into
Speaker 1: my own merchandise, but I really don't know how to start.
Speaker 1: Would you have any tips? Have a great day. This
Speaker 1: is for me. It's just a discussion. I do actually
Speaker 1: see this quite a bit, people saying I want to
Speaker 1: start a merchandise company. I want to start e commerce.
Speaker 1: I want to start selling some kind of product, but
Speaker 1: I don't know how to start. It seems to be
Speaker 1: the question. And so if we could just give a
Speaker 1: quick answer on how do you start a merchandising company? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I may have a little bit of a pessimistic answer
Speaker 1: for you, but there's definitely ways to do it. I
Speaker 1: don't know if I could start at an apparel company
Speaker 1: from scratch if it was just me and I didn't
Speaker 1: have some influencer someone who's creating that demand. I was
Speaker 1: just talking to the TikTokers on Friday when they were here,
Speaker 1: who were part of the chatter gang on TikTok. So
Speaker 1: shout out to those guys for coming. But I was
Speaker 1: talking to them, and everybody can create a brand these days,
Speaker 1: because everybody can put a logo on a shirt and
Speaker 1: a hat and call it a lifestyle brand. It's a
Speaker 1: really cool world we live in. But the hardest thing
Speaker 1: to do is create that demand and make people care.
Speaker 1: It's it's like, you need a personality, you need a mission,
Speaker 1: you need a why. And I was talking to those
Speaker 1: guys and I was like, man, y'all already created the why.
Speaker 1: You created this lifestyle. People love you Now, all you
Speaker 1: got to do is three things. Number one, you got
Speaker 1: to create a solid product that's a quality product. Number two,
Speaker 1: you need to market it in an interesting way, get
Speaker 1: it in front of eyeballs and make people care about it.
Speaker 1: And then number three is have send it to them
Speaker 1: reasonable time and have good customer service with it, so
Speaker 1: it's like demand product, market it and then have decent
Speaker 1: customer service and boom, there you go. Sometimes you can
Speaker 1: have just a couple of those things and be a
Speaker 1: successful business. But you know the goal is to have
Speaker 1: all four in my opinion, But man to that guy
Speaker 1: wondering how to do it, some people can do it
Speaker 1: without that initial demand or X factor. You have to
Speaker 1: be really smart have a really really good product. If
Speaker 1: you don't have that, yeah, exactly, you got to make
Speaker 1: up for it in one of those ways. So I
Speaker 1: would just go over that and be like, how can
Speaker 1: I create a product that's different than everybody else, that's
Speaker 1: worth remarking about it, makes it remarkable, and how can
Speaker 1: I how can I market it in an interesting way
Speaker 1: that's different, that's interesting? Mee of Harold started essentially as
Speaker 1: Granger Smith Merchandise the band, and we started that because
Speaker 1: we needed. We weren't making very much money playing concerts,
Speaker 1: so say say we make five hundred bucks. That was
Speaker 1: kind of the average price we used to get paid
Speaker 1: back in day, five hundred bucks. But we have we're
Speaker 1: traveling with seven people, so you divide five hundred by
Speaker 1: seven and you're barely paying for gas. So we needed
Speaker 1: another income source. So we started selling T shirts, printing
Speaker 1: those hats, and then if we could make two or
Speaker 1: three hundred bucks a night selling T shirts and hats
Speaker 1: and CDs, then that would help pay for the fuel
Speaker 1: and maybe a hotel room and just get us down
Speaker 1: the road. So that's how it started. And then as
Speaker 1: that grew, and as our passion for that grew, it
Speaker 1: turned into its own entity, its own apparel company. So
Speaker 1: without that, take that away, take touring away, take the
Speaker 1: band aspect away. Gosh, it would be really hard just
Speaker 1: to start a brand. A lot of people do it.
Speaker 1: I would say, if you're gonna ask for one way
Speaker 1: to do it, I would say social media. Start on
Speaker 1: social media. Maybe just start with memes. Start with a
Speaker 1: catchphrase it's really funny that gets popular on social media.
Speaker 1: Easier said than done. And run with that catchphrase until
Speaker 1: it gets to be popular enough in some circles that
Speaker 1: you could make a shirt and sell the shirt. I
Speaker 1: heard someone say the other day that if your first
Speaker 1: question is how much money can I make off of this,
Speaker 1: then you're already gonna fail. Some people can succeed doing that.
Speaker 1: But the first question is how can I provide value?
Speaker 1: Where's there something in the market that I can fill
Speaker 1: a need and I can serve people, and then in
Speaker 1: exchange there will be money in exchange for that. It's
Speaker 1: amazing switching that mindset to service instead of me, me me,
Speaker 1: How could I add value and watch that value come
Speaker 1: back to you tenfold? It's crazy how that happens, but
Speaker 1: it does. Yeah, here's a dog question, says Hey Grangeer.
Speaker 1: Not sure if you're going to see this or not,
Speaker 1: but my husband and I are researching German shorthaired pointer
Speaker 1: dogs and are considering getting one soon. We're concerned because
Speaker 1: we want kids in our near future, and there's mixed
Speaker 1: reviews about gsps with young kids. I was wondering if
Speaker 1: you had any personal input type of people that want
Speaker 1: to take our time and train it right and give
Speaker 1: it proper exercise. And we understand they have a high
Speaker 1: energy level and especially around children. So hoping to hear back.
Speaker 1: So I can answer this directly to carry because I
Speaker 1: have two gsps and I have dogs, I have kids,
Speaker 1: so man, I love gsps. They are amazing dogs for kids.
Speaker 1: They're your typical bird dog, which falls into the category
Speaker 1: of laboratory retrievers golden retrievers. These bird dogs have high energy,
Speaker 1: but they're just the sweetest, the sweetest personalities. We also
Speaker 1: have a V Shlow, which is another bird dog, so yeah,
Speaker 1: high energy. The only risk you have with children and
Speaker 1: bird dogs is literally this is it the dog knocking
Speaker 1: a toddler over because they're wagging their tail too hard
Speaker 1: or you know, like that's the only risk you're going
Speaker 1: to have around kids. You're never going to have an
Speaker 1: aggression problem. You're they're always going to be protective of
Speaker 1: your kids. And so I cannot, I cannot recommend a
Speaker 1: GSP enough. You always you always hold Luna, who is
Speaker 1: your who is your newest GSP on her back, cradling
Speaker 1: her in your arms. And I was at my buddy
Speaker 1: Gus's house this weekend and his wife had their They
Speaker 1: have a sheep of doodle, sheep dog, have sheet dog,
Speaker 1: have poodle and she was holding him just like that,
Speaker 1: and he was just sleeping on her shoulder. And then
Speaker 1: Gus said that whenever their puppies, I always grab them
Speaker 1: by their back like that, and then the ones that
Speaker 1: squirm and we got to get out. I'd try to
Speaker 1: find the ones that are calm and have a calm demeanor.
