WEBVTT - Father-in-law hates me 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:13.160 What would you do if you were young and you 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:17.639 just got engaged and you're totally in love and you 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:21.240 think everything's going good, but you don't have the father 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:25.480 of the girl's approval, but he didn't improve at all. 0:00:25.520 --> 0:00:27.840 In fact, he doesn't even like you. What would you 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:30.760 do in this situation or would you have even asked 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:33.919 her to begin with? That is a question. That's one 0:00:33.960 --> 0:00:37.200 of the several questions we're going to tackle today with 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:39.559 my brother Parker, who's always so good. If you have 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.160 any questions like that or anything else, could be life 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:47.840 or music or relationships or anything at all, email Grangersmith 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:51.120 Podcast at gmail dot com. We'll add it to the 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:53.600 queue and we'll get on here and we'll answer them 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:57.080 like we're sitting around a campfire and you bring it 0:00:57.160 --> 0:00:59.600 up and this is a this is a good one. 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:02.680 We have some great questions today and I love to 0:01:02.720 --> 0:01:05.760 be able to answer them with Parker. I'm also excited 0:01:05.760 --> 0:01:09.120 because we're touring and by the time you see this podcast, 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:12.880 we will have already done our first big run in 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:17.280 the Midwest, which is Kansas and Wyoming and South Dakota, 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:19.280 and then we have all kinds of other dates on 0:01:19.640 --> 0:01:22.560 the books. Right now. I even saw California in June, 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:26.240 which is great because we have such great fans in 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:28.520 California and it's a relief to see that a state 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:31.520 that has been through so much trouble over the last 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:34.200 year is now opening up for country concerts. Also saw 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:37.040 New York, another state that I didn't think we're going 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:38.280 to be back to in a while, and I see 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:41.280 it on the calendar for this fall. So everybody in 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:44.039 between New York and California, we're coming to see you. 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:47.480 Get ready. Grangersmith dot com is where you can find 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:49.840 out all of that information and see if we're coming 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:51.680 to your town. If you don't see your town on 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:56.240 there yet on grangersmith dot com, hang tight, keep check 0:01:56.280 --> 0:01:59.200 in watching my socials and we'll be announcing because a 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.560 lot of the dates we've confirmed, but we haven't put 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:05.040 them up on the website yet and we'll wait till 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.040 they're ready to launch and put tickets on sale and 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:09.520 all that kind of stuff. We're also gonna be doing 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.320 meet and greets, so a lot of great stuff happening. 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:15.839 Such a relief that this great stuff is happening now, 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:19.680 so stay tuned for that. And this is a great episode. 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:23.639 Thanks for watching, Thanks for listening. Welcome to the Grangersmith Podcast, 0:02:23.720 --> 0:03:02.840 Episode eighty one. Yee roll the intro months time and 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:18.080 long line, fool of up and down, go back, rangy Yeah, 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:30.200 thenation the farm is recovering from ye day. We will rebuild. 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:34.760 It looks like we just plowed out in the field 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.200 out back and it's ready to be ready to spread 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:40.000 some seed on it. Actually, I have two fifty pounds 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.280 bags of oats and I thought maybe go throw it 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:44.760 out there onto the place where we did all the mudding. 0:03:45.440 --> 0:03:47.480 So what we're talking about is we did ye E Day. 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:53.960 We celebrated ten years since the gee was first set 0:03:54.840 --> 0:04:00.960 by us, and then five years since we incorporate Geee Apparel. 0:04:01.240 --> 0:04:07.360 So we celebrated Yegee Day and it was it was 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:10.360 pretty amazing. We're gonna do it bigger and better next year. 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:13.600 We tore up so much grass munting, which is why 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:16.040 we have this farm though, like we don't really have 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:20.800 this farm to farm, hey, you know, we we have 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:24.920 it for content, for inviting influencers, for having fun. I 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:29.920 was thinking as everything wound down, and Ben, who runs 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:31.920 all our social media, and Tyler and I were all 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.960 in my office and it was in Hayden and it 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:38.120 was like ten thirty and it's getting late and things 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:42.040 were winding down. Everybody had left, and Ben Ben goes, 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:44.640 I feel like you know when you when you win 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.040 a big football game in high school that was like 0:04:47.080 --> 0:04:48.880 a big rivalry and you're just kind of sitting in 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:52.279 the locker room afterwards, sitting in front of your locker 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:55.320 just like, wow, that just happened. Because that's how I felt. 