WEBVTT - Like Mother, Like Daughter???? (S2 E22, “Baby Makes Five”) 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:10.959 It's with Jenny Garth and Tori Spelling. Hello again friends, 0:00:11.000 --> 0:00:13.360 another episode of Beverly Hills nine O two on oh 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:17.479 means another episode of nine O two and O M 0:00:17.560 --> 0:00:22.640 g uh, it's me Jenny, and I'm I'm again not 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:25.600 without my usual co host, but I'm very excited because 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:29.400 I have a super cool uh co host with me today. 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:33.320 She's a fellow Midwestern girl that's my understanding anyway, and 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:39.880 she's somewhat turned Beverly Hills like myself. Um, please help me. 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:43.960 Welcome Teddy Mellencamp. Hi, Teddy, Hi, and you are right. 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:49.000 I was born in Bloomington, Indiana. Now have lived in 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:52.879 California longer than anywhere else I've ever lived. So this 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.800 is my now new home. I know. But don't you 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.440 feel like you're still a Midwestern girl like in your roots? 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.560 I do, especially when I'm like when I go on 0:01:02.600 --> 0:01:04.840 a walk or something and I smile or say hi, 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:08.479 and somebody looks at me like I'm an absolute lunatic, 0:01:09.160 --> 0:01:13.520 Because first, you know, it's just a different vibe out here. 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:16.520 It really is. I mean, you think we'd be used 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:19.080 to it, but I mean because I've been here a really, 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:23.479 really long time, too, meaning here meaning l A, California, whatever, 0:01:24.319 --> 0:01:27.040 But it just is like a different vibe in the Midwest. 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.840 People are a little bit different and rightly so, I 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:32.680 mean like they're not this is l A man. Things 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:36.400 are all bets are off here. Yeah, everybody's on one. 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:38.880 I mean every time my dad comes out here to visit, 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:42.120 he's like, how do you sit in this traffic? How 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:45.080 do you live like this? Because he still lives in Indiana, 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:50.080 and it's like lucky bastard. But I go and then 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.120 after like a week, then I kind of missed the 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:55.160 hustle and bustle, and I'm like, all right, I see 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:57.280 why I live there, but I see why. It's also 0:01:57.400 --> 0:02:00.920 great to raise a family in the Midwest. Yes, I 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.360 know I miss it too when I leave, but not 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:09.040 that much. So Teddy Um, it's my understanding that you 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:13.119 were or are a fan of the O G nine 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:16.240 two one oh. Is that correct? Yes? And this is 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:19.120 the most frightening part is I was doing the math 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:21.920 and I realized that I was like the world's biggest 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:25.160 fan of watching it when I was like twelve years old. 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:28.120 I was gonna say, yeah, were you like six years 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:31.520 old when you watched it? Because well No. Twelve was 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:33.560 like the episode we were talking about today. I was 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:36.120 twelve years old, and I'm like, gosh, the things I 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:38.919 don't let my kids watch now. But yet I grew 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:41.280 up watching nine O two and oh and learned so 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:45.040 many things because of it. But like no one was 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:47.360 monitoring what I was doing and what I was watching. 0:02:47.520 --> 0:02:50.160 I think I still remember, like, was it Wednesday nights, 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:54.840 eight pm? Yes, I think, so that is a problem. 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:58.240 That's a good memory right there. Yeah, So I loved it. 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:01.480 I'm so glad. Yeah I was. I was. I'm just 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:03.919 happy to hear that you liked it. And I was thinking, like, 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:06.200 oh my gosh, she must have been so young and 0:03:06.880 --> 0:03:09.240 she must have learned a lot of things good and 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:13.120 bad from the show. So but I think that's so important, 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:15.640 Like you know, nine or two and I actually went there. 