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Speaker 1: Thanks for watching, Thanks for listening. Welcome to the Grangersmith Podcast,

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Speaker 1: Episode eighty one. Yee roll the intro months time and

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Speaker 1: long line, fool of up and down, go back, rangy Yeah,

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Speaker 1: thenation the farm is recovering from ye day. We will rebuild.

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Speaker 1: lifetime of other eyewitnesses that claim supernatural events that fulfilled

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Speaker 1: ancient prophecies that were inspired by God. That's where my

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Speaker 1: morals come from from what those words say. I don't

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Speaker 1: always want to follow those morals like my flesh my body,

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Speaker 1: and I don't want to break them, you know a

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Speaker 1: lot of times, but I don't because the fear of

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Speaker 1: God and the faith of God, which means taking it,

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Speaker 1: taking the word of God as truth the way it's written.

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Speaker 1: I want less and less to be successful in the

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Speaker 1: music business in a form of plaques and records and

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Speaker 1: chart topping statistics, and I want more and more to

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Speaker 1: be successful in the music business by changing one life

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Speaker 1: at a time for the better. I don't always succeed

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Speaker 1: in that. But that's my why. That's why I'm striving

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Speaker 1: to do this. That's why I have a podcast. I

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Speaker 1: don't really want to do this podcast every Monday, you know.

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Speaker 1: I don't do it just because I'm like, man, it's

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Speaker 1: going to be great. I just really want to sit

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Speaker 1: in here and sit in a hot room on a

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Speaker 1: stool and get a microphone every single Monday and put this.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I mean I enjoy it, don't get me wrong,

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Speaker 1: but that's not why I do it. I don't do

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Speaker 1: it because I love talking on a microphone in an

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Speaker 1: empty room and hoping people listen to it. What's the

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Speaker 1: old saying you don't rise the level of your goal

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Speaker 1: as you fall to the level of your standards. I

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Speaker 1: think that's it. Yeah. I was reading this morning in

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Speaker 1: Galatians and Paul is listing out particular sins, and one

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Speaker 1: of the sins that he listed with selfish ambition. I

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Speaker 1: thought that was very interesting. That just popped out to me,

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Speaker 1: like selfish ambition, selfishness. Selfish ambition almost falls in every

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Speaker 1: single category of when Paul starts talking about sins. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I mean that falls right into it. What's the

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Speaker 1: ambition for what's the same for what are you doing

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Speaker 1: it for? Selfishers are not? It's crazy when Paul writes

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Speaker 1: that two thousand years ago, how it could just be

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty one to a tee. That's what's so crazy

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Speaker 1: about it. Humans don't change. I'll see if we can

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Speaker 1: get a quick one in here before break. I see

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Speaker 1: Jordan Peterson in this one. I don't think that's gonna

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Speaker 1: be quick. Let me root what that says? Says. Hey Granger,

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Speaker 1: my name is Jake McPherson. I'm twenty one years old.

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Speaker 1: I live in Gholston, North Carolina. Shout out to North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: Currently listening to your podcast while writing this, I was

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Speaker 1: wondering what's your favorite series from Jordan Peterson? Also, any

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Speaker 1: advice giving to someone who's starting a business. I really

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Speaker 1: appreciate any kinds of words of inspiration and wisdom you

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Speaker 1: pass on. I hope you have a great day. God blessed.

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Speaker 1: We were just talking about Jordan Peterson before we turn

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Speaker 1: on the podcast here to record, and I got turned

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Speaker 1: on to Jordan through Twelve Rules for Life. I don't

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Speaker 1: remember was it me that found him first? Maybe I

479
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Speaker 1: don't remember. Out of the three brothers who found him first.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that was me. I found him somewhere.

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Speaker 1: No I sent it, I sent, Did you find it?

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Speaker 1: I sent? Yeah, totalles for life to you. So I

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Speaker 1: haven't read the twelve Moraules. And there's a lot to

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Speaker 1: take away from Jordan that's really really good, and there's

485
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Speaker 1: a few things that you go he doesn't have it

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Speaker 1: all figured out yet. Not that I'm many smarter than him.

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Speaker 1: He's an absolutely brilliant man, but he kind of goes

488
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Speaker 1: back to the first question. He doesn't have the foundation

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Speaker 1: of his morals are solely on the philosophy of man.

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Speaker 1: And so that's where I would encourage anyone that's listening

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Speaker 1: to Jordan to be wary of where Jordan's morals and

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Speaker 1: foundation is coming from, because he is still working that out.

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Speaker 1: He's probably the first one to admit it. He's a

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Speaker 1: brilliant speaker, brilliant writer, brilliant psychiatrist, but he is still

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00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 1: working things out in his own life. And look at

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Speaker 1: the fruits of where Jordan is now. He's a struggling man. Yes,

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Speaker 1: listen to him. He has some great stuff on the

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Speaker 1: Joe Rogan podcast. Yeah, I'll answer my very favorite thing

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Speaker 1: that stood out to me that changed my life for

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Speaker 1: the better from Jordan was his idea of cleaning up

501
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: your room. And when you clean up your don't go

502
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: try to change the world seventeen year old. You can't

503
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 1: go change you know, the political world in the spectrum

504
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Speaker 1: and go stand out in the streets and stand up

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Speaker 1: for you know whatever, cause you think you're going to

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Speaker 1: change the world for It's like, is your room clean?