Speaker 1: And he said, it's always worked out for our family
Speaker 1: where we always get a really well tempered dog. You
Speaker 1: can kind of tell, like instinctually the ones that are
Speaker 1: calm when you put them on their back. And I
Speaker 1: was like, that's so funny because Granger does the same thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you could do that, but you could do that with
Speaker 1: any puppy. So even the wild alpha of the litter,
Speaker 1: you could grab that one and they're gonna squirm, squirm, scorn,
Speaker 1: but you just hold him in a dominant way, firmly, securely,
Speaker 1: but gently, and any any of the alphas will do
Speaker 1: the same thing. Eventually they just submit and they go okay,
Speaker 1: you got me, mm okay. And then so that's what
Speaker 1: I was doing with Luna, because she when I first
Speaker 1: would flip Luna over and hold her on her back
Speaker 1: cradle like a baby, she wouldn't like it that she would,
Speaker 1: you know, wiggle, wiggle, wiggle, and then finally I was
Speaker 1: just talking to her in a calm voice and she
Speaker 1: would just eventually learn this is a safe spot. Relax,
Speaker 1: You're under control, and it's a good thing. So I
Speaker 1: could still do it with Remy. I could still do
Speaker 1: it with all three of them. Actually, Okay, getting a
Speaker 1: little bit deeper. This question is from Ezra. It says, Hey, Grangeer,
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan of the podcast. My name is
Speaker 1: Ezra from Lincoln, California. I have a big problem. I
Speaker 1: need some advice on about me and my woman. We
Speaker 1: recently got engaged and I really want to get her
Speaker 1: father's blessing. But he always refused to meet me and
Speaker 1: he thinks and I quote, he has tast and he
Speaker 1: is the devil and he's never even met me. I
Speaker 1: love my fiance more than anything in the world, and
Speaker 1: I want to be welcomed into her family and I
Speaker 1: don't know what to do. I've tried everything I could
Speaker 1: think of. Any advice would be great, and this is interesting. Ezra,
Speaker 1: thank you for thank you for emailing, and thank you,
Speaker 1: you know, shout out to California, Lincoln, California. I have
Speaker 1: an answer for you that you're probably not gonna like
Speaker 1: this is coming from not only your perspective as a fiance,
Speaker 1: but also as a father of a daughter. Here's what
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say. You, Like I said, you're not gonna
Speaker 1: like this, but let me repeat your words. I have
Speaker 1: a problem. I recently got engaged. I really wanted her
Speaker 1: father's blessing, but he always refused to meet me. So
Speaker 1: I think that's a problem right off the bat, there's
Speaker 1: no there was no to get engaged without the father's approval,
Speaker 1: And so how would you feel? How would I feel?
Speaker 1: How would any father feel if he's not sure about
Speaker 1: this guy? He's not sure If he approves he hasn't
Speaker 1: met him yet and he goes ahead and just proposes
Speaker 1: and gets engaged anyway, well that's not going to help
Speaker 1: the matter. And this is regardless of what kind of
Speaker 1: guy is. Like, maybe the guy's a total jerk, and
Speaker 1: maybe he's just a punk, and he might be, but
Speaker 1: maybe he's awesome. Maybe he's a good guy. My advice
Speaker 1: to you, if you really want his blessing and you
Speaker 1: love her more than anything in the world, like you said,
Speaker 1: and you want to be welcomed into her family, and
Speaker 1: you say you've tried everything. I'll give you one thing
Speaker 1: you haven't tried here. It is take the ring back
Speaker 1: off her finger, put it back in your sock drawer.
Speaker 1: Call the dad on the phone and just say, mister
Speaker 1: so and so, I just want to tell you that
Speaker 1: I called off the engagement. And it's not because of
Speaker 1: a lack of love. I actually love your daughter more
Speaker 1: than anything, stronger than I've ever felt in my life,
Speaker 1: and I just want to let you know that I
Speaker 1: have canceled the engagement for the sake of you and
Speaker 1: regardless of what he says at the time end of
Speaker 1: the conversation there, then I want you to go and
Speaker 1: you get a notepad out, and I want you to
Speaker 1: write a letter to him stating exactly your intentions with
Speaker 1: his daughter. How are you going to take care of her,
Speaker 1: how you love her, what your future is going to
Speaker 1: look like with her, where you're going to live, what
Speaker 1: job you plan on having, List everything out and make
Speaker 1: it like a contract and sign your name and at
Speaker 1: the very end say I don't want to go through
Speaker 1: with anything else until I could see you face to face.
Speaker 1: So I'm planning on coming to you at this time
Speaker 1: signed Ezra mail it to him and wait, yeah, I
Speaker 1: couldn't say any better than that. Hard to tell without context.
Speaker 1: That's a lot of these questions are. But I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, if you really love her, you really care
Speaker 1: about her, you're going to care about you know. I mean,
Speaker 1: you're setting yourself up for a lot of potential drama
Speaker 1: and heartache and unnecessary uh drama if you're starting off
Speaker 1: the marriage like that, with that on that, not footing
Speaker 1: with her her family. It's different. If you're saying, man,
Speaker 1: the guy's he's abusive, he's terrible, he's an addict. My wife,
Speaker 1: my girlfriend's just trying to get away from him. It's
Speaker 1: that's different. But I don't think you're saying that. Uh.
Speaker 1: And So, like I said, coming from a father of
Speaker 1: a daughter, one of these days, I'm going to look
Speaker 1: for I'm going to look for a son in law
Speaker 1: that is that cares enough, that loves enough my daughter
Speaker 1: that he's willing to do what ever it takes to
Speaker 1: prove that to me. And I think I think that
Speaker 1: that letter, that phone call and canceling, you're not really canceling.
Speaker 1: You're just postponing the engagement. You're taking the ring off
Speaker 1: her finger and and sit back and wait and have patience,
Speaker 1: and you might want to stay in there somewhere. I'll
Speaker 1: wait as long as it takes. What that would prove
Speaker 1: a lot, I'll wait. I'll wait years if it takes,
Speaker 1: if it takes two years. And inside you're you're hearing
Speaker 1: this podcast, going, dude, I can't wait two years. You're crazy.
Speaker 1: No way, can't wait that lover. Well, that's my thought
Speaker 1: right back in as I see if you I want
Speaker 1: to see what happens, let's go to I wonder how
Speaker 1: old he was. Yeah, there's a lot of lot of
Speaker 1: stuff in here that we don't know. Here's another question
Speaker 1: that's kind of daughter related. It says Stranger, and this
Speaker 1: is from Let's See. This is from Jeff from Illinois.