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:59.080 That's exactly how I feel. I spent one hour yesterday 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:02.880 cleaning my truck, and I'm still finding mud in my clothes, 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:04.839 in my Like the inside of my truck is still 0:05:04.880 --> 0:05:09.000 completely mudded out, outside is pretty clean, undercarriage still has mud. 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:10.800 I'm still finding mud. In fact, look at the camera 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:19.520 right now. Look look at that still finding it. Yeah, 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:22.520 like I'm still finding it on the lens of the camera. Okay, 0:05:23.360 --> 0:05:25.640 we're gonna answer some questions today. Parker is one of 0:05:25.680 --> 0:05:28.200 my favorite guests. Anytime I have you as a guest, 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:31.880 our TikTok does really well on the podcast. Yeah that's 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:35.800 show biz. I'm gonna go easy on your first one, 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:37.600 and if you want to, if you want to ask 0:05:37.720 --> 0:05:40.920 me anything with whatever guest I have on this podcast. 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.480 We put these out every Monday. You could email Grangersmith 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:46.200 Podcast at gmail dot com. Could be any subject we 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:49.680 had lunch with, pastor Chad the other or now passer Josh. Wait, 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:51.320 who do we have lunch with? We have lunch with? 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:56.640 Still so many pastors trying to learn it was Chad. Yeah, 0:05:56.720 --> 0:05:58.520 it was Chad because he he mentioned me on the 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.320 podcast and so he's probably listen now, and so I'm 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.280 a little bit more self aware of what I'm saying now, 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:05.800 but I think we should always speak as if our 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:09.719 pastor is watching. I'm gonna go easy with your first question, 0:06:09.760 --> 0:06:12.680 says I absolutely love the Smiths podcast and Rise with 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:15.800 the Amber. Y'all are real down to earth people. Thank you, James. 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:18.599 So his quick question any idea how long till the 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:21.920 boots are available? Or how long are the boots available? 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:25.000 And are they on the EEE site? So I figured 0:06:25.000 --> 0:06:27.840 i'd thrill you this one. It's a little bit of 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:31.640 a source subject. Yeah, I think the company that we 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:35.000 partner with put up a few more pair that were available, 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.240 but I'm not sure how long they're going to be there, 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:39.440 and we're not going to be restocking or doing that. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.920 So Will ye get back into the footwear business anytime soon. 0:06:43.320 --> 0:06:46.200 I think people are probably wondering that we had a 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:50.000 call with hey dude the other day that everybody loves, 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:52.400 but I don't think. I don't think they want to 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:56.279 work with us. So if if you have any suggestions 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.359 of footwear companies that we should work with, let us know. 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:03.920 But there's no plans in the near future. Yeah, I mean, 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:09.440 I think having boots on ee dot com is awesome. 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:13.480 It seems like a good fit. No pun intended. It's 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:15.520 not sound as easy as we thought because you got 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:19.880 to either stalk all those sizes or have someone do 0:07:19.920 --> 0:07:22.160 it for you. So it's going to be about us 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:25.480 finding the right partner. And that kind of leads me 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:28.040 to my next question from Ishmael. He says, how do 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:29.800 you Granger your My name is Ishmael. I'm from south 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:32.800 of Houston, Texas, and I've been trying to get into 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:36.239 my own merchandise, but I really don't know how to start. 0:07:36.560 --> 0:07:40.280 Would you have any tips? Have a great day. This 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:43.960 is for me. It's just a discussion. I do actually 0:07:43.960 --> 0:07:46.240 see this quite a bit, people saying I want to 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:48.520 start a merchandise company. I want to start e commerce. 