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Speaker 1: Is your bathroom clean? Did you clean off that stack

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Speaker 1: of papers off your desk? And it's like, yeah, it'd

509
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: be great if you could lose eighty pounds and start

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Speaker 1: the business you've always wanted and start waking up at

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Speaker 1: six am. But a lot of times it's easy to

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Speaker 1: get overwhelmed and you're setting yourself up for failure. So

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Speaker 1: he says, have the humility to set the bar properly low.

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Speaker 1: So it's like having an honest conversation with yourself and

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Speaker 1: asking yourself, what am I willing to do right now?

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Speaker 1: You know, your subconscious is not just your slave that

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Speaker 1: you can boss around. It's like looking around honestly and saying, okay,

518
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Speaker 1: well maybe I could clean up you know, that dirty

519
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Speaker 1: laundry in the corner over there that's been there for

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Speaker 1: a week and a half and a lot of times

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Speaker 1: those tiny improvements. What he means by cleaning up your

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Speaker 1: room is this tiny improvement snowball. And if you improve

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Speaker 1: your life one percent at a time, then in three

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Speaker 1: years you got completely different life. If you do that

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Speaker 1: every day, that really stuck with me. Let's take a

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Speaker 1: quick break and then get back and talk a little

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Speaker 1: with Jordan Peterson, it's interesting I was actually thinking about

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Speaker 1: this this morning because we live in a society now

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Speaker 1: that there's like this famous saying that says, be the

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Speaker 1: change you want to see in the world, right, And

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Speaker 1: the idea Jordan has, and the idea I really agree

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Speaker 1: with too, is that when you see a problem in

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Speaker 1: the world, what we should be seeing is the problems

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Speaker 1: in ourselves. Because we're so quick to look at the

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Speaker 1: world and go it's so messed up. I'm gonna I'm

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Speaker 1: not that messed up, but the world is. And so

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Speaker 1: I'll just shine brighter so that it reflects into the world.

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Speaker 1: Instead of saying what Jordan would believe, I'm looking at

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Speaker 1: the world, it has problems, and I go home and

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Speaker 1: my bedroom is dirty, and that's a tiny microcosm of

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Speaker 1: the world. Is my sink, Like my sink has toothpaste

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Speaker 1: drops on it. Right, So what if I started right

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Speaker 1: here cleaning the toothpaste drops off of my own sink,

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Speaker 1: and tackling a small task in my garage that's in

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Speaker 1: the corner of the garage. It's a mess. And I

622
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 1: started organizing that, And then what if everyone in the

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Speaker 1: world did that, you truly would have a good place.

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Speaker 1: There's a little bit slight of a difference in the

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Speaker 1: way you look at the world. The world. Everyone's going

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Speaker 1: to look at the world and see problems like that's unanimous.

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Speaker 1: Everyone that's alive goes the world's not perfect. It has

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Speaker 1: a lot of problems, But seldom do we look at

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Speaker 1: ourselves and go and I'm part of it. I'm contributing

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Speaker 1: to it. Yeah, you might not be a murderer or

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Speaker 1: a thief, but you're a slob, and you're lazy and

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Speaker 1: you eat too much. We're all guilty of these things.

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Speaker 1: And so if we all work on ourselves and see

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Speaker 1: ourselves as part of the collective problem, then we could

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Speaker 1: truly start correcting on a massive level when it starts

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Speaker 1: at a micro level. Those are the things that Jordan

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Speaker 1: thinks about relentlessly, and I enjoy listening to them. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the fundamental message is those things that seem insignificant, small

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Speaker 1: that you think aren't going to affect anybody or do

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Speaker 1: anybody any good, are the most important things that you

641
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Speaker 1: can do. It's such an inspiring message because he's like,

642
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 1: have the humility to set the bar properly low. What's

643
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,720
Speaker 1: one small thing you can do today to improve your life,

644
00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 1: and then by doing it, having faith that it will

645
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:22,160
Speaker 1: compound and you will not only change your life in

646
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 1: three years. He says, every person in their lifetime comes

647
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Speaker 1: into contact with about a thousand people the average person.

648
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,279
Speaker 1: Each one of those people comes in contact with another

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Speaker 1: thousand people, So every man or woman is one step

650
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 1: from a million people. It's like, those insignificant things that

651
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 1: you're doing have the potential to change the world, rather

652
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: than going out and trying to change the world. It's

653
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 1: kind of a paradox. It is a paradox. If you

654
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,840
Speaker 1: want to learn more about Jordan, yeah, just YouTube and

655
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 1: see I would probably rank it on the most popular

656
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 1: videos on YouTube, and just that you can get a

657
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 1: quick introduction to who he is and what he talks about.

658
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,879
Speaker 1: Be careful though he's not perfect, as you know, none

659
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 1: of us are, but he has a lot of those

660
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 1: clinical psychologists. I was just talking to a buddy about this.