Speaker 1: It says s Granger. My question is you've often said
Speaker 1: on the Smiths that you would not want your daughter
Speaker 1: London to grow up to be a singer due to
Speaker 1: the volatile nature of the music industry. Have you ever
Speaker 1: feared gaining too much success and fame and with all
Speaker 1: the stressors that come along with that. Obviously you want
Speaker 1: to be successful and make the best music you can,
Speaker 1: but with more success, would most likely bring more fame.
Speaker 1: Another way to ask the question would be, have you
Speaker 1: ever feared getting lost in the music industry and losing
Speaker 1: touch with who you are? It says, thanks for all
Speaker 1: you do, Graander. Your music saves people, Ye, Jeff from Illinois.
Speaker 1: It's an awesome question. I get similar questions to this,
Speaker 1: and I answer it this way. I always want to
Speaker 1: surround myself with people that can keep me grounded, which
Speaker 1: is why my brother is my manager, which is why
Speaker 1: this brother here, Parker is the CEO of EE Apparel.
Speaker 1: These guys my tour managers is a twenty plus year
Speaker 1: best friend. My band has all been with me over
Speaker 1: ten years. So I'm surrounding myself with people that can
Speaker 1: constantly keep me grounded and staying away from people that
Speaker 1: become yes men and do whatever I say just because
Speaker 1: I'm saying it, and I don't want that. Nobody really
Speaker 1: wants that deep down, because that's where the corruption comes from.
Speaker 1: The second thing I would say is you have to
Speaker 1: always be careful with how you define success. He says,
Speaker 1: Obviously you want to be successful in the music business,
Speaker 1: but what is successful? What is success? It's always defined differently,
Speaker 1: Like is my idea of success as many hit singles
Speaker 1: or as many sold out tour dates is humanly possible
Speaker 1: in a record level stacked and stacked and stacked back
Speaker 1: to back to back so that I could hang plaques
Speaker 1: on the wall. Or is my success come more from
Speaker 1: how you ended the email? Your music saves people? Like
Speaker 1: what if I ranked it that way? What if I
Speaker 1: ranked my success by Jeff from Illinois says, your music
Speaker 1: saves people instead of your music sets records. Because whatever
Speaker 1: the end goal is, that's going to be a very
Speaker 1: different path that I'm taking. And I'd like to think
Speaker 1: the path I'm taking revolves more around trying to live
Speaker 1: a meaningful life and trying to inspire through the platform
Speaker 1: that has been given to me by this community. It's
Speaker 1: one of the most common questions and one of the
Speaker 1: biggest topics that people talk about and you hear all
Speaker 1: the time, especially in the music industry, but really in
Speaker 1: this world that we live in, any type of influencer,
Speaker 1: the idea is how can you get how can you
Speaker 1: get fame and a following and not lose yourself along
Speaker 1: the way. It's like the oldest story of mankind, and
Speaker 1: it's like asking, you know, how do you not lose
Speaker 1: yourself along the way, or do you not want to
Speaker 1: get too big. It's like, I think that's just a
Speaker 1: lack of confidence in your own in your own uh,
Speaker 1: you know, morals in your own you know foundation of
Speaker 1: who you are. I think it's definitely possible to to
Speaker 1: get popular and keep your morals along the way and
Speaker 1: continue to help people. I think the biggest thing is
Speaker 1: is remembering your why. And if your why is to
Speaker 1: get as much money as possible and to be as
Speaker 1: famous as possible, then maybe it will be a little
Speaker 1: bit more difficult to stay grounded along the way. But
Speaker 1: if your your purpose is to you know, fulfill God's
Speaker 1: plan for your life and something bigger than yourself and
Speaker 1: to and to genuinely help people, then it's probably a
Speaker 1: little bit easier as you grow to know that you know, no,
Speaker 1: none of it's coming from anything that you're doing. It's
Speaker 1: just God's plan for your life and you're just trying
Speaker 1: to do as much as you can while you're here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you talk about morals. If you want to uphold
Speaker 1: uphold morals in any career that you're doing, you really
Speaker 1: need you have to. It's imperative you find out what
Speaker 1: your moral basis is coming from. Like where are your
Speaker 1: morals coming from? Are they coming from good vibes, good philosophy,
Speaker 1: Are they coming from parents? Are they coming from law enforcement?
Speaker 1: Like you have good morals because you don't want to
Speaker 1: break the law because you don't want to go to
Speaker 1: jail or you don't want to pay a fine. Me personally,
Speaker 1: my morals are coming from the Bible read as it
Speaker 1: is as a historical document written by eyewitnesses during the
Speaker 1: lifetime of other eyewitnesses that claim supernatural events that fulfilled
Speaker 1: ancient prophecies that were inspired by God. That's where my
Speaker 1: morals come from from what those words say. I don't
Speaker 1: always want to follow those morals like my flesh my body,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to break them, you know a
Speaker 1: lot of times, but I don't because the fear of
Speaker 1: God and the faith of God, which means taking it,
Speaker 1: taking the word of God as truth the way it's written.
Speaker 1: I want less and less to be successful in the
Speaker 1: music business in a form of plaques and records and
Speaker 1: chart topping statistics, and I want more and more to
Speaker 1: be successful in the music business by changing one life
Speaker 1: at a time for the better. I don't always succeed
Speaker 1: in that. But that's my why. That's why I'm striving
Speaker 1: to do this. That's why I have a podcast. I
Speaker 1: don't really want to do this podcast every Monday, you know.
Speaker 1: I don't do it just because I'm like, man, it's
Speaker 1: going to be great. I just really want to sit
Speaker 1: in here and sit in a hot room on a
Speaker 1: stool and get a microphone every single Monday and put this.
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean I enjoy it, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: but that's not why I do it. I don't do
Speaker 1: it because I love talking on a microphone in an
Speaker 1: empty room and hoping people listen to it. What's the
Speaker 1: old saying you don't rise the level of your goal
Speaker 1: as you fall to the level of your standards. I
Speaker 1: think that's it. Yeah. I was reading this morning in
Speaker 1: Galatians and Paul is listing out particular sins, and one
Speaker 1: of the sins that he listed with selfish ambition. I
Speaker 1: thought that was very interesting. That just popped out to me,
Speaker 1: like selfish ambition, selfishness. Selfish ambition almost falls in every
Speaker 1: single category of when Paul starts talking about sins. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I mean that falls right into it. What's the
Speaker 1: ambition for what's the same for what are you doing
Speaker 1: it for? Selfishers are not? It's crazy when Paul writes
Speaker 1: that two thousand years ago, how it could just be
Speaker 1: twenty twenty one to a tee. That's what's so crazy
Speaker 1: about it. Humans don't change. I'll see if we can
Speaker 1: get a quick one in here before break. I see
Speaker 1: Jordan Peterson in this one. I don't think that's gonna
Speaker 1: be quick. Let me root what that says? Says. Hey Granger,
Speaker 1: my name is Jake McPherson. I'm twenty one years old.