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:51.640 I want to start selling some kind of product, but 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:54.280 I don't know how to start. It seems to be 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.880 the question. And so if we could just give a 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:03.000 quick answer on how do you start a merchandising company? Yeah, 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:05.280 I may have a little bit of a pessimistic answer 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.280 for you, but there's definitely ways to do it. I 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:09.880 don't know if I could start at an apparel company 0:08:09.880 --> 0:08:11.600 from scratch if it was just me and I didn't 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:14.720 have some influencer someone who's creating that demand. I was 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:17.880 just talking to the TikTokers on Friday when they were here, 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:22.080 who were part of the chatter gang on TikTok. So 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:24.360 shout out to those guys for coming. But I was 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.720 talking to them, and everybody can create a brand these days, 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:29.680 because everybody can put a logo on a shirt and 0:08:29.720 --> 0:08:32.360 a hat and call it a lifestyle brand. It's a 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:34.199 really cool world we live in. But the hardest thing 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:36.600 to do is create that demand and make people care. 0:08:36.920 --> 0:08:40.000 It's it's like, you need a personality, you need a mission, 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.079 you need a why. And I was talking to those 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:44.040 guys and I was like, man, y'all already created the why. 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.520 You created this lifestyle. People love you Now, all you 0:08:46.520 --> 0:08:48.920 got to do is three things. Number one, you got 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.240 to create a solid product that's a quality product. Number two, 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:54.280 you need to market it in an interesting way, get 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:56.640 it in front of eyeballs and make people care about it. 0:08:56.920 --> 0:08:59.840 And then number three is have send it to them 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:02.960 reasonable time and have good customer service with it, so 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:07.000 it's like demand product, market it and then have decent 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:10.719 customer service and boom, there you go. Sometimes you can 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:12.840 have just a couple of those things and be a 0:09:12.840 --> 0:09:15.080 successful business. But you know the goal is to have 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:17.280 all four in my opinion, But man to that guy 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:20.560 wondering how to do it, some people can do it 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:24.600 without that initial demand or X factor. You have to 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:27.160 be really smart have a really really good product. If 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.199 you don't have that, yeah, exactly, you got to make 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:31.719 up for it in one of those ways. So I 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:33.200 would just go over that and be like, how can 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:35.520 I create a product that's different than everybody else, that's 0:09:35.559 --> 0:09:38.839 worth remarking about it, makes it remarkable, and how can 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.680 I how can I market it in an interesting way 0:09:41.720 --> 0:09:46.280 that's different, that's interesting? Mee of Harold started essentially as 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:51.400 Granger Smith Merchandise the band, and we started that because 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.400 we needed. We weren't making very much money playing concerts, 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:57.959 so say say we make five hundred bucks. That was 0:09:58.040 --> 0:09:59.680 kind of the average price we used to get paid 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:02.679 back in day, five hundred bucks. But we have we're 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:06.160 traveling with seven people, so you divide five hundred by 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:09.640 seven and you're barely paying for gas. So we needed 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:13.240 another income source. So we started selling T shirts, printing 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.520 those hats, and then if we could make two or 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:21.000 three hundred bucks a night selling T shirts and hats 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:23.600 and CDs, then that would help pay for the fuel 0:10:23.640 --> 0:10:26.200 and maybe a hotel room and just get us down 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:28.320 the road. So that's how it started. And then as 0:10:28.360 --> 0:10:31.280 that grew, and as our passion for that grew, it 0:10:31.320 --> 0:10:34.560 turned into its own entity, its own apparel company. So 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:37.520 without that, take that away, take touring away, take the 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:40.880 band aspect away. Gosh, it would be really hard just 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:42.880 to start a brand. A lot of people do it. 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:46.760 I would say, if you're gonna ask for one way 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:48.760 to do it, I would say social media. Start on 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:51.920 social media. Maybe just start with memes. Start with a 0:10:51.960 --> 0:10:55.280 catchphrase it's really funny that gets popular on social media. 0:10:55.360 --> 0:10:58.840 Easier said than done. And run with that catchphrase until 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:02.160 it gets to be popular enough in some circles that 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:05.040 you could make a shirt and sell the shirt. I 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:07.280 heard someone say the other day that if your first 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.720 question is how much money can I make off of this, 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:13.439 then you're already gonna fail. Some people can succeed doing that. 