661
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 1: They a they're extremely intelligent, but then a lot of

662
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 1: them end up in severe, severe depression because they're so intelligent,

663
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: and they go searching for the meaning of life, and

664
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Speaker 1: many of them do not believe in a higher power.

665
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:20,880
Speaker 1: And so when you get searching for the meaning of

666
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:25,640
Speaker 1: life and your your heart is closed off to Christ,

667
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: then it's a scary It's a scary tunnel. It is.

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00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: Next question title girls and God seems like a decent transition.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to any over the road truckers they're listening.

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00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:41,120
Speaker 1: I don't know why I just thought about that, but

671
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:42,120
Speaker 1: I do know we have a lot of over the

672
00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 1: road truckers that listen to this podcast, and I think

673
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: that's a great place to listen to this podcast, whether

674
00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 1: you're commuting to work or driving a tractor or driving

675
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: over the road truck. Shout out to that. This question says,

676
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 1: girls and God. Hey Grangel, this is Sean from Philadelphia.

677
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: Have an issue and I'm not sure how to go

678
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 1: about it. I don't know if you know what a

679
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 1: simp is, but I've been called a simp all through

680
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,839
Speaker 1: high school. I've always had a spot in my heart

681
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 1: for girls and I've always been rejected by girls. I

682
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 1: thought that every time this was going to be a

683
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: sure bet. The last one especially was especially hard for

684
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:22,959
Speaker 1: me because my best friend became her boyfriend despite knowing

685
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 1: my feelings for her that just recently broke up, so

686
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: I thought it was just my opportunity. I waited for

687
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 1: a few months after their breakup then confess my feelings

688
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 1: for her. During their relationship, she was my best friend

689
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 1: and now she is afraid of hurting me. Do you

690
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,839
Speaker 1: have any advice for how I could show devotion for her?

691
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,760
Speaker 1: I've been praying about this, but nothing seems to be happening.

692
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 1: Thanks for your podcasting. Yee ye. How old is? He

693
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:53,000
Speaker 1: doesn't say, I'm assuming Sean's pretty young. What is a simp?

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00:39:54,680 --> 00:40:00,160
Speaker 1: A simp is somebody who puts girls on a had

695
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: a store, ah, and it's always complimenting them and treating

696
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 1: them as a queen and that they're not worthy and

697
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, so okay, well that seems like a problem. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I have a thought. One thing that really helped me

699
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 1: was this idea when George Cline was struggling with getting

700
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 1: acting roles in big movies. He calls it the tyranny

701
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: of being picked, and it's the idea. Every time he'd

702
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: go into an audition, he was really nervous and was

703
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: just thinking, Man, I hope I get this part. I

704
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 1: hope I'm lucky enough to get it. I hope I

705
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 1: impressed this director. I really hope he likes me. I

706
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:49,879
Speaker 1: need this so bad. And one day it just hit

707
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 1: him when he was just getting failure after failure, and

708
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 1: he said, he said, when I think about it, this

709
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,120
Speaker 1: director has a big problem. He has to find somebody

710
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 1: for this role that's going to be perfect for it.

711
00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: And so if I put myself in his shoes, it's

712
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,320
Speaker 1: like he's got to go through all these different candidates

713
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 1: and try to find the perfect person. So George started thinking,

714
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 1: I'm going to go in instead of hoping I get picked,

715
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 1: I'm going to go into it like I'm solving this

716
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 1: problem for him. And not to say that we should

717
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:22,320
Speaker 1: just blindly tell ourselves that we're going to be solving

718
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: the problem for a girl. And you don't want to

719
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 1: get ego driven or overconfident with it. But it's this

720
00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,720
Speaker 1: idea of like work on yourself enough, work on your faith,

721
00:41:30,880 --> 00:41:34,440
Speaker 1: your purpose, your mission, get your life in order, and

722
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 1: then you generally will feel more confident in yourself and say,

723
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 1: you know, every girl is looking for that perfect father

724
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 1: of her children. If you try to become that best

725
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 1: version of yourself, then you will be in a better

726
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 1: position to say, you know, I'm helping you solve this

727
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 1: problem rather than hope, please God let her pick me.

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Speaker 1: Totally agree, Totally agree, Sean, this is one of these times.

729
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:05,200
Speaker 1: And I always look at these questions as like we're

730
00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 1: sitting around a campfire, me, you and Parker and you're like, hey, guys,

731
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 1: gotta tell you something that's been bothering. I always look

732
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 1: at this podcast as that kind of situation, and if

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00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:19,439
Speaker 1: we were sitting in a campfire, I'd say, Sean, lay

734
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 1: off the girls for a little bit. Especially if people

735
00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 1: call you a simp, then maybe they're recognizing I'm not

736
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:32,600
Speaker 1: laughing at all at you. I'm I'm laughing because to me,

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00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 1: it seems obvious that you need a little bit of

738
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 1: a break and you need you need to do more

739
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: guy things with more guys and develop yourself. And it

740
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 1: sounds to me this email sounds like you're desperate for

741
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:57,760
Speaker 1: a girlfriend, not for the girl, and to be desperate

742
00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 1: for a girlfriend is going to lead to failure every time.