Speaker 1: I live in Gholston, North Carolina. Shout out to North Carolina.
Speaker 1: Currently listening to your podcast while writing this, I was
Speaker 1: wondering what's your favorite series from Jordan Peterson? Also, any
Speaker 1: advice giving to someone who's starting a business. I really
Speaker 1: appreciate any kinds of words of inspiration and wisdom you
Speaker 1: pass on. I hope you have a great day. God blessed.
Speaker 1: We were just talking about Jordan Peterson before we turn
Speaker 1: on the podcast here to record, and I got turned
Speaker 1: on to Jordan through Twelve Rules for Life. I don't
Speaker 1: remember was it me that found him first? Maybe I
Speaker 1: don't remember. Out of the three brothers who found him first.
Speaker 1: I feel like that was me. I found him somewhere.
Speaker 1: No I sent it, I sent, Did you find it?
Speaker 1: I sent? Yeah, totalles for life to you. So I
Speaker 1: haven't read the twelve Moraules. And there's a lot to
Speaker 1: take away from Jordan that's really really good, and there's
Speaker 1: a few things that you go he doesn't have it
Speaker 1: all figured out yet. Not that I'm many smarter than him.
Speaker 1: He's an absolutely brilliant man, but he kind of goes
Speaker 1: back to the first question. He doesn't have the foundation
Speaker 1: of his morals are solely on the philosophy of man.
Speaker 1: And so that's where I would encourage anyone that's listening
Speaker 1: to Jordan to be wary of where Jordan's morals and
Speaker 1: foundation is coming from, because he is still working that out.
Speaker 1: He's probably the first one to admit it. He's a
Speaker 1: brilliant speaker, brilliant writer, brilliant psychiatrist, but he is still
Speaker 1: working things out in his own life. And look at
Speaker 1: the fruits of where Jordan is now. He's a struggling man. Yes,
Speaker 1: listen to him. He has some great stuff on the
Speaker 1: Joe Rogan podcast. Yeah, I'll answer my very favorite thing
Speaker 1: that stood out to me that changed my life for
Speaker 1: the better from Jordan was his idea of cleaning up
Speaker 1: your room. And when you clean up your don't go
Speaker 1: try to change the world seventeen year old. You can't
Speaker 1: go change you know, the political world in the spectrum
Speaker 1: and go stand out in the streets and stand up
Speaker 1: for you know whatever, cause you think you're going to
Speaker 1: change the world for It's like, is your room clean?
Speaker 1: Is your bathroom clean? Did you clean off that stack
Speaker 1: of papers off your desk? And it's like, yeah, it'd
Speaker 1: be great if you could lose eighty pounds and start
Speaker 1: the business you've always wanted and start waking up at
Speaker 1: six am. But a lot of times it's easy to
Speaker 1: get overwhelmed and you're setting yourself up for failure. So
Speaker 1: he says, have the humility to set the bar properly low.
Speaker 1: So it's like having an honest conversation with yourself and
Speaker 1: asking yourself, what am I willing to do right now?
Speaker 1: You know, your subconscious is not just your slave that
Speaker 1: you can boss around. It's like looking around honestly and saying, okay,
Speaker 1: well maybe I could clean up you know, that dirty
Speaker 1: laundry in the corner over there that's been there for
Speaker 1: a week and a half and a lot of times
Speaker 1: those tiny improvements. What he means by cleaning up your
Speaker 1: room is this tiny improvement snowball. And if you improve
Speaker 1: your life one percent at a time, then in three
Speaker 1: years you got completely different life. If you do that
Speaker 1: every day, that really stuck with me. Let's take a
Speaker 1: quick break and then get back and talk a little
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Speaker 1: with Jordan Peterson, it's interesting I was actually thinking about
Speaker 1: this this morning because we live in a society now
Speaker 1: that there's like this famous saying that says, be the
Speaker 1: change you want to see in the world, right, And
Speaker 1: the idea Jordan has, and the idea I really agree
Speaker 1: with too, is that when you see a problem in
Speaker 1: the world, what we should be seeing is the problems
Speaker 1: in ourselves. Because we're so quick to look at the
Speaker 1: world and go it's so messed up. I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: not that messed up, but the world is. And so
Speaker 1: I'll just shine brighter so that it reflects into the world.
Speaker 1: Instead of saying what Jordan would believe, I'm looking at
Speaker 1: the world, it has problems, and I go home and
Speaker 1: my bedroom is dirty, and that's a tiny microcosm of
Speaker 1: the world. Is my sink, Like my sink has toothpaste
Speaker 1: drops on it. Right, So what if I started right
Speaker 1: here cleaning the toothpaste drops off of my own sink,
Speaker 1: and tackling a small task in my garage that's in
Speaker 1: the corner of the garage. It's a mess. And I
Speaker 1: started organizing that, And then what if everyone in the
Speaker 1: world did that, you truly would have a good place.
Speaker 1: There's a little bit slight of a difference in the
Speaker 1: way you look at the world. The world. Everyone's going
Speaker 1: to look at the world and see problems like that's unanimous.
Speaker 1: Everyone that's alive goes the world's not perfect. It has
Speaker 1: a lot of problems, But seldom do we look at
Speaker 1: ourselves and go and I'm part of it. I'm contributing
Speaker 1: to it. Yeah, you might not be a murderer or
Speaker 1: a thief, but you're a slob, and you're lazy and
Speaker 1: you eat too much. We're all guilty of these things.
Speaker 1: And so if we all work on ourselves and see
Speaker 1: ourselves as part of the collective problem, then we could
Speaker 1: truly start correcting on a massive level when it starts
Speaker 1: at a micro level. Those are the things that Jordan
Speaker 1: thinks about relentlessly, and I enjoy listening to them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the fundamental message is those things that seem insignificant, small
Speaker 1: that you think aren't going to affect anybody or do
Speaker 1: anybody any good, are the most important things that you
Speaker 1: can do. It's such an inspiring message because he's like,
Speaker 1: have the humility to set the bar properly low. What's
Speaker 1: one small thing you can do today to improve your life,
Speaker 1: and then by doing it, having faith that it will
Speaker 1: compound and you will not only change your life in
Speaker 1: three years. He says, every person in their lifetime comes
Speaker 1: into contact with about a thousand people the average person.