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.760 But the first question is how can I provide value? 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:18.600 Where's there something in the market that I can fill 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:21.280 a need and I can serve people, and then in 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:25.560 exchange there will be money in exchange for that. It's 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:31.760 amazing switching that mindset to service instead of me, me me, 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:36.280 How could I add value and watch that value come 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:38.920 back to you tenfold? It's crazy how that happens, but 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:43.640 it does. Yeah, here's a dog question, says Hey Grangeer. 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:45.360 Not sure if you're going to see this or not, 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:48.920 but my husband and I are researching German shorthaired pointer 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:51.720 dogs and are considering getting one soon. We're concerned because 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:54.760 we want kids in our near future, and there's mixed 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:57.960 reviews about gsps with young kids. I was wondering if 0:11:57.960 --> 0:12:00.959 you had any personal input type of people that want 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:02.600 to take our time and train it right and give 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:05.960 it proper exercise. And we understand they have a high 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:09.560 energy level and especially around children. So hoping to hear back. 0:12:10.080 --> 0:12:15.640 So I can answer this directly to carry because I 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:19.160 have two gsps and I have dogs, I have kids, 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:24.160 so man, I love gsps. They are amazing dogs for kids. 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:27.719 They're your typical bird dog, which falls into the category 0:12:27.880 --> 0:12:34.520 of laboratory retrievers golden retrievers. These bird dogs have high energy, 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:38.440 but they're just the sweetest, the sweetest personalities. We also 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:40.960 have a V Shlow, which is another bird dog, so yeah, 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.000 high energy. The only risk you have with children and 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:49.920 bird dogs is literally this is it the dog knocking 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:53.240 a toddler over because they're wagging their tail too hard 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:56.080 or you know, like that's the only risk you're going 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.400 to have around kids. You're never going to have an 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.320 aggression problem. You're they're always going to be protective of 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:05.160 your kids. And so I cannot, I cannot recommend a 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:09.000 GSP enough. You always you always hold Luna, who is 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:13.600 your who is your newest GSP on her back, cradling 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:15.440 her in your arms. And I was at my buddy 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:19.520 Gus's house this weekend and his wife had their They 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:22.440 have a sheep of doodle, sheep dog, have sheet dog, 0:13:22.480 --> 0:13:25.720 have poodle and she was holding him just like that, 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:28.040 and he was just sleeping on her shoulder. And then 0:13:28.080 --> 0:13:31.959 Gus said that whenever their puppies, I always grab them 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:33.880 by their back like that, and then the ones that 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.840 squirm and we got to get out. I'd try to 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:39.920 find the ones that are calm and have a calm demeanor. 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:41.840 And he said, it's always worked out for our family 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:44.040 where we always get a really well tempered dog. You 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:46.480 can kind of tell, like instinctually the ones that are 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:47.960 calm when you put them on their back. And I 0:13:48.000 --> 0:13:50.439 was like, that's so funny because Granger does the same thing. Yeah, 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:52.200 you could do that, but you could do that with 0:13:52.320 --> 0:13:56.480 any puppy. So even the wild alpha of the litter, 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:59.760 you could grab that one and they're gonna squirm, squirm, scorn, 0:13:59.800 --> 0:14:03.800 but you just hold him in a dominant way, firmly, securely, 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:07.720 but gently, and any any of the alphas will do 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.640 the same thing. Eventually they just submit and they go okay, 0:14:10.720 --> 0:14:13.200 you got me, mm okay. And then so that's what 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:14.960 I was doing with Luna, because she when I first 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:16.679 would flip Luna over and hold her on her back 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:20.600 cradle like a baby, she wouldn't like it that she would, 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:22.800 you know, wiggle, wiggle, wiggle, and then finally I was 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:24.840 just talking to her in a calm voice and she 0:14:24.880 --> 0:14:28.760 would just eventually learn this is a safe spot. Relax, 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:32.160 You're under control, and it's a good thing. So I 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:33.720 could still do it with Remy. I could still do 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:38.920 it with all three of them. Actually, Okay, getting a 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:42.280 