743
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 1: So buddy, it's going to happen for you. It's gonna

744
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 1: I don't know many people in my life that besides

745
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 1: my older brother and my middle brother Tyler, that just

746
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:21,280
Speaker 1: literally don't find anybody for a long time. That's because

747
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:24,320
Speaker 1: Tyler doesn't try. But I don't. What I'm trying to

748
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 1: say is I don't know very many people that go

749
00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 1: through an entire life and come old and gray and go.

750
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: I just never found anybody. I just never did. The

751
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:37,719
Speaker 1: whole time I was alive. I didn't find anybody compatible.

752
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,359
Speaker 1: It's just you're gonna find somebody, Sean, You're going to

753
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:44,480
Speaker 1: It's gonna happen, and you can't will it into happening.

754
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 1: You can't try hard enough to make it happen. And

755
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: you've seen too many movies like The Notebook, and you've

756
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: seen too many chick flicks where the guys are willing

757
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 1: it to happen by romance and by saying the right things.

758
00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:02,399
Speaker 1: But the reality is, if you just be yourself, you're

759
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 1: going to attract your girl by being you, not by

760
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 1: saying the right things or being the right romantic person

761
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:14,880
Speaker 1: that you think they want or being afraid or being you,

762
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:18,160
Speaker 1: just be you and you're going to attract your girl

763
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: because even if you tried hard, you can't keep that

764
00:44:22,480 --> 00:44:24,439
Speaker 1: act up forever. And if you just trick a girl

765
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 1: into relationship because you said the right things, eventually you're

766
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 1: going to fall back into being you and she's going

767
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 1: to figure that out. So it's better just to be

768
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 1: you from the beginning. And if she doesn't like you,

769
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: or if you're having to overwork yourself and overthink and

770
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 1: who is the type of person I need to be

771
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 1: to get this girl back, it's like that's not the

772
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 1: right girl for you. The girl for you is the

773
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 1: girl that's going to love you for who you are.

774
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: True confidence is not about always saying the right thing

775
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 1: or showing the perfect body language, but it's about knowing

776
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: the most important thing in this situation is that you'll

777
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: be okay no matter what, and coming to the realization that, hey,

778
00:44:57,160 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: even if I don't find a girl, I'll still be

779
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 1: okay because God alone is sufficient in my life. And

780
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:06,279
Speaker 1: when you come to that conclusion, that is going to

781
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 1: put off a type of energy and confidence that's going

782
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: to attract any type of girl that you want. The

783
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:15,560
Speaker 1: type of man that is independent enough to say, I

784
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:18,720
Speaker 1: don't have to have a girl, so I to define

785
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: myself because I know that I'll be okay no matter what.

786
00:45:22,080 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 1: And even if you say the wrong thing. But if

787
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:27,719
Speaker 1: you're being yourself, and people if you say, if you

788
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 1: speak your truth and you speak from the heart and

789
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 1: you're yourself, even if people may view that as weak,

790
00:45:35,800 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: you know that and they reject you for it, you

791
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:41,520
Speaker 1: know that you'll never reject yourself because you're being who

792
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 1: you are and you know that you'll be okay no

793
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 1: matter what. I want to tell you something, chean, and

794
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: this might not be easy to hear, but let me

795
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 1: read back what you said you wanted this girl, then

796
00:45:53,520 --> 00:45:55,399
Speaker 1: they broke up, and you said, I waited a few

797
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:58,480
Speaker 1: months after the breakup, then confess my feelings for her

798
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:01,879
Speaker 1: during their relationship was my best friend. So now she's

799
00:46:01,920 --> 00:46:05,360
Speaker 1: afraid of hurting me, buddy, that's language for she just

800
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 1: doesn't she don't want to do this. And I know

801
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: that's not what you want to hear, but her being

802
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 1: afraid to hurt you means she doesn't want to date you.

803
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 1: That's just that's the reality. Because if she liked you,

804
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,439
Speaker 1: she wouldn't care. She wouldn't care about hurting you because

805
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:26,160
Speaker 1: she would feel like she's not going to hurt you,

806
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. She'd feel like you're the

807
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 1: one and there is no fear of hurting you. So

808
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:34,799
Speaker 1: that just means that means no, So time to move on.

809
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: And that's not bad. There's there's three point five billion

810
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: girls in this world, so you don't want to hear that.

811
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:46,439
Speaker 1: But that's just me on the outside looking in. There's

812
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,399
Speaker 1: just one girl and she's not the one you thought

813
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 1: she was. She's not. Okay. I appreciate you, dude. I

814
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:57,879
Speaker 1: appreciate you writing. I'm sorry that if I was harsh,

815
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:00,360
Speaker 1: but I truly want the best for you because you're

816
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,879
Speaker 1: writing into this podcast and I don't want to lead

817
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 1: you astray. And I wouldn't want to tell you something

818
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 1: just to make it sound nice and pretty for everyone

819
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:10,640
Speaker 1: else and make you feel good and warm and fuzzy,

820
00:47:10,680 --> 00:47:13,439
Speaker 1: and me tell you be a knight in shining army

821
00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:15,680
Speaker 1: and go get her if you want to, Sean, go

822
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 1: get her writer a letter. No, don't do that. The

823
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: only letter that should be written after this podcast is

824
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:24,240
Speaker 1: the one dude to the father in law. That's the letter. Yeah,

825
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:26,879
Speaker 1: not you, Sean who wants to be with a girl

826
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:29,399
Speaker 1: it doesn't want to be with them. Nope, nope, nope.