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:20.080 They had all those conversations, whether it's gonna control abortion, 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.760 eating disorders, like I remember growing up, I rode horses, 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:27.120 and I struggled myself, and I remember seeing those topics 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:30.360 and not feeling like so alone or so confused, and 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.480 it kind of opened the door for all of us 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:37.480 to have those conversations, whether it be the conversation between 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:40.400 Donna and Kelly, but it's really us talking through each 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:44.040 other because it was shown now, you know, you don't 0:03:44.120 --> 0:03:47.440 see that very often where shows feel comfortable to go 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:49.880 there and show all those things. I know, I always 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:52.160 kind of go back to that because people ask me 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:54.960 a lot what why is it? What is it that 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:58.760 makes Beverly Hills? No, like still a show that people 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:01.320 can relate to somehow or or something. Why is this 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:04.800 show so you know, cemented in people's memories and like 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:07.760 kind of like fiber of who they are? Um, And 0:04:07.800 --> 0:04:09.800 I go back to that because it is a show 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:13.920 that really opened up channels of discussion for teens, teens 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:17.680 and their parents, parents and and other parents. It was 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.640 really a show that kind of opened a lot of 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:24.359 uh of doorways for a lot of people. Yeah, And 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.280 I think and it gave you a range of emotions. 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:29.479 I mean, there's times you're rooting for people, you're having fun, 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.240 and then there are times where like you are stressed 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:34.480 and you're what, you know, what's the outcome, what's the cliffhanger? 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:37.279 What's happening next? And I think because of that, it 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:39.320 gave you something to really look forward to. It gave 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:42.000 you know, you people to root for. It gave you 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.839 your favorites, and that's for me, that's what I love 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.680 watching about television. You know, you can pick your like, 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:50.000 these are my people, this is who I relate to this, 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:51.640 you know, and I think nine or two and I 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:55.960 had somebody for everybody back when there was not a 0:04:56.000 --> 0:04:59.000 lot of choice out there. There was no streaming networks. 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:01.520 There was no you know, on demand cable, none of that. 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:05.000 So it was like sit down TV, appointment TV, and 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:07.240 you really committed to being a part of that show 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:10.520 or kind of like getting invested in these characters. For sure. 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:12.479 We didn't even have cell phones. Then we would all 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:15.360 call each other on our landlines and like talk all 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.159 my girlfriends who would like talk through the episodes. Can 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:24.800 you believe that? Like the Love Triangle, Kelly, it's so good, 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.440 it's so true, I know, I know. The thing is, 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:30.360 I never watched the show, uh tor, And I never 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:32.719 really sat down and watched the show and definitely not 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:35.640 like that like with other people. She kind of did, 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:39.200 but I had never watched it. So this whole podcast 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:41.400 of going back and rewatching the show from the first 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:45.599 episode has been so illuminating for me. Because I'm like, oh, 0:05:45.720 --> 0:05:49.479 I really like the show, like it was good. And 0:05:49.520 --> 0:05:52.080 then I think, and then I realized, hey, wait, that's 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:56.560 me so weird. I can only imagine like watching yourself 0:05:56.600 --> 0:06:00.839 back after these years and you're like, what did you 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:05.080 actually feel those emotions when you were going through it? 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:09.760 Are you? Were you in character? I think so? I 0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:13.520 think I because I didn't go to high school, I 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:16.680 didn't go to college. I feel like I grew up 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:22.400 with alongside Kelly Taylor in a weird way, like we 0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:26.800 I grew up with her. So yeah, I was going 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:28.960 through everything she was going through, even though it wasn't real, 0:06:30.680 --> 0:06:33.840 he felt it. It's been a lottle crazy, I think. No, 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:37.640 I was curious about that. It makes sense. It's weird, 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.760 you know. Um, we'll talk about the episode in a minute, 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:44.120 but I have something to say about that. Um, but 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:47.279 I wanted to ask you a few questions about you 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:48.880 and like get to know you, because this is our 0:06:48.920 --> 0:06:52.000 first time meeting and maybe some of our listeners just 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:54.360 their first time listening to you. Maybe not, I don't know, 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:57.359 but um, I know a lot of people probably recognize 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.800 you from Real Housewives of Bear Really Hills, and I 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:04.200 was just super curious, like how did that become? Like 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:07.080 how did you become a part of that cast? So 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:09.440 it's I when I first moved out here, I wanted 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.840 to be an actress. And I came out here when 