little bit deeper. This question is from Ezra. It says, Hey, Grangeer, 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:44.040 I'm a big fan of the podcast. My name is 0:14:44.360 --> 0:14:48.080 Ezra from Lincoln, California. I have a big problem. I 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:51.200 need some advice on about me and my woman. We 0:14:51.280 --> 0:14:54.600 recently got engaged and I really want to get her 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:57.640 father's blessing. But he always refused to meet me and 0:14:57.680 --> 0:15:00.720 he thinks and I quote, he has tast and he 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:03.480 is the devil and he's never even met me. I 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:06.280 love my fiance more than anything in the world, and 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.200 I want to be welcomed into her family and I 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:11.200 don't know what to do. I've tried everything I could 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:16.760 think of. Any advice would be great, and this is interesting. Ezra, 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:21.200 thank you for thank you for emailing, and thank you, 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:25.040 you know, shout out to California, Lincoln, California. I have 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:27.000 an answer for you that you're probably not gonna like 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:34.280 this is coming from not only your perspective as a fiance, 0:15:34.400 --> 0:15:38.840 but also as a father of a daughter. Here's what 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:40.520 I'm gonna say. You, Like I said, you're not gonna 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:46.840 like this, but let me repeat your words. I have 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:50.640 a problem. I recently got engaged. I really wanted her 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:53.960 father's blessing, but he always refused to meet me. So 0:15:54.080 --> 0:15:58.440 I think that's a problem right off the bat, there's 0:15:58.520 --> 0:16:04.080 no there was no to get engaged without the father's approval, 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:07.600 And so how would you feel? How would I feel? 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:10.640 How would any father feel if he's not sure about 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:13.840 this guy? He's not sure If he approves he hasn't 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:16.440 met him yet and he goes ahead and just proposes 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:19.720 and gets engaged anyway, well that's not going to help 0:16:19.840 --> 0:16:25.280 the matter. And this is regardless of what kind of 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:27.400 guy is. Like, maybe the guy's a total jerk, and 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:30.720 maybe he's just a punk, and he might be, but 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:34.720 maybe he's awesome. Maybe he's a good guy. My advice 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:38.480 to you, if you really want his blessing and you 0:16:38.600 --> 0:16:41.440 love her more than anything in the world, like you said, 0:16:41.840 --> 0:16:44.760 and you want to be welcomed into her family, and 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:46.720 you say you've tried everything. I'll give you one thing 0:16:46.760 --> 0:16:51.040 you haven't tried here. It is take the ring back 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:56.240 off her finger, put it back in your sock drawer. 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:01.480 Call the dad on the phone and just say, mister 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:05.080 so and so, I just want to tell you that 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:07.879 I called off the engagement. And it's not because of 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:10.600 a lack of love. I actually love your daughter more 0:17:10.600 --> 0:17:14.840 than anything, stronger than I've ever felt in my life, 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:17.960 and I just want to let you know that I 0:17:18.240 --> 0:17:23.080 have canceled the engagement for the sake of you and 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:25.879 regardless of what he says at the time end of 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.800 the conversation there, then I want you to go and 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:31.240 you get a notepad out, and I want you to 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:37.120 write a letter to him stating exactly your intentions with 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:39.920 his daughter. How are you going to take care of her, 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:43.000 how you love her, what your future is going to 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:45.760 look like with her, where you're going to live, what 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:49.920 job you plan on having, List everything out and make 0:17:49.960 --> 0:17:52.880 it like a contract and sign your name and at 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:55.720 the very end say I don't want to go through 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:57.879 with anything else until I could see you face to face. 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:01.320 So I'm planning on coming to you at this time 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:07.359 signed Ezra mail it to him and wait, yeah, I 0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:10.560 couldn't say any better than that. Hard to tell without context. 