Speaker 1: Each one of those people comes in contact with another
Speaker 1: thousand people, So every man or woman is one step
Speaker 1: from a million people. It's like, those insignificant things that
Speaker 1: you're doing have the potential to change the world, rather
Speaker 1: than going out and trying to change the world. It's
Speaker 1: kind of a paradox. It is a paradox. If you
Speaker 1: want to learn more about Jordan, yeah, just YouTube and
Speaker 1: see I would probably rank it on the most popular
Speaker 1: videos on YouTube, and just that you can get a
Speaker 1: quick introduction to who he is and what he talks about.
Speaker 1: Be careful though he's not perfect, as you know, none
Speaker 1: of us are, but he has a lot of those
Speaker 1: clinical psychologists. I was just talking to a buddy about this.
Speaker 1: They a they're extremely intelligent, but then a lot of
Speaker 1: them end up in severe, severe depression because they're so intelligent,
Speaker 1: and they go searching for the meaning of life, and
Speaker 1: many of them do not believe in a higher power.
Speaker 1: And so when you get searching for the meaning of
Speaker 1: life and your your heart is closed off to Christ,
Speaker 1: then it's a scary It's a scary tunnel. It is.
Speaker 1: Next question title girls and God seems like a decent transition.
Speaker 1: Shout out to any over the road truckers they're listening.
Speaker 1: I don't know why I just thought about that, but
Speaker 1: I do know we have a lot of over the
Speaker 1: road truckers that listen to this podcast, and I think
Speaker 1: that's a great place to listen to this podcast, whether
Speaker 1: you're commuting to work or driving a tractor or driving
Speaker 1: over the road truck. Shout out to that. This question says,
Speaker 1: girls and God. Hey Grangel, this is Sean from Philadelphia.
Speaker 1: Have an issue and I'm not sure how to go
Speaker 1: about it. I don't know if you know what a
Speaker 1: simp is, but I've been called a simp all through
Speaker 1: high school. I've always had a spot in my heart
Speaker 1: for girls and I've always been rejected by girls. I
Speaker 1: thought that every time this was going to be a
Speaker 1: sure bet. The last one especially was especially hard for
Speaker 1: me because my best friend became her boyfriend despite knowing
Speaker 1: my feelings for her that just recently broke up, so
Speaker 1: I thought it was just my opportunity. I waited for
Speaker 1: a few months after their breakup then confess my feelings
Speaker 1: for her. During their relationship, she was my best friend
Speaker 1: and now she is afraid of hurting me. Do you
Speaker 1: have any advice for how I could show devotion for her?
Speaker 1: I've been praying about this, but nothing seems to be happening.
Speaker 1: Thanks for your podcasting. Yee ye. How old is? He
Speaker 1: doesn't say, I'm assuming Sean's pretty young. What is a simp?
Speaker 1: A simp is somebody who puts girls on a had
Speaker 1: a store, ah, and it's always complimenting them and treating
Speaker 1: them as a queen and that they're not worthy and
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, so okay, well that seems like a problem. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have a thought. One thing that really helped me
Speaker 1: was this idea when George Cline was struggling with getting
Speaker 1: acting roles in big movies. He calls it the tyranny
Speaker 1: of being picked, and it's the idea. Every time he'd
Speaker 1: go into an audition, he was really nervous and was
Speaker 1: just thinking, Man, I hope I get this part. I
Speaker 1: hope I'm lucky enough to get it. I hope I
Speaker 1: impressed this director. I really hope he likes me. I
Speaker 1: need this so bad. And one day it just hit
Speaker 1: him when he was just getting failure after failure, and
Speaker 1: he said, he said, when I think about it, this
Speaker 1: director has a big problem. He has to find somebody
Speaker 1: for this role that's going to be perfect for it.
Speaker 1: And so if I put myself in his shoes, it's
Speaker 1: like he's got to go through all these different candidates
Speaker 1: and try to find the perfect person. So George started thinking,
Speaker 1: I'm going to go in instead of hoping I get picked,
Speaker 1: I'm going to go into it like I'm solving this
Speaker 1: problem for him. And not to say that we should
Speaker 1: just blindly tell ourselves that we're going to be solving
Speaker 1: the problem for a girl. And you don't want to
Speaker 1: get ego driven or overconfident with it. But it's this
Speaker 1: idea of like work on yourself enough, work on your faith,
Speaker 1: your purpose, your mission, get your life in order, and
Speaker 1: then you generally will feel more confident in yourself and say,
Speaker 1: you know, every girl is looking for that perfect father
Speaker 1: of her children. If you try to become that best
Speaker 1: version of yourself, then you will be in a better
Speaker 1: position to say, you know, I'm helping you solve this
Speaker 1: problem rather than hope, please God let her pick me.
Speaker 1: Totally agree, Totally agree, Sean, this is one of these times.
Speaker 1: And I always look at these questions as like we're
Speaker 1: sitting around a campfire, me, you and Parker and you're like, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: gotta tell you something that's been bothering. I always look
Speaker 1: at this podcast as that kind of situation, and if
Speaker 1: we were sitting in a campfire, I'd say, Sean, lay
Speaker 1: off the girls for a little bit. Especially if people
Speaker 1: call you a simp, then maybe they're recognizing I'm not
Speaker 1: laughing at all at you. I'm I'm laughing because to me,
Speaker 1: it seems obvious that you need a little bit of
Speaker 1: a break and you need you need to do more
Speaker 1: guy things with more guys and develop yourself. And it
Speaker 1: sounds to me this email sounds like you're desperate for
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, not for the girl, and to be desperate
Speaker 1: for a girlfriend is going to lead to failure every time.
Speaker 1: So buddy, it's going to happen for you. It's gonna
Speaker 1: I don't know many people in my life that besides
Speaker 1: my older brother and my middle brother Tyler, that just
Speaker 1: literally don't find anybody for a long time. That's because
Speaker 1: Tyler doesn't try. But I don't. What I'm trying to
Speaker 1: say is I don't know very many people that go
Speaker 1: through an entire life and come old and gray and go.
Speaker 1: I just never found anybody. I just never did. The
Speaker 1: whole time I was alive. I didn't find anybody compatible.
Speaker 1: It's just you're gonna find somebody, Sean, You're going to
Speaker 1: It's gonna happen, and you can't will it into happening.
Speaker 1: You can't try hard enough to make it happen. And
Speaker 1: you've seen too many movies like The Notebook, and you've
Speaker 1: seen too many chick flicks where the guys are willing
Speaker 1: it to happen by romance and by saying the right things.