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:14.000 I was seventeen, and my parents were like, listen, you 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.040 can move to l A if you want, but like 0:07:16.360 --> 0:07:18.320 that's you know, we'll help you ship your car out, 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.480 but after that it's on you. So I got a 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.520 job working at CIA in the mail room, and then 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:25.960 I was also a hostess at like Mr Chow and 0:07:25.960 --> 0:07:28.680 you're O Chow and like, I wasn't living in a 0:07:28.720 --> 0:07:31.720 studio apartment with another girl that I met an acting class, 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:35.480 Like I was hustling and um, I had you know, 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.920 I was going on audition and audition and I had 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:42.480 like a bad experience I had. I had booked, semi 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:44.520 booked a pilot, but then it took a couple of 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:48.480 months to come together. And by the time it came together, 0:07:48.760 --> 0:07:52.680 I had gained weight. And they had told me listen, well, 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.440 they didn't tell me. They told my rep that if 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:59.200 Teddy wants to continue on, she has to lose at 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:03.760 least twenty pounds or she's out. And I was you know, 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:07.080 I think at this point I was nineteen, never one 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:12.280 step foot into another room to audition again. That is horrific. 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:15.040 That was the end for me. And then you know, 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:18.760 I ended up gaining like over seventy five pounds after that. 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.400 I was so angry and heartbroken and then I just 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:23.920 kind of lost myself out here and then you know, 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:26.040 I went back to my love riding courses. But long 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:33.240 story short, Um, I because I worked at CIA, somebody 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:36.200 reached out to me that was there and was just like, hey, 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:39.199 would you you know I've been watching you on Instagram? 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:41.880 Would you be interested? I saw your you know, your 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:45.280 body transformation, your life transformation. I've heard heard you talking. 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:49.440 Would you be interested in being on Real Housewives? And 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:51.040 you know, we worked together when I was you know, 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:52.440 I was a kid, and I'm like, I don't know, 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:54.440 I've never seen it. Do you think I should do it? 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:57.319 And she's like, I mean you have a successful business, 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:00.400 you have a successful marriage, Like why not? And I 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:03.400 was really worried because of that, Like my eighteen nineteen 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:05.760 year old self was so frightened of what people would 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:07.480 say and what people would do. But I was like, 0:09:07.720 --> 0:09:10.959 I've worked so hard these last you know, years to 0:09:11.080 --> 0:09:14.000 like get myself to a place to be on TV. 0:09:14.120 --> 0:09:15.640 You know, I always wanted to do it, so I 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:18.240 was like, you know what, go for it. And I 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:20.720 don't really have any regrets. I mean, there was really 0:09:20.760 --> 0:09:24.520 hard times, but there was also some really great times. 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:30.040 You were on the show for three three years, three seasons. Yeah, 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:33.920 that's a long time. Yeah, And you know, it's the differences. 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:36.360 It's like when you are watching, you know, a scripted 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:38.520 show like nine or two and o. People are watching 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:41.839 and they can have their favorites, but it's not really you. 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:44.600 You know, like it's a character that you're playing. And 0:09:44.640 --> 0:09:47.840 I think when it's a reality show, it's actually used, 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:51.120 but it's an edited version of you, right, is it 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:54.040 kind of like a created version of whatever the editors 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:57.000 or the producers kind of want to. Like my my 0:09:57.080 --> 0:10:00.160 first season, everyone loved me because they saw it was 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:03.240 my family and my kids and my husband and my business. 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.199 Not yes, they saw me in drama too, but they 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:09.200 saw the full spectrum of who I am as a person. 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.560 And then as it continued on, they solely saw me 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:15.320 in drama with the women. Then you start not seeing 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:17.600 me with my kids. Then you start not seeing me, 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:19.840 Like in my business, you start not seeing me at 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:21.800 my house. You start like and then all of a sudden, 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:25.640 you're just seeing the arguments, and then how are you 0:10:25.640 --> 0:10:28.760 going to relate to somebody when it's solely the drama. 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:31.880 So it was like, those are the things, and then 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:34.640 it's just working through like how not to take that personally? 