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00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: I'm okay, Parker. We got a couple more, so I'll

828
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 1: throw it out to you. New father advice, urgent relationship advice,

829
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:43,439
Speaker 1: two country verse two Christian, Canadian boy on his own.

830
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:48,399
Speaker 1: Any of those stand out to you, let's do two

831
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: country verse two Christians. Since we just got done with

832
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 1: the relationship two country verse two Christian, here we go. Hey, Grandeer.

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00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 1: My name is Natalie and I'm a big fan from Denver, PA.

834
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: My best friend and I were supposed to see you

835
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 1: in Lancaster six days after PA shut down last March,

836
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:05,880
Speaker 1: so we're really hoping that you can make it back

837
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:08,279
Speaker 1: to the area soon. First, I want to thank you

838
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 1: and Amber and your whole family and brand for being

839
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 1: such inspirations. I appreciate you using your platform to honor

840
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: God and tell others about him. Anyway, to my question,

841
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:19,840
Speaker 1: I consider myself a country girl. I love hunting, fishing,

842
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 1: pretty much anything outside, and I'm still single. I'm looking

843
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,960
Speaker 1: for a country guy with similar interest. My faith is

844
00:48:26,280 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 1: super important to me. Back to relationships that I have

845
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: a degree in Biblical studies, and I love having deeper

846
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:36,520
Speaker 1: conversations about the Bible. My problem is that it always

847
00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:40,279
Speaker 1: seems like I'm too country for church guys, and two

848
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: Christian are too good for country guys. I can't seem

849
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 1: to find the balance of country and Christian. Whenever I

850
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:49,640
Speaker 1: talk about this with other church people, I get the

851
00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:52,440
Speaker 1: advice that I'm being too picky. But just as long

852
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 1: as a guy truly loves Jesus and is seeking to

853
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 1: live for him, that we can make it work. And

854
00:48:57,960 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 1: I shouldn't worry too much about trying to find a

855
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 1: country guy. While I agree with that his love for

856
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:05,840
Speaker 1: the Lord has to be top priority, I don't agree

857
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,040
Speaker 1: that that's all I should be looking for. I was

858
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 1: wondering what your thoughts are, if you had any advice,

859
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:15,160
Speaker 1: and if your brothers ever experienced a similar problem. They

860
00:49:15,200 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 1: seem to have it all figured out the right balance

861
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:19,880
Speaker 1: between country and Christians, So how did they handle it?

862
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:26,160
Speaker 1: Thanks so much, Have a great day, Natalie. Two countries,

863
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:30,360
Speaker 1: that's interesting. There's two Christians. Yeah, two country for the

864
00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: church guys to Christian for the country guys. The country guys,

865
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:37,879
Speaker 1: what since when of the country we don't have any

866
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:41,239
Speaker 1: country guys that are Christian. Since when is that? I

867
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:45,080
Speaker 1: know a lot of them. Where is she from pennsylvani No, yeah, Pennsylvania.

868
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 1: Then for Pennsylvania. First of all, you should never consider

869
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 1: changing who you are for a particular just because you

870
00:49:56,239 --> 00:50:00,120
Speaker 1: haven't found the person. Yeah, take take away, take away

871
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 1: that word picky right there. You said you have people

872
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,520
Speaker 1: that they give a device that you're being too picky. No,

873
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 1: stop that You're perfectly, perfectly reasonable to be picky for

874
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 1: picking your soulmate. Yeah, that's the most important. It's the

875
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 1: second most important decision of your life. And I think

876
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:22,879
Speaker 1: that's just the first thing that girls go to once

877
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 1: they're like twenty four and their friends they're all getting married. Yeah,

878
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: it's like, maybe I'm too picky, Maybe I'm this, maybe

879
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 1: I'm that. It's like, you don't have to It's okay,

880
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 1: You're right where you need to be. Imagine yourself. Visualize

881
00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 1: yourself in the courtroom getting signing those divorce papers and

882
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: thinking to yourself, I should have been more picky. Yeah,

883
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:45,719
Speaker 1: visualize that, Natalie. Yeah, it's the the grandfather of your grandkids.

884
00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: It's the person you spend your rest of your life

885
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 1: with so looking for the grandfather of your grandkids? I

886
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:55,160
Speaker 1: like it. Yeah, uh, I think about that sometimes too.