Speaker 1: But the reality is, if you just be yourself, you're
Speaker 1: going to attract your girl by being you, not by
Speaker 1: saying the right things or being the right romantic person
Speaker 1: that you think they want or being afraid or being you,
Speaker 1: just be you and you're going to attract your girl
Speaker 1: because even if you tried hard, you can't keep that
Speaker 1: act up forever. And if you just trick a girl
Speaker 1: into relationship because you said the right things, eventually you're
Speaker 1: going to fall back into being you and she's going
Speaker 1: to figure that out. So it's better just to be
Speaker 1: you from the beginning. And if she doesn't like you,
Speaker 1: or if you're having to overwork yourself and overthink and
Speaker 1: who is the type of person I need to be
Speaker 1: to get this girl back, it's like that's not the
Speaker 1: right girl for you. The girl for you is the
Speaker 1: girl that's going to love you for who you are.
Speaker 1: True confidence is not about always saying the right thing
Speaker 1: or showing the perfect body language, but it's about knowing
Speaker 1: the most important thing in this situation is that you'll
Speaker 1: be okay no matter what, and coming to the realization that, hey,
Speaker 1: even if I don't find a girl, I'll still be
Speaker 1: okay because God alone is sufficient in my life. And
Speaker 1: when you come to that conclusion, that is going to
Speaker 1: put off a type of energy and confidence that's going
Speaker 1: to attract any type of girl that you want. The
Speaker 1: type of man that is independent enough to say, I
Speaker 1: don't have to have a girl, so I to define
Speaker 1: myself because I know that I'll be okay no matter what.
Speaker 1: And even if you say the wrong thing. But if
Speaker 1: you're being yourself, and people if you say, if you
Speaker 1: speak your truth and you speak from the heart and
Speaker 1: you're yourself, even if people may view that as weak,
Speaker 1: you know that and they reject you for it, you
Speaker 1: know that you'll never reject yourself because you're being who
Speaker 1: you are and you know that you'll be okay no
Speaker 1: matter what. I want to tell you something, chean, and
Speaker 1: this might not be easy to hear, but let me
Speaker 1: read back what you said you wanted this girl, then
Speaker 1: they broke up, and you said, I waited a few
Speaker 1: months after the breakup, then confess my feelings for her
Speaker 1: during their relationship was my best friend. So now she's
Speaker 1: afraid of hurting me, buddy, that's language for she just
Speaker 1: doesn't she don't want to do this. And I know
Speaker 1: that's not what you want to hear, but her being
Speaker 1: afraid to hurt you means she doesn't want to date you.
Speaker 1: That's just that's the reality. Because if she liked you,
Speaker 1: she wouldn't care. She wouldn't care about hurting you because
Speaker 1: she would feel like she's not going to hurt you,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. She'd feel like you're the
Speaker 1: one and there is no fear of hurting you. So
Speaker 1: that just means that means no, So time to move on.
Speaker 1: And that's not bad. There's there's three point five billion
Speaker 1: girls in this world, so you don't want to hear that.
Speaker 1: But that's just me on the outside looking in. There's
Speaker 1: just one girl and she's not the one you thought
Speaker 1: she was. She's not. Okay. I appreciate you, dude. I
Speaker 1: appreciate you writing. I'm sorry that if I was harsh,
Speaker 1: but I truly want the best for you because you're
Speaker 1: writing into this podcast and I don't want to lead
Speaker 1: you astray. And I wouldn't want to tell you something
Speaker 1: just to make it sound nice and pretty for everyone
Speaker 1: else and make you feel good and warm and fuzzy,
Speaker 1: and me tell you be a knight in shining army
Speaker 1: and go get her if you want to, Sean, go
Speaker 1: get her writer a letter. No, don't do that. The
Speaker 1: only letter that should be written after this podcast is
Speaker 1: the one dude to the father in law. That's the letter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: not you, Sean who wants to be with a girl
Speaker 1: it doesn't want to be with them. Nope, nope, nope.
Speaker 1: I'm okay, Parker. We got a couple more, so I'll
Speaker 1: throw it out to you. New father advice, urgent relationship advice,
Speaker 1: two country verse two Christian, Canadian boy on his own.
Speaker 1: Any of those stand out to you, let's do two
Speaker 1: country verse two Christians. Since we just got done with
Speaker 1: the relationship two country verse two Christian, here we go. Hey, Grandeer.
Speaker 1: My name is Natalie and I'm a big fan from Denver, PA.
Speaker 1: My best friend and I were supposed to see you
Speaker 1: in Lancaster six days after PA shut down last March,
Speaker 1: so we're really hoping that you can make it back
Speaker 1: to the area soon. First, I want to thank you
Speaker 1: and Amber and your whole family and brand for being
Speaker 1: such inspirations. I appreciate you using your platform to honor
Speaker 1: God and tell others about him. Anyway, to my question,
Speaker 1: I consider myself a country girl. I love hunting, fishing,
Speaker 1: pretty much anything outside, and I'm still single. I'm looking
Speaker 1: for a country guy with similar interest. My faith is
Speaker 1: super important to me. Back to relationships that I have
Speaker 1: a degree in Biblical studies, and I love having deeper
Speaker 1: conversations about the Bible. My problem is that it always
Speaker 1: seems like I'm too country for church guys, and two
Speaker 1: Christian are too good for country guys. I can't seem
Speaker 1: to find the balance of country and Christian. Whenever I
Speaker 1: talk about this with other church people, I get the
Speaker 1: advice that I'm being too picky. But just as long
Speaker 1: as a guy truly loves Jesus and is seeking to
Speaker 1: live for him, that we can make it work. And
Speaker 1: I shouldn't worry too much about trying to find a
Speaker 1: country guy. While I agree with that his love for
Speaker 1: the Lord has to be top priority, I don't agree
Speaker 1: that that's all I should be looking for. I was
Speaker 1: wondering what your thoughts are, if you had any advice,
Speaker 1: and if your brothers ever experienced a similar problem. They
Speaker 1: seem to have it all figured out the right balance
Speaker 1: between country and Christians, So how did they handle it?
Speaker 1: Thanks so much, Have a great day, Natalie. Two countries,
Speaker 1: that's interesting. There's two Christians. Yeah, two country for the
Speaker 1: church guys to Christian for the country guys. The country guys,
Speaker 1: what since when of the country we don't have any
Speaker 1: country guys that are Christian. Since when is that? I
Speaker 1: know a lot of them. Where is she from pennsylvani No, yeah, Pennsylvania.