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:38.000 Like but wait a minute, I filmed six five to 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.920 six days a week to all this stuff and none 0:10:40.920 --> 0:10:42.439 of its shown, you know, like and so it's just 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.480 kind of going through that. But like the end of 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:47.840 the day, I made some great friends. Like my business 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.480 is well, I'm like say to my husband, I'm like 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:53.760 the fact that our marriage is still intact, we're good, 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:59.000 our kids are, you know, seem to be reasonably doing 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:02.360 all right. Okay, Uh, that's so true. I was going 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:04.319 to ask you, like, what what what was your favorite 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:06.040 part of doing it, But it sounds to me like 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:09.520 it was the relationships that you friendships that you might 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:13.120 have made along the way. The friendships and you know, 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:15.520 I really fell in love with the producers and the 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:18.920 crew because you see them every day and then you 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:22.840 kind of you know, they become the person that you 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:24.800 can find in the most. I mean, granted, they're the 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:26.640 ones that gave you in the most troubled because you 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:28.360 can find in them and then all of a sudden 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:31.040 you're like damn, because then they're like Teddy, remember when 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:34.120 you told us that you're gonna tell them? And then 0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:39.360 you're like, oh, yeah, rats, forgot that. But you know, 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:42.440 you really form a bond. So that's that's the part 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.520 that's the loss. But you know, waking up every day 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:47.440 and feeling anxious because I knew that I was going 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:52.319 to have to argue with somebody that night, I don't mess. Yeah, 0:11:52.440 --> 0:11:54.240 I can imagine. I mean I did a little bit 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:58.319 of reality TV here and there. I did a a 0:11:58.400 --> 0:12:00.880 show about building a house, which was reality show, and 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:04.160 then I did a show about moving to the country, 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:05.920 which was a little bit of well it was a 0:12:05.960 --> 0:12:08.600 reality show, but it was such an altered universe of 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:10.720 that I was living in at that time in my 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:16.239 life that I can't call it my reality honestly. Like, yeah, 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:18.360 but it's a lot, I mean, because yeah, you're with 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:23.040 these the crew and the producers all the time. They're 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:25.320 in your home, they're in your face, they're a part 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.480 of your life, and you you do you, you sort 0:12:28.520 --> 0:12:35.040 of form this maybe even false sense of friendship with them. Yeah, 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:38.280 and they know every bit about you, the good, the badly, ugly. 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:41.120 They see all your sides, and you're and when you 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:44.160 talk to somebody every single day and then all of 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:47.320 a sudden you don't, it feels like a breakup. And 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.280 then you're like, but we didn't break up because we 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:52.800 weren't together, So you gotta you know. Is this the 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:56.400 thing though, with making any kind of entertainment like TV 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.920 shows or movies or reality shows or whatever it is, 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:01.840 you get really wanted with the crew and with the 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.240 people that you see every single day, because quite honestly, 0:13:04.320 --> 0:13:06.920 a lot of times, unfortunately in this business, you see 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:11.160 those people more than you see your spouse or your family, yeah, 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:14.160 or your kids. I mean, it can get really out 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:18.920 of balance, super easy, but it's and then it's over 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.520 for whatever reason, and then it's over. But I think, 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:24.439 you know what, I am really grateful too, and I'm 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:26.720 sure you feel the same way as like I still 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.960 was able to maintain my friendships outside of it, so 0:13:30.000 --> 0:13:32.120 that I was able to like stay grounded and what 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:35.800 really matters, you know what I mean. I think sometimes 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:37.800 when you have you know, whoever is paying you is 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:40.559 the only people that you're talking to. Then all of 0:13:40.600 --> 0:13:44.000 a sudden, you forget who you are, so true. I mean, 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.200 it's really tricky because you can surround yourself with those 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:50.400 yes people and the people that you know quite honestly, 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:53.840 they're making money off of you, and they you know, 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:57.320 they're your friends for a reason. Um, they might really 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.880 like you for you know, for you, but at the 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:03.680 same time they they know what is going to work 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:06.840 and what's not gonna work. So it's a tricky world, 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:10.080 isn't it. It is? It really is. You live and 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:14.800 you learn, and you are also um super passionate about 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:20.480 health and about helping other people achieve their healthiest life. 