887
00:50:55,160 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: It's like when enough time goes by, then you can't

888
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:03,800
Speaker 1: help but wonder maybe I am being too specific of

889
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 1: what I'm looking for. But I don't know. I just

890
00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 1: I just feel like when you know, you know, and

891
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 1: are you you know? Are you putting yourself in situations

892
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:13,399
Speaker 1: to meet that guy? Like I sent you a video

893
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 1: the other day of you know, are you are you

894
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:21,560
Speaker 1: going to you know? The are you are you putting

895
00:51:21,560 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 1: yourselves in the right places to meet that guy that

896
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,879
Speaker 1: you're talking about? Like I would? I would I would

897
00:51:26,880 --> 00:51:29,720
Speaker 1: write down what are the non negotiables that I'm looking

898
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 1: for in the father of my children and the man

899
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:35,839
Speaker 1: that I want to marry and where would that type

900
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:39,000
Speaker 1: of man be And not necessarily that you're going to

901
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:41,200
Speaker 1: those places looking for him and everything that you're doing,

902
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:44,719
Speaker 1: but just having honest conversation with yourself and saying, you know,

903
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 1: am I looking in the right places for this? And

904
00:51:48,160 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 1: are you getting out of your comfort zone enough to

905
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: put yourself in a position to potentially meet him? Like

906
00:51:53,200 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: you're not gonna You're not going to meet you know,

907
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:01,359
Speaker 1: your soulmate, sitting on the couch every night, and ever

908
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:04,759
Speaker 1: going out and meeting new people and getting involved in

909
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:08,719
Speaker 1: your community and serving and going to church and trying

910
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 1: out different churches. You're always just one trying one new

911
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:20,840
Speaker 1: coffee shop away from meeting him. Yeah. I've also seen

912
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 1: Natalie firsthand that let me say this first, don't compromise

913
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:29,799
Speaker 1: on the Christian part, because that's way harder to fix

914
00:52:29,840 --> 00:52:32,719
Speaker 1: and not your responsibility. But you may be able to

915
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:35,720
Speaker 1: compromise on the country part. Let me explain, how country

916
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 1: are you? Yeah, let me explain. I've seen firsthand a

917
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 1: lot of friends that are not country at all that

918
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,719
Speaker 1: when we start here at EE we start introducing them

919
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:53,200
Speaker 1: to hunting, fishing, doing things outside, they're like, Wow, this

920
00:52:53,239 --> 00:52:56,359
Speaker 1: is the lifestyle I could get behind. I love this,

921
00:52:56,880 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: I love it. So maybe what I'm trying to say

922
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: is maybe you find with these guys that's a good guy,

923
00:53:01,160 --> 00:53:04,240
Speaker 1: a good solid Christian guy, but he wears penny loafers

924
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:09,600
Speaker 1: and slacks, and you like everything else about him, and

925
00:53:09,640 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 1: you're like, why don't you try that? And go, hey,

926
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:14,880
Speaker 1: have you ever tried fishing? And he's like not, actually

927
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:18,040
Speaker 1: I haven't, And you're like well, I love it. Would

928
00:53:18,080 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 1: you like to go on a date and go fishing

929
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 1: and maybe he gets out there and he starts, you know,

930
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 1: putting a worm on hook and he catches his first

931
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 1: bass and he goes, I actually loved this. I could

932
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 1: do this every day. You never know that easily could happen.

933
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:36,360
Speaker 1: So that's one area you might be able to compromise.

934
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:39,280
Speaker 1: After a few dates, you'll figure that out. So if

935
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 1: you take him fishing and he's like, this is disgusting,

936
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:44,280
Speaker 1: get me back to Starbucks so I can have a latte,

937
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:46,440
Speaker 1: then you know what you're dealing with. And that's the

938
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:48,759
Speaker 1: last day you have with him. But you know what

939
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,279
Speaker 1: I mean, You can compromise in that area, and you

940
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:55,920
Speaker 1: could show a city boy the country and be pleasantly surprised.

941
00:53:55,960 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 1: There's a lot of city boys that get out on

942
00:53:57,600 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: a four wheeler and they're like, I'm never going back

943
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:02,359
Speaker 1: to concrete again after this day. This is the most

944
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 1: fun I've ever had. You know what. One way that

945
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: I've met a lot of new people has been going

946
00:54:11,040 --> 00:54:14,720
Speaker 1: to different churches, and there's just so many different people

947
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 1: in churches, especially if you go to Bible studies. It's

948
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,440
Speaker 1: just so easy to meet people. You and I have

949
00:54:20,600 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 1: lunches with people two or three times a week, meeting

950
00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:27,240
Speaker 1: new people and with mutual friends. And we was talking

951
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:29,200
Speaker 1: about those weak ties versus the hard ties. Like the

952
00:54:29,200 --> 00:54:30,880
Speaker 1: hard ties are the people in your life that you

953
00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:33,400
Speaker 1: see every day that like our family or your best friends.

954
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:35,160
Speaker 1: But then there's those weak ties of the people that

955
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:37,839
Speaker 1: maybe you've seen once or twice. It's like ask them

956
00:54:37,840 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 1: out to lunch and go and just talk with them,

957
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 1: and even if it's just a friend, and then they

958
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 1: may have a friend or a friend of a friend,

959
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 1: or they may invite you over for cards one night

960
00:54:46,760 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 1: or something. And just continually putting yourself out there every

961
00:54:50,120 --> 00:54:52,759
Speaker 1: week and expanding your network. That's how you're going to

962
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:57,439
Speaker 1: find him hanging there, Natalie. And we'll see you in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Soon.