Speaker 1: Then for Pennsylvania. First of all, you should never consider
Speaker 1: changing who you are for a particular just because you
Speaker 1: haven't found the person. Yeah, take take away, take away
Speaker 1: that word picky right there. You said you have people
Speaker 1: that they give a device that you're being too picky. No,
Speaker 1: stop that You're perfectly, perfectly reasonable to be picky for
Speaker 1: picking your soulmate. Yeah, that's the most important. It's the
Speaker 1: second most important decision of your life. And I think
Speaker 1: that's just the first thing that girls go to once
Speaker 1: they're like twenty four and their friends they're all getting married. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like, maybe I'm too picky, Maybe I'm this, maybe
Speaker 1: I'm that. It's like, you don't have to It's okay,
Speaker 1: You're right where you need to be. Imagine yourself. Visualize
Speaker 1: yourself in the courtroom getting signing those divorce papers and
Speaker 1: thinking to yourself, I should have been more picky. Yeah,
Speaker 1: visualize that, Natalie. Yeah, it's the the grandfather of your grandkids.
Speaker 1: It's the person you spend your rest of your life
Speaker 1: with so looking for the grandfather of your grandkids? I
Speaker 1: like it. Yeah, uh, I think about that sometimes too.
Speaker 1: It's like when enough time goes by, then you can't
Speaker 1: help but wonder maybe I am being too specific of
Speaker 1: what I'm looking for. But I don't know. I just
Speaker 1: I just feel like when you know, you know, and
Speaker 1: are you you know? Are you putting yourself in situations
Speaker 1: to meet that guy? Like I sent you a video
Speaker 1: the other day of you know, are you are you
Speaker 1: going to you know? The are you are you putting
Speaker 1: yourselves in the right places to meet that guy that
Speaker 1: you're talking about? Like I would? I would I would
Speaker 1: write down what are the non negotiables that I'm looking
Speaker 1: for in the father of my children and the man
Speaker 1: that I want to marry and where would that type
Speaker 1: of man be And not necessarily that you're going to
Speaker 1: those places looking for him and everything that you're doing,
Speaker 1: but just having honest conversation with yourself and saying, you know,
Speaker 1: am I looking in the right places for this? And
Speaker 1: are you getting out of your comfort zone enough to
Speaker 1: put yourself in a position to potentially meet him? Like
Speaker 1: you're not gonna You're not going to meet you know,
Speaker 1: your soulmate, sitting on the couch every night, and ever
Speaker 1: going out and meeting new people and getting involved in
Speaker 1: your community and serving and going to church and trying
Speaker 1: out different churches. You're always just one trying one new
Speaker 1: coffee shop away from meeting him. Yeah. I've also seen
Speaker 1: Natalie firsthand that let me say this first, don't compromise
Speaker 1: on the Christian part, because that's way harder to fix
Speaker 1: and not your responsibility. But you may be able to
Speaker 1: compromise on the country part. Let me explain, how country
Speaker 1: are you? Yeah, let me explain. I've seen firsthand a
Speaker 1: lot of friends that are not country at all that
Speaker 1: when we start here at EE we start introducing them
Speaker 1: to hunting, fishing, doing things outside, they're like, Wow, this
Speaker 1: is the lifestyle I could get behind. I love this,
Speaker 1: I love it. So maybe what I'm trying to say
Speaker 1: is maybe you find with these guys that's a good guy,
Speaker 1: a good solid Christian guy, but he wears penny loafers
Speaker 1: and slacks, and you like everything else about him, and
Speaker 1: you're like, why don't you try that? And go, hey,
Speaker 1: have you ever tried fishing? And he's like not, actually
Speaker 1: I haven't, And you're like well, I love it. Would
Speaker 1: you like to go on a date and go fishing
Speaker 1: and maybe he gets out there and he starts, you know,
Speaker 1: putting a worm on hook and he catches his first
Speaker 1: bass and he goes, I actually loved this. I could
Speaker 1: do this every day. You never know that easily could happen.
Speaker 1: So that's one area you might be able to compromise.
Speaker 1: After a few dates, you'll figure that out. So if
Speaker 1: you take him fishing and he's like, this is disgusting,
Speaker 1: get me back to Starbucks so I can have a latte,
Speaker 1: then you know what you're dealing with. And that's the
Speaker 1: last day you have with him. But you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, You can compromise in that area, and you
Speaker 1: could show a city boy the country and be pleasantly surprised.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of city boys that get out on
Speaker 1: a four wheeler and they're like, I'm never going back
Speaker 1: to concrete again after this day. This is the most
Speaker 1: fun I've ever had. You know what. One way that
Speaker 1: I've met a lot of new people has been going
Speaker 1: to different churches, and there's just so many different people
Speaker 1: in churches, especially if you go to Bible studies. It's
Speaker 1: just so easy to meet people. You and I have
Speaker 1: lunches with people two or three times a week, meeting
Speaker 1: new people and with mutual friends. And we was talking
Speaker 1: about those weak ties versus the hard ties. Like the
Speaker 1: hard ties are the people in your life that you
Speaker 1: see every day that like our family or your best friends.
Speaker 1: But then there's those weak ties of the people that
Speaker 1: maybe you've seen once or twice. It's like ask them
Speaker 1: out to lunch and go and just talk with them,
Speaker 1: and even if it's just a friend, and then they
Speaker 1: may have a friend or a friend of a friend,
Speaker 1: or they may invite you over for cards one night
Speaker 1: or something. And just continually putting yourself out there every
Speaker 1: week and expanding your network. That's how you're going to
Speaker 1: find him hanging there, Natalie. And we'll see you in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Soon.
Speaker 1: We'll be back. We're starting to tour up soon we'll
Speaker 1: be We love to go to Pennsylvania, so maybe we'll
Speaker 1: see you there. We could talk about this in person.
Speaker 1: Let's go to another question, and I'm trying to I'm
Speaker 1: trying to look at where we can go urgent relationship advice.
Speaker 1: I mean, should we go there? I mean, or should
Speaker 1: we try to go to how about this one? How
Speaker 1: about this one? It says you're a very spiritual man.
Speaker 1: What are some books you would recommend? Not even just
Speaker 1: spiritual books, but what are some good books you like
Speaker 1: to read for life lessons or just to relax or
Speaker 1: read or whatever. It Maybe we have a reader that's
Speaker 1: asking where to consume more books? To Parker on top
Speaker 1: of your head, where do you think I've been behind
Speaker 1: in my regular books reading For the last four months,
Speaker 1: all I've been reading is the Bible morning and night.
Speaker 1: And I'm trying to finish the New Testament. And now
Speaker 1: I understand what mom was talking about. And when I'd
Speaker 1: ask her what her favorite book was, she said the Bible.
Speaker 1: I've just been kind of in that recently. But so
Speaker 1: maybe Miracle Morning if they're asking, yeah, if you're looking
Speaker 1: for personal development, I think the Miracle Morning changed my
Speaker 1: life completely for the better. And then maybe we go
Speaker 1: Jordan Peterson Twelve Rules for Life, since we already talked
Speaker 1: about it once on this podcast, but it is a staple.