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:25.680 And I think that's so admirable and I need you 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:29.560 so um yeah, Well what ended up happening was so 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:31.280 you know I talked about when I was younger, I 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.440 struggled with with my relationship with food. You know, I 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:37.880 rode horses, having to wear skin tight beige pants and 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:41.080 it's a certain aesthetic that looks the best on the horse, 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:43.400 and your trainers made it clear what that aesthetic was. 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.000 And then I had my incident when I was eighteen, 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:50.200 and then you know, after I left that world, I 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.520 went back to riding horses, and then I met my 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.240 husband and we got married, and then I tried to 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:57.840 have kids and I couldn't get pregnant naturally, so I 0:14:57.880 --> 0:15:01.560 went through multiple rounds of IV and miscarriages and whatnot, 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:06.480 and gained weight and as one does. But after I 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:10.320 had my son, which is my second, I kind of 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:13.240 lost sight of myself. And it wasn't about the weight. 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.720 It was about like I wasn't taking care of myself, 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:18.080 Like I wasn't going on walks, I wasn't being active. 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:20.720 Everything that I was doing was about my kids. But 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:22.720 the problem was I wasn't my best self for my 0:15:22.800 --> 0:15:25.640 kids because I was looking to like my husband to 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:28.480 validate me, or my kids to validate me. I wasn't 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:31.560 like doing the things that made me feel good. So yes, 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.480 I was, you know, up over eighty pounds after I 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.240 had my son, and then never lost it. I actually 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:41.680 started gaining more. But I was sabotaging my relationship with 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:44.120 my husband, with the people in my life because I 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:47.160 felt like this anger and this like angst, like what 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:48.840 is happening to me? Why did I have to go 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:51.040 through all this? You know, like there was something going 0:15:51.040 --> 0:15:53.880 on with me. So one day I just said, you know, 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:55.800 this was like a year later, I was like, I can't, 0:15:55.880 --> 0:15:57.720 I can't do it. I can't live like this anymore. 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:02.080 And I just started an Instagram, a new one by myself, 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:03.960 and I just said, hey, I'm gonna change my life today. 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:07.120 Fall along if you're interested. I love that, love that 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:10.239 so much. And as you know, started with three followers 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:12.560 and then you know, got to ten thousand because people 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:14.760 either want to see you succeed or people want to 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:18.000 see fail. So that's how I changed my life, and 0:16:18.000 --> 0:16:22.000 I realized that's the key accountability. I used Instagram as 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.880 my accountability coach, like make sure that I'm walking today, 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:26.760 make sure that I'm doing my food prep, make sure 0:16:26.760 --> 0:16:29.400 that I'm doing this. And then people started reaching out 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:31.320 to me like listen, we want to do what you're doing, 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:35.200 but we don't want to do it on Instagram. And 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:38.320 so then I started a company and it started small, 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:40.800 and people wanted me to hire out all these coaches 0:16:40.840 --> 0:16:42.160 from all over the place, and I was like, no, 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:45.160 I'm only going to bring people from within. So every 0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:47.640 single coach that I've had is has once been a 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.000 client in a practice what they preach and now we've 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:53.720 changed over twenty lives. So it's it's pretty incredible and 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:56.320 I'm grateful every day for it because it's why I'm 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:58.400 still in the place I am today. I mean, that's 0:16:58.440 --> 0:17:02.120 such a great, great success story, not just for your 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:06.600 business but for you as a person. Like very motivating. 0:17:06.720 --> 0:17:10.600 I totally relate to, like having kids and having a 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:12.560 life and being busy. And then all of a sudden 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.760 you're like, wait, what, I'm not taking care of myself whatsoever. 