0:18:11.040 --> 0:18:13.600 That's a lot of these questions are. But I mean, yeah, 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:14.960 I mean, if you really love her, you really care 0:18:14.960 --> 0:18:17.200 about her, you're going to care about you know. I mean, 0:18:17.320 --> 0:18:21.399 you're setting yourself up for a lot of potential drama 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:26.680 and heartache and unnecessary uh drama if you're starting off 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:29.359 the marriage like that, with that on that, not footing 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:33.200 with her her family. It's different. If you're saying, man, 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:37.760 the guy's he's abusive, he's terrible, he's an addict. My wife, 0:18:37.840 --> 0:18:40.440 my girlfriend's just trying to get away from him. It's 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:43.359 that's different. But I don't think you're saying that. Uh. 0:18:43.400 --> 0:18:45.879 And So, like I said, coming from a father of 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:49.000 a daughter, one of these days, I'm going to look 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:51.440 for I'm going to look for a son in law 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:57.879 that is that cares enough, that loves enough my daughter 0:18:58.359 --> 0:19:01.720 that he's willing to do what ever it takes to 0:19:02.320 --> 0:19:06.880 prove that to me. And I think I think that 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:11.560 that letter, that phone call and canceling, you're not really canceling. 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:15.040 You're just postponing the engagement. You're taking the ring off 0:19:15.040 --> 0:19:20.520 her finger and and sit back and wait and have patience, 0:19:20.560 --> 0:19:23.000 and you might want to stay in there somewhere. I'll 0:19:23.040 --> 0:19:27.080 wait as long as it takes. What that would prove 0:19:27.240 --> 0:19:31.120 a lot, I'll wait. I'll wait years if it takes, 0:19:31.119 --> 0:19:33.480 if it takes two years. And inside you're you're hearing 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:36.160 this podcast, going, dude, I can't wait two years. You're crazy. 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:43.080 No way, can't wait that lover. Well, that's my thought 0:19:45.400 --> 0:19:47.000 right back in as I see if you I want 0:19:47.000 --> 0:19:52.880 to see what happens, let's go to I wonder how 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.520 old he was. Yeah, there's a lot of lot of 0:19:55.520 --> 0:20:02.400 stuff in here that we don't know. Here's another question 0:20:02.440 --> 0:20:07.000 that's kind of daughter related. It says Stranger, and this 0:20:07.040 --> 0:20:09.399 is from Let's See. This is from Jeff from Illinois. 0:20:09.920 --> 0:20:12.400 It says s Granger. My question is you've often said 0:20:12.400 --> 0:20:14.160 on the Smiths that you would not want your daughter 0:20:14.200 --> 0:20:16.720 London to grow up to be a singer due to 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:18.880 the volatile nature of the music industry. Have you ever 0:20:18.920 --> 0:20:22.320 feared gaining too much success and fame and with all 0:20:22.320 --> 0:20:24.640 the stressors that come along with that. Obviously you want 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:26.680 to be successful and make the best music you can, 0:20:27.160 --> 0:20:30.200 but with more success, would most likely bring more fame. 0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:32.639 Another way to ask the question would be, have you 0:20:32.680 --> 0:20:36.080 ever feared getting lost in the music industry and losing 0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:39.879 touch with who you are? It says, thanks for all 0:20:39.920 --> 0:20:43.080 you do, Graander. Your music saves people, Ye, Jeff from Illinois. 0:20:43.600 --> 0:20:49.320 It's an awesome question. I get similar questions to this, 0:20:49.840 --> 0:20:56.159 and I answer it this way. I always want to 0:20:56.200 --> 0:21:00.200 surround myself with people that can keep me grounded, which 0:21:00.240 --> 0:21:02.600 is why my brother is my manager, which is why 0:21:02.640 --> 0:21:05.280 this brother here, Parker is the CEO of EE Apparel. 0:21:06.560 --> 0:21:10.040 These guys my tour managers is a twenty plus year 0:21:10.119 --> 0:21:13.440 best friend. My band has all been with me over 0:21:13.480 --> 0:21:18.040 ten years. So I'm surrounding myself with people that can 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:22.800 constantly keep me grounded and staying away from people that 0:21:22.840 --> 0:21:26.920 become yes men and do whatever I say just because 0:21:27.160 --> 0:21:29.800 I'm saying it, and I don't want that. Nobody really 0:21:29.840 --> 0:21:34.440 wants that deep down, because that's where the corruption comes from. 0:21:35.160 --> 0:21:36.679 The second thing I would say is you have to 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:41.360 always be careful with how you define success. He says, 0:21:41.359 --> 0:21:43.560 Obviously you want to be successful in the music business, 0:21:43.800 --> 0:21:49.520 but what is successful? What is success? It's always defined differently, 0:21:49.560 --> 0:21:54.160 Like is my idea of success as many hit singles 0:21:54.280 --> 0:21:58.400 or as many sold out tour dates is humanly possible 0:21:58.840 --> 0:22:02.000 in a record level stacked and stacked and stacked back 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:04.919 to back to back so that I could hang plaques 0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:08.800 on the wall. Or is my success come more from 0:22:09.359 --> 0:22:13.359 how you ended the email? Your music saves people? Like 0:22:13.440 --> 0:22:14.800 what if I ranked it that way? What if I 0:22:14.880 --> 0:22:18.720 ranked my success by Jeff from Illinois says, your music 0:22:18.760 --> 0:22:24.479 saves people instead of your music sets records. Because whatever 0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:26.600 the end goal is, that's going to be a very 0:22:26.600 --> 0:22:31.120 different path that I'm taking. And I'd like to think 0:22:31.119 --> 0:22:36.640 the path I'm taking revolves more around trying to live 0:22:36.680 --> 0:22:40.639 a meaningful life and trying to inspire through the platform 0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:44.080 that has been given to me by this community. It's 0:22:44.119 --> 0:22:45.960 one of the most common questions and one of the 0:22:45.960 --> 0:22:48.560 biggest topics that people talk about and you hear all 0:22:48.600 --> 0:22:51.040 the time, especially in the music industry, but really in 0:22:51.080 --> 0:22:53.399 this world that we live in, any type of influencer, 0:22:53.840 --> 0:22:58.399 the idea is how can you get how can you 0:22:58.440 --> 0:23:02.879 get fame and a following and not lose yourself along 0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:06.080 the way. It's like the oldest story of mankind, and 0:23:06.119 --> 0:23:10.400 it's like asking, you know, how do you not lose 0:23:10.440 --> 0:23:12.720 yourself along the way, or do you not want to 0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:14.320 get too big. It's like, I think that's just a 0:23:14.400 --> 0:23:18.000 lack of confidence in your own in your own uh, 0:23:18.320 --> 0:23:22.159