Speaker 1: It's a little bit of a beast, but it's it's
Speaker 1: a good read, and it's you asked for is that me?
Speaker 1: I got a cameo sorry, I have a cameo. That's
Speaker 1: my alarm for cameo. So if you if you ever
Speaker 1: need Oh no, that's not a cameo that's picked the
Speaker 1: kids up at school. Oh are you supposed to be
Speaker 1: at the school now? Or is that leave to make
Speaker 1: a cameo in thirty seven minutes, I got alarms all
Speaker 1: on my phone. So for cameo, which you can find
Speaker 1: me at cameo dot com. It's a good plug for
Speaker 1: the good place for play. Yeah, I got to leave
Speaker 1: in about just a few more minutes, but plenty of time,
Speaker 1: plenty of time. I love atomic habits. That's another really
Speaker 1: relevant one. Oh I didn't know you read that one. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I love small habits that compound over time, that change
Speaker 1: your life. It's something everybody can do on a daily basis.
Speaker 1: Totally totally. So yeah, there you go, Casey, let's go
Speaker 1: to I'm gonna go to A Canadian boy on his own,
Speaker 1: got a few minutes left, It says, Hey Granger, my
Speaker 1: name is Noah. I'm from Kenswick, Ontario, Canada. I'm twenty
Speaker 1: one years old, currently working towards achieving my journeyman ticket
Speaker 1: and red seal for Local ninety five Heat and Frost
Speaker 1: Insulators Union. The reason I'm emailing you is because You've
Speaker 1: always been an inspiration to me and I value your
Speaker 1: views and opinions very highly. Just recently got kicked out
Speaker 1: of my house from my family due to disagreements on
Speaker 1: certain views. I've been working full time since I was
Speaker 1: seventeen the Union and in the Union, and earned my
Speaker 1: high school diploma while doing so. I also hope one
Speaker 1: day to start my own ranch and hopefully raise my
Speaker 1: kids on it. My family, however, makes me feel like
Speaker 1: I'm not going anywhere in life and constantly puts me down.
Speaker 1: I was wondering if I had any ideas on how
Speaker 1: to keep my head up and keep striving forward. Your
Speaker 1: podcast has really helped me through the past month when
Speaker 1: I'm feeling down and not appreciated. From North of the Border.
Speaker 1: Ye yee cheers, Noah. Thanks Thanks for that, Noah, and
Speaker 1: shout out to Ontario North of the Border. Brene Brown
Speaker 1: comes to mind as another author going back to the
Speaker 1: book question and what's that? What's Brene's like big book
Speaker 1: that we all read about being vulnerable? I don't know,
Speaker 1: I can't remember. Well, then it comes up great for
Speaker 1: Noah here Noah, you are. You're not alone, man, And
Speaker 1: and this is unfortunately such a common, common question and
Speaker 1: common problem that people run into. And I'm sure, let
Speaker 1: me see, I'm looking this up. There's Daring Greatly. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Daring greatly. Look up Daring Greatly. Brene Brown. That's b
Speaker 1: R E. N E. It's a great book, and it's
Speaker 1: it's for people like you, Noah, that are feeling like
Speaker 1: you're being constantly put down and don't really fit in,
Speaker 1: which is also what I love. By the way of
Speaker 1: YE Nation, that people like you know fit into ee nation.
Speaker 1: You're with us. So if your family's kicking you out
Speaker 1: and putting you down and making you drag, remember that
Speaker 1: you're still part of our family, and you're part of
Speaker 1: the EEG nation, and you're part of a group that
Speaker 1: thinks like you and acts like you. And remember that
Speaker 1: you're part of that family. I hate that you're so
Speaker 1: young and you're dealing with this, but it sounds like
Speaker 1: you've got a lot going on. Man. You're in the Union,
Speaker 1: you got your high school diploma while working. You're twenty
Speaker 1: one years old, and what you seem like you have
Speaker 1: a lot going on except for your family support. So
Speaker 1: this is the harder way to answer this question. Give
Speaker 1: them grace, give them space, don't worry about them, but
Speaker 1: don't be argumentative with them, Like don't go in and
Speaker 1: go you don't understand me, You'll never understand me. Just go, hey, guys,
Speaker 1: it's noah. I know that you don't understand me that well,
Speaker 1: but I just want to tell you that I love
Speaker 1: you guys no matter what. Because you're a family. It's
Speaker 1: really hard to argue that. It's really hard to get
Speaker 1: mad at that and just be be yourself. This this
Speaker 1: has kind of been the theme of this podcast today
Speaker 1: is be yourself, don't try to don't try to fit in.
Speaker 1: That's unfortunate. Shame on your family for kicking you out,
Speaker 1: and I know that you miss them, but you're not
Speaker 1: the first one to go out on this journey alone
Speaker 1: from your family. We think part that's tough. I think
Speaker 1: it depends on the reasons that you're being kicked out.
Speaker 1: It's hard to tell, again from us not having all
Speaker 1: of the the context. But like Granger said, I think
Speaker 1: you know, having the wherewithal to ask yourself genuinely, what
Speaker 1: is this worth it of? You know, potentially potentially who
Speaker 1: knows how long of this disagreement between you and your
Speaker 1: family that's separating you. You know, family can be so
Speaker 1: important in life, and I can't imagine what you're going through.
Speaker 1: But then ask is it over politics? Is it over
Speaker 1: something trivial, or is it something super substantial that's like
Speaker 1: life changing. It's hard for me to say without having context,
Speaker 1: but potentially being the bigger man and saying, you know,
Speaker 1: I love you guys even though we disagree on this
Speaker 1: topic or that topic, or maybe it's maybe it's everything.
Speaker 1: Could you could you could go on a path and
Speaker 1: try to prove them wrong. It says your family's always
Speaker 1: trying to tell you that you're nothing. Prove them wrong. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: make that your energy, make that your focus. Yeah. If
Speaker 1: that's the case, then do it all. I'll love love
Speaker 1: you guys, but I gotta do what's best for me.
Speaker 1: We're running out of time here, no, but I appreciate
Speaker 1: all you guys for emailing. If you want more Parker,
Speaker 1: put in the comment section more Parker, More Parker. Send
Speaker 1: your questions to Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. We'll
Speaker 1: continue to go through these and discuss them like you
Speaker 1: can't fire. And if you want to hear more about
Speaker 1: ee E day. Go check out the EE podcast. That
Speaker 1: episode released on Wednesday, and we do them every Wednesday,
Speaker 1: so you can listen to this every Monday and EE
Speaker 1: every Wednesday. Love you guys, Yee thanks for joining me
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