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:18.160 Like I'm taking care of everybody else and I'm taking 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:20.320 care of you know, the things that I'm required to 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:22.600 take care of every day, but I'm not taking care 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:25.440 of myself. And then yeah, you lose sight of what 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:27.280 it is that you even need to do to take 0:17:27.320 --> 0:17:30.879 care of yourself. Yeah, and what makes you happy? And 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:34.040 like what I realized, I couldn't even sit with myself. 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:39.840 I couldn't even sit with myself and feel joy. And 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:42.159 I think that's something that like if you can, if 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:44.440 you're in that stage where like you can't even sit 0:17:44.520 --> 0:17:47.560 with yourself for five minutes and feel a little bit 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:50.359 of happiness, something's got to give and people will be 0:17:50.400 --> 0:17:52.400 like you know, is it about the way. Of course, 0:17:52.480 --> 0:17:54.680 you know, of course there are parts that like physically 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:57.640 I wanted to transform things, but it was so much more. 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.280 It was so much more than that. Like I wanted 0:18:00.320 --> 0:18:02.480 to be able to wake up and feel proud that 0:18:02.520 --> 0:18:05.000 I was taking action on my day and that I 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:07.199 wasn't going to snap at my kids because I was 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:10.320 feeling run down because I wasn't doing anything to take 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:12.600 care of me, or telling my husband you know what, No, 0:18:12.720 --> 0:18:16.720 I need that hour for myself. Hmm. Yeah, just sort 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:22.159 of making yourself a priority. That's really important. You you started, um, 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:25.640 so your your whole thing is all in with Teddy, right, 0:18:25.720 --> 0:18:28.199 that's the all in, all in by Teddy, all in 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:31.080 by Teddy. I think I need all in. I need 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:33.520 to get I need to jump all in, all in 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:36.800 and then it's go all in on everything. And you 0:18:36.800 --> 0:18:38.800 know it's not really just for a way. That's because 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:41.199 it goes for all things in your life. Let me 0:18:41.240 --> 0:18:43.639 ask you a question, if you're all If you're all in, 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:49.600 which sounds amazing, but it also sounds really hard and 0:18:49.720 --> 0:18:53.560 totally intimidating. If you're all in, can you ever be 0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:55.640 like just have your foot out just a little bit 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.120 like I always make a joke, I'm like, I should 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:01.320 start to happen by Teddy want that one? I want 0:19:01.359 --> 0:19:04.359 that one because people always ask that. But truly, I 0:19:04.520 --> 0:19:08.919 will pair whomever the incoming client is with a coach 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:12.720 that's going to give them what they actually need, you know, 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:14.639 not what they want, but what they need versus on 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:16.920 what their goals. Maybe. So if I have a client 0:19:16.960 --> 0:19:19.879 that's signing up because their goal in life is to 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:22.679 run a marathon, I'm going to put them with a 0:19:22.880 --> 0:19:26.600 very intense coach because the and and they say, this 0:19:26.640 --> 0:19:29.200 is what I need. I'm a competitive you know, they 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:31.280 have a whole questionnaire. I'm gonna put them with somebody 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:33.879 like that. If I have somebody that's like, listen, I 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:36.400 just haven't been keeping my word to myself and now 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:40.280 I've lost lost the confidence and myself and I just 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:42.800 need to start believing in myself again, I would put 0:19:42.840 --> 0:19:45.080 them with somebody else, and then we'd work on those 0:19:45.119 --> 0:19:49.000 overall goals and set up what works for them. It's 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:51.720 not a one size fits all. It's like, we're gonna 0:19:51.760 --> 0:19:54.159 work with where you're at because not everybody's coming in 0:19:54.160 --> 0:19:57.719 in the same place. But whatever your ultimate goal is 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:01.520 that's our goal to get. That sounds good, I mean, 0:20:01.680 --> 0:20:03.720 it sounds too good to be true. But like I 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:06.520 had a trainer, my last trainer that I worked with, 0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:10.280 and I wanted to you know, get in shape and 0:20:10.320 --> 0:20:12.679 be you know, be healthy and all that stuff. But 0:20:12.720 --> 0:20:15.360 I would go there and complain the whole time, and 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:18.480 like just like I would work hard, but I would 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:20.960 I think I paid him to just have somebody to 0:20:21.000 --> 0:20:23.320 complain to. But like I don't want to do that. Okay, 0:20:23.359 --> 0:20:26.360 I'll do it. But he would sort of soften up 0:20:26.359 --> 0:20:29.120 to my you know, he under he was like, oh, 0:20:29.359 --> 0:20:30.879 you know, he took it easy on me at a 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:33.520 certain point, and you know that's not that's not what 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:35.520 I want. Like I want you to keep being hard 0:20:35.560 --> 0:20:38.040 on me. But I think you also have to figure 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:39.840 out and that was a problem for me as well 0:20:39.880 --> 0:20:42.800