963
00:54:57,640 --> 00:54:59,799
Speaker 1: We'll be back. We're starting to tour up soon we'll

964
00:54:59,800 --> 00:55:01,799
Speaker 1: be We love to go to Pennsylvania, so maybe we'll

965
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:03,920
Speaker 1: see you there. We could talk about this in person.

966
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 1: Let's go to another question, and I'm trying to I'm

967
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 1: trying to look at where we can go urgent relationship advice.

968
00:55:14,120 --> 00:55:15,920
Speaker 1: I mean, should we go there? I mean, or should

969
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: we try to go to how about this one? How

970
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:25,479
Speaker 1: about this one? It says you're a very spiritual man.

971
00:55:26,440 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 1: What are some books you would recommend? Not even just

972
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:30,719
Speaker 1: spiritual books, but what are some good books you like

973
00:55:30,800 --> 00:55:33,560
Speaker 1: to read for life lessons or just to relax or

974
00:55:33,600 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 1: read or whatever. It Maybe we have a reader that's

975
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:42,839
Speaker 1: asking where to consume more books? To Parker on top

976
00:55:42,840 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 1: of your head, where do you think I've been behind

977
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 1: in my regular books reading For the last four months,

978
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,120
Speaker 1: all I've been reading is the Bible morning and night.

979
00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: And I'm trying to finish the New Testament. And now

980
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 1: I understand what mom was talking about. And when I'd

981
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:05,080
Speaker 1: ask her what her favorite book was, she said the Bible.

982
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 1: I've just been kind of in that recently. But so

983
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 1: maybe Miracle Morning if they're asking, yeah, if you're looking

984
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:14,400
Speaker 1: for personal development, I think the Miracle Morning changed my

985
00:56:14,480 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: life completely for the better. And then maybe we go

986
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:22,640
Speaker 1: Jordan Peterson Twelve Rules for Life, since we already talked

987
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 1: about it once on this podcast, but it is a staple.

988
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 1: It's a little bit of a beast, but it's it's

989
00:56:30,640 --> 00:56:33,840
Speaker 1: a good read, and it's you asked for is that me?

990
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 1: I got a cameo sorry, I have a cameo. That's

991
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:40,719
Speaker 1: my alarm for cameo. So if you if you ever

992
00:56:40,800 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 1: need Oh no, that's not a cameo that's picked the

993
00:56:44,480 --> 00:56:48,759
Speaker 1: kids up at school. Oh are you supposed to be

994
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:50,879
Speaker 1: at the school now? Or is that leave to make

995
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:53,600
Speaker 1: a cameo in thirty seven minutes, I got alarms all

996
00:56:53,640 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 1: on my phone. So for cameo, which you can find

997
00:56:57,120 --> 00:56:58,799
Speaker 1: me at cameo dot com. It's a good plug for

998
00:56:58,840 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 1: the good place for play. Yeah, I got to leave

999
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 1: in about just a few more minutes, but plenty of time,

1000
00:57:04,200 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: plenty of time. I love atomic habits. That's another really

1001
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:11,280
Speaker 1: relevant one. Oh I didn't know you read that one. Yeah.

1002
00:57:11,440 --> 00:57:14,600
Speaker 1: I love small habits that compound over time, that change

1003
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 1: your life. It's something everybody can do on a daily basis.

1004
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 1: Totally totally. So yeah, there you go, Casey, let's go

1005
00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:27,120
Speaker 1: to I'm gonna go to A Canadian boy on his own,

1006
00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 1: got a few minutes left, It says, Hey Granger, my

1007
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:35,560
Speaker 1: name is Noah. I'm from Kenswick, Ontario, Canada. I'm twenty

1008
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 1: one years old, currently working towards achieving my journeyman ticket

1009
00:57:39,800 --> 00:57:42,040
Speaker 1: and red seal for Local ninety five Heat and Frost

1010
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 1: Insulators Union. The reason I'm emailing you is because You've

1011
00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:46,920
Speaker 1: always been an inspiration to me and I value your

1012
00:57:47,000 --> 00:57:50,960
Speaker 1: views and opinions very highly. Just recently got kicked out

1013
00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 1: of my house from my family due to disagreements on

1014
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:56,640
Speaker 1: certain views. I've been working full time since I was

1015
00:57:56,680 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 1: seventeen the Union and in the Union, and earned my

1016
00:58:01,480 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 1: high school diploma while doing so. I also hope one

1017
00:58:04,480 --> 00:58:06,760
Speaker 1: day to start my own ranch and hopefully raise my

1018
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 1: kids on it. My family, however, makes me feel like

1019
00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm not going anywhere in life and constantly puts me down.

1020
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 1: I was wondering if I had any ideas on how

1021
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 1: to keep my head up and keep striving forward. Your

1022
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: podcast has really helped me through the past month when

1023
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 1: I'm feeling down and not appreciated. From North of the Border.

1024
00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 1: Ye yee cheers, Noah. Thanks Thanks for that, Noah, and

1025
00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 1: shout out to Ontario North of the Border. Brene Brown

1026
00:58:36,880 --> 00:58:39,040
Speaker 1: comes to mind as another author going back to the

1027
00:58:39,040 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 1: book question and what's that? What's Brene's like big book

1028
00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:48,400
Speaker 1: that we all read about being vulnerable? I don't know,

1029
00:58:49,840 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: I can't remember. Well, then it comes up great for

1030
00:58:53,360 --> 00:59:00,040
Speaker 1: Noah here Noah, you are. You're not alone, man, And

1031
00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 1: and this is unfortunately such a common, common question and

1032
00:59:07,320 --> 00:59:14,080
Speaker 1: common problem that people run into. And I'm sure, let

1033
00:59:14,120 --> 00:59:18,200
Speaker 1: me see, I'm looking this up. There's Daring Greatly. Yeah,

1034
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:24,840
Speaker 1: Daring greatly. Look up Daring Greatly. Brene Brown. That's b

1035
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 1: R E. N E. It's a great book, and it's

1036
00:59:30,720 --> 00:59:34,760
Speaker 1: it's for people like you, Noah, that are feeling like

1037
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 1: you're being constantly put down and don't really fit in,

1038
00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: which is also what I love. By the way of

1039
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 1: YE Nation, that people like you know fit into ee nation.

1040
00:59:45,240 --> 00:59:47,720
Speaker 1: You're with us. So if your family's kicking you out

1041
00:59:47,800 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 1: and putting you down and making you drag, remember that

1042
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:54,280
Speaker 1: you're still part of our family, and you're part of

1043
00:59:54,280 --> 00:59:56,400
Speaker 1: the EEG nation, and you're part of a group that

1044
00:59:56,520 --> 01:00:01,960
Speaker 1: thinks like you and acts like you. And remember that

1045
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:06,760
Speaker 1: you're part of that family. I hate that you're so

1046
01:00:06,960 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 1: young and you're dealing with this, but it sounds like

1047
01:00:09,440 --> 01:00:11,440
Speaker 1: you've got a lot going on. Man. You're in the Union,

1048
01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 1: you got your high school diploma while working. You're twenty

1049
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:22,920
Speaker 1: one years old, and what you seem like you have

1050
01:00:22,960 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 1: a lot going on except for your family support. So

1051
01:00:29,400 --> 01:00:32,640
Speaker 1: this is the harder way to answer this question. Give

1052
01:00:32,680 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: them grace, give them space, don't worry about them, but

1053
01:00:39,920 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: don't be argumentative with them, Like don't go in and

1054
01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:47,120
Speaker 1: go you don't understand me, You'll never understand me. Just go, hey, guys,

1055
01:00:47,200 --> 01:00:52,240
Speaker 1: it's noah. I know that you don't understand me that well,

1056
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 1: but I just want to tell you that I love

1057
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:57,080
Speaker 1: you guys no matter what. Because you're a family. It's

1058
01:00:57,120 --> 01:00:59,439
Speaker 1: really hard to argue that. It's really hard to get

1059
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 1: mad at that and just be be yourself. This this

1060
01:01:03,200 --> 01:01:04,920
Speaker 1: has kind of been the theme of this podcast today

1061
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Speaker 1: is be yourself, don't try to don't try to fit in.

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Speaker 1: That's unfortunate. Shame on your family for kicking you out,

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Speaker 1: and I know that you miss them, but you're not

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Speaker 1: the first one to go out on this journey alone

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Speaker 1: from your family. We think part that's tough. I think

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Speaker 1: it depends on the reasons that you're being kicked out.

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Speaker 1: It's hard to tell, again from us not having all

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Speaker 1: of the the context. But like Granger said, I think

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Speaker 1: you know, having the wherewithal to ask yourself genuinely, what

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Speaker 1: is this worth it of? You know, potentially potentially who

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Speaker 1: knows how long of this disagreement between you and your

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Speaker 1: family that's separating you. You know, family can be so

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Speaker 1: important in life, and I can't imagine what you're going through.

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Speaker 1: But then ask is it over politics? Is it over

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Speaker 1: something trivial, or is it something super substantial that's like

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Speaker 1: life changing. It's hard for me to say without having context,

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Speaker 1: but potentially being the bigger man and saying, you know,

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Speaker 1: I love you guys even though we disagree on this

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Speaker 1: topic or that topic, or maybe it's maybe it's everything.

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Speaker 1: Could you could you could go on a path and

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Speaker 1: try to prove them wrong. It says your family's always

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Speaker 1: trying to tell you that you're nothing. Prove them wrong. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: make that your energy, make that your focus. Yeah. If

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Speaker 1: that's the case, then do it all. I'll love love

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Speaker 1: you guys, but I gotta do what's best for me.

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Speaker 1: We're running out of time here, no, but I appreciate

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Speaker 1: all you guys for emailing. If you want more Parker,

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Speaker 1: put in the comment section more Parker, More Parker. Send

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Speaker 1: your questions to Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. We'll

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Speaker 1: continue to go through these and discuss them like you

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Speaker 1: can't fire. And if you want to hear more about

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Speaker 1: ee E day. Go check out the EE podcast. That

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Speaker 1: episode released on Wednesday, and we do them every Wednesday,

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Speaker 1: so you can listen to this every Monday and EE

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Speaker 1: every Wednesday. Love you guys, Yee thanks for joining me

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Speaker 1: